any of you gents have a problem with triple standards? i'll let ya ponder that while you make me a sandwhich. and go ahead and make one for yourself, toots (not you Howes, you get back to work)
As a 54 years old woman (3 years into post menopause) I’ve cried a few times during this interview. I’ve never felt so represented in someone’s words. My life was miserable for 4 years in perimenopause and then 2 years in post menopause. I was dismissed so many times by people around me, by family doctors and even by Obgyns. Until I said enough is enough. I looked for a new obgyn, I educated myself and I advocated for my health. I’ve been on HRT for one year now and I’m a new person, all symptoms went away and I feel like my old self again. My recommendation: fight for yourself and don’t anyone dismiss your symptoms and your feelings
Heartfelt thanks to you Lewis. I have been suffering last 4 years due to menopause. Im looking out for a new obgyn tomorrow to start HRT. The earlier ones just dismissed me saying I need to go to a psychiatrist.
Not all man could interview on that subject ! No surprise Lewis did an amazing job !!! Love that interview. I am 38 years old and so glad I've learned this now ! ❤❤❤❤ Thank you !
Pre menopause has made me age 20 yrs in 4 yrs. Everyday I wake up looking and feeling 5 yrs older. I'm 46 and I feel 80 yrs old. 1rst. I ran all type of blood test, even HIV I thought I had caught a very bad disease, cancer, something. My headaches disabled me, I m taking about having this neuralgia type of pain for 20 days. I lost 3 good teeth because the pain was horrible. The doctor sent me anti depressants. I had to discover by myself that I'm premenopaused.
Most elderly people have problems getting up off the floor. As a child you spend a lot of time on the floor, adults do not. Doing yoga / stretching exercises on the floor can improve balance, mobility, flexibility and the ability to get up and down.. Just getting up and down to the floor in a controlled manner is difficult for many older adults. Play with your children on the floor. Bend over, get down and pull weeds in your garden. Play with a pet on the floor. The more effort you make to work on balance and flexibility will pay dividends as you age.
Couldn't agree more. Even at my fittest I struggled to get off floor however this year (age 55) I was shocked to discover how much this had worsened in last 4 years. I'm now doing a few extra stretches and balances each day and also working on losing the 2 stone I've gained in last 4 years. My wake up call was trying to get up from a yoga mat in a relaxation class earlier this year 😮
I can bend over and touch the floor with my fingers. However, arthritis does not allow me to get down on the floor. I used to love gardening. I exercise, I do low impact. If I want to do anything like mop a floor or clean base boards, I have to wrap my knees like a body builder. Just to avoid the pain. And it only makes the pain almost bearable.
@@mousebr549 I understand- research what turmeric can do … it reduces inflammation. I get the fresh kind and throw it in my juicer with watermelon and other produce I juice. Keep exercising, try a basic chair and strengthen from there . Chair exercises are so under rated . It’s great for young ladies too . High impact exercises are so overrated
I'm sobbing!! In bed!! My heart is broken. After 7 years of doctors and specialists I only found a Dr like you two months ago. I started hormone therapy but not there yet.. I suffer from severely debilitating dizzyness for 2.5 years... All I can think of is quitting life. This is making me feel less alone but still petrified. How are we also supposed to afford all the treatments as woman above everything else! I'm 37! Started a few years ago Thanks for all your work!❤❤❤
You are not alone. Please don't think of quiting life. Am also struggling with menopause. Please DM me if you feel very low. Reach out. Life is precious😊
I totally understand about quitting! I have been in so much pain since menopause started! I was a size 3 and full of life and have gained so much weight.. lower back pain started when I was a size 3, so it isn't the weight I've gained. I blame it on low testosterone ... Regular doctor's don't have a clue! Don't give up!
When I was mid 40s I could barely find any info on the webs. Now, at 51 there's Dr Stacy Sims, Dr. Mary Claire, Dr. Lisa Monsconi and others. I finally found a practitioner who is willing to work with me. And, MHT (menopause hormone therapy) has been a game changer for me. I'm grateful to all these trail blazers.
Dr Mary Claire has been amazing in getting the word out about this subject, but Dr. Felice Gersh is next level. A big thank you to these women. Unfortunately, trying to get a doctor who is knowledgeable about HRT is a huge obstacle. The medical system should make a mandatory class to educate existing doctors. This can be done now. We are half of the population. It is appalling women have been so neglected in this area.
YES! YES! YES! Spread the word about Dr. Felice Gersh. She is beyond amazing. Her knowledge blew me away. I just recently discovered her after I have binge watched all of Dr. Haver and many other doctors who are masters of peri and menopause. The current generation of women are so blessed to have this kind of information. It's a great start.
Lewis...I "found" your channel recently, and I'm so grateful I did! You are such a person of intregrity! I really resoect how you treat your guests with kindness, respect, and an open mind! Thanks, and have a great day!! ❤❤
Couldn’t get estradiol (sp?). I am a young early 60’s. Started meno at 57. Still get from Dr.’s that hormone replacements cause cancer. Finally found an on-line female Dr. that believes in natural support lifelong and another female Dr. who offers help with diet and exercises beyond kegels. The old meno thoughts of most docs is still the old for the most part. Thank you for speaking up for women!!!
@kathrynm777 Get a new doctor that specializes in Menopause...you don't have to roll over and go through all the symptoms. The studies were conducted previously are wildly outdated. You can take hormones until your very old age.
My Mother and grandmother n Aunts had breast cancer....so my Drs took me off of once a month B12 and hormone shots.....I am 73 and have not felt good every since....?
Currently in Perimenopause at 48. I have a wonderful OBGYN who also delivered both of my kids and is a wonderful surgeon. I am an obsessive learner regarding health and this is my new topic! Many varying symptoms spurned me to begin taking Progesterone and testosterone. Judging by my remaining symptoms...id say my estrogen is low lows and high highs and ever changing (your ovaries alternate- remember that). Being a lifelong workout queen, it has been humbling. A work in progress 💪 now. Keep trying, never give up, and remember you are worth it and deserve to be healthy and strong! If a doctor tells you no, often it's because he or she is out of their depth.
Great conversation ❤ I love how mature you are Lewis. Not too many men are willing to have these interesting conversations ❤. You're helping so many women and men to learn about each other.
I too agree. You are the perfect person to have such a deep conversation. Women have been dismissed so frequently for centuries as being crazy or overly emotional. There is so much to us the has been kept in the dark. So happy that you did this for us and helped give a platform for amazing women like her! Thank you for helping us.
@@Bornspirit1 I cried alot, was confused lost my moral compass, Sat in my walk in robe banging my head against the wall...I look back now and wonder who that person was...my advice to all women is to educate yourself
@@Rose-rr9xq education is so important. I never knew how many ways it affects us until I started going through it. I’m a solutions person so I had to get down to the bottom of it!
100 % it’s hard to feel valued when we are going through all these changes , I’ll be 6o this year and I started at 48 Still dealing with a lot of things , but getting stronger everyday ❤️
It's absolute grief if you longed for more children and aren't married. You feel redundant. A 49/50 year old guy can still start a family while menopause makes a woman seem elderly.
It need not feel that way on an individual level but a lot of work is needed for perceptions within society to change - to change this notion of redundancy. It's ageism which is a behaviour that needs to stop by men and women alike.
I am 57 and had surgical menopause 10 years ago and was not convinced to take HRT and within 8 weeks it really affected my mental health and still have issues. So I was given antidepressants which helped some but I went from 226 lbs to 336 lbs. No matter what I ate or did, the weight keeps piling on. I worked at a very physically job and walking over 14 kms a day plus walking my dogs after work. I also was diagnosed with crohns, worsening osteoarthritis and I had to retire early and I gained even more weight from meds and can barely walk a km. My doctor says that there is no range to gauge my hormone levels. I miss how I use to be. I feel so old. My body aches everywhere like as if I had a fever and joint pain.
Sure thing! When it comes to staying healthy, it's not just about physical health but also mental well-being. Taking care of your mind by practicing mindfulness, meditation, or doing activities you enjoy can make a big difference.
Some lady said she isnt caring anymore about what her career will be like, she is living in preset moment. her motto is were people happy to see me today, Did I amke them smile etc.
“Stress reduction “ is a tough thing when most of your role becomes being a caregiver more than just being a wife😏. I have been caregiver for my husband through many surgeries, recoveries, rehabs . In the midst of all that, I also became caregiver for my 81 year old daddy who suffered w Alzheimers. His 7 year journey ended in March at 88 years old. Shortly after my , now 74 year old husband’s heart problems worsened and he needs me to be his taxi to take him to his many drs appointments etc etc. Life is stress!!! 10:35
Divorce also happens in menopause because men start chasing after the babysitter. Misogyny is alive and well. Thanks Dr.Haver for being such a strong advocate for women!
I'm glad you brought up the Misogyny aspect. I had a hysterectomy and was slow to heal. My doctor was acting kinda weird that I wasn't healing as quickly as he hoped. I said "Well, my body is going to heal in its own time. Whether it takes 3 months or 10, what does it matter as long as I'm healing" and he was like stuttering and looking concerned "Well..Im concerned about..you know..your husband" and I looked at him confused and I said "My husband? Why are you concerned about my husband?" and the doctor was like "Well, you know..he's going to want to get back to having sex as soon as possible" I'm thinking "Wtf is wrong with you? I'm not a toy" hahaha.
I just saw sooOooOo much vile casual misogyny on a DryBar comedy short of a lady comedian, talking about how women should stop talking to their husbands to keep them. The amount of men and many women spouting such horrible things so brazenly, it made me feel not happy at all.
It's a SHAME that society had intentionally and consistently refused to EDUCATE MEN on this. Instead of them being helpful and supportive, they end up pulling away and divorcing/discarding their wives in her most vulnerable time. They demand SEX from her while she is going through a life-changing, very uncomfortable process. IT IS REALLY SAD.
Because of Dr Mary, I figured I was definitely coming up to menopause. The joint pain in my thumbs, So bad in my shoulder I've had cortisone shots. My vision went from wearing cheaters to now progressives overnight. I started her vitamins and her fiber and her collagen following her diet now so just starting to lose the weight I just got hormone replacement therapy 2 months ago I'm looking forward to seeing how I feel Thank you so much Dr Mary.
As an integrative health clinician, this is one of the best interviews I have seen to help empower people to ask more questions and FIND health care professionals that truly listen and care. Great job bringing awareness!! 🎉
Its sad that MD’s get only one hour of menopause training. As a doctor of natural health, we get hundreds of hours as well as protocols for a smooth and event free transition- basically everything she is teaching ❤ This is nothing new- only new to western medical doctors.
Thank you for speaking up! The world needs to hear this truth! Naturopath Doctors should be on a mission to educate people more than ever.. with the Truth!
Oh...em...gee!!! This is so affirming. I have been offered SSRIs, and scoured for information. I have been so attuned with my body and its function. Perimenopause has been like getting to know a WHOLE new person, a stranger. And getting to know that stranger on an island. Thank you so much for covering this topic. I am also gonna share with my younger crew. It would be great for them not to arrive at this point in their lives with no clue of what is happening to them. ❤😊
I am 53 and the last 2 and a half years I have been struggling at work with brain fog. This is what my problem is. I am on an antidepressant and want to quit my job because I feel like I am unable to keep up anymore. I need to call my GYN Monday and get help.
I have been on estrogen and progesterone since 48 and when I turned 50 I began testosterone. I am 💯 more interested in sex and am initiating intimacy with my husband. We’re pretty happy and still in love.
Found your channel and amazing to see you interviewing this champion, guiding light for menopause women. I started perimenopause earlier than usual in my late 30s. I have felt so so alone and this woman and a few others have helped me so so much. Well done for giving Dr Haver more of a platform because her voice needs to cut through the societal conditioning that makes women feel like this is meant to be endured and ignored. Loved this bit about boundaries. I am finding myself doing that because yeh, I have bone loss already and yeh, I need to head to the gym now.
When I I went to my doctor with initial menopausal symptoms I was told this was psychosomatic. Literal this was all in my head. I was 42 and not even thinking that I was approaching menopause.
Thank you for showcasing this subject. We are often ignored and poo-pooed, even by our female Drs. It is like living with chronic disease, it effects every body system. It has been a shocking and debilitating process. My only saving grace has been working in healthcare I work with 95% women, and we commisurate and help each other.
My world was spinning out of control and I could not figure out what is going on, apart from not having my periods and getting hot flushes. I have been dismissed by male and female doctors with "You are just getting old and start exercising and you will feel better about life" every single time. This is amazing information that gives hope for future generations of women. I am afraid, by the time it trickles down to every doctor and insurance company, I would be gone as a woman and as a human being.
I don’t have more menstrual period. I never ever had any symptom for pre or menopausal time. I feel good until now. I didn’t take any kind if hormones replacement , however I’m atleta, I have been doing excersise all my life, I never drink alcohol or used drugs, I take care my diet a lot , I go sleep early and wake up early to go running and I never ever feel that she is talking about. And I have my personal mentors because I take care of my self awareness, emotions, mind, spiritual pad. Getting out from dramas. Staying in peace. All we women can do that. ❤
That's wonderful and that's how it should be. The standard American diet and sedentary lifestyle contributes to menopausal symptoms. Thank you for sharing!
Good for you, but in some cases genes or other life events may play a big role on how women goes through menopause. Just remember that your way is not the only way, it's good to aknowledge other people's struggle without judging them that they're not doing well, or not doing enough.
Yet another extremely important interview. Thank you Lewis for taking this on. I am 51 and feel the first changes in my body and I feel so inspired to turn my boat around starting today. I want to get through this period of my life in the best way possible. ❤
Thank you Lewis for doing this topic and bringing it to men and women in your audience. Its so important and she did such a good job of presenting everything. I learned new things too! Im 51, Ive been on bio identical hormones for about 5 yrs now with perimenopause, its helped me, I have more energy, hardly anymore migraines, lighter periods when they were always heavy (I had migraines every month) and progesterone took care of it! Always had a good libido and maintained. And the night sweats, Im going on 3 mos no period, hope im nearing the end. Honestly I cant wait to be done! Had 2 kids in my 20s and living my life, traveling, self care, etc. Hope more women can be helped!
Why do they NEVERRRR talk about the financial part of actually getting the services?? Insurance will not cover hrt unless it’s synthetic hormones. Ie. Premarin, estradiol pills etc. the fact women have to go outside her medical group to find proper meno care!! That’s the next fix for all women to be able to procure treatment!
SOOOOOOOOO INCREDIBLE GRATEFUL FOR THIS. YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW MUCH I APPRECIATE THIS EPISODE ❤❤❤❤❤. Thank you Lewis for all your genuine questions and really giving her questions that are helping us through this difficult time.
1:15:07 I love this!! One of our family members turned 70 years old a couple of weeks ago, and he’s been saying this every single decade since 50 years old. This year, he says, “Life truly begins when you turn 70” 😂😍
42:38 I am 38 and feel the shame and feel less valuable and I have visibly aged in the past 5 years and i have gained 40 lbs and although I have mental health conditions, my moods are getting more & more unstable. Basically since I had my tubes removed
I had a feeling that by the time I’m in menopause, my usefulness and desirability will be gone. This confirms it. It makes being not alive sound like the humane way to go
Thank you so much for this information. I'm 37 and even though I'm strong and exercise (heavy weightlifting/strength training) I have a little gut which formed this year. When usually I'd lose it quickly, now it's harder to. And this video made me realize I'm probably perimenopausal. I ordered a test to verify. PS: I'm dreading menopausal simply bc I haven't had children yet and I want to have.
Great info and great education ❤🙏 thank you Lewis for this amazing guest. Also o loved when she said” give your kids enough to be successful, but not enough to do nothing “
Most women on these Numbers are eating the Standard American Diet. I believe diet has more to do with our hormone imbalance & menapouse symptoms. Some vegans and raw vegans women have no side effects during menopause. Eat more plants ladies ❤ I changed my diet to a vegan oil free no processed foods, and my period significantly got better. I have less cramps, less days, and less bloating. I owe it all to my high fiber intake ❤
Everyone’s body is different, I eat healthy as well lean meat, fish, eggs, turkey, only zucchini, asparagus, kimchi,(bloating with other veggies), some sweet potato and quinoa, blueberries. I lift weights, active hiking, walking etc, in bed by 8. Take Seed pre/probiotic, vitamin D3, turmeric, MK2-7, No menopause symptoms, feel better than ever, age 61. 🙏🏻
I went to a female "specialist " on meno, she looked at me with distain, listened to my symptoms said, yea we will do blood work and you are diabetic, just need to get you to do a glucose test! My test came back. Nope. Not diabetic. Duh... even the "specialist " will treat you like a WW!!
I started running 5 times a week and gained 5 pounds after 3 months. I now understand why. 😅 This Peri meno stuff is horrible. I have all the symptoms she mentioned.
Thank you so much this is a Great Conversation, i am turning 50 this year this will help me have a conversation with my doctor and get this book to educate myself
Very interesting interview but a very western medical perspective with western statistics. I'm curious to know how eastern cultures view and manage menopause. Our western way is not set up to allow any natural life cycle including menopause.
I love this doctor because she's a true pioneer! but ladies--If you decide to seek treatment for symptoms, make sure you are 100% doing it for yourself. Sex is not a duty and you are not a toy.
I was told I could not take oral estrogen at menopause since my sister had breast cancer . I was given the cream as I was more prone to urinary tract infections told to use 3x a week. That hasn’t impacted the hot flashes consistently severe especially on awakening going on 13 years. Insomnia is an issue as well. I would like to know this doctors viewpoint on not being able to use hrt if breast cancer in the family. Appreciate her input on diet exercise and alcohol. On the flip side no more mood swings lol.
Lewis, you’re an excellent interviewer-thank you for asking insightful questions. Dr. Marie Claire’s revelations were incredibly helpful and reassuring, giving us much to consider and work on. I was also surprised to hear Lewis mention that he has never been drunk or had a full glass of alcohol-at 43, I’m the same way. It was nice to hear someone else express this openly.
I hear a lot about appearance issues here, ladies. The first question my breast cancer surgeon asked when first examining me was, Did you take HRT? Yes I had, for two years 48-50. Had I had it all to do over, I would never have done it. Believe me, you won't think it was worthwhile if you find yourself with cancer.
I really soaked up and enjoyed this interview. I will definitely follow here on instagram and buy the book. Thank you for all this precious knowledge through all the interviews you give us access to. 🙏🏽❤️
Look on Dr Louise Newson website. She lists doctors around the world. I also started around 32. Only found a answer now at 37. Advocate for yourself!! Find the right Dr at whatever cost.
Women are hugely failed by the medical system. I had low iron for SOOOO long and it was ruining my life. Did any of the doctors care? Nope. A ferritin level of 6 was apparently "not causing your symptoms". Oh really? So I went to my Naturopath who actually listens and takes me seriously. We got me into a private clinic where I had to pay almost $1000 for an iron infusion. Changed my entire life! I couldn't remember what it was like to actually have energy again. The doctor at the clinic said that if men had to go through the same thing at the rate women do - there would be way more access to treatment and way more education. HE said women are such troopers and will just continue on with great disadvantage because they have no choice. That's a huge fail on the medical system.
Yes, yes, yes I’m so happy to see that menopause is out in the open and more women are being guided through this challenging time of change and we’re all different but we all go through it in different way. I love to educate my self on this challenging change that is a domino effect because we stop producing estrogen and that is a huge factor in our body. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️
Thank you so much❤. Precious conversation❤. One of the best on menopause. We need more doctors like you. Alot of my questions have been answered. I'm not crazy😊
Really? I keep wondering why she’s interrupting him while he’s asking well-worded questions. She constantly interrupts. Love her…but not the interrupting.
This has been so frustrating for me. All the doctors I've seen have said I'm not in menopause. But I have all the symptoms. What do I ask for to get this taken care of?
Kaiser said I was too young for menopause at 43. I shouldn't be having hot flashes since I'm on birth control. (I've taken it consecutively for 12 years as well so haven't had a period on 12 years; no way to judge by that) My lack of libido is mental. Bloating and swelling? *shrug*. Weight gain? Well, that's just what happens as we get older. I finally went to an online clinic that specializes in hormones, they ordered VERY thorough, detailed labs (fasted, which Kaiser never requested), and it turns out that not only do I have hypothyroidism, I'm IN menopause. I started HRT a week and a half ago, and already starting to feel better. The NP was like, yeah, you need ALL the things! So now I'm on thyroid medication, DHEA, testosterone, estradiol, and progesterone. But I had to go out of pocket.
I must say going through menopause made me so grateful that I have a son because I only have one 27 yr old because I hated thinking about any other woman that I know goes through this
I don't understand , when women ( i am one) "grieve" that they can't have kids anymore. For me , I thought of it as a relief ! " HA Ha ! Don't have to worry about that anymore !" 🎉 wooo hooo !
Because it means that part of your life has ended. Something we may have always thought would be part of our lives or maybe we took for granted by hating pms and bulky pads and mood swings is gone now. Now we are the older women we saw when we were young. It’s a big meaningful deal. Grief is definitely understandable. Ugh, that bummed me out typing it 😂 I don’t want to look like my old high school PE teacher 😭
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any of you gents have a problem with triple standards? i'll let ya ponder that while you make me a sandwhich. and go ahead and make one for yourself, toots (not you Howes, you get back to work)
As a 54 years old woman (3 years into post menopause) I’ve cried a few times during this interview. I’ve never felt so represented in someone’s words. My life was miserable for 4 years in perimenopause and then 2 years in post menopause. I was dismissed so many times by people around me, by family doctors and even by Obgyns. Until I said enough is enough. I looked for a new obgyn, I educated myself and I advocated for my health. I’ve been on HRT for one year now and I’m a new person, all symptoms went away and I feel like my old self again. My recommendation: fight for yourself and don’t anyone dismiss your symptoms and your feelings
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Heartfelt thanks to you Lewis. I have been suffering last 4 years due to menopause. Im looking out for a new obgyn tomorrow to start HRT. The earlier ones just dismissed me saying I need to go to a psychiatrist.
@@marials9245 what do you mean by you advocated for your health
Can you please explain what HRT stands for? Being a foreigner I struggled a bit with all the abbreviations in the interview.
@@adrianaaagaardsommer3466 Hormone replacement therapy
Not all man could interview on that subject ! No surprise Lewis did an amazing job !!! Love that interview. I am 38 years old and so glad I've learned this now ! ❤❤❤❤ Thank you !
Pre menopause has made me age 20 yrs in 4 yrs. Everyday I wake up looking and feeling 5 yrs older. I'm 46 and I feel 80 yrs old. 1rst. I ran all type of blood test, even HIV I thought I had caught a very bad disease, cancer, something. My headaches disabled me, I m taking about having this neuralgia type of pain for 20 days. I lost 3 good teeth because the pain was horrible. The doctor sent me anti depressants. I had to discover by myself that I'm premenopaused.
Most elderly people have problems getting up off the floor. As a child you spend a lot of time on the floor, adults do not.
Doing yoga / stretching exercises on the floor can improve balance, mobility, flexibility and the ability to get up and down..
Just getting up and down to the floor in a controlled manner is difficult for many older adults.
Play with your children on the floor. Bend over, get down and pull weeds in your garden. Play with a pet on the floor.
The more effort you make to work on balance and flexibility will pay dividends as you age.
Couldn't agree more. Even at my fittest I struggled to get off floor however this year (age 55) I was shocked to discover how much this had worsened in last 4 years. I'm now doing a few extra stretches and balances each day and also working on losing the 2 stone I've gained in last 4 years.
My wake up call was trying to get up from a yoga mat in a relaxation class earlier this year 😮
I can bend over and touch the floor with my fingers. However, arthritis does not allow me to get down on the floor. I used to love gardening. I exercise, I do low impact. If I want to do anything like mop a floor or clean base boards, I have to wrap my knees like a body builder. Just to avoid the pain. And it only makes the pain almost bearable.
@@mousebr549
I understand- research what turmeric can do … it reduces inflammation. I get the fresh kind and throw it in my juicer with watermelon and other produce I juice. Keep exercising, try a basic chair and strengthen from there .
Chair exercises are so under rated . It’s great for young ladies too . High impact exercises are so overrated
10,000%! In the blue zone in Japan they have low furniture and sit on the floor alot. I do it by habit and love it.
I'm sobbing!! In bed!! My heart is broken. After 7 years of doctors and specialists I only found a Dr like you two months ago. I started hormone therapy but not there yet.. I suffer from severely debilitating dizzyness for 2.5 years... All I can think of is quitting life. This is making me feel less alone but still petrified. How are we also supposed to afford all the treatments as woman above everything else! I'm 37! Started a few years ago
Thanks for all your work!❤❤❤
You are not alone. Please don't think of quiting life. Am also struggling with menopause. Please DM me if you feel very low. Reach out. Life is precious😊
I totally understand about quitting! I have been in so much pain since menopause started! I was a size 3 and full of life and have gained so much weight.. lower back pain started when I was a size 3, so it isn't the weight I've gained. I blame it on low testosterone ... Regular doctor's don't have a clue! Don't give up!
Keep trusting your instincts… bioidentical hormone replacement is amazing… and safe when done properly. Prayers!!
@@sharonackerman9721 I started taking bhrt. Day and night difference. Dizzyness gone. It's a miracle
When I was mid 40s I could barely find any info on the webs. Now, at 51 there's Dr Stacy Sims, Dr. Mary Claire, Dr. Lisa Monsconi and others. I finally found a practitioner who is willing to work with me. And, MHT (menopause hormone therapy) has been a game changer for me. I'm grateful to all these trail blazers.
Dr Mary Claire has been amazing in getting the word out about this subject, but Dr. Felice Gersh is next level. A big thank you to these women. Unfortunately, trying to get a doctor who is knowledgeable about HRT is a huge obstacle. The medical system should make a mandatory class to educate existing doctors. This can be done now. We are half of the population. It is appalling women have been so neglected in this area.
YES! YES! YES! Spread the word about Dr. Felice Gersh. She is beyond amazing. Her knowledge blew me away. I just recently discovered her after I have binge watched all of Dr. Haver and many other doctors who are masters of peri and menopause. The current generation of women are so blessed to have this kind of information. It's a great start.
I'm going to check out her message. Thanks.
Thank you for the recommendation ❤
What a great conversation. As a 49yr woman trying to get her badass back; so refreshing to hear a man engaged in this discussion.
Lewis...I "found" your channel recently, and I'm so grateful I did! You are such a person of intregrity! I really resoect how you treat your guests with kindness, respect, and an open mind! Thanks, and have a great day!! ❤❤
Couldn’t get estradiol (sp?). I am a young early 60’s. Started meno at 57. Still get from Dr.’s that hormone replacements cause cancer. Finally found an on-line female Dr. that believes in natural support lifelong and another female Dr. who offers help with diet and exercises beyond kegels. The old meno thoughts of most docs is still the old for the most part. Thank you for speaking up for women!!!
@kathrynm777 Get a new doctor that specializes in Menopause...you don't have to roll over and go through all the symptoms. The studies were conducted previously are wildly outdated. You can take hormones until your very old age.
7-keto-dhea, DHEA, daily exercise
My Mother and grandmother n Aunts had breast cancer....so my Drs took me off of once a month B12 and hormone shots.....I am 73 and have not felt good every since....?
@luwannabellah592 review your case with a menopause doctor. You might be looking at some osteoporosis, but you can get some vitality back.
Please send me information from the online doctor. I have a new gyno, he’s a male doctor so I’m
not comfortable speaking about it
Currently in Perimenopause at 48. I have a wonderful OBGYN who also delivered both of my kids and is a wonderful surgeon. I am an obsessive learner regarding health and this is my new topic! Many varying symptoms spurned me to begin taking Progesterone and testosterone. Judging by my remaining symptoms...id say my estrogen is low lows and high highs and ever changing (your ovaries alternate- remember that).
Being a lifelong workout queen, it has been humbling. A work in progress 💪 now. Keep trying, never give up, and remember you are worth it and deserve to be healthy and strong! If a doctor tells you no, often it's because he or she is out of their depth.
Great conversation ❤
I love how mature you are Lewis. Not too many men are willing to have these interesting conversations ❤. You're helping so many women and men to learn about each other.
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
I agree he seems like a great guy and emotionally available I’m sure to his partner unlike most
I too agree. You are the perfect person to have such a deep conversation. Women have been dismissed so frequently for centuries as being crazy or overly emotional. There is so much to us the has been kept in the dark. So happy that you did this for us and helped give a platform for amazing women like her! Thank you for helping us.
I honestly went crazy for several years during menopause, my head was all over the place
I’ve felt like I was losing my mind. It’ scary.
@@Bornspirit1 I cried alot, was confused lost my moral compass, Sat in my walk in robe banging my head against the wall...I look back now and wonder who that person was...my advice to all women is to educate yourself
@@Rose-rr9xq education is so important. I never knew how many ways it affects us until I started going through it. I’m a solutions person so I had to get down to the bottom of it!
100 % it’s hard to feel valued when we are going through all these changes , I’ll be 6o this year and I started at 48
Still dealing with a lot of things , but getting stronger everyday ❤️
Wishing you greater strength, sister! Reclaim your power and health!
It's absolute grief if you longed for more children and aren't married. You feel redundant. A 49/50 year old guy can still start a family while menopause makes a woman seem elderly.
It need not feel that way on an individual level but a lot of work is needed for perceptions within society to change - to change this notion of redundancy. It's ageism which is a behaviour that needs to stop by men and women alike.
I am 57 and had surgical menopause 10 years ago and was not convinced to take HRT and within 8 weeks it really affected my mental health and still have issues. So I was given antidepressants which helped some but I went from 226 lbs to 336 lbs. No matter what I ate or did, the weight keeps piling on. I worked at a very physically job and walking over 14 kms a day plus walking my dogs after work. I also was diagnosed with crohns, worsening osteoarthritis and I had to retire early and I gained even more weight from meds and can barely walk a km. My doctor says that there is no range to gauge my hormone levels. I miss how I use to be. I feel so old. My body aches everywhere like as if I had a fever and joint pain.
Sure thing! When it comes to staying healthy, it's not just about physical health but also mental well-being. Taking care of your mind by practicing mindfulness, meditation, or doing activities you enjoy can make a big difference.
Some lady said she isnt caring anymore about what her career will be like,
she is living in preset moment.
her motto is were people happy to see me today, Did I amke them smile etc.
“Stress reduction “ is a tough thing when most of your role becomes being a caregiver more than just being a wife😏.
I have been caregiver for my husband through many surgeries, recoveries, rehabs .
In the midst of all that, I also became caregiver for my 81 year old daddy who suffered w Alzheimers.
His 7 year journey ended in March at 88 years old.
Shortly after my , now 74 year old husband’s heart problems worsened and he needs me to be his taxi to take him to his many drs appointments etc etc.
Life is stress!!! 10:35
Divorce also happens in menopause because men start chasing after the babysitter. Misogyny is alive and well. Thanks Dr.Haver for being such a strong advocate for women!
I'm glad you brought up the Misogyny aspect. I had a hysterectomy and was slow to heal. My doctor was acting kinda weird that I wasn't healing as quickly as he hoped. I said "Well, my body is going to heal in its own time. Whether it takes 3 months or 10, what does it matter as long as I'm healing" and he was like stuttering and looking concerned "Well..Im concerned about..you know..your husband" and I looked at him confused and I said "My husband? Why are you concerned about my husband?" and the doctor was like "Well, you know..he's going to want to get back to having sex as soon as possible" I'm thinking "Wtf is wrong with you? I'm not a toy" hahaha.
I just saw sooOooOo much vile casual misogyny on a DryBar comedy short of a lady comedian, talking about how women should stop talking to their husbands to keep them. The amount of men and many women spouting such horrible things so brazenly, it made me feel not happy at all.
@kd2533 Yeh that comment alone means you should
@@laurieclarkson9180 I had a very similar experience!!! I opted for a female gynecologists only.
It's a SHAME that society had intentionally and consistently refused to EDUCATE MEN on this. Instead of them being helpful and supportive, they end up pulling away and divorcing/discarding their wives in her most vulnerable time. They demand SEX from her while she is going through a life-changing, very uncomfortable process. IT IS REALLY SAD.
Because of Dr Mary, I figured I was definitely coming up to menopause. The joint pain in my thumbs, So bad in my shoulder I've had cortisone shots. My vision went from wearing cheaters to now progressives overnight. I started her vitamins and her fiber and her collagen following her diet now so just starting to lose the weight I just got hormone replacement therapy 2 months ago I'm looking forward to seeing how I feel Thank you so much Dr Mary.
As an integrative health clinician, this is one of the best interviews I have seen to help empower people to ask more questions and FIND health care professionals that truly listen and care. Great job bringing awareness!! 🎉
Thank you for watching🧡
Its sad that MD’s get only one hour of menopause training. As a doctor of natural health, we get hundreds of hours as well as protocols for a smooth and event free transition- basically everything she is teaching ❤ This is nothing new- only new to western medical doctors.
Thank you for speaking up! The world needs to hear this truth! Naturopath Doctors should be on a mission to educate people more than ever.. with the Truth!
Oh...em...gee!!! This is so affirming. I have been offered SSRIs, and scoured for information. I have been so attuned with my body and its function. Perimenopause has been like getting to know a WHOLE new person, a stranger. And getting to know that stranger on an island.
Thank you so much for covering this topic. I am also gonna share with my younger crew. It would be great for them not to arrive at this point in their lives with no clue of what is happening to them. ❤😊
Such a blessing to have a husband that understanding
This is what I wanna say too!! Well done 👍🏻
I am 53 and the last 2 and a half years I have been struggling at work with brain fog. This is what my problem is. I am on an antidepressant and want to quit my job because I feel like I am unable to keep up anymore. I need to call my GYN Monday and get help.
Changing my gut health and exercise changed my perimenopause etc to a breeze.
Everyone should learn about this valuable information, it can help tremendously with relationships. Good questions Lewis 🙌
Excellent interview! So much education! Thank you!
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Husbands need to educate themselves too.
Yep.
Wives need to educate themselves on men's health issues and stop focusing solely on self.
@susansmith493 that's not this video. This video is about women and Metapause. Stick to the topic at hand.
@@solimine1007 "husbands needing to educate themselves" is ALSO "not this video." :)
Best interview you have ever done! Factual, truthful, informative, relatable!
Thank you so much for watching!
I have been on estrogen and progesterone since 48 and when I turned 50 I began testosterone. I am 💯 more interested in sex and am initiating intimacy with my husband. We’re pretty happy and still in love.
Do you use real or manufactured hormones?
@@Bva34343 they are all bio identical
Thank you! So needed! Wish i had learned it earlier. I am holistc and resistant to meds. Just started them again at 61,more focus and moisture
Found your channel and amazing to see you interviewing this champion, guiding light for menopause women. I started perimenopause earlier than usual in my late 30s. I have felt so so alone and this woman and a few others have helped me so so much. Well done for giving Dr Haver more of a platform because her voice needs to cut through the societal conditioning that makes women feel like this is meant to be endured and ignored. Loved this bit about boundaries. I am finding myself doing that because yeh, I have bone loss already and yeh, I need to head to the gym now.
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
When I I went to my doctor with initial menopausal symptoms I was told this was psychosomatic. Literal this was all in my head. I was 42 and not even thinking that I was approaching menopause.
Thank you so much for this interview!! I'm 44 and this was so validated. Nobody taught us how to go through this process....
You're welcome, thank you for watching! 🧡
Thank you for showcasing this subject. We are often ignored and poo-pooed, even by our female Drs. It is like living with chronic disease, it effects every body system. It has been a shocking and debilitating process. My only saving grace has been working in healthcare I work with 95% women, and we commisurate and help each other.
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Great comment!! So true… keep sharing!
My world was spinning out of control and I could not figure out what is going on, apart from not having my periods and getting hot flushes. I have been dismissed by male and female doctors with "You are just getting old and start exercising and you will feel better about life" every single time. This is amazing information that gives hope for future generations of women. I am afraid, by the time it trickles down to every doctor and insurance company, I would be gone as a woman and as a human being.
I don’t have more menstrual period. I never ever had any symptom for pre or menopausal time.
I feel good until now. I didn’t take any kind if hormones replacement , however I’m atleta, I have been doing excersise all my life, I never drink alcohol or used drugs, I take care my diet a lot , I go sleep early and wake up early to go running and I never ever feel that she is talking about.
And I have my personal mentors because I take
care of my self awareness, emotions, mind, spiritual pad.
Getting out from dramas. Staying in peace.
All we women can do that. ❤
That's wonderful and that's how it should be. The standard American diet and sedentary lifestyle contributes to menopausal symptoms. Thank you for sharing!
Good for you, but in some cases genes or other life events may play a big role on how women goes through menopause. Just remember that your way is not the only way, it's good to aknowledge other people's struggle without judging them that they're not doing well, or not doing enough.
Loved this interview!! I am 37 and this information is definitely needed! ❤
Glad you loved it! Thanks for watching!
Yet another extremely important interview. Thank you Lewis for taking this on. I am 51 and feel the first changes in my body and I feel so inspired to turn my boat around starting today. I want to get through this period of my life in the best way possible. ❤
Thank you Lewis for doing this topic and bringing it to men and women in your audience. Its so important and she did such a good job of presenting everything. I learned new things too! Im 51, Ive been on bio identical hormones for about 5 yrs now with perimenopause, its helped me, I have more energy, hardly anymore migraines, lighter periods when they were always heavy (I had migraines every month) and progesterone took care of it! Always had a good libido and maintained. And the night sweats, Im going on 3 mos no period, hope im nearing the end. Honestly I cant wait to be done! Had 2 kids in my 20s and living my life, traveling, self care, etc. Hope more women can be helped!
Lewis Howes!! You are such a wonderful caring person! Ty for talking about this issue!
Why do they NEVERRRR talk about the financial part of actually getting the services?? Insurance will not cover hrt unless it’s synthetic hormones. Ie. Premarin, estradiol pills etc. the fact women have to go outside her medical group to find proper meno care!! That’s the next fix for all women to be able to procure treatment!
Very true!!! I work in a fee for service office that specializes in this. No insurance will cover except some lab fees.
What is the best type of HRT? Is there a natural hormone that is not synthetic
@@cks5631 you can find bioidentical hormone options… check for a local compounding pharmacy and they may more options in your area! 🙏🏻
@@cks5631...there are plants that provide bio-identical hormones for women. So, yes.
SOOOOOOOOO INCREDIBLE GRATEFUL FOR THIS. YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW MUCH I APPRECIATE THIS EPISODE ❤❤❤❤❤. Thank you Lewis for all your genuine questions and really giving her questions that are helping us through this difficult time.
Thank you, your support means a lot!
I mean I was absolutely suicidal without changes but menopause until I got some hormone therapy
This interview is pure gold! The last 3 truths just made me cry. Thank you.
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1:15:07 I love this!! One of our family members turned 70 years old a couple of weeks ago, and he’s been saying this every single decade since 50 years old. This year, he says, “Life truly begins when you turn 70” 😂😍
Thank you Lewis for this convo! Very important and needed!!! Sending much love. ❤❤❤
You're welcome, please keep tuning in for more great content to come 🙌
42:38 I am 38 and feel the shame and feel less valuable and I have visibly aged in the past 5 years and i have gained 40 lbs and although I have mental health conditions, my moods are getting more & more unstable. Basically since I had my tubes removed
I love the book “What Your Doctor May not Tell You About Menopause” really helpful tips that I have used to get me feeling better.
I had a feeling that by the time I’m in menopause, my usefulness and desirability will be gone. This confirms it.
It makes being not alive sound like the humane way to go
Thank you so much for this information. I'm 37 and even though I'm strong and exercise (heavy weightlifting/strength training) I have a little gut which formed this year. When usually I'd lose it quickly, now it's harder to. And this video made me realize I'm probably perimenopausal. I ordered a test to verify. PS: I'm dreading menopausal simply bc I haven't had children yet and I want to have.
What is the name of the test? How did you order?
Thank you so much for providing such great information, Lewis .❤
Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂
Great conversation and information…so happy men are taking an interest in these important topics to support their relationships with women.
And i really thank you for each question you make. Its a good "interruption" which us not being there we would ask ourselves.
Great info and great education ❤🙏 thank you Lewis for this amazing guest. Also o loved when she said” give your kids enough to be successful, but not enough to do nothing “
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Most women on these Numbers are eating the Standard American Diet. I believe diet has more to do with our hormone imbalance & menapouse symptoms.
Some vegans and raw vegans women have no side effects during menopause. Eat more plants ladies ❤
I changed my diet to a vegan oil free no processed foods, and my period significantly got better. I have less cramps, less days, and less bloating. I owe it all to my high fiber intake ❤
100% agree!
You wait 😂
Everyone’s body is different, I eat healthy as well lean meat, fish, eggs, turkey, only zucchini, asparagus, kimchi,(bloating with other veggies), some sweet potato and quinoa, blueberries. I lift weights, active hiking, walking etc, in bed by 8. Take Seed pre/probiotic, vitamin D3, turmeric, MK2-7, No menopause symptoms, feel better than ever, age 61. 🙏🏻
Not everyone is so lucky.
Come back to this podcast when you are 50+
I went to a female "specialist " on meno, she looked at me with distain, listened to my symptoms said, yea we will do blood work and you are diabetic, just need to get you to do a glucose test! My test came back. Nope. Not diabetic.
Duh... even the "specialist " will treat you like a WW!!
I started running 5 times a week and gained 5 pounds after 3 months. I now understand why. 😅 This Peri meno stuff is horrible. I have all the symptoms she mentioned.
Thank you so much this is a Great Conversation, i am turning 50 this year this will help me have a conversation with my doctor and get this book to educate myself
Very interesting interview but a very western medical perspective with western statistics. I'm curious to know how eastern cultures view and manage menopause. Our western way is not set up to allow any natural life cycle including menopause.
I love this doctor because she's a true pioneer! but ladies--If you decide to seek treatment for symptoms, make sure you are 100% doing it for yourself. Sex is not a duty and you are not a toy.
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Fantastic discussion! I hope many people hear this.
Thanks for watching! I'm glad you liked it!
thank you for bringing her on............I loooooveeeee her.i follow her 😀😍
I wish I had this podcast 8 years ago ... 😢 ❤🎉
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Thank you ❤
You're welcome, thank you for watching!
I was told I could not take oral estrogen at menopause since my sister had breast cancer . I was given the cream as I was more prone to urinary tract infections told to use 3x a week. That hasn’t impacted the hot flashes consistently severe especially on awakening going on 13 years. Insomnia is an issue as well. I would like to know this doctors viewpoint on not being able to use hrt if breast cancer in the family.
Appreciate her input on diet exercise and alcohol.
On the flip side no more mood swings lol.
I was surprised when Dr.Claire mentioned progesterone helperd her sleep hugely. Have you tried progesterone for sleep?
Por favor maestro podras pasar esta conferencia al espańol, agradecida !
Lewis, you’re an excellent interviewer-thank you for asking insightful questions. Dr. Marie Claire’s revelations were incredibly helpful and reassuring, giving us much to consider and work on. I was also surprised to hear Lewis mention that he has never been drunk or had a full glass of alcohol-at 43, I’m the same way. It was nice to hear someone else express this openly.
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Wow, so validating. Thank you!
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
I hear a lot about appearance issues here, ladies. The first question my breast cancer surgeon asked when first examining me was, Did you take HRT? Yes I had, for two years 48-50. Had I had it all to do over, I would never have done it. Believe me, you won't think it was worthwhile if you find yourself with cancer.
I loveeed it!!!!!!!! Thank you so much!
Glad you loved it! Thanks for watching!
BROKEN HEART SYNDROME IS REAL THING. People die from it
I really soaked up and enjoyed this interview.
I will definitely follow here on instagram and buy the book. Thank you for all this precious knowledge through all the interviews you give us access to. 🙏🏽❤️
Glad you enjoyed it!
I don't enjoy hot flashes, however, I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE not having that monthly visit. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
I would like to know what she was going to say before she was interrupted
Great interview I enjoyed thanks 👍🏼❤️
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
My whole life was like that . Trying to keep all normal. Benign tumors had formed something like shells when I was 16.😬
I wish she would slow down 😮 a lot of information let me take it in
I’m 33 and convinced I’m peri menopausal!! Doctors will not have it but don’t know what else has caused all of my symptoms 🙄
Look on Dr Louise Newson website. She lists doctors around the world. I also started around 32. Only found a answer now at 37. Advocate for yourself!! Find the right Dr at whatever cost.
Women are hugely failed by the medical system. I had low iron for SOOOO long and it was ruining my life. Did any of the doctors care? Nope. A ferritin level of 6 was apparently "not causing your symptoms". Oh really? So I went to my Naturopath who actually listens and takes me seriously. We got me into a private clinic where I had to pay almost $1000 for an iron infusion. Changed my entire life! I couldn't remember what it was like to actually have energy again. The doctor at the clinic said that if men had to go through the same thing at the rate women do - there would be way more access to treatment and way more education. HE said women are such troopers and will just continue on with great disadvantage because they have no choice. That's a huge fail on the medical system.
Please invite Felice Gersh. She is brilliant.
I Need To Write THIS Down 😮
I am grateful for this representation of what life is like for women at this age of experiences. Thank you.
Thank you for this interview ❤
Glad you enjoyed it!
Love this!! Meno posse!! Hornaman, marie claire, and Gersh are my favs!!!!
Yes, yes, yes I’m so happy to see that menopause is out in the open and more women are being guided through this challenging time of change and we’re all different but we all go through it in different way. I love to educate my self on this challenging change that is a domino effect because we stop producing estrogen and that is a huge factor in our body. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️
👏🏻 shout out to this beautiful and smart lady
Thank you so much❤. Precious conversation❤. One of the best on menopause. We need more doctors like you. Alot of my questions have been answered. I'm not crazy😊
Men don’t get it. That’s why we are replaced so easily.
Thank you Lewis
You're welcome, thank you for watching! 🧡
Wow! Incredible the two of you!!!
Awesome to hear that from you!
He asks her great questions but then doesn't give her time to finish answering them before moving onto another question.
Really? I keep wondering why she’s interrupting him while he’s asking well-worded questions. She constantly interrupts.
Love her…but not the interrupting.
Excellent intersection of emotional health, menopause awareness and grief coping mechanisms!👏🏾👏🏾
This has been so frustrating for me. All the doctors I've seen have said I'm not in menopause. But I have all the symptoms. What do I ask for to get this taken care of?
Kaiser said I was too young for menopause at 43. I shouldn't be having hot flashes since I'm on birth control. (I've taken it consecutively for 12 years as well so haven't had a period on 12 years; no way to judge by that) My lack of libido is mental. Bloating and swelling? *shrug*. Weight gain? Well, that's just what happens as we get older. I finally went to an online clinic that specializes in hormones, they ordered VERY thorough, detailed labs (fasted, which Kaiser never requested), and it turns out that not only do I have hypothyroidism, I'm IN menopause. I started HRT a week and a half ago, and already starting to feel better. The NP was like, yeah, you need ALL the things! So now I'm on thyroid medication, DHEA, testosterone, estradiol, and progesterone. But I had to go out of pocket.
I cannot thank you enough for this video!!
Appreciate you for watching! 🧡
Hii there!! Lewis What about a show about andropausia? Can u ask the doctor
I must say going through menopause made me so grateful that I have a son because I only have one 27 yr old because I hated thinking about any other woman that I know goes through this
Great interview ❤
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I don't understand , when women ( i am one) "grieve" that they can't have kids anymore.
For me ,
I thought of it as a relief ! " HA Ha !
Don't have to worry about that anymore !" 🎉 wooo hooo !
I was sad for a minute. Basically, it meant I'm old. That lasted about 2 months. From then on, it was all good.
Because it means that part of your life has ended. Something we may have always thought would be part of our lives or maybe we took for granted by hating pms and bulky pads and mood swings is gone now.
Now we are the older women we saw when we were young.
It’s a big meaningful deal. Grief is definitely understandable.
Ugh, that bummed me out typing it 😂
I don’t want to look like my old high school PE teacher 😭