It is sad that our society is like “ooo I am depressed ✌🏼” and just push the people that are in danger to the side. Or that’s how I felt...that might be just me
I've functioned with it for the past 2 years, and I seriously started cracking several months ago bc no one knew and the weight was just dragging me down and no one seemed to really understand or want to listen and I'm a perfectionist, so I need to take care of this on my own and if I don't then I'm weak and incapable of doing one thing properly on my own.
Well u are nervous and lazy but its not ur fault they are right but not about the fact its just you not wanting to do something you just feel really bumed out about everything
I get yelled at everyday for being lazy and not wanting to do anything. I lay in bed until 12 pm on the weekends, and my parents say that "i'm being lazy" and "i need to focus on school" not even noticing something's off.
I can't focus on school task that were so easy just months ago, I'm forgetting things easily, losing concentration. Get anxious almost all time abt myself. My parents : Stop making excuses. Enough. Study, work harder. Your life depends on your grades. Can't u get atleast these much. Look at your friends, they're doing so well and they go to the same school, study the same curriculum with the same coaching classes. Why can't you be like them?
@@kristyfay5854 same here, but I get up early because I am afraid to be judged by my parents and because If I stay in bed too much my anxiety gets worse
Chances are you are just hormonal. I thought depression was a faze. I thought it would pass. That’s been well over ten years now. When it’s long term like this, you know it’s “real” and not just relative or hormonal imbalance.
Me too. Being on the phone helps me to suppress my emotions and act normal around everyone. When im not on my phone i feel like crying and become anxious.
I remember seeing a quote that went something like this: if a person seems to freak out over something totally insignificant, and jump from 0 to 60 in emotion, then you have failed to notice how long they have been at 59 And if that doesn’t describe me idk what does
Heer Malvi Basically it means that if someone freaks out over something insignificant it usually means they were already dealing with other stuff and the little insignificant thing was the last straw
@@rachie2456 i m so depressed i didn't even ask any kind of question to My parents And I never ask my parents for what i Wanted to do Or Even What dress i want
honestly, school is one of the main reasons kids have depression. school made me get diagnosed with anxiety and depression. I don't get bullied. I just, I don't know how I got it. just one day I felt weird and nervous.
Me too. Everything started when I was only 11 years old. I got treated like I was nothing, in middle school. Not by other students but by my teachers. Yes, the people who where supposed to help me and guide me. They did their best to remember me everyday that I was "different", I was the easy target... I'm in a wheelchair due to important health issues (fortunately, I'm still able to walk despite it being difficult). I had to spend more time in the hospital or at home resting, than in school. They didn't accept it. They were so rude, mean, cruel... I told my parents about the situation, they were amazing and immediately told the school. But saddly, even after getting "rig" of them, I'm still hurt. I just can't seem to forget. I was once a happy girl, always got amazing grades, shy but made friends easily. And now that I'm almost 18... School literally makes me sick. It feels like I've been stuck in here for an eternity. I just want to go home, cry in my mom's arms like a kid and fall asleep until this nightmare ends. But thank God, I never lost the will to live. I'm so grateful about this. In all these painful moments, there's a little voice inside my head who tells me to keep going. That I'll someday be happy. Not to let depression win. I'm still young, after all. So, I believe it.
Yea, I do just because it will be graded and I can't have bad grades if I want to get where I want to be. I'm also the only one in my class that really does that in every subject and who answers about 50-60% of the questions asked to our class on just about any given day. The only thing I really wan't to do is stay home and draw or read under my bench.
In most of my classes, participation grade just means you were paying attention, not disrupting class and taking sufficient notes, which is good bc I'm super shy and hate speaking up
+Dorothy May I face so many stress from school and my personal life in general. Everyday passes so quickly. Too much time required for school, homework and learning wins compared to too little time we have for ourselves. Has the same thing struck you?
+Stefan Panić m Not exactly, I do get stressed from school, my personal life, homework and when teachers ask you a question about the topic and you know but you say you don't know instead of having a go. But I do have some time to myself and when I have time to myself, I don't know what to do.
The scary thing is, it's starting younger and younger. I started showing signs of depression when I was only 10. I wish schools were more understanding.
Exactly! I was having suicidal thoughts when I was only 9 and I had no idea what suicide even was. My parents thought I was being "over dramatic" and didn't understand that I needed and still need help (I'm 13 now btw)
I told my parents about my depression, they yelled at me for 20 minutes about why i never told them, and how I am over reacting. While i was crying in to my pillow. Now they are wondering why i don't talk to them about my mental health. Ps to everyone who is in the same situation the app 7 cups helped me a lot. It’s especially good if you want to talk to someone anonymously, but if you have bigger mental health issues then a therapist is best. Though 7 cups is free and worth checking out. And also I am here if you ever wanna talk.
I am in the same situation. I just acted like it was nothing after that and pretended that everything's okay because my parents don't try to understand no matter how calmly I try to explain. Hopefully, we both can get through this.
Ha, yeah. More like getting your life laid out for you and then people wondering why you aren't happy. It's like they want the best for your future by deciding your future. And then they say you don't know whats good for you. Well maybe not, but I know I want to be in control of my life
@@James_debusi Some times... My depression was caused by not being heard, listened to, being bullied, and being blamed for my grandmothers suicide attempt.
Dayi You’re right. I do sound like a brat. I just sometimes feel tired of having my life dictated for me. I KNOW other people have it off worse then I do. Believe me, I do. So that’s why I sound so....serious about my own perineal issues I guess. Because a lot of the time people don’t listen to what I have to say, and I’ve stopped taking myself seriously. So when there’s just a small chance other people will listen to my thoughts, I take it. I over think things way too much. Clearly I didn’t think that comment through, and thank you for pointing out how shallow and bratty that sounded. Next time I’ll be sure to sound as grateful as possible. I know depression is more then feeling like everyone is dictating your life for you. There are so many other things it can be. When you’ve lost the will to do anything, because anything you do is useless and there’s no point to it because you’re dying anyways. Just lie on the bed staring at the ceiling telling yourself to get things done but there’s no reason to. Why talk when everyone around you seems to know what you want? Why try when everyone seems to know what you’re aiming for? Why try at all? Wouldn’t it be better to just slip away? Do you know what a filler friend is? I was that. I am that person. I know that sounds....laughable. But it’s given me issues with talking about my life. I would look around and hear all these people essentially complaining about their lives. And if I talked, would I be complaining about senseless things as well? “Oh no, I don’t like what happened to that celebrity.” “That shopping trip was unsatisfactory.” “I didn’t want this for lunch.” “My friends are useless.” “I wish I had a better roommate.” This is the only thing of substance I felt I had (I’m not trying to guilt trip anyone). The only qualifying thing, y’know? Share about equal (not equal, but you get the idea) suffering and suddenly be among people who understand you. If you’re still reading Dayi, I just wanted to let you know I completely understand how the comment sounded. I appreciate you pointing it out. And I’m just trying to figure out how to get my voice heard. I’m still figuring out whether my voice matters or is important. And your comment didn’t really help with it (okay here’s the possibly offensive part where you call me a brat, selfish, egotistical etc again and I deserve it). If I can’t complain about this type of thing without being judged, will I really think other thoughts are important as well? This has been such a major part of my life that anything else...I just...it’s not important anymore is it. So many people are suffering. So many other people are worse off then me. What right do I have to claim some of that pain and say, “here, my life is bad.” What right do I have to do that? I don’t. I don’t have a right to do that. Sometimes I think I should just off myself and make room for other people who actually deserve to talk about their pain and suffering.
My mom calls me crazy when I break down, or start to shake and cry. Or when I tell her I'm freaking out over something she says I'm fine and need to get over it. I absolutely love my mother, she just doesn't get that I have social anxiety and depression...
Awkwardmarine is chill its the opposite for me. I don't care but my mom starts crying and my dad gets mad at me for making my mom cry. Or if I tell him he gets mad or starts making fun of it
What kind of sick person makes fun of the weight of a teenager. You my friend are the reason why young kids develop low self esteem and depression. Get a life. Megan your an amazing person and don't listen to what anyone has to say. Probably just trying to feel better about themselves
Krystina Cabral No their parents are the reason for enabling their unhealthy habits. Most obese kids come from families full of obese people, obese pets and probably depression. This stuff runs in families and the same kids always get picked on for a reason.
The really sad thing is that a lot of kids claim to be depressed bc they think its cool or something?????? So when someone comes forward and says they're depressed when they actually are, everyone thinks they just want attention.
Bella Struthers I want to say I have it and I need help, and I wouldn’t come forward and speak but I feel like I have no on to talk to. Except you get the general idea....so I just don’t say anything. Just talk to friends or family who you trust, I guess?
When I grow up I want to stop this. This entire thing with school is awful and it is madness. Someone needs to stand up for us teens and I will do it if no one else does.
I have never responded to negative comments before because I honestly feel that is a waste of time, however for everyone making comments about this inspirational 16 year old high school YOUNG girl about her weight truly blows my mind. If her weight is the only characteristic you got from this clip that is a shame. She is so brave to stand up in front of a crowd and expose her personal story in order to make the world a more peaceful place. I personal know this amazing person and I am so proud of her acts of kindness and efforts for helping others. I wish there were more people in this world like Megan and I can't wait for her bright future!
Freddy Grunwald That's what she was talking about. When talking about Depression, everybody would be like "it's all about chemical imabalance in brain, mental health problems, something in genes" but I think the environment and the dictators and criticizers found in the society, in everywhere is a major reason behind every root of teenage depressions. I love this message by her and as one of having a depression, I 100% agree. Society should all have to be more open minded and get a better and utmost understanding into depression, so anyone who experiences it may be comfortably tell somebody about it, not feeling afraid that others would not seriously consider it, telling you're just lazy, overreacting and lack of attention. That's the phobia of the sufferers so in the end they decide to just keep it from self until they couldn't contain it anymore and eventually decide to end his/her life. Someone ended his/her life without being understand
sigh I hope you guys are being sarcastic. there are different types of depression, but when it stays for too long, and you only have a few normal days anymore, it becomes more than something that just comes and goes
Pedro Piranda, depression comes and may go. I've known it for most of my life, and it's possible to get out of it, to get better. So it 's not an irreversible thing; hope. faith and love.
i actually hate prince soo.... yeah, I agree with most comments here, depression is not a mood (and for thoes who know, Boyinaband is the most awesome ytber ever)
I am really sorry this is happening too you, that therapist is not understanding what is going on. Please, if you can you should see another therapist. You are not alone, stay strong please.
You aren't lazy unless you know you should do something, but you want to focus on something more enjoyable. If you don't have the mental or physical energy, or just feel too drained to focus, that isn't laziness. Please know the difference I don't want you blaming even more things on yourself.
I had my first suicidal thought when I was like 6 or 8 after my cat died, I asked my mom if "I killed myself I would go and see kitty", she said yes but she added "If you do that, kitty will be very sad, don't make kitty sad okay?"
I wish I could love her like back then, these days she's getting crazier and it drives me nuts, I might limit contact when I move out cause of the way she made me feel. I'll always miss past mom tho
I had my first suicidal thought when I was 11 or 12 yrs and it was because my dad died in 2015 when I was 11 yrs... I wanted to be with my dad n had same thought as u but I didn't harm myself until 2019.... in 2019 I couldn't take it any more n just made a cut in my hand... I don't even know if I am depressed or not... I really want to know about it tho.... could any one help to know.
@@swastikamaharjan5449 I'm not exactly an expert on this, but if you could find a therapist that works for you they might be able to help. I'm so sorry you've had to go through all of that. Remember that you are always loved and supported, even if it's by strangers on the internet. Stay strong.
People who have depression are so good at hiding their feelings to the point that they don’t even know they’re depressed, I think I’m probably one of them...
@@chichichichi9838 I have that same question, but for myself. I sometimes think about it, then I want to cry because I think of what it would be like for my family afterwards, especially my sister.
my hairdresser (around the age of 50) told me “teens can’t be depressed, they haven’t even experienced life yet”. she said that to me after i told her i was going to therapy. it felt like a huge slap in the face. i no longer get my hair done by her :)
Well if I’ve barely experienced life yet then I better jump the gun and shoot myself because it is not getting better at this rate. (Don’t worry I won’t be yet, people need me)
‘ oh everyone your age is going through the same thing’ THEN EVERYONE AROUND ME MUST BE INSANELY SAD AND DEPRESSED. CAUSE THATS HOW I FEEL. and I know that it’s not normal.
Deep down everyone hurts to a certain extent I think but it’s just about how comfortable they are exposing that part of them and actually looking for help. It’s only when the pain gets all consuming and when u can’t manage it and u feel like your drowning that u can’t ignore it and really bring attention to it. Sorry this makes no sense I can’t really articulate that well lol i hope we all feel better eventually
same! I never could align myself with that argument, if we’re all feeling this bad, maybe we should look into how to get us all resources to get better, but it doesn’t mean my problems suddenly diminish
I'm not good at english, but here I go. A week ago, I was taking my prozac pills after breakfast, (I've been dealing with some problems after getting into college and had to see a therapist who told me to talk to a doctor about my mental health and the doctor told me he'll see if these pills work). My uncle saw me and asked what they were for, I was scared to tell him, but anyway I did. His wife heard it and she started lecturing me about how I was faking the whole thing, and that I should go outside and "do something productive for my life". I'm not talking to that woman ever again.
My school counselor said the same thing when I went to her for help...I was not depressed, I guess ,but I just wanted someone or anyone to talk to about my worries and queries and I didn't have anybody reliable so I went ahead with all the courage I had at that time and that's when I realized I am never gonna talk to anyone about my true thoughts again. Maybe she was trying to help me but I am so sorry it didn't help.
I fight it. I fighted thus my hole life and i told and got yelled at and called names 100 times. I say you have to fight it. Fight it. If you need a hand tell your school. You have to. If you are suisital then tell some one. Plz
I'm 14 and yesterday I hid in the bathroom during lunch because of my social anxiety. I wish schools had actual classes like health class to address depression and anxiety because isn't suicide as bad as getting pregnant as a teenager?!?! I'm sorry, but a lot of teachers and schools gloss over these things just because they're not in the textbooks. WE EXIST. WE ARE GROWING, which worries me because NOBODY should suffer these things and nobody should be forced to hide it because "being sad is weak" or "not normal" or whatever. I'm fed up. EDIT: i’m 17 now! doing so much better. it was tough but i feel like i know how to handle my mental health now :) i am way stronger
I’m thirteen and I’ve been hiding in the bathroom until the bell rang for 1st period and during lunch. Because Of my anxiety. Whenever I hear someone talking about someone I always have the feeling there talking about me and I have trouble getting out of bed in the morning because I know I have to go to school. Anxiety is real and not just a feeling of being a little stressed, and I’m sick of people telling me to just get over it because it’s not a choice.
Suicide is “worse” than pregnancy. After all, you’ve closed the book- that’s the end, whatever your thoughts on afterlife. You do have to forgive the curriculum- it’s more than fifty years old, and next to no changes in technique or approach have been implemented. School is designed to train students for factory life- 8-5 work days, bells, hour periods, “sit down, shut up, and listen” attitude about the whole thing.
I will say, it isn’t true for everyone (my friend is depressed and cries a lot), but for some it’s painfully true. I can’t cry 99% of the time. It’s extremely rare to occur. I feel you
I've gotten told that I don't appear sad so nothing is wrong. When really, I go through these weird periods of being overly emotional and then feeling nothing. It sucks when the only people who understand are on the internet
Exactly I stay awake till atleast 3 am I try to cry to release the pain but just can i sometimes smile while tears are literally running like tap water from my eyes
In my case, yes you're right....recently my maternal grandfather passed away. My mother couldn't stop crying, my younger sister couldn't stop crying but me....It felt like I don't have any tears left to cry now. Maybe I'm way too insensitive or maybe this was the reason I couldn't cry that time. During the final ritual of my grandfather, my mother asked me how can I not cry and I had nothing to say maybe because I couldn't express how I was feeling and if I would express then I already knew what my parents' reaction would be so I didn't try at all.
Sometimes a stranger will understand because they have no expectations of you and don't view you in the way they want you to be. I personally find it easier to talk to strangers online about these kinds of things because there isn't the same kind of pressure that comes from people you know not accepting a certain part of you.
I feel depressed and insane all I do is wake up at 6:30 walk to my bus stop 20 minutes away wait get on the bus get to school go to first period through 7th then get on the bus get to my stop walk 20 minutes and just pass out I do this everyday for 5 years already and I'm I feel like I'm going crazy
yea... you should check out my channel I made it to talk about it one on one with someone, I have so much to say... but I can't say it in public chat because I know I'll hurt a lot of people with these words
I have to pay $5 for the bus that 40-50 from home to school and I do this every day, I am crazy but not depressed knowing that I have at least a transport to come and go and also knowing that this ain't forever. Soon if you accept going through the challenge of completing school and getting and a good job you'll have your own car and so will I. What you know about depression if you have a family and food while kids in africa and hobos don't?
Salad treatment is one of my many suggestions. Talking to a school councilor and getting information to lead to it will help ALOT. It's been 4 and a half months since I was admitted and was in North Star for a month. It took a couple of weeks for me to fully put myself in the treatment plan, but it really flipped a switch when the staff and other patients helping me through it. I've had depression since I was in 4th grade. And I'm a junior in high school and amazing staff members that understand what I'm dealing with and are willing to change up some assignments or let me sit with them for work things through. I know this is really long but if you want more information or tips and advice, my email is nataliadevlin99@gmail.com
Jajaziel8amtz Suffering is common in humans, and it's all legitimate if you're struggling. What you should not do is compare people's suffering..apples and oranges. Help yourself and others instead.
I have felt this way since school started. I agree with you so much I just feel like I'm trapped in the system of school and society. I'm so overwhelmed with pressure and I don't know what to do.
I completely understand the feeling of being trapped or unable to progress because everything around you feels so heavy. I would suggest talking to someone at school or home- having an outlet to just let all of your feelings out was incredibly helpful for me. I would also suggest trying various breathing techniques to calm down if you ever get super overwhelmed- I use this app to help me sleep and it has lots of cool options for meditation and stuff. Feel free to E-mail me if you would like to connect. Meganshinnick1@gmail.com I am happy you agree with me and hope you found this talk helpful :)
hannah m its funny that those who Claim to have Depression are mostly kiddos that hate school. Cause of people Like you Depression is being made Fun of. It disgusts me to see comments like that cause i Know people that Just wanna slit their fucking throat cuz they got fucked over by life so hard and here you sit cryin over the Big Bad School system.
My mom yells at me sometimes because she asks me why I’m depressed, I try to tell her it’s because of her and my dads divorce even though it’s not the reason, and then she takes me to therapy again and again, I hate being there, the therapist always says things like “oh it’s gonna be fine you just need to look at the bright side of things, when I was little I had this too” honestly I hate EVERY SINGLE ONE of my therapists, they don’t understand that depression sometimes has no particular reason sometimes it’s just life that’s too hard and the pressure you get sometimes is too much to handle...
my mom tells me im a spoiled and ungrateful brat whenever i cry (i have autism so i get overwhelmed sometimes) and none of my "friends" care about me and they tell me i need to grow up and im too sensitive cuz i told them that they hurt my feelings once and made fun of my sisters death..... so yeah i dont show any emotions anymore and now i dont really feel them anymore either :/ BTS is the only reason i haven't gone crazy cuz they help me cope with my anxiety so im really grateful for that...i try to stay positive all the time but its not easy expectaily when you have an "illness" that many people refuse to understand... if you're struggling i promise you there is something out there that can help you. always love yourself, and speak yourself 💜💜
I like this girl. she takes the aggressive way to approach suicide, depression, and anxiety. I like how she tells instead of asks what we're gonna do to prevent it, because I do better when I have instructions. I myself am fighting depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts for at least an hour about 3 times a week. I have yet to attempt suicide, but I don't want my parents to find out about it. today, one of my friends was like "if you're suicidal and you know it clap your hands" and the teacher told him "let's not say that because there are actual kids who have commit suicide here" and I said "or thought about it" and raised my hand. then the teacher talked to me and said "hey are you in a better place now?" and I tried to take it lightly and said "haha no" and he asked me "have you tried talking to a counselor about it?" and I started tearing up and mumbled "no" and walked away faster and tried to avoid him as much as possible after that. in that moment I wanted to turn around to him and just cry into his shoulder, because I wanted to say how just about 3 weeks ago I had contemplated suicide for 4-5 hours straight, and that was the first time I _really_ thought about it. he was the teacher I could tell just about anything to because he treats the students as if they were at the same social level as himself. I wanted to spill everything that has happened to me since the beginning of the school year, and just cry. I can tell other friends and people like that but it was never a good time, and I missed that chance to just talk to someone about me and me only. when I talk to friends about problems, it always turns around to them and their problems at home or whatever, it never just stays on me. but I have tried a few counselors and they didn't do anything except set goals and do stupid shit I didn't want to do. I just wanted to talk to someone and trust them with everything. plus, counselors may be professionals, but they're complete strangers. I need a school like hers with that kind of program but sadly none of the schools in my district really care about that. they have a crisis counselor but he only shows up after a tragedy happens. either, schools need a program like her school, or they need to teach students how to fully deal with a situation where a friend tells them "I'm going to kill myself" because we're all told to get the person a professional but what if they have anxiety about meeting new people? you can't just tie them down and make them talk, so we all need someone we trust to be able to handle things like that.
It's great that you shared your story. I personally deal with severe anxiety and I find that it gets so much better when I talk to people about it. Friends family or my therapist. If you want to talk i would gladly listen to you and help you. My instagram is tantinaa_ and seriously send me a message there if you want it would be awesome to become internet friends. Much love
Megan Johnson As long as you think about it, you aren’t gonna do that. I actually made a game out of it. How many ways could I kill myself with the things I have? It became more and more ridiculous. Three hours in, I actually had a crazy thought. “So, I’m gonna make a trap magic stair case that makes you go faster for every steps you take. By the time I reach the top, I’m gonna go so fast that I break physics and recreate the Big Bang”. Seriously though. The more time you spend actively thinking or talking suicide, the less time you have in silence. Silent thoughts and idle hands- those are the real killers. In my two attempts, I have no recollection of events. My first attempt at seven I didn’t know what I was doing. I thought a three story drop would kill me. No, not even a three story drop killed me. I spent a year recuperating and cost the parents thousands. Second attempt at nineteen- and my greatest shame. Dunno how I survived drinking that much alcohol. It’s probably just my atrocious math that saved me. Just enough to pass out, go into coma, and starve to death. Or, enough to wake up a week later and nobody having any idea what happened to me. Thankfully, I’m a famous hard sleeper. Long, depressing story averted.
Hey, @Chris Wedemann I hope you're well right now. I'm sorry for what you went through. I wish I could hug that seven-year-old and that nineteen-year-old, and well... just you. Stay safe, okay? Also, saying 'sorry' probably doesn't help much. I wish knew what to say instead.
"It is just a phase." No it's not, now take me seriously, please. When i start crying, don't look at me like I'm an alien. Because I'm not. Now take me seriously 'cause I'm wanting to tell you something. No, stop laughing in my face, please. Oh never mind, you'l never get it...
ME: im tired MOM: shouldnt have stayed up too late ME: im full MOM: shouldnt have eaten too much ME: i cant MOM: your lazy MOM: your not healthy, look at your body ME: *has anxiety, self doubt* ok...
My parents told me to just grow up, and they think that when I'm having a breakdown I'm just acting and being dramatic to get out of some big project or important test. They don't get it.
At my school we have a thing called "No Self Harm Contract" really, that's the actual title. When I was forced to sign it I felt humiliated. I felt so weak. I hated it so much and it is so traumatizing to walk by that door and to even see it. The counselors don't do anything helpful, they make you sign a contract and give you a list of hospitals to go to. They don't realize how humiliating it is to have that given to you and how they don't actually care. When I was in that room with my friend having the worst panic attack of my life and oh boy, she didn't fucking care. I want to get help, really, I do but not in the way that I did that day. Our school thinks that instead of actually consoling, helping, calming the students they make it worse. They call themselves professionals at this, instead they are absolutely shit at it. My different friend had to go over there and sign the contract as well and now has to be sent to California for a MH. I'm pissed, they can't fucking do their job. They are just sending kids left and right without actually trying to help them and calling it "helping". "Bridge" actually sounds a lot better and I would've gone to that program instead of my shit school counselors.
My school has like 'don't do drugs and alcohol' contracts and I know this is different from depression but it's still so dumb how they think that a contract would actually help. I think it's just to assure themselves nothing will happen. If there's ever a 'no self harm contract' or 'no depression or anxiety contract' at my school, I would stare the principal in his eyes and tell him I won't be signing it because a contract won't help or do anything
Honestly I think counselors shouldn’t even be called counselors. If they don’t have the experience of having an mental illness I don’t think they should become one. Since they cannot understand us they just nod their head and give us advice that could be googled by ourselves. They are useless. Really.
You gotta understand that position, though. To see the same fifteen or twenty students every day, for the same problems as yesterday? It doesn’t matter what you do or you say, these kids just don’t seem to want to get better when the reality is much more complex and medically dense than the average school counselor can even comprehend.
Raven Sims my counselor never asked me what was actually wrong he just made me sign a contract and called my parents and told them everything after he had promised me not to tell anyone. Mind you I was 11 yrs old
I remember fighting with my mum and accidentally saying that I’m suicidal then she said “well if you want to die, then go die” that broke me. I went to my room and cried then I came back and told her “you can’t just tell someone that they can go kill themselves‘ she then screamed at me and told me that I’m over dramatic she doesn’t believe me at all. The only thing that helped me cope with everything is my iPad I’m 12 btw, she took my iPad away from me you might think that this doesn’t mean anything but I couldn’t get everything out of me, I couldn’t forget, and I couldn’t feel safe when I’m around my parents mostly my mum. I don’t know if I have Depression cause my parents don’t bother to check if I have depression. It pains me to hear them think that depression goes away and comes it’s just a “sadness” I just wish they’d check if I had depression. I watch CZcams videos to see if I have depression...thank you for reading
Happened once with my mum. Told me to choke myself ‘cos she didn’t believe me. I did. She hasn’t talked about it since. It’s not that she’s bad parent, sometimes she just doesn’t get it.
I feel like parents don’t always accept and or treat their kids right. If you’re feeling this way try to find someone to talk to. I started taking to someone when I was your age and it helped me a lot. Know that we’ll be here for you. :)
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When i was younger and i heard about suicides, i kept asking myself why ANYONE would ever want to kill themselves. I mean you're given a life, go live it. A few months back, my loved one passed away unexpectedly. Initially, i felt ok. I thought i was ok. And then anxiety and depression hit me right in the mind. They hit me fast, and i didnt know what was happening to me. I was drowning and i didnt know what to do. My mind was constantly filled with the scariest thoughts that could push me past the edge of a high building, and i was crying everyday, trying SO hard to look around and feel safe, to feel okay again. I was alone, i told myself that people will only call me crazy, and i didnt deserve the attention. I got everything i wanted and yes, i am priviliged. Yet everyday i come home with my mind only overthinking everything, and bringing me to my knees, flooding me with tears as i sort my way through all the delusions present. It hurts, and it is SO difficult. All the respect to every teenager battling mental illnesses, its beyond scary and to get through it, you must be the strongest warriors alive.
I've suffered from depression since I was 12 years old. I'm now almost 21 and now have severe depression. If schools had programs for mental illness, my depression most definitely would not have gotten this bad. When I was younger my parents wouldn't listen to me. Having school in the mix definitely would've opened their eyes to the problem I've been dealing with for years.
I've been going to the doctors for years telling them how I feel and I need help. And everytime I get hit with the same response. "It's just your age and hormones'."
That's what I feel I'll get. every time, making it trivial and dismissing it as if it doesnt matter and therefor they don't care about you which they probably don't then, or they just assume you're faking it, and then you can't explain the truth bc they won't believe you. I'm sorry for the rant, I hope you're better.
@Gillian BELLONI OTAYZA You'd think that... but sadly where I'm at they just want the quick fix. Pills. As if I'm the problem, but when depression in the world continues to rise and be at an all time high, its a problem with the system - a problem with society. But they will never admit that, and instead just say its a chemical imbalance. I'm now just trying to heal from within, which is a long journey.
My parents: *oh my god, poor kids. I wonder why are teens nowdays so depressed?* Me: *I feel sad..( trying to ask them what is wrong with me after telling them all my problems)* Also my parents: *Ugh just stop complaining so much! You're just being dramatic, it's just puberty!🙄* Me: *alright then.. 😕*
I told my brother I had depression and he was like. No you don’t. Guess what... 2 years later and a couple scars on my arm and I was diagnosed with severe depression
I was bullied so bad when I was in highschool .I was even pushed down the stairs.when I was walking home a group of guys started throwing rock's at me. and sexually harrassed after that.I ran home and I usually always say hi to my mom. but I didn't. I went straight to my room grabbed a razor and started slicing my arms up.I even went for my neck.. my mom was yelling my name.. she ran to my room and saw blood everywhere... that day I was called a fat emo queer. I was pushed down the stairs in the school and slapped around.. and the group of boys just has to finish it off. I remind you this was a on going thing for months.even years.. and I was.. that same day my mom has to drag me to her car and take me to the hospital.. I remember those days just like it was yesterday.. I would never want anyone to ever go through what I did.. but. I am now 21. and have been clean for almost a year now. and haven't thought about taking my life in almost 2 years! .. I have gone a long way. and I'm so glad I over came I what I did.
All of this from your narrative had really stricken me back to my own hardships in high school. I went through a similar scenario but the daunting pain and "harrassment" was from 'school authorities' who teased and abused already stressed students like me with last minute finals studying and the abusive hiatus of cornering an overwhelmed deception of narrowing every student as a suspect of domestic violence due to the recent shootings @ Lauderdale and Stoneman Douglas which reallly took toll in our academics.
I'm glad for you as well! I'm glad you had a mother who would help you, so you could make it through... I hope you have people in your life to support you! I pray that you stay healthy now.
sorry to hear that guys... i havent exprerienced depression only anxiety and never let myself think about suicide. But listen you can change. You have this power. Suicide is the end of the trip but you have the power to help youself. DO NOT EVER GIVE UP ON YOURSELF. YOU ARE ALL YOU GOT AND NOBODY ELSE IN THE WORLD IS MORE INMPORTANT THAN YOU!!!!!!Keep that in mind
My high school had a program similar to her Bridge program and I'd be the first to admit I would not be here today without the support I got there. We need better supports in place for students and all people, really, suffering with mental illness, just as we'd support those with physical illnesses such as cancer.
Those depressed have the brightest smiles... Because we don't want those we love to see us in pain or see the pain we feel because we don't want them to experience what we go through and we want to see them happy...
I have always thought that depression was just a side effect of puberty. I thought that once your done with puberty the depression goes away and that every teenager goes through it. Thank you for this because I didn't know before.
I always taught that depressed people are the best actors ever for acting like everything in their life's ok even if it's not, i really admire them for being so strong, i wish someday you guys get out of depression and finally find the happiness you desserve.
Trust me nothing is gonna happen. I am optimistic but we shouldnt see chimeric dreams that will bring nothing but dissappointment and melancholy. We do sth we dont take pride in and then die. This was not how life is supposed to be lived.
i wanna shine so much light on mental disorders except no one would listen. if i could chose what i'd want to learn about in school it would be things like depression, anxiety, OCD, how to do taxes not fucking useless shit like logarithms. i WANT TO LEARN about stuff that's important and helpful. i've never wanted to learn about anything. i've gave up on trying to be the perfect student. i already suffer when i don't put 100% effort in why should i put more in. it's to much. if i were to get. hospitalized for any reason i'd immediately think "what am i gonna miss in school?" and "how am i gonna make it up with such a little amount of time?" i wouldn't even question if i was gonna be okay or healthy. ask your coach, teacher, parent, almost ANYONE what your number one priority is. almost nobody would say your health (mental and physical). this is society and i fucking hate it. - just a "hormonal" teenager "going through a phase"
Robyn Sage its true. I got really bad tonsillitis this year and had to miss a day of school. and I was so so upset. it was my first time missing a day of school, I had missed school before but it was because of field trips or other school things, in three years. the reason why is because I refused to miss school. I couldn't do it. I knew I'd fall behind if I did. I go to school even when I don't feel well because if I didn't I know I'd miss things and if you miss things sometimes you can never catch back up in highschool.
I care about that! I currently study pedagogy but psychology is what i am really interested ! I have been through anxiety and have obsessions and compulsions. People need to learn more about that stuff. Time passes and generations change. Our generation has to pay attention and take care of psychological issues.
I have the same pet peeve.. I suffer major depressive. Disorder, I'm depressed (not sad). Always.. it's more severe at times or it's mild at times.. but it's ALWAYS there! So glad I heard your speech!! Keep up the great work!
I know a friend who once told me she had depression. (I'll call her X for now). I was legitimately worried about her. That night I spent hours searching online for different ways to deal with the disease just so I could help her, I was also reading several experiences from other victims just so I can get an idea on how she felt. After writing down a full page of notes she sent me a text: "I have depression, please don't talk to me." I was pretty taken aback by the text since I was her closest friend at the time. But I just thought that she needed some space and was more comfortable doing that alone. The next morning, I was lining up outside class for first period and a girl lined up behind me, starting a conversation. This was the short conversation: (Not exact but close to it) Person - "Hey, did you know that X had depression?" Me - "How did you know? Did she tell you?" Person - "She told everyone..." When X joined the line a few minutes later, I asked her why she was talking to people when she texted me last night telling me not to talk to her. She said, "My mom brought me to a therapist yesterday so I'm fine now." As you can see, many of the information above showed that she was faking her depression and only doing it for sympathy. Firstly, you don't tell everyone that you have depression, cause there is literally no point in telling everyone when you could just tell one person. Secondly, people with depression don't recover within one therapy session. Maybe that might be possible for other recovery methods like Hypnosis but I don't think therapy works that way. Especially since she sent me the text late at night. What sucks about this was that people believed her. Of course not everyone for some were sceptical. But there could be people with actual depression around her which is heartbreaking when the needed attention was given to the wrong people. This happened in seventh grade, which was a year ago.
"so you are depressed about what? Your life's perfect" You only know what I want you to, a persons life goes so much beyond than just what you see. A girl who smiles and says every morning 'Hello friends' she can be depressed. That boy who always sits in the corner with music, he can be depressed too. No, depression does not have the same impact in everyone, some people are better at hidding about their feelings. Now parents, stop saying to your kids that if you are sad you just dont have anything better to do or should go outside! Depression is not just a fase, not just something every teenage has, and it is NOT common in highschool. If you ever need friend, I am here, I wont get done with you, I will support you every second for the rest of our lifes if that is what you need. Remember to stay informed. Now sending love and positivity to you 💕 I love you and you got this!
I wish I could tell everybody that I love them. If you are reading this then I love you. And I'm not just saying that. No, you can never know that for sure but I beg for you to believe me.
In New Zealand, we have health school, which is a program for kids who can't attend school due to mental or physical illnesses. I'm about to enrol in this since I've had months off school due to depression & anxiety. I'm actually really surprised that in other countries, not all schools have programs that help kids like us. It's a shame that there are schools out there who don't support kids with these illnesses
My depression started with my mom starting to act abusive against my dad and then later I found out that her “love” for me was only a way for her to get me in her side instead of on my dads. She wanted her kids to love her more than we love our dad and this hurt my dad so much to the point that he wanted to die. And when I found all this out I resented her. To this day my parents are still together but they have talked about how they’ve been wanting to divorce for the past 5 years. My dad loves the kids and my mom just wants us as an object that she can take away from my dad. My brother is the only one left for her to legally take from my dad so I can tell that she treats him a million times better than any of the other kids. She gives him whatever he wants and always lets him win arguments that I or anyone else in the family have with him. I see what she is doing and I don’t want my brother to be a snobby boy who feels like he has all the power so I try my best to help him but my mom just cradles him and puts him on the podium labeling him #1 when he should be equal to all of us. I try my best to talk back to my mom because what she is doing is wrong but the real problem is that I’m not supposed to know this. My dad told me everything and if my mom found out that he told me she would leave and then I know that my dad would become suicidal. This is the trickiest thing I have ever been in and this and other things in my life have lead me to becoming very depressed. I’m planing on graduating this year (or next year 2019) and I’m not even sure what I’m going to do after I do graduate. I thought that i would go to college right after but my mental state is just not doing good at all and my mind is just clouded up so much to the point that I can’t think at all anymore. And I don’t want to waste money in college when I know that I’m going to fail the classes. Life’s tuff but sometimes it be like that
@CYNTHIA ZHANG thanks for the comment. Currently doing quite a bit better. Got the job I’ve been dreaming about for a while and it’s so far going great and pays well. I’m currently in the process of moving out. Just in the planning phase and saving money but I’ve saved 5k so far so it’s going great. I started talking to the crush of my dreams like I’ve crushed on her for 6 years and we were talking and hanging out for a solid month but haven’t talked much since then about 1 month we haven’t talked. But I just asked her if she wants to go see a movie and she said yes like right away so she isn’t over me or doesn’t wanna just ditch me. So maybe it can go somewhere. And it wasn’t just a crush and I never talked to her. Like I crushed on her at first sight but we actually were good friends in school and have some stuff in common. And when I first saw her I had a gut feeling about her something I’ve never felt before and she is just my biggest crush I’ve ever had ever
@@talia4909 damn that was a while ago. But I was deep into depression at one point. What’s crazy now is that I’ve gone through that. I know exactly all the signs of depression and how to best help and I actually helped my dad understand why he feels the way he does in certain instances because he was becoming depressed after his wife of 25 years just stopped and called him a monster then left. (He is actually the best dad). I helped him and he is doing slightly better I’m helping push him but not being too pushy because let me tell you. No one can push you out of being depressed only yourself.
Thanks for posting this. I've been dealing with depression ever since my grandmother passed and my dad going to a mental hospital. At least he's better now. Thanks
Honestly... Just wish I could dropout from my school rn... Been feeling unmotivated (not lazy) and I didn't like that when my school kills my motivation to do good...
@@gibbous_silver Same². I really wonder how it became like this... Been doing therapy for a couple of months even, but the feeling just doesn't go away.
You know what annoys me? I'm a twelve year old, so I just started middle school about a month ago. I've been having suicidal thoughts for about two years now, but I have a fear of blood so I've never cut, but I've done other things to myself that don't have as permanent of scars as that, but not the point. Since last year, a lot of my teachers have asked me if I was ok, and I was really confused. Do they think I look depressed? I haven't been diagnosed, so honestly I don't know myself. I always feel like I'm singled out from other students, but I know I'm not the only one who feels like this because all of my classmates get piled on work like this. Maybe I can't handle the stress as well as them. I'm not sure, but I think that school is a huge stress factor to kids like me and they need to *chill the fook out* Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.
when i was 10 i was struggling with school, when i was 11 on christmas eve i got scissors and almost cut myself i did but i forced myself to stop before drawing any blood. on christmas i had some horrible scratches on my wrist so i decided to never hurt myself again. when i wanted to tell a teacher she got mad at me and told me i have loads of friends and to stop being petty, almost all by myself i've overcome my demons and i've never felt better. but the memories still haunt me. i'm sorry to anyone else going through that, stay strong
I'm bullied everyday at school and its so strange that it doesn't show. I tell them my self esteem can't get any lower and they all say "you want a bet?" my class hates me for so many reasons.
Take it on in your mind and don't sink anymore. At the end of the day, you are the only one you can help yourself. You're so brave to have come out with this!
You're wonderful and so strong- there will come a day that your classmates recognize their ignorance and treat you the way you deserve. For now, keep pushing.
i don't battle through every second of every day just to hear a perfectly happy person say 'i'm so depressed today' or 'Everyone has their own problems'. People have no idea how painful depression is. Thank you so much for this inspirational speech
this gurl stood up and choose to speak facts . LITTARLY EVERY WORD she says is just NO CAP like do the other generations understand genz? most of them not cuz they dont help
This is an amazing talk. She is very inspirational and it makes me wish I would have had a program like that when I was in school. I would LOVE to hear more about the program at her school and the non profit she is organizing.
true, school is nonsense we are forced to do things and learn stuff we dont want to, Every Human has the right to freedom, i personally went through despression with school and now still having problems but anyway most of the stuff we learn in school is nonsense that we never need to know. school has been around for what? 100s of years, TO THIS DAY still nearly every child/teenager hates school. if we were ment to go to school nature would have adapted to it somehow. teachers seem to think every child is brought up the same. Teachers are a big part playing in depression we all need to do something!!!!
Honestly I don't think that too many kids hate school. There was a time when I was severely depressed and hated school. But I can't blame teachers for my depression. I can, however say that some teachers are careless and are not understanding of the problems facing most teens today.
I also would rather be at school than at home but I think that schools put so much stress and pressure that's completely unnecessary on their students, in my school you're taught that nothing but perfection is acceptable and that if you can't handle the stress of school you will never make it "in the real world" I love learning and I have wonderful classes and teachers who inspire me but I also have the teachers who make life hell and give me full on panic attacks at the age of 14!because they made me feel like I wasn't doing anything at all towards going anywhere near a successful path in life, the U.S. education system (never lived in another country so no comparison) is deeply flawed, we care more about numbers and scores than the people behind them and their well being
yep lot's of people in windhelm are depressed, if you let the dark elves actually express themselves it would relieve social tensions, there's a serial killer running amok killing women and the guards aren't even trying, and theres that kid doing the black sacrement so the dark brotherhood kills the orphanage administrator, Ulfric you gotta fix your city, also I'm pretty sure that one dark elf merchant in the grey district sells stolen items. and I'm pretty sure the thalmor interfered with your election. even though the high king didn't support your rebellion outright he still respected you as a leader and you didn't need to kill him #NotMyJarl
You can really feel the emotion in her voice and about how passionate she is about this. She is such an inspiration and needs to be recognised and so does the points she make.
I'm crying because of how powerful this is. I'm also crying because I needed this to get through the homework I have tonight. I need this to get me going strong and confident and to face this problem head-on and get help quickly because I feel like with every passing SECOND I am fading away to this disease and I'm losing myself, as in I am different person when my depression and anxiety sneak up on me. My depression went away for a while and now it's back, probably triggered by my severe anxiety that got really bad when I was in a musical this year and the work load was too much. I had gained so much confidence and hope for the future when it was gone (my depression) and now it's all fading away awfully quickly. I didn't know there were such programs being pushed for at schools!! This is so exciting because I think that's the main place to help with the problem since school is what contributes most to mental illness in teens because of the stress. I really wish we had that at my school. Also, meagan, I think you are so beautiful and I love your beautiful hair and I just wanna give you a hug!! XD Thank you so much for being you!
That isn’t what you are supposed to be focusing on ! Instead of looking at the damn thumbnail why don’t you ACTUALLY listen to what she said . Many people are wanting to kill themselves AND YOU ARE WORRYING ABOUT THAT! You are ridiculous
Diojanna Tejada ya boi said "great speech", they heard it, but there's tons of other people commenting about the video. Everything doesn't have to be relevant lmao
Hey *YOU* ! yes I'm talking to you! Stop here for a minute while you are scrolling down the comments. *Breathe in and breathe out.* Everything's gonna be okay, love. Whatever you are going through will sort its way and you'll come out from it way more happier than you thought it would be. You WILL again be that happy person that you wished you were :) Also, most importantly the universe *NEEDS you* and you are loved❤ Sending y'all virtual hugs and tonnes of love! Have a great day/weekend/year😀! AND YASSSSS YOU GOT THIS! STAY STRONG 💪❤ ( ps: lets spread positivity in the comment section and I just want the person reading this smile. Coz it suits you :) )
@@matthiaspearce5150 heyya. I wrote this comment 6 months ago and tbh I'm in a similar situation as yours. I've been going through it for a month now. But this week I've felt better coz I seperated myself from mostly every thing , took a break and just relaxed. I reflected on my thoughts and regretted why I dint do this earlier. If you ever read this and interested, we can talk if you want :) (no pressure at all). I wish you happiness and hope you will feel better soon✨
@@vd9420 I'd be alright with talking, I don't know how that's possible, though. I'm glad you feel a bit better and I hope that you're able to defeat what you're dealing with once and for all
Im freaking 17 years old working towards my IGCSE's months away. It is just hilarious that we have to be studying so much for 8 subjects, 4 of which do not interest me at all. How can I not be fucking depressed when I have no time to do shit. I will go out and all I can talk with my friends is if they have finished their assignments for school. We had one Christmas break in which I had at least 5 hour study sessions per day, and still didnt manage to finish everything ! I did all-nighters to get everything done and now that we are back to school we just keep getting more and more and more and more and I cant fucking stand it anymore ! My school lacks freedom ! There is no students council or adviser or any of this shit. Its just the teachers, and the headmasters bullshit. We got no freedom of speech or expression !!!! AND DESPITE THE 8 HOURS PER DAY SCHOOL WE ALSO NEED ANOTHER DOZEN OF HOURS DOIN HOMEWORK.
Ho similar, though I don't blame my school. Parent's are constantly putting pressure where I live on schools to "add homework" kids should be learning more. I think if the government and public released the stress and pressure on schools to make perfect results every time (like not using random Ofsted inspections with a suit up guy checking out every corner and staying at you across the classroom), and also got parents to teach kids life lessons more like paying bills, instead of parents expecting the school to babysit their kids, hopefully this idea of perfectionism for a waste of time can subside. Otherwise there is going to be serious consequences on the mental health of young people, even more than now.
yes, that sounds like a lot of stress. have you talked with your parents about this? have you checked with other authorities not present in your school or higher in the hierarchy for policies that could help? are you the only one of your peers feeling this way? chances are, you aren't and you could all get together and persuade the teacher to give work that still allows you to be flexible. I encourage you to see if there were more efficient ways to manage the workload, or for the teachers to ease up on the workload, because all of the studying could backfire and you may lack balance
HappyMaskSalesman I agree with everything except the parents thing. yea its their job to teach their children things but not everyone has parents who care enough to feed or look after them let alone teach them. and lots of people don't have parents at all whether they were abandoned or their parents died. and sometimes the parents don't even know the things that their children need to be taught. or they are just terrible teachers. the fact is that parents are too variable. they could be too busy, too lazy, too inexperienced, too cruel or not even there at all to teach their children life skills. so school really should teach these things. Because the fact of the matter is that not everyone has the ability to be taught by their parents how to pay taxes, how to deal with mortgage, how to find the best deals in the store, how to fix their clothes. What school needs to do is calm down on the workload, shuffle the classes around. I personally feel like science shouldn't have to be pursued past middle school and that once you reach highschool it should be replaced as a core class with a life abilities class where you learn these things in.
Pixyire Productions firstly, sorry but I love in the UK so no idea what ages high and middle school are :p Secondary for me is 11-16 primary is 5-11 Anyway, I find that if a child has parents that struggle to teach everything to the child it should be the government's job to place services other than school to help them, but sadly that is on a perfect world and the government seems more happy to ignore struggling families and their relationships than creatively help them, other than maybe throw some money their way, which is unfair but hopefully as mental health is declining governments will be forced to help families in the future. Secondly (I managed to get my crappy internet to search up the ages of middle school) but quitting sciences that early doesn't bode well. How can you teach them all the basic sciences when by the time they're 13? I certainly wouldn't have remembered any of it until I was 15. What about the people who may want to learn science in the future? We desperately need more scientists, lowering the age to learn science will decrease that number. A lot of jobs need science, whether one likes science or not you will actually use it a lot in life (making it a life skill itself of sorts) and what's more it's highly useful to push certain people who feel academically unconfident. It's very vital to prevent ignorance, radicalisation and all the load, and leaving it at middle school is too risky. Furthermore I usually find school kids not listening in class for simple life lessons. This is why actually I have changed my idea and believe their should be more external governmental and private institutions to teach young people, as well as making it clear for them that they can learn online or through books or ask any adult if they want to learn things. I find many young people complain about this, but really if they were taught this you find that they don't listen until they're more mature. Therefore I think if you get external groups to help people out you can get more knowledgable and specialised teachers teaching you, school teachers can have reduced pressure, and what's more subjects can still be taught and won't be left in the cold (as someone who has to suffer the government cutting down on art and therefore less art classes for me, it really gets me fucking angry when main subjects taught less than others because they think they're "less important") But at the end of the day, one must realise if they truly want to know something, they can go find it independently. Yes, time constraints can be an issue or resources available, but it isn't that hard to connect to wifi somewhere to read up on how to manage basic bills, especially since a surprising amount of families like to get good phones instead of seeing food on the table. This is a generalisation, but as a young person myself I see a lot of my generation preferring to argue and complain instead of seeking ways to change it or independently finding the answer themselves, you obviously as you've considered ways to change it, are the minority, to a lot of people I've talked to.
HappyMaskSalesman Public schools are managed by the government. and I'm not saying science isn't useful but god damn it it's not useful to me at the levels they teach it. I don't need to know everything about the periodic table or about gravitational lensing to pursue my chosen career. I didn't say it should stop being taught. I said it should stop being forced onto people when they don't want it. move it out of being a necessary class and make it an option for the people who want to be a scientist.
Depression isn’t aesthetic
It’s mental illness..
S G THANK YOU, That absolutely needed to be said. Respect.
Yes, I wish more people o this into their heads
I literally want to strangle people who romanticize depression
It is sad that our society is like “ooo I am depressed ✌🏼” and just push the people that are in danger to the side. Or that’s how I felt...that might be just me
I have a friend that says they’re depressed but makes it seem like it’s an aesthetic... and makes mental illnesses look like aesthetics
"Getting out of bed every morning seemed impossible."
It's true. It does.
Lennie Bennie ikr, ffs I wanna kill myself, I can't wait for spring break
ayishaaaaa please don't do it
stay alive |-/
it does.
but stay alive |-/
The TØP fandom can be so fucking amazing. Stay alive frens |-/
Always remember that people might be great at hiding their depression
I've functioned with it for the past 2 years, and I seriously started cracking several months ago bc no one knew and the weight was just dragging me down and no one seemed to really understand or want to listen and I'm a perfectionist, so I need to take care of this on my own and if I don't then I'm weak and incapable of doing one thing properly on my own.
Not might be they 'are' great!! 😭
I can relate:'(
Pancakes i have high-functioning depression so feltttt
Yep
"being nervous" and "lazy" is many people's definition of my anxiety and depression.
Well u are nervous and lazy but its not ur fault they are right but not about the fact its just you not wanting to do something you just feel really bumed out about everything
I get yelled at everyday for being lazy and not wanting to do anything. I lay in bed until 12 pm on the weekends, and my parents say that "i'm being lazy" and "i need to focus on school" not even noticing something's off.
Motivation loss is a syptom of depression sooo...
I can't focus on school task that were so easy just months ago, I'm forgetting things easily, losing concentration. Get anxious almost all time abt myself.
My parents : Stop making excuses. Enough. Study, work harder. Your life depends on your grades. Can't u get atleast these much. Look at your friends, they're doing so well and they go to the same school, study the same curriculum with the same coaching classes. Why can't you be like them?
@@kristyfay5854 same here, but I get up early because I am afraid to be judged by my parents and because If I stay in bed too much my anxiety gets worse
I hate when people say that I'm just feeling this way because of puberty.
same. I'm 12 and everyone just says I'm "moody" or "hormonal" instead of getting me the help I need.
Maia Isabel Try get diagnosed first though, so you can get the help you need.
I know how you feel but I always think that it is hormoans
Goddamn same man
Chances are you are just hormonal.
I thought depression was a faze. I thought it would pass. That’s been well over ten years now. When it’s long term like this, you know it’s “real” and not just relative or hormonal imbalance.
People around me say that i'm on my phone all day..little did they know that it's the only way I distract myself from my own thoughts.
being on the phone is the only thing i can do most of the time bc im too depressed and bored and unmotivated to do anything else
Me too. Being on the phone helps me to suppress my emotions and act normal around everyone. When im not on my phone i feel like crying and become anxious.
Maybe just get your little skull out of your phone, yes I am indeed a boomer
@@tucosalamanca1760 I am trying hard on that. And no you are not a boomer :)
nk I am twenty six does this make me a boomer? Pls help
I remember seeing a quote that went something like this: if a person seems to freak out over something totally insignificant, and jump from 0 to 60 in emotion, then you have failed to notice how long they have been at 59
And if that doesn’t describe me idk what does
That is me sooo much. I started to cry after I read this.
oh shoot I felt that..
i audibly wowed at this. that is an incredible way of explaining it. thank you.
I'm sorry I don't get it...can anybody explain please?
Heer Malvi Basically it means that if someone freaks out over something insignificant it usually means they were already dealing with other stuff and the little insignificant thing was the last straw
4 years and teens are still dying of depression.
Yep
@Cecilia zzstu Montgomery That's so unfortunate...
@@rachie2456 i m so depressed i didn't even ask any kind of question to My parents And I never ask my parents for what i Wanted to do Or Even What dress i want
Nearly 6 years.... what is wrong with this world
@@MJPotter :(
honestly, school is one of the main reasons kids have depression. school made me get diagnosed with anxiety and depression. I don't get bullied. I just, I don't know how I got it. just one day I felt weird and nervous.
issa snack That doesn't mean that you got depressed because of school.
courtney rose I’m not diagnosed with either of those disorders but I feel the same way
same here
Me too. Everything started when I was only 11 years old. I got treated like I was nothing, in middle school. Not by other students but by my teachers. Yes, the people who where supposed to help me and guide me. They did their best to remember me everyday that I was "different", I was the easy target...
I'm in a wheelchair due to important health issues (fortunately, I'm still able to walk despite it being difficult). I had to spend more time in the hospital or at home resting, than in school. They didn't accept it. They were so rude, mean, cruel...
I told my parents about the situation, they were amazing and immediately told the school. But saddly, even after getting "rig" of them, I'm still hurt.
I just can't seem to forget.
I was once a happy girl, always got amazing grades, shy but made friends easily. And now that I'm almost 18... School literally makes me sick. It feels like I've been stuck in here for an eternity. I just want to go home, cry in my mom's arms like a kid and fall asleep until this nightmare ends.
But thank God, I never lost the will to live. I'm so grateful about this. In all these painful moments, there's a little voice inside my head who tells me to keep going. That I'll someday be happy. Not to let depression win. I'm still young, after all. So, I believe it.
Myu Nili i’m sorry about all of that, and i’m literally so proud of you for kept fighting ! i really hope you feel better now!
Also: teachers, PLEASE, stop using "participation in class" (talking, answering questions & stuff) AS A GRADE
like no
Eleonora Rubinacci ikr oncs i got suspended for not participating enough or speaking....two days after i got out of the hospital
Yea, I do just because it will be graded and I can't have bad grades if I want to get where I want to be. I'm also the only one in my class that really does that in every subject and who answers about 50-60% of the questions asked to our class on just about any given day. The only thing I really wan't to do is stay home and draw or read under my bench.
In most of my classes, participation grade just means you were paying attention, not disrupting class and taking sufficient notes, which is good bc I'm super shy and hate speaking up
Here it means actively contributing well thought out answers and smart questions all the time, every class, all class.
Eleonora Rubinacci even if you aren't depressed, it's still a stupid way to grade, my school starts at 7:15, nobody talks in that class, nobody
School: Well at least you know how to do quadratic formula
Ha, yeah. And at least you didn't skip class bc thats the most important thing
at least you know how to find the equation of a parabola
x = -b squared plus/minus root b - 4(a)(b) over 2 xD
Wells Equine Wait really? I did not know this! School has failed me.....
And find x
Step one: fix the fkn schools.
They're basically prisons.
Nuff said.
Tru dat
I almost killed myself partly due to the stress I felt from school
@@junhansguitar1036 same.
They're more than prisons, they're like breeding grounds for depression, anxiety and bad habits that can stick with you for the rest of your life
Damn. Ain’t that true. Nowadays they’re installing metal detectors to find out if one of the kids have a gun.
I'm 14 and I am suicidal. I think that at school we should be taught about depression so we can help friends who are suffering from depression.
Same :'(
+Stefan Panić 😊😊😊
+Dorothy May
I face so many stress from school and my personal life in general. Everyday passes so quickly. Too much time required for school, homework and learning wins compared to too little time we have for ourselves.
Has the same thing struck you?
+Stefan Panić m
Not exactly, I do get stressed from school, my personal life, homework and when teachers ask you a question about the topic and you know but you say you don't know instead of having a go. But I do have some time to myself and when I have time to myself, I don't know what to do.
+Dorothy May Almost me :)
Are you a girl or boy?
And do you cry?
The scary thing is, it's starting younger and younger. I started showing signs of depression when I was only 10. I wish schools were more understanding.
Yes! That's the problem. Adults think they're doing better and better but these problems are just getting worse and worse. I hope you're okay
Exactly! I was having suicidal thoughts when I was only 9 and I had no idea what suicide even was. My parents thought I was being "over dramatic" and didn't understand that I needed and still need help (I'm 13 now btw)
Sara Awad Are you okay now? Do you need help?
Same
I was having suicidal thoughts at 11 and did minor self harm at 12.
I told my parents about my depression, they yelled at me for 20 minutes about why i never told them, and how I am over reacting. While i was crying in to my pillow. Now they are wondering why i don't talk to them about my mental health.
Ps to everyone who is in the same situation the app 7 cups helped me a lot. It’s especially good if you want to talk to someone anonymously, but if you have bigger mental health issues then a therapist is best. Though 7 cups is free and worth checking out. And also I am here if you ever wanna talk.
I am in the same situation. I just acted like it was nothing after that and pretended that everything's okay because my parents don't try to understand no matter how calmly I try to explain. Hopefully, we both can get through this.
Melon Lord yeah💕
*Same*
im suffering form it over 2 years now and my parents are just ignoring me
sude kuzu i am sorry
The reason so many teen are depressed is because.. THEY ARE SICK AND TIRED OF BEING OVERSHADOWED BY ADULTS.
I definitely am
Ha, yeah. More like getting your life laid out for you and then people wondering why you aren't happy. It's like they want the best for your future by deciding your future. And then they say you don't know whats good for you. Well maybe not, but I know I want to be in control of my life
Thats being a brat......depression is more than that.
@@James_debusi Some times... My depression was caused by not being heard, listened to, being bullied, and being blamed for my grandmothers suicide attempt.
Dayi You’re right. I do sound like a brat. I just sometimes feel tired of having my life dictated for me. I KNOW other people have it off worse then I do. Believe me, I do. So that’s why I sound so....serious about my own perineal issues I guess. Because a lot of the time people don’t listen to what I have to say, and I’ve stopped taking myself seriously. So when there’s just a small chance other people will listen to my thoughts, I take it.
I over think things way too much. Clearly I didn’t think that comment through, and thank you for pointing out how shallow and bratty that sounded. Next time I’ll be sure to sound as grateful as possible.
I know depression is more then feeling like everyone is dictating your life for you. There are so many other things it can be. When you’ve lost the will to do anything, because anything you do is useless and there’s no point to it because you’re dying anyways. Just lie on the bed staring at the ceiling telling yourself to get things done but there’s no reason to. Why talk when everyone around you seems to know what you want? Why try when everyone seems to know what you’re aiming for? Why try at all? Wouldn’t it be better to just slip away?
Do you know what a filler friend is? I was that. I am that person. I know that sounds....laughable. But it’s given me issues with talking about my life. I would look around and hear all these people essentially complaining about their lives. And if I talked, would I be complaining about senseless things as well?
“Oh no, I don’t like what happened to that celebrity.” “That shopping trip was unsatisfactory.” “I didn’t want this for lunch.” “My friends are useless.” “I wish I had a better roommate.”
This is the only thing of substance I felt I had (I’m not trying to guilt trip anyone). The only qualifying thing, y’know? Share about equal (not equal, but you get the idea) suffering and suddenly be among people who understand you.
If you’re still reading Dayi, I just wanted to let you know I completely understand how the comment sounded. I appreciate you pointing it out. And I’m just trying to figure out how to get my voice heard. I’m still figuring out whether my voice matters or is important. And your comment didn’t really help with it (okay here’s the possibly offensive part where you call me a brat, selfish, egotistical etc again and I deserve it). If I can’t complain about this type of thing without being judged, will I really think other thoughts are important as well? This has been such a major part of my life that anything else...I just...it’s not important anymore is it.
So many people are suffering. So many other people are worse off then me. What right do I have to claim some of that pain and say, “here, my life is bad.” What right do I have to do that? I don’t. I don’t have a right to do that. Sometimes I think I should just off myself and make room for other people who actually deserve to talk about their pain and suffering.
My mom calls me crazy when I break down, or start to shake and cry. Or when I tell her I'm freaking out over something she says I'm fine and need to get over it. I absolutely love my mother, she just doesn't get that I have social anxiety and depression...
Are you diagnosed?
Rydleigh Dennison I can relate... I've been diagnosed with both but my parents just don't understand
Rydleigh Dennison can relate 😔
Rydleigh Dennison Thats like me. If I start freaking out and crying she says "Stop crying you're fine."
Awkwardmarine is chill its the opposite for me. I don't care but my mom starts crying and my dad gets mad at me for making my mom cry. Or if I tell him he gets mad or starts making fun of it
What kind of sick person makes fun of the weight of a teenager. You my friend are the reason why young kids develop low self esteem and depression. Get a life. Megan your an amazing person and don't listen to what anyone has to say. Probably just trying to feel better about themselves
Krystina Cabral yeah!!! People need to stop being so negative!!! This video was amazing!
I'm not gonna wish this hell on people but god might punish them
Sister Mary-Ann actually, it can. Words can hurt just as much as knives, and they leave scars, both mentally and/or physically.
Krystina Cabral I agree with you, but it isn't going to do much. People are still going to criticise them. One comment isn't going to change the world
Krystina Cabral No their parents are the reason for enabling their unhealthy habits. Most obese kids come from families full of obese people, obese pets and probably depression. This stuff runs in families and the same kids always get picked on for a reason.
Others : tell me what's the matter?
Me : im depressed.
Others : kids these days. 🤦♀
Me : okay nevermind
The really sad thing is that a lot of kids claim to be depressed bc they think its cool or something?????? So when someone comes forward and says they're depressed when they actually are, everyone thinks they just want attention.
True. But that smiley face at the end creep me out
That's when I would make something up like, "Oh, sorry, I meant I had a mood swing today, I didn't mean to say I have a mental illness. :D"
Bella Struthers I want to say I have it and I need help, and I wouldn’t come forward and speak but I feel like I have no on to talk to. Except you get the general idea....so I just don’t say anything. Just talk to friends or family who you trust, I guess?
I observed my actions at 11 and noticed I showed all the symptoms.
I didn’t tell anyone for years...
i hate when parents say ‘oh she is just a teenager’. even saying that makes me feel guilty.
Especially when they’re “just joking”
When I grow up I want to stop this. This entire thing with school is awful and it is madness. Someone needs to stand up for us teens and I will do it if no one else does.
@@lutziputzi YESS
I have never responded to negative comments before because I honestly feel that is a waste of time, however for everyone making comments about this inspirational 16 year old high school YOUNG girl about her weight truly blows my mind. If her weight is the only characteristic you got from this clip that is a shame. She is so brave to stand up in front of a crowd and expose her personal story in order to make the world a more peaceful place. I personal know this amazing person and I am so proud of her acts of kindness and efforts for helping others. I wish there were more people in this world like Megan and I can't wait for her bright future!
Freddy Grunwald That's what she was talking about. When talking about Depression, everybody would be like "it's all about chemical imabalance in brain, mental health problems, something in genes" but I think the environment and the dictators and criticizers found in the society, in everywhere is a major reason behind every root of teenage depressions. I love this message by her and as one of having a depression, I 100% agree. Society should all have to be more open minded and get a better and utmost understanding into depression, so anyone who experiences it may be comfortably tell somebody about it, not feeling afraid that others would not seriously consider it, telling you're just lazy, overreacting and lack of attention. That's the phobia of the sufferers so in the end they decide to just keep it from self until they couldn't contain it anymore and eventually decide to end his/her life. Someone ended his/her life without being understand
Freddy Grunwald Wow! You are so lucky you know a great person like her. I can relate to her on so many things. 😊 She is an inspiration.
People who make 'negative' comments have problems of their own.
Freddy Grunwald thank you👊 wise and powerful👊🙏
Freddy Grunwald megan is truly amazing
"depression does not come and go, its there" shout out to my man Prince EA for that one
Pedro Piranda 😂 he should run for president
sigh I hope you guys are being sarcastic. there are different types of depression, but when it stays for too long, and you only have a few normal days anymore, it becomes more than something that just comes and goes
Pedro Piranda prince ea is bull, depression is a mental illness not a mood.
Pedro Piranda, depression comes and may go. I've known it for most of my life, and it's possible to get out of it, to get better. So it 's not an irreversible thing; hope. faith and love.
i actually hate prince soo.... yeah, I agree with most comments here, depression is not a mood (and for thoes who know, Boyinaband is the most awesome ytber ever)
My mom: “it’s just a phase”
My therapist: “You just want attention”
Not even my therapist understands:(
Change therapist
I am really sorry this is happening too you, that therapist is not understanding what is going on. Please, if you can you should see another therapist. You are not alone, stay strong please.
Then they aren't a therapist and they are making the problem worse
A therapist that judges you is fuc**** wrong. Please do the right choice, change the therapist. And don't lose the faith in therapy. It helped me :)
throw out the whole therapist and get a new one :) and no im not kidding
Depression makes me feel lazy...but I try so hard to wake up and go to school and get sad all over again😭
You aren't lazy unless you know you should do something, but you want to focus on something more enjoyable. If you don't have the mental or physical energy, or just feel too drained to focus, that isn't laziness. Please know the difference I don't want you blaming even more things on yourself.
@Alexander Kurtz Definitely!
I had my first suicidal thought when I was like 6 or 8 after my cat died, I asked my mom if "I killed myself I would go and see kitty", she said yes but she added "If you do that, kitty will be very sad, don't make kitty sad okay?"
Sir Colesworth Sheepmen i think your mom is awesome
I hope you hug your mom often
I wish I could love her like back then, these days she's getting crazier and it drives me nuts, I might limit contact when I move out cause of the way she made me feel.
I'll always miss past mom tho
I had my first suicidal thought when I was 11 or 12 yrs and it was because my dad died in 2015 when I was 11 yrs... I wanted to be with my dad n had same thought as u but I didn't harm myself until 2019.... in 2019 I couldn't take it any more n just made a cut in my hand... I don't even know if I am depressed or not... I really want to know about it tho.... could any one help to know.
@@swastikamaharjan5449 I'm not exactly an expert on this, but if you could find a therapist that works for you they might be able to help. I'm so sorry you've had to go through all of that. Remember that you are always loved and supported, even if it's by strangers on the internet. Stay strong.
People who have depression are so good at hiding their feelings to the point that they don’t even know they’re depressed, I think I’m probably one of them...
KoZee I have or has idk depression my parents thought it was a girl thing I live in a house with boys
I have a question, does suicidal thoughts = depression? asking for a friend.
@@chichichichi9838 I think so. I asked my nonexistent friend.
Nah
@@chichichichi9838 I have that same question, but for myself. I sometimes think about it, then I want to cry because I think of what it would be like for my family afterwards, especially my sister.
my hairdresser (around the age of 50) told me “teens can’t be depressed, they haven’t even experienced life yet”. she said that to me after i told her i was going to therapy. it felt like a huge slap in the face. i no longer get my hair done by her :)
What right does a hairdresser have to say that?
Well if I’ve barely experienced life yet then I better jump the gun and shoot myself because it is not getting better at this rate. (Don’t worry I won’t be yet, people need me)
@@epicsandvich014 not yet? Not ever! Don't do that.
@@imthejuggernaut6205 no promises. I’m working on it though
@@epicsandvich014that's better than not trying 👍
‘ oh everyone your age is going through the same thing’
THEN EVERYONE AROUND ME MUST BE INSANELY SAD AND DEPRESSED. CAUSE THATS HOW I FEEL. and I know that it’s not normal.
Thanks for speaking out what I am feeling😢😢😢
Am never gonna make another day better it's just getting worse & worse!
Deep down everyone hurts to a certain extent I think but it’s just about how comfortable they are exposing that part of them and actually looking for help. It’s only when the pain gets all consuming and when u can’t manage it and u feel like your drowning that u can’t ignore it and really bring attention to it. Sorry this makes no sense I can’t really articulate that well lol i hope we all feel better eventually
same! I never could align myself with that argument, if we’re all feeling this bad, maybe we should look into how to get us all resources to get better, but it doesn’t mean my problems suddenly diminish
Yes it is normal
It actually is normal I think. The problem is that it really really really shouldn't be normal.
Every school and organisation should make people more aware of depression...
agreed!
And Mental Illness
People will not listen or just don't care or don't take it seriously
People never represent it correctly
SongS DP half of the girls of my class say they got depression. It’s annoying
She's...so.....pretty. I mean, look at her hair, her eyes, her body. She's so beautiful. Wow..
+Sister Mary-Ann
thats projection. you're insecure so you take it out one someone who is more successful and smarter than you.
This comment seems a bit perverted but I get the point and yes she is beautiful inside and out
that's fine but you do not have to call her disgusting. i understand not thinking someone is pretty or attractive,but insulting them is not okay.
And her powerful voice really amplifies it all, she’s generally amazing
sister whatever, go eff yourself
"Depression is a state of being below neutrality" TRUE AF
I'm not good at english, but here I go.
A week ago, I was taking my prozac pills after breakfast, (I've been dealing with some problems after getting into college and had to see a therapist who told me to talk to a doctor about my mental health and the doctor told me he'll see if these pills work).
My uncle saw me and asked what they were for, I was scared to tell him, but anyway I did. His wife heard it and she started lecturing me about how I was faking the whole thing, and that I should go outside and "do something productive for my life".
I'm not talking to that woman ever again.
Nancy Prado people like her are just selfish. I’m sorry that happened 🥺
My school counselor said the same thing when I went to her for help...I was not depressed, I guess ,but I just wanted someone or anyone to talk to about my worries and queries and I didn't have anybody reliable so I went ahead with all the courage I had at that time and that's when I realized I am never gonna talk to anyone about my true thoughts again.
Maybe she was trying to help me but I am so sorry it didn't help.
as you should. i wish people like her could recognise that it's not just an act for attention it's an ILLNESS
Bruh nobody asker her
There wasn’t one error I saw in your English there. Good job. 👍
My parents say I'm silly. But I seriously need help.
Shoot me an Email for some resources
call cps... jk
Go to someone else you know!
There are websites which allow you to talk. Please help yourself.
@@vyledasianne2725 witch once?
@@vyledasianne2725 whits once?
Her voice is so powerful...
Agree
Oh sure.
Arina Ray olá mai nemes Rogério Brasil
not really, man. Tries too much, but i understand
And so is her double chin...
Bruh depression is not even cared about in my country. I wanna get help but I can’t tell my family
Or they wouldnt take you seriously. Dont worry, I understand your affliction.
yeah i get it too...
maybe you can call up a free helpline?? you can look it up
anyways lots of loveee 💖💖💖
Me too😢😢😢😢
Same here... I want to get help, because if I tell my mom she'd just tell me "just be strong". Like, no... I can't, I never could.
I fight it.
I fighted thus my hole life and i told and got yelled at and called names 100 times.
I say you have to fight it.
Fight it.
If you need a hand tell your school.
You have to.
If you are suisital then tell some one.
Plz
I just want someone who will hug me for hours. and say
" I wont leave, everything is going to be okay. "
The only thing I've wanted more than ever in the pandemic is a friend.(I have a best friend, but they have limited access to email)😥
(hug :3 )
I wont leave, everything is going to be okay. Im here to talk if youd like
that genuinely hit me so hard man, i rarely ever cry but the second i finished reading this i just immediately burst into tears
@@alakeapetersen9421 oh my god. thank you. you’re genuinely the sweetest person.
@@amylau4086 i understand
I hate it when people say they have depression just to go along with the so called 'trend'
I don't understand why people romanticize this stuff so much
I'm 14 and yesterday I hid in the bathroom during lunch because of my social anxiety. I wish schools had actual classes like health class to address depression and anxiety because isn't suicide as bad as getting pregnant as a teenager?!?! I'm sorry, but a lot of teachers and schools gloss over these things just because they're not in the textbooks. WE EXIST. WE ARE GROWING, which worries me because NOBODY should suffer these things and nobody should be forced to hide it because "being sad is weak" or "not normal" or whatever. I'm fed up. EDIT: i’m 17 now! doing so much better. it was tough but i feel like i know how to handle my mental health now :) i am way stronger
Cat Lover I'm sorry... the amount of pressure school and work and people have on us is just lame... btw I love your username
Me too except I'm thirteen.
I’m thirteen and I’ve been hiding in the bathroom until the bell rang for 1st period and during lunch. Because Of my anxiety. Whenever I hear someone talking about someone I always have the feeling there talking about me and I have trouble getting out of bed in the morning because I know I have to go to school. Anxiety is real and not just a feeling of being a little stressed, and I’m sick of people telling me to just get over it because it’s not a choice.
Suicide is “worse” than pregnancy. After all, you’ve closed the book- that’s the end, whatever your thoughts on afterlife.
You do have to forgive the curriculum- it’s more than fifty years old, and next to no changes in technique or approach have been implemented. School is designed to train students for factory life- 8-5 work days, bells, hour periods, “sit down, shut up, and listen” attitude about the whole thing.
personally, my school is changing everything up. we've got everything you've listed and more.
The worst thing when you're depressed is, you can't cry, no matter how sad you are, even if your heart is torn apart, you just won't be able to cry.
I will say, it isn’t true for everyone (my friend is depressed and cries a lot), but for some it’s painfully true. I can’t cry 99% of the time. It’s extremely rare to occur. I feel you
I've gotten told that I don't appear sad so nothing is wrong. When really, I go through these weird periods of being overly emotional and then feeling nothing. It sucks when the only people who understand are on the internet
Exactly I stay awake till atleast 3 am I try to cry to release the pain but just can i sometimes smile while tears are literally running like tap water from my eyes
In my case, yes you're right....recently my maternal grandfather passed away. My mother couldn't stop crying, my younger sister couldn't stop crying but me....It felt like I don't have any tears left to cry now. Maybe I'm way too insensitive or maybe this was the reason I couldn't cry that time. During the final ritual of my grandfather, my mother asked me how can I not cry and I had nothing to say maybe because I couldn't express how I was feeling and if I would express then I already knew what my parents' reaction would be so I didn't try at all.
How I can expect others to understand where even my family and friends doesn't
exactly
Sometimes a stranger will understand because they have no expectations of you and don't view you in the way they want you to be. I personally find it easier to talk to strangers online about these kinds of things because there isn't the same kind of pressure that comes from people you know not accepting a certain part of you.
I feel depressed and insane all I do is wake up at 6:30 walk to my bus stop 20 minutes away wait get on the bus get to school go to first period through 7th then get on the bus get to my stop walk 20 minutes and just pass out I do this everyday for 5 years already and I'm I feel like I'm going crazy
yea... you should check out my channel I made it to talk about it one on one with someone, I have so much to say... but I can't say it in public chat because I know I'll hurt a lot of people with these words
Salad
I have to pay $5 for the bus that 40-50 from home to school and I do this every day, I am crazy but not depressed knowing that I have at least a transport to come and go and also knowing that this ain't forever. Soon if you accept going through the challenge of completing school and getting and a good job you'll have your own car and so will I. What you know about depression if you have a family and food while kids in africa and hobos don't?
Salad treatment is one of my many suggestions. Talking to a school councilor and getting information to lead to it will help ALOT. It's been 4 and a half months since I was admitted and was in North Star for a month. It took a couple of weeks for me to fully put myself in the treatment plan, but it really flipped a switch when the staff and other patients helping me through it. I've had depression since I was in 4th grade. And I'm a junior in high school and amazing staff members that understand what I'm dealing with and are willing to change up some assignments or let me sit with them for work things through. I know this is really long but if you want more information or tips and advice, my email is nataliadevlin99@gmail.com
Jajaziel8amtz Suffering is common in humans, and it's all legitimate if you're struggling. What you should not do is compare people's suffering..apples and oranges. Help yourself and others instead.
I have felt this way since school started. I agree with you so much I just feel like I'm trapped in the system of school and society. I'm so overwhelmed with pressure and I don't know what to do.
seriously... you should check out my channel I made it to try and hook up with someone else feeling deression and talk one on one
I completely understand the feeling of being trapped or unable to progress because everything around you feels so heavy. I would suggest talking to someone at school or home- having an outlet to just let all of your feelings out was incredibly helpful for me. I would also suggest trying various breathing techniques to calm down if you ever get super overwhelmed- I use this app to help me sleep and it has lots of cool options for meditation and stuff. Feel free to E-mail me if you would like to connect. Meganshinnick1@gmail.com I am happy you agree with me and hope you found this talk helpful :)
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hannah m its funny that those who Claim to have Depression are mostly kiddos that hate school. Cause of people Like you Depression is being made Fun of. It disgusts me to see comments like that cause i Know people that Just wanna slit their fucking throat cuz they got fucked over by life so hard and here you sit cryin over the Big Bad School system.
h m same
My mom yells at me sometimes because she asks me why I’m depressed, I try to tell her it’s because of her and my dads divorce even though it’s not the reason, and then she takes me to therapy again and again, I hate being there, the therapist always says things like “oh it’s gonna be fine you just need to look at the bright side of things, when I was little I had this too” honestly I hate EVERY SINGLE ONE of my therapists, they don’t understand that depression sometimes has no particular reason sometimes it’s just life that’s too hard and the pressure you get sometimes is too much to handle...
It's basically. Oh, think of the future!
I can't see any future Karen I don't want to be here.
i understand :(
Everything will be alright ☺️ trust ✊
my mom tells me im a spoiled and ungrateful brat whenever i cry (i have autism so i get overwhelmed sometimes) and none of my "friends" care about me and they tell me i need to grow up and im too sensitive cuz i told them that they hurt my feelings once and made fun of my sisters death..... so yeah i dont show any emotions anymore and now i dont really feel them anymore either :/
BTS is the only reason i haven't gone crazy cuz they help me cope with my anxiety so im really grateful for that...i try to stay positive all the time but its not easy expectaily when you have an "illness" that many people refuse to understand...
if you're struggling i promise you there is something out there that can help you. always love yourself, and speak yourself 💜💜
I hope things get better for you! My little brother has autism and i have anxiety. I hope your life gets better!!!!!
Yes, ARMY and bts, we fight together against all the bad. I'm sorry that happened to you and I purple you .💜
Yeet boi kpop I love you army remember u never walk alone🥺💜
Hope u r well now!
I hope life has improved for you
She has a gift. She has a voice that you would actually want to listen to.
Boredom amen to that.
But the mouth smacking tho
I like this girl. she takes the aggressive way to approach suicide, depression, and anxiety. I like how she tells instead of asks what we're gonna do to prevent it, because I do better when I have instructions. I myself am fighting depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts for at least an hour about 3 times a week. I have yet to attempt suicide, but I don't want my parents to find out about it. today, one of my friends was like "if you're suicidal and you know it clap your hands" and the teacher told him "let's not say that because there are actual kids who have commit suicide here" and I said "or thought about it" and raised my hand. then the teacher talked to me and said "hey are you in a better place now?" and I tried to take it lightly and said "haha no" and he asked me "have you tried talking to a counselor about it?" and I started tearing up and mumbled "no" and walked away faster and tried to avoid him as much as possible after that. in that moment I wanted to turn around to him and just cry into his shoulder, because I wanted to say how just about 3 weeks ago I had contemplated suicide for 4-5 hours straight, and that was the first time I _really_ thought about it. he was the teacher I could tell just about anything to because he treats the students as if they were at the same social level as himself. I wanted to spill everything that has happened to me since the beginning of the school year, and just cry. I can tell other friends and people like that but it was never a good time, and I missed that chance to just talk to someone about me and me only. when I talk to friends about problems, it always turns around to them and their problems at home or whatever, it never just stays on me. but I have tried a few counselors and they didn't do anything except set goals and do stupid shit I didn't want to do. I just wanted to talk to someone and trust them with everything. plus, counselors may be professionals, but they're complete strangers. I need a school like hers with that kind of program but sadly none of the schools in my district really care about that. they have a crisis counselor but he only shows up after a tragedy happens. either, schools need a program like her school, or they need to teach students how to fully deal with a situation where a friend tells them "I'm going to kill myself" because we're all told to get the person a professional but what if they have anxiety about meeting new people? you can't just tie them down and make them talk, so we all need someone we trust to be able to handle things like that.
It's great that you shared your story. I personally deal with severe anxiety and I find that it gets so much better when I talk to people about it. Friends family or my therapist. If you want to talk i would gladly listen to you and help you. My instagram is tantinaa_ and seriously send me a message there if you want it would be awesome to become internet friends. Much love
amazing story. also not trying to sound rude or anything but how long did it take you to type that
Megatron
Megan Johnson As long as you think about it, you aren’t gonna do that. I actually made a game out of it. How many ways could I kill myself with the things I have? It became more and more ridiculous. Three hours in, I actually had a crazy thought. “So, I’m gonna make a trap magic stair case that makes you go faster for every steps you take. By the time I reach the top, I’m gonna go so fast that I break physics and recreate the Big Bang”.
Seriously though. The more time you spend actively thinking or talking suicide, the less time you have in silence. Silent thoughts and idle hands- those are the real killers. In my two attempts, I have no recollection of events. My first attempt at seven I didn’t know what I was doing. I thought a three story drop would kill me. No, not even a three story drop killed me. I spent a year recuperating and cost the parents thousands.
Second attempt at nineteen- and my greatest shame. Dunno how I survived drinking that much alcohol. It’s probably just my atrocious math that saved me. Just enough to pass out, go into coma, and starve to death.
Or, enough to wake up a week later and nobody having any idea what happened to me. Thankfully, I’m a famous hard sleeper. Long, depressing story averted.
Hey, @Chris Wedemann I hope you're well right now. I'm sorry for what you went through. I wish I could hug that seven-year-old and that nineteen-year-old, and well... just you. Stay safe, okay?
Also, saying 'sorry' probably doesn't help much. I wish knew what to say instead.
"It is just a phase."
No it's not, now take me seriously, please. When i start crying, don't look at me like I'm an alien. Because I'm not. Now take me seriously 'cause I'm wanting to tell you something. No, stop laughing in my face, please. Oh never mind, you'l never get it...
Same with me. When you are young everyone takes you for granted. They literally have no idea what we teenagers go through.
"Phase" hurry and change it so i can delete this comment
SMoothie Filmz thank you
Iwontsaymyname Sodontaskagain well, excuse me sorry, English isn’t my first language.
@Alexander Kurtz fr
ME: im tired
MOM: shouldnt have stayed up too late
ME: im full
MOM: shouldnt have eaten too much
ME: i cant
MOM: your lazy
MOM: your not healthy, look at your body
ME: *has anxiety, self doubt* ok...
Same :')
Relatable
I FELT THAT....
like why do they let you stay up to late if they then say you shouldn't have stayed up so long. if they want us to be healthy, they give us the food
This- this is exactly what I’m going through-
wow, what an incredible and inspirational young woman! she gives me hope for our generation
Rebecca Neckritz ive aredy gave up on mine. Most of us gen z's are idiotic (I about put asinine but I didn't want to be on r/iamverysmart)
Not everybody who has depression feels depressed 24/7, some of them have a bipolar disorder..
“Depression is a state of being”
Couldn’t have said it better myself.
“All teens are sad” -my mom
@Adam Klobe FOR REAL
Why should they be?
My parents told me to just grow up, and they think that when I'm having a breakdown I'm just acting and being dramatic to get out of some big project or important test. They don't get it.
Liv L. SAME
How can they? This is how they were raised, and they’re fine, right? We all fall prey to this line of thinking.
Agreed 100000%
Liv L. SAMEE!
At my school we have a thing called "No Self Harm Contract" really, that's the actual title. When I was forced to sign it I felt humiliated. I felt so weak. I hated it so much and it is so traumatizing to walk by that door and to even see it. The counselors don't do anything helpful, they make you sign a contract and give you a list of hospitals to go to. They don't realize how humiliating it is to have that given to you and how they don't actually care. When I was in that room with my friend having the worst panic attack of my life and oh boy, she didn't fucking care. I want to get help, really, I do but not in the way that I did that day. Our school thinks that instead of actually consoling, helping, calming the students they make it worse. They call themselves professionals at this, instead they are absolutely shit at it. My different friend had to go over there and sign the contract as well and now has to be sent to California for a MH. I'm pissed, they can't fucking do their job. They are just sending kids left and right without actually trying to help them and calling it "helping".
"Bridge" actually sounds a lot better and I would've gone to that program instead of my shit school counselors.
My school has like 'don't do drugs and alcohol' contracts and I know this is different from depression but it's still so dumb how they think that a contract would actually help. I think it's just to assure themselves nothing will happen. If there's ever a 'no self harm contract' or 'no depression or anxiety contract' at my school, I would stare the principal in his eyes and tell him I won't be signing it because a contract won't help or do anything
Honestly I think counselors shouldn’t even be called counselors. If they don’t have the experience of having an mental illness I don’t think they should become one. Since they cannot understand us they just nod their head and give us advice that could be googled by ourselves. They are useless. Really.
You gotta understand that position, though. To see the same fifteen or twenty students every day, for the same problems as yesterday? It doesn’t matter what you do or you say, these kids just don’t seem to want to get better when the reality is much more complex and medically dense than the average school counselor can even comprehend.
I really hope you’ll get the help you deserve.
Raven Sims my counselor never asked me what was actually wrong he just made me sign a contract and called my parents and told them everything after he had promised me not to tell anyone. Mind you I was 11 yrs old
I remember fighting with my mum and accidentally saying that I’m suicidal then she said “well if you want to die, then go die” that broke me. I went to my room and cried then I came back and told her “you can’t just tell someone that they can go kill themselves‘ she then screamed at me and told me that I’m over dramatic she doesn’t believe me at all. The only thing that helped me cope with everything is my iPad I’m 12 btw, she took my iPad away from me you might think that this doesn’t mean anything but I couldn’t get everything out of me, I couldn’t forget, and I couldn’t feel safe when I’m around my parents mostly my mum. I don’t know if I have Depression cause my parents don’t bother to check if I have depression. It pains me to hear them think that depression goes away and comes it’s just a “sadness” I just wish they’d check if I had depression. I watch CZcams videos to see if I have depression...thank you for reading
are you ok now my dear? Everything will be ok and you're the best! You can find me if you want to talk!
I hope you are doing ok now
THE SAME THING HAPPENS TO ME
Happened once with my mum. Told me to choke myself ‘cos she didn’t believe me. I did. She hasn’t talked about it since. It’s not that she’s bad parent, sometimes she just doesn’t get it.
I feel like parents don’t always accept and or treat their kids right. If you’re feeling this way try to find someone to talk to. I started taking to someone when I was your age and it helped me a lot. Know that we’ll be here for you. :)
We live in a society.
That is a society that becomes a society of society which is defined by society which is why society is societys society of a society known to favor a societys society
But I thought we lived in a society who’s society hated the society who’s society Lived in this society.
Not just any society.
we live in
A SOCIETY!
W E L I V E I N A S O C I E T Y
@@aubrey5577 please elaborate. I am very confused by what you have said. Also, you used “society” nine times in one sentence. Congratulations 🎈🎉
When i was younger and i heard about suicides, i kept asking myself why ANYONE would ever want to kill themselves. I mean you're given a life, go live it. A few months back, my loved one passed away unexpectedly. Initially, i felt ok. I thought i was ok. And then anxiety and depression hit me right in the mind. They hit me fast, and i didnt know what was happening to me. I was drowning and i didnt know what to do. My mind was constantly filled with the scariest thoughts that could push me past the edge of a high building, and i was crying everyday, trying SO hard to look around and feel safe, to feel okay again. I was alone, i told myself that people will only call me crazy, and i didnt deserve the attention. I got everything i wanted and yes, i am priviliged. Yet everyday i come home with my mind only overthinking everything, and bringing me to my knees, flooding me with tears as i sort my way through all the delusions present. It hurts, and it is SO difficult. All the respect to every teenager battling mental illnesses, its beyond scary and to get through it, you must be the strongest warriors alive.
I felt the same when I was younger, and now I completely understand why someone would want to take their life
I've suffered from depression since I was 12 years old. I'm now almost 21 and now have severe depression. If schools had programs for mental illness, my depression most definitely would not have gotten this bad. When I was younger my parents wouldn't listen to me. Having school in the mix definitely would've opened their eyes to the problem I've been dealing with for years.
Selena Flores yeah, me too but I'm homeschooled
Selena Flores Have you gone to therapy? That's a very long time to have depression and have it go untreated.
Selena Flores schools do have programs gor mental illness it's called special ed and it sucks
Special Ed isn't typically for depression or anxiety, it is usually for disabled, handicapped or kids with learning disorders.
Selena Flores Autism isn't snyper of those and yet they put them in there
I've been going to the doctors for years telling them how I feel and I need help.
And everytime I get hit with the same response.
"It's just your age and hormones'."
That's what I feel I'll get. every time, making it trivial and dismissing it as if it doesnt matter and therefor they don't care about you which they probably don't then, or they just assume you're faking it, and then you can't explain the truth bc they won't believe you. I'm sorry for the rant, I hope you're better.
you got ur answer then
@Gillian BELLONI OTAYZA You'd think that... but sadly where I'm at they just want the quick fix. Pills. As if I'm the problem, but when depression in the world continues to rise and be at an all time high, its a problem with the system - a problem with society. But they will never admit that, and instead just say its a chemical imbalance. I'm now just trying to heal from within, which is a long journey.
My parents: *oh my god, poor kids. I wonder why are teens nowdays so depressed?*
Me: *I feel sad..( trying to ask them what is wrong with me after telling them all my problems)*
Also my parents: *Ugh just stop complaining so much! You're just being dramatic, it's just puberty!🙄*
Me: *alright then.. 😕*
I feel u, they show empathy for others but never us
I told my brother I had depression and he was like. No you don’t. Guess what... 2 years later and a couple scars on my arm and I was diagnosed with severe depression
grow up
I told my mom and she yelled at me because I disrupted her sleep🙂
This girl is freaking amazing, such a great speaker, full of passion. "Depression is a state of being below neutrailty..." preach girl preach
I was bullied so bad when I was in highschool .I was even pushed down the stairs.when I was walking home a group of guys started throwing rock's at me. and sexually harrassed after that.I ran home and I usually always say hi to my mom. but I didn't. I went straight to my room grabbed a razor and started slicing my arms up.I even went for my neck.. my mom was yelling my name.. she ran to my room and saw blood everywhere... that day I was called a fat emo queer. I was pushed down the stairs in the school and slapped around.. and the group of boys just has to finish it off. I remind you this was a on going thing for months.even years.. and I was.. that same day my mom has to drag me to her car and take me to the hospital.. I remember those days just like it was yesterday.. I would never want anyone to ever go through what I did.. but. I am now 21. and have been clean for almost a year now. and haven't thought about taking my life in almost 2 years! .. I have gone a long way. and I'm so glad I over came I what I did.
Im proud of you
Yeah, it happened. Sounds like so many of us. But you’ve made so much progress. You could make more... but I think it’s better to rest while ahead.
I’m sorry you had to go through all of that. Really proud of you now. You’re truly amazing and inspiring
All of this from your narrative had really stricken me back to my own hardships in high school. I went through a similar scenario but the daunting pain and "harrassment" was from 'school authorities' who teased and abused already stressed students like me with last minute finals studying and the abusive hiatus of cornering an overwhelmed deception of narrowing every student as a suspect of domestic violence due to the recent shootings @ Lauderdale and Stoneman Douglas which reallly took toll in our academics.
I'm glad for you as well! I'm glad you had a mother who would help you, so you could make it through... I hope you have people in your life to support you! I pray that you stay healthy now.
She is so smart and beautiful. Im proud of her because I could never talk about it.
She is so smart. Im proud of her because I could never talk about it*
@@juliuslopez7962 I’m proud of her, because I could never talk about it
when i tell people i have depression they just say “your just saying that to get attention” it really hurts when they don’t understand
I had my first serious suicidal thoughts at 11 years old.
same. im 12 and i still do :(
Same
sorry to hear that guys...
i havent exprerienced depression only anxiety and never let myself think about suicide.
But listen you can change.
You have this power.
Suicide is the end of the trip but you have the power to help youself.
DO NOT EVER GIVE UP ON YOURSELF. YOU ARE ALL YOU GOT AND NOBODY ELSE IN THE WORLD IS MORE INMPORTANT THAN YOU!!!!!!Keep that in mind
Guns_N_Duff_Rose I had mine at 10 :(
Guns_N_Duff_Rose me too, started at age 11 now im 14
My high school had a program similar to her Bridge program and I'd be the first to admit I would not be here today without the support I got there. We need better supports in place for students and all people, really, suffering with mental illness, just as we'd support those with physical illnesses such as cancer.
Amen I agree 100%
what high school you attend?
My school needs this like now I’m tired of faking my smiles
Those depressed have the brightest smiles... Because we don't want those we love to see us in pain or see the pain we feel because we don't want them to experience what we go through and we want to see them happy...
I almost ended up dead a couple days ago. You’re awesome, thanks.
Are you okay?
I know I'm late but.. r u ok?
hope you're doing much MUCH better now
two years late, but i hope you're doing better
I have always thought that depression was just a side effect of puberty. I thought that once your done with puberty the depression goes away and that every teenager goes through it. Thank you for this because I didn't know before.
this hits hard, she’s speaking straight facts
I always taught that depressed people are the best actors ever for acting like everything in their life's ok even if it's not, i really admire them for being so strong, i wish someday you guys get out of depression and finally find the happiness you desserve.
We have to do something about our education system
Trust me nothing is gonna happen. I am optimistic but we shouldnt see chimeric dreams that will bring nothing but dissappointment and melancholy. We do sth we dont take pride in and then die. This was not how life is supposed to be lived.
i wanna shine so much light on mental disorders except no one would listen. if i could chose what i'd want to learn about in school it would be things like depression, anxiety, OCD, how to do taxes not fucking useless shit like logarithms. i WANT TO LEARN about stuff that's important and helpful. i've never wanted to learn about anything. i've gave up on trying to be the perfect student. i already suffer when i don't put 100% effort in why should i put more in. it's to much. if i were to get. hospitalized for any reason i'd immediately think "what am i gonna miss in school?" and "how am i gonna make it up with such a little amount of time?" i wouldn't even question if i was gonna be okay or healthy. ask your coach, teacher, parent, almost ANYONE what your number one priority is. almost nobody would say your health (mental and physical). this is society and i fucking hate it.
- just a "hormonal" teenager "going through a phase"
Robyn Sage its true. I got really bad tonsillitis this year and had to miss a day of school. and I was so so upset. it was my first time missing a day of school, I had missed school before but it was because of field trips or other school things, in three years.
the reason why is because I refused to miss school. I couldn't do it. I knew I'd fall behind if I did.
I go to school even when I don't feel well because if I didn't I know I'd miss things and if you miss things sometimes you can never catch back up in highschool.
I care about that!
I currently study pedagogy but psychology is what i am really interested !
I have been through anxiety and have obsessions and compulsions.
People need to learn more about that stuff.
Time passes and generations change.
Our generation has to pay attention and take care of psychological issues.
This is why I'm homeschooled and don't go on social media often
Ur lucky
@@triniears sort of I mean I do like 9 hours of school a day sooooo.......lol
I have the same pet peeve.. I suffer major depressive. Disorder, I'm depressed (not sad). Always.. it's more severe at times or it's mild at times.. but it's ALWAYS there! So glad I heard your speech!! Keep up the great work!
Thank you!
Sharon Lucas yes!!!
Sharon Lucas I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder and anxiety disorder.
Literally took my deppresion panic and anxiety medications before watching this
I know a friend who once told me she had depression. (I'll call her X for now). I was legitimately worried about her. That night I spent hours searching online for different ways to deal with the disease just so I could help her, I was also reading several experiences from other victims just so I can get an idea on how she felt. After writing down a full page of notes she sent me a text: "I have depression, please don't talk to me." I was pretty taken aback by the text since I was her closest friend at the time. But I just thought that she needed some space and was more comfortable doing that alone.
The next morning, I was lining up outside class for first period and a girl lined up behind me, starting a conversation. This was the short conversation: (Not exact but close to it)
Person - "Hey, did you know that X had depression?"
Me - "How did you know? Did she tell you?"
Person - "She told everyone..."
When X joined the line a few minutes later, I asked her why she was talking to people when she texted me last night telling me not to talk to her. She said, "My mom brought me to a therapist yesterday so I'm fine now."
As you can see, many of the information above showed that she was faking her depression and only doing it for sympathy. Firstly, you don't tell everyone that you have depression, cause there is literally no point in telling everyone when you could just tell one person. Secondly, people with depression don't recover within one therapy session. Maybe that might be possible for other recovery methods like Hypnosis but I don't think therapy works that way. Especially since she sent me the text late at night.
What sucks about this was that people believed her. Of course not everyone for some were sceptical. But there could be people with actual depression around her which is heartbreaking when the needed attention was given to the wrong people.
This happened in seventh grade, which was a year ago.
"so you are depressed about what? Your life's perfect"
You only know what I want you to, a persons life goes so much beyond than just what you see.
A girl who smiles and says every morning 'Hello friends' she can be depressed.
That boy who always sits in the corner with music, he can be depressed too.
No, depression does not have the same impact in everyone, some people are better at hidding about their feelings.
Now parents, stop saying to your kids that if you are sad you just dont have anything better to do or should go outside!
Depression is not just a fase, not just something every teenage has, and it is NOT common in highschool.
If you ever need friend, I am here, I wont get done with you, I will support you every second for the rest of our lifes if that is what you need.
Remember to stay informed.
Now sending love and positivity to you 💕 I love you and you got this!
I wish I could tell everybody that I love them. If you are reading this then I love you. And I'm not just saying that. No, you can never know that for sure but I beg for you to believe me.
Bare Bare thx
i love you too, just so you know ❤️
Jana Simulíková 🥺💜 tyyy
Bare Bare 💖
thanks. i love you too mate.
In New Zealand, we have health school, which is a program for kids who can't attend school due to mental or physical illnesses. I'm about to enrol in this since I've had months off school due to depression & anxiety. I'm actually really surprised that in other countries, not all schools have programs that help kids like us. It's a shame that there are schools out there who don't support kids with these illnesses
i have had a few friends that go to that progarm
that's an incredible idea. never heard of anything like that before.
Kendyll yeah, I agree. I live in the US and I think they rarely have schools that help with mental issues or illnesses.
Well I was at the same sort of school but it lacked professional education.
Huh. Really? I live in Palmerston North and we don't have a school like that. But I guess you live in a bigger town/city
My depression started with my mom starting to act abusive against my dad and then later I found out that her “love” for me was only a way for her to get me in her side instead of on my dads. She wanted her kids to love her more than we love our dad and this hurt my dad so much to the point that he wanted to die. And when I found all this out I resented her. To this day my parents are still together but they have talked about how they’ve been wanting to divorce for the past 5 years. My dad loves the kids and my mom just wants us as an object that she can take away from my dad. My brother is the only one left for her to legally take from my dad so I can tell that she treats him a million times better than any of the other kids. She gives him whatever he wants and always lets him win arguments that I or anyone else in the family have with him. I see what she is doing and I don’t want my brother to be a snobby boy who feels like he has all the power so I try my best to help him but my mom just cradles him and puts him on the podium labeling him #1 when he should be equal to all of us. I try my best to talk back to my mom because what she is doing is wrong but the real problem is that I’m not supposed to know this. My dad told me everything and if my mom found out that he told me she would leave and then I know that my dad would become suicidal. This is the trickiest thing I have ever been in and this and other things in my life have lead me to becoming very depressed. I’m planing on graduating this year (or next year 2019) and I’m not even sure what I’m going to do after I do graduate. I thought that i would go to college right after but my mental state is just not doing good at all and my mind is just clouded up so much to the point that I can’t think at all anymore. And I don’t want to waste money in college when I know that I’m going to fail the classes. Life’s tuff but sometimes it be like that
@CYNTHIA ZHANG thanks for the comment. Currently doing quite a bit better. Got the job I’ve been dreaming about for a while and it’s so far going great and pays well. I’m currently in the process of moving out. Just in the planning phase and saving money but I’ve saved 5k so far so it’s going great. I started talking to the crush of my dreams like I’ve crushed on her for 6 years and we were talking and hanging out for a solid month but haven’t talked much since then about 1 month we haven’t talked. But I just asked her if she wants to go see a movie and she said yes like right away so she isn’t over me or doesn’t wanna just ditch me. So maybe it can go somewhere. And it wasn’t just a crush and I never talked to her. Like I crushed on her at first sight but we actually were good friends in school and have some stuff in common. And when I first saw her I had a gut feeling about her something I’ve never felt before and she is just my biggest crush I’ve ever had ever
@@talia4909 damn that was a while ago. But I was deep into depression at one point. What’s crazy now is that I’ve gone through that. I know exactly all the signs of depression and how to best help and I actually helped my dad understand why he feels the way he does in certain instances because he was becoming depressed after his wife of 25 years just stopped and called him a monster then left. (He is actually the best dad). I helped him and he is doing slightly better I’m helping push him but not being too pushy because let me tell you. No one can push you out of being depressed only yourself.
Thanks for posting this. I've been dealing with depression ever since my grandmother passed and my dad going to a mental hospital. At least he's better now. Thanks
Honestly... Just wish I could dropout from my school rn... Been feeling unmotivated (not lazy) and I didn't like that when my school kills my motivation to do good...
Same, but I can’t because I’m in my first year of high school
@@gibbous_silver Same². I really wonder how it became like this... Been doing therapy for a couple of months even, but the feeling just doesn't go away.
You know what annoys me?
I'm a twelve year old, so I just started middle school about a month ago. I've been having suicidal thoughts for about two years now, but I have a fear of blood so I've never cut, but I've done other things to myself that don't have as permanent of scars as that, but not the point. Since last year, a lot of my teachers have asked me if I was ok, and I was really confused. Do they think I look depressed? I haven't been diagnosed, so honestly I don't know myself. I always feel like I'm singled out from other students, but I know I'm not the only one who feels like this because all of my classmates get piled on work like this. Maybe I can't handle the stress as well as them. I'm not sure, but I think that school is a huge stress factor to kids like me and they need to *chill the fook out*
Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.
oh my god i have exactly the same thank you for sharing your story
pauls broken a glass I’m scared of blood too...
when i was 10 i was struggling with school, when i was 11 on christmas eve i got scissors and almost cut myself i did but i forced myself to stop before drawing any blood. on christmas i had some horrible scratches on my wrist so i decided to never hurt myself again. when i wanted to tell a teacher she got mad at me and told me i have loads of friends and to stop being petty, almost all by myself i've overcome my demons and i've never felt better. but the memories still haunt me.
i'm sorry to anyone else going through that, stay strong
lol is your name from a beatles refrence
@@kjedsomhett pauls broken a glass a glass a glass he's broke today (ofc)
I'm bullied everyday at school and its so strange that it doesn't show. I tell them my self esteem can't get any lower and they all say "you want a bet?" my class hates me for so many reasons.
Take it on in your mind and don't sink anymore. At the end of the day, you are the only one you can help yourself. You're so brave to have come out with this!
You're wonderful and so strong- there will come a day that your classmates recognize their ignorance and treat you the way you deserve. For now, keep pushing.
maybe because you like anime
Anastasia Majick Haruuu😍❤
Trust me, they're just jealous, immature little suckers. Please don't let them win and take advantage of you.
i don't battle through every second of every day just to hear a perfectly happy person say 'i'm so depressed today' or 'Everyone has their own problems'. People have no idea how painful depression is. Thank you so much for this inspirational speech
Get over it
this gurl stood up and choose to speak facts . LITTARLY EVERY WORD she says is just NO CAP like do the other generations understand genz? most of them not cuz they dont help
This is an amazing talk. She is very inspirational and it makes me wish I would have had a program like that when I was in school.
I would LOVE to hear more about the program at her school and the non profit she is organizing.
Feel free to shoot me an E-mail :)
Dude, her speech is as gorgeous as she is
"Depressão não é tristeza. Depressão é um estado abaixo da neutralidade. Tristeza é uma emoção que vai e volta assim como a felicidade"
This made me realize I had been showing symptoms of depression since 11.
true, school is nonsense we are forced to do things and learn stuff we dont want to, Every Human has the right to freedom, i personally went through despression with school and now still having problems but anyway most of the stuff we learn in school is nonsense that we never need to know. school has been around for what? 100s of years, TO THIS DAY still nearly every child/teenager hates school. if we were ment to go to school nature would have adapted to it somehow. teachers seem to think every child is brought up the same. Teachers are a big part playing in depression we all need to do something!!!!
Honestly I don't think that too many kids hate school. There was a time when I was severely depressed and hated school. But I can't blame teachers for my depression. I can, however say that some teachers are careless and are not understanding of the problems facing most teens today.
Honestly family has been the cause... I rather be at school than home...
I also would rather be at school than at home but I think that schools put so much stress and pressure that's completely unnecessary on their students, in my school you're taught that nothing but perfection is acceptable and that if you can't handle the stress of school you will never make it "in the real world" I love learning and I have wonderful classes and teachers who inspire me but I also have the teachers who make life hell and give me full on panic attacks at the age of 14!because they made me feel like I wasn't doing anything at all towards going anywhere near a successful path in life, the U.S. education system (never lived in another country so no comparison) is deeply flawed, we care more about numbers and scores than the people behind them and their well being
yep lot's of people in windhelm are depressed, if you let the dark elves actually express themselves it would relieve social tensions, there's a serial killer running amok killing women and the guards aren't even trying, and theres that kid doing the black sacrement so the dark brotherhood kills the orphanage administrator, Ulfric you gotta fix your city, also I'm pretty sure that one dark elf merchant in the grey district sells stolen items.
and I'm pretty sure the thalmor interfered with your election. even though the high king didn't support your rebellion outright he still respected you as a leader and you didn't need to kill him
#NotMyJarl
By that logic you shouldn't be on the internet because nature didn't have us evolve for prolong periods of looking at a screen
wow im laying in bes crying its 3am i love her i praise her and she spits the absolute truth
Why am I crying for no reason but feeling like I can let my inner self out?
You can really feel the emotion in her voice and about how passionate she is about this. She is such an inspiration and needs to be recognised and so does the points she make.
ngl ur right but likeeee it more reminds me of a karen
I'm crying because of how powerful this is. I'm also crying because I needed this to get through the homework I have tonight. I need this to get me going strong and confident and to face this problem head-on and get help quickly because I feel like with every passing SECOND I am fading away to this disease and I'm losing myself, as in I am different person when my depression and anxiety sneak up on me. My depression went away for a while and now it's back, probably triggered by my severe anxiety that got really bad when I was in a musical this year and the work load was too much. I had gained so much confidence and hope for the future when it was gone (my depression) and now it's all fading away awfully quickly. I didn't know there were such programs being pushed for at schools!! This is so exciting because I think that's the main place to help with the problem since school is what contributes most to mental illness in teens because of the stress. I really wish we had that at my school.
Also, meagan, I think you are so beautiful and I love your beautiful hair and I just wanna give you a hug!! XD Thank you so much for being you!
Great speech, but that thumbnail cracked me up 😂. Of all the places to choose the thumbnail from, why that spot? Lol
Lol, didn't notice until I reads this comment
Rachel Beals she looking phyco in it
That isn’t what you are supposed to be focusing on ! Instead of looking at the damn thumbnail why don’t you ACTUALLY listen to what she said . Many people are wanting to kill themselves AND YOU ARE WORRYING ABOUT THAT! You are ridiculous
Diojanna Tejada Nah, you are ridiculous for taking something so seriously.
Diojanna Tejada ya boi said "great speech", they heard it, but there's tons of other people commenting about the video. Everything doesn't have to be relevant lmao
How passionaye she is, I'm so happily suprised
Hey *YOU* ! yes I'm talking to you! Stop here for a minute while you are scrolling down the comments.
*Breathe in and breathe out.*
Everything's gonna be okay, love. Whatever you are going through will sort its way and you'll come out from it way more happier than you thought it would be. You WILL again be that happy person that you wished you were :)
Also, most importantly the universe *NEEDS you* and you are loved❤
Sending y'all virtual hugs and tonnes of love! Have a great day/weekend/year😀! AND YASSSSS YOU GOT THIS! STAY STRONG 💪❤
( ps: lets spread positivity in the comment section and I just want the person reading this smile. Coz it suits you :) )
thanks, i kinda really needed to hear that right now
and hey, I smiled :)
@@suus562 I'm glad it did :) keep smiling coz it suits you!
Have a good day ahead ✨
At this point, I honestly don't know how anything can be ok in my life. Thank you for saying this, though.
@@matthiaspearce5150 heyya. I wrote this comment 6 months ago and tbh I'm in a similar situation as yours. I've been going through it for a month now. But this week I've felt better coz I seperated myself from mostly every thing , took a break and just relaxed. I reflected on my thoughts and regretted why I dint do this earlier. If you ever read this and interested, we can talk if you want :) (no pressure at all).
I wish you happiness and hope you will feel better soon✨
@@vd9420 I'd be alright with talking, I don't know how that's possible, though. I'm glad you feel a bit better and I hope that you're able to defeat what you're dealing with once and for all
Im freaking 17 years old working towards my IGCSE's months away. It is just hilarious that we have to be studying so much for 8 subjects, 4 of which do not interest me at all. How can I not be fucking depressed when I have no time to do shit. I will go out and all I can talk with my friends is if they have finished their assignments for school. We had one Christmas break in which I had at least 5 hour study sessions per day, and still didnt manage to finish everything ! I did all-nighters to get everything done and now that we are back to school we just keep getting more and more and more and more and I cant fucking stand it anymore ! My school lacks freedom ! There is no students council or adviser or any of this shit. Its just the teachers, and the headmasters bullshit. We got no freedom of speech or expression !!!! AND DESPITE THE 8 HOURS PER DAY SCHOOL WE ALSO NEED ANOTHER DOZEN OF HOURS DOIN HOMEWORK.
Ho similar, though I don't blame my school. Parent's are constantly putting pressure where I live on schools to "add homework" kids should be learning more. I think if the government and public released the stress and pressure on schools to make perfect results every time (like not using random Ofsted inspections with a suit up guy checking out every corner and staying at you across the classroom), and also got parents to teach kids life lessons more like paying bills, instead of parents expecting the school to babysit their kids, hopefully this idea of perfectionism for a waste of time can subside. Otherwise there is going to be serious consequences on the mental health of young people, even more than now.
yes, that sounds like a lot of stress. have you talked with your parents about this? have you checked with other authorities not present in your school or higher in the hierarchy for policies that could help? are you the only one of your peers feeling this way? chances are, you aren't and you could all get together and persuade the teacher to give work that still allows you to be flexible. I encourage you to see if there were more efficient ways to manage the workload, or for the teachers to ease up on the workload, because all of the studying could backfire and you may lack balance
HappyMaskSalesman I agree with everything except the parents thing. yea its their job to teach their children things but not everyone has parents who care enough to feed or look after them let alone teach them. and lots of people don't have parents at all whether they were abandoned or their parents died. and sometimes the parents don't even know the things that their children need to be taught. or they are just terrible teachers.
the fact is that parents are too variable. they could be too busy, too lazy, too inexperienced, too cruel or not even there at all to teach their children life skills.
so school really should teach these things. Because the fact of the matter is that not everyone has the ability to be taught by their parents how to pay taxes, how to deal with mortgage, how to find the best deals in the store, how to fix their clothes.
What school needs to do is calm down on the workload, shuffle the classes around. I personally feel like science shouldn't have to be pursued past middle school and that once you reach highschool it should be replaced as a core class with a life abilities class where you learn these things in.
Pixyire Productions firstly, sorry but I love in the UK so no idea what ages high and middle school are :p
Secondary for me is 11-16
primary is 5-11
Anyway, I find that if a child has parents that struggle to teach everything to the child it should be the government's job to place services other than school to help them, but sadly that is on a perfect world and the government seems more happy to ignore struggling families and their relationships than creatively help them, other than maybe throw some money their way, which is unfair but hopefully as mental health is declining governments will be forced to help families in the future.
Secondly (I managed to get my crappy internet to search up the ages of middle school) but quitting sciences that early doesn't bode well. How can you teach them all the basic sciences when by the time they're 13? I certainly wouldn't have remembered any of it until I was 15. What about the people who may want to learn science in the future? We desperately need more scientists, lowering the age to learn science will decrease that number. A lot of jobs need science, whether one likes science or not you will actually use it a lot in life (making it a life skill itself of sorts) and what's more it's highly useful to push certain people who feel academically unconfident. It's very vital to prevent ignorance, radicalisation and all the load, and leaving it at middle school is too risky.
Furthermore I usually find school kids not listening in class for simple life lessons. This is why actually I have changed my idea and believe their should be more external governmental and private institutions to teach young people, as well as making it clear for them that they can learn online or through books or ask any adult if they want to learn things. I find many young people complain about this, but really if they were taught this you find that they don't listen until they're more mature. Therefore I think if you get external groups to help people out you can get more knowledgable and specialised teachers teaching you, school teachers can have reduced pressure, and what's more subjects can still be taught and won't be left in the cold (as someone who has to suffer the government cutting down on art and therefore less art classes for me, it really gets me fucking angry when main subjects taught less than others because they think they're "less important")
But at the end of the day, one must realise if they truly want to know something, they can go find it independently. Yes, time constraints can be an issue or resources available, but it isn't that hard to connect to wifi somewhere to read up on how to manage basic bills, especially since a surprising amount of families like to get good phones instead of seeing food on the table. This is a generalisation, but as a young person myself I see a lot of my generation preferring to argue and complain instead of seeking ways to change it or independently finding the answer themselves, you obviously as you've considered ways to change it, are the minority, to a lot of people I've talked to.
HappyMaskSalesman Public schools are managed by the government. and I'm not saying science isn't useful but god damn it it's not useful to me at the levels they teach it. I don't need to know everything about the periodic table or about gravitational lensing to pursue my chosen career. I didn't say it should stop being taught. I said it should stop being forced onto people when they don't want it. move it out of being a necessary class and make it an option for the people who want to be a scientist.