Don't Tell My Parents I'm Dying | New Amsterdam | MD TV
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- When a teenage boy's cancer turns out to be terminal, he decides he doesn't want to let his parents know he's dying to save them the pain.
From New Amsterdam Season 2 Episode 11 'Hiding Behind My Smile' - Max and Luna make friends in an unexpected place as Max struggles with the realities of being a single father; Kapoor takes a big step in order to help his family.
New Amsterdam (2018) After becoming the medical director of one of the United States's oldest public hospitals, Dr Max Goodwin sets out to reform the institution's neglected and outdated facilities to treat the patients.
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Is no one gonna talk about how good Trey's acting is tho. Like bro I could seriously feel his emotions throughout that video. :')
It’s not acting The real people
I mean, he's good at acting out the script, absolutely. But an 18 year old boy whose just been told his life will be over in less than 6 months would not have the reaction that he does. I remember when I was 18, I was a fking tough kid. I came to America on a raft with my parents from Cuba when I was 11. I came up in the projects in Carol City Miami and then Section 8 in Little Havanna. I was in a gang, was in countless fights, and was even shot once. I was a very "hardened" young man, but let me tell you. If a doctor came in and told me that cancer was going to take my life in 4 months, I would scream and cry like a baby. There is no way an 18 year old would be so nonchalant about being told he has 4 months to live. 4 months is literally nothing. 4 months goes by in a blink of an eye, and you'll be dead. No way.
@@zoeywenzel3168 wdym it’s real?
That acting was good. With the parents, my eyes burned and leaked.
@@chaerflrt i mean they are not acting they are real people with actual illness and diseases
As someone who lost a few family members to that horrific disease. And someone who has watched a few family members suffer with it go into remission. I understand full well the fear and toll this brings. I completely understand the what ifs and trying to understand why. I hate cancer! 😡
As someone who has an incurable cancer. You don’t want to go through it alone, but at the same time you don’t want to make those you love go through more pain you feel you cause!
Believe my family members never suffered alone! The rest of our family were there every step of the way! I am sorry that you two have been inflicted by that terrible disease. I wish cancer never existed in the first place. I will pray for both of you.
My grandpa just passed away and I can’t get over it 😢😢😢
Lost my dad to lung cancer and it’s still hard at times I really wish that we didn’t have anyone going through cancer at all especially kids teens adults and elderly people ESPECIALLY when they don’t want their family members to know that they’re gonna die
As someone whose father passed away due to leukemia I totally agree with you! I hate cancer
I understand his point of view, and yeah it would have been awful for his parents either way, but I think in the end they would have been happy for him.
Hopefully but we don't know his parents they may not have understood that he didn't want to spend his last months with them. Also he's the one who's dying it's up to him how he wants to handle it.
@@imogenonscreen8054 plus he's 18
"...Cancer isn't something you can hide..." I know this for a fact. Had a close friend who died from a relapse of cancer a few months after her first experience with it. She avoided telling me for a while until finally, she started losing her hair. I found out pretty quickly after that. It wasn't long after I found out that I lost her.
I am so sorry for the loss of your close friend. 🕊❤️🕊 Remember, nothing and no one is hidden from God.
@@linda_smilesrfree2744 Thank you. It's been years, but it still feels like it was yesterday. The memories are always worse whenever some life-changing event happens, like going on a college tour. Something she'll never be able to do.
No it isn’t and you shouldn’t really hide it from your freinds or your family it’s really hurtful to keep a terminal illness from them and when they see that your ill they’ll ask you if your alright and then you say I’m fine when you can quite see that you are quite clearly not fine your freinds and your family need to know these things and it will be really scary doing the treatment on your own you should take your freinds and family on the journey with you they need to be there with you every step of the way they need to look after you they need to hold your hand every day it’s not going to be same just you and the doctors they are not family
That's exactly how I felt about my mom when I has a brain tumor and we weren't sure if I was going to survive. I took her hand in mine and made her promise that she wouldn't leave me. Even if I had to leave her.
aww, i hope the brain tumor was removed and hope ur doing better and is safe with ur mom. Fighting Guys!
Aw how are you now?
❤
If I found out I was dying, I wouldn’t be able to keep it from my family 😢
No and you really shouldn’t I understand that kids want to protect their freinds and family but terminal cancer is really hurtful to keep to yourself your family needs to know these things and when they ask you if your Alright and then you say I’m fine when you can quite see that you are quite clearly not fine you should take them on the journey with you otherwise it’s not fair on you both and it will be really scary Doing the treatment on your own your family need to be there with you they need to look after you they need to hold your hand every day it’s not going to be the same just you and the doctors they are not family
It's sad how the most socially adjusted people are those who have experienced the most pain in life. This young man is kind, funny and interesting and has the perspective of someone who knows what he truly wants in life.
I doubt that’s true. Take a look at the hood
Damn that's rough to be so young an get such devastating news. 😥 The acting tho, you can feel the emotions through the screen. 💔
I am bawling. Like a baby. That sweet boy’s face and tears and heartache and strength and courage……. I lost my dad to cancer last year, and this clip hit me like a rock in the chest. Hold onto your dear loved ones for as long and as close and as hard as you can… because one day they won’t be there anymore. But, their love will ALWAYS be a part of you, in your heart, in you dreams, in your soul, forever. Because true love never dies. 🩵🩷🩵🩷🩵
Oh man I'm crying so hard! 😢 if you ever lost a loved one to any form of cancer, you would understand...
It's good Trey wants to live his life before he dies, and yes, he DOES have a right to not tell anyone, including his parents. However, it's also a good thing that he did choose to tell them, because it would have destroyed them if they had found out after his death, and I think Trey would have struggled without their support.
that didnt get until the end when i saw his parents start crying...
Same, I just had my son a couple weeks ago so immediately put myself in their place.
There's no emotion harder than the grief of losing a child. Always tell them that you love them. I may be the last time.
Yikes. I swear I'm not one to cry easily, but this had me tearing up.
As a mom whose child had leukemia, it's always very hard for me to watch these kinds of shows/clips. 😔
I hope this guy will be able to do whatever he wants. All travelling he wants, all experience he needs. I hope his parents will let him do this, not hold him to be careful and other stuff
Maybe they can do some of it with him. That would be even better.
@@annebodee what do you all mean? This is not real- it’s a tv show . . .
You know it's a show right.
@@alexstewart7655 it's always some person with an anime profile pic, or some Karen looking lady that always acts like the the show is real haha
@@ausername7470 of course=) but I sympathize with the character
BRO I have bad death anxiety and looking at him being so relaxed it's so unreal if I knew I was going to die then I would be freaking out cheers for him I know it's acting but he did so well. I just got medicine for it I took it and am fine
You might surprise yourself. No one I know that was given a terminal diagnosis freaked out. When you are given such a limited amount of time shock is the the first response, then anger, grief and acceptance. Most try to improve their relationships with family and leave good memories but one did just leave to go live it up until the end and her ashes were mailed to her family.
He's an actor, probably that's why
@@enochiayeah but Damn he’s good
It's because he's already been dealing with this for three years. While your first reaction might be "nonononononono" and freaking out, his is literally "again...?"
that guy Trey is an AMAZING actor and I almost never say that. He needs to be cast in something big. I won't forget this one.
Cancer effects everyone not just the patient. I can understand him not wanting to burden his parents but sometimes you just need it
I feel like If the parents knew he was gonna die they could brace themselves and prepare for when the time comes. It’s better to let them prepare and understand this is what’s gonna happen.
This young actor did such an amazing job in this show!
Whenever I worry about my tear ducts being clogged, I watch stuff like this. Opens them right up.
Doctor just helped the patient realize, his core memories weren't ahead of him, but behind him.
Man cancer is so unfair
I always wondered... would it be better, for you, to know a loved one is going to die, or better if it just happened suddenly?
But I've seen both. My aunt slowly deteriorating from cancer. She held on until her first great- grandchild was born. I held her hand in the hospital before she was released to go pass at home. She didn't have much left of her, and I remember her suddenly noticing me and telling me what pretty eyelashes I have...
Later, my father. I wasn't super close, but we happened to talk one night, and he passed a few hours later after telling me he loved me and would see me soon... Alone. Silent. He choked. Nobody expected that.
Nothing is better or worse. It's all awful.
Wow, that kid is really a wonderful actor. I was truly moved,
This was very emotional to watch...my heart goes out to all those with cancer😞..... hope you have someone(family and most importantly God) to lean on.
Definitely had me crying. It would have been selfish and cruel to rob his parents of those months. Ideally, they could help him achieve some of those things. Travel together. Climb a mountain together. But also be there for him when his body starts shutting down. Have lost many family members to cancer, including my dad. You don't just drop dead one day. It's a process and ultimately you need care to do the simplest things. No stranger out there somewhere will do that.
Young mans deserves an Oscar
I couldn't keep something like this from my family. No way. If I had a terminal disease I want them to know! Cancer sucks! I lost two friends to it and now my dad has it though it's thankfully only Stage 1. Cancer is the worst! 😞
omg omg omg, that episode speaks so many vol's. i am betting the parents are happy that their son is in peace knowing that he was able to please his parents while growing up etc and god wanted all parties to be happy as well as the parents raised an awesome young man.
"How did you get him to change his mind?"
"I didn't. I think Trey just realized that he can't finish his story without them."
Really? I thought the shrink had planned that the making of the video would be the thing that would change the boy's mind. I even wondered if he had planned the "five most important memories" ahead of time.
Iggy typically does do shady stuff like that to get through to his patients 😂 I couldn't tell if this was on purpose either
If I was in his shoes God forbid I would want to die alone I wouldn't want anybody to remember me just move on and to keep on living until there time is to come because I was born alone.
Thanks, now I’m sobbing
What’s even more sad about this is that this episode aired in January of 2020, so Trey probably passed during the COVID lockdowns. Or worst case scenario, getting COVID himself (since he would have been among the highest risk of serious complications)….
This made me cry. It is so sad that people have to go through this on all sides involved.
8:24 awe he tells em in the end
My mom passed of stage 4 metastatic triple negative breast cancer a year and 2 months ago. She fought for a few years and at the end what was a routine doctor's appointment ended up with her having to be admitted and 5 days later she was gone. The cancer had spread to her brain, lymphnodes, bones and liver. Her liver shut down completely. I refused to leave her side because she shouldn't have to go through that alone. Including my mom I've lost 8 family members from cancer since September of 2019. I watched my whole family disappear and at 30 years old the only ones left and me and my aunt.
This guy actually looks 18 and talks like an 18 year old. I especially loved the use of the word "murk"
Wow..when the time comes..I need to tell my children. They are 9 and 17 now, but I lost my mom and dad by the time I was 29. I found out about my mom 3 weeks before she passed on mother's day and I had 6 months left with my dad (3 years after my mom died). Even when people say they don't care..they do..because sometimes life doesn't let you find out until it's too late.
Really good actor, I felt all of his pain.
I couldn't keep something like this from my husbamd or my mom or sister.
6:49 had to stop watching cuz imma start crying, thinking of my own kids and what that might feel like if I was watching their video😭😭😭
I did too, I left a letter for my children and it started off very similar to his…
Now i get realized he couldn't finish his life without them knowing about his end-stage cancer
Seeing him film that video I just started crying and think about my mom and dad and my brothers I’m the youngest and I couldn’t be were I am today without them
doctor: How are you feeling?
patient: Like someone almost murdered by crab cakes.
me: Wha???🤔🤔🤔
He may have thought it caused his anaphylaxis.
@@Margann1987 Ohhhh.
This scene still hurts so much
Damn this made me cry.
What medical professional would drop heavy news on a KID without having a parent, family member, or even a hospital mental health specialist with them for support??
Stated he was 18, so legally an adult.
He’s 18.
What's up with people infantilizing young adults?
@@blueberryoatmeal4009 👍
@@Kyle_Da_Frog HIPAA only cares about legalities, so....18 is when they can get medical care without parents nearby
Holy cow...that kid was awesome
Had me tearing up man :,)
Psych doc is shocked that a teenager doesn't want to hang out with his parents.
Wait wasn’t she in doctor who? Glad to see she’s still a (medical) doctor
Yes!! Martha!
@@H3LLOxKiMCHi She was a Companion, NOT the doctor.
She was a companion who began as a medical student (Smith and Jones- hospital gets moved to the moon by the Judoon looking for an intergalactic criminal.). Martha Jones became a doctor in her own right. (However, she was not "The" Doctor.) Jana 🤓
I know she was a companion. She was a doctor in the Doctor Who show. A medical doctor
@@bb22602 I never implied that she was the Doctor. That's why I only commented "Martha." As in, she was Martha Jones, the companion.
bruh, that man deserves an Oscar!!!
Where can i watch the whole episode?? Or his whole life story after that?? Its soo good it made me cryy🥹♥️♥️
The show is available on peacock. I'm not sure what episode it is though
@@jonathanpalomar7413 From the video description: "New Amsterdam Season 2 Episode 11 'Hiding Behind My Smile'"
Dr Sharpe is probably the most beautiful doctor I have ever seen !
My tears were flowing
I’m not crying; you’re crying 😭
Not me crying
As a trey myself and a cancer (leukemia) survivor this hits deep
Cancer? Disease? Lets pray no one gets it not even our enemies. I'm glad he changed his mind.
I wish my parents were alive. They've both passed to cancer. I know that if I, myself, get sick I have nobody anymore. It's a debilitating fear
She can always call the Doctor in his blue box to find a cure
I'm sorry but if I had 4-6 months to live there is zero chance I'm wasting any of that time doing therapy.
The boy is a very good actor! How is he now?
He was in three movies last year I believe and he has a new film coming out at some point called Shattered Ice.
Cole Tristan Murphy his name is. :)
That was so painful for me to watch
i kinda side with him on this, but imo id atleast spend some time with my parents before i left just so they have good memories to think of
This has me. Almost better than Toby’s story
Really good episode. I cried...
Trying to repatriate a loved ones body when they die abroad is not easy.
In this digital age I have seen multiple people die on film that have cried out for their parents in their final moments on earth. George Floyd for one. To see their mom, is quite literally their last wish. The adults in this situation knew this, and thought of a great way to make Trey, a kid, understand. If Trey went through with his plan, he would most likely be denying himself his very last moment of comfort. He would be with party bros on a mountain in the jungle, no shade, crying to see his mom and dad one last time. It’s good writing too bc, as an adult with the ability to more accurately predict consequences, I see that as the obvious outcome, like the adults on the show. Trey, bc his pre-frontal cortex isn’t fully developed, can’t even register the fact he will most likely change his mind. Caught on the hype train, poor lad.
It took me 0.5 seconds to recognize Doctor Sharpe! Martha Jones, the voice of a Nightingale! Freema is a terrific actress and her time on Doctor Who is often underrated.
Trey I understand why you want to protect your family but they need to know that your dying it’s really hurtful to keep a terminal illness from your own family and when you come home they ask you if your alright and then you say I’m fine when you can quite see that you are quite clearly not fine you can’t go through the treatment on your own it will be really scary Doing it on your own your parents need to be with you every step of the way they need to look after you they need to hold your hand every day its not going to be the same just doing it on your own
October 16 2007 its was the finals of mine exam I was about to start when an teacher knocked on the door with an grieve look on his face I knew right away and without hesitation I dashed to the hospital as I got there out of breath he called out to me asking me why am I here I didn't care about the exams he put his hand on mine head smiled at me and said one last thing
There is no death only an start of an new adventure
Siegfried 1991-2006 I mis you ❤❤❤
I’m binge watching this channel
nah you got me crying bro wth 😭
O please cant deal😭😭😭😭
So young. Heartbreaking.
Having narcissistic traits is a lot different from having narcissistic personality disorder. DSM-V criteria for NPD are pretty difficult to meet.
This is all sad like Ik but can we talk abt how fine trey is I mean 😪
My grandpa did this. He didn’t want anyone to know. He had pictures made with all of the grandkids. My grandma found out near the end. Then he told my parents. Then we all found out when he was gone.
Damn! That got me! I’m in traffic and I can’t see.
you're watching youtube while driving?
@@zTeaTheCoffee You're not exactly driving while stuck in traffic. This guy is probably just on his phone while waiting for traffic to clear up.
@@faithwright4533 it's still pretty illegal and not exactly safe
😭❤️😘 I don’t know what to say I am sad the heartache
Sometime it takes a few pushes or a change of perspective to get someone to change their mind about something before they regret it
I don't think he's gonna have the strength to travel up a mountain
Im good with telling my mom i am dying. Im fine with dying
I almost made the same decision when there was concern my appendix had brusted I sent her to the waiting room pretty sure I was dying and was scared beyond belief and didn't want her to have to see me crying. Could I have regretted it had I actually been dying maybe but I knew what I was doing.
If I'd been diagnosed with the same cancer as Trey my mother would have handcuffed herself -- and me -- to the bed and prayed endlessly to her fantasy god to "save" me. My father would have stationed himself at the door with a loaded gun and threatened to shoot me before he'd "let" me leave.
Not all parents are as rational as Trey's were.
Truth
Doctor ran some tests on me and i thought i had cancer.
I told myself if i did i would travel the world and spend my final days in Africa. Then i realized i was skinned broke so that would not work.
At least i got no cancer.
That’s so fucking sad 😭
Also good thing he did this anmade him change his mind because I'm pretty sure the parents would have tried to Sue the hospital or doctor for On ethical means
Human body is so complicated
Omg Martha Jones!
1:08 she’s from law n order uk
Whys this making me cryyyyyyyyy
Goddamnit I didn't want to cry today! 😢
I'm not crying, you're crying
Yeah because you can hide death
Right in the feels
I lost my friend this year to cancer and this really touch me he went through the same knowing he was going to die and when it did I was there
Damn. This is hard to watch. 💔