One Year Later ... How I’m Really Doing | Life After Uterus Rupture

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Komentáře • 109

  • @laceybuhr5015
    @laceybuhr5015 Před 3 lety +19

    Thank you so much for sharing your story, you are so brave. My heart goes out to you. After dealing with guilt over choosing a repeat C-section versus trying for a VBAC, your video has really helped put my mind at ease that I made the right choice. I think God is using your story to help so many people in many different ways. I pray you take comfort in that and would love to keep seeing updates on how you are doing. Prayers for many blessings in your future!

  • @Limani87
    @Limani87 Před 3 lety +2

    Thank you for the insight, I hope you feel better soon.

  • @racheleldred8346
    @racheleldred8346 Před 3 lety +8

    Hugs to you!! I feel you on the post hysterectomy stuff.. I had one in May. Prayers for continued healing all the way around!

  • @sambanke9204
    @sambanke9204 Před 3 lety +2

    You are so strong! Hang in there! Merry Christmas to you and your family! ❤

  • @candicewiggins166
    @candicewiggins166 Před 3 lety +3

    Thank you for sharing, advocating for yourself is the only way to go, and I think you did amazing with it all with how informed your medical team made you. I can't imagine what all it was like but I think you have handle it so well. Thank you for being open and vulnerable to help others.

  • @heidishideaway1613
    @heidishideaway1613 Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you for sharing your story. Im glad you recovered and are ok now 🥰❤️ This story i hope saves someone from going through what you did or reminds ppl like you mentioned to advocate & research for their own medical care ..im so sorry 😞 you suffered through sooo much & have still so much to worry about. My heart goes out to you & your family.

  • @marilynbrown8037
    @marilynbrown8037 Před 3 lety +3

    So many hugs to you. I just saw your initial video and surgery update videos this week. I’m glad to see you’re getting setup with a therapist. I hope you can begin the healing process for your mental health soon. It’s ok to grieve the loss of your fertility and to be sad about it. So many hugs to you ❤️❤️❤️

  • @Freedom_and_Acceptance
    @Freedom_and_Acceptance Před 3 lety +7

    My heart goes out to you Marina, not only because this happened to you but also that you are so hard on yourself for not being able to do everything normally. Your uterus rupturing was very much out of your hands and the way you handeled it, was the 100% you were able to give at that time. Please, never compare your 100% to what you see around you, never apologize for something you can't do physically because if you could, you would. So much love to you from one mother to another 💞

  • @amyannshipyor4096
    @amyannshipyor4096 Před 2 lety +1

    You are a very strong person. I could never do what you do. I am so proud of you for sharing your birth story.

  • @sarahcook9935
    @sarahcook9935 Před 3 lety +4

    Hey! This is part of what you need to do.Just keep talking it through. It's a journey to recovery you're on. Think how well you've done so far.....some things can't be changed... . It's .one step at a time.and you are doing it. Go Girl🥰You are amazing....you know yourself very well. Bless you. Sending you 💓. Thanks for the update. 💜

    • @lifewithmarina4668
      @lifewithmarina4668  Před 3 lety

      Thank you so much, your sweet words mean more than you know! 💕

  • @tutumomo5167
    @tutumomo5167 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Your delivery was perfectly fine. Whoever doesn’t understand that has no heart. Don’t have to explain yourself but I’m glad you shared this update

  • @AshleyFromBrooklyn
    @AshleyFromBrooklyn Před rokem +2

    Thanks so much for sharing your story. I’m 2 weeks post partum from a failed
    VBAC and it’s been so hard

  • @laureneakin
    @laureneakin Před 3 lety +1

    I love you marina!! Your so strong and inspirational. Don’t let anybody tell you that you did or are doing wrong because like you said, only you know what’s best for yourself. I can’t say I know how you feel because I have never been in your situation but i can only imagine what are you are going through.

  • @cathychang6010
    @cathychang6010 Před 3 lety +2

    Thank you for taking the time to film both the first video and this one. They’re so helpful! I’m currently 38 weeks pregnant and have decided not to go for a vbac. I’ve been having a lot of fear and anxiety even though my OB is quite famous in achieving successful vbacs. Your videos really helped me make a decision. Hugs to you having to go through this! And you’re so brave putting yourself out there and sharing your story!

  • @shanaeweems1936
    @shanaeweems1936 Před 3 lety +5

    Your children are so lucky to have a rockstar, strong and transparent mom! I do hope that you’ve started to see the therapist and that’s she’s working out for you also that you’ve followed up with your ultrasound for your pain! Blessings beautiful 🥰 God chose you to tell this story for a reason!

  • @kazeriankavies134
    @kazeriankavies134 Před 3 lety +8

    Thank you Marina, I really feel for you, Birth can be a terrifying and dangerous experience. You are so brave to share with us. Keep taking care of yourself.

  • @nancybloomfield1753
    @nancybloomfield1753 Před 3 lety +4

    You’re an inspiration, you’ve been through so much, and you’re still standing. Get some help, sometimes just sharing things with a professional can help. Take time to heal, love those babies.

  • @Starbabii.4224
    @Starbabii.4224 Před 3 měsíci +1

    Thank you for sharing your experience. I had same experience of having a uterine rupture I couldn’t risk getting pregnant again, not fair to put the baby or myself in situation like that. Blessed to have my two babies now ❤

  • @karlaricker2562
    @karlaricker2562 Před 3 lety +11

    I'm so sorry you had to go thru such a terrible experience! I watched that video and I never once thought that you were being selfish or careless choosing a vbac. People can just be so rude and hurtful but thankyou for sharing such a personal experience! I am not sure why your doctors told you that the chances are 1 in 200. I myself have had c-sections and when I wanted to try for a vbac with my 2nd child, I was told 1 in 100. I read books and they all say about 1 in 100.

  • @angelinamodesto
    @angelinamodesto Před 11 měsíci +2

    My baby was stillborn. I was 9 months pregnant. My uterus also ruptured during an attempted VBAC. I have heard ALL those possibilities (if I became pregnant again) from professional health care workers as well..
    I'm scaring myself because I just do not care.... I will try again. I also have two living children to care for..
    I had two extremely rare things happen to me on the SAME DAY so yes, I carefully listened and analyzed my doctor's opinion. I'm super lucky to have an OB doctor that is on board with me TTC again..But no one will understand.. why you are willing to take such risks, unless they have given birth to a sleeping baby at 9 months pregnant and had their uterus rupture. So therefore I will never listen to anyone else's opinion on this... UNLESS THEY'RE A WOMAN and know this struggle.
    Thank you for your video and information on this topic.

  • @Andi-tx1rl
    @Andi-tx1rl Před 3 lety

    You're amazing 👏💖❤

  • @womanofmanycolors25
    @womanofmanycolors25 Před 2 lety +1

    Thanks for sharing

  • @amyannshipyor4096
    @amyannshipyor4096 Před 3 lety +1

    You have to be your biggest advocate. I am so glad that you are standing up for yourself.

  • @fionascheibel977
    @fionascheibel977 Před 3 lety +3

    Yep. I was recently refered to see a specialist in a big city around 3 hours from where i live despite a similar specialist being right where i live. If i didnt question that decision i would not have been able to see a specialist at all. Because i couldnt get to the 3 hour away appointment. That isnt the first time that my dr has failed to care for me as a whole person and in a way that is appropriate. Far too often i have got the "not my problem" attitude from her when i have had difficulties with accessing care. Thankfully a alied health service is stepping in to source a more appropriate dr and better suited to me care plan. I dont have any local family or close friendships so i often feel alone in accessing health care.

    • @lifewithmarina4668
      @lifewithmarina4668  Před 3 lety +1

      Yes! You really have to question drs and fight for the right care sometimes. Good for you for taking the initiative and finding a better dr!!

  • @autumnshenk9404
    @autumnshenk9404 Před 15 dny

    Seasoanl Effective Disorder is what im told. I have it too.winter blues. I hate it. I live in Pa. Nasty winters too. Im so grateful that u are feeljng better. God is so Good❤

  • @briannamccall4049
    @briannamccall4049 Před 2 lety +1

    I know how you feel I just went through it in February.. & I’m only 25 I want another baby so bad!!!

  • @shadiajamal1203
    @shadiajamal1203 Před 7 měsíci

    Thank u dear for sharing yr story may Allah make u more strong❤

  • @mistiqr
    @mistiqr Před 3 lety +24

    Watching your birth story video, I dont know if I can risk doing a vbac. Yes the risk is low, but if you do end up being the 1-12% it can really go wrong. Im so sorry you went through this, people need to see the reality of what can go wrong if it does go wrong. Thank you for being so transparent... I needed to see your videos.

    • @lacewigdesigner
      @lacewigdesigner Před 2 lety

      I’m feeling the same. It’s so important to know the details of the risks

    • @ASmith-jn7kf
      @ASmith-jn7kf Před 2 lety +2

      You have to remember hon, she pushed for over two hours. The epidural causing these long sessions of pushing could be the problem. I had a C-section, vbac, C-section, vbac, C-section. In my v-backs no epidural, baby born quickly through pushing, minutes not hours. Pitocin is dangerous for regular births because it overworks the uterus no difference between pushing for long periods of time. The uterus works harder during pushing, back to back contractions and more intense no different than pitocin. So that could have been the reason. Either way God is in control, whatever happens happens. He made her be okay whereas women doing vaginal births with no rupture have died, he made women with repeat c-sections die. You just don't know.

    • @letyourlightshine2727
      @letyourlightshine2727 Před rokem +1

      I'm not wiling to risk no vbaccc heek noòooooooo the baby can literally die and mother if this horrific event happens

    • @saravonn3398
      @saravonn3398 Před 11 měsíci

      @@ASmith-jn7kfdid they giver her pitocin?

    • @cpmomma3360
      @cpmomma3360 Před 4 měsíci +1

      It is unfortunate that this happened to her, but the risks involved with a repeat cesarean are far more. No matter what you choose, it can have a negative outcome. Also, if she was given an epidural, pitocin, or was forced to push, it could have increased her chances for rupture even more. It is always circumstantial. But when it comes down to it, vbac is absolutely safer. Things can happen either way though.

  • @prettypinklady5145
    @prettypinklady5145 Před rokem

    I really hope this doesnt offend you, however Praise the Lord that your baby girl is healthy and you also have a baby boy. God gave you two precious gifts! I guess what i am saying is you have a whole lot to be grateful for and I really hope you focus on the good & not the things you have no control over. I will be praying for you & your family!

  • @nebulakei4144
    @nebulakei4144 Před 4 měsíci +1

    You're story is helping me come to a decision about my vbac. Being informed. I've seen several failed vbacs. And, while yours was not a fail, it sadly resulted in your current situation. BECAUSE I would like more children, I am choosing to try for a vbac. I am currently in a "scare" because of my c-section scar. I currently have a anterior placenta and it is low lying. Right next to my scar. I had an mfm tell me before they knew for sure to terminate my pregnancy. That if not I would have to get a hysterotomy because the placenta might be growing into my scar. That, too, is a 1 of 200 diagnosis. Then several weeks of ultrasounds and crying and being depressed, I still don't have a diagnosis, but a different mfm said it is looking like I might not have that placenta problem. That being said, the recovery for my c-section was not great. I could barely walk for more than 10 mins for a good 3 months. And I have a 1 year old who still likes to be picked up. So I am praying that I can have a successful vbac with no complications. And if I need a repeat c-section, I will cross that bridge for recovery when I get there. Thank you for telling your story.

  • @Eva-db5lw
    @Eva-db5lw Před 3 lety +7

    You're right about being your own advocate because they don't really care Sometimes.

    • @lifewithmarina4668
      @lifewithmarina4668  Před 3 lety +2

      Sadly this happens so often. I have seen so many people be brushed off by doctors that don’t actually care to go through all of the steps necessary to fix people’s health problems. It’s very frustrating!

  • @susansparanormalpennsylvan81

    i am a RN nurse, i always suggest a 2nd, 3rd, 4th opinion on complicated cases, if i was an ob/gyn and you were a vbac, i would have looked for uterine rupture as a possibility when you had problems urinating, i am not sure how they would diagnosis uterine rupture, ultra sound, cat scan, laparotomy ? I am so sorry that happened to you, alot of woman when they get older have to get bladder repairs from damage from child birth.

  • @faithjaime4431
    @faithjaime4431 Před rokem +1

    Girl yes. I do want to here your post hysterectomy info. I know that's weird but yes I wanna know what are the post side affects 😔

  • @starbell7724
    @starbell7724 Před rokem

    Just experiencing this in October with my daughter I have 3 sons I had one c section in 2018 than I push them all out

  • @kimberly4120
    @kimberly4120 Před rokem

    I was especially concerned that there was not an immediate response to your symptoms. I realize I was not there but it s seems obvious that medical care was not addressed in a critical and timely manner. You could have had a very different outcome.

  • @vickialexander1528
    @vickialexander1528 Před 2 měsíci

    Maybe not share any lack of care..just incase it may affect your situation. Prayers for your wonderful family.

  • @laurairlbeck916
    @laurairlbeck916 Před měsícem

    So glad youre not going to risk having another baby. Definitely seems too risky.

  • @elisec1792
    @elisec1792 Před rokem +2

    I don’t know if you covered this before but I don’t understand how your bladder ruptured and also how your uterus ruptured the way it did and not where your old scar was. I’m contemplating a VBAC after 2 sections but after your original video I’m really thinking another section is the way to go. Lol

  • @patriciacarey6324
    @patriciacarey6324 Před 2 lety

    Please let me know about the catheter. It blows my mind.

  • @robingomez2628
    @robingomez2628 Před 3 lety +13

    Hi Marina.
    I came across your video when researching uterine rupture. Back in 2016 I too attempted a VBAC with my second son that resulted in uterine rupture. I was told I shouldn’t get pregnant again, but my husband and I accidentally conceived in September. I am terrified. I don’t want to share too much on a public forum, but I just want you to know that your story has helped me not to feel so alone. I’m truly struggling. I want to keep this baby (I discovered during genetic testing he is a little boy), but I am scared that my life is in danger as well as his. I am currently 14 weeks along. I had a sonogram today and everything appears to be healthy but the risks are still high. If you are up for it, I was hoping we may be able to talk more. If I continue this pregnancy, there is a chance I may need a hysterectomy after this. I’d like to give you my email, but I’m not sure how I can give it to you without providing it to the public. Overall, thank you for your bravery and openness in sharing your story. I hope I can talk to you more.

    • @lifewithmarina4668
      @lifewithmarina4668  Před 3 lety +6

      Yes, I’m open to talking anytime! I’m so sorry you’ve experience rupture too. Feel free to email me at lifewithmarinayt@gmail.com

    • @Freedom_and_Acceptance
      @Freedom_and_Acceptance Před 3 lety +1

      Robin I hope you and your baby are doing well, and that in a year you can share that everything went well and you're both healthy and thriving 💞 much love!

    • @shanaeweems1936
      @shanaeweems1936 Před 3 lety +1

      Wow! I hope your pregnancy and yourself are still doing well!

    • @robingomez2628
      @robingomez2628 Před 3 lety +13

      Hi everyone! Me and baby are doing well. Currently 34 weeks! I have a scheduled c-section at 36 weeks. It has been scary but it’s almost over. I’ll let you all know if the birth is safe and successful. Thank you again Marina for sharing your story. I’m sure it has helped many. I know it helped me ❤️

    • @nimiraniga3296
      @nimiraniga3296 Před 3 lety

      Will you be going for a c section with this baby? I am going back and forward about vbac but im scared of uterine rupture. Whats your advice

  • @shellygreen8923
    @shellygreen8923 Před 6 měsíci +2

    I am sad there is so much pressure to have a natural birth, how ever babies come into the world is beautiful and fabulous! You are the third person I have seen have this happen to, I had 3 c sections…the first one was an emergency c section ….I read the risks and chose them for the next two….people try to shame me for it…

  • @foxiikue
    @foxiikue Před 3 lety +4

    Hi Marina, thank you for sharing your story! I have no information or whatsoever about vbac and the risks until now. I’m currently 38 weeks and has my csection last year. I will be 15 months apart in attempting a VBAC. I would like to ask how far apart was yours? I’m really nervous as the days are coming closer to delivery and I can’t decide for a related c section or a VBAC since my previous c section delivery was traumatic. Please share your thoughts and how far apart was your c section to your VBAC.

    • @lex541
      @lex541 Před 3 lety +1

      Same here...25 weeks here and I am want to try for a vbac...thats my first choice...there are risks either way and other risks just from being pregnant...just stay positive and do the best you can. The odds are against you having a bad experience so...all the best to you!

    • @mariafordon121
      @mariafordon121 Před 2 lety +1

      This was a couple months ago so this isn’t really helpful now but maybe if someone else sees this and has the same question I wanted to recommend The VBAC Link podcast and Facebook group as a resource.

  • @georgiayoung9124
    @georgiayoung9124 Před rokem +1

    OMG I can't believe you got negative comments! But yes I can...assh#@+-s abound...please ignore! My heart went out to you. Your care was abominable! 😢 As happened with my granddaughter. Please watch more vids! Sooo many mishandled ob/gyn crisises. I'm a 44 yr retired RN who has worked all departments in large and small hospitals. I'm assuming you sued! I hope so!!

  • @joanneroberts855
    @joanneroberts855 Před rokem +1

    Your after care, post birth, was not good enough as far as I'm concerned. :(
    I had a partial hysterectomy at 28,im understanding how you feel.please reach out if needed.

  • @R-A-WN
    @R-A-WN Před 2 lety +1

    I dnt knw y thy say jus 1% risk fr vbac bcuz ive seen so many failed vbac videos… im 35 weeks almst nd so confused i was thnkin bout vbac but so terrified

    • @tarrahalamo1561
      @tarrahalamo1561 Před 3 měsíci

      The possibility of uterine rupture is one percent... other things can happen to make a failed vbac.

  • @patriciavelasquez4765
    @patriciavelasquez4765 Před 2 lety +1

    Hello, I recently had my 10th c-section. My uterus ruptured and they cut my bladder. They did not take out my uterus. Did you experience any symptoms months after your uterine rupture? If so what kind? TIA Blessings to you

    • @letyourlightshine2727
      @letyourlightshine2727 Před rokem

      10 ate u kidding me they tel u to stop at 3

    • @Romans08.31
      @Romans08.31 Před rokem

      @@letyourlightshine2727 my mother had 4 csections I think it depends on the doctor and individual and the amount of scar tissue and what not but yes the more you have the riskier it gets

    • @letyourlightshine2727
      @letyourlightshine2727 Před rokem

      @@Romans08.31 yea I'm done with 2 I'm scared

    • @Romans08.31
      @Romans08.31 Před rokem

      @@letyourlightshine2727 I’m just saying I’ve seen many people have more than 3 csections but I totally understand your concerns and fears

  • @divyaanu7742
    @divyaanu7742 Před 3 lety +3

    Hi
    I also faced uterus rupture in 2020 september.... and lost my baby at 27 weeks ... can i pregnant again? How long should i wait?

    • @R-A-WN
      @R-A-WN Před 2 lety

      U shuld ask ur doctor

    • @maryamkhn93
      @maryamkhn93 Před 9 měsíci

      Hey, did you get pregnant again? Would you be able to share how it went?

  • @fatmastawbry6090
    @fatmastawbry6090 Před rokem

    sorry marina,i feel you,makes me fear of trying vbac after 2 cs.confused,im tired of cs wana avoid cut through my stomach i hate sugeries

  • @najid6908
    @najid6908 Před rokem

    Is uterus ruptured after one c-section or you had 2 ? So sorry to hear that. I have 3 c-section and I was thinking to try but this scares me.

    • @lifewithmarina4668
      @lifewithmarina4668  Před rokem +1

      My uterus ruptured after only 1 c-section

    • @najid6908
      @najid6908 Před rokem

      So sorry to hear that. are you in Canada? I am in Canada and they are against it. My last C-sections was 4 years ago. Was your uterus saved or it was not more possible?

    • @lifewithmarina4668
      @lifewithmarina4668  Před rokem +1

      @@najid6908 I am in the US! Unfortunately mine was torn so badly and was so damaged that there was no way to save it. I know it’s such a hard choice to make! Sending you peace over whatever decision you choose 💕

    • @letyourlightshine2727
      @letyourlightshine2727 Před rokem

      O wow don't even try sis don't risk it

    • @letyourlightshine2727
      @letyourlightshine2727 Před rokem

      @@lifewithmarina4668 omg I'm scared this happens to me while preagnant :[

  • @cooking_with_Dhairya
    @cooking_with_Dhairya Před 3 lety

    I can get again prgnt after utreus reputre??

    • @lifewithmarina4668
      @lifewithmarina4668  Před 3 lety

      You can if they can repair your uterus, but it is extremely high risk and your chances of uterus rupture again are very high. I would never suggest it. In most cases after uterus rupture you would receive a hysterectomy, which means you could not get pregnant again.

    • @cooking_with_Dhairya
      @cooking_with_Dhairya Před 3 lety

      @@lifewithmarina4668😭 I lost my baby 3 September 2020during delivery 😭😭

    • @lifewithmarina4668
      @lifewithmarina4668  Před 3 lety

      I’m so, so sorry for your loss 😔

    • @cooking_with_Dhairya
      @cooking_with_Dhairya Před 3 lety

      Plz suggest me

    • @nimiraniga3296
      @nimiraniga3296 Před 3 lety

      Did you lose your baby from uterine rupture during attempted vbac? Why do OBs still recommend vbac if the risk is so high!

  • @mmarik6637
    @mmarik6637 Před 3 lety

    why are you talking to a camera?

  • @janetescalona6517
    @janetescalona6517 Před 3 lety +4

    Nooo vbacs EVER !!!! DOCS are trying to please these natural moms we are NOT in biblical times 🙄

    • @mariafordon121
      @mariafordon121 Před 2 lety +9

      That is not it at all. There are risks in any pregnancy, in any delivery. Yes there are risks in a VBAC delivery but there are also risks to having multiple c-sections. This comment is so ignorant. It’s not about being “natural” it’s about being able to make an informed decision about what happens to your own body.

    • @JesusLovesMagabean
      @JesusLovesMagabean Před rokem +3

      Theres risks with multiple c sections too...

    • @georgiayoung9124
      @georgiayoung9124 Před rokem

      Common sense here on utube...amazing. I agree! I had twins when daughter was two. I said...I'm good. And mine were easy!