Reacting to Assumptions about us as Parents!
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- čas přidán 18. 11. 2023
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This video was fun to make. You all put some very funny assumptions they made us laugh.
Thanks for watching!
We love you all so much!
DALLIN AND BELLA
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I’m adopted and I definitely think the best advice I can give to parents who adopt is to be open with her but if she ever doesn’t want to talk about her adoption and her feelings towards it, don’t force her to open up. She will when she’s ready ❤️
I agree. Our daughter still hasn't opened the letter her birth mother left her and has never wanted to meet her. We have shared everything we knew and answered all her questions in her teens, but since then she never mentions her adoption. And that is okay.
True, because if there is a good relationship. Some adoptees prefer never to know about their adoption. It's too hurtful to imagine belonging to anyone else.
Our oldest son is adopted. We were honest from the beginning. He is 22 years old and does not have adoption trauma. It’s all how you handle it.
That’s true
Exactly. All 4 of my children are adopted from foster care and we’ve had all from infancy. They all love hearing their adoption stories.
I couldn’t agree more! My girls are 22 and 23 - both adopted, always knew they were adopted and their stories, have met birth family members in Russia, and zero trauma - honesty and openness are key IMHO
I was adopted at 10, I have no adoption trauma. My trauma is from foster care and my case workers from social services which were universally evil people that didn't care if I was safe only that I wasn't burdening their case work.
@@valiasa-di6hrI’m adopted and i would say personally for me i have a lot of abandoned trauma. I’m 50 and have had this my entire life. My adopted parents have always been honest with me so i never knew not being adopted. Adoption abandonment trauma is very real. Thank you for commenting this. ❤️
After our bio children left home, Hubby and I adopted a toddler from China. She’s a young woman now, and has always LOVED the fact that she was adopted (chosen) by us! She DELIGHTS in telling her adoption story to anyone who’s interested. So the good news is, not all adoptees are bothered, or hung up on that fact. 😊
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Our 31 yo daughter is adopted and at 3 years-old she would tell you "I'm special 'cause I'm dopted" We talked with her being adopted from day 1. I love watching you and your journey with Story. Good bless you three!❤
Fellow adoptive mama here. You're doing an amazing job with Story and her birth mama. Adoption is ALWAYS born out of loss. You realize that, and are educating yourselves on adoption related traumas, and thats awesome of you. We are still learning about different traumas with our kiddos as they go through different ages and stages. Its not always easy but its so worth it! Love you guys!
How can anyone ask if Dalin didn't want to be a dad. He is an amazing dad and you can see how much her worships story and Bella. You seem amazing parents and story is one happy girl which confirms it ❤❤❤❤
We foster adopted our two kids. They are siblings. We have been open and honest with them since the beginning. They don't have issues with it. They are actually are proud of their story. I believe it's how you handle the situation.
❤ my 13 yr old is adopted. We took the approach of it being something to celebrate and how we got to choose to be her parents. Thank you for being so open with your journey to become parents and as parents. Happy Thanksgiving!!
I'm studying to be a preschool teacher and I tell you that baby talk is actually incredibly important for babies, they develop lenguaje much easier if parents talk to them in that sweet tone.❤
Lenguaje lol
Exactly baby ease is universe ❤
Some of these assumptions are just weird, but I'm really glad you guys addressed adoption trauma! At first I was a little jealous of how "easy" your parenting journey has seemed but I realized you had more than a difficult journey to getting there and even if it's easier than some you deserve it and I truly think you guys are so appreciative of Story and all that she brings. It's great, and I tried to brush that chip off my shoulder😅
I am adopted. My birth story is a crazzzyyyy one! The world is beyond blessed that you both exist and are able to provide such a beautiful life and so much love for a child! Everything happens for a reason. Bless you both! ❤❤
I really want to hear your story
@@arafaislam164 it's a novel, really. I could write a book. Lol.
@@lindahodgkinson5281maybe you should 🤗 I’d love to hear it too.
You guys to me seem to be the best, caring, loving parent that Story could have! Things happen for a reason and Story was meant for the two of you❤ I would love to watch more long videos from you ❤
We owned a restaurant and we made sure that the men’s room had a diaper changing area. It was so appreciated by dads.
Oh WOW! Some of those questions were SO harsh! I am wondering if they are from people who don't watch the channel or are scammers! I have only been watching you for almost a year but the energy you put into having a baby and being real on here was what kept me around! Story is beautiful, loved so much, and all the haters can leave! Love you guys!
Bellas voice is beautiful! I love The della family, You guys are such an inspo. ❤
Im flabbergasted at some of the questions that people ask! No-one is a perfect parent 100% of the time and you learn something new every day! Story is a dear little girl being raised by 2 parents who obviously love her to bits and has an extended family of loving, pro-social human beings who are not afraid to share their emotions! These experienced parents will help you guys throughout your parenting journey to be the best Mum and Dad you can be. I wouldn't worry a jot about what other people think because only your relationships with Story and to a smaller extent, at least for now, the relationship she has with her birth mother, will define the adult she turns out to be! I had 5 kids who are now aged between 31 and 41 and I'm a Grandma now, but my only living grandchild is 18, and I miss all the grandchildren who I never got to meet. I would have loved to have had a granddaughter to do girly things with, but I don't and babies are SUCH a joy when they are well loved as Story is. Sometimes I'll watch Tik Toks of happy babies chuckling away, and somehow I found you 3, and I am enjoying watching how Story changes with every new video. Don't sweat the small stuff and keep doing what you're doing. You have a wonderful little family and enjoy every moment! From country NSW Australia.
I’m with you 👌🏻🙌🏻🙏🏻
I agree! Some of the comments are so ridiculous! These two are amazing parents ❤
Wishing you all the very best , as Story is such a blessing and she’s very loved by you both. She’s a beautiful contented baby, who has everything she’ll ever need. Most of all the love you all have for each other. Sending fond wishes from Scotland
I am an adoptee, and a most enlightening book to read for adoptees and parents is The Primal Wound by Nancy Newton Verrier. Story is gorgeous.
Fellow adoptive mom here. You guys are great. Although parenting is never easy, when your road to parenting is long or hard, you do tend to enjoy the harder times because you realize they are still a blessing you could have missed. Our daughter is now 8, she's known every day that she's adopted. She has rough moments where she misses her bmom, even though we've had her since birth. Every child deals with this separation in their own way. Recently, she was upset because she's the only one in her class that's adopted. You deal with the questions and feelings the best way you can and with as much honesty as they can handle as they grow. Our girl now knows all the reasons for her adoption and why her bmom chose us, but there are days we still get asked those questions.
You keep doing what you're doing. Those who haven't gone through the process will never understand the training and classes you went through to help your child along her path to cope and understand her story. Per other comments, those of us who have gone through the process think you guys are doing great.
Congratulations! Enjoy your child and parenthood. Some days will be easier than others, but they all will be blessings.
Bella has such a beautiful singing voice ! So strong & pleasant to the ear! Keep singing to your daughter…🎶
You two are very transparent, which is good. Some of the silly things people assume are funny and ridiculous. I live in Sun City, so I can totally relate to the weather change we're having right now. You guys are doing a good job, keep going. 😊
You are great parents! Keep learning and growing, just when you figure it out, you are learning something else💝
Guys, I had to just pause your video to tell you from someone who is adopted and is now 63 years old, I suffered absolutely No Trauma Whatsoever during my childhood and into my adulthood, I had the Best Parents Ever, Just Like Your Little Story Belle….now back to the assumptions, which I think some of them are ridiculous, I read the comments when you post and I get so annoyed with some comments that people just assume and have no right to even make those assumptions, I always comment back to those people as an adopted adult That Had A Great Childhood…🇦🇺🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻…people who comment are only seeing a snippet of your Life, which gives them No Right To Comment…. I Am So Happy You Put That Out There For All The Trolls To Hear…..💕💕
The joy and love that the 3 of you radiate is contagious. Enjoy every moment of your little one. They grow up so fast.
❤ Thank you for being so kewl and answering these questions. You didn't even have to!!!
I also romanticize parenthood and that works for me. Others need to vent or focus on the hard stuff and that works for them. 🤷🏼♀️ either way that works for you is the right way.
I agree I completely romanticized it and have for 23 years and I've had some pretty wild curves throwing my way My oldest is autistic and severely intellectually disabled. Not things you plan. But I truly tried to enjoy every minute and I'm glad I have two that moved into college dorms this year and it feels like someone's like taking part of your heart and chucking it. But I can say that I don't look back and feel like I didn't take advantage of every minute that I could. Also college is expensive not just the college itself but their whole life while they're in college is expensive.
Four of our seven kiddos are adopted. All are ours born of heart and body. No secrets and I am grateful for every blessing ❤
In Norway there are usually no changing tables in any bathroom, but many times there is its own room where you can change or give food. Very often the handicap room has a baby diaper changing pad as well.
Yall are so cute, I’m checking in on you as I haven’t seen your vlogs since you brought story home and she is just perfect ❤such a beautiful baby!! I hope that yall adopt another lucky baby soon ❤
Love you both- some people are super judgy but I love you sharing your lives with us
Wow, people do make some crazy assumptions. Loving watching Story grow. ❤❤❤
Every assumption is not how I see you two, ever. You 3 are fun, sweet & inspiring. I homeschooled & wish I had done it for more years. I highly recommend! Cheers 🇨🇦
I love adoption! It’s such a beautiful thing and story is more then lucky to have parents like you!❤
Your being a positive parent Thank you so much for showing us positive snipits❤ of you day and happy smiles of that precious little lady.
Im adopted and i am 19 i knew i was adopted my whole life i dont remember when i was told I feel like I just always knew I was adopted at two and i dont feel like i have any sort of adoption trauma or abandonment issues ive always seen my parents as just my Parents they may be curious but just know every situation is different i love yall and u guys are amazing
Thanks you both but some of these questions were crazy as looking forward to your next video. 💜💜💜
You both are amazing parents! ❤
you guys are so lucky!! in my culture, if someone adopts a baby it means they’ll be blessed! who knows, Bella might be able to bring a new blessing to the fam! 🤍🤍
The comment assuming you guys 'glorify' or romanticize parenthood is so annoying and obviously came from someone outside the infertility community (typical). Of course you romanticize it, look what you went through to get here! I honestly feel children of parents who suffered inferility are so lucky, they get a version of parents that are just so grateful to be parents. You guys are awesome
Your family is absolutely adorable❣️🤗
Love watching u guys
I love to hear baby noises in your home 🎉 ❤❤❤ Story seems to be having a 🎉in the background lol sounds adorable 🥰
The comment/assumption about romanticizing parenthood is unfair - you had to work so hard for little Story, it gives you a deep appreciation for even the tougher moments. I struggled to conceive and I genuinely think it’s made me a better parent because I am so appreciative of my little one and always stop to remember this blessing. You are also SUCH positive people, so of course you’re going to make it look amazing - you are amazing people!!! I’m so so happy for you both ❤❤❤
I was adopted and have had no trauma. My adoptive parents helped me understand that they chose me. I could share with whomever I wanted to or not. It was neat when I met other friends who were adopted too. And over the last 12 years or so I’ve been in touch with my birth mom. All has been positive!! Love her to the moon and back and I’m sure all will go well. xo
I love ya all! Story is SUPER cute 🥰
I wish that you were my parents!
A really cool thing about Story being adopted is you have video of how happy you were to have her. And how much you love her and what she means to you and your life.
I think you both are AMAZING PARENTS ! DON'T LISTEN TO JEALOUS PEOPLE. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
You two are amazing!! Keep up the great parenting! God bless you 😊
If you ever fly through Kansas City, their new airport has a gender neutral bathroom (really nice stalls with doors and sides all the way to the floor and shared sinks) and I saw a couple changing a baby TOGETHER and I'm obsessed with the idea now.
Please give story a gotcha day party each year! This will show her how special she is!
Please don’t do this. She’s not a dog.
I’m a first time mommy and my Bebe is 3 months old! Hearing Story in the background makes miss my baby West soo much. He’s asleep for the night 💤 It’s hard when they’re sleeping and you just want to snuggle them! 😂
As someone who is adopted by my moms husband, and who I call dad, I can genuinely look back on my life and acknowledge that it was better because my dad adopted me. My life would have taken a completely different route and been awful because of who my biological dad is. Adoption can be a HUGE blessing. I don’t know story’s circumstances but you guys are obviously phenomenal parents and love her, and truly that is a blessing in and of itself. You guys are doing incredible💗
Hi Dallin, Bella and Story, you are both such amazing parents to Story ❤
Just love love love your video's. Wishing you the best to you and the entire family.
Enjoy each moment as it should be enjoyed! Seems like you are nailing it!
It is amazing what some peoples assumptions are. You have both said many times Story will know she is adopted. Keep on been the best parents you can be. Blessings to you all.
I never had to adopt, but I just think that when you start talking to Stella, we adopted you sweetheart because we truly deeply loved you and wanted you and tell her the same story of her mother how much she wanted a better life for her baby because it’s all just positive reinforcement for her, and you guys you take a lot of flak from people I think you’re the sweetest couple ever and I think you’re the best parents ever keep it up guys ❤
You guys sre amazing and doing amazing as parents!!!!🎉❤
I think you’re “energetic relaxed” because of your energy I see while watching your videos.
Love you guys ❤️ What a beautiful mommy and daddy 😘. Your GREAT parents 🧸🌸🦄🌼 God bless 🙏 your little family. Much love from Debra in Maine 😻😊
loved the video guys! I am homeschooled since i was 3 and now i'm 12 and I love homeschool! I think if you homeschool Story she will love it! BTW Story is so beautiful and so cute! Love you guys! God bless your family
Two of my children are adopted. It was the most amazing and difficult thing any of us had been through, but what an amazing blessing. Now our little boy is married with two little girls of his own and happy and successful. Our daughter is a happy, healthy, busy grad student. People tend to be judgemental when it comes to parenting, moreso when your children are adopted. Follow your instincts, enjoy your little girl. Don't let anyone steal that happiness from you. She is clearly dripping in love from the two of you every moment. That's what's most important. You seen like a wonderful family
I was adopted as a baby like Story. If you ever have any questions and want to know how I feel from my perspective, I’d love to talk! Love you and your family
That would be really cool to see them sit down and chat with adoptees
The nighttime rule is one my husband and I have too! Just disregard everything said in the nighttime, you become a different person lol. You guys are doing amazing 😊❤️
I just love your little family!!
Her little baby coos are sooo adorable ❤
My youngest son is adopted and has always known. He’s biologically my great nephew and I’ve had him since he was 18 months old! ❤ He does have issues sometimes but I am here to help him navigate through it!! And I do have all my 5 sons baby teeth saved 😬
Della vlogs. I’m pretty sure if all the biological parents think and act like you all the children in the world will have to be happier and safer. People like you are the parents the children deserve. God bless you both of you with your beautiful baby Story Belle.
Romanticising parenthood 😂😂😂I had wonderful babies and that was my experience with all 3 of my sons it’s probably because my first son had to be resuscitated at birth so I was privileged to be a mother second son is a rainbow baby so I embraced every last moment and loved even the hard bits & my last son was a twin and we lost our daughter but to have the privilege of leaving the hospital with just one baby and to go home with him was nothing short of a miracle could’ve wallowed but that would’ve gained me nothing I would’ve missed all the special magical moments it actually gave other women around me a well when they had babies they would call screaming why did you make this look beautiful and easy because for me it was I took every negative and made a positive ❤
I had an adopted brother that came from a not good situation. You are doing exactly what you need to for Story.
You are wonderful parents. My son is 40 and also adopted. We have a close bond.
I love how you never talk over one another. I can actually hear both of you ❤❤
Love this for you guys. So Happy cried and laughed with you from the beginning. You guys Are really so cool and chilled and I hope the Very best for you. Hope God Bless you for years and Years forward ❤️
I assume this is awesome watching you guys parent! Killing it ❤
U guys are wonderful as parents u always learning
😂😂 this was my favorite video
I believe story picked you both to be her forever parents ❤ you both complete her story .
I am adopted. I have known all my life, and I’m 52. I’ve never wanted to know my biological family. I feel so blessed that my parents chose to be my parents… I actually met my biological aunt this year. God bless her, but I doubt I’ll ever speak to her again. I have no adoption trauma. Just feel blessed and loved by my parents.
You can be a friend and a parent at the same time, I have actually found that it requires less discipline and is easier because your not always mean and grumpy, you enjoy being with your kids and they like being with you and if they are out of line they realize it hurts and affects both of you so it happens much less ( I have a young kid and teenager)
You are an amazing honest couple.
First love you guys I have followed u for years now
you both are the cutest parents and no one should ever just make up any assumptions about you and thats one thing i never do because carma always comes back and its not so fun either you both seem to know what your doing and are doing so well and thats all that really matters, i am so sorry for all the negative talk you both get but thats how life is sadly but god bless you all
Wowww these assumptions are so ridiculously funny 😂😂😂
Last answer was the BEST 😊
I think you two are amazing parents and I'm overjoyed for you that you have such a beautiful little bundle of joy that you've been longing for, for so long ❤
Parenthood is the best 🥹 I feel the same way Bella!!!!
I LOVE YALL!
Would love to see a "Pack with Me" on you next travel guys, specially with a baby 😍 Would really be helpful for someone like me who overpacks 😁
Im happy for y’all
Ily guys
I love you guys ❤️
I love you guys and I absolutely love AG1, so I’m so happy that they are sponsoring this. It is so good.
I love watching y’all’s vids ❤
The most important thing Story will know about her adoption is that she is the love of her mommy and daddy's heart. How could she not? It's there for the world to see.
Assumptions and questions aside (I actually started following only just before your adoption story when CZcams recommended ), it’s been beautiful watching your family story. I have no real input to contribute, I just wanted to send you the biggest love from london 🇬🇧
Side note.. Bella is an all out extravagant Christmas girl.. full stop. Story joining in at this stage is a mumma sharing that joy with her girl 🎄
My husbands birthday is november 8th❤. I would enjoy every minute of Story they grow up fast. I loved 1 to 4 years. My little girl is 14 now and time flew by fast so enjoy it.
I luv ❤❤❤❤❤ u guys and Story is amazing ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I romanticize my mother hood I love every single moment gm even the hard ones and I am the same way so I can relate a lot to this being just so happy to finally have a baby. Story is one lucky baby beautiful family ❤
love you guys thank you for being a light in this world that is so often dark!
I love how you guys are parenting in out camera 🎥 ❤🥰🥰🫀🎉🎉
I am happy for yal. Enjoy having your daughter in your life. Don't worry about what anyone else says they are in my opinion jealous .