5 Habits Keeping you STUCK & 5 Ways to Get UNSTUCK | Shadé Zahrai
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- If you're feeling stuck there are a number of habits that you might be unintentionally doing. In this video I share 5 common habits that hold you back and 5 practical ways to get unstuck.
Enjoy!
TIMESTAMPS:
5 Habits Keeping you STUCK:
00:00 - Are you Stuck?
00:23 - 1. Infomania due to FOMO. Can't focus on tasks. Busy all the time, yet no progress.
01:38 - 2. The Knowing-doing trap.
02:44 - 3. Achievement addict. Productivity guilt. Always short of time. Self criticism. Burnout.
03:43 - 4. Multitask. Keep switching tasks to avoid the pain of boredom. Linked to FOMO.
04:36 - 5. Attachment to phone.
5 Ways to Get UNSTUCK
06:23 - 1. Stop & resist the urge.
06:50 - 2. Identify just one thing to put into practice.
07:15 - 3. Carve out mindful leisure time.
07:45 - 4. Recondition yourself to be comfortable being alone with yourself & your thoughts.
09:00 - 5. Put your phone out of sight.
RESEARCH:
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1. Przybylski, Andrew K.; Murayama, Kou; Dehaan, Cody R.; Gladwell, Valerie (July 2013). "Motivational, emotional, and behavioral correlates of fear of missing out". Computers in Human Behavior. 29 (4): 1841-1848. doi:10.1016/j.chb.2013.02.014.
www.sciencedirect.com/science...
Read more: www.newscientist.com/article/...
2. Przybylski, Andrew K.; Murayama, Kou; Dehaan, Cody R.; Gladwell, Valerie (July 2013). "Motivational, emotional, and behavioral correlates of fear of missing out". Computers in Human Behavior. 29 (4): 1841-1848. doi:10.1016/j.chb.2013.02.014.
3. Ward, A. F., Duke, K., Gneezy, A., & Bos, M. W. (2017). Brain drain: The mere presence of one’s own smartphone reduces available cognitive capacity. Journal of the Association for Consumer Research, 2(2), 140-154
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Here's the research - enjoy! 😀
1. Przybylski, Andrew K.; Murayama, Kou; Dehaan, Cody R.; Gladwell, Valerie (July 2013). "Motivational, emotional, and behavioral correlates of fear of missing out". Computers in Human Behavior. 29 (4): 1841-1848. doi:10.1016/j.chb.2013.02.014.
www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0747563213000800
Read more: www.newscientist.com/article/dn7298-info-mania-dents-iq-more-than-marijuana/#ixzz75YifgL00
2. Przybylski, Andrew K.; Murayama, Kou; Dehaan, Cody R.; Gladwell, Valerie (July 2013). "Motivational, emotional, and behavioral correlates of fear of missing out". Computers in Human Behavior. 29 (4): 1841-1848. doi:10.1016/j.chb.2013.02.014.
3. Ward, A. F., Duke, K., Gneezy, A., & Bos, M. W. (2017). Brain drain: The mere presence of one’s own smartphone reduces available cognitive capacity. Journal of the Association for Consumer Research, 2(2), 140-154
Very helpful for research scientists, Thank you!
Can you make a content on sleep and nap it's necessity and it's drawbacks or limit of time we need to spend or nap can outdo sleep.Duration of nap or sleep for better productivity.
R u Single ?
Thanks for including the research!
Thank you Shade ❤❤😊😊
5 reasons you're feeling stuck
1- information overload
2- knowing doing gap
3- Achievement addict
4- endlessly multitask
5- attachment to your phone
Nice
I suffer from 1 and 5 am zero in point 4 and nominal in point 3.
Thank you for that. You are wonderful 👍👍
Saved me 11 mins of jibber Jabber
thank so much
"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit."
-Aristotle
Wise words
Perfect!
If anyone would like to learn more about habits, I would like to recommend ‘Atomic Habits’ by James Clear and The Power of Habit by ‘Charles Duhigg’. Great reads! 📖📚
Action changes, some habits cant, obsessive com. Thisordered happening nowadays with some peoples. 😢😮
You are a very nice and decent lady, your parents are lucky because they have a daughter like you 🙂
Too much
You even know who she is !!! Do you believe in all that you see on the internet ??? 🤦🤦🤦
It is constructive and purposeful
Very decent lady, know her limits 👏 👍 sometimes go high out of limits, starting was decent when get involved familiar it come on with worrying 🙄, f"hurting )format(. Nice to meet you again 😊. No time to stuck, celebrate, to depressed many years gone. Your video sticking me in to comment. 😮missing 😢 . Not that too much,ok 😕. Mind your own business on this platf.
God knows who is lucky life partner also 💗 have a ladylike her
I’ve figured out recently that main reason why i am stuck in something is because i am extremely addicted to my emotions. If something goes wrong it can ruin my day at all! I know i am not alone in this problem, but i envy (kindly) people who are less sensitive and have more stamina
Great list. 🙌🏼 Extremely relatable and things not a lot of people talk about. I totally identified with first 3 points, seeking more information, not taking action, and feeling guilty when I don’t take action. Solutions are exercise,meditation and spending time in nature.
Very true..
Good solutions
Well said
Really well said regarding the solutions
Wow! I felt creeped out, as if you observed my thoughts. These habits are too relatable, and they are holding me back.
Here is the summary for viewers:
5 Habits Keeping you STUCK:
1. 0:33 Infomania due to FOMO. Can't focus on tasks. Busy all the time, yet no progress.
2. 1:39 Knowing-doing trap.
3. 2:45 Achievement addict. Productivity guilt. Always short of time. Self criticism. Burnout.
4. 3:44 Multitask. Keep switching tasks to avoid the pain of boredom. Linked to FOMO.
5. 4:37 Attachment to phone.
5 Ways to Get UNSTUCK
1. 6:23 Stop & resist. Just for 5 min initially.
2. 6:50 To deal with Knowing-doing trap, go to the last video/podcast/article/book you consumed and identify just one thing you will put into practice.
3. 7:15 For achievement addiction, carve out some mindful leisure time. Stop comparing career achievements with others.
4. 7:45 For Multitaskers, recondition yourself to be comfortable being alone with yourself and your thoughts. When agitated or bored while doing something, resist the urge to switch. Note down what you are experiencing.
5. 9:00 Put away the phone out of sight.
Here I did point 2.
Thanks a ton Shade!
1,3, 4 is definitely me. These last two years I've added so many tasks and stress on me. Mainly because my job isn't making money how it used too and I'm looking for different outlets. I even went to school to become a licensed esthetician my dream career. no luck in that either yet and it's been 2 years. Now I'm opting into Drop shipping. (started last month) I'm not consistent on my CZcams channel either. I have two off days and I toggle between multiple tasks. One of those days is for catching up on sleep and deep cleaning. I was burnt out last year for sure and felt like I had 0 progress and was stuck.
I feel stuck when I want to take action on my English studies, I don’t try to talk with other to gain confidence in talking English, I consume thousands and thousand of videos and podcasts to gain better understand. I will try to follow the advices that you done to help me in my journey, and gain confidence talking in English.
I came across your channel recently and I couldn't help but binge on your insights and perspectives. This truly helped me, not only on a daily basis but it made me more conscious about my self-concept, developing an astute judgment. I am downright awed by how you put things charmingly and intelligently. I am more than glad as you integrate research-based facets to share and extend your genuine knack for unconditional support to people, like me. Do what you do!
Except for achievement addiction (Which I believe got over quite a while ago) I felt almost all of these as relatable. And I've been trying to get rid of them, by reducing screen time on my phone. I believe it's helping me greatly. Also, I believe starting to work one by one will hopefully help me a ton!
Oh God! So far I searched, researched that why am like this And I started feeling that Am I Ok or Abnormal?! Since I haven't found in what state am I Experiencing and How to Recover/overcome from here!! I completely lost out of the World! With No Clue! For Years Finnally I found the Answer Here!! 🥺❤️🥺
I am an infomania. While studying even I get temptation to google any thought which pops in my head.
I do analyse at times but procastinate implementing it
I get so bored easily and lose my focus
I endlessly waste time on youtube for no reason at all
solution:
I shall resist for unnecessary researches nd write down the others.
I shall not use youtube during study time henceforth
I shall resist my temptation shift my work
I shall focus better in the work I am doing
I shall keep my phone out of sight
Shade, this was definitely an eye opener for me, thank you so very much for this video! I can relate to all 5 of these habits and this video really helped to put all of these issues into a new perspective. Thank you again Shade, keep up the great work!!!!!
Shadé this was Absolutely amazing and The one I resonated the most was Info Mania because I love learning and evolving but I do take action and implement!
The point when you said when we feel guilty when not doing anything that hit my soul to the core. I been really trying to just be and not feel guilty for not creating not doing and just being!
This is definitely one of the most impactful videos I’ve watched in a truly long time so I am committed to taking one action and spending time on that one action until I move on to the next!
I Love You My Amazing Teacher you’re awesome! Lots of Divine Love and Light from The SuperHero Of Love! 💖💎
1. Procrastination: Delaying tasks can hinder progress and keep you stuck in a cycle of unfulfilled goals.
2. Negative self-talk: Constantly criticizing yourself may limit your confidence and prevent personal growth.
3. Fear of failure: Avoiding challenges due to a fear of failure can impede your ability to learn and achieve success.
4. Lack of goal-setting: Without clear goals, it's challenging to make meaningful progress and break out of stagnation.
5. Resistance to change: Being unwilling to adapt or try new things can hinder personal and professional development.
I turned off wifi for 2 days to avoid information searching. I will try to put into practice my existing skills. Stopping to compare myself to others and their achievements. Stopping to check my phone every 5 minutes and practising mindfulness. Lots of love ❤. You are a graceful and loveable person.
I'm an infomaniac. I feel like I constantly have to consume information and I don't know enough to take action. I multitask between different projects. I then feel guilty because I don't feel like I have enough time to do things or to do what I had in mind. Thanks to your videos and program. I have been able to catch myself doing these things that I have been doing my whole entire life. Thanks for the tip. I will start timing myself on a task before I start a new one.
The book you should definitely read is “one thing “.
it helped me to get myself out of multitask zone.
@@asithagamage3835 thanks, I will definitely look into it.
Thank you Shadé for this video it really helps I really believe that we as a society are addicted to stress and technology as we know it today.
Shadé is one of the most articulate people I have ever heard speak.
I am a recovering workaholic.......i can assure you it wasn't healthy......work cant give you value, work can keep you distracted.....you are valuable whether you are working or not....❤
Every point is so accurate could connect to each one of them. Thank You for making this video :)
I felt like you are exactly talking to me...I have been a self critical person for a long time, slowly trying to be more self- compassionate but realised many things after watching this video.
Thank you 😊
I do mindful leisure most often.
1 - information overload is good - we just need to make sure it is useful information which will help you in career instead of any trending gossip information
2 - knowing doing gap should be as less as possible.1% inspiration and 99% perspiration
3 - Achivement addiction is good.
4 - Multi task is good if task you are doing things which requires less attention. But when you sit to do something important then don't multi task and focus on birds eye.
5 - uninstall anything from your phone which becomes addictive and waste your time.
This is an excellent video on this subject. I can totally relate to all these points and I am stuck on these. Thank you Shadé!
Shadé thank you for this video and the timing of the content. This is probably why many people nowadays are also diagnosed with ADD/ADHD. I have also been "stuck" as I pursue a DNP degree, and now I know why! I plan to implement your suggestions!
This is an excellent video as I’m going through a rough patch right now and literally feel stuck and can really relate to most of the five points mentioned by you Shadé. Great way to approach and tackle the situation from a positive point of view and gives me a sliver of hope again on getting my life back together. Thank you for the lovely content Shadé!
I totally agree with you, my friend. I love her all videos 👍👍❤❤
All the points you mentioned here surprisingly matched with what I was doing in this days and feeling that I'm a super googler and researcher! Now I see that I'm suffering from infomania!! Thank you for acknowledging me about myself.
Wow! I just watched this video, and I felt so identified with no only one of this habits but with all of them. Lately I’ve been experiencing a lot of the feeling of being busy, tired and frustrated because I do a lot but I do nothing and I don’t see any progress in any of my projects, watching this video just opened my eyes.
Thank you! I hope I can correct these bad habits soon.
Hi Shadé Zahrai, Awesome tricks!!! Thank you so much for boosting and recharging our brain and emotions, making us stronger and happier...
Seems as if you are describing my everyday life. Thank you so much for making me aware of those and helping me to question myself. Just subscribed to your channel recently and did not regret it at all.
Welcome to the channel and hope that it's of value to you in some way. 🙏🏽
Shadé, this was very helpful! Thank you so much. I relate to the infomania and phone addiction.
For us Christians, the phone prevents us, distracts us, takes us away from the joy of praying throughout the day
Just the video I needed to kick start my weekend! You have compiled the FOMO list in a very useful learning package. Thanks, heaps!
I'm definitely an infomaniac, and the knowing-and-doing trap resonates with me as well. Watching this video proves it. At least most times I take notes and attempt to do whatever the video or article says I should do, but inconsistent... and I tend to beat myself up way too much. I tried to learn self discipline, failed. Without that skill my life is literally stagnant, I could stay in my the entire day without doing anything, on youtube, daydreaming, later talking with friends. One thing at least I don't end up depressed. The latest technique I want to implement is to surround myself with people that are self disciplined(you are the average of the 5 people you spend most of your time with).
3x of your symptoms..I am doomed ..i gotta work onn my redemption
OMG,, These past days I've been having this kinda feeling & suddenly your video came out. It helped a lot. Thank you so much !!
I'm so glad!
Thank you so much shade 🙏❤❤❤
these points are so relatable and accurate
I relate to multi-tasking habit where i constantly switch between tasks, the feeling of bored and checking my mobile constantly.
Thank you for sharing ways to unstuck. 👍
Multi-tasking is the one that I can pick up from the list. I have this bad habit that I literally plan to do multiple tasks in one day and when I can't handle them it makes me feel nervous and my whole day is not going well. So I want to commit to myself to not do it again cause I know that this is making my day worst why should I continue doing it regularly every day.
I Watched one of your video " 3 habits which kill your confidence" and my daughter was sitting and eating her dinner. I said to my daughter, look she is describing me. And now this video describe the things which I have. I always want to achieve more and more and that is why can't hold to something even a job. When I start something new I love it and put my whole attention and work towards it. And once I learned then I want to move to something new. And if I don't start something new then that thing will look to me routine and then that will start boring and stressing me. That is why I call myself a" hopper" my wife always tell me " rolling stone never gather moss"
That's so me man! I watched that same video and found completely relevant like this video!
This is the exact reason why I love consuming her content.. they're sooo relevant, epiphanic and illuminate obscured insidious problems and struggles that no one actually talks about ❤️
Hi Shadé. I recently came across another video from you (about the "5 deceivers" of the mind) and started to enjoy your posts. The first reason you presented really hit me. It is interesting that I always had this need for knowledge and I'm also feeling stagnated. It was just a little bit confusing to me. One good example in my daily work is when I attend some meetings in English (you may have already noticed I'm not a native speaker... lol). Someone uses a different word or an expression and I always take note and search for it later. It normally doesn't affect my understanding during the discussion, but I do want to learn it. It looks like it improves my English with time, and apparently it is benefitial for me, but now I'm uncertain if this is really affecting my focus and my progression, as you exposed in your speech. Can you articulate a lit bit more about this? I'm on a deep search for the reasons I'm feeling stagnated and this was really ground breaking for me. Thanks!
Now I realized that I have all that 5 habits what you mentioned in this video. Maybe because of that I'm stuck. I'm going to try and implement your thoughts here after. I believe that could help me to grow in my professional life. Thanks Shade for the eye opening video. You made me to realize myself.
same here man , don't know I am feeling low all the time
This video offered so much more than what I initially excepted. Thank you for this!
Thanks Shadé, another helpful video, only the purest souls who helps others.
You didnt have to call me out like that Shadé..😩. ( we spoke about this privately)…
This video was made for me, literally
I am all 5.! If i could book a session with you, it will contribute to my transformation🙏🏾☺️.
Your channel is super helpful. Began my journey, deleting all my social media apps
Thanks for this insightful episode ❤️.
Actually, I've been dealing with "Achievement Addiction" for more than five years now. And yes, it exhausts me sometimes. But I'm okay with that cuz I consciously choose to be this way. It's such a wonderful thing to be able to push yourself to achieve more in your life after all, isn't it? 🤷🏻♂️
It's Amazing Shade, the way you explain & make an unknown audience known to you & the learnings. I can relate with the things I stuck up. Thanks for highlighting the same. You are amazing.
This was amazing! Loved it, thank you so much xxxx
@Shadezahrai Thanks for sharing this informative video with an incredible explanation as usual 👏 I adore your way of presenting ideas 💡 May God Bless You with an Abundance of Happiness and Success in your life 🤲
Thank you so much! I'm happy that these videos are of some value to you. God bless you too!
Same situation happening with me since I leaved my job... It's very difficult to get out from this situation. Thank you for making this video this video is eye opener for me. Life changing... 💯👍
You are so welcome
@@ShadeZahrai It means a lot to me . Thank you so much. Thank you for replying, helping and guiding to right path.... 👍💯💯👍
I love all your videos. Your ability to transmit your message, knowledge and experience is amazing, so clear and understandable. Thank you 🙏❤️
Thank you Shade, this is invaluable information! So glad I watched it! You're amazing at how you convey it all. Keep it up ❤
I totally disagree with you Ms.Zahrai.
Why did you disagree with her. It sounded right to me.
100% relatable and helped,
Thank you so much Shade ❤
Really helpful & on point. Tysm
Thanks you raised a few point that really helped
Rightly said. Need to implement it...
This clip is worth a lot of money, great depiction of the issues with an actionable way to get "Unstuck".
Thanks Zahrai !
This was amazing. Thank you so much for your insights! 🙏🏽💯
thank you. straight to the heart.
🥰
Thank you.. So grateful
The knowing doing gab is something what I strongly relate to myself. I am grateful for coming across this video and the channel. Thanks a lot 😊
Thank you very much
This rate of information is insane.
Such a fluent and accurate speaker!
This was beyond relatable for me!! All of them! Thank u!
I love the way you say every words with so much energy and passion which gives it a special attention and feeling to hear and listen to you.
I have not seen any person like you yet so enthusiastic and real. Thanks
Awesome content. I resonate with Infomania. Thank you for this.
Oh God! I gess I have a shade of all the five! Thank you Shadé for the tips.
Thank you very much Ms Zahrai for such enlightenment. You have put together complex issues and framed up the essence of them into key-points we can grasp and use. Thank you very much indeed!
This is one of your finest video Shade. Thank you so much
Thanks Shadé! Really appreciate your content. They are concise and bite size, and love your delivery.
Most important learning is that we need to put ourselves away from consuming too much information .Everything you told in this video is true.
I can relate to all of these. Thankful for this video help bring awareness. I would say knowing doing trap (endless consumption) is my current pitfall. I love the tip about picking one thing to start ACTUALLY implementing into action. It’s too simple not to do. Thank you for this video!
So helpful and just in time! Thanks!
Its crazy how relevant this seems for me atm. Thnx.
An eye opener for sure. Thanks!
This is so relatable, thank you!
Thank you very much for this, you the best! ❤🎉
Just perfect.....and what I need .....thanks a lot❤
I've been feeling very down for sometime now. I knew it was just me. But didn't know what to do about it.
Thank you for not just providing the problems, but what I could do about the problems. (Knowing the problem could help, but it's reassuring to hear the solutions)
You are amazing! I have been struggling with all 5. Everything you said resonated with me 💯. Thank you!!
# 2 has been my Achilles heel all my adult life… it’s said that knowing is half the battle so thank you 🙏🏽 ❤
Thank you so much I was stuck about all these ..
LOVE YOUR ACCENT AND EXPRESSIONS ❤
These are meaningful tips. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing love
I am so lucky that have such a sympathetic teacher
Thanks, all five applies to me and had noted myself was looking for ways to overcome it. Thanks for this nice video
OMG OMG OMG
I am showing this to my students to teach them English proficiency in India.
👌👌
The most accurate and relatable video I’ve watched so far. Everything was well-explained ❤
Absolutely!!! All apply : ) features if missing out is a huge one, especially with the latest national news a seemingly "crisis" level topics. One thing, besides all your great recommendations, is to meditate, doesn't have to be more than 5-10 minutes. Love your channel, really informative and delightful
Thank you for this insightful video! I will watch it again in the future if I ever get stuck or run into a problem. Much respect 🧡
Powerful video thank you. Nailed every point, so many of us suffer from every mention there. Appreciate the solutions to deal with these aswell. What I'm seeing in all of this is that we must practice becoming more aware, more aware of our behaviours and actions, evaluate and change what's damaging to what's servings us.
Thanks a lot, Shade! That's really useful video!
Thank you very much I deep breath when i feel stuck
I felt every single one of these!
100% correct. I'm feeling all of these things. And, Gonna change my life. Thank you so much for this video Shadé
Your advice is spot on-thank you for your videos.
Excellent list. Thank you 🙏