Breaking The Alcohol Loop - A Must-Watch For Drinkers
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- čas přidán 26. 08. 2023
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Why do I keep waking up and feeling like a drink instantly . Hope you can help with that . Quit hard to deal with I must admit . It's such a strong feeling . It's like waking up with the devil in my mind more or less . Not sure where that comes from tbh . It's a very strong feeling in myself . I would like to know is there a way to kill that feeling in future if that's possible . Also if you know I think that can also help others that have the same issue . Sure you have been there also many times . I think it's amazing how far you have come , you are legend as . My problem is I've been drinking since I was a little kid , old man was a wine maker , I'm 44 now . So drinking has always been second nature to me . I wasn't always a binge drinker , but as I got older I started to drink more . Just being honest with you because if I'm not honest whats the point . Giving up is definitely been on my mind as I've gotten older . I went to rehab years ago and it was good for a month , but after that I went straight back into like an idiot . Not sure wtf I was thinking , I guess I wasn't taking it to heart . Shame really , should of listened to them now I look back on it . The sad thing is you know the salvation army actually gives a shit and they are mostly good people that work for them . How to get rid of that drinker ego is what I would like to know . I think if I could get rid of that guy I would be fine forever .Sorry about the novel very easy to type for me .
Hi Kevin what’s the app again to get started
My 8 year old self would never understand why I would sit and drink when I could go outside and play.
Aww oh my gosh that is so cute and such a great way to think about it. 🥹💕
@@joko09010 We are all our 8-year-old selves all grown up and we have to look after that little kid. :-)
Of course. It's getting back to the attitude of that young version of yourself...
I was 16 when I first started using alcohol. I'm now 58 and very nearly 20 months alcohol free and these past months has been like getting to know a new person. It's astounding to think the whole of my adult life had been lived with alcohol holding my hand step by step, who could I have been without its influence?? But here we are, the past is the past and now I have the amazing opportunity to build a great future. I'm not forcing anything, my life has moved on from the influence of alcohol at its own pace. For me the big thing to get used to was allowing things to happen naturally. Life used to go in rapid weekly cycles punctuated every weekend by a booze binge followed by two to three days of exhaustion and regret. But it was regular and I knew what to expect. Now I see my life stretched before me as a landscape that I've got to navigate and fill with activity. That can be daunting. I've had to make peace with myself and get used to and enjoy the slower pace. I try to live mindfully without too much regard for things I have no control over.
I could waffle on all day, but I won't.
Onwards and upwards.
This is well stated. I've moved on.
I am exactly like you !!!~~
Great news. Yes creating a new healthier lifestyle can be challenging. But I sure don't miss hangovers and feeling out of control. Carry on!!
Hi my story sounds a lot like yours. I will be 60 in January and want to conquer the drinking cycle. Best wishes to you and all of us. Onwards and upwards ❤
Same here! 57 years old and turning off the flow. I did it for 40 days and the results were amazing! Tried drinking again with the illusion that I could control it but no! So this video has helped me and everyone’s comments too. It seems like we’re all in similar boat. Let’s encourage one another to turn off the tap, do the work and move on!
I went out with some friends last night and I woke up without a hangover. Decided to drive and stay sober instead.
Had a invite from some gals that were at a pub last night,I made it with out drinking,dangerous area ,very proud of myself,thanks for the morning pep talk Kevin 👍
I found having a goal helped me and your quote "stop putting the poison in your mouth"
Thanks Kevin, new subscriber here. At seventy-one, I've been a drinker for over 40 years. Stopped and started again so many times I lost count. Made the determination that, for however much time I have left, I'm fricken DONE with alcohol. Lost my beautiful wife to pancreatic cancer 7 years ago, she was only 57. She, like me, drank for many years before she got sick, and all the Docs we dealt with during her 20-month battle told us ABSOLUTELY that alcohol probably caused her cancer. Alcohol is extremely irritating to the pancreas, and other organs as we all know. Thanks for your work in producing these videos! Excellent work!!
50 days sober tomorrow and am struggling with the social aspect. Your videos are a real source of support though mate, thanks
Glad to help
I am 11 years sober after 33 years of drinking every day, for me it took lots of. Meetings of Alcoholics Anonymous and I still attend regularly to try to help someone else.
This video is so so helpful Thank you. Im 29 days sober
Glad I could help
It is a cycle. For me anyway. I get to a day 5 or so and chase that high . Then I forget about how bad the bad feels the next few days.
Sounds familiar. I would also go 4 or 5 days, feeling better and thinking I had control. Wrong. Now I am working on creating a better life for myself without alcohol. Once you loose the desire, you don't have to go around white knuckle cravings. Go for it!!😊
@@jujumulligan43 I am going for it. That first week seemed the hardest
I'm right on the same page.. just hit day 5.. we can do this!
one day at a time.
Early in my alcohol free journey. Family meal tonight, everyone drinking. For the first time I didn’t feel as though I was missing out, I was secure and happy in my decision. These videos have helped so much in shifting my mindset. Thank you so much for what you do. Alcohol plays a huge part in the lives of most of my family. I don’t want that to be the case for my two young children.
Keep up the good fight! Your little ones will benefit immensely as will you. Stay sober!
Breaking free from the circle, as you so nicely say. I used to exercise and now and then have a drink. I am really struggling, after mr mum's death .
Getting out of your usual environment and routine for the first week or so really helps.
Excellent video. I think once you take steps to create a new, better, fulfilling life for yourself, the desire to put a neurotoxic poison in your body dissipates. Do one loving thing for yourself today and the next day and on and on. I'm not long into my new sober adventure, but each day I am a little bit stronger. Thank you Kevin for giving me encouragement to carry on today!
Thanks for your awesome video. I seem to have no problem just stopping..I go weeks..or months doing fitness challenges , healthy eating...I get to a great point and think, "I got this" recently I didn't drink for 3 months....ive realized the full decision to never drink again was not made. I love how I feel and who I am without alcohol.. I dont like drinking at gatherings or out. I seem to drink as a reward for my busy work lifestyle..and out of boredom. I find myself kidding myself and fall back into the trap like a yo yo. My birthday is next week. I think quitting fully is the best present I can give myself.
That is exactly just like me to a tee. On a run about 3 months sober I remember thinking how GREAT I felt. I thought I'm never going back to drinking again. Little by little I talk myself back into thinking it's ok to indulge for a few nights and that could turn into weeks, until I get disgusted with it again. It's a vicious cycle I'd like end.
@paulh9979 omg , we should be besties..seriously. it's ridiculous, right? Ugh...
I’ve just done 3 months had a friend’s birthday party 🥳 Saturday and drank 🤦♀️I’ve felt like shite for 3 days now! Hangovers last 3 days I’m 54, forgot how awful I feel after drinking anxiety through the roof and sweating.Back to the beginning 3 days in 🙄onwards and upwards again 👍
Life is always better alcohol free
Excellent video! This is the kind of information that needs to be proclaimed more, especially to young people. The acceptance of drinking is everywhere, ads, movies, bars etc. Its such a deception, thinking drinking is fun and will make you happy but in reality it depresses you and can kill you.Thank you for sharing this very helpful video Kevin!👋❤
Glad to help, Jim
I am on day 9 and I honestly cannot believe how I feel -- stupid as that sounds -- I know that I am not the best person I can be being the drinker that I was-- I was an every other day drinker so never had a day of rest
---wish I could take back those 30+ years ----53 now -- it was destroying me to a certain extent --new life -- new world ---thx for your videos they really help
Drinking followed by regret......there are mornings I promise myself I will stop this but even that evening I will return to it.....unbelievable
I hear you. Everybody is different, but for me, by the 3rd, 4th, 5th week sober and beyond, I feel sooooo much better, my body literally 'speaks' to me and when I'm about to pop open a bottle of hooch, it says "PLEASE don't put that crap in me again. PLEASE !!!" And then I take a drink, and it literally tastes like crap (expensive bourbon!). I take another drink, and it doesn't taste as bad as the first. I take another drink. Now, it tastes pretty good and the 'buzz' kicks in. But my body says "YOU STUPID EFFIN FOOL !!!!" And the next morning, I'm totally pissed at myself for 'falling off the wagon' again. Disgusting.
I quit 3 weeks ago and feel great!
You are doing a great job. Helping many people saving lifes
Two books that helped me were "30 Days to Sobriety" by Harper Daniels and "The Easy Way to Stop" by Allen Carr. It was a journey for sure, with a lot of self forgiveness and patience required.
The day that my nephew told me that I was always drinking. I knew that wasn't being a good role model. One of my reasons to quit
This is a fantastic video. It really explains the cycle in a way that its understandable regardless of where one is in the process of stopping drinking alcohol.
My alcoholic sister says I “ruminate” too much about our past and dysfunctional family. What she doesn’t recognize is that I have been doing the “work” of healing. I will always be scarred and troubled to various degrees, but I have found tools, besides alcohol, to deal with the “scars” like walking, journaling and talking to/ befriending other authentic champions. It’s doable, manageable without using alcohol to keep those troubles at bay. My question: why does alcohol make people mean, loud and aggressive? Would they still have that personality type without it?
An answer to your questions: it does change people's personality over time for many reasons. I think one of those has to be the long term damage to the brain. Second, we only have so much time and energy. When you're spending a bit part of your life drinking and recovering, you have to take that away from living, from progressing, which takes it's toll. Great questions.
I have trigger finger health issue and it's a very good reason to stop drinking because I need to take ibuprofen , otherwise it wont get better . Hasn't actually been to bad without booze oddly enough last few days . Sure I have money to buy booze , but I'm setting a goal to buy a new mountain bike so I can detox and get healthy again . Walked my land lady's dog few times this week and it was great fun . I think sitting inside too long makes you over think , I started playing Fallout 4 again for a fix and had a coco and I feel fine . The thing I notice is I get super hungry now I have stopped for the last for days . So many people keep telling me stop it ya not a teenager anymore . Hate to imagine the damage done to by body over the years and people I have upset . Yeah stopping the flow is the only way 100 percent man . My gf pissed me off the other day and I was like dam I feel like a drink . Then I was like na fck that , just got to ignore others behaviors and walk away . Normally I would be straight up the road . Just need to deal with moody people because that's just a normal part of life weather we like it or not . So easy to get triggered by external forces no pun intended .
Kevin u r really great at exlpaining the facts & I appreciate all of ur videos & input. Started my journey of stopping the flow in April, had a few slips, but now its been over a month & days. I keep my mind focused on the better part of being me & my sobriety. TY for u Kevin..
You got this!
that really helps to keep in mind where i am going to end up on this journey. Its actually really intriging and exciting. I have found that I am still in drinkers mind and shift back in forth to where I am going and where i have been. 2 steps forward one step back . I do use visualisation to see myself where i want to be. The 8 year old wants to get out and play. I think keeping in my mind that I have only stopped 50 days after a very long time of it being in my life is not much. Taking a new journey a different path will be difficult but exciting too also plan my distination.
I have a question. It aint pretty but it is sincere: I have no problem staying sober for a few months or longer, but I don’t see the point. I feel shitty and exhausted every sober day and it won’t get better over time. But when I drink vodka and pop a few up’s I can be productive and even feel some joy in life. Am I being irresponcible for thinking that its better to have a couple of relatively fine years and then die, compared to struggle in endless misery just to live a few more years?
Thank you for your kindness, Kevin, I’ll definitely check out your beginners guide ❤
•Stop the flow
•Do the work
•Move on
Build a life you don’t want to escape from. 🙂
Yes, seems alcohol is only part of the equation here. We used it to deal w/situations & stress only to find out in the end that the alcohol was & is a hugh contributor. ✌️
@@SusanMarie-Dakota
Exactly. A vicious cycle. Catch-22.
Thankyou as always kevin. Had family in town and I'm so thankful I'm not in the beer. It would have been a real struggle!! So grateful.
(Yoir volume is way lower on these recent videos . My grubby old phone doesnt project well either but theres a noticeable difference) just fyi.
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Mr Ohara. Speaking gentle empowering words. Todays video is on point. It wasnt until my brain had the been given the opportunity to be clear of the physical effect of the poison that really actually understood how necessary stopping the flow was. I was medically assisted in hospital. The real work did start when the flow was broken, but the real work couldnt start until then. For myself, the real work is welcome. Ive been stuck in that hopeless self medicating, self damaging, self hating bloody loop so long it was a relief, a release to have a break from the burden. Stop the flow of poison into your mouth. Simple. Ahhh but then excuses whisper in your ear. Well whos in charge friends? You are. Simple.
Your honesty is powerful Kevin. Im only just coming into mine because of no poison. Much respect and appreciation. Onwards and upwards in freedom. 👍
Glad to help, mate.
Thank you for your encouraging words! It is truly helping me begin to change my life!
cover the effects ect of binge drinking please kev.
Just done a video on hangovers... out this week. Similar symptoms really. What effects of binge drinking were you thinking?
Bedankt
Much appreciated!
Thanks.
Can I get in contact with you?
What’s ‘the work?’ After stopping the flow.
Back to day 1
Don't lose heart, I'm back to day 2 again. We have to do this 😢
@@Jesusisimaginary today's day 7 . Thanks for support. Good luck to you also
Problem with when stop and shake and get sick 🤢
If you're shaking and getting sick when stopping please seek a medical detox.
Well said