How to Know What Should I Do With My Life
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- čas přidán 4. 09. 2018
- How to know: What should I do with my life? In this video I discuss 7 ways to find your life purpose. The seven tips are as follows:
1. Determine how hard you’re willing to work
2. Make a list of your values.
3. Think about your past - what went well and what didn't
4. What are your current interests?
5. What are your strengths?
6. How can you best contribute to the world?
7. What do you not like to do?
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Step 1: Determine how hard you’re willing to work.
Step 2: Make a list of your values (primary values at the top).
Step 3: Think about your past (joy, excitement, fun, mistakes, unfavorable environments).
Step 4: What are your interests? (What would you do to keep yourself busy all day?)
Step 5: What are your strengths? (What things are you already good at?)
Step 6: How can you best contribute to the world?
Step 7: What do you not like to do? (What are your general dislikes?)
Write it down and get feedback!
Thanks for the summary. It looks good written down like this. 😊
Dr. Tracey Marks thank you for delivering awesome content!!
Thank you writing this out. It's helpful.
Writing it down gave it a boost..ure awesome also
Thank you. I really value Dr Tracey Marks videos but my brain struggled to focus on this one instead of the background music (maybe just having a day) so your comment has helped a lot!
One of the best realistic videos on this topic. You should give a Ted talk. It'd probably be the talk of all Ted talks.
Aaaw thanks La Victoire! Ted talks are a big deal.
Yessssss a TedTalk is definitely your level.... If it meets these 7 qualifications of course. 😉🖖🏽
You know, I made a list and realized I am no longer doing things that made me happy in life. I loved being an artist, drawing and singing. You do not know how much you have changed my life. I love your channel. My family loves you!!! I know I comment on all of your videos but I cannot help it. You have done so much for me!! Thank you for this video. I plan on doing the things that make me happy this weekend. I am a workaholic and I love my job but this weekend is artistic April weekend!! My family will be happy knowing that you brought their April back. I even missed the old me. Thanks Dr. Marks.
Oh AragonCharm that makes me so happy to hear that!! I welcome your comments and appreciate them. Have a great artistic April weekend. Let me know what you create. 🙂
Love all your videos. Youre such a smart woman.
Thanks so much Amanda!! Glad to have you watching. 🙂
I’ve been ruminating on this topic and am in a place where I don’t have much support and no network to bounce ideas around. I just stumbled on this video and it’s very helpful. Thank you!
You're welcome Momma Bear! (I love that name). 🙂
"How can I best contribute to the world?" always gets my ticker ticking!
That’s great 😊
So helpful!!! Thank you!!! 💕
I recently turned 32 and I am on a path of discovering what my life’s purpose is. I taught 1st and 3rd grade for five years, and wanted to pivot to something else. I am now a nanny for two children, and I am discovering this is not it either. I am excited to journal all the questions you discussed in your video, as I know it will take me further on this journey.
How to know what should I do with my life?
1.)Determine how hard I am willing to work?
2.)Make a list of my values n prioritize it to the top.
3.)Think about my past.
4.)What are my current interest? What am I curious about? What I like to do?
5.)What are my strength? What am I good at?
6.)How can I best contribute to the world?
7.)What do I not like to do? Write it down & share it with a very close one.
I’m learning so much with your videos!!!
I'm so glad! Thanks for watching.
As a 19-year-old collage boy, I find your videos really entertaining and enlightening. Although the process that you talk about in your videos doesn't fit every current situation in my life as a whole, you give me a starting point to stop and think about anyway. Thank you so much Dr. Marks! Keep inspiring :)
You're welcome Cenk! Just having a place to start thinking is a great endpoint for this video. 🙂
Thank you Dr. Tracey.
I'll be sharing this fantastic video with my 26 year old son. He received his MSW a few years back and began working in his first official position about eight months ago. A large function of his work is as a case manager for families living in apartment buildings designated as shelters. Sadly, his mental illness disorders, including a diagnosis and medicinal treatment of unipolar depression, which may be bipolar (I was finally diagnosed BP II), have been increasing over the last three to five years. The stress of his work, and difficulties with organization and procrastination (ADD diagnosis as well), are now affecting his work performance. He's also been internalizing his clients' problems. My husband and I have been trying to help him understand that there are alternative careers at which he can use his innate and learned skills; that having a position with a job title sans MSW wouldn't be a sign of the failure he's convinced it would. Your video may help to advance our suggestion. Thank you, again. Sue K
Gosh I hope it does help get a useful dialogue going. MSW work can be really draining for anyone much less someone who struggles with depression and can’t compartmentalize the work. It could totally be a fit issue for him. It would be great if he could use his MSW degree in a different way so that he has a better fit but does it feel like a failure because this other position didn’t work out well.
@@DrTraceyMarks we will take this approach and immensely appreciate your input.
Thank you!
Thanks, Dr. Much love.
Thanks for putting this information out and keeping it real.
So accurate and useful. Thank you again! Good Sunday everyone! 👍🏿❤🙏🏽
My gosh! You are always so helpful and clear, thank you!
I’m deeply thankful ❤️
I love your all videos 💐, your words clear my thoughts,now I understand myself more
Great list and a lot of useful advice in a concise amount of time.
Thanks for sharing this. Thought provoking and makes a lot of sense.
Thank you for the information.
Thank You!
Hello Dr. Thank you I'm 17 and figuring things out. ☺️
Really love your videos. Thank you. I specially love the length of them. I don’t have to wade through 10 or 15 minutes of filler talking. Digestible, actionable, healthy, helpful. Thank you
Such a smart lady
The feedback thing is a new one for me. Thank you for this video. This has actually given me more help than the last three career counselors I've spoken to.
Thank you
Wonderful advice!
I'm loving all your videos. Would you consider making a video about trauma bonding with a covert narcissist? How to move on from the discard and now hoovering phase. Thank you so much ♥️
You. Are. So Perfect. Thank you very much for your effort. 💕
What I like more is the topics and your simplicity, and your ability with all certainty, what I hate more the music behind.
Dear Dr. Tracey Marks.
Your channel is one of the bests on CZcams.
You are funny, you give so much good advice, and you are nice to listen to.
Thank You.
Thankyou 💐
thank you :)
Perfect timing
This video so was useful and digestible, I can’t believe it doesn’t have more views. The CZcams algorithm is failing you on this one, Dr. Marks!
Wise advice and a prudent list of questions to help you sort through possible options.
Thank you. 😊
I wish Dr Tracey Marks is my Doctor. She is an expert in Psychiatry. All topics are very well explained, She knows the right thing to say, very informative and interesting topics. in one vids you can learn a lot everything you have to know. Powerful talks can change a person mentality.
Thanks so much KV!
I know my priorities but tend to question them. I am also black and white and want to do certain things like my travel interest is literally 2 countries which now are not an option. I value family, travelling and peaceful life.
Thanks!
Thanks SO much Rebecca! I really appreciate it. 👍🏽
Thanks Dr. Marks. It was really on time. But how to distinguish between not liking to be in a team and being affraid to be in a team?
I'm diagnosed with mixed personality disorder (AvPD + OCPD) so being in a team is so frightening.
Dr Tracey is the real deal. Listen up!
Great video , thanks
You're welcome alberto Viale! 🙂
Dr. Marks thank you for Making these Excellent Mental Health Videos.
you are surely saving interested people a lot of money from paying a shrink,
Do you address religious beliefs and mental Health in any of your videos
Thanks again for your video. You confirmed some things that crossed my mind which is greatly appreciated. You stated if you desire to make millions of dollars that you are going to have to put in a lot of hours. That is why I do not want to open my own business because of course if you want to produce excellent quality products and you are serious that takes time and I don't want to deal with the demands. You also said whatever you do you must enjoy which I can see the reason for that. I do know what I enjoy but like you said ponder the matter. I definitely want to continue to educate myself as far as mental illness before I go back to work because diagnoses change so you have to be vigilant. My diagnoses has changed three times so you are going to have to be aware of your symptoms and I personally think if at all possible view other symptoms in case you get a new one so you can seek help. Working has been a challenge for me so I am trying to educate myself as much as possible so I can live a healthy independant life. Thanks Dr. Marks you have given me some food for thought.
This is great Natashia. Keep being educated and working your way toward independence.
Happy to have found your channel. Where do you find the time and motivation? You are such a clear communicator ⭐️
Hi Jennifer. Thanks so much. I'm glad you found me as well. Time? Good question. If I think too hard about it, I'll realize I don't have the time. 🙂
I am 65 years old and I have a sister home I have never gotten along with. I did everything I could to win her love but up to this point it's nothing has worked. Even though she is polite oh, I can still feel the hatred. I have decided that from now on I will be okay with people not liking me for whatever their reasons are and focus on those who I no care about me. I was not aware that so many people cared. Now I know. Note that I did not say I would hate them back oh, but I will be there for her in spite of.
You are definitely helping others to reach within themselves...
Thank you second opinion
@@DrTraceyMarks Doctor why is that some people in relationships don't no that they can have BETTER!! Until they are exposed to it? Is this because of the dysfunctional family upbringing? Is this the Nature vs Nurture?
@@DrTraceyMarks No..... Thank you very much!
Great video!!
Thanks Davi!
Dr. Tracey, I love your videos. This one has a great content, but the music distracted me. I prefer to hear just your voice. ❤️
Uplifting
Easy with the music! Over powers the dr
One question I have, not so much about myself, is what do people do when they answer one of these questions like "what do I like to do?" with "I don't like to do anything, I don't have any interests, nothing is fun". I'm going to guess that when you answer a question like that, you're really providing insight into the fact that you're depressed right?
Could also have ADHD. 🤔 I do have fun with somethings but it's like I can't even remember what I like or have any motivated to do most things. All I know is I like watching anime. Other than that things don't really seem worth doing. Until i actually do them maybe. Of course it depends on the person
In my 50's and I still don't know. I thought I was gonna be a rockstar haaaa.
Is she the best or what?! I say YES. 😁😊👍
How do I find my strengths?
I just wanna have friends ane a good time with them. Oh and i wanna be creative and free and authentic as much as possible.
Authenticity first, then creativity, then exploration and adventures and playfulness, then other people and friendship, then good food and time for work and relaxation.
Nice common sense approach to a question that could be phenomenally difficult...may save decades of meditation on a mountain top 🗻😎
What can I do if my interests are constantly changing?
I do something as hobby, really like it, but as soon as I want to do that stuff more seriously ( for example try to learn more about that, joining a course, etc), I'm like: uumm no, no thanks, not for me...
Or I just simply get bored after a while and find something else (and I'll get bored again after a while).
And because of this I have no idea what I'd like to do in the future.
(I'm 18 now, and I'm staring to think about universities but don't know what to choose)
I’d love to have a job that is work from home that pays a lot. I want to be able to keep moving until the day I die tbh. Attachment is the cause of pain.
You're the best!
Thanks Tino! I appreciate you. 🙂
throughout my military career, I always joked; "I still don't know what I want to do when I grow up." That was my career...but they don't pay a retirement that is liveable. I have found that doing what I am good at pays more than "what I really want to do." I wish I had been taught some of this about 30 years ago... I wouldn't give back much though, my life has been an awesome experience. Live it, it's the only life you've got!
Amen Bandit! I'm glad your life has been awesome. Not everyone can say that, so that's a real blessing. True though about the fun things not paying as well as the necessary things. 🙂
My life has many pitfalls too,. Misspent youth that resulted in being locked up a couple times. PTSD, TBI...injuries from my Army time that I am still having surgeries to recover from. I like to think it's my mental state that says my life has been awesome. With all the pain and suffering, every day brings new experiences. I guess that was what I was going for. I don't bother dwelling on the bad things I can't change. Those things just are...they're there...life goes on. Live it, it's the only one we have.
Dr. Marks - I had a question not related to this video but something that is bothering me. Quick data: 50 male, senior naval officer, Bipolar I, GAD, history of suicide attempts. I am having a bunch of side effects that have popped up after taking my current cocktail of medication (Li, latuda and a bunch of others). One is worrisome.. I am seeing things now. I see hallucinations about three times a day. No voices but one seem to want to talk. Do you know what might be causing this? Also, I am seeing weekly a psychiatrist and a therapist. I want to check with you in case this will result in an ambulance ride to the ER and the mental ward again
Any help would be appreciated.
Hmmm....there may be some conflicts between the drugs in your cocktail, especially since you said you're on a "bunch" of others. Visual hallucinations can happen with bipolar d/o, but we tend to associate them more with a medical or physical cause like a medication/drug intoxication, seizure activity or some other illness with brain involvement. Another clue that makes me think along this line is the fact that they are a new finding while you are already on an antipsychotic drug. I don't want to alarm you - I would definitely report it to your psychiatrist so he/she can revaluate your meds and you may even need a medical workup. I'm interested to know how this turns out for you.
Thanks. Will tell you what the doc says.
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I like this video as well as all the videos I saw on Dr. Marks Channel. But honestly what I expected in it was: how to recognize in your early age how your brain is wired? What type of occupation/profession will be the best match for your character, brain, personality and the future life? The occupation that will make you satisfied and happy and the people around you as well. How to make sure that your professional way in life is going to be your mission? But may be it's too much - it's like please draw me the story of my success that I will follow and will be happy. :) Thank you D-r Marks.
LOL! I wish I could outline that all out for you. There are some therapists who specialize in this kind of discovery. Some of them do psychological testing that is supposed to identify your strengths and match it to an occupation. Some life coaches may do that as well.
Darn. The message is Buried by the (not very) 'Background Music' 😢
What you have to say is important. Please reduce the unnecessary Music underneath. Thanks
what should i do with my life? lets be practical because our main concern is financial difficulty so the only thing i could do right now is to figure it out how to get out of this situation and survive to work for a daily living, it is one great move for self improvements. i don't have too many options having this limitations see the best thing i could do right now is to live my life to fullest by working and earning for financial independence. we poor people our main goal in life is to know how can we help our self to make things better and get out of this poverty. we don't have any choice and being practical is the smartest we can do for our selves.
It would be wonderful if you could make a business out of doing something you enjoy.
We only have one life, Dr Marks? Does that mean there's no hereafter?
😁😋🤗
The music is really distracting
I wanna be like you when I grew and I'm 37 lol
If you’re looking to change your life, you probably don’t wanna consult one of your existing friends.
THis test made me realize that I want to do nothing in my life
1. Determine how hard you’re willing to work
*really not much*
2. Make a list of your values.
*being happy, not stressing too much, avoid trouble, freedom*
3. Think about your past - what went well and what didn't
*Courier/assistant , not really nice, but not too shitty. would do it again, but I rather not have to*
4. What are your current interests?
*Don't know*
5. What are your strengths?
*don't know*
6. How can you best contribute to the world?
*DOn't know, and to be fair, don't want to*
7. What do you not like to do?
*Anything that deals with people. The less human contact, the better*
Well at least you know where you stand. Now you have a place to start with developing some interests and figuring out what you can do. Then you can redo your list
I like to walking in the wood. I wan't action not millions. I need one adventure a day. I was thinking about studying mycology, but i have a bad reputation with mushrooms.
My job will soon be eliminated as the result of a merger. Never liked the job much. Pretty much the only thing I've enjoyed outside the job has been acting in amateur theater. My efforts to get professional acting gigs for the last five years has been fruitless. I'm feeling pretty stuck.
I feel the same way. I started to get serious with acting in 2018, and have been going to school for it since. But it’s been very discouraging not being able to land jobs when it’s something I like doing so much. Most of the gigs I have gotten haven’t really helped to open any doors yet
Wtf is my mom making these video recommendations
That is a pretty pretentious film.
Life is not something you do things with, it's not a utilitarian achieving goals race.
Life is too dynamic and unpredictable, for most people. The conventual concepts of self fulfillment fails misrebly.
Career , goals, status, capital and even family are just concepts of faulty thinking/rigid outlook on life.
Take a step back, take a deep breath and take it slow and easy. It is Allright.
Life cannot be wasted.
The drive for self fulfillment is often self sabotaging. You are not the center of your life, rather, the world around you and your engagement with it.
Life do not obey a planned course.
Your greatest assets are your knowledge, skills and personal abilities.
The best things in life, money just can't buy, rather are for free.
Work and talent has nothing to do with millions. You should be a millionaire to make millions or a rotten person...