Help! I'm In A Sexless Marriage | Pure Desire Podcast | Episode 324
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- čas přidán 25. 07. 2024
- When your spouse doesn’t want to have sex, you likely feel alone and lost. When you’re the one who is uninterested in sex, you may not even understand why. However, in a healthy marriage where addiction and betrayal aren’t present, sex is a beautiful gift. This episode with Heather Kolb gets into the challenging questions about how, when, and why people may be living in a sexless marriage and what they can do about it.
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FANOS Check-in - hopehousehealing.com/learn/fanos
Emotion Wheel - puredesire.org/wp-content/upl...
Pure Desire Counseling - puredesire.org/counseling/
Connected - puredesire.org/shop/connected/
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TIMESTAMPS
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00:00 - Intro
01:04 - Episode Details
02:33 - I’m In A Sexless Marriage. Am I Alone In This?
06:57 - Why Sex Is important In Marriage
12:32 - How Discovery Impacts Sex In Marriage
21:07 - I’m Not Interested In Sex. What Do I Do?
30:45 - My Spouse Isn’t Interested In Sex. Now What?
38:19 - How To Be Intimate Without Sex
45:46 - How To Re-engage In Sex
51:06 - When A Couple Should Consider Counseling About Their Sexual Intimacy
55:39 - Conclusion
56:25 - Outro
I appreciate your video. It seems like most couples just don’t want to put in any effort regarding their marital intimacy… and they don’t regard what the apostle Paul said when he says, don’t deprive one another. The more you work on yourself as far as diet and exercise, the more you are going to be attracted to each other and the more you’re gonna have awesome levels of libido… but people have desk jobs nowadays and people don’t look at the symptoms, they just look at the problem…. You guys need to speak more about this.
I hope you can answer me please?
What if when the wife has been totally damaged after childbirth?
The husband has had Prostate problems and more. Haven't had sex in years feels like an important part of our marriage is gone. Thank you..
Our recommendation is to see a doctor for each of the issues. Exploring physical healing and the medical options available would be a great place to start.
What do you do when your wife is mentally ill and has past trauma, compounded by menopause? Its worse with us because we've been living like roommates in the same house for two years and I pray every day for a miracle, because I feel completely abandoned, while she dotes all her love and affection on her kids from a previous marriage. At what point, even with her medical condition, does she need to take responsibility for the situation?
That is such a difficult situation. We're sorry for what you're going through. You might consider signing up for a free 15-min consultation with one of our clinicians. You can set one up here: puredesire.org/counseling/schedule-free-consultation/
Two years? You're lucky, try 25 years.
The sexless “season” is for when there are babies, when there are adolescents/teens, and then menopause? What part of the marriage is not part of the season besides like 5 intermittent years?
You almost make it sound as if it's always the wife that doesn't want sex. What about the PA husband that never wanted sex with his wife before discovery and are nowhere interested to change that even after discovery? It's been two years and my husband seems to be zero interested in me....
Have you listened to the entire episode? A number of questions were intended to address both spouses involved in the marriage...
Couples should consider non demand pleasuring. For the aged, 60-90 it may be the only way to have sexual intamacy.
The problem is that we are all selfish sinful people. Until we are free from our bodies will we ever be free from the fleshly desires. As a husband, my job is to love my wife, even if she doesn’t fulfill my sexual desire. Period.
As a Christian man, I’m trying to have that same attitude. However, what I’m getting from you is that the husband should just accept the fact that his wife isn’t fulfilling him sexually? How is that okay?
@@juliusmoore2176 what else can we do brother? As a Christian we must pick up our cross daily. God gave us this difficult task to love our wives, despite the lack of sex. It’s not easy. But i encourage you to keep fighting the good fight.
Honestly folks if youre here looking at this content. You already KNOW the answer.... leave. For your sanity. For your health. For your peace of mind. Anytime I see these "christian response" to these types of questions, the speakers hem and haw for 45 min to an hour saying NOTHING. If youve prayed and begged and cried for years.... dry your eyes, pack and bag and chuck the dueces. You can still love them but its time to move on.