A random Korean man wouldn't leave me alone | Controversial topic, did I do something wrong?
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- čas přidán 27. 08. 2024
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I shared this event on TikTok the other day (the man approaching me), and I think some people misunderstood it since I didn't put up the whole conversation. I did tell the guy "no" in Korean at least 3 times, that I have a bf, and showed him how awkward he made the situation (there were many silent moments that you don't see because it'd be too boring to include in this video). I think people on TikTok were quick to blame me and say I could've reacted better. Thinking back now, of course, I could've done things differently such as being more firm to begin with so he probably wouldn't stay for that long. I usually want to be nice to people I don't know, and there was honestly no danger when he just asked for my number, but as he pushed it for 10 minutes after I told him no and I have a bf, I thought it could become a potentially dangerous situation - so giving him my IG was the quickest way to make him leave. My IG is public anyway-
Hojun and I are all good which is all that matters, and he didn't think I did wrong. Also the guy didn't reach out to me (if so, I would've blocked him).
I hope you guys are doing well, we love you!
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If someone do that again just tell them you're going to call the police. As a man, that kind of harassment embarrasses me.
@@roslindale When you are caught by surprise your body releases adrenaline which causes your brain to not function really well, your heart beats faster, and you dont know how to act. It is easy to judge when you did not go through what she went.
@@roslindale VICTIM BLAMING
@@roslindale you’re disgusting man
@@roslindale she was clearly hella uncomfortable and trying to get out of the situation
@@roslindale as if it's easier say than done dude .. Its way more uncomfortable and scary sometimes u will never know what they will do next ..
You didn't do anything wrong that man shouldn't have said to give him your number and you were brave to stay there
Well there's nothing wrong with asking for your number, but once you say you have a boyfriend he should have said goodbye and left.
@@loveforgood7520 nah why would someone ask for other people number when they don’t know each other😭
@@loveforgood7520 I'll correct you, once she said no, the man should have left
@@loveforgood7520 even if she have a boyfriend or not when people said no, you just gotta leave
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this happens a lot in korea and they dont care if you have a girlfriend or not, a friend of mine had this issue too and the guy kept asking for her number and following her. She eventually had to run from him in the middle of the night alone in the subway station and he kept running after her, until she luckily found a korean couple that helped her and talked to the guy saying they would call the cops if he didnt leave. I dont know why this happens but it does a lot and many guys usually already have a girlfriend and they still want your number to cheat.
Wow! That must’ve been so traumatic for her 😭 I’m glad she’s safe!!
Wow! What is wrong with those kinds of guys?!
@@YouronlyJen At the time she was really scared, luckily she doesnt suffer from ptsd, but now she always carries a pepper spray and a fake wedding ring when she goes out without her boyfriend in korea,, she also put 112 on speed dial . She carries the ring because for some reason, if you tell them you are married they go away, but if you say you have a boyfriend they keep insisting, so now she always tell them she is marired and shows her ring.
@@loveforgood7520 The desperate ones are the absolute worst
Shameful.. im a korean boi and yeah i admit what u say this happens a lot in here😞 so disgusting
you were honestly still so respectful of him 😭 if that were to happen to me I would have threatened him in any ways I can like calling the cops or whatever but girlie you were so brave!!!
yea totally. I would said I already said no why are you still asking? Thats why you have no gf blah blah.... he only left aft she said bf is coming, seems like a coward
The fact that she felt sooo happyy once her bf was there reflects the amount of safety she felt by his presence
Wow I was really shocked that he was so persistent. As an American I would have told him to go away before I called someone. You were too nice. Love your channels.👍
people are just to brave on the internet but we know that the real life is very different,you tried to push him away and he insisted,you did nothing wrong, i'm glad that you are okay 💜, love your vlogs
그럴때는 자신의 번호나 인스타 등 자신의 개인정보를 주는 것이 아닌 역으로 상대에게 번호를 달라고 하고 나중에 연락주겠다고 거짓말이라도 해서 둘러대는 것이 자신의 신상을 상대에게 전혀 알리지 않을 수 있는 방법 중 하나 입니다(그런데 상대가 전화나 문자 한 번만 해달라고 한다면 단호히 싫다고 하세요 그럼에도 계속 요구를 한다면 그건 그냥 미친사람입니다)
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The best thing to do in these situations is to just stare at them (they know that by now you will be able to identify them) and say no to all their questions, don't even say sorry it shows them you pity them and they will take advantage of that. If they keep persisting say someone is expecting to meet you or say you will call the police if they don't leave.i know it's very hard and itz completely understandable if you can't but these are just some tips :)
if i were here i would just start replying in danish with the ocasional, ohh sory, dont speake englishe gud
Some tips!
Foreigner Card:
In the worst and most broken Korean: “I don’t speak Korean”
And from them on, just speak in other languages you know
Phone Call
Pick up the phone pretending to call or receive a call from someone, and walk away as if you know where you are going / pretend to be busy
Police: Dial the emergency number and show the assailant that you are a finger stroke away from calling the police.
And my favourite….” 꺼져! / “Get lost! Rude but effective 😂
남자친구 있다고 하고 싫어하는데 계속 대쉬한 놈 진짜 한심한 놈이네. 한국인 망신 다 시키는구만. 나한테 걸렸으면 내시를 만들어 버렸을텐데...
전화번호가 없어요 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 남자친구 있다는데 남자친구는 언제 와? 이러고 알겠어 인스타로 연락할게 하고 유유히 떠나는 저 자식은 대체…
남자친구 있다고 하면 포기해야지
매너없게 계속 치근덕거리네
저건 번따의 선을 넘었어
스토킹이지
I've seen too many video's on TikTok about foreigners getting harassed or being followed by the men there. Just as a safety precaution since he added you on Instagram and you blocked him, try not to post in real time because you just never know at this point. He could have made a finsta account since people can be stalkers online. Be safe out there Jennie and enjoy your trip!! 😊
That guy was so creepy i would’ve started crying out of frustration if a guy would annoy me like this you were so still so calm and brave😭
Isn't that man a psycho!!
U did great girl !!! No need to be scared...sending u tons of love to u🤍
여자분 잘 거절하고 있는데
저 남자새끼 뭐지 매너도 없고 남친있다고 적극적으로 거절하는데 계속 들이대네, 제 정신인가 진짜 ㅋㅋㅋ
10번찍어 안넘어가는 여자 없다는 말도 있죠 계속 말하면 번호라도 주지 않을까 라는 희망으로 물어보는거임
@@ghijkabcdef6887 제 생각입니다만 생각이 정상 범위에 있는 사람이라면 남친이나 여친 있는 사람이면 10번이든 100번이든 찍어도 번호는 당연히 안주는게 정상이라 생각합니다 , 애시당초 남친 있다고 여친 있다고 거절하는데 들이 대는것도 정상 아니고요
@@ghijkabcdef6887 저런건 제정신이 아님
정도껏 해야지
그냥 헌팅 찐따남인데 뭐가 이렇게 시리어스한거야?
@@yoonbly9331 찐따짓 하니까 짜증나지 뵈기 싫구만
To any girls out there we all know how scary it is when someone approach us that way. Thus, we should be prepared anytime just in case we encounter things like this. Its scary tho
her editing skills are just so clear & pretty relaxing to watch you guys i love u sm
I hope you don't feel bad about giving him your insta. I used to think I could be quite assertive but one day I faced a similar situation like yours and I froze when this guy approached me out of nowhere. All these weird things were going on in my mind like 'should I run?! Is he going to touch me or something' he asked for my name and I said I don't want to. And he quickly left, Alhamdulillah.
Wow… I’m glad you’re safe!!🥺❤️
Well at least he left a lot sooner. Glad your safe.
Woman though can be just as dangerous, they are a different part of the equation of dangerous men out there.
@@loveforgood7520 Ik!. It was so scary even for those 2-3 mins, I can understand how Jen might've felt
It’s really scary too just make sure you say you will call the police and actually call to please if they don’t listen
남자친구가 있다고 해도 가지 않는 그 남자의 눈에는 제니가 너무 아름다워서 그랬을것 같군요. 확실한 거절을 잘 한 것 같은데 남자가 포기하지 않는것 같았어요. 마음에 담아두지 말고 두사람이 더욱 좋은 관계와 대화 사랑이 많아지길 바랍니다. 두달이 지난 이야기라서 지금은 별 도움이 되지 않겠군요. 좋은 영상 고마워요. 이쁜 사랑 계속하세요.❤
This channel has just became my favorite channel on youtube, I literally binged all the videos in one sitting. I love Jennie’s and Hojun’s relationship- ya’ll are literally made for each other and complement one another so well🥹 Also, your little brother is so adorable🥺
ps. I’m so sorry that happened to you, some people just need to take the hint and leave others alone. It’s such a scary situation to be in and you really handled yourself well.
i am a boy . what some fellas cant understand ? if a girl says no it is a no. do you need to make her pissed off to understand ?
that's a man
People need a brain to understand that. Thas why most guys dont get it. (Im a boy as well)
@@epikjaguar6132 yupo
It is really hard when you are suddenly in that situation. I'm glad that you are safe. I hope that you'll never experience anything like that again. Take care, always! 💗
There is this famous quote from two women I greatly respect, "Fck politeness". There really are moments when politeness doesn't matter anymore because the person infringing on your space doesn't care about being polite towards you. Your safety is always #1. I'm glad the situation didn't escalate.
0:22 "I hope Hojun won't get mad at me". wow he is so lucky. Jen is either so thoughtful and or she falls head over heels for him.
Glad that guy left. I stranger handed me his phone number and name on a piece of paper as I was walking home one night. I immediately go into a convenient store and ask my dad to come pick me up. I would leave right away and find a place where there are people and ask for help. Don’t stay alone.
Where do you living? In Korea they have certain ways to show their interest and to start a relationship, other countries it would most likely be different in their own way.
그 미친남자는 신경쓰지 마세요
어딜가나 그런 정신나간 사람은 있으니
Kinda sad to think that we women are the ones still to be responsible on how to handle ourselves in those kind of situations, but that’s reality, courage isn’t a reflex, it’s built on experiences. Anyway, that’s clearly a harassment and u did nothing wrong. Hoping that ul able to know on what to do if that happens again. Stay safe ❤
So good that you put your relationship first and thinking of Hojun's best interest as well as yours. Loyalty is love
Darling you were more than just kind to this man. You don't need to be kind or understanding to people that are not willing to respect your boundaries. In fact I think that we should redefine "kindness". You are kind as long as you are hearing yourself and respect your inner voice. Next time something like this happens, embrace yourself and be as harsh as your heart needs you to be. I am so sick of this type of behaviors and I really really need you to know that you don't ever need to explain yourself or apologize for protecting you. You are strong and you are lovely, don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise.
You handled it the best way that you could at that moment, don't worry!! Glad you're safe!! ❤️
남자친구 있다는데 왜 안가는겨 또라이네 얼마나 무서우셨을까 제가 다 미안해지네요😢
남자들 저런사람들 진짜 많은데 저런식으로 번호 물어보는거 진짜 잘못된거임. 무서워 하는 여자들 많아요.
괜찮은 남자는 자기 번호를 주고 연락달라고 여자한테 선택권을 넘깁니다. 그리고 쿨하게 가죠.
남자가 영상처럼 여자번호를 굳이굳이 가져가려고한다? 무.조.건. 거르면 됩니다.
I know it is discomfort, but you shouldn’t stay kind and laugh when you clearly told him you don’t want to give him your number. I hope people can get the courage and not be afraid of speaking up. Being stern will usually have them back off
It's because abuse is not clamped down on..and the authorities/law is not on the womans or children's side......
........women and children are persuaded to hide/not talk about these issues
I hope things change in South Korea
남자친구가 있다는데도 번호를 달라하다니..제정신이 아니네요. 저런 넘도 있구나 ㄷㄷ
This happened to me and my sister the first time we went for a vacation in Seoul. There were these 2 college students who cut our way while we were walking back to our house in Hannam-Dong. They were inviting us to have tea or coffee somewhere. They said they were taking up English classes so they wanted to practice speaking it with foreigners. I just graduated from college and my sister was in high school. They were very persistent, even though we told them that we don't talk to strangers and our parents were waiting for us. They finally gave up. I know they mean no harm, but still it's scary. You'll never know. I'm speaking in general here.
이럴 때는 솔직히.... 한국인이 모르는 덴마크어로 이야기해주면 도망갈 가능성 높습니다 :0 아휴 거절 한 번 했으면 가는 게 예의인 줄을 모르고,,
아니 남자친구있다는데 왜이리 질척 거리는거지...참 희안한 놈이네..
This happened to me once too and I was literally so young like 14-15ish and this older guy came up to me and started saying he wanted to be friends. He even brought along his friend or smth and kept insisting me to give my number. I was actually so surprised and shocked and went blank. He even tried intimidating me saying he’s been observing me at the park everyday so I ended up giving him my insta id and left so quick. Still such a creepy thing.
너무 무례하네요.. 영어로 소통도 안되면서 왜자꾸 달라고 하는지
Watched this in the morning, and this made my entire day so much better already!! ❤️ thank you for your effort 🙇🏻♀️🥰
남친이 이렇게 잘생기고 자상한데 어딜감히...
한국남자들이 번호 물어보면 70%의 여성들이 무난하게 거절하기 위해 “남자친구 있어요” 라고 말해요. 그래서 종종 그 말이 사실이 아니라고 생각하거나, 거절이 진짜 싫다는 의미가 아니라 그냥 한번 튕긴다고 생각해요😡 튕긴다=play hard to get
When Korean men ask for a number, 70 percent of women say "I have a boyfriend" to reject it easily. So often, most people don't think that's true, or they think that don't mean they really hate rejection, they just think we play(are playing?🙄❔) hard to get😡
너무 귀여운 커플이세요! 이런 이상한 사람을 안 겪으길 바랍니다 😊😊
I’m so sorry Jennie that must of been a really uncomfortable thing to experience, that man clearly doesn’t understand privacy and how it matters in todays world especially with relationship status, I feel that Hojun would of been so angry when you told him this awful news and no Jennie you didn’t do anything wrong this was completely the guys fault don’t let it bring your relationship down. Keep staying strong and remember we love you ❤ god bless ❤
이해가안간다 거절하는데는 이유가있는거고 그게 설령 거짓말이라해도 맘에안든다는건데 계속 물어보는건 예의가아니라 생각함. 그놈에 10번찍어 안넘어간가는말도 그만했으면좋겠네요 그냥 틀딱마인드임
Yikes... I hope this is not too much information but stay safe girl. Tw // sexual assault
I was sexually assaulted in South Korea. Some guys there can be EXTREMELY persistent. He followed me around the club after assaulting me until my friends yelled at him and he retreated. I didn't want to report to the guard bc I could not speak Korean and wanted to avoid misunderstandings so I just did what I could. I still love SK and i am aware that many SK women and foreign women in SK have probably experienced the same. It can be scary but I hope that you will continue to have a good experience there.
그 남자는 아마 stranger라는 단어를 낯선사람이 아니라 이상한사람으로 이해하고 있는거같음.. 하지만 이상함
Yeeey, glad to see you both again. You always look gorgeous. Nice to see Robin too. Anyway, I saw your TikTok about the weird man, always be careful Ms. Jen. You're too nice. Y'all stay safe ❤️
a NO means NO, people should understand this asap 🙂
Guys I'm dying with this couple they're cute hot sweet caring at the same time ✨💖
i dont know i just couldn’t stop amazes by this couple. they’re really perfect couple and they really fits each other 😭😂
I’m so sorry you were put in that position, esp after you told him you had a boyfriend. I don’t think it would be out of line to say after that, you are making me uncomfortable and just get up and leave if he doesn’t. How does he have such balls? Was he good looking, rich - wthell is giving him such vulgar confidence?!
Hojun was saying the same like… was he rich since he has the confidence to stay there for so long? Anyway it doesn’t matter, he was just so creepy 😳
Lot of guys don't believe the girl who tells them that they have a boyfriend. Some guys think the girl is just trying to test them to see if they give up easily with a lie that they have a boyfriend. And then there are some guys with pride who can't accept a flat out rejection, so getting instagram is at least a consolation which they may not even use to contact the girl. There's quite a bit of dynamics that factor in why some guys don't take no for answer.........in this vid she's too nice and passive, she needs to be more assertive and put on a b!t*ch shield, those type of girls have the highest successful percentage of guys walking away instantly with rejection. If the girl is too nice and passive like in this vid, it gives guys confidence to keep pursuing. You gotta crush their confidence by NOT being nice.
너무너무 착하고 순수 하시네요...응원 꽉!!!
Next time that happens walk into the building lobby or call out to a girl that might be standing around the area and act like you know her. She will understand immediately what's happening and then he will leave.
Once a situation like that happend to me on subway and even when i told the guy that i have a boyfriend ( wich was a lie ) he didnt left so i just stopped talking and reacting to him until i got off the train. It was so creepy 😐
Glad you’re safe girl!!
That's the thing, some guys don't believe it when you tell them that you have a boyfriend. Some guys think you're trying to get rid of them with a lie by saying you have a boyfriend or simply testing them to see if they give up easily like a wimp. Evidently, lot of girls do lie by saying that they have a boyfriend in order to get rid of the guy.
I’m new to your channel and I love your videos 💕💕, you guys are so cute together and he was so understanding with the incident!
That is so scary. Oh my gadd! That kind of situation is like you are in a box. Good thing he stop on existing after you give him the Instagram. That should've been the only choice aside from causing a big scene since he is not still violent, that might be the only thing on your mind at that time. ❤
You two are just so sweet❤.. And I'm so glad that you didn't gave your number 🤗
I know how that feels :( random guy asked for my number once, i told him i hve boyfriend, and still doesn't leave me alone, so i gave him wrong number (jst one wrong number), and he call it right in front of me. Then told me that the number doesn't exist, so i told him the right one :( after that he finally leave me. Then I block him after that :) but he called me again and again with different numbers :(. My bf then called him with my phone, they talk for minutes, idk what my bf said, but after that no one call me again :).
Should never have given that man any information. After you said you have a boyfriend, you should have not said another word to him and got up and gone over to the area that your boyfriend came out. The less you say to a creep like that, the better.
The way u guys make each other happy and valued.
Damn I’m sorry that happened to you bb. I’m glad you’re safe! But I also just want you to know I just found y’all’s account and I’m low key in love with yalls sweetness and I’m excited when y’all get to be with each other long term 😊💚
if something like this happens again, give them a fake number!
I once gave a man my dad's number 😂
“남자친구 있다고요!” 그렇게 말해요. 걱정마세요. 당신의 잘못아니에요.
Omg i saw this first part on tiktok! And the comment section ain’t it. I do not understand why some people were blaming you 😠 ridiculous
TikTok is an incel infestation and full of basement-dwelling misogynists
번호 묻는건 좋다 이거야 근데 남친 있다고 하면 지나가야지 이건 뭐하는 ㅅㄲ지
그니까ᆢ그래놓고선 자기 이상한 사람 아니란말 계속 강조ᆢ이상한 사람이라고 증명하는 격이지
그러게요 남친있다하면 그냥가는게 상식이고 국룰이지 저런놈 잘 못걸리면 스토킹 당하는거고 헤어지자고하면 보복할놈 저런놈들때문에 한남 이미지 다 추락함
그럴때는 결혼했다고하세요
그러면 왠만하면 갈거예요
You have beautiful eyes🥺 And you did your eyeliner very well
Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
I feel sad for you. At least you didn’t tell your phone number to him. I happy that you talk to your boyfriend about what happened. He is so patience .
To be honest, it's not surprising he kept asking for your number cause a lot of korean girls who already have boyfriend still give out their number just to keep them as insurance and as soon as they get bored of the current boyfriend or whenever they want to sleep with somebody else they call these insurances whilst maintaing the relationship with their boyfriend. Seriously, a lot of girls here actually do that. It's understandable that it upsets you but really, in korea, a lot of girls don't mind breaking the boundaries so..😔 Anyhow, I'm so sorry that it happend to you. Hojun is such a sweet man. He's worth everything. So good to see you guys staying tight!! 😄🙌🏻
I had no idea that was a thing 😳 thank you for telling me!!
Wow! Well now I have a lot less respect for a lot of Korean men and woman. I thought they were you know, now I'm even more disappointed 😞.
@@YouronlyJen Your attitude was wrong in korea.
At times like that, you have to say it firmly.
Because you don't speak too strongly,
he might think that you wanted to give your number, but you were too shy to do so.
@@loveforgood7520That's a lie and it's not common.
In Korea these days, some men are claiming misogyny and anti-feminism,
I think 일일이 seems to be such a man.
I experienced the exact same situation once before also in that area, and that guy was respectful and left shortly after I said I have a boyfriend. I don’t think my attitude was wrong. I wasn’t in life danger, and I didn’t escalate the situation which could potentially become dangerous (who knows). Normally a person would leave when they know someone’s taken, so why don’t you blame the guy instead?
Her editing skill is awesome....
And btw he is such a understanding boyfriend,
'Smile = Love' for korean guys...
and they never know 'No means No'
Girl, youre so gorgeous. Hojun should take care of you more. But that stranger man is really 🚩
I'm not stranger I'm not stranger it's like a nightmare 😭
Its good to tell bf/husband.. gf/wife.. about stranger.. to let the other half alert..
Robin being the third wheel is kinda cute
I would’ve just ignored them- but to be fair I am from nyc so ignoring strangers is like- normal
I saw you guys’ video by chance, and I subscribed as soon as the video was over !! You are so cute and i can feel you are fall in love each other and it makes me happy too 💛
I'm straight person,I'll just say "I have a bf,I'm not interested in you so please don't disturb me" bc this experience also happened to me often.
Early love the videos keep doing them.U guys are so cute💗💗💗💗💗but that guy was so creepy 😳😳😳
OMG......you guys should be extra careful....
You guys are a very cute couple. May God bless both of u guys and always stay together 😊
I was waiting for you guys to upload new videos! *TAKE* *CARE* 💖
I really love your videos they are so relaxing :D also you are so good at editing!
You guys are such a cute couple😊 and I’m so Srry that you had to go trough that😢 that must be really uncomfortable, I am scare soma day that happens to my in my country (I’m from Spain) Luv you guysssss❤😭
I'm sorry. I'm sorry instead.
I've seen some videos of foreigners saying that stalking is real in Korea. There are a lot of stalkers in Korea.
In Korea persistent men get the girls. Korean girls like that men won't give up right away but rather keep trying because it shows how much they are interested in you.
There's a difference between being persistent and outright crossing boundaries even after the woman (who is a literal stranger) is clearly uncomfortable/saying she's in a relationship.
남자친구 있다는데 머하는 행동이냐 ㅉㅉ두분 아름다운 사랑하세요.
In america you dont go to random people for numbers, cause you know that may be the last time you see life.
Unbelievable that that guy was so insistent in broad daylight. Be careful Jen and be safe. Get pepper spray!
Good thing you tell him afterwards whats happening.
I love you guys so so so much❤️❤️ you guys are so sweet and you guys are litterally the best couple ever🥹
I have a little trick for you guys when thing like that happens.. I always wear rings so when a guy is too persistent just say that you are married ✨
Unfortunate how a man will respect the fact that a woman "belongs" to another man more than he respects her own "no."
@@MissyBukater I know right, this is just sad ☹️
robin be like: im here guys
huhu so cutee!! i hope you are doing well tho after that incident
So disgusting strangerㅡㅡ
Why they do such way to girls who already have boyfriends..
So sorry for u as a koreanㅜㅠ
They shouldn't do it to girls at all, not just if they already have boyfriends. You ask, and if they say "no," then NO means NO.
어휴 좀 남자친구 있다고하면 껄떡거리지마라 제발.
that random guy should just learn his damn place (>_