WAITING For His Financial Stability? (5 Things You NEED TO UNDERSTAND)
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- Waiting For His Financial Stability (5 Things You Need To Understand)…In this dating, love, and relationship advice video, I will explain five things you need to understand while waiting for his financial stability. You can be dating a financially unstable man on first dates, online dating, or somewhere in the dating process. Take heed to this dating advice to know the best ways to handle dating a financially unstable man, and ensure you watch the entire video.
There's no need to be disappointed with how men think about financial stability in a relationship. I want you to understand men better to know when a man isn't financially stable, it's not a deal breaker, as he can always work on improving his financial status. This video will help enhance your dating experiences by teaching you what to do when dating a financially unstable boyfriend.
A relationship's financial stability is crucial, but a couple should not allow financial stability to define the depth of their love. Couples with great financial stress tend to have lower satisfaction levels in their relationships because money and relationships complement each other. I hope this dating advice will help you learn the steps to take when waiting for his financial stability.
As a certified life coach, relationship coach, and dating coach, I want to make dating and relationships easier for you. I pray that you find this video helpful and that you can enjoy dating and have a fulfilling, healthy relationship.
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This is an excellent post! Well shared.
Thank-you Stephan I enjoy your messages their is a silly person sending what’s app comments I responded to!
I wish there was social media 20 plus yrs ago, would have saved me lots of pain n suffering. This video is explaining my life.
This was so timely. I’ve been feeling soo bad about walking away because I love and care for him so much. But after 16 years, no ring, no ambition,no plan.. I had to finally walk a way for good.
How was walking away? How did he take it. I’m kind of in the same boat right now with the father of my children.
I'm in the same boat too. 13 years in. Not only I feel guilty but he also guilt trips me too by saying he would never do me like that 😢
women who built their men or grew with them were in the end left for someone else who got to enjoy the fruit of their hard labor.
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
That happened to me after 22 years but I had no problem walking away because my peace was more important and as long as God is on the throne and has the last say I will fear nothing. I am much happier and building slowly as my soul prospers to God be all the glory 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
At this point I don't even care, in fact I would be happy knowing he finally got his sht* together and I'm out of it lol
This situation happened to me. Am so broken 9 years down the line. Am suffering from commitment phobia. It’s only Gods grace which will save me because I’ve lost hope in marriage.
Watching from Kenya 🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪 Be blessed Stephen, your message gives me hope.
Go Kenyans 🇰🇪 ❤
Last month, I offered my partner to help him look for a job but he insisted my support was enough for him. Just 2 days ago, he finally got a job offer and he did it on his own without me needing to help him. He said he doesnt want finances and money to negatively affect us as much as possible. His only request to me was to be patient until he lands a job so we can go to extravegant dates again.
You are absolutely right women should not intervene on a man's plan on being financially stable. You are there to morally support; Not to build him.
Curious, how long were you with him?
This video feels like mental gymnastics. If
He’s not financially stable stay away from
Him, PERIOD.
It's so essential he has the character qualities that will allow him to be financially successful. If he doesn't have the drive, industriousness, and commitment it takes, then it's truly best for all parties to move on.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
You modern women just can't get yourselves to love a man for him, huh? He *has* to be "financially successful"-whatever that means. Despicable.
@@Noqqin its despicable that you dont think that is a valid standard for one to have for themselves. just like its despicable for a woman to expect a man to provide for her, when he can barely provide for himself. wouldnt that be selfish? its not really about your lack of financial success, its about the lack of drive to achieve such. many women have no problem sticking with a man thats getting it out the mud, as long as he has the qualities of someone who is destined and determined to achieve something greater for himself.
@@Noqqin So how will the bilss get paid? So you expect the woman to pay all the bills, while you sit in her house and being a leech, huh??😏😒
@@missj5564 Why not? That's what you women have been doing, all the while complaining we're not doing enough, too. 😂
A friend of mine supported and help her boyfriend financially for 4 yrs to finish his study and apply for his dream job, to be a policeman. When he graduated and became a policeman a few months later he dumped my friend and marry another woman. 🤷♀️
I'm sorry to hear about that, and I pray that she heals from all that she has been through 🙏
OMG, I was in this situation. I compromised my standards and dated a financially unstable 61 year old man who seemed to have potential; who lives in a rented room. I stood by his side emotionally, he would take his frustration out on me, we spent most of our private time at my home, I helped pay for dates and travel (as I should have/more than I should have ), etc. He seemed to have had his own prosperous online business, but when I worked from home during COVID, often times I would find him on social media (facebook) throughout most of the day. FOUR years later at age 64 he is in the same situation. I had no choice, but to walk away 7 months ago and it was hurtful for me to do so, because I loved him very much. Four years was long enough. I deserve better.
Was his name Anthony? Sounds like my exact experience...lol
61???????
Yes, girl! When I met him he was...lol
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
@@MeetStephanSpeaks I found a great therapist and my healing journey has been going extremely well. Loving yourself more is essential and empowers you to choose better. May God continue to bless your life Stephan and thanks for all you are doing for the world ♥️
Someone said, "Do😮n't let a man taste your money." I totally agree.
I'm watching this with my man when I get off work. He needs to hear this
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@@CosmeticTri30 it will just push him further away. He definitely don’t want to hear it from you. He has to want to change on his own.
I believe a woman should not really wait for the man to have financial stability. In my opinion, it should be something that is achieved together. However, that does not mean he does not have to work and leech off the woman. He needs to have goals and aspirations and actively work towards them.
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At a certain age, 35 to 40 years and older, he should be financially stable or working towards that goal. If you move in and marry a man that is not financially stable/responsible and has no goals/ambition, you as the woman will be paying the bills and carrying this grown boy. What has he been doing all his life?
If he wants to be the head of the house and to be taken seriously as a man, he needs to be able to provide and protect. Men like those expect women to bring numerous qualities to the table including finances, will ask for submission, then expect to be raised and treated like children.
Those men probably should not be seriously dating and looking for marriage when they are not ready.
Well Explained💯
I agree with Amber team work is the dream work
@@missj5564 first husband was like this not a dime when we married, he had to ask his parents for his half of the house down payment! 26 years were hard years to be married.
As always, great topic, awesome advice. I been through couple of those and had to put an end to the relationship after the deadline was reached and he still did not do what is required of him to be a king and lead. And I think you're right. Sometimes they get comfortable when they realized you've been handling things financially, so they probably tell themselves you got this and they can rock back and chill. I took a long hard look at myself, the situation and decided I deserved much better. Walked away, worked on myself, prayed, meditated and I feel good about myself. Although single, I feel comfortable in my own skin knowing God will send me that one who deserves me and I deserves, when the time is right. I love listening to you. Very uplifting. Keep up the great work 👍🏾 ❤️👏🏾
❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!
What are some things you were expecting him to do to lead?
One should draw the line between being supportive and being used.
You're absolutely right!
I'm in this situation now and I am drained, exhausted, broken, and tired. I'm struggling to understand what I should do. He's a very nice man and has been good to me, but damn I am tired of waiting.
It feels like Acrimony.
@@Empower3d Exactly! lol. U struck a cord with me because watching Acrimony she waited for years and he did not even wait a year to see if she would take him back once he got his funds.
Waiting on a man's financial stability or being with a player who is financially stable is just as bad. I don't want non of that.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
If you look at old love, husband and wife would put all funds in one pot. The pot paid for bills and all needs of the family. I still believe that would work today with less divorce and broken homes. That way no1 can say this mines that yours. It's all ours. What if ur other doesn't make as much as u do and u expect them to pay half the bills that means they are left with nothing for the rest of the week while u have extra left over. That's looking out for your other. Ur still living separate so why be married and or together when we can be roommates. I also feel that 50/50 is no such thing some1 is going to be putting in more effort and more money then the next and it is usually the female. She cleans house, takes care of the kids, cleans the laundry, and cooks, while men usually only work.
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Mannnnn!!! This was a gem 💎. I wish I had seen this when I was young and dumb. It would have saved me a lot of relationship trauma and eliminated this recovery period in my life. Thank you. I will save this video and share it to save some other souls out there. 🙏🏾
This is a phenomenally well said message!!! Thank you for not automatically saying he’s a loser or saying to put up with everything and be his ride or die! It seems everyone’s opinions is one or the other! THIS is the right answer!
So I heard another one of your videos before this where I said exactly what you said: a man will not want to put you through battle while he’s upgrading. He will take advantage (and everything) else if he’s just not into you. And if he does overcome his demise bc of luck or whatever, he may even leave you later on once he is confident bc he didn’t really dig you to begin with. Men are simple; we complicate by benefit of doubt sometimes. Also, we gotta put our guard down when we’re independent warriors. People can need others and still be a bad ass. 💪🏼
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You’re making perfect sense. If he really cared he wouldn’t be asking me for money or any kind of assistance. And no, my ex wasn’t worth it 😂
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UGHHH!! 🤢 I feel sick RIGHT NOW!! I've been in this situation for 5 YEARS!! The WORST part is that I HAVE KNOWN IT.. and I am Still Trying To Help, Someone who is STRAIGHT up LAZY!! 🤦♀️🤦♀️
My omg this was my situation. My ex assured me that he needed financial stability for us to move in together. He had one part time job so I spend every Sunday all day submitting his resumes for months. When he finally got another part time job I expected him to keep his promise but he had other excuses why we couldn’t move in together. I went above and beyond and he didn’t deserve it. So happy I left his dusty butt
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Wow Mr. Stephan, you went in on this one and you're right especially on the last point.
This video is helpful. A relationship is a teamwork. As a woman, I will be patient to my partner to be financially stable BUT he should also do his part as well before settling down
Thanks Stephan for pouring your purpose so generously into this world ♥️🖤
My pleasure ❤️
If you have a great person in your life, that should be a big part of the motivation right there. Really you should want it for yourself first. Show support, but do not coddle. Yes, yes, and yes. Great video. ❣
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Stephan, I just really want to thank you for this. I found the foundational tools I needed from this to talk to my partner. I really felt seen for how I’ve felt for more than 3 years.. in just this short video. Thank you for lifting us up.
HalaluYah! Speak on it Stephen. Who really wants to be with someone who is NOT financially stable. It's to stressful.
Absolutely!
Great video. Many women end up left behind after supporting a financially unstable man for years.
You bring me so much peace. I waited 11years for him to pitch in. And there was always something was waiting for the perfect job, he was doing his best, "taking care of the kids" but disrespecting me in many ways. I was exhausted. He was a great entertainer, music concerts and great movies, I realized that is what he'd do when my kids went to school and I went to work! He wasn't looking for a job, I felt deceived, and confused because we had great times together but my body and my soul had enough. I couldn't take it any longer. I would give myself ultimatums that I extended for months that became years because the "responsibility should have come from him" because we had kids together and it was common sense as a man. And I would cry for his help, pray to God to give him a job he didn't even ask for and couldn't refuse. After years of getting ready emotionally, I ended up leaving him. It was so hard, I was so attached to him in so many ways. I was horrified to think I was breaking my marriage before God. But with these videos I am understanding that God wants something better for me and I was Idealizing my ex I was putting up with things that were beyond faith, and I am at peace with myself. God is healing me little by little. We still talk in a friendly way. I respect him as the father of my children and I'm still learning to detach my guilt from the breakup. But I know it was the best decision for my own sake. I was going insane!
Absolutely 👍 great video wish I had this information before. I spend eight years trying to build up a man who led me to believe that he was working on himself. I was his crutch in every way possible especially financially. He often said that he wanted to be financially stable before we moved in together but he had no deadline and I waited for eight years. Eventually I walked away because I got tired of waiting on him for nothing. You’re right he told himself I wasn’t going anywhere. But I did, it was hard but I worked on myself and I’m happy.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
You mentioned; many valid points. I would not wait for a man to be financially stable, unless; his stability changed. I would encourage and pray for him to regain it.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
Amen my brother & then when they get there finance they leave you but I never needed him financially he needed me
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You will build him up for him to leave you for the woman he really wants.
TRUE FACTS.. I JUST WENT THROUGH THAT WITH MY HUSBAND 2 YEARS AGO I LEFT THAT DUSKY BIRD IN THE WIND I COULDN'T HANDLE IT HE NEVER WANTED HELP..HE WANTED ME TO BE HIS MAMA 🔨🔨 NAWL BYE CROW 💯💯🔨 LET YOUR MAMA FINISH RAISEING YOU. THANK YOU STEPHEN ❤️❤️💯
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Great video, I wish I had seen it years ago. Staying in a relationship for years with a man who did not have a plan and was not financially stable , definitely left me exhausted and stressed out. Setting a cut off would have been very beneficial. Live and learn. Thank you for the information.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that and pray that you heal from all that you have been through🙏
Currently in this situation. I am exhausted, constantly stressed and full of resentment. He is the father of my kids but I know I have to leave, it's proving to be a mission.
I’m only 5 minutes in & you are speaking facts! Thank you❤
I can't thank you much enough. Exactly this is what happend in my relationship. 2 years of relationship and he lost his job, he is really stressed and he doesn't want to take help from me, because i already do much and i have much stress already. We are at a point that we decided to take a break. He wants to fix his life and i am fixing mine. God knows if we will still have a chance after that. But how it is going now it's unhealthy for both of us.
This is good Stephan!🔥
Thank you!❤
I’m not hard to please! I don’t ask for much! I was made to give my last in relationships to men! They’ve always taken from me! I blamed myself! I felt like I needed them so I should be grateful anyway in it! I thank GOD he provides for me and I have my own apartment! GOD IS THE BEST! THANK JESUS!🙌🏽
To receive any help is a blessing that overwhelms me! I’ve given my last and I enjoy giving because GOD always gives to me! It’s hard for me to ask for help because people always assume I have it all together! (I’m very thankful and grateful I don’t look like what I been through!) Though when I ask in the right way I’m rejected help! It always results in me asking someone who disrespected me in the past! I hate that!
Beautiful, I'm praying for you to continue to be blessed by God in the name of Jesus. I'm praying that our Father will teach you how much He values you so that you'll know your worth and only accept what He gives to you so that you'll be wholly and holy blessed and healthy. Learn your lessons as well and move on with your head held high and your everything in and for God first and yourself second. Then you'll be able to give what you're guided to give, as God leads you to others as well as accept what He is providing for you and not just anything from anybody. I'm a giver too. However, I refuse to form unhealthy attachments to people regardless of who they are or what role they play in my life. And it's thanks and glory to God for the lessons. Stay beautiful and encouraged because I know it's not easy when those negative thoughts start coming through, but pray and focus on God to help you through it because you wonderfully made in His image! See yourself as God sees you, and your mind and way of thinking of yourself will change. Big hugs and kisses from your sister in Christ. Peace and love.
@@reddz521, AMEN! Thank you very much! I’m on my journey with THE LORD!🙌🏽
GOD bless your heart in JESUS! Thank you, JESUS in advance!🙏🏽❤️
Thank you Stephan. While I am not currently in the dating realm, this was very much appropriate for my situation with another important man in my life: my father. I have been separated from my father for over 28 years, and had only met him in near weeks after that birthday. After observing what is going on in his life, including but not limited to being brutally beaten and abused by his own wife, I realized this man may not be deserving of me. I too have been abused and exploited by an important woman of my own life: My mother. However unlike my father I had the courage to leave my mom, say that enough is enough, and it long last left this abusive entity making her nothing more than a thing of my past. My father, however, said to me "... I need you to take care of me." It says the man for whom I did not choose as my father, to the most important woman he will ever meet (his one and only child, a daughter) and has barely contributed A little over 2 weeks of time collectively to her life? On top of that this man can't even stand up for himself, and tell his abusive wife to back off and leave his daughter alone (and out of their conflicts). It's one thing to attack your spouse, but you prey upon an innocent child who didn't choose such parents as they have acquired? That is beyond evil.
Stephan, I will resort to this video as guidelines to enforce standards upon my father if he is to finally gain the balls needed to end the toxic relationship with his wife, and make amends for his child. While I am more than happy to guide him through the minefields of options towards improving his situation, I will only take care of a man who takes care of himself. It is not my job as his child to take care of him, and no parent should have children merely as a means of acquiring a caretaker for their incompetent selves.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
I'm not on the fence. I know what God has for me, and that is not to lack anything. He should have himself mostly put together financially. Blessings MOG. 🙏🏼🕊️💛
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Did you find that yet?
You know what you described everything I’ve done… Resume building getting careers for partners who can’t maintain😢 and I’m left disappointed and taking in more than my share. Loving and enabling are two different things. Supporting and taking on are different things as well. Man is this my year for growth! I appreciate the videos so in depth and spot on. Ladies trust me learn your boundaries and what’s self sabotaging behavior versus what true love really looks like! Ambition can’t be taught ❤ stay blessed
Yes many times this cycle occurs because of issues of codependency and complacency. We teach people how to treat US based on what we allow. Another great video as always 👏🏾.
This video hit home; I was in tears. Nothing but facts
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
Lots and lots of Filipino men rely on their women so much financially. My father has no work while my mom does all the housework and keeps a job or two. Many of my women friends have partners who are satisfied with meager salary and not thinking of their family's future. I also just ended a relationship with my boyfriend of 9.5 years because of financial instability. It is scary to be single and start from scratch at my age of 32 years.
This is where I screwed up. I thought he was a visionary entrepreneur but he didn't have a plan and I let him ride on my coattails for 30 years. He resented and resisted. I compensated for his shortcomings and that (along with his adultery) led us to divorce.
I'm sorry to hear about that, and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
Thank you so much for this platform and sharing your expertise with women. When I tell you I needed to hear this!!! It was CONFIRMATION 💕
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
Great advice and topic that is well needed, thank you and may The Most High God bless you
❤️ 🙂 Thank you very much and may God bless you as well 🙏
On point video❣️🔥🔥🔥Since I have always been selective in who I’m with, yet I can admit along time ago, I’ve made a few mistakes in my judgments that I will end immediately. Because simply put I don’t play that 😆 I haven’t experienced many that you’ve mentioned, but I can overstand that. Because I know that I have to be with a man who Knows himself and have a plan. I will never bring a man around my family to met if we aren’t in a serious relationship. But, my homegirls will know who he was for “safety reasons.” I feel fathers of daughters should educate them at a very young age on what’s real in this world especially, when it comes to men. I think those tools of life will be a great deal of help in saving time, energies, finance and most importantly Self Love 💕
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I appreciate so much for giving us chances to have a financial stabilty and I'm very thankful and very grateful trusting us in our willingness putting our job in this process assisting our partner, thanks again and God bless!
My pleasure ❤️
Preach it Stephen, thank you I needed to hear this!!
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
I thoroughly innerstand everything. It was timely for me. 🎉
This was the reality check I needed today. Thank you.
My pleasure ❤
Me too Sis.
Same Sis.
Thank you for sharing a great topic. I refuse to be broke anymore by a man. In the past was the female who save everybody but no one was there for me. Realize I had to learn how to say NO and mean it. The bank is not my name and I'm not an ATM, or a Christian doormat.
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I let my ex live in my flat and he never paid even 1$ for anything, because he was just a jobless student and immigrant. I supported him in everything and accepted he can't afford for buying gifts, or taking on a date. I even lent him money. Before he got a job, he promised he will live with me and we will share costs of the flat. But when he got job as a programmer, he easily dumped me, saying "he doesn't have time for gf and he wants to be independent. In addition, he said he never wanted to live with me"... He just used me and my "free accomodation", because it was more comfortable than his small room... So even when your guy gets job, it doesn't mean it's gonna be better...
You live and you learn..
Thank you for adding all this information about, thank you so much.
My pleasure ❤
I needed this tonight.
This is so true. Great video
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Thank You Stephan for your insight and much needed advice…Amen, Amen,Amen❣️💯💥🌹
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
I need this answer, thank you for the idea 😊
Loved this video. Thank you so much.
My pleasure ❤️
I’m heartbroken because I didn’t provide a good financial future for my girl which I lived with for 4 years. I have the potencial, but got too comfortable and lost her. Now I’m working hard a new plan I’ve created with the fortitude and strength to make to bring that goal into fruition.
Thanks for this advice it is very informative! I’m all for being the supportive girlfriend, however, I’m not willing to be someone’s crutch. We should both be able to shine in our purpose!
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This was a very good video. I learned a lot. Thanks Stephan♥️
My pleasure ❤️
I appreciate this message.
Thank you for this 💯
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Every single thing you say in this video is 100% true and women who say otherwise it is because either they have low standards due to not enough self-love, think love = struggle because this is what they saw growing up perhaps or they have not been through this situation. I have been through this situation and at the end of the day, it did not work and resulted in years of wasted time (but lesson learned). And now some other woman is enjoying the fruits of my efforts, tears, and heartbreak in building a man up. Another thing I want to point out when you say that some women will view this as wrong for leaving him when "he's down" after giving him a time frame..... think of it as an alcoholic .... it's better to leave the alcoholic so that if he's TRULY serious about wanting to be with you, he will change and get his addiction under control asap. If you stick by the alcoholic's side, they might never change or take forever in doing so after years of you crying, of him creating dysfunction within the family, and killing that admiration you once had for him which will leave you resentful and not being able to love him the way you once did. Every single thing you say in this video is 100% spot on and women have to stop tolerating boyish behaviors from men as a whole. When DEMAND increases, SUPPLY increases. Let's demand higher, qualified men so that they get it once and for all.... there's a shortage of qualified men. If you wouldn't accept this for your daughter, why would you accept this for yourself?? MUCH LOVE TO ALL WOMEN praying for you to find that husband/father material. THANKS, STEPHAN for speaking up!!!!! MUCH LOVE!
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Very good information! Your speaking cold, hard facts.
Never wait i did that never again waist of time i am not a goldigger but dating a broke men is not a opion he need to have something. To take care of him self and Me.
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Alot of guys is not like that is vice versa too n many times men support woman n as soon as the men go broke they're gone,u have guys that r financially unstable n they kept they loyalty n help back that same woman it's the guys that most of these females come across not all guy is the same
This is so helpful! I needed to hear all these today! My bf is currently struggling with his financial issues, but then I always choose to stand beside him. I support him all the way, there are times that I'm the one spending for us, I even lend him money so he can settle his bills! I did that again just 3 days ago, however he has this behavior that I really don't like which made me feel disrespected and invalidated. Everytime I speak up and express my emotions and whatever I feel about the concerns that I wanna raise, he always thinks that I am starting an argument! He always run away with these issues and always twist it and put the blame on me. I love him but his behavior is too much. He needs to grow more. Now I'm trying to heal myself and move on. I didn't hear from him for 3 days now. I don't know where we are heading :(
Babes, if you're the only one spending money in the relationship and you just gave him money to settle his bills but he's not doing the same for you when you need it then this relationship is unbalanced and he may not care about you as much as you care about him. Especially since you haven't even talked to him after you gave him the money. You may want to reevaluate this situation with him because your mental health is worth it, not to mention your heart and whole health. Maybe you could try telling him you need help with something and ask him to help you with it. Nothing big just something to see if he will do it and not necessarily because there is an actual need, it wouldn't be good to have the need and find out that he's not willing to be there for you. However, if he helps you, then there may be potential for some balancing with you two, but if not, then you may want to consider pouring that love you have for him into yourself until the Man that God has for you is brought into your life by God. Pray and ask God what you should do, and have the courage to do what He says because He will answer you. Peace, love, and blessings. Your sister in Christ.
*You **_do_** know, at least in your **_soul,_** where it is heading. YOU, sweet dear heart, need to head **_out and upward, without him._*
The financial instability is already enough of 🚩🚩. *The manipulation and inability to properly and maturely converse is the clincher that *he is not yoked for you.*
*THE FACT THAT HE IS NOW GHOSTING YOU IS GOD's CONFIRMATION. PLEASE, MICHELLE, RECOGNIZE GOD's signs and PROTECTION. YOU DO FEEL IT IN YOUR BEING- your soul, spirit, AND body, and your 🧠 is processing and expressing it **_right here_** in this comment section. DO NOT IGNORE YOURSELF, NOR GOD.* DO NOT avoid, negate, and postpone _ANY longer or further. PLEASE_ exit the relationship, release him with love (peacefully and firmly/finally), and shine without him❣
Doing so also allows space for you to attract/receive who _is_ right for you.🤲🏽Blessed wishes, Michelle.🙏🏽
@@reddz521 thank you so much, I appreciate all these kind words. I actually tried asking help from him only ONCE and that was the very first time, it's not even a monetary form. However, the way that he responded to me was different and I felt like I was a burden to him. :( he accepted and tried to help me but I felt like he was just forced to do it. It's painful to see his behavior like that, but I love him and it's real. I know there's no such thing as perfect love and relationship. All I want is to see him grow and be a better person, I know that at some point he does love me too. We tried to work things out as well. He tried and he's still trying, I can see that. However at this time, what if he come back and prove to me that he deserves a second chance? I love him for real. But in some areas, it's paining me. :(
@@BL3SSed-Bliss wow! Thank you very much! Your thoughts just made me cry. :( I'm in pain, but in a very mature way I'm still here for him for the two of us. What's in my mind now is what if he come back and ask for second chance and be willing to fix the relationship with me? Coz I know him, and maybe just maybe he just want to stay silent for a while and gather all his thoughts. He became vulnerable in front of me about what's going on with his own life, all this financial issues that he have atm, he showed me his vulnerable side not just once or twice, coz I know he trust me. I think he still have his baggage from the past that he is still carrying until now that's why he has this kind of behavior. I love him for real, but this is paining me :(
RUN ….
You said a mouthful. Wow. Thank you❤
My pleasure ❤️
Excellent advice!!! Thank you!
My pleasure ❤️
Ex resurfaced in my life 42 unemployed and homeless. I’m a truck driver and make good money. Told him to go get his cdl. Good money and if you drive over the road you can live on the truck and stack $$. He blew me off basically he’s good with doing Uber even though he currently can’t because he had a accident in his car and had no insurance 🤦🏽♀️. I had to block him because he was telling me he still loves me trying to come over my house. HE TRIED IT😩
Stephan please stop sharing my life with the world 🤦♀️. Ohhh the many ways I have done stupid thinking I was helping a brother out 😖. Too much truth tonight lol. Keep the tuff love coming sir!
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
Great video!!!
I am so grateful i found this video. I was feeling guilty about breaking up with my fiance. I have him 2 years. No progress
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
This video is really helping me though an extremely difficult breakup. Jesus it hurts lol
I'm happy this has been helpful to you, and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏
I needed this reminder.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
Thank you!😊
You are truthful!!!
I reconnected from someone with my past. He is 45 and I am 32. He isn't financially stable and I'm gaining my financial independence, building my career etc. Although I have strong feelings for him, I can't give myself to him because I'm afraid that I will be the one doing everything for this relationship and quite honestly its tough enough to do it for myself. He has a plan and wanta me to wait 2 years Thinks I should be the prize at the end but I feel that he should do it for himself. It sucks to have such strong feelinga but I'm grown now and stability isnt just about love. I'm very worried about his complacent nature.
Hi just checking in, are you still with him?
This is the bomb❤
I really needed to watch this. I feel so understood. Also feel like, fuck I love this guy, but there ARE men out there who DO have their shit together.
Your videos makes me wanna have a good hug from you hahahaha.
Thank you for this video Stephan. Seeing a lot of the points youve made hits way too close to home. Sadly Ive been realizing that I need to walk away from my relationship and it hurts when I thought this could’ve been my forever relationship but its not
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you so much for your kind words and wisdom ❤🙏
I do see a happier future, and I know i can pull the strength to get there in due time
I just broke up with my long distance boyfriend that I have never met of a year & a half. I waited a year & a half for this man to get his life together so we can start a life together & I just couldn’t take it anymore. He was going to borrow money from people to come see me so we could meet but I told him no! That’s not responsible of him. Basically, he spent a year & a half leading me on. And I’m so stupid for holding onto to what was nothing this entire time. I’m no longer “building” my future partner. They must be already built. Ready to start a real relationship. And I’m not doing long distance relationships anymore. It’s exhausting. I’m tired… I’m sad right now & have been crying for the past 2 days but I’ll be ok! I will blossom from the pain I gave to myself.
Out of all the videos and advice i have consumed. This hit hardest for my situation. However we ain't 23yr olds dating.. I am 41 and we have 2 beautiful young children and I am struggling BIG time with how could i end this thing (that has been going on years) because it's going to tear my kids world apart and change how they are forever.. It's a huge cross to bare. But our love has severely diminished. And our relationship is completely broken. He thinks i am controlling and i think he is useless and i lack any respect because he NEVER inititates or plans anything to help our family be more financially stable.. (he has a job btw) but we are on a noose financially and have been for yrs and he could earn way more. The deadline thing has created a monster as it adds to his already lack of self esteem and confidence.. i guess i know the true answer deep down and that is I don't mean enough to him to put in the work.. What do you think @meetstephanspeaks?
It's so sad that I'm in the same exact situation. I am tired. I am little older with 3 children. And I moved to a foreign country with this man.
If you are married do not get divorced. If he works, just stay together and get therapy. Divorce for a man with more money is a sin.
It’s important to have your own plan. Bring the plans together. What is he bringing to the table? Show me what you working with…over time. I’m not carrying anyone
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
I agree. Women should support and assist but not build. He needs to want the dream and working towards that dream more than his partner wants it for him.
You're absolutely right!
💯 thank you 🙏
I think it depends on age and other factors. I do think every one should have something going for themselves.
Im 26 my bf is 23 we love each other dearly but he has nothing to offer 😢
In this situation right now. However, we are just friends. I like him more than a friend but he says he is not mentally stable to be in a relationship but he’s not telling me that it’s going to be me he picks in the end. He literally told me out of his mouth in 2 years from now, he wanted to be with another girl, but he says who know if that will ever happen. I have helped him get into school, sent him a job, gave him money for his phone bill, helped him get a car, encouraged him, and bought him groceries. Now I resent him, I’m not sure if he’s a user or if he really appreciates it. I want to walk away but I’m scared if I do, he will be big and I may regret it. Help.
This is THE ABSOLUTE BEST relationship video I’ve ever heard!!! 💯
3:21 BOOM! THIS is the problem with dating “broke men”. It’s not about being a gold digger. It often says something about his character.
Here’s my situation- I’m about to talking to him in an hour so if you see this I’d love to hear your thoughts. We are in love- but we’re in different countries. He has been working his ass off trying to get stable so I can come live with him and he DOES have a defined plan of us being together- but in the present moment- I’m abandoned so to speak because he’s so single-focused on hustling. So in the long term vision I’m a priority- but in the short term day to day he sacrifices me as a focus so he can focus on building his career. And it leaves me very confused as to whether or not I wait for him….
Wow. Such good points
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
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Currently what I’m going through. I’m 24 and my boyfriend is 23. I don’t expect him to have it all figured out because who our age does? But- he got laid off of work and was informed about it for months, I brought up the idea to him that he should begin looking for jobs before the lay off so he would already have something lined up to which he agreed but never did. He says he wanted to take a small break from work and file for unemployment then look for a job. He stays home now and plays video games, and he’s been laid off for like 2 months. Rn he’s surviving off the unemployment (which is nothing.) and only got a job interview because of his mom. He’s been waiting for a call back for 2 weeks instead of looking for other jobs he can apply to for the meantime. He doesn’t seem serious about his search and it’s a turn off for me being that I grew up in a family where my dad is a hardworking man & provides for the family. It was our one year and he couldn’t even pay for dinner or do anything special for me, if anything I bought him a hoodie because he asked me to buy it :/ and I paid for dinner.
Did you leave him?
Listening to this is like you’ve read my imaginary journal 😮
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Absolutely valid! I speak this on a regular. Loved every bit of this! Thank you--I shall share 😁🫡💯❤️
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
AGREED 🎉100 percent
Thank you!
I totally understand
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