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I donât blame her, you canât expect anybody to want to be committed to someone who canât even financially take care of themselves
Honestly it only seems like she just wants to be friends maybe? but that other part is definitely valid
Don't call someone your soulmate unless you mean it.
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@@oag2167some soulmates can be platonic
@@misnaminglove2748 They were speaking to each other romantically.
I don't blame Allison for being concerned about Sebastian's motives for being with her. There are many hobosexuals out there and she needs to think not only about herself but also her children. â€
She should've told him herself online
Nah because if you can call someone your soul mate you should be able to tell them the truth as well, that's weird. I totally get everything else, but that doesn't add up. "You're my soul mate but I don't see a future with you" ... she plays games
@@MizzKillercultyea she was dead wrong for that and I feel like at the end of the actual epi idk maybe I was too high but I felt like she def was just making herself look goodđ like esp when she was saying bye
@Maddie-fk2tx yeah and she wasn't at all remorseful, did she even apologize for cat fishing????? I'm high right now so I don't remember myself
I mean not catfishing him, but constantly dodging him and lying to him about what she wants. Because if I think you're my soul mate I'm going to want to be with you romantically. I mean I believe soulmates can be friends, but it seems she didn't specify that it was a friend soulmate relationship situation either. She should have apologized
She's more than right... I mean she has 2 children
*SHE not *HE she been knew she had kids
Did she not KNOW she had two children when she was talking about her ring size with him???
It's Nev & Kamie talking on the side like concerned parents for me. đ€§đ€§đ„Žđ„Žđ„Žđ
They're so cute đ
@@ArielAngelique1 fr. đ©â€ïž
It looked like a scene from the 18th century, where couples could only walk together with chaperones behind them lol.
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There all like hiiii đđđŸ knowing they were just whispering đđ
People pretending as if she's just money chasing are wiiiild. Wanting a partner who is stable isn't some crazy thing. Most people want someone who can hold them down, not add to their struggles.
especially when she has children on top of that!
she shouldâve never called him her soulmate either though her having kids and wanting something stable is valid but she was dead wrong for saying that to him if she didnât mean it especially
I agree with that
She wants a man who's financially stable yet she's leading on a man who is not financially stable, she makes no sense.
Facts!! Look I want somone who can handle their business.
I think when his life is stable and he has his stuff together, she'd be more willing to move forward with a relationship
Nah thats lame. You not bout to fwm when i got stuff
@@AkinoSominoCookierzto be fairrrrr she does have two kids and is a single mother, itâs valid to want something stable etc but yea no the way she did him was dirty :(
â@AkinoSominoCookierz and she wasn't going to get used when you don't got stuff.
@@girlcalledmango ppl dont care bout that
Leeching off a single parent is grimy. Glad she has sense.
He seems very kind but it's true he needs to be stable himself before pursuing her. Especially since she has kids.
I love how she didn't sugarcoat anything! She was more than clear ! And she got her priorities straight
She had no choice at that point, did she? She was forced into it. Almost all the catfish give it up when they're finally face-to-face with the problem they've been dodging. The problem is that she was doing ALL the sugarcoating for the last 3 years! If she had been honest with him before this point, he would've been under no illusions that he had any chance with her. I feel like she wanted the emotional connection/support from him while, - unbeknownst to him - keeping him at a distance due to his financial situation. There's nothing admirable about that. She's just as much of a leech as she was afraid he would be. He could've been pursuing something or someone else if he had known he had no future with her.
She said âDo you want me or Do you need me?â Realist shit Iâve heard in a while!!!đ
Too bad she couldn't be that "real" with him over the last 3 years.
@@anyaw340 facts tho đ
Okay, but Kamie is serving absolutely
Always!
Per usual.. she's gorgeous đ„°đ„°
âNobody falls in love faster than a man with no place to stayâ is a saying for a reason. She has kids. She made the right choice here
I agree with her who wants a relationship with a man when they life isnt financially together
I would as long as his intentions are pure but as long as he is workin to get to dat point Iâm ok dats just me tho
Yep and she has kids so she doesnât have the luxury of waiting for a man to become stable. She needs a man to come into the relationship already together.
â@@drewrites4613yes a single mom trying to tell somebody else they should have they life together while she's playing and leading people on. He should be happy she not that attractive and she just looking for a daddy
@@ccmcgaming327you can have your life together as a single mom
@@ccmcgaming327 Well, thatâs another way to look at it. I donât disagree. Ultimately, as a single parent you mess around and date someone who doesnât have their stuff together and itâs just like having another kid to take care of.
Yeah, I donât think he really thought it through. Two kids is a huge responsibility to take on. Youâre not just in a relationship with the mom but her children, too.
I would say he wanted her he pursued her on the show and tried multiple times to see her on camera I just feel she could have said what she told him in person sheâs right tho
He's young. He has plenty of time to make it. If he loves her, he's not going to let his temporary circumstances prevent him from pursuing her. She just should've been honest about what she was looking for, and her concerns, from the beginning, and not engage in the lovey dovey talk with someone you don't see a future with. She wanted the emotional support/connection without the realness of a relationship with him.
Soulmate isnt limited to relationships.... U can really have a spiritual connection with folks. I understand what she's saying... Does he need her or want her?...
Thank you
While that's true, her texts say she meant otherwise. She didn't want him to come to Florida precisely because she knew there was a romantic pretext underlying their interactions, and she didn't want a relationship with him. But even if she meant it only in a "spiritual"sense, if you're going to use that word, you need to make clear what you mean. Everyone knows that "soulmate" in its standard form refers to a romantic relationship. Like every word, there is the primary definition, and then there are other less commonly used meanings. If someone calls you the "B word", chances are they're insulting you, not mistaking you for a female dog. Likewise, if someone calls you their "soulmate", chances are they're using it in the romantic sense, not a platonic sense.
There was a lot in those texts that looked romantic - and that's only what they showed. She seemed like she wanted the emotional connection/love/adoration from him without having to actually be with him. That's why she kept talking about how she liked things the way they are; she liked the idea of him. There's nothing wrong with having standards, but she should've told him all of that a long time ago, and don't call him "soulmate" or engage in conversations about your ring size. đ She 100% led him on.
They was talking about rings stop pretending she was right she led dude on for 3 years and you know it no man considers a chick they not with their soulmate that's a women excuse.
Honestly, thatâs probably the best thing she couldâve done. The fact that he wanted to move in with her without ever meeting or dating in person is a huge red flag and itâs dangerous. She has young children. Thatâs how people end up on the news or traumatized bc creeps target single mothers and theyâre desperate enough to skip the background checks and let any old person just lay up with them around their kids.
He never said that was the first thing they were going to do. It could've just been aspirational - a goal. He talked about just meeting her when he got to Florida, not just automatically moving in.
@@anyaw340 ok girly, keep believing that. Thereâs a reason why she was so apprehensive.
â@@KpTheGbe cause she was a liar
I'm sorry they drove all that way just to say "she doesn't need a 3rd child to care for" đđđ
âdo you want me or do you need me?â REAL
I'm sorry but he looks like he would have been eating all her kids snacks and watching TV all day saying ain't no jobs out there!!!
If he canât find one in LA then he doesnât want to work
And she is absolultey right! I mean, she has 2 children
Thank you.....
I agree! As a single mom I couldnât lead someone on. He was sweet thank goodness but shebshouldnt have lead him on.
Yea she was dead wrong for that :/
I wish more women looked out for themselves like this and didnât allow being taken advantage of by men in need.
Instead, she took advantage of him. You don't have to hurt other people to look out for yourself. If she didn't see a future with him, she should've been honest about it and not led him on for so long.
@@anyaw340 in three years passed what had he accomplished to show her he wants her?
@@anyaw340 Took advantage of him how? They just chatted. Did I miss something in the clip where she asked him for something ?
@@bisonchickaright actually she gave him $$
Sebastian seems like a good guy, he will find the one for him when the time is right
I honestly donât blame her. She couldâve said it earlier yeah but I canât date a man who isnât stable and for three years ?
doesnât matter, She couldâve nipped it before but she didnât and thatâs whatâs wrong she lead him on, she didnât even seem to ever have feelings to begin w
She is 100% to blame. Not telling him how she truly felt while leading him on for 3 years is not minor. She didn't just suddenly find out he was financially unstable. He could've been focusing on something or someone else for all that time. Instead, she led him on and he had his hopes up for nothing. Totally unfair to him, when he was honest about his situation.
Sometimes it's good to have phone ships. Just someone to talk to
Kamie, you are rocking the heck out of this '60s-inspired headband look!
Sheâs so beautiful †sometimes we need someone to talk not to love, I know Iâm sound selfish, but thatâs trueâŠ
It is OKAY to not want a broke partner. Don't let people fool you into being pulled into someone else's stuggle.
Don't engage in a romantic relationship and talk about your ring size with a "broke" person you don't truly want.
Then why should they get to benefit when your doing good if somebody can't love you at your lowest they won't at your highest she had 3 years to tell him that and didn't
Yall.. it was an internet relationship. It couldn't have been that serious.
and she had kids. He shouldnât be trying to move in anyway. an online relationship isnât enough to fully know someone.
He seems to be a good man, kind and gentle.. His priority now is a full-time job, so he can bring that security and responsibility into any relationship going forward especially where kids are involved.
2 - 3 full-time jobs
@@HouseJudgesyears 14-24 is for working nonstop đȘđœ
@@kno3730 14-64 is the norm....
@@AnnWright-jb2dw 14-24 All work no play. Stack stack stack. 25-35 find a partner to build with. 40-50 work some more/raise a family. 60- relaaaaax. Thatâs how it should be. 20 years of working 20 years of building.
Sheâs right to feel that he should be in a more stable position, but itâs just too bad everyone in Hawaii was in on it!
đ literal lol!
Yall are crazy, he said he was living with six other people working here and there as a DJ.. Its an oversaturated market in LA. Not sure who convinced him to leave his hometown for here.
A DJ?? See, I almost had sympathy for him. Thought he was hustling at a drive-thru. DJ?? Gtfoh, Bruh.
@@mundaneamazingWhatâs wrong with being a DJ? Calvin Harris and Benny Blanco are both highly respected and beloved DJs. Sebastian said from the start that he was a DJ so idk where you got a drive thru from.
@@lydiaboll2872perhaps they didnât see the entire episode to know he is a struggling DJ
She is not wrong at all
She's wrong for leading him on and not just telling that long before this. She's wrong for leeching off of him emotionally, while not wanting a relationship with him because she doesn't want him to be a leech financially. She wanted to have her cake and eat it to, and when it finally become real, she finally had to be truthful about her intentions.
Ooohhh! I was so lost until she talked to Kamie and now I get it and I'm glad she is thinking logically. I feel her. I don't want no scrubs!
I understand how she feels. But why did she lead him on? She knew he was struggling when she sent him money for food.
I dont think she intended to lead him on, They established an emotional connection, and she really did have feelings for him. But over time, she saw a pattern with him after the connection was established. Instead of it being a temporary thing like oh i lost my job... its oh... so you can never keep a job or?
Now camie! Why would u say « hey friends » after the girl confessed she only likes him as a friendđ
Right??đđ itâs was a hint on what was to come đđ
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Nah the way she licked her lips at the end đ€Ł. Homeboy didnât get Zoed.
Idc nobody else say this young lady should have things crystal clear from the beginning and came to him as her authentic self because she is very pretty and she Danm sure not need any filters and she should have just kept it real with him about what sheâs actually looking for from the beginning because itâs clear that she led him and it took the catfish crew to get her to admit that sheâs looking for someone who is financially stable thatâs the crazy part about! âŠbut I sincerely wish them both peace and happiness!
She should have been honest with him but shes not wrong for wanting stability. Shes a bit older and she has children. She doesnt have time to be supporting a man with no money. Shes not asking for him to be rich, just not poor!
Communication is key though right? đ I honestly canât tell these days
6:16 Kamiâs so petty with the hey friends đđ
it feels illegal to be this early đł
Same
A lot of women would friendzone me and I am ok with that. One day my true love will show up unexpectedly
You canât always assume you would always be friend zoned!
People do want partners or providers. Just make sure you find the right connection and want.
Yes you can lol alot of times it happens just like this lies and excuses. Women are quick to dis a man for not supposedly having they life together. Men take women regardless she a single mom talking about somebody else's stability she just a want a daddy and a checkâ@@Kassie.r87
You're a wise man unc.
They will show up unexpectedly, just make sure you are open enough to recognize it
please look up âsquatters rightsâ in your state before letting anyone stay with you. if they stay for more than two weeks/receive one piece of mail to your address/etc - you have to go through a legal eviction if they refuse to leave (whether they are paying rent or not).
I know her I grew up with her we were in church together we were in the church choir on the Usher board and everything shout out to her for doing this
Good job protecting yourself Allison
And hurting someone else by leading them on for years. She could've done this a long time ago, but she wanted the emotional connection without actually committing to him. Horrible.
@@anyaw340 that man needed somewhere to stay lol what is she to do with another dependent
She's beautiful. I honestly didn't think it was gonna be her from how everything played out
I would love to see a catfish reunion. Wonder what they're all up to now
I donât blame her. Also in reference to the leading him on stuff⊠sometimes I think we meet people who could be right for us, but theyâre in different positions in their life. And itâs very common to want to be the person that changes someone or motivates them to do more or âbetterâ. And I think thatâs how she approached it in the beginning and maybe she didnât see enough change to feel comfortable.
None of that has anything to do with her not telling him. She engaged in a romantic relationship with him without ever telling him how she truly felt about a future with him in his current state. She strung him along until he couldn't anymore. That's horrible.
i get what sheâs saying BUT⊠you strung him along. you couldâve been very clear about your concerns a long time ago and the whole situation wouldâve never got as foggy as it did
Stringing him along romantically then cutting him loose is wild
He's had 3 years to become self sufficient & stable. If he hasn't grown up yet, he probably never will.
He deserves better then her if she couldn't tell him online then he should move on too someone else thats better then her
Moved in with someone else
I'm so crushed for him. There's nothing wrong with her wanting a financially stable partner, especially as someone with two children, but she had THREE YEARS to tell him that. It's giving the impression that she wanted the love/adoration/emotional connection from him (hence the reason she kept emphasizing that she liked things the way they were), but she didn't want the realness of a relationship with him. She may have been worried about him being a financial leech, but she was an emotional leech. She led him on for all that time. If you truly only view someone platonically, or you don't see a future with someone, then don't call them your "soulmate" and engage in conversations about your ring size with them. She should've been clear about him and her expectations before it ever got this point.
I totally get where she's coming from - obviously she is a single mum with two kids and she's got to put their needs and the stability of her family first.The "do you want me or do you need me" was spot on. What I don't get is why this wasn't communicated earlier to him. If you're telling someone 'you're my soulmate', that has a certain connotation. Yes, soulmates can be platonic, but 95% of the time when people use that word, it's in a romantic context. I think she did get overly comfortable with the level of emotional support he was giving her in a way that felt hands off.
I watched this one already I am glad it was her but she was kinda rude
I feel bad or the guy, he definitely got friend zoned and this woman should have been clear about her intentions 3 years ago so he doesn't waste his time on her!
I get it he wasnât financially stable he never was tho when you tell someone my soul mate feelings got involved just tell him the truth about what you need it wouldnât have got so far
Sheâs whack af for leading buddy on. I understand what she needs (TOTALLY get it) but she shouldâve made that clear to him from the get go. Calling him her soul and mate and shit. WTF was that!?
Gosh Kami looks stunning â€â€
Sheâs a good mother
Good job mom!
I woulda took my broke ass right home, rejection can be a blessing........
There is lyrics to so many songs about leading someone on I mean I kind of get where she's coming from but you hurt that boy's feelings by leading him on thinking that you really have feelings for him and then and then you end up friends zoning him That hurts so bad and I kind of feel bad for the boy more than I feel bad for her cuz she should have been up front from the jump instead of just letting it go on this long. I mean we can agree to disagree but that's just how I feel đŻ
This man needs a real job. Any job.
She has as emotional intelligence which is rear these days. Sidenote: Her skin is flawless đ what's your skincare routine girl?đ
I understand sheâs concerned about if he really wants her of just needs her, but why not talk and see IRL.
I think his feelings are genuine and he has a big heart and she broke it.
I agree with her reasoning for friendzoning him. But at minimum she should of been able to video chat with the guy makes no sense to not do it at least a once where he can actually see who she was. But she should of told him that financially stability is very important to her and she can only see herself with a partner that is financially stable. It seems like his depression/ lack of motivation was keeping him from being stable. At minium keeping some type of stable employment is important .Even if its something entry level, its better than this intermittent DJ thing. Honestly I don't think he really DJ much in LA , because when NEV asked about it he could really give a straight answer. POF always seems to have the most questionable lack luster characters on there. But I am glad he was able to get his self together. eventually he will be in a position to meet the right one.
anyone know when season 9 gonna be on hulu?
I don't think they ever put the new seasons on Hulu. I think it's just the archived eps.
@@mundaneamazing i hope they do its the only way i can watch it besides whatever they put on ytđđ
When did they add the âÄâ to NÄvâs name?
He's rebranding since he got an earring
Nah, she wasn't truthful and played too much.
I thought it was her. She looks normal. Another curse of fantasyland!!! Where someone says things they don't mean!!! đłđŹ
Thereâs too much shaky camera stuff. This was trendy back in the day but itâs not easy to watch
She's â€ïž Beautiful
Soon as she said âhey friends â he shoulda known
Good call Allison â€
He looks just like Leslie Odom.
I love Cami!
He just need get and keep a job
đ why does this episode make me sad
The awkwardness...Jesus.....đđŹ
Does anyone know the name of the song at the end of this episode?
Sis definitely isn't in the wrong here
Bro, focus on yourself. You always lose money chasing females but you never lose females chasing đ°
Donât fucking talk to people if you have nothing to offer. Number mother fucking one is âwhat do I have to offer this personâ
ANYONE can be good conversation and ANYONE can be cute and funny. Be responsible, be respectful and be independent. Youâre only bringing others down, hurting others, and being stupid until youâre ready to actually bring something to the table. Youâre just a bandaid if youâre not able to stand alone and be happy
Seriously. Man needs to get his life together. Not the time to date.
Here's another one: Don't talk to people if you're not going to be clear that all you ever want to do is talk. He did nothing wrong. He could've left her alone if he knew she didn't want a relationship with someone in his financial predicament. Instead, she strung him along until she couldn't anymore. You shouldn't leech off of someone emotionally anymore than you should leech off of them financially.
Even women w/ out kids need to be super careful about who you let move in, just as a lil PSA. Something called 'squatter's rights' are laws that make it so even a man crashing on your couch for 30 days has a legal, police-enforced right to remain on your couch, for free, in a rented apt! I've seen it happen, to my horror, w/ cops right there taking his side in my tiny (and technically illegal) one room apt. I was an absolute fool to let it happen, but was young and didn't know at the time how much trouble you can get into w/ letting a guy stay w/ you. 'Romance' can end up as a nightmare, so....don't let it happen to you! Male or female, doesn't matter, friendship/love status, also.
Still financially you can still be with person even if broke or not it doesnât matter about financially clearly she wants someone with money goes to show
It would be very foolish of her to allow a grown man who is financially unstable to live with her and her children. She doesn't need another dependent. If he doesn't have his life together he shouldn't be worried about shacking up, he should be worried about being a man that can stand on his own. It's not her job to carry him because she's already carrying enough.
@@SweetBeeNaturalcouldnât have said it better myself. Thank youâŠ
she is absolutely doing the right thing this dude is not financially right
Well said
Money? Or a job and able to support themselves?
Keep shit friend zone.
Heâs the shortest one there and she has very right to secure her feelings emotionally financially and physically!
Tf that gotta do with anything
@@RainDontExist BITCH EVERYTHING! TF!!
@@RainDontExistBITCH EVERYTHING!!! TF! But like most u just read the part of me observing how short he is and ran with it MISSING the AND part in the sentence! Carry on
I feel you girl. I'm not taking care of a grown man especially that's not financially stable!! That's more stress!!
first! haha thanks Mtv.. love this show!
Understandable ans also sad. Capitalism is extremely hard to navigate, especially for black folks. Success in this type of system is in no way tied to your human value or your talents and work ethic. If we lived in a better world, she wouldn't have to take his finances into consideration as much or worry that he may be trying to use her. It's sad all the way around. #CapitalismKills
...totally!
Right!!
She is taking care of two kids on her own. Why would she move a stranger into her home. Thats nothing about Capitalism its common sense. She dont know him.
Would it help you to know this man is an often out-of-work "dj"?
He might love her but is he going to be consistent? Is he going to take initiative to DO and be accountable for himself
Then watch her end up with a deadbeat for dubbing the guy whoâs trying to build with her. My wife meet me with nothing and helped me build up to what I am, if she really had that connection she said she had, then sheâd work it out
Wtfffff early as helll boiii
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I dont blame her
Ooof đ
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Something tells me if they were together she'll be wearing the pants in that relationship because seems like one of those men who is a bit timid everything is ok baby lol she seems like the type of woman that everything he does wouldn't be good enough he gets a good job help with Bill's or whatever still isn't good enough she'll find another reason to nag and he'll still sit there saying ok baby
She's dead wrong...
Of course people want someone who is stable..BUT
They've been talking for 3 years. Her text said otherwise..So let's not make it seem like they just now met each other (no pun intended). She knew his finances when they were talking rings. She knew his money situation when she was calling him her soulmate..
It goes to show how selfish she is. She's only concerned with herself...which is fine but don't lead people on and then fake like your the victim.
He didnât get something going in three years though? đ€đđ€·đœââïž
Nice of knew to dit the down and make them break up
Why didn't ask her what her baby daddies did for a living?