I know the one we watched in 1989 was called "Have you started it yet?" and consisted of a bunch of girls asking a specific girl has she started her period yet.
I'm curious as to how other countries teach it. In my country (Israel), the girls and boys are taught this subject separately in the 6th grade. At least that's how it was in the 90's. Also, if you are religious, you have "bride classes" before getting married. Some communities (small minority) are so insulated that this is the girl's first understanding of intercourse and pregnancy.
My grandma was born in the 40’s, got pregnant at 16 and was SHOCKED and in disbelief because she didn’t know that sex is how you create babies. She literally didn’t believe the doctor because she thought you had to be married to have a baby.
"Put on your prettiest dress" Yeah sounds like a great idea, not like there's a chance you might get something that's very hard to clean out on it or anything
I got annoyed at that part, looking pretty is the last thing I'm worried about when I'm bleeding lol. I just want snacks, comfy clothes and my comfort movies ♥
Right? Every person who has periods knows - you hit a certain point where you just wear all your ugliest comfy clothes on your period, at least on your bottom half.
My parents tried to give me “the talk”, but the way they described sex made me think it was like plugging a cord into a wall outlet. I didn’t realize there was movement involved until I read my first smutfic.
My parents never gave me "the talk" I mostly know about it from fanfics too lol And of course school education. But the books and the teacher talked about it pretty vague I didn't really understand.
@@fifiannisa9639 my mom never had to have "the talk" with me. School and the internet were just faster than her. But she said that I can always ask her if I think something is wrong or makes me feel uncomfortable.
"You shouldn't swim the first few days of your period-" Okay, that's reasonable, because if you don't have a tampon that's not sanitary "-because you'll catch a cold!" excuse me what
Dude, i was taught this shit 10 years ago. My mom told me not to shower while on my period in winter so I dont get sick. Girls in school also acknowledged not bathing while on their periods. Blew my mind years later when a friend used a tampon to go swimming in a pool. I thought she would die.
@@beckiehubley5798 Yes they had Tampons but they were not give to young girls because they thought if they used them they were no longer virgins. My oldest sisters did not use them until after they were married. Both got pregnant during their Honeymoon so I have nephews just 4 years younger than I am
I am adopted, and grew up with a very religious mother who has never been pregnant. I started my period at 9, and thought I was dying. Mom finally read a ‘sex Ed’ book to me. It was about Susie the Hamster, a class pet who had babies. I was left completely confused, and terrified that if I ever had sex I’d have a LITTER!!!!!
When I was about 6 I read a sex ed book, but it said something along the lines of "at night a fish from a daddy swims into the mummy to her egg, and this grows into a baby". From then on I was terrified that if I slept in my parent's bed, or shared a bed with my brother I would get pregnant.
Oh my goodness. I grew up in a religious family and I thought I was dying when I got my period too! I think my mom assumed that I knew what was going on. I also thought that if I liked someone and thought about them I'd get pregnant.
The first time I heard that girls could get pregnant by sleeping with boys, I stopped crawling in bed with one of my brothers when I was scared of the bogeyman.
Most important thing: we need to keep boys and girls together during the very core of these lessons. It might be causing the obvious teenager cringing and giggling but it will avoid so much confusion later in life. It's quite important to know about the opposite sexes body. Boys won't be judging girls for their periods or misunderstanding their potential struggles. Girls will understand random "uprisings" in a boys pants and won't shame them for it any more.
One good thing about my absence only sex ed is at about 9 or 10 we were separated and learned about our own bodies. The next year we repeated the lessons in a coed room.
@@eajaros as far as the basics go it mostly just covers biology and how to live with that. This is what a penis does. This is what a uterus does. Trans, intersex, and non-binary young people don't need a special education for the basics. Not that they should be excluded from the conversation. I think it would be a good idea to cover sex ed in gender neutral terms. But as far as covering what it means to be any of those things? That should probably be covered in later lessons that touch on sexuality not the very initial lessons of reproductive organ function. Because being trans, nonbinary, or intersex, does not preclude you from having periods and erections. But it should be brought up that it doesn't make you less than if you don't experience these things. It should be said a man isn't less or a man because he doesn't get erections or that a woman is less of a woman for not getting periods or mean that anything is wrong with you if this stuff is not apart of your identity.
@@SoulDevoured some women who aren't trans don't get periods. Many things can go wrong with anatomy in females and males during fetal development. Some women are born without a uterus or a uterus that isn't formed properly. At one point in early fetus development they have the beginnings of what could be male or female gonads. Hormones determine which way they develop. It's possible for all kinds of things to go wrong during this stage. This doesn't necessarily make you transgender. Nobody knows why people are straight, gay or trans.
I have to say, I really love how the mom asked Molly if it was okay to discuss with her dad like that. Like, that was a great example of respecting your child's boundaries.
i wish my mom did that, pretty sure she told my whole family when i started mine. My family is mostly women so we’re more open about that kinda stuff but it was very uncomfortable at the time 😳
The boys' version is just, "If you knock up a gal, just tell her you're going out for a pack of cigarettes and move to the next town over. Be sure to keep a suitcase packed in your Studebaker, just in case!"
My sister's friend who has since died (she would have been in her 70s now) She asked her mom how babies came about and was told when a man holds your hand you will have a baby. She went to the movies with a guy who held her hand. She went home in tears. He dad answered the door for her to go inside and asked why she was crying. She told him she was going to have a baby. He beat her up! 😭 She is given the incorrect information and gets punished for it 😭
@@punkrock1989 I'm wondering how old you are. She would be close to 80 now and things were very different then. Lots of girls did not have a clue about sex.
I dip my bloody clothes in oxyclean and the stains go away!!! If it's really fresh blood than wash it with cold water and any soap and its perfectly clean!
Luckily my sex ed was phenomenal. The boys and the girls always were together learning the same things, we learned about a large variety of birth control methods and were told to not use one if we don't like it but would have to use one, if we don't want to become a parent and we had quite open communication, got detailed answers and our teachers made sure that we know that sex (and the different things you can do while having it) are normal (as long as all parties are alright with them) and nothing to be ashamed of. We even visited a birth clinic where we were separated by gender for 2 hours, the boys were with an urologist and the girls with a gynecologist and we could ask these experienced professionals the questions that we were to scared to ask with someone of the other gender in the same room and a help center for people who have gotten STDs. But maybe Austria isn't as prude as America.
AS a guy, I have real respect for women after watching these videos. All I did in my teenage years was study and play a lot and run around with friends. It never struck me that my female classmates were coping with so much emotional development and studying at the same time. I sincerely thank people for such videos on menstruation and female struggles. Makes me respect women a whole lot more
Ah I see you are a person of the yeehaw culture as well. Yea this effing video takes me back - in that it almost is about the same as the info they gave me in the late 90s.
I live in Georgia and it's the same here. The only thing they ever talked about was abstinence and fear-mongering info about STI's - but not contraceptive use or consent or anything actually useful. Where I live, it's actually prohibited to do any demonstrations with contraceptives. It's honestly dangerous how much ignorance they perpetuate... really concerning.
*laughs in Utah sex ed* Yeah, really the only difference between our sex ed class and the one shown here is that it was in color and had people in clothing from later than the '50s.
My mom died the Dec before I turned 13. I started my period two weeks after she died. Right before Christmas. My dad said "oh hunny you're becoming a lady. I think you need to call your Aunt. She knows a little more. I'll go to the store and get some pads". It was sweet.
When I was a kid I didn't know anything about how babies were made ( I wasn't interested) and I DIDN'T EVEN KNOW that period existed!! ( Never found a single pad in my house!!) Sooo when I got my period at 12 years old I thought that I was bleeding to death 😂😂 since it wouldn't stop 😂😂 And to make things worse the day that I got my period I was home alone because my parents were at the hospital because my mom was giving birth to my little sister 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ So I wrote them a letter because I was convinced that I was going to die!! 🤣🤣 and I went to my at the time best friends house sobbing to let her know that I was going to die ( she was my neighbor) 😂😂 and when I got there she explained to me what was ACTUALLY going on 😂😂 So I had to run home before someone found my farewell letter🤣🤣🤣 I laugh about it now but at the time I was terrified!!! 🤣🤣🤣
I don’t like to judge peoples parenting but it’s honestly cruel to not explain to a girl what a period is before she gets one. My parents explained it to me before i got it and i was still terrified...
@@emilbutts6662 yea especially seeing as this person got their period at 12, thats waaayyy older than you should be being taught it anyway. I'd understand if it was like a 1-off case of an 8-9 year old getting their period early and not being told about them yet but 12???
I had a very similar experience I was 10 and I knew of periods but didn’t really understand them and thought it wasn’t possible to get it at the time because my older sister 14 or 15 hadn’t yet. Me and my older sister were home alone I went to the bathroom and saw blood in the toilet and freaked out but luckily she was there to tell me I was having a period or I probably would have cried not knowing.
Reading this makes me so glad that my wife explained things to our daughter before she had her first one. I remember my mom telling the story of my aunt, her younger sister, getting her first period and thinking she was dying too, because my grandma never taught them anything about periods. Of course, that would have been back in the 1940's when so many people thought the subject was totally taboo.
My parents never gave me “the talk” because they assumed my school covered it all in sex ed… Little did they know our state required “abstinence only” education so all we learned was, “STIs are terrifying and different types of birth control exist but none of that matters as long as you wait till marriage!” I never realized how poorly informed I was until getting to college and promptly getting an STI because I was never taught that CONSENT is a thing.
Yup! Consent isn’t taught, when we end up in horrifying traumatizing situations we don’t even realize we should’ve been protected. At 14 I got stuck in a grey area, not being able to discern in my mind that what had happened to me wasn’t consensual. I screammmm for consent education, when I have kids they will be fully educated in the home and told the sex ed. in school is lacking.
That’s crazy and waiting till marriage doesn’t guarantee that your relationship is going to be healthy and that you weren’t gonna be abused and you weren’t gonna catch STI’s
I thought telling her dad was EXTREMELY progressive for the time. They also couldn't say the word "pregnant" on I Love Lucy. Don't square dance is my favorite tip from this video. 😂
Im 25 and still haven't 😂😂😂 but my dad is also from the era where you dont talk about that stuff with "men" so if theres something wrong i just say "uhhh my stomach hurts😶".
More accurate to say, the 60's hit the 50's like a nuke. Followed by the 70's, which got a little confused, then the 80's and the amoral majority raising merry hell until sex scandals undermined their preachy nonsense. The 50's was a lot of Duck and Cover on sex, later migrating into nukes, so that at least the remains would mostly remain in one place.
Not as much as you'd think. There had to be a lot of education for the adults and political fights before sex ed was allowed in many public schools. The 60s kids got a 5-day "health" class from the gym teachers, mostly focused on "your changing body" and maybe a half hour on how babies are made. The 70s kids eventually got a 2-week section in science class about reproduction, using vaguely shaped line drawings and films like this but with microscopic images of eggs and sperm. On the last day, the boys and girls were split for "the talk" on how sex works; no pictures and still pretty vague. The most I remember from it was "On your wedding night, be sensitive to her fear and don't be pushy."
@@crgrier how different our experiences are! In the '70's, while we did have some vague drawings, we also had videos, microscopic imagery, film of a vaginal birth and the classes stayed mixed. None of that "on your wedding night", as our curriculum was up to date with, ahem, ongoing social practices at the time.
I teach all my kids boys and daughter about both sexes. It’s so important that they not only understand their own, but the opposite sex. They handle the information really good and ask great questions.
Aside from a couple of errors, I think this was actually pretty impressive for the 50s. I clicked on the video expecting the words “period” and “menstrual” to be substituted with some flowery euphemism. I also like that the dad was included in the conversation!
@@xosilverwingxo If you look at sexual education today (I only graduated high school --dropped out-- 8 years ago now), I only had one day of class that actually covered anything involving sex ed when I went to school. May be different in other states than the one I went to high school in, but from how kids younger than me talk about the sex ed in school, it seems very little knowledge gets passed. This video does arguably more especially by way of enforcing that it's a natural function.
The part about worrying that you will magically become pregnant out of no where really hit me. When I was younger I would literally cry when my period was a bit late because I thought "oh no im pregnant my parents will kill me", keep in mind I was 10 when I got my period so I barely even knew what sex was
That's horrible! It was similar with my mother. Apparently my grandmother told her that anytime she got her period she shouldn't get close to any boys or she may end up pregnant. My mom at the time was a huge 'tom boy' whose closest friends were boys she climbed trees and played sports with so she was devastated. She believed this for three years until her aunt found out and truly explained everything to her.
Same sort of thing, but before I even had my period! When I was a kid, maybe about 8, I looked in the mirror and thought my tummy looked bigger and ran downstairs freaking out to tell my parents that I thought I might be pregnant. All they did was laugh a little and tell me "you can't be." I remember being confused and asking why and THEY DIDN'T TELL ME ANYTHING. They just said something along the lines of "just trust me" and "you're too little." Not only was I incredibly confused but quite embarrassed, too! I don't think I even knew that periods existed until I was like 9 or 10. I remember being terrified that there was something seriously wrong with my Mom when I was like 5 because she bled through her pants a bit when we were out and we just rushed home without anyone explaining that it wasn't a big deal.
The dad's reaction reminds me of a conversation we once had over the dinner table. Most of the time I lived with my mother, stepdad and two younger sisters (parents are divorced, my family tree is complicated). One of my sisters and I have had horrible problems with cramps, feeling sick ect. so birth control pills was practically a miracle for both of us, and they were paid for by our mother, just like any other form of medication. We just told her when we needed a refill. My mother has always been very open, so this was never hard conversations at home. But this evening, sitting at the dinnertable, my stepdad was stupid enough to complain about why these four women he lived with used two different brands of pads, and why we couldn't just use the cheapest ones. I thought my mother had smoke coming out of her ears for a moment, before she very loudly declared, that menstruation is damn annoying and uncomfortable, that we should all use whatever we feel most comfortable with, and that he should shut up! It has really stuck with me, that just because it's natural, it can still be annoying, and that we should do whatever works for us.
Wow I can't even believe he'd say that with FOUR WOMEN sitting right there...in surprised one of you didn't casually throw eating utensils at his head. 😂
@@laurengardella9524, well....he doesn't always think about what he says. This was one of those times. And no need to throw anything. The women of my family are much more frightening. I once described each of us as a boss from Diablo II 😉
I love how the dad in 1950, reacted better than my dad did. I started crying in the car to my parents when I was 13 about starting it, and my dad hollered "I don't want to hear about that!"
Lol my father said I'm your father I dont need to know that. Talk to your mom in private. She gave me a book to read. I said relax mom. I already talked to grandma (your mom) she said thank you lol
That’s horrible! I remember when I was 14 I was out with my dad and I was having menstrual cramps and he could see I wasn’t feeling well, and he asked me if I was okay and I didn’t know how to explain it to him because I thought he didn’t know what periods were, but he informed me he did know about periods.
When I was a kid my mom told me that you get pregnant from "sleeping with someone" so I thought it was any two people regardless of what bits they have, sleeping in the same room. I thought that's why kids get their own rooms when they get older, because otherwise one sister will become pregnant.
I thought the same! Or rather, I heard the "being in bed with someone will make you pregnant". I was watching morning cartoons in bed with my older brother, and then I suddenly got worried that l was pregnant! I rushed to tell my mom that I was pregnant because I had been in bed with my brother 🙈
@@iatemycat5320 my mom asked me why I thought I was pregnant, and I told her that I was in bed with my brother while watching the moomin trolls cartoon on TV. She told me I wasn't pregnant, but I would keep asking her "are you sure?" 😂 I don't remember exactly what she said, but I think she told me I would not get pregnant from that.
@@TheEmeraldLady Once I saw a story and it went something like this When the girl was four, she was told that if she hugged a boy she would get pregnant. One day she hugged her grandpa and when she remembered she started to tell everyone she got pregnant by her grandpa ._.XD
@@iatemycat5320 Oh my gosh! I bet that started some really awkward conversations! I mean, kids will believe anything, especially if they hear it from adults. There's a special cookie in my country eaten around Christmas. It has a big hole in it, and when I was 4, my uncle told me that I would for sure get a stomachache from eating the holes of all the cookies. I then ate the cookies like corn on the cob, takin great care to avoid the holes! My uncle was terribly embarrassed that I took him so seriously 🙈
My parents married later in life (and Mom was a first-generation American). The sum total of Mom's sex-ed talk with me was her handing me a couple of booklets. I had two daughters. You can be SURE their father and I told them the truth, and they always felt that they could speak freely to Dad, too.. No embarrassment whatsoever.
Makes me really appreciate the UK sex Ed system. We covered everything from periods, sex, contraceptives and birth. We even talked about different sexualities and consent.
I’m from Michigan, I went to private Christian school, 5th grade we learned about periods and gestational stages, and in 6th they did a gender(assigned sex) separated class on the different parts and very brief vague explanations of what happened AFTER intercourse had occurred (sperm to egg). Not how it actually got in there, why, or anything about consent. In 8th grade we had a combined sex Ed class that was only dedicated to abstinence as the main protection, no birth control or condom education, still no consent education, and extremely gruesome detailed STD explanations. Along with the “when you have sex it’s like taking a lolly out of the wrapper and sucking on it. You can’t put it back in the wrapper ever again, and the lolly has been dirtied and used.” Euphemism
Not that different for me in the 70s. My mother didn't tell me anything, saying that "they teach you these things in school" (they taught us about menstruation, much the same as in the video being reviewed here). No acknowledgement that painful periods were not to be ignored or got through by gritting your teeth. When I began "going out with" a boy from school who had asked me to attend the school ball with him, we began holding hands, kissing, and other things I now know are innocent and totally normal. But not knowing enough about sex I became terrified that I was pregnant. My terror was visible, my parents asked if I was afraid I was pregnant, but didn't bother to ask why I was afraid that might be the case, or check if I knew what was required for it to even be a possibility!) and all hell broke loose. I would have to leave school, we would have to marry.... We did marry, 5 years later, and are still together, celebrating our 35th anniversary this year. I was astonished a few years ago to have a pastor (who had been the youth worker of the church at the time) commenting that if he had known what we were doing...he wouldn't have given us support. Hmm now how did he know what the (unfounded) story was unless someone who should have kept things confidential had told him...Assumptions, lies, omissions. Grr. I would like to give my teenaged self some open honesty and information.
Yeah this pretty much the full extent of sex ed in Utah which some people say is too liberal already. Had no idea in other states they actually talked about sex. Thank goodness for my parents
Shoutout to my mom for never bullshitting me about anything! I asked where babies came from when I was like 4 or 5 and she just straight up explained it (in a way a small child could understand of course) which I think was absolutely amazing of her - but it shouldn't have to be considered amazing, it should be the standard
They might have thought that because girls and women were losing blood, their bodies might be physically weaker and prone to illness or fainting. On the bright side, if a girl doesn't want to go dancing with her friends because she's not in the mood, she has an excuse.
There have been all sorts of superstitions around menstruation. Women have been told not to bathe or wash, not to leave their house, don't visit anyone, or have visitors, don't touch milk or many other foods, so don't cook, don't touch flowers or plants, don't go to church, stay away from babies, don't shave, don't have sex, don't get cold, but also don't get hot, and never go camping because bears or wolves will get you. 🤷♀️
On a side note I was kinda annoyed Mama Jones never mentioned the importance for sanitary/hygiene reasons of not going swimming during your period unless your using a tampon (or possibly the menstrual cup) like I don't wanna swim in a public pool with blood in it as much as I don't want to pee or poop in it. Its just gross and unsanitary... Doesn't mean you cant swim just make sure its gonna stay within your vagina while you do...
10:18 YES! THANK YOU! I remember how the educational video at school explained this without the sex part and, much to my mother's pity and annoyance, I was afraid to even let a guy brush up against me in the hallway at school because WHAT IF I GET PREGNANT?! I thought that there were little sperms just CRAWLING all over the place waiting for me to let my guard down and just crawl inside me and BOOM! PREGNANT! And this was in like, 2010!
Hey, at least the family in this video can actually talk about menstruation openly. When my mom first got her period at age 11 in 1961 she thought she was dying. She went running into the kitchen yelling for her parents to call for an ambulance. When they asked her what was wrong and she said that there was blood on her underwear, my grandfather immediately stood up and walked out of the room. And then my grandmother finally explained it to her.
As someone who group up in the southern United States in what is literally called "The Bible Belt" it's not like that anymore. Even my mom who was born in 1955 to a preacher was taught the actual way you get pregnant.
Yup I was told that when my parents got pregnant for my sister, “mommy and daddy wanted you to have a little sister, so we prayed and now mommy is going to have a baby!”
As someone else raised in the Bible Belt... my high school didn't offer sex ed until the state forced them to- which translated to a 1/2 day seminar senior year with No details. It wasn't until after graduation when mother was attempting to explain oral without having to speak about anatomy that I finally realized sex involved being inside of another person. 🤦♀I remember being appalled at the notion of this at the time. LOL.
I will forever refer to my period as the curse.It makes me sound like a battle-hardened warrior who is plagued with flashbacks of the war and also has a sword
The term was also used in To Kill a Mockingbird's sequel book. It was common back between the 1900's to somewhere in the '50's or '60's that we probably stopped using that term.
Considering its the 50s this isprogressive: my mum had her first period around 10yo (early 1960s) and she thought she was dying! Her mum threw a book at her entitled "Everything you should tell your daughter about sex and periods" and walked out. So yea my mum's sex ed was reading a book that her mum couldn't be bothered to read herself. So grateful I was told everything I wanted and needed to know before my body changed so that I was ready for it
I had a friend that thought babies come when 2 people breathe each other’s breath. Imagine her paranoia when she’s in a crossed place, trying to not breath close to any guy.
Right, when I started, I had the most sever cramps, I'd puke, shake, sweat and could hardly move. It literally felt like labor! I know from experience now. There's no fxn way I'd be dressing up, looking my best. 🙄 Most the time I would have to take 2 days off school every month :(
Never understood why some girls get jealous when someone else has started their period. I was in no hurry to get mine and I was really annoyed when it started and I knew I'd have to put up with it for decades.
Very good point. I was an early bloomer so I never dealt with that, but I think it's to do with a 'right of passage' coming of age sort of thing, it means someone is closer to being a grown up, and a lot of kids admire/wish to grow up so they can do cool things or be unlike the adults they do know and show them that they know better. Obviously someone getting their period doesn't give you like a +5 maturity bonus or extra 10% towards growing up or anything, but hey, the things you think as a kid.
I was 11 when mine started and 35 when I had an hysterectomy and they finally stopped. Only surgery Ive damned near danced my way to the theatre for.....lol.
that's probably because you were very educated on this.... for me, it was slightly romanticized.... if you get your period, you become a woman, therefore, romance, therefore close to your happily ever after.... and girls younger then me had boobs and boys liked them sooner.... it's not like my parents never explained things, but I guess they did not go that far on the cons and pros of this, the bigger picture in general.... so I was a bit naive.... then I grew up super fast in mind and body and realized that the cons might outweight the benefits.... that being a girl is to an extent the short stick in life, but I would not change to be a boy if I had the choice. It also took several bad relationships to value my current one, where we both understand very well that both have to be willing to work on the relationship in order to get a happy life that will still be full of struggle - the happily ever after only exists in the fact that should you find a person who wants a monogamous relationship, you both continue working hard for it, and you have a partner to overcome any life situation together. How there are still people that expect people to find a fully functional monogamous relationship on the first try without ever having sex or a previous relationship baffles me more than my own naivety though.
Sorry to detract from your original point OP, but. @@xxes11xx I agree, the romantisization, especially vs. how much one is taught, is definitely a big factor. I'm just curious why you're citing having sex and monogamy as part of a functional, happily ever after relationship. Just your personal preference, or?
Is it just me, or did I see some boys when the teacher was explaining about a woman's menstrual cycle? I remember when I learned about it first, they would have us separate into different rooms (One for boys, one for girls) and would give them information about sex ed for only their natural sex and not the other. I think it's really important that both men and women know what each body part does for sex ed so they can be more aware.
lmao same. i go to a catholic school so... obviously we arent taught. even though its against our religion for sex before marriage, we should still know this shit.
Lmao this IS the video I got in 2010. Like our school nurse literally came into my class of 5th graders and showed us not only this outdated video, but she only showed us the very vague diagram on the chalkboard scene. It left us all terrified and confused
Wow, Im so glad she explained that your period isn't always gonna be on the same day, because the days always changed when I was on my period, and I got soo confused, so thank you for explaining
My mom laughed at me when I told her I got my period. It was probably more my refusal to believe that that’s what it was because my older sister hasn’t gotten hers yet.
I have a friend w an ob/gyn father/mother team, and that girl will talk about ANYTHING, ANYWHERE, ANYTIME, and in front of ANYONE...she has NO shame!!!! Which she shouldn’t, of course...none of us should...but OHHHHHHH!!!!! The stories about her and her conversations I could tell!!!!!!!😅😅😂😂🤣🤣‼️‼️
“Plan to be your most attractive self” ummm sure yeah ok.🤣 Three years ago when I had periods so heavy I ended up in the ER for uncontrolled bleeding, anemia, and cramps down to my knees; my appearance was not my first priority. Also: “I know that Susan!” is the quote of the day.
My grandma was so intentional in making sure my sister and I understood periods - when she started hers, she thought she was dying! She had no idea what was going on. I can’t imagine how scary that must of have been for her.
The good thing about getting your period slightly older is that your mum doesn't sit you down and have you ask questions. My mum was like "you know all of this, you're 15"
I took early childhood classes and that is the class that finally teaches students about sex and birth control options and myths. For me they were available in highschool and college. Absolutely no sex Ed class taught proper sexual education except once I learned about stds but not fully, they didn't want to answer a girls question about if two girls can pass STDs to eachother (so I told her).
Yeah thats how it was for me too. I learned on my own at 14 but never really had any education beyond, "don't do it or you'll get these horrible stds." And that was that.
The problem is that they tell you to abstain from it but don’t actually tell you what your abstaining from. That’s like telling you not to crash a car but not telling you what a car is.
I just realize that all of my sex education was literally just saying that when the egg meets the sperm it makes a child not how it happens I just kind of learned that by myself that’s really f***ing sad
I'm really happy that they normalized periods at different ages, I got mine when I was only 9, I hit puberty really young, and when I told people (like my teachers) they were surprised, and one time an adult male teacher said i was lying when i said that I couldn't go swimming because of it (I was young and didn't like the feeling of tampons), he called my mum and stuff, it was pretty annoying and scary at the time, but now its just funny
It blows my mind. My Grandparents got married in 1960 and my grandmother said she was completely unprepared. She had no idea how sex was supposed to work. She said she cried to her mother because she had been so embarrassed on her wedding night. Her mother told her that it’s something every woman has to learn from herself because it’s not something a lady should talk about. My grandmother was much more open with her own children in their teens during the 80’s. I lived with her after my grandfather died. She was the first person I went too when I knew I wanted to have sex with my boyfriend. She took me to get on birth control and to buy condoms. It was still several months before my boyfriend and I had sex, but, thanks to her, I was prepared and armed with everything I needed to prevent pregnancy and STD’s.
About 18 years ago, I taught a Girl Scout troop full of fourth graders about their bodies and about puberty. And I showed them all of the different menstrual products that are available to use throughout your life. I had a clear plastic model of a pelvis, where you could see the positions of the organs in situ. I demonstrated essentially how to put on a maxi pad with wings (not using the model, nach. Just a description…). I also had soft cups, I did not have the diva cup or anything like that available to me, but the soft cups were so I did that. But the most significant thing I did, was I showed them how to insert a tampon. Nobody ever showed me how to do it, I just learned it by reading that same weird of instructions in the Tampax box. The girls were all a little bit blushed, but they seemed incredibly eager to learn everything that I had to tell them. About two weeks later I was out in downtown of the city where I lived, walking the festival of lights, feeling christmassy, enjoying the lights having a spiked cup of apple cider, and a hand grabs me by my shoulder and spins me around. And she said, “Hey, aren’t you the girl who taught my daughter about puberty?” She was clearly slurring her words a little bit, as bar hopping is an integral part to this celebration. So, instantly I tensed up and said, “yes ma’am. Was everything OK?” The next thing I knew, I was receiving the biggest bear hug I had ever received in my life. And then she yelled out to somebody who I couldn’t see, “Yeah is the her!! Come here!” And so this woman caught up to us and she had the first woman’s child. It was the girl’s grandmother And she said, Thank you so much for showing my daughter how to insert a tampon. I was terrified of tampons until after I graduated from college! If I had figured out tampons before that, I could’ve participated in so many many other things growing up! But, it was revolutionary what you did for them in that class.” I was 23 at the time, so I didn’t really appreciate how recently the dialogue about menstruation had really opened up. Her mom talked about what it was like when she was a kid, and what it was like raising a daughter in the early 70s. The girl scout’s mama said that the moms were all kind of mortified when I explained period products to their daughters And when mom tried to ask what she thought of everything on the drive home, her daughter was *full* of questions. She said she and her daughter had had more conversations about puberty and sex in the last two weeks than she and her mom had in all of her childhood. Open communication. As a mom now, I recognize how fragile and precious that communication line is. And the more I thought about it, the more honored I was that I was able of giving her more questions she could widen the line of communication that she had with her mom.
I think I had the reverse, I knew from movies that sex led to pregnancy but I thought it was just kissing naked and I didn't understand how the sperm got inside the pregnant person's body (or I was too scared to face my guess as to how it happened haha).
@@beetles1964 I vividly remember realizing how sex happened while staring at a chart of the female and male reproductive system side by side in 6th grade sex ed. None of my teachers had explained how it happened before then or even while I was in high school. I guess they just assumed everyone knew by then but I live in a really religious state with abstinence only education so idk where they thought we were gonna get it from
@@okestperson6016 I think once I started being taught about birth control in 6th grade my teacher must have said for sure what it was. But earlier that year I read a book where the main character found out what sex was and I was probably like, Oh my gosh my suspicions were right haha
Thank goodness she clarified you can go for a picnic when you are on your period. I've been missing eating on a blanket outside every summer for 17 years...
I'm thankful my mom already explained the whole "menstruating" thing for me before it started, and also that she had a very basic explanation of sex and all too (and I mean basic because she never went into details about the act itself, never needed though, I always hated socializing so meh, and I was a curious child so I already knew the anatomy part anyways. Also, got fanfics on my side to understand the logistics of it, somewhat, kinda)
My mom was born in 51 and her parents told her NOTHING about sex education. She literally got married, was shook, and then had to go to a library and look stuff up. She thought kissing was how people got pregnant 🙃
@@aleesharenea8565 yeah! My mom said a lot of women who grew up in that era (especially those who were religious) had to find out after marriage for themselves 😶 i couldn't imagine just letting my kid figure it out by themselves. That could be traumatizing
@@keepinitkawaii Me either and My Mom did tell me she was traumatized she thought starting her period meant something bad was happening to her. but she told me all the facts of life and I'm going to do that with my daughters. they are only 2 and 1 but I want them to know things and feel comfortable to come to me.
my Mom was also born in 1951 and started her period at the age of 9. But also, she was **trigger warning** sexually molested at a young age so her education on that subject was way too real.
@@aleesharenea8565 yes me too! I want my kids to be aware of everything that happens to their bodies so they wont be afraid and also so they can protect themselves when i cant be around! I remember being in school in kindergarten and seeing kids touching each other inappropriately. I understand that kids are curious and curiosity is normal but some of those boys would mimic things they obviously saw their parents doing and sometimes they would even corner and force the girls into it🤢 My mom taught me about what all those organs are for so i said "keep ya hands off me!". A couple of those boys never learned to keep their hands to themselves 😬
My school did abstenince only sex ed. I'm only 23, this wasn't that long ago. So many girls ended up getting pregnant during highschool because they didn't know anything about condoms or birth control, and they were treated tearbly. I wish they would have also taught about different sexualities to, I spent so long thinking I was broken because I never wanted to have sex and was never attracted to anyone. I was always told that one day I'd 'find the right guy'. Some of my family still tells me this. I've also had people tell me that there is no point in being nonbinary, because I don't want a relationship. Because obviously I'm totally not doing this myself 🙄
Yep. The states with the most focus on abstinence only have the highest rates of teen pregnancy. And yet they continue to teach how they teach. I live in such a state, Texas (and in a small city that is highly conservative), and will be teaching my twin girls at home from a young age. I know I'm not going to trust whatever the public schools teach. I didn't grow up in Texas, I grew up in California. They did have more comprehensive sex ed, at least to the point of demonstrating how to properly apply a condom and talk about birth control.
I felt the same way as you until I looked up if there was a word for how I felt about guys/girls and my lack of attraction at 20. I was sssoooo happy when I found out about Aromantic and Asexuality!
I'm asexual and had a similar experience with feeling like I was broken! I really wish they would have been more open about different sexualities and the idea that not everybody wants a relationship or to have sex.
Abstinence only is a horrible system that has been proven to not work at all. Why religious conservatives cling to it like a child with a favorite blanket is something I don't think I will ever understand. States that don't have consistent and informative sexual education about topics like birth control, contraceptives, informed consent, healthy relationships, sexualities, gender, and pregnancy have shown year after year to be hotspots for young pregnancy, partner abuse, sexual assault, and STI transmissions while states who have that perform much better in all of those areas. People say "it's not the school's right to teach kids that, its the parent's", but that's the problem. The parents DON'T teach them. Whether because they are too busy, too scared, or unable to do it sufficiently.
What you said about parents telling kids that a baby magically appears in your uterus is what happened to me. I asked my mum when I was about nine how she got pregnant and she told me that you just wish for a baby, so I wouldn’t even think about kids and specifically wished that I wouldn’t have a baby to avoid getting pregnant. This was in 2014! There is still way too much stigma around sex and getting pregnant.
My parents were progressive in the 90's, but they waited until my older sister asked my mom questions to have "the talk." They waited for me to ask questions but, 1) I thought boys were jerks, 2) When I finally had sex ed in school, I thought PiV was gross, 3) I'm gray asexual. I finally had a random discussion about how we learned about sex in a college class, I brought up the topic with my mom and she jokingly offered to have "the talk" then.
My parents had a book about it, but with the more intimate pages clipped together, so when they read it to me, they could smoothly flip on to the rest. At 9 yrs old, I was a voracious reader & read the book for myself, including the censored part. Told my parents I'd read it & said, "I hope that's ok." So before Sex Ed, I knew the basics. I'm fairly intelligent & it wasn't earth- shattering or anytbing..I was cautioned not to blab to my friends, since their parents might not have begun explaining it to them. This was probably because at 5 I told one of my closest friends there was no Santa Claus!
My 10 year old was asking “too many” questions, so I gave her the talk. I was prepared with what to say; I was not prepared to feel like running away the whole time.
the "sex ed" I got back in the mid 2010s was throwing all of the girls my age in the cafeteria and showing us a slide-show of what different STIs looked like. all of our women teachers and the PTO spent the whole time laughing at us because we were obviously uncomfortable and scared. we love ~trauma~
I'm really impressed by the family talking about her period. I NEVER would have told my dad about it at that age! Also, my grandmother had a fit when she found out that my boyfriend (now husband) knew when I was on my period when we were dating 🤣
I remember the video they showed us in the 90s. (I went to a very conservative private school) Girl's friend opts to have sex pre-marriage, of course gets pregnant her first time (because they weren't about to acknowledge that contraception is a thing), and then has to marry the guy, because.... I have no idea. Friend ends up miserable, while girl who waited gets married after college, and having saved sex for after marriage is wonderfully happy. Even as a kid, I found the whole thing condescending.
I go to a catholic school, and though we weren’t taught about contraception, we were taught about NFP, and I feel like more abstinence first programs need to acknowledge that if you wait till marriage, you’ll still need to know about how babies are made and how to prevent them, even without contraception
@@Anna-B same. we weren’t taught about any contraceptions because it “creates a barrier between the man and the woman” and is “not how god intended it to be”. NFP was HEAVILY pushed onto the girls of the class as the only way to use a preventative. meanwhile the boys were taught differently, as usual. “your husband will know more than you” type attitude, so archaic.
Was also raised religiously and although I was fortunate this didn't happen to me, some girls I knew knew so little about sex that older and in some cases married guys were able to manipulate them into doing things they had no idea existed. I didn't have sex until I got married, but I still wish I had known more as a teen. Knowledge protects against abuse.
@@wynsday really? That blows! My teacher just had the boys listen to the lesson too. Though to be fair, we were never supposed to have a “sex ed” class, but my religion teacher thought it was stupid to tell us not to have sex before marriage and to not use contraception without telling us WHY we’re not supposed to have sex before marriage and HOW do we prevent pregnancy.
Even after rewatching this video multiple times it still blows my mind that they didn’t just say your cycle will last exactly 3 days. Even my mother taught me that and when my period started and lasted about a week I panicked.
My cousin started her period while we were staying at her house and her parents were out of town. She thought that her period meant she was pregnant and freaked out trying to figure out how to tell her mom. She was 13 or 14 at the time. Thankfully mom and I were able to explain things to her between us, then mom called her parents so they could talk about it. I felt so bad for her!
This makes me think: perhaps they thought at the time that women were slightly immunocompromised during a period or the first part and more likely to get sick as a result.
I mean technically hormone changes can effect your immune system slightly but like being cold isn't how you get a cold so you can still go swimming 🤷♀️
Pads were the primary products and they were bulky, (originally they used a belt too) so swimming was a no-no. The getting sick after swimming is right up there with waiting 1/2 hour after eating, bunk that was passed on for generations, despite science.
That’s a interesting thought I hadn’t considered before. I know maternal-fetal death rates were much higher, and childbirth was considered ‘dangerous’ in some cultures. I always wondered if they thoughts periods had the same risks, but on a smaller scale.
After watching these it just makes me glad that I was given all the information I needed. Sex ed in school started really early and continued the whole way, and my parents just gave me a book on it every time I had questions, even when I was like 5.
Yup! Even worse imo my friend's granny didn't know she was pregnant the first time, the Dr had to explain how it had happened to her... Only then did she understand what her husband had been doing to her... That story makes me sad
My grandma said that her mom just left a booklet on mensuration in her bedroom, didn't even tell her she left it. When my grandma got her period and thought she was dying, my great-grandma said, "didn't you find the booklet I left for you in your room?" It was a different time.
I was not allowed to take Sex Ed during school (my mom wouldn’t let me attend) and I got a very brief lesson on “you’ll get a period every month and will need to use a pad”. And sex and menstruation was a taboo subject. I was so ignorant of tracking my period that when I got married at 24 I had no idea how to track my period and ended up on my period on my wedding date. I’m amazed at how much I didn’t know back then even at that age. Sex ed - it is so important!
Dr. Mamma Jones! I love what you said about normalizing a conversation about our children and their bodies. I feel it's always been my responsibility as a parent to do this with my children... An actual curriculum would be great. It's important stuff, not everyone who is an adult has the answers.
i really wish i had had someone like you around with the real and helpful info when i was young. could have caught many of my issues and given me help long long before i actually received it.
I love your wrap up song, savannah, you discovered an amazing song for me and I'm obsessed with it and always break into a party and a smile at the end of your videos :)
The cold and wet thing is still perpetuated buy older generations, my partners grandmother always freaks out if you leave the house with your hair wet.
Here's how we handled it with the boys and girls growing in our house. In toddlerhood and preschool: We cover consent, inappropriate touching, and proper anatomy awareness. We talk about when it is okay to touch your own "swimsuit parts" (ie in your room woth the door closed or in the bathroom, but you need to wash your hands before and after. Ages 5-8: Annually, we talk about growing up, the array of sexual orientation, and the possibility of romantic feelings and crushes. And when to let an adult know what's going on. At age 8: We talk about what sex is, how pregnancy occurs, very basic thoughts on STI's. We also reaffirm our openness to an array of sexual attractions, and let them know that we are always on their team should they feel as though they are the wrong gender or if they are having feelings for someone: boy, girl, or someone beyond the binary. We also say we would be happy to support their friends with any questions about any of this. We also discuss menstruation with boys and girls. And we put an emergency kit in our girl's backpacks. At 9-12 we review and discuss our thoughts on the myth of virginity and our family values, and faith's thoughts about commitment, dating, marriage, etc. Just befor 7th grade, we review everything up to this point because their brains are reorganizing. We talk to the boys about being kind to female friends by carrying a few tampons or maxipads in a discreet emergency kit, should a friend have need. We discuss hygiene a LOT more indepth. We discuss makeup, shaving, acne, and other hygiene. We have a drawer with excessive amounts of condoms that we tell the kids we will refill, no questions asked. And whe show them how they are properly used. We go theough the exact talk for the annual discussion 7th -8th. In 9th, grade, we go a lot more in depth with sex and STI's. We also discuss consent, that "no" is a complete sentence, sexual harrassment, the myth of virginity, facts vs. fiction of the hymen, self-breast cancer screenings, testicular cancer self-creenings, how to make a doctor's appointment if there is something physical you don't want to discuss with Mom or Dad. We talk about post-sex contraception, and masterbation/self-sex. We also discuss dating and birth control/family planning options. We talk about abstinence, but discuss that this cannot be their only plan for sex because teen brains can be impulsive in the moment. My husband and I also determined that it was important for us to discuss what gay and lesbian sex could look like, because it is very different from hetero-sex. And we wanted our kids to have facts before they tried anything, and not expect whatever is joked about on the elementary school playground. And that takes us to 16, which is where our oldest is now. But, this really has helped them grow up feeling very sex-positive and let them know that sex isn't a giggly-joke, but a regular part of life, their bodies, and their conversations with their doctors.
This is an extremely underrated comment. Whole-heartedly agree with this whole methodology. My own family weren’t necessarily forthcoming, not intentional of course, but just kind of let us figure stuff out for ourselves and be there if we had questions.
Can I bookmark this somehow? Excellent comment. My kids are 7 and 9 and this goes in the same direction that we aim. We are not doing it annually, but we make sure to answer questions honestly, when they arise.
LOVE everything about this!! I didn’t really get a sex talk. I’m the youngest of 5 and I asked my mom why I never got the talk and she told me that when she and my dad had my oldest sibling, they were determined to do well with this topic. However, when the time came to actually give the talk my oldest sibling like hardcore freaked out and told them never to bring it up again. Since then they were afraid to give the talk to any of the rest of us.
Actually got that type of sex ed as a kid... my mom was the school teacher so we got the "male sperm encounters female egg" at 9y/o, and then at 13 we had the teacher say "of course you all know how intercourse works so I'll skip that part of the film" and I was like "huh?" and looked around, being the only one confused so didn't bring it up... Since she had already "explained" when I was 9, my mom never talked about it again, and neither did my dad, so I must admit it was not the best baggage to start my sexually active life... got a LOT of wrong info researching on my own on the internet >< To the point I faked in intercourse for more than a year as I thought it was a 'me' problem. Now my partner and I are thinking of having a child, and I must admit having healthy discussions about this topic in the future scares me quite a bit... So thank you very much for this comment, I am setting it aside to get a "guideline" to start >< (PS: Having your boys carry period protections just in case is amazing!)
I also think reviewing these older videos adds insight to how our mother or their mothers discussed periods and sex because it add context to their experiences and how they shape ours.
We’ve been trying to find the sex Ed my school used in the late 90s and it’s IMPOSSIBLE! What other sex ex should we review??
You should do one for each decade
@@PinkishPlant Totally second this!
I know the one we watched in 1989 was called "Have you started it yet?" and consisted of a bunch of girls asking a specific girl has she started her period yet.
I saw a maturation video that was geared towards girls with Down’s syndrome that was an old one that might be interesting to review on here.
I'm curious as to how other countries teach it. In my country (Israel), the girls and boys are taught this subject separately in the 6th grade. At least that's how it was in the 90's. Also, if you are religious, you have "bride classes" before getting married. Some communities (small minority) are so insulated that this is the girl's first understanding of intercourse and pregnancy.
My grandma was born in the 40’s, got pregnant at 16 and was SHOCKED and in disbelief because she didn’t know that sex is how you create babies. She literally didn’t believe the doctor because she thought you had to be married to have a baby.
I can believe that.
Poor thing
Oh wow
Heartbreaking
So sad.
I find it funny how quickly this jumped from a normal conversation about periods to I've got the curse 😂
Back when teens actually knew biblical references lol
I don't know why but that made me think of the movie carrie
EVE WAS WEAK SAY IT WOMAN !!!
I’m only saying I have the curse from here on out 😂
I swear I spat out my tea when she said that 🤣🤣🤣
Mood swings!
"Put on your prettiest dress" Yeah sounds like a great idea, not like there's a chance you might get something that's very hard to clean out on it or anything
It should rather be: put on your blackest dress
@@happytofu5 haha i really like that
I got annoyed at that part, looking pretty is the last thing I'm worried about when I'm bleeding lol. I just want snacks, comfy clothes and my comfort movies ♥
Right?
Every person who has periods knows - you hit a certain point where you just wear all your ugliest comfy clothes on your period, at least on your bottom half.
The amount of shorts and pants that are ruinded that I have 👁️👁️ Jesus(im using my dads account btw im a girl 🙄)
My parents tried to give me “the talk”, but the way they described sex made me think it was like plugging a cord into a wall outlet. I didn’t realize there was movement involved until I read my first smutfic.
My parents never gave me "the talk" I mostly know about it from fanfics too lol
And of course school education. But the books and the teacher talked about it pretty vague I didn't really understand.
@@fifiannisa9639 my mom never had to have "the talk" with me. School and the internet were just faster than her. But she said that I can always ask her if I think something is wrong or makes me feel uncomfortable.
Lol, me too, though I didn't get the talk. I knew about insertion, but I didn't know people actually had to move to make it work. XD
My parents didn't even tell me. I learnt because my friends told me about it. Yeah, not ideal.
I found out about sex from romance novels. My mom never had the sex talk with me.
"You shouldn't swim the first few days of your period-" Okay, that's reasonable, because if you don't have a tampon that's not sanitary
"-because you'll catch a cold!" excuse me what
swiming in the first days of period can be uconfortable:)) even with a tampon.the cold wather makes my cramps weeey worse wich make the flow incrise.
Dude, i was taught this shit 10 years ago. My mom told me not to shower while on my period in winter so I dont get sick. Girls in school also acknowledged not bathing while on their periods. Blew my mind years later when a friend used a tampon to go swimming in a pool. I thought she would die.
Right? I'd figured that only having access to pads instead of tampons would put people off from the swimming the first days of your period
@@katrinaguy701 they had tampons in the 50's.
@@beckiehubley5798 Yes they had Tampons but they were not give to young girls because they thought if they used them they were no longer virgins. My oldest sisters did not use them until after they were married. Both got pregnant during their Honeymoon so I have nephews just 4 years younger than I am
I am adopted, and grew up with a very religious mother who has never been pregnant. I started my period at 9, and thought I was dying. Mom finally read a ‘sex Ed’ book to me. It was about Susie the Hamster, a class pet who had babies. I was left completely confused, and terrified that if I ever had sex I’d have a LITTER!!!!!
When I was about 6 I read a sex ed book, but it said something along the lines of "at night a fish from a daddy swims into the mummy to her egg, and this grows into a baby". From then on I was terrified that if I slept in my parent's bed, or shared a bed with my brother I would get pregnant.
Oh my goodness. I grew up in a religious family and I thought I was dying when I got my period too! I think my mom assumed that I knew what was going on. I also thought that if I liked someone and thought about them I'd get pregnant.
I know it was kinda fucked up that the sex ed example the book chose was that of hamsters but your story had me dying
Omggg 😂😂 this is kind of hilarious but also really sad and frustrating
did it mention that hamsters also eat their children lol
My mom told me "your body is preparing to have a baby" the day I got it. I thought I was gonna have a baby.
🤣🤣🤣😬💀
Oh god 🤣🤣
The first time I heard that girls could get pregnant by sleeping with boys, I stopped crawling in bed with one of my brothers when I was scared of the bogeyman.
Same. Scared the crap out of me. That's all she said Lmfao
Most important thing: we need to keep boys and girls together during the very core of these lessons. It might be causing the obvious teenager cringing and giggling but it will avoid so much confusion later in life.
It's quite important to know about the opposite sexes body.
Boys won't be judging girls for their periods or misunderstanding their potential struggles.
Girls will understand random "uprisings" in a boys pants and won't shame them for it any more.
One good thing about my absence only sex ed is at about 9 or 10 we were separated and learned about our own bodies. The next year we repeated the lessons in a coed room.
Your blind spot is intersex, trans and non-binary people who are not even included in your language.
@@eajaros as far as the basics go it mostly just covers biology and how to live with that. This is what a penis does. This is what a uterus does. Trans, intersex, and non-binary young people don't need a special education for the basics.
Not that they should be excluded from the conversation. I think it would be a good idea to cover sex ed in gender neutral terms.
But as far as covering what it means to be any of those things? That should probably be covered in later lessons that touch on sexuality not the very initial lessons of reproductive organ function.
Because being trans, nonbinary, or intersex, does not preclude you from having periods and erections. But it should be brought up that it doesn't make you less than if you don't experience these things. It should be said a man isn't less or a man because he doesn't get erections or that a woman is less of a woman for not getting periods or mean that anything is wrong with you if this stuff is not apart of your identity.
@@SoulDevoured some women who aren't trans don't get periods. Many things can go wrong with anatomy in females and males during fetal development. Some women are born without a uterus or a uterus that isn't formed properly.
At one point in early fetus development they have the beginnings of what could be male or female gonads. Hormones determine which way they develop. It's possible for all kinds of things to go wrong during this stage. This doesn't necessarily make you transgender. Nobody knows why people are straight, gay or trans.
@@eajaros Who cares?
One day I was playing with stuffed animals, and the next all I was interested in was taxes! Bodies are crazy
Lmaoo
Oh my goodness! I just couldn't stop laughing. Thanks for a great comment!
@@suran396 You’re welcome 😂
😂😂😂
Crying lmaooo
I have to say, I really love how the mom asked Molly if it was okay to discuss with her dad like that. Like, that was a great example of respecting your child's boundaries.
I was thinking about that too! They got 1-respecting boundaries and 2-possibility to have an open discussion right
@@camilascatonebedin3002 3. *The CURSE*
Most parents today don't even think about respecting their children's boundaries like that.
i wish my mom did that, pretty sure she told my whole family when i started mine. My family is mostly women so we’re more open about that kinda stuff but it was very uncomfortable at the time 😳
XD yeahh my mom just told my dad even though I had requested her not to
The boys' version is just, "If you knock up a gal, just tell her you're going out for a pack of cigarettes and move to the next town over. Be sure to keep a suitcase packed in your Studebaker, just in case!"
My sister's friend who has since died (she would have been in her 70s now)
She asked her mom how babies came about and was told when a man holds your hand you will have a baby. She went to the movies with a guy who held her hand. She went home in tears. He dad answered the door for her to go inside and asked why she was crying. She told him she was going to have a baby. He beat her up! 😭
She is given the incorrect information and gets punished for it 😭
I have heard and read stories about similar cases. The price of ignorance !
this story went from 0 to 100 so fast wtf ?? im so sorry that this has happened to anyone, let alone people you knew.
Was she really that stupid?
@@punkrock1989 I'm wondering how old you are. She would be close to 80 now and things were very different then. Lots of girls did not have a clue about sex.
@@punkrock1989 So you were born knowing everything, right?
"You know I got the curse" I'm dead
A woman I work with called it "her thing" once. She told me she had her thing and I was like "uhhhh, what thing?"
@@Awakening_Sunshine I call it that too, sometimes lol
literally i screamed lmaooooo
Im gonna start calling it that
I guess the censors wouldn't have allowed "hell week" back then.
"Wear your nicest clothes" but no advice on how to wash the blood out of your nicest favourite skirts.
That bit confused me
I recommend wearing dark leggings can't see it as much
I dip my bloody clothes in oxyclean and the stains go away!!! If it's really fresh blood than wash it with cold water and any soap and its perfectly clean!
@@mariaroman7730 thx
@@mariaroman7730 good advice but also ONLY WITH OXYCLEAN!!!
When a 1950’s health vid covered more stuff then what you went over when you were in middle school in the 2000s.....
same but like 2019 instead
Luckily my sex ed was phenomenal. The boys and the girls always were together learning the same things, we learned about a large variety of birth control methods and were told to not use one if we don't like it but would have to use one, if we don't want to become a parent and we had quite open communication, got detailed answers and our teachers made sure that we know that sex (and the different things you can do while having it) are normal (as long as all parties are alright with them) and nothing to be ashamed of. We even visited a birth clinic where we were separated by gender for 2 hours, the boys were with an urologist and the girls with a gynecologist and we could ask these experienced professionals the questions that we were to scared to ask with someone of the other gender in the same room and a help center for people who have gotten STDs.
But maybe Austria isn't as prude as America.
@@yami-no-kami3586 as soon as i saw you were from a different country i was like “yup that’s the reason for your absolutely phenomenal sex-ed”
I was literally thinking I learned more from this than in highschool🤣🤣
Luckily I went to a montosorri school for middle school so ours was decent
AS a guy, I have real respect for women after watching these videos. All I did in my teenage years was study and play a lot and run around with friends. It never struck me that my female classmates were coping with so much emotional development and studying at the same time. I sincerely thank people for such videos on menstruation and female struggles. Makes me respect women a whole lot more
This is such a lovely comment, thank you for wanting to learn and appreciate what people who menstruate deal with and being so understanding!
Exactly, it’s so nice to know that some guys actually make an effort to learn what we go through on a monthly basis (generally)
“We’re 10 mins into this video and they haven’t even mentioned sex in this sex Ed video” **laughs in Texas sex Ed**
Ah I see you are a person of the yeehaw culture as well. Yea this effing video takes me back - in that it almost is about the same as the info they gave me in the late 90s.
Talk about anything but the actual act itself and you're golden. Also no birth control. That's pretty much what I experienced.
Yep, I had to learn through the internet
I live in Georgia and it's the same here. The only thing they ever talked about was abstinence and fear-mongering info about STI's - but not contraceptive use or consent or anything actually useful. Where I live, it's actually prohibited to do any demonstrations with contraceptives. It's honestly dangerous how much ignorance they perpetuate... really concerning.
*laughs in Utah sex ed* Yeah, really the only difference between our sex ed class and the one shown here is that it was in color and had people in clothing from later than the '50s.
My mom died the Dec before I turned 13. I started my period two weeks after she died. Right before Christmas. My dad said "oh hunny you're becoming a lady. I think you need to call your Aunt. She knows a little more. I'll go to the store and get some pads". It was sweet.
Aww. Your dad sounds really kind ❤️
Good dad I can imagine how uncomfortable that had to be tho
Aww your dad is so nice 😊 I'm sorry for your loss
I had my first period a day after my mom passed away but luckily I was with my sisters
Sorry for your loss, glad to hear your dad was there for you.
When I was a kid I didn't know anything about how babies were made ( I wasn't interested) and I DIDN'T EVEN KNOW that period existed!! ( Never found a single pad in my house!!)
Sooo when I got my period at 12 years old I thought that I was bleeding to death 😂😂 since it wouldn't stop 😂😂 And to make things worse the day that I got my period I was home alone because my parents were at the hospital because my mom was giving birth to my little sister 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ So I wrote them a letter because I was convinced that I was going to die!! 🤣🤣 and I went to my at the time best friends house sobbing to let her know that I was going to die ( she was my neighbor) 😂😂 and when I got there she explained to me what was ACTUALLY going on 😂😂 So I had to run home before someone found my farewell letter🤣🤣🤣
I laugh about it now but at the time I was terrified!!! 🤣🤣🤣
I don’t like to judge peoples parenting but it’s honestly cruel to not explain to a girl what a period is before she gets one. My parents explained it to me before i got it and i was still terrified...
@@emilbutts6662 yea especially seeing as this person got their period at 12, thats waaayyy older than you should be being taught it anyway. I'd understand if it was like a 1-off case of an 8-9 year old getting their period early and not being told about them yet but 12???
I had a very similar experience I was 10 and I knew of periods but didn’t really understand them and thought it wasn’t possible to get it at the time because my older sister 14 or 15 hadn’t yet. Me and my older sister were home alone I went to the bathroom and saw blood in the toilet and freaked out but luckily she was there to tell me I was having a period or I probably would have cried not knowing.
@@Soph_252 exactly. 12 is the average age
Reading this makes me so glad that my wife explained things to our daughter before she had her first one. I remember my mom telling the story of my aunt, her younger sister, getting her first period and thinking she was dying too, because my grandma never taught them anything about periods. Of course, that would have been back in the 1940's when so many people thought the subject was totally taboo.
My parents never gave me “the talk” because they assumed my school covered it all in sex ed… Little did they know our state required “abstinence only” education so all we learned was, “STIs are terrifying and different types of birth control exist but none of that matters as long as you wait till marriage!”
I never realized how poorly informed I was until getting to college and promptly getting an STI because I was never taught that CONSENT is a thing.
Yup! Consent isn’t taught, when we end up in horrifying traumatizing situations we don’t even realize we should’ve been protected. At 14 I got stuck in a grey area, not being able to discern in my mind that what had happened to me wasn’t consensual. I screammmm for consent education, when I have kids they will be fully educated in the home and told the sex ed. in school is lacking.
Don't have sex, because you will get chlamydia and die!
That’s crazy and waiting till marriage doesn’t guarantee that your relationship is going to be healthy and that you weren’t gonna be abused and you weren’t gonna catch STI’s
“Growing up is fun” what a blatant lie.
Yep. I definitely want a refund haha
I'd rather be able to just play around than have to do grown up things like math
Well, some times it is!
@@chancewill6910 Agree
Yup! Can I get an amen?
I thought telling her dad was EXTREMELY progressive for the time. They also couldn't say the word "pregnant" on I Love Lucy. Don't square dance is my favorite tip from this video. 😂
Im 25 and still haven't 😂😂😂 but my dad is also from the era where you dont talk about that stuff with "men" so if theres something wrong i just say "uhhh my stomach hurts😶".
...but they could say it in french
Omg if someone said the word "period" or "menstruation" to my father especially in regards to a female family member he'd probably stroke out.
My daughter doesn't feel comfortable talking to her dad about it, but I probably put that on her by mistake because that's how it was for me too
I had no idea! It’s so wild that during the time of the baby boom it was “unseemly” to say pregnant!
The 60's must have hit the 50's like a ton of bricks.
Perfect description.
@@RuDellaRiche Thank you :)
More accurate to say, the 60's hit the 50's like a nuke.
Followed by the 70's, which got a little confused, then the 80's and the amoral majority raising merry hell until sex scandals undermined their preachy nonsense.
The 50's was a lot of Duck and Cover on sex, later migrating into nukes, so that at least the remains would mostly remain in one place.
Not as much as you'd think. There had to be a lot of education for the adults and political fights before sex ed was allowed in many public schools. The 60s kids got a 5-day "health" class from the gym teachers, mostly focused on "your changing body" and maybe a half hour on how babies are made. The 70s kids eventually got a 2-week section in science class about reproduction, using vaguely shaped line drawings and films like this but with microscopic images of eggs and sperm. On the last day, the boys and girls were split for "the talk" on how sex works; no pictures and still pretty vague. The most I remember from it was "On your wedding night, be sensitive to her fear and don't be pushy."
@@crgrier how different our experiences are! In the '70's, while we did have some vague drawings, we also had videos, microscopic imagery, film of a vaginal birth and the classes stayed mixed. None of that "on your wedding night", as our curriculum was up to date with, ahem, ongoing social practices at the time.
I teach all my kids boys and daughter about both sexes. It’s so important that they not only understand their own, but the opposite sex. They handle the information really good and ask great questions.
Aside from a couple of errors, I think this was actually pretty impressive for the 50s. I clicked on the video expecting the words “period” and “menstrual” to be substituted with some flowery euphemism. I also like that the dad was included in the conversation!
What surprises me is that compared to the 50's to now... sex ed actually regressed when it came to the female body cycle. :|
@@BrokensoulRider How so do you mean? (not challenging what you’re saying, just curious about your perspective)
@@xosilverwingxo If you look at sexual education today (I only graduated high school --dropped out-- 8 years ago now), I only had one day of class that actually covered anything involving sex ed when I went to school. May be different in other states than the one I went to high school in, but from how kids younger than me talk about the sex ed in school, it seems very little knowledge gets passed. This video does arguably more especially by way of enforcing that it's a natural function.
The part about worrying that you will magically become pregnant out of no where really hit me. When I was younger I would literally cry when my period was a bit late because I thought "oh no im pregnant my parents will kill me", keep in mind I was 10 when I got my period so I barely even knew what sex was
That's horrible! It was similar with my mother. Apparently my grandmother told her that anytime she got her period she shouldn't get close to any boys or she may end up pregnant. My mom at the time was a huge 'tom boy' whose closest friends were boys she climbed trees and played sports with so she was devastated. She believed this for three years until her aunt found out and truly explained everything to her.
I had mine when I was 11
Same sort of thing, but before I even had my period! When I was a kid, maybe about 8, I looked in the mirror and thought my tummy looked bigger and ran downstairs freaking out to tell my parents that I thought I might be pregnant. All they did was laugh a little and tell me "you can't be." I remember being confused and asking why and THEY DIDN'T TELL ME ANYTHING. They just said something along the lines of "just trust me" and "you're too little." Not only was I incredibly confused but quite embarrassed, too! I don't think I even knew that periods existed until I was like 9 or 10. I remember being terrified that there was something seriously wrong with my Mom when I was like 5 because she bled through her pants a bit when we were out and we just rushed home without anyone explaining that it wasn't a big deal.
I'm so sorry this happened to you hon!
I had the exact same experience. I didn’t know it was normal to be “irregular” so if I was a day “late”, I was panicking
The dad's reaction reminds me of a conversation we once had over the dinner table. Most of the time I lived with my mother, stepdad and two younger sisters (parents are divorced, my family tree is complicated).
One of my sisters and I have had horrible problems with cramps, feeling sick ect. so birth control pills was practically a miracle for both of us, and they were paid for by our mother, just like any other form of medication. We just told her when we needed a refill. My mother has always been very open, so this was never hard conversations at home.
But this evening, sitting at the dinnertable, my stepdad was stupid enough to complain about why these four women he lived with used two different brands of pads, and why we couldn't just use the cheapest ones. I thought my mother had smoke coming out of her ears for a moment, before she very loudly declared, that menstruation is damn annoying and uncomfortable, that we should all use whatever we feel most comfortable with, and that he should shut up!
It has really stuck with me, that just because it's natural, it can still be annoying, and that we should do whatever works for us.
It's probably wise for men to shut up with their opinions on most things that pertain to a woman and her body.
Wow I can't even believe he'd say that with FOUR WOMEN sitting right there...in surprised one of you didn't casually throw eating utensils at his head. 😂
@@laurengardella9524, well....he doesn't always think about what he says. This was one of those times.
And no need to throw anything. The women of my family are much more frightening. I once described each of us as a boss from Diablo II 😉
Lol “don’t go swimming for the first three days”
IM A SWIMMER!!!!
I love how the dad in 1950, reacted better than my dad did. I started crying in the car to my parents when I was 13 about starting it, and my dad hollered "I don't want to hear about that!"
oof
That's so fricken immature! I'm sorry :( if I was your Mom I would've slapped him so hard on the face.
@@mrs.k6169 Well she did yell at him. Thankfully he's gotten a lot better over time.
Lol my father said I'm your father I dont need to know that. Talk to your mom in private. She gave me a book to read. I said relax mom. I already talked to grandma (your mom) she said thank you lol
That’s horrible! I remember when I was 14 I was out with my dad and I was having menstrual cramps and he could see I wasn’t feeling well, and he asked me if I was okay and I didn’t know how to explain it to him because I thought he didn’t know what periods were, but he informed me he did know about periods.
When I was a kid my mom told me that you get pregnant from "sleeping with someone" so I thought it was any two people regardless of what bits they have, sleeping in the same room. I thought that's why kids get their own rooms when they get older, because otherwise one sister will become pregnant.
I thought the same! Or rather, I heard the "being in bed with someone will make you pregnant". I was watching morning cartoons in bed with my older brother, and then I suddenly got worried that l was pregnant! I rushed to tell my mom that I was pregnant because I had been in bed with my brother 🙈
@@TheEmeraldLady OH GOD NO-
what happened after-?
@@iatemycat5320 my mom asked me why I thought I was pregnant, and I told her that I was in bed with my brother while watching the moomin trolls cartoon on TV. She told me I wasn't pregnant, but I would keep asking her "are you sure?" 😂 I don't remember exactly what she said, but I think she told me I would not get pregnant from that.
@@TheEmeraldLady Once I saw a story and it went something like this
When the girl was four, she was told that if she hugged a boy she would get pregnant.
One day she hugged her grandpa and when she remembered she started to tell everyone she got pregnant by her grandpa ._.XD
@@iatemycat5320 Oh my gosh! I bet that started some really awkward conversations! I mean, kids will believe anything, especially if they hear it from adults. There's a special cookie in my country eaten around Christmas. It has a big hole in it, and when I was 4, my uncle told me that I would for sure get a stomachache from eating the holes of all the cookies. I then ate the cookies like corn on the cob, takin great care to avoid the holes! My uncle was terribly embarrassed that I took him so seriously 🙈
My parents married later in life (and Mom was a first-generation American).
The sum total of Mom's sex-ed talk with me was her handing me a couple of booklets.
I had two daughters. You can be SURE their father and I told them the truth, and they always felt that they could speak freely to Dad, too.. No embarrassment whatsoever.
Makes me really appreciate the UK sex Ed system. We covered everything from periods, sex, contraceptives and birth. We even talked about different sexualities and consent.
I’m from Michigan, I went to private Christian school, 5th grade we learned about periods and gestational stages, and in 6th they did a gender(assigned sex) separated class on the different parts and very brief vague explanations of what happened AFTER intercourse had occurred (sperm to egg). Not how it actually got in there, why, or anything about consent. In 8th grade we had a combined sex Ed class that was only dedicated to abstinence as the main protection, no birth control or condom education, still no consent education, and extremely gruesome detailed STD explanations. Along with the “when you have sex it’s like taking a lolly out of the wrapper and sucking on it. You can’t put it back in the wrapper ever again, and the lolly has been dirtied and used.” Euphemism
Same (I'm from Finland)
good job uk 👍
bUt It WaS a DiFfErEnT tImE
me sitting here in the south:... I mean... not that different
word. that's sad.
Oooff.
Definitely my experience in the early 2000s...so😕
Not that different for me in the 70s. My mother didn't tell me anything, saying that "they teach you these things in school" (they taught us about menstruation, much the same as in the video being reviewed here). No acknowledgement that painful periods were not to be ignored or got through by gritting your teeth.
When I began "going out with" a boy from school who had asked me to attend the school ball with him, we began holding hands, kissing, and other things I now know are innocent and totally normal.
But not knowing enough about sex I became terrified that I was pregnant. My terror was visible, my parents asked if I was afraid I was pregnant, but didn't bother to ask why I was afraid that might be the case, or check if I knew what was required for it to even be a possibility!) and all hell broke loose. I would have to leave school, we would have to marry....
We did marry, 5 years later, and are still together, celebrating our 35th anniversary this year. I was astonished a few years ago to have a pastor (who had been the youth worker of the church at the time) commenting that if he had known what we were doing...he wouldn't have given us support. Hmm now how did he know what the (unfounded) story was unless someone who should have kept things confidential had told him...Assumptions, lies, omissions. Grr. I would like to give my teenaged self some open honesty and information.
Yeah this pretty much the full extent of sex ed in Utah which some people say is too liberal already. Had no idea in other states they actually talked about sex. Thank goodness for my parents
Molly's sister the Pad Dealer: Aye kid you want some menstruation
Underrated comment!!!😅😂🤣
So underrated
hahahaha 😂😂😂
LOL
Hahahahaha that’s pretty good
Shoutout to my mom for never bullshitting me about anything! I asked where babies came from when I was like 4 or 5 and she just straight up explained it (in a way a small child could understand of course) which I think was absolutely amazing of her - but it shouldn't have to be considered amazing, it should be the standard
The mother even asked permission in a way regarding discussing Mollys period with the father. That was a nice touch
In those limits they should have added "Do not cough or sneeze" THOSE are dangerous 😂😂
Or laugh lol, that can't really be helped though XD
Yes. Sneezes are dangerous on your period. It is known.
whenever i cough or sneeze on my period i'm hit with so much horror
@@egglito Your pfp ... ARMY Bomb?
I once laughed and i felt a waterfall down there
They might have thought that because girls and women were losing blood, their bodies might be physically weaker and prone to illness or fainting. On the bright side, if a girl doesn't want to go dancing with her friends because she's not in the mood, she has an excuse.
Hahahaha that’s a great point
True. But, the horse back riding is amazing for helping to ease cramping. Growing up constantly riding horses, it was a god send. Seriously amazing.
There have been all sorts of superstitions around menstruation.
Women have been told not to bathe or wash, not to leave their house, don't visit anyone, or have visitors, don't touch milk or many other foods, so don't cook, don't touch flowers or plants, don't go to church, stay away from babies, don't shave, don't have sex, don't get cold, but also don't get hot, and never go camping because bears or wolves will get you. 🤷♀️
Technically, since our mood does get influenced by our hormones, so it may very well not be "just an excuse" 🤷♀️
On a side note I was kinda annoyed Mama Jones never mentioned the importance for sanitary/hygiene reasons of not going swimming during your period unless your using a tampon (or possibly the menstrual cup) like I don't wanna swim in a public pool with blood in it as much as I don't want to pee or poop in it. Its just gross and unsanitary... Doesn't mean you cant swim just make sure its gonna stay within your vagina while you do...
10:18 YES! THANK YOU! I remember how the educational video at school explained this without the sex part and, much to my mother's pity and annoyance, I was afraid to even let a guy brush up against me in the hallway at school because WHAT IF I GET PREGNANT?! I thought that there were little sperms just CRAWLING all over the place waiting for me to let my guard down and just crawl inside me and BOOM! PREGNANT! And this was in like, 2010!
Hey, at least the family in this video can actually talk about menstruation openly. When my mom first got her period at age 11 in 1961 she thought she was dying. She went running into the kitchen yelling for her parents to call for an ambulance. When they asked her what was wrong and she said that there was blood on her underwear, my grandfather immediately stood up and walked out of the room. And then my grandmother finally explained it to her.
"Mommy and Daddy pray for a baby and it goes there."
I forget sometimes how religious America is and then I hear something like this.
I have religious parents. Luckily, they also had common sense. I still learned like every American child does, the internet
As someone who group up in the southern United States in what is literally called "The Bible Belt" it's not like that anymore. Even my mom who was born in 1955 to a preacher was taught the actual way you get pregnant.
Yup I was told that when my parents got pregnant for my sister, “mommy and daddy wanted you to have a little sister, so we prayed and now mommy is going to have a baby!”
As someone else raised in the Bible Belt... my high school didn't offer sex ed until the state forced them to- which translated to a 1/2 day seminar senior year with No details. It wasn't until after graduation when mother was attempting to explain oral without having to speak about anatomy that I finally realized sex involved being inside of another person. 🤦♀I remember being appalled at the notion of this at the time. LOL.
I will forever refer to my period as the curse.It makes me sound like a battle-hardened warrior who is plagued with flashbacks of the war and also has a sword
The term was also used in To Kill a Mockingbird's sequel book. It was common back between the 1900's to somewhere in the '50's or '60's that we probably stopped using that term.
Considering its the 50s this isprogressive: my mum had her first period around 10yo (early 1960s) and she thought she was dying! Her mum threw a book at her entitled "Everything you should tell your daughter about sex and periods" and walked out. So yea my mum's sex ed was reading a book that her mum couldn't be bothered to read herself.
So grateful I was told everything I wanted and needed to know before my body changed so that I was ready for it
I had a friend that thought babies come when 2 people breathe each other’s breath. Imagine her paranoia when she’s in a crossed place, trying to not breath close to any guy.
“Young ladies, you have your period now! Make sure you look your absolute best!” 👗💅🏾
Me: Chocolate 🍫 and my bed please! 🙄🤦🏾♀️😴
and painkillers... how didnt they mention the pain and horrible mood swings? did they just smile that away?
Right, when I started, I had the most sever cramps, I'd puke, shake, sweat and could hardly move. It literally felt like labor! I know from experience now.
There's no fxn way I'd be dressing up, looking my best. 🙄 Most the time I would have to take 2 days off school every month :(
Lol I prefer to look like death when I feel like death
Me... living in baggy hoodies and leggings for 4 days in my period 😅
Don't forget the period panties! Don't wanna risk staining the good ones, and they have to be comfy too!
Never understood why some girls get jealous when someone else has started their period. I was in no hurry to get mine and I was really annoyed when it started and I knew I'd have to put up with it for decades.
Yes!! I was so annoyed when I got mine lol
Very good point. I was an early bloomer so I never dealt with that, but I think it's to do with a 'right of passage' coming of age sort of thing, it means someone is closer to being a grown up, and a lot of kids admire/wish to grow up so they can do cool things or be unlike the adults they do know and show them that they know better.
Obviously someone getting their period doesn't give you like a +5 maturity bonus or extra 10% towards growing up or anything, but hey, the things you think as a kid.
I was 11 when mine started and 35 when I had an hysterectomy and they finally stopped. Only surgery Ive damned near danced my way to the theatre for.....lol.
that's probably because you were very educated on this.... for me, it was slightly romanticized.... if you get your period, you become a woman, therefore, romance, therefore close to your happily ever after.... and girls younger then me had boobs and boys liked them sooner.... it's not like my parents never explained things, but I guess they did not go that far on the cons and pros of this, the bigger picture in general.... so I was a bit naive.... then I grew up super fast in mind and body and realized that the cons might outweight the benefits.... that being a girl is to an extent the short stick in life, but I would not change to be a boy if I had the choice. It also took several bad relationships to value my current one, where we both understand very well that both have to be willing to work on the relationship in order to get a happy life that will still be full of struggle - the happily ever after only exists in the fact that should you find a person who wants a monogamous relationship, you both continue working hard for it, and you have a partner to overcome any life situation together. How there are still people that expect people to find a fully functional monogamous relationship on the first try without ever having sex or a previous relationship baffles me more than my own naivety though.
Sorry to detract from your original point OP, but.
@@xxes11xx I agree, the romantisization, especially vs. how much one is taught, is definitely a big factor.
I'm just curious why you're citing having sex and monogamy as part of a functional, happily ever after relationship. Just your personal preference, or?
Is it just me, or did I see some boys when the teacher was explaining about a woman's menstrual cycle? I remember when I learned about it first, they would have us separate into different rooms (One for boys, one for girls) and would give them information about sex ed for only their natural sex and not the other. I think it's really important that both men and women know what each body part does for sex ed so they can be more aware.
This is actually more than my public schools in Ohio taught me.
I can atest to that
Damn I've been doing so much strenuous square dancing every time I have my period 🤣
Stop immediately!
Stop in the name of the law!!!
🤣🤣
@@MamaDoctorJones haha
Living life on the edge!
Respect
ngl, this was better than anything I ever got in 2010 lol
I am so glad you are getting caught up.
Same here in Spain
lmao same. i go to a catholic school so... obviously we arent taught. even though its against our religion for sex before marriage, we should still know this shit.
Lmao this IS the video I got in 2010. Like our school nurse literally came into my class of 5th graders and showed us not only this outdated video, but she only showed us the very vague diagram on the chalkboard scene. It left us all terrified and confused
Me too smh. I even had to figure out how to wear the pads mom bought me because nobody thought it was important info.
Wow, Im so glad she explained that your period isn't always gonna be on the same day, because the days always changed when I was on my period, and I got soo confused, so thank you for explaining
My mom laughed at me when I told her I got my period. It was probably more my refusal to believe that that’s what it was because my older sister hasn’t gotten hers yet.
I had the “Doctor parents” sex ed problem. I had highly medically accurate sex ex and essentially no practical advice hahahahah
this reminds me of sex education on Netflix
I have a friend w an ob/gyn father/mother team, and that girl will talk about ANYTHING, ANYWHERE, ANYTIME, and in front of ANYONE...she has NO shame!!!! Which she shouldn’t, of course...none of us should...but OHHHHHHH!!!!! The stories about her and her conversations I could tell!!!!!!!😅😅😂😂🤣🤣‼️‼️
“Plan to be your most attractive self” ummm sure yeah ok.🤣 Three years ago when I had periods so heavy I ended up in the ER for uncontrolled bleeding, anemia, and cramps down to my knees; my appearance was not my first priority.
Also: “I know that Susan!” is the quote of the day.
"plan to be your most attractive self."
Me **looks like a bridge troll.**
@@SjofnBM1989 bridge trolls are the best look
Also, "wear your prettiest dress"?! So that it can be ruined with blood? No thank you
@@ariatloakstan exactly! I'm wearing my worst clothes, not taking that risk!
Funny, for me getting my period usually means me planning to be my "sweat pants and ponytail self"! Lol
My grandma was so intentional in making sure my sister and I understood periods - when she started hers, she thought she was dying! She had no idea what was going on. I can’t imagine how scary that must of have been for her.
The good thing about getting your period slightly older is that your mum doesn't sit you down and have you ask questions. My mum was like "you know all of this, you're 15"
For a few years after the 'talk' I thought I would get pregnant from hugging a boy. This is why concise language is necessary lol
Worse - I was freaked out to use the bathroom too soon after my dad or to come in contact with his bath towel 🙄
I love how she mentions that sex Ed didn’t mention sex, I’ve been to both public and charter school and neither taught actual sex except abstinence
I took early childhood classes and that is the class that finally teaches students about sex and birth control options and myths. For me they were available in highschool and college. Absolutely no sex Ed class taught proper sexual education except once I learned about stds but not fully, they didn't want to answer a girls question about if two girls can pass STDs to eachother (so I told her).
Yeah thats how it was for me too. I learned on my own at 14 but never really had any education beyond, "don't do it or you'll get these horrible stds." And that was that.
The problem is that they tell you to abstain from it but don’t actually tell you what your abstaining from. That’s like telling you not to crash a car but not telling you what a car is.
Don't think about it and it won't happen. Denial.
I just realize that all of my sex education was literally just saying that when the egg meets the sperm it makes a child not how it happens I just kind of learned that by myself that’s really f***ing sad
Yeah same
Same
I'm really happy that they normalized periods at different ages, I got mine when I was only 9, I hit puberty really young, and when I told people (like my teachers) they were surprised, and one time an adult male teacher said i was lying when i said that I couldn't go swimming because of it (I was young and didn't like the feeling of tampons), he called my mum and stuff, it was pretty annoying and scary at the time, but now its just funny
When I was a child, my parents told me that pregnancy happens when Dad gives Mom a "special kiss". That wasn't actually a bad way to tell a 5 year old
When you say it like that. Yeah, a pretty decent way to not tell a kid what actually happens.
@@istantoomanygroupscheckemo4016 Why wouldn't you tell a kid what actually happens? Isn't that the whole point of this video?
@@DeathnoteBB well, someone under the age of 10 would probably need it explained like that.
My friends parents told her that they have a “really big hug” 😂
@@mauricethegecko9700 I mean I guess, maybe for some, but it just seems confusing for kids to me
It blows my mind. My Grandparents got married in 1960 and my grandmother said she was completely unprepared. She had no idea how sex was supposed to work. She said she cried to her mother because she had been so embarrassed on her wedding night. Her mother told her that it’s something every woman has to learn from herself because it’s not something a lady should talk about. My grandmother was much more open with her own children in their teens during the 80’s. I lived with her after my grandfather died. She was the first person I went too when I knew I wanted to have sex with my boyfriend. She took me to get on birth control and to buy condoms. It was still several months before my boyfriend and I had sex, but, thanks to her, I was prepared and armed with everything I needed to prevent pregnancy and STD’s.
Your grandmother sounds awesome. I'm glad you had such a good resource and confidant.
Dam that's a nice grandma
I love how gender neutral she is when talking about periods!
About 18 years ago, I taught a Girl Scout troop full of fourth graders about their bodies and about puberty. And I showed them all of the different menstrual products that are available to use throughout your life. I had a clear plastic model of a pelvis, where you could see the positions of the organs in situ. I demonstrated essentially how to put on a maxi pad with wings (not using the model, nach. Just a description…). I also had soft cups, I did not have the diva cup or anything like that available to me, but the soft cups were so I did that. But the most significant thing I did, was I showed them how to insert a tampon. Nobody ever showed me how to do it, I just learned it by reading that same weird of instructions in the Tampax box. The girls were all a little bit blushed, but they seemed incredibly eager to learn everything that I had to tell them.
About two weeks later I was out in downtown of the city where I lived, walking the festival of lights, feeling christmassy, enjoying the lights having a spiked cup of apple cider, and a hand grabs me by my shoulder and spins me around. And she said, “Hey, aren’t you the girl who taught my daughter about puberty?” She was clearly slurring her words a little bit, as bar hopping is an integral part to this celebration. So, instantly I tensed up and said, “yes ma’am. Was everything OK?”
The next thing I knew, I was receiving the biggest bear hug I had ever received in my life. And then she yelled out to somebody who I couldn’t see, “Yeah is the her!! Come here!” And so this woman caught up to us and she had the first woman’s child. It was the girl’s grandmother And she said, Thank you so much for showing my daughter how to insert a tampon. I was terrified of tampons until after I graduated from college! If I had figured out tampons before that, I could’ve participated in so many many other things growing up! But, it was revolutionary what you did for them in that class.”
I was 23 at the time, so I didn’t really appreciate how recently the dialogue about menstruation had really opened up. Her mom talked about what it was like when she was a kid, and what it was like raising a daughter in the early 70s. The girl scout’s mama said that the moms were all kind of mortified when I explained period products to their daughters And when mom tried to ask what she thought of everything on the drive home, her daughter was *full* of questions. She said she and her daughter had had more conversations about puberty and sex in the last two weeks than she and her mom had in all of her childhood. Open communication. As a mom now, I recognize how fragile and precious that communication line is. And the more I thought about it, the more honored I was that I was able of giving her more questions she could widen the line of communication that she had with her mom.
I didn’t know sex lead to pregnancy for two years after I “learned” what sex was.
Me too! And since I was raised religious I thought that only “sinners” had sex lol
@@alyssabarton1397 When I was that age, I swore off sex, but wanted to be pregnant for some odd reason ahaha.
I think I had the reverse, I knew from movies that sex led to pregnancy but I thought it was just kissing naked and I didn't understand how the sperm got inside the pregnant person's body (or I was too scared to face my guess as to how it happened haha).
@@beetles1964 I vividly remember realizing how sex happened while staring at a chart of the female and male reproductive system side by side in 6th grade sex ed. None of my teachers had explained how it happened before then or even while I was in high school. I guess they just assumed everyone knew by then but I live in a really religious state with abstinence only education so idk where they thought we were gonna get it from
@@okestperson6016 I think once I started being taught about birth control in 6th grade my teacher must have said for sure what it was. But earlier that year I read a book where the main character found out what sex was and I was probably like, Oh my gosh my suspicions were right haha
Thank goodness she clarified you can go for a picnic when you are on your period. I've been missing eating on a blanket outside every summer for 17 years...
Clean, clean blanket on those years...
I'm thankful my mom already explained the whole "menstruating" thing for me before it started, and also that she had a very basic explanation of sex and all too (and I mean basic because she never went into details about the act itself, never needed though, I always hated socializing so meh, and I was a curious child so I already knew the anatomy part anyways. Also, got fanfics on my side to understand the logistics of it, somewhat, kinda)
I love how she says "I've got the curse" but also that's such a gender mood 🤣🤣🤣
My mom was born in 51 and her parents told her NOTHING about sex education. She literally got married, was shook, and then had to go to a library and look stuff up. She thought kissing was how people got pregnant 🙃
They were not honest with ppl back then. I have An older Mom as well and Her Mom never talked to her about periods or sex.
@@aleesharenea8565 yeah! My mom said a lot of women who grew up in that era (especially those who were religious) had to find out after marriage for themselves 😶 i couldn't imagine just letting my kid figure it out by themselves. That could be traumatizing
@@keepinitkawaii Me either and My Mom did tell me she was traumatized she thought starting her period meant something bad was happening to her. but she told me all the facts of life and I'm going to do that with my daughters. they are only 2 and 1 but I want them to know things and feel comfortable to come to me.
my Mom was also born in 1951 and started her period at the age of 9. But also, she was **trigger warning** sexually molested at a young age so her education on that subject was way too real.
@@aleesharenea8565 yes me too! I want my kids to be aware of everything that happens to their bodies so they wont be afraid and also so they can protect themselves when i cant be around! I remember being in school in kindergarten and seeing kids touching each other inappropriately. I understand that kids are curious and curiosity is normal but some of those boys would mimic things they obviously saw their parents doing and sometimes they would even corner and force the girls into it🤢 My mom taught me about what all those organs are for so i said "keep ya hands off me!". A couple of those boys never learned to keep their hands to themselves 😬
"You look very nice today."
"Thanks, I have The Curse."
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From now on I'm referring to my period as the 'Curse' 😂😂😂😂
I love when you react to these old videos my grandparents probably watched!
My mum was lucky, her mom was a no bs nurse and her dad was the local Dr so she grew up knowing everything.
My school did abstenince only sex ed. I'm only 23, this wasn't that long ago. So many girls ended up getting pregnant during highschool because they didn't know anything about condoms or birth control, and they were treated tearbly. I wish they would have also taught about different sexualities to, I spent so long thinking I was broken because I never wanted to have sex and was never attracted to anyone. I was always told that one day I'd 'find the right guy'. Some of my family still tells me this. I've also had people tell me that there is no point in being nonbinary, because I don't want a relationship. Because obviously I'm totally not doing this myself 🙄
Yep. The states with the most focus on abstinence only have the highest rates of teen pregnancy. And yet they continue to teach how they teach. I live in such a state, Texas (and in a small city that is highly conservative), and will be teaching my twin girls at home from a young age. I know I'm not going to trust whatever the public schools teach. I didn't grow up in Texas, I grew up in California. They did have more comprehensive sex ed, at least to the point of demonstrating how to properly apply a condom and talk about birth control.
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I felt the same way as you until I looked up if there was a word for how I felt about guys/girls and my lack of attraction at 20.
I was sssoooo happy when I found out about Aromantic and Asexuality!
I'm asexual and had a similar experience with feeling like I was broken! I really wish they would have been more open about different sexualities and the idea that not everybody wants a relationship or to have sex.
Abstinence only is a horrible system that has been proven to not work at all. Why religious conservatives cling to it like a child with a favorite blanket is something I don't think I will ever understand. States that don't have consistent and informative sexual education about topics like birth control, contraceptives, informed consent, healthy relationships, sexualities, gender, and pregnancy have shown year after year to be hotspots for young pregnancy, partner abuse, sexual assault, and STI transmissions while states who have that perform much better in all of those areas.
People say "it's not the school's right to teach kids that, its the parent's", but that's the problem. The parents DON'T teach them. Whether because they are too busy, too scared, or unable to do it sufficiently.
What you said about parents telling kids that a baby magically appears in your uterus is what happened to me. I asked my mum when I was about nine how she got pregnant and she told me that you just wish for a baby, so I wouldn’t even think about kids and specifically wished that I wouldn’t have a baby to avoid getting pregnant. This was in 2014! There is still way too much stigma around sex and getting pregnant.
My parents were progressive in the 90's, but they waited until my older sister asked my mom questions to have "the talk." They waited for me to ask questions but, 1) I thought boys were jerks, 2) When I finally had sex ed in school, I thought PiV was gross, 3) I'm gray asexual.
I finally had a random discussion about how we learned about sex in a college class, I brought up the topic with my mom and she jokingly offered to have "the talk" then.
I never got anything like this so watching your videos are super helpful! Thank you so much for creating your videos!
My parents had a book about it, but with the more intimate pages clipped together, so when they read it to me, they could smoothly flip on to the rest. At 9 yrs old, I was a voracious reader & read the book for myself, including the censored part. Told my parents I'd read it & said, "I hope that's ok." So before Sex Ed, I knew the basics. I'm fairly intelligent & it wasn't earth- shattering or anytbing..I was cautioned not to blab to my friends, since their parents might not have begun explaining it to them. This was probably because at 5 I told one of my closest friends there was no Santa Claus!
My 10 year old was asking “too many” questions, so I gave her the talk. I was prepared with what to say; I was not prepared to feel like running away the whole time.
the "sex ed" I got back in the mid 2010s was throwing all of the girls my age in the cafeteria and showing us a slide-show of what different STIs looked like. all of our women teachers and the PTO spent the whole time laughing at us because we were obviously uncomfortable and scared. we love ~trauma~
Mine wasn’t even as informative as that I was in year 4 in the U.K. and we got shown a stupid cringey as fuck cartoon video of people having sex
Yeah that's what we got at my school too, but it's just in the highschool health class lmao
The CZcams rabbit hole lead me here and I’m glad it did, I found another entertaining CZcams channel.
Isn’t it fun when your school doesn’t even have sex Ed in its curriculum?
I'm really impressed by the family talking about her period. I NEVER would have told my dad about it at that age! Also, my grandmother had a fit when she found out that my boyfriend (now husband) knew when I was on my period when we were dating 🤣
I remember the video they showed us in the 90s. (I went to a very conservative private school) Girl's friend opts to have sex pre-marriage, of course gets pregnant her first time (because they weren't about to acknowledge that contraception is a thing), and then has to marry the guy, because.... I have no idea. Friend ends up miserable, while girl who waited gets married after college, and having saved sex for after marriage is wonderfully happy. Even as a kid, I found the whole thing condescending.
I go to a catholic school, and though we weren’t taught about contraception, we were taught about NFP, and I feel like more abstinence first programs need to acknowledge that if you wait till marriage, you’ll still need to know about how babies are made and how to prevent them, even without contraception
@@Anna-B same. we weren’t taught about any contraceptions because it “creates a barrier between the man and the woman” and is “not how god intended it to be”. NFP was HEAVILY pushed onto the girls of the class as the only way to use a preventative. meanwhile the boys were taught differently, as usual. “your husband will know more than you” type attitude, so archaic.
Was also raised religiously and although I was fortunate this didn't happen to me, some girls I knew knew so little about sex that older and in some cases married guys were able to manipulate them into doing things they had no idea existed. I didn't have sex until I got married, but I still wish I had known more as a teen. Knowledge protects against abuse.
@@wynsday really? That blows! My teacher just had the boys listen to the lesson too. Though to be fair, we were never supposed to have a “sex ed” class, but my religion teacher thought it was stupid to tell us not to have sex before marriage and to not use contraception without telling us WHY we’re not supposed to have sex before marriage and HOW do we prevent pregnancy.
@@Anna-B the boys and girls were separated and they were given a more extensive talk than the girls :/ it sucked.
Even after rewatching this video multiple times it still blows my mind that they didn’t just say your cycle will last exactly 3 days. Even my mother taught me that and when my period started and lasted about a week I panicked.
This has been so helpful! When I started my period, I was regular right away. My daughter's cycle is not regular yet, great to hear that is normal too
My cousin started her period while we were staying at her house and her parents were out of town. She thought that her period meant she was pregnant and freaked out trying to figure out how to tell her mom. She was 13 or 14 at the time. Thankfully mom and I were able to explain things to her between us, then mom called her parents so they could talk about it. I felt so bad for her!
This makes me think: perhaps they thought at the time that women were slightly immunocompromised during a period or the first part and more likely to get sick as a result.
I mean technically hormone changes can effect your immune system slightly but like being cold isn't how you get a cold so you can still go swimming 🤷♀️
Pads were the primary products and they were bulky, (originally they used a belt too) so swimming was a no-no. The getting sick after swimming is right up there with waiting 1/2 hour after eating, bunk that was passed on for generations, despite science.
It might be all in my head, but I swear if I get a cold or a sore throat, it always begins while I'm on my period.
@@OpposingPony do you change your diet or sleep habits? Either can make you more susceptible to getting sick too.
That’s a interesting thought I hadn’t considered before. I know maternal-fetal death rates were much higher, and childbirth was considered ‘dangerous’ in some cultures. I always wondered if they thoughts periods had the same risks, but on a smaller scale.
"I KNOW that, Susan, I KNOW it was a different time" LMAO!
After watching these it just makes me glad that I was given all the information I needed. Sex ed in school started really early and continued the whole way, and my parents just gave me a book on it every time I had questions, even when I was like 5.
My grandma once told me that she was in labor when the midwife had to explain where the baby would come out....
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@@thegracklepeck The same way the baby got in, Grandma!
Yup, my grandma thought her first baby was going to come out of her belly button.
Because my mom had to had me by c-section and I've seen the scar many times. When I was a kid I thought that was the way all babies where born.
Yup! Even worse imo my friend's granny didn't know she was pregnant the first time, the Dr had to explain how it had happened to her... Only then did she understand what her husband had been doing to her... That story makes me sad
My grandma said that her mom just left a booklet on mensuration in her bedroom, didn't even tell her she left it. When my grandma got her period and thought she was dying, my great-grandma said, "didn't you find the booklet I left for you in your room?" It was a different time.
I was not allowed to take Sex Ed during school (my mom wouldn’t let me attend) and I got a very brief lesson on “you’ll get a period every month and will need to use a pad”. And sex and menstruation was a taboo subject. I was so ignorant of tracking my period that when I got married at 24 I had no idea how to track my period and ended up on my period on my wedding date. I’m amazed at how much I didn’t know back then even at that age. Sex ed - it is so important!
Dr. Mamma Jones! I love what you said about normalizing a conversation about our children and their bodies. I feel it's always been my responsibility as a parent to do this with my children... An actual curriculum would be great. It's important stuff, not everyone who is an adult has the answers.
“i know because i was once a kid but also i have some of them in my house” sounds like she just kidnapped random children 😂
Except anyone watching knows she always introduces herself as ....”and mom to four”
😂 Cool joke 😂
@@signespencer6887 yes i’ve been watching her for years now, i’m aware it’s just the way she worded it sounds funny
@@strivingformindfulness2356 😄👍🏼
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the word is "unintentionally" - but "not on purposely" is my new word of the day!
i really wish i had had someone like you around with the real and helpful info when i was young. could have caught many of my issues and given me help long long before i actually received it.
I love your wrap up song, savannah, you discovered an amazing song for me and I'm obsessed with it and always break into a party and a smile at the end of your videos :)
The cold and wet thing is still perpetuated buy older generations, my partners grandmother always freaks out if you leave the house with your hair wet.
Here's how we handled it with the boys and girls growing in our house. In toddlerhood and preschool: We cover consent, inappropriate touching, and proper anatomy awareness. We talk about when it is okay to touch your own "swimsuit parts" (ie in your room woth the door closed or in the bathroom, but you need to wash your hands before and after.
Ages 5-8: Annually, we talk about growing up, the array of sexual orientation, and the possibility of romantic feelings and crushes. And when to let an adult know what's going on.
At age 8: We talk about what sex is, how pregnancy occurs, very basic thoughts on STI's. We also reaffirm our openness to an array of sexual attractions, and let them know that we are always on their team should they feel as though they are the wrong gender or if they are having feelings for someone: boy, girl, or someone beyond the binary. We also say we would be happy to support their friends with any questions about any of this. We also discuss menstruation with boys and girls. And we put an emergency kit in our girl's backpacks.
At 9-12 we review and discuss our thoughts on the myth of virginity and our family values, and faith's thoughts about commitment, dating, marriage, etc.
Just befor 7th grade, we review everything up to this point because their brains are reorganizing. We talk to the boys about being kind to female friends by carrying a few tampons or maxipads in a discreet emergency kit, should a friend have need. We discuss hygiene a LOT more indepth. We discuss makeup, shaving, acne, and other hygiene.
We have a drawer with excessive amounts of condoms that we tell the kids we will refill, no questions asked. And whe show them how they are properly used.
We go theough the exact talk for the annual discussion 7th -8th.
In 9th, grade, we go a lot more in depth with sex and STI's. We also discuss consent, that "no" is a complete sentence, sexual harrassment, the myth of virginity, facts vs. fiction of the hymen, self-breast cancer screenings, testicular cancer self-creenings, how to make a doctor's appointment if there is something physical you don't want to discuss with Mom or Dad. We talk about post-sex contraception, and masterbation/self-sex. We also discuss dating and birth control/family planning options. We talk about abstinence, but discuss that this cannot be their only plan for sex because teen brains can be impulsive in the moment. My husband and I also determined that it was important for us to discuss what gay and lesbian sex could look like, because it is very different from hetero-sex. And we wanted our kids to have facts before they tried anything, and not expect whatever is joked about on the elementary school playground. And that takes us to 16, which is where our oldest is now.
But, this really has helped them grow up feeling very sex-positive and let them know that sex isn't a giggly-joke, but a regular part of life, their bodies, and their conversations with their doctors.
This is an extremely underrated comment. Whole-heartedly agree with this whole methodology.
My own family weren’t necessarily forthcoming, not intentional of course, but just kind of let us figure stuff out for ourselves and be there if we had questions.
Can I bookmark this somehow? Excellent comment. My kids are 7 and 9 and this goes in the same direction that we aim. We are not doing it annually, but we make sure to answer questions honestly, when they arise.
This is the best thing ever
LOVE everything about this!! I didn’t really get a sex talk. I’m the youngest of 5 and I asked my mom why I never got the talk and she told me that when she and my dad had my oldest sibling, they were determined to do well with this topic. However, when the time came to actually give the talk my oldest sibling like hardcore freaked out and told them never to bring it up again. Since then they were afraid to give the talk to any of the rest of us.
Actually got that type of sex ed as a kid... my mom was the school teacher so we got the "male sperm encounters female egg" at 9y/o, and then at 13 we had the teacher say "of course you all know how intercourse works so I'll skip that part of the film" and I was like "huh?" and looked around, being the only one confused so didn't bring it up...
Since she had already "explained" when I was 9, my mom never talked about it again, and neither did my dad, so I must admit it was not the best baggage to start my sexually active life... got a LOT of wrong info researching on my own on the internet >< To the point I faked in intercourse for more than a year as I thought it was a 'me' problem.
Now my partner and I are thinking of having a child, and I must admit having healthy discussions about this topic in the future scares me quite a bit... So thank you very much for this comment, I am setting it aside to get a "guideline" to start ><
(PS: Having your boys carry period protections just in case is amazing!)
I also think reviewing these older videos adds insight to how our mother or their mothers discussed periods and sex because it add context to their experiences and how they shape ours.