what helped me the most with depression
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- čas přidán 15. 06. 2024
- Scott Ste Marie is a Mindfulness Practitioner, Coach and Mentor. Through his lived experience with depression and anxiety he has seen what is truly possible in recovery, healing, and living authentically. If you feel at ease and comfortable with the videos on this channel and Scott's approach to emotional and mental well-being, the resources below may be helpful to you.
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Wow! Scott...One of your best videos. Loved it.
I love your barf. Please barf some more. Sorry not a good word. On another note I love being alone sometimes too. And my friends have gone to another country. I need friends too.
@@samisaturn33 HAHAHA! One step at a time
@@depressiontoexpression thank you for your videos! Unfortunately i have never experienced what is like to NOT feel unworthy 💔 been living 💯 Alone in a different state from all of my family & friends since 2013 😭 IDK how much longer I'll hold on 😔 I've gone thru Soo many lossess of loved ones out here Alone. Birthdays & holidays are just regular days & work is the only place i get to see & talk to other people 🥺 severe anxiety doesn't help either 😿 I've never felt So LOST, ALONE & TRAPPED IN MY LIFE!🥀
I want to go ice skating, and attend a theater, or a museum, I want to attend a wedding, I want to go to the aquarium and camp one night under the stars in some forest with a campfire .
I have never done any of these things and I wish I could do it with someone. But it also scares me, I don't know how I'm supposed to behave, I don't even know if this will be possible.
I also love my loneliness, my space .. but it doesn't make me happy to live like this all the time :(
Thank you for your authenticity Scott
The meaning of life is helping yourself help others.
Happy suicidal awareness day! A day where we support people who are suicidal and remember those that have already been lost💖
Happy 9/11
@@armandoalcb not really something to be happy about, but ok then😅
I like how personal and deep this video is. I believe Wilson is a companion, to which Chuck channels his thoughts, frustrations, and dreams. We all need to meditate from time to time. It’s a must, actually, so we don’t get too caught up with the situations.
Your not boring. I like the way you talk. I have social anxiety. I cope and I try
I started my second year of college three weeks ago with a lot of excitement to be back in an environment that I love with people that i believe love it just as much as I do, and i felt ready to connect. The first week I was really hopeful and was surprised to hear from some classmates from the previous semester but, as days have gone by and ive attempted to hold conversations and be more open, i have found myself hitting a wall of some sorts. I go to a community college so most of the people i meet really just come to class to get work done and leave as soon as they can to run off to other more important commitments. Today in my political science class the professor spoke briefly about our vital need as humans to belong and be seen for who we are, and I almost burst into tears. Since leaving high school I have felt like all aspects of my life have been turned upside down. It wasn't until this summer that I realized that this dark feeling I have been feeling for the past year has been because of loneliness. I am aware of the love my family has for me because time and time again they have been very vocal about it when ive voiced my concerns about this empty feeling. I have tried to explain to them that it is just as important to have a connection with those outside of our familial ties. Hearing you voice these feelings that I thought were only singular to me and my life experience has lifted a great weight off of my heart. I plan to use this awareness to help guide myself in the direction of healing with the company of others instead of feeling like i have to do it all alone. I am gonna keep trying to make these connections ,because despite what my brain tries to tell me, I know I am worthy. I am not really sure that any one will ever read this but if you happen to find this just know that you are not alone in your fear and uncertainty and are worthy of human connection and deserve all that you want and more 🧡
Michelle Escobar thank you for this amazing post and it is relatable to me . If you ever want to talk you can talk to me I will share details if needed
Hi! I hope you find someone who will always be there for you, no matter what. And keep that thinking, you are worth it! 😉🤗
when you talk about yourself, it's the most relatable thing ever. It just feels sad, happy, relatable. Cries
I had a million comments, so I'll make them into topics to be quicker:
1- I thought you said you weren't going to be posting videos to youtube anymore. I don't know what happened, but I'm glad you're actually posting more frequently these last few days.
2- Happy birthday, Scott!! Wish you all the best, always, always, always!
3- I did close my eyes at the first time you said it. Maybe I'm just very disciplined or maybe I've been conditioned by all those meditation mondays.
4- When you told us to imagine something we wanted to do but with someone else, I imagined watching Cast away, because I love movies and I haven't watched this one yet. I'll suggest it in another comment so people can easily see it and maybe like the idea of watching it 'together' online:)
5- That makes so much sense...I've been working on myself for so long and just this morning I was planting some peppers, which is something I wanted to do for a while and I knew it was something good for me, but I felt so unhappy with my life, even though I have such a great life at the moment. It makes so much sense that my problem right now is that I've been doing a lot of great stuff but all by myself, and that I miss having some good company. And I had considered that before but, like you said, it's kind of hard to accept that and admit that. To accept it especially considering everyone around me is usually saying how we shouldn't depend on anyone else, nor base our happiness on other people, because that would be something so fragile and on somebody else's hand. But the way you put it makes it sound perfectly healthy and it just makes sense. Thank you so much!
6- I loved imagining the things I'd like to do with friends who make me feel part of a group, important, comfortable.
7- Thank you so much for you videos, and this one is already on my favorites list! I loved, loved, loved it so much! I'm getting late to class because I wanted to write all of this. Thank you, you're amazing and I'm so happy to hear how happy you are with all the great people you connected with since starting this channel. Kisses and hugs!
Happy Birthday and I couldn't agree more regarding "focus on people, rather than things"
It’s bizarre. At the age of 39, I have just discovered what I have been missing is human connection, I happened to stumble upon this CZcamsr/ video and it confirms my thoughts. Everything is meant to be.
The most irritating thing is everyone comes from different backgrounds and nobody can be helped with a same technique.
People can have friends family money career everything and still be in depression. And that thing makes them more depressed because finding reason of what they are going through is frustrating.
Happy belated birthday my brother. Hang in there you are a guardian angel to all.
A year ago i had depression and you helped me the most in that period of time i had no one back then and everything used to trigger my depression I really really appreciate you and want to thank you for everything you do to help others 💖 your videos were the peace that i looked for now i look back at your channel it was the only light in my life again thank you so much💖
Hi, I discovered you recently. I live with depression... All life. Thanks for this videos, and let me tell you, you have so much magic in you're heart, that smile & those beauty eyes.
A big hug 🤗 from Mexico 🇲🇽.
what an eye opener. I have cut off my friends because I didn't think they would want to hear about my troubles, even though I've always wanted to be there for them. Thanks
One of my favorite movies too! It's about a human being truly realizing what it is to be human. It's struggle. It's pain. It's loss. It's love. It's life. I mean WOW
Thank you. God bless you.
This is one of my favorite videos you have ever made. I think you hit this point spot on. Isolation feeds depression more than anything
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I've been thinking the exact same thing and you just confirmed my thoughts with this video. My problem is that it's really hard for me to connect with other people since my personality and way of thinking are so peculiar...
It’s awful and all very true!! I used to have many more people I would hang out with. Everything changes after 30…. People move away, they get married, have kids, drop off the map. After awhile trying to meet up with people becomes too much work. I work during the week and don’t want to put in more work w relationships! The other sad truth is that people are very self-absorbed and only really want to talk about their lives. No one wants to hear about my life or really seems to care.
I have watched a lot of videos about anxiety and depression, but yours hit me in the heart. I mean, I nearly started to cry just because of how much I can relate to what you have been through. I really wish the Atlantic was smaller so I could easier get over to the states and give you a warm hug. Thank you for these videos.
I hate being alone, that's where my depression comes in.
Please try to talk to someone you trust. I hope you feel better soon 🤗😊
@@lorainebejar2837 thanks. I am currently looking for a group with the organization NAMI.
My birthday is also on August 26th. I’m so glad I found this video. I’m going through a depressive episode again. I really needed this. I like to think of this as a sign from the universe.
Happy birthday! So glad that you got to spend time with your sister and you got Wilson!
This is a profoundly accurate video for me to stumble across this time in my life, thank you friend
I have fallen into this Trap of helping myself , me me me... but Emotions and Life are meant to be shared with others 🤗 man i love this channel❤
I mean, friends would be great; unfortunately, some of us have been trying to find decent people our whole lives with no success.
When I listen to you I start thinking and crying for so long . I iam Arabic girl and I wasn't contacted with friends so I I learn talking English French Turkish but I find no one to share this with! Everything you said I did!like literally I started saying no no to everything like friendship love everything! But all I went sharing moments with no making excuse... ❤ so thank you for sharing my life to !like we are funny smart good people so we are so simple and we want to be need but for real and are life's with mine and we are important but with serious friendship and relationships. ..maybe one friend can be 100 friends I don't know but all I know love yourself and you are amazing and important in this life and tomorrow is coming so don't stack in today .
Wow. This one hit me. Really refreshing to hear, because now all we talk about is me me me, selfcare.
I like taking care of others, would love to do it more.
HE’S BACK!! Hope you have a great day, Scott
I´m so glad I found this channel.. It´s helping me a lot.. Thank you
We all need someone to love and we all need to feel loved, we need to surround ourselves with love and know that we have someone there to support us. If you are going through depression, reach out for someone to talk to, don't hide away, you are not alone, there is always someone out there ready to share, to listen, to support you. Speak out ♡
I really hope they will try to respond to people who are reaching out to them, I am losing hope with this special girl in my life, she said that she lost interest in everything, that she is disappointed and discouraged. I am giving her space now, but I assure her that I am here for her, no matter what.
My friend was the singer Prince. I never felt alone. Now I feel all alone in this world. I did reach out to a friend and she came. She is texting me daily to check my mood. That is wonderful ❤
It's hard to make friends as an adult with no friends. I'm really hard on myself.
But I agree finding friends is super important for survival
Thank you🥰🙏 so True. Live for others but don't take shit🙌🏻💕 And have boundaries.
Wilsoooooon, that ball made me cry so much in the movie... 😭 You're right, connection is what keeps us going. Beautiful video, thanks!
"Seeing the one you love with someone else." That one hit me harder than it should've...
Thanks Scott. Irene from Indiana
Thankyou Scott.
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I recently discovered your videos and, I loved them! Even if I don't suffer from depression, I think we all need reflect on deep thoughts and ideas. World is overhelming and your ideas are so real. I relate so much to what you talk about. For instance, I'm 35 and don't have real friends 🤣🤣. Happy belated birthday!! 🇲🇽🥰
Your will to be vulnerable is a very infectious trait.
You really motivate me and others.Thank you!😁
Happy birthday! I love your videos so much.
Happy birthday to you! And very true, the content of this video. We all need purpose and meaning, and it usually involves other people.
Your videos have kept me alive on the days I couldn’t cope with the world and wanted to give up. You’re an inspiration to us all and you also share my favourite film. Thank you for keeping me alive ❤
Birthday Twins!! 🎉
I had missed you so freaking much!!! 💙💙💙
Thank you for this video ❤️
i am teary eyes with this video scott.. i can relate so much...
Thank you!! ❤
Just wow, this guy so smart 💪 you make me feel alive 🙏🏻
Happy birthday dear Scot! ⚘💖
Really enjoyed your video. It was really helpful. I’m also working on telling those people that I love them more often because it helps me feel better and whole as a person.
Yes yes we need each other we are not designed to be isolated we are social creatures!!!helping and sharing with others is the reason to be here !if you take everyone off the planet you'll feel like there's no reason to live so we need each other more than we know!
This video helped me so much. Thank you from the bottom of my heart
So much love to you , thank you ❤️
thank you for this video. it helps me realize i am living too for others. yes it uplifts my mood by dedicating my life to others. 💙
Yes more videos.
Just wanted to thank you for the movie suggestion. I really enjoyed it and it got me thinking for the last few days. That's a great movie to make one more introspective!
Your words are making me cry a lot. Thank you. I really appreciate you You are helping me so much. God blase you. Stay strong.
Thank You Scott for your videos. You speak from your heart your personal experience and your videos help me understand my Fe who Is depressed
Thankyou scott.. im helping a friend who is suffering from depression and anxiety.. ur videos has helped me a lot to understand the illness.. btwy, u had a beautiful smile ☺️
I love your personality and how you transmit your emotions without inhibiting yourself, thanks for sharing this video, it made me analyze than the moments that I treasure in my heart always there was someone important with whom I shared it and that makes it much more special,
thanks for rememberme this, sorry but my ingles is such much basic
Fully charged and ready to emit positive energy to my boyfriend. Thank you Scott!
Thanks for this video, I was having a hard time getting up today. I told myself what's the one thing I could do to break out of this numbness/painful feeling while stuck in bed and it was "check out one video from depression to expression" and like always it gives me the boost I needed.
thank you Scott
U hit me by this vedio ..u put my feelings and thoughts on words ... yes that one of the reasons of my sadness , I need to be needed , I need to feel important and intresting for somebody else .. I'm an introvert person , I've never had a problem with being alone , but recently I started to feel lonly and uncomfortable...
Thank you for being so open. Our community is always here if you ever feel like chatting with a great bunch of human - www.patreon.com/depressiontoexpression
@@depressiontoexpression I'll be happy to join the community ..thank u
I haven't watched Cast away yet. Does anybody want to watch it "together" tomorrow night, 8 EST? We'll each watch it at the same time our computers, but knowing that, as alone as the guy on the movie looks, there'll be other like-minded people enjoying the movie with us? Kind of a "symbolically watching the movie together".
I will watch it by that time and hope some of you will too!:)
you have Kast and Kosmi for streaming concurrently now
Thank you
I love this
Happy birthday!
*this deserves a million views*
I loved the thumbnail of this video 😅👍
ur videos help a lot i relate with being alone. I have social anxiety due to my borderline personality disorder BPD
So, this is extra tricky for me, as I’m not only depressed but also dealing with a lot of physical health issues at the moment too. I have people in my life who I love and who love and support me, and i am so grateful for them, but I don’t have actual “friends”. I lost all the friends I once had, and I am total shit at making new ones, not to mention my current limitations make it pretty much impossible. I can’t get out of the house much at all right now, and anytime I try to put myself out there online in any way it usually falls flat, or at least doesn’t take off in a way that leads to actually making a real friend. I oftentimes feel very invisible. One thing that keeps me going in my connection to animals and all the ways I’ve been of service to them, but as far as real human “friends” go... it just doesn’t happen for me. Anytime I’ve thought that I’ve found my circle or tribe or whatever, it ends up being some sort of temporary connection or just results in some kind of disappointment. I dunno... it’s just a very weird thing about me. I can’t figure it out.
My birthday was on August 26th as well. Happy belated birthday!
@Misbah Shah thank you!
@@karinaleon2824 Thank you!
That philosophy can end up being completely self destructive, if you surround yourself with the wrong kind of people. "Always being helpful and giving" is co dependence. That mentality can be very unhealthy because it attracts narcissists and the wrong kind of people. Personally i've never been happier than i am now, it's healthy to learn & find joy in concentrating on your self-growth and reaping the results!! Respecting your time and energy, no one is entitled to it! This attitude has brought around me people who are beside me honestly & with no agenda. The relationship with yourself and the focus on yourself sets the tone for the kind of relationships you're attracting. Personally I don't think that having your focus on others is good advice, it can work out in some situations but most of the time it can be dangerous advice. And I see it everywhere. If you want to do something good, adopt an animal, get involved with the church, there are so many options, but avoid one-sided relationships at all costs even if it makes you happy now.
I haven't watch your videos in a while, but anytime I watch them, I feel free!
Thanks for sharing this with us! You're right, we're not the center of the universe, we are social beings and sharing with others makes us grow, makes us more human! Happy birthday 😂😊
GRACIAS
Happy Belated Birthday. Watch the movie The Shack. It had a major impact on me and i can't watch it without crying. Am physically alone 90 to 95 % of the time and i am still trying to find a counselor. Most of my time is spent dealing with multiple medical conditions and trying to sale hundreds of items. Don't allow myself much time to think because i think i would fall over the cliff i have been hanging over for most of the past 6 years. Was not like this growing up. Frankly i am without words on what goes through my head and more. Think i have moved beyond depression to more like desperation. I am medically dying from 4 incurable conditions so i will be going home soon. Stress and lonliness can kill you!! Even though i am existing on a machine, helping others helps me. Technology has made us more isolated and stressed out. My longest local friend died last year. One of my goals before i break on through to the other side is to have a life again
best video ever
My birthday is Agust 26 alsooo :333 Happy late birthday:)) I love your videos I knew about you by your Spanish song's reactions and since there I always watch your videos :)) you've helped me whenever I feel down :) thank you.
@@karinaleon2824 Thanks 🤗
HBD!!!!
😍😍😍happy birthday 🎂
Weird that I definitely have people who depend on me to do things, but I still feel like nobody really has an emotional connection to me. My nephew lives with me, and what do you know, he also has a major personal intimacy problem. We discuss lots of things and have so much in common, but we dont ever say what we mean to each other.
Thank you for this content. It helps a lot.
Can I say … you are so handsome 🙈. And you have an amazing smile.
God bless you
Great video... Friends? That’s something I have to work on.
Happy Birthday Sir 💖💖💖💖🍫🍫🍫🍰🍰🍰
I can totally relate..you need to be alone but socializing is important aspect of life..even though i am very awkard socially.. anyone wants to try to be a friend..if yes Hi There, my name is Azeem
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so true
it fuels depression
there is always "nobody cares about me" behind "i'm depressed"
So you found Wilson yay! Thought he never made it.
Hi everyone,
I have a question: Isn't it bad to depend on others because you aren't in control of whether they connect or need you?
I struggle with chronic depression and if anyone would be so kind as to answer it would truly help me understand more. Thank you.
A little more elaboration: I have learned throughout my whole life to not depend on people because what if some day no one needs you? I've always thought that you have to make it on your own in this world, because on the darkest days, only you can help yourself. For example- love. I've always told myself that maybe I'll find love, maybe I won't. This connection is not within my control, and therefore I shouldn't focus on it. This video really put that belief in to question.
Man i relate to this…….. i do so much stuff alone.
friendship is magic for real bro. I get so isolated that some days the only person I interact with is scanning my groceries. This is why I don't use self checkout. I'd much rather help somebody else do a real smile.😊
As a millennial who grew up in Ireland during a recession, I watched all my friends move away to Australia or Canada in my 20s. I'm 35 now, and recently moved to Germany to be with my partner, and it's been good, but I've lived here for 10 months, and Ive literally no friends. When my partner goes out with her friends or to a work event, I'm completely isolated and it sucks. I don't think I can make friends after 30. I am outgoing. I'm not shy and I can be funny. I dunno what I'm doing wrong.
Your not doing anything wrong. Strike up a conversation with someone or go somewhere in an environment you enjoy being in :)
Simplemente eres genial 😀
Gracias :P
Depression to Expression omg me respondió 😻doble amor !!!!!
The main problem is that I don't have friends. I am a social worker and my clients need me. But I don't have any other people who would message me on Christmas Eve..
I get that. I’m a social worker too and my clients need me but it’s not the same.
Where are you based? Wanna be pen pals?
Escucha "la bruja" Jenny AND the Mexicats 😉🙏
I have almost no friends, like, not for real and yeah it's hard to admit!
Total respect for your saying this. It is difficult and hard to admit. First step is done. There are people out there that really need you and you need them. You'll find them if you look :)