platonic breakups are real. - 20 something diaries 🎙️🎧
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- čas přidán 29. 08. 2024
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My nosey ass has been lowkey waiting for this since you moved out and said you are not friends anymore💀😂. You 100% deserved to have the expectation of being respected and received appreciation for all the things that you did for her. The boyfriend thing is so disgusting can't she allowed him to be around you coz that's a form of sexual assault and obviously you'd be uncomfortable. Glad you finally chose your peace tho and that you were able find yourself and grow❤
The saying "if you wanna lose friends and family move in with them" is as true as can be. We live and we learn though. God remain good if you weren't in the wrong, that's just how it is♡
these 20 something diaries are so relatable it’s crazy 😂❤ thank youuuu for this, bc this really hit home.
as a person of colour, i've come to realize that some of the friendships i've had with white women were like this as well. they often do think they're better than you and it's sad. i'm really glad you got out of that - it seemed like you were putting in more effort than you were getting and although you didn't expect much from her, i think reciprocity and respect are an essential part to a stable and healthy relationship so I can see how all of that was draining. glad to see you doing better lisa
I'm so sorry this is your experience 😭😭😭 As a white woman I can't believe how some of these white women really make us look! Damn 🫠
You still paid the rent after all of that?? You have a big heart sis that couldn’t be me 😭
Dude!! 😭😭nah Lisa's got a big heart fr! 😂
Fr, I definitely wouldn’t have done that at all, lisa definitely cared for the girl
Broooooo😭
they were on a lease so if the roommate couldnt pay she would also get sued im pretty sure
yt girlies will never understand. you have a big heart and too mature for her. glad u were able to get away from that energy vampire
I have thankfully never experienced a meaningful friendship breakup but can tell from your and other people's experiences that it's a real thing and it hurts a lot. I'm glad you got out of that toxic friendship and are now being able to see how bad it was!
Lisa keeps being relatable😩, platonic breakups always feel worse than intimate relationships for me. Though I’m happy you are being consistent with this podcast and finding ways to expand on the lessons life have taught you thus far. Listened to this episode while doing my skincare and some organizing, and just like that I feel so girlie pop and cute lol. Anyways always choose you! 💗💗
Friendship breakups suck … but sometimes are necessary 🫶🏾 ironically my ex bestie introduced me to you💀😩 😂
Love that for you😂❤
friendships are the backbone of my existence, especially the sisterhoods- it takes a while to build esp when u’re young & everyone is still finding themselves, but once u’re locked in, they are truly such a blessing, so comforting & easily one of the best ways to experience love & “family”
wish it for everyone & urself too🤍 s/o again for the episode & how relatable they are.
Friendship breakups are real. I'm currently 31, I had my best friend since we were literary babies, we had our ups and downs but at the end of the day we made up, talked things, went back to normal, etc, until two years ago we had a fight and we haven't spoken ever since. I've gone through a really rough time and I wanted to text her, talked to her, and the fact that I couldn't, that I didn't have her took a while to get used to. It's like you have to learn how to live without that person after so many years, and it's hard, sometimes even harder than a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.
Lisa, babes you are a better person than me because if a white woman laughs at another white person saying the N word in my presence fists will be flying😭
factssss girl same
like i’m half black half white n i dont feel comfortable saying it so if someone fully white say it like its nothing i get soooo pissed
I’m a Leo too & my ex best friend was a Virgo.. I see the correlation that as Leo’s, we always wanna see the good in people so we’re very forgiving but once that line is crossed, there’s no way it can be undone. Last month made a year since I “broke up” with my best friend & though it’s still hard to accept, my life is better than ever. I was definitely in my season of letting go to do what was best for ME. For anyone going through this, listen to your spirit. The healing won’t happen overnight, but you won’t regret it!
So true , needed to hear this too as a Leo
I agree with what you said, i’m also a leo and i believe we always tend to be there for the people we care for, but a bad situation with a friend (or someone we love) will lead us to dropping that relationship because it isn’t healthy anymore for us.
i had an ex-best friend that was also a virgo (funnily enough) and beginning of this year marked 2 years since i decided to part ways with our friendship. and indeed, overtime it gets better, at first it might be hard but choosing yourself and your well-being is everything.
I know you did not pay the rent after you moved out 😭
That just says alot about who you are Lisa 👏🏾❤.
Thank you for sharing this , I'm sure it was alot but this episode helped me put certain things in my life into perspective as well.
That's so weird cos I always got a jelly vibe from her from the very start. Ofc I didn't say anything cos it's not my place to, still not my place to say anything. But I'm happy for the peace you found after everything! ✨
I’m dealing that very topic now. I’m deciding what’s best for me.
Oof, I hear it! Even though I think we could do without situations like his happening to us, growing from them is good, for what is worth. I ended a 26yr friendship almost 2yrs ago now. I can definitely relate to this topic. She was my best friend. When I cut it off, the way she responded or lack thereof, solidified what I was feeling. I mean, she didn’t even try to stop me. Not a word! To me, it’s what she wanted but acted like it was completely random and poor her. I think not! We had problems for decades lol. She was treating me so bad near the end, I felt sick to my stomach. Personally, if ANY of my close friends, including HER, tried to end our friendship and I had no idea why, I would do everything I could to salvage the relationship, find out what I did to make them choose that. I love my friends dearly, and they ain’t getting rid of me that easy 😂. With that said, I would respect anyones decision to end a relationship with me. I’m just saying that I have deep lasting relationships and would be in disbelief if they said goodbye to me and I thought everything was good between us. It wouldn’t be normal for us, if that makes sense. She told my other bestie that she had “no idea why, but misses our connection” 🙄, this really annoyed me. So fake! I miss her, and I still care for her, but I think I made the right decision. I actually found a bunch of old photos of us the other day and it made me a little sad. All I can do is know the truth of what happened between us and value how much better I feel now that it’s over.
Thanks for sharing in this space. 🙏🏽✌🏽🤍
wait lisa. u did a podcast on one of the most relevant situations in my life right now with absolutely perfect timing. thanks for helping me thru the healing ❤❤
Outgrowing friends is definitely painful.
What I'm currently learning is that the moment you start complaining a lot about the other person, then babe it's time to pack your bags. This is not only for you but for the other person as well.
Thank you for this Lisa🤍
I look forward to these episodes now. Thank you, Lisa❤
I loved this episode so much Lisa. you are such a smart and well spoken woman. I always get so excited to watch your videos after a long ass day at work - and btw HOW is your English SO FCKKING PERFECT??
Oh and i don't think you remember this, but we once met at the Woohah Festival (some years ago) and I was sooo excited and hella drunk, you complimented my Tatts :) much love from Switzerland!
Friendship breakups hurt even more
Girl I was so surprised at this story. I thought y’all had just outgrown each other, omg. People are so insane and evil. This world is a crazy place
wow covid feels so long ago i literally forgot about the victim mentality every white person went through when countries introduced vaccinations. IM IN TEARSSS. i think its completely fine to have differences with your friends but there's always a certain point where shit is just not going to work. im glad you're finally comfortable telling your story tho!
Loved this episode
So eye opening
I went through something similar. Friendship breakups are so weird especially when you lived with them. Thanks for sharing luv ✨
ok so I have been waiting for this since I started following you lolol and why did I have a feeling this was the case.. I'm so sorry you had to experience this. I think you were just young and naive. I look back at some of the people I spent so much time and energy on and today I wouldn't of even texted them back. You are growing and becoming better everyday! xo
Love you Lisa, it took so long for you to share this but you know we’re very grateful that you did :))))💛🧡wo learned a lot
Never stop doing these❤ they’re so relatable!! Thank you for sharing your life with us, it must not always be easy
Woah so much of this resonates with me moving in with you’re bestie can really make or break the friendship. I’m living it rn I just feel like we’re so close but never been further apart at the same time. I like her a lot but I don’t wanna live with her anymore tbh.
You and your podcasts/videos have been so relatable to me over the years that I’ve been watching you. Love you Lisa ❤ As a person of color, a lot of ppl have come and left my life & I feel like I need to take the time to reflect on people that haven’t served me in the past and habits they have so I can continue to improve myself and create relations that will serve me and my future.
Didn't even wanna get tested loool omg 😭😭
Truly related to this episode I feel heard. Thank you 💛
Had some yt friends I dropped cause they never took blm or black history seriously but they wanted to stay up under me and listen to rap and constantly hang around black ppl.
hehe, i watch these on spotify & then comment on here. love it
thank u for supporting ☺️🤍
I do remember seeing her in your birthday vlog. Glad you shared. It’s very difficult to navigate being black while living somewhere predominantly white. I’m very proud of you for ending that friendship, I’m sure it was a difficult decision but it seemed like it was so necessary for you. You’re growing so beautifully. I’m just so happy to have been watching you grow for so long. It’s very disrespectful that she brought someone around you that has made you so weird. Why would you even still want to stay in contact with someone like that. Please be nicer to yourself and take care of yourself. She seems very tone death and considering how horrendous covid was to the black community. Things like that take a toll on you mentally, having someone who has such negative emotions towards you. She was able to take advantage of your vulnerability and I’m so sorry that happened to you.
My current ex is like this and we still live together. I feel like I’m a bug being crushed all the time. It feels like such a sign cause a lot of the things you’re sharing has been resonating with me. Thank you so much.
MY DAILYY BOOSTTT HONESTLYY❤🙏
i cut off a virgo childhood bestie who has always been mean and manipulative and envious so i feel you!
She took you for granted , hearing all this is insane but Im not surprised tbh , whenever i used to watch your vlogs with her I'd never finish them lol ,it just never felt right , hopefully she learns to become a better person , sorry you had to go through that.❤💋
I had a best friend where we just stopped talking because I realized when she was around people she knows it was like I didn't exist and she would want to make me feel bad about the type of music I listen to just because we're from the Caribbean she would always act like if it don't do anything her way she would be pissed and after a while met my best friend of 12 years now and I was able to see what is a healthy friendship and we're currently looking to start our own lash business
she could not just get tested to go on her best friend's birthday trip !? after every sacrifice you've made for her, she couldn't do the same ? please.
IVE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS STORY LOL
Who is she talking about is it that blonde chick
love this💕. learning the art of detachment.
I fucking love this woman.
Loved this Ep. I have experienced some of these weird feelings with certain people and often find myself gaslighting myself into thinking what I’m feeling/thinking isn’t true. This has helped me realize I’m not crazy and should protect myself. God always tried to show signs or reveal things and I always thought maybe I was wrong
My first time listening to these series ily thank you ❣️
I clicked so quick lmaooo
listening to this was so validating .. dealing with close relationships with white people can be .. exhausting. You think they're fine and then you get close to them and it's often shocking how little empathy they have for the plight of others / how detached they are from reality (like with the anti vax stuff and feeling oppressed but also not giving a shit about blackface / caring to understand racism.. like, hello ??? ). It's actually crazy. But forming close connections with anyone regardless of race makes it hard to figure out how to get "out" of those relationships when they do go south or if they're even worth holding on to.. bc like .. at what cost to us ? Anyway - glad you did this episode & protected your peace. I've learned people don't have to be "bad" people for you to want to not be around them, they can just be people and you can separate for whatever reason and those two things can exist. It's so much lighter to separate for differences than to make someone out to be a shit person through and through simply because you didn't vibe - i've been there. It takes a lot of growth to recognize we're all shitty in various ways and sometimes you just don't want to deal with one persons particular brand of shitty and that's ok, lmao. They'll find their people and you'll find yours. The stuff you went through with her sounds so trifling, so i'm glad you protected your peace and ended it. Hopefully she also grew from the friendship after it was over and it was better for the both of you. Love this series & hearing about your experiences as a black girl in Europe !
I feel like you had invested so much in the “friendship” which was one sided and crazy to even think of cause i know most of us can relate to that and hopefully take this as a life lesson, energy is a big thing for me personally soo if your energy is off and you can’t root for me like i would for you then bye definitely won’t waste my time💀.
Being a girl’s girl is hard when you’re beautiful. Some women have a very hard time being friends with someone that they’re jealous of deep down
I have to say don't doubt when you feel , us Leo's feel shxt. Our intuition is strong!
yes " listen to your intuition " the last part you mentioned
Love this very relatable 😂❤
I ran here from the clip on tiktok
Whoa, are you reading my mind. Currently in my season of letting go, lowkey breaking up with someone who has been my friend since 2004 bro. 🤣 Its crazy.
First one hereeeeeee, so excited
So relatable
Hey lisaaaa ❤❤❤
Damn, you overstayed actually. What!? But I get it hey. I mean she was your friend. It definitely wasn't easy. She should've cut that dude off.
How do you break out of the friendship when you live right by then and work with them? It feels almost impossible so then I just end up going back to them
Please don't think this is Virgo energy! For me, yes I have opinions and they are strong but I would never expect everyone to think the way I do. Also I would never have the audacity to do any of these things. She simply was not a true friend and I have been there. We don't need to have the same opinions but how can you be friends with someone that doesn't give the time of the day to care or at least listen to the issues you have? Small groups above shit relationships
27:26 😂😂😂
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Well I knew when you always complained about filming in the house because of her , plus u smoked with her a lot, I thinks she was your influence, but one thing I understand, it’s not all friendships that was meant to last forever period!!!
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chileee she was a bum. making you uncomfortable in your own home is so sad & selfish...
I love this podcast but the mouth smacking noise is kiiiiiiiilllling me 😭
Watching your vids and seeing you stay true to yourself has taught me to protect my peace - thank you🤍
tysm for the reminder of ¨friends¨🥹🫶🏼
She was so selfish... ugh, and with some serious ethical issues because girl, it's the 21st century. Some of these white women have me wishing I was not white 😭😂😂😂 Btw, I'm experiencing something similar... not so extreme, but I feel like if I don't give to them, no one gives a damn about me. And those are supposed to be my friends... idk, I'm struggling to decide what to do next. This episode helped me see it's not wrong to simply outgrow people. Thanks once again for your vulnerability Lisa 🫶🏻
Before you even opened up about these issues I could tell in your videos by your body language how uncomfortable you were there. 🫶glad you put it all behind ❤
Yeahh, same. Energy and body language do not lie- happy for her that she’s closed that chapter of her life