People used to ask my brother that all the time and finally he responded with "why are you so loud?" The look on their faces when he flipped it was priceless.
I hate when people say “oh you sound boring” whenever i say I don’t smoke or drink. I don’t knock other 19 yr olds that do, but that’s just not my thing
I’m 26 & I still have that same problem. Dare to be different! The best friends you’ll ever have in life won’t have to do drugs at all. You’re a treasure. Damn those people.
I have a confession: I'm a little antisocial and have social anxiety. Like my life right now is college, graduating and getting good grades. So when I interact with someone, I try to connect with them through school or work. I'm not trying to offend someone, that's not my intention. I just dont know how to interact with them otherwise.
The surrogate comment is so insensitive. When you can see a person is trying to get pregnant and really excited about it why would you even say something like that. So disrespectful and insensitive! That’s none of our business in the first place😷
Robert Nicholson yes I’m aware of that. But the comment made on that for Adrienne was unnecessary. It’s not our place. She’s trying to get pregnant and hopefully she does! If she isn’t able to she can take the steps she thinks is right. She didn’t announce anything so for us to be like just waiting till Adrienne announces her surrogate is insensitive. We don’t know what is exactly going on in her life right. It can be hurtful!
While I absolutely agree with it being out of line to say.I am curious as to why so many women in the entertainment business seem to have a hard time conceiving? And you would think these rich women have access to great healthcare and assuming that many of them are seemingly in good health because of their access to nourishing food and excercising facilities.When it seems that the average women with less access to the things that these rich stars have seem to concieve with no problem even repeatedly.Im not saying that non famous women dont have issues conceiving but it just seems that getting pregnant or not getting pregnant amoungst the hollywood famous is very noticiable.
@@DarkAurora2002 Even if they did do it for vanity it's none of anyone's business. Maybe they don't want the experience of giving birth just like some women are obsessed with the experience of giving birth. I never want kids but if I did have one I would get a surrogate because that option is available. Childbirth changes so much more than just your outward appearance.
I hate that like if I went around smiling 24/7 you would think something is mentally wrong with me and if I don’t smile enough you still think something is wrong with me you just can’t win 😂
Same here!! I’m 30 years old and 80% of my friends have kids and I hate when they ask me the same. I’m not rushing #1 & 2 I’m too focused on my personal goals rn and a baby is not on the list. 😣
Seriously. Imagine asking someone that and they've just had a miscarriage, or they can't get pregnant, their partner might be infertile... It's SUCH an invasive question that can be so hurtful
“Wow you’re pretty , you’re not fully Nigerian , stop lying . “ This plays into the idea that mixed women are the most attractive . How on earth can a fully black Nigerian be attractive ? It hurts the most when it comes from black men who have been conditioned to the notion that black women aren’t beautiful . Thank you media ,
That's nuts, but I completely understand. They always trying to dig into your ba kground to try to justify why you're attractive...Nevertheless, you are absolutely gorgeous Queen, and let them know that your melanin is situated the way God intended.
People need to stop asking women questions about anything pertaining to children ESPECIALLY if you don’t know them. It doesn’t matter your intention it’s rude period.
Oooooo this ! I worked with someone who was telling a story about how she told her sister she should have children now because she’s “running out of time”. I was appalled by her mindset and audacity to say that to another woman, nonetheless her sister!
Yes! I’ve learned that you should never ask a woman or a couple why they don’t have kids or why they only have x number of kids. It may be that they don’t want any or have lost a baby. Whatever the reason it’s very personal.
@@tiffanydaniel4261 I totally agree! One question I get often that bothers me... And maybe this is being dramatic but I would NEVER ask someone I dont really know this question... When someone ask if I have kids, I say yes 2 and I always get..do they have the same dad? Uuuummm YES! lol my husband is the father of BOTH kids. I just think its odd to ask someone that.😂😂
the rudeness of the question made my jaw drop. once someone asked me if my siblings and I had the same dad I was so offended like what are u trying to say about my momma?
Im Italian and I've gotten that question at least once a week for as long as I can remember. If I reply, "nothing" since I'm not then it brings on a whole other set of questions. 🤦
Omg! Yes. I congratulated someone at the movies with her family who looked to be about 8 months pregnant & she wasn't. 🤦♀️😫. To be fair the rest of her body looked normal but I will never do that again even if it's obvious as well. Smh.
I hate questions that have an obvious answer...you standing at the sink washing dishes and someone asks "what are you doing?" I'm preparing for a flight to the moon...what does it look like I'm doing? It's so annoying.
justmemadison don’t u hate when people also are like “ what u eating “ MY BUSINESS... youre not getting a piece cuz I cooked it for myself , I bought it for myself... if u wanted some u gladly can go get it yourself lol
The worst part is that sometimes I try sarcasm, and people don't get that it's sarcasm. We could be at the gym, they ask "What are you doing here?" and I'm like "I'm learning Italian -_-" and one guy told me "Really?! How do you do that at a gym?"
Guys, I absolutely hate going on dates, and the guy asks, “So, tell me about yourself.” 😭 WHAT DO YOU MEAN?! Be specific, get into specific questions! What do you want to know!?
"Do you have a boyfriend?", "No! Why not?!". That question irritates me beyond belief. Maybe I'm tired of sifting through emotionally unavailable men to find the one good one who can give me the relationship I want. I can't make a man want me the same way I want him and I'm tired of trying so I AM SINGLE!
This one pisses me off so much. It's literally none of your business why someone is single. The flip question annoys me, too: *observes behavior in your partner they don't find attractive* "Why are you with xyz?" Gross. Unless we're close, why the hell do you think I need to explain my relationship status or my choice of partners to you?
Honestly!! They’ll ask men if they’re enjoying living the bachelor life but with us it’s like “😕 oh you poor thing ugh sweetheart, why don’t you want a man? Can’t find one?”
my grandma telling me to evaluate my relationship, think about what you love/hate about one another and if you won't get marrried break up now! Literally got this text a few weeks ago -_- We have been together 6 years and own a house and everything. Got my IUD in 2017 so we have planned for when we want children. He aint going anywhere anytime soon! lol Damn Catholics
@She’s so Lucky oh yes. My sister bought a house (under her name). Once she got married now everyone is calling it her HUSBAND'S house instead of saying her or their house. For ex : "Hey let's go to "husband name's house" or when they talk about the house they say "his house is always clean" or "his house has a pool"... even when she is right there.
Girl.....😒 Like I don't understand why people feel that that's an appropriate question to ask someone. What u do/don't do with your partners is nobody's business but u, them and your doctor.
When I got married people would ask “When are you having a baby?” Now that my daughter is 2, I’m getting the “When are you having another one?” Smh it never ends.
People ask me all the time, "Why do you have that thing on your head? Don't you get hot?" LOL! I choose to and no, it's not more hot. I'm used to warm weather.
Just tell them to keep out of your uterus! My entire family once had a conversation on whether or not I should have children and I said “can we stop talking about whether or not I’ll reproduce, please???”
You know those idiots👀. Like just because you are Mexican doesn’t mean you have to have brown skin and dark hair. Mexicans come in ALL shades. Don’t listen to them fools. 🙄
So annoying!!... It’s like they’re deciding how much respect they’re gonna assign to you based on your profession. I hate this question with a passion.
I feel bad that I really busted out laughing with loni when she said “they got the same fathers” 🥴🥴😂😂😂 my bad. I really miss when it was just them four they were so funny
Raayden your not alone that was funny. Not what the woman said but when I think Adrienne said “& she’s still alive?” & all the ladies expressions. That had me cracking up with Loni
@@AirBahg She's condescending. She always feels like her opinion is always right specially when it comes to race issues. I think she'll fit more on The View rather than The Real.
I have an accent so people tend to ask where I am from. I say Jamaica then they respond by either saying " thanks for learning English" or " you speak English really good". I respond by saying it should be " English really well" and Jamaica is an English speaking country.
Oh my god same!! Just because I speak eloquently, does not make me sound white!! Since when does an entire race own the right to sound a certain way? Ridiculous
“Bc my parents raised me well , respect, and basic plain English skills , I also graduated. Sorry if your mama sound like a fool when she speaks “ that’s what I say !
I always get asked when I'm gonna start dating. I'm 21 and was cheated on when I was 18, single for 3 years now 🤷🏼♀️ Even my parents are trying to set me up. Like yall I'm tryna get my life and my self together. I'll settle down when I'm good and ready 👏
Little Black Star I come from a culture where I'm also 21(almost 22) and I'm basically considered an old lady. I mean no one asks me those questions, but it is very annoying. So when I tell people I'm single-they're very suprised
Even hearing people say ‘you’ve lost weight!’ really bothers me even though it’s intended as a good thing I suppose. I used to struggle with eating disorders and even though, I’ve been healthy/recovered for years, it’s always a huge insecurity for me. I feel like any comments pertaining to a woman’s weight needs to stop...even if it’s intended as a compliment, you never know what that person is going through.
Yes most of my family is/was overweight at some point so “you’ve lost weight” is very much seen as a compliment but I just can’t stand when anyone says it to me it makes me super uncomfortable. Then I try to explain how I prefer if they don’t say and they don’t understand and think I’m unreasonable and somewhat bitchy
As a black woman I hate when I am making a large purchase and the person asks me “soo... what do you do for a living.” My response... I work just like you.
Onika Tonya Maraj I think it’s supposed to be like “how can you afford this” or even “I didn’t expect someone like you to have this kind of money” it could’ve been racially charged, or she wasn’t looking A1 that day idk 🤷🏽♀️
This is the thing. When you're single they ask you when get a boyfriend, when you get a boyfriend they ask you when you get engaged, when you get engaged they ask you when the big day is. After you get married they ask you when you want kids. When your first child arrives they ask you when you want your second. When you have two boys they say to try for a girl. When you have two girls they say you should try for a boy. When they're old enough they ask you if you have grandchildren. When you reach 100 they wonder why you're still alive.
I only experienced this when I was single for a long time. I thought they'd stop asking questions but since I was with my partner they asked questions about when I'll be getting married. Then asked me when I'll have a baby etc. It never stops there. Even with my single mother who is in her 60s. She lives alone but shes happy. People just insinuate just because shes alone she needs a man.
Damn, it's the older women though that are booooold with their questions 😭🤣🤣🤣. A few years ago, I was at a CVS with my [step] son who looks exactly like his father, and an older lady comes up to me and says, oh your baby is cute. He looks nothing like you. I was like oh... I know he looks like his dad, then she left 🤦🏻♀️
I agree, the older women feel like they can say anything and make you feel uncomfortable enough to get answers out of you. I put them in their place real quick now. When you give them a rude remark back they shut up and mind their business. When you act all shy then they think they can keep doing that to others. They love to intimidate younger people into doing what they want. I let em know I run the show over here. They might think it's rude of me but they think it's fine if they do it.
I HATE when people tell me, “you have a pretty face,” (I’m slightly over weight) . Like no, honey, I’m just pretty, just because I’m not your ideal body shape doesn’t mean the rest of me is any less beautiful.
"So you don't work?" When you're mainly a stay at home mom who works on the side housekeeping and they don't realize you are backpacking everything in the home. I've had many jobs. This is a job lol but I don't get my own full work paycheck.
I wouldnt even respond. If its an innocent, what do you do? Id say i do a lot of things. If its so you don't work?....rude. Be blocked. Why do they care whats in your pocket
In my family we are all different shades of brown but we have the same parents. When I’m with my lighter skin sister people sometimes ask if we have different fathers and I find it offensive. It’s annoying and hurtful but I’ve learned to brush it off over time...
I'm dark skinned and my bother is light skinned. In school teachers would stop me more than once to ask me if we REALLY had the same father and the same mother.
Ok bare with me guys... but I hate questions where it seems like ur asking just to ask not because you need a solution... like I hate “ What you doing “ then I answer and they’re like “ Oh ok “ like wtf is that
I hate it when people ask me if I’m mad and I tell them no, I’m not mad and they just keep going at it saying but you look like your mad, so you must be mad.
I wore full beat in hs so wen i showed up makeupless eveyone thought i was sick. I realized these ppl only see me at my best which is y I decided on no more makeup unless it was a special occasion. Best thing ive ever done for my confidence. I like how i look both ways equally as much
"why are you so quiet" "why don't you talk about your life" "do you have a boyfriend" "do you live alone" "where are you from" "how old are you" "you're tall for a girl" I can go on and on. People are nosey and rude and just wanna have one up on you. Nevertheless keep your business to yourself and only answer things you want to answer. Don't ever feel pressured.
What do you answer when they ask your age but you don’t want to answer? It happened to me on the bus, this girl kept asking my age, non stop, like bitch, I didn’t want to tell her and she kept asking, I just let her assume my age, never really told her, but how do I manage those questions?
My daughter was born very light with curly hair and people kept asking me if the father was white and when i said no he was African they asked "are you sure?" I kept getting this question for yrs i was fed up!
i have naturally curly 3a-3b hair and because of the fact that i’m white ive always gotten questioned about if my hair is real or not. from the time i was little (age 5-6) to now being 20 years old people are always curious. for example, customers at my job ask me at least 5 times a day “is ur hair real?” or “is that natural” and sometimes it makes me happy because i see people are genuinely interested and then it’s followed up by “it’s beautiful, i wish i had hair like yours” but then on the other hand, some people ask me and they ask in a rude way as if my hair is unprofessional or it’s too big/frizzy for there liking and THAT bothers me to no end. i wish people would understand that we come in all shapes, colors, and hair textures and understand that diversity in people is not something to be bothered by, but something to be appreciative of.
The innocent question that bothers me is when are you going to get married and start a family? Or when are you finishing school? Those bother me because I desire to be married but I’m single. Also I’m premed so I will be in school for awhile. I know it doesn’t sound offensive but hearing the questions so much gets on my nerves! I’m young, I’m 28 so maybe I will be married eventually who knows 🤷🏽♀️
Tracy G recently I was looking for a place to purchase and I told my realtor that I want a 2 bedroom place since I’m buying. She says to me “you have no man or kids so you don’t need a 2 bedroom”. Talk about a big punch in the face. It’s like people fail to realize I’m a full time student and just because I don’t have a family now doesn’t mean it will never happen. It’s irritating 😒
oh i often get "are you over 21' bc im short for my age I get people to question my age, I'm 26 and people think I'm 16, also having a nature makeup is fablouse, i dont wear makeup but your inner beauty is beautiful too
I hate when people say “you look so tired”. I’m pregnant and my face is a little fuller then before and shinier. Every time I shower and do my skin care routine and go out thinking I look cute, someone always says “you look so tired” or “are you ok, you look like you just woke up”. It’s kinda annoying, and I always reply “yeah just a bit tired” cuz it’s upsetting when people say stuff like that, I’m literally just pregnant. I gained a few pounds and my face is fuller that doesn’t mean I’m not ok or I’m upset. I always get asked that especially by my in-laws and it’s annoying even though I know they don’t mean to offend me
They need a chill pill... next time that happens just point to your stomach & smile then slowly walk away... they'll know what you mean & hopefully leave you alone... you don't owe anyone an explanation for how you look... period
I’d rather have things said to my face instead of behind my back so I can clarify, as opposed to them making assumptions in them ”car ride home” as Adrienne mentioned
Questions I hate being asked: Why are u so quiet? ....Because I’m selectively social😒 When are u having a baby? ...When I get married😒 When are u getting married? ...😒
When ur black and people ask 'where are you from?' and u reply with NYC and they look at you again and say 'where are you really from?' Like no sis I just told you where I'm from 🙄
I get this when I mention Oakland. They're like, were you visiting? Uhm, no...??? Born there my dude. "But you arent ghetto/ratchet." Then I have to hit them with the, wowwww I dont have time for this ignorant bullshit
I hate when someone says "you're so pretty, you probably don't have any problems in your life." As to say just cause you looks a certain way you're excluded from hardship. 😔Not even close
I hate when people ask me why i’m not in school or why i don’t drive? It’s not the question necessarily that bothers me but the way they ask it. Or the worst is when someone asks if im still a virgin. The tone is their voice makes me seem like an insane person for being one. Like god mind ur business it doesn’t affect you lmao.
I get ask why I don’t drive constantly and it’s annoying because it’s due to sever health issues that I don’t want to go into deep details but they won’t shut up if I don’t tell them why
I hate being asked, "So what are you doing these days?" or "Anything new?". I don't do much apart from studying and I've been stuck at the same spot for quite some time.
In an interview when they ask “why do you want this job?”
Cause I’m broke dammit!
😂😂😂
lol
hahaha exactly
😂😂😂😂
Especially when it’s a job that doesn’t pay well. Like, why else would I want to work at McDonalds? Tf
I hate being asked, "Why are you so quiet?"
nybaah I get ask that question soo many times 😣😣😣
Me too omg or tell me to smile
People used to ask my brother that all the time and finally he responded with "why are you so loud?" The look on their faces when he flipped it was priceless.
I hate that question too. I just say I’m quiet because I’m not talking 🤷🏾♀️
righttttt, i'm quiet around people i'm not comfortable with yet...
I hate when people say “oh you sound boring” whenever i say I don’t smoke or drink. I don’t knock other 19 yr olds that do, but that’s just not my thing
Lauryn H. Right
Facts or girl you weird lol. I’m like well dang
I’m 26 & I still have that same problem. Dare to be different! The best friends you’ll ever have in life won’t have to do drugs at all. You’re a treasure. Damn those people.
Lauryn H. Same only black tar heroin for me
Girl im 26... same!
I hate when people ask me about school and how’s it going like let me stress about it in peace dammit
I have a confession: I'm a little antisocial and have social anxiety. Like my life right now is college, graduating and getting good grades. So when I interact with someone, I try to connect with them through school or work. I'm not trying to offend someone, that's not my intention. I just dont know how to interact with them otherwise.
@@victoriaarriaga6420 i'm the same :(
Victoria Arriaga @ur mom omg me too we should be friends🥺🥺
Same
I hate talking about school and I'm also tired of saying fine all time
When you think you look fine but someone asks “are you tired?” Or “are you ok?” Like dang just call me ugly 😆
Or when someone says are you mad? Like sorry I have resting bitch face.-.
🤣🤣
I hate that lol
🤣🤣🤣🤣
I get “u look tired” alot. Hurts my feelings a bit.
The surrogate comment is so insensitive. When you can see a person is trying to get pregnant and really excited about it why would you even say something like that. So disrespectful and insensitive! That’s none of our business in the first place😷
Yeah that was definitely not "innocent" at all. Very malicious!
Some women use surrogates not because of vanity but because of health reasons
Robert Nicholson yes I’m aware of that. But the comment made on that for Adrienne was unnecessary. It’s not our place. She’s trying to get pregnant and hopefully she does! If she isn’t able to she can take the steps she thinks is right. She didn’t announce anything so for us to be like just waiting till Adrienne announces her surrogate is insensitive. We don’t know what is exactly going on in her life right. It can be hurtful!
While I absolutely agree with it being out of line to say.I am curious as to why so many women in the entertainment business seem to have a hard time conceiving? And you would think these rich women have access to great healthcare and assuming that many of them are seemingly in good health because of their access to nourishing food and excercising facilities.When it seems that the average women with less access to the things that these rich stars have seem to concieve with no problem even repeatedly.Im not saying that non famous women dont have issues conceiving but it just seems that getting pregnant or not getting pregnant amoungst the hollywood famous is very noticiable.
@@DarkAurora2002 Even if they did do it for vanity it's none of anyone's business. Maybe they don't want the experience of giving birth just like some women are obsessed with the experience of giving birth. I never want kids but if I did have one I would get a surrogate because that option is available. Childbirth changes so much more than just your outward appearance.
“Why don’t you smile more?” Annnnoying
My answer is always “I have RBF, mind your business!” 😂
I hate that like if I went around smiling 24/7 you would think something is mentally wrong with me and if I don’t smile enough you still think something is wrong with me you just can’t win 😂
Yasssssss my number 1 most hated question!!
Literallyy🙄
I hate this so much, and the worst part is I don't try to look bitchy it's my face fault 😂😩
The one that bothers me is “why don’t you have kids” my response is “why don’t you have manners”
Lol imma use that haha
LOL I wish I could say that to my bf family, I could say it to mine but I try to be respectful to his.
Same here!! I’m 30 years old and 80% of my friends have kids and I hate when they ask me the same. I’m not rushing #1 & 2 I’m too focused on my personal goals rn and a baby is not on the list. 😣
Seriously. Imagine asking someone that and they've just had a miscarriage, or they can't get pregnant, their partner might be infertile... It's SUCH an invasive question that can be so hurtful
I always reply with "Are you going to take care of them?"
“Wow you’re pretty , you’re not fully Nigerian , stop lying . “
This plays into the idea that mixed women are the most attractive . How on earth can a fully black Nigerian be attractive ?
It hurts the most when it comes from black men who have been conditioned to the notion that black women aren’t beautiful . Thank you media ,
That's nuts, but I completely understand. They always trying to dig into your ba kground to try to justify why you're attractive...Nevertheless, you are absolutely gorgeous Queen, and let them know that your melanin is situated the way God intended.
Who cares what black men say jeez
There's so much colorism in literally all POC cultures it's disgusting. Like dark skinned people are beautiful and intelligent too? Are you dumb?
No, I definitely get this a lot.. You aren't fully Asian are you? lmao
True
People need to stop asking women questions about anything pertaining to children ESPECIALLY if you don’t know them. It doesn’t matter your intention it’s rude period.
Oooooo this ! I worked with someone who was telling a story about how she told her sister she should have children now because she’s “running out of time”. I was appalled by her mindset and audacity to say that to another woman, nonetheless her sister!
Yes! I’ve learned that you should never ask a woman or a couple why they don’t have kids or why they only have x number of kids. It may be that they don’t want any or have lost a baby. Whatever the reason it’s very personal.
I have had someone ask me at an interview if I was pregnant or have been pregnant. I am short and hell skinny and curvy so obviously not
@@jaimesissel7973 Wow, how was that at all relevant to the position?
@@tiffanydaniel4261 I totally agree! One question I get often that bothers me... And maybe this is being dramatic but I would NEVER ask someone I dont really know this question... When someone ask if I have kids, I say yes 2 and I always get..do they have the same dad? Uuuummm YES! lol my husband is the father of BOTH kids. I just think its odd to ask someone that.😂😂
“They got the same father’s?” 😭 Oh no she didn’t!! In the words of Tamar “She Tried It!!!”
I'm crying of laughter from that comment I would have paid to see her reaction when that lady said that😂🤣😭🤦♀️
the rudeness of the question made my jaw drop. once someone asked me if my siblings and I had the same dad I was so offended like what are u trying to say about my momma?
Just ignorant.
I would've taken off my earrings and starting swingin'.
"what are u mixed with?" 🙄black.
Yes I hate that...😫
Samee (i hate when they ask are you Haitian) like nooo ? (No offense to haitians)
Im Italian and I've gotten that question at least once a week for as long as I can remember. If I reply, "nothing" since I'm not then it brings on a whole other set of questions. 🤦
Kristy Case sameeee that's what happens to me lol
SAME
I never ask someone if they pregnant even if the obvious lol I’ll wait until they bring it up.
Thank you. Lol
Exactly.
Some people are just trash and insensitive
Omg! Yes. I congratulated someone at the movies with her family who looked to be about 8 months pregnant & she wasn't. 🤦♀️😫. To be fair the rest of her body looked normal but I will never do that again even if it's obvious as well. Smh.
@@dw6317 yes. It could be anything. I've known people with fibroid tumors to look pregnant
I hate questions that have an obvious answer...you standing at the sink washing dishes and someone asks "what are you doing?" I'm preparing for a flight to the moon...what does it look like I'm doing? It's so annoying.
Right I hate that. Or when you go to throw something away and someone asks "What is that?" Like why does it matter it's TRASH. 🤦
justmemadison don’t u hate when people also are like “ what u eating “ MY BUSINESS... youre not getting a piece cuz I cooked it for myself , I bought it for myself... if u wanted some u gladly can go get it yourself lol
The worst part is that sometimes I try sarcasm, and people don't get that it's sarcasm. We could be at the gym, they ask "What are you doing here?" and I'm like "I'm learning Italian -_-" and one guy told me "Really?! How do you do that at a gym?"
@@mohamedaminehadji6415 hahahahahaha
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Guys, I absolutely hate going on dates, and the guy asks, “So, tell me about yourself.”
😭 WHAT DO YOU MEAN?! Be specific, get into specific questions! What do you want to know!?
Taylorr YumTum I HATE that question too 😖
Hahaha Right? my mind immediately shuts down when I hear that question
Omg I hate that question in job interviews 😭
Agreed lol
Yess 😂
Just missed hearing Tamar's "you tried it" all of a sudden.
I miss her too! I wish Tamar would pop up with her own talk show as a co-host AND executive producer!
I miss Tamar
lol.. Yes I can def appreciate Tamar now that Whats her name is on there.. her name really slipped my mind🤷♀️ I like her outside of the real
"Do you have a boyfriend?", "No! Why not?!". That question irritates me beyond belief. Maybe I'm tired of sifting through emotionally unavailable men to find the one good one who can give me the relationship I want. I can't make a man want me the same way I want him and I'm tired of trying so I AM SINGLE!
Bossy Tweed omg same I HATE this question!!😫 Like first it’s none of your business and they make it seem like being single is bad like🙄
This one pisses me off so much. It's literally none of your business why someone is single. The flip question annoys me, too: *observes behavior in your partner they don't find attractive* "Why are you with xyz?" Gross.
Unless we're close, why the hell do you think I need to explain my relationship status or my choice of partners to you?
For real I hate when people ask me that question
Honestly!! They’ll ask men if they’re enjoying living the bachelor life but with us it’s like “😕 oh you poor thing ugh sweetheart, why don’t you want a man? Can’t find one?”
Period!! Leave me alone smh I can't force someone to like me or talk to me. I rather wait until I find my man the one who is for me and only me 💯
One is “ when r u getting married already ?” When ur in a relationship or “When r u having a baby “?
Facts I get that alllllll the damn time
Duuuude I get these questions all the time it's annoying.
my grandma telling me to evaluate my relationship, think about what you love/hate about one another and if you won't get marrried break up now!
Literally got this text a few weeks ago -_- We have been together 6 years and own a house and everything. Got my IUD in 2017 so we have planned for when we want children. He aint going anywhere anytime soon! lol
Damn Catholics
And when you have a baby, when are you going for a sister/ brother?
I get this ALL THE TIME! 😤
When people only ask about my fiance's ambitions and career, but not mine. Women have ambition too!
Yes... like hello I am here? Are you going to ask me anything?
My in laws do that to this day 🙄
@She’s so Lucky it's so annoying 🙄
@She’s so Lucky oh yes. My sister bought a house (under her name). Once she got married now everyone is calling it her HUSBAND'S house instead of saying her or their house.
For ex : "Hey let's go to "husband name's house" or when they talk about the house they say "his house is always clean" or "his house has a pool"... even when she is right there.
They do but lets be real it dont matter and usually dont benefit no one either. It cause more harm then good.
“are you a Virgin?” Unless you’re the one I’m with, who gave you the entitlement to that answer??
Girl.....😒 Like I don't understand why people feel that that's an appropriate question to ask someone. What u do/don't do with your partners is nobody's business but u, them and your doctor.
princessangel821 exactly!!! The only person I talk to about my “love life” is my bestfriend. No one needs to know what goes on
Amanda G I understand partner wise, because they know if they have to go slow or be gentle (etc) but other than that it’s so rude in my opinion!
YES! My best friend's (now ex) boyfriend asked me that when I met him FOR THE FIRST TIME. Like, how do you think that's an appropriate thing to ask???
I hate this question 😒
“WhY aRe YOu So QuIeT??” That question bugs me when I was in school. Cause I have literally nothing to say😂😂
“Oh? You can speak?”
Oh God this gave me high school flashbacks
Lmaoo me too I’d just sit there awkwardly and uncomfortably
Right, like who even said I like men?? This question INFURIATES me
I agree
Since when do you just ask a stranger if her kids have the same dad? That’s crazy to me lmaooo.
😆 true
When I got married people would ask “When are you having a baby?” Now that my daughter is 2, I’m getting the “When are you having another one?” Smh it never ends.
That's dumb. What if I only wanted one child?!
People ask me all the time, "Why do you have that thing on your head? Don't you get hot?" LOL! I choose to and no, it's not more hot. I'm used to warm weather.
I got asked this on my wedding day. Like STAAAHP. Let me enjoy myself TODAY.
Same I tell them when y’all get off welfare I’ll have more
Just tell them to keep out of your uterus! My entire family once had a conversation on whether or not I should have children and I said “can we stop talking about whether or not I’ll reproduce, please???”
Here after she really had a surrogate
The question about Tamera's kids having the same father is so uncalled for.
Super rude.
I always get “you don’t look Mexican” like what are Mexicans suppose to look like according to you? 🙄🤦🏻♀️
You know those idiots👀. Like just because you are Mexican doesn’t mean you have to have brown skin and dark hair. Mexicans come in ALL shades. Don’t listen to them fools. 🙄
Girl same, and then they sort of exclude you or treat you different because of it 🙄
I get "What are you?" Which I understand because of my hair, but when I say black, and they keep asking what else...I get aggravated.😒
Natalie Arlene Haha me too. What are you?? Lol Most people think I’m Middle Eastern or mixed or anything, but Mexican. We’re all mixed anyway 🙃
That goes to show you how ignorant people are
That person really spoke into the atmosphere because Adrienne did end up having a surrogate. Now that's evil!
People can be so bold and inappropriate.
"So what do you do?" Especially when you're a housewife.
So annoying!!... It’s like they’re deciding how much respect they’re gonna assign to you based on your profession. I hate this question with a passion.
People are so disrespectful to housewives, especially a lot of feminist. Its rude asf.
But what do you do?😂
How is that disrespectful?
It’s not disrespectful. It’s just something people ask that bothers her. It’s just uncomfortable sometimes.
So I’m pretty tall and I hate when people ask me “why are you so tall?” as if it’s a crime
Same here, I'm a member of the "6ft and up" club(or 183 cm) and people keep asking where my height comes-my genetics?
I feel you!
AHHHHH I WAS WAITING FOR THIS COMMENT!!!!!!!!
Yes like I can’t control it !!!
Apparently you can't be tall if you're a girl or so I'm told *rolls eyes*
It’s not just nosy, it’s cruel and rude. People can be very insensitive.
Yeah and you can tell they had no home training 🙄🙄🙄🙄
I feel bad that I really busted out laughing with loni when she said “they got the same fathers” 🥴🥴😂😂😂 my bad. I really miss when it was just them four they were so funny
Raayden your not alone that was funny. Not what the woman said but when I think Adrienne said “& she’s still alive?” & all the ladies expressions. That had me cracking up with Loni
I miss just the 4 of them too. 💜
@@jennifercamille16 why whats wrong with amanda
@@AirBahg She's condescending. She always feels like her opinion is always right specially when it comes to race issues. I think she'll fit more on The View rather than The Real.
Yeah Amanda is great as a guest. Not having permanent residence in the show lol
Adrienne is seeerving looks here !!!
debriinaa as always!
Hey Kasper!!!!!! 👋🏽❤️
So pretty!
I’m with Adrienne, what makes it ok to ask or say some of the crazy things that people say?
Some might be “innocent”, but many are just micro aggressions (not necessarily so micro either)
I have an accent so people tend to ask where I am from. I say Jamaica then they respond by either saying " thanks for learning English" or " you speak English really good". I respond by saying it should be " English really well" and Jamaica is an English speaking country.
Mi seh! It can bun mi 😭😂
@@jhordianleong4332 right, dwl
🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
LOL. Then a lot of of foreigners assume ALL English speaking Caribbean people are Jamaicans. Sigh. Just a mild case of ignorance that they have.
😳😳😳yup! That’s annoying
I hate “what are you?” When people are trying to figure out my race/ethnicity.
I seriously hate the “Why do you sound White?” question
Oh my god same!! Just because I speak eloquently, does not make me sound white!! Since when does an entire race own the right to sound a certain way? Ridiculous
Right!!!!!!! Man this whole video got me hating people rn
I don't even know what this means. Doesn't make any sense.
“Bc my parents raised me well , respect, and basic plain English skills , I also graduated. Sorry if your mama sound like a fool when she speaks “ that’s what I say !
I always get asked when I'm gonna start dating. I'm 21 and was cheated on when I was 18, single for 3 years now 🤷🏼♀️ Even my parents are trying to set me up. Like yall I'm tryna get my life and my self together. I'll settle down when I'm good and ready 👏
Little Black Star I come from a culture where I'm also 21(almost 22) and I'm basically considered an old lady. I mean no one asks me those questions, but it is very annoying. So when I tell people I'm single-they're very suprised
"Are you Mad?"
"No"
"Are you sure?"
"Yes"
"You sure???"
Now, now I'm mad!
This right here!
I get that one all the time i wasn’t mad to begin with then I be not if you you keep asking
“What do you do for living?” People ask this to determine the level of respect to give you
"Are you mad?" "You should smile more." "What's wrong?"
I literally can not stand being asked “are you ok” or “is everything alright” yes I’m fine, even if I’m not fine 😂
Same. It’s so annoying 😭
Awh but thay just mean they care for u...
Same!
😳 watching these old episodes, and knowing what we know now. Glad Adrienne finally got her baby
Jeannie is funny without even trying to be😂
Adrienne is giving me Jlo with her look. She looks very pretty.
Even hearing people say ‘you’ve lost weight!’ really bothers me even though it’s intended as a good thing I suppose. I used to struggle with eating disorders and even though, I’ve been healthy/recovered for years, it’s always a huge insecurity for me. I feel like any comments pertaining to a woman’s weight needs to stop...even if it’s intended as a compliment, you never know what that person is going through.
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Yes most of my family is/was overweight at some point so “you’ve lost weight” is very much seen as a compliment but I just can’t stand when anyone says it to me it makes me super uncomfortable. Then I try to explain how I prefer if they don’t say and they don’t understand and think I’m unreasonable and somewhat bitchy
This is so important. Comments pertaining to anyone's weight need to stop.
Yup. Even had people say I look good after I lost weight from being very sick. Not a tasteful comment
I knew someone that always said that too people just to be nice
I Get annoyed when people ask " what are you?" Concerning my Ethnicity, I just say I'm Human.😅
“why don’t you want kids” or “when are you having kids” i’m not just on this earth to be a human incubator
exactly!!
😂 oh my. That same father comment is so hilariously offensive.
As a black woman I hate when I am making a large purchase and the person asks me “soo... what do you do for a living.” My response... I work just like you.
It's none of their business
I hate random ass questions that have no point if answered
What does being black have to do with it
That's disturbing. It's none of their business.
Onika Tonya Maraj I think it’s supposed to be like “how can you afford this” or even “I didn’t expect someone like you to have this kind of money” it could’ve been racially charged, or she wasn’t looking A1 that day idk 🤷🏽♀️
I hate how they go “I recently read...” 😄 lies
I was thinking the same thing!! 🙄
They do read it tho
Amy Zorah they literally have to for the segment 💀😂 like they have to read it lol
🤣🤣🤣
why this comment so damn funny
In school people used to ask me “Do you have any friends?” Since I was alone most of the time and it would be so offensive.
Well the person didnt lie. She did end up using a surrogate
Definitely an old video but yaaass come through with the curls Tamera!!
Its not
ally b I guess corona doesn’t exist no more
@@alceanahenry2457 This was taped before Corona, so technically it is old but we are only seeing this episode now.
This is the thing. When you're single they ask you when get a boyfriend, when you get a boyfriend they ask you when you get engaged, when you get engaged they ask you when the big day is. After you get married they ask you when you want kids. When your first child arrives they ask you when you want your second. When you have two boys they say to try for a girl. When you have two girls they say you should try for a boy. When they're old enough they ask you if you have grandchildren. When you reach 100 they wonder why you're still alive.
Annisa Hasan facts.
Dead ass🤣
I only experienced this when I was single for a long time. I thought they'd stop asking questions but since I was with my partner they asked questions about when I'll be getting married. Then asked me when I'll have a baby etc. It never stops there. Even with my single mother who is in her 60s. She lives alone but shes happy. People just insinuate just because shes alone she needs a man.
Damn, it's the older women though that are booooold with their questions 😭🤣🤣🤣. A few years ago, I was at a CVS with my [step] son who looks exactly like his father, and an older lady comes up to me and says, oh your baby is cute. He looks nothing like you. I was like oh... I know he looks like his dad, then she left 🤦🏻♀️
Why do people think that they are actually being nice when they say something like that
@@francescadeyo7045 right? No idea 🙄😂
I agree, the older women feel like they can say anything and make you feel uncomfortable enough to get answers out of you. I put them in their place real quick now. When you give them a rude remark back they shut up and mind their business. When you act all shy then they think they can keep doing that to others. They love to intimidate younger people into doing what they want. I let em know I run the show over here. They might think it's rude of me but they think it's fine if they do it.
I HATE when people tell me, “you have a pretty face,” (I’m slightly over weight) . Like no, honey, I’m just pretty, just because I’m not your ideal body shape doesn’t mean the rest of me is any less beautiful.
Same here. I had someone tell me that I was pretty for a big girl. Like you can only be pretty if you're thin. I'm just pretty period.
Mixxed Chic PERIOD
“Why are you so tall” or “why are you so skinny” pisses me off the most. I used to laugh it off but now I just look at them with a straight face.
"So you don't work?" When you're mainly a stay at home mom who works on the side housekeeping and they don't realize you are backpacking everything in the home. I've had many jobs. This is a job lol but I don't get my own full work paycheck.
I wouldnt even respond. If its an innocent, what do you do? Id say i do a lot of things. If its so you don't work?....rude. Be blocked. Why do they care whats in your pocket
@@9188jenni It will be a family member including mil lol
@@chinnjk theyre jealous
Lmfaooooo “they got the same fathers?!” 💀😂😂😂😂😂😂
I hate being asked: “you still with your boyfriend?” As if I have a new one every other week and just chase guys away
In my family we are all different shades of brown but we have the same parents. When I’m with my lighter skin sister people sometimes ask if we have different fathers and I find it offensive. It’s annoying and hurtful but I’ve learned to brush it off over time...
Tiny Joe one second people know the various _shades of blackness_
the next it is an excuse to question one’s relation
Yeah I’m dark skin and I have a few lighter skinned siblings. People are so surprised that I have lighter skinned sibling.
I'm dark skinned and my bother is light skinned. In school teachers would stop me more than once to ask me if we REALLY had the same father and the same mother.
When someone sees my daughter and asks if she’s my only child. No my son passed away. Innocent question but very sensitive
Ok bare with me guys... but I hate questions where it seems like ur asking just to ask not because you need a solution... like I hate “ What you doing “ then I answer and they’re like “ Oh ok “ like wtf is that
Yessssssss
Jeannie talked about once too
Sameeee 😩😧
Lawd yes ugh
I miss the 4 ladies and the table 😞
me too!
Isn’t it five now?
Natasha Yes, with the addition of that buzzkill
I hate it when people ask me if I’m mad and I tell them no, I’m not mad and they just keep going at it saying but you look like your mad, so you must be mad.
"You don't drink??????????" Nah. I'm good😂😂
My mom got rlly upset when someone asked "are u pregnant" or "when is ur baby due" when she wasn’t pregnant.
When you’re on the verge of tears and someone asks “are you okay?” 😭 like bihhhh
3:32 when Loni loses it! 😂😂😂😂 Poor Tamera though! What a question!
- where are you from?
- you don't SOUND like you're from new york
- any questions about 'black' tv shows like love and hip hop or empire, etc.
What’s wrong with the second one?
@@yonce2347 not everyone from New York has a New York accent
"Do you listen to rap?" Am I predisposed to listen to a certain genre of music because the color of my skin? TF??
I miss it with just them 4 😕 Feels less tense without Amanda, who’s too serious and always feels the need to be right.
Well she's gone.
I wore full beat in hs so wen i showed up makeupless eveyone thought i was sick. I realized these ppl only see me at my best which is y I decided on no more makeup unless it was a special occasion. Best thing ive ever done for my confidence. I like how i look both ways equally as much
"why are you so quiet" "why don't you talk about your life" "do you have a boyfriend" "do you live alone" "where are you from" "how old are you" "you're tall for a girl" I can go on and on. People are nosey and rude and just wanna have one up on you. Nevertheless keep your business to yourself and only answer things you want to answer. Don't ever feel pressured.
I 100% agree. I have family members who think they’re entitled to know everything going on in my life. Nothing wrong with keeping to yourself.
What do you answer when they ask your age but you don’t want to answer? It happened to me on the bus, this girl kept asking my age, non stop, like bitch, I didn’t want to tell her and she kept asking, I just let her assume my age, never really told her, but how do I manage those questions?
My daughter was born very light with curly hair and people kept asking me if the father was white and when i said no he was African they asked "are you sure?" I kept getting this question for yrs i was fed up!
People say the dumbest things........ personally I wouldn’t reply, I’ll just keep on walking away, away from their stupidity.
"Are you okay?" When im just calm living my day out as normal. People just assume im upset cuz of my resting face i guess
i have naturally curly 3a-3b hair and because of the fact that i’m white ive always gotten questioned about if my hair is real or not. from the time i was little (age 5-6) to now being 20 years old people are always curious. for example, customers at my job ask me at least 5 times a day “is ur hair real?” or “is that natural” and sometimes it makes me happy because i see people are genuinely interested and then it’s followed up by “it’s beautiful, i wish i had hair like yours” but then on the other hand, some people ask me and they ask in a rude way as if my hair is unprofessional or it’s too big/frizzy for there liking and THAT bothers me to no end. i wish people would understand that we come in all shapes, colors, and hair textures and understand that diversity in people is not something to be bothered by, but something to be appreciative of.
The innocent question that bothers me is when are you going to get married and start a family? Or when are you finishing school? Those bother me because I desire to be married but I’m single. Also I’m premed so I will be in school for awhile. I know it doesn’t sound offensive but hearing the questions so much gets on my nerves! I’m young, I’m 28 so maybe I will be married eventually who knows 🤷🏽♀️
Lol and 28 is a lot younger than people think. We are barely getting started. Especially if youve been a student.
People who ask stuff like that are haters, actually.
Tracy G recently I was looking for a place to purchase and I told my realtor that I want a 2 bedroom place since I’m buying. She says to me “you have no man or kids so you don’t need a 2 bedroom”. Talk about a big punch in the face. It’s like people fail to realize I’m a full time student and just because I don’t have a family now doesn’t mean it will never happen. It’s irritating 😒
@@jasmines2250 The most annoying this is people who assume you want a family...like not everyone follows society's blueprint of life blindly.
I hate it when I get asked by guys why I've never had a boyfriend
The real was so much better back then
Violetsareblue _ back when lool? This was filmed year not years ago.
No, it wasn't. Y'all sound like the messy, evil comment the person gave Adrienne.
@Shay91 you here so you must still like it.
Tbh I like it better with Amanda, it was getting too fake-friendly and repetitive without her
@@peachlife5118 I disagree, they were still being real before Amanda came on the show.
oh i often get "are you over 21' bc im short for my age I get people to question my age, I'm 26 and people think I'm 16, also having a nature makeup is fablouse, i dont wear makeup but your inner beauty is beautiful too
“”They all got the same father?”
Ok, that was NOT an innocent question!
“ are you tired” “ are you getting enough sleep?”...I got two jobs and finishing my masters 🙄...so no (haha) I’m trying to get ish done! smh
I hate when people say “you look so tired”. I’m pregnant and my face is a little fuller then before and shinier. Every time I shower and do my skin care routine and go out thinking I look cute, someone always says “you look so tired” or “are you ok, you look like you just woke up”. It’s kinda annoying, and I always reply “yeah just a bit tired” cuz it’s upsetting when people say stuff like that, I’m literally just pregnant. I gained a few pounds and my face is fuller that doesn’t mean I’m not ok or I’m upset. I always get asked that especially by my in-laws and it’s annoying even though I know they don’t mean to offend me
They need a chill pill... next time that happens just point to your stomach & smile then slowly walk away... they'll know what you mean & hopefully leave you alone... you don't owe anyone an explanation for how you look... period
Omg. The breath intake and look tamera gave when the lady asked her that. I laughed till tears omg 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I’d rather have things said to my face instead of behind my back so I can clarify, as opposed to them making assumptions in them ”car ride home” as Adrienne mentioned
To each their own.
Questions I hate being asked:
Why are u so quiet? ....Because I’m selectively social😒
When are u having a baby? ...When I get married😒
When are u getting married? ...😒
When ur black and people ask 'where are you from?' and u reply with NYC and they look at you again and say 'where are you really from?' Like no sis I just told you where I'm from 🙄
I get this when I mention Oakland. They're like, were you visiting? Uhm, no...??? Born there my dude. "But you arent ghetto/ratchet." Then I have to hit them with the, wowwww I dont have time for this ignorant bullshit
@@straangeette fr tho It gets hella annoying sometimes 😆
I think is my favourite clip of the real this year!! Beautiful, funny, real and hilaaarious
A random lady in Walmart told me no more kids for you, you already have a girl and a boy no more kids go get fixed omG i only have 2 children
She should meet my grandparents who had 15, raised all of them, they all went to school and never went hungry.
Woweee 😲 the audacity of some people is truly beyond me 😣
G Arma wow how rude 😧
I hate when someone says "you're so pretty, you probably don't have any problems in your life." As to say just cause you looks a certain way you're excluded from hardship. 😔Not even close
I hate when people ask me why i’m not in school or why i don’t drive? It’s not the question necessarily that bothers me but the way they ask it. Or the worst is when someone asks if im still a virgin. The tone is their voice makes me seem like an insane person for being one. Like god mind ur business it doesn’t affect you lmao.
All of this
I get ask why I don’t drive constantly and it’s annoying because it’s due to sever health issues that I don’t want to go into deep details but they won’t shut up if I don’t tell them why
"When are you gonna get pregnant ?"
*I physically can't carry a baby*
When people ask “Where do you get your protein?” Like damn didn’t know because I’m a vegetarian you suddenly a nutrition specialist
"You think them kids, i don't know" Adrienne kills me 😂💀
I hate people asking me « why are you so tall ? » like 🙄
Or "why are you wearing heels? you're already tall!" Thats like saying why are you wearing flats? you are already short.
I hate being asked, "So what are you doing these days?" or "Anything new?". I don't do much apart from studying and I've been stuck at the same spot for quite some time.
Tamara’s voice what she talked about ‘They got the same fathers?’ lady 😂😂