Try this to STOP your Obsessive Thoughts! | GREAT TIPS TO OVERCOME OVERTHINKING

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  • @unleashingpotential-psycho9433
    @unleashingpotential-psycho9433 Pƙed 5 lety +293

    One great way to stop overthinking is to remember that even if the worst-case scenario happens, you’ll probably be OK.

    • @lifegoeson6461
      @lifegoeson6461 Pƙed 5 lety

      Thanks for the wonderful tip !
      I keep seeing your comments on self love / LOA channels , they are very insightful .
      Love your videos as well :)

    • @reborn4450
      @reborn4450 Pƙed 4 lety +13

      "probably be OK" is not reassuring. Lol

    • @shacoldbane1901
      @shacoldbane1901 Pƙed 4 lety +2

      UNLEASHING POTENTIAL - PSYCHOLOGY VIDEOS probably be ok? That doesn’t help..

    • @Z3R0xL1F3
      @Z3R0xL1F3 Pƙed 4 lety

      I know, it just hurts to think about it.

    • @Lpetq
      @Lpetq Pƙed 3 lety

      😐🙂yes.

  • @beeznest7679
    @beeznest7679 Pƙed 5 lety +150

    I am an overthinker to the point of mental exhaustion. I am extremely intuitive and it can be hell..literal hell at times

    • @joelee5875
      @joelee5875 Pƙed 3 lety +3

      Not literally because no one living has experienced hell, but I do agree with a point you've made in that I have asked myself the question "what's the point of overthinking?" and in being an overthinker I seem to be more intuitive sometimes to the point of being seemingly prescient...and maybe that's the point. ...?

    • @evka24
      @evka24 Pƙed 3 lety +5

      use ur mind only to do the tasks...otherwise switch it off like a car engine

    • @stacielivinthedream8510
      @stacielivinthedream8510 Pƙed 3 lety +2

      @@evka24 ohh ok

    • @stephaniesanchez8776
      @stephaniesanchez8776 Pƙed 3 lety +3

      I'm so frustrated bwith myself and have been watching your videos over and over

    • @AD-qj4qs
      @AD-qj4qs Pƙed 3 lety +1

      @@evka24 that’s great perspective thank you

  • @williamsharp8254
    @williamsharp8254 Pƙed 5 lety +123

    As an over thinker I have come to realize that my mind wants to over contemplate things. I have found that all my decisions must first go to God. It seems to work for me.

    • @jimcox5151
      @jimcox5151 Pƙed 5 lety

      William....would welcome the chance to talk with you...Jim

    • @nunocoelho8979
      @nunocoelho8979 Pƙed 4 lety +1

      I've came to believe that God is either everything or nothing..

    • @anthonymicele8897
      @anthonymicele8897 Pƙed 4 lety

      Nuno Coelho So you believe in zero-sum reality?

    • @Hez0
      @Hez0 Pƙed 4 lety +2

      Cast it all on Him, Mr Sharp. God bless you on your walk.

    • @chelseatomlinson5687
      @chelseatomlinson5687 Pƙed 4 lety +4

      Yesss! If we had a device or appliance that wasn't working to it's full capacity or there was aspects of it we didn't understand, we go back to manufacturers guide/instructions because they created the product and know it inside and out and we're no different, we have to go back to our creator who knows how every organ and wire of our brain works and where the source of the malfunction inside of us is that's crossing us over from functioning healthy to unhealthy and guide us. God bless you.

  • @samuel.langhorne.clemens
    @samuel.langhorne.clemens Pƙed 5 lety +37

    Holy. Crap. In over forty years NOBODY has ever articulated or understood how my mind and emotions work like you just did. For decades I have analyzed every thought, word, and action of mine and everyone else’s on a minute by minute basis. I’ve finally been in a process of healing, growth, and discovery for a year or more, so I guess I was ready to stumble on this video. Thank you!

  • @sylviahood7644
    @sylviahood7644 Pƙed 3 lety +3

    I signed my job away six months after losing my son with teenage cancer. 13 years ago and i still replay that decision that i see as wrong! I am addicted. X

  • @queencleopatrabeverly7914
    @queencleopatrabeverly7914 Pƙed 4 lety +3

    Shalom if you pray every day every night and every moment you feel low obsessive or fearful and anxious. The all higher God with bless you with peace and grace.

  • @dianeguzman1236
    @dianeguzman1236 Pƙed 4 lety +16

    YES!!! I overthink ALLLLL decisions in my life and I am always anxious! Then, I can't make a decision until someone tells me what to do! It is so FRUSTRATING!

  • @lauragadille3384
    @lauragadille3384 Pƙed 5 lety +84

    My anixety makes me over think and it sucks.

    • @MakeupByMe79
      @MakeupByMe79 Pƙed 5 lety +2

      Laura Gadille I know the feeling girl!! I have generalized anxiety disorder and it’s a consistent thing and I have to be consciously aware of every single occurrence in order to learn how to react to it. Everyday work in progress. Hang in there

    • @laurengala3441
      @laurengala3441 Pƙed 5 lety

      I on meds for it it's extremely exhausteateting*

    • @trinibee09
      @trinibee09 Pƙed 5 lety

      AniCakes same here...my brain goes on override...I hate having GAD😞

    • @isaac8853
      @isaac8853 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      It makes me nauseous

    • @latrecelockett4930
      @latrecelockett4930 Pƙed 3 lety

      Me too

  • @neoyshascott1401
    @neoyshascott1401 Pƙed 3 lety +5

    I am an artist. Good to know my creativity is the reason I am this way . I feel like I have to overthink every decision but I am also great at detail and decorating and just being creative in general

  • @mrsnathalielim
    @mrsnathalielim Pƙed 5 lety +46

    I wish I heard this video a year ago. I was struggling a lot with these obssessive thoughts :( It was exhausting, I became anxious and paralyzed. I could not understand so many things and kept pondering and going in circles in my head. I've gotten better since then but am thankful for videos like this to help me understand myself more and what I can do to help myself.

  • @windyyang3947
    @windyyang3947 Pƙed 5 lety +25

    I'm so thankful to find videos like this on CZcams.

  • @ExtraSauce1012
    @ExtraSauce1012 Pƙed 3 lety +3

    I catch myself overthinking so much, it’s crazy and exhausting, my overthinking has caused problems in my relationships, and I catch myself in the act of it but my mind just keeps running and running and it’s so draining.

  • @mattlofty5884
    @mattlofty5884 Pƙed 3 lety +17

    It’s so good to hear this , I’m a people pleaser and I make outrageous effort to make everyone happy , I shouldn’t be that bothered If I’ve made an effort , you’re right you need to establish what is enough and stay in the moment

    • @tiffanyrobinson2435
      @tiffanyrobinson2435 Pƙed 2 lety +1

      Me too! I struggle with being a people pleaser big time to the point where I put myself on the back burner. It can be exhausting. This video was so helpful! I'm being intentional on not overthinking. I am starting therapy up again.

  • @Tinkerbell001
    @Tinkerbell001 Pƙed 3 lety +4

    This is amazing, I thought I was alone and then see all these comments. I also overthink, a lot. Dealing with a narcissistic ex, we lost our son a cpl of months ago which brought us together. He started flirting with me, then remembered he has a girlfriend. After calling to check on him, he all of a sudden he lashed out at me, talking bout the past, his opinion of me, trying to engage me in an argument, taunting me to the point of tears. It appears that he enjoyed it. He pulled me into this and now pushing me away like he hates me, hurts like hell, I didn't deserve it. Thank you Stephanie, the videos help me to look at things differently.

  • @thehilaryglow
    @thehilaryglow Pƙed 4 lety +1

    Most over-thinkers are people who are highly intelligent. They have a set of goals and values and they want their lives to be lived according to them, mistake-free so to speak (although deep inside they know there are always mistakes and nobody's perfect, not even them). They're perfectionists who want the comfort of knowing everything's going according to plan. It's not being selfish or patronizing others, it's creating scenarios in your head and trying to play by these rules you've created to know you won't fall deep into uncertainty. I know this about myself, and when there are surprises in life they're triggering my feelings of being at risk or not being able to know what's going on, which is very frightening. I believe it has something to do with instability during childhood and not being able to protect myself from constant changes. It has evolved into the urge, or not even the urge but the need, to always live my life the best way I can and know I'm smart enough to control it. I don't want surprises to control me. I don't think it's a bad sign, but I do know how hard it is and I just need to balance it so I don't get overwhelmed. So my tactic now is to always keep in mind that things might not go according to plan, and sort of recreate a plan B just in case. And even if it doesn't work accordingly, it's ok to feel bad, I've learnt to learn from such experiences.

  • @beckyvegalifecoach2481
    @beckyvegalifecoach2481 Pƙed 5 lety +28

    I love the part that you said it's ok to talk to yourself lol. I find myself wanting to do that because it's a good way to get my feelings out but then I will kind of judge myself and say to myself ok this is not normal stop talking to yourself. Lol. So thank you for that comment it just gave me freedom .

    • @aliyah2622
      @aliyah2622 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      I talk to myself all the time I do it nearly everyday especially when I have things on my mind and I need to express myself and get it off my chest. I personally think it’s better to talk to myself and come to a decision myself rather than having to expose my thoughts and feelings to somebody else that may not understand me or even worse go and tell other people about what I just told them as there is a lot of disloyal people out there nowadays and I don’t trust many people but I can always count on myself and trust myself. I try to be my own best friend, it’s me myself and i ! I try and speak to myself the same way I would speak to a good friend. I’m not saying don’t have any friends and don’t trust anybody but sometimes there are somethings which are best kept to yourself as you know telling other people your stresses doesn’t get you anywhere and it doesn’t solve your problems like I said sometimes people only make matters worse but that’s for you to decide. Girl just babble your heart out all day long, ain’t nothing wrong with it we all need to babble and let steam off and frustration sometimes!

  • @teresaspurlock590
    @teresaspurlock590 Pƙed 3 lety +1

    I am an overthinker and it makes me feel depressed and distressed at times. I want everything to go well and when things don't go as planned I feel insecure and disappointment. Overthinking can result in negative thinking and uncomfortable feelings. I have been uncomfortable and have feelings of insecurity. I had to keep working on the negativity of overtinking and being afraid of judgemental and unacceptance behaviors of other people. This stems from childhood because we all want to be accepted and loved by our parents, teachers, peers and others. Self-love and self-respect are the basis and foundation of our mental well-being and positive self-image. This is a process and will take years to overcome this negative emotion and a lack of personal self-development.

  • @RedRooster123
    @RedRooster123 Pƙed 3 lety +1

    My grandma always said, "Focus on what you CAN control. Think of the worst and best scenario......what will probably happen will be in the middle"

  • @helenmariewolford1147
    @helenmariewolford1147 Pƙed 3 lety +1

    This is exactly what my life has been about. I'm 71 and I'm tired from over thinking. I've totally in fear!

  • @theloveflows8773
    @theloveflows8773 Pƙed 5 lety +6

    It's called decision fatigue, it's very real, thank you for all you do Stephanie!❀

  • @teressaklausova9657
    @teressaklausova9657 Pƙed 5 lety +10

    there might be also fear of emptiness and feeling of nothing which brings fear. You have to fill that empty place which is fearful by overthinking which becomes a comfort zone...

  • @sonicsoulfly5750
    @sonicsoulfly5750 Pƙed 4 lety +5

    Great video this makes me feel more human. I’m an over thinker because of fear of social anxiety and it’s hell trying to approach women I like.

  • @positivepam1031
    @positivepam1031 Pƙed 3 lety +1

    Wowwwww, this is truly your gift!! I just subscribed today, and I have been listening to many of your videos and thinking, "I should pay her for this free therapy!!" Thank you so much! I resonate 1000%!!😀

  • @lindiebez1
    @lindiebez1 Pƙed 4 lety +10

    I definitely overthink until Im confused đŸ˜”

    • @jankotze2795
      @jankotze2795 Pƙed 4 lety +1

      Bly om te sien iemand Afrikaans ook na die luister!

  • @mariastathakis6151
    @mariastathakis6151 Pƙed 4 lety +2

    Stephanie... I mentioned to a friend that I find strength and clarity watching your videos. Decisions are constant and you can’t please everyone. Overthinking is sometimes inevitable, but I do take short breaks. Thank you for helping me create a different version of myself.

  • @Jebbiesmom
    @Jebbiesmom Pƙed 5 lety +10

    Thank you very much. This is exactly my story.

  • @amarispariswilliams
    @amarispariswilliams Pƙed 4 lety +6

    Steph you’re a wonderful creature, I am so grateful that I found your channel

  • @emilymarshall1284
    @emilymarshall1284 Pƙed 5 lety +1

    You’re amazing! Thank you for taking the time to do these videos. Xoxox

  • @tiffanyrobinson2435
    @tiffanyrobinson2435 Pƙed 2 lety +1

    This video was so helpful and so insightful! I knew I was always wanting a solution and problem solving but not to the extent I do this esp on certain situations. I also know I'm a people pleaser to the point where I think of everyone else before I think about myself. I need to intentionally work on that as well. I have been intentional on not over thinking today. Accepting I won't get answers in a certain situation and I have to provide my own closure and not obsessing about it and it helps for sure! I started therapy back up and that helps so much too! We talk a lot about acceptance, what we can control, our part in things, and boundaries at work which helps too as that reminder. Thank you for this video!

  • @birdiestrasz
    @birdiestrasz Pƙed 5 lety +8

    You are so incredibly gifted at how you share this knowledge in such a digestible way. I appreciate your time and effort you put into each video!

  • @susanriley3217
    @susanriley3217 Pƙed 2 lety

    Yes, I struggle with this almost daily with (sometimes) the smallest of decisions. It's exhausting just knowing that there are decisions I have to make. I mull things over and over to the extreme and think about the effects way into the future on bigger decisions. My mind goes in circles. So many times I have been so fed up with myself not making the decision, I finally just force myself to choose quickly. When this happens, it's usually not the right choice. Then it's the metal cycle that goes along with making wrong choices. Then there are times that I realize that not choosing is also a choice.

  • @jweihl81
    @jweihl81 Pƙed 5 lety +5

    Omg!
    This sounds like me !
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts ,expierences.

  • @jenc.626
    @jenc.626 Pƙed 5 lety +3

    Your videos are so incredible. They are so timely! I cannot thank you enough.

  • @HelloSF
    @HelloSF Pƙed 5 lety +12

    Thank you for this video. OMG, I was tripping out over a small issue and now I feel better. â˜ș Thank you!

  • @aliyah2622
    @aliyah2622 Pƙed 3 lety +1

    I am a extreme over thinker and it drains me everyday. Everything you said is correct. When you said addiction yes I also believe it’s like an ocd that repeats itself and I feel as though if I don’t overthink enough somehow I’m doomed and whatever decision I make will definitely be bad like I have to overthink to make sure everything will be okay and it’s so draining and exhausting trust! It’s a viscous cycle and it’s even the worst when something bad happens or somebody upsets me or hurts my feelings I keep tirelessly overthinking the whole scenario on rewind and play trying to figure out what happened why it happened and what could I have done to change the outcome and most of all did I make the right decision in that moment! I need help to break free from this I just wanna live in peace and not waste my brain power overthinking about every stupid thing!! There’s better things to do!!

  • @julianngo5263
    @julianngo5263 Pƙed 5 lety

    Definitely needed this! Thank you for this great video â˜ș

  • @FlyWon
    @FlyWon Pƙed 5 lety +3

    This is sooooooo me. Im not a pleaser but i have soon many creative ideas coupled with responsibilities. And I’m debilitated and stressed! This video is right on time

  • @JiKimm
    @JiKimm Pƙed 4 lety +1

    Wow. This video is gold👌 thank you!

  • @jen8984
    @jen8984 Pƙed 3 lety

    You couldn't be more accurate with the way I've been living. It's exhausting and so full of anxiety. I hate it.

  • @philippjahn1592
    @philippjahn1592 Pƙed 5 lety +3

    Thanks for the advice Stephanie Lyn I'm the biggest over thinker I just think ,then depression sets in think so so much been like this all my life

  • @RippleDrop.
    @RippleDrop. Pƙed 2 lety

    My mother is a narcissist and she _judged_ everything I did, nothing I was ever *good.* For years I could not do anything and lived on unemployment money. I felt all I did was wrong. Thanks Stephanie.

  • @annakooyman4158
    @annakooyman4158 Pƙed 5 lety

    So many gold nuggets of wisdom being shared in your videos! These are issues that have been plaguing me for years and I now feel I can tackle them, in a tangible way, moment to moment. Can't thank you enough!

  • @brandywest6085
    @brandywest6085 Pƙed 3 lety +1

    So enlightening. Thank you for caring. You've set me on the right path.

  • @marshamarble4578
    @marshamarble4578 Pƙed 3 lety

    OMGOSH! I knew I was an over thinker/co dependent / people pleaser and had NO IDEA what that meant in how I make decisions! My eyes are finally open I hope this helps me make different habits. I’m 50 and never knew what these things meant in my life. My goodness- THANK YOU

  • @sunnydaze80
    @sunnydaze80 Pƙed 5 lety +1

    this channel is a Godsend!

  • @peterfranzen7353
    @peterfranzen7353 Pƙed 5 lety +8

    This was exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you.

  • @masteringmotivation2462
    @masteringmotivation2462 Pƙed 4 lety

    Love, Love, LOVE your advice. One of my biggest issues with myself that I really need to conquer is my obsessive thinking. Thank you 😌

  • @israeliamidnight
    @israeliamidnight Pƙed 5 lety

    Thank you for your video - you literally described me. Whenever I try to be creative or do a creative project -> overthink -> end up confused and doing nothing. Thank you once again for sharing your tips, really helpful ✹💙

  • @MichyGW
    @MichyGW Pƙed 5 lety

    This video came right on time. Thank you for producing such helping content.

  • @houssamtiab3074
    @houssamtiab3074 Pƙed 4 lety +1

    Stephanie you've just saved my life
    You're the best coach l've ever seen
    i do really relate to every word you've said & those tips were exactly what i needed ❀

  • @Lena-mj3kr
    @Lena-mj3kr Pƙed 5 lety +3

    Seriously you are the best coach!!

  • @donaldschranz9341
    @donaldschranz9341 Pƙed 3 lety

    This video was FANTASTIC Stephanie. Part of my overthinking/obsessive thinking is I am a VERY STRONG empathic and people pleaser. Also, my MBTI is INTJ. Yes, a highly empathetic INTJ. I always have read we are cool, aloof, and emotionally distant. Not me.
    I agree with both reasons I overthink.
    I will say, however, it has saved me alot of grief wanting to make great decisions in our INSANE world.
    My motto is "ready, aim, fire" . NOT " ready, fire, aim"
    Thanks for pointing out where I need to grow, these are my "blind spots".
    Blessings to you Stephanie

  • @Juggernautfitnes
    @Juggernautfitnes Pƙed 5 lety +6

    I talk to myself constantley out loud when im alone. It feels terapeutic

  • @TonyaA7
    @TonyaA7 Pƙed 5 lety +1

    I need help in this area. You hit the nail on the head. People are quick to speak up about addiction that are known cause they are noticable like alchohol abuse in stuff, but what about the ailent addictions which most dont speak of that's hurting people like over thinking due to worry and fear of unknown and lack of control of unknown . Or cause of wanting to not be rejected . As a child nothing was every good enough and you become a people pleaser . Etc...
    I been asking God for deliverance from all this . Your vids are a blessing.
    I'm learning to identify the attacks . I will start to feel a certain way it all starts with thoughts which play on emotions . Find what the thought is making you feel and identify the attack . Overcome by knowing your true identity in Christ..
    The lies most times come as a what if type of thought.

  • @marialeal2939
    @marialeal2939 Pƙed 5 lety

    Wow, I absolutely love this video. Thank you so much.

  • @brittanydallan1008
    @brittanydallan1008 Pƙed 5 lety +2

    Such a perfect video. I'm an over thinker. It's been a struggle my whole life. The washing the hands thing hit home... I brush my teeth. It calms me down. I need to work on things that trigger me. Thank you. I love your videos.

  • @glendaeduardos7045
    @glendaeduardos7045 Pƙed 5 lety +1

    Thank you so much Stephanie. This video was very helpful. I do this to myself all the time. From now on I will be patient with myself and use your advice to work on me. 😊

  • @lavernewilton8934
    @lavernewilton8934 Pƙed 4 lety +1

    I am major over thinker. Everyone tells me that. It keeps me awake at night. Great video. I needed it.

  • @michellebarryphd7977
    @michellebarryphd7977 Pƙed 5 lety +1

    Yes I totally agree that our over thinking is a way to help us control things in our life and make things go the way we want them to go. And it can often help us do well but sometimes can overwhelm and make us anxious. We have to find a balance. Great video!

  • @CandaceChira1
    @CandaceChira1 Pƙed 3 lety +1

    Oh Stephanie, I wish I could give you a hug. Your videos are helping me so so much. I have a big life change happening in the next week and I'm gaining so much calm & strength from what you are teaching here. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

  • @mistycarroll4294
    @mistycarroll4294 Pƙed 5 lety +1

    Oh my gosh. This IS my life!!! I'm in tears right now because I've had a couple people that I loved very much leave me telling me I'm controlling but never understanding how that could be because my intentions are so good and there's no duplicity or power in me. Also, for the last year I've been thinking that something about me seems similar to that of an addict but I'm not "addicted" to anything per se. I even asked my sister who is a recovering addict but I keep getting no where with trying to figure this out. So far everything you speak on is so sound and hitting the nail on the head for me. THANK YOU THANK YOU. thank you for being kind and measured about all these hard topics and even about the people who hurt other people. I'd love help recovering

  • @rvpreston1
    @rvpreston1 Pƙed 5 lety +2

    Im seriously thankful for your channel... i found it at the perfect time and i feel like your in the room talking only to me... your helping me remember how strong i am and i love you for thatđŸ€—â€ my therapist hasn't talked to me like this

  • @ericmcdermet7419
    @ericmcdermet7419 Pƙed 5 lety +1

    Wow, Stephanie. This is easily my favorite of your videos. You described me almost to a scary degree. Your second theory on addiction makes so much sense and explains a lot of my prior/current behaviors. I am quite intrigued to give your hand washing/in the present moment tip a try.
    Your prior videos helped me leave an abusive marriage, emotionally process and deal with it, and see myself as the awesome person I know I am, but forgot I was for a while.
    Keep doing what you're doing.

  • @hollister2300
    @hollister2300 Pƙed 4 lety +1

    My friend sent me this video because recently I’ve been in a rut and it’s due to my anxiety about my career. This video made me realize that recently I noticed that I tend to overthink my next decisions because I’m scared of the “what comes next” or being judged and because of this, I end up stuck in that thought and not continue with my day as productively as I could have. You’ve given great insight and tools to help with these issues that all seem to be linked with overthinking. The “things to remember“ and tips resonated with me and I can’t wait to incorporate them into my daily routine. Thank you!

  • @giuseppemilano2173
    @giuseppemilano2173 Pƙed 5 lety

    I think it's amazing how you so on point with everything you saying is so true

  • @carlitoblvck2377
    @carlitoblvck2377 Pƙed 4 lety +3

    Thank you so much. I’ve been really struggling with understanding my narcissistic partner and what she has been doing and why the horrible things she has done happened to me. I’ve been religiously watching your videos and they seem to be the only things that hold me together. God bless you.

  • @meghanmack1500
    @meghanmack1500 Pƙed 3 lety

    Hey Stephanie! Love your videos! Thank you so much for all that you do!!

  • @meghanmack1500
    @meghanmack1500 Pƙed 3 lety

    Omg!!! This is SO me! Thank you so much for this!!

  • @mikel442
    @mikel442 Pƙed 3 lety

    Oh man, she’s spot on. That’s me.

  • @baji6292
    @baji6292 Pƙed 2 lety

    you've changed my life, thank you so much.

  • @doloresestrada6955
    @doloresestrada6955 Pƙed 5 lety +1

    Great video and tips! Super helpful and logical. Especially love your advice about how to deal with anxiety.... Distracting yourself with doing something in the moment and talking yourself through it; especially since we're constantly talking in our head anyway might as well take control with in the moment thoughts rather than thinking that drains our energy. Will def apply this with myself!

  • @jonnachristensen583
    @jonnachristensen583 Pƙed 5 lety +1

    Right on, Stephanie....thank you...

  • @sherryelebeauty
    @sherryelebeauty Pƙed 4 lety

    Great Video! Thank you so much,I always feel like your directly talking to me. God Bless You

  • @bonniemaddock6970
    @bonniemaddock6970 Pƙed 3 lety

    Thankyou Stephany this was so helpful!

  • @tracyboles107
    @tracyboles107 Pƙed 3 lety

    Thank you for this all this information, I am that over thinker, people pleaser, Codependent . Right now I’m learning to self reflect and work on self love . I always put others before myself and learned I am exhausted and forget about me. I let go of the abusive Narcissist and now seeking ways to help me get mentally healthy again.. so I will take these tools and start making time for myself..

  • @kace9075
    @kace9075 Pƙed 5 lety +3

    I've been struggling with lack of decisiveness for years. Right now I have to deal with the biggest decision of my life and I'm cracking up. I put a deposit on a house, but there are a lot of pros and a lot of cons to consider. I have only few more days to make up my mind and the amount of stress this situation caused me is unbelievable. I'm still 50/50 on it. What I did today is I booked a psychic, something I never consider I would do but I see no other way to deal with this! Overthinking is a very underestimated mental health issue.

    • @joelee5875
      @joelee5875 Pƙed 3 lety

      Who was it that said, "To purchase a house one must first forfeit one's soul"?

  • @jennifersanchez3982
    @jennifersanchez3982 Pƙed rokem

    Thank you for all your words. I’m at a point in life right now at 31 that your worlds are helping me out so much every day❀

  • @casperinsight3524
    @casperinsight3524 Pƙed 4 lety

    Love your practical advice 💗
    TY for being you and all that you do 👍

  • @jamesegan8184
    @jamesegan8184 Pƙed 5 lety +1

    This is yet another incredible analysis by Stephanie Lyn who is really an amazing philosopher of how we think. She records on a library of subjects. Why people are over thinkers is because of a desire to control outcomes based on fear, the kind of fear we felt as children. Ms. Lyn is always so deep, what a great communicator. I agree that on such a subconscious level some people are addicted to overthinking, it is like the addiction to gambling, it works through operant condition. Lyn encourages you to identify obsessive thoughts, to self-parent yourself through avoiding choices based on fear. I highly endorse Ms. Lyn's words, she improves this world one awesome video at a time! Thank you for elevating everyone's self-awareness! -James, Seattle

  • @SnoWolfyechiel
    @SnoWolfyechiel Pƙed 5 lety +14

    Great video. A girl that i love with all my heart left me suddenly after a long relationship. It happen a year and a half ago.since then i can't stop think about it. I think about it 24/7 why she left me, why we are not together, what could i do then, what should i do now.
    Im over thinking about her, i think, because in my thoughts i still can feel her.

  • @Hez0
    @Hez0 Pƙed 4 lety

    Your videos convict me of things I do. They are honestly very good videos, and I thank you for them. Such obvious remedies, yet I needed to hear them.

  • @universe2198
    @universe2198 Pƙed 4 lety

    Hi Stephanie , I don’t know if u will ever read this comment, but this was the first video I watched after my discard. I was thinking why am I obsessively thinking about the incident whereas the other person just moved onto other supply. Then while going through the comments i someone commented about empath narc dynamic. I understood what happened. It’s almost an year now. I saved this video in my playlist. I just wanted to thank u and that comment person . Thank u for being the first person who introduced me to this new world. U saved my life cuz I was not in my right mind. I hope u read it. U are my angel . I wish u all the very best. â€ïžâ€ïžâ€ïžâ€ïžđŸ™ŒđŸ»đŸ™ŒđŸ»đŸ™ŒđŸ»đŸ™ŒđŸ».I just hope this message reaches u đŸŒŸđŸŒŸđŸŒŸđŸŒŸđŸŒŸđŸŒŸđŸŒŸđŸŒŸđŸŒŸđŸŒŸđŸŒŸđŸŒŸđŸŒŸđŸŒŸđŸŒŸđŸŒŸâœšâœšâœšâœšâœšâœšâœšâœšâœšâœšâœšâœšâœšđŸ™ŒđŸ»đŸ™ŒđŸ»đŸ™ŒđŸ»đŸ™ŒđŸ»đŸ™ŒđŸ»đŸ™ŒđŸ»

  • @jacqpinks
    @jacqpinks Pƙed 5 lety +1

    I so needed this. I am downloading it so I can listen to it as I’m going to sleep. I think it will help me a lot. Thank you 💗

  • @carolynjones9728
    @carolynjones9728 Pƙed rokem

    You are describing me to a T
 Everything you’re mentioning is everything that I do and feel. I didn’t even realize I was obsessing to the extent I was until I saw your video. And don’t ya know, I’ve stopped in the middle of this comment to “think and rethink” what I want to say a million times!! I too think this is similar to an addiction. I feel that I can say that because I have an addictive personality. I’ve been addicted to many things in my life; shopping, men, validation, drugs, and now overthinking. Thanks for your videos! I appreciate what you do!

  • @Abigayleism
    @Abigayleism Pƙed 5 lety +1

    Hello đŸ‘‹đŸ» Stephanie! I am a new subscriber and a dedicated “binge watcher” lol...and I really appreciate all your videos!! I am a major over thinker and in the last 2 months I fell into a terrible place, within myself. I feel now...like this is what I HAD to experience to be able to finally change my perspective and manage and cope with my constant thoughts and years of emotional 😭 abuse, with some physical. I NEED YOU TO KNOW... that you have helped me soooo much! I have always been self assured, self confident and outgoing, until over the past 10 years or so...all the emotional turmoil that I was covering up with “survival” and staying busy just so I didn’t have to “face” the pain...finally all came crashing down on me over this 2 month timespan. I knew in my soul I would make it through...but have NEVER experienced something so horrific (not even from the abuse). I am on the climb back upwards and to find you, was meant to be for me. We are similar minded and I’ve always thought I could take on anything...I was close to giving up. I am feeling more and more relief in time and realizing patience is key 🔑 😃. I appreciate you taking the time out of your life to help all of us cope with the stressful struggles and learn such great techniques to put it all in its place! You ARE AMAZING!! Thank you đŸ™đŸ» soooo much! And you’re stunningly gorgeous as well 😍. Thank you for helping all of us who desperately need all your wisdom, experience and insight! Namaste đŸ™đŸ».

  • @genamorris50
    @genamorris50 Pƙed 5 lety

    This helped me so much, thankyou😊🙏

  • @faresalynch4978
    @faresalynch4978 Pƙed 5 lety +3

    Thank you Stephanie you are on point and right on time. Thank you! Edit: I keep rewinding this video because my anxiety is is at an all time high the way you broke this down eases my anxiety tremendously

    • @Ashish-nd3xj
      @Ashish-nd3xj Pƙed 2 lety

      And it came back again right ? How are you now

  • @FlyWon
    @FlyWon Pƙed 5 lety +1

    The last tip is phenomenal. I’ll try it

  • @theuglybutts
    @theuglybutts Pƙed 3 lety +1

    I love this issue thank you for all the tips! I have found that making art is where I can healthy obsess. And this is one of those issues I feel like I didn't know anyone else had oh, I know that's kind of naive but I can definitely be a worrier... but my art can take my negative obsessing. Also in art the terms it is to "over work" something when you've gone too far. So art helps me be able to work a project and know when to stop. Thanks for you channel!!!

  • @sylwia_w
    @sylwia_w Pƙed 3 lety

    All your videos are so helpful. Thank you so much!

  • @sherrim4011
    @sherrim4011 Pƙed 3 lety

    You hit the nail on the head. I just came across your videos. Please keep making them. I have been struggling the past few years. Since my dad died his passing brought up a lot of old old stuff that I never took care of because I didn’t know about my own programming. Things are making more sense I think my actual process is going to take years because my programming is so messed up. You video’s are great thank you sharing your knowledge with everyone.

  • @anbathanga4660
    @anbathanga4660 Pƙed rokem

    You have 'resetted' my mind through this video. I really feel better now. Great video! Thank you, Stephanie! ❀

  • @sushmasinha7058
    @sushmasinha7058 Pƙed 3 lety

    Thank you Stephany for giving advice 🙏

  • @vanessamarieellingsen3126
    @vanessamarieellingsen3126 Pƙed 5 lety +1

    Once again, a video I needed to see from you. I have been having severe anxiety and panic attacks for weeks, and it has got to the point where I can’t sleep and function at work. I have pain in my whole upper body, my chest feels tight and my heart beats too fast - all the time. I am about to fall apart. Thinking about my unsecure future, all my interactions with people, everything I say and do, the fact that I need so much attention and love from others in order to be happy about myself. I am going to use your advice right now, tonight. Thank you.

  • @allanwright5231
    @allanwright5231 Pƙed 5 lety

    Thank you for your videos Stephanie they are very helpful

  • @louiseroe6612
    @louiseroe6612 Pƙed 5 lety

    My counsellor is helping me with this. This is really helpful. Thank you

  • @casperinsight3524
    @casperinsight3524 Pƙed 4 lety +4

    It's a pause button
    Keeps you stuck in limbo
    Prevents you from making a decision
    Avoiding disappointment
    One decision leads to another
    It's not final
    It's an ongoing process
    It's ok
    Acceptance
    Keep moving forward
    Focus on what you want versus what you need
    Get clear on what you really want
    Shake the shame
    Shake the fear
    Shake the guilt
    Shake the illusion of perfection
    Do what you know is right for you
    Accept the possibility of unpleasant fallout
    The pain is temporary
    The long term gain is worth the short term pain
    Being stuck in indecision is paralyzing
    Anxiety
    Stress
    Overwhelm
    Trust yourself
    Be patient with you
    Be kind to you of
    It's a daily practise
    Acceptance is key
    Honor your truth
    Feel the fear and do it anyway
    Overcome the fear
    Overcome analysis paralysis
    You can do this
    You will be ok
    Living in the sidelines is no life at all
    Do what you love
    Follow your Joy
    Stay in the moment
    Stay present
    Don't psyche yourself out
    Don't let fear keep you stuck
    Override your fear
    Face your fear
    Say fcuk you to fear

  • @terezaprejzkova8165
    @terezaprejzkova8165 Pƙed 4 lety

    All the time Stephani talks, I have feelings that she stalk my life and mainly my personalitie and then just report :D she is speaking to my inner child with so laser perfection like no therapist ever before. Thank you Stephani so much for what you doing...you don't even know that your videos came to me when I needed most and only thanks to them (and my awareness) I probably save many years of miserable life.

  • @alexgonzalez985
    @alexgonzalez985 Pƙed 4 lety

    The way you can help and even a small way. Thank you

  • @michelle_bradley_
    @michelle_bradley_ Pƙed 4 lety

    So helpful. Thank u for that technique. 💗