Jesy Nelson: Why I Made 'Odd One Out'
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- čas přidán 7. 09. 2019
- The shocking inside story of one of Britain’s most famous pop stars.
Jesy Nelson explains why she wanted to make Odd One Out.
You can watch Jesy Nelson: Odd One Out on BBC iPlayer on 12 September 2019 here: www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p07l...
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Now we can understand why Lady Gaga said social media is the toilet of the internet.
I just clapped my hands lol but for the sake of the internet, here you go lol 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
So true... I think that it should be a crime to cyber bully or post hate comments. People get away with it so much these daysb
YES exactly paws up to Gaga’s words of wisdom, what an extraordinarily beautiful amazing talented queen!! (As is Jesy)
Hafsat Shuaibu and that is why Gaga is a genius.
sooyoung they’d never get away with saying that stuff in person. Or be brave enough to say it to that person’s face. It SHOULD ABSOLUTELY be illegal. There SHOULD BE extremely harsh punishments for this kind of thing. If you can’t do it in the “real” world then why can you do it online? This issue is so titanic. People kill them selves daily because of stuff like this. Why is there nothing being done about it? And the punishments that are in place right now are a joke. You’re punished more for traffic violations and smoking weed then driving someone to kill themselves. IMHO, if you drive someone to suicide that makes you a MURDERER. Your actions brought about the death of another human being. You might as well have pulled the trigger, tied the noose, or shoved the pills down their throat. I know that not everyone has the same thoughts, feelings, and morals that I do. It’s okay for you not to agree with someone. You don’t even have to like the things they say. What kinda person tells another person to kill themselves because they think the person is fat or ugly or stupid or whatever? WTF is wrong with people? It makes me so immensely sad that my kids are having to grow up and worry about stupid things like this. No one should ever tell someone that they don’t have the right to exist for any reason EVER. But if you really feel like you have to say something like that then don’t be a f$#@ing coward about it. Say it straight to their face. I’m trying to teach my kids that if you can’t say something to someone face to face then you shouldn’t be typing on a keyboard either.
To all the people saying Jesy was or wasn't fat: that isn't the point of this. It doesn't matter what she looked/looks like, no one deserves to experience what she went through. Stop acting like being fat is the worst thing in the world that could happen to a person.
Saying things like 'she shouldn't be bullied because she's beautiful' or 'she's not even fat' only reinforces the idea that it's OK for not conventionally good looking people to be bullied.
Ciara M thank you! People missed the whole point of this video
exactly! fat isn’t synonymous with ugly
Thank you
👏👏👏👏👏 absolutely. Society has always managed to find a way to control women and keep us small. We are still at a point of oppression where 'fat' is the worst thing we can say to another woman. That is why body positivity is amazing and people are reclaiming the word. We need to step into our power and lift each other up. As a former anorexic I know exactly what weight bullying can do and it's horrendous, just horrendous. If anyone bullies another person, it is without exception, because they feel like a tiny, insignificant, pathetic loser inside. And we shouldn't necessarily extend compassion to them for feeling that, but at least we can remind ourselves that it couldn't be less about us if it tried 😎✌️💥
Better yet maybe we need to stop bullying people who aren't particularly attractive anyway ? What if someone is ugly ? does that mean they're inherently worth less than you ? that your bullying is justified ? what surprises me is that whenever tragedies about young people come to light or people die before it's their time people are always like "but she was so beautiful !' - maybe we need to collectively understand being ugly doesn't make people any less deserving of respect
I love when celebrities reach out to help with social issues.
Yes exactly! It shows 'normal' (as in no celebs) people the feeling that they aren't alone!
Sociopath
@@MsMeyara because they aren't being famous does not erase a person's humanness
@@Moe.6770 it is comments like this that brought her down to where she felt like she did not even deserve to be here with us and that is not ok she does not even remotely resemble a creepy doll you need to check yourself
Someone On Earth that’s not what a sociopath is
Wow, people in this comment section obviously did not pay attention to the video.
Sadly, they're the same ones that made her feel that terrible probably. We live in a cruel world...
Comments like urs r all i see
@Imy Spartan how is she faking it? wtf
Same with Normani from Fifth Harmony . She was bullied for being black . We harmonizers and mixers need to stay strong together
LEIGH Anne to
escape hell the world is so bad
Bullied for being black? Are you kidding me?? That is so horrible and such a disgusting thing to do. All skin tones all beautiful. All 4 of LM are gorgeus ❤ all rights matter and everyone is beautiful inside out. Except the people who would bully. They clearly haven't learned how to love themselves and were wanting others to not to. Love yourself, love myself peace.
It's sooo annoying how peoole think they can be racist and bully other people
They also bullied camila from 5h for being skinny and that she sings like a chipmunk idk why ppl are like this
This comment section is disgusting. So many people are missing the point of the documentary, and others are just being plain mean. You must be a very sad person to feel the need to pull another person down. And to all the people in the comments talking about 'snowflake mentality', remember that words hurt and you have no right to tell another person how to feel about what they perceive as hurtful. The world would be a better place if we started acknowledging how others felt instead of covering it up with this 'pseudo-macho' behaviour. 😒
S. J I wish white peoples will understand that interms of race and and stop the racism in work in football in society, because if you can understand this then theirs really no excuse to be like it’s just words when it comes to race like so many fail to get talkless the history behind it ijs
@@Truth2power5848 Where does this correlate to anything the OP or the video said?
Well, let me pose two questions to you: can you a realistic, effective solution be to "trolling"? In your opinion, do the comments in this section you deem "disgusting" constitute trolling?
You're correct in so far as one person does not have a right to tell another person how to feel about what they perceive as hurtful, but therein is the crux of the issue: perceptions.
Yes, words can hurt, but sometimes they only hurt if you choose to let them hurt. BTW, I have suffered bullying throughout my life as a result of my Asperger's Syndrome and being gay and am on medication for longstanding depression, but thanks to therapy I have learned coping techniques and have recognised that people will always have opinions that could upset me.
But just as I recognize words can hurt, I also recognise (having a fiercely logical mind) people have a right to their opinions and I have the power to decide whether they hurt me or not.
So this leads me to expand on my initial question: are you suggesting that there should be rules applied to social media that effectively mandate "if you can't say anything nice, you're not allowed to say anything at all"? If that's the case, then we will conceivably see the end of social media because any critical, detrimental or unflattering comment, even if it was a legitimate criticism, could (in theory) be classed as trolling and people would be banned in their droves.
That's what I interpret your position to be and if it's about perceptions, then we will be finding trolling everywhere.
She's so pretty I like her figure, face, voice, personality everything about her
Yeah she was the one with the most character (looks wise) in the group
I've seen her live and she is soo pretty
@@shillzero7978 why so?
@@shillzero7978 what the hell, calm down
@@shillzero7978 look in the mirror, that's the ugliest one :)
The fact that she took time and effort to speak up about her own personal issues says a lot about the beautiful soul she has. You have no idea how many lives she could and are changing and saving by taking this huge and (I assume) uncomfortable step. Going public and reveling our issues and demons mustn’t be easy but she did it in such a beautiful way. I’m so sorry that she had to go through such hard times during what should’ve been the best years of her life. Jesy took her experience and what she’s gone through and made this beautiful documentary to raise awareness on this serious issue that may cause real damage on somebody else’s life. I’m seriously so incredibly proud of her. She now accepts herself and has come a long way and has no clue how many people - including myself - she is helping by being honest and sharing her truth. I love her endlessly.
Yeah same no matter how she looks like I will always love her and she isn't fat she isn't ugly she is beautiful her voice is so cool she is nice and I love her
This comment section is disgusting. Exactly why she made this.
Tae-Tae YOoOP exactly
i don't see nothing but love my love ...
ikr
I must be blind because I just see positive comments
Jesy is a really Inspiration
İ mean look at her.... strong ass woman❤️💪
I had no idea that was happening. You would think she was liked by so many people, that nothing was wrong, but in reality, there's so many horrible people out there who can't keep their opinions to themselves. It's shocking, really.
Gacha LN tbh I thought it was quite obvious. Just off the way she changed her appearance so much. It was bound to happen. Like Khloe or Kylie kardashian.. bullied for being the ugly one until they can’t take it and are so broken they change everything about their appearance and then called fake and plastic
Gacha LN oh my goodness me too! I had no idea that ppl were this mean to people in general. How can anyone have the audacity to write and leave nasty comments is beyond me. In Oz now we are moving to making it a crime to bully someone online. No words. I’m so glad she’s strong enough to fight this head on. You go girl. This must be her calling.
i see her as one of my inspirations
Good on you Jesy! Such an important and unfortunately common problem :(((
Why are human beings so mean for God's sake she's so pretty
For your eyes only, yeah she is but even if she wasn’t this bullying wouldn’t be okay.
Are you a Larrie?.........
@@boyfriendshouse Yes a very proud one💙💚
@@foryoureyesonly7639 do you have any social media ;)?
@@boyfriendshouse Yeah I have twitter
I remember watching little mix on Xfactor, and as a young girl it was so refreshing to see Jesy on stage - as much as the other girls are gorgeous and always have been, It was so important for me at that age to see someone like Jesy who looked like me and still was able to present their talent and have it valued. I’ve always looked up to Jesy, for being authentic and honest however this is going to be so helpful for so many young girls and boys to see the impact of social media and how it can affect someone’s life so drastically. Good on you, Jesy - you’ve got everyone’s support!
innit
I also look like Jesy too. She inspires me to love myself
Jesy out here helping people suffering from cyber bullying better than teachers nowadays😌
Simon Cowell should be held accountable aswell. nobody should be told they have to have social media! I hate the x factor because it's all about image
Unfortunately now and when little mix were on the rise it was kind of important to have social media as to hype people up about upcoming performances & so people could get to know the band as girl bands on xfactor dont usually do as well as little mix has. All constants should have had some sort of advice before hand on how to deal with online bullying but it will always affect people differently
ALL FAMOUS PPL YOU SEE AND HAVE EVER SEEN ARE ALL ABOUT LOOKS. Beauty sells, that's why u dont see opera singers on the cover of magazines
@@marianaramirez3828 yeah that's the way it is but it shouldn't just be about beauty talent should play a bigger part in it, but just because you are look a bit different to the "expected beauty standards" doesn't give people the right to troll them this is what the video and documentary is all about
Honestly this has nothing to do with whether she was fat or not. So what if she was? If she wasn't? That doesn't mean she or anyone else deserves to be treated so maliciously, causing her to suffer depression when she should have been cherishing some of the most memorable moments of her life. The only thing I see little mix as is one of the most inspirational girl bands ever; not a group of girls who have fault in many ways. Nobody is perfect; believe it or not even the most popular movie stars, singers and many others out there have an 'ideal lifestyle' but in reality everyone lacks something; whether that is not being as academic as someone prefers or, like me, a shy character whose voice is annoyingly much quieter than everyone else. No-one can do everything, but everyone can do something- and something spectacular. So don't use your energy on criticising other people, because everyone is amazing in their own way
The best comment in this video!
say it for the people in the back!
The biggest problem is social media it's so toxic
I love jesy soooo much and I'm so happy she's confident in her own skin because she one of the most beautiful people I've ever seen
you Need Eye Treatment TyPeIn JeSS IS beauty when She IS Very CoCKy
yeah she is
How do people call this girl ugly, she beautiful inside and out!
even if she was ugly, online bullying & bullying period is unacceptable.
Ikr
@@chiarafloriano8010 that's not the point of the comment. They're just saying she's beautiful to their eyes...
Meh i know but a lot of people say things like “she shouldn’t have been bullied, she’s so pretty” and it sounds like they’re saying that if she was ugly the bullying would’ve been more tolerable
bulShIt On both wIv JeSS
I agree 100% Bullying is a very bad thing to do to other people. We are all on a different journey in life and just because someones journey is different than yours they are STILL EQUAL AND SHOULD BE TREATED AS SUCH!!!!
Just watch me ugly cry when the documentary comes out 💔😩. Love from Australia, jesy ❤️
God Bless her. She NEVER deserved to go through this and nobody else does. I love her so much and I hope that she continues to be in a happier mental state 👑💖
You are helping so many people who are afraid to speak up. Thank you babe your the best 🥰💞
Always been my favourite Little Mix member since they were put together all those years ago. What a journey ❤
It's not the fault of social media. Social media is just a mirror. It reveals how cruel and nasty humans are when they think they are anonymous and won't face any consequences
It’s 2019 and I’m ashamed to see quite a few comments still trolling people. We’ve all got insecurities but at least Jesy is talking about it and not dragging other people down to feel better about herself. Think before you type as you never know what someone is going through behind closed doors. I’ve always been told if you’ve got nothing nice to say about someone then don’t say anything at all. It’s that simple. Some people need to grow up. I admire her for what she’s doing as I’ve suffered from cyber bullying before as well so kudos to her for doing this.
Lauren Lindsley exactly and she hasn’t had surgery it’s called makeup and loosing weight
Just shows you the power of Social Media.
I always thought personally that Jesy was beautiful and my mixer of choice!
I hope very soon Leigh Ann tells us her story too.
I always thought she was the prettiest, her personality is so likeable and her face and figure are BEAUTIFUL. She doesn’t deserve this at all, love you Jesy :)
but she always has been and always will be so beautiful? people are evil😔
innit
Everyone is beautiful no matter their appearance.
I always found Jesy to be the interesting one. Gorgeous hair, fantastic personality and a womanly body. She is the main reason I ever followed Little Mix. Not to mention the fantastic talent she possesses.
yeah innit
She's such a beautiful woman, inside and out.. I also got bullied, several years. For my weight, my clothes and even my name. Although I've lost weight and dress differently now I still remember all the rude things strangers, family members and 'friends' have said to me when I was younger.
Some people don't seem to understand how much such things can affect someone's life and it honestly pisses me off
SkinnyLegend27 just remember who you are and that no one can tell you who you are or try to change you 🕊
I love this girl, she has a heart of gold! And remember girls big is beautiful ❤
There IS No hart Of Gold In CoCKy JeSS
Without Jesy, there’s no Little Mix🤗🤗❤️⭐️
yeah innit
Everything you’ve been through have made you stronger and more yourself. Keep being yourself. You’re beautiful the way you are. Love you Jesy! 💖💖
Lol, she isn't even fat. She is beautiful from inside and obviously outside. We love you Jesy!
i don't get why people hate on her, she is one of my biggiest insperations, you are pretty and beatuiful, thank you jesy for speaking out your doc inspires me so much
I can say this and only this”every girl should feel beautiful no matter how you look” I love you Jesy🥰
We are so freaking proud of you jesy!! You are absolutely beautiful thank you so much for doing this it will help so many young girls like myself. You are incredible never stop raising awareness thank you
how Can CoCKy JeSS MaKe you Proud faCtor?
I feel sorry for Jesy, she’s beautiful and inspiring
So dont feel sorry for her then :) she's grown from this. Her cyber bullies no doubt lead sad miserable lives however.
burned flowers she may have grown from it but the rest of us are allowed to feel sorry for her - it’s just upsetting that she had to go through something as vile as this for so many years, we’re just being sympathetic xx
innit
Jesy, you're actually my fave singer in the group. You are beautiful when you first broke out on X factor and is stil beautiful now. I love your courage on speaking out about what you went through ❤.
Much love to you from Fiji 🇫🇯
You look fabulous
At all stages
It’s tragic that it effects someone so much
i just think bullying in general should be illegal and should carry a long prison sentence and fines
I agree with you 💭
True but there's also the everyday bullying in school.
@@ria1636 absolutely, this should apply to all forms of bullying physical, mentally & social media! Xx
@@Emma_Rosa 🥰
People bullied leighanne and jade and jesy for what these girls are beautiful no matter their race or weight millions of people love these girls and they are role models to a lot of people what have the people that bulled them ever did who looks up to them who are they role models to no one.
I've seen the comments on papers etc , always made me so angry.
She is such a beautiful woman. I don't understand why people picked on her at all.
I remember people writing articles about her even in the newspaper - as well as all over social media - it was so obvious at the time she was being horrifically bullied but because she was a celeb somehow they just have to accept that it is 'part of the job' and that they should stop being so affected. It's so sad.
Amazing cheekbones beautiful hair lovely features seriously how can anyone call her ugly bet it was mainly women so glad she made this documentary vile people these troll are .😩😠
This is so sad :( Jesy wasn't and still isn't even fat wtf.
FaerieSensai NO SHE WASN’T GO AWAY
@FaerieSensai you need mental help if you think she was overweight lmao
FaerieSensai nobody asked
@FaerieSensai That's mental help hun, sounds like you definitely need it. 😂🤦♀️
@@Yoopsen213 It's just trying to be a troll and epically failing. 🤷♀️
Honestly I remember watching her on xfactor and the first thing I thought was what a unique voice she had. Like it doesn't sound like any artists I know of.
Does anyone else hear it or just me?
yeah innit
I love her too much. With my whole soul.
She’s so strong 😭💔
Awwww jesy xxx bless you xx so glad you made this doc... every child, teenager and adult should watch. Sending you a big cuddle xx
CoCKy JeSS wont GIve any1 Cuddle ?
SO PROUD OF YOU BABY!!! JESY I'VE LOVED YOU SINCE THE X-FACTOR DAYS AND YOU'VE ALWAYS BEEN MY FAVOURITE!! 💕💕
You don't know how bad I just wanted to hug you and try and make you feel better and not listen to those heartless souls who hurt you 💕💕
Good for you hun. 💕 doing this gives you back so much power over the cruelty you received. People online are cruel and petty because they can hide behind a screen but what they say is a reflection of who they are inside and not you. It’s amazing that you are giving a voice to all those who suffer with the harsh reality of social media bullying.
Jesy you are beautiful inside and out, and I’m so proud of how far you’ve come.❤️
Stop picking on her people can be so mean. No wonder Committing suicide is huge
'No wonder committing suicide is huge' what lol
This is why I’ve never had social media
I hate that in this world we always concentrate on the negative, we shut down all the positive energy to focus on what's bad for us. Jessy has been my fave from day 1. Being curvy and all, she is doing so much for all of those who think you can't succeed if you're not skinny. Little mix is doing a lot to fight intolerance just by being themselves, super talented and from different backgrounds.
Omg jesyyy this is so amazing and your are so strong and I love you so much. No one should EVER been made to feel like that💞💞💞💞💞
she's beautiful, people kept saying bcs they jealous of her beautiful 🙌💘
we love you jesyyy!! 🦄💗
How could anyone call this beautiful talented woman ugly?!! I love Jesy so much and she deserves so much better. It doesn’t matter how u look on the outside, it’s about how u are on the inside❤️ if ur going through a hard time just remember that even though it may seem impossible to get through it, I promise u will see the light at the end of the tunnel! Every life matters and we are all loved💕
love your hair!! pls keep it it looks beautiful 😭❤️
Man how much respect I have for her! She’s a queen👑💕
Beautiful girly inside and out, she’s so funny as well like have you heard her in interviews- always makes me laugh! I could never understand why people would make such hurtful comments about her. Looking forward to seeing this! ☺️🙋🏽💖✨ xx
This is so incredibly inspiring I’m so impressed she is raising awareness and showing the harsh reality of social media and sharing so many people’s stories
You are so beautiful Jesy. Inside and out❤️ thanks for being the most relatable to me of the group, ever since I became a fan in 2013, at the FUN age of 15. I love growing up with LM❤️
Fantastic that you have made this documentary so many young girls including my daughters need to hear this message you are gonna help so many people by sharing ur story people u dont know & prob will never meet. If you can make a difference (& I have no doubt u will) in one persons life then everything you went through will have been worth it 💕💕 inspirational good for you & fk the haters xx
I LOVE HER SO MUCH SHE IS MY FAVOURIT MEMBER OF LITTLE MIX
People like me just admire her in silence, and we never felt the need to write a comment about it. The haters however, do need to bring other people down so they can feel better about themselves. And what happens is- the majority are people who appreciate Jesy for everything she has given, but the comments are flooded with the haters, because they want to say something about her. I have always thought she has amazing voice, I loved her confidence in music videos, Jesy is a role model for me. Never thought she felt that way and it breaks my heart. I hope she finds peace and happiness.
Why people hate jessy:
She has a nice voice
She has a beautiful
She has a nice soul
A good personality
A good woman
A good girl to stay and talk to her
This is the facts❤🙏🏼🥰💯😊
Love you Jesy
Shes wonderful. Thanks for sharing your story Jesy!!❤😊💖💟☺️
I love jesy so much .Don't worry jesy mixers will always support you. 😭💞💞💞
You are the best.💞💞
I actually think Jessy is like really beautiful from the inside and out just don't listen to them haters! It was unfortunate she left and everyone was so heart broken. 💔
This made me cry, I love u jesy you are such an inspiration and role model and I can’t thank you enough for that ❤️Can’t wait to see u on LM5 tour ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️My 👸
I think your absolutely stunning jesy and always have thought that! Xxx
I just love this woman so much ❤
im so proud of you♡ your so beautiful inside and out and have come such a long way ♡
can’t wait to go and see little mix next month ♡
I think it's something so great that you made this.
I lost a friend of my family because of cyber bullying (she was 13 and hanged herself because she couldn't take it anymore) and I want this hell to stop. Unfortunately, she can't speak now. But I'm kinda happy that you made this documentary. On the other hand it makes me really sad that people don't know what they're doing. They don't know what their words do to other people.
It's unbelievably brave and encouraging to see that someone finally is speaking out. I was bullied myself but it never went this far. To me, you are a hero. ❤
Nairi Ghazarian god bless you for sharing that. I hope ppl watch this and re think their words
I love her, always have!!!! 🥰
Well done Jess you are such an inspirational young women, you did not deserve to be treated like that you are beautiful and always have. The trolls have the problem not you x x 😘
Jesy... I love you... Seeing 4 of you together is a perfect group... Please ignore negative vibes... U are who u are... This is 2020.... Ur voice so beautiful and completing each other.. please be strong girl...
Wow. She’s fabulously talented. She’s an incredible talent. She’s an incredible dancer and my son had a crush on her vibe. Jesy, praying God heals your emotional self and frees you from the mean ppl’s comments. They would PAY to be you!!!! Pay to see you perform!! Never forget that you are BEAUTIFUL, in every single way!!
Wow she’s so strong and amazing❤️what a dark world we live in
Oddly. I always thought she was most confident one from watching their music videos.
I'm so proud her, words can't describe it. We love you Jesy.
I love jesy so much can't wait to watch this documentary 💞💕❤
I'll be tuning in 👌who else? ❤️
if anyone ever calls you else fat, ugly, or any name under the sun, just remind yourself that you are worth so much. If someone tries to bring you down, that only means you’re above them. every sungle person on this planet is beautiful in their own way and dont ever let anyone tell you otherwise
luke Sheahan thank you so much for that, you’re a truly kind soul and I wish for good things to come your way. 💭
@@nyles7470 tysm this made my day, all the same to you
Absolute nonsense. When you grow up, you’ll realise.
I am crying. This is the best documentaries I have ever seen. People need to watch the whole thing.
I've felt so so inspired by this story I don't think most people understand how one little tiny comment can affect a person so much whether if they're "fat" or "skinny". the point of this story is to make a change so to anybody watching this documentary and to anybody who is going through the problems jesy did or similar just BE YOURSELF YOUR BEAUTIFUL IN UR OWN WAY AND DONT LET NOBODY TELL U DIFFERENT
lots of love jesy really helped seeing this
They are all beautiful but Jesy has always been my favorite. She’s gorgeous and she has a beautiful body. ❤️
You're so brave🖤
The fact that none of us knew that our Jesy was going through this! I looked up to her in my early teens and her voice always soothed me .... People are so bad ....
Yes jesy!!! Yes BBC3!!!! THIS IS SO IMPORTANT, CANNOT WAIT TO WATCH X
I relly love you jesy just egnor the bad guys
“She’s the worst one!”
After watching this video I think she’s my favorite!
I love you Jesy so much. I am so sorry that you had to go through such terrible things. Words can't even express how sad it makes me that you and other people have suffered through this kind of bullying and hatred. It means so much that you're taking the time to share your story and bring this subject to the general public. The strength of character that takes is so impressive. Sending so much love to you Jesy, from a mixer who's been on your side since 2012 ❤️❤️❤️
She’s so beautiful inside and out. She’s amazing for doing this. I loved her so much but I love her even more now. She’s incredible. ❤️