I’m 25 and Still Live With My Parents

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Komentáře • 215

  • @alluringbliss4165
    @alluringbliss4165 Před 6 měsíci +223

    25 is young. At 35, you 'll realize how much time you had and how you were in the right place but did not realize it. Be optimistic, set goals and live in the present. I spend 2 decades thinking I was not good enough, too old and I wasted 2 decades being self conscious, missing out on opportunities.

    • @Abcdefg-fl9td
      @Abcdefg-fl9td Před 6 měsíci +3

      THIS!😂

    • @mariguzman7752
      @mariguzman7752 Před 6 měsíci +4

      Great advice .. thank you 🙌🏽

    • @contrarian9999
      @contrarian9999 Před 5 měsíci +4

      I needed to see this
      .. I'm turning 26 this month and felt like my life was over and there was no need to try to accomplish anything anymore.

    • @musicislife4060
      @musicislife4060 Před 5 měsíci

      I'm 25 and I feel like this

    • @PerryPerfectPerson
      @PerryPerfectPerson Před 4 měsíci

      This is me right now. I have no idea what i want to do with the my life. I feel like I’m walking towards being a bum.

  • @hikikomori5
    @hikikomori5 Před 6 měsíci +349

    In this economy? Please, that's called being smart.

    • @jrchac4331
      @jrchac4331 Před 6 měsíci +1

      Lazy. Broke. Loser sounds a bit better that smart for living with your parents at 1 quarters of 100

    • @williamjamesperkins5483
      @williamjamesperkins5483 Před 6 měsíci +19

      ​@@jrchac4331 you do know there are young people that still lives with their parents right especially after they just graduated college and had to moved back with their parents. There's nothing wrong with it because it gives them time to find a Job and save up their money. There are young people in their 30's and early 40's that still live with their parents

    • @Veracityseeker7
      @Veracityseeker7 Před 6 měsíci +5

      Exactly

    • @williamjamesperkins5483
      @williamjamesperkins5483 Před 6 měsíci +1

      @@Veracityseeker7 yup it's true bro

    • @Veracityseeker7
      @Veracityseeker7 Před 6 měsíci +16

      @@williamjamesperkins5483 I'm a woman, not a "bro". But yeah 👍🏼 This is why people in other cultures do better. Asians will come to America, live in multi-generational homes, start businesses, and save bank. They got it right.

  • @saramatthews7159
    @saramatthews7159 Před 6 měsíci +75

    Age 25 is still sooo young and I detest the fact that young American adults are shamed for living with their parents past the age of 18. In this current economy it's tough and it makes sense for younger adult children to live with their parents and save their money as opposed to going out there in tough society and struggling.

    • @contrarian9999
      @contrarian9999 Před 5 měsíci +3

      With all the social media discourse about age especially for women, I felt like a corpse turning 26 in a few weeks lol. Thanks for this.

    • @saramatthews7159
      @saramatthews7159 Před 4 měsíci +1

      @@contrarian9999 lol no problem...it's the truth...other cultures allow their grown children to live with them as long as they have a job/in school. I worked with a 38 year old Mexican lady who lived at home with her parents...it's not uncommon in other cultures, but different in American culture

    • @pclare7477
      @pclare7477 Před 2 měsíci +1

      The problem is if they aren't saving and staying home and living it up.

    • @QuantumVoid-ro3hi
      @QuantumVoid-ro3hi Před 29 dny

      @@saramatthews7159 Why are other cultures the marker of what's best? The US is the most innovative and industrious nation in the world by far. That's for a reason.

  • @user-sl8zl2ic8k
    @user-sl8zl2ic8k Před 6 měsíci +110

    My daughter is almost 20, works full time, and lives at home with us. We charge her $500/mo and we put that money away in a high yield savings account so she will have a down payment for a house when she does decide to move out. We don’t need that money as we raised her 18 yrs without rent so it only seems right to save it for her.

    • @elainebmack
      @elainebmack Před 6 měsíci +19

      Great plan which includes support AND backup for the future. Your daughter is a lucky lady!

    • @danielgiordani7625
      @danielgiordani7625 Před 5 měsíci +8

      Very smart plan. You guys are good parents. Consider investing that moneh in a S&P mutual fund.

    • @santieldasavage
      @santieldasavage Před 5 měsíci +4

      Very smart I could only wish

    • @tonyh1345
      @tonyh1345 Před 4 měsíci +1

      My best friend’s dad did that same exact thing. Great parenting strategy.

    • @eseantonio7856
      @eseantonio7856 Před 4 měsíci +2

      We need parents like this in the world! I’m happy for your daughter! She is blessed to have good parents!

  • @yankeefederer1994
    @yankeefederer1994 Před 6 měsíci +122

    I lived at home until I was nearly 26. Lived in my own apartment for two years, married and bought our forever house at 29. I was single until nearly 28, life can change quickly. Question is are you preparing to be ready for when the change comes, or are you stagnant and content relying on your parents?

    • @dabd8175
      @dabd8175 Před 6 měsíci +2

      Forever home as a realtor this is funny 😂😂😂

    • @yankeefederer1994
      @yankeefederer1994 Před 6 měsíci +17

      ​@dabd8175 I define forever as the house that we would be comfortable living in for the next 35 years, with future kids. Nothing is forever, but this house is as permanent as it can get in a fleeting world.

    • @kristinrichmond8185
      @kristinrichmond8185 Před 6 měsíci

      Exactly

    • @firefly9838
      @firefly9838 Před 6 měsíci

      @@yankeefederer1994 35 years in one place... bro is built different

    • @Boosted_aj
      @Boosted_aj Před 5 měsíci

      @@dabd8175if your a realtor you must be a shite one. Most people own their homes until they are forced to part with it…

  • @LongJawn
    @LongJawn Před 6 měsíci +51

    It happens! I was 25 and still living with my parents. Now I’m 31 with a wife and kids! ❤️

  • @ilai7893
    @ilai7893 Před 6 měsíci +44

    "if you turn human connection into a performance, you will always go home alone" - what a statement, especially for those with performance or social anxiety; it definitely hinders people from being their true selves

    • @ankitaaac
      @ankitaaac Před 3 měsíci

      I feel like it's the opposite. People like that version of you better and are usually more attracted

  • @rachelplank1862
    @rachelplank1862 Před 6 měsíci +52

    I'm 30 and live with my mom. I rent two rooms out of her house. Its 600 dollars a month vs 1400 dollars for the same quality. I paid off my student loans this way. I am working on my Roth IRA this way. I just replaced her hot water tank and dryer for her. As long as both sides are okay with the arrangement then stay at home.

    • @dilaranur-iu8vn
      @dilaranur-iu8vn Před 4 měsíci +1

      Why are you not staying rent free in your moms house? I'm not american so thats why im asking, is it this way in there?

    • @SamPlautz
      @SamPlautz Před 4 měsíci +2

      Ya. The majority of parents do charge rent to their children in the U.S.

    • @trowwzers5057
      @trowwzers5057 Před měsícem +1

      I’m 27 and my mom charges $900 a month though I don’t have to pay for utilities and I get free food. I recently quit my job and spent all my savings repairing my car. I’m now completely broke and I’m given my allow
      Finding a full time job that doesn’t pay minimum wage is tough

  • @GAFB1122
    @GAFB1122 Před 6 měsíci +46

    The motivation and reason for living at home with parents is the key.
    As an adult, if you're living with your parents so you can play and avoid / shun responsibility then you're actually a child and you need to grow up.
    If you're living with your parents and you have a plan for the future, paying off debt, saving for your own home, etc, then that is great!!

  • @JJJJ-he8bz
    @JJJJ-he8bz Před 6 měsíci +59

    I didn’t get my own place until 29.

  • @briankelly7978
    @briankelly7978 Před 6 měsíci +8

    I lived at home at 25 and felt like a loser. I was making peanuts and didn’t know what industry I wanted to be in. Now I’m about to move into a new beautiful apartment with my girlfriend and we both have great careers and I love th industry I’m in. I’m 29 now and a lot changed and I took a lot of risks and they paid off. Follow your dream full force with no fear of failing

    • @Erik_Kartman_
      @Erik_Kartman_ Před 5 měsíci

      Thank you for giving hope, by sharing your experience!

  • @marlena.
    @marlena. Před 6 měsíci +44

    Same man, I'm 25 and at home too. Most of my friends still live at home, two are married but for the rest living alone is just not financial achievable...
    I do get the insecurities too. Feeling like you have to have everything together, a house with a dog and two kids😅.

    • @RadtasticDude
      @RadtasticDude Před 6 měsíci +4

      Man I’m happy to hear I’m not alone in that

    • @marlena.
      @marlena. Před 6 měsíci +3

      ​@@RadtasticDudeI mean it's crazy, my dad was a retail worker and my mom an elderly care assistant and they could buy a (terraced) house in their 20's😅

    • @RadtasticDude
      @RadtasticDude Před 6 měsíci

      @@marlena. They bought a terraced house in their twenties? That’s pretty impressive.

    • @marlena.
      @marlena. Před 6 měsíci

      @@RadtasticDude Well to be fair it was a village, not a city or big town and obviously with a mortgage, not cash. But the size mortgage you'll need today for the same house they would've never gotten with current salaries😅

  • @HolyChalice
    @HolyChalice Před 6 měsíci +67

    isn't that the new normal now

    • @marlena.
      @marlena. Před 6 měsíci +8

      Definetly, in these times I am grateful and lucky that I can still live at home at 25. I am looking to move out but no hurry yet😅

    • @Veracityseeker7
      @Veracityseeker7 Před 6 měsíci

      Yup

    • @MiahV007
      @MiahV007 Před 6 měsíci +8

      I'm 25, living in the DC area. After spending $30,000 in rent ALONE, I moved back in with my parents.. It's definitely nothing to be embarrassed about, ESPECIALLY in this inflated economy where things seem to fluctuate more and more year over year.

    • @RGE_Music
      @RGE_Music Před 6 měsíci

      Same lol. Just be patient​@@marlena.

    • @azrielofearth9406
      @azrielofearth9406 Před 3 měsíci

      Me my wife and my kid live in my moms basement we are in our early 30s and both make semi decent money just rent is so expensive in our area. Hell we pay my mom $800 a month lol

  • @chrissyellem7397
    @chrissyellem7397 Před 6 měsíci +10

    Living on your own is too expensive presently. My son is turning 27 next week and still lives with me. When he was younger (ha!) I thought he would move out but now I'm used to him helping me with basic tasks as I'm disabled. I told him if he wants to leave I will not hold him back. Life just costs too much without some help from others.

  • @RadtasticDude
    @RadtasticDude Před 6 měsíci +14

    Man I needed to hear this today. Thanks John and team! Y’all are awesome!

  • @BrotherhoodWorkshop
    @BrotherhoodWorkshop Před 6 měsíci +3

    As somone who is "industry adjacent", Delony's advice is spot on. Take every opportunity to learn the skills.

  • @pixiedust6201
    @pixiedust6201 Před 6 měsíci +26

    I didn’t move out till 25. It was hard, now I’m in my 40’s and back home again. Housing is so expensive.

    • @workinprogress-ye5or
      @workinprogress-ye5or Před měsícem +1

      So silly, its "how" they live home. If they work, help out, do their own cleaning and laundry. It hurts if they want sleepovers but hey, it's a chocie. My son saved enough so that when he married, he had enough for rent deposit and then home. How anyone pays high rent and saves with a "normal" job, IDK.

    • @amyitis
      @amyitis Před 8 dny +1

      No shame in that! A lot of people move back after years away from home, things don't always work out the way we expect, it's nice to have family to go back to, some people end up on the streets because they don't have that support. 😊

    • @workinprogress-ye5or
      @workinprogress-ye5or Před 7 dny +1

      @@amyitis Yes my sister did it after divorce for a year and was able to save up for deposit and look for decent rent etc. Her son got lots of love (and free babysitting) from my mom and always was close to her.

  • @cdbean99
    @cdbean99 Před 6 měsíci +14

    As a 24 year old man I empathize and see myself in this guy in so many ways.

  • @JustinCase780
    @JustinCase780 Před 6 měsíci +27

    A cool and likable guy. Moving to Austin would be incredible at 25 years old. Relax and have fun because your perspectives will work for you.

    • @blah7694
      @blah7694 Před 6 měsíci

      What is it like there I think one of my ancestors was given the freedom of the city after WW2? :)

    • @JustinCase780
      @JustinCase780 Před 6 měsíci

      @@blah7694 go smoke another doobie

    • @kristinrichmond8185
      @kristinrichmond8185 Před 6 měsíci

      Relax and have fun? No. Preparation is key. I’m not saying, be a big ball of stress, but preparing for our future is good.

    • @JustinCase780
      @JustinCase780 Před 6 měsíci

      @@kristinrichmond8185 He is preparing Kristen. You missed the obvious point.

  • @bendover2425
    @bendover2425 Před 6 měsíci +9

    I’m 25 and still at home. I’m working on building my career. Not really in a hurry to leave my peoples

  • @roxycauldwell544
    @roxycauldwell544 Před 6 měsíci +10

    I mean the dual HOUSEHOLD income for zellenials is 80k. That's about 40k a person and it's on par with our generation's average, while shacks are going for 280k. It's no surprise that we can't afford homes without significant help or luck. Even those that brag that they "did it right" had significant help from parents while going to college. Not everyone has that perk or leg up.

  • @bethanderson4033
    @bethanderson4033 Před 5 měsíci +1

    Thanks for pointing this kid in the right direction Dr. Delony, I think this was exactly what he needed. What a powerful video.

  • @WyvernX_
    @WyvernX_ Před 5 měsíci +1

    Might be one of the most motivational things I've ever heard, Dr. John's way with words is truly something else

  • @hannahorton3482
    @hannahorton3482 Před 5 měsíci +2

    You sound like an awesome guy Nathan! Anyone would be lucky to have a kind friend like you. Rooting for you!

  • @umiluv
    @umiluv Před 6 měsíci +4

    3:42 - 100%. Confidence is earned. Through loving yourself and achieving things by overcoming difficulty.

  • @nikk3251
    @nikk3251 Před 6 měsíci +11

    Nathan sounds nice! Gotta like Nathan. I hope he reads this xx

  • @charlotteboyett-napper4780
    @charlotteboyett-napper4780 Před 6 měsíci +2

    Dr D gives great advice, but I’d love to hear him dig deeper and ask more questions and let these callers open up more.

  • @quinnernst2414
    @quinnernst2414 Před 5 měsíci

    Nathan my man! I am 22 and I feel the exact way! You are not alone, keep putting yourself in uncomfortable situations and that will help. I need to do the same

  • @omgurheadsgone
    @omgurheadsgone Před 6 měsíci +13

    Ha I’m 30 and still live with my parents too, in downtown Toronto, I’d be paying 2600$ a month for a studio apartment.

    • @claudiaclaudia8599
      @claudiaclaudia8599 Před 6 měsíci

      Why do you need to live in downtown Toronto? There are other cheaper areas.

    • @workinprogress-ye5or
      @workinprogress-ye5or Před měsícem +1

      My daughter is living with roommate at 31 but lived home for a while and did a traveling teaching job where her places to stay were paid for and she saved a lot. No shame if you aren't a slouch or mooching off family.

  • @WtothaG
    @WtothaG Před 6 měsíci +2

    I’m literally in the same position as this guy this was so helpful

  • @marcgetz81
    @marcgetz81 Před 6 měsíci +6

    Well I can relate to Nathan. I lived at home till I was 26 and got married and finally moved out. I didn't have alot of friends growing up. I never felt like I fit in. I have an anxious attachment style. My Wife is really the only person I spend time with besides my parents and brother and niece and nephew. I try to have friends but it's always hard for me. I put alot of energy into my job and I don't always the mental energy for friendships. But it's okay. It gets better. In my experience most people will not be able to afford to buy a home when they move out. Me and my wife may never be able to. My point is there are many pros to living with your parents but there are cons to and there are pros and cons to everything. One thing I will say is I was very attached to my parents. It was harder for me to adjust to being on my own cause I lived at home so long. I'm still figuring things out after being married 2 and a half years.

  • @melissab3217
    @melissab3217 Před 6 měsíci +2

    I was in the same boat at that age after having a similar home life and abusive father. It leaves you craving stability and terrified to take a risk. By around 30 though I finally felt ready to follow my dream. He will find his way.

  • @here2laff397
    @here2laff397 Před 6 měsíci +1

    Go be YOU !♥️🤞🏾

  • @arijana6524
    @arijana6524 Před 6 měsíci +3

    I moved out when i was 19, in another country with different culture and different language
    I also was very anxious and very young and scared but you need to be determined
    Have in back of your mind "i can always go home"
    But keep it as last resort and give your best
    I am 25 now and even though i am very proud of myself i also couldn't help but think i am so far away from family and I ripped mine and their hearts so young moving out
    (And not for college, just to find work and better opportunities)
    I think they are not gonna be here forever and now i see them once a year
    So whatever we choose and in whatever "episode" of our life we are in right now
    We need to make best of it
    Living in moment and feeling blessed is the way to go

  • @Veracityseeker7
    @Veracityseeker7 Před 6 měsíci +10

    I think the internet has people thinking that they have to be exciting. Also getting into the film arts; tells me that you're an artist, you're always going to be hyper critical of your art. It's just how we are wired. Also, Austin is an incredibly superficial city, where everybody is putting on airs. You're lucky. Use the opportunity to save money, work on your health, and other skills. At 44, I wish I had parents to stay with for a year or two to build up some money. This is not like it was when I was 25. When I was 25, I I was paying $550 for a one bedroom apartment. It's just not like that anymore, and that is not your fault. Any 25-year-old that doesn't have a roommate, or is it working like 80 hours a week slaving themselves to maintain any type of singular residence. Finding some gratitude may help❤

  • @ufchighlights1
    @ufchighlights1 Před 5 měsíci +4

    My sister went to UT and lived in austin and got a film degree. Wanna know what she does now?
    Teaches English in south Korea… trust me when I say, do something with money.

  • @oops9678
    @oops9678 Před 6 měsíci +4

    I lived with my parents until I was 30. Got myself a job while I was still living there. I was able to save up, pay my own way, _and_ help support them while getting free meals until I could afford my own place.

  • @jp-is1is
    @jp-is1is Před 5 měsíci

    super relatable story fr

  • @nannypuffins
    @nannypuffins Před 6 měsíci +24

    Haven’t even started the episode….. I’ll be turning 50 this year and I live with my elderly mom and her disabled husband. I have moved out and back in numerous times throughout my life. There have been lots of failed financial decisions, Risky career changes, failed relationships, trauma, death of loved ones, disease accompanied with surgery….. THEN 2020 HIT us all and I was able to STAND on my Common sense because I had the safety net to allow me to do that. Because of my strong belief and decision to NOT get jabbed my career really suffered. I’m never ashamed, maybe disappointed at times HOWEVER very grateful for my mom. I see homeless people and that could EASILY been me if it had not been for her. Was she an enabler in my horrible decision making or was she a supporting, loving mother who never wanted to turn away from her child.?.? Love you mommy 💗

    • @smustipher
      @smustipher Před 6 měsíci +2

      I left home at 18 and have been supporting myself ever since, and more recently have taken on a disabled relative. I WISH I could have parents who could let me stay with them and save money when I was younger. If the young man on this call can save his cash and purchase a property he may fare better than most.

    • @christymiller7687
      @christymiller7687 Před 6 měsíci +4

      I would say an enabler.

    • @nikk3251
      @nikk3251 Před 6 měsíci +1

      You sound brave 💜

  • @bettysmith4527
    @bettysmith4527 Před 6 měsíci +3

    Kudos to him for having a lot of self awareness, I do hope he will set up a full time regular job until he can actually work as a film maker!

  • @AliKatt0
    @AliKatt0 Před 3 měsíci +2

    I'm 25 and still live with my parents. I'm going to school and working on building a career but financially, it wouldn't be smart to move out right now.
    Everybody has a different place to be at different times. Honestly, it's probably one of the smartest choices right now.
    I help out around the house when I can to make up for my share, and yea, at times it can be a little tough to think about. Not being on your own when most of my friends are at this point. But honestly? I'd rather this and get the rest of my life sorted out before worrying about my own place.

  • @naturallybecoming831
    @naturallybecoming831 Před 20 dny

    Wow I really do feel like I’ve been performing to try and get ppl to life or accept me. I see so much of myself in him

  • @kathya1956
    @kathya1956 Před 6 měsíci +1

    It’s fine dude. Take time.

  • @gaypreator8547
    @gaypreator8547 Před 6 měsíci

    You have to step out there, let go. Life’s an adventure, not a comparison - of life - to your life. Show up everyday, primarily for yourself. Yes, by pass the buzz words.

  • @workinprogress-ye5or
    @workinprogress-ye5or Před měsícem +1

    My son lived with me after college and saved a ton. He got his masters almost paid for in 2 years with savings and scholarship and then lived another year to save for rent and deposit on home one day. 3 of his friends did the same, no slouches though, all helped, worked, shopped and did laundry

  • @djentaman7009
    @djentaman7009 Před 5 měsíci +2

    John, is that a *Turnstile* shirt I see you wearing?? Are you a fan of that band's music? If so, props man!

    • @flashthecorgi2053
      @flashthecorgi2053 Před 5 měsíci +1

      Haha John is a HUGE turnstile fan. He talks about it any chance he gets and goes to their concerts on a regular basis!

  • @michaeld.j.weinkauf3884
    @michaeld.j.weinkauf3884 Před 3 měsíci +2

    I'm 35 and still live at home. If only the cost of living wasn't ridiculous and the only jobs in my area are retail. My dream job is to be an illustrator but you can only find it in the big cities and I don't have a car.

  • @savleensur8670
    @savleensur8670 Před 5 měsíci

    I’m 27 and I still love with my family, I’m studying for the bar and they’re very very very nice about it :)

  • @RGE_Music
    @RGE_Music Před 6 měsíci

    I feel like this was meant for me. Nathan if you read the comments here I'm a 25 year old living at home and 'failed' (learned) a venture leaving at 23 and coming back a couple months ago. Everything said here is gold. And I mean the highest quality of gold. Go for it. Austin is calling. Your future is calling.

  • @guillecanales11
    @guillecanales11 Před 6 měsíci +1

    The fact that a lot of people have this mentality about being out of their parents house and on their own at a young age is crazy. A lot of us wanted to be out as soon as as we turned 18 but then life hits you with reality. I went to school and started my career while still living with my parents. I paid them rent though because my dad taught me nothing is free. I left my house when I got married at 27. Two weeks after getting married my wife and I became homeowners, got new cars etc. We were only able to do all that because we stayed with our parents until we got our feet planted in the ground. Life is a marathon and you must pace yourself.

  • @CD-tw9tv
    @CD-tw9tv Před 6 měsíci +2

    I think most people in the comments are just looking at the title or missing the point. He lead with it being an issue that he’s still home, but it’s really far deeper with his insecurities. Really good call

  • @TurnLemons2Lemonade_
    @TurnLemons2Lemonade_ Před 5 měsíci

    This guy sounds smart, super well spoken, and interesting!

  • @wf4983
    @wf4983 Před 6 měsíci

    Go, be you!

  • @fretzie01
    @fretzie01 Před 6 měsíci +1

    You’re not alone man
    I’m turning 28
    I share mortgage with my mom
    Monthly payment is $1900 plus utilities, also have car note, auto and health insurance you name it
    Save up for the time being until you’re ready to have your own family
    As long as you pay your fair share in your household
    It’s rough out there

  • @toribrownt16
    @toribrownt16 Před měsícem +1

    “I’m gonna become the most trustworthy person I know, because I tell myself the truth. When I say I’m going to work out today, I go work out. I’m gonna go do it. I’m gonna get it done.” Ooff this hit HARD! 😮‍💨

  • @ryleeevans6211
    @ryleeevans6211 Před 5 měsíci +1

    It all depends on the situation, i lives on my own after collage working for 10 years. When covid hit in 2020 i moved back with the parents that May. I worked 3 years on the road so was only home weekends and worked some weekends. I wanted my own place but definatly wasn't viable to want to buy or rent a place that i just wasnt around for. If i was just a dead beat at hime just eating food living rent free then i would feel ashamed. Shame isnt always bad i couldnt imagine sitting around not looking for work or not being motivated to not do anything.

  • @carnivoreRon
    @carnivoreRon Před 6 měsíci +3

    His parents are helping to set him up financially by taking him in.

  • @jabbaweezy
    @jabbaweezy Před 4 měsíci

    Me too but I want to go straight into my own house which I plan to buy this year but I'll likely be 26 by then.

  • @melissab3217
    @melissab3217 Před 6 měsíci +6

    HealthyGamerGG's CZcams channel might help him to better understand his feelings. I was in a similar situation and have gained a better perspective from his content.

  • @stardark9mc
    @stardark9mc Před 6 měsíci

    this was neat.

  • @susani1986
    @susani1986 Před 6 měsíci +8

    I didn't live on my own till I was 29. So, you're not a failure! As long as you're trying to make it to where you can be independent, than that's all that matters. Also think of the pros while living with your parents...you can save money and they can help you out if you need anything. I know it can be kind of difficult living with parents since you have to abide by their rules and you can't really do anything that you want, however, it's just something you have to live with temporarily until you find a place of your own. A lot of people in Japan live at home until they get married! I know in this country, a lot of young people tend to move out right after high school, but I think it's a little harder to do that these days considering how much everything is.

  • @user-uf9xw6bu6e
    @user-uf9xw6bu6e Před 6 měsíci +1

    I live my my partners parents in Australia. Everything is very expensive in our city we are also 25. We have a baby who is six months old. Life is good. I lived alone from 15-18 then rented rooms for many years. It’s nice to be back in a family environment. I was always so sad the money that I wasted on rent a room in my city is 300 a week. I never enjoyed living with roommates. Things can change quickly. 18 months ago I was alone trying to find purpose. Now
    I am studying have a son and a loving partner

  • @YPM498
    @YPM498 Před 6 měsíci +1

    I’m 25 and I just moved back home with my mom. The opportunity cost of living at home is not having to deal with roommates and I can still save money. My mom is a single mom and has a mortgage so by moving in I can help her with the bills.
    At this point I plan to stay at home until I get married or can afford to buy my own property.

  • @sylvias.3380
    @sylvias.3380 Před 5 měsíci

    25 is soooo young. That’s totally fine

  • @Bethelgal42
    @Bethelgal42 Před 6 měsíci +1

    I got married at 25. Before we got married, I lived in a two bedroom apartment with my sister. My husband, then fiance, actually lived with my parents.
    I don't think living with your parents when you're getting started is a horrible thing, as long as that's not your long term plan. If living at home removes your motivation to succeed in life, then you should move out quickly.

  • @TheBmonster1
    @TheBmonster1 Před 6 měsíci +1

    Ya may as well stay put. The economy is bad and prices are through the roof. I was lucky at 26 to move out but rent for every house i looked at was 700 and 800 bucks and cramped. Then found a 2 bedroom house big living room and garage, kitchen with storage and spacious basement. It was cheap 475 a month utilities were cheap also 500 a year to fill a propane tank for my water heater and furnace. Everyone finds something at their own time. Give it time take this time to save and learn to budget so when you do leave its easy.

  • @TJMoolTricia
    @TJMoolTricia Před 6 měsíci +1

    I think he’d feel real good if he moved out within a month to a short term place where he lives, save up, with roommates or a room, and take his parents out to dinner once a month. Save up like crazy for 6 months and get on community boards in Austin, so there’s community and contacts when he gets there. That 6 months will give him wings, hope, and confidence before he even lands. I have been performative, practice bringing that anxious feeling w you but let it know, it doesn't get the main mic all the time (a great somatic counselor will really support this). Go be you ;)

  • @roathripper
    @roathripper Před 6 měsíci +2

    he needs to take baby steps in his local area. and gradually build from there. He's putting himself in an all-or-nothing proposition and it's like having to jump out of an aeroplane.

  • @JGONLINE988
    @JGONLINE988 Před 6 měsíci

    Is it me or am i the only one not getting recommended even though im subscribed and have the bell on too and even when i search in my subscriptions i dont see him and i got to a pont where i forgot i was subscribed and then randomly popped up in my shorts feed🤔

    • @flashthecorgi2053
      @flashthecorgi2053 Před 6 měsíci

      Try unsubbing and resubbing and then make sure to hit the bell again. It’s happened to me a couple of times but once I reset it I’m back to getting the notifications.

  • @misamisa2677
    @misamisa2677 Před 5 měsíci

    Families did that in past, my kids always together till marriage

  • @miketoth7000
    @miketoth7000 Před 6 měsíci +1

    Sacrifice your time for discomfort. Forget about finding friends and having a good time. Work 60 + hours a week. If you are relentless then you will have your own place.

  • @kristinrichmond8185
    @kristinrichmond8185 Před 6 měsíci +3

    To answer this guys initial question, how to build more confidence? We do that by taking on more responsibility. Them when we’ve done that successfully, take on more and more. That builds confidence.

  • @amyitis
    @amyitis Před 8 dny

    I didnt move out until 34 and there have even been pockets of me needing to move back home while i figured out next steps. I also know people who are in their young 20s that are living paycheck to paycheck, cant afford even coffee because they dont want the stigma of living at home. The American style of living is rare in comparison to the rest of the world. Some cultures, the kids dont move out until married, some live with parents well into their 30s.... youre fine

  • @fg6418
    @fg6418 Před 5 měsíci

    John’s banker bestie listening to this like 😟 🥲

  • @Youngsparky95
    @Youngsparky95 Před měsícem +1

    Dude I’m 28 and still living at home . No career , no girlfriend. Nothing. About 30k in the bank but that’s pocket change for most people my age.

    • @erievhs
      @erievhs Před měsícem

      That's all you need in Ohio

  • @deathegg9474
    @deathegg9474 Před 3 měsíci

    Bro you don’t link to the full video 😒

  • @pinsneedles1743
    @pinsneedles1743 Před 6 měsíci +3

    Nothing wrong with living from parents home as long as your pulling your own weight.

  • @plantsntrance5513
    @plantsntrance5513 Před 6 měsíci +7

    My bf and I are early 30's and still live in the house!
    We have no shame! Saving tons of money, spending time with family and cutting out so much stress of owning/renting. (We buy all our own stuff so we arent mooching off parents) We will move when we are ready (more like when the economy is ready aka things are cheaper lol)

    • @Mitzi104
      @Mitzi104 Před 6 měsíci +1

      It won't get cheaper.

  • @AA-yl9so
    @AA-yl9so Před 5 měsíci

    I’m 21 and looking for a house to buy by the time I’m 25. I made 88k when I first started working, and will be making upwards of 200k by the time I’m 24. So to me, yes it’s too old to be living at home. But for most people, no it’s not too old at all. Everyone moves at their own pace

  • @Cloy2k
    @Cloy2k Před 5 měsíci +1

    I am Nathan, Nathan is me. 💃🏼🕺🏻

  • @May-qb3vx
    @May-qb3vx Před 6 měsíci +1

    I’m 25 as well and still living at home. One of my “friends” dragged me over the coals over it since I hadn’t done the “simple thing” and moved out while one of our other friends did. I’ve paid off my student loans and he cut me down about that because I did it while still living at home and not out in the “real world.” People hit you where it hurts and at this age, that’s too often the fact that you haven’t moved out.

    • @erievhs
      @erievhs Před měsícem +1

      I wonder how they pulled it off alone

    • @May-qb3vx
      @May-qb3vx Před měsícem +1

      @@erievhs He was an only child and he also moved out when he had a girlfriend so they split the rent. But he won’t admit that made it easier for him

    • @erievhs
      @erievhs Před měsícem +1

      @@May-qb3vx yeah sounds like he simply wouldn't have made it without having the massive advantage of only paying half the rent while living with someone invested in helping him that he likes. What I'm noticing is that not a single America's making it on their own unless they started getting prepared at 14 for adulthood which is unlikely ASF. Every single person making it right now under the age of 30 got help. Whenever I hear someone talking as if they're superior I always ask "how'd you manage to do it" and they get real vague.

  • @annekedebruyn7797
    @annekedebruyn7797 Před 6 měsíci +1

    It's kind of funny how different the world became so fast.
    Getting out of house when you are around 20 only started with baby boomers. Before that, it wasn't common at all unless you went to work far away or were well off. Especially in Europe, it isn't weird to not be on your own at 25 at all even today.

  • @esinfa
    @esinfa Před 6 měsíci +3

    It is the western culture that makes the caller feel out of place for living with his parents. In different parts of the world it is common to live with parents till marriage even after marriage if the couple is very young...

  • @tiredtreasurestore
    @tiredtreasurestore Před 6 měsíci +2

    I lived at home till I was 34

  • @MiamiChica
    @MiamiChica Před 6 měsíci

    I have my own job and career, but I live with my mother. Why? I’m disabled. I have epilepsy and a condition that I’ve been suffering through for a while. I am also socially disabled. Three disabilities require me to live with a guardian at all times. And some cultures, such as in Asia, Latin America, and Italy, it’s normal for family to live with or near each other and supoort each other. So think before you insult people who live with their folks.

  • @nicksttrs
    @nicksttrs Před 4 měsíci

    at 25 you better have a job that pays atleast 90k and if you make that much stay at home for another 5 years wait for the market to "possibly" come crashing down and then you will have enough money saved for a nice ass hosue.. But in Bidens economy good luck buying one that isn't taken the first couple minutes it hits the market.. its rough out there right now just gotta be patient.

  • @LOADING...o.o.o
    @LOADING...o.o.o Před 5 měsíci

    I used to live alone for a year. So lonely. So I tried to find a job near my house and move back in to my parent’s house. I’m 34 😂😂

  • @jdrankwalter
    @jdrankwalter Před 6 měsíci

    We call it the home of Prince...

  • @calebburghardt3391
    @calebburghardt3391 Před 6 měsíci +2

    I haven’t watched the video yet, but I can guess what the advice is going to be. As someone who moved out at 19 years old, I think it is so incredibly stupid to criticize and pressure young people to move out of their parents house especially with this economy. Literally who cares as long as you’re not a freeloading bum. it’s family.

  • @CaroLI-lh2re
    @CaroLI-lh2re Před 2 měsíci +1

    I fee like young people in the US feel so much pressure to leave home early.

  • @omotayosatuyi252
    @omotayosatuyi252 Před 5 měsíci

    Nah dude it's all good it's smart for saving money

  • @skateata1
    @skateata1 Před 6 měsíci

    In countries like India and Asia its normal to live with parents and even grandparents well into adulthood. I dont unserstand why americans are so opposed to this. 🤷‍♀️

  • @lilsamantha1
    @lilsamantha1 Před 6 měsíci +1

    Ammm lucky you😂

    • @Veracityseeker7
      @Veracityseeker7 Před 6 měsíci +1

      Exactly! He has a lack of gratitude for sure. I wish I could go live with my parents and save money for a couple years😅

    • @lilsamantha1
      @lilsamantha1 Před 6 měsíci

      @@Veracityseeker7 I know

  • @cameronthomas4392
    @cameronthomas4392 Před 6 měsíci +3

    Better to live with parents and pay off student loans then become a drag on society moaning and begging for bailouts until you’re 40. As a society we shame kids for living with their parents, but we should shame overall families asking for bailouts if anything. Those parents should be the ones shamed - don’t let your kid borrow money for an economically useless degree.
    Many parents enjoy having their kids back. People don’t realize once a kid is gone from their house they’ve spent like 90 something percent of their lifelong time with their kid. A few extra years can be fun if they are a good young adult. It will delay maturing a bit in all honesty, but most gen z don’t appear to want marriage early (or at all) anyway, so it’s not keeping you from goals imo.

  • @sds6303
    @sds6303 Před 6 měsíci +3

    Austin, Texas for filmmaking? Nah dude, come to NY or LA. Texas? Lmao

  • @robquin1525
    @robquin1525 Před 10 dny

    Same age.

  • @charliecampbell1232
    @charliecampbell1232 Před 6 měsíci +1

    I have a friend that 35 and has never left home. Sometimes I believe his goal is to wait for them to die and takeover the house.

  • @chaderic27
    @chaderic27 Před 6 měsíci

    Good God w/ the Prius...That one just blows my mind...Yuk

    • @flashthecorgi2053
      @flashthecorgi2053 Před 6 měsíci

      Ha! He doesn’t have a Prius anymore… he totaled it so you don’t have to worry about it. 🤣

  • @Serguido
    @Serguido Před 6 měsíci

    It's murderapolis delony.

  • @danielgiordani7625
    @danielgiordani7625 Před 5 měsíci

    In this economy it’s smart to live at home at 25.