Just wanted to pop back on and support your goal to remain active in the plant hobby and have your own identity outside of motherhood. I still have 100 plus plants, my handbags have NEVER become a diaper bag like everyone told me they would. And actually, my private practice I had as a side hustle for years prior having my two boys has become my full on main job. I actually don’t have enough hours to work as much as I could at this time. I learned a new musical instrument and have grown my passion and skills of piano/organ playing. My two boys ( 5 & 3…yes I had one in the middle of covid ) are my pride and joy and have brought me love and happiness I could never conceive of before) however, I am more than a mom. I have a career, passions (music & plants) and I damn well love my luck handbags. I don’t have as many plants as I did, and maybe that’s a good thing. I’ve had my struggles with mental health as well as someone who is prone to depression and anxiety. But being a mother has brought everything into balance as much as it has brought be the immense joy and love and purpose. Being a mom has made me an even stronger person than I was prior. But I will always be me and I think that you having these intentions is obviously a sign of strength in your own sense of self. I’m excited for you to not only have your child with your husband and go on that journey of motherhood…but also, to experience the journey of growth you will experience as a person who happens to also be a wonderful momma. ❤
Beautifully said, I could not agree more. I have three myself and I would never change a thing. I also have over four hundred plants. My kids are grown now but I have always had plants not as many when they were young. I never lost myself as some say motherhood does to women . There will always be haters which is very sad. You got this, you're a strong woman and you're going to experience one of the best things life has to offer. Enjoy the ride
Perfect reply! I wholeheartedly agree. My life has changed since I became a mom, but the biggest change (other than the two kiddos) has been how much I have been able to prioritize my own hobbies and goals. I firmly believe my identity and hobbies keep me grounded and happy and make me a better mom. Plus, my boys have grown up around plants and are now budding plant people themselves! ❤❤❤
Mom of two little boys here (and hobby plant collector) and I just wanted to tell you that I think the mindset you are going into motherhood with is so healthy. Being determined to keep parts of you (in the plant hobby etc) and not sacrifice them for motherhood will in the long run be so good for your mental health and help you to feel like you still have your own identity as a person. And you should in no way feel guilty for making sure to take the time for yourself to still do things for you because that will ultimately make you a better mother anyway :) it will take some adjustment and rebalancing at first, but don’t be discouraged, and just keep ignoring the naysayers telling you otherwise ❤
My best friend had a baby 2 years ago, and I don’t have kids, and probably don’t want them. She was so worried that our friendship would suffer, but it absolutely didn’t. In fact I think our friendship has become closer. She makes an effort not to just talk about the kid all the time, and she makes sure that we have time without her. But of course I love her, and I really enjoy being an Auntie!!!!
I have the same stance about kids as Alice does, and am so glad that she is sticking to her desires. And have gotten some flack about it. I keep telling them I do not have the maternal instinct for human babies, and just never had the desire for kids. But you give me a fur baby and I'll mother it like crazy. ❤😂
As someone who has five children and 100+ houseplants, you absolutely need to hold onto yourself. You're setting an amazing example for Archie, he'll get to grow up watching his parents flourish in something they're passionate about, and that's incredible. You've got this!
I really appreciated how candidly you two spoke about Alice's reaction to you being pregnant (and to children in general). I adore other people's children (I'm a self-employed childcare provider aka full-time babysitter 😆) and love my job, but don't have or want children of my own. my brother has a doggy son, but my parents don't have any human grandchildren. Alice is the first person I've heard mention feeling bad that her parents won't have grandchildren, and it really made me feel less alone in this! so thank you, Charmaine and Alice, for delving into topics like these that might feel weird to share about ❤
I remember taking the motherhood warnings to heart. It was such a bummer. It didn’t have to be. Glad you’re filtering through it in a healthy way. I wish people would spend as much time (or more) on the good stuff because there is a lot about parenthood that’s magical. I loved the late nights when the world was quiet and my baby and I were bonding. I still smile thinking about the little fingers wrapped around mine. And baby kisses, first giggles, that feeling of accomplishment when you work out what’s wrong and you know how to make it better. There’s a lot to look forward to. It won’t all be perfect but what is? And you won’t lose yourself, I’m certain. You might even find your strengths (like being so organized) make it all easier for you than it is for others. I’m soooo happy for you and your sweet husband. But I do hope the nausea improves and the migraines subside. That sounds rough.
As a mom who went through post partum depression TWICE (with no prior history of depression), what I learned from my experience was: 1) the depression will pass, 2) I did have to grieve who I WAS as an independent career woman and transform into who I was becoming as a mom, and 3) it is SO imporant to not lose your whole identity - I find it extremely important to keep hobbies that fulfill me personally as ME and not just as a mom. I now have a day job, a fabric business, and way too many plants! So have faith that you, too, can keep your hobbies if you still enjoy them AND be a great mom! Congrats!
50:12 I definitely understand that feeling, not wanting to give up your entire life and hobbies and loves to be a parent. I only got in the house plants about a year and a half ago and I’ve already got close to 200 lol. I have four kids all at home ranging from 19 to 3 years old. I pretty much gave up everything and focus solely on the baby for the first two kiddos. Took a long time for me to finally find myself again, baby number three was supposed to be the last one and then surprise surprise right after lockdown found out I was pregnant again! I was so worn out and exhausted from parenting for so long, always putting the kids first and never thinking about myself and my body not being my own. I almost had a mental breakdown when I found out I was pregnant again. I was struggling to find the right balance. Started outdoor gardening after my last kiddo was born, and when I realized how much joy it brought me, I decided to get a few house plants last summer, and oh my goodness I found the one thing that fills my soul with joy as much as my kids, watching my plants grow ❤ my plant Hobby keeps me sane and makes me a better mother I have found. Of course, my children are always my top priority, but in order for me to continue to do that I have to make my own mental health and joy a priority as well and plants are what does that for for me. You’re gonna screw up girl there’s gonna be times where you think you’re failing both at being a mother and being a plant parent and that’s OK. Just remember whenever you’re beating yourself up because you forgot to water your plants or you had to put the baby in the crib to cry it out, be kind to yourself instead of judging yourself for your shortcomings talk to yourself like you would your best friend and encourage yourself like that. You totally got this girl you’re gonna knock it out of the park.
I could use that large pot as a final resting place damn 😂 but girl you’re gonna do so great as a mom I think it’s beautiful that you and Vince discussed what lives you want for your individual selves once the baby is here. That’s so important! Archie will enhance your lives and who knows maybe he’ll grow to love your hobbies too!! ❤
Charmaine, you got this. I’m sure you will not lose yourself once your baby is born. Keeping your plant room is a great idea. Having it as a sanctuary you can go to take a breather and find your happy place is beneficial for Vince and the baby. You seem to glow when you’re there. Praying for a happy successful pregnancy. Please don’t ever let other people’s opinions get to you. Remember, it’s their opinion and you know what they say about opinions.😊🫶🏽 Looking forward to your future videos.
ONE MORE THING! 😂 I love your thoughts regarding Alice's preferences, and I wholeheartedly agree. Not everyone wants or loves children, and that is 100% fine. Your friendship has nothing to do with children, and we are all allowed to have a preference. I am still very close with my child free (and even anti-child) friends, and it has always been a non-issue. In fact, sometimes it's been healing bc they are a safe space for me when I need a break from the mommy world. All this to say, your friendship with Alice rocks, and I know you are navigating this change in a way that works for both of you. ❤
Charmaine, I love your realness and your brutal honesty! And it's a big reason I never miss a video! I feel like I am the same way and I've been told I'm too blunt. I feel like, at least people know where they stand with me- take it or leave it! When people are always smiling or always happy, I find it very fake and sacrin sweet makes me want to 🤮 I'm also happy to hear that you really want to make an effort to stay planty after Archie comes. I've been a little sad about thinking about losing your videos after he's born. Any way, Happy New Year 🎉💚🌿
As a mother of three who is trying to find me time in plants I admire so much that you are standing firm on having your time and hobby. For me it has been such a turning point in my mental health and self confidence. I hope you enjoy your journey however it looks after baby is here. As far as humanitarian efforts a company I think is a really cool idea is lasagna love. Anyone anywhere can offer to make a lasagna for anyone that needs it.
About the concern of plants around your baby-I think until your baby turns two or three, they won't pay any attention to your plants. My youngest is one and she will hug and kiss my plants if I let her, they are all up high on shelves bc I know she will eat them as she eats my roses in my garden D: my three and 7yo just look and sometimes help me water but that is all. Congrats on your lil one!
Your kids will love being involved in all things you love. My kids, dogs, and plants all thrive together. You just get good at doing things one handed with a baby on your hip and a doggo at your feet ❤ best of luck! (PS when people offer to help you, let them! It takes a village.)
I’m a mom of two, have a full time job, and all that entails, and I own around 200 plants. Plants are my hobby and I make time for doing the things I love. It’s a part of what fills my cup and all that jazz. So, it’s not only possible but necessary imo.
Charmaine I like that you are honest about keeping your own identity. I think it’s super important to make sure you make time to pursue your passions. You will be a better Mom embracing your passions as well as your baby. You can do both 👍 It will take you a few weeks when the baby is born to get to know your baby but then it will be great 😀🇨🇦
Mom of 8 children here 🖐 Being a mother is everything to me. I have 19 down to 2 years of age. I have a plant room and buy plants on yhe regular. Am i busy? Yep. Children and plants keepe from being lazy. I love it. I do all the things. My 2 year old still co sleeps most nights in our bed. I breast fed all of them 😅 Women were meant to do all of the stuff and raise a family. Do t listen to the nay sayers. Proverbs 31 shows a true woman who is a mother and is a woman of honor. You can do this! Its wise to get rid of the bulk and focus on the plants you love. God bless you and motherhood!
Charmaine, you've heard from a lot of moms in these comments, but I just want to add to the crowd that says YOU GOT THIS! Yes, having a baby changes our lives, but that does NOT have to mean that we lose our identity or our hobbies. I have twins, and although they are now teens, I've been collecting since they're young. You're doing a fabulous job at keeping the noise out of your head, and preparing for Archie's arrival. People love to comment on how much your life will change, but each mom's experience is unique. You and Vince have a beautiful partnership and I know you will be just fine, and so will your plants. Big hug, and thank you for being so open and honest. You're truly the best. ❤❤❤
Alice sounds like she wants you to be your whole self not just a fraction. Cudos to her for knowing her self. I agree every one is not cut out to be parents to children and some parents find that out after becoming parents to children. She is still a good friend, sounds like it anyways.
Alice you’re in good company because a lot of us are able to relate! I happen to be an art teacher, but I absolutely have never wanted a child of my own. When I was a child myself I did not like other children and whenever I said I didn’t ever see myself having kids, adults would say like, “oh you’re too young to know, you’ll feel differently…”. Nope! Absolutely never did and people stopped asking me about a long time ago 😅
Long time fan and never-posted here, just popping by to say I love all the beautiful shots and you covering pregnancy, plants ❤, Alice, Amanda/NST, and all of your day to day with the open heart that you have. Would love this equally whether it is 2h or 4h but appreciate the extra time you share with us ☺️
So as someone who has a 1 year old, bare in mind we live with my husbands parents and siblings so only have the 1 room, with 100 plants us and a baby, I have kept my hobby going without skipping a beat, I usually do plenty things on the weekends, or urgent care during naps. Sometimes I do bits in the evening after the hubby has gotten home, showered and eaten, he then looks after casper if I need the time Don't live around your baby, so many people sacrifice everything when you really don't have too, let your baby grow up seeing your passion for your hobby and have them look for a hobby of their own from seeing how much joy it brings you ❤ I heard so many 'there's go's all your spare time' 'goodbye sleep' etc comments, my little one eats amazingly, sleeps through the night and is the best little dude ever, like you said, everyone's experience is different, don't care what others say
C. I watched your 3hr. extravaganza (in parts) just by chance (it popped up). OMG what fun! I love plants/ but really liked how you mixed your family, car time, and business in the cast. TWO QUESTIONS; 1) How do I get the plant sale, live on line, (can I purchase on line in TX USA?) 2) C Where did you get those big brown spray bottles? Thank you...If you get to Montreal I hope you tape it (beautiful city! like Toronto too). Thnx again/ hopes for not too cold winter..... CCC Austin, TX🤣🤠😎
I’m the same as Alice. I don’t like children and I feel uneasy being around them. I just don’t know what to do with them or how to talk to the older ones 😅 but I’m the youngest in my family and have never been around babies or small children much in my life. I’ve also never been that friend who has been very involved in pregnancy etc. I’m so happy for all my friends when they achieve what they want in life and whatever makes them happy is amazing, but I won’t be babysitting or going all gooey over babies. Now if anyone gets a puppy, I’m there every damn day and asking for photos 😄
I can’t tell you how proud of you I am! You are allowed to have a part of your life to do what fills your soul! Obviously Archie and Pudge (sorry Vince you’re down to #3) will be priority but I speak from experience. Keep doing what you love because when the kids move out you’ll be left with a lot of empty time. My hubby has been a window guy for almost 40 years and I wish he would have built me a “conservatory” or a greenhouse attached to my kitchen. Anyway I just want to tell you your doing great and you already are an incredible mom. Kisses to Pudge 💚🐶 oh and HAPPY NEW YEAR 🥳 I am glad 2023 is done and look forward to happy days in 2024 and my hubby bought me a Thai for Christmas in a 4” pot thats was $59.99 here in Ontario.. I hope you got at least $125 for yours
RE: el guapo I repotted a very mature Glad Hands last night. It is crawling like your el guapo! I also planted in a long, black container. Placed it at one far side of the container like you did. It was so root bound! I'm loving crawlers right now. Bought some cool, inexpensive, rectangular pots at Big Lots.
Aaaw super congrats on your new bundle of joyyyy!!! 🐣👼👨👩👦 I’m a one & done mommy & I will say, life as an individual is still possible after baby comes. My daughter is my world & is the reason for me to strive for the best life ever for her. But at the same time, I still have over 300 plants, my business, & other hobbies, that are for me personally to enjoy. I definitely think your vision is veryyyyt possible. Also - side note - I totallyyyyyyy understand Alison & I don’t fault her one bit for feeling that way. Before I had my daughter I was the same & is probably why I only have one lol ( my daughter thanks me alll if the time for not having siblings lol, she loved her life) But nonetheless - I love that Alison is honest about it, doesn’t have to fake it, & you as a friend supports that. That speaks volumes for Y’all’s friendship in general 🥰
I am so happy for you!!! I just fell in love with you from the first videos I watched! You are going to make the best parent and you really do have such a caring group of ppl around you for continued support. I love your content and I actually almost always make it thru all your long videos! Oh and I love your bluntness!!! I am making this comment at the time you are speaking of your hate watcher lol - too funny...I can't fake it either. Must tell it how it is for sure!!! Love you ...watching from Florence AL
Almost January while it sit here watching this. But my December was good. I spent Christmas with my sister and her two daughters. We had snacks and played games then we ate fajitas for dinner then we played another game, had dessert and then it was time to go. Family is everything. You’ll find out when Archie is born how much they love Christmas
Awesome vid! Don’t worry about wanting to keep your individuality after becoming a mother. Your plants are not just your hobby, but your job; I had to double up on work & even went back to college after having kids as I had to think about their future. Keep doing you, & baby will fit in nicely to your family!
I love youre long videos and also timelapses. Its perfect to keep me company both with wlantchores and housechores! Still looking for the perfekt timelaps playlist lol. Thanks for a great year ! Good luck with family, baby and plants 🪴👶🎇
Random idea about separating roots from pon: what if you took the bowl of pon and filled it with water several inches above the pon and stirred it up--wouuld the roots float? And then you could skim them off?
Happy New Year 🎊🎊 I just love seeing your belly and I hope you continue to let us see it as you progress into your pregnancy . You and your hubby are going to be great parents. Don't let people get you down , everyone has different experiences. Motherhood is the best thing that ever happened to me. Every bit of it is totally worth it . I sent this comment yesterday and today someone told me I had the wrong video, I don't know how but it was sent to a bird video. Lol can you imagine what the person was thinking ?
I have two kids (adults now) and am unable to understand that people judge women or men that do not want children. It's a persons right to not want them and I take my hat off to the women who can admit it and to anyone that judges them, you need to take a good look at yourself
Hey Charmaine, I suffer with cluster headaches and along with my medication I use the freeze gel patches, maybe try those for some relief if you dont want to take any tablets. Its awful having constant thumping headaches, much love to you 🥰
This is probably an extremely stupid question.....given your constant problems with spidermittes, have you tried neem oil in combination with Dr Bonners peppermint? Sorry if this has been debated before, I've been exploring your videos for the last two weeks when I luckily stumbled upon your channel, but the amount of your video material is insane and I haven't come across it yet. For me spidermittles prefer to attack Calatheas, Benjamin, Asparagus ferm, or Fuchias and I easily kill spidermittles with this mix. However, it is extremely important to repeat the spraying, once a week for three weeks. After three weeks the colony is completely wiped out. By the way, I love what are you doing!
I can imagine a Philodendron sp Colombia crossed with an Anthurium BVEP Oliver. Just visualize big black puffy velvet leaves!! Be still my heart!💜 ♥️ ❤️
My gloriosum has reached the end of its Target rectangular pot. I was thinking of chopping the tail/leafless end and leaving in the pot hoping some growth point will activate, have you ever done that? As compared to chopping and propping separately and then adding back into the original pot with momma.
I turn 40 next year, so I’m that much closer to menopause and freedom from the dreaded “you’ll change and want kids. You’ll see” kind of crap. Some women want to become mothers and some don’t. That’s just reality. I’m still very happy for you and Vince. You’re going to be great parents. 🫶🏼
THAT'S what that wide pot is for.!? Lolol. I have a smaller of the same one from Target, but I've just been setting a few nursery pots in it and just using it like a drip tray almost 😂🤣🤦🏻♂️
Hey just wanted to say congrats on the pregnancy you’ll be an amazing mom! I have been watching your channel since you first started CZcams videos and I know it sounds weird and odd but I feel like your my friend LOL ya weird I know but for real I am actually a single mom of two kids and work full time I relate to you a lot I have adhd anxiety and depression I suffered for years with addiction. Plants have been my escape while I try to manage my mental health. Watching your videos make me feel like I have a friend and also makes motivates me to organize my place and do plant chores 🫶🏼
Hearing Alice talk about kids and both talking about parenting. 😂 Charmaine will know soon enough, children are fully people. They're all different, and you're going to have easier kids and harder kids. There is no "know how to behave." You can do all of the perfect parenting in the world, and you may still have a super active, smart, highly sensory seeking kid who bothers everyone. Oh, parenting. It's a crazy thing that changes us all over except for that little tiny you at the core of your being screaming, "WTF AM I DOING!?" Suddenly (does not apply to dads, really.. sigh), you're no longer judged based on your own actions and achievements but on the actions and achievements of this other person. It's a whole thing. 😂❤
I ordered coarse perlite. #4. It’s the size of my thumb nail. There’ll be drainage alright. But it came in a plastic bag like you’d get your newspaper in. Very thin!!
I’ll be doing my plant chores after watching your video. I’m trying to dodge the flu…hubby has it and I think my son is coming down with it now. My daughter left back for college yesterday, she has to finish working on her thesis for the spring semester. Your soil mix looks a lot like what I do except I use charcoal chunks instead of biochar. I think I’m going to replicate your pest spray. I keep getting spider mites on my verrucusom. 🥺 Thank you for the video!!! Go rest! Hope you feel better!
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For the headaches have you tried putting something cold on your neck while putting your feet in warm water? It helped me with my pregnancy migraines when I didn’t want to take meds. Something to do with blood flow 🤷♀️
Keep doing what your doing. I think you're adorable, likeable and refreshingly flawed . Coming from another flawed human, that means al lot. If people don't like the content, they can easily move on. The sad thing is, some people find it hard to move on without spewing their unsolicited (and unnecessarily mean) point of view. Out of all the plant channels I subscribe to, yours is my favorite and the one I go back to time and time again. You're unapologetically authentic and that is refreshing in a time where all influencers feed you a made-up, well scripted personality geered towards nothing but views, to the point that they all start to look and sound the same. Keep it real and screw those whiney ass Karen's and their unkind/unwarranted rants. Move on Karen.
It's my thoughts that Vince is going to be a great dad, and since he is already a wonderful supporting husband, you will absolutely have time for your plants and you will absolutely have time for yourself. Great partners share in parenting, and you have a great partner. Even if you do get bogged down, you have Alice and Jing to help you with plants. Never be afraid to lean on those who love you. 💋
Are you drinking enough water? Try adding just a wee bit of salt to a glass of water and see if that doesn’t get rid of your headache. Not bleached white table salt but good salt, either Celtic or Himalayan…just like 1/8 tsp and see how you feel.
Charmaine girl do I have news for you! There's this plant called the philodendron findens that looks like an sp columbia (not a gloriosum, unfortunately but you still really love sp columbias) but develops fenestrations that make it look like a monstera. Please look it up cause I really feel like that plant would be up your alley!
Pregnancy becomes you. Your baby bump is cute. Hoping your illness gets better meaning they are fewer. Wishing I lived closer, would love to purchase something you are getting rid of. I enjoyed this session.
It's been many years since my daughter's were born but keep an eye on your blood pressure. I developed high blood pressure during both of my pregnancies... it went hand in hand with headaches as well as dizzy spells... xo from 1000 Islands Ontario 🇨🇦
Charmaine, thank you for your continued uploads even with your pregnancy symptoms! You’re doing amazing. The white tshirt you’re wearing at the beginning, where is it from???
I’m sure people mean well and could have phrased things better. I know for a fact that I severely underestimated how much time and effort it would be to have kids, granted I did have twins. Also the ADHD and PPD kicked my ass. My husband and mom were very supportive. Will your parents come for a few weeks? Not sure where you would put them though. Be sure to make time for rest.
Yup, I watch a YTer that I don’t really like. In my defense, I did like her channel when I first found it but, the more I watched, the more I realized I don’t really jive with her. However, I’ve just kept watching hoping and trying to maybe dispel my opinion of her but actually end up keep reaffirming it lol. Like, you keep saying how cute you are, yup, don’t like you, lol. Terrible, I know but I’m glad to hear I’m not the only one. 🤣
sorry that has been a response you've got about becoming a mom, like you said i'm sure they mean well but i would also be quite irked to be getting that messaging
Just wanted to pop back on and support your goal to remain active in the plant hobby and have your own identity outside of motherhood. I still have 100 plus plants, my handbags have NEVER become a diaper bag like everyone told me they would. And actually, my private practice I had as a side hustle for years prior having my two boys has become my full on main job. I actually don’t have enough hours to work as much as I could at this time. I learned a new musical instrument and have grown my passion and skills of piano/organ playing. My two boys ( 5 & 3…yes I had one in the middle of covid ) are my pride and joy and have brought me love and happiness I could never conceive of before) however, I am more than a mom. I have a career, passions (music & plants) and I damn well love my luck handbags. I don’t have as many plants as I did, and maybe that’s a good thing. I’ve had my struggles with mental health as well as someone who is prone to depression and anxiety. But being a mother has brought everything into balance as much as it has brought be the immense joy and love and purpose. Being a mom has made me an even stronger person than I was prior. But I will always be me and I think that you having these intentions is obviously a sign of strength in your own sense of self. I’m excited for you to not only have your child with your husband and go on that journey of motherhood…but also, to experience the journey of growth you will experience as a person who happens to also be a wonderful momma. ❤
Beautifully said, I could not agree more. I have three myself and I would never change a thing. I also have over four hundred plants. My kids are grown now but I have always had plants not as many when they were young. I never lost myself as some say motherhood does to women . There will always be haters which is very sad. You got this, you're a strong woman and you're going to experience one of the best things life has to offer. Enjoy the ride
I hate people that think just bc you become a mother means you loose yourself. Why can’t it just be another facet of oneself?
Perfect reply! I wholeheartedly agree. My life has changed since I became a mom, but the biggest change (other than the two kiddos) has been how much I have been able to prioritize my own hobbies and goals. I firmly believe my identity and hobbies keep me grounded and happy and make me a better mom. Plus, my boys have grown up around plants and are now budding plant people themselves!
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Mom of two little boys here (and hobby plant collector) and I just wanted to tell you that I think the mindset you are going into motherhood with is so healthy. Being determined to keep parts of you (in the plant hobby etc) and not sacrifice them for motherhood will in the long run be so good for your mental health and help you to feel like you still have your own identity as a person. And you should in no way feel guilty for making sure to take the time for yourself to still do things for you because that will ultimately make you a better mother anyway :) it will take some adjustment and rebalancing at first, but don’t be discouraged, and just keep ignoring the naysayers telling you otherwise ❤
My best friend had a baby 2 years ago, and I don’t have kids, and probably don’t want them. She was so worried that our friendship would suffer, but it absolutely didn’t. In fact I think our friendship has become closer. She makes an effort not to just talk about the kid all the time, and she makes sure that we have time without her. But of course I love her, and I really enjoy being an Auntie!!!!
I have the same stance about kids as Alice does, and am so glad that she is sticking to her desires. And have gotten some flack about it. I keep telling them I do not have the maternal instinct for human babies, and just never had the desire for kids. But you give me a fur baby and I'll mother it like crazy. ❤😂
As someone who has five children and 100+ houseplants, you absolutely need to hold onto yourself. You're setting an amazing example for Archie, he'll get to grow up watching his parents flourish in something they're passionate about, and that's incredible. You've got this!
I really appreciated how candidly you two spoke about Alice's reaction to you being pregnant (and to children in general). I adore other people's children (I'm a self-employed childcare provider aka full-time babysitter 😆) and love my job, but don't have or want children of my own. my brother has a doggy son, but my parents don't have any human grandchildren. Alice is the first person I've heard mention feeling bad that her parents won't have grandchildren, and it really made me feel less alone in this! so thank you, Charmaine and Alice, for delving into topics like these that might feel weird to share about ❤
I remember taking the motherhood warnings to heart. It was such a bummer. It didn’t have to be. Glad you’re filtering through it in a healthy way.
I wish people would spend as much time (or more) on the good stuff because there is a lot about parenthood that’s magical.
I loved the late nights when the world was quiet and my baby and I were bonding.
I still smile thinking about the little fingers wrapped around mine.
And baby kisses, first giggles, that feeling of accomplishment when you work out what’s wrong and you know how to make it better.
There’s a lot to look forward to. It won’t all be perfect but what is?
And you won’t lose yourself, I’m certain. You might even find your strengths (like being so organized) make it all easier for you than it is for others.
I’m soooo happy for you and your sweet husband.
But I do hope the nausea improves and the migraines subside. That sounds rough.
As a mom who went through post partum depression TWICE (with no prior history of depression), what I learned from my experience was: 1) the depression will pass, 2) I did have to grieve who I WAS as an independent career woman and transform into who I was becoming as a mom, and 3) it is SO imporant to not lose your whole identity - I find it extremely important to keep hobbies that fulfill me personally as ME and not just as a mom. I now have a day job, a fabric business, and way too many plants! So have faith that you, too, can keep your hobbies if you still enjoy them AND be a great mom! Congrats!
you are lucky your depression passed
1000% with Alice on the baby thing 😅
50:12 I definitely understand that feeling, not wanting to give up your entire life and hobbies and loves to be a parent. I only got in the house plants about a year and a half ago and I’ve already got close to 200 lol. I have four kids all at home ranging from 19 to 3 years old. I pretty much gave up everything and focus solely on the baby for the first two kiddos. Took a long time for me to finally find myself again, baby number three was supposed to be the last one and then surprise surprise right after lockdown found out I was pregnant again! I was so worn out and exhausted from parenting for so long, always putting the kids first and never thinking about myself and my body not being my own. I almost had a mental breakdown when I found out I was pregnant again. I was struggling to find the right balance. Started outdoor gardening after my last kiddo was born, and when I realized how much joy it brought me, I decided to get a few house plants last summer, and oh my goodness I found the one thing that fills my soul with joy as much as my kids, watching my plants grow ❤ my plant Hobby keeps me sane and makes me a better mother I have found. Of course, my children are always my top priority, but in order for me to continue to do that I have to make my own mental health and joy a priority as well and plants are what does that for for me. You’re gonna screw up girl there’s gonna be times where you think you’re failing both at being a mother and being a plant parent and that’s OK. Just remember whenever you’re beating yourself up because you forgot to water your plants or you had to put the baby in the crib to cry it out, be kind to yourself instead of judging yourself for your shortcomings talk to yourself like you would your best friend and encourage yourself like that. You totally got this girl you’re gonna knock it out of the park.
I could use that large pot as a final resting place damn 😂 but girl you’re gonna do so great as a mom I think it’s beautiful that you and Vince discussed what lives you want for your individual selves once the baby is here. That’s so important! Archie will enhance your lives and who knows maybe he’ll grow to love your hobbies too!! ❤
Charmaine, you got this. I’m sure you will not lose yourself once your baby is born. Keeping your plant room is a great idea. Having it as a sanctuary you can go to take a breather and find your happy place is beneficial for Vince and the baby. You seem to glow when you’re there. Praying for a happy successful pregnancy. Please don’t ever let other people’s opinions get to you. Remember, it’s their opinion and you know what they say about opinions.😊🫶🏽 Looking forward to your future videos.
ONE MORE THING! 😂
I love your thoughts regarding Alice's preferences, and I wholeheartedly agree. Not everyone wants or loves children, and that is 100% fine. Your friendship has nothing to do with children, and we are all allowed to have a preference.
I am still very close with my child free (and even anti-child) friends, and it has always been a non-issue. In fact, sometimes it's been healing bc they are a safe space for me when I need a break from the mommy world.
All this to say, your friendship with Alice rocks, and I know you are navigating this change in a way that works for both of you. ❤
Charmaine, I love your realness and your brutal honesty! And it's a big reason I never miss a video! I feel like I am the same way and I've been told I'm too blunt. I feel like, at least people know where they stand with me- take it or leave it! When people are always smiling or always happy, I find it very fake and sacrin sweet makes me want to 🤮 I'm also happy to hear that you really want to make an effort to stay planty after Archie comes. I've been a little sad about thinking about losing your videos after he's born. Any way, Happy New Year 🎉💚🌿
As a mother of three who is trying to find me time in plants I admire so much that you are standing firm on having your time and hobby. For me it has been such a turning point in my mental health and self confidence. I hope you enjoy your journey however it looks after baby is here. As far as humanitarian efforts a company I think is a really cool idea is lasagna love. Anyone anywhere can offer to make a lasagna for anyone that needs it.
About the concern of plants around your baby-I think until your baby turns two or three, they won't pay any attention to your plants. My youngest is one and she will hug and kiss my plants if I let her, they are all up high on shelves bc I know she will eat them as she eats my roses in my garden D: my three and 7yo just look and sometimes help me water but that is all. Congrats on your lil one!
Your kids will love being involved in all things you love. My kids, dogs, and plants all thrive together. You just get good at doing things one handed with a baby on your hip and a doggo at your feet ❤ best of luck! (PS when people offer to help you, let them! It takes a village.)
I’m a mom of two, have a full time job, and all that entails, and I own around 200 plants. Plants are my hobby and I make time for doing the things I love. It’s a part of what fills my cup and all that jazz. So, it’s not only possible but necessary imo.
The fact that you're "real" is why I love your channel so much ❤❤❤❤❤
Charmaine I like that you are honest about keeping your own identity. I think it’s super important to make sure you make time to pursue your passions. You will be a better Mom embracing your passions as well as your baby. You can do both 👍 It will take you a few weeks when the baby is born to get to know your baby but then it will be great 😀🇨🇦
Mom of 8 children here 🖐 Being a mother is everything to me. I have 19 down to 2 years of age. I have a plant room and buy plants on yhe regular. Am i busy? Yep. Children and plants keepe from being lazy. I love it. I do all the things. My 2 year old still co sleeps most nights in our bed. I breast fed all of them 😅 Women were meant to do all of the stuff and raise a family. Do t listen to the nay sayers. Proverbs 31 shows a true woman who is a mother and is a woman of honor. You can do this! Its wise to get rid of the bulk and focus on the plants you love. God bless you and motherhood!
Charmaine, you've heard from a lot of moms in these comments, but I just want to add to the crowd that says YOU GOT THIS!
Yes, having a baby changes our lives, but that does NOT have to mean that we lose our identity or our hobbies. I have twins, and although they are now teens, I've been collecting since they're young. You're doing a fabulous job at keeping the noise out of your head, and preparing for Archie's arrival. People love to comment on how much your life will change, but each mom's experience is unique. You and Vince have a beautiful partnership and I know you will be just fine, and so will your plants.
Big hug, and thank you for being so open and honest. You're truly the best. ❤❤❤
Thank you for helping me. Growing plants in glass I knew it could be done.
Sherm... Your humor is right in line with me 🤣😂🤣 "Heh, Trim job". I almost spat out my nuggies 😂
Alice sounds like she wants you to be your whole self not just a fraction. Cudos to her for knowing her self. I agree every one is not cut out to be parents to children and some parents find that out after becoming parents to children. She is still a good friend, sounds like it anyways.
i definitely appreciate her for it!! she's a really great friend.
Girl I just bust out laughing when you said that the gift is not having to spend 😂 exactly how I feel lmao
Alice you’re in good company because a lot of us are able to relate! I happen to be an art teacher, but I absolutely have never wanted a child of my own. When I was a child myself I did not like other children and whenever I said I didn’t ever see myself having kids, adults would say like, “oh you’re too young to know, you’ll feel differently…”. Nope! Absolutely never did and people stopped asking me about a long time ago 😅
Long time fan and never-posted here, just popping by to say I love all the beautiful shots and you covering pregnancy, plants ❤, Alice, Amanda/NST, and all of your day to day with the open heart that you have. Would love this equally whether it is 2h or 4h but appreciate the extra time you share with us ☺️
So as someone who has a 1 year old, bare in mind we live with my husbands parents and siblings so only have the 1 room, with 100 plants us and a baby, I have kept my hobby going without skipping a beat, I usually do plenty things on the weekends, or urgent care during naps.
Sometimes I do bits in the evening after the hubby has gotten home, showered and eaten, he then looks after casper if I need the time
Don't live around your baby, so many people sacrifice everything when you really don't have too, let your baby grow up seeing your passion for your hobby and have them look for a hobby of their own from seeing how much joy it brings you ❤
I heard so many 'there's go's all your spare time' 'goodbye sleep' etc comments, my little one eats amazingly, sleeps through the night and is the best little dude ever, like you said, everyone's experience is different, don't care what others say
I’m answering you in my head. Lol 😂
C. I watched your 3hr. extravaganza (in parts) just by chance (it popped up). OMG what fun!
I love plants/ but really liked how you mixed your family, car time, and business in the cast.
TWO QUESTIONS; 1) How do I get the plant sale, live on line, (can I purchase on line in TX USA?) 2) C Where did you get those big brown spray bottles? Thank you...If you get to Montreal I hope you tape it (beautiful city! like Toronto too). Thnx again/ hopes for not too cold winter..... CCC Austin, TX🤣🤠😎
I’m the same as Alice. I don’t like children and I feel uneasy being around them. I just don’t know what to do with them or how to talk to the older ones 😅 but I’m the youngest in my family and have never been around babies or small children much in my life. I’ve also never been that friend who has been very involved in pregnancy etc. I’m so happy for all my friends when they achieve what they want in life and whatever makes them happy is amazing, but I won’t be babysitting or going all gooey over babies. Now if anyone gets a puppy, I’m there every damn day and asking for photos 😄
I can’t tell you how proud of you I am! You are allowed to have a part of your life to do what fills your soul! Obviously Archie and Pudge (sorry Vince you’re down to #3) will be priority but I speak from experience. Keep doing what you love because when the kids move out you’ll be left with a lot of empty time.
My hubby has been a window guy for almost 40 years and I wish he would have built me a “conservatory” or a greenhouse attached to my kitchen.
Anyway I just want to tell you your doing great and you already are an incredible mom. Kisses to Pudge 💚🐶 oh and HAPPY NEW YEAR 🥳 I am glad 2023 is done and look forward to happy days in 2024 and my hubby bought me a Thai for Christmas in a 4” pot thats was $59.99 here in Ontario.. I hope you got at least $125 for yours
RE: el guapo
I repotted a very mature Glad Hands last night. It is crawling like your el guapo! I also planted in a long, black container. Placed it at one far side of the container like you did. It was so root bound! I'm loving crawlers right now. Bought some cool, inexpensive, rectangular pots at Big Lots.
Aaaw super congrats on your new bundle of joyyyy!!! 🐣👼👨👩👦
I’m a one & done mommy & I will say, life as an individual is still possible after baby comes. My daughter is my world & is the reason for me to strive for the best life ever for her. But at the same time, I still have over 300 plants, my business, & other hobbies, that are for me personally to enjoy. I definitely think your vision is veryyyyt possible.
Also - side note - I totallyyyyyyy understand Alison & I don’t fault her one bit for feeling that way. Before I had my daughter I was the same & is probably why I only have one lol ( my daughter thanks me alll if the time for not having siblings lol, she loved her life)
But nonetheless - I love that Alison is honest about it, doesn’t have to fake it, & you as a friend supports that. That speaks volumes for Y’all’s friendship in general 🥰
I am so happy for you!!! I just fell in love with you from the first videos I watched! You are going to make the best parent and you really do have such a caring group of ppl around you for continued support. I love your content and I actually almost always make it thru all your long videos! Oh and I love your bluntness!!! I am making this comment at the time you are speaking of your hate watcher lol - too funny...I can't fake it either. Must tell it how it is for sure!!! Love you ...watching from Florence AL
Almost January while it sit here watching this. But my December was good. I spent Christmas with my sister and her two daughters. We had snacks and played games then we ate fajitas for dinner then we played another game, had dessert and then it was time to go. Family is everything. You’ll find out when Archie is born how much they love Christmas
Almost 3 hours of Sherm!💚 You're the best Charmaine!
I've been waiting all day for this video to start doing my plant chores 😁 Thank you for a year of amazing, funny planty videos! 💚
Yes!! The philodendrons smell like carrots when they break!
“So she said”. Always makes me laugh!!
Awesome vid! Don’t worry about wanting to keep your individuality after becoming a mother. Your plants are not just your hobby, but your job; I had to double up on work & even went back to college after having kids as I had to think about their future. Keep doing you, & baby will fit in nicely to your family!
I love youre long videos and also timelapses. Its perfect to keep me company both with wlantchores and housechores! Still looking for the perfekt timelaps playlist lol. Thanks for a great year ! Good luck with family, baby and plants 🪴👶🎇
Random idea about separating roots from pon: what if you took the bowl of pon and filled it with water several inches above the pon and stirred it up--wouuld the roots float? And then you could skim them off?
Not mutually exclusive - I’m literally ‘same same’ as Alice and super happy for you Charmaine.
I get it, you and Alice just have a mutual difference in opinion, but at the same time have an understanding on the topic 😊.
I love love long videos 😍☘️💕
Happy New Year 🎊🎊 I just love seeing your belly and I hope you continue to let us see it as you progress into your pregnancy . You and your hubby are going to be great parents. Don't let people get you down , everyone has different experiences. Motherhood is the best thing that ever happened to me. Every bit of it is totally worth it . I sent this comment yesterday and today someone told me I had the wrong video, I don't know how but it was sent to a bird video. Lol can you imagine what the person was thinking ?
Charmaine you are a star! I finally have some time to do plant chores but you are killing it. I almost feel guilty 😅. I loveee the plant wall
I was Alison before I had my baby. She's the only child I like though. My thoughts on other kids haven't changed 😂😂
Loved this week of…its been great.
I have two kids (adults now) and am unable to understand that people judge women or men that do not want children. It's a persons right to not want them and I take my hat off to the women who can admit it and to anyone that judges them, you need to take a good look at yourself
I always love your overly ambicious week ofs haha gives me more time to do my plant chores with you!
Happy new year to you, Vince and Archie 🎊🎉
Hey Charmaine, I suffer with cluster headaches and along with my medication I use the freeze gel patches, maybe try those for some relief if you dont want to take any tablets. Its awful having constant thumping headaches, much love to you 🥰
This is probably an extremely stupid question.....given your constant problems with spidermittes, have you tried neem oil in combination with Dr Bonners peppermint? Sorry if this has been debated before, I've been exploring your videos for the last two weeks when I luckily stumbled upon your channel, but the amount of your video material is insane and I haven't come across it yet. For me spidermittles prefer to attack Calatheas, Benjamin, Asparagus ferm, or Fuchias and I easily kill spidermittles with this mix. However, it is extremely important to repeat the spraying, once a week for three weeks. After three weeks the colony is completely wiped out. By the way, I love what are you doing!
I can imagine a Philodendron sp Colombia crossed with an Anthurium BVEP Oliver. Just visualize big black puffy velvet leaves!!
Be still my heart!💜 ♥️ ❤️
My gloriosum has reached the end of its Target rectangular pot. I was thinking of chopping the tail/leafless end and leaving in the pot hoping some growth point will activate, have you ever done that? As compared to chopping and propping separately and then adding back into the original pot with momma.
Almost 3 hours ❤️😭❤️
I hope the pregnancy symptoms calm down for you!! 🥰
I turn 40 next year, so I’m that much closer to menopause and freedom from the dreaded “you’ll change and want kids. You’ll see” kind of crap. Some women want to become mothers and some don’t. That’s just reality. I’m still very happy for you and Vince. You’re going to be great parents. 🫶🏼
Nice to see you again! I totally understand the pregnancy discomforts. Our mothers survived them and we will too. But I hope you feel better soon
💚 love the long videos
THAT'S what that wide pot is for.!? Lolol. I have a smaller of the same one from Target, but I've just been setting a few nursery pots in it and just using it like a drip tray almost 😂🤣🤦🏻♂️
You are baby belly beautiful. You got this. You have a wonderful support hubby. Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉
Hey just wanted to say congrats on the pregnancy you’ll be an amazing mom! I have been watching your channel since you first started CZcams videos and I know it sounds weird and odd but I feel like your my friend LOL ya weird I know but for real I am actually a single mom of two kids and work full time I relate to you a lot I have adhd anxiety and depression I suffered for years with addiction. Plants have been my escape while I try to manage my mental health. Watching your videos make me feel like I have a friend and also makes motivates me to organize my place and do plant chores 🫶🏼
Being pregnant blows so hard. That said, the thrift store was awesome 2 days after Christmas! I found everything that I needed which never happens.
I’ve made your pest spray and it has been a lifesaver! Where do you get your funky-shaped leca from???
Hearing Alice talk about kids and both talking about parenting. 😂 Charmaine will know soon enough, children are fully people. They're all different, and you're going to have easier kids and harder kids. There is no "know how to behave." You can do all of the perfect parenting in the world, and you may still have a super active, smart, highly sensory seeking kid who bothers everyone. Oh, parenting. It's a crazy thing that changes us all over except for that little tiny you at the core of your being screaming, "WTF AM I DOING!?" Suddenly (does not apply to dads, really.. sigh), you're no longer judged based on your own actions and achievements but on the actions and achievements of this other person. It's a whole thing. 😂❤
I’ve seen people harvest teeny corms. And they grow.
I ordered coarse perlite. #4. It’s the size of my thumb nail. There’ll be drainage alright. But it came in a plastic bag like you’d get your newspaper in. Very thin!!
I’ll be doing my plant chores after watching your video. I’m trying to dodge the flu…hubby has it and I think my son is coming down with it now. My daughter left back for college yesterday, she has to finish working on her thesis for the spring semester.
Your soil mix looks a lot like what I do except I use charcoal chunks instead of biochar. I think I’m going to replicate your pest spray. I keep getting spider mites on my verrucusom. 🥺 Thank you for the video!!! Go rest! Hope you feel better!
For the headaches have you tried putting something cold on your neck while putting your feet in warm water? It helped me with my pregnancy migraines when I didn’t want to take meds. Something to do with blood flow 🤷♀️
Keep doing what your doing. I think you're adorable, likeable and refreshingly flawed . Coming from another flawed human, that means al lot. If people don't like the content, they can easily move on. The sad thing is, some people find it hard to move on without spewing their unsolicited (and unnecessarily mean) point of view. Out of all the plant channels I subscribe to, yours is my favorite and the one I go back to time and time again. You're unapologetically authentic and that is refreshing in a time where all influencers feed you a made-up, well scripted personality geered towards nothing but views, to the point that they all start to look and sound the same. Keep it real and screw those whiney ass Karen's and their unkind/unwarranted rants. Move on Karen.
I just put in extra large clear pots in the search bar on Amazon
Charmaine you look either bored or sleepy while Lauren is talking
Well I’m pregnant so I’m constantly tired hah
You’re amazing Charmaine 🤍✨🌿
Planned parenthood while staying unplantparenthood 💚
I’m so excited for you! I’m also glad you’re going to keep doing CZcams. But maybe less or shorter videos.
It's my thoughts that Vince is going to be a great dad, and since he is already a wonderful supporting husband, you will absolutely have time for your plants and you will absolutely have time for yourself. Great partners share in parenting, and you have a great partner. Even if you do get bogged down, you have Alice and Jing to help you with plants. Never be afraid to lean on those who love you. 💋
Are you drinking enough water? Try adding just a wee bit of salt to a glass of water and see if that doesn’t get rid of your headache. Not bleached white table salt but good salt, either Celtic or Himalayan…just like 1/8 tsp and see how you feel.
You could cut the spiral plant way back.
You may need to move plants up on your living room for when Archie crawls. It will be hard to keep him from grabbing at them.
I just love your Florida beauty 😍 looking great 👌😍
Charmaine girl do I have news for you! There's this plant called the philodendron findens that looks like an sp columbia (not a gloriosum, unfortunately but you still really love sp columbias) but develops fenestrations that make it look like a monstera. Please look it up cause I really feel like that plant would be up your alley!
Can you move Vince’s desk into your bedroom ? When Archie is moved out of your room?
Pregnancy becomes you. Your baby bump is cute. Hoping your illness gets better meaning they are fewer. Wishing I lived closer, would love to purchase something you are getting rid of. I enjoyed this session.
It's been many years since my daughter's were born but keep an eye on your blood pressure. I developed high blood pressure during both of my pregnancies... it went hand in hand with headaches as well as dizzy spells... xo from 1000 Islands Ontario 🇨🇦
Charmaine, thank you for your continued uploads even with your pregnancy symptoms! You’re doing amazing. The white tshirt you’re wearing at the beginning, where is it from???
I’ve seen at least 11 inch orchid pots on Amazon.
Are you planning on winning a lottery to be able to do all these things you want to do for your family?
Happy new year ❤️
I’m sure people mean well and could have phrased things better. I know for a fact that I severely underestimated how much time and effort it would be to have kids, granted I did have twins. Also the ADHD and PPD kicked my ass. My husband and mom were very supportive.
Will your parents come for a few weeks? Not sure where you would put them though. Be sure to make time for rest.
Alice may surprise you after Archie comes a long. Not that she’s going to go overboard.
Yup, I watch a YTer that I don’t really like. In my defense, I did like her channel when I first found it but, the more I watched, the more I realized I don’t really jive with her. However, I’ve just kept watching hoping and trying to maybe dispel my opinion of her but actually end up keep reaffirming it lol. Like, you keep saying how cute you are, yup, don’t like you, lol. Terrible, I know but I’m glad to hear I’m not the only one. 🤣
whre u feel sick during preg i feel sick and need to lay down most all the time, its always good to know itll stop tho im guessing.
I have tiny ants on my Billi, is this a problem or an advantage?
Do you have a label on your spray bottle
Wow that’s a lot of plants to sell at Lauren’s shop. How long do these sales last?
usually 3-3.5 hours!
Where are you putting it now?
sorry that has been a response you've got about becoming a mom, like you said i'm sure they mean well but i would also be quite irked to be getting that messaging