How I stopped overthinking about the past
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- čas přidán 1. 08. 2022
- A few ideas about regret that help me break obsessive thought loops. Also some discussion about regret, choices, causes and their effects, ego, and the feeling of controlling your experiences. I also chat with my friend (also named Chris) about his struggle with dark intrusive thoughts.
Kelly Liu (who was listening to me in the first conversation):
/ kellyliu.space
Chris Marquina:
/ miiistro
my instagram:
/ chrisjereza
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My very first job ever when I was 16 was in this outdated women's clothing store. I had this eccentric middle age boss who taught me one of the most key things I always remember. He said something to me when I made an error ringing up a customer at checkout - "don't worry about it, there is no mistake you make that you can't either fix or learn from." Wow, that one sentence he said so nonchalantly has stuck with me ever since. It's a quick phrase I say in my mind to remind myself of perspective and where I am in that moment to avoid spiraling or anxiety about decisions or "mistakes" I've made. I can fix this action that I realized was wrong, but if not, it's all good because I know better now and it was a lesson I now have. Whenever a friend comes to me about something they did that they feel bad about, I always tell them that and hopefully they can use it when they need it and pass that mentality on to others as well.
rename this video to *watches sam harris once* and it might blow up tbh
somehow I found this video today when I needed it the most , thank you
my pleasure
pretty awesome, Chris & thanks; made me think
My intrusive thought is telling me i can't speak with my friend or a specific and my brain remind it of a sad moment where i was alone and socially awkward , that thought instantly makes me anxious and makes me even forget how to talk normally my speech is slurred , I don't feel like myself at all like I can't have a conversation
I want to go home fast and don't want to encounter that person that my brain blocked me from talking with and want to meet him next day so i can talk normally ,but the same thought keep repeating everyday on loop ➰
I don't avoid speeding with the banned person but always feel more social awkward and my conversation skill drop to 0
Do you regret about quitting high paying tech job?
Just as a heads up, don’t say you’re stressed out cause it’s not a good look as a straight guy
Move back to Cali, Chris... you just seemed more happy and energetic here::