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This is like adding darkness to the darkness that you lived in all your youth , haven't you heard about death and that your real life sturts after you die and level this very short life .
@@1linkbelt How was his youth spent in solitude? He had a wife and a mistress. He was a popular sought out speaker and he was given a Nobel? He was invited to dinners and banquets. As a non religious Jew and I think a Zionist, I fail to see his solitude.
Just turned 81 this weekend. I live alone, my wife just passed away. I miss her very much but I dont feel lonely. Much of the day I spend in my radio shop restoring vintage electronics equipment. My grandkids are welcome to come over anytime for a swim in my in ground pool, but I tell them to bring their own snacks and sodas. I do supervise them for their own good. My son comes by now and then to see that I am well. He will inherit this house one day and helps me keep it in good repair. Most of my Old friends have passed away. I am the oldest member of my family and the family historian. However most members care little about our heritage clan. Two of my grand nieces have picked up the search based on my informational foundation. My life is good, I’ve lived a good life, good times and bad. I would do it all over again and trade this life for the years I worked and raised a family. Even my time in the Army I look back on fondly, in Nam, Germany and state side. I know my days are numbered, but I have no fear. I truly hope I will see my wife again in the great beyond, if there is such a thing. Peace out!
Thank God for gift of good health and Good family, I'll like to share with you there is an Eternal life Promised by The Great creator The Almighty JEHOVAH GOD who gave us HIS Son, who came from HEAVEN HE LIVED ON THIS EARTH, HE also promised to come back , Please believe in JESUS as the Son of GOD and Saviour, there is LIFE IN CHRIST AFTER THIS LIFE.
Life is too exhausting, I live alone, I like my life alone, I like taking an undisturbed nap. I don't like cooking for others, it's just too much work, I don't like entertaining any more. I must be blessed, at almost 70 I am still healthy.
@@maybee... can relate…don’t mind occasionally cooking something simple but tasty and also ordering takeout for close relatives if they really appreciate it. Kids for instance were given everything but now as adults hate their parents. Besides as I their dad have gotten older they no longer have a need to spend time with an older person like me. That’s fine. I’m spiritually well grounded and comfortable living independently. They have their hands full with their own lives I guess. No sense of family anymore. Unloving ungrateful adult kids. Maybe they are even jealous of their dad who has had a good life. Who knows, who cares at this point. Am healthy and having fun with my projects and hobbies.
I was in my '70's before I lived alone. Before then I always had people living with me. I love my solitude. I really enjoy living by myself as I have time to relax, think, watch what I want or sleep without interruption. If I buy food it is there until I eat it. When I want to socialize, I leave home and go to a public place such as a community center, or an event. I don't go to people's homes, except for family. Life changes how you view people and solitude is a great benefit.
75 here, One of my better investments was a simple "No Soliciting" sign stuck on the front door.. The kids are raised and gone, doing well on their own now, the ex is history. We are supposed to be social animals, so be it, I get all the socializing i want or need by visiting neighbors, during daily walks and a little shopping. Don't call me, I'll call you. Get healthy and stay healthy, don't rely on doctors to fix you, take responsibility of your health, mental and physical.
I am in tears listening to this video. I'm retired professional who worked hard to build a savings plan and buying properties. I'm retired. My son is fighting with me for my properties, and he has eroded my savings to maintain his lavish lifestyle. I learned too late in life NEVER to use all your money on investing on children because they abandon you at your aging.
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I have experienced that even family isn’t your friend. A true friend will welcome you no matter what is going on in their lives. Yes, a lot of people are put out because they are selfish and unkind. True friends are rare, counted on one hand.
For me the most selfish and unkind people were my mother and my sister, when my grandparents and father died, I had no one but my children, and they made me feel like I was imposing on them. I see my children maybe 10 to 20 hours a year now and I do my socializing at the senior center one day a week. The rest of the week I'm at home alone for the most part. It's okay because I can deal with the solitude, sometimes I feel lonely but I get past it. It's better to have solitude than to have people around you who make you feel unwanted.
I am 74 and have a friend I met 5 years ago when I moved. She phones me every couple of days and calls in about twice a week for a visit of about 1 hour or so. She often brings something for lunch. I’m always welcome at her home and welcomed like part of the family by her husband and son. She is in her 80s and shares herself amongst many friends and family. How lucky I am to have such a true friend. Your stories are deep and meaningful. Wise information.
I truly enjoy being in my own company. I'm almost 71 this coming August, I exercise regularly and eat healthily, keep a positive attitude, educate myself daily on different topics, and am not interested in socializing for various reasons, some of which have been mentioned in this video. I love to sit down, read a good book, watch an interesting documentary, go for a long walk in nature, or reflect on life and be grateful for the wonderful things I have including my excellent health at this age which, I compare with a good wine that's getting better with time. "You are a living magnet. What you attract into your life is in harmony with your dominant thoughts." Sending lots of love and light to everyone. Thank you for this insightful video.
I’m in my 70’s I still visit x I’m very welcomed when visiting. I love entertaining x see friends that you know for over 30 years. I love going out x socialise with my friends.
Yes as we grows order you may noticed that our behavior change automatically but not to tell that we are selfish.Maybe it's because I work mora than 35 years then as ify feelings was excited to be a alone ,and it's an emotions that for me unavoidable ,And I don't know why but as days passed Now I realized it's we called "Senior Citizens "
I read a lot and search something that I don't used before my new attitudes was stranger to me But gradually I ve known it's a hormonal system that takes a part of It .😂😂😂
Just accept the fact that humans are crazy, keep socializing without expecting anything in return. And then laugh and amuse yourself at the craziness. Soon you will find friends who feel the same way and laugh together.
Agree 100%. I now limit my friends only to those who are considerate, happy, supportive, and non-judgmental about my life. I avoid all toxic people and don’t want unannounced visits from negative, depressing people who dwell on the past and put people down.
People come over and tell me how my house should look - and other “constructive comments “. I had some garden tools on a table outside where it was convenient but a young friend asked why I didn’t clean up the mess. I’m 77, have no family and few local friends. I miss the active life I had with my late husband but now I don’t have the desire or energy to be on the go all the time.
I enjoyed so much camping and going to the beach every summer, now, it doesn't interest me anymore: the long drive, the traffic, the hot sand, the crowd, the work of preparation and taking the baggage, etc I feel it is not worth it. I love gardening, my daily routine, taking my naps, watching videos. I agree that entertaining is exhausting, yet I feel guilty of enjoying my solitude so much.
Yup, traveling is so overrated to me these days also(65). I love the little things... The highlight of my day today will probably be rearranging my sock and camisole drawers!!! 🤗😎
I have good friends over at my little nest, a handful of times a year and it’s always fabulous. I visit them a handful of times a year and return home feeling rejuvenated. We laugh, enjoy a delicious but simple meal, decadent dessert, some play their guitar or my piano …. it’s always fun. The trick is, to not do it too often (familiarity breeds contempt), to do your best not to gossip, to be mindful of your manners (no matter how chill your hos/hostess is) and not to overstay your welcome. Unless it’s a wedding, my maximum stay is 3 hours. Build relationships steadily throughout your life. The keepers will be there to the end but, I’ve gained a few really good friends the last few 6 years after I turned 55. so I guess, it’s good not to be too closed.
I am 66 years old and live in a 55+ community. I stay to myself even though I had thoughts of having a social life when I retired. I found so many of my neighbors to be mean spirited and full of gossip. I walk into the community room and everybody shuts up. People make up stories about who I am because I do not like to sit and chat with them. I do not like to talk about people. So either join the gossip "girls" or stay alone in my apartment. I am happy being alone but I do not like passing my neighbors when I go outside. I feel the negative vibes.
Da können wir uns die Hand reichen! "Der Mensch an sich ist gut, aber die Leute sind ein Gesindel." (Nestroy) Ich lebe mit 24 Nachbarn in einer Hausgemeinschaft, suche Gemeinsamkeiten und finde Verschiedenheiten. Andere Gemeinschaften haben ähnliche Probleme und verschiedene Lösungsansätze. Es ist wichtig, im Austausch zu bleiben. Manchmal finde ich außerhalb jemand oder etwas, mit dem ich innerhalb anders wahrgenommen werde. Alte verknöchern und neigen zum Mobben - aus Unsicherheit und Enttäuschung. Sie brauchen viel mehr Zeit und Gelegenheiten als Jüngere, um Vertrauen zu schöpfen.
To Trish, a good excuse is to say you have some social anxiety. OR. Tell them you are trying to be a better person and avoid gossip. I avoid people who gossip. ❤. Greetings from Ireland 🇮🇪
@@user-uz8rr7fi1w TRISH I FEEL WHERE YOU ARE COMING FROM AND YOU DO NOT NEED TO GIVE THEM ANY REASON JUST BE STRONG AND GO ON WITH WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY!!!
9... I am 76 and I have been living alone and without friends, nor family, way back since I can remember. Health wise I have some minor problems that I handle as much as I can. Food wise I do not cook at home, so I eat outside or bring things home. It is not a perfect regime, I know but as long as I can walk, it is the most important for me. I do not go out to often because I do not like to meet people. I do not exercise much too. Spend too much time with the computer, no socializing because I hate that. The best time I have during the day, is when I feed Cats and Pigeons, as I speak to them when they are eating. It is a true friendship. That I can tell according to the ways they act with me too. People tell me that I do not look my age, that I look a lot younger. It is a good thing to hear. One thing for sure I thank God for what I am right now. Thanks for your videos. I just discovered your videos. I will visit more often.
Never rely on relationships to be happy and fulfilled in life. They come and go or may turn sour even with one's own family. Better to be alone than socializing with toxic company. Happiness is living with yourself and liking it. Relationships with the right people can then enhance this.
What a cold ice cold story. My friends are always welcome to visit me for a good talk and having a good laugh. If i would live my live like this story i will get depressed and very unhappy. I love my friends dearly ❤.
Yes that's true. In being active socially one tends to develop anxiety about not meeting other people's expectations. In turn this anxiety can lead to depression.
I think that a lot of older people are just ignored By others. It is very sad. Lots of single older people don't want to be alone. Certainly they don't want to be ignored by people who were once friends
If you prefer being socially isolated that is your problem, but not mine! If you are not sick or ashamed of your current personal situation be as sociable as you possibly want to & stop acting like a miserable loner 24/7.
I hate people visiting me. When people want to visit, I tell them, come and say hello to me at my favorite pub. That way, when I have had enough I just leave.
I don’t want people in my circle unless they’re conservative Christians but without being uptight and religious, which is toxic. Otherwise it’s guaranteed there will be issues. If friends have opposing views either in politics or beliefs, I don’t consider them to be friends, so why waste time with them.
I have lived a very eventful life and I am 68 now. I prioritize family and live with my wife, one of my daughters, and my grandson. I don’t have a very big social circle outside of my family. I need a few to several hours of alone time each day. I am far from lonely and love my life on the Big Island of Hawaii. It’s rural where we live and more affordable than the rest of the state. We have 6 dogs, three cats, two birds, and two fish tanks. Wild pigs cruise on our land along with wild chickens. Lots of fruit and spice trees.It’s not for everyone with no mail delivery, 1/10 mile of gravel road from here to pavement, and rain catchment water. It works for us. I have a woodworking shop. I hope to add horses to our menagerie.
You are so fortunate to attain serenity, peace and contentment which is the true measure of success in life. Less relationships in a rural setting is good for the soul. Most young people from the rural areas who discover the more sophisticated city life change for the worse and never attain fulfillment.
Some of the instruction is beneficial, I do think that people need one another to be alone sometimes is good. However to live alone constantly is not. Humans are social creatures we were not meant to be isolated. ❤
Well, though social animals but some have replied "They want to be alone. "that means we learn another side of life may be what we didn't expect, then when we see it we know it's ok for that person not a problem.
Galatians 6;7... What you sew is what you will reap .. become kind to one another... plant seeds of goodness...it truly comes back in significant ways ❤.... Good health to you all...
That’s not true. I gave out to lonely and Special Needs folk all of my life. Now I’m housebound with no help or company. I feel very lonely but it wasn’t caused by sowing wrongly.
@@heatherthompson3670 Sometimes people just don't get the happiness you receive giving to others. You did what you could, when you could. That is called being a kind, sweet, loving human being and no one can take that away from you! I'm so sorry you have no assistance. I'm housebound most of the time. I just prayed for four months to attend my youngest's wedding a few states away. Pray to Jehovah, he heard my prayer, he will hear yours. The wedding was amazing. 👰🏼🤵🏻
Absolutely.I too. I find it very refreshing and relaxing when I give myself that freedom than go talking and repeating myself who, what I was and am not.
Most people are after something, including your "friends", they are after one of the following from you; entertainment, sex, money, career advancement, political support, a relationship with one of your family members like your sister, or daughter. They are not trying to be your friend. When you are a landlord you see the reality. When I am at my job, a military contractor, other employees won't give me the time of day, they are very rude. When I am looking for a tenant, every one of them is super polite, the women are flirtatious, the guys are very respectful. It's blatantly obvious, people are very transparent in the right circumstances.
Yes! I have experienced all of these in San Juan, Batangas, Philippines. I retired in my childhood town and everyone seemed friendly until then old and new friends started borrowing money as if my money was free for all. Bad luck came around and when I needed help those people that I had helped were nowhere to be found. After, a while, I recovered and I swear never to entertain old and new friends from that town. The people in that town were the most ungrateful deceitful people I have ever encountered in my whole life. That goes with the young and old people. Lesson learned, do not go back to your old childhood town. Maybe, take a peak silently and get the hell out! Good luck with your retirement... And oh, that same goes with the family (siblings and cousins). When they find out you have a good retirement they will steal from you.
I started earlier in life. I'm 65 now. I live off-the-grid on a 780 acres of wilderness, accessible only by dirtbike or by sea. I hunt, fish etc. Love it
Each person’s needs and desires are unique to them. There is no single rule of conduct that applies to everyone. Age 50 is not old. Even 60 is not”old” anymore. I require and treasure my solitude. I live alone and love it. It’s a great luxury. But I also have a need for human interaction at times. And when I do, I seek out the companionship of folks I enjoy being with.
Having been around Oriental people there is a vast difference between them and Americans. They respect and include their family members until death. We treat ours as a "disturbance" or boring garbage. We forget that if they had not taken care of us when we were young and further we would not be as functional in our lives. As for friends...most of them know you when they want something but find you a "disturbance" when you just want some friendship. BS to all of that kind.
And research has demonstrated that the Nuclear family is far from ideal, and not good for the child/children. It indeed takes a village to raise a child. Extended family are hugely mutually beneficial when they are growing up...and beyond. We've got our attitude to the elders of our communities all wrong.
I glad you believe that Jesus is your friend if it prevents you from feeling lonely but if you were intelligent you would realize that God and an after life does not exist .All religions are man made and if you were intelligent you would realize this. Christianity is just one of the worlds six major religions- they cant all be right
@@margyrowlandYou are not alone as millions of the worlds inhabitants have since birth been told not to question the existence of what ever god they have been taught to believe in - but just have faith.But anyone who is highly intelligent will realize that faith is is just a concept designed to deter anyone from opening up their minds to the facts and learning the truth
@@davidboskett5581 You're obviously not glad that I believe in Jesus, or you'd not have bothered to write a response. And by jumping to the conclusion that I am not intelligent demonstrates some issues on your part that are too deep to address here. I pray for you to have the eyes of your heart and mind opened and for you to reevaluate the concepts of intelligence, tolerance and kindness in your life.
This all makes good sense. I'm only 62 but too much drama stresses me out. Since the pandemic, I've found people to be grumpier and more introverted. I'd rather stay home and watch movies or listen to music than deal with misunderstandings and friends who are easily offended. I give this video a 9! Thanks!
@@paracasnazca1439 what if your going in position on all those practices is that they are “fluff” for people unable, intellectually to find pass ties more rewarding with maybe positive and tangible results , not for the sake of the results but for the process. Sitting, standing, lotus positioning and mindlessly talking about any and everything that pops into my head has never been greeted with much welcome so I doubt things have changed and I don’t really care. At. 76 the concrete is almost totally set up. If someone wants me to embark on a new venture it better have instant attraction or I ain’t signin on because some 45 year old doctor with no credentials to get inside the head of a 75 year old man is not yet gospel. I figure my gospel will come directly from Jesus if it comes at all, I can handle it and Jesus knows it and leaves me alone. Thanks man, you are the best!
Accusation brings misunderstandings. Insincerity brings misunderstandings. How about learning to communicate more and ask for clarification? Avoidance is not the solution.😊
My wife died at 55. I’m now 70. My son is in the army. I rarely hear from him. I don’t even know where he’s stationed. He has one son, 4 years old. I’ve only seen him twice. My daughter moved away. She has 2 children which I rarely see. I’m alone all the time. I have no siblings, and all of my family are long gone. It’s no way to live.
You are right. It's unfortunate. It's not like the old days when families stayed close. Still ideally children should take care of their parents like their parents took care of them. I did that with my parents but my children won't be doing that for me. So many lonely older men out there. It hits harder for men. Still being free of all the socializing stress is also a good thing. Shame on your children for not staying in touch though.
Bless your heart. Maybe getting involved in an old hobby or a new one...maybe join something at the library...something you're interested in. You can meet new people that way.😊
Foolish you just stopped living and uses time to regret things you did wrong and things you wish you had done. Life starts after retirement nobody has any expectations from you, you are free to roam the world. You are waiting for the grim reaper to visit you, you are done living in the past.
Those friends who make you feel that your peace is being interfered, they are not the friends you love. Otherwise it would have been different feeling.
@@arnold3785Well that is your opinion not mine. I am 77 and enjoy being alone. I really don't want visitors quite happy living alone. I have no interest in travelling this world. So speak for yourself. As for the grim reaper that again is how you see him. I see him as one who will take me to a much better place than this sick evil work. 😅
It's different for everyone! Just because we get older doesn't mean we have to clam up like a hermit. Getting out is a real need especially if you're still self efficient. Even with no freinds it's still a relief for people to go to a mall at a cafe because you always end up talking to someone anyway. Who wants to be inside all the time?
Agree 100% people here play pickleball%dance @ this age this and a good mental attitude priceless, I don't bodder my mind with things that don't service anymore. Be the frien you would like to have and smile. 😂
As long as they are the right people to be with. Relationships become toxic when one expects a partner, friend or other people to become their source of happiness.
I’m almost 70, and I have found that having people over is exhausting. Having to clean the house, buy food, drinks, etc. I’m usually worn out when the company comes over, so I don’t do it anymore except with our kids. I also find that other friends don’t have gatherings at their homes anymore, but instead we meet at a restaurant. Maybe they feel the same way…too much effort and when you’re older, you just don’t have the energy anymore.
In short, being an introvert also have a bright side and we can say it's far more better to be an introvert than extrovert when we reach our senior years.
You are better off alone with the Holy Spirit. With the Holy Spirit you can express yourself as you are without being misunderstood. I recently learned the hard way.
9 thank you! Love solitude because I've been a professional artist/designer and pianist/composer for over 50 years and we need solitude in order to create. My family is very creative, in the arts and love their solitude as well. Peace, love and namaste~♥
Love solitude at 73 and just discovered I am artistic. Been too busy surviving to relax and let it surface or let old, old negative reflections from others lead my path. When I can express me among others without cowering, I will seek companionship.
This doesn't hold for India where oldies are more social, family oriented because the country culturally has strong family ties and spend their quality time with their grand children. Theirs sons and daughters don't abandon them. Instead live with them. The strong spiritual orientation since childhood gives oldies greater opportunity to form groups and go on pilgrimage.
You left out the most important thing in our lives...A relationship with Jesus & daily reading the Bible & prayers. Without God in my life i would be dead.
"Make yourself at home." "You are most welcome anytime." "You can stay in my home." Appreciate the gesture, don't take them literary. Especially the last one is tempting. Stay in a hotel.
I honestly stayed at in-laws house and the SIL was an absolute nightmare. She seemed jealous and bitter and wanted to make our lives miserable😅 Never again!! Just glad I do t have to work with someone like that.
Ok. So EVERYONE is fake. We are supposed to put on a fake face and realize invitations are also fake. We should rarely speak and stay home if you're old. Got it.
Now retired @ 68 am not quite there yet but leading up to this beautiful phase of my life.I live independently and happy and contently living a balance life.A great reminder.👍❤
I value so much being by my self...years ago when i was hospitalized how i hoped NOT to be visited yet , some came and it made me very uncomfortable how i hate the feeling
when I was in the hospital, I told family please don't come and I was happy they mostly honored my request. Of course, the strangers pushing their religious agendas were harder to shoo away. ugh.
I love visits, i get lonely, i haven't got a family, what are they trying to do cut us all off from each other, looking at your phone is of unhealthiest things you can do, i noticed a lot of people don't know how to engage with others anymore, i don't want to be alone day in and day out, thats why losing my young ragdoll has been so depressing, he bought such joy, but be pooed around building in front of people's front doors, there was nowhere for him to run around, how can you keep an animal between 4 walls day in and out!❤❤🎉
Do you like cats? They are wonderful friends for most people. Two Rescue cats keep each other company. Spayed or neutered of course. They are loving and fun to live with. Give it some consideration, please.
Yes, to your question. It is by design or humans to cut people off from each other with those phones,family dinners become strangers and strained. Young and old.
There is a recognised advantage in having a vibrant social life. Most people benefit tremendously from social interaction on a daily basis. It improves many aspects of our lives and yes we do need to be considerate of others personal need for peace and quiet which we should check before visiting. This kind of give and take is what humans thrive on and in fact need to stay healthy and happy.
Didnt the people you grew up with change as you all grew older? If not you are so fortunate. Financial, health, marital, family and other issues cause once close ties to become distant.
So did I but…my life turned out very different.. our lives took us major different directions… I always thought what you poured into your family relationships it was given back to you…😮mine was not the case…
I am not quite there yet but everyone is different as they reach later years and the biggest killer is isolation and loneliness. Just because something is on UT does not make it Gospel or Correct. I dress up and go out at least once a week. It might be slightly less in winter but life is to be enjoyed at any age.
Im 69 and quite happy in my retirement looking after my home and doing farming. We live in both our city house and farm house with my hubby who is in his 70s. We don't visit people but go on vacation with friends from time to time. We also go on Christmas vacation with our own children too from time to time. Sometimes just the two of us. When one keeps busy life is very fulfilling.
1. Visiting is a form of disturbance. 2. Frequent visits can cause trouble. 3. Different economic conditions can cause psychological imbalance. Essential things that can make your life - Health - Family - Financial stability - Positive mental health
Thank you for asserting my conviction of enjoying my solitary life. I have realized that being in a family event celebrations leads to competition, jealousy, comparison, and ends up in conflicts. ❤
I have noticed that many people are very critical of others. But have a very thin skin when others are talking even when they're not talking about them. To think that everyone else is disrespecting them when all they seem to do is talk trash. I have distanced myself from most of my family and friends. There is to much drama nowadays. I believe that the Internet has made people lose their social skills. It's to late to go back to the time when people had peace in their lives. Computers have made us less human and more aggressive.
I’ve noticed this , too, but hadn’t put two and two together. It does make sense that technology has somehow eroded our social skills. A great many more people have become far more confrontative and ‘ in your face’ for little or no reason whatsoever 😮
I am 71,still working .looking forward to see my customers every week. U have to have a balance Life .A little sex in old age is very good for your health. It's a good work out. Beat going to the gym.❤😂😂😂
So glad to see your comment! All my life I have disliked living alone…and don’t tell me to get a dog…I have 9 of them, 2 cats, ducks, chickens, horses and cows! I am lonely, sometimes feeling like a ghost and other times feeling like the only human exhibit in a zoo! My best friend died 6 months ago. Now the only phone calls I get are from telemarketers!
@@LM-qb6fuGet rid of those dogs. They are a one way ticket to poverty and ill health. Take the money you save and visit a church, senior center, homeless shelter or bring your neighbors flowers. Dogs are just work and cannot be left Alone. They will eat you when you die alone . Plus you can get some new clothes, new hairstyle and have money to take someone to dinner or for a treat. Don't let the rest of your life go to dogs. You have too many dogs for good mental health. God bless you in Jesus name. Amen
Got my depression relieved when i learned not to depend on relationships for fulfillment in life. They come and go. Friends will leave or pass on. And besides hardly anybody likes a clingy friend. Find oneself first before being able to find others.
@@LM-qb6fu yeah I get you. It’s a very hollow feeling. I have a handful of lovely friends and two nieces but nobody is there to say good morning. It’s lonely at night eating by ones self and watching tv or you tube for company. I dislike living alone also.
I choose my solitude but also miss my family. Gossip destroys family ties and friendships; mostly unintentional. I avoid gossip not people. Thanks for sharing. 🙏
Some of this is weird. To each his own. Different people have different likes. Some people like to cook & have friends over or have family over. I don't think we have to try so hard to not have interactions with other people.! I'm 75.
I like your content...I am a retired employee...I live with my children and husband..children are annoying sometimes, but I feel at peace when they are near us...we are born again Christians and attending the fellowships, live stream or face to face, this keeps us healthy and strong, in our old age.....Have peace, keep the LORD in your heart...GOD BLESS.
I always had trouble when I had one too many (most of the time I had too many drinks). My judgment goes bad while I think I feel friendly. The video has points that I have thought about but I did not know that others know this stuff also. Now I don’t feel that alone. I’m 65, still finding out things about life. Economic security helps also.
Interesting topic, personally I need at least one person around. I see it this way; if a person breaks the laws it’s put behind bars, if the person breaks the rules while in jail then it’s placed in solitary confinement. Hence it seems to me that being unable to socialize with at least one other person is the worse punishment, my 2 cents
Thank you so much for sharing these valuable insights. For anyone watching this, especially those in their 70s or 80s, I truly hope this message reaches you in good health and spirit. May everyone listening be blessed with peace, wellness, and good fortune. As we age, understanding these life lessons becomes even more important. Wishing all of you a journey filled with love, purpose, and wisdom. 🙏✨
Lots of wisdom in this video!! There are so many events I could attend but choose not to. I like people but believe that familiarity breeds contempt. So I have been enjoying my solitude-every bit of it.
I only have a few good friends, and that's alright. My best friend died, and my close sister died also. They were at one time a lot of my social life. I'm a home body, but I do like getting out sometimes. My husband passed away seven years ago, and I still dream about him. I love Jesus. He helped me get through many tragedies. I just turned 74 and have aches and pains, but it's true that older people tend to isolate themselves, and I totally understand. When I want to be with a friend I cook dinner for them, I would rather stay home than go out. I pray blessings to all the seniors out there and live well until you're called home.🙏
I visited my elderly mother every day out of love and concern for her well-being. My brother told me that she said, "I interfere with her tv viewing, afternoon nap and only visit her because I've nowhere else to plonk my arse."!..... says it all really, dont you think?
The last time I gave a party was in 1984 and the stress and the no fun time for me was enough to encourage me not to give party for bs-ing people about being sociable. My true nature is solitary my old age time is wonderful, free to cook what I want, to eat it when I want and to get a nap if I want are luxeries that have no price. Once a month I see friends at a restaurant and this is a plenty for them and for me.
I used to be an outgoing person now that I’m in my mid 50s, I love staying at home, gardening, enjoying being alone . Peace and quiet. It’s great for my health. Love my life now.
I’m almost 75 male hermit who has had the good fortune to make it to this age without any known health issues. On the other hand I fail at all the other markers to happiness. I planned to work until death but five years ago I made a serious ethical mistake leading to four months in jail and losing my profession. Now barely getting by on government benefits with no purpose in life but to care for my animals. Hard to see a bright future keep thinking I just need one bullet. Too late in the game should have could have done better but failed.
Caring for animals can not only provide purpose but also joy and satisfaction, no matter what your situation is. Don't compare or measure your situation against the standards of this clip. Live in the moment, don't loose sight of the positive things in your life. When I help an animal it gives me a sense of being part of something bigger than myself because the action is compassionate and selfless.
As I'm getting older(79) , I hate empty conversations, answering questions,putting on shows ect. Most of important peoples in my life is gone, so I basically learned to be alone. It will be nice to have a lady around now and then.
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@@edgardovillacorte7012yeah..you are right!! there are days when our biological clock….is OUT OF ORDER! Meaning…. It is not every day that WE are THE TRUE WE! Vist your friend(s) / relatives/ or neighbors ( on invitations) …..but “ LEAVE” before THEY GET TIRED of your presence…You will notice it….don’t you? …Even how much THEY say…”oh ..stay it’s still early” …Remember: They are kust being polite…..Read their minds….they really mean: “ Goodbye….please GO!!!”
I understand the importance of keeping healthy and well balance to avoid being a burden to our families. However I'm not yet sure about the importance of family though. We should not expect much from them even at old age as they can have their own life to deal with
I agree with you. The discussion on family is a bit troublesome. Why would his children resent and ignore him? It seems immature and stupid. Furthermore, sometimes it is better to leave a marriage than live in misery. There is much more worth saying but I cannot expand on this platform.
Yes. The message is you are so imperfect you should not speak much and stay home because you're old and useless. Also, it's too much trouble to entertain. I guess these people never enjoyed throwing parties.
The lonely are the ones who expect other people to be their source of happiness. Clingy people are shunned. Finding oneself first is the prerequisite to being able to find others.
Humans are too unpredictable. That’s called a Liability. No Positive Outcome can be successful with that around. If you’re curious, you’re not going to be bored, especially in this new century.
Curiosity with companionship is healthy. What has gone so wrong that it is not valued as desireable.These comments echo a correct narrative we are being told to think. @@AngelleSL
Am 69 yrs of age and you are right frequent socializing at this age even to your relatives is not advisable.. i had experienced what you have discussed its a fact based on my experienced.. am from philippines..i like your channel.
This is so true. I’m 72 and live alone. Few close friends who are always welcome. Words can be missed repeated.😅I need a lot of quiet time. Enjoy my time.
I have been alone for 15 years when my wife died. I take care of my self to maintain good health. I enjoy it by doing my daily chores, keeping my self busy and doing research everyday to sharpen my mind. I'm now 77.
❤ you mean well, but reclusion has become a pandemic, and sometimes fun in life is even worth all the humiliations and troubles... wish others all the happiness even though I don't like the Gatherings myself 🎉😊
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This is like adding darkness to the darkness that you lived in all your youth , haven't you heard about death and that your real life sturts after you die and level this very short life .
"I live in that solitude which is painful in youth, but delicious in the years of maturity."
Albert Einstein.
What did he prove? His theory is still theory.
@@1linkbelt How was his youth spent in solitude? He had a wife and a mistress. He was a popular sought out speaker and he was given a Nobel? He was invited to dinners and banquets. As a non religious Jew and I think a Zionist, I fail to see his solitude.
@@debrapaulino918 You would need to ask him about that. lol
@@1linkbelt Why? He should've thought it through.
@@debrapaulino918 Youths don't have mistresses. Or wives & children, for that matter.
Just turned 81 this weekend. I live alone, my wife just passed away. I miss her very much but I dont feel lonely. Much of the day I spend in my radio shop restoring vintage electronics equipment. My grandkids are welcome to come over anytime for a swim in my in ground pool, but I tell them to bring their own snacks and sodas. I do supervise them for their own good. My son comes by now and then to see that I am well. He will inherit this house one day and helps me keep it in good repair. Most of my Old friends have passed away. I am the oldest member of my family and the family historian. However most members care little about our heritage clan. Two of my grand nieces have picked up the search based on my informational foundation. My life is good, I’ve lived a good life, good times and bad. I would do it all over again and trade this life for the years I worked and raised a family. Even my time in the Army I look back on fondly, in Nam, Germany and state side. I know my days are numbered, but I have no fear. I truly hope I will see my wife again in the great beyond, if there is such a thing. Peace out!
Lord Jesus love us...& want to be with us in Heaven..🙏
So ist es. Sie sehen sie wieder....und nun? Ruhe und frieden.....tag bei tag ....
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Hey gran pa , be kind to your grand son , daughters, why you so stingy to give some food , drinks , snacks you say bring your own, seems at this age ,
Thank God for gift of good health and Good family, I'll like to share with you there is an Eternal life Promised by The Great creator The Almighty JEHOVAH GOD who gave us HIS Son, who came from HEAVEN HE LIVED ON THIS EARTH, HE also promised to come back , Please believe in JESUS as the Son of GOD and Saviour, there is LIFE IN CHRIST AFTER THIS LIFE.
Life is too exhausting, I live alone, I like my life alone, I like taking an undisturbed nap.
I don't like cooking for others, it's just too much work, I don't like entertaining any more.
I must be blessed, at almost 70 I am still healthy.
Stay healthy and be blessend🎊🕊🎊
@@maybee... can relate…don’t mind occasionally cooking something simple but tasty and also ordering takeout for close relatives if they really appreciate it. Kids for instance were given everything but now as adults hate their parents. Besides as I their dad have gotten older they no longer have a need to spend time with an older person like me. That’s fine. I’m spiritually well grounded and comfortable living independently. They have their hands full with their own lives I guess. No sense of family anymore. Unloving ungrateful adult kids. Maybe they are even jealous of their dad who has had a good life. Who knows, who cares at this point. Am healthy and having fun with my projects and hobbies.
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I am seeing here that many are experiencing similarly to my life. That is a comfort somehow.
Thank you! 🙏🏽🪷
I suffer from people's presence , not from their abscence. {Pablo Picasso}
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I'm 84 and just got back from a gathering of friends, we all had a marvelous time --- even added another member to our group
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Great stuff. You will live longer. Amen
Fabulous 👍🏻❤👏
Do what makes you happy, not what anyone expects from you ❤💯
My sentiments exactly…
That's no conversation...we know that.
Simply doing this will cure most cases of depression.
I was in my '70's before I lived alone. Before then I always had people living with me. I love my solitude. I really enjoy living by myself as I have time to relax, think, watch what I want or sleep without interruption. If I buy food it is there until I eat it. When I want to socialize, I leave home and go to a public place such as a community center, or an event. I don't go to people's homes, except for family. Life changes how you view people and solitude is a great benefit.
Thanks a heap for this great life ahead!
75 here, One of my better investments was a simple "No Soliciting" sign stuck on the front door.. The kids are raised and gone, doing well on their own now, the ex is history. We are supposed to be social animals, so be it, I get all the socializing i want or need by visiting neighbors, during daily walks and a little shopping. Don't call me, I'll call you. Get healthy and stay healthy, don't rely on doctors to fix you, take responsibility of your health, mental and physical.
Hey Old Roscoe,, your comment mirrors my sentiments , including the NO Soliticing sign by the front door!
72.5 yo here, and the ex is history buts wants money I ain't got
I'm 55 and i Will take that advice at hearth❤😂,thanks You !!!
A "No Soliciting" sign also graces my front door, and I do concur.
We are not animals but human beings.
I am in tears listening to this video. I'm retired professional who worked hard to build a savings plan and buying properties. I'm retired. My son is fighting with me for my properties, and he has eroded my savings to maintain his lavish lifestyle.
I learned too late in life NEVER to use all your money on investing on children because they abandon you at your aging.
Concerned about your comment. ❤ if this rises to the level that you feel abused, please consider reaching out to a counselor or police or adult protective services. Protect yourself ❤
Sell the properties and spend the money.🤷
Your son is it seems an ass. Teach him a real good lesson B4 it's to late for u or him.!@@sandrajackson5163
@@sandrajackson5163It's elder abuse. Thanks for your comment!
@@sharonconstan8234excellent advice ❤
I have experienced that even family isn’t your friend. A true friend will welcome you no matter what is going on in their lives. Yes, a lot of people are put out because they are selfish and unkind. True friends are rare, counted on one hand.
How true! The least friendly person I have ever known is my wife. Second to her are my children. Go figure!
For me the most selfish and unkind people were my mother and my sister, when my grandparents and father died, I had no one but my children, and they made me feel like I was imposing on them. I see my children maybe 10 to 20 hours a year now and I do my socializing at the senior center one day a week. The rest of the week I'm at home alone for the most part. It's okay because I can deal with the solitude, sometimes I feel lonely but I get past it. It's better to have solitude than to have people around you who make you feel unwanted.
One Finger!!!
One finger if you’re lucky
I am 74 and have a friend I met 5 years ago when I moved. She phones me every couple of days and calls in about twice a week for a visit of about 1 hour or so. She often brings something for lunch. I’m always welcome at her home and welcomed like part of the family by her husband and son. She is in her 80s and shares herself amongst many friends and family. How lucky I am to have such a true friend. Your stories are deep and meaningful. Wise information.
It's ok to be alone. It's ok to be surrounded. Love people where they are. Let it be.
Exactly
I truly enjoy being in my own company. I'm almost 71 this coming August, I exercise regularly and eat healthily, keep a positive attitude, educate myself daily on different topics, and am not interested in socializing for various reasons, some of which have been mentioned in this video. I love to sit down, read a good book, watch an interesting documentary, go for a long walk in nature, or reflect on life and be grateful for the wonderful things I have including my excellent health at this age which, I compare with a good wine that's getting better with time. "You are a living magnet. What you attract into your life is in harmony with your dominant thoughts." Sending lots of love and light to everyone. Thank you for this insightful video.
I’m in my 70’s I still visit x I’m very welcomed when visiting. I love entertaining x see friends that you know for over 30 years. I love going out x socialise with my friends.
I have Irish heritage and love the book, "Ireland Welcomes the Stranger..." from the 1843/44. It's non fiction. 📚
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Yes as we grows order you may noticed that our behavior change automatically but not to tell that we are selfish.Maybe it's because I work mora than 35 years then as ify feelings was excited to be a alone ,and it's an emotions that for me unavoidable ,And I don't know why but as days passed Now I realized it's we called "Senior Citizens "
I read a lot and search something that I don't used before my new attitudes was stranger to me But gradually I ve known it's a hormonal system that takes a part of It .😂😂😂
Just accept the fact that humans are crazy, keep socializing without expecting anything in return. And then laugh and amuse yourself at the craziness. Soon you will find friends who feel the same way and laugh together.
Best comment by far!😆👍
Perfect comment
Great advice!
Its nice to hang out wd friends
Agree 100%. I now limit my friends only to those who are considerate, happy, supportive, and non-judgmental about my life. I avoid all toxic people and don’t want unannounced visits from negative, depressing people who dwell on the past and put people down.
Same here
People come over and tell me how my house should look - and other “constructive comments “. I had some garden tools on a table outside where it was convenient but a young friend asked why I didn’t clean up the mess. I’m 77, have no family and few local friends. I miss the active life I had with my late husband but now I don’t have the desire or energy to be on the go all the time.
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I agree with comments.
@@BarbaraPavel You do you, Barb. Keep those tools wherever you want to, lol. 🌻 🌿🌾
I enjoyed so much camping and going to the beach every summer, now, it doesn't interest me anymore: the long drive, the traffic, the hot sand, the crowd, the work of preparation and taking the baggage, etc I feel it is not worth it. I love gardening, my daily routine, taking my naps, watching videos. I agree that entertaining is exhausting, yet I feel guilty of enjoying my solitude so much.
At 69 I still enjoy hiking, cycling, jungle trekking. Thank God I am 16 yrs younger than my actual age. Solo hike with my dogs. I love gardening too.
Yup, traveling is so overrated to me these days also(65). I love the little things... The highlight of my day today will probably be rearranging my sock and camisole drawers!!! 🤗😎
They look great, I did a wonderful job, lol!!! 😉🤗☺
Sometimes one needs to socialize, regardless of age 😊
I have good friends over at my little nest, a handful of times a year and it’s always fabulous. I visit them a handful of times a year and return home feeling rejuvenated. We laugh, enjoy a delicious but simple meal, decadent dessert, some play their guitar or my piano …. it’s always fun. The trick is, to not do it too often (familiarity breeds contempt), to do your best not to gossip, to be mindful of your manners (no matter how chill your hos/hostess is) and not to overstay your welcome. Unless it’s a wedding, my maximum stay is 3 hours. Build relationships steadily throughout your life. The keepers will be there to the end but, I’ve gained a few really good friends the last few 6 years after I turned 55. so I guess, it’s good not to be too closed.
Seeing old friends a maximum of twice a year is probably just right.
I am 66 years old and live in a 55+ community. I stay to myself even though I had thoughts of having a social life when I retired. I found so many of my neighbors to be mean spirited and full of gossip. I walk into the community room and everybody shuts up. People make up stories about who I am because I do not like to sit and chat with them. I do not like to talk about people. So either join the gossip "girls" or stay alone in my apartment. I am happy being alone but I do not like passing my neighbors when I go outside. I feel the negative vibes.
Da können wir uns die Hand reichen!
"Der Mensch an sich ist gut, aber die Leute sind ein Gesindel." (Nestroy)
Ich lebe mit 24 Nachbarn in einer Hausgemeinschaft, suche Gemeinsamkeiten und finde Verschiedenheiten.
Andere Gemeinschaften haben ähnliche Probleme und verschiedene Lösungsansätze. Es ist wichtig, im Austausch zu bleiben.
Manchmal finde ich außerhalb jemand oder etwas, mit dem ich innerhalb anders wahrgenommen werde.
Alte verknöchern und neigen zum Mobben - aus Unsicherheit und Enttäuschung. Sie brauchen viel mehr Zeit und Gelegenheiten als Jüngere, um Vertrauen zu schöpfen.
To Trish, a good excuse is to say you have some social anxiety. OR. Tell them you are trying to be a better person and avoid gossip. I avoid people who gossip. ❤. Greetings from Ireland 🇮🇪
In all these comments I am also growing 😂
@@user-uz8rr7fi1w TRISH I FEEL WHERE YOU ARE COMING FROM AND YOU DO NOT NEED TO GIVE THEM ANY REASON JUST BE STRONG AND GO ON WITH WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY!!!
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9... I am 76 and I have been living alone and without friends, nor family, way back since I can remember. Health wise I have some minor problems that I handle as much as I can. Food wise I do not cook at home, so I eat outside or bring things home. It is not a perfect regime, I know but as long as I can walk, it is the most important for me. I do not go out to often because I do not like to meet people. I do not exercise much too. Spend too much time with the computer, no socializing because I hate that. The best time I have during the day, is when I feed Cats and Pigeons, as I speak to them when they are eating. It is a true friendship. That I can tell according to the ways they act with me too. People tell me that I do not look my age, that I look a lot younger. It is a good thing to hear. One thing for sure I thank God for what I am right now. Thanks for your videos. I just discovered your videos. I will visit more often.
Never get lonely many movies an cooking your own food at home is very stimulating God bless you all
Never rely on relationships to be happy and fulfilled in life. They come and go or may turn sour even with one's own family. Better to be alone than socializing with toxic company.
Happiness is living with yourself and liking it. Relationships with the right people can then enhance this.
What a cold ice cold story. My friends are always welcome to visit me for a good talk and having a good laugh. If i would live my live like this story i will get depressed and very unhappy. I love my friends dearly ❤.
Living in solitude find myself with tranquility and inner peace ❤
Not all the time solitude
Yes that's true. In being active socially one tends to develop anxiety about not meeting other people's expectations. In turn this anxiety can lead to depression.
I'm live alone but not lonely. I absolutely love being by myself.ive never enjoyed being around lots of people.
Also a cat, give more love than most people ❤ 😺
True ❤😊
I have 2 meow they are good fun
Ugh!🧐
I think that a lot of older people are just ignored By others. It is very sad. Lots of single older people don't want to be alone. Certainly they don't want to be ignored by people who were once friends
One's welcome by friends wears out quickly. Get a dog or cat. It's forever loving and wont tire seeing you everyday.
Thank you for sharing!. That would be incredibly valuable to us. Wishing you a peaceful and happy life!
A dog will make
you live longer!
Cat's also
very good!
A cat seeks out only its own advantage.....
@@gerhardvanderpoll7378 my cat taps me with her paw when it wants to be stroked on the head. It is so endearing😄
Absolutely.
I am 84 and love art so I am in my world and it is beautiful with god help.
9 . Solitude is a great companion, not a problem.
If you prefer being socially isolated that is your problem, but not mine! If you are not sick or ashamed of your current personal situation be as sociable as you possibly want to & stop acting like a miserable loner 24/7.
@@bobjames6622Ekelhaft gemein. Schämen Sie sich, so mit Menschen umzugehen!
@@davesawyer5170Vorsicht mit Projektionen! Es gibt tatsächlich Leute, die isoliert WERDEN. Menschen können grausam sein.
Solitude or Lonelyness? Companion... There is something perverted.
@@davesawyer517013:50 don't criticize. We are all different and it's ok to love one's solitude.
I still work fulltime at 69.I enjoy being at home on my days off. Being alone gives my body and brain time to refresh.
God bless you🎉
I hate people visiting me. When people want to visit, I tell them, come and say hello to me at my favorite pub. That way, when I have had enough I just leave.
You sound very hateful and selfish, I would not want to be your friend in any kind of form. Toxic
Agree!!!
It costs money. Walkimg is better if one is able.
I don’t invite people over anymore. After an hour I’ve had enough but they want to stay for 3 or 4 and then I get cranky because I want to be alone.
I don’t want people in my circle unless they’re conservative Christians but without being uptight and religious, which is toxic. Otherwise it’s guaranteed there will be issues. If friends have opposing views either in politics or beliefs, I don’t consider them to be friends, so why waste time with them.
Family. Friends. Boundaries. Balance. All important in living a contented life. My personal view. Thank you for this video! 👍
I have lived a very eventful life and I am 68 now. I prioritize family and live with my wife, one of my daughters, and my grandson. I don’t have a very big social circle outside of my family. I need a few to several hours of alone time each day. I am far from lonely and love my life on the Big Island of Hawaii. It’s rural where we live and more affordable than the rest of the state. We have 6 dogs, three cats, two birds, and two fish tanks. Wild pigs cruise on our land along with wild chickens. Lots of fruit and spice trees.It’s not for everyone with no mail delivery, 1/10 mile of gravel road from here to pavement, and rain catchment water. It works for us. I have a woodworking shop. I hope to add horses to our menagerie.
You are so fortunate to attain serenity, peace and contentment which is the true measure of success in life. Less relationships in a rural setting is good for the soul.
Most young people from the rural areas who discover the more sophisticated city life change for the worse and never attain fulfillment.
Jeff your life sounds ideal. Absolutely perfect in my view. You and your family must be wonderful people! ❤
@@SG-uc5xm we try, we fail, keep trying
Sounds amazing!
Some of the instruction is beneficial, I do think that people need one another to be alone sometimes is good. However to live alone constantly is not. Humans are social creatures we were not meant to be isolated. ❤
Well, though social animals but some have replied "They want to be alone. "that means we learn another side of life may be what we didn't expect, then when we see it we know it's ok for that person not a problem.
Galatians 6;7... What you sew is what you will reap .. become kind to one another... plant seeds of goodness...it truly comes back in significant ways ❤.... Good health to you all...
That’s not true. I gave out to lonely and Special Needs folk all of my life. Now I’m housebound with no help or company. I feel very lonely but it wasn’t caused by sowing wrongly.
@@heatherthompson3670 Sometimes people just don't get the happiness you receive giving to others. You did what you could, when you could. That is called being a kind, sweet, loving human being and no one can take that away from you! I'm so sorry you have no assistance. I'm housebound most of the time. I just prayed for four months to attend my youngest's wedding a few states away. Pray to Jehovah, he heard my prayer, he will hear yours. The wedding was amazing. 👰🏼🤵🏻
@@heatherthompson3670 they deleted my lovely comment!
@@heatherthompson3670 pray to Jehovah
Pray to Jehovah
At age 75 I value my privacy to read, study and meditate.
Salute hands clapping bowing standing ovation your comments.
Absolutely.I too. I find it very refreshing and relaxing when I give myself that freedom than go talking and repeating myself who, what I was and am not.
Most people are after something, including your "friends", they are after one of the following from you; entertainment, sex, money, career advancement, political support, a relationship with one of your family members like your sister, or daughter. They are not trying to be your friend. When you are a landlord you see the reality. When I am at my job, a military contractor, other employees won't give me the time of day, they are very rude. When I am looking for a tenant, every one of them is super polite, the women are flirtatious, the guys are very respectful. It's blatantly obvious, people are very transparent in the right circumstances.
they do sound like a nasty lot, a bit silly of them to make it so obvious.
Yes! I have experienced all of these in San Juan, Batangas, Philippines. I retired in my childhood town and everyone seemed friendly until then old and new friends started borrowing money as if my money was free for all.
Bad luck came around and when I needed help those people that I had helped were nowhere to be found. After, a while, I recovered and I swear never to entertain old and new friends from that town. The people in that town were the most ungrateful deceitful people I have ever encountered in my whole life. That goes with the young and old people.
Lesson learned, do not go back to your old childhood town. Maybe, take a peak silently and get the hell out! Good luck with your retirement... And oh, that same goes with the family (siblings and cousins). When they find out you have a good retirement they will steal from you.
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I started earlier in life. I'm 65 now. I live off-the-grid on a 780 acres of wilderness, accessible only by dirtbike or by sea. I hunt, fish etc. Love it
Idyllic
Greetings from Australia. Would you like a penpal?
God may bless you 🎉
Each person’s needs and desires are unique to them.
There is no single rule of conduct that applies to everyone.
Age 50 is not old.
Even 60 is not”old” anymore.
I require and treasure my solitude.
I live alone and love it.
It’s a great luxury.
But I also have a need for human interaction at times.
And when I do, I seek out the companionship of folks I enjoy being with.
My thoughts, exactly.
Having been around Oriental people there is a vast difference between them and Americans. They respect and include their family members until death. We treat ours as a "disturbance" or boring garbage. We forget that if they had not taken care of us when we were young and further we would not be as functional in our lives. As for friends...most of them know you when they want something but find you a "disturbance" when you just want some friendship. BS to all of that kind.
And research has demonstrated that the Nuclear family is far from ideal, and not good for the child/children. It indeed takes a village to raise a child. Extended family are hugely mutually beneficial when they are growing up...and beyond. We've got our attitude to the elders of our communities all wrong.
Same in most European countries. How can you have healthy marriages in a culture when all other relationships are conditional???
Lots of Americans help take care of their families. I see this all the time.
You are never alone if you are a Christian. Jesus is the truest and most faithful, loving friend you can ever have.
Amen🙏
I glad you believe that Jesus is your friend if it prevents you from feeling lonely but if you were intelligent you would realize that God and an after life does not exist .All religions are man made and if you were intelligent you would realize this. Christianity is just one of the worlds six major religions- they cant all be right
@@davidboskett5581You’re wrong. Faith has nothing to do with intelligence. You think you know everything. You don’t.
@@margyrowlandYou are not alone as millions of the worlds inhabitants have since birth been told not to question the existence of what ever god they have been taught to believe in - but just have faith.But anyone who is highly intelligent will realize that faith is is just a concept designed to deter anyone from opening up their minds to the facts and learning the truth
@@davidboskett5581 You're obviously not glad that I believe in Jesus, or you'd not have bothered to write a response. And by jumping to the conclusion that I am not intelligent demonstrates some issues on your part that are too deep to address here. I pray for you to have the eyes of your heart and mind opened and for you to reevaluate the concepts of intelligence, tolerance and kindness in your life.
This all makes good sense. I'm only 62 but too much drama stresses me out. Since the pandemic, I've found people to be grumpier and more introverted. I'd rather stay home and watch movies or listen to music than deal with misunderstandings and friends who are easily offended. I give this video a 9! Thanks!
What Doctors recommend is social interactions for seniors live. Tai Chi, conversations, dancing, music. Third age clubs are a good support
@@paracasnazca1439 what if your going in position on all those practices is that they are “fluff” for people unable, intellectually to find pass ties more rewarding with maybe positive and tangible results , not for the sake of the results but for the process. Sitting, standing, lotus positioning and mindlessly talking about any and everything that pops into my head has never been greeted with much welcome so I doubt things have changed and I don’t really care. At. 76 the concrete is almost totally set up. If someone wants me to embark on a new venture it better have instant attraction or I ain’t signin on because some 45 year old doctor with no credentials to get inside the head of a 75 year old man is not yet gospel. I figure my gospel will come directly from Jesus if it comes at all, I can handle it and Jesus knows it and leaves me alone. Thanks man, you are the best!
Accusation brings misunderstandings. Insincerity brings misunderstandings. How about learning to communicate more and ask for clarification? Avoidance is not the solution.😊
Better to be alone than be with the wrong people.
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True. Life is a learning experience. Always something new to learn
I will chose to learn like I will live forever & live like I will die tomorrow!
My wife died at 55. I’m now 70. My son is in the army. I rarely hear from him. I don’t even know where he’s stationed. He has one son, 4 years old. I’ve only seen him twice. My daughter moved away. She has 2 children which I rarely see. I’m alone all the time. I have no siblings, and all of my family are long gone. It’s no way to live.
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You are right. It's unfortunate. It's not like the old days when families stayed close. Still ideally children should take care of their parents like their parents took care of them. I did that with my parents but my children won't be doing that for me. So many lonely older men out there. It hits harder for men. Still being free of all the socializing stress is also a good thing. Shame on your children for not staying in touch though.
Hue are you ? yes , you !!
Why is your self definition depends on others ?? At 70 + it shouldn't be !
Bless your heart. Maybe getting involved in an old hobby or a new one...maybe join something at the library...something you're interested in. You can meet new people that way.😊
Probably because they are married and their life is all about their family. That's sad that they have moved on and forgotten you.
I need solitude in retirement to reflect on my own life. Friends may interfer with my peace.
Thank you for sharing!. That would be incredibly valuable to us. Wishing you a peaceful and happy life!
Me, too! I've done that as well
Foolish you just stopped living and uses time to regret things you did wrong and things you wish you had done. Life starts after retirement nobody has any expectations from you, you are free to roam the world. You are waiting for the grim reaper to visit you, you are done living in the past.
Those friends who make you feel that your peace is being interfered, they are not the friends you love. Otherwise it would have been different feeling.
@@arnold3785Well that is your opinion not mine. I am 77 and enjoy being alone. I really don't want visitors quite happy living alone. I have no interest in travelling this world. So speak for yourself. As for the grim reaper that again is how you see him. I see him as one who will take me to a much better place than this sick evil work. 😅
It's different for everyone! Just because we get older doesn't mean we have to clam up like a hermit. Getting out is a real need especially if you're still self efficient. Even with no freinds it's still a relief for people to go to a mall at a cafe because you always end up talking to someone anyway. Who wants to be inside all the time?
Don't be silly. There will come a time when you will NEED friends. BE one.
Copy that
Agree 100% people here play pickleball%dance @ this age this and a good mental attitude priceless, I don't bodder my mind with things that don't service anymore. Be the frien you would like to have and smile. 😂
As long as they are the right people to be with. Relationships become toxic when one expects a partner, friend or other people to become their source of happiness.
But be chousee!!!
A true real friend is a gem…
I’m almost 70, and I have found that having people over is exhausting. Having to clean the house, buy food, drinks, etc. I’m usually worn out when the company comes over, so I don’t do it anymore except with our kids. I also find that other friends don’t have gatherings at their homes anymore, but instead we meet at a restaurant. Maybe they feel the same way…too much effort and when you’re older, you just don’t have the energy anymore.
In short, being an introvert also have a bright side and we can say it's far more better to be an introvert than extrovert when we reach our senior years.
You are better off alone with the Holy Spirit. With the Holy Spirit you can express yourself as you are without being misunderstood. I recently learned the hard way.
9 thank you! Love solitude because I've been a professional artist/designer and pianist/composer for over 50 years and we need solitude in order to create. My family is very creative, in the arts and love their solitude as well. Peace, love and namaste~♥
Love solitude at 73 and just discovered I am artistic. Been too busy surviving to relax and let it surface or let old, old negative reflections from others lead my path. When I can express me among others without cowering, I will seek companionship.
It's a wonderful reminder to cherish health, family, and a positive mindset!"
This doesn't hold for India where oldies are more social, family oriented because the country culturally has strong family ties and spend their quality time with their grand children. Theirs sons and daughters don't abandon them. Instead live with them. The strong spiritual orientation since childhood gives oldies greater opportunity to form groups and go on pilgrimage.
Yes, even in the Caribbean, I have noticed that Indians are like that, which is beautiful.
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I live in America. We americans love our family and help each other . We are family oriented.
@arun6291
Your Indian doctors that came to america...have been inappropriate with women here.
You left out the most important thing in our lives...A relationship with Jesus & daily reading the Bible & prayers. Without God in my life i would be dead.
"Make yourself at home."
"You are most welcome anytime."
"You can stay in my home."
Appreciate the gesture, don't take them literary.
Especially the last one is tempting. Stay in a hotel.
Thank you for sharing!. That would be incredibly valuable to us. Wishing you a peaceful and happy life!
I honestly stayed at in-laws house and the SIL was an absolute nightmare. She seemed jealous and bitter and wanted to make our lives miserable😅
Never again!! Just glad I do t have to work with someone like that.
Ok. So EVERYONE is fake. We are supposed to put on a fake face and realize invitations are also fake. We should rarely speak and stay home if you're old. Got it.
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So true,liars.I entertained so many turning out to be used
I'm 71 and happily living alone.
I've told Family and Friends if I want to see Them I'll let Them know.
I get all the social I need at Church. After we have coffee and nice chat then bye bye time to go home to my pups.
Now retired @ 68 am not quite there yet but leading up to this beautiful phase of my life.I live independently and happy and contently living a balance life.A great reminder.👍❤
Don`t visit friends either at all or not often, don`t socialise too much, sounds like a rotten life of being a recluse in old age.
I value so much being by my self...years ago when i was hospitalized how i hoped NOT to be visited yet , some came and it made me very uncomfortable how i hate the feeling
when I was in the hospital, I told family please don't come and I was happy they mostly honored my request. Of course, the strangers pushing their religious agendas were harder to shoo away. ugh.
I love visits, i get lonely, i haven't got a family, what are they trying to do cut us all off from each other, looking at your phone is of unhealthiest things you can do, i noticed a lot of people don't know how to engage with others anymore, i don't want to be alone day in and day out, thats why losing my young ragdoll has been so depressing, he bought such joy, but be pooed around building in front of people's front doors, there was nowhere for him to run around, how can you keep an animal between 4 walls day in and out!❤❤🎉
Do you like cats? They are wonderful friends for most people. Two Rescue cats keep each other company. Spayed or neutered of course. They are loving and fun to live with. Give it some consideration, please.
Yes, to your question. It is by design or humans to cut people off from each other with those phones,family dinners become strangers and strained. Young and old.
There is a recognised advantage in having a vibrant social life. Most people benefit tremendously from social interaction on a daily basis. It improves many aspects of our lives and yes we do need to be considerate of others personal need for peace and quiet which we should check before visiting.
This kind of give and take is what humans thrive on and in fact need to stay healthy and happy.
I think that is just sad. I grew up in a full house, full of life, full of people, full of laughter. I prefer to have full old age.
Not everyone has that experience. Enjoy your life without judging other people's experiences.
I came from a large family, and I really prefer my own space these days.
Didnt the people you grew up with change as you all grew older? If not you are so fortunate. Financial, health, marital, family and other issues cause once close ties to become distant.
To each its own ...
So did I but…my life turned out very different.. our lives took us major different directions… I always thought what you poured into your family relationships it was given back to you…😮mine was not the case…
❤JUST LOVE THESE THINGS...AM 73 YEARS OLD..AND KNOW ALL THESE THINGS..RESPECT FOR MYSELF AND FRENS..AND OTHERS..
I am not quite there yet but everyone is different as they reach later years and the biggest killer is isolation and loneliness. Just because something is on UT does not make it Gospel or Correct. I dress up and go out at least once a week. It might be slightly less in winter but life is to be enjoyed at any age.
Im 69 and quite happy in my retirement looking after my home and doing farming. We live in both our city house and farm house with my hubby who is in his 70s.
We don't visit people but go on vacation with friends from time to time.
We also go on Christmas vacation with our own children too from time to time. Sometimes just the two of us. When one keeps busy life is very fulfilling.
1. Visiting is a form of disturbance.
2. Frequent visits can cause trouble.
3. Different economic conditions can cause psychological imbalance.
Essential things that can make your life
- Health
- Family
- Financial stability
- Positive mental health
Thank you for sharing!. That would be incredibly valuable to us. Wishing you a peaceful and happy life!
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True to me.
Amen..
Thank you for asserting my conviction of enjoying my solitary life. I have realized that being in a family event celebrations leads to competition, jealousy, comparison, and ends up in conflicts.
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I have noticed that many people are very critical of others. But have a very thin skin when others are talking even when they're not talking about them. To think that everyone else is disrespecting them when all they seem to do is talk trash. I have distanced myself from most of my family and friends. There is to much drama nowadays. I believe that the Internet has made people lose their social skills. It's to late to go back to the time when people had peace in their lives. Computers have made us less human and more aggressive.
I’ve noticed this , too, but hadn’t put two and two together. It does make sense that technology has somehow eroded our social skills. A great many more people have become far more confrontative and ‘ in your face’ for little or no reason whatsoever 😮
That the purpose. By design for what’s to come.
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I am 71,still working .looking forward to see my customers every week. U have to have a balance Life .A little sex in old age is very good for your health. It's a good work out. Beat going to the gym.❤😂😂😂
I'm a 68 year old retiree. Let me tell you solitude is wonderful !!!
No wonder there is so much depression among the elderly in the United States .No man is an island.
So glad to see your comment! All my life I have disliked living alone…and don’t tell me to get a dog…I have 9 of them, 2 cats, ducks, chickens, horses and cows! I am lonely, sometimes feeling like a ghost and other times feeling like the only human exhibit in a zoo! My best friend died 6 months ago. Now the only phone calls I get are from telemarketers!
@@LM-qb6fuGet rid of those dogs. They are a one way ticket to poverty and ill health. Take the money you save and visit a church, senior center, homeless shelter or bring your neighbors flowers. Dogs are just work and cannot be left Alone. They will eat you when you die alone . Plus you can get some new clothes, new hairstyle and have money to take someone to dinner or for a treat. Don't let the rest of your life go to dogs. You have too many dogs for good mental health. God bless you in Jesus name. Amen
Got my depression relieved when i learned not to depend on relationships for fulfillment in life. They come and go. Friends will leave or pass on.
And besides hardly anybody likes a clingy friend. Find oneself first before being able to find others.
The loneliest people on earth are usually in a crowd.
@@LM-qb6fu yeah I get you. It’s a very hollow feeling. I have a handful of lovely friends and two nieces but nobody is there to say good morning. It’s lonely at night eating by ones self and watching tv or you tube for company. I dislike living alone also.
I choose my solitude but also miss my family. Gossip destroys family ties and friendships; mostly unintentional. I avoid gossip not people. Thanks for sharing. 🙏
These are very valid points, but they are not just helpful for the elderly. These issues are present in most adult lives.
Some of this is weird. To each his own. Different people have different likes. Some people like to cook & have friends over or have family over. I don't think we have to try so hard to not have interactions with other people.! I'm 75.
Having friends and family, in other cities, is good.
I like your content...I am a retired employee...I live with my children and husband..children are annoying sometimes, but I feel at peace when they are near us...we are born again Christians and attending the fellowships, live stream or face to face, this keeps us healthy and strong, in our old age.....Have peace, keep the LORD in your heart...GOD BLESS.
I always had trouble when I had one too many (most of the time I had too many drinks). My judgment goes bad while I think I feel friendly. The video has points that I have thought about but I did not know that others know this stuff also. Now I don’t feel that alone. I’m 65, still finding out things about life. Economic security helps also.
Interesting topic, personally I need at least one person around. I see it this way; if a person breaks the laws it’s put behind bars, if the person breaks the rules while in jail then it’s placed in solitary confinement. Hence it seems to me that being unable to socialize with at least one other person is the worse punishment, my 2 cents
I LIKED THAT PICTURE . PEOPLE PREACH DIFFERENT , BUT TRUTH IS SOLITUDE IS PEACE FOR ME .
Thank you for sharing!. That would be incredibly valuable to us. Wishing you a peaceful and happy life!
Thank you so much for sharing these valuable insights. For anyone watching this, especially those in their 70s or 80s, I truly hope this message reaches you in good health and spirit. May everyone listening be blessed with peace, wellness, and good fortune. As we age, understanding these life lessons becomes even more important. Wishing all of you a journey filled with love, purpose, and wisdom. 🙏✨
Lots of wisdom in this video!! There are so many events I could attend but choose not to. I like people but believe that familiarity breeds contempt. So I have been enjoying my solitude-every bit of it.
I only have a few good friends, and that's alright. My best friend died, and my close sister died also. They were at one time a lot of my social life. I'm a home body, but I do like getting out sometimes. My husband passed away seven years ago, and I still dream about him. I love Jesus. He helped me get through many tragedies. I just turned 74 and have aches and pains, but it's true that older people tend to isolate themselves, and I totally understand. When I want to be with a friend I cook dinner for them, I would rather stay home than go out. I pray blessings to all the seniors out there and live well until you're called home.🙏
I visited my elderly mother every day out of love and concern for her well-being. My brother told me that she said, "I interfere with her tv viewing, afternoon nap and only visit her because I've nowhere else to plonk my arse."!..... says it all really, dont you think?
@@TinaRossetti-ty6zy maybe she just needs more space x
@robynrobyn7070
Yes,I agree. But my intentions were good but she obviously was put out by them. ❤️
Oh dear - well it's the thought that counts.😮
I feel for you!!! What a cold thing for your mother to say. How did you turn out to have such a lovely side to you?
The cranky old thing! 😂
The last time I gave a party was in 1984 and the stress and the no fun time for me was enough to encourage me not to give party for bs-ing people about being sociable. My true nature is solitary my old age time is wonderful, free to cook what I want, to eat it when I want and to get a nap if I want are luxeries that have no price. Once a month I see friends at a restaurant and this is a plenty for them and for me.
If you have relatives that care about you I do not see anything negative about reaching out . Only selfish humans think negative
I used to be an outgoing person now that I’m in my mid 50s, I love staying at home, gardening, enjoying being alone . Peace and quiet. It’s great for my health. Love my life now.
I’m almost 75 male hermit who has had the good fortune to make it to this age without any known health issues. On the other hand I fail at all the other markers to happiness. I planned to work until death but five years ago I made a serious ethical mistake leading to four months in jail and losing my profession. Now barely getting by on government benefits with no purpose in life but to care for my animals. Hard to see a bright future keep thinking I just need one bullet. Too late in the game should have could have done better but failed.
My cousin went to jail for two months for an ethical issue. He was wealthy remarried to a young woman. I think money helps.
@@davidlaksa no question and I don’t have it.
Never to late or too old, call out to Jesus Christ and be saved.
@@ZenavitiPurcell-eh3zhJesus is lord 🙏
Caring for animals can not only provide purpose but also joy and satisfaction, no matter what your situation is. Don't compare or measure your situation against the standards of this clip. Live in the moment, don't loose sight of the positive things in your life. When I help an animal it gives me a sense of being part of something bigger than myself because the action is compassionate and selfless.
As I'm getting older(79) , I hate empty conversations, answering questions,putting on shows ect. Most of important peoples in my life is gone, so I basically learned to be alone. It will be nice to have a lady around now and then.
This is not correct. We visit old friends, with consent and interest.
Meeting occasionally at a restaurant..ok
It's ok to visit friends once in a while but be sure to leave before their welcome wears out😊
The people I offend no longer speak to me. The people that love me just as I am remain.
Take note: THERE IS A DISCLAIMER ahead of the actual video…..IT says: “ …….depends upon the SITUATION ….and SENSITVITY
of whoever you deal with…..Be sensitve with others feelings …….
@@edgardovillacorte7012yeah..you are right!! there are days when our biological clock….is OUT OF ORDER! Meaning….
It is not every day that WE are THE TRUE WE! Vist your friend(s) / relatives/ or neighbors ( on invitations) …..but “ LEAVE”
before THEY GET TIRED of your presence…You will notice it….don’t you? …Even how much THEY say…”oh ..stay it’s still early”
…Remember: They are kust being polite…..Read their minds….they really mean: “ Goodbye….please GO!!!”
being alone is not being lonely .
when you get older , family friends are important but money more important .
I understand the importance of keeping healthy and well balance to avoid being a burden to our families. However I'm not yet sure about the importance of family though. We should not expect much from them even at old age as they can have their own life to deal with
I agree with you. The discussion on family is a bit troublesome. Why would his children resent and ignore him? It seems immature and stupid. Furthermore, sometimes it is better to leave a marriage than live in misery. There is much more worth saying but I cannot expand on this platform.
My family member never sees me or talks to me in person (years), this person helps me a lot financially. Odd but welcomed.
I truly appreciate solitude, I love myself and find a blessed friend in Christ Jesus, peace perfect peace.
Selfishness, self-centredness, self-absorption, self-serving views.
The recipe for loneliness.
Yes. The message is you are so imperfect you should not speak much and stay home because you're old and useless. Also, it's too much trouble to entertain. I guess these people never enjoyed throwing parties.
The lonely are the ones who expect other people to be their source of happiness. Clingy people are shunned. Finding oneself first is the prerequisite to being able to find others.
Fill up your own cup first
Humans are too unpredictable.
That’s called a Liability.
No Positive Outcome can be successful with that around.
If you’re curious, you’re not going to be bored, especially in this new century.
Curiosity with companionship is healthy. What has gone so wrong that it is not valued as desireable.These comments echo a correct narrative we are being told to think. @@AngelleSL
This advice is counter to research done in this field.
Am 69 yrs of age and you are right frequent socializing at this age even to your relatives is not advisable.. i had experienced what you have discussed its a fact based on my experienced.. am from philippines..i like your channel.
This is so true. I’m 72 and live alone. Few close friends who are always welcome. Words can be missed repeated.😅I need a lot of quiet time. Enjoy my time.
WHEN YOU AGES.....THINK AND BE WITH JESUS❤❤❤
BECAUSE JESUS BRINGS YOU TO HEAVEN.....NOT YOUR PRECIOUS FRIENDS ❗️❗️❗️❗️❗️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I have been alone for 15 years when my wife died. I take care of my self to maintain good health. I enjoy it by doing my daily chores, keeping my self busy and doing research everyday to sharpen my mind. I'm now 77.
❤ you mean well, but reclusion has become a pandemic, and sometimes fun in life is even worth all the humiliations and troubles... wish others all the happiness even though I don't like the Gatherings myself 🎉😊