being with a man who is in his healthy masculine energy is sigh a breath of fresh air. I think that a good way to describe it is that men who are not in their healthy masculine energy tend to be controlling vs supportive leaders
why I think of healthy masculine energy, I think of my dad. Consistency, support, safety and leadership. There is no submission, just freedom to be yourself in the safety of your home.
I really like how you, basically, converted the term, "submissive" to being open and not a pushover. You know, I'm actually a man watching this, among some of your other videos, because I appreciate other people's perspectives, along with the fact that I've been trying to discover my feminine side that, culturally, has been under much demonization for men and women alike, because I'm trying to find out who I really am, authentically. In one of your videos about feminine energy, you showed a feminine/masculine chart before getting into it and I feel like it all described me as a whole, like a total hybrid. However, since I've been trying to get in touch with my feminine side, I've never felt so free and your videos have helped. Thank you for what you do. 😊
I agree.Everything you mentioned are totally related a lot with the christian feminine submission. Being submissive doesn't mean being less free to speak ,think or express your inner self.
This has been my parental wound for the longest time. My father was a Narcissist and my mother was a totally "submissive" and codependant woman... i never could quite figure out if my father made sure she stayed submissive or if my mother was naturally and willingly surrendering all her masculine power to him. What the problem was is this: my father made terrible mistakes for himself and for for us. There was betrayal and a lot of pain my mother had to go through because of it. And what it did to me was...they both wanted me to be like my mother. So that im a "good woman" and be accepted in our patriarchal society when i get married to a "macho" man like my father one day. And i HATED being that! A disempowered woman! Like my mother! I hated that destiny. I hated my father's leadership and I didnt trust men anymore. So...with time i started to embody my own masculine energy so much that i developed PCOS with facial hair and all - the healing journey back to being feminine has been SO PAINFUL 😭 so my take? Ladies take your time before submitting to a man's leadership! Its purely natural to submit to a GOOD man who has your best interest in mind. But its NOT okay to submit to an a tyrinnacal emotionally immature idiot to lead your life. Learn to value and TRUST your own self enough please. Peace and healing to all ❤️
Nice philosophy and it's been more than a year, sis. Has a strong man who's's taller than you, that earns more than you, that's more capable than you, has comited to you?
Once again expressing my appreciation for your channel and once again being frustrated with how underrated it is !!🤧 Your videos would help so many girls if only more people saw them omg!! I feel so lucky 😅
As a girl I'm tired to provide, I decide be more feminists and take care about my beauty, I worked a lot to paid my degree now I just wants to be open to receive.❤
Wtf 😂😂😂 submissive doesn't mean you are a prostitute and don't have to work, all submissive females work everyday all day, not just staying at home cooking.
You dont know how glad I am for us to have the same opinion in submission. I've always felt alone in this and even if i share this to my other girl friends, they dont understand the concept of what it really is about.... This is so important for women to understand and I believe that this should not be an opinion at all... Feminity and submission are widely misunderstood that men's opinions from times long past are considered the facts when in fact, its not... Women should be the ones to define femininity and submission and its not a bad thing! I agree with everything you said, and to be honest, before i watched this, i was so confused on why i see myself as a different kind of modern woman. I'm "traditional" as i told myself, in a sense that i respect the feminine and submissive energy i have but also a modern woman who can hustle and grind throughout the day and live within this masculine world. You shed light into that gray area that i havent yet understood and i love it! Im so glad i found you, Jillz! ❤️
You explained this absolutely beautifully! I have tried to explain this concept to people that think it’s oppressive etc. This was so perfectly laid out and I appreciate you creating this video 💕
Love your description of surrender. It’s changed my perspective from seeing surrender as a form of weakness and admission of defeat. Now I see it as a faithful act. A choice to put down my grinding and hustling, lower my defenses, and let my hair down in the presence of my King. Knowing that All is taken care of and I am safe.
Submission to me is best described (from a male point of view) as Picard and Riker. Riker has complete confidence that Picard is acting unselfishly and for the best interest of the whole crew. Picard has delegated tasks to Riker and is confident in his abilities in his realm of responsibility. Both are able to disagree with the other having the humility to trust in each other. Picard ultimately makes the decision but never without considering the experience and wisdom of each person. Picard has meekness--unwavering commitment to truth and what is right and the humility to trust in the experience of himself and others.
But men aren’t God everybody should get an equal say for themselves. I wouldn’t make a decision for my man if he wasn’t happy so why would he do the same for me your supposed to be a team. In my opinion I think no one has power and that you both should be mutually submissive to one another and you both should work together to provide and protect one another and your family. I believe you both should be equally responsible for doing this and making decisions together @MichaelRowley
@@rachela.montgomery2161 I think you might be trying to disagree with me but my statements support yours. Both are are respectful of the role of the other. Both are free to disagree. Riker has responsibilities and so does Picard. In general, they don't step on the other's toes. However, they are free to disagree when they feel it is important. They even mutually reinforce each other.
Thanks so much for bringing clarity to this topic. I don’t like how submission has seemingly become the latest requirement from self-identified masculine men, and I definitely mistrust some of these men’s motives. Thanks for reclaiming this concept for us ladies. The reframing of submission as willing surrender seems positively sensual and pleasurable…as these things should! Thank you for insisting that submission/surrender is earned - it’s not the price of entry for women desiring masculine men. What you’re talking about is much more self-affirming and sexy. Thanks for adding your 2 cents to the cultural conversation!
Also, sometimes surrendering to your husband's leadership because you know he's a good guy and can learn to lead better and that he has it in himself, is all your husband needs to own his masculinity. By seeing your trust in his own capabilities, or distrust, he takes it as truth because you're supposed to be the person who knows him best. And so setting positive expectations for his potential can do wonders! But of course, he has to not have been very untrustworthy in the past for it to work and be safe (history of cheating, addiction, physical abuse..), but most men have it in them and just need our faith in them to really go for it. After all, it's embedded in their manhood. Refusing to lead instead of him really helps too
I think I'm listening and watching your videos for a few weeks now. First of all - thank you! Your energy is very calming, but energetic and safe and motivating. Thank you for this and second - if you ever feel like writing a book - go ahead! I feel your voice (even in writing) woulb be so encouraging.
❤ I love it… in mid of your video watching I started to cry 😭 and learning to surrender is not easy but the changes what I see in me last few months is powerful 🙏🏻🌿🌻!! It takes time to heal myself and becoming woman who I wanna be 🤍… but I’m looking forward of my future ✨!!
🌷 I can not describe how much I loved this video. I was so trapped in my feminism journey, that I did not know how being a feminist and being submissive could go hand in hand. I love this approach and it resonated so deeply with me. We threw a huge party yesterday and normally my husband and I would fight a lot during the perpetrations since we both would want to lead. Instead I let him lead yesterday and everything went so smooth and we had so much more joy in preparing for our friends to come over Thank you so much. ❤️ And if I may add an idea: How about a “female energy in business” oder “ female leadership” series? I would love that! 🌷
Ouuu this is a juicy subject good for you for being brave enough to talk about it! Anytime a celeb talks about being submissive they get ripped apart! People dont get it, with surrender you just end up getting exactly what you want AND your man is more than happy to give it to you because you didnt emasculate him. Everyone wins!
I agree with the overall message... But being submissive will always have the meaning of being overpowered by someone dominant. I think there is a great difference between openness and surrender, and being submissive. This word is actually very triggering to me as a victim of abuse, where the power dynamics were toxic and I had to learn later on who I really was, what I really needed and wanted... That kind of thing. Being submissive is about letting yourself be taken over. Wants and all. That being said. The overall message about being open to letting yourself be taken care of, letting yourself receive kindness from others, being open to the flow of life! Those are beautiful things... But I do not equate that to submissiveness at all.
I get where you're coming from. Submissive or submission to me holds negative connotations coming from a culture which is traditionally regressive, and forces women into submission by default. Like , there is no other facet of women that is acceptable in society except them being submissive, timid etc. women are entirely expected to forsake their needs after marriage and tend to the man and his families needs ALWAYS. This is the standard. the videos of western women talking about feminine energies, trying to imitate the exact dynamics of gender roles that are present in my culture are kind of triggering to me. Because most women in such traditional societies have it so bad lol and it feels like these women talk from a place of privilege and are hence able to romanticize a setting that is actually oppressive to millions of women the world over (in the developing world mostly) With that said, I'm totally not saying that women should never show love or appreciation towards their partners or shouldn't cook for them or anything. But just that being submissive, soft, coy, timid Is correlated to oppression for many women around the world.
@@smollilbean Any person who blindly submits to a tyrannical dictator is going to find themselves exploited and oppressed. The last thing we should encourage is blind submission. If we're going to follow rather than lead, our ultimate responsibility as followers is to be extra careful in selecting who we follow. But submitting to a benevolent leader is going to have the opposite effect: he/she is going to protect us from harm's way rather than be the source of harm. The problem I see is that benevolent and highly accountable leaders are becoming too rare these days. I suspect most men who demand submissive women aren't exactly going to be the most benevolent leaders who lead by example since the last thing a benevolent leader demands is blind submission. Benevolent leaders earn the trust of their followers; they don't have to demand submission and trust in their leadership since they quickly demonstrate their ability to protect others from harm's way.
Beautiful video! I heard from Mina Irfan (she does kind of similar work like you but in a different style) that surrender should be like a general state (of mind?), not even necesserarily surrendering to a man, but your way of being. That this is basically feminine energy, surrendering to "God" or the universe. At least that is how I understood it, not sure if I described it correctly.
I have never experienced healthy and trustworthy masculine energy from any guy yet . When i think of submission all I can think of is forgetting my needs , making sacrifices , tolerance to physical & mental abuse and crying to death to receive a gift. I definitely know I possess high masculine energy and no matter what , no of times I try to change the way I think, I am always back to zero.
Humbly speaking, It is an insecure mindset you are dealing with. You may have to believe in yourself and your choice first before believing in any man and his masculine energy. Thinking of abuse as submission will only attract a man who is abusive. We attract what we think and act. It is the woman who "chooses" to surrender and not forced to do that. Your choice is your power. To be sure of your choice, learn more on how to make this choice. Read about feminine energy, write about your ideal man, write about your inner most desire of an ideal woman. Develop the radar to detect that kind of man and don't deal with those who don't meet that expectation and till that time "be the woman who that ideal man would want to be with" and just enjoy your life. Some books for reference: Dear lover by David Deida The way of the superior man by David Deida Men are from Mars, women are from Venus by John Gray Books by Brene Brown No more Mr nice guy by Robert Glover Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs Women who run with wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Hope it helps.
The fact that you know it, shows that you're on your way to evolve. I'll just add one thing to help you, that is.. instead of looking out for healthy masculine energy, find and heal that energy in yourself first. And ofcourse, heal your feminine energy too. Healing happens in layers ❤ Trust yourself and universe 😊
Your channel is a gem! I’ve been soo fascinated by all that you talk about and this to topic especially has been on my mind and this video really helped a lot! Thank you so much♥️♥️♥️
With the deepest gratitude feelings i can manage, i m thanking you for having an existence ... this video this gonna stay in my mind for a very long time 🤩😁☀️💯 I never expected that I'll find such a youtube channel where I can truly understand my own biology and of others
Also agree. this was a great way to explain things in such are better way. They is to much toxic talks about this subject. but this is by far the best way I’ve heard it so far. great video
This is quite beautifully stated and actually is very spiritual in nature surrendering to God, and to pure consciousness is a very spiritual practice. How interesting that you have put it in this way, and I understand this perfectly.
My mom asked me once why I generally have things work out for me easily and flow into my life. I told her it's because I don't control and micro-manage people the way she does and I also trust them to do a good job. Of course she got offended and argued with me and blamed me. Ultimately, you cannot enlighten everyone on how to be feminine. 🤷♀️
Jillz You said this so perfectly and so beautifully. Most men and most women are supposed to become couples at some point. that means physically and emotionally❤ What makes a woman so beautiful to a man does in fact start with the outside but then if the man is good and the woman is good it continues to be what's on the inside of the woman and The Feminine that you're talkin about is the whole point. I have a feminine lady who is very strong and dominant in her work life when we are together she is very feminine with me and it works perfectly❤ Men don't want masculine because we already have that. we want the other half to have the most happiness for both people. God bless you for this video and God bless you and general❤
As a man I must say, you are totally right sis!! Many women will say we are toxic and insecure or even misogynistic to even mention the word submissive. It’s a shame that many don’t understand that we don’t mean ‘control’ or ‘being abusive’, like you said, it’s about surrendering to a man’s masculine energy and allowing him to provide and protect.
Next time a woman tells you that it is oppressive ask them why they think that and nine out of ten times a woman in their family has been abused by a masculine appearing man who provides.I can nams like ten men from my family
@@sakuraesther6309 yep, and that’s the problem and to be honest, a man who is abusive is no longer acting as a real man in my book. There is a difference.
There are wombmen that grasp this idea an are not against it. There are far too many men unfortunately that define submission as being a complete doormat, a "yesman" to support him even if it's wrong or unbeneficial to those involved. A common comment regarding this is, you don't know how to let a man be a man. Having been taught a convoluted misconception of what it means to be a man. These types of men want the authority of a king with the accountability of a toddler. I think the issue is more how many men an society in general have defined (or rather redefined) what submission is an what it means to be a man. As well as the feminine aspect being viewed as inherently wrong which pushes many wombmen into pushing away their feminine aspect an forcing a masculine energy to appease that. It's refreshing to see some brothers who still have healthy views on this particular subject. Too many men see abuse, arrogance an the like as being a ReaL man. We've been dealt is extremes on one hand and blurred lines on the other in this realm in order to distract an get us off track. Divide an conquer in every possible level it seems.
Agreed. So many women want a man to care for them but are to afraid to allow it to happen. What are you as men supposed to even do with that? It has been a very slow process for me. I have been married for just over a year now and I am learned that the more I step back, the more my husband steps up. It is magical to see the change in the both of us. I wish this for all women, however, most will never get there.
@@sakuraesther6309Right on. Trying to twist the narrative instead of acknowledging the root problem. The women who say masculine is abusive have obviously been abused by men in their families and they've seen stuff. Women are not scared of 'masculine' men out of nowhere.
I'm a woman who's all for equal rights and opportunities for women. I believe women should prosper and be successful. I'm not a pushover or a doormat. I don't tolerate abuse towards me or anyone. And I have self respect. I won't let anyone treat me badly. I'm submissive in romantic relationships in that I'm agreeable. I let my boyfriend take the lead, be the dominant partner and I try to be as traditional as possible. We don't live together but when we're together I'll make him meals, fuss over him and at his house, I'll do some housework for him, wash and iron his clothes. I'm supportive of him and when he's stressed out or going through a though time, I'm full of love and warm. He loves all of this and doesn't expect or demand it. I do it freely and happily. This is me being submissive.
Cleaning is feminine, cooking isn't exactly feminine. Being traditionally feminine isn't actually the truth, let me explain why. cooking food is providing, that's the man's job. if you look back in history, before inventions, cities etc. the men would k1ll an animal and cook it for the family on top of a fire (roasting), because it's a form of providing (giving food). cleaning is feminine because as a woman, it is natural to want to be clean, feel and look good. So how is it any different when you want the environment you're in to be clean? it makes you feel good when you clean something up therefore it is feminine.
Submission And dominance Is about control, lead. Being submissive in a more soft sense can mean letting the man making decisions And follow. For exemple, He plans Holiday and you go with it, He buys a house And you go with it, etc. In a more hard sense it can mean you literally follow his orders. Doing houseworks or Nice things has nothing to do with submissivness. If anything, the dominant partner usually takes more responsibility while the submissive one relax. Many woman doing houseworks while working full time Are actually the dominant Once. Personally, I Don't think being super submissive no matter the gender Is very healthy, little bit Is ok maybe.
I will simply say this...there cannot be two leaders because a power struggle will ensue and neither person will be happy. As for myself, I have always been in leadership roles in my work and home. As for home I value input and opinion from my wife but she expects me to make the decisions and take care of the manly things around the house and yard. She asks me to decide where we should go to eat out. I'm also calm, cool and collected to point people want to check my pulse. What I don't do is get involved in her female stuff and she handles the household. I mean she might ask me what color I like on her nails but that's about it. We've been married for a long time, my wife learned many years ago not to challenge me. You're correct in that there are some who view the word submission/submit negatively which In my opinion has to do with being corrupted my certain groups and the MSM etc. I think if I were asked about it I would say females should surrender to their feminine energy and hold back their masculine energy once they trust the man they are with. Which, IMO, is a natural thing. I will also say that if a women marries then she should have surrendered to her feminine energy as she trusts the man she married.otherwise, she shouldn't have gotten married.
I like how she notes that with submisison, the masculine can lead, but the feminine can disagree and oppose when necessary. Conservative religion has perverted the term to male leadership and female obedience. The correct idea, and the Bible even supports this, is as she notes, surrendering and and looking out for one another, giving to one another. Some women take this too far and use it to avoid their responsibilities as adults, and that's not what this is really about.
The amount of negative stories here should be a sign, that this might actually not be a very heathy dynamics. Its not that you are "wounded" if you don´t want to submit to a man because you saw your mother suffer in that kind of relationship. You are reasonable. It leaves too much risk to be abused and dependent for a woman and too much responsibility to a man. And probablly a bad decision making cuz even if a man has best intentions in mind, he simply cannot be as efficent as a pair would be. There is shared leadreship and responsibilities in every single partnership I saw and I still totally fail to understand how submission is a "feminine" trait. I uderstand other "feminine" traits, but this one simply doesn´t make sense.
I’ve never been in a relationship but in my work, I co-teach with two men and most of the time, I’ll let them take the lead but sometimes they will ask me for my opinion and they always treat me like an equal. For me, I think the biggest reason why I have hesitated to submit to a man in his masculine energy is because most of my bullies were men, I had a few male teachers who were emotionally abusive, and certain men in my family carry/carried (some of these men have passed away) unhealthy traits of a masculine man (I’m mostly referring to my paternal grandfather, one of my uncles, my dad to some extent but toward the end of his life he got better about that, and one of my male cousins). Because I have had those negative experiences, my main defense mechanism is that I put up a wall/put up my boxing gloves (figuratively speaking) whenever I meet a new man.
The fun thing about my last relationship is that they fell out of their masculine and then I fell out of my feminine and took on the masculine more and it just fell apart from their because they just weren't being masculine and also not receiving in that masculine way
I am a switch. I really like to be submissive, though I also like to dom. There is this one guy I am really close with who matches me pretty good. Sometimes he leads and I follow, sometimes I lead and he follows, in varying degrees. The rest of the time we are just two equals without a power imbalace going on. He recently brought high heel boots for himself. I can't wait to see and play with him again with him wearing those.
I definitely agree with you, i think a lot of woman are afraid of this because they grow up seeing a lot of wounded relationships, i was that woman that was afraid of trusting men, i though i couldn't depend on men. That the women who depend on men were abused by them, but i was wrong and hurt, i was only seeing unhealthy masculine and feminine
Wich aready shows you that it might not be the healthiest relationship dynamique. To be honest, with all respect, I doubt that even Jillz surrender to her partner in ways that are serious. There is not harm in letting him chose a restaurant time to time, but finances or family are totally different matter. Telling woman to be “lead” seems like unwise advice, sorry. You can trust the man now, but you never know what future brings. Being responsible is not being wonded.
Both man and woman have to be leaders and both need to submit. I have no problem “submit” to my partner in what he’s good at, and I expect him to submit in what I am good at. In this time and age, where woman take responsibility over everything - the home, kids, providing, and taking care of husband, it sounds great to step back and leave things on him for a change. But to a point you let him be a leader and throw most responsibilities on him? Doesn’t seem like a healthy dynamics to me, neither man and neither woman are children to be “lead”. You can let him pick a restaurant, but important decisions like finances, family matters, etc. have to be decided mutually, even if just for the reason that two heads are better then one. And I think you are very aware of this. Submition isn’t a “feminime” trait and its not “natural” for masculine to “lead” the feminine.
I have no problem to give my partner the desicion about our family holidays but I will never have a common account at bank. As a grown-up person I have the responsibility for myself. We are going hiking and one day I wil take a tour for myself, he takes care of the child. Just the mountain, the glacier and me.
Many women have died as a result of submission,manh women have been told to abort up to six pregnancies because of submissio, many women have contracted incurable STDS from cheating christian husbands due to submission, many women are single mothers due to submission,many women have to call side chicks to beg them to leave their husbands due to submission.Due you see where I am going with this?
mmm what about female world leaders, or community leaders? What is your position about that? are these leaders less feminine? is the feminine less capable of lead? (I'm not confronting, I actually want to know your thoughts on this)
If I may pitch in as one guy, no. In fact, I consider it a bonus if a woman has leadership qualities of her own since that's useful as a mother and also as a wife if her husband is debilitated or dead. My wife is a leader of sorts: not a political one but she's a lead editor managing a team below her. Yet she submits to me when making any executive decision that affects the both of us and voluntarily trusts me with the final say without requiring me to demand it. That basic submission just in the household is helpful to me because it lets me protect her. Take the extreme example of a building catching on fire: a crisis situation where executive decisions need to be made promptly and where leadership is needed more than any other situation. The fact that my wife lets me lead our family to safety here helps me a lot since it allows me to most effectively protect my family. I can say, "Everyone follow me!" and I'm not a tyrannical leader, so if my wife says, "Wait! I think this way would get us to safety quicker than that way," I will listen carefully and seriously consider it but it still helps that she trusts me make the final decision because we need to act fast even if my final decision is to go with her idea. But most importantly, say my family follows my lead and there's a narrow exit and the building is about to collapse. I can guide my wife and children through that narrow exit and be the last one to leave and the first one to die if someone has to die. That's my job as I see it as a man and protector is to be the first one to die if someone has to die. And with my wife submitting to my leadership this way, she lets me be that protector. If she argues with me and challenges my leadership all the time, then I will find it very difficult to protect my family in this way. I consider it the man's ultimate responsibility and not my wife's to protect our family from harm's way, and I can only most effectively fulfill that responsibility if she gives me the final say and trusts me to lead. As another example, say my family is confronted by a tiger in the wild. As a man I think I should step up here and tell my wife and children to sneak away while I distract the tiger. But let's say I have a wife who doesn't submit to me and she wants to argue and get in front of me and protect me and tell me to sneak away while I'm trying to get in front of her and protect her and tell her to sneak away. Now we might all get eaten by a tiger including any children we have challenging each other over who should lead and protect. So it helps us husbands to have wives who submit to us so that we can protect her; so that at least she and the children may survive if not all of us can survive. But the fact that my wife has leadership qualities of her own and even a leadership role outside of the household is a welcome bonus as I see it, and not the slightest bit of a detractor from her femininity, because it doesn't interfere with my ability to lead and protect her when I'm around (since she still trusts me to lead at home), and it carries the benefit that she can take on the role of a leader as well when I'm not around.
I love how kind and thoughtful you are with your words. “Feminine woman or feminine person” is likely sooo validating to some people. I absolutely adore you. You give the advice I’m looking for without giving me the ick💕
You got the definition of submissive and dominant backwards. Ladies if you want the kind of relationship this woman is talking about then you need to stop calling yourself submissive. You might also want to look up these words in the dictionary so you will stop miss using them. Dominant means bossy, controlling, manipulative. Submissive means obedient. The reason you aren't attracting the guys you want is because you refuse to use words correctly.
Submission when you feel like it doesn't really seem like submission men don't get to choose when to be protector, defender,provider or the stability choose your partners better man if you don't trust his judgement completely
You are a bit wrong, Modern men are definitely getting a choice if they want to be a protector, provider, defender or not. Many men simply leave and turn away their backs from grown up children and their wives. Defender and protector? I guess do not join the military, or the police force then.
@@smollilbean no it's expected for every man in a family. And women initiate 80% of divorces and overwhelmingly break up relationships so. Your alot wrong
@@TheMikeyDangelo in a family? Yes. Men are physically stronger than women, so WHY should they not be expected to provide protection to their own family? Specially when it's other men that are a danger, women and children are not at fault and do not bring violence on themselves mind you. Do you hate your family that much to think protecting them is a burden? It is true that women might initiate more divorces, but I'm sure most of them don't do it out of nowhere. It might be that more times that not men cheat in marriages, or are physically violent. Why would women en mass want to break their own family, ever thought about that? If you're from the US though, then i couldn't say. Yalls culture is a bit weird.
@@JillzGuerin okay but the expectation is that women should be the one to submit. So I’m just wondering, from your personal experiences, why do you think that is the case? Is it becus men just tend to better at women at certain things and that’s why it’s been like that since the beginning of time? I ask becus im intrigued about how and why the gender dynamics came about
I just found out I dont want a truly feminine woman. I want a woman that is not going to fight against my plans; but I dont need another baby. Dont need to be taking up all her burden; and then when I need my burden released I have to talk to my friend. And I dont need a woman to worship me. I will be there as man; but dont worship me; worship God.
being with a man who is in his healthy masculine energy is sigh a breath of fresh air. I think that a good way to describe it is that men who are not in their healthy masculine energy tend to be controlling vs supportive leaders
Yes exactly!! A breath of fresh air ✨✨
As a man all I can say is… preach sis!
why I think of healthy masculine energy, I think of my dad. Consistency, support, safety and leadership. There is no submission, just freedom to be yourself in the safety of your home.
That’s the perfect example, it’s so amazing when women have healthy masculine figures in their life when they’re growing up 💜
@@JillzGuerin yeas I feel so lucky for sure!
You still need to be submissive yo your fsther and so does your mother
How beautiful! ❤️
sameeeee
I really like how you, basically, converted the term, "submissive" to being open and not a pushover. You know, I'm actually a man watching this, among some of your other videos, because I appreciate other people's perspectives, along with the fact that I've been trying to discover my feminine side that, culturally, has been under much demonization for men and women alike, because I'm trying to find out who I really am, authentically. In one of your videos about feminine energy, you showed a feminine/masculine chart before getting into it and I feel like it all described me as a whole, like a total hybrid. However, since I've been trying to get in touch with my feminine side, I've never felt so free and your videos have helped. Thank you for what you do. 😊
I’m so glad my videos have helped you! Thanks for watching 😊😊
Being submissive in the sexual context means simply that you are complying with your partner's desire and move to take you.
@@mobydick3895 Works for me.
I agree.Everything you mentioned are totally related a lot with the christian feminine submission. Being submissive doesn't mean being less free to speak ,think or express your inner self.
Glad it resonated with you ❤️❤️❤️
When you were speaking, 2 words came to my mind: expansion and contraction. In a surrender mode, we are fearless beings of expansion!
I love to surrender. It's beautiful but you're definitely right that feeling safe is SO important for that ❤️🌹✨
Exactly, it can’t happen in a healthy way unless you have that ❤️
This has been my parental wound for the longest time. My father was a Narcissist and my mother was a totally "submissive" and codependant woman... i never could quite figure out if my father made sure she stayed submissive or if my mother was naturally and willingly surrendering all her masculine power to him. What the problem was is this: my father made terrible mistakes for himself and for for us. There was betrayal and a lot of pain my mother had to go through because of it. And what it did to me was...they both wanted me to be like my mother. So that im a "good woman" and be accepted in our patriarchal society when i get married to a "macho" man like my father one day. And i HATED being that! A disempowered woman! Like my mother! I hated that destiny. I hated my father's leadership and I didnt trust men anymore. So...with time i started to embody my own masculine energy so much that i developed PCOS with facial hair and all - the healing journey back to being feminine has been SO PAINFUL 😭 so my take? Ladies take your time before submitting to a man's leadership! Its purely natural to submit to a GOOD man who has your best interest in mind. But its NOT okay to submit to an a tyrinnacal emotionally immature idiot to lead your life. Learn to value and TRUST your own self enough please. Peace and healing to all ❤️
Nice philosophy and it's been more than a year, sis. Has a strong man who's's taller than you, that earns more than you, that's more capable than you, has comited to you?
Once again expressing my appreciation for your channel and once again being frustrated with how underrated it is !!🤧 Your videos would help so many girls if only more people saw them omg!! I feel so lucky 😅
Haha I appreciate you so much ❤️
As a girl I'm tired to provide, I decide be more feminists and take care about my beauty, I worked a lot to paid my degree now I just wants to be open to receive.❤
Wtf 😂😂😂 submissive doesn't mean you are a prostitute and don't have to work, all submissive females work everyday all day, not just staying at home cooking.
You dont know how glad I am for us to have the same opinion in submission. I've always felt alone in this and even if i share this to my other girl friends, they dont understand the concept of what it really is about.... This is so important for women to understand and I believe that this should not be an opinion at all... Feminity and submission are widely misunderstood that men's opinions from times long past are considered the facts when in fact, its not... Women should be the ones to define femininity and submission and its not a bad thing!
I agree with everything you said, and to be honest, before i watched this, i was so confused on why i see myself as a different kind of modern woman. I'm "traditional" as i told myself, in a sense that i respect the feminine and submissive energy i have but also a modern woman who can hustle and grind throughout the day and live within this masculine world. You shed light into that gray area that i havent yet understood and i love it! Im so glad i found you, Jillz! ❤️
I’m so glad this video resonated with you so much!! Navigating that gray area can be so difficult because I’m pretty similar to you 💜
Thank you for saying it’s a choice some men don’t allow a women to choose. They can be abusive
Once it’s forced, that’s no longer healthy masculine leadership 💜
You explained this absolutely beautifully! I have tried to explain this concept to people that think it’s oppressive etc. This was so perfectly laid out and I appreciate you creating this video 💕
It is definitely hard to explain! So glad you enjoyed it ❤
The perfect definition of submission. It’s so misunderstood now days and yet there’s so much power in it’s true meaning ✨
Love your description of surrender. It’s changed my perspective from seeing surrender as a form of weakness and admission of defeat. Now I see it as a faithful act. A choice to put down my grinding and hustling, lower my defenses, and let my hair down in the presence of my King. Knowing that All is taken care of and I am safe.
Submission to me is best described (from a male point of view) as Picard and Riker. Riker has complete confidence that Picard is acting unselfishly and for the best interest of the whole crew. Picard has delegated tasks to Riker and is confident in his abilities in his realm of responsibility. Both are able to disagree with the other having the humility to trust in each other. Picard ultimately makes the decision but never without considering the experience and wisdom of each person. Picard has meekness--unwavering commitment to truth and what is right and the humility to trust in the experience of himself and others.
But men aren’t God everybody should get an equal say for themselves. I wouldn’t make a decision for my man if he wasn’t happy so why would he do the same for me your supposed to be a team. In my opinion I think no one has power and that you both should be mutually submissive to one another and you both should work together to provide and protect one another and your family. I believe you both should be equally responsible for doing this and making decisions together @MichaelRowley
@@rachela.montgomery2161 I think you might be trying to disagree with me but my statements support yours. Both are are respectful of the role of the other. Both are free to disagree. Riker has responsibilities and so does Picard. In general, they don't step on the other's toes. However, they are free to disagree when they feel it is important. They even mutually reinforce each other.
Exactly what I needed to hear. So beautifully said , thank you for reminding ❤
This made me cry. I really needed to hear this. Thank you so much.
I love the word surrender ❤ This was beautiful
It's so beautifully and positively explained. Thank you! Surrender is very important in a relationship.
Thank you!! I agree ❤️
Thanks so much for bringing clarity to this topic. I don’t like how submission has seemingly become the latest requirement from self-identified masculine men, and I definitely mistrust some of these men’s motives. Thanks for reclaiming this concept for us ladies. The reframing of submission as willing surrender seems positively sensual and pleasurable…as these things should! Thank you for insisting that submission/surrender is earned - it’s not the price of entry for women desiring masculine men. What you’re talking about is much more self-affirming and sexy. Thanks for adding your 2 cents to the cultural conversation!
Also, sometimes surrendering to your husband's leadership because you know he's a good guy and can learn to lead better and that he has it in himself, is all your husband needs to own his masculinity. By seeing your trust in his own capabilities, or distrust, he takes it as truth because you're supposed to be the person who knows him best. And so setting positive expectations for his potential can do wonders! But of course, he has to not have been very untrustworthy in the past for it to work and be safe (history of cheating, addiction, physical abuse..), but most men have it in them and just need our faith in them to really go for it. After all, it's embedded in their manhood. Refusing to lead instead of him really helps too
I think I'm listening and watching your videos for a few weeks now. First of all - thank you! Your energy is very calming, but energetic and safe and motivating. Thank you for this and second - if you ever feel like writing a book - go ahead! I feel your voice (even in writing) woulb be so encouraging.
I’ve actually been thinking about writing a book! Hopefully one day 💜
❤ I love it… in mid of your video watching I started to cry 😭 and learning to surrender is not easy but the changes what I see in me last few months is powerful 🙏🏻🌿🌻!! It takes time to heal myself and becoming woman who I wanna be 🤍… but I’m looking forward of my future ✨!!
This is the third video I watch in a raw and tbh I love your videos as I decided to connect more to my healthy feminine side of me. Thanks ❤
🌷 I can not describe how much I loved this video. I was so trapped in my feminism journey, that I did not know how being a feminist and being submissive could go hand in hand. I love this approach and it resonated so deeply with me.
We threw a huge party yesterday and normally my husband and I would fight a lot during the perpetrations since we both would want to lead. Instead I let him lead yesterday and everything went so smooth and we had so much more joy in preparing for our friends to come over
Thank you so much. ❤️
And if I may add an idea:
How about a “female
energy in business” oder “ female leadership” series? I would love that! 🌷
Ouuu this is a juicy subject good for you for being brave enough to talk about it! Anytime a celeb talks about being submissive they get ripped apart! People dont get it, with surrender you just end up getting exactly what you want AND your man is more than happy to give it to you because you didnt emasculate him. Everyone wins!
Yes! Haha yeah it can be tough topic to talk about 😬
One of your best videos yet! And I've watched many of them! Thank you 🙏❤️
I’m so glad I found your channel. This is what I needed. Thank you
I’m so glad you’re here!! ❤️
Love love love this. You offer such a powerful explanation of what this is about. Thank you.
This truly came right on time. And, all of the numbers lined up as well☺
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im am so thankful for your videos!! they bring me so much clarity
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I needed this so much, thank you Jills ❤️❤️
Of course!! 💜
Great video. Thank you. Need more of open discussion on such touchy, often stigmatized topics!
I totally agree! And thank you! ❤️
I agree with the overall message... But being submissive will always have the meaning of being overpowered by someone dominant. I think there is a great difference between openness and surrender, and being submissive. This word is actually very triggering to me as a victim of abuse, where the power dynamics were toxic and I had to learn later on who I really was, what I really needed and wanted... That kind of thing. Being submissive is about letting yourself be taken over. Wants and all.
That being said. The overall message about being open to letting yourself be taken care of, letting yourself receive kindness from others, being open to the flow of life! Those are beautiful things... But I do not equate that to submissiveness at all.
I get where you're coming from.
Submissive or submission to me holds negative connotations coming from a culture which is traditionally regressive, and forces women into submission by default. Like , there is no other facet of women that is acceptable in society except them being submissive, timid etc. women are entirely expected to forsake their needs after marriage and tend to the man and his families needs ALWAYS. This is the standard.
the videos of western women talking about feminine energies, trying to imitate the exact dynamics of gender roles that are present in my culture are kind of triggering to me.
Because most women in such traditional societies have it so bad lol and it feels like these women talk from a place of privilege and are hence able to romanticize a setting that is actually oppressive to millions of women the world over (in the developing world mostly)
With that said, I'm totally not saying that women should never show love or appreciation towards their partners or shouldn't cook for them or anything.
But just that being submissive, soft, coy, timid Is correlated to oppression for many women around the world.
@@smollilbean Any person who blindly submits to a tyrannical dictator is going to find themselves exploited and oppressed. The last thing we should encourage is blind submission. If we're going to follow rather than lead, our ultimate responsibility as followers is to be extra careful in selecting who we follow. But submitting to a benevolent leader is going to have the opposite effect: he/she is going to protect us from harm's way rather than be the source of harm.
The problem I see is that benevolent and highly accountable leaders are becoming too rare these days. I suspect most men who demand submissive women aren't exactly going to be the most benevolent leaders who lead by example since the last thing a benevolent leader demands is blind submission. Benevolent leaders earn the trust of their followers; they don't have to demand submission and trust in their leadership since they quickly demonstrate their ability to protect others from harm's way.
Love your videos so much, a topic that really needs to be talked about!
I agree!! Not many people like to talk about this topic!
Beautiful video! I heard from Mina Irfan (she does kind of similar work like you but in a different style) that surrender should be like a general state (of mind?), not even necesserarily surrendering to a man, but your way of being. That this is basically feminine energy, surrendering to "God" or the universe. At least that is how I understood it, not sure if I described it correctly.
Totally agree with that explanation! I kind of mention that in my video as well 😊 Glad you liked it!!! 💖💖
@@JillzGuerin Yes, you also mentioned it! I just wanted to add a thought. :)
This is gold! Thanks Jillz 💯❤️🙏🏻
Glad you liked it!! 😘
Wow 😮❤ thank you for putting what I have been feeling into words.
I have never experienced healthy and trustworthy masculine energy from any guy yet . When i think of submission all I can think of is forgetting my needs , making sacrifices , tolerance to physical & mental abuse and crying to death to receive a gift. I definitely know I possess high masculine energy and no matter what , no of times I try to change the way I think, I am always back to zero.
Humbly speaking, It is an insecure mindset you are dealing with. You may have to believe in yourself and your choice first before believing in any man and his masculine energy. Thinking of abuse as submission will only attract a man who is abusive. We attract what we think and act.
It is the woman who "chooses" to surrender and not forced to do that. Your choice is your power.
To be sure of your choice, learn more on how to make this choice. Read about feminine energy, write about your ideal man, write about your inner most desire of an ideal woman. Develop the radar to detect that kind of man and don't deal with those who don't meet that expectation and till that time "be the woman who that ideal man would want to be with" and just enjoy your life.
Some books for reference:
Dear lover by David Deida
The way of the superior man by David Deida
Men are from Mars, women are from Venus by John Gray
Books by Brene Brown
No more Mr nice guy by Robert Glover
Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
Women who run with wolves by Clarissa Pinkola
Hope it helps.
The fact that you know it, shows that you're on your way to evolve. I'll just add one thing to help you, that is.. instead of looking out for healthy masculine energy, find and heal that energy in yourself first. And ofcourse, heal your feminine energy too. Healing happens in layers ❤ Trust yourself and universe 😊
Thank you! This was a very helpful video as I have been asking myself the same question! 🌸
Glad you liked it!! Felt like this was a topic that needed clarity ✨
Your channel is a gem! I’ve been soo fascinated by all that you talk about and this to topic especially has been on my mind and this video really helped a lot! Thank you so much♥️♥️♥️
So glad you’re enjoying my videos, that makes me so happy!! Felt like this topic deserved a good explanation because it can be so tricky ❤️
@@JillzGuerin you did such a great job ♥️
With the deepest gratitude feelings i can manage, i m thanking you for having an existence ... this video this gonna stay in my mind for a very long time 🤩😁☀️💯
I never expected that I'll find such a youtube channel where I can truly understand my own biology and of others
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Also agree. this was a great way to explain things in such are better way. They is to much toxic talks about this subject. but this is by far the best way I’ve heard it so far. great video
Wonderful lady so glad ive found you i am aware but you are helping me progress faster
Thankyou
This is quite beautifully stated and actually is very spiritual in nature surrendering to God, and to pure consciousness is a very spiritual practice. How interesting that you have put it in this way, and I understand this perfectly.
This video is life advice, well done!
At 7.04 leading with love, definitely look for this. How one is, is a reflection of love or not.
My mom asked me once why I generally have things work out for me easily and flow into my life. I told her it's because I don't control and micro-manage people the way she does and I also trust them to do a good job. Of course she got offended and argued with me and blamed me. Ultimately, you cannot enlighten everyone on how to be feminine. 🤷♀️
Life gets a whole lot easier when you stop trying to control everything 🙌
Best video I’ve watched of yours!! 💗💗
Aw thank you!! 😍
Thank you so much for this❤
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You said this so perfectly and so beautifully.
Most men and most women are supposed to become couples at some point.
that means physically and emotionally❤
What makes a woman so beautiful to a man does in fact start with the outside but then if the man is good and the woman is good it continues to be what's on the inside of the woman and The Feminine that you're talkin about is the whole point.
I have a feminine lady who is very strong and dominant in her work life when we are together she is very feminine with me and it works perfectly❤
Men don't want masculine because we already have that. we want the other half to have the most happiness for both people.
God bless you for this video and God bless you and general❤
i’ve been seeing 11:11 a lot and this video is exactly 11mins&11seconds long ❤ message claimed 🥰
Found this at the perfect time 🙌🏼🙌🏼
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As a man I must say, you are totally right sis!! Many women will say we are toxic and insecure or even misogynistic to even mention the word submissive. It’s a shame that many don’t understand that we don’t mean ‘control’ or ‘being abusive’, like you said, it’s about surrendering to a man’s masculine energy and allowing him to provide and protect.
Next time a woman tells you that it is oppressive ask them why they think that and nine out of ten times a woman in their family has been abused by a masculine appearing man who provides.I can nams like ten men from my family
@@sakuraesther6309 yep, and that’s the problem and to be honest, a man who is abusive is no longer acting as a real man in my book. There is a difference.
There are wombmen that grasp this idea an are not against it. There are far too many men unfortunately that define submission as being a complete doormat, a "yesman" to support him even if it's wrong or unbeneficial to those involved. A common comment regarding this is, you don't know how to let a man be a man. Having been taught a convoluted misconception of what it means to be a man.
These types of men want the authority of a king with the accountability of a toddler.
I think the issue is more how many men an society in general have defined (or rather redefined) what submission is an what it means to be a man. As well as the feminine aspect being viewed as inherently wrong which pushes many wombmen into pushing away their feminine aspect an forcing a masculine energy to appease that.
It's refreshing to see some brothers who still have healthy views on this particular subject. Too many men see abuse, arrogance an the like as being a ReaL man.
We've been dealt is extremes on one hand and blurred lines on the other in this realm in order to distract an get us off track. Divide an conquer in every possible level it seems.
Agreed. So many women want a man to care for them but are to afraid to allow it to happen. What are you as men supposed to even do with that? It has been a very slow process for me. I have been married for just over a year now and I am learned that the more I step back, the more my husband steps up. It is magical to see the change in the both of us. I wish this for all women, however, most will never get there.
@@sakuraesther6309Right on. Trying to twist the narrative instead of acknowledging the root problem. The women who say masculine is abusive have obviously been abused by men in their families and they've seen stuff. Women are not scared of 'masculine' men out of nowhere.
Beautifully explained ❤️
Thank you! 💕
Thank you so much! 🙏😊❤
I love your hair ! Texture and color it’s beautiful like you 💕
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I'm a woman who's all for equal rights and opportunities for women. I believe women should prosper and be successful. I'm not a pushover or a doormat. I don't tolerate abuse towards me or anyone. And I have self respect. I won't let anyone treat me badly. I'm submissive in romantic relationships in that I'm agreeable. I let my boyfriend take the lead, be the dominant partner and I try to be as traditional as possible. We don't live together but when we're together I'll make him meals, fuss over him and at his house, I'll do some housework for him, wash and iron his clothes. I'm supportive of him and when he's stressed out or going through a though time, I'm full of love and warm. He loves all of this and doesn't expect or demand it. I do it freely and happily. This is me being submissive.
Cleaning is feminine, cooking isn't exactly feminine. Being traditionally feminine isn't actually the truth, let me explain why. cooking food is providing, that's the man's job. if you look back in history, before inventions, cities etc. the men would k1ll an animal and cook it for the family on top of a fire (roasting), because it's a form of providing (giving food). cleaning is feminine because as a woman, it is natural to want to be clean, feel and look good. So how is it any different when you want the environment you're in to be clean? it makes you feel good when you clean something up therefore it is feminine.
@AM-mw2wu: None of the things you described are connected to submissiveness though.
@@Anastazka00what acts of services would you describe as submissiveness? In your opinion.
Submission And dominance Is about control, lead. Being submissive in a more soft sense can mean letting the man making decisions And follow. For exemple, He plans Holiday and you go with it, He buys a house And you go with it, etc. In a more hard sense it can mean you literally follow his orders. Doing houseworks or Nice things has nothing to do with submissivness. If anything, the dominant partner usually takes more responsibility while the submissive one relax. Many woman doing houseworks while working full time Are actually the dominant Once. Personally, I Don't think being super submissive no matter the gender Is very healthy, little bit Is ok maybe.
@@Anastazka00 i agree, definitely. You're Right.
I will simply say this...there cannot be two leaders because a power struggle will ensue and neither person will be happy.
As for myself, I have always been in leadership roles in my work and home.
As for home I value input and opinion from my wife but she expects me to make the decisions and take care of the manly things around the house and yard. She asks me to decide where we should go to eat out. I'm also calm, cool and collected to point people want to check my pulse. What I don't do is get involved in her female stuff and she handles the household. I mean she might ask me what color I like on her nails but that's about it.
We've been married for a long time, my wife learned many years ago not to challenge me.
You're correct in that there are some who view the word submission/submit negatively which In my opinion has to do with being corrupted my certain groups and the MSM etc.
I think if I were asked about it I would say females should surrender to their feminine energy and hold back their masculine energy once they trust the man they are with. Which, IMO, is a natural thing. I will also say that if a women marries then she should have surrendered to her feminine energy as she trusts the man she married.otherwise, she shouldn't have gotten married.
I like how she notes that with submisison, the masculine can lead, but the feminine can disagree and oppose when necessary. Conservative religion has perverted the term to male leadership and female obedience. The correct idea, and the Bible even supports this, is as she notes, surrendering and and looking out for one another, giving to one another. Some women take this too far and use it to avoid their responsibilities as adults, and that's not what this is really about.
interesting topic💙
Definitely more of a controversial topic but thought it might be helpful to share my opinion 💜💜
Omg yess! It's the very best feeling I feel for sure 😊😍
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You are so wise! 🥰
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Awesome video thank u
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The amount of negative stories here should be a sign, that this might actually not be a very heathy dynamics. Its not that you are "wounded" if you don´t want to submit to a man because you saw your mother suffer in that kind of relationship. You are reasonable. It leaves too much risk to be abused and dependent for a woman and too much responsibility to a man. And probablly a bad decision making cuz even if a man has best intentions in mind, he simply cannot be as efficent as a pair would be. There is shared leadreship and responsibilities in every single partnership I saw and I still totally fail to understand how submission is a "feminine" trait. I uderstand other "feminine" traits, but this one simply doesn´t make sense.
💫I like your point of view.
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You are just truly an amazing soul. ❤️
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Be Yourself And You Will Feel Good About Life. 😊
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I've proven to the universe that I have the strength save myself, now, I will allow myself the other strength of being saved.
Amazing video.
Thank you!!! 🥰
I’ve never been in a relationship but in my work, I co-teach with two men and most of the time, I’ll let them take the lead but sometimes they will ask me for my opinion and they always treat me like an equal. For me, I think the biggest reason why I have hesitated to submit to a man in his masculine energy is because most of my bullies were men, I had a few male teachers who were emotionally abusive, and certain men in my family carry/carried (some of these men have passed away) unhealthy traits of a masculine man (I’m mostly referring to my paternal grandfather, one of my uncles, my dad to some extent but toward the end of his life he got better about that, and one of my male cousins). Because I have had those negative experiences, my main defense mechanism is that I put up a wall/put up my boxing gloves (figuratively speaking) whenever I meet a new man.
You are soo amazing 👏
Ah thank you!! 😘😘
The fun thing about my last relationship is that they fell out of their masculine and then I fell out of my feminine and took on the masculine more and it just fell apart from their because they just weren't being masculine and also not receiving in that masculine way
Submission implies being subdued by force. Surrender does too. Those words do not imply choice. Let's find another word.
You are doing God's work. I never even dreamt that a channel like you existed
A great video.
Thank you! 💕
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I rather be single than be submissive and serve men
Submissiveness means Christianity means serving men.
soooo goood
How to practically surrender in ways your masculine man resonates with?
Yes exactly
Those thoughts are need to be put in a book
Maybe one day I’ll write a book of my own lol 😊
I am a switch. I really like to be submissive, though I also like to dom. There is this one guy I am really close with who matches me pretty good. Sometimes he leads and I follow, sometimes I lead and he follows, in varying degrees. The rest of the time we are just two equals without a power imbalace going on.
He recently brought high heel boots for himself. I can't wait to see and play with him again with him wearing those.
I definitely agree with you, i think a lot of woman are afraid of this because they grow up seeing a lot of wounded relationships, i was that woman that was afraid of trusting men, i though i couldn't depend on men. That the women who depend on men were abused by them, but i was wrong and hurt, i was only seeing unhealthy masculine and feminine
Yes I think this is so common! ❤️
Wich aready shows you that it might not be the healthiest relationship dynamique. To be honest, with all respect, I doubt that even Jillz surrender to her partner in ways that are serious. There is not harm in letting him chose a restaurant time to time, but finances or family are totally different matter. Telling woman to be “lead” seems like unwise advice, sorry. You can trust the man now, but you never know what future brings. Being responsible is not being wonded.
Both man and woman have to be leaders and both need to submit. I have no problem “submit” to my partner in what he’s good at, and I expect him to submit in what I am good at.
In this time and age, where woman take responsibility over everything - the home, kids, providing, and taking care of husband, it sounds great to step back and leave things on him for a change. But to a point you let him be a leader and throw most responsibilities on him? Doesn’t seem like a healthy dynamics to me, neither man and neither woman are children to be “lead”. You can let him pick a restaurant, but important decisions like finances, family matters, etc. have to be decided mutually, even if just for the reason that two heads are better then one. And I think you are very aware of this. Submition isn’t a “feminime” trait and its not “natural” for masculine to “lead” the feminine.
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I don't mind whether a women is submissive or not, as long as she is beautiful then I'm fine with that
I have no problem to give my partner the desicion about our family holidays but I will never have a common account at bank. As a grown-up person I have the responsibility for myself. We are going hiking and one day I wil take a tour for myself, he takes care of the child. Just the mountain, the glacier and me.
I haven't met this kind of woman. Only the fighter ones
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I tried explaining this to One of my female friend and she told me I am a Controlling Man. Sad, In this world We Can even Utter the word "submissive"
Many women have died as a result of submission,manh women have been told to abort up to six pregnancies because of submissio, many women have contracted incurable STDS from cheating christian husbands due to submission, many women are single mothers due to submission,many women have to call side chicks to beg them to leave their husbands due to submission.Due you see where I am going with this?
mmm what about female world leaders, or community leaders? What is your position about that? are these leaders less feminine? is the feminine less capable of lead? (I'm not confronting, I actually want to know your thoughts on this)
If I may pitch in as one guy, no. In fact, I consider it a bonus if a woman has leadership qualities of her own since that's useful as a mother and also as a wife if her husband is debilitated or dead. My wife is a leader of sorts: not a political one but she's a lead editor managing a team below her. Yet she submits to me when making any executive decision that affects the both of us and voluntarily trusts me with the final say without requiring me to demand it.
That basic submission just in the household is helpful to me because it lets me protect her. Take the extreme example of a building catching on fire: a crisis situation where executive decisions need to be made promptly and where leadership is needed more than any other situation. The fact that my wife lets me lead our family to safety here helps me a lot since it allows me to most effectively protect my family. I can say, "Everyone follow me!" and I'm not a tyrannical leader, so if my wife says, "Wait! I think this way would get us to safety quicker than that way," I will listen carefully and seriously consider it but it still helps that she trusts me make the final decision because we need to act fast even if my final decision is to go with her idea.
But most importantly, say my family follows my lead and there's a narrow exit and the building is about to collapse. I can guide my wife and children through that narrow exit and be the last one to leave and the first one to die if someone has to die. That's my job as I see it as a man and protector is to be the first one to die if someone has to die. And with my wife submitting to my leadership this way, she lets me be that protector. If she argues with me and challenges my leadership all the time, then I will find it very difficult to protect my family in this way. I consider it the man's ultimate responsibility and not my wife's to protect our family from harm's way, and I can only most effectively fulfill that responsibility if she gives me the final say and trusts me to lead.
As another example, say my family is confronted by a tiger in the wild. As a man I think I should step up here and tell my wife and children to sneak away while I distract the tiger. But let's say I have a wife who doesn't submit to me and she wants to argue and get in front of me and protect me and tell me to sneak away while I'm trying to get in front of her and protect her and tell her to sneak away. Now we might all get eaten by a tiger including any children we have challenging each other over who should lead and protect. So it helps us husbands to have wives who submit to us so that we can protect her; so that at least she and the children may survive if not all of us can survive.
But the fact that my wife has leadership qualities of her own and even a leadership role outside of the household is a welcome bonus as I see it, and not the slightest bit of a detractor from her femininity, because it doesn't interfere with my ability to lead and protect her when I'm around (since she still trusts me to lead at home), and it carries the benefit that she can take on the role of a leader as well when I'm not around.
I love how kind and thoughtful you are with your words. “Feminine woman or feminine person” is likely sooo validating to some people. I absolutely adore you. You give the advice I’m looking for without giving me the ick💕
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You got the definition of submissive and dominant backwards. Ladies if you want the kind of relationship this woman is talking about then you need to stop calling yourself submissive. You might also want to look up these words in the dictionary so you will stop miss using them.
Dominant means bossy, controlling, manipulative.
Submissive means obedient.
The reason you aren't attracting the guys you want is because you refuse to use words correctly.
Spirituality, obeying is not what femininity exactly is. We interpretate submissiveness and dominance in a different way.
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Surrender=submission
Submission when you feel like it doesn't really seem like submission men don't get to choose when to be protector, defender,provider or the stability choose your partners better man if you don't trust his judgement completely
You are a bit wrong, Modern men are definitely getting a choice if they want to be a protector, provider, defender or not.
Many men simply leave and turn away their backs from grown up children and their wives. Defender and protector? I guess do not join the military, or the police force then.
@@smollilbean no it's expected for every man in a family. And women initiate 80% of divorces and overwhelmingly break up relationships so. Your alot wrong
@@TheMikeyDangelo in a family? Yes. Men are physically stronger than women, so WHY should they not be expected to provide protection to their own family? Specially when it's other men that are a danger, women and children are not at fault and do not bring violence on themselves mind you.
Do you hate your family that much to think protecting them is a burden?
It is true that women might initiate more divorces, but I'm sure most of them don't do it out of nowhere. It might be that more times that not men cheat in marriages, or are physically violent. Why would women en mass want to break their own family, ever thought about that? If you're from the US though, then i couldn't say. Yalls culture is a bit weird.
so why cant men submit to women? why is it not that way round?
They can! Whoever chooses to be the feminine in the relationship - doesn’t have to be the woman
@@JillzGuerin okay but the expectation is that women should be the one to submit. So I’m just wondering, from your personal experiences, why do you think that is the case? Is it becus men just tend to better at women at certain things and that’s why it’s been like that since the beginning of time?
I ask becus im intrigued about how and why the gender dynamics came about
@@craigmalcom6294 Men are natural born leaders. Men aren't made to submit, they just cannot. It's not in their genetics
@@JillzGuerinoh really who told you submissive is feminine
@@JillzGuerin What if I want to be feminine but not submissive, I don't want to be his obedient puppet.
I just found out I dont want a truly feminine woman. I want a woman that is not going to fight against my plans; but I dont need another baby. Dont need to be taking up all her burden; and then when I need my burden released I have to talk to my friend. And I dont need a woman to worship me. I will be there as man; but dont worship me; worship God.