David Choe: It All Adds Up

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  • čas přidán 9. 05. 2021
  • David Choe, artist, asks questions that anyone reconciling with how their relationship with their parents has affected the decisions they’ve made in life will recognize in their own thoughts. He investigates his history, linking key events in his life from ages 4 to 44 in order to grow as a person - which is part of the answer he offers on how to make things add up for yourself.
    SHOW NOTES
    [7:05] The Choe Show
    [9:21] Making parents proud
    [12:50] Prison in Japan
    [16:55] Driving through Canada
    [19:04] Mom’s birthday
    UC 2020: IT ALL ADDS UP
    This conversation was part of a livestream on June 6, 2020 - Unexpected Connections 2020: It All Adds Up, a one-day virtual fundraiser in support of Covid-19 relief and the Black Lives Matter movement. Benefiting charities providing support to communities in need during this time, industry leaders and curious creators from different disciplines had honest conversations and found new perspectives in community and culture. To find out more: unexpectedconnectionsevent.com
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    Unexpected Connections is an event series that brings together inventive people thinking across industries and making positive change. Unexpected Connections is presented by Intertrend and MAEKAN.
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Komentáře • 163

  • @biglance
    @biglance Před 2 lety +98

    David, just needs to record stuff like this and put it up daily he would have millions of viewers, spoken word, simple, great story teller!!! thanks David. peace.

    • @swaranbains8326
      @swaranbains8326 Před 2 lety +4

      He did that DVDASA but let it go bc of controversy and it was stressing him

    • @Eugenia_Farms
      @Eugenia_Farms Před 2 lety +4

      lmao you know nothing about this guy..

    • @klakkinkittykat
      @klakkinkittykat Před rokem +2

      yea, that's what it's all about after all..

    • @sweetdangerzack
      @sweetdangerzack Před rokem +2

      I can tell ya from writing and speaking experience, this is quite precisely written with frequent ad-libbed interludes, and it took many hours to write. Probably not something a person can do every day, unless they become totally obsessed with just that mission. For more though, check out the stuff Dave's been uploading to his own CZcams channel recently. It is excellent.

    • @theunionargus2589
      @theunionargus2589 Před rokem

      It’s better that it’s not that way.

  • @victormadrigal1592
    @victormadrigal1592 Před 2 lety +12

    David hasn't ex[perienced anything new. Millions of people have and will continue to. He is just a very honest individual. Which is very rare in this world.

  • @MrSteezyreo
    @MrSteezyreo Před 2 lety +46

    As a 28 year old Japanese American male , I can identify a lot with his struggles with his family and the path to find healing. Thank you for sharing DAvid. We bow to you

  • @bummerflip
    @bummerflip Před 2 lety +16

    im a 27 year old white dude from a broken home with trauma, alcoholism and all that shit. my sole worry in life is making my father proud and even when he says he is my fucked up brain doesnt want to believe it. but dave is an inspiration man. i love how deep digs within himself and the fact he has worked on his mental/emotional sobriety so much.

  • @borntohula3397
    @borntohula3397 Před 3 lety +22

    My favourite sensitive artist. Also, DVDASA forever.

  • @skorcheart
    @skorcheart Před 3 lety +46

    I love david he's raw

  • @tblack9711
    @tblack9711 Před 2 lety +42

    I'm an artist, I'm black, never hated Asians, grew up in Los Angeles around the same time as a David Choe and I relate to DC in several ways. NEVER stop drawing and painting and giving the world an window to your mind. David Choe is the truth!!

    • @Masamoone
      @Masamoone Před 2 lety +4

      wtf

    • @tblack9711
      @tblack9711 Před 2 lety +16

      @@Masamoone I was pretty stoned when I wrote that lol.

    • @PiaMoJanggod
      @PiaMoJanggod Před 2 lety +3

      @@tblack9711 it's beautiful

    • @MrAirnike8
      @MrAirnike8 Před 7 měsíci

      Why would you need to say you never hated Asians? We don't even talk about them, nor are we the ones talking like them. They kinda watch, copy and talk about us man.

    • @tblack9711
      @tblack9711 Před 7 měsíci +2

      @@MrAirnike8 Because he brought it up.

  • @luisgonzalez1637
    @luisgonzalez1637 Před 2 lety +3

    I'm born in raised in Orange County but I just got out of Mexican rehab and when someone asked me what is your greatest desire? my 31 year old ass said "to make my parents proud". It was the first time I ever said that. David Choe is spot on with that.

  • @tombyfield4510
    @tombyfield4510 Před rokem +1

    Your mum and or dad are the first people you love. That's why

  • @bambinal1437
    @bambinal1437 Před 2 lety +7

    I'm 60+, my boyfriend is 44 Korean. David...why didn't I meet you first? LOL
    I hear this from my boyfriend too about his family. Being a WASP, we also have our problems. We don't talk about things... unless they're good things. Bad things are pushed down & hidden. Family abuse, drugs, etc... Honor, surface rich, .... it's a problem with every family...there's always "something". :) Got big love for you David Choe.

  • @6TypoS9
    @6TypoS9 Před 23 dny +1

    this man is simply insane.

  • @RapiDEraZeR
    @RapiDEraZeR Před 3 lety +6

    In case you read this, David. It's nice when they're proud, but nothing I strive for.

  • @jonlee580
    @jonlee580 Před 9 měsíci +1

    I am a laotion American refugee. I grew up in gambling dens..so I can relate to a lot of thing DC went through. The art of sound and visual is dope.. It reminds me of the art teacher Bob, the guy with the curly hair.. The way he brought us into the painting.. But it wasnt so much the painting but the experience of listening to teacher story and seeing it happen in real time

  • @ArtByHazel
    @ArtByHazel Před 2 lety +4

    Ahhh! I love listening to a raw and truth telling Asian artist who busted the mold for all Asians (men/women)... Healing our own inner child takes years to master. And that is our masterpiece while we are all here.
    We are all love. Connected to one consciousness. Heal the kid within and you will normalize feeling joy, peace, love, empathy, kindness, compassion, and be the change the world you needed when you were a scared little helpless kid.
    We got this! One love to one and all. :)

  • @thatguyoverthere6743
    @thatguyoverthere6743 Před 3 lety +2

    Thank you so much for this.

  • @Midlands_wolf
    @Midlands_wolf Před 4 měsíci +3

    irish guy here, 38 years old.. waster in my fathers eyes.. needed this today

    • @josiffexplosiff1
      @josiffexplosiff1 Před měsícem

      At least he’s alive and you can go talk to him. Why don’t you do that?

    • @damiloification
      @damiloification Před 11 dny

      @@josiffexplosiff1some parents are a lost cause

  • @thelukefalco
    @thelukefalco Před 3 měsíci +1

    this is hands-down one of the best videos on youtube

  • @bushibang
    @bushibang Před rokem +3

    You’re a beautiful human being David. Thank you for this. As a fellow Asian American there’s a lot that resonates with me and my upbringing and my inner struggles. Thanks for helping me process.

  • @m1sfit_l0v3
    @m1sfit_l0v3 Před 2 lety

    That was incredible. Thanks for sharing David. What a journey. I hope your journey of self love continues and you continue to make greater peace and harmony with everything you can, the good and the bad. Set yourself free brother. You deserve it

  • @RawrStickers
    @RawrStickers Před 3 lety +6

    thank you dave

  • @goeroe1536
    @goeroe1536 Před 2 měsíci

    Beautiful part about making your parents proud, and that parent being you. Honour yourself bro, you got this

  • @yeahno4979
    @yeahno4979 Před rokem

    Dude. There is nothing better. It doesn’t get better than this

  • @chanelname969
    @chanelname969 Před 3 lety +19

    I love David, his courage, his creativity, his vulnerability, his art! I enjoyed immensely watching and listening to this new format, original and refreshing!

  • @BOBSMITHH
    @BOBSMITHH Před 2 lety +1

    Loved this!

  • @whatarmthinghommeh1938
    @whatarmthinghommeh1938 Před 2 lety +3

    Thank you, David, for sharing with us your art and your mind. Thank you for helping me not feel alone.

  • @henrylevesque581
    @henrylevesque581 Před 2 lety

    I appreciate what you do, your perspective speaks volumes

  • @stevenmflores
    @stevenmflores Před 2 lety +1

    True wisdom!!!

  • @doet4071
    @doet4071 Před rokem

    😮‍💨waiting for more choe show

  • @jenbraden9467
    @jenbraden9467 Před 2 lety +2

    Wow. So talented, honest, funny.

  • @808BJJ_Black_Belt
    @808BJJ_Black_Belt Před 3 lety

    Nice confession real and raw 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

  • @jamesyoung5610
    @jamesyoung5610 Před 2 lety

    We love Choe

  • @jacklewin3526
    @jacklewin3526 Před 2 lety

    Thank you David

  • @DK-jg5vk
    @DK-jg5vk Před rokem +1

    I thought I would watch maybe 10 or 15 minutes but I got sucked in and watched until the end. All of that stuff about how everyone has a hurt, broken child inside them is the gospel truth. You learn to nurture that child and it opens the door to healing old scars and forgiving those who gave them to you. You grant yourself freedom when you let go of the past and stop reliving the painful memories. Honor the fact that the pain made you stronger, but don't let the pain disturb your peace of mind.

    • @DK-jg5vk
      @DK-jg5vk Před rokem

      I got turned back from the Canadian border one time too. No good reason. Fuck em'.

  • @camali_ch
    @camali_ch Před měsícem

    This is probably one of the most powerful messages I've heard lately. Thankful I stumbled upon it.

  • @Storyraymond
    @Storyraymond Před 2 lety +1

    I dont need to focus on them being proud. Its very nice if they are proud. But more important is to not hurt them and being honest, which makes it hard sometimes, cause this might be conflicting interests. We respect and love each other so we always end up doing good:)

  • @savagemonkeyswanger385
    @savagemonkeyswanger385 Před 3 lety +2

    Amazing

  • @artkisses1
    @artkisses1 Před 2 lety

    This guy is great!

  • @tonyphan1746
    @tonyphan1746 Před 2 lety

    davids the realest!

  • @timothyjohnson3922
    @timothyjohnson3922 Před 2 lety

    It does all add up thanks dude

  • @zackoostrom9636
    @zackoostrom9636 Před 2 lety

    Thank you my G

  • @iamkata
    @iamkata Před rokem +1

    like a new age bob ross. id watch the fuk outta a series like this

  • @jasonmccrea7519
    @jasonmccrea7519 Před 3 měsíci

    Beautiful, genius, Devine wisdom 🙏

  • @melomanacejr
    @melomanacejr Před 2 lety

    beautiful

  • @Aceofspades088
    @Aceofspades088 Před 3 lety +1

    It all adds up

  • @carriecameron5423
    @carriecameron5423 Před 2 lety +3

    Thanks for the content♥️ You mentioned to drop a comment, here’s a short story-
    I am white, an artist, 32 years of age. I get to live a comfortable life, now. I am 4th generation American, come from a poor family of immigrant ranchers, I am 1 of 5 kids. Addict mother who passed away, father in prison for 15 years. Most of my family are narcissists, addicts, violence, a few criminals. It it what it is, but just to give an idea of the journey that kid had to travel through. I had to learn to survive and protect myself, help raise younger siblings, start a new life @18 and come out on good terms for myself and others around me… that familial trauma bond can be rough when you try to become your own person after the set up our parents have gifted us. Man, it’s been wild, but somehow I still always hoped I made my parents proud. Nothing ever seemed good enough, so I was seeking who’s approval?! I still do therapy which has changed my life, but you know….. somehow those childhood hardwiring memories keep a small voice that reminds us…. “We may not be good enough”. Even though the original people we try to please is a damn narc/addict/one who chooses violence and verbal aggression on children... THERAPY, THERAPY for anyone who struggles. Somehow, I am now proud to have great relationships and enjoy life and used art to keep me sustaining and healthy. Thanks for the inspiration, dedication and vulnerability David Choe!

  • @jakbulanwrld
    @jakbulanwrld Před 3 lety +5

    i aspire to be as raw as him.. so beautiful. thank you for this.

  • @inkswithbrush
    @inkswithbrush Před 2 lety

    what a journey.

  • @twokois7032
    @twokois7032 Před rokem

    DEEP!

  • @louiswylde7731
    @louiswylde7731 Před 8 měsíci

    I've been watching this guy a while now and I've realised that he speaks to me in a way other people are too afraid to. It makes me realise that he's not speaking to me directly. He's speaking for himself and at the same time he must be talking for himself and at the same time, almost every motherfucker on the planet. He's saying what everyone must be thinking nowadays. I don't know what that is. I'll tell you what though, it brings me more comfort than any professional, parent or religions could ever bring. Thank you.

    • @louiswylde7731
      @louiswylde7731 Před 8 měsíci

      I can't even explain it properly. I just love him. I'm so happy he's here and he's just letting his thoughts out. It's made me realise that it's ok for things not to make sense. I love him. He's a genius.

  • @Cederlof_Ink
    @Cederlof_Ink Před 22 dny

    I used to live and work in Southern cali doing carpentry, every single Mexican crew, be it painters, gardeners, etc, would listen to the exact same music on repeat... I never understood why, lol. 😂

  • @ollanderswag
    @ollanderswag Před 2 lety +1

    i dont relate to anything he says but i love it anyway

  • @lynnc4872
    @lynnc4872 Před 3 lety

    Infinity!

  • @dudeandrah
    @dudeandrah Před 4 dny

    David, you speak as if you've been living my life except I am not Asian. But when I was in 4th grade I had moved to a new town, new school, etc and everyone thought I was Asian because my eyes were so squinty bc my mom didn't give a fuck when I went to sleep. But I, am a artist, graffiti for 15 years, been drawung my whole life. Been to jail. Was in punk bands for 20+ years, second opinion, no dice and face the rail, toured the whole us and Canada like you man... and my mom is the white version of crazy, guilt tripping and complimenting all at the same time. I just wanna say, I wanna be like you...except not Asian. You can keep that. But to hear all what you describe during "it all adds up" ...makes me feel better. So thank you!

  • @chaoznofx
    @chaoznofx Před 2 lety +4

    Thanks dude i fkin loved this.. im argentinian, have korean parents and family too 😔

  • @Lily_in_Bunderland
    @Lily_in_Bunderland Před 2 lety +1

    David didn't know he was supposed to buy the take out and put it on a plate to make it look like he made it. LOL.

  • @MarcEvan
    @MarcEvan Před 3 lety

    He’s my spirit animal. Would love to just pick his brain

    • @aphysique
      @aphysique Před 3 lety

      Ditto on picking his brain 🧠👌

  • @miagifodder5599
    @miagifodder5599 Před 2 lety +2

    Just saw the Choe show real good and refreshing to see art and life combine in motion.

  • @TheSaxon25
    @TheSaxon25 Před rokem

    Jah Bless Munkos

  • @rinkleswhiskers15
    @rinkleswhiskers15 Před 21 dnem

    24:10 finally someone who pronounces the word jewelry correctly…

  • @Californiansurfer
    @Californiansurfer Před 2 lety

    We are all immigrants which 2013 to 2017. I had to work in Jeffersonvill Indiana, Shepardvill Kentucky and I realized how much i love home. Downey California

  • @stevebrandi2838
    @stevebrandi2838 Před 2 lety

    ❤️

  • @soggybreadst1cks812
    @soggybreadst1cks812 Před 3 lety

    i fucking love david choe

  • @elgritton
    @elgritton Před 3 lety +3

    The new guy I want to narrate my life story besides Attenborough, Freeman, James Earl Jones

  • @Lowqy
    @Lowqy Před rokem

    Non Asian here love you bro ❤

  • @stevee.7419
    @stevee.7419 Před rokem +2

    Hi Dave, Steve here. I’m
    sorry for posting a comment awhile back. It went something like this, “how much therapy does a millionaire need.” It was senseless and rude, and I apologize.

  • @kitschmygrits4836
    @kitschmygrits4836 Před rokem

    I'm white &I lived a life I didn't want to live to make my mother proud. My mother is a perfect, over achieving, workaholic. She retired from work, but she still makes money. Just before I turned 40, I decided to unravel my life by divorcing my husband, selling my business, sold my house, left my beloved home town of Portland to be closer to my mom in Arizona, had back surgery and a couple more failed relationships, and then my son moved out to be an adult. After turning 40, I decided to stop trying to impress my mom because it was never going to be enough. So now I don't try to make her laugh when things get tense, I don't bend over backwards to be in her good graces, and when something is bothering me or when she crosses a boundary or says something mean or intrusive, I speak up and call her out. Usually she attacks me for failing some expectation she had so she attacks me, I react, then she gets mad and sometimes she cries in the end. Fun. I think she's a narc. Maybe I am too but I don't think so.....At 50, I thought I would know so much more than I do. I feel like I know way less now than when I was 3 years old, and I much prefer dogs to people.

  • @Californiansurfer
    @Californiansurfer Před 2 lety +1

    Kimchi my Korean friends tell me it reminds them of Korea. I love making kimchi tacos and salsa , I am vegetarian today and gingsing works. My Korean friends told me, it gives you hard on which your girlfriend will love. It works.

  • @bummerflip
    @bummerflip Před 2 lety +1

    lol at 18:13 "you want another one?!"

  • @danieljaeger2982
    @danieljaeger2982 Před rokem

    what paints does he use in the end?

  • @zkc8
    @zkc8 Před 3 lety +1

    Sepultura sing in Portuguese.

  • @mastermcya
    @mastermcya Před 10 měsíci

    how many depressive thought
    Him: Yes

  • @rayadakota1332
    @rayadakota1332 Před rokem

    49:56 "The root of my addiction is more."

  • @Tranquil_Hobby
    @Tranquil_Hobby Před rokem

    Some people have the Bible, I have David Choe

  • @_BASIC_INSTINCT
    @_BASIC_INSTINCT Před 3 lety +1

    "hey japanese people chill the fuck out"-bob marley

  • @thinkoutloud2144
    @thinkoutloud2144 Před 2 lety

    41:02

  • @coldboy2628
    @coldboy2628 Před 2 lety +2

    25 year old white dude here. The main reason I get out of bed everyday is to make my parents proud of me. I only started realising that recently.

  • @1213chio
    @1213chio Před 2 lety

    omg

  • @csc677
    @csc677 Před měsícem

    ❤😂😂😂❤❤❤

  • @jeremyschamp6166
    @jeremyschamp6166 Před rokem

    Booommmm tadooodoo booom

  • @JJJ-pj8ts
    @JJJ-pj8ts Před 2 lety

    ❤︎ non

  • @t.m.itimmarkham5296
    @t.m.itimmarkham5296 Před 3 lety +12

    Damn this was a great mushroom trip find..

  • @maxb1952
    @maxb1952 Před rokem

    Yo does Choe play destiny?

  • @desmondwhoa8779
    @desmondwhoa8779 Před 7 měsíci

    Yes we do wont to make our parents proud… its just impossible.

  • @333studios.
    @333studios. Před 2 lety +1

    Well the thing is, everyone treats people this way regardless if you are Asian or black , whatever..
    I'm American and I work for out of country people and they treat me the exact same way they treat you here. Im the "dumb American" to them. Everyone does it, regardless of what race you are or where you are.
    That doesn't take away from your pain, just making a statement. (:

  • @ryandube3287
    @ryandube3287 Před 3 lety

    White dude here... I also want my parents to be proud of me. Thank you for making me consider being an honest human being. You’re good at that.

  • @XAVIERCUERVO
    @XAVIERCUERVO Před 2 lety

    WHAT ABOUT A GAY GRAFFITI VANDAL CHOE!!! You can still do it man

  • @dem0nant
    @dem0nant Před 18 dny

    we dont

  • @AlexanderKnapikLevert
    @AlexanderKnapikLevert Před 2 lety

    did u eat sasha grey hairs

  • @its444entertainment4
    @its444entertainment4 Před rokem

    I LISTEN TO REGAE NOW HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHA

  • @TheRealJaded
    @TheRealJaded Před 2 lety +2

    I think trying to live life for the approval of others is wrong. You didn't consent to being born, don't play their moral games of control. I'm a lazy fuk and my parents love me. Don't put on for anyone.

  • @Patrick-ryan-collins
    @Patrick-ryan-collins Před 10 dny

  • @cjbcjb6763
    @cjbcjb6763 Před rokem

    No we don’t

  • @chowoutside4781
    @chowoutside4781 Před rokem

    wtf your art is crazy

  • @janellesochet7128
    @janellesochet7128 Před 2 lety

    you're proud of me because I disobeyed you

  • @zackoostrom9636
    @zackoostrom9636 Před rokem

    No

  • @pidrololoko
    @pidrololoko Před rokem

    imagine you don't have money?with all of your experiences,

  • @SergioFonseca-or3go
    @SergioFonseca-or3go Před rokem

    I've never idk how to explain it but if more people were open as david I'd actually have an appetite instead of going 5 days in row not eating anything just because I ran out of weed and am fucked up and dead inside I've done everything trying to be a good catholic and I'm so fucking lonely I can't even be out in public I'm so antisocial it never ends does it

    • @MesGuided
      @MesGuided Před 3 měsíci

      I feel your pain. I guess we have to remain open in a closed world

  • @drdoolittle8396
    @drdoolittle8396 Před 2 lety

    (poor white person here)
    i love my parents, but no i never aimed to please them.

  • @duncanmurray8946
    @duncanmurray8946 Před 3 lety +1

    Whitey here. I want to make my folks proud but it's the highest priority. And making them proud would mean being successful on my own terms. They don't give a shit if I'm a lawyer or a doctor.