My mom has ALWAYS been absolutely useless. She only cares about herself, money and her way. She won't do anything for anybody if it cost her a dime or her time💀
@@dodo2827 if a mother could never be selfish, why would I and the person who made the comment be complaining about how selfish our mothers are? Think.
My husband grew up in a family with self absorbed parents... He didn't learn from it, he became them. Now he is trying to change, and it's very difficult.
He did learn from it. He didn't have any other people to model. It's difficult to see yourself doing the same things as your parents and it's often unconscious. I'm glad to hear that he has become conscious of it and found a partner who won't enable his behaviour ❤
My mom is great but she was abused by my father the selfish one. He lies to get his way - even to his family. It hurts because I want to love him. Also, sometimes it seems like he does. And then other stories from the past make me think he only loves himself. Sucks
I am actually blessed to have one dedicated parent. Sometimes we need to be grateful for what we have. In addition Sometimes people outside your family can be better parents then your own blood parents.
In private they are super strict with you cleaning their house for a party but in from of their friends/guests they are the coolest most relaxed parents/people ever
Both my parents were selfish, though they don’t think of it that way. They never have time or money except for themselves. Really shouldn’t have had kids.
thanks a lot..I was directionless in dealing this relationship..My hopes were really high...and that was making me angry and frustrated..I get your point now...I need to accept it...need to be understanding...it gives inner peace of mind...thanks..thanks a lot...I wish I could talk to Matt once in my life.
@malone brown if I did not work for a living, why would I suggest that in the first place dumbass? I don't expect my parent to give me anything when I'm an adult who can work for a living and earn money on my own. Yes, salaries vary depending on your skill/education level... you earn what you contribute, and what you're worth ... no one OWES you anything just because they're rich. If you depend on others to provide FOR you, then you're headed for a miserable life 🙄
@@violetl.4615 He might very well be but sometimes stuff happens and people need help. If your not willing to help your kids in when life gets them down either early in there lives or much later... then maybe you shouldn't have kids.
Well, how would I accurately portray my parents in a paragraph or 2...my father chose to be with a prostitute on my first birthday never saw him again until my early 20's and he threw me away again. My mother....well...she has no ambition to get to the financially stable position to support herself, so (I'm 30 this year) I've always stuck around and looked after her, she has shown absolutely no appreciation what so ever...when I was in school; soap, bread, toothpaste, pasta, canned food, every and anything was hidden from me and I had to beg Every Single Day from her for food, like literally if I didn't show enough manners or didn't sell the begging part well enough, I went to bed without a single meal while she feasted in silence in her room. I was always left at other people's houses, obligating them to feed me and put a roof over my head without my mother contributing a single penny, never phoning, never came to visit or pick me up for a weekend. This lead me to live on the streets for close to a year. I had to leave school to start working and because she didn't pay school fees - the headmaster welcomed my leaving. At the same time I was diagnosed with cancer so I had to battle that too...I'm still struggling my ass off to put any work towards my own future, working dumbass jobs sothat I can make a buck to push into her house and still pay my own rent as a 16 year old kid. Today I am still only child, still have not found a wife nor the blessing of my own family because of my sittuation. I was stabbed in the back very badly with my previous job 3 months ago, didn't even recieve my last month's income...my mother buys and hides everything from food to soap, i ask if I can borrow her laptop (which I bought) to print some CVs but I'm refused, when I do get a job interview and tell her about it...for some reason (recently realised) I never hear from any job offer again. I ask for a lift to her work sothat I can start looking for work in that area...some lame excuse. I'm constantly lied to, misused, impoverished and kept in the hole that I am in but she found Jesus so she does nothing wrong in her eyes....I've never recieved a simple thank you, never recieved the slightest apology for anything even when she forced my neck in between her pillow cases whilst strangling me at age 9...I'm the devil in her life but...ugg...I may as well end this writing here because no one cares and no one gives a fuck and no one would understand, especially in a few paragraphs. I would have MUCH rather preferred to be an orphan. She gave birth to me and classified herself as a mother. I wish, I SO wish I was strong enough for suicide but instead I have turned my back on Jesus because not even he cares or hear my prayers even when I have truly, reached my limit LONG ago.
You are being deceived and boycotted. There are parents who do not help their son to grow up instead, they hinder him, undermine his self-esteem and control him. Try to leave the house, you will not heal in the same environment that made you sick. Look for friends, church, somewhere that welcomes you and fight with all your strength to get away from your parents, I'm sure your life will improve.
my parents have all the time which sadly means they're upto nothing productive, they don't care how they get what they want as long as they get it, they're emotionally manipulative and are always asking for more, they're greedy, apathetic and completely dependent despite having age and education don't want to do anything worthwhile, they're not hardworking and couldn't achieve much except for living an average life but treat their kids like cashcows
What happens when the leader is grossly incompetent, arrogant, self centred and narcissistic? After following their lead of 20 years of complete fuck up after fuck up and they still proclaim themselves as near Napoleonic in important what do you do?
It's so sad. I feel like my mum is in it for the money. I had to leave my full-time job to resume my postgraduate studies because the responsibilities were too much - nonetheless, I spent 3 years after graduation to pay off my student debt. Now I told her I'm relocating to study abroad and she says she doesn't care where in the world I stay, as long as I send money home.
my mom and dad tell what to do can’t by this can’t by that i am so sick of it i want to move out farway from my old mom and dad they cut of my Allowance please help me from justin they Cancel my doctors appointment for them self
My mom told me not to contact her through whatsapp just bcz i didnt reply directly to her whatsapp message ( i didnt turn on the notification and i was going to reply it but she alrdy vid called me) i hate vidcalls. Thats why i didnt answer it and then she called me (voice call), when i answered she just said that its smart of me for not picking her call and hung up right away, she didnt even ask why. Then she sent that heartbreaking message. Now i really dont know what to do, im socially awkward the most to my parents so i never talk much to them bcz im too afraid of them. I feel like the gap between us has become greater. I have no idea how to face my mom. Just some words from her makes me depressed the most. More than i got bad grades or being insulted by other ppl. Even i talk pretty well to my friends parents, but when it comes to my parents im just afraid that ill say wrong word especially to my mom who is very sensitive. Anyone has an advice ?
@@onashenwings3850 hey bro, thank you i really appreciate it 😊 but no worries, since im away from my parents right now till next year bcz of college. But still, thanks for your kindness❤
My parents are sooo selfish specially my mom becaus she's weak and me and my brothers are suffering from that. She gets aggressive when we ask from her to take some responsabilities and its sad as hell. Me i can be independant but what sucks is my siblings are hurt
Need to communicate! At least he has this right. The interviewer lives in a bubble sorry not sorry! Yes consider depression and mental health issues geez!! Ask questions before assuming.
What if they are cheep af and I play football and every year I get the shit chinstraps the school provides and a shit mouthguard my friends have nice chinstraps and it protects them better they care more for there wallet then my safety
It's a sad thing when grandparents don't take an interest in the lives of their grandchildren but they should never be viewed as a babysitting service. Too many people treat grandparents as convenient props only to be dragged out to increase the cheering section of little Billy's ballgame or school concert. Life gets better when you come to terms with the fact that parents OWE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to their adult children. It's your job to parent your kids, not the grandparents. Grandparents are for the fun stuff like birthdays, the holidays, and family outings (OF SHARED INTERESTS).
My mom has ALWAYS been absolutely useless. She only cares about herself, money and her way.
She won't do anything for anybody if it cost her a dime or her time💀
For a second I thought you were describing my mom.
Sorry to say but a Mother can never be selfish. Yeas she can If she has child with another marrage or etc.
Same here
@@dodo2827 if a mother could never be selfish, why would I and the person who made the comment be complaining about how selfish our mothers are? Think.
Same description as my dad :(
Leave them move forward life’s to short to waste
Yes Zahra! Do not waste your time.
well said. good advice.
Correct.
My husband grew up in a family with self absorbed parents... He didn't learn from it, he became them. Now he is trying to change, and it's very difficult.
He did learn from it. He didn't have any other people to model. It's difficult to see yourself doing the same things as your parents and it's often unconscious. I'm glad to hear that he has become conscious of it and found a partner who won't enable his behaviour ❤
Yup I growth up with two selfish parents
My mom is sweet and does soo much for me but my dad is a selfish pig and doesnt do anything for anyone he only does stuff for himself
My mom is great but she was abused by my father the selfish one. He lies to get his way - even to his family. It hurts because I want to love him. Also, sometimes it seems like he does. And then other stories from the past make me think he only loves himself. Sucks
😢😢
Yep I grew up with two super stupid and selfish parents!
I am actually blessed to have one dedicated parent. Sometimes we need to be grateful for what we have. In addition Sometimes people outside your family can be better parents then your own blood parents.
Yup, just because they're your blood, it does not DAMN mean they're automatically amazing people that would care for you.
What to do if they continue to be avg parents but keep boasting in society that they are great parents and in turn expect a lot n lot from the kid?
In private they are super strict with you cleaning their house for a party but in from of their friends/guests they are the coolest most relaxed parents/people ever
Girl, you and I have the same parents!
Some parents never improve
Both my parents were selfish, though they don’t think of it that way. They never have time or money except for themselves. Really shouldn’t have had kids.
Same with mine.
Last thing I want to do is to take care of my selfish and violent mother. F that.
All parents are selfiesh
They studied their child so that
He do work and make their life standardise
thanks a lot..I was directionless in dealing this relationship..My hopes were really high...and that was making me angry and frustrated..I get your point now...I need to accept it...need to be understanding...it gives inner peace of mind...thanks..thanks a lot...I wish I could talk to Matt once in my life.
I really needed this. My dad is really selfish. Is a millionaire and won’t even lend me money for a month for food.
Why don't you work for a living?
@@violetl.4615 What an awful comment.
@malone brown if I did not work for a living, why would I suggest that in the first place dumbass? I don't expect my parent to give me anything when I'm an adult who can work for a living and earn money on my own. Yes, salaries vary depending on your skill/education level... you earn what you contribute, and what you're worth ... no one OWES you anything just because they're rich. If you depend on others to provide FOR you, then you're headed for a miserable life 🙄
@@violetl.4615 He might very well be but sometimes stuff happens and people need help. If your not willing to help your kids in when life gets them down either early in there lives or much later... then maybe you shouldn't have kids.
@@maranatha8148 he didn't answer 🙄
Well, how would I accurately portray my parents in a paragraph or 2...my father chose to be with a prostitute on my first birthday never saw him again until my early 20's and he threw me away again. My mother....well...she has no ambition to get to the financially stable position to support herself, so (I'm 30 this year) I've always stuck around and looked after her, she has shown absolutely no appreciation what so ever...when I was in school; soap, bread, toothpaste, pasta, canned food, every and anything was hidden from me and I had to beg Every Single Day from her for food, like literally if I didn't show enough manners or didn't sell the begging part well enough, I went to bed without a single meal while she feasted in silence in her room. I was always left at other people's houses, obligating them to feed me and put a roof over my head without my mother contributing a single penny, never phoning, never came to visit or pick me up for a weekend. This lead me to live on the streets for close to a year. I had to leave school to start working and because she didn't pay school fees - the headmaster welcomed my leaving. At the same time I was diagnosed with cancer so I had to battle that too...I'm still struggling my ass off to put any work towards my own future, working dumbass jobs sothat I can make a buck to push into her house and still pay my own rent as a 16 year old kid. Today I am still only child, still have not found a wife nor the blessing of my own family because of my sittuation.
I was stabbed in the back very badly with my previous job 3 months ago, didn't even recieve my last month's income...my mother buys and hides everything from food to soap, i ask if I can borrow her laptop (which I bought) to print some CVs but I'm refused, when I do get a job interview and tell her about it...for some reason (recently realised) I never hear from any job offer again. I ask for a lift to her work sothat I can start looking for work in that area...some lame excuse. I'm constantly lied to, misused, impoverished and kept in the hole that I am in but she found Jesus so she does nothing wrong in her eyes....I've never recieved a simple thank you, never recieved the slightest apology for anything even when she forced my neck in between her pillow cases whilst strangling me at age 9...I'm the devil in her life but...ugg...I may as well end this writing here because no one cares and no one gives a fuck and no one would understand, especially in a few paragraphs. I would have MUCH rather preferred to be an orphan. She gave birth to me and classified herself as a mother. I wish, I SO wish I was strong enough for suicide but instead I have turned my back on Jesus because not even he cares or hear my prayers even when I have truly, reached my limit LONG ago.
Oh my.... I read everything. I am sooooo unbelievably sorry you’ve been through that. How are things now? I hope you’re doing better.
You are being deceived and boycotted. There are parents who do not help their son to grow up instead, they hinder him, undermine his self-esteem and control him. Try to leave the house, you will not heal in the same environment that made you sick. Look for friends, church, somewhere that welcomes you and fight with all your strength to get away from your parents, I'm sure your life will improve.
wow.. thanks Matt.. I really need this advice right now.. ^.^
My Father is so selfish😖
Skimming over the real stuff.
this is how I view my dad when he makes my brother pick him up at 4 AM or take drive him around. My mum is the opposite she's awesome my best friend.
@@hihocherrio2375 same here. My family also the same.
Yeah my mom and dad are horrible and selfish they don’t care about me
my parents have all the time which sadly means they're upto nothing productive, they don't care how they get what they want as long as they get it, they're emotionally manipulative and are always asking for more, they're greedy, apathetic and completely dependent despite having age and education don't want to do anything worthwhile, they're not hardworking and couldn't achieve much except for living an average life but treat their kids like cashcows
What happens when the leader is grossly incompetent, arrogant, self centred and narcissistic? After following their lead of 20 years of complete fuck up after fuck up and they still proclaim themselves as near Napoleonic in important what do you do?
I'm an only child. I can't use ANY of this. 😂😂😂
It's so sad. I feel like my mum is in it for the money. I had to leave my full-time job to resume my postgraduate studies because the responsibilities were too much - nonetheless, I spent 3 years after graduation to pay off my student debt.
Now I told her I'm relocating to study abroad and she says she doesn't care where in the world I stay, as long as I send money home.
Eww! Don’t give her money.
Good Advice
my mom and dad tell what to do can’t by this can’t by that i am so sick of it i want to move out farway
from my old mom and dad they cut of my Allowance please help me from justin they Cancel my doctors appointment for them self
Sometimes they are too involved and you can’t get rid of them
Down there growing listen
My mom told me not to contact her through whatsapp just bcz i didnt reply directly to her whatsapp message ( i didnt turn on the notification and i was going to reply it but she alrdy vid called me) i hate vidcalls. Thats why i didnt answer it and then she called me (voice call), when i answered she just said that its smart of me for not picking her call and hung up right away, she didnt even ask why. Then she sent that heartbreaking message. Now i really dont know what to do, im socially awkward the most to my parents so i never talk much to them bcz im too afraid of them. I feel like the gap between us has become greater. I have no idea how to face my mom. Just some words from her makes me depressed the most. More than i got bad grades or being insulted by other ppl. Even i talk pretty well to my friends parents, but when it comes to my parents im just afraid that ill say wrong word especially to my mom who is very sensitive. Anyone has an advice ?
Alexandra Griska Hey, if you are still in that situation. I would love to help you out. I know its been a month but I thought I'd reach out.
@@onashenwings3850 hey bro, thank you i really appreciate it 😊 but no worries, since im away from my parents right now till next year bcz of college. But still, thanks for your kindness❤
Block your mom ✔
I should jest runaway
My parents are sooo selfish specially my mom becaus she's weak and me and my brothers are suffering from that. She gets aggressive when we ask from her to take some responsabilities and its sad as hell. Me i can be independant but what sucks is my siblings are hurt
Need to communicate! At least he has this right. The interviewer lives in a bubble sorry not sorry! Yes consider depression and mental health issues geez!! Ask questions before assuming.
Yeah, my 75 year old mom is a total nutcase😨
angry , frustrated, tired and sick of it .. don't bring this into the conversation...
should I lie about how they making me feel or what ...
What if they are cheep af and I play football and every year I get the shit chinstraps the school provides and a shit mouthguard my friends have nice chinstraps and it protects them better they care more for there wallet then my safety
Speak to them about it, or save up, get a job, and buy your own. Technically, they don't owe you a thing (as harsh as that sounds).
Lmao yeah I have no siblings or other family so…
HE is speaking of white parents
What do you mean by that? What are black parents like?
It's a sad thing when grandparents don't take an interest in the lives of their grandchildren but they should never be viewed as a babysitting service. Too many people treat grandparents as convenient props only to be dragged out to increase the cheering section of little Billy's ballgame or school concert.
Life gets better when you come to terms with the fact that parents OWE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to their adult children. It's your job to parent your kids, not the grandparents. Grandparents are for the fun stuff like birthdays, the holidays, and family outings (OF SHARED INTERESTS).
My Father is so selfish😖