Your daughter is so lucky to have you as a dad.. I'm a male INTP and I can imagine how life can be super hard for female INTPs.. Thank you for being a good father.
M Ibraham - Thank you for saying that. It’s very encouraging. I do think our world is structured to see females with lead Ti as strange. I have learned that this is wrong. People with lead Ti are so awesome in so many ways. We need people of every gender and type. We just need to see their value and learn to appreciate what they bring to the table. Be awesome my friend.
"As her dad, it's my responsibility to learn how to communicate with her. It's not her responsibility to learn how to communicate with me." Yes, exactly. Like you said, you want her to learn how to communicate, but you are taking ownership for the communication as the parent. Thank you!
I'm an INTP and my little sister is an ISFP. We get along with each other very well. She seems to be very aware of her emotions while I sometimes feel bad but I can't figure out why or how to change it. I also admire her for having the courage to change things in her life, which is always very challenging for me.
Well, as an INTP (and the only Thinker in an entire family of Feelers) I can tell you a couple things. 1 It hurts, we intps DO have feelings and "Because I said so!" It hurts. I hate the stereotype that we're robots and very often Feelers actually hurt us. It's great that You're being a good parent ❤ 2 INTP doesn't like to be told what to do, even if your reasons are good, we'll be like "Yeah.....no, I'm doing it MY WAY anyways. Thank you." We're quiet rebels and deeply independent creatures. ✌️
Hey ISFP journey, love the vid. I'm just 5:30 minutes into the video but already, you're spot on. You mention the dishes; you say: "just do it this way" and the INTP asks "why??" And you then have to explain it logically for the INTP to accept. So true, in my experience as an INTP. But what I find so interesting is this: when you say "put them this way," you're right. And you don't even know how you're right, you just know they dishes come out more beautiful. Your attunement to Fi Se makes you aware that dishes stacked this way are less grimy, say, or more shiny. And as an INTP I know there's a logical explanation for this, and I need this explanation to believe it because I don't have SE and Fi to guide me. I need Ti and Ne somehow. But you just know, instinctively, through your attunement to Se (whether the plates are clean when you look at them and touch them) and Fi ("I like this cleanness") that its the right way to do it. Essentially, it seems like you perceive Truth through Beauty, (the plate's Se qualities make you feel Fi good and leads you to Te organization) and I find Beauty through Truth (The Ti logic desires Ne understanding so I can make Fe happiness). Crazy! Again, as an INTP, I love getting your perspective as my exact opposite! Seems like we're all geared to find the same things: beauty, truth, goodness- but through different means. Love your vids as always, Casey
That's very true! I (as an INTP) have to know the reason for doing something and it has to be a logical one , otherwise it kind of bothers me! :D If, however, I understand the reason I'm happy to do it. It's not so much about do I like it or not, but more does it make sense!
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i love tf out of my intp boyfriend. ((im an isfp)) he's 19 & im the only girl he's ever been with and he's hot as shit so of course im a little confused, but he said that he didnt like anyone in his high school enough to start anything or make them think he was interested in any way. we started dating three days after we met. he deadass didn't want to waste time bc we both knew we really liked each other. he's perfect in every way bottom line DATE AN INTP
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@@cherrylaurr omg yeah i cant believe i commented this a year ago thats crazy. we live together now & is still perfect!!? it blows my mind that he cares about me in such a logical way? idk if that makes sense but i just know that he has nothing but good intentions so it makes me feel safe. i feel like in his computer brain he's had this tab open for 2 and a half years that is a blinking reminder that says "this is girlfriend you love her! keep her happy and she will love you too!!"
I’m an INTP and my wife is ISFP, going on 11 years and three kids! Lots of up’s and downs, obviously. And, I am a better person because of her ISFP patience and her ISFP morals, like giving everyone a chance to hear them out and not making assumptions about behavioral responses. So, basically she showed me more patterns to look out for when I go to into hyper focus. She DID used to think I was being arrogant about my perspectives, not realizing that my perspective was always a big picture look where my perspective had already gone thru scrutiny inside my head. Arrogant behavior is something she doesn’t agree with, and because she’s a beautiful ISFP she didn’t let that subtract from our relationship and choose to see me for me. Her undying patience for my misunderstood quirks, and for my demon behavior when my quirks being misunderstood had pushed me to my breaking point, her ability to love me despite my quirks being her very pet peeves allowed me the time needed to analyze myself and GROW into a better man for our family. INTPs, if you are blessed to have an ISFP come into your life, cherish them, learn from them, and APPRECIATE them. ISFPs, your INTP doesn’t realize they are the way they are, but you WILL be instrumental in their path to learn themselves. ISFPs, the INTPs heart is fragile from a lifetime of perceived aggressive exclusion from the outside world, the world that they oddly care so much about. That hurts. Your ISFP personality will show the INTP how to appreciate the beauty in the world they they understand very well (and your INTP even sees beauty that you can not) but just can’t express to the world properly how they see it. ISFPs, your INTPs heart is in your hands!! No better hands to be in ☺️
omgggg this is so accurate! This is all of the struggles me and My ISFP mother have all of the time, teaching her mbti, has made our conversations go alot more smoothly. thankyou so much for this video!
Oh my god my sister is an ISFP and she's the one who inspired me to dress better and take care of my hair too. I dress so much nicer now because of her!!! It's helped me alot socially since I use to dress like a homeless beach bum 😂
I'm INTP and my best friend is ISFP, sometimes we disagree a lot and turns out a bit annoying, but I can always trust him and I got used to it :v. Edit: I have another close friend who is an ENTJ and I get along with him but sometimes his need of overly chit-chat and etc... Overwhelms me, and My best friend...most of the time can't stand him :v
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Excellent video - You've captured the day-to-day highlights of our relationship. My ISFP often scolds me for not doing things their way and picking up my candy wrapper, while I'm busy inside my INTP head and not aware of my external surroundings. Another source of friction is that the ISFP prefers immediate attention when something comes up (multi-tasking/shifting gears), whereas the INTP prefers to optimize their focus/attention (mono-tasking/deep focus). For the longest time, I mistyped my ISFP (Fi-Se-Ni-Te) partner as ENTJ (Te-Ni-Se-Fi), due to the immediacy need, which I interpreted as high Te. We are both learning... :) Cheers!
I am an isfp mother of an intp daughter also, she is 18, this video is sooo spot on, over the years we have grown to understand eachother a bit more, and mbti has helped with the understanding of eachother alot, she showed me this video today and other videos you have done and I had to subscribe, I don't even use CZcams all that much, you really got it all in a nutshell, will be watching more of your vids, very interesting and relatable 👍
As an INTP, I can say with certainty, that if you want your INTP to understand something past their logical filter, you must treat it as just that, a filter. We can absolutely take an emotional stance on something, and even help you logically stand behind your own convictions against adversity, so long as we understand the logical basis for it. It can't pass the logical filter for further examination or exploration, unless it comes delivered in a logical package. If you bring a solid, logical point, and it holds together, we will actually tend to accept and hold that as our own personal stance as well
Hey super late to the comment party. I'm an INTP and one of my closest friends is a ISFP. Your analysis of the Ti and Fi functions clashing is entirely accurate. I will say though what can be the saving grace for me is the inferior Fe. Sure me and my friend can sometimes bicker and squabble over trivial things, however I will admit when I see something is really important to my ISFP friend and they are really passionate about it. I let go of my Ti and let him have that thing or experience it because I want him to feel happy. There can sometimes be really special moments where my Fe and Ti his Fi and Ni really connect with very personal and emotional problems. He can pretty easily tell something is wrong with me because I loose interest in things I normally always have great interest in. For example he will ask "hey learned any songs on guitar lately?" Usually I would say yes, why and by who. If I answer "no" or "not really" he will immediately sit me down and say "what's wrong?" And if I try to deflect he will say "something is bothering you so just tell me". From my experience that's what's been the real rock and foundation of our relationship. As much as we hate to admit it INTP's can be really sensitive by things around us and loose our way. ISFP's I think can relate to that and have a really strong healing effect on INTP's and be a strong guiding light when we get lost, scared or confused which INTP's in life inevitably do!
As an INTP, I absolutely loved your video! It taught me a lot about me and you personificated me as a child 😂 (bc when you grow old you become condescendent) 😂 I'll be more considerate with you ISFPs 🙂
Maybe slightly off topic, but I've noticed a sort of "pathology" in myself where if you don't enter into communication with me with BASIC human respect, all logic and reason go down the drain. You're now my worst enemy.That's how important emotional level of communication is to me.
ISFP. I am quite lucky and endlessly gushing to have an INTP boyfriend. Insane loyalty, consistency and understanding scale. I still don't know why he likes me lmao. I feel so boring.
Im in the same situasion too but like my intp bf, im scared if he didnt interested with me nor im being annoying with him, i watch a lot of videos about relationship from different channel just to strengthen our relationship... Still im scared of what im doing but im not letting him go unless he really dont want me 😭✨️
I can relate with a need for a reason as an INTP. Because I made many mistakes when somebody asked me something. I thought: oh, he wants this because that, so I will make it this way. But then it turned out, he had another reason and I just messed up. It is so much easier when people tell me what they want and why.
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Interesting. I’m an INTP and I experience the exact opposite. I know so well what someone is saying and why, my questions are perceived as getting at the exact opposite of what I truly was. In my effort to pinpoint the situation, they think I’m trampling on their logic.
I'm ISFP and I'm pretty sure my son is INTP. When you brought up the example of dishes; I was like YES, we've had a conversation about this. I remember saying; this is a better way. Then, he's like, why. And I tried to explain the best I could. Then, he would question me more... Then, I just end up saying 'because!' Even though we aren't very similar in the cognitive functions, I'm thankful we get along very well.
i wrote a whole essay but then decided against it. im a 24 year old female intp with an isfp dad. maybe its because im used to my dad and i might have learnt to adapt with a different kind of parent, but i look around and see other parents and if i'd gotten one of them instead of him, i might have lost it. lol. we get along really well and he's a really cool parent. i also hope i find someone with all his cool qualities, if im ever going to be with someone.
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Love this 💖 it feels really good when a fellow ISFP talks haha because I can relate, there's a sense of familiarity or companionship. By the way, how do you type someone using cognitive functions, how do i know if a person has this cognitive function as their primary and so on?
Well, that takes a lot of information and practice. It’s all about learning how cognitive functions manifest themselves. The watching people to see which ones they use in a calm state, which ones they use in a panic state, and which ones they barely use at all.
I've tested as an INTP for the last few years. However the other day, I took the test again only to be led to ISFP. I'm so confused, this has been such a journey. It's weird but I strongly relate to both - upfront as an ISFP with my turbulent emotions, but get frustrated with myself and my INTP comes out. It feels like dealing with a conflicting relationship with myself.
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Hey! This is totally common, so don’t worry. I think that you might be interested in looking up the four sides of the mind. In jungian analytical psychology, you are typed with four types: the “ego” (the one you refer yourself as), subconscious, unconscious, and superego. To put it simply the ISFP has an INTP area regarding the four sides of the mind. If you search “ISFP four sides of the mind C.S. Joseph”, I think you will find some answers :)
So this really makes me question whether I’m actually Fi (INFP) or a really confused Ti user. Like all people, I do things out of enjoyment and “just because”, but I also need reasons for things too, especially when someone else asks me to do something. This is my biggest struggle with my ESTJ mom who just wants things done a certain way and will hate it when I ask her why. She takes it very personally, like I’m questioning her as a person, when I just really want to understand where she’s coming from, because I can see other ways in which things would be way easier. But she still refuses because “she doesn’t feel like it” lol I just find it so weird that her emotions can lead her to overcomplicate things so much, when she’s usually a really logical person who will bash you for not being objective or seeing more sides to any given situation.
Interesting puzzle to try to figure out. I won’t really comment on your situation, because I don’t know you. But you may want to try to determine if you fit the NF temperament or the NT temperament better. NF is always trying to figure out what to value in the abstract or metaphysical world. NT is always trying to figure out the abstract or metaphysical world. The two can look similar.
What about an intp (me) who wants to communicate and is desperate to be able to communicate with an uncommunicative isfp? I find myself trying to grasp at words or phrases to use to try to get my isfp to open up but because we have different languages my isfp, in a sense, gives up..
I think that can be a common problem with ISFP. Good communication has always been a top priority for me. But I don’t think all ISFP are dedicated to good communication. But when we do communicate, it’s rarely sterile or calculated. Always filled with emotion.
I am an INTP and my friend is a ISFP they takes all my jokes literally and picks fights over them I don’t know what to do because joking is my only way of conveying emotion but they see them as sarcastic remarks and hatred (which I don’t have hatred towards them) Any advice?
I think that we, ISFPs, have a hard time understanding people who favor thinking over feeling. If an ISFP will realize the differences, and truly try to understand other people, he’s he can get past it and start appreciating diverse ways of approaching life. For me, that did not really start to happen until I was in my 30s.
In my case, as an INTP, when someone talks to me in a very Fi way, I shutdown not because there’s a language barrier. It’s more because of overload due to redundancy. Even if it is Inferior, INTPs are still Fe users. The reason why I (I don’t know if I speak for my type in this) can get insecure about what people feel about me is that I can read the room but over-reliance on Ti pushes the Fe down to the point of it being underdeveloped in expression (but not so in observation). So, yeah, the shutdown is basically because I already know how you feel (or at least a gist of it) and zoning out to formulate a logical way to deal with an emotional outburst. As it goes, though, indifference seems to be one of the best way to deal with it...emotions will soon die down. Shutdown it is! 😂
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From what i hear here, the ISFP is in need of acquiring the emotional element from another human being in order to decide whether the information is important or right or wrong, based on another human being's emotional confirmation/endorsement.
I would categorically disagree. That is a common aspect of those with Extroverted Feeling in their main cognitive function stack. Those with Introverted Feeling high, such as ISFP, typically make their value judgements in spite of the majority, not because of it.
I'm an INTP who has had a pretty bad experience with a former best friend who was an ISFP. I understand that his brain works differently but I don't care. I was constantly picking up his slack. He was going nowhere in life and I pretty much had to take care of him and do everything for him. I saw him as useless. The only one time I had to rely on him was when he was the best man at my wedding and he didn't even get the date right for the wedding and he flew into town on the day of the wedding and delayed the ceremony by 40 minutes. The worst part is that he never showed any appreciation for everything I did for him and when it was time for him to do one thing for me the only time I needed him, he dropped the ball and I pretty much had to do all his duties at my own wedding. I see ISFP's as very selfish and irresponsible people. I feel stupid for not noticing it earlier because of how independent I am. We only got along because neither of us were superficial but that isn't enough. This was only one example. He has been letting me down for a very long time and I just keep it to myself. I challenge you to change my mind to see ISFP in a different light because right now they are my least favourite MBTI type.
Your daughter is so lucky to have you as a dad.. I'm a male INTP and I can imagine how life can be super hard for female INTPs.. Thank you for being a good father.
M Ibraham - Thank you for saying that. It’s very encouraging. I do think our world is structured to see females with lead Ti as strange. I have learned that this is wrong. People with lead Ti are so awesome in so many ways. We need people of every gender and type. We just need to see their value and learn to appreciate what they bring to the table. Be awesome my friend.
I am an intp female from india
INTP female from germany
"As her dad, it's my responsibility to learn how to communicate with her. It's not her responsibility to learn how to communicate with me." Yes, exactly. Like you said, you want her to learn how to communicate, but you are taking ownership for the communication as the parent. Thank you!
Lisha Yost - It’s very important to me.
My mom is a narcissistic entj. And I'm an isfp. It's an absolute nightmare.
I'm an INTP and my little sister is an ISFP. We get along with each other very well. She seems to be very aware of her emotions while I sometimes feel bad but I can't figure out why or how to change it. I also admire her for having the courage to change things in her life, which is always very challenging for me.
Well, as an INTP (and the only Thinker in an entire family of Feelers) I can tell you a couple things. 1 It hurts, we intps DO have feelings and "Because I said so!" It hurts. I hate the stereotype that we're robots and very often Feelers actually hurt us. It's great that You're being a good parent ❤ 2 INTP doesn't like to be told what to do, even if your reasons are good, we'll be like "Yeah.....no, I'm doing it MY WAY anyways. Thank you." We're quiet rebels and deeply independent creatures. ✌️
As a INTP married to a ISFP for 13 years I can attest to all your insights to various degree. Both the problems and the solutions. Thank you
Thank you for watching and for your encouraging comments.
Hey ISFP journey, love the vid.
I'm just 5:30 minutes into the video but already, you're spot on. You mention the dishes; you say: "just do it this way" and the INTP asks "why??" And you then have to explain it logically for the INTP to accept. So true, in my experience as an INTP.
But what I find so interesting is this: when you say "put them this way," you're right. And you don't even know how you're right, you just know they dishes come out more beautiful. Your attunement to Fi Se makes you aware that dishes stacked this way are less grimy, say, or more shiny. And as an INTP I know there's a logical explanation for this, and I need this explanation to believe it because I don't have SE and Fi to guide me. I need Ti and Ne somehow. But you just know, instinctively, through your attunement to Se (whether the plates are clean when you look at them and touch them) and Fi ("I like this cleanness") that its the right way to do it.
Essentially, it seems like you perceive Truth through Beauty, (the plate's Se qualities make you feel Fi good and leads you to Te organization) and I find Beauty through Truth (The Ti logic desires Ne understanding so I can make Fe happiness). Crazy!
Again, as an INTP, I love getting your perspective as my exact opposite! Seems like we're all geared to find the same things: beauty, truth, goodness- but through different means.
Love your vids as always,
Casey
This was an excellent train of thoughts. Thank you so much for taking the time to share your comment. Very insightful. Very helpful.
That's very true! I (as an INTP) have to know the reason for doing something and it has to be a logical one , otherwise it kind of bothers me! :D If, however, I understand the reason I'm happy to do it. It's not so much about do I like it or not, but more does it make sense!
Lilly Sparrow - Thank you for that comment. I really appreciate it. And thank you so much for watching. Keep being an awesome INTP; the world needs what you contribute.
@@myisfpjourney7813 Thanks! Keep up the videos! :-)
i love tf out of my intp boyfriend. ((im an isfp)) he's 19 & im the only girl he's ever been with and he's hot as shit so of course im a little confused, but he said that he didnt like anyone in his high school enough to start anything or make them think he was interested in any way.
we started dating three days after we met. he deadass didn't want to waste time bc we both knew we really liked each other.
he's perfect in every way
bottom line
DATE AN INTP
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Hi, if you don't mind me asking, how're you doing now! I'm starting to like a guy and he's and intp, I would like to know how the relationship is like
@@cherrylaurr omg yeah i cant believe i commented this a year ago thats crazy. we live together now & is still perfect!!? it blows my mind that he cares about me in such a logical way? idk if that makes sense but i just know that he has nothing but good intentions so it makes me feel safe. i feel like in his computer brain he's had this tab open for 2 and a half years that is a blinking reminder that says "this is girlfriend you love her! keep her happy and she will love you too!!"
@@lindaangel6103 Omg really! I'm so happy for you two, I'm glad you two are doing so well
Do you have any advice?
I’m an INTP and my wife is ISFP, going on 11 years and three kids! Lots of up’s and downs, obviously. And, I am a better person because of her ISFP patience and her ISFP morals, like giving everyone a chance to hear them out and not making assumptions about behavioral responses. So, basically she showed me more patterns to look out for when I go to into hyper focus. She DID used to think I was being arrogant about my perspectives, not realizing that my perspective was always a big picture look where my perspective had already gone thru scrutiny inside my head. Arrogant behavior is something she doesn’t agree with, and because she’s a beautiful ISFP she didn’t let that subtract from our relationship and choose to see me for me. Her undying patience for my misunderstood quirks, and for my demon behavior when my quirks being misunderstood had pushed me to my breaking point, her ability to love me despite my quirks being her very pet peeves allowed me the time needed to analyze myself and GROW into a better man for our family. INTPs, if you are blessed to have an ISFP come into your life, cherish them, learn from them, and APPRECIATE them. ISFPs, your INTP doesn’t realize they are the way they are, but you WILL be instrumental in their path to learn themselves. ISFPs, the INTPs heart is fragile from a lifetime of perceived aggressive exclusion from the outside world, the world that they oddly care so much about. That hurts. Your ISFP personality will show the INTP how to appreciate the beauty in the world they they understand very well (and your INTP even sees beauty that you can not) but just can’t express to the world properly how they see it. ISFPs, your INTPs heart is in your hands!! No better hands to be in ☺️
omgggg this is so accurate! This is all of the struggles me and My ISFP mother have all of the time, teaching her mbti, has made our conversations go alot more smoothly. thankyou so much for this video!
I'm ISFP with an INTP son and this video is spot on how our relationship is. Thanks for posting this 😊
My mom is isfp too, and Im intp ^^
I find my intp brother being very inspired by me, even going as far as to put effort into his appearance, which he never does.
Oh my god my sister is an ISFP and she's the one who inspired me to dress better and take care of my hair too. I dress so much nicer now because of her!!! It's helped me alot socially since I use to dress like a homeless beach bum 😂
I'm INTP and my best friend is ISFP, sometimes we disagree a lot and turns out a bit annoying, but I can always trust him and I got used to it :v.
Edit: I have another close friend who is an ENTJ and I get along with him but sometimes his need of overly chit-chat and etc... Overwhelms me, and My best friend...most of the time can't stand him :v
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My mom is your type and I’m your daughters type. OH MY GOD I found this therapeutic. God bless you. I’m showing this to my mom.
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Excellent video - You've captured the day-to-day highlights of our relationship. My ISFP often scolds me for not doing things their way and picking up my candy wrapper, while I'm busy inside my INTP head and not aware of my external surroundings. Another source of friction is that the ISFP prefers immediate attention when something comes up (multi-tasking/shifting gears), whereas the INTP prefers to optimize their focus/attention (mono-tasking/deep focus). For the longest time, I mistyped my ISFP (Fi-Se-Ni-Te) partner as ENTJ (Te-Ni-Se-Fi), due to the immediacy need, which I interpreted as high Te. We are both learning... :) Cheers!
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thank you so much for the vid 🥺💙.
Thank you for watching
I am an isfp mother of an intp daughter also, she is 18, this video is sooo spot on, over the years we have grown to understand eachother a bit more, and mbti has helped with the understanding of eachother alot, she showed me this video today and other videos you have done and I had to subscribe, I don't even use CZcams all that much, you really got it all in a nutshell, will be watching more of your vids, very interesting and relatable 👍
Thank you!
As an INTP, I can say with certainty, that if you want your INTP to understand something past their logical filter, you must treat it as just that, a filter. We can absolutely take an emotional stance on something, and even help you logically stand behind your own convictions against adversity, so long as we understand the logical basis for it. It can't pass the logical filter for further examination or exploration, unless it comes delivered in a logical package. If you bring a solid, logical point, and it holds together, we will actually tend to accept and hold that as our own personal stance as well
Hey super late to the comment party. I'm an INTP and one of my closest friends is a ISFP. Your analysis of the Ti and Fi functions clashing is entirely accurate. I will say though what can be the saving grace for me is the inferior Fe.
Sure me and my friend can sometimes bicker and squabble over trivial things, however I will admit when I see something is really important to my ISFP friend and they are really passionate about it. I let go of my Ti and let him have that thing or experience it because I want him to feel happy.
There can sometimes be really special moments where my Fe and Ti his Fi and Ni really connect with very personal and emotional problems. He can pretty easily tell something is wrong with me because I loose interest in things I normally always have great interest in. For example he will ask "hey learned any songs on guitar lately?" Usually I would say yes, why and by who. If I answer "no" or "not really" he will immediately sit me down and say "what's wrong?" And if I try to deflect he will say "something is bothering you so just tell me".
From my experience that's what's been the real rock and foundation of our relationship. As much as we hate to admit it INTP's can be really sensitive by things around us and loose our way. ISFP's I think can relate to that and have a really strong healing effect on INTP's and be a strong guiding light when we get lost, scared or confused which INTP's in life inevitably do!
Thanks for sharing those insights and experiences.
As an INTP, I absolutely loved your video! It taught me a lot about me and you personificated me as a child 😂 (bc when you grow old you become condescendent) 😂 I'll be more considerate with you ISFPs 🙂
Maybe slightly off topic, but I've noticed a sort of "pathology" in myself where if you don't enter into communication with me with BASIC human respect, all logic and reason go down the drain. You're now my worst enemy.That's how important emotional level of communication is to me.
Yep, me too. It’s really hard to get past. But some people don’t seem to have that tool in their bag.
ISFP. I am quite lucky and endlessly gushing to have an INTP boyfriend. Insane loyalty, consistency and understanding scale. I still don't know why he likes me lmao. I feel so boring.
Arian Tejano - Sometimes we just can’t see our own worth.
im in the exact same situation lmao
Im in the same situasion too but like my intp bf, im scared if he didnt interested with me nor im being annoying with him, i watch a lot of videos about relationship from different channel just to strengthen our relationship... Still im scared of what im doing but im not letting him go unless he really dont want me 😭✨️
same except I consider myself as ixfp and he's just my crush. He's also younger than me so I'm afraid that he just see me as a friend/sister.
@@ashiyaa8624 Same here, and I can relate to the other comments as well. I hope you're all doing well and that everything works out!
thank u! this is helpful!
Excellent video, thank you , I would like more 😀
Isfp.
I can relate with a need for a reason as an INTP. Because I made many mistakes when somebody asked me something. I thought: oh, he wants this because that, so I will make it this way. But then it turned out, he had another reason and I just messed up. It is so much easier when people tell me what they want and why.
Sándor Horváth - Very true. But people so often hide what they really want and leave you guessing. I have learned, over the years, to try not to do that to people. Thank you for watching and commenting. Please consider subscribing if you have not already.
Interesting. I’m an INTP and I experience the exact opposite. I know so well what someone is saying and why, my questions are perceived as getting at the exact opposite of what I truly was. In my effort to pinpoint the situation, they think I’m trampling on their logic.
Great video!!
I'm ISFP and I'm pretty sure my son is INTP. When you brought up the example of dishes; I was like YES, we've had a conversation about this. I remember saying; this is a better way. Then, he's like, why. And I tried to explain the best I could. Then, he would question me more... Then, I just end up saying 'because!' Even though we aren't very similar in the cognitive functions, I'm thankful we get along very well.
My bf is an ISFP, I’m an INTP and wow this video really described our relationship.
i wrote a whole essay but then decided against it. im a 24 year old female intp with an isfp dad. maybe its because im used to my dad and i might have learnt to adapt with a different kind of parent, but i look around and see other parents and if i'd gotten one of them instead of him, i might have lost it. lol. we get along really well and he's a really cool parent. i also hope i find someone with all his cool qualities, if im ever going to be with someone.
That’s awesome. I love it when parents and children have an excellent relationship. Thanks for watching and commenting. Please consider subscribing if you have not already.
Love this 💖 it feels really good when a fellow ISFP talks haha because I can relate, there's a sense of familiarity or companionship. By the way, how do you type someone using cognitive functions, how do i know if a person has this cognitive function as their primary and so on?
Well, that takes a lot of information and practice. It’s all about learning how cognitive functions manifest themselves. The watching people to see which ones they use in a calm state, which ones they use in a panic state, and which ones they barely use at all.
I've tested as an INTP for the last few years. However the other day, I took the test again only to be led to ISFP. I'm so confused, this has been such a journey. It's weird but I strongly relate to both - upfront as an ISFP with my turbulent emotions, but get frustrated with myself and my INTP comes out. It feels like dealing with a conflicting relationship with myself.
Wannabe Pronstar - Keep learning and focusing and you’ll figure out which type you are. But even in the confusion, the fact that you can see yourself is more important than technically knowing your type. Keep being awesome. Thanks for watching and commenting. Please consider subscribing if you have not already.
Hey! This is totally common, so don’t worry. I think that you might be interested in looking up the four sides of the mind. In jungian analytical psychology, you are typed with four types: the “ego” (the one you refer yourself as), subconscious, unconscious, and superego. To put it simply the ISFP has an INTP area regarding the four sides of the mind. If you search “ISFP four sides of the mind C.S. Joseph”, I think you will find some answers :)
So this really makes me question whether I’m actually Fi (INFP) or a really confused Ti user. Like all people, I do things out of enjoyment and “just because”, but I also need reasons for things too, especially when someone else asks me to do something. This is my biggest struggle with my ESTJ mom who just wants things done a certain way and will hate it when I ask her why. She takes it very personally, like I’m questioning her as a person, when I just really want to understand where she’s coming from, because I can see other ways in which things would be way easier. But she still refuses because “she doesn’t feel like it” lol
I just find it so weird that her emotions can lead her to overcomplicate things so much, when she’s usually a really logical person who will bash you for not being objective or seeing more sides to any given situation.
Interesting puzzle to try to figure out. I won’t really comment on your situation, because I don’t know you. But you may want to try to determine if you fit the NF temperament or the NT temperament better. NF is always trying to figure out what to value in the abstract or metaphysical world. NT is always trying to figure out the abstract or metaphysical world. The two can look similar.
Intp father here with intp daughter and isfp wife. I assume that my wife literally feels your pain.
gary wilburn - Type dynamic in families is so fascinating. Has your wife watched this video? I’d love her thoughts.
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What about an intp (me) who wants to communicate and is desperate to be able to communicate with an uncommunicative isfp? I find myself trying to grasp at words or phrases to use to try to get my isfp to open up but because we have different languages my isfp, in a sense, gives up..
I think that can be a common problem with ISFP. Good communication has always been a top priority for me. But I don’t think all ISFP are dedicated to good communication. But when we do communicate, it’s rarely sterile or calculated. Always filled with emotion.
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Amazing that's me and my students. I the ISFP. Them the INTP.
Brilliant breakdown 😄
Thank you
Me and my brother 100%
I am intp, he is an isfp.
I am an INTP and my friend is a ISFP they takes all my jokes literally and picks fights over them I don’t know what to do because joking is my only way of conveying emotion but they see them as sarcastic remarks and hatred (which I don’t have hatred towards them)
Any advice?
I think that we, ISFPs, have a hard time understanding people who favor thinking over feeling. If an ISFP will realize the differences, and truly try to understand other people, he’s he can get past it and start appreciating diverse ways of approaching life. For me, that did not really start to happen until I was in my 30s.
Be patient and look for opportunities to KINDLY show them that it’s ok to consider the world through non ISFP eyes.
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@@myisfpjourney7813 thank you! And I will!
Man I really love ISFPs and wish I have some around me but they don't want us :(
Are you an INTP?
In my case, as an INTP, when someone talks to me in a very Fi way, I shutdown not because there’s a language barrier. It’s more because of overload due to redundancy. Even if it is Inferior, INTPs are still Fe users.
The reason why I (I don’t know if I speak for my type in this) can get insecure about what people feel about me is that I can read the room but over-reliance on Ti pushes the Fe down to the point of it being underdeveloped in expression (but not so in observation).
So, yeah, the shutdown is basically because I already know how you feel (or at least a gist of it) and zoning out to formulate a logical way to deal with an emotional outburst. As it goes, though, indifference seems to be one of the best way to deal with it...emotions will soon die down. Shutdown it is! 😂
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From what i hear here, the ISFP is in need of acquiring the emotional element from another human being in order to decide whether the information is important or right or wrong, based on another human being's emotional confirmation/endorsement.
I would categorically disagree. That is a common aspect of those with Extroverted Feeling in their main cognitive function stack. Those with Introverted Feeling high, such as ISFP, typically make their value judgements in spite of the majority, not because of it.
@@myisfpjourney7813 I mean in the communication process (with intp), you need the emotional feedback in order to feel this communication valid.
@@meiyuc22 - oh!!! Yes!!!!! I totally agree. My apologies. I wasn’t reading your comment in proper context.
ISFPs make great parents
I sure try
I'm INTP and my cousin is ISFP
I'm an INTP who has had a pretty bad experience with a former best friend who was an ISFP. I understand that his brain works differently but I don't care. I was constantly picking up his slack. He was going nowhere in life and I pretty much had to take care of him and do everything for him. I saw him as useless. The only one time I had to rely on him was when he was the best man at my wedding and he didn't even get the date right for the wedding and he flew into town on the day of the wedding and delayed the ceremony by 40 minutes. The worst part is that he never showed any appreciation for everything I did for him and when it was time for him to do one thing for me the only time I needed him, he dropped the ball and I pretty much had to do all his duties at my own wedding. I see ISFP's as very selfish and irresponsible people. I feel stupid for not noticing it earlier because of how independent I am. We only got along because neither of us were superficial but that isn't enough. This was only one example. He has been letting me down for a very long time and I just keep it to myself. I challenge you to change my mind to see ISFP in a different light because right now they are my least favourite MBTI type.
I have no interest in changing your mind.