Don’t Settle: Dating With Intention & Courting Your Partner | Black Love Summit 2021
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- Don’t Settle: Dating With Intention & Courting Your Partner
You can meet in a bar and have an off/on romance then be married 25 years like Anthony & Melanie Clark from season 4 of Black Love or you can meet online and get engaged after 3 years like our friends BreAnna Jones & Devin Chapman. There’s no one way to find your person. Matchmaker Devyn Simone will get these couples talking about what they were looking for, how they were intentional about it, and what courtship looks like after commitment.
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“If anyone is making you feel like you’re too much, then they probably weren’t enough.” That was a word.
Ain’t it!? Wow
Amen to that! ♥️
Yesss....That part alone made the whole summit for me. That spoke to my soul! I needed to hear that tonight! 🙌💜🙌
Anthony said: "I'm gonna love her the way I love me-and I love me a lot!"
That was a whole WORD! Yaaas!
“I knew what I wanted because I was a match to what I wanted. That’s because I put a lot of work into me so I could be what I wanted. So when I ran across that person, I could immediately identify her”
"The person who's meant for you, is fire proof."
That right there, is a hallelujah statement 🙌 🙌🙌😁
🙌💜🙌Yesss...That part! Amen
“Marriage is the longest date”… 🤔💭🤯✅
The older couple is transparency, beautiful,honest, single beings and grown people that know what they wanted out of life and life partner (spouse). You make marriage look good ❤️❤️❤️
Loveeee what Melanie said about embracing her natural masculine energy. That was her authentic self, and that's what attracted her authentic partner. Not putting on an inauthentic more 'feminine' front, which sadly a lot of coaches teach on YT. Embrace your natural masculine:feminine energy ratio! Heal what needs healing, embrace the rest! SO HERE FOR THIS!
When he said it's not my job to complete her, that's it right there you have to be complete in yourself and bringing your whole self to the relationship. I love it
Bre was pretty lit and I love how vulnerable she was with sharing her religious upbringing. I can totally relate to the shame that comes with no being a virgin until marriage.
Marriage is not the longest date, however, I think I get the sentiment. It consists of many things a date does not consist of. Its also to be treated as sacred. You can easily walk out on a date, marriage is not a thing we just walk out of, its a Covenant
Bre is so cute and sweet. I love the drama in her expressions. I absolutely love Anthony and Melanie's love story.
The way I hollered..... LOL 😂😂😂 Bri is hilarious, Devin's face, he just kept laughing! Anthony and Melanie, you can feel their love jumping off the screen. I remember them from the show. 🌹🦋💐
The couples are lovely! 🖤🖤
Bri needs to be on tv! She’s a natural actress.
Wow...that is exactly what I said while watching her too! I loved her...she is made for tv for sure! Lol😂
I love Bre's wonderfully quirky personality, transparency and authenticity! I celebrate her being herself and her guy loving her in that.
This whole conversation was just 🔥🔥🔥 I love it and have shared it multiple times. My husband and I met online and did the relationship *our* way. Had to release some family and friends because they wouldn't let me live (so I recommend doing a purge if necessary and don't look back). A year and 2 months later, we were married. Every date and every conversation early on was *super* intentional. And we made the cake *our* way. I had to let go of the "perfect" ideal I had as a single woman. I also had to stop expecting more than I was was giving. I was born & raised church, so I totally understand the stigmas that are attached, but I'm *still* in the church serving because I serve a God who does NOT condemn - church folk do, but God doesn't. And once I let go of what others thought/ wanted/ judged - I was 💯 better in my relationship!! Make sure God knows your heart and that you are true to yourself and you'll be fine.🖤 I love Black Love!!!
Bri is such a good public speaker and storyteller. I like her.
The older couple are most likely twin flames.. they are so perfect together
They do believe they are each other's soul mates/ twin flames
@@danajataylor8864 soul mates & twin flames are drastically different though. Because it’s more of a spiritual journey finding yourself that is triggered by the other person. And a lot of times, they will repel each other until they start focusing on themselves and their own growth as an individual
@@norapeace6526 I know they’re different. I just couldn’t recall if the couple said soul mates or twin flames which is why the slash was there.
@@danajataylor8864 gotcha
Y’all are back, thank God and God continual to bless you.🙏🏽
Love Black Love!!!🖤 This is a powerful and needed conversation for *all* couples entering/ in a relationship. Make your own cake!!🎂💘
Loved EV-ER-Y THING about this! 💕 The humor, transparency and just overall "gem dropping" was SOOO awesome!! Thank you all for sharing your stories!!
This was just valuable! I learned way more than I even thought possible, including something I didn’t even realize.
The level of wisdom and vulnerability in this panel was amazing. As always, just love Anthony and Melanie. Towards the end when the newly engaged sista spoke about the religious, sexual taboos, I cried with her. I remember when I was younger, feeling the shame.
Blessings to both these couples, to you Codie and Tommy, and to Devyn the Matchmaker, thank you for your wisdom.
Melanie and Anthony made my day on black love. They make me feel like I know them every time they talk 😍
I love that….”the person that’s meant to be with you is fire proof”
Good set! Helpful. Thank u beautiful couples
This whole panel was sooo amazing 👏🏾🤎🖤
This was a great segment with good relational nuggets
I'm glad Anthony talked about he understood his assignment of his relationship. He can't say anything better. I didn't look at it as her completing me, I can't allow that. I completely understand I must work on me to Complete myself as she also Completes herself, but we working together and thusfar it's worked 30 yrs STRONG. Some Men Gets it, and many will never understand a Woman can't COMPLETE THEM. That's God's doing to complete Man and Woman. We just here to enhance one another in the relationship. 😉
I felt so bad so Bri that her family made her experience that with being a virgin. I am also a 30 year old virgin, but by my personal choice, not because of family or even from religion, even though it does make me feel better that Christianity holds the same values. So its a completely different experience than her but I would hate for my family to force me to do that & I didn't agree. I also am so hurt she left her religion but I totally understand why from what she said. The guy I fell for and care about stopped talking to me because he thought "all the God & prayers" I did & talked about was doing more harm than good and he stopped believing & hoping in God to change his situation. I know I can't speak for anyone but myself, but THOSE PEOPLE hurt you, not GOD!!! I just wish people could differentiate the two
Hey Nora! Thanks for your comment. I just wanted to make it clear that my family is absolutely amazing and never made me feel anything other than accepted and loved. What I was trying to communicate (and I realize the way I phrased it was misleading) was that in Christianity, you're taught to save yourself for marriage, and I'm not here to say that that teaching is good or bad, but for me, after losing my virginity, there was a shame that I put on myself because I felt that I was no longer right with God or right for my future husband. I just wanted to clarify that I in no way meant that story as a criticism of my family or even the church. I am very thankful for the way my family raised me.
@@breannajones645 ohhh ok I see. I understand. Thanks for explaining dear. I really appreciate you for that. I know God didn’t stop loving you for losing your virginity before marriage. We all do things we are ashamed of but God is a forgiving God (thank goodness). Hopefully you are past that now. ☺️ I wish you and your fiancé nothing but a happy, long and peaceful marriage 🥰💗🙏🏽
Wow deep…
I really like and respect the comments that have been made. But I want to say that our relationship with God is a personal one with him alone. Nothing is forced on us in our relationship with him. God hates the sins we do not us as individuals. I applaud her parents for bringing her up the way that they did because the seeds have been planted in her so now GOD will water those seeds and he will get the glory for what he has done and will do in her life. Bre honey GOD is not finished with you yet.... Peace, Love, and Light to you and congratulations on your engagement to your King 🤴🏾🖤👏🏾
I'm a 30 yr old virgin as well
Love this conversation - dating history is so diverse - it’s really about appreciating your unique journey without comparison.
That Exchange online is amazing
The host is fantastic. Great amount of humor and charisma
I’m really needed to hear this
I really enjoyed the mature conversations. The fact that they were very open and authentic about who they are was the reason I continued to watch. Bre is a very animated person I liked her a lot.
Adore is a very great place to start; so thanks Melanie and Anthony for your story. The other couple's story is also very helpful, so thanks to them as well. God, I humbly ask you for mutual adoration in my next love relationship. -Amen.
The person that is meant for you is fire prove!!!!! Love it!
Love Bri, she's honest and funny
this is a beautiful segment. I'm looking forward to getting married and sharing the same interest. Love love love!!
I enjoyed this panel alot. I wanted to commend Devyn (apologize for spelling). But she moderated this to perfection. There was balance between questions, answers and the vibe.
She is serious about that cake analogy 🤣
Ooooh, I'm grabbing a snack and settling down to watch this 😁
Love it!!!
I love the show Black Love. 🖤❤️😍
Met on a dating app , 2.11 years ago . Not yet engaged . Living separately ( different states ) since 2019 . Only seen once in the last year . ( this past weekend;) ) . Still in love . Oh , and hooked up on the first night .
Love this ❤️❤️❤️ love is beautiful
Don’t tell a new man what the last man did to you
This was good and transparent
Thank u
Black love is beautiful
Is Sis an ARIES BC I felt that when Brea said Doubt Pressue Push😂😂😂😂
Miss this so much ❤❤❤❤
22:30 YES COME TO GHANA Y'ALL
Yaaas!!..Ghana to the world🇬🇭🇬🇭
pile 2!
New Sub♥️
Much love from Ghana❤
Bre is hilarious 🤣
Awwwww gratitude 💜✨
Hello from Ghana 🇬🇭 🇬🇭
🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️from Kenya Africa 🌍
The app couple is funny 🤣
The couple that had been together for 30 years, how long were they together before he/she proposed?
Wait is that devyn from the Challenge??
I just wanted to comment on the example she gave about the best friend getting the job in Australia versus your spouse and getting a job in Australia I think that what is missing is the part of did we have a conversation about that generally you and your best friends have those type of conversations where are you say girl I just applied for a job in Australia and I’m praying I getting it. It would be the same thing with your spouse they would say babe I’m thinking about applying to a job in Australia that I saw it fits me perfectly what you think and that’s when the support comes in as opposed to surprises
Being married means US NOT I, WE NOT ME. You become one so making that kind of decision without talking with your spouse first is a very selfish act. In a marriage that decision affects the entire household as a single person it will only affect you because that person is not accountable to anyone.
Speak a word, Contessa!
Ghana yessssssss
Double dutch 😂
Go Ghana 🇬🇭 I’m Ghanaian 🔥❤️❤️❤️❤️
If my wife got a job opportunity in Australia it would depend on my career and my obligations in the U.S. and the type of opportunity before I uproot my life and move to the other side of the world.
Lol I want to go to Ghana
Go to Ghana people 🇬🇭😂💃🏽
Ghanaaa
Bri's man is taking too long to wife her yet he sees how important it is for her.
@12:07
Woman wearing all black should've asked why she waiting 2-3 days to respond
She said at the start that she rarely checked the app....
What is "settling?"
Other people's ideas of what's right for you.
@@RAPierce that is such a great answer
Divest!!!
Trauma…get therapy, do inner work
This title is so misleading!! Everyone settles 😂! Marriage is a fools game
I take it that you've never been married before; and if you haven't how would you know what marriage is? 🤔
@@contessanowacki5754 I have been married and it is bad business!! Doesn’t make sense imho!
So, instead of continuing with these abstract, vague & illusive dialogues, let’s look at this from a clear & concise manner.
30% of BM are married to BW.
54% of BM are single & childless.
65% of BW are single mothers.
* 59% by more then one man.
25% of BW will ever be married.
And yet, 80% of BW file for divorce.
Factor in age & weight as they are contributors to geriatric/high-risk pregnancies, or their inability to carry future children to term at all (menopause, too many abortions, etc.). Not to mention, you can be put on child support for just being the only &/or predominant male figure in the child's life.
So no good deed goes unpunished...
"In the United States, Women owe the majority of the outstanding $1.7 trillion dollars in student loans. As of 2020, women held almost $929 billion in outstanding student debt."
And BW owe 22% more in student loan debt than WW.
Did I mention that 60% of BM are now in the middle class?
"As for another group, step-fathers, 24% of Black men are stepparents. That makes them the most likely to be stepfathers across all racial groups."
Do these numbers support a mutually beneficial relationship opportunity?
Please sit this one out. Considering this is “black marriages” the common denominator is Black men (not all) but black men. Yes some women decide to lay down with knowingly or unknowingly problematic men but it is the MAN who impregnates her, so that man should keep his beetle juice outside her baby making area bozo. Therefore, keep your dusty logic and one sided statistics off this classy channel. Women in general have reasons as to why they want a divorce. But due to how simple minded you seem to be by spreading this poorly done narrative and forgetting that men are not these perfect people who might have caused issues as well to lead these women wanting a divorce. Everything else you speak of is null in void. Go and crawl up back in that dark corner of the stupidity and rejection, we do not care about your projections and “opinions”.