How to Ask DIFFICULT Questions Before Dating! | Matthew Hussey
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You should never go more than 3 date without sharing what you want. And listening carefully to what they want. Playing tye cool girl is a fools errand
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I think in every habit Ed Mylett "compound pounding" effect is the best solution...
in sport, in business, in relationships.
1. If you use compound pounding in sport, (exercissing for an hour) you will see no results in 5 days,
but you will see big results in 100 days.
2. If you will say a good morning to people, you will see no effect in 5 days,
but you will see a great difference in 100 days.
3. If you will practice the compassion for your partner and make some good deed,
you will see no or small difference in 5 days,
but you will see a great difference in 50 or 100 days,
you will see how much you mean to them.
Therefore you can not tell if your values are working after one week, because you see the effect after 100 or 140 days.
Maybe each couple should practice this technique, If I will make something small to make my partner happy, for a little moment, they will remmber theese little moments.
and good mood increases the immunity of the body by 50 percent in 4 days.
So their kids will learn the same technique.
They will learn that if they will read a book 10 minutes a day, it has great impact on brain.
Next time it may be 20 minutes a day.
But if you stop doing the habit now... after week it makes no difference
after 140 days the results change for worse, you loose muscless or you loose some skill or motivation etc.
Good deed may be also making a pizza or small things.
People actually enjoy small things much more than big gestures.
because it´s about living in the moment.
I think people dont say those big things because they are afraid of rejection, but if someone doesnt want the same things, it saves you both wasting time, and people dont have to be unkind, those ones we are better off without.
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I think in every habit Ed Mylett "compound pounding" effect is the best solution...
in sport, in business, in relationships.
1. If you use compound pounding in sport, (exercissing for an hour) you will see no results in 5 days,
but you will see big results in 100 days.
2. If you will say a good morning to people, you will see no effect in 5 days,
but you will see a great difference in 100 days.
3. If you will practice the compassion for your partner and make some good deed,
you will see no or small difference in 5 days,
but you will see a great difference in 50 or 100 days,
you will see how much you mean to them.
Therefore you can not tell if your values are working after one week, because you see the effect after 100 or 140 days.
Maybe each couple should practice this technique, If I will make something small to make my partner happy, for a little moment, they will remmber theese little moments.
and good mood increases the immunity of the body by 50 percent in 4 days.
So their kids will learn the same technique.
They will learn that if they will read a book 10 minutes a day, it has great impact on brain.
Next time it may be 20 minutes a day.
But if you stop doing the habit now... after week it makes no difference
after 140 days the results change for worse, you loose muscless or you loose some skill or motivation etc.
Good deed may be also making a pizza or small things.
People actually enjoy small things much more than big gestures.
because it´s about living in the moment.
I would be stoked if a guy told me those were his top priorities. If we don't care for our bodies and spirit, we can't function optimally in any of our relationships. Thanks for sharing this, Lewis 🎉
If you are conversing with an honest man, this would work. Allot of men mirror what you want, but actually want something entirely different. They do this for various reasons.
I would find a man who has the priorities Lewis listed, I would find that really attractive.
I would love to find a partner that prioritises their health and purpose. It doesn’t matter if I’m their number one if they don’t look after themselves because it would eventually be a burden. As long as I can trust them and their purpose is not getting Instagram validation - we are good 😊
These two men have been pillars in my self-growth since 2017. I appreciate you both for growing with us as you help us grow. Inspiring ❤
Appreciate you and your support! 🙏
I agree with Lewis' priorities. If your partner wants you happy, then those are the priorities that should come first. To make someone happy, you have to make yourself happy. Tend your own garden, first. If you dont love yourself, you cant really love someone else. And too many women or men, are too likely to help make their partner less healthy, so that the other person doesnt exercise enough, starts eating the wrong foods, etc. And if you Really love someone, you want that person to be happy, to follow their own purpose. And to not end up on the other side of someone elses life, and having given up on their own goals, their own dreams. No one should ask someone to be less than who and what, they are--thats NOT love.
Could listen to Matthew speak for hours. Wow.
Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂
I loved the conversation. Such an attitude makes us first be honest with ourselves, 'what do I want? What am I looking for? What do I need?' And second, to be honest with the other person, 'This is what I see when I look inside myself, and I want you to see it too. And I would like you to do the same.' We create a secure bond of trust by facing these issues head-on. On the one hand, we accept that what 'we are and want' may not be what the other person wants and needs, and that's okay. We trust in abundance. We trust in life. We trust in ourselves. And those people who truly resonate with our 'vision' will also trust us. It's a win-win.
* health * vision/purpose * healthy loving peaceful environment for intimate relationships
I wonder if there are guys who also appreciate that in a woman, i have been brought up subsumed for others needs, and find it terribly challenging to be able to stay in relationship without losing myself.
Health and vision is amazing purpose ❤
I’m curious if you and Martha have had the conversation about creating a shared vision as well. How you can work as a team to not only uplift each other but also turning your attention outward to serve the world. That would be my dream relationship. ❤️🙏🏻 for sharing.
After 40 years on business, when priority number 2 goes off the rails, you'll be thankful you have priority #3.
That’s wonderful with the priorities ❤️ love that. I see it the same way.
I’m really excited to never get married again in my life, how about you? 😂
I also agree with staying single and being friends with your kind of people (any age or sex), intimacy optional, and it's also easier.
You basically told her you are not a man child😂 wow that is attractive.
No more dates for me.Only get ripped off.
Amazing
Beautiful Lewis❤
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
you need to know if there is a future
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I think women who are unhealed think that they need to be number one priority in a man's life. When if you're dealing with a healed womam They can understand that your #1 priority should be yourself.
You nailed it!!
Great priorities! 🎉
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Lewis you are so cute 😊 I Love those priorities ❤ You are e revelation. Honesty is so important.
Gold
I've had insecurities of former partners unravel / project unto me putting my well being and health first. I know it's only then when I can be the best partner (and other roles I play) I can be. It just simply told me they don't meet the mark. Phew. Bullets dodged.
Most people today meet on line.
Write into your profile a straight comment that you are not a match for people with STDs, bad credit, tons of debt, a criminal record, chaotic family situations, who are either on mental medication or should be on them, addicts or alcoholics.
Also include life styles.
If you know you don't want to live on a boat say so. If you are grossed out by hunters and fishermen say so.
If you are looking for a strong emotional bond you are out of luck with any of those and are better off remaining single.
But no matter how outspoken you are there will always be some who don't take your comment seriously so have your own paper work ready to show and don't relax unless they do the same.
Boundaries or priorities
Stay single.Have a good car instead.
Wow! Your health should be your health should be your priority......goodness......
Any women who wants to be above health and purpose does not know men very well.
Idk how to feel about the “priorities” this guy has. If you’re into someone and see yourself with them, sure you can prioritize yourself, but how else are you supposed to emotionally connect with someone if they’re not #1 priority. It seems like you’re telling the other person that their feelings don’t really matter and if she wants you, it has to be on your terms. Idk but that seems narcissistic and selfish to downplay someone’s true honest intentions of wanting to be in your life. You’re giving the other person conditional connection, which means they can’t truly express themselves. Smh.
Hey, i’m glad you shared your view. What he means by that is if you overlook your own wellbeing you cannot take care of others, in other words- you cant pour from an empty cup. Its everyones ‘one and only job’ in this life is to care for ourselves, other people will never truly know what we need, only you experience yourself truly.
2nd point, all relationships should be conditional! Conditional on respect, kindness, safety, truth ect. Otherwise, you end up valuing someone on their perceived (imaginary) value, not the value they provide in your life. And you cant know those things until you have known someone for a very long time.
I wish the scare I had from men’s answers were like these 🫠