Spent Days Making My Sister a $2,500 Engagement Cake, At the Party, She Told Me I Wasn't Invited...
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- Spent Days Making My Sister a $2,500 Engagement Cake, At the Party, She Told Me I Wasn't Invited and to Leave. So I told everyone How She's Lied for Years, Saying I Tried to Steal her Ex.
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If she feel that it's only professional then you should charge her full price
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OP legally can’t up the price of the cake once it was delivered
@@smol1549 but she can withdraw a discount upon discovering the purchaser is ineligible for it or at least she should be able to
Your sister and parents played you. If they want an apology , invoice her for the full amount. Business is business.
As justified as it would've been, it would've also been unprofessional and could've hurt OP's business. You can't just charge extra after the deal is made just because you hold a personal grudge against the client.
@@DarkEinherjarthat’s not at all what it’s for tho, she made an exception because she wanted to be nice to her sister. But time and time again Rebecca has shown she doesn’t care about OP anymore, and that she’s not going to treat her as family. why should OP not do the same?
@@DarkEinherjarnot necessarily you could professionally justify it by saying other conditions where not meet
@@DarkEinherjar it could be argued though that the price was only knocked down because of "family" as she wrote in the text to her sister and after the way she acted it was clear that "family" discount was no longer applicable.
I agree. You can't charge more because of personal grudge. Maybe next time be smarter and don't do favors for people that don't deserve it.
Her sister is a freakin brat! And their parents are terrible for enabling her
Her sister is a brat, but so was OP, thinking people owed it to her as "family" to get their cakes from her. That attitude would be enough to convince me to do the opposite, too!
And she enables it too which is sad. I hope she learns how to stand up for herself. There's going to be more people like her sister trying to take advantage of her be it emotionally, or financially (literally what happened with the cake). And she's going to "oh just to be done with them" until she's bankrupt.
I don't understand how the parents are not upset with Rebecca's behaviour towards OP. They basically enabled Rebecca. So sad OP does not see this.
Easy, Rebecca'a the favorite
The parents are the worst. Allowing family members to talk crap about her not making cake at sisters events and never trying to fix the relationship and they only care when OP made them embarrassed.
I literally called it… Typical sister believes her bf over her sister.
So let me get this straight….. OP goes to her sister like a mature and honest woman, tells her “hey, you need to get your bf, he’s been very inappropriate with me.” However, but not surprised, Rebecca does confront him, but he doesn’t just tell the truth, cause then he’ll get caught, so he just lies to her………..And she believes him………… Someone she was dating for what…. A couple of months? A year? Over her own sister, who, by the way, was being very honest with her.
Plus they ended up breaking up any way. I wonder why…. Did she actually find out that he was flirting and cheating with other women? Or did he just break up with her cause he just didn’t want to be with her, and she decided that OP was the only reason she and that guy broke up?
Either way, Rebecca is just doing too much. Jealous of your own sister? Why? The “quirky” little sister is now all grown up, and she basically sees her as a threat? Smh… 🤦🏾
I would never have given her that much special treatment. Full price, I will get it done for the party, and you make the payment in advance. It's business, she isn't family anymore.
Same, because at that point I would have already assumed to not be invited to the event.
Ngl Rebecca is probably the favorite OP is justified in my opinion
You did All of This to your self. So you know she hates you & you made her a cake?? WHAT?!
Also true, just from the way the witch ordered the cake I would've said no. she has the right to refuse service.
The fact that the sister deducted even more money from the DISCOUNTED price is insane.
If she didn't pay for the cake it's not unprofessional
Just go NC with your sister. She's just a jealous, insecure brat and the parents are horrible for enabling her. Don't accept any orders from Rebecca or anyone from her family (bf).
You know what really kills me about these family dramas is always the older siblings significant other trying to hit on the little siblings and then when the siblings tell the truth they believe they significant other because they're insecure about their sibling
Sister is a miserable Toxic Tuesday and WHEN her new Hubby realizes it, she wuiill be alone and she deserves it
Op handled it wrong probably but I wouldn't say she is the ah.
If she believes it's only professional then I don't get why you aren't charging full price and then some for someone that obviously isn't and never was family.
poor thing was holding out hope
parents told op to confront rebecca privately not because its "fair to rebecca as she did her insulting privately" but because op was public, their image is ruined in front of the family. they couldnt give a rat's ass about op's problem with rebecca, only their image, also why mom was telling op to be there at nephews bday party
thank you! plus rebecca already made things public when she was talking greasy behind OP to her friends and family like Lana.
@@mizuboni9108 its a classic case of favouratism mixed with a splash of ignorance to GC's wrongdoings
Nah I don’t think anyone should forgive the sister or let it go that easily, imagine ending your sibling relationship just because you were an insecure piece of shit. Obviously the parents have a favorite kid and it’s part of there fault. No one should forgive her that easily, she’s doomed to crawl back for help lmfao
Should’ve dumped the wine on the sister and told her that, since you weren’t invited and apparently no longer family, she could pay the full price of the cake or she’d see you in court.
F- the sister and anyone who sides with her, parents included.
She clearly tried to pull the family card when it was convenient for her, so she'd have a good cake for a lower price. OP is justified in everything she did.
Honestly, I had a mini panic attack when she was about to apologize to her bratty sister. Thank God her father snapped out of their delusion.
She should've paid you more. It's what you deserve.
I can't believe in a $2500 cake
It's not his fault it's his sister's fault because she disrespect him and she humiliated him and he worked so hard on that cake for her and she should pay for her actions and she should go to hell for it.
*her
OP is a woman
She is in the right
The op isn’t in the right, Rebecca didn’t want her sister to be there because it would have caused drama which it did. Rebecca was wrong for taking her first boyfriends side. At a engagement party the bride and groom are the focus but people naturally like to gossip so I agree op shouldn’t have been involved because it would have taken the spotlight off the bride and groom and it would have put it on two sisters arguing.
I disagree
@@Demonoicgamer666 Except, the "bride" failed to pay actual price, taking advantage of her "family" ties, which already negates the "It's strictly professional" But then on TOP of that, she didn't even pay the cost until WEEKS after the event. Not professional. And THEN she didn't even pay all of it, and took off her OWN "fee". That's not how that works. You negotiate a price based on the event, you don't just change how much you pay and that's that.
OP is in the right. If she didn't want to treat her like family, she shouldn't have taken advantage of her family discount.
@@CherryGryffon I know my comment is saying op shouldn’t risk creating a scene even if the bride is awful
Go no contact OP. They won’t have your back, no contact for your own mental health.
Yeah, I’m taking her to court for not paying me the full price. Fuck that.
Anyone who put someone on blast is as much a fool as the other person.
That’s why you don’t ever mixed families and business together you will lose just a life lesson to learn from
I hate when parents give the BS united front excuse.
honestly, it's all parents fault, they caused mental torture for the op, instead of dealing with the main problem, which is her sister, they preferred to force op to do it and finally, when the op found the light at the end of the tunnel and thought that she would finally have peace, her sister backstabbed her and then parents still stood against her.
what op did was stupid, but judging by her mental state, it wasn't that unusual, this is the reason why you care about your mental state.
Rebecca is an AH, and has been for years. And so are all of the family members and relatives who've sided with her and/or gloated over OP's misfortune.
OP should send an invoice for the cake and take Rebecca to small claims court if she doesn't pay. Once she gets the money, go NC with ALL of them.
I kind of hoped her sister would ask for another cake, only to be staunched by OP being all professional this time ($2,500 upfront, two weeks notice, etc.)
This could've been much much worse if the parents never came to their senses, as this would've been grounds for cutting contact.
Stop thinking of her as a sister. send her a bill for full price. Tell her if she doesn't pay you will take her to court and speak to her boss about getting it forcefully deducted from her job. That you -arent- family and its obvious all she cares about is her own whining. Tell your parents to stay out of it.
You are a buisness, get your money even via the legal route.
Rebecca needs one more cake, on the top: “DEAD TO ME”
Is it common for sisters to hate each other for nearly no reason? It seems to happen a lot in these stories.
I do feel for op in this but people who have been married, is this really the price of wedding cakes because that seems ridiculous to me. I mean no judgement to op but 4 figures on a cake?!
She shouldn’t have done it in the first place! She needs to quit being a doormat!
Idk why OP expected her sister to support her business. I also don't know why she gave her a family discount. You knew how she felt.
this is kind of wrong on both sides but u dont need to apologize to anyone for ur actions if u think they are right
Op played herself for considering the family price for the cake even though she had noticed the "professionalism" on her sister's part.
once a doormat, always a doormat.
i woulda pushed the cake over
Please don't ever have anything to do with her again and if your parents do something like that again let them go too
You know what call me a mean or callous person but this is the reason why you should drop insecure people because if they feel like you are competition they'll try to justify why you're the bad guy in their story
she had a 5yo son, is that her ex (that flirt with the sister) or somebody else...she a pathological liar, NPD, and mom&dad keep feeding her instead of the other better child.... JESUS CHRIST
Nah for me if I give you the family discount and you don't treat me like family, you now have to pay full price
thing here is, rebeca was being a dick for years (for no reason) and the parents were cool with that, the cup get filled on op, and when is totally filled, op is a dick for once and suddenly is not acceptable behaviour?
this is mainly on the parents if i tell you the truth, if they had cut the problem when it was growing by adressing it (rebeca acting like op doesnt exist), then they wouldnt have to act as if they were a happy family, they would have one.
quote from machiavelli: “There is no avoiding war; it can only be postponed to the advantage of others."
one of the meanings here is, if you have a problem, you cant really act as if is not there, because is going to be there, and eventually, when the moment calls, you will have to face it, better face it on your terms first. this story is one were the problem was left unfaced until the engagement party day. by the way, the story ends without the problem being faced, is just that now more people are avoiding it at the same time. eventually the problem will appear again
I wouldn't have even taken the order.
Hell no I would have sued for the full amount this sister is pathetic
For OP sake, I just hope the psycho sister doesn’t decide to make a lot of fake bad reviews and gets other people to do it just to put the OP out of business. It wouldn’t surprise me if she did but I would say OP should protect themselves so they don’t see on a website, lotta bad negativity about their bakery
2500 for a f cake your crazy
Why would you even lower the price? She didn´t treat you like family.
Sue her!!!
Truth tellers are often abused in families.
You know how many girls I had in my lifetime said they like my little brother more than me and not once I ever let insecurities change my perspective about him or hate him
The sister, parents and family are in the wrong not the little sister who is a baker. Years of being treated like shit your going to explode at some point. Charge the sister 3k for the cake, short notice and disrespect if doesn't pay up take to court. Also even if family business is business so don't short change yourself and make them as if are strangers buying a cake
“Business relationship” was she paid for the cake?
you set yourself up for it. you should have refused her order.
Gawd. Not another “But faaaaaaaaamily!” post.
If she wanted professional she would have paid beforehand NTA
Rebecca sounds like a horrible person. I feel bad David signed up for that 😅
Cut contact with entitled family and take sister to court for the money. Stop being a doormat.
I hope she lost friends after op's speech
OP first of all, Rebecca did not pay you back here in full money Because of your behavior to her she deserves that And she believe her boyfriend over you and she knew you for a long time before she date that boyfriend
Gets to pay so low because of family but says she isn't considert family. Should charged her the whole amount or at least the owed.
I feel she shouldn’t have done that but shouldn’t have to apologize either
She shouldn’t have paid anything it was your payment fee her stage so you could humiliate her in front of everyone and the party was all about your feelings and you I bet everyone forgot why they all Went there in the first place
are we just gonna ignore that op's sister ripped her off?
While the sister is wrong
Op is also wrong because she made expectations on her own which were broken and she got offended because of that
What OP said on the mic was all good but it should have been in private instead of infront of everyone on an happy day
All of that because of a guy who hadn't been around for 6+ years
She is a jerk but you went about it in the wrong way
God i couldn’t imagine being one of those parents who care about appearances
Both siblings were assholes and immature for sure, this one was meh
ESH
You shouldn't have stayed, you knew you had a rocky relationship with her and there was no way you thought she'd be happy to see you. You have way too many expectations from her given the circumstances.
She should not have expected you to give her a discount because she is no more "family". She also shouldn't have sided with her ex boyfriend.
Both you and your sister have a messed up relationship, just go your own ways already. Don't even try being civil, it'll just stir things.
She shouldn’t have done that at the party that was petty and pretty ah of her
Parents are also a couple of pr1cks too
its your fault for continuing to engage in this way lol,
From what I got from the story, OP was the nerdy/clingy sister that always had high expectations and looked up to her more favorable and popular sister which Rebecca was ok with to an extent as long as she “stayed in her place” which is in her rear view/shadow while growing up. Fast forward to the nerdy OP starting to bloom and have her “glow up” Rebecca is now starting to feel that OP looks better thn her in someway or another. Fast forward more to the party with the boyfriend incident and it now fuels the fire that Rebecca already has in her head about OP and she never comes to her about it since it was no need for her to since she now has her own narrative going anyway of hatred for OP. Fast forward and OP finds out why her sister doesn’t talk to her anymore which has always bothered her for years and she hopes that one day her sister would see reason. Fast forward more and we find out that not only did OP get her hopes up when her sister finally talks to her but the house of cards fall when Rebecca doesn’t even recognize her as family which makes OP finally snap. I like it lol
Women and grudges
Good Lord the OP what do you want here? Usually the OP is in the right but it is obvious Rebecca doesn't like you it's not all about you
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Sorry but OP was just too naive. After she was told what had happened and been almost NC with her sister, she felt insulted when she wasn't asked to make the cake! Or tried to do business with her! It's not her fault how her sister behaves, but she wasn't that bright either
OP is a horrible person
sorry but if the parents wanted them to save face publicly... they should've sat them down and talked about their rift earlier then turn the other cheek and let it erupt like this.
OP probably also should've at least talked to her parents about her sister instead of just accepting her sisters behavior... cause like. It sounded like she just ... accepted what her sister was doing and was deff in denial about not caring about that their relationship changed.
You let your sister off too easily and your parents picked her by not picking sides. You already gave her a discount you should take her to court for the rest. You may love your family but they dont love you they just want to ignore the issues. You should go no contact with the lot. Screw family events, griw a spine and stand up for yourself. She was in the wrong but your parents let it slide then got mad at you for calling her out. Go no contact they are all abusing you.😊
Ngl I feel like there are some left out info, as in some parts it feels too sudden. Op knows she hates her and still decided to make her cake?? I’m not sure what to think of this since even tho she said it was professional, she still thought she was obligated to stay, OP shat on her sister on her sister wedding publicly… I feel this is too much as we don’t know her sisters side of the story. OP shouldve charge the normal price, left the venue and that’s it, keeping it professional. I’d say OP is the asshole, it’s OP and her sisters problem but OP made it public. if you don’t mean it then don’t say sorry.
Oh actually both of them are AH but OP is more childish as this could’ve been solved better between the 2 of them
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I mean if the sisters thing is she doesn’t want her to be at the party because she doesn’t want drama then yeah op should have accepted it.
Cool. Then the sister shouldn’t except family treatment (last minute order, discount, free delivery) if she didn’t plan on treating OP like family.
Did you listen to the story at all?She got a lot of special treatment on the cake Which is family oriented treatment next time? She should pay full price. And should have ordered it sooner. Honestly OP is not in the wrong. The parents are and the sister is. I think the parents need to re-evaluate their life. Decisions when they think that they won't side with OP or anybody in the situation.
YTA for apologising.
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Talk about being a doormat
Why do people side with OP? Rebecca was wrong for giving OP the silent treatment after the flirting incident but everyone makes mistakes. Just because you're family doesnt mean she HAS to buy her cakes from you and when she eventually did it OP made ger regret it instantly. The party was neither the time nor place to air all the dirty laundry and OP should have made it clear that she wanted to talk things out with Rebecca AFTER. All in all it's just a huge misunderstanding blown up by people unable to communicate. Rebecca may be the initial AH but OP was wrong in how she handled the situation. Even the "apology" OP was going to do wasn't sincere as it was just something she wanted to get over with for her relationship with her parents.
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Don't feel bad op. All op feel guilty, why? Grow a spine