Life isn't what I expected it to be...
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- čas přidán 10. 03. 2024
- This video will help you feel better about where you are in life and how to notice the weight of your expectations. Take it easy and enjoy the climb up the mountain.
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When have your expectations led to deflation? Did you blow the balloon up too much? My friends, keep climbing the mountain and enjoy the path.
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i simply just did nothing my hole life
Wtf why is no one watching this high quality content
Who knows - I just love making it 😊
"no one" is a strech. this one was profound, really has me thinking. high quality content indeed.
Im watching it
Right?!?!
He blows me away, amazing
I stopped watching other people's stories on Instagram because i would feel so left behind. Much of my depression comes from feeling left behind. I don't get why i didn't deserve to achieve important stuff like a career or a relationship, too. It's definitely a journey I'm on and it's all about expectations. Like I get it, I see where the problem comes from, you're helping me with this. I just can't help but think it's unfair nothing like this is happening to me. I always pray asking to accept my life the way it is, asking to be less of an arrogant for thinking I deserve stuff like this. I don't know. It's hard. I've done the same path as the others, I've felt out of place at university too but I pushed through and felt proud of me. It's just life after university I'm finding hard to manage, for some years now.
Thank you so much for sharing your story ❤️ I've always felt out of place, never fit in. If I have/had a friend it was only one. Didn't like parties, social anxiety, overly stimulating. Right now I'm trying to find what makes me happy. I like music so I have a CZcams channel with nothing but tons of music, recipes, meditation, funny, movies. Find something that lifts your spirit. Last night I bought crayons and paper. I thought I would first draw my emotions. Then get creative. Something to do. I'm housebound so limited. And yeah stay off Facebook, Instagram, tik Tok, all of them. Those only capture a 30 second period of time in someone's life. I went off all social media except CZcams and Pinterest. You will pull through. Never stop. Keep pushing
Watching other ppls instragram make me feel the same, i do comparisons, not good enough not fit enough not smart enough not happy enough!! But i still keep looking!
😢never felt like I fitted in, I ask myself why don't I fit in like most of other people do❤
You had me at the "valuable" employee that got laid off and the realization of how fragile we are. That is me, and has been me for the past four years. Expectations are disappointments waiting to happen. Can't get excited about much anymore because it turns out to be a disappointment.
This is the advice an older brother or loving father would give. Thank you for your fantastic content, many of which you share personal stories and risk vulnerability for strangers out of care. What a man!
I expected life to be pretty good. And it was for 64 years. Then that day came when I was diagnosed with Parkinson's disease. My life changed completely. Wasn't expecting that. Now there are days that are hard as hell to walk to enjoy to love. Did I mention I cry every day sometimes four or five times a day? Am I on medication for depression? I'm trying it. So far no good. Hey guys, enjoy life while you can. And don't expect it to last that way. Like I did.
Sending you a big hug, stranger... it's so cruel to me that we can feel so lonely and be alone, when there are others around the world that feel the same. I wish all of us that are struggling could get together and enjoy each other's company and help each other out.
Stay strong ❤🤞
I was ditched by everyone when I was at my worst, and I watched others help people who are GOLDDIGGERS.
I did the same thing and same thing happened to me ! I went to college.. bachelor's degree in Accounting. I'm humble. Gosh I studied and dreamt of dollar signs. I had my material world planned out.
Yet I never felt any better than anyone else. I love helping people.
Instead of my dream, I received the worst case of anxiety, which made me depressed? Drs can't figure out which came first. I've heard .. oh get over it the world is anxious.. umm, this is different. This will literally mentally PARALYZE you, which in turn physically paralyzes you. I'm 60 yrs old and have been dealing with it for 30 yrs. My grown kids are angry I'm not working. Geeze Mom, look at all your education! I say. Sure but education never guarantees good mental health. I've learned a lot. Takes my energy to get through the day. See therapist twice a day. Now all I can do is pray. The burden is too great.
Oh yeah the companies value us, my butt.
You're right it's tough..
Lol did I have a really good imagery
I enjoy listening to you Scott❤😊
Your experience is so appreciated. Praying with you!
@@depressiontoexpression thank you Scott. I put it out there because if I do, then maybe another one will. It can be a very isolated place. I'm praying with you also Scott.
Learning to stay in the moment. I've been anxious at times about something tomorrow. Tomorrow comes and either nothing happens OR something that totally blindsided me that I never thought of. No kidding.
I read somewhere that people living with high end anxiety are quite intelligent. I thought about that🤔🧐. Makes sense. Your brain is living life and at the same time trying to stay calm.
Just food for thought. Idk? Google it lol.
People need something to believe in to battle depression and that thing is a higher power.
Yes! Haven't heard you for ages. This came at the right time. Is this it? I seem to have always been holding out for that next big thing that would make me happy. That's not where happiness lives. It's in the little things in life. A beautiful sunrise. Having a laugh with friends. A nice glass of prosecco with a meal. This is it. Life is beautiful, just not in the ways that I expected. I think fighting against that fact is often what has triggered existential angst/ depression.
I am going through therapy for my mental health and I expect that when I've "finished" healing I will be in such a happy place free from obligations, responsibilities, wants and needs. One week, I felt like I completed everything, all my chores, paid all my bills, watched all the good youtube videos I wanted to, bought everything I wanted. But I realized there was this sense of emptiness when you have nothing to look forward to. Ever since that week, I don't care about reaching the top of the mountain. Instead, I foucs on the ups and downs of the path.
When this happened to me? When I retired 3 years ago. This is it? Lol.
Ptsd from childhood hit me big time. Anxiety/depression.
This was great info! Thank you❤
From one of your not so young followers. Lol
young in spirit :)
I always notice people who have everything I want to have unfair advantages financial or genetic that got them there.... while despite working like a pig my life seems to keep falling apart for literally no reason.... it's like someone is actively trying to ruin everything for me.... I just hate living like this 😢
Your content has helped me as I’m going through another bout of major depression/anxiety. Thank you, Scott, for your transparency and compassion. I completely agree with you on what matters most in life ♥️. Please keep posting these. I’m pretty certain you are helping many out there, including me. God bless you.
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One of the best channels! 🙌🏼
You're the best!
Scott, I am with your take on this topic - you are a real human being. Thank you for sharing your life and thoughts.
I wish there were more people asking these themselves these type of questions😮 in this life the most prevailing emotion i felt was being alone in my life / not surrounded ny like minded people 😢
Love you Scott! Have been watching for years! I still stand by that you saved my life
Thank you, Scott as always so helpful and inspiring! I'm 22 but I've dealt and still dealing with so many issues through my life traumas, health issues, anxiety and depression. I really never expected to be doing so bad in my twenties. And I always compare myself to people my age who seems to have figure it out, life and i'm just stuck here in my bubble struggling. But what if I had things that they do? Maybe there's nothing at the top of the mountain, I'll try to enjoy my present. Thank you!! God bless you 🙏🏻❤️
hey there ! im 23 and also struggle with my mental health and have questioned myself just the same 🥹 the visual of struggling in a bubble and everything ive said to myself many times word for word i swear but seeing it typed out hits different i guess. i don’t know you but it felt unfair. and i realized how unkind that expectation is to hold against myself. so I’d like to say just in reading those few words you wrote i can guess how resilient and strong you are because managing things like anxiety and depression is no small feat. on top of that when our health is rocky it adds to the work we need to do to just feel steady. again that’s my perspective and I don’t know you but the mind can be pretty mean. whenever i start comparing my life to those my age and i point out my failures or lack of whatever it may be my mom likes to joke that i am so severe and i talk as if my life has ended. she tells me i can try again tomorrow. she’s 51. she might have a point 😂 you’re not alone and im wishing you the best on your journey
@@mitchieee143 hello mitchie and thank you for the reply so sorry actually this resonates with you because I know how hard this actually is, and there's no words to explain how it actually feels to battle those things on daily basis.. But you're right seeing someone having simmillar experience hits different like we're not alone 🥺 Mind is the best tool we have and yet we use it the worst. And yes comparing ourselves really just adds more pain to everything which is unneccessary. But you mom is right lol we can try tomorrow and be better ❤️ wishing you all the best too and I hope you find your peace and joy!! (sorry if i had mistakes english isn't my first language)
Life is a scam. In the end, there is nothing to win. Our parents lied to us.
Thank you, for you being pure and honest❤ Its so healing and refreshing.
Why dont I achieve more in life? I honestly dont know, I do wonder occacionly about thay, and I do know I find comfort and happiness in enjoying the now, enjoying my life and the journey with all the little suprises that come along my way.
But this does not mean my mind/innerchild/mini me, need comfort and moments to sit with the panick and anxiety that comes along my way.
Thank you for this. I’m a recent college graduate and I have my full time career which is what I’ve always wanted and another part time job. Both jobs are in the field that I love and enjoy. But I was wondering why I was feeling this way and was I the only one?
Your words makes me feel less heavy. Thank you
I get that we cannot avoid suffering in life. But I also do get that some extent, we choose to suffer.
You're right. Our lives are like hiking. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. I hope you stay healthy all the time!😁
These podcasts are GOLD
thank you Carly!
Graduated my masters with the job i'd grinded for and lo and behold: I felt no different after getting the offer.
Then got fired and had to pick up the pieces in the last year.
It's the game of expectations and it's tough when comparing with others.
In a world we face things alone but the hard part is telling people on the internet you are being yourself and it's your freedom your internet your money your devices to be hunted by sick people is draining
One of the best videos I have watched ever. I promise myself to enjoy the path and not only long for the end goal. Live every day to the fullest and be me. To deepen my awareness and work on the important relationships I have with others, on what truly matters. Thanks Scott for amazing content.
thank YOU for your support
Thanks for sharing you story, this video is very helpful.
Thank you Scott .. 🙏🏽 this content is so much needed ! realness, in depth, god’s grace and so much wisdom we all need to hear ! A reality check of truth is what we’re missing in today’s society
I feel like finally someone talks about what I was feeling inside. Now I´m feeling connected with what this sense of void and lack of expectations guides me. Cheers from Brasil
This is a more sick version of what you said. I went through a lot of pain to do something I was coerced to promise years ago, which was already irrelevant but I thought if I do it I will finally feel a weight lifted. And the funny thing when I did it, a new weight popped up and replaced the old one, which I totally didnt expect and I was crushed for couple of hours thinking Im never gonna get out of this vicious cicle, but I have no strenght or desire to keep doing this. Somehow I managed to let it go and move on, but it taught me how our minds can really mess with us, and there is no end to it if you let your thoughts control you.
Thank you so much ❤
Brilliant i was there today is this all there is ? Its crazy we go back qnd forth we are whole and at peace and then back to messed up
This video is so relatable. I came into uni / medschool here in Switzerland (had to pass an entrance exam), with high expectations of like yeah new chapter, makin lots of friends, but it was suuuch a letdown, making real friends is so much harder than I thought (I have acquaintances at least but long term it's unfulfilling), got heavily overwhelmed by the course load and fell into such a pit of depression. Despite that I still managed to pass the first semester, still struggling with depression till today, but I'm putting effort to get out of it, reaching out for help. Keeping expectations lower/leaving it for surprise has been a much better mentality too, yes.
I feel like" this is it "? Moment every day every hour almost all the time recently . M i expecting more from life or i need change?
Feeling numb is the worst ...
SCOTT! So what IS MLA ?!!
Thankyou for this today =)
You have found a way to help people - THAT has great meaning and purpose - well done - and thankyou.
Sometimes our 'acheivements', valuable and useful as they are, aren't always what ultimately lead us to where we need to be.
Everything we have ever done in life adds to how we are in this World.
A wondrful gift is realising we are happy and fulfilled where we are now and this is where we belong for now.
I love the saying : Find a job you love and you will never work again.
Till then, I guess, work to put bread on your table. Be good to others and to yourself and pray for the guidance to find your true place and purpose. I hope and pray we can all find that peace. And it might not be where we ever thought it could be.
I see so many comments here sounding so low and dispairing.
I wish I could say just the right thing to help you feel better and find YOUR way.
This is where Scott has a great gift and is doing his best to share his wisdom with you. Let the gold land.
And Scott! Well done for climbing Ben Nevis! In the snow! In shorts!
The summits can be surprising.
Ben Nevis is the highest mountain in Scotland. And our special weather adds to the challenge.
Our Mountain Rescue have a thing or two to say about that!
At times the route up Ben Nevis can look like the hens march to the midden - there are so many people wanting to climb this one peak - and that's fine - but as in all countries, there are many many lovlier and very rewarding mountains to climb. Quiet ones with views that will live with you forever =)
Next time you are in Scotland ask in whatever mountaineering shop (try Graeme Tiso) what is everyone's favourite walk or climb and give one of those a shot.
Good to avoid midges - early in the spring is best but watch out for the weather taking a fierce turn! And have the right gear - warm trousers, water proofs and stout walking boots, a compass and MAP! And walking companions.
Next time you are in Edinburgh climb Arthur's Seat or Blackford Hill for a grand view in all directions and a short walk after to a pub!
It doesn't always snow. Sometimes the sky is clear and the effort and the summit and all the bits in between are amazing =) Enjoy!
Thanks Scott - this one really lifted my spirits =)
Great video! ❤
Just what I needed to hear 😭
Scott your videos are Amazing, it feels like you connecting mentally and physically with your audience!
Beautiful metaphor at the beginning! thanks for the video!
Amazing truths you speak 🙌🏻
Great videos , great inspiration , keep it up . 🙂
Amen 😊 good one 👏🏽
Love you bro ❤
Just because you I can overcome my anxiety
I will have 🙋♀️
I have started over more times then I have fingers. I m okay being alone taking care of animals and watching children grow up . But not helicopter them because I refuse tlo be there barden they are to young anf still need mee. But one day they will do just fine with me
I always say "I'm the ocean but people and society only want puddles." There is no place for me on this planet. I'm tired of looking and I'm out of money to afford medication/living expenses.
Wait, people actually out there achieving their goals? Wtf. I've never managed to reach any of mine and it's always because of shit I couldn't control.
Guess I need to make goals like "climb a mountain" instead of "find a job that fits my needs".
Yeah, I never expected to retain into 4 completely different industries trying to find a career that I could do and enjoy.
Then again I never expected to find out I'm autistic and ADHD in my 30s after burning out so bad it trashed my health that I'll never recover from.
I think the biggest let down is that free will doesn't exist. The second biggest is that it doesn't matter how much effort or work I put into something, or how many different ways I try, it's never ever enough.
I have nothing left to try or give, and I have no one to help me. Life's just not worth it.
God retirement would be the greatest blessing.
Even before I collapsed and everything blew up I was aiming for self funded retiree, but then I've never been a person that made my identity around a job title.
I'm so bad at APA. Take care, Scott.
Can you make a video talking about friendship, expectations, reliance, entitlement and vulnerabilities?
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Great video! Did you do a hair transplant ? ☺️
Maybe the real mountain was the friends we made along the way
Love it! Not the destination, it’s the company 🎉
It doesn't matter.
Nothing matters everything is just disappointing
it's a good waffle shirt though.
lmfaoooo
Only god can help
I hope 🍀...
I am 44 and I just was having this conversation with my daughter who is 15, today. I realized at 28 how I put everything into my parents being there interpreter because they are Deaf, I never thought my life would have been different. When my father died unexpectedly, we lost the family business, home, and self-identity overnight. We were homeless. Everything that I thought was real was gone .My ex boy friend at the time was there for me but not really. Next thing I am pregnant at 28 and we are married. I thought okay 8 can do this rebuild like my dad taught me but in reality I was fooled. 20 years later he says he never loved me , he was just being kind, yet he had no kindness for me but he did for otthers . Never understood why, I thought it was his PTSD / TBI but no it wasn't. He just viewed me as a sad thing he felt responsible for yet able to treat badly l. And here I am deeply inlovel thinking woe what a Honorable man to make the sacrifices he made. Surly I can sacrifice my career goals for now until our family is raised and he is a better mental place. No here we are our home in foreclosure as he wants a divorce is going to happen because I rather be alone and depressed then shamed and treat badly in front of other woman. No career, high anxiety, depression, and it's all black now all u can do is just remind myself to breath and move because I do day dream about what isitallfor