Omg the one about not feeling butterflies and them being the one reminds me of that quote the grandma said, "Never fall for the ones that give you butterflies, bc they are a sign of fear and un certainty. You keep reaching for their love, care, and attention asking yourself, 'Do they like me?' Instead fall for the ones who make you feel safe, warm, and happy. Those are the ones."
@@moon.937 Oh I like that take on it. For me, I never felt any butterflies for the ones I dated so it makes me wonder. No way they can all have been the one
@@orangxjuicx3617 the first time I got butterflies Or if that was what it was … I think … I felt scared and nervous and overall just bad which led me to never meet that person face to face because it scared me so much …. Later on I found that he wasn’t a good person in more than one way…. Anyways I believe your grandmas words it makes so much sense now thanks
Okay but wait butterflies are that thing in your tummy it’s hot and twists ? Like nerves ? Hmmm I never felt that ever since then thankfully cause I watch myself
@@mysteryoctopus8699 you don’t think someone physically and sexually abusing their CHILD deserves eternal suffering? i don’t even believe in heaven and hell like that, but if there is a hell, they for sure deserve to be there.
For first time I went to therapy session. ...it it took a lot of courage and I took session the guy there said to me that I am fine.... Like hello it took a lot of courage to to me and I know I am not fine or else I wouldn't have come to you....and that is why I don't go to therapy. Lol
@Rya bestie just go see another therapist- this is not a request this is a command ur mental health is on the line and we aren’t gonna play around with it anyways i hope you are well ♥️♥️
The footsteps one is so true. It can be a sign of trauma (not mostly but sometimes) and it’s a skill your brain learns to survive bc when it’s in that panic state your brain is in survival mode. (Don’t use this to self diagnose :))
I'm sorry but- i can literally feel my brain rotting whenever someone says this. EVERYONE can identify footsteps. this has nothing to do with trauma. you can go and ask your friends around, everyone knows how what their families steps sound like. Please stop making trauma assessments based on tiktok, that's not healthy for anyone
@@hernameisayaa ofc sweetie, im glad you actually fear having mental illness instead of romaticising it. If you feel like you do, please check with a doctor and don't take anything from tiktok
ok so i noticed 1:37 is something a lot of people are talking about and i don’t want to sound insensitive or smth but memorizing footsteps is a completely normal thing, throughout years of living with people your brain just remembers who’s steps are who without having to check, it’s nothing like trauma it’s just memory.
Actually It can be both, because normally your brain is functioned to forget these things, but some of them memorize it because of how many times it has happened. But if you remember the footsteps so you can check if they're approaching you or your room its a sign of trauma
“i’m sorry. my dads death was 3 years ago, i should be over it. i’ll be better about that” “what do you mean? he was special to you, take your time. who told you that?” *flashback to when my therapist told me to get over it*
The hiding of the snacks...I feel upset that other people went through that too...as well as the other ones.....I'm just now realizing how messed up my childhood is
@@cupivie Some parents or partners shame their kids/partners for eating a certain amount, or for what they eat. Personally I did it because I have an eating disorder that brings me a lot of food shame.
I hid them but that was because I had to ask for snacks that weren't fruit. My parents didn't want us eating too much sugar in order to help our teeth and they also didn't want us ruining our meals
I was always hiding empty bags of snacks in the trash can, because I didn't want my sister to know that I ate them all when we were supposed to share lol
yeah, my mom doesn't sleep in their bedroom anymore because her back hurts so bad that she can't sleep in a bed anymore so she sleeps in a chair in our living room
@@fulana_de_tal Is she okay like that? Has she tried changing the matress? Does she have an official diagnosis? As someone who had back issues, thats not normal
@@claudiaflores3944 it's just that she carries a lot of weight at her work so her back is constantly under more stress than it was supposed to be and at this point she got used to sleeping in a reclined but not totally laid position, so going back to sleeping normaly is very hard. She hasn't got an official diagnosis yet but i believe it's more of a muscular issue caused by forcing thm past their limits, age and bad sleeping habits, thanks for the concern
I thought memorizing people's footsteps was normal, wow i guess it wasn't EDIT - Y'all, OK I GET IT, CALM DOWN, like I keep on getting notifications about a comment I commented 9 months ago😅😅😅
Same haha but pretty sure im not abused sorry if you are a lot of my family members/friends are and its horrible if you are im sure you deserve better :)
I have tourettes, I constantly apologise to people for my tics because they are generally just distracting noises and movements. My two friends have snapped and yelled at me multiple times for it so I suppress them around them now, I obvs apologise when a tic slips past. I've been hit by one of these two people for it multiple times and this one of the two constantly makes fun of me for it even after being asked to stop. My boyfriend is the first and only person in my life that for some reason told me off for apologising for the tics, I had previously always suppressed them around him until one bad day happened and I told him I have tourettes, I expected a break up or for him to ask me to suppress them around him cause they're annoying. But he didn't He keeps calling them cute and he recently learnt that his favourite of my tics can be triggered, when people find this out they normally abuse it and set me off all the time, but this man literally ASKS if he can 'make me do the thing' as he calls it. It's not a harmful tic so I do say yes everytime, if you know sweet anita and the popping tic she has, its that one. Edit as of 20/07/2022 : I'm going to college, those friends are out of my life I did the slow cut off, trying to slowly stop talking to them. They didn't even notice nor question it when I stopped speaking to them. Hopefully I might make a friend in the course I take that isn't mad about the tourettes, however its unlikely cause I can barely handle leaving my home anymore. HOWEVER I HAVE A TIC UPDATE THAT IS BOTH ANNOYING AND KINDA CUTE IMO I watched too many parrot videos and now I have the kissy tic which is adorable when you're with your partner, however it is not so cutesy when you're walking to Tesco's and start blowing kisses to people.
I have tourette's too. Just diagnosed a bit ago, and people make fun and fake them too??? And it's really annoying because I feel like i have to suppress them because I don't want to seem attention seeking or fake when in reality i can't control it
I have Tourette’s as well, and those aren’t you’re friends dear. My friends just ignore my tics (not in a rude way) and occasionally asking if I’m okay (when I hit things) I suggests dropping them.
People can be horrible sometimes your tics isn’t something you should be ashamed of it’s just an uncontrollable movements and words sometimes like when anyone stay in the same exact position for a long time their body makes a random uncontrollable move you just get it more it’s completely fine and I’m pretty sure being around someone with tics isn’t bad or hard at all, and I’ve seen someone making a video before about how she puts her makeup while having tics (it seemed hard putting makeup for her of course) but I think it’s kinda cute so your boyfriend wasn’t just trying to be nice a lot do think people with tics are cute
I loved doing my nails at a young age, and this time I picked out a deep red (my favorite color) but when I showed my mother the nail polish she said I couldn't wear it because it made me look like a sl*t.
girl don’t listen to her. i understand you might not be able to wear it now because of your mom, so i’m not going to tell you to wear it anyways, but i just wanna say i’m sorry. i’m sure you looked so good with those nails.
Yeah, I had the same experience. When I was little, my brothers and sisters and I loved painting our nails bright, sparkly colors and my mom would wear beautiful pink nail polish. Then my dad told all of us, mom included, that we weren't allowed to wear nail polish anymore because he considered it sl*tty. When he was at work, my mom would sneak out the polish and we would all paint our nails for the day then rush to wipe it off before my dad came home 😕
i used to like wearing fake nails (because they were fun and i liked to bite my natural nails) and my grandfather used to tell me i looked like a hooker. along the same line, i went to get my hair cut one day, and my great grandmother asked me if i wanted to pierce a second hole in my ear (she was my guardian, so she basically had power over what i could do, and she also had her ear pierced lol) and i was like “sure why not” but i said it to my grandmother also, and my grandfather heard and said something like “next thing you’ll end up on the side of the road in heels and a mini skirt like a prostitute” so i ended up not getting it done. for both of these i was like 13/14 lmfao
I need everyone to know, -you can be happy and have depression -anxiety isnt overreacting -Trauma is valid no matter what -it is ok to cry over things that have ended -things do get better with time,patience and realization -you are valid no matter what -I love you
im sorry i genuinely dont mean to offend anyone, but how can you have depression and still be/happy(excluding the part of faking happiness in front of others)¿
The gay one is so sad and so true. My 1st gf had only ever been with men and she would be amazed when I treated her with basic human decency. It’s sad.
ikr?? that was like the biggest epiphany of my year so far. like, you're _not_ supposed to feel like you're gonna throw up when your with your crush. who knew
when I'm around other people I constantly check body language and facial expressions and I can tell the change in their mood, I automatically change my behavior so I don't make them angry. I also automatically get nervous when people raise their voices, even if it's not at me.
I have a lot of issues because when people raise their voice my mind automatically thinks they’re mad at me because for years my teachers would scream at me and my class and I was in this program for gifted kids and they would tell us that they could kick us out at any given moment and ya know
I've been through this for a very long time.. there's still some left until now..but I tried to be realistic with myself that I'm not doing anything wrong to them to keep my anxiety down..
the uncle one makes me feel so disgusted. like i dont even know for sure what it's implying but the interpretations in my head were enough to make ME feel violated. i can't imagine that person's thoughts when making the tiktok.
I remember foot steps cuz my mom is strict and shit. So if i reading a book that she doesnt count as reading, or if im on my phone, i know when shes coming. I love my mom, but i just feel anxious relaxing when shes around me, even if she’s fine with me having leisure time. Its a reflex.
6:31 omg it's so true, as a quiet smart child I spent about 7 school years without having friends, hobbies and relationships, and even though my life is decent, it's never been happy
Me: "I wear my hair like that, so that it looks like I have short hair" My friend: "Then why dont you cut your hair?" Me: "If I did, my dad would kick me out" **realises that its not a thing to be kicked out for** My friend: oop-
0:19 I felt this on a spiritual level…..no pun intended. My childhood was filled of people (kids and adults) making fun of me because of my faith and beliefs. As I got older it turned from out-right bullying into silently judging me, or disrespecting my beliefs by trying to pressure me into doing things that they KNOW is against my faith. I don’t judge other’s religion, I don’t stand outside holding up pickets signs or looking people in their face and telling them they’ll go to hell. I share my faith with people, especially when I see someone going through a hard time, but if they tell me they’re not interest I let it go. I treat everyone with respect. But the second I refuse to do or engage in something against my beliefs all of a sudden I’m “weird” or “so and so has the same religion and they do this so what’s the big deal if you do it too?” Or “Wow, you can’t do a lot. Life must be pretty boring for you.” Some of these I’ve even heard from past bosses and managers…..after I’ve filled out a job application that tells me I won’t be discriminated or judged for my religion. I’m still trying to get out of the habit of saying “sorry” for not doing something against my religion.
@@Willow._.tree. yeah I found that out by my friend I was mentally abuse by my birth dad and physically and mentally abused by my brother I have alot of childhood trama
Gay Thespian Yep, I found that out because my cousin that was sexually abusive to me for a while then she finally left an moved and now i keep always apoligizing and telling people they cam hit me if I accidentally bump them an things like that :')
I do this a lot too! My friends all like to joke about it, lol But I’m not in an abusive household, my dad used to yell a lot when I was a kid and I guess that I got so used to if I was misbehaved I would get yelled at that I lived in fear that if I did anything wrong I’d get yelled at. So I just apologized for the tiniest things because I live in fear of disappointing/angering others and getting yelled at. But he doesn’t yell anymore, so that’s good. :D Sorry to vent ^^” I really hope you’re ok, though!
My dad was yelling at me earlier this week because he thinks that I wake up and just lay in my bed until someone yells at me to get up. I realized that hearing his footsteps going up the stairs and hearing the doorknob be turned wakes me up when multiple alarms going off at the same time doesn't even wake me up. Like, a tree fell on my house, my siblings or uncle wakes me up, and I can sleep soundly until they get to the door, but their footsteps don't wake me as fast as my dad's, I've literally just hopped out of my bed and stood in the middle of the room when he walked in because he gets mad if I'm even sitting down. Anyway, that kinda sucks. I am slightly concerned that I could relate to so many of these. Oh and the one where it says if you want to be in control all time and also let other people be in control all the time then you have both mommy and daddy issues, so there's something new :/ Also one person commented on here that they keep a notebook and laptop open just in case their parents walk in, and I do that same thing. It absolutely sucks that so many of us have had to adapt like this to survive in our own households. Also, here's another one. Every time I'm around anyone and I'm talking for longer than a couple minutes to say something, I start thinking, wow, I'm probably being really annoying and they don't want me around, so then I apologize for being annoying which makes me feel more annoying. I think I know why this exists, but it still sucks. Anyway.
I’m literally the same- Sadly my laptop doesn’t open rapidly so ye- I actually got a question, what is daddy and mommy issues? I may have it but I’m not sure-
@@Synth.xile00 whenever you have issues with your parents, due to various reasons, you may seek validation through other adults or people of the same gender as that parent
@@supitsash5226 it to make as if you were doing other things! :3 Like working on your laptop, Reading a book Or writing on a notebook maybe important things! It just make as if you were doing other things when they enter your room :D
Oop nobody’s replied! There was an original version from like 60s-70s (idk don’t come for me). And then Melanie Martinez made her own version that’s sad. The transition is from the old one, to Melanie’s version. Hope that helped!
Man, I remember when I told my therapist about how I memorized the footsteps of everyone in my house and told her on how I know the difference, she was, well, shocked and confused on how tf did I do that, dude, i'm 14, I told her I can even tell the emotions sometimes, specialy my moms
Ooooh the same :0 I started to know the footsteps at 11 ans emotions (not clearly) at 12 and at 13 I could clearly tell- Sorry to bother you with my own life X’) Do you think I should tell it to my therapist too?
@@Synth.xile00 it's no bother, and yes, you should tell them, cause it's kinda obvious it's not normal and the expresion on their face will be priceless UwU
@@seramica8666 it actually may not be- There is 2 situations 1. It normal memorization, it jsut by time developing itself so you learned slowly 2. It may actually have been developed by trauma, by fear or anything when someone is close of you door I personally may have the second situation because of my trauma with my dad as I actually developed this ability to know none footstep after that by fear to know again this situation before :3 Sorry my English is bad-
Everyone: "why are you so quiet?" Me: "I've wanted to say something for the last hour but I didn't think it would be important" E: .... Me: that's normal right?
Same but my anxiety doesn't know if it's the right thing to say the right time or if I'm gonna say it wrong and the Everytime I decide to say something I mix up my words and they don't make sence I'm alwalys quiet
1:39 that’s totally normal, you live with him of course you would know how he walks. I can tell which of my siblings are coming up the stairs from my room
It can also be said to be a trauma Two situations the simplest Situation 1 is just long time staying and you hear it randomly Situation 2 is when you remember these steps just to know who’s coming in front of your room to prepare yourself at least The second situation may be a trauma and as I have it I’m actually alway anxious or scared of when someone coming to my room I hope my English wasn’t hard to understand sorry ;-; Also sorry for bothering you I thought it could help you understand why they say it isn’t normal-
1:12 that was so sad but im happy to see the doggys in a better home 1:43 i think anyone with an upper floor can recognize their familys footsteps, its kinda obvious
It reminds of the short film on Disney+ I forgot what it’s called but the dog and the cat were friends and he was left outside and abused and it’s only 6 minutes but I was crying 3 minutes in😕
1:39 I literally memorized my parent's footsteps and the sounds they make like how they closed the door to know if they're going in my room to check if I'm asleep or not 😆
Uh, we’re going to need to talk about that one where she says her parents punished her by putting pepper in her kitty 🐱. And by talk about it, I mean hunt down her parents. Cause WTF.
3:48 this is me with my current partner. At first I used to feel so bad bc I don't get butterflies around them even though I've had butterflies around people I liked before. Recently I've come to the realization that it's because I feel safe around them and I feel like I can be myself. On the other hand, all the other people before were REALLY manipulative and ab*sive and traumatized me VERY badly. I think it was actually just anxiety in those cases...😀
1:26 i can relate so much to this. i told my bf that when we first started dating and he said those exact words “who told you that” it was my best friend that told me i talk too much and it gets annoying so i don’t talk very much anymore 😕
Your trauma doesn't mean you aren't a "good" person. You're a beautiful, strong person who survived through all of this. It just means you aren't ok, and you need to heal. And that's perfectly alright.
the memorising footsteps one is so accurate 😭 basically at night when I’m supposed to be sleeping I’ll close my door and sit on my laptop at the lowest brightness and when it’s 10pm my parents will come up and I can always tell that the heavier footsteps are my dads, and then he goes downstairs. However, it’s not as easy with my mum because the only give away she’s coming up the stairs is the final creaky stair because she’s so light footed so when my dad goes down I’ll wait about 2 minutes before my mum comes up, or I’ll just play until I hear the creaky floorboard lol
8:06 Haha, funny little thing, I actually wake up to the door being opened at my mom’s because when I had remote school, I’d always fall back asleep and she’d check on me to make sure I was awake, so I’d just listen for that to convince her I was awake the whole time
The mom not being able to fall asleep one isn't bad. If my child is still in my care then you bet I'm making sure they get in safe before I go to sleep.
6:20 this is exactly how I feel. That's why I feel so guilty for going to therapy, for coming out, for even thinking about feelings. And 5:18 I've always been told I'm annoying I've seen the stereotypes on the internet that tell me I'm terrible. I've never had true friends and so I've never really had anyone to tell me I'm a good person so I've always thought of myself and not worthy of love of friendship and that no one likes me and that I'm a terrible person who acts like the center of attention and is self-centered, annoying, and stupid but tricks people into thinking I'm smart. Every good thing someone thinks about me isn't true I've just manipulated them into thinking that because I crave attention and think that no one is better then me. That I'm a burden.
Me: Hi nice to meet you! (Starts Talking about my self) sorry I’m so annoying and selfish for talking about my self… Person: that’s how a conversation works, you don’t need to be ashamed or hide your feelings or achievements… Me: oh.
Dude I remember being insecure abt my weight bc my parents talked abt how much I ate and I just didn’t have any muscular strength and then being told they I was just tall It was a real breakthrough for me
1:05 that happened with me and my flatmate. He apologised for saying he wasn't in the mood this time and I said the exact thing she said and he seemed like he didn't know how to function/respond after I said that..which is kind of sad
I used to have people tell me all the time I talk way too much and I’m annoying, so now whenever I meet someone, I always apologize for that before they really get to know me.
I totally have everyone in my family's footsteps memorized and also my parents sleep up stairs so whenever my mom starts coming down the steps in the morning I wake up. Idk why, like I will still be tired.
@@Mia_Mia1215 lmao goin through a lotta shit rn, and my birthday wasn't quite as fun as I wanted it to be, but singing/screaming lyrics is always helpful /gen
Oh I got one Me: Can I go to the toilet really quick? I’ll hurry! The lady I’m babysitting for: of course you don’t have to ask for that duh Me: …😀 Ik it’s not trauma or anything but sChOoL 🥰😍
"Sorry, i overeact it, its no big deal, others have been in worst situation than me." "Uhm, bestie, i dont know who told you that but thats wrong." My friend always have to remind me that its okay to cry whenever i want to and when i need to.
My parents are fine but I've always just memorized their footsteps cause its easy. My older brother is usually mumbling something and stomps, my oldest brother makes noises and has big feet, my dad is heavier and has bigger feet, and my mom is just different from the boys.
2:15 oh boy, I always do this, actually I always hide EVERY SINGLE THING I do from my parents, not cuz I am doing bad stuff, but cuz they would literally yell at me nonstop for just sitting in the sofa less than 5 minutes when they are home, calling me lazy and useless till I go to sleep and even when I'm in bed trying to sleep they scream things to me. I can't even stay still in a place of this house without my mom coming for me and beat me or yell at me, and i'm honestly so sick of everything. If I don't hide something I bought they say i'm being so "egoistic" spending my own money that I work for in a simple bag of chips instead of bringing something to the table for all of us to eat, they do this to me since I'm 14, now I can't relax without feeling guilty and hearing my mom's voice shooting hurtful words
“Trauma can also be from the good things that never happened”
This. This hurt. A lot.
Waaaaaaaàaaaaah
Yeah it did hurt
H u r t s
Yeah, same
@@NeptuneCookies hfJHFf IT DOES THo
Omg the one about not feeling butterflies and them being the one reminds me of that quote the grandma said, "Never fall for the ones that give you butterflies, bc they are a sign of fear and un certainty. You keep reaching for their love, care, and attention asking yourself, 'Do they like me?' Instead fall for the ones who make you feel safe, warm, and happy. Those are the ones."
I love that so much
But lots of people feel butterflies for people who make them feel safe and happy. It's the excitement of being loved, maybe that's just me lol
@@moon.937 Oh I like that take on it. For me, I never felt any butterflies for the ones I dated so it makes me wonder. No way they can all have been the one
@@orangxjuicx3617 the first time I got butterflies Or if that was what it was … I think … I felt scared and nervous and overall just bad which led me to never meet that person face to face because it scared me so much …. Later on I found that he wasn’t a good person in more than one way…. Anyways I believe your grandmas words it makes so much sense now thanks
Okay but wait butterflies are that thing in your tummy it’s hot and twists ? Like nerves ? Hmmm I never felt that ever since then thankfully cause I watch myself
i love the original version omg
melanie’s version is amazing too but them together is superior
@@nandluv yeah melanie did a remake, sampled the song
Wait what does this trend mean-?
The original is It’s My Party by Leslie Gore and Melanie Martinez did a cover of it called Pity Party
Funny how melanie stole it
@@kulotz5555 she didn’t stole it, she probably bought the rights
the one w the pepper in the 🐱 as a punishment is evil. those parents deserve hell
Frr
I don’t think they deserve hell, but that was just horrible. It really creates trauma.
@_K I L L E R • Q U E E N_ I don’t think they really does deserve eternal suffering.
i actually thought that was normal bc that happened to me too-
@@mysteryoctopus8699 you don’t think someone physically and sexually abusing their CHILD deserves eternal suffering? i don’t even believe in heaven and hell like that, but if there is a hell, they for sure deserve to be there.
* gives everyone in the video a hug while sticking a note for therapy into their pocket*
I don't know u but I just wanted to tell u how precious this tiny comment is and how much I love you❤️
@ Maham Mansoor i don’t know you either but you just made my day so much better :DDD ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
this is so cute aaa
For first time I went to therapy session. ...it it took a lot of courage and I took session the guy there said to me that I am fine.... Like hello it took a lot of courage to to me and I know I am not fine or else I wouldn't have come to you....and that is why I don't go to therapy. Lol
@Rya
bestie just go see another therapist-
this is not a request this is a command
ur mental health is on the line and we aren’t gonna play around with it
anyways i hope you are well ♥️♥️
The footsteps one is so true. It can be a sign of trauma (not mostly but sometimes) and it’s a skill your brain learns to survive bc when it’s in that panic state your brain is in survival mode. (Don’t use this to self diagnose :))
excuse me wHaT
I'm sorry but- i can literally feel my brain rotting whenever someone says this.
EVERYONE can identify footsteps. this has nothing to do with trauma. you can go and ask your friends around, everyone knows how what their families steps sound like.
Please stop making trauma assessments based on tiktok, that's not healthy for anyone
@@nottodaynint.nottoday2235
Literally thank u I was starting to think I had mental issues😭
@@hernameisayaa ofc sweetie, im glad you actually fear having mental illness instead of romaticising it. If you feel like you do, please check with a doctor and don't take anything from tiktok
Yeah I remeber all my family’s feet pattern
Ya'll know how you can tell if your parent is angry based on how they pull in the driveway
Yes..... wait
holy snickerdoodles yes
Wait… yes…. OMG
My mum doesn't drive ;-;
@@mix-ql3sl omg funny seeing you here lmao
ok so i noticed 1:37 is something a lot of people are talking about and i don’t want to sound insensitive or smth but memorizing footsteps is a completely normal thing, throughout years of living with people your brain just remembers who’s steps are who without having to check, it’s nothing like trauma it’s just memory.
I agree, it's like when you can recognize your family's car by the sound :)
@@Wika-jt1rg exactly
Omg yess
Actually It can be both, because normally your brain is functioned to forget these things, but some of them memorize it because of how many times it has happened. But if you remember the footsteps so you can check if they're approaching you or your room its a sign of trauma
@@fathimanahlashifran4109 that’s true, i can definitely see how it could be trauma that way
“i’m sorry. my dads death was 3 years ago, i should be over it. i’ll be better about that”
“what do you mean? he was special to you, take your time. who told you that?”
*flashback to when my therapist told me to get over it*
damn, sorry you have to go through shit with an invalidating therapist too
sue the therapist 💁♀️
holy shit A FUCKING THERAPIST-
oh my god
see, this is why I want to become a therapist, and TRULY HELP.
People: Get some help
The help: Get over it lmao
Starting to get second thoughts about seeing a therapist
The hiding of the snacks...I feel upset that other people went through that too...as well as the other ones.....I'm just now realizing how messed up my childhood is
@@cupivie Some parents or partners shame their kids/partners for eating a certain amount, or for what they eat. Personally I did it because I have an eating disorder that brings me a lot of food shame.
I hid them but that was because I had to ask for snacks that weren't fruit. My parents didn't want us eating too much sugar in order to help our teeth and they also didn't want us ruining our meals
I was always hiding empty bags of snacks in the trash can, because I didn't want my sister to know that I ate them all when we were supposed to share lol
i can’t even eat my room 😭
I can't even eat much at family event for 1 full meal.
Just..1.. :D
Bc I didn't have flat stomach, *obvioisly*
0:44 just want to say my mom and stepdad actually sleep in diff rooms bc he snores SO badly and she has insomnia lol. It’s not always bc of divorce
Yeah sometimes my dad sleeps downstairs,, because he snores,, my mum says she doesn’t but we all know she does
yeah, my mom doesn't sleep in their bedroom anymore because her back hurts so bad that she can't sleep in a bed anymore so she sleeps in a chair in our living room
Same lol
@@fulana_de_tal Is she okay like that? Has she tried changing the matress? Does she have an official diagnosis? As someone who had back issues, thats not normal
@@claudiaflores3944 it's just that she carries a lot of weight at her work so her back is constantly under more stress than it was supposed to be and at this point she got used to sleeping in a reclined but not totally laid position, so going back to sleeping normaly is very hard. She hasn't got an official diagnosis yet but i believe it's more of a muscular issue caused by forcing thm past their limits, age and bad sleeping habits, thanks for the concern
I thought memorizing people's footsteps was normal, wow i guess it wasn't
EDIT - Y'all, OK I GET IT, CALM DOWN, like I keep on getting notifications about a comment I commented 9 months ago😅😅😅
Well in some cases, people memorize footsteps to know if their abuser/abusers are close
@@internationalplayboy4779 does mental abuse count?
@@riddhima9579 I would think so
same lmao but i don’t think i’m abused
Same haha but pretty sure im not abused sorry if you are a lot of my family members/friends are and its horrible if you are im sure you deserve better :)
The pepper in 🐱 scared me, but in some parts of Africa, that is a punishment.
yeah my mom did that to me atleast 3 times when I was younger, but she's stopped since then 😫
honestly it terrifies me but I wanna know what it’s like, like there's different types of pain? like is it like rubbing salt on a wound?
doesn't mean it's okay
just because its a punishment in one place doesnt make it anyless of abuse
@@TheHypnosBunny she didnt say it's not abuse
I have tourettes, I constantly apologise to people for my tics because they are generally just distracting noises and movements. My two friends have snapped and yelled at me multiple times for it so I suppress them around them now, I obvs apologise when a tic slips past. I've been hit by one of these two people for it multiple times and this one of the two constantly makes fun of me for it even after being asked to stop.
My boyfriend is the first and only person in my life that for some reason told me off for apologising for the tics, I had previously always suppressed them around him until one bad day happened and I told him I have tourettes, I expected a break up or for him to ask me to suppress them around him cause they're annoying. But he didn't
He keeps calling them cute and he recently learnt that his favourite of my tics can be triggered, when people find this out they normally abuse it and set me off all the time, but this man literally ASKS if he can 'make me do the thing' as he calls it. It's not a harmful tic so I do say yes everytime, if you know sweet anita and the popping tic she has, its that one.
Edit as of 20/07/2022 : I'm going to college, those friends are out of my life I did the slow cut off, trying to slowly stop talking to them. They didn't even notice nor question it when I stopped speaking to them.
Hopefully I might make a friend in the course I take that isn't mad about the tourettes, however its unlikely cause I can barely handle leaving my home anymore.
HOWEVER I HAVE A TIC UPDATE THAT IS BOTH ANNOYING AND KINDA CUTE IMO
I watched too many parrot videos and now I have the kissy tic which is adorable when you're with your partner, however it is not so cutesy when you're walking to Tesco's and start blowing kisses to people.
I heard suppressing your tics hurts? Don't suppress it because it's part of who you are
I have tourette's too. Just diagnosed a bit ago, and people make fun and fake them too??? And it's really annoying because I feel like i have to suppress them because I don't want to seem attention seeking or fake when in reality i can't control it
I have Tourette’s as well, and those aren’t you’re friends dear. My friends just ignore my tics (not in a rude way) and occasionally asking if I’m okay (when I hit things) I suggests dropping them.
@@irongirltoni It doesn’t hurt for me per say, it just gets really hard to focus.
People can be horrible sometimes your tics isn’t something you should be ashamed of it’s just an uncontrollable movements and words sometimes like when anyone stay in the same exact position for a long time their body makes a random uncontrollable move you just get it more it’s completely fine and I’m pretty sure being around someone with tics isn’t bad or hard at all, and I’ve seen someone making a video before about how she puts her makeup while having tics (it seemed hard putting makeup for her of course) but I think it’s kinda cute so your boyfriend wasn’t just trying to be nice a lot do think people with tics are cute
I loved doing my nails at a young age, and this time I picked out a deep red (my favorite color) but when I showed my mother the nail polish she said I couldn't wear it because it made me look like a sl*t.
girl don’t listen to her. i understand you might not be able to wear it now because of your mom, so i’m not going to tell you to wear it anyways, but i just wanna say i’m sorry. i’m sure you looked so good with those nails.
Same, “red nails are for hookers” I was like 7. We all lived the same lives
Yeah, I had the same experience. When I was little, my brothers and sisters and I loved painting our nails bright, sparkly colors and my mom would wear beautiful pink nail polish. Then my dad told all of us, mom included, that we weren't allowed to wear nail polish anymore because he considered it sl*tty. When he was at work, my mom would sneak out the polish and we would all paint our nails for the day then rush to wipe it off before my dad came home 😕
i used to like wearing fake nails (because they were fun and i liked to bite my natural nails) and my grandfather used to tell me i looked like a hooker. along the same line, i went to get my hair cut one day, and my great grandmother asked me if i wanted to pierce a second hole in my ear (she was my guardian, so she basically had power over what i could do, and she also had her ear pierced lol) and i was like “sure why not” but i said it to my grandmother also, and my grandfather heard and said something like “next thing you’ll end up on the side of the road in heels and a mini skirt like a prostitute” so i ended up not getting it done. for both of these i was like 13/14 lmfao
@@GoCrazyBaby3 uhhh thats not normal and i dont think we all lived anything like that and im so sorry that happened
I need everyone to know,
-you can be happy and have depression
-anxiety isnt overreacting
-Trauma is valid no matter what
-it is ok to cry over things that have ended
-things do get better with time,patience and realization
-you are valid no matter what
-I love you
im sorry i genuinely dont mean to offend anyone, but how can you have depression and still be/happy(excluding the part of faking happiness in front of others)¿
@@saramacbeth981 different times. You can still have depressive episodes and then other times you can feel some kind of happiness.
thank you very much. This had cheered me up.
Wait- you can cry over things that ended and it’s okay?
....
The gay one is so sad and so true. My 1st gf had only ever been with men and she would be amazed when I treated her with basic human decency. It’s sad.
Timestamp?
I think it was the third or fourth one
@@smallsingingelephants thanks
hi again person I commented on another one of ur comments
Pssttt.
You don't have to earn someone's affection or validation. You deserve it because you're a good person.
thank you,.
3:45 for the longest time I just thought that meant being in love now I realize it really was anxiety
ikr?? that was like the biggest epiphany of my year so far. like, you're _not_ supposed to feel like you're gonna throw up when your with your crush. who knew
@@mimilil1750 wait, you’re not
WHAT! NO WAY
@@layanneazim9640 idk if this is sarcasm but it was like that for me and yeah turns out not
There's a difference between excitement at being with them, and nervous for being around them
when I'm around other people I constantly check body language and facial expressions and I can tell the change in their mood, I automatically change my behavior so I don't make them angry. I also automatically get nervous when people raise their voices, even if it's not at me.
I have a lot of issues because when people raise their voice my mind automatically thinks they’re mad at me because for years my teachers would scream at me and my class and I was in this program for gifted kids and they would tell us that they could kick us out at any given moment and ya know
I've managed to tone this down myself. Took a long time, and a lot of processing
I've been through this for a very long time.. there's still some left until now..but I tried to be realistic with myself that I'm not doing anything wrong to them to keep my anxiety down..
I literally cried at the doggys and Kitty's part
same ughhh😭😭
It’s awful that people do that. The poor animal doesn’t understand what they did wrong (nothing) to deserve that treatment. It makes me sick.
Ikr!
Same, my heart hurts
I wanted to, but I'm fairly sure my tears have run out- I cried a lot
1:39 I DO THAT TOO like I just recognize my familys different foot patterns when they come up the stairs. call me weird 💁♀️
It's usually a sign of trauma. Not always! But it usually is :)
(Edit: Spelling mistakes)
Same but I don't have trauma I guess it was just a thing I did when I was younger because I didn't like my bed time
yeah i memorize it bc my mom is typically not in the best mood so when i hear her footsteps i become active doing sum random lol
I do that too :))
I do the same thing tbh
3:19 was outta pocket 😭😭
the uncle one makes me feel so disgusted. like i dont even know for sure what it's implying but the interpretations in my head were enough to make ME feel violated. i can't imagine that person's thoughts when making the tiktok.
Not sure what it means help I feel stupid right nkw
@@femboyfan69420 I think it was s.xual activities-
@ItzMik 7:39
I thought it was cuz he sleeps there and he often pees in his sleep, wow I’m dumb
im so confuesed like what does that mean
“Trauma is also the good things that never happened”
… idk why but I’m bawling my eyes out
👁
💧
That part confused me.
That literally makes sense
melanie sounds like ari here 😭
yeah i thought it was her at first
Isn't it Leslie Gore?
@Izzy is my nickname i found out it's a remix, the first part lesley's It's my party and it blends into mel's pity party, i think.
Yaasss
@@NoeBIchez mhm!
I remember foot steps cuz my mom is strict and shit. So if i reading a book that she doesnt count as reading, or if im on my phone, i know when shes coming. I love my mom, but i just feel anxious relaxing when shes around me, even if she’s fine with me having leisure time. Its a reflex.
Yh i can relate 🤪
My reletable charts are skyrocketing
I physically cannot understand how a strict parent can be loved.
Thx for this you have encouraged me to change my life for the better.
ME. TOO.
6:31 omg it's so true, as a quiet smart child I spent about 7 school years without having friends, hobbies and relationships, and even though my life is decent, it's never been happy
Me: "I wear my hair like that, so that it looks like I have short hair"
My friend: "Then why dont you cut your hair?"
Me: "If I did, my dad would kick me out" **realises that its not a thing to be kicked out for**
My friend: oop-
this trend rlly hits different cos as a kid i would cry on my birthday and listen to this song on repeat all day because i wasn’t being treated right
The girl: that's both mommy and daddy issues
Me: BACK THE F UP, WAITH A DAMN MINUTEEEEEEEEEEEE
YEAH I WAS LIKE THAT TOO
NO SAME---
Oh shit me too!
So...
Do we have mommy and daddy issue?-
JSJSJSJSJ I THINK I HAVE IT
What is daddy and mommy issues?
I don’t quite understand it even tho I may have it hm…
My mom snores.
Them: You believe that?
You can hear it through the walls.
Gotta love that at 6:33 and 7:23 my reaction was basically just
**processing…**
**processing…**
**processing…**
“WAIT FU-“
6:22 that actually hit me
0:19
I felt this on a spiritual level…..no pun intended. My childhood was filled of people (kids and adults) making fun of me because of my faith and beliefs. As I got older it turned from out-right bullying into silently judging me, or disrespecting my beliefs by trying to pressure me into doing things that they KNOW is against my faith. I don’t judge other’s religion, I don’t stand outside holding up pickets signs or looking people in their face and telling them they’ll go to hell. I share my faith with people, especially when I see someone going through a hard time, but if they tell me they’re not interest I let it go. I treat everyone with respect. But the second I refuse to do or engage in something against my beliefs all of a sudden I’m “weird” or “so and so has the same religion and they do this so what’s the big deal if you do it too?” Or “Wow, you can’t do a lot. Life must be pretty boring for you.”
Some of these I’ve even heard from past bosses and managers…..after I’ve filled out a job application that tells me I won’t be discriminated or judged for my religion. I’m still trying to get out of the habit of saying “sorry” for not doing something against my religion.
I feel rly bad for you, you shouldnt have been treated like that :(
Late, but as a Catholic I definitely relate to this :/
I left religion because I felt like a micromanaged puppet under it, so I can understand the "Wow, you can't do a lot" thing.
2:00 absolutely broke me cause that’s what i’ve been told growing up 😀
Me:me saying sorry for stuff that isn't even my fault
Friend: why are you saying sorry you didn't do anything
Me:.......
That’s a sign of ✨abuse✨
Edit- please don’t use this to self diagnose it CAN BE a sign
@@Willow._.tree. yeah I found that out by my friend I was mentally abuse by my birth dad and physically and mentally abused by my brother I have alot of childhood trama
@@Willow._.tree. or fake toxic friends too
Gay Thespian Yep, I found that out because my cousin that was sexually abusive to me for a while then she finally left an moved and now i keep always apoligizing and telling people they cam hit me if I accidentally bump them an things like that :')
I do this a lot too! My friends all like to joke about it, lol
But I’m not in an abusive household, my dad used to yell a lot when I was a kid and I guess that I got so used to if I was misbehaved I would get yelled at that I lived in fear that if I did anything wrong I’d get yelled at. So I just apologized for the tiniest things because I live in fear of disappointing/angering others and getting yelled at. But he doesn’t yell anymore, so that’s good. :D
Sorry to vent ^^”
I really hope you’re ok, though!
My dad was yelling at me earlier this week because he thinks that I wake up and just lay in my bed until someone yells at me to get up. I realized that hearing his footsteps going up the stairs and hearing the doorknob be turned wakes me up when multiple alarms going off at the same time doesn't even wake me up. Like, a tree fell on my house, my siblings or uncle wakes me up, and I can sleep soundly until they get to the door, but their footsteps don't wake me as fast as my dad's, I've literally just hopped out of my bed and stood in the middle of the room when he walked in because he gets mad if I'm even sitting down. Anyway, that kinda sucks.
I am slightly concerned that I could relate to so many of these.
Oh and the one where it says if you want to be in control all time and also let other people be in control all the time then you have both mommy and daddy issues, so there's something new :/
Also one person commented on here that they keep a notebook and laptop open just in case their parents walk in, and I do that same thing. It absolutely sucks that so many of us have had to adapt like this to survive in our own households.
Also, here's another one. Every time I'm around anyone and I'm talking for longer than a couple minutes to say something, I start thinking, wow, I'm probably being really annoying and they don't want me around, so then I apologize for being annoying which makes me feel more annoying. I think I know why this exists, but it still sucks. Anyway.
I’m literally the same-
Sadly my laptop doesn’t open rapidly so ye-
I actually got a question, what is daddy and mommy issues?
I may have it but I’m not sure-
@@Synth.xile00 whenever you have issues with your parents, due to various reasons, you may seek validation through other adults or people of the same gender as that parent
@@_50_ducks_ thank you for explaining :0
@@Synth.xile00 i don't get the laptop and notebook thing can u pls explain ?
@@supitsash5226 it to make as if you were doing other things! :3
Like working on your laptop,
Reading a book
Or writing on a notebook maybe important things!
It just make as if you were doing other things when they enter your room :D
4:23 OMG SHES SOOO PRETTY I CANT-
The dog one is so cute and happy I have tears in my eyes he don’t have to be outside anymore
1:18 aw i love that tiktok, i wish my mom would let my dog inside, at least for 10 minutes 😭
You should give up your dog..
@@user-zm2df7ki1j hahaah well he doesnt care he likes being outside anyway, i just feel bad for him when it rains
Poor dog.. you probably should consider talking to your mum on how mean that is-
@@zoe-ci3xv if i told her that was mean i think she would kick both of us out 😭
@@brunettealesoda your mum is toxic-
I like how the sound changes towards the end of the song. That's a remix version, right?
Oop nobody’s replied! There was an original version from like 60s-70s (idk don’t come for me). And then Melanie Martinez made her own version that’s sad. The transition is from the old one, to Melanie’s version. Hope that helped!
@@VictoriaRoseIsNotDeadYet yah I like both versions, I’m only just hearing the Original this year cause I knew about it just never searched it up lol
Yea, it’s mixed with Melanie Martinez’s Pity Party which is kinda based off the original song
it's not a remix it's Melanie's song
@@borabuzal5712 it's not only melanie's song though.
Man, I remember when I told my therapist about how I memorized the footsteps of everyone in my house and told her on how I know the difference, she was, well, shocked and confused on how tf did I do that, dude, i'm 14, I told her I can even tell the emotions sometimes, specialy my moms
Ooooh the same :0
I started to know the footsteps at 11 ans emotions (not clearly) at 12 and at 13 I could clearly tell-
Sorry to bother you with my own life X’)
Do you think I should tell it to my therapist too?
@@Synth.xile00 it's no bother, and yes, you should tell them, cause it's kinda obvious it's not normal and the expresion on their face will be priceless UwU
@@whitereaper4858 thank you XD
I tomorrow got a meeting with my therapist it maybe I could tell them UwU
its normal to memorize peoples footsteps
@@seramica8666 it actually may not be-
There is 2 situations
1. It normal memorization, it jsut by time developing itself so you learned slowly
2. It may actually have been developed by trauma, by fear or anything when someone is close of you door
I personally may have the second situation because of my trauma with my dad as I actually developed this ability to know none footstep after that by fear to know again this situation before :3
Sorry my English is bad-
1:11 that made tear up I'm fucking crying rn😭😭
Everyone: "why are you so quiet?"
Me: "I've wanted to say something for the last hour but I didn't think it would be important"
E: ....
Me: that's normal right?
Same but my anxiety doesn't know if it's the right thing to say the right time or if I'm gonna say it wrong and the Everytime I decide to say something I mix up my words and they don't make sence I'm alwalys quiet
Yeah ..
LIVING for the fact that there is a trend about things that are being normalize😍😍
6:16 whenever i start crying about sumthin, it always feels so minor bc other people have it much worse than me... can definitely relate to this one
3:48 *when you start to think that you like your best friend but you are not so sure and then the universe sends you this:*
I'm fucked up😀
6:34 I cried at this one cause I always thought I had no reason to be depressed cause my childhood was ok.....I guess that's not how it works
1:39 that’s totally normal, you live with him of course you would know how he walks. I can tell which of my siblings are coming up the stairs from my room
It can also be said to be a trauma
Two situations the simplest
Situation 1 is just long time staying and you hear it randomly
Situation 2 is when you remember these steps just to know who’s coming in front of your room to prepare yourself at least
The second situation may be a trauma and as I have it I’m actually alway anxious or scared of when someone coming to my room
I hope my English wasn’t hard to understand sorry ;-;
Also sorry for bothering you I thought it could help you understand why they say it isn’t normal-
@@Synth.xile00 I think I understand more now ty for your response!
@@orangxjuicx3617 no problem I really like helping people X’)
2:44 IM SORRY THEY DID WHAT😀😀😀
IM GLSD SOMEONE SAID IT CAUSE IM SORRY WHAT
@@artistrilysis LIKE WHY- THAT IS CHILD ABUSE I DO NOT CARE WHAT ANYONE HAS TO SAY ABOUT IT
@@blackwidow17 NO QUESTION ABOUT IT
@@Willow._.tree. NFJWJDNWKKS
nothing about this comment but hey black widow queen
8:00 I would wake up in slight temperature and light change or just any small sound 😭😭
Same, if I hear any noise I'm going to wake up and question 'why are up at a time like this? go to sleep' 👁️👄👁️
1:12 that was so sad but im happy to see the doggys in a better home
1:43 i think anyone with an upper floor can recognize their familys footsteps, its kinda obvious
Now this broke my heart 1:12
It reminds of the short film on Disney+ I forgot what it’s called but the dog and the cat were friends and he was left outside and abused and it’s only 6 minutes but I was crying 3 minutes in😕
@@esmegigigenevievesqualor6029 the name is kittybull, my mom almost cried watching it
1:39 I literally memorized my parent's footsteps and the sounds they make like how they closed the door to know if they're going in my room to check if I'm asleep or not 😆
Uh, we’re going to need to talk about that one where she says her parents punished her by putting pepper in her kitty 🐱. And by talk about it, I mean hunt down her parents. Cause WTF.
Oh, and the uncle and the towel one. We need to talk about that one as well. Cause that’s also WTF.
Ikrr like wth are her parents thinking? S3xual abuse at it's finest. Hope she's fine rn.
@ItzMik 7:39
Um... what the fu-
explain the towel one?
3:48 this is me with my current partner. At first I used to feel so bad bc I don't get butterflies around them even though I've had butterflies around people I liked before. Recently I've come to the realization that it's because I feel safe around them and I feel like I can be myself. On the other hand, all the other people before were REALLY manipulative and ab*sive and traumatized me VERY badly. I think it was actually just anxiety in those cases...😀
I have everyone in my family’s footsteps memorized, nothing trauma related i just like knowing who’s coming down before I can see them
some of these people went through some SHIT wtf
4:14
[Me, who often forgets to take a break]: Wait, what?
5:45 oH wElL sUrE lET mE jUsT **reloads childhood trauma**
I fucking love this song
those tiktoks made me have childhood flashbacks...
i hate you, mom...
YASS MELANIE MARTINEZ FINALLY GETS THE RECOGNIZATION SHE DESERVES 😭👀🔥🔥
this isn't melanie 🤨
@@si0bhanriley The “it’s my party part” is melanie
@@si0bhanriley the it’s my party part is
@@si0bhanriley did we watch the same video then? 🤨💀
the og song is leslie gore it’s stolen
2:58 oh my god that’s just arghhh that poor girl 😓
I wanna hug all the people in the video, they deserve so much better..
1:26
i can relate so much to this. i told my bf that when we first started dating and he said those exact words “who told you that” it was my best friend that told me i talk too much and it gets annoying so i don’t talk very much anymore 😕
5:12 just hits a little too close to home 😃
Saaaame
This whole trend is just my false sense of hope I’m actually a “good” person
Your trauma doesn't mean you aren't a "good" person. You're a beautiful, strong person who survived through all of this. It just means you aren't ok, and you need to heal. And that's perfectly alright.
6:19 I thought I was the only one
We stan mel you da vibes
7:23 really made me just…stop…and stare at the ceiling for a min…
same 😰
6:43 well Im more fucked than I thought-
the memorising footsteps one is so accurate 😭
basically at night when I’m supposed to be sleeping I’ll close my door and sit on my laptop at the lowest brightness and when it’s 10pm my parents will come up and I can always tell that the heavier footsteps are my dads, and then he goes downstairs. However, it’s not as easy with my mum because the only give away she’s coming up the stairs is the final creaky stair because she’s so light footed so when my dad goes down I’ll wait about 2 minutes before my mum comes up, or I’ll just play until I hear the creaky floorboard lol
8:06 Haha, funny little thing, I actually wake up to the door being opened at my mom’s because when I had remote school, I’d always fall back asleep and she’d check on me to make sure I was awake, so I’d just listen for that to convince her I was awake the whole time
I love this song, my granny used to sing it to me as a child
1:50 oh yeah this happens to me lol
my dads footstep are slow and loud and my moms are all light and speedy.
Omggg sameee I know my dogs too😭😭
The mom not being able to fall asleep one isn't bad. If my child is still in my care then you bet I'm making sure they get in safe before I go to sleep.
It might be that the mom went through something and is scared her kid might suffer the same thing? That’s what I took it as
Omg, I can relate to the girl at 0:53! I always feel so sacred to say no, because I don’t want her to be upset…
6:20 this is exactly how I feel. That's why I feel so guilty for going to therapy, for coming out, for even thinking about feelings. And 5:18 I've always been told I'm annoying I've seen the stereotypes on the internet that tell me I'm terrible. I've never had true friends and so I've never really had anyone to tell me I'm a good person so I've always thought of myself and not worthy of love of friendship and that no one likes me and that I'm a terrible person who acts like the center of attention and is self-centered, annoying, and stupid but tricks people into thinking I'm smart. Every good thing someone thinks about me isn't true I've just manipulated them into thinking that because I crave attention and think that no one is better then me.
That I'm a burden.
Me: Hi nice to meet you! (Starts Talking about my self) sorry I’m so annoying and selfish for talking about my self…
Person: that’s how a conversation works, you don’t need to be ashamed or hide your feelings or achievements…
Me: oh.
I hope you have a good day/night cause u deserve it! ^^
Okay, but that is a fat mood, oml
Dude I remember being insecure abt my weight bc my parents talked abt how much I ate and I just didn’t have any muscular strength and then being told they I was just tall
It was a real breakthrough for me
8:35 being raised with siblings be like
facts
8:48 this has nothing to do w/ the video but I so love it
In my mind when parents put cameras in their child’s room, it’s like they don’t trust their own parenting to trust what their child is doing 😂
"yeah i dont like getting hugs becuase it makes me feel like someone is trying to manipulate me"
"where did you learn that"
*rethinks whole life*
1:05 that happened with me and my flatmate. He apologised for saying he wasn't in the mood this time and I said the exact thing she said and he seemed like he didn't know how to function/respond after I said that..which is kind of sad
7:33 excuse me???????? That explains so much?????????? I feel called out suddenly wtf??????
2:24 wait i thought that was normal
1:24 OMG I RELATE TO THIS SO MUCH
I used to have people tell me all the time I talk way too much and I’m annoying, so now whenever I meet someone, I always apologize for that before they really get to know me.
I totally have everyone in my family's footsteps memorized and also my parents sleep up stairs so whenever my mom starts coming down the steps in the morning I wake up. Idk why, like I will still be tired.
"Trauma can also be from good things that NEVER happened"
oh.. i- am hurt because.. that means i hve a lot...
The dog one ripped my soul to shreds omg that’ so sad. I feel so bad for the little sweet angel i hope they’re doing okay now and are treated well. 🥰
Okay but the lady in the second video is so pretty. Her eyelashes are majestic
I sang this song on my birthday while sobbing at 11:57 waiting for my bday to pass and then went to bed 😎
What a mood
Also, u good?
@@Mia_Mia1215 lmao goin through a lotta shit rn, and my birthday wasn't quite as fun as I wanted it to be, but singing/screaming lyrics is always helpful /gen
Oh I got one
Me: Can I go to the toilet really quick? I’ll hurry!
The lady I’m babysitting for: of course you don’t have to ask for that duh
Me: …😀
Ik it’s not trauma or anything but sChOoL 🥰😍
"Sorry, i overeact it, its no big deal, others have been in worst situation than me."
"Uhm, bestie, i dont know who told you that but thats wrong."
My friend always have to remind me that its okay to cry whenever i want to and when i need to.
My parents are fine but I've always just memorized their footsteps cause its easy. My older brother is usually mumbling something and stomps, my oldest brother makes noises and has big feet, my dad is heavier and has bigger feet, and my mom is just different from the boys.
2:15 oh boy, I always do this, actually I always hide EVERY SINGLE THING I do from my parents, not cuz I am doing bad stuff, but cuz they would literally yell at me nonstop for just sitting in the sofa less than 5 minutes when they are home, calling me lazy and useless till I go to sleep and even when I'm in bed trying to sleep they scream things to me. I can't even stay still in a place of this house without my mom coming for me and beat me or yell at me, and i'm honestly so sick of everything. If I don't hide something I bought they say i'm being so "egoistic" spending my own money that I work for in a simple bag of chips instead of bringing something to the table for all of us to eat, they do this to me since I'm 14, now I can't relax without feeling guilty and hearing my mom's voice shooting hurtful words