THE TRUTH ABOUT SEX | Part 1
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- If you liked this video would you mind sharing it? Only if you are comfortable of course! (now to the encouragement!) Things don’t always go our way... I actually think that is a great thing... When I think of the fruits of the spirit in Galatians 5 (love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness etc..) and the examples of love in 1 Corinthians 13 (patient, kind, no envy, etc) these are the things we should be pursuing to reflect into the world... But we are out here just trying to get in a relationship and make a lot of money... that’s just not the move. And trust me, we are tempted just like everyone to force our will and to tell God that we know better and that 6 figure salary, and easy life would be in His best interest for us. lol. But if those aren’t the things GOD tells us to worry about, and He gives us examples of what to seek then how do we achieve those? For example, if more money comes from hard work... well More patience comes from not getting our way.. and more kindness comes from people being rude to us. And keeping no record of wrongs means we get wronged and CHOOSE to not keep record. You see what I’m saying? So in summation, all your boy is trying to say is this... Count it all joy my brothers and sisters. No matter what we are going through, we have a chance to reflect God’s love into a situation and to others and that is so so so special. Not the nice car, or amazing spouse, or “boss babe” job... It’s the love your bringing to the world, not the kingdom you’re building for yourself... Anyways. I gotta go, we are filming another video TODAY! After this Saturday’s video... We are posting every Monday/Wednesday at 10am eastern (I believe). Trying our best to get a better grip on our schedule.
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When these conversations aren’t talked about by Christians, it leaves room for culture to fill in the gaps. My girlfriend and I look up to you guys a lot. Thanks for your videos!
agreeeeeeeedddddd
As christians, we should see having sex as a normal routine within a marriage. It’s God’s greatest gift for us. Because there’s so much sexual immorality, God commanded us to get married so that we can have that one partner to enjoy sex with. Sex is never dirty and shameful because it’s created by God for us to enjoy, and our parents had sex in order for us to be in this world today. The obvious reason for sex is to procreate, where a man and a woman join their sexual organs together and subsequently the joining of their sex cells to produce a baby. But God also wants us to enjoy the physical and emotional bonding that comes with sex.
@@kennethfok 👏🏼
@@ToriAndChad I didn’t even know sex was meant to be the way you explained until seeing this video, and I was raised in a Christian family, it’s sad. What you explained, that’s what I want, not what culture shoves down my throat. I wish I would have known, otherwise I wouldn’t have made certain decisions in the past and struggled with lust and addiction to pornography. But that’s in the past, and I am infinitely forgiven. Thank you for posting this.
@@kennethfok beautifully explained!!
“You can’t find vertical acceptance through horizontal offerings.”
Chad Masters 2020
What a quote my guy!!
hahah well thanks, Cade!
i love the way y’all approached this. purity culture creates such a toxic mindset of fear in girls & i hope that the church begins to lean into girls and show them into deep love for God rather than shame/fear of sex before marriage. when we are so in love with God we WANT to honor Him because of how much our hearts and minds are aligned with his. also i just got married and can see how much the Lord blesses those who keep His commandments and seek His heart in dating relationships🤍
YES AND AMEN!
AWWWWHHHH THAT'S AWESOME... BIG CONGRATULATIONS YOU TWO....... MAY GOD BLESSED YOUR UNION ABUNDANTLY...
There is a difference between just simply saying avoid sex because it is dirty and shameful and saying that sex is a beautiful gift from God to be shared with your spouse in a marriage.
"Purity culture is toxic" oh yeah? Are Jesus and Saint Paul also toxic? They said that those who sin will burn in hell (except those who believe in the name of Christ and repent) They said that if you engage in these types of sin (sexual immorality) you would be barred from entering the kingdom of God. Purity culture echoes what the Bible says word for word, i dont see the problem.
@@apracity7672 if that’s the case, the only one in heaven is Jesus. what is the point of the cross?
So God just shoved this in my recommendations when I'm single? 😂😂😂
hahahha well not gonna lie, I wish I knew some of the things I know now, when I was single... but you're hilarious lol
Same as me
Girl, I hear you, It's like: DON'T KICK ME WHEN i'M DOWN
What a great topic! My husband and I were really struggling to resist because we started dating in high school where we heard every day what everyone else was doing and it was hard to not push the limits. We ended up breaking up after two years because we had crossed set boundaries too many times and our relationship was not centered around God anymore, but around each other and our desires for each other. We still loved each other like crazy and we wrote letters until we got back to our hometown at the start of COVID. My man immediately asked to see me again and asked if he could date me again. However, this time we decided to not even kiss to eliminate any opportunity for crossing boundaries. A couple months later he proposed to me and asked me to marry him by the end of the summer. We were engaged for only 6 weeks and it made it sooooooo much easier to not feel crazy temptation knowing I was with my future husband. We are so grateful that we waited and it has helped us to start our relationship centered AROUND GOD and not on each other. If anyone reading this is experiencing this struggle, you can ALWAYS start over! We found that it helped to take a break from each other and start with a clean slate. It was also most helpful to not even kiss since we weren't good at setting situational boundaries. It is so worth the wait and it makes it so much more special to wait.
Wow! Our story has a lot of similarities! Love the idea of the clean slate! Thanks for taking the time to write all that out!
This is beautiful and I think I had to read this.
Wow, this is exactly what happened between I and my boyfriend , we came back together this month of October after a 1 year break-up due to the guilt we had knowing that we weren't doing the right thing. Now it feels so brand new and peaceful
Thanks for sharing such a great testimony!
I am Catholic and married, and you guys are knocking this out of the park!! I like your quote that "The enemy will do everything to get you in bed before you're married, and everything he can to get you out of bed afterward." This is so profound and excellent, and I never thought of this. Thank you.
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When you started crying Tori I felt that. As a single mother who was never married, I still feel shame for having a kid out of wedlock when most of my friends are married with a few kids. I would say "I did this out of order so now ill never get a Godly relationship because of this baggage." However, I now know that this is a lie. I love my daughter more than anything and I have quite the testimony to share.
awwww You're so strong!!!!! We posted part two today!
i have always thought the exact same way. i always tell myself that no christian man actually following God will want me because i already have a kid, but i have faith if marriage is His will for my life, it will happen 💙 so i just keep praying for my future husband
@@harleighstringer that's the point: A man following God. If a man follows God, and God leads him to you, he will accept and love you even with a child. Nothing can oppose God's will.
@@isabelmarguerite5560 Out of all the comments posted about this video, yours spoke to me the most and your love and wisdom really shine through........like God is working through you.
When/if like me, your heart has so much to give and offer to a life long spouse with a kind heart and you pray for this..........but then for decades it just doesn't happen, your faith is truly tested. Some of my life experiences and not relationship ones, make me feel like God has forsaken me.
Mucb more than anything I have missed out on, this makes me feel really sad inside.
God bless you for your love and light.
“Intimacy = into me you see” wow that was profound.
i have a 2.5 year old son with my ex boyfriend. we were only together for a year and we've been broken up for 3 years... it STILL has a hold of me to this day. but i have decided to FULLY give my life to Christ, and im praying for the soul tie to be broken and for God to truly heal me
I know I am late seeing this, but I am praying for you!
“God’s character doesn’t change if something deeply affects you or not. Gods character stays the same” wow.
Dang! i forgot I said that hahah We posted part two today!
@@ToriAndChad you guys are a blessing in my life and roll models. Im glad for the opportunity to connect!
@@ToriAndChad I am a Christian woman who married my husband on Feb 21, 2016, divorced him on Dec 13, 2019, and reconciled (not legally) on Dec 24, 2019, and, although I haven’t felt the urge from God to get legally remarried, we realized that we still love each other and want to be together. So, we do have sex, and I want to say that, unlike my past sexual relationships outside of marriage, I don’t feel the guilt or shame. I will say that I’m a bit of a perfectionist when it comes to my faith (praying, reading my bible etc.), but, in my particular situation, I’m not sure how to fully perceive it because I know that on one hand sex outside of marriage is a sin, but on the other hand God wants us to reconcile if possible, and I’ve read through my bible once, and I’m on my second time from beginning to end and, unless I missed something, I didn’t see where it said we had to reconcile on paper to be considered husband and wife again🤷🏻♀️ Anyways, I just thought that I’d share my story and get some opinions outside of my own on this particular subject. 💗Jen from AK
Thanks for this video!!
In INDIA it is mandatory both person to be Virgin before marriage!!! Here the culture is totally different!!
Wow literally so thankful. One of the first relatable and honest Christian couples I have seen on CZcams. I feel like I watch videos about boundaries or whatever and come away feeling deflated and more guilty. Thank you for being real! I am so grateful for how God is using you two to further his kingdom together.
Well it may help to know that we made so so so many mistakes hahaha but thanks for saying that... we want to be relatable and we want to share God's truth! But in a way that people feel empowered and not ashamed. !Thanks for the love!
I like how Tori explains the enemy's intent with sex, to drive you into bed when unmarried and out of bed when married 💣
I ended a relationship 3 months ago because I found God and my heart shifted away from sexual sin and towards purity. What Chad was saying is so true. Sex outside of marriage isn’t real love. You love what the other person can do for you. You use them for your own physical pleasure. It’s selfish - the opposite of what love is (love is not self seeking). Seeing you two talk about this makes my heart so full of joy for when I find my future wife who also shares these values. Can’t wait to watch part 2 and part 3!
Not Christian.. a muslim but lots of love and really enjoyed your honest insight. God bless ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Wow! thanks for saying that! it is so encouraging to hear that someone from a different belief appreciates what we have to share! It means a lot, Jasmine. Thank you very much!
Same here 💗
Same here. Im muslim, but alot of things you say and believe are what we muslims also believe, and thats why your videos are so relatable
@@ToriAndChad ❤️❤️❤️
@@romanamalik9857 for GOD so loved the world that HE gave HIS only begotten SON that whoever believeth in HIM should not perish but have eternal life"-the Gospel of JESUS written by john 3:16."But as many as received him, to them gave he power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on his name:"-the Gospel of JESUS written by john 1:12. hi! JESUS loves you and died for you if you accept HIM! HE rose from the dead to show us that death cant hold HIM! repent and start living your life for HIM and when the time is right HE will get you to Heaven❤❤🌈🌈
I love how honest you both are here - especially about covering our eyes, hearts, and ears from the disgusting things the world tries to show us today. THANK YOU BOTH. 💙
Thank you, Sam!
"Sex is a wonderful servant and a terrible master"..
Dang that is deep!
@@ToriAndChad that's not mine... it is zac poonen's quote..
Lmao you basically switched that from money
Brooooo the part about being naked in front of someone and still feeling loved and whole and unashamed made me CRY likeeeee I never realised until I heard it said
Aww that's so sweet! Make sure to watch the video we posted today on Part 2!
@@ToriAndChad just saw it there SO EXCITED
Honestly same, that hit so hard 🙈
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Am alone 😍😍❤❤💑💑🌷🌷
I literally cried when Tori started to cry❤️it’s so sad how girls are being lied to and led into sexual sin. I’m going to help a lot of people one day with the help of The Holy Spirit✝️you guys are so blessed. Thanks so much. I love uuuuu. I’m soooooo gonna wait it out😊🤟🏾virginity rocks❤️
For a 21-year-old single girl, this really helped change my perspective on marriage and sex that its not necessarily all glamorized but should be handled with caution and grace because its powerful. Thanks so much! p.s. Pastor Mikael Todd has a relationship goals series and that really helped me too on youtube, it was awesome!!
Aww thanks for telling us that, Megan! That means so much!
Oh man, it's barely started, and I am already loving this. (I am just typing this as I watch):
-We push many rules and boundaries, but we do not focus on HEART TRANSFORMATION; we focus on the lines & the do's and don't's.
-We focus on how close we can get to the line without crossing it. *Why are you running to the line instead of running from it?*
-Oh, another one! It doesn't matter if you are in love with the person, whether it is having sex in love or not. Scripture has outlined that sex is for the married.
I have LOVED this! I pray that you follow where you feel God leading you for part 2 and maybe more segments after! I am looking forward to the next video!!
Aww that is so nice! Love that you shared things that spoke to you! it helps us know what people enjoy in our videos so thanks for sharing that! Can't wait to share video two!
What you both said about lies being fed in your mind, it's so apt! I'm 20 and in college and yes im waiting for the right person but in college, I have always been laughed at for the same. It's hard to keep your mind on track when everyone around you says you are wrong or dumb to think like that but I'm doing my best. Waiting for the right person may not seem right to some people now, but it will seem right later and it will be too late by then. The culture everywhere in the world is now to just treat humans as objects and it blows my mind. And about the songs, it's so true. It's really upsetting to see women to encourage all this. And it's not in the States. It's everywhere unfortunately.
This was so insightful ❤️ love you guys ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Perfect timing, just perfect. I just broke up with my fiance, he lied to me and revelead he was a muslim, we allready talked about marriage but then he said he dont wanna marry me. Together we decided to go different ways, hurts because i wasnt true to myself, not anymore virgin and i feel so ashamed. I believe Jesus saved me as a little girl, allthough i backslided i have repented it and The Holy Spirit has gave me comfort in this situation. And i still believe there is someone who truly is for me and God wants only the best for his children. Be blessed ❤🕊
dang that is wild... thank you for sharing that... Part two got posted today!!!
Tori, just coming across this video today (and I’ve been binging your guy’s videos for the past few weeks)....you have NO IDEA how badly I needed to hear what you said. Shame has been a constant companion and just thank you for being the light of Christ to me today. I really have needed you both and your advice and witness during this season.
You had me crying right along with you…. I didn’t grow up in a Christian household and became one when I was around 21 years old. The enemy truly attacks people in their vulnerability and it’s devastating.
This video really helped me! My boyfriend and I recently recommitted our lives to Christ and we both made the decision to wait until marriage even though our relationship has crossed that boundary! It makes me feel like I can relate to you tori!
Love this video! My fiancé and I just graduated undergrad and grad school and are finally getting married in October! But going through college (even a Christian college) as Christians, it’s been really tough to stay pure of heart, especially when fewer and fewer friends are holding us accountable out of not wanting to “judge” us and other couples. But we both kind of wish that we had friends who were couples that held us accountable while still being honest about the common struggles. Watching your video kinda made me feel like we had that couple friends to keep us accountable and speak truth. The waiting until marriage when your almost married has been really tough and even tougher as we’ve had to push back plans due to the pandemic. Thank you guys for sharing honest struggles but still speaking truth and life! ❤️
Don't feel bad. There is nothing wrong with making love to someone you are in love with and deeply committed to. Expressing your feelings for your beloved is a healthy and normal thing to do. There are much better things to do in life than obsess about 'staying pure'. If you have the urge, and feel you are in a place in your relationship where you are ready, do it. It is much better than repressing your feelings.
“In to me you see” that is SO profound!!! 🤯
This video was so so so great. I kept finding myself saying “yep. yep. That’s so true. Yep.” Lol because of everything I’ve gone through pre salvation and even post salvation. Many of us have or had such an unhealthy view of sex because of how we were raised, the examples in our lives, culture shoving it in our faces constantly- and you guys totally hit each nail on the head. I can’t wait for part II or a series because everyone needs to learn and understand this the way God meant for it. It’s all for our good! Love you Team Masters!! 🙌
Aww thanks so much Emily! So sweet of you to be a part of the team and support us and use so many kind words to lift us up! We are so thankful for you!
I just wanna say I’ve always appreciated you guys so much. I’m 17 and have really been committed in my walk for a few years now...I view yall as mentors in my walk and genuinely appreciate yall bringing up the hard topics to talk about.
aww thanks for saying that!
"You can't find vertical acceptance through horizontal offerings." "Why are you running to the line instead of away from the line?" Damn you guys, it hit the right chords even though my thoughts are aligned to each and everything you guys said. A really amazing way to put it forward, loved every bit of it. Thank you! It seems like I have a few more answers for the ever questioning world. A big thank you. XOXO
This was super helpful. I appreciate these talks, I struggled with finding love in others, and God saved me in 2017- now I’m walking my path of purity and waiting on God promise of a marriage he has in store for me. Hallelujah!!
awww so happy it helped!
@@ToriAndChad Tori, I was wondering if you and chad could do a talk about shame and about having a sexual past and how you overcame your shame. These are themes that I’ve been going through in life and I think it’d be so helpful. Tysm and ily ❤️
Can u please talk about resisting lustful thoughts as a single? I feel like the focus is often on like how to avoid going to far with your bf/gf but not your thoughts when you are single or even in a relationship as well
yes that is so important and we are working on that type of video!!!
I am a single 50 yr.old mother of 3. I find the content you share, is so VALUABLE. Thank you for being so vulnerable for all of us. Blessings to you both Love you kiddos.
I am single and have been for a long time but every time I see couples who love God and are living for Christ it is such an encouragement and gives me so much hope to know that God has someone special just for me🥰🥰
Awww we have so much hope too! But love that you are strong as single and not hoping into a relationship that would not have God at the center
Run away from close as possible to sin and to living for the glory of God !!
thanks for a fantastic and honest video xx
Thanks for the love, Hope!!!
I appreciate this video so so much. The church doesn’t openly talk about it. We only got “sex advice” right before we got married. I’m so glad we waited till marriage. Thanks for being real and emotional Tori! 💙💙
Thanks for the love!!! And you're so right!!!
Thank you for approaching this so tastefully. I knew when I heard “when lines are crossed and then there’s a breakup, it feels like death” I knew I was meant to watch this. Many blessings ❤
Very good topic and glad you are sharing it :) My husband and I were in intimate relationships before as well but once we became christians and got together we waited until we were married. And our marriage is truly blessed and happy.
I’m not a Christian, but I have always had very similar views on this. I’ve always seen it as something special to be shared with your spouse. I never understood why anyone would risk creating life with someone they had not committed to spending the rest of their life with. I hate how society paints people with our views as unhealthy or ‘suppressed’ when we’re actually the ones who have a healthy view of sex.
LOVE how bold you are in sharing the TRUTH of God and his heart 🥺❤️
Thanks so much Sharon!!!
Thank you guys so much for making this video. I recently came across your channel and I truly believe God uses both of you to speak very clearly, it is very connecting and empowering. Funny that I skimmed through your videos earlier this week, hoping I could find this topic being openly and honestly discussed bc I have been struggling with this for years and it has affected the relationship I have with myself, others, and God in so many levels.
I was about to take a nap rn before my mind raced with negative thoughts and what is honestly trauma from my past and from my broken relationship with my ex. I open CZcams to clear my head with a funny video but yet this is the first one that pops up on my feed. I wasn’t expecting such powerful message but God wanted to speak.
I’m tearing up from watching this video I just had to pause and take a moment for myself but also thank you both along the way.
Awww wow! That means so much!!! You're so special to us!
Yes, please do a video about getting past your past!
We need to do thatttt!!!
Hi ❤❤😍😍😍
I found y’alls channel today and I’m so glad I watched the whole video. I’ve been struggling explaining to my boyfriend why I want to wait and all the reasons behind it but I just couldn’t find myself saying anything and this video helped a lot. Thanks for being open and honest, God bless you guys.💛
If he doesn't understand why you want to wait then is he even a true follower of Christ?
Not all churches are keeping quiet about sex. My church preaches on the lies of the sexual culture and how Satan gets a hold on you through the lust of the flesh in deceiving ways promising fulfillment. But it does need to be talked more about especially to young teenagers. This is a great Video. Thank you!
I feel even after marriage there should be a transition period. To go from boundaries to no boundaries in 24 hours would be a big shocker for me.
Agree. It takes time to adjust from always covering up to suddenly being naked in front of someone and from abstaining from sex to enjoying sex. Just go at your own comfortable pace but remember to communicate with your spouse about your fears and insecurities.
Same I was thinking I'd want to sleep in the bed with clothes on and slowly get comfortable being close to each other.
I would love if you did a video about forgiving yourself from your past actions and go deep into how God forgives us. Because I've been struggling with that. I feel like it's becoming between me and God almost.
Yes we are working on that!!!
These kinds of conversations are so powerful at helping others feel less alone. Thank you Tori and Chad.
I feel like coming across this channel wasn't a coincidence because I just went through this situation and right now I'm holding on God's truth.
Hope you liked the video we posted today!!!
@@ToriAndChad yes!!
This came right when I needed it,Thank you guys 💞,I’ve been celibate for 2 years ...part of my celibate was driven by fear of being hurt,the shame and guilt around sex and after going through a healing process I felt so free and felt myself having my power back,I was recently feeling like ,”did God say we must really not do it” but something about allowing God to lead really empowers me to keep going....Thank you guys,you really are making an impact out here
Im literally only 15 minutes into this video and I'm already crying. Its really speaking to my heart and I'm so grateful you both were obedient in making this video. Its truly God's kingdom being built before me. Im blessed to know your channel and honored to get a glimpse into both of your amazing hearts ❤
Awww you're so sweet!
@@ToriAndChad I'm simply being honest 😍
You guys this was GOLD. Thank you so much for your hearts!!! I pray for so many people stuck in this sin will watch this ❤️❤️❤️ It needs to be seem. Also another book I highly highly recommend is “Sex and the conversations the church forgot” by Mo Isom, she’s also done a study guide and a course on the topic and it’s amazing!
dang we will need to look that up!!
I'm a single pastor who has struggles with sexual urges regularly. I'm glad that the Lord has laid it upon your heart to do this ministry. I will definitely be using these videos in my future ministry endeavors. It's also a blessing to see that you're not afraid to debunk the myths about sex being preached in our culture. In doing so, it helps me personally view it differently and in a more holy manner. Thank you for your obedience to the Lord.
What a video!! Every young person should watch this and receive some perspective 💕.
Bless you Chad and Tori 🎉
Thanks for the love Whitney!!!
I am Muslim and our religion says the same abt it and I totally agree god just be trying to protect us
Amen!
“Why are you running to the line & not away from the line” wow! 🤯
"The younger (you know the truth) the better" I agree 100%
We should be aware of this from a very young age. I wish I knew this before.
I'm single and still waiting on God. I love 💕💕💕 the fact that you're using scriptures. This video honestly touched my heart.... I'll definitely watch more videos.
I really wish, that someday, soon, you’ll do a video about how you can get over your past and how to let God heal you from your past. Lots of love for both of you😍
We are working on that!!! Also We posted part two today!
I’m Muslim and we share very similar values. Thoroughly enjoyed watching this. Thank you 💗
So True, before marriage Satan will use sex to drive couples to bed but after marriage he will use this gift of sex to drive couples out of bed and out of marriage...Thank You for Sharing...You Both are Beautiful...God is Glorified in Both of Your Lives. I'm Sala from the Fiji Islands.
Anyone else wish they could send these to a girl they’re talking to? I’m with someone who’s still working on herself and she says she has baggage and doesn’t want to burden anyone. Now I believe what you guys are saying about how we enter each others houses with baggage and we are willing to do that for each other.
Tori, your video "Getting Past Your Past," when you said that, will truly break chains. I think we can all encourage you that the Lord has put that video on your heart for a reason, because it is a message that really needs to be shared. I literally just see so many being healed. Girl, am praying the Lord anoints and uses your beautiful heart to share this word! Again, it will break chains.
*Side note. I paused the video, just to quickly post this, but in listening to you, Tori, you have a VOICE. You truly do, and it is anointed. And Chad, you're such a tender-hearted man! It is so encouraging to see that men like you do exist, that are sincere and chase God's heart. Such an encouragement. So thankful for you guys!!
Could not agree more! We are working on that video asap! We posted part two today! Thanks for all your words of encouragement! It means so much to us!
Absolutely loved this. Would LOVE a video on forgiving yourself, your own past as well as your spouse!
We posted a video on shame and guilty last week! Hope you had a chance to see it!
Thank you so much for being honest! I am 34 and separated from my husband of 12 years,
together 15 years. He was my first and we didn’t wait. I held onto so much guilt from that over the years. So, this video is relevant for many different people. Thank you for speaking out on all of these issues we encounter in dating. This is great!!
I’m only a few minutes in and started crying when tori did😭🤍
awww so sweet!
Would love to hear your guys’ story on your pasts! My boyfriend and I also consider ourselves born again, as we have always believed in God but never fully lived out His word. We fully came and committed to Christ earlier this year, but it was after living together and sleeping together (and a whole lot of shameful past situations with multiple others on both ends). It’s definitely not easy but we love finding couples share their story to relate! Thank you for this awesome video 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼💓
We posted part two today!
@@ToriAndChad oh yes, just watched!! Loved it 👏🏼👏🏼💓
@@ToriAndChad y’all should do a testimony video 🙌🏼
Honestly really needed to hear this. I don’t want to go into a lot of detail because this is public 😂 But I’ve definitely struggled with this and just have been fed lies from the enemy honestly throughout my whole life. God really is working with me on redefining how I see sex in how he intended it to be and not how this world conformed it in my head. Thank you both so much for everything that you do and covering the hard subjects! Praying many blessings ❤️
So happy it spoke to you, Melissa!
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My husband and I were miraculously virgins when we married *but* definitely both had our sexual struggles both before each other and then with each other and regret it all. Like you said, it brings struggles. However, I have also been joyously amazed at the beautiful thing God has created, sex inside of marriage!!! And have become even more vocal about how good Gods plan is now that I’m married and I’m seeing the beauty of “the marriage bed is undefined” and “they were naked and unashamed” and all the the Bible has to say about sex within marriage. Thanks for speaking up and out! Like you said, our culture is FULL of sex, we need to start putting more truth about sex Gods way out there for this next generation! ❤️ Because sex is GOOD!!!! 👏🏻❤️
Part two got posted today!!!
A video series on boundaries with friends and possible boy/girl friends sounds amazing!
yes we are working on it!!!
I just found your channel. OMG 😍 God bless you. My heart breaks for those who don't know the truth 😩.
As a teenager during this time, sex is now seen as a very common thing 💔.
I pray this touches the hearts of many.
Thanks for praying for us and being so kind!
Yes! please do a video on moving forward from your past + healing from sexual shame. Thank-you for being so honest you guys are the best! 🤍
We finna have some healing in this channel!!!
I have the utmost respect for Tori. You're a blessed man, Chad.
Amen!
42 yrs of marriage to one beautiful women. As a man in my sixties I commend you on your efforts. Taboo subject in my early years, oh to have these topics discussed in my youth. Keep up the work.
I’ve been waiting for this video! It honestly made me emotional. I’d love a “getting past your past” video, that’s been on my heart a lot lately. Love you guys!!
Aww thanks for supporting us!!!
phew this was so incredible! thank you for your honesty and love in this video. the enemy really tries to feed us lies and make us feel that our past is our present and there are sooo many people (including me lol) that need to know that those lies are not true. love you guys sooo much
Yes He does, and we are trying to do the one thing that he doesn't want us to do.. We love you trin!
SOOOOOOO GOOD! I am so excited for this series!!! Man oh man, that last part made me teary when Chad was saying when we get to heaven we will thank God for the instructions He gave to guard our hearts instead of questioning Him on His why. We have to know and trust God withholds no good thing from us, everything He does is to protect us and keep us from going through unnecessary pain.
Yes! i love that part too! hahah Thanks for the love! We posted part two today!
I just found your channel from the Earls vlog!! I appreciate your sharing and honesty and the boundaries you set! My husband and I have been married 23 years and we had very strong boundaries set straight from the beginning of our dating. We are so happy we had no regrets in our dating. What you said about the trust you can have for your husband after you’re married and you have to be apart sometimes resonated with me. I say the same thing to my daughters and my friends when we talk about the principles and boundaries we had when we dated. If my husband was able to be strong to wait till after marriage I can have a stronger trust in him to stay faithful to me after we’re married. God has blessed us with 23 beautiful years together! It just gets better. Life has been extremely hard for us but we are stronger because of it. God bless your channel!
Mind-blowing! I love this, thank you for your honesty. I relate to all of this and what I've learned is don't compromise the blessings the Lord has for you because of the "what if" or "did He really say that?"
Part two got posted today!!!
Whatever the enemy meant for evil, our God always turns for good
Amen!
I think it’s the other way around. What God meant for good the enemy turned to evil. But yes God can turn what Satan made evil into something good. God is all powerful and all knowing. He planned everything first. Satan only thought it was his idea but really it was God’s idea.
So what I mean is God meant for sex between a married man and woman to be good. God created man and woman to have sexual relationships within the bonds of marriage.
"Getting past your past" would be a very good topic that is necessary for so many.
YESSS please tori do a video on getting past our past. I so desperately need that at the moment as i am sure so many other woman are. Yall are so wise and this video truly shed light on situations that i feel the church has strayed away from covering in depthly.
we are working on it!!!
Thank you so much guys, I have always been a Christian and honestly I felt like it was too late for me to wait until marriage because I am not a virgin, I felt so bad and thought I am cursed and everything bad happens to my life I thought it was because of it.
Make sure to watch the video we posted today!
if you do not feel loved ( a friends DR. Recommended this) adopt a cat or dog. you will receive unconditional love from them.
amen! hahah
They (pups) adopted me, what a blessing. I have no friends & our church is closed. Im alone not lonely. I am celibate & studying the word of God
I totally relate! My husband and I never had sex before marriage with anyone, but I did have a past of being physical and obsessed with wanting to feel wanted and it was a very empty feeling. I did not understand unconditional love and often got my faith and worldly view confused. I am so glad you spoke a bit on the reality of sex and how it is not glamorous, but in fact even better despite that. I 100% agree with all of this, and as a Christian myself that is tired of other CZcams Christians being ignorant and insensitive to those who are not of the same beliefs, I am SO relieved to see a genuinely kind couple just wanting to bring a new perspective to someone who may not have seen it that way before. Thank you for the content!
Having been with a lot of women doesn't make you more of a man. You are a man when you know how to behave, respect, and take responsibility for your actions. For all the people who made fun of you, i only have one thing to say. Look what an angel he has next to him. Υou're both lucky to have each other.
we need a podcast.. i need a podcast. I loved this, thank you.
thank you so so much! this was said so beautifully. i thank God for what you two are putting out on your platform! I am born again and am so in love with God that i don’t want anything that is not in His will for me!!! God bless you both💗
Aww thanks for saying that! and we feel the same! His will! Not ours!
One thing I realised - God is not keeping you from something but instead keeping you FOR something. Ephesians 3v20 and Jeremiah 29v11 are enough for me to trust it's worth it.
I am 18 years old and your videos are something that is so lacking in Christianity. In my christian family they never talked about it, as while at school my classmates know what it is. I was so lost in this topic, because it is interesting, but there is no one to talk to. Then, as a child, the Internet became the answer, which is very sad.I felt like I was doing the most embarrassing thing! my idea was that it was scary, because I was a little girl, but at school I heard all this, but not at home.Christianity has become boring for me, as if there is nothing secret, personal in it. But knowing God in my life, he changes my thinking. And I'm so truly grateful for you🙌🏼Parents did not help in this, because I do not believe that they have any kind of passion, love between each other.
But I am glad that I can want passion with God and then with my future husband.Thank God for you, our generation needs an example like you🙌🏼🙏🏼🔥
I like how you know God, how nice you look, how you live with everything and at the same time love God so much.
I have healthy sex conversations with friends in the church all the time (as a single!) I share wholeheartedly all y’all said. this has probably been one of the besssst videos I’ve seen other believers do. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! For putting this content out here and for portraying the heart and character of God so clearly and for being so concise and clear with scripture and for being bold brave and vulnerable.
Aww thank you for encouraging us and thank you for being so strong and open about sharing with people! It is cool to see!
this is good!! chad should talk more about walking out of porn addiction and fighting temptation. you guys are SO great🤍
will definitely do that in the future!
If you haven't already done a video about getting past your past, please do one as this one was so helpful and the examples you gave about getting past your past sounds really helpful and interesting to listen to x love you guy's videos, only just found you but so glad I found you when I am single and loving on God
Captivated by the video right from the start because:
1. We definitely need more insight to this topic .
2. Healthy discussion is so so important (thank you to both of you ✨)
3. How less it is talked about especially from how God want to protect us in most genuine way .
4 . It has become a trend to believe in lies about sex and just to be the part of "the culture " and not addressing the real stuff behind it .
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR HAVING THE CONVERSATION ❤
LOVED YOUR VIEWS ON IT . TRULY TRULY INSIGHTFUL AND WORTH LISTENING
ABSOLUTELY WAITING FOR ANOTHER VIDEO ON IT :)
Aww thanks for sharing all of that! Part two got posted today!!!
HELLO TORI, YESSSSS I'D LOVE TO SEE MORE OF THIS SERIES. APPRECIATE YOU GUYS STEPPING UP AND TALK ABOUT UNCOMFORTABLE CONVO SUCH AS THIS ONE IN A PURIFIABLE GODLY WAY THAT'S REALLY AMAZING AS NOW IN THIS WORLD I SEE SOCIETY ARE NORMALIZING ALL THE WRONG (UNGODLY)THINGS THAT GOD HATES....... BEING WATCHING SINCE I SUBSCRIBE TO YOU GUYS CHANNEL FROM CANADA... AS A BELIEVER IN CHRIST I NEEDED TO WATCH THIS VIDEO AND ENSURE THAT I SEEK WHAT IS PURE AND THAT GLORIFIES GOD...MAY GOD KEEP PLANTING SEEDS INTO YOU BOTH HEARTS THAT KEEP TRANSFORMING LIVES SO THIS GENERATION CAN CHASE WHAT IS PURE AND CHASE AFTER GODS HEART.....
Part two is uploaded!!!
I love how passionate you get, Tori. I agree, the music and media is so perverted and gross. Also, I wish the church was more involved in talking about these topics.
I love you guys! My inspiration. I love walking a journey of purity, it's pretty exciting for me!!!
I have also noticed that sometimes as we explain what is right or wrong, we are pinned down by common or our own experiences. Because I have met and seen people who have intercourse before marriage and they still fair so well in life.
But generally, we stay pure to glorify God
This is so good, so so GOOD. I love these conversations and how heart felt they are. Praise Jesus for using you guys for His Kingdom🤚🏼
Amen. Thank you for sharing this. The Youth needs to hear this. God bless your marriage! Continue to be a salt and light and speak the truth in love.
Thank you for getting out of your comfort zone to share this video much needed and a blessing of understandment
awww of course!!!
You guys are right about pastors and the church not dealing with this subject. What's encouraging is men like John Piper have done a lot to get Christians talking and thinking about it, about the dangers of sexual promiscuity. Another great man is Carl Truman. His recent book The Rise and Triumph of the Modern Self talks about how American culture became so eroticism and sexualized. Also, Rosaria Butterfield was a former lesbian who was converted and now a Christian. She's written several books about being a light for Christ before a hostile and sexualized world.
Thank you for this conversation!! My husband and I have both said that we wished we would have had conversations like this available to us when we were growing up. We both wish that we would have been virgins when we met and married. God truly designed sex in marriage to be beautiful and amazing. These conversations are so needed!! ❤