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Pile 1: I’ve always given more than I’ve gotten - in friendships I’ve been the emotional support person, in romantic relationships I’ve always been the supporter (either emotionally, financially, or both), in work I’ve always given all that I have and been compensated unequally, even now on CZcams, “im given her all she’s got captain” and I’m not seeing much growth… This pattern is clearly a karmic loop for me. I feel that to extricate myself from this pattern, I must fully depend on my self (ie in-dependence, depending on myself from within) and no longer giving in a way that depletes ME. This is the beginning of my selfish era. I deserve for my needs to be met, and I’m going to do that for me, because I’m worthy (finally being able to say that to myself is a breakthrough and a half!) Thank you for this reading. It elaborated upon that which I suspected, and it confirmed what I innately know but have been resisting clearly acknowledging. Much gratitude 🙏🏻 ❤
Group 3- I have so many things I want to do, but I dont know what to do first. Should I even try for one of my goals if I don't know whether it will pay off? This reading has helped me realize that i just need to make a choice and go for it. A few years ago I quit my job to make art and pursue youtube full time, and it failed after 2 years. I ended up going back to my job. I can't go through that again because it was so embarrassing, but I want to be successful so bad.
Pile 4: yes it’s hard for me to be vulnerable ppl break my trust often and I couldn’t rely on anyone I opened up with new friends tho but still some blocks there. I’m trying to get help but no assistance there. I don’t know why things have to be a constant test. ): nothing is working no one to trust. I get tired of being told good is on the way and nothing happens
Same it’s been years waiting for good and nothing but shit mostly rolls in. I’m never going to expect positive again because I’m just gonna get disappointed yet again
Group 1: Unfortunately, rather than feeling like I'm fighting against fate, I feel like I've given up? which I'm not sure is the same as 'surrender' but that's where I'm at 🥲
Pile 4 here! Am currently listening, and, I don't know, this part about "should I let people help or not" hits kinda close to home, because I'm having a really hard time right now but feel really reluctant asking for comfort. I feel like my emotions are drowning people I lean on, and I'm scared I'll push them away. It's too much over just mundane things. I'm just tired, but then I cry every day when I come home from work, so it's maybe important? But it's also just life? And a lot of people are burnt out. I don't know.
Pile 1 and 2… I’ve been sick for almost a month straight and everything is falling apart in my life and most of my issues are external and out of my control. I feel so validated, seen and understood when you said that things not going my way and things not manifesting is not my fault and the blockages happening in my life is from the universe’s side and not mine, I got so sick and tired of other tarot readers, especially the ones who say, “you’re not trying hard enough, you’re not being positive, you’re not trusting hard enough, you’re belief isn’t enough, you’re still very unhealed, you’re not working on yourself hard enough, you’re not loving yourself hard enough, you’re too sad and depressed and you’re energy is bad because of it and you can’t manifest” over and over and over as a way to make people feel fully responsible and take the blame for their readings not working, resonating or just being too generic and vague… and I kept hearing that even though I’ve tried to do the complete opposite and hearing that Im not doing enough even though Im trying my best is so so disheartening, discouraging and dismissive to hear. These tarot readers and people in my life blaming me for everything thats not working in my life and taking on the burden of trying to fix everything only for any of my attempts not work at all leaving me feeling frustrated, exhausted, guilty and like a failure. My mental and physical health has been so bad because of me being blamed for and taking responsibility for things that are out of my control. So thank you so so much Kino for delivering these messages to me and taking the weight off of my shoulders. I really appreciate it. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
hi kino!!! i haven’t finished my reading yet but just wanted to express how much guidance and peace you’ve provided me with over the past couple months and I’m so thankful for your sharing your gifts! I hope you are doing well, have a lovely holiday season, and always take care 🩷🩵🤍 sending you so much light and love!
Pile four. I cried. You were spot on and it felt like a personal reading with a friend. My kid self misses me as much as I miss her. I’ve been in survival mode with hard boundaries for 3 decades while still knowing I’m soft inside. I was called sensitive in kindergarten by my teacher lol….It’s exhausting. I get told I’m an overthinker and that they were just joking. No one takes the time to know me and accommodate me or reassure me. It’s exhaaaaaausting. I have one person who tries harder than anyone and if he’s not my tf idk what he is. He’s represented to me by the Star so the crystal choice was on point. He’s spent time trying to get me to open up and talk about what bothers me and refuses to give up on me. It bothers me that he and I can’t be together though so I push him away too haha. I need to balance my sides here and stop chasing and blocking and giving, and be more about receiving and knowing and confidence. Thank you!!!
Chose Pile 3. It resonated HARD. I am so afraid of failing that a I do things half-heartedly all the time. You are right, I always do SELF-SABOTAGE. It’s ruining my life, honestly 😢
pile 3 resonated SO MUCH like it is genuinely insane. i am going to take this advice so seriously and commit to the path im pursuing for now. thank you so much for the reading kino
Hi Kino! Pile #2 is a huge callout already and I’m only a few minutes in. This resonated with me a lot in a sort of out-of-the-box way. There are places where I’m working toward asserting my boundaries and allowing myself to be vulnerable. In the past, I’ve let my friends take advantage of my supportiveness or kindness. Or, I gave way too much of myself to others without leaving energy for myself in FOMO and a weird obligatory sense. I also have significant trust issues due to trauma but feel like I have been blocking the flow of positive energy because of my fear, despite having connections that have proven themselves as healthy. I recently had a job where your first example with the music artist was my exact situation. I gave way too much of myself for my boss to nickel and dime most of the employees, including me. I had a connection with someone there who I overexert myself to as well. I was made to do the manager’s job, even though I was only a supervisor. Luckily I quit. I had a reader once who told me reversals are energy that's stuck or in movement. I've been reading for years myself (you being my comfort reader on CZcams since was 16. Thank you, by the way!) and I found that cool for my situation with the 6 of Pents and 4 of Cups. I have issues with being overly giving, so how can the scales be equal if I'm giving too much? At the same time, the card has the potential to even out in one way or another (whether it's someone leaving a situation that's toxic or taking more care of themselves, implied by 9 of Pents). 4 of cups reminds me of my misguided FOMO. I think by refusing to change and falling into these old patterns of thinking I should always be “strong” and give to others, I'm the one failing myself. True strength is accepting one's self and being brave to be vulnerable again. This is why I love your readings. Something always clicks for me! Also, Venus in Virgo and Moon in Taurus person here. Thank you!
Little side note to add with 8 swords! As I said I've dealt with trauma, and I see the reversal for myself as a difficulty to release the mental prisons because they were formed through grounded, tangible events. So, like you're saying, I should keep looking (for my own and) other people’s grounded, tangible healing. I picked up some books not too long ago surrounding my experience that are supposed to be great. I've been annotating them and it's been a huge help.
Chose pile 4❤ I am pisces and this was perfect for me. And as a child was told to not be sooo sensitive! Had a great imagination and like you said could dive into a book and really immerse myself. But it all got knocked out of me, and now at age 58 am learning to release my feminine and sensitive side through healing that child. Your readings are sooooo incredible Kino, thank you.PS love that you rcvd crystal Angel deck was brilliant as I love working with both ❤❤❤
Pile 2: your readings so much resonates right now. I’m stuck right now, I can’t even talk about my feelings or feel like to complain about things happening to me, because in some way, I feel like why am I so ungrateful. I’m just crying right now because I feel like I’m suffocated. The energy that resonates are strong Gemini ♊️ energy.
Kino, thank you so much!! I wish you all the best tooo. I chose pile 4. I was thinking of my inner child during this moth randomly but you nailed it. When I was a child I had super powers, I had the power to make other children playing all together, for hours. I was surrounded by joy, infinite happiness, laughter. I had a big group of friends. I became teenager and all of it disappears. I want be back to my Origen and be able to do the same with the people that surrounding me . I want to give infinite joy to all. Thanks and God bless you alway
This resonated, pile 4. I have a hard time with asking for help; it’s been a thing my entire life. Being in law school I thought I could do everything on my own, and it has been so detrimental to me. I really need support and I am slowly accepting that I can’t do it myself.
This resonated sooo much. I got Pile 1. I’ve been in a healing journey for a year, and it’s been very stressful. I’ve lost my job, many friends (thanks universe, bc the true ones showed up) and stopped a very important relationship. I’m not fighting anymore bc the universe is showing me to look and prioritise myself. I’m finishing my Psychology degree, FINALLY putting myself first and I realised that my person still wants me in their life. It’s so important to know that it’s not my fault my life’s shit now, bc now I know that things will one day be better.
Pile 2- Thank you so much for this Kino...... I quit my job yesterday... and I am a musician so I'm taking this as a sign to keep pushing independently in terms of my music .....
The horse story you told in Pile1 is actually a traditional Chinese phrase called “塞翁失马，焉知非福”, which means when the old man Sai loses his horse, how could you know that this isn’t actually a blessing? And the historical background of this is that in ancient Chinese when there were wars, men from every family had to serve in the army (not every grown man, but some depend on how many grown men there were), that’s why at the end of the story the government came. Nice to hear this story from your side😊
Number 4. So true and validating! Trust issues making it hard to turn that Empress card upright, lol! Thanks Kino! Learning so much about tarot and myself here. ✨
I’ve been a silent subscriber for almost 3 years now and it’s about time I BREAK IT HAHAHAHA! Pile 4!!! Ahhhh resonated so hard thank you so much Kino I really needed this. Your ability is just so amazing literally the best tarot youtuber and I always come back to your readings ‘cause they are always on point and inspiring. I hope you’re doing great but if ever you also feel like you’re stuck, I hope you can find the motivation to go through it once again. I love youuu 🌸🤍💖
STOOOOOOOP THIS RESONATED SO HARRRRD I chose Pile 1 and so many things have not been going my way and in hindsight it was out of my control but I kept having tarot readers be like "MEEh yOu'Re aTtRactIng bAd enErGy bY beInG sAd" this was just what I needed to hear, total opposite of what I've been hearing! 🩷🩷
People that claim being sad or any other "negative" emotion "lower your vibrations" are just contributing to toxic positivity mindset. Toxic positivity just results into resentment and surpressed anger, covering the wound with a cheap band-aid rather than looking at the root cause. And therefore they are actually the ones lowering vibrations 🤣 We came to the earth as humans and humans experience VAST amount of emotions. Our emotions are not meant to be stagnant. You don't need to "move on" if someome dear to you has passed. Ofc it'd be ideal that one develops coping mechanism to deal with the grief and release stress. But there's no reason to move on and pretend your pain doesn't exist. Instead it should be a journey of getting to know yourself and what comforts you, possibly discovering some other wounds that contribute to the grief, etc. Your pain isn't meant to be tossed aside and that you can handle everything effortlessly lmao 🤷♂️ ofc if someone wants to be detached they can. Everyone can make their own choices. But no one gets to decide for you that you have to detach. There will always be room and space for your emotions 👏👏👏👏
I love that you call it a "spiritual team" 😌 💛 just had to pause my reading and let you know that! 🥰 Update: pile 3 I was feeling so called out especially with the workout routines 😅 . "I feel at home in my body" hits really hard as I'm struggling with my body weight and body image but also with my direction in life in general ... thanks for a great reading as always and for being a conduit for my spiritual team!
4: slowly getting out of this but sometimes it gets really hard to discern when to fiercely protect myself and when to just say whatever. the people around me made me belittle myself so much that now whenever I’m speaking up for myself it feels like being selfish and thinking too highly of myself. its just fucked up.
Pile 2, wow just wow. Funny when I first started listening I thought I didn't pick right, but I'm glad I stayed and paid attention. I mean the pile resonated to the point where it opened my eyes to something major that I have been ignoring. Thank you so much Kino for the work you do ❤ it is much much appreciated.
Yes! I felt bad for Kino because I got the feeling she thought she hadn't explained it well or that it was silly but it made perfect sense! What a beautiful man her Dad is to really feel that way in life! Not many men I know have been raised to share those kind of things, especially Aussie men! I think my Dad would come the closest to have shared that with me 😢 He passed 3 years ago and what a beautiful soul he had ❤
@@diannebarrett3500 Much love to you and your father, may he continue watching over you 🤍 I passed on the message that you guys liked the story and my Dad responded ''neato!!'' 😂 his Mom is Aussie too btw! 🥰
@KinoTarot ooooo that's adorable! I never grieved for Dad and doubt I will. As a Palliative care RN I was honoured and privileged to have been able to give him his final wishes - to pass in his home. I was also able to bring through absolute proof of Spirit to him a couple of days before he passed when his family came through with a little dog I'd never known of, way before I was born but described it exactly as it was physically and in personality. So comforting. I know he's here 💖 Enjoy your Dad while you can hon x x x
Pile 3 I have been unemployed for a year. It’s hard to stick to one thing when it’s not working and I got bills to pay. I’ve been trying to get a marketing job in a specific industry and I still haven’t landed a job. So now I’m volunteering to build more marketing experience and seeking out freelance opportunities to break into the industry. I’m also working on my side hustle as a Content Creator. I’m super passionate about marketing. I need a day job to build my business as a Content Creator. It’s super hard to find work.
Group 4 -- thank you so much Kino. This resonated more than you can imagine. I've always been a big dreamer and know that I have a big heart as well. I feel like lately I have been embodying my inner child a lot more, but it is nice to have a reminder to be in that more playful feminine energy as it can be easy to forget how to to do that due to societal programming/conditioning etc. Much love❤
Thank you Kino! I chose Pile 4 and you were spot on with the challenges I'm facing. Grateful for your reading, they gave me greater clarity on what I need to work on. And guess what.. I'm wearing a Larimar bracelet and a Larimar pendant while watching this... just so shocked (and happily surprised!) when you pulled the Larimar card out ;D
Pile 4 and it’s me. I have been hurt a lot in the money world but it’s also seems dramatic to creative career transition right now since I have been violently educated towards so-called elite career
Hello! I picked 2 piles, numbers 2 and 4. They both resonated brilliantly. Thank you very much for this reading. It's something I really needed to hear. Hope you have an amazing week!
i picked pile 1. and holy wow, kino. to a tee, this has been everything i’ve been struggling w and grappling w. at the beginning of this feeling of stagnation, my own father shared w me that exact same story/parable you shared. definitely feels like it fits what’s been going on. thank you so much
I chose pile number two and I am a traditionally published author whose former editor could not have cared less about her job. I blamed myself for a very long time, and still find myself doing it. Your reading was very helpful (and accurate!) for me and I appreciate the affirmations. Hopefully I will find the courage to take a book out on submission again soon. Thank you so much for your reading! Wishing you nothing but the best💚
Pile 2: Internally screaming because I could hand in my (60-day!!) notice tomorrow but I don't have anything lined up. I also need to move states or countries but I DON'T know HOW or where 😭😭😭 and I know I need to start my own business but I DON'T KNOW WHAT IT IS. So much uncertainty remains even though I've been doing so much shadow work, my goddddddddddd I can't take it anymore. P.S. I've been wanting to put out my music and other creative work for literal decades. I need to sit down and do a proper manifestation ritual.
Pile 4 I’m a little weary of receiving help sometimes. I feel someone might get mad or resentful or feel they give more to me than I do for them so they might end our relationship. That happened in the past where an old friend of mine out of the blue end our friendship because they felt I wasn’t giving to them like they were to me. I didn’t know they felt that way and it ended up hurting me alot. At that time I depending alot on them emotionally and for friendship. And I think in some way I may have been too dependent. But it was an abrupt ended. We ended up reconnecting and I was like this time I’m going to make sure I give and they know it. They ended it again. And the second time was worse than the first time. I realize that nothing I do will ever satisfy that person or be enough. I remember I didn’t have a car and was on the bus trying to get them a birthday cake to please their ass. Fuck that shit. No more people pleasing. If what I do isn’t enough or people can’t see the value I bring them that’s on them not me. That’s their loss not mine. Because I’m a good friend. I’m not perfect but I do try to be there for my friends when I can. And sometimes I can’t give if I’m depleted or got things going on. But looking back I rather someone leave then pretend to be okay with the relationship when their not. I want people who will be satisfied with what I bring to the table. No more hard feelings I not every cup of tea and that cool. And no longer refused to bend over backwards or care about someone who I see isn’t doing the same for me. People come and go.
I'm back to this channel after months ❤ just got caught up with life and didn't have time, thought life was going super well until reality showed it's true colours. somehow today i really wanted to just light a candle, lie down and listen to one of your readings randomly and this shows up. looks like the universe knows what i need ❤ its good to be back! i missed your loving, positive vibes 🫶🏻💕
Pile 4 selenite - I really resonated with the message. Especially with that part, that it feels like it is taking sooo long! :D Then it even softened my heart a bit. Thank you dear Kino!🥰
Pile 4 made very much sense. Also the chrystals are all my favourite colors. I knew amethyst would come up. I just saw all the purple stones on my living room table. Thanks for your wise words.
🌟🌙✨ Pile 2. I love you, thank you for your direction. It was exactly what I needed to hear. I already kinda knew, but you confirmed it in such a specific way 💙 This made me so emotional, but confident at the same time. You have a leading light, thank you for sharing it 🌟✨💙🌓
Only today morning i was feeling the same energy in my career. Internally i know i am someone who jitters a lot when it comes to career. While personal life i feel everything is changing ... Be it friends ... Or family ... Thank you for the reading Kino ❤
pile 3... so scary true... ugh. i am for sure my own worst enemy at times and most definitely a perfectionist. can also get stuck on wanting that instant and immediate gratification/progress & results. If i dont get or see that, or ir doesnt go the way i want, i give up. but then, i feel guilty and try again.. idk but I'm doing my best though. its hard.. right on point though with the exercising thing. 6 months postpartum. its been rough and a huge blow to my self esteem. just trying to get me back.
strangely resonated this time, the signs, the numbers... everything! It's been hard, I admit, I've been wanting to give up, but thank you for the words Kino, I appreciate u a lot!
Don't know if someone is reading this, but if you are: it doesnt matter where are you right now on this planet, I wish you a wonderful day, and a happy peaceful life, where all your dreams come true. You are amazing and beautiful. 💫✨️ I believe in you✨️💫
Omg I needed this and was searching for some answers by introspection and smth struck my mind and I wandered a bit on yt and randomly saw this video and oh god the title drew me in ! Also what you said here is true about my current situation, I want to be independent of the silly need to be liked by friends 'all the time' I want the courage to be disliked, I want to be unaffected by any negative views about me if any :) I want he courage to show the real me and my talents
Pile 1. Wow yessss my ego has been resisting andddd even though I know I need to learn to surrender, somehow it’s been hard to just let go and no need to fight anymore 🥲
Pile 3 - I'm a writer and I've been working on a poetry collection. However, I hit such a mental block. I was doubting everything I had written as well as my own capabilities. I was so close to changing the title, the thesis, and even my current methods. So before I realized it, I was tearing up when you said the power is not in the method but in myself hahaha! I also loved when you called out the ego (I use so many excuses to not just sit down and write hahaha)! Writing, poetry specifically, matters a lot to me--so when I'm at my lowest, I often worry in my head that "I'm not even good at doing what I love the most." There is truth to that statement but in a different manner--am I really showing my love for the craft when I am stopping myself from focusing on it? So thank you so much for the enlightening reading, Kino! This gave me the push I needed
Pile 4 - This resonates to my situation a lot because I'm struggling to apply for college and I really want to go to a particular college but I had to rush and make up 4 of my classes because they messed up my grades.
11:59 totally true for my case been trying to change my field (cause i think I'm not cut out for it) but it seems the universe is making me pursue this path. Currently I've got no other choice other than to continue.
Picked pile 2 and 3 and so far things resonate with me so much. Also, pile three... Moon in Taurus in 11th house, all me, my exact placements, I was so baffled! That has never happened before, so I was like, are you speaking to me directly? How?! Haha. Thank you so much for these beautiful readings, and they came, as always, at the exact time I needed them. You are a gift to this world, Kino. Thank you!
#3 (Septarian) I'm a leo so we are begining well 1:13:16 :1:15:15 1:22:22 yap 1:14:00 yo're not the first one to tell this 1:16:17 1:16:30 1:17:31 1:18:08 😯 1:26:14 1:28:18 true 1:31:45 I think I'm doing that 1:33:33 but breathing techniques? interesting 🤔
Group 1 WOW Mercury in Libra 4th house. My DM has this placement at 3 degrees 33 minutes. Thank you for confirming that things are out of my control and that there is nothing to do but surrender.
Hi Kino Tarot, I'm watching this while I'm bin bed. I'm in my feels as tomorrow marks the 1st yr anniversary without my Dad. I also feel a cough & hoarse voice. I chose pile#1. This reasonates for me with many msgs. Thank you kindly! Prayers & positive vibes to all! 😻💜🫶🙏🙌🍀💎🌞🧿
Pile 4 was crazyyyyy accurate. So yes I am still holding onto hurt and need inner child healing for answers that she can help with. Yes, I am a very intense dreamer. So, Tell me WHY I had a dream detailing exactly who the culprit is and what happened to put me in this untrusting, do it myself position?!!
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Pile 1: I’ve always given more than I’ve gotten - in friendships I’ve been the emotional support person, in romantic relationships I’ve always been the supporter (either emotionally, financially, or both), in work I’ve always given all that I have and been compensated unequally, even now on CZcams, “im given her all she’s got captain” and I’m not seeing much growth…
This pattern is clearly a karmic loop for me. I feel that to extricate myself from this pattern, I must fully depend on my self (ie in-dependence, depending on myself from within) and no longer giving in a way that depletes ME.
This is the beginning of my selfish era. I deserve for my needs to be met, and I’m going to do that for me, because I’m worthy (finally being able to say that to myself is a breakthrough and a half!)
Thank you for this reading. It elaborated upon that which I suspected, and it confirmed what I innately know but have been resisting clearly acknowledging.
Much gratitude 🙏🏻 ❤
Pile 4 - definitely hits home! felt emotional and cried while you're doing the reading, Kino. Thank you 🙏
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I cried too 🪔
Group 3- I have so many things I want to do, but I dont know what to do first. Should I even try for one of my goals if I don't know whether it will pay off? This reading has helped me realize that i just need to make a choice and go for it.
A few years ago I quit my job to make art and pursue youtube full time, and it failed after 2 years. I ended up going back to my job. I can't go through that again because it was so embarrassing, but I want to be successful so bad.
Pile 4: yes it’s hard for me to be vulnerable ppl break my trust often and I couldn’t rely on anyone I opened up with new friends tho but still some blocks there. I’m trying to get help but no assistance there. I don’t know why things have to be a constant test. ): nothing is working no one to trust. I get tired of being told good is on the way and nothing happens
Same it’s been years waiting for good and nothing but shit mostly rolls in. I’m never going to expect positive again because I’m just gonna get disappointed yet again
Group 1: Unfortunately, rather than feeling like I'm fighting against fate, I feel like I've given up? which I'm not sure is the same as 'surrender' but that's where I'm at 🥲
Pile 4 here! Am currently listening, and, I don't know, this part about "should I let people help or not" hits kinda close to home, because I'm having a really hard time right now but feel really reluctant asking for comfort. I feel like my emotions are drowning people I lean on, and I'm scared I'll push them away. It's too much over just mundane things. I'm just tired, but then I cry every day when I come home from work, so it's maybe important? But it's also just life? And a lot of people are burnt out. I don't know.
Pile 4 resonates incredibly strong. Thank you for sharing your wonderful talent and time! 🩷💜
Thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️
Pile 1 and 2… I’ve been sick for almost a month straight and everything is falling apart in my life and most of my issues are external and out of my control. I feel so validated, seen and understood when you said that things not going my way and things not manifesting is not my fault and the blockages happening in my life is from the universe’s side and not mine, I got so sick and tired of other tarot readers, especially the ones who say, “you’re not trying hard enough, you’re not being positive, you’re not trusting hard enough, you’re belief isn’t enough, you’re still very unhealed, you’re not working on yourself hard enough, you’re not loving yourself hard enough, you’re too sad and depressed and you’re energy is bad because of it and you can’t manifest” over and over and over as a way to make people feel fully responsible and take the blame for their readings not working, resonating or just being too generic and vague… and I kept hearing that even though I’ve tried to do the complete opposite and hearing that Im not doing enough even though Im trying my best is so so disheartening, discouraging and dismissive to hear. These tarot readers and people in my life blaming me for everything thats not working in my life and taking on the burden of trying to fix everything only for any of my attempts not work at all leaving me feeling frustrated, exhausted, guilty and like a failure. My mental and physical health has been so bad because of me being blamed for and taking responsibility for things that are out of my control. So thank you so so much Kino for delivering these messages to me and taking the weight off of my shoulders. I really appreciate it. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
hi kino!!! i haven’t finished my reading yet but just wanted to express how much guidance and peace you’ve provided me with over the past couple months and I’m so thankful for your sharing your gifts! I hope you are doing well, have a lovely holiday season, and always take care 🩷🩵🤍 sending you so much light and love!
Thank you so much for leaving this comment 🥹🤍 lots of love to you too!!
Pile four. I cried. You were spot on and it felt like a personal reading with a friend. My kid self misses me as much as I miss her. I’ve been in survival mode with hard boundaries for 3 decades while still knowing I’m soft inside. I was called sensitive in kindergarten by my teacher lol….It’s exhausting. I get told I’m an overthinker and that they were just joking. No one takes the time to know me and accommodate me or reassure me. It’s exhaaaaaausting. I have one person who tries harder than anyone and if he’s not my tf idk what he is. He’s represented to me by the Star so the crystal choice was on point. He’s spent time trying to get me to open up and talk about what bothers me and refuses to give up on me. It bothers me that he and I can’t be together though so I push him away too haha. I need to balance my sides here and stop chasing and blocking and giving, and be more about receiving and knowing and confidence. Thank you!!!
ahh it's so interesting how you start off pile 3 because I feel like it resonates so much with adhd 😂 and lack of executive function
I just started listening to Pile 3 and thought the same thing lol... fellow ND here🙃
Chose Pile 3.
It resonated HARD.
I am so afraid of failing that a I do things half-heartedly all the time. You are right, I always do SELF-SABOTAGE. It’s ruining my life, honestly 😢
pile 3 resonated SO MUCH like it is genuinely insane. i am going to take this advice so seriously and commit to the path im pursuing for now. thank you so much for the reading kino
Hi Kino! Pile #2 is a huge callout already and I’m only a few minutes in.
This resonated with me a lot in a sort of out-of-the-box way. There are places where I’m working toward asserting my boundaries and allowing myself to be vulnerable. In the past, I’ve let my friends take advantage of my supportiveness or kindness. Or, I gave way too much of myself to others without leaving energy for myself in FOMO and a weird obligatory sense. I also have significant trust issues due to trauma but feel like I have been blocking the flow of positive energy because of my fear, despite having connections that have proven themselves as healthy.
I recently had a job where your first example with the music artist was my exact situation. I gave way too much of myself for my boss to nickel and dime most of the employees, including me. I had a connection with someone there who I overexert myself to as well. I was made to do the manager’s job, even though I was only a supervisor. Luckily I quit.
I had a reader once who told me reversals are energy that's stuck or in movement. I've been reading for years myself (you being my comfort reader on CZcams since was 16. Thank you, by the way!) and I found that cool for my situation with the 6 of Pents and 4 of Cups. I have issues with being overly giving, so how can the scales be equal if I'm giving too much? At the same time, the card has the potential to even out in one way or another (whether it's someone leaving a situation that's toxic or taking more care of themselves, implied by 9 of Pents). 4 of cups reminds me of my misguided FOMO. I think by refusing to change and falling into these old patterns of thinking I should always be “strong” and give to others, I'm the one failing myself. True strength is accepting one's self and being brave to be vulnerable again.
This is why I love your readings. Something always clicks for me! Also, Venus in Virgo and Moon in Taurus person here. Thank you!
Little side note to add with 8 swords! As I said I've dealt with trauma, and I see the reversal for myself as a difficulty to release the mental prisons because they were formed through grounded, tangible events. So, like you're saying, I should keep looking (for my own and) other people’s grounded, tangible healing. I picked up some books not too long ago surrounding my experience that are supposed to be great. I've been annotating them and it's been a huge help.
Ive been crying throughout this whole reading. It was a healing cry of recognition . thank you so much
Pile 4... thank you so much, Kino. I appreciate your messages and confirmations more than you know. ❤
Chose pile 4❤ I am pisces and this was perfect for me. And as a child was told to not be sooo sensitive! Had a great imagination and like you said could dive into a book and really immerse myself. But it all got knocked out of me, and now at age 58 am learning to release my feminine and sensitive side through healing that child. Your readings are sooooo incredible Kino, thank you.PS love that you rcvd crystal Angel deck was brilliant as I love working with both ❤❤❤
Pile 2: your readings so much resonates right now.
I’m stuck right now, I can’t even talk about my feelings or feel like to complain about things happening to me, because in some way, I feel like why am I so ungrateful. I’m just crying right now because I feel like I’m suffocated.
The energy that resonates are strong Gemini ♊️ energy.
Kino, thank you so much!! I wish you all the best tooo. I chose pile 4. I was thinking of my inner child during this moth randomly but you nailed it. When I was a child I had super powers, I had the power to make other children playing all together, for hours. I was surrounded by joy, infinite happiness, laughter. I had a big group of friends. I became teenager and all of it disappears. I want be back to my Origen and be able to do the same with the people that surrounding me . I want to give infinite joy to all. Thanks and God bless you alway
Pile 2: 😮
Girl, you are so accurate.
I am a Geminis and it blows my mind how you describe my situation
Thanks beautiful soul🍀
This resonated, pile 4. I have a hard time with asking for help; it’s been a thing my entire life. Being in law school I thought I could do everything on my own, and it has been so detrimental to me. I really need support and I am slowly accepting that I can’t do it myself.
This resonated sooo much. I got Pile 1. I’ve been in a healing journey for a year, and it’s been very stressful. I’ve lost my job, many friends (thanks universe, bc the true ones showed up) and stopped a very important relationship. I’m not fighting anymore bc the universe is showing me to look and prioritise myself. I’m finishing my Psychology degree, FINALLY putting myself first and I realised that my person still wants me in their life. It’s so important to know that it’s not my fault my life’s shit now, bc now I know that things will one day be better.
Pile 2- Thank you so much for this Kino...... I quit my job yesterday... and I am a musician so I'm taking this as a sign to keep pushing independently in terms of my music .....
The horse story you told in Pile1 is actually a traditional Chinese phrase called “塞翁失马，焉知非福”, which means when the old man Sai loses his horse, how could you know that this isn’t actually a blessing?
And the historical background of this is that in ancient Chinese when there were wars, men from every family had to serve in the army (not every grown man, but some depend on how many grown men there were), that’s why at the end of the story the government came.
Nice to hear this story from your side😊
Number 4. So true and validating! Trust issues making it hard to turn that Empress card upright, lol! Thanks Kino! Learning so much about tarot and myself here. ✨
I’ve been a silent subscriber for almost 3 years now and it’s about time I BREAK IT HAHAHAHA! Pile 4!!! Ahhhh resonated so hard thank you so much Kino I really needed this. Your ability is just so amazing literally the best tarot youtuber and I always come back to your readings ‘cause they are always on point and inspiring. I hope you’re doing great but if ever you also feel like you’re stuck, I hope you can find the motivation to go through it once again. I love youuu 🌸🤍💖
STOOOOOOOP THIS RESONATED SO HARRRRD I chose Pile 1 and so many things have not been going my way and in hindsight it was out of my control but I kept having tarot readers be like "MEEh yOu'Re aTtRactIng bAd enErGy bY beInG sAd" this was just what I needed to hear, total opposite of what I've been hearing! 🩷🩷
Those teaching that are called spiritual by-passers
@@manifestingmaren I'm really trying to process this comment and it's not clicking?
People that claim being sad or any other "negative" emotion "lower your vibrations" are just contributing to toxic positivity mindset. Toxic positivity just results into resentment and surpressed anger, covering the wound with a cheap band-aid rather than looking at the root cause. And therefore they are actually the ones lowering vibrations 🤣
We came to the earth as humans and humans experience VAST amount of emotions. Our emotions are not meant to be stagnant.
You don't need to "move on" if someome dear to you has passed. Ofc it'd be ideal that one develops coping mechanism to deal with the grief and release stress. But there's no reason to move on and pretend your pain doesn't exist. Instead it should be a journey of getting to know yourself and what comforts you, possibly discovering some other wounds that contribute to the grief, etc. Your pain isn't meant to be tossed aside and that you can handle everything effortlessly lmao 🤷♂️ ofc if someone wants to be detached they can. Everyone can make their own choices. But no one gets to decide for you that you have to detach.
There will always be room and space for your emotions 👏👏👏👏
I love that you call it a "spiritual team" 😌 💛 just had to pause my reading and let you know that! 🥰
Update: pile 3 I was feeling so called out especially with the workout routines 😅 . "I feel at home in my body" hits really hard as I'm struggling with my body weight and body image but also with my direction in life in general ... thanks for a great reading as always and for being a conduit for my spiritual team!
4: slowly getting out of this but sometimes it gets really hard to discern when to fiercely protect myself and when to just say whatever. the people around me made me belittle myself so much that now whenever I’m speaking up for myself it feels like being selfish and thinking too highly of myself. its just fucked up.
Pile 4 here, this is what I needed to hear. Thank you so much Kino! 🖤
You are truly god gifted, this reading resonates 1000 % . Stay blessed 😇
Pile 2, wow just wow. Funny when I first started listening I thought I didn't pick right, but I'm glad I stayed and paid attention. I mean the pile resonated to the point where it opened my eyes to something major that I have been ignoring. Thank you so much Kino for the work you do ❤ it is much much appreciated.
Pile 4 hit on point 🥺💋
Pile 1 here. Thank you Kino, for sharing the story of the horse. I really needed that! I felt so encouraged from this.
so happy to hear that 🥹
Yes! I felt bad for Kino because I got the feeling she thought she hadn't explained it well or that it was silly but it made perfect sense! What a beautiful man her Dad is to really feel that way in life! Not many men I know have been raised to share those kind of things, especially Aussie men! I think my Dad would come the closest to have shared that with me 😢 He passed 3 years ago and what a beautiful soul he had ❤
@@diannebarrett3500 Much love to you and your father, may he continue watching over you 🤍 I passed on the message that you guys liked the story and my Dad responded ''neato!!'' 😂 his Mom is Aussie too btw! 🥰
@KinoTarot ooooo that's adorable! I never grieved for Dad and doubt I will. As a Palliative care RN I was honoured and privileged to have been able to give him his final wishes - to pass in his home. I was also able to bring through absolute proof of Spirit to him a couple of days before he passed when his family came through with a little dog I'd never known of, way before I was born but described it exactly as it was physically and in personality. So comforting. I know he's here 💖 Enjoy your Dad while you can hon x x x
Pile 4,1- Resonated so well with me. I needed to hear this. Thank you for doing this
Pile 3 I have been unemployed for a year. It’s hard to stick to one thing when it’s not working and I got bills to pay. I’ve been trying to get a marketing job in a specific industry and I still haven’t landed a job. So now I’m volunteering to build more marketing experience and seeking out freelance opportunities to break into the industry. I’m also working on my side hustle as a Content Creator. I’m super passionate about marketing. I need a day job to build my business as a Content Creator. It’s super hard to find work.
Pile 3. Honestly I have not been doing great mentally and I needed this message I do tend to change my mind a lot 😅and okay this resonates 😅
Thankyou ShivShakti❤💐🕉💐🤞🙏🌟❤
I claim pile 1 Reading ❤
Thankyou Ma'am ❤
Group 4 -- thank you so much Kino. This resonated more than you can imagine. I've always been a big dreamer and know that I have a big heart as well. I feel like lately I have been embodying my inner child a lot more, but it is nice to have a reminder to be in that more playful feminine energy as it can be easy to forget how to to do that due to societal programming/conditioning etc. Much love❤
Pile 3 yeah, I keep changing the business I want to start and once I start I keep changing the marketing
This reading hits sooo hard. I hate you Kino for being so fucking accurate in generalized readings. It's not fair.
Pile 4 is... So me and my life
I'm a musician and I chose pile 2, that's exactly how I'm feeling!
Thank you Kino! I chose Pile 4 and you were spot on with the challenges I'm facing. Grateful for your reading, they gave me greater clarity on what I need to work on. And guess what.. I'm wearing a Larimar bracelet and a Larimar pendant while watching this... just so shocked (and happily surprised!) when you pulled the Larimar card out ;D
Pile 4 and it’s me. I have been hurt a lot in the money world but it’s also seems dramatic to creative career transition right now since I have been violently educated towards so-called elite career
Hello! I picked 2 piles, numbers 2 and 4. They both resonated brilliantly. Thank you very much for this reading. It's something I really needed to hear. Hope you have an amazing week!
i picked pile 1. and holy wow, kino. to a tee, this has been everything i’ve been struggling w and grappling w. at the beginning of this feeling of stagnation, my own father shared w me that exact same story/parable you shared. definitely feels like it fits what’s been going on. thank you so much
The timing of kino’s readings🤌🏼
Kino❤ pile 4 You are Lovely😊 thanks for the bonus" New deck"read😊
Pile 4-- when you pulled the venus in pisces and it all made sense to you- my heart just melted into a puddle of tears because everything was spot on
I chose pile number two and I am a traditionally published author whose former editor could not have cared less about her job. I blamed myself for a very long time, and still find myself doing it. Your reading was very helpful (and accurate!) for me and I appreciate the affirmations. Hopefully I will find the courage to take a book out on submission again soon. Thank you so much for your reading! Wishing you nothing but the best💚
Thank you Kino. No 4 ⭐️ very resonant! I have Larimar jewellery & have swam with dolphins 🐬 😊 love and light to you ❤️
Pile 2: Internally screaming because I could hand in my (60-day!!) notice tomorrow but I don't have anything lined up. I also need to move states or countries but I DON'T know HOW or where 😭😭😭 and I know I need to start my own business but I DON'T KNOW WHAT IT IS. So much uncertainty remains even though I've been doing so much shadow work, my goddddddddddd I can't take it anymore.
P.S. I've been wanting to put out my music and other creative work for literal decades. I need to sit down and do a proper manifestation ritual.
Chose pile 2 too ….me and you have the same struggles 😭
Pile 4 I’m a little weary of receiving help sometimes. I feel someone might get mad or resentful or feel they give more to me than I do for them so they might end our relationship. That happened in the past where an old friend of mine out of the blue end our friendship because they felt I wasn’t giving to them like they were to me. I didn’t know they felt that way and it ended up hurting me alot. At that time I depending alot on them emotionally and for friendship. And I think in some way I may have been too dependent. But it was an abrupt ended. We ended up reconnecting and I was like this time I’m going to make sure I give and they know it. They ended it again. And the second time was worse than the first time. I realize that nothing I do will ever satisfy that person or be enough. I remember I didn’t have a car and was on the bus trying to get them a birthday cake to please their ass. Fuck that shit. No more people pleasing. If what I do isn’t enough or people can’t see the value I bring them that’s on them not me. That’s their loss not mine. Because I’m a good friend. I’m not perfect but I do try to be there for my friends when I can. And sometimes I can’t give if I’m depleted or got things going on. But looking back I rather someone leave then pretend to be okay with the relationship when their not. I want people who will be satisfied with what I bring to the table. No more hard feelings I not every cup of tea and that cool. And no longer refused to bend over backwards or care about someone who I see isn’t doing the same for me. People come and go.
Haven’t watched a reading cause I’ve felt so stuck- *comes to youtube*- Thank you, Kino. Great timing.
#2 & 3 Spot on! As always.. 💜🙏🕯
I'm back to this channel after months ❤ just got caught up with life and didn't have time, thought life was going super well until reality showed it's true colours. somehow today i really wanted to just light a candle, lie down and listen to one of your readings randomly and this shows up. looks like the universe knows what i need ❤ its good to be back! i missed your loving, positive vibes 🫶🏻💕
As always. Not even halfway through, and so accurate! It's like you know me. Thank you, Kino. ❤
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Pile 4 selenite - I really resonated with the message. Especially with that part, that it feels like it is taking sooo long! :D Then it even softened my heart a bit. Thank you dear Kino!🥰
Yaa you heard it kino!!I have been in this situation for so long...thank you for doing a reading on this topic ❤❤
Pile 2 - Shockingly accurate! Thank you for the reading. I appreciate you.❤
Pile 4 made very much sense. Also the chrystals are all my favourite colors. I knew amethyst would come up. I just saw all the purple stones on my living room table. Thanks for your wise words.
Thank you Kino❤I've been stuck as an indie author and couldn't understand why since writing is my passion. This has helped me so much. Thanks again!
I'm happy to hear it helped 🥹 all the best 🤍
🌟🌙✨ Pile 2. I love you, thank you for your direction. It was exactly what I needed to hear. I already kinda knew, but you confirmed it in such a specific way 💙 This made me so emotional, but confident at the same time. You have a leading light, thank you for sharing it 🌟✨💙🌓
Only today morning i was feeling the same energy in my career. Internally i know i am someone who jitters a lot when it comes to career. While personal life i feel everything is changing ... Be it friends ... Or family ... Thank you for the reading Kino ❤
Pile number 1 the whole thing resonated but the fact you said 32 23 at the end made it hit even harder, those are my numbers 🥰 thank you!
pile 3... so scary true... ugh. i am for sure my own worst enemy at times and most definitely a perfectionist. can also get stuck on wanting that instant and immediate gratification/progress & results. If i dont get or see that, or ir doesnt go the way i want, i give up. but then, i feel guilty and try again.. idk but I'm doing my best though. its hard.. right on point though with the exercising thing. 6 months postpartum. its been rough and a huge blow to my self esteem. just trying to get me back.
2:18:24 i recently bought rose quartz and amythst. And the lady selling them told me that i should love myself more, credit myself more. 😮
Thank You so much Kino 😄
Pile 2 resonated so much. V helpful and comforting. Love this kind of reading. Thank you
strangely resonated this time, the signs, the numbers... everything! It's been hard, I admit, I've been wanting to give up, but thank you for the words Kino, I appreciate u a lot!
Don't know if someone is reading this, but if you are: it doesnt matter where are you right now on this planet, I wish you a wonderful day, and a happy peaceful life, where all your dreams come true. You are amazing and beautiful.
💫✨️ I believe in you✨️💫
Omg I needed this and was searching for some answers by introspection and smth struck my mind and I wandered a bit on yt and randomly saw this video and oh god the title drew me in !
Also what you said here is true about my current situation, I want to be independent of the silly need to be liked by friends 'all the time' I want the courage to be disliked, I want to be unaffected by any negative views about me if any :) I want he courage to show the real me and my talents
Thank you, Kino. I chose pile 4 and I’m triple Aries) Great reading ❤
Pile 4 here and a triple Aries as well! Wow ☺️
@@sarahholmes2277 Hi to my triple Aries 😊
@seramadre ❤️
@seramadre We have a little triple Aries party ❤️
@@oksanakafarova9218 we sure do 💚 lucky us!
Really needed this... A couple of major tower moments this week!!
Thank you!! ❤❤❤
Magical! It is so specific yet so accurate!!!!!!!! Girl thank you!
Pile 1. Wow yessss my ego has been resisting andddd even though I know I need to learn to surrender, somehow it’s been hard to just let go and no need to fight anymore 🥲
Pile 3 - I'm a writer and I've been working on a poetry collection. However, I hit such a mental block. I was doubting everything I had written as well as my own capabilities. I was so close to changing the title, the thesis, and even my current methods. So before I realized it, I was tearing up when you said the power is not in the method but in myself hahaha! I also loved when you called out the ego (I use so many excuses to not just sit down and write hahaha)!
Writing, poetry specifically, matters a lot to me--so when I'm at my lowest, I often worry in my head that "I'm not even good at doing what I love the most." There is truth to that statement but in a different manner--am I really showing my love for the craft when I am stopping myself from focusing on it? So thank you so much for the enlightening reading, Kino! This gave me the push I needed
Pile 4. Thank you!
Crazy how much the reading resonated!
🥹 Pile 4 was so accurate.
I maintain alignment with my source energy ❤ I am in perfect balance ❤ I can I will ❤I do not have to prove myself to anyone❤
Pile 4 - This resonates to my situation a lot because I'm struggling to apply for college and I really want to go to a particular college but I had to rush and make up 4 of my classes because they messed up my grades.
Wow right when I needed it
11:59 totally true for my case been trying to change my field (cause i think I'm not cut out for it) but it seems the universe is making me pursue this path. Currently I've got no other choice other than to continue.
Picked pile 2 and 3 and so far things resonate with me so much. Also, pile three... Moon in Taurus in 11th house, all me, my exact placements, I was so baffled! That has never happened before, so I was like, are you speaking to me directly? How?! Haha. Thank you so much for these beautiful readings, and they came, as always, at the exact time I needed them. You are a gift to this world, Kino. Thank you!
You are an angel! 😘
Pile 2 everything is on point!!! I need a personal reading 😊
#3 (Septarian)
I'm a leo so we are begining well
1:13:16 :1:15:15 1:22:22 yap
1:14:00 yo're not the first one to tell this
1:16:17 1:16:30
1:17:31 1:18:08 😯
1:26:14 1:28:18 true
1:31:45 I think I'm doing that 1:33:33 but breathing techniques? interesting 🤔
Group 1 WOW Mercury in Libra 4th house. My DM has this placement at 3 degrees 33 minutes.
Thank you for confirming that things are out of my control and that there is nothing to do but surrender.
Omg loved loved Thai reading! Thank you for all the love, support, kinds words and positive energy you bring. You are an earth angel too!
Thank you for your beautiful, healing and refreshing energy🙏❤🙏
Wow! I listened to 3 piles (for different situations). All were spot on Kino. Thank you so much. You're amazing ❤
Pile 4, thank you!
Hi Kino, I needed this today. Thank you so much💜
Hi Kino Tarot, I'm watching this while I'm bin bed. I'm in my feels as tomorrow marks the 1st yr anniversary without my Dad. I also feel a cough & hoarse voice. I chose pile#1. This reasonates for me with many msgs. Thank you kindly! Prayers & positive vibes to all! 😻💜🫶🙏🙌🍀💎🌞🧿
thank you so much for this reading , I really needed this , Pile 1 resonates with me
Thank you so much 🙏🧡✨
pile #4 selenite, thank you 🙏 🌸 💕
Pile 4 was crazyyyyy accurate. So yes I am still holding onto hurt and need inner child healing for answers that she can help with.
Yes, I am a very intense dreamer. So, Tell me WHY I had a dream detailing exactly who the culprit is and what happened to put me in this untrusting, do it myself position?!!