Machismo hurts men too | Alejandro Jimenez | TEDxMileHigh
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- čas přidán 13. 08. 2017
- What assumptions do we make about others based on their gender or ethnicity? When Alejandro Jimenez first learned about the Hispanic stereotype of machismo, he was shocked. Was he doomed to a life of rage and aggression? In this inspiring talk and poem, he explores what it means forge your own identity.
Alejandro Jimenez is a poet, educator, and long-distance runner from Colima, Mexico. In 2011 he became the first Latino to win the Su Barrio Slam Poetry Competition. The following year he was a member of the SlamNUBA poetry team that placed 5th at the National Poetry Slam Competition in 2012. Alejandro works with youth in Denver and tries to laugh with them as much as possible.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
i just graduated from north, and this man was my teachers assistant in advisement class my jr year, and y'all let me tell you, he is such a soft spoken person with such a powerful presence, truly a gifted and honest individual!
@Al Pacino Why tho ?
The power Jimenez's tedtalk and poem at the end both gave me chills and made me reflect. Machismo (basically masculinity as I'll supplement the two) is taught and not innate. To preach empathy is powerful for many young people of color to see because it challenges a form of masculinity that is painted by individuals with hands paler than ours. We were never born into this identity and became indoctrinated into it by the "commonsense" that's just a re-hash of rich, white, heteronormative misogyny that wants us to view ourselves as less than human. We have the power to dismantle and construct an image that does not essentialize our community, and our men, as being monstrous, aggressive, and menaces to society. Stereotypes can be broken by what we do and what we say. These conversations that affect our entire community, (and I'm not talking just the latinx community). Oppression onto one is oppression onto all. It creates a chasm, a gap as Ta-nehisi Coates put it, creates barriers to those that benefit from our oppression and those who wish to take part in their "American dream".
The most beautiful poem I’ve ever heard. As a brown boy.. I needed this.
This is my life..
I’m Mexican-American born in America never visited Mexico. My dad never taught to be a machismo he just helped get a good set of morals. The more I look at this I think making up a definition for being a man is just limiting us in general. We need to give everything to make the world a better place.
Lmao@ the name Jesus 😂
Facts
Mexican American means you were born in Mexico and then migrated to USA.
@@lumaesva with all due respect, a Mexican American is a citizen of the United States of American who is of Mexican descent. I was born in the US and have Mexican ancestors. I am, therefore, a Mexican American.
People will be very quick to try to maintain and grip onto old notions of thinking, violently opposing new ideals. Masochistic men will label this man as weak, soft, not. a. man. But here he is in the manifestation of the moment, pure as he is,genuine in his feelings of the world, he is here and he will speak his truth. A truth not many will clap for, nevertheless, the other side, will scream and cheer for his victory
Nah dude just needs to grow sum balls
@@TheWoteke I feel sorry for you, not knowing true strength when you see it, swallowing your feelings is no way to live my friend.
Email Goose Weak man.
@@TheWoteke the real coward is you
In birds and red fox species, Males do co-parent babies along with female, cos they didn't had a society that object them from doing certain natural things
Me lo recomendó David casteñeda pero no se ingles así me q me imagino q estará muy lindo
Gracias
También estoy aquí por el.
Igual vine por el
Recuerdo tanto haber visto Alejandro caminar por los pasillos de mi escuela y siempre se me hizo una persona interesante y de pronto me lo encontré aquí , honestamente me arrepiento mucho nunca haber cruzado más que unos cuantos “Holas” aún así me siento dichosa y orgullosa de conocerlo aunque sea un poco 👏🏻👏🏻
incredible words, one who can speak so beautifully is truly a force to be reckoned with- thank you for this video ❤️
Él demostró muchos valor y pasión. Lo respeto!! Le agradezco mucho sus palabras, Alejandro ✌️ ❤
Beautiful I cried , laughed . This is beautiful , you are beautiful . Thank you for sharing
What beautiful, moving, and provocative ideas. This is worth many more views than it has.
Of course a white woman would say this 😒
Fighting with my Mexican bf so here I am. I pray he learns it’s ok to feel.
🙏
Vengo por que David castañeda lo puso es su historia JSJSJSJSJS
ALEJANDRO JIMENEZ, you beautiful brown boy, thank you for blessing the brown world with these needed words!!! Your talk itself was beautiful but the poem my God you shook our earthless roots!!!! Bravo bravo bravo Señor!!!!
Spanish was my first language and when I first started school I wasn’t good in English and would always wait till the end of the day to go to the bathroom cause I was to scared to go at school and also didn’t know how to ask😔😔
Such beautiful and powerful words! Saludos desde Brasil!
Trust me-Mexican men will NEVER, EVER let go of machismo. This guy is educated. Big difference. Believe me-I face it every day here in Tijuana. It's pure bs. And just today, I thought that Mexico will never EVER progress because of this. So say what you want about being stuck between 2 cultures; people need to check their egos before true change can happen. Until then, expect it to keep on.
First name last name Mexico is the way it is right now because of machismo
Change won't happen overnight. We need to educate the Mexican youth.
Well. It must be hard to be stuck between two cultures. It must be really rough as children. I think anything in extreme is not good, whether that's masochism, toxic feminism,etc. But, I think those parents that bring the kids over should really think about the challenges their kids are gonna face, language wise and culture wise. I think we all can benefit from learning about different cultures and what we can learn from them. I feel like I have seen the problems faced by men from the Latinix community. Alot of them are hardwired to be a certain way. I've heard it from some of them, that they are expected not to cry, to be macho, etc. To me, that's just making yourself into a person that's a robot. Same for the girls that are expected to be feminine, and give in to the man , or worse project their own internalized misogyny on other women.
This is beautiful
This is wonderful
Jesus Christ!!! This is so profound and captivating ❤️
Great talk. Got into my heart.
I loved this so much!
Beautiful words that speak to all those... Brown Boyz.
Absolutely beautiful
This man has real good poetry
Colima Mexico represent!!
i loved this so much
I wish my husband would watch this. I’m a gringa but I’ve been married to a Mexican machismo for almost 10 years and I can’t tolerate it much longer. I’ve been to his hometown in Guanajuato and those ppl were very nice. I don’t speak much Spanish but yea, his 3 sisters were housewives and had a bunch of kids that had kids but they were different than the ppl here in the USA. I think the American culture changes things too. Pressure, stress, status, money, and materialistic things. Not good at all 😢
Dealing with Machisto men are so draining. Put yourself first and if he's not willing to hear you, don't tolerate his behavior no more.
A truly courageous man
the beginning of the video reminded me strongly of what's depicted in the lyrics from Kirin J Callinan's song 'Embracism'
I can truly relate and know exactly what you mean I was 6 years old no able to say gracias
Vengo del tweet de David xd
I want to meet this hermano de bronse. I would like to share some poetry with him from my past and present.
Poems are corridos without instruments
HE IS REAL!
Pov: vienes por el tweet de David castañeda xD
Si soy 🤣
I felt every word
I’m so sorry that Racism exists. I hope and pray we can change this and stop the never ending stereotypes that this World 🌍 has placed upon us.
This is just what our latino community needs more of this 🙏🏻💝
Wow vary nice never thought ones of brown boys will be talking to world about this good work keep up the message
Sure
pretty good.. i wonder what wouldve happened to him if he won those fights in the mornings
Lol. He's from Colima. My dad is too. The men their tend to not be machistas.
I struggled with the same... being a 7 yr old immigrant
Hola vengo de parte David😘😘
can someone mark 2 quotes from this.
Is not Latin machismo actually false pride, egocentrism, overcompensation for the presumption of superiority?
So this a very painful topic because my dad taught me Machismo for most my life Man don’t have feelings men are though and don’t cry I believe in that mindset until I was 15 because my mom doesn’t want me to end up like that and not have a good relationship with my son
I wish my dad will just change his view
And my second girlfriend also change my mind of being machismo does my dad love me who knows he said he does but does he mean it because the way he thought me makes me have doubt
You do have to understand machismo has positive characteristics and not just negative… of course you shouldn’t be SUPER machista like degrading women but you should empower your positive machista attributes for your family.
Does Machismo hurts men too?
Yep.
Emotionally
Viva México Cabrones!!
i exist
That man is a leader..
💔💔💔💔💔
Como llegasteis a este video y porque fue por el tweet de David Castañeda? xd
Let us love one another in Jesus Name!
Dear God💗❤️💗❤️💞🙏in heaven, I come to you in the name of Jesus. I acknowledge to You that I am a sinner, and I am sorry for my sins and the , life that I have lived; I need your forgiveness.
I believe that your only begotten Son Jesus Christ shed His precious blood on the cross at Calvary and died for my sins, and I am now willing to turn from my sin.
You said in the bible that if we confess the Lord our God and believe in our hearts that God raised Jesus from the dead, we shall be saved.
Right now I confess Jesus as my Lord. With my heart, I believe that God raised Jesus from the dead. This very moment I accept Jesus Christ as my own personal Savior and according to His Word, right now I am saved. Amen.
I’m a brown boy 👦🏽
I doubt he has ever thrown a punch.
As somebody who has had to throw a punch or two in the past, I'm so glad when I hear about men using their communication skills rather than fists. True men.
The Gospel of salvation of our souls: 💜💕❤️❤️💕❤️📖✝️🕎💡💡❤️❤️💞💜💕For what I received I passed on to you as of [first importance]: that Christ died for our sins according to the Scriptures, that he was buried, that he was raised on the third day according to the Scriptures, and that he appeared to Peter, and then to the Twelve. After that, he appeared to more than five hundred of the brothers and sisters at the same time,
I love flowers, cannabis flowers indica and sativa ✌
@15:57 ~ "self-love"
Message was meaningful but there was no need for excess drama.
this dude needs testosterone and not being macho is what hurts us men and the world too.
His low T phenotype says it all
El machismo es una ilusion que no existe.
Nunca va existir la equidad porque no existe la igualdad. Tenemos que aceptar y celebrar nuestras diferencias.
Si una mujer puede ser presidente ya llegamos a la meta. No deberiamos concentranos en temas que nos separan.
Seria bueno que puesiera este comentario en el video para dirigir la converaacion hacia un lugar donde dialoguemos en paz y con respeto.
Tienes, mucha razón en tu comentario
Que el machismo no existe? No seas estupido. Enserio piensa antes de hablar, imbecil
Yes but you need men in the family to raise sons. Two parent households are more likely to help their children decrease their chances of getting arrested, dealing with drugs.
Here’s the machismo mind he speaks about
@@beeThe1 miss you are whitewashed
@@beeThe1 alcohol in your pfp. Says everything. Bet you don't even own a cookbook
WEAK! If my male partner was weak, I would not see it as a bad trait. Weak in my terms is more like a person who does not think they are more superior than me, just because of gender, race or culture. Weak to me would also be like someone not as risky to make decisions yet very precautious. Perhaps, women can have machismo too and that could be used as a tool of defense in my point of view on certain circumstances, yet that does not define that fact the Machismo is a good thing. Referring to La Malinche, I am starting to feel like she was a machista too. The aggression that she played by helping the Spaniards to defeat the Aztecs, I think that does make her machista. She felt superior to all other women because she was the favorite of all and always that one to be preferred over other women. Therefore, now that I look at it, both Men and Women can be machistas.
Misandry hurts men
Let your guard down brown boy!!!!!!!🤎
Déjate de mamadas. En serio lol
Tf is machismo anyway
Trust God FIRST and all things will work out!!
Not all mexican boys are brown. Some are white with light colored eyes.
Your parents should have taught you the native language. When my son moved to Mexico, he had to learn Spanish.
So many fragile egos in the comments lol
I empathize with a lot of what he is saying. being an immigrant in a strange land. a lot of what he described, are problems with being here illegally.
i have a lot of respect for latino culture. I love it.
but I ask out of respect to my country, when you move here, I ask that you move here, LEGALLY.
You no just lose your machismo, meng. You wanna step inside the ring with Razor Ramon?!? You lost your mind, chico!!
Macho is a brave masculine man. It is in our blood to be masculine. It feels good to be masculine and it feels wrong to be emasculated.
They told they told me brown boy ayayay
The mentality of inferiority has nothing to do with color and everything to do with culture.
“Let us love ourselves elves” 🤣
The problem is we love ourselves too much and don’t love others enough because of lack of love for God
You pretend that believing in a "God" frees you from any worldly strictures, and whether you admit it or not, you are now a law unto yourself. That can only translate into serious ego problems, problems you don't mind inflicting on others. For example you wish to be seen as a Risk Taker, which is fine with me, but you Risk Takers have a bad habit of blithely risking the lives of 👉 OTHERS👈 as well. Because I love life I keep that in mind, about not being hi-jacked into just any one else's Wheel of Fortune. Whatever your opposition you always "win," not because your thinking is superior, but because you are laughably dense. A look into your up-bringing would likely be distasteful, if indeed there was careful parental care of value in your life. Your "self respect" is of necessity flimsy and contrived, none of this really your fault, having been handed a paucity of culture, plenty of cynicism, and consequently little regard for your fellow beings. You are likely quite as dangerous as you wishfully believe yourself to be. I wish the rest of us the best of luck when encountering such as you, in family, as neighbors, socially and in business, and what really frightens, in our very politics. 🍷😮
BETA!!!
Frustrated man crying here... Machismo is about self confidence, fitness, and power to save weak not to opress.
the issue we have about our definitions about masculinity is that, once we equate masculinity as being a circle pf very defined behaviors, that is when we experience problems. Our limiting definitions of masculinity squeeze, and destroy the authenticity of men in the world because, oftentimes, they do not truly fit the mold we've created. By eliminating our labels, we will liberate our men to be who they need to be. He is a frustrated, crying man. And the point here is: that is okay, and it always will be.
Machismo is limiting men
Let go, let yourself be vulnerable.
You an emotional boy lmfao. I can tell he ain’t tough he’s the type of kid that was always fragile and scared to talk to girls. It has nothing to do with machismo your just weak bro. Men of all races are tough
Lowkey asab men don’t have to be tough
Nicolle yes they do. Your not a man, what do you possibly know about being a man? Because you watched a couple videos of how men are suppose to be or something lmao
Lowkey asab Damn, someone’s insecure. Need someone to tell you that you’re a big strong man, huh?
Joe K no I don’t need anyone to tell me anything. What I need is fragile little sissies to stop complaining about everything. You live in America 100x better than a lot of people. GET OVER IT. No one wants to hear you complain
Lowkey asab lmaooo babyboy, men do not have to be tough just like women don’t have to be fragile. You fr are so insecure about your manhood, it’s sad.
How are illegals treated in mexico?
Electric Jellyfish better than in the United States my friend.
They get shot by Drug Gangs.
@@corazon6325 no they don't. I bet you literally have never lived in Mexico. No going to a hotel in Cancun doesn't count.
@@frograna1897 does going to Michoacán and Tamaulipas count ?
@@lolz6337 100% you mark "white/Caucasian" when filling forms out
I think he's just low on testoterone
Snowflake 🙄 pobrecito 🤣
bet you stuck in a low end job ...no body in a higher profession will want that toxicty .
He drinks that gluten free soy horchata
machismo is life! all man must be macho
What do u consider machismo and what do you think a woman's purpose in life is? A woman goes through so much bad things in her life but a man doesn't need to do much. I would like to know your honest answer.
@@jaebriacruz3534 this is completely wrong. In this society there always be some thirsty dude trying to white knight a girls. But weak loner boys have no one.
@@jaebriacruz3534 remember a society that emasculates its men then they will be replaced by a culture that doesn’t. Islam.
This guy is way too soft
BEAN CHICLE chill Compa lol
Hi Bean Chicle. He's soft but strong in his own way. We are strong differently. As mexicanos / chicanos, we need to raise each other up....at least you didn't call him a "P". My respects*
this was what a machismo always tries to feel more dominant . Bet you wouldnt stand in that crowd and recite the poem without feeling anxious or studdering
@Gen Xhow is being an expressive men a bad thing?? Always being called soft or weak
imagine proudly admitting to being part of the problem
Machismo needs to be banned in the US
So freaking dramatic.
Soyboy is a drama queen
Funny how nobody criticizes Sharia Law.