Ob/Gyn Reviews IUD Horror Story | Molly Burke
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- čas přidán 7. 09. 2019
- Ob/Gyn physician Mama Doctor Jones reviews Molly Burke's account of a bad experience with an IUD. In this video we answer questions about IUDs and cover some basic info about this form of birth control. Contraception is important, periods should NOT be taboo. BRAVO Molly, for sharing your story!
Molly's Video: • My IUD Horror Story (S...
You have no idea how happy it makes me that you're here to learn. Thank you. Thank you for being here. For being entertained. For supporting me. For being INFORMED. You rock. ILY.
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SCIENCE, SOURCES, & STUFF
LONG-ACTING REVERSIBLE CONTRACEPTIVE ACOG PUBLICATION: www.acog.org/-/media/Practice...
IUD RISKS/SIDE EFFECTS:
www.sciencedirect.com/science/...
IRREGULAR BLEEDING: www.fertstert.org/article/S001...
TREATMENT OF IRREGULAR BLEEDING WITH IUD www.ajog.org/article/S0002-937...
Guttmacher Abortion Data: www.guttmacher.org/article/20...
Clinical Challenges of LARC (ACOG PUB): www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/2...
PREGNANT W IUD, SYTEMATIC REVIEW: www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/2...
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Hey! I appreciate you doing this video, I learned a lot! As I mentioned in my video, I'm not a professional and was simply sharing my experience, which is exactly what my channel is all about - honestly sharing my life experiences. It was not my intension to scare anyone away from getting an IUD or away from female doctors. I will personally never get another IUD and feel more comfortable with male Gyno's, but as I said in the video, that's because we all have different life experiences that change our perspective/perception. I in no way meant to put female doctors down, but in my case I had 2 female doctors working with me at the time who both showed no compassion or support to me and then a male doctor did - this shaped how I feel because it deeply affected me emotionally. I'm happy that since posting my video many have shared their positive experiences, which I know is statistically the majority of those who get IUD's, otherwise they wouldn't keep inserting them. Many have also privately reached out sharing stories similar to mine, some much worse, and have found support through me sharing my experience, which I'm so happy about. I didn't look up horror stories or negative side-affects going into getting my IUD because I didn't want to convince myself I would experience those issues - it wasn't until I was searching for answers to my issues that I found those forums and realized I wasn't crazy, this was real, and I wasn't alone. Some may be put off by things I said but I'm human and I shared my authentic story, which was extremely vulnerable and scary to share, so I appreciate people being respectful of that and not being negative towards me or that fact atet I may not have known all the right terms or things to say. Again, thanks for making this video and being so kind and open, I hope others in the comments can do the same.
Molly Burke I'm sad you experienced this. I've always been super proud of the Canadian Healthcare system, and my main reaction was "no! That can't be!" But every profession is made up of humans and we all have a unique mix of good and bad qualities. It's sad when someone goes into a profession they are not suited for, or have lost their passion for. Just as a Canadian I hope people don't think our whole Healthcare system is like this. Sorry you went through this, I feel very lucky to have had the Nurse Practitioner I had.
Molly Burke I love you soo much, and admire your honesty! Thank you for sharing your story and spreading awareness about these “taboo” topics. Keep up the great work! You’re an amazing role model and truly an inspiration!! xoxo
My favorite part of this video was MDJ's horrified facial expressions when you'd talk about how your female doctors treated you. Like her doctor (and human woman) sirens were going off "nooooo GOD THEY DID NOT!" Thank you so much for sharing, love your content Molly ❤️
"two people treated me badly so i hate all people like them" mmm. yeah. not how the real world works. the male doctor i had treated me like shit while the women seemed to go above nd beyond. not dumb enough to hate all male physicians.
@@argentiagrace2809 She's not saying she hates all female doctors, she did make a generalizing statement that women doctors might think 'I deal with stuff like this too it's not a big issue.' Even though it was misguided and certainly not the case, and she was understandably frustrated. No need to say she was dumb. She put her story out there and even was open to corrections, that's awesome.
It's amazing how far women would go for contraception and then some men are like "ohhh man, I don't like condoms".
That's cause they don't have to deal with the symptoms and pain we do.
linda dig I seriously got my tubes removed because my husband didn’t want to wear condoms😂
This is a fact though. It's not a stereotype :/
We have a lot of contraception methods for women and very little for men, this is not random. I know for sure that there are many men that would make bigger sacrifices, but at the moment, it is still not the reality.
Your position is correct and clear, but still it doesn't contradict my argument.
At the moment, science is focusing on women contraception and very little on men contraception (besides condoms). I see very few men complaining (even though they exist).
It’s more common than not that men say they cannot or WILL NOT wear a condom because then they can’t feel anything. It’s not a stereotype or sexist or anecdotal. It’s been proven. It’s gotten better over time but it’s still the norm. Meanwhile we have many different forms of contraception for women with uncomfortable and dangerous side effects, some of which are a total loss of libido and inability to achieve organism (so the same issue as men only with bloating, mood swings, hot flashes, constant spotting/bleeding, and possible serious health risks). It’s infuriating talking to women who make themselves uncomfortable or put themselves in harms way JUST to have sex while their significant others could simply use a condom and refuse to (I know MANY). It even more infuriating when women who don’t want to use contraception feel they have to avoid their husbands altogether because they don’t like to pull out (admittedly, those are rare cases but the fact those women have to abstain because their husbands want what they want regardless of the risk it poses to their spouses is borderline abuse). This isn’t sexist, it’s the world/culture we live in and if you find us offense, as do I, work to change it rather than yelling “sexist!” in the comments of a CZcams video.
The last time I went in to get my IUD replaced the woman who was getting hers replaced right before me was in the next room over and she was screaming for them to stop. I could hear the doctor say to her “No, you don’t actually want us to stop, because it will just take longer when you already would be on your way home right now if you would have let us do it.” This woman went from sobbing to completely complacent and silent. SHE WAS SHAMED INTO A TRAUMA RESPONSE BY HER DOCTOR. Then he said, “Most women are in and out in 2 minutes” to which one of the nurses said “to be fair, she has not had any children.” He didn’t acknowledge this comment and instead said “Come on now. You can handle it. It is just 3 cramps.” (I 100% believe in my soul that should roles reverse and men be the ones forced to endure things like this, they would be given heating pads, ibuprofen, laughing gas, and local anesthesia, every time, regardless of how many or few kids they birthed). I heard that women whimpering as they forced her to do the procedure she told them she didn’t want them to perform anymore.
By the time the nurse came into my side of the suite to grab me for MY TURN, I was in a complete PTSD meltdown. I was shaking and crying and couldn’t formulate words and couldn’t look at the doctor when he came in to introduce himself. I finally told them you could hear literally everything that happened to the woman before me and the doctor made a giant exaggerated SIGH and said “And, in a couple of minutes you are going to see that very same woman walk herself out of the office completely fine.” I looked at the nurse and said I needed help. I didn’t really know what I meant exactly but that was all I could articulate in the moment. She said something to the doctor and a couple of minutes later she and I were alone in the room sitting silently while she patiently waited for me to feel comfortable/safe enough to talk to her. I said I couldn’t have that doctor. She started to say he was the only doctor signed up for the procedure room for the day but she cut herself off mid explanation and excused herself from the room. A PTSD eternity later, and she came back in with a female doctor and explained that she had an idea she wanted to run by me. She said she was actually a doctor finishing up her residency or something like that and asked if I would be comfortable if she did the procedure? She added that the woman she brought in would be there to help her if she needed any assistance. That is when I noticed the other woman was holding a plastic tray with some items in them. The doctor explained to me the second part of her idea was to use a topical numbing spray they use in the dentistry clinic to numb the skin of my cervix. And when I was ready she would then use a little bit of local anesthesia with a needle and make sure my cervix was completely numbed up before they tried to take the IUD out. And that’s exactly what happened that day.
I just hope to whatever deity is out there that when I need to get my next one replaced in 2022 that I will get a doctor who is willing to help me like that lady was that day!
…I still have nightmares where I hear that poor woman begging and screaming…
Side note: That is also how I learned that anesthesia can make your heart race temporarily and make you feel like you are having some anxiety
That doctor sexually assaulted that woman. She said stop, he didn't, she was screaming, he told her she didn't actually want him to stop. It's literal sexual assault. I feel absolutely horrible for that woman and for you for having your PTSD triggered and that he tried to assault you as well. It's no wonder you were so frightened. I'm so glad you were able to verbalize your need for assistance to the nurse. This is the exact type of thing I'm afraid of when I go to the obgyn. There are way too many stories of them not stopping and I have severe PTSD that makes me go non-verbal when triggered. My doctor is luckily very kind and makes sure I'm comfortable, but my first one was not at all like her.
Hey, I just want you to know that taking out the IUD is soooo much less pain than having it inserted. Literally, not even a pinch- a similar discomfort to the speculum just at your cervix- a small bit of a weird pressure and then it's out.
If you ever go to get it taken out without having it replaced, it is 100% not the same procedure at all. ❤
@@foozlegamer1025 I completely agree. I really hope he was reported for that, at least for unacceptable conduct.
I am so sorry that this happened to you and that other woman too 💜
There are some pretty great resources for working toward healing when you feel like you would like to start that journey. Not everyone can afford a therapist/counselor, but finding the right professional to talk to would make all the difference in the world (and also there’s good ones and bad ones too, so keep trying, if you can, to find a good one that you feel safe with). If that’s not something that’s an option, there are a lot of self-directed resources out there too, and those could be a good place to start if you don’t have access to a good therapist.
I promise I didn’t intend for that to be a long thing. I just want to say that the experience you described was very traumatic. I’m no stranger to trauma myself, so when I see something like your story I just feel like I want to share what has helped me and also acknowledge that at certain points of my experiences I was not ready to start healing yet. So wherever you are with that, it’s 100% okay.
Much love, many healing vibes headed your way 💜
@@foozlegamer1025 what a stupid fucking comment. I had my IUD put in by a female doctor. I screamed immediately when she clamped my cervix and just started cussing, saying anything, saying stop, she reassured me it would be over shortly and she kept on with the procedure. It was over in 2 minutes. Did she sexually assault me, you absolute snowflake?
I tried to get an IUD placed when I was 18 and basically completely ignorant of my own organs, and had never had anything in my vagina before, let alone any cervix dilation. I was unable to relax my muscles at all so the doctor couldn't even get her fingers in properly, and I was crying from the pain. She stopped, because obviously an insertion was not happening that day, and asked me why I was trying to get an IUD at all, and talked me in to trying other birth control options (which have worked very well). She was super kind and understanding, I was crying from shame but she reassured me that IUD's aren't for everyone, and that's okay!! I hope all my future OBGYNs are so empathetic and kind.
fun fact you dilate less than a cm on your period.
If your doctor tells you "side effects don't exist" get a different doctor...
Getting a different doctor in Canada isn't as easy as you would think.
@@KarasMagicalLife have you had a problem with getting a new doctor? I'm Canadian and all I have to do is bring my info to another doctor's office with the name of my current doctor and wait a few days
As a nursing student, it’s funny when her doctor said that side effects don’t exist however, Molly was experiencing diarrhea which was one of the side effects lol
"doctor" 😒
No doctor would say that.
It was really amazing how Dr Jones corrected Molly and disagreed in certain aspects but still made it clear that she respected her and didnt take anything away from Molly's experience
*Professionalism 👏👏
Right. I wish more Doctors were like MDJ. I’m had terrible experience with so many bad doctors. I wish I could have a doctor in each feel I need like MDJ.
The claws on the IUD thing was kind of funny though.
I have four friends that have IUDs put in. Three of them, love theirs would never give them up, the fourth one had the same exact story as Molly the whole way through. The crappy doctors, the pelvic infection and having to get it removed at the emergency room. Also getting yelled at by her primary doctor afterwards.
I loved the 1st one I had. Hated the 2nd one. I've got a narrow cervix, and instead of giving me a dilating pill for insertion for #2, she used dilating rods. I ended up getting it removed 3 months later because it moved due to the rods messing up my cervix, and it started coming out.
I'm curious do you know happen to know which of each had e.g. mirena (hormonal) or copper (non hormonal)? I've had both and my copper IUD experience was hellish whereas i swear by my Mirena
Copper
I was fine with my first mirena iud but the second one, which I was basically coerced to keep in, I bled for a YEAR. It wasn’t heavy every day, but it was still every day. My dr didn’t believe me. Finally at my yearly, I said remove it, I’m done. So, when it was removed, it was covered in blood. No one was able to tell me why. But I felt so much better once it was out.
@@felixhenson9926After I had two children, I had a copper one put in, the insertion was so incredibly painful I was terrified to have it removed. It was supposed to be good for 10 years. I left it in there for 16 yrs because I was so afraid. I finally had it removed because I was afraid after so much time it would be embedded, but it wasn't painful. It worked like a charm for 16 years though.
I had my IUD put in last week. The doc thought I was going to pass out, and they only told me to take 2 Advil about an hour before the appointment. It was awful. I was literally screaming, I was shaking and sweating. I honestly feel somewhat traumatized from it. I want to cry just thinking of the pain.
I had a D&C last month and no one advised me how sore I would be afterwards (outside). Found out later there are OTC ointments with benzocaine that I could have used. Female OB-GYN. Looking for a new one.
Any GYN worth their salt will advise you about pain control methods. It's no big deal for some women and a very big deal for others. I've had three IUDs and each experience was different. The first was the worst. I bled heavily for over a week and was in so much pain that I cried after the procedure was done in the exam room. I also had to call a friend to drive me home.
The 3rd one wasn't a piece of cake either. My cervix didn't want to open and yes, that's about uncomfortable as it sounds.... trying to pry it open... 🤢 😖 Those two insertions were done by male general practitioners though, not a gynecologist. So, I assume they had less training and experience in that realm.
The 2nd insertion though was done by a female gynecologist and it was so much easier. I had a friend take me to that appointment because I was afraid I might not be able to drive myself home afterward. But, that one went so much more smoothly.... I would have been fine driving myself home afterward.
Subsequently, I was okay to drive myself home from the 3rd one, despite it being painful and difficult. That time didn't make me bleed afterward like the 1st time though. I think the 1st doc must have been really inexperienced, looking back.
My next IUD insertion (probably my last, as I'm 44 now) will definitely be with a gynecologist who I've pre-screened for compassion, sensitivity, experience with difficult IUD insertions (which seems to be a sub-specialty), and who offers pain control options. I hope that anyone else who reads this and is considering one will be able to do the same.
I will say though that unlike Molly, my experience with the Mirena IUD has been all positive, except for the difficult insertion process.... which for me has more to do with my own biology and my cervix being resistant to open.
For reference, I've had one pregnancy/birth nearly twenty years ago, have not had any cycles with Mirena, and had irregular cycles without the Mirena and when I had my 2nd IUD - a non-hormonal copper IUD - which didn't work well for me due to the expected side effects, which included heavier cramping for me.
Naturally, individual mileage will vary. But, I've been a big fan of no longer having to deal with menstrual bleeding and menstrual cramps with the Mirena. -- I mean, the bleeding isn't a huge issue for me, esp with a diva cup. But, I do appreciate the convenience of not worrying about it when I travel, hike, or go on long camping trips.
I also *really really* appreciate no longer having cramps and all the other menstrual symptoms. It's been a huge blessing for me personally and has made even the most difficult insertion worth it for me.
Honestly, I'll be replacing this one when it's time just for the freedom from cramps, regardless of whether or not I need it for contraception purposes.
It's called a vasovagal response from your cervix being messed with, TBH is very common when you're mucking around with a woman cervix for her to have that reaction.
I had the same reaction to my first IUD being put in, I didn't know I had that extreme reaction because the IUD was put in incorrectly but later on during my Midwifery apprenticeship, I found out through experience that mucking about with a woman's cervix can cause a vasovagal reaction!
Moral of the story: If your physician isn‘t compassionate and professional, change to someone else. I did that with my dentist. My body, my choice.
I wish I changed dentists, now I have lifelong trauma ✨😎✨
Yep!!!!
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Same story here except it was a psychiatrist.
I did that with an ObGyn. One of the quickest decisions of my life (I always tend to need a long time to process a decision, but I politely ran away from that ObGyn XD)
Doctor: side effects are fake
Me: well my pharmacology degree is USELESS
lolz. i sincerely hope that doc reads this
Lol if it helps whenever I have a question specifically about a medication reaction or side effect I call my pharmacy first because that’s the whole jam
cricketreads I’m studying to become q doctor and one of the first things they teach you is every single drug has adverse effects and it all depends on the dosage. If someone tells you the don’t.... SHUT THEM UP
cricketreads LOL my nursing degree too 😉
Lmao I love this
I agree with Mama Doctor Jones on this. The quality of an OB/GYN has nothing to do with their gender. I personally have had several, of all shapes, sizes and genders and they’ve all been wonderful
You are fortunate, but I think she may feel nervous and traumatized a bit and felt vulnerable in this process. I am grateful for videos.
Glad that has been your experience, but mine has been different.
Not all female OBGYNs have been condescending or harsh, but I have had some that have been in the way Molly described... the "I've been there, done that: it's not that bad," tone that a male OBGYN literally can't take because he has not experienced anything similar.
Yep I have had 2 obgyns, both women, one was absolutely wonderful and one was not.
@@16tangerines yes but a male doctor who can’t experience what you do can also contribute to them not empathizing
@@16tangerines I've experienced a female nurse shaming me for having symptoms that later required antibiotics because no, they didn't just 'go away on their own.' Granted I probably shouldn't have gone to the hospital but to a walk-in clinic since we probably waited longer in the hospital than we would have in the clinic while my symptoms temporarily subsided. But I was also 12 or something and yes, I looked older for my age but I was a child and to be completely dismissed even as a young girl was shocking to me. And now having volunteered in hospitals and worked in the medical field I completely understand that the nurse was probably extremely overworked and I was nothing compared to what she had seen that day but it still sticks with me that no matter how small your case might seem you need to advocate for yourself and medical professionals need to treat every individual case with compassion.
My primary doctor, OBGYN, and I are discussing specifically the Mirena IUD to help treat my heavy periods. He was honest and literally described the procedure feeling like a labor contraction. A mom of three, it gave me a point of reference. He also recommended scheduling the procedure towards the end of a menstrual cycle where I'm still bleeding a bit because the cervix is softer. This OBGYN is my primary care doctors doctor and has proven to be amazing.
But bleeding is not the end of a menstrual cycle
@@cindygrey2828 perhaps she's referring to light flow, when ur period is almost over.
I really appreciate how you explain what Molly says without "attacking" her or discrediting her story either. Your content is chock-full of facts and sympathy, and it is delightful to watch. Thank you for yet again another great video!
@ForgottenOnes um that's really rude she's not a clout chaser.
@ForgottenOnes Molly started out as a motivational speaker and now her passion is for CZcams. CZcams is a place full of people earning subscribers just by showing their personality and making viewers feel kind of like... friends. Maybe some of her videos focus more on that aspect now, because she can't make the same 10 videos like "what not to say to a blind person" over and over. It's okay to not like the way someone's content has changed. You don't have to be a dick about it. She's more than just her blindness. She can have videos that aren't JUST about being blind.
@ForgottenOnes Wtf does "nothing to do w anything" even mean?
@ForgottenOnes So because not all of her videos are related to something you suffer with, that she has made videos on in the past, she's 'gone off the deep end'? Come on.
Fun fact: When people become more comfortable with being themselves in front of people they don't know, it can seem like their personality has changed. That doesn't mean it has, just that they feel better about being themselves, openly.
It honestly seems like your problem is that she doesn't fit into the box you think she should. If she did only continue to do videos about the same thing, not only would her channel not grow and reach many more people, the information she has already provided about those issues wouldn't be circulated as much as it is.
Her videos on her eye diseases don't just reach thousands of people anymore, they reach millions.
That is a win for the blind and deaf community as it helps normalise disabilities to hopefully, eventually make it so we're all on the same playing field.
I, as a sightie, would never have changed that stereotypical view without Molly. I've learned so much from her, but I also love all of her other videos. It also helps destroy those stereotypes and makes people see that someone who is blind or deaf is no different to me, they're just blind or deaf.
You're entitled to not like her videos, but that doesn't mean that because you don't agree with the videos she's putting out that she's 'clout hungry' or whatever the hell you said.
@ForgottenOnes you really don't know what an E-girl is. You were unnecessarily rude for her not living up to your expectations. And she definitely continues to educate on eye issues, but she's branching out and that doesn't make her an "e girl" or "clout chaser".if you no longer like her content that's fine, but that doesn't mean you should be rude.
Doctors like Mollys who don't believe in side effects and scream at you for going to the ER should have their licence revoked!!
@LoveofVelvet No matter really. If it's one person who doesn't believe in side effects & screams at patients, they should be removed from practice. If it's two people, one of whom doesn't believe in side effects of medicines and procedures they're prescribing and/or performing and the other one screams at a patient for any bloody reason*, BOTH should be removed from further practising medicine.
*Acceptable reasons to scream at your patient start somewhere around them telling you they've hurt your loved ones or are planning a terrorist attack. Them reporting their ER visit to you is very much not that.
I had a GP who told me the dangerous mental side effects I was having from Topamax weren't "real" side effects and it was a CYA by the manufacturer. He basically gaslighted me into thinking I was going insane for a year.
Annie Fleming Or doctors that don’t tell you about things (for instance the fact that you have pain during the iud procedure) until you are naked in the stirrups.
Agreed!!
@@xfortunesquex What were your dangerous mental side effects? I just ask because I used to be on Topamax. I'm sorry he gaslighted you.
I also had a really terrible experience with an attempted IUD insertion that was horrible largely because of the way that my physician was handled things. I felt so small and stupid and dramatic and not listened to at the time (I was 17), and it is really validating to hear you reinforce the idea that women deserve to be respected and listened to as patients. My OBGYN, I later learned, did not believe me when I told her that I was a virgin with absolutely zero sexual experience (I had also never had a pap smear or pelvic exam) during consultation (so she was a lot less gentle with me), didn't give me any information about what to expect after the insertion, got angry at me when I started screaming and crying during the procedure and asked her to stop, and then told me to hurry up and make a decision because she had another appointment in 10 minutes. I was also told by the person who came with me that I needed to "grow up and get over it" because "we are women and this is just what we have to deal with." My sister-in-law just got an IUD, and I was blown away by how gentle, patient, her physician was and how much information she was given ahead of time. The knowledge that my experience was not okay and not normal actually made me feel a lot better about trying again with a different physician. I am 22 now, and I am going to try again. I am still very very nervous, but I have a better sense of how to advocate for myself, and I'm really grateful for channels like this that help educate and empower female patients to find providers who are worthy of them.
if i could i'd recommend the mirena coil over the copper one :)
I just had an IUD inserted and I had a similar process to your SIL. Other than the minor pain of the numbing injection, it was painless (they even removed a polyp at the same time!) My best advice is to find a doctor that will thoroughly explain whats, whys and hows and to 100% advocate for numbing your cervix. If they refuse, find someone else.
Ohhhhh I hate that when they don't believe you are a virgin. I didn't lose mine until I was 20, no one believed me either. Don't people realize it's actually not uncommon to even be a virgin in your 30's, 40's? In fact, people do it by choice. Asexuality is a real thing and it is on a spectrum. Some people shut down, by nature, when another person is involved-- some asexual people only masturbate, some don't like sex at all. Yet people find it so incredibly hard to believe for some reason.
People are shocked at the idea of asexuality as well as being a virgin after the age of 14, but you know what else is shocking? The amount of nasty women OBGYN who are in this field of medicine. I kid you not, every single female OBGYN has been so nasty and careless.... this was my experience in New Jersey which is a pretty progressive state so idk, I think that is more shocking to me than the amount of virgins there are. This world is so backwards.
@@glassheartsx Hi, commenter above you, also 30 y/o asexual virgin who got an IUD for health reasons. 🙋
I’m so,so sorry you were treated that way.
I’ve never had a female gyno and I can tell you there are equally bad male Gyno’s as females. I do have a female urogynecologist and she is amazing and wonderful. She has to stick a catheter in me every 6 weeks to treat my interstitial cystitis and she is super gentle and always goes slow with me, even though I’ve been getting these treatments for years. She is also very reassuring and constantly tells me, throughout, how good I’m doing and how impressed she is with my strength.
I remember when I got my IUD put in. It was so painful, I got tunnel vision, and nearly blacked out until the OB/GYN reminded me to breath. lol I was talking with a group of female friends who all also had IUDs. None of theirs were as painful. They started to make fun of girls who complain about it being so painful! Saying they are just weak, or have low pain tolerance. I had to butt in and tell them, that can't be the case, because my pain tolerance is very high. I accidentally got my finger cut off and made the person driving me to the hospital stop at Taco Bell on the way because I was hungry. I fell off a horse I was training once, and went jet skiing the next day. Come to find out I had fractured two vertebra when I fell off that horse... I went jet skiing WITH A BROKEN BACK. (It was a blast, but painful and dangerous, had I known I broke my back I wouldn't have gone) IUDs insertions are different case to case and body to body. Don't let anyone tell you, your pain is because you're weak!
I broke my back too by falling off a horse! I couldn't have gone skiing the next day so yes clearly you do have a high pain tolerance
that taco bell one is a whole mood tbh
My insertion process was also VERY painful! I too almost passed out and they had to remind me to breathe! It took way longer than I was told it would. And others I talked to did not think it was that painful, but mine was!!
I had to be put under general anaesthetic and take the labour-inducing pill because I couldn't dilate and the pain from using a speculum to force my cervix open was unbearable.
I don't regret my decision to get an IUD and honestly the insertion was the only bad part of my experience. But I can understand why people would hate it.
Honestly, my insertion wasn't that bad per se but I'm not going to lie that it was painful af. I remember being afraid of touching myself down there for a while because I was traumatized lol I even begged my bf to "make it stop" at one point because the cramps were so brutal
Emotional maturity should be a requirement for health care professionals.
And anti-psychopatic screening. A year ago or so, there was a story in the press in my country about a doctor who sexually harrassed female *oncological* patients and raped a number of them. I feel sick just thinking about this. He enjoyed abusing most vulnerable people.
And empathy.
@@ljcl1859 Add a huge dose of compassion.
Canada is too desperate for doctors, they've lowered their requirements a lot. You don't even need great grades to get into med school anymore.
@@MsMaggyW That is scary. right up there with going to the ER in an ambo and not being about to understand what the ER personnel are saying to you because they do not speak clear and concise English. I detest the fact the so many hospitals do not staff their ER and Urgent Care with hospital staffed nurses, clinicians, doctors, PA's etc. Rather they contract with some medical staffing group (business) and there fore the staff is not directly answerable to the hospital, rather they answer to the medical staffing service. Shit, the last time I was in the ER (for a kidney stone that wouldn't pass), I was told that the staffing service set protocol, not the hospital. I was so happy when I saw my doctor walk through the door and when he took over my care.
Almost all of these problems were the doctors not telling Molly things she needed to beforehand and could have been easily avoided. That's so terrible I hope she has a much better experience soon
From my own experience I wish my doctor had given me a warning to the possible amount of pain since she knew I was a sexual assault victim, I know that pain is normal but I wouldn’t go through the putting in or taking out for all the money in the world. It can be wonderful for many women but hearing Molly’s horror story made me feel way less alone
My boyfriend once said “when you were on your.. uh... time” I just laughed and said “baby you can say period it’s not a bad word” and pretty much ever since I showed him how calmly and easily we can talk about that stuff he watches your channel with me all the time he finds it all so interesting
(He’s also voiced he wants to have a daughter one day “because he never got to have a sister” and “wants her to feel comfortable going to him” and I- 🥺)
Sis he's a keeper. I'm so happy for U.❤👋🏻
Yup! Put a ring on it girl!
HE'S SUCH A KEEPER OH MYGODDDD, THAT IS SOOOO CUTE. IM SO HAPPY FOR YOU AND I HOPE YOU GET A DAUGHTER OR AT LEAST A VERY HEALTHY BABY.
Open minds are a beautiful thing. Agree with the other comments!
That's so beautiful 💜
My IUD sitting inside my uterus:
Are you talking about me 👁👄👁
After I got my IUD, I was resting and watching some videos on youtube. I got to a bunch of videos on the politics around reproductive rights and the scotus and my cramping got so much worse. Nice to know my IUD is also politically active. :P
(I know this was most likely because I was stressing myself with these videos and raised blood pressure can worsen side effects but I like my first explanation.)
Can't help but think of shrek "ArE yOu TaLkInG tO mE?!?!" Lol
i thought you were me omg
@@kerm2835 omg 😂😂😂😂😂 same humar i guess
Same🤦🏻♀️🤣. Just got one two weeks ago .
I wish I had YOU as a doctor! You seem so invested in your patients' well-being...which is so awesome. 🥺🥰
I am also a Canadian women who had IUD complications. My experience was very similar to Mollys, including the lack of consultation and discussion of side effects. I feel like our system is so overburdened there’s just not time for docs to slow down and do things properly. Like Molly, my doctor also initially refused to remove my IUD, even though I was in agony and had been for weeks. Because it was inserted by my GP they had to accept my appointment and I MADE them take it out. It took me another 3 years to see a gynaecologist so I could talk about other birth control options (I was also discouraged from hormonal contraception). A lot of people have posted that Molly could have switched docs sooner if she wasn’t getting the care she deserved. That’s not always the case here, wait lists are long and if you “refuse” care from one specialist you go to the bottom of the triage wait list and the list is years long. Don’t get me wrong, I’m grateful to be able to go to hospital and not worry about the cost.……but we can and should do better.
Bottom of the triage list, and apparently also the doctor who you didn't like can put a note on your file that you seem to have a personality disorder, and other doctors shouldn't listen to you. Politicians have cut funding so many times, we can't even remember what's missing. No, private pay is not the answer. Less corruption is the answer.
American republicans sear up and down that we can't have universal healthcare because you have to wait a lifetime to be seen . I'd rather that than pay for what I'll never be able to afford . But on the other hand waiting a lifetime isn't good . Listen to me talk I'm in menopause . Thank God ! Sorry folks .
I wish everyone could see this comment. I'm frankly amazed by the doctors in our healthcare system in Canada that do manage to keep their humanity when they're trying to turn over patients so quickly.
I feel like my experience over in Britain where we also have an overstretched NHS i've still generally had at the v least acceptable experiences
@Michelle-yw1lv
When Obamacare was passed my healthcare costs went up 400%-I cried.
Now I want to see Molly Burke reacting to Mama Doctor Jones reacting to Molly Burke.
Aunt Deen & then after Molly Burke reacts to MDJ reacting to Molly Burke we need MDJ to react to Molly Burke reacting to MDJ reacting to Molly Burke.
Carole M - The possibilities are ENDLESS.
Way to much drama
Yes!
Should be short: Molly Burke: "I liked that" :)
When my husband and I first moved in together I asked him to get me some tampons. He looked at me like I asked him to kill our first born. Lmao. I looked him dead in the eye and said don’t worry no one thinks you’re on your period. He never gave me that look again and now gets them when ever I ask. After 25 years together we can laugh hard about it now!
As a guy, I can confirm. The tampon aisle is as daunting for us as the auto parts store is for most girls. You have no idea what you are looking at, what you need, and which type to get. If you don't have the empty box from last time, it's gonna be a lot of phone calls lmao.
Pohaku Mayo don’t worry, most girls don’t know either lol
@@Tetra392 Girls Who buy Tampons for other Girls need the same detailed instructions as Guys would need. We are Not born with the knowledge of all Girls menstrual needs. As well as Guys need some specifics before they can get something for their friend from the car parts aisle.
My husband has a Sister and therefore knew he had to ask my size, blood flow and personal preferences First than rot me the Supply i needed.
I've been so incredibly lucky with this, and *mostly* been with people who have no issues with that, my current partner offers to get them without me asking. But I did have one partner years ago who wouldn't go anywhere near "the women only aisle" (his words) and literally waited outside while I bought tampons, like didn't even want to be seen in the store with someone buying them. 🤦🏻♀️🙄
@@meinennamensagichnet Exactly. I mean, definitely don't use the same products as my best friend lol.
I also had bad experiences with female OB/GYN's (being unsympathetic this pain is no big deal etc.,) and positive experiences with the male ones. You did make me think about something...that because there are more females ob/gyn's you are more likely to run into a bad one that is female. I never thought of that but that makes sense actually. I guess I had my own unfair bias as I am just expecting a female ob/gyn to be more sympathetic and it just seems worse somehow when they aren't.
The worst part of getting my IUD placed - and I hope this helps someone - was the expectation of pain. The actual placement was what I would describe as a “pinchy” sort of discomfort. The procedure is fast, about 5 minutes. I’m really happy with mine 3 years later but it took me 2 years and an unexpected baby to gather my courage.
Yep! I got one ten years ago, and I do not regret it in the slightest. It was uncomfortable to insert, but, like you said, that lasted about five minutes. I cramped on and off the next couple of days, and I had very heavy periods the first year. (I got paragard which is the copper one. It can cause heavy periods, but it is hormone free and that's what I wanted.)
After that first year though, my periods lightened up tremendously!
I spent a 25$ co-pay once at the age of 18 for 12 years of nonhormonal birth control which has caused zero issues. 10/10 Would do again.
However, everyone is different! I'm not saying other people would have the same experience. Talk to your doctors (and significant others if that's relevant) folks! Take care of yourself and do what is right for you!
This was my experience as well. Nothing but sympathy for everyone who has a story like Molly though.
I had three iuds with no problem, just a brief pinch. But now the last one I had hurt like hell for over 3 hours after. I was laying on the table for an hour in pain and couldn't even sit up because I was so nauseous and dizzy. I finally managed to crawl home and took max amount of pain meds the rest of the day. I'm still paranoid something went wrong since I have weird spotting every once in a while.
Would you consider making a video about Endometriosis?
Yes please!!! I had 2 surgeries, one for the endo and one for the adhesions and scar tissue from the first surgery! There's a staggering amount of misconceptions about this condition. My specialist was one of only three doctors in my state at the time who actually performed the surgical procedure properly (excision rather than just burning away the surface tissue). For anyone looking for a ton of info, check out Nancy's Nook on Facebook. So much information.
Yes!! As well as adenomyosis, pelvic floor dysfunction, IC, and all other conditions related!!
YESS!! I have stage 4, had a hysterectomy at 25, had my gallbladder fail because of it, and also had to have an ovary removed almost 2 years after my hysterectomy because my endo was so bad still. I'm now on disability because of it.
Yes please! @MamaDoctorJones it would be greatly appreciated. It’s almost as if I am a different person for half of the month (week before and week during my period) as I’m in so much pain I want to die. I wish others understood. I’ve had 2 laps done and am almost due for another. My husband and I both have infertility (Endo, PCOS and azoospermia). We’ve been through 2 rounds of IVF (first resulting in 1 embryo which implanted but miscarried a few days later and the second we had to discard 27 eggs because they couldn’t find any mature sperm and our clinic didn’t freeze eggs). I just wish people knew more about it so I could stop getting upset because people are so insensitive.
I dont have endo but I know a few women who do and I know its WAY more common than people know, and that alot of women are suffering undiagnosed and this is something I'd love to have more media about this.
I had a doctor actually tell me I should just get used to bleeding in extremes because I have pcos and I wasn't pregnant. After 3 months of very heavy bleeding I went to the doctor (a different doc) and after a blood test she called me at home and told me to go immediately to the hospital. I had to have a blood transfusion and a D&C. I was bleeding to death basically. I had a bad reaction from my oral birth control. If I had just listened to the first doc I may have died. Sometimes women aren't listened to from doctors just because we're women. As a woman who is considered infertile I'm listened to even less.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. That first doctors behavior and recommendations were deplorable and disgusting and doctors like that don’t deserve their medical license.
That’s disgusting...I’m so sorry
my heart goes out to you. so, so happy you found a new doc in time! always follow your gut when you know something isn’t right.
I'm sorry you are considered infertile however, I do think it's important to note that those with pcos aren't not considered infertile. I have two healthy beautiful children and have pcos. By losing weight ones reproductive abilities\chances will greatly rise, there are many medical documents to prove this. I lost nearly 90lbs and quickly became pregnant without fertility drugs or procedures.
You didn't specifically state pocs is the reason you have been told you are infertile however it read that way to me and I just wanted to be sure.others weren't confused. Also I do not know your health history however aside from having your uterus completely removed I would recommend considering a second opinion regarding infertility. Hugs and best of luck!
That is truly horrible! I'm happy you seeked other help. Sometimes we need more then one opinion.
I agree, periods and menstrual care should be openly discussed. I’m a cisgender male, so I cannot say anything about a menstrual experience. The closest experience I can relate to is that I had to deal with a perirectal abscess requiring surgery and treatment for sepsis.
They did not sew me up, but told me to get Kotex pads to cover the wound for post-op drainage, and that I had to go to the surgeons office to have the packing changed. I felt uncomfortable in buying the pads, in having to change them, in having them “spill over” and stain my underwear. It definitely deepened my empathy for all people who have to deal with this monthly, more than it already was.
I’ve since healed up, the infection went away, and I’m mostly back to normal. But it was at least 3-4 weeks of recovery, and having to deal with the internalized misogyny and shame surrounding menstruation when I wasn’t even menstruating was exhausting.
I just wanted to put my experience out there: I have the copper IUD. Insertion post having 2 kids for me was just a slight pinch. In comparison to the other birth controls I've tried, I'd say it's been phenomenal! I haven't had good experiences on hormonal birth controls. I've always reacted badly to them with terrible mood swings, weight gain and acne. Now, my birth control isn't something I even think about most of the time. My periods are normal, I don't have the side-effects of hormonal birth controls, and insertion was a very slight pinch. I guess I just felt like putting this out there since the comment section is mostly awful experiences! I'm also very grateful to have an OBGYN who is kind and understanding and saved my life when I had pre-eclampsia. I recognize with all of these horror story comments that I am very lucky!
Thank you for this
I just got my copper IUD done yesterday and the negative comments are getting me scared
Not an IUD horror story. But still an IUD story:
I got my first IUD through Planned Parenthood because we didn't have insurance, couldn't pay for the pill, I'm allergic to latex (condoms out of the question), and I'm forgetful a lot so taking the pill was really not for me... Basically a lot of reasons that ended up with me deciding to do this. I had never been pregnant when I got it, either. The lady who inserted it was so awesome. She even called 2 CNAs in the room to hold my hands, it hurt so bad, she gave me a heating pad prior to the procedure which I felt was something that took a lot of the edge off. And after because I was going into shock, they put ice packs on my neck to keep me from passing out. Not only that, they supplied me with a water bottle, apple juice, string cheese, and peanut butter cheese crackers. The room I was in was right next to the nurses' station they had and I was (in a sitting chair in the room eating, not on the table during the procedure) in the periphery of the nurse there.
I had that thing in for almost 6 years. No periods and aside from the initial insertion, no pain. It was glorious. I would so do it over again.
Fast forward to 2015, my husband and I decide that we're ready to try for a baby. I had the IUD removed. We're moving from an apartment into a house. It's a new beginning for us, we're able to get pregnant but we're not yet really trying for one. March 2015, I've had 3 periods since the IUD removal, and I'm late. I wait a few extra days because mine had never really been calendar perfect. Many times in middle to high school it'd be a week early or a week late. So it wasn't new to me. Well the test was positive. (yay!) We waited to announce till after the ultrasound and we had pictures. So.... I didn't know that after having an IUD in and removed, it could potentially make your ovaries drop multiple eggs when you wouldn't (or something like that..).. basically, you're at a greater risk of having a multiples pregnancy after IUD.
SURPRISE WE HAD TWINS.
I wouldn't take it back.
Brianna Cowles I had the same shocky reaction to my first IUD. Even after explaining this reaction to my subsequent OBGYNs they still REFUSED to give me pre-placement pain medication.
Yay! Glad to hear a positive story, hope you're twins are doing well! I imagine they should be around 4 years old now.
@@malkies6341traveling with
I'm glad it all worked out for you! I just want to let you know you can definitely use condoms if you're allergic to latex, there are latex-free condoms in 3 or more different materials available! If you're in a committed monogamous relationship where you've both been tested and are willing to take the risk of your partner not cheating then this might no longer be relevant to you, but when talking about it please don't say that people with latex allergy can't use condoms. They're the only way to prevent STI transmission during penetrative sex so it's really important not to discourage anyone from using them if they're able to.
Brianna Cowles that is an absolutely beautiful story!
Also by the way, if you're allergic to latex there is a polyurethane alternative condom material designed for people with latex allergies (latex allergic people need to be safe from STIs/STDs too).
Neglecting to INFORM the patient of side effects means that are not informed enough to give informed consent. How many times did I just say inform?!? 🤦🏻♀️ anyway that whole situation frustrates me,as a patient that has dealt with crummy physicians.
My experience with a Mirena IUD; When I was getting my Mirena (I didn't want my period) we were initially going to use laughing gas, but as soon as I got the muscle relaxant I ended up having diarrhea and throwing up so we decided to call it off and use anesthesia. It went incredibly well and the staff were incredible. I continued to have my period for around 6 months then it disappeared for around 5 months and suddenly it came back, so I went back to my OB/GYN and we checked my IUD with a vaginal ultrasound . It was fine so I we ended up trying adding hormone pills to see if it was a hormonal issue...and it was! Since taking my pills I haven't had my period for around a year. All in all I'm pleased with my IUD. Everyone will have a different experience!
I'm glad you've found a birth (&period) control solution that works for you.
What country did you get it in, if you don't mind me asking? I'm curious since in this vid that as far as she knows they don't do that in the US.
@@16tangerines I live in Sweden :)
I had my IUD placed under anesthetic due to my extreme anxiety. There was just no way anyone was getting close enough to me to do such a thing while I was awake. Too much anxiety combined with a severe dislike of people touching me would have sent me into a breakdown. And when I weighed the options and talked with the doctor, we decided the anesthetic was the best route. We also talked that IUD was the best route for birth control for me, as I struggle with remembering things so couldn't count on the effectiveness of the pill but needed something to help with how irregular, heavy, and painful my periods were. Like take me out of work for at least a day or two kind of bad periods. And honestly, the anesthetic was the best decision ever. Short procedure and they were also able to do all the testing they wanted to do at the same time. I have never regretted it since.
Dude,
Video suggestion: collaborate with Dr Mike. That would be awesome.
ive opened every door i know to make that happen...;) ball is in docta mike's court
@@MamaDoctorJones so what you're saying is we as a fanbase should start bombarding Dr. Mike with collab requests. 😉
YAAAASSSSS😍😍😍😍👌👌👌👌
So I guess it's time to flood is socials 😜
@@MamaDoctorJones well time to go to his comments LOL
I've had a terrible female ob/gyn and now I have an awesome female ob/gyn. Completely agree with you that it doesn't have to do with gender.
My last ob gyn was a female and convinced me that I have an ovarian teratoma and need to get it removed. Had an MRI and it was just an endometrioma, no need for surgery right now. She explained how teratomas have teeth in them and everything.
Well I had 3 female and they where all very rough and just not nice. Happier with my male gyn. I had an other male one who I loved! But sadly he passed away.
I was sexually abused so I've always had female providers. At 39 & after a c section, I feel like it doesn't matter as much. But yeah, a bad doc is a bad doc.
I've had crappy doctors of both genders (both PCP style and OB/GYN) and good doctors of both genders. It's just luck of the draw.
I had a female ob/gyn nurse practitioner who was downright hostile to me. The current female one I have is much better but I still asked for a second person/nurse to be in the room with me (who is male, not sure if that matters) because I was so traumatized by the first one.
Before getting my IUD I was aware of the pain to come (because of videos and other people's experiences) . I still knew I had to (I can't afford a child right now) and it went SO smoothly! It depends on the person and the gyno's experience too. Turns out that I only had cramps that day. BEST.DECISION. EVER. I love my IUD!! 💙💙💙💙
My brother and sister-in-law got pregnant with an IUD baby. Their fifth. The IUD had migrated into the uterus and it was decided that because of its placement next to the fetus it would most likely terminate the pregnancy if they attempted to remove it. They decided to see how it played out and my nephew was born with the IUD completely encapsulated in his placenta.
Sucks that the IUD migrated and failed but the detail about it being in the placenta is kind of fascinating
There was a student in my medical school class who had literally failed every nonsurgical contraceptive including IUDs. (This was before Mirena) she got pregnant in medical school on the pill + barrier. (I don’t remember if it was diaphragm or condom).
My first IUD was a dream, and was placed by an amazing OBGYN. She'd also told me "So you know, it's going to take around 6 months to get your body used to this, so let's talk about what that might look like for you."
Then switching it out to my second one was a nightmare. Sadly, my awesome OB had moved. The new doc told me (despite it being clearly marked on my Well Woman questionnaire and in my chart, and having had this discussion with her immediately prior that I wanted to prevent pregnancy and control my horribly heavy periods) that my body would reset itself if I would only have children! And that it's not too late to start having babies, because look at her! She was 40 and just had her second one! And it resets your hormones! That was what she strongly recommended. I looked at her blankly and said AGAIN that I'm 100% sure I don't want children, not now, not ever, and that hasn't changed in my entire life, and that I had an IUD already that was working quite well for my life, so could we just put the next one in, please?
She wasn't happy, but she did it and... it felt different. From the first moment. To start, it didn't hurt very badly at ALL. In fact, it didn't feel any worse than the cervix scraping of a pap smear. Then it started really messing with me. I felt like crap. My periods and hormones were off the chart, I had cramps often, sex hurt, I just generally felt terrible. I had countless ovarian cysts and ultrasounds where they told me they saw the IUD. Then for a year, I started bleeding three weeks on, one week off. Backward period, basically. Over the next 4 years, I asked every single doctor and nurse I'd see if I went in for anything at ALL if there was a different dose of the Mirena, or if there was a recall on it or something, because this was very different. Unfortunately, they all brushed it off, saying "Well, you are getting older and our bodies change as we get older."
Bite me. I know my body. Something is WRONG.
I finally to see another doc (who knew my stance on childbearing and took me very seriously, but only worked once a month so I couldn't see her earlier) and asked for a referral to another OBGYN like my insurance required. She did me one better and sent me to an OBGYN specialist. My other half went with me and literally LESS THAN TEN SECONDS into the pelvic exam, the specialist says "Oh, well there's the problem right there!" He turned to my love and asked: "Do you feel the strings during sex?" Yes, he did. Always. Well, it turns out that it was placed incorrectly and the bottom of the T itself was sticking out of my cervix, and the strings were trimmed right up against it! The OB who placed it had done my WW exams during that time and not said anything, but based on how it was in my uterus, the specialist said it was clear it'd been there a long time.
We discussed it and decided to replace it during that visit while we waited for my surgery date to arrive. He did, and it hurt like the dickens! Just like the first time. It made sense! But he was great and verified with ultrasound that it was *properly* placed. And it's been a dream - despite getting older. ;)
Now it's time to have it removed, but my current OBGYN (a different one, because doctors don't stay in this town long) is also discompassionate and I'm trying to decide how to proceed. I live in a tiny, rural town that's over 2 hours from the next town with an OBGYN, so it's not easy to just go to another. Ugh. Being a girl sucks sometimes!!!
I hope it goes well for you! Sounds like a terrible time. I tried to get one a few years ago but I'm in one of those countries where we can't get an IUD without at least 2 children AND written consent of my husband (I was single at the time but it was required nonetheless) or be over the age of 35. It's freaking backwards here I tell ya
@@macybautista1301 May I ask what country it is in which you live?
Sometimes I wish the good doctors would call up the bad doctors and berate/scold/yell at them on behalf of the patient.
Oh that's such a terrible experience.. I'm sorry. If I were you I would go see the specialist again. It would be worth the travel costs in the end because you would feel better for years in the long run. 😊
God! Reading these stories make me want to restart my life as a boy. What happened to you was terrible!! Wouldn’t wish that on my worst enemy.
“50% of the world has had a period at some point in their life”
me, a fully developed female: I feel sorry for those people
me: oh, wait...
Lmao
Lol 😆
😂😂
Oh god, true tho 😓
@Mr. & Mrs Smith ah am awaiting the day I can get my hysterectomy
I've moved to seattle now for 3 years and i'm still going to a new OB every single year for my annual exam because I havent found one that I felt comfortable with. They all were very dismissive of my concerns. I really hope every medical student are required to pass a pysc/commpassionate exam during the board certification.
In the movie 'the doctor' a dismissive Dr with a bad bedside manner actually gets sick. The joy at the end where he makes the interns have procedures that they will likely recommend to patients is worth the watch.
I really appreciate this video. I have only seen an OB-GYN once. It was for my first exam. I was still a virgin at the time, and the doctor treated me like a piece of meat. I left her office feeling completely traumatized and violated. It took me twelve years to have another exam. That one was done by a very compassionate physician’s assistant who treated me much the way Molly’s male doctor did. Unfortunately, I was left with a lingering fear of medical situations, even though I have a background in public health and social work.
A friend of mine passed out in the hospital lobby after getting an IUD (from pain), but she rated the experience overall "not that bad" because the doctors were very nice and talked her through it.
The pain (in any procedure) is one part of the "overall experience" but how you are treated es a human being (like, being cared for and taken seriously) is what makes all the difference.
@rando There's also the problem of some doctors underreporting side effects on purpose and telling patients their side effects got nothing to do with the IUD. Both of these factors are skewing the data
sometimes i forget shes a mom to 4 young kids until she says things like banana pants
Taylor Parry moms talk like there kids often. It’s cause there around there kids a lot and there brain changes often times you’ll come across a mom that tells there co worker they used the big girl potty or stuff like that cause it’s how there use to talking to kids. If you was a mother of 4 your would too . Plus it makes the video more fun. My mom often would say because I’m mom because when I was little and being questioned my mom would ask why I did something and wouldn’t take I don’t know as a reason so I said because I’m Courtney. When kids say silly stuff often times moms adapt to those words and stuff. I am mentally delayed however because of this I’m more observant than the average person so most of my knowledge comes from me observing others a behavior I seen my whole life from every mom I ever met highlight I ever met was them adopting and saying stuff there kids would say and talking more like there kids or talking baby talk with grown women I myself have done this with my Niece and nephew and I’m sure I’ll do this with my son once he’s born. However this is info I know from my watching a lot of women in my life doing so. I’m sure not all moms do this I’m also sure some men do this as well but I don’t know my focus is on moms cause I’m a women. However I’m sure you could probably find study’s on it. Don’t take my word thought cause I don’t know the whole world of women just my handful teachers I grew up with as well has done this . I myself however believe it’s the face when your around people you tend to sink with them but I’m not positive on this one. You’ll have to talk to people who know more .
I live in Australia and had both my IUDs put in with 'twilight sedation' (propofol/fentanyl/midazolam) in a procedure room and I would 100% recommend both times it went smoothly. Both times were in a women's health clinic that provided a variety of services from family planning to gynaecological day surgery procedures. It's a great clinic.
We don’t have that option in the United States. I really need the iud to help treat chronic pelvic pain & heavy bleeding… but I’ve had enough medical trauma for several lifetimes and I’m scared. Australia has so many good resources for women with endometriosis, the comparison to the United States with virtually zero resources (unless maybe you’re in a large wealthy city like New York or Los Angeles) means millions of women suffer and get subpar care. I’d get it in a heartbeat if twilight sedation were offered. You’re very lucky to have that option.
@@memyselfi2005 there are places that offer twilight sedition for the implantation of IUDs ots just not as common here
@@memyselfi2005 I'm a VA patient in the US and had a cervical scrape/biopsy with no medication. I was shaking, sweating, and screaming. They said that I could have twilight anesthesia next time. They mentioned my SA history, as if that's why it hurt. I just have a low pain tolerance 🤷♀️ but docs think everything is psychological. This happened as a hospital where anesthesia is accessible. Maybe if you went to a hospital and not an outpatient office, it would be an option.
I think a lesson everyone should keep in mind is that everyone experiences things differently, something easy to deal with to you could be detrimental for someone else! Always be kind, you never know what people are going through or have gone through. Good healthcare providers and anyone who works with people should be kind and compassionate.
When a Gynecologist says... “Period” a pun is always intended. 😂
Video idea: OBGYN reacts to mean comments women have gotten from OBGYNs. You could probably make an entire series out of that alone 😂
I've had pretty awful doctors, but I've always liked my OBGYN's. My current doctor and I always talk about Led Zeppelin while she's "down there", so that's nice.
The lady who took out my nexplanon after my year of bleeding was pretty rude but all I remember her saying was,"You're such a baby. Now go get some McDonald's". A little weird I know but it's all I remember lol.
Morgan Green That’s so inappropriate and horrible. I’m so sorry you were treated that way. It’s utterly disgusting especially when someone is already vulnerable.
Yes!!
Girl I'm kinda fat but I have a specialist for that because its due to a health problem. Came to an obgyn for suspected endometriosis pain and he said "you don't seem like you're in pain." And "you need more vitamin D" and "you're overweight and killing yourself"
I’ve had a few reproductive health procedures after which I’ve thought, “why in the world are we not putting women under or giving them some assistance with pain?!?!” I’ve had a baby, and my iud insertion was more painful for me. I had to lie down after cause I felt like I’d pass out.
I just think & feel, that you are genuine, knowledgeable, kind & compassionate. You are one of the best & no doubt a fantastic Dr.
Molly: my doctor is a crackpot
Dr. Jones: yeah she’s a crockpot
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I thought that was soooo cute!! I'm happy someone else noticed
🤣🤣 I listened to this 6 million times while editing and didn’t even notice 🤣🤣
Mama Doctor Jones it’s nice to be validated after a bad experience with a medical professional.
So cute! I'm going to start calling people crockpots.... (only the people who really are tho)
"I had lumps in my breasts, pelvic pain, dizzyness, nausea..." Had the same symptoms when I turned 31, no IUD. When I described them to my mother, former doctor, she said "Well go to the obgyn but sounds to me like you're just getting old, my dear" Thanks mom.
Lumps in the breast should *definitely* be checked out ASAP!
Was going to say - breast lumps=breast cancer. Seriously, have that checked!
@@luciesimpson6437 In my case, it's an inherited trait called fibroma. My mom and sisters have it too. Maybe it was not accurate to describe them as lumps, it was more that when I did the exploration, I could feel kind of like small grape bundles.
When I was 18 I went to my first OBGYN appointment. I said to myself... you are a responsible yung woman you just need to do that.. And I went and it was horrible.. that old lady shocked me.. when she took the papsmear it pinched me and she was off putting she was brutal..
After that (4 years later) I went to another doctor (a nice young lady)to do the routine stuff but because of my previous experience was so traumatizing I went only one time.. I aware that it's bad for me not to go but I couldn't...so I just took very good care of my privates ( I stopped wearing string undies and undies that aren't from pure cotton(and I didn't had any infection in more than 10 year's.. I didn't took antibiotics without probiotics or at least yougurt or kefir and I never washed my vagina..no dushing no hard chemicals and no toys.. I wash my hands before and after I go to the bathroom.) And didn't come back to any ObG doctor.
Fast forward at the age of 32 my husband and I are trying to concive so naturally I hade to go to OBGYN ..we choose a family friend ( the head Obgyn department at a very good maternity, tones of experience age 54). At the first appointment I almost fainted I was scared out of my mind... He called in his assistant she was very lovely and they were very very patient with me he explained ahead what is about to do and all that ... Constantly remaidning me how good I'm doing.. ( even though his schedule was full) Everything looks good .. even though I didn't do my pap as I was supposed to do it..every year. Now I still have a little bit of hiperventilation going on but I try not to think about it...just asking him about his day or stuff... I trust him with my life. So ya.. can be really nice doctors or really horrible it doesn't matter if is a she or a he ... It could have been really horrible outcome for this... I could have had cervical cancer or stuff... Thank God I didn't hade any of that.
I was terrified my first time too, I didn't know what to expect from a PAP smear and I thought it would be super painful, because I'd heard that some women have sensitive cervixes. Fortunately it was not the case for me for the most part. Just kinda uncomfortable. Still the worst preventative test ever though.
Good that you have found someone who looks after you properly and takes your fear seriously.
I wanted an IUD a couple years ago, but my OBGYN guided me away from it for the fact the my vaginal canal is actually at a really weird angle. He was VERY up front with the fact that he did not believe he would be able to place it in a safe and pain free area. Thank god I listen to him!! Love him so much! #DrGreve
My pain tolerance is very high. I’ve never had a child but was in the most pain of my life when I got mine inserted. My doctor was like, “You did great, you didn’t pass out. A lot of people do!” So when I hear both men and women brushing off the pain I get so angry. I was in terrible pain for about three days after and then it went away completely. It’s been over a year and I haven’t gotten a period since. I’m loving and happy I made that decision, but still consider not getting another because the pain was so bad.
I read this comment wrong and thought you meant you had a child inserted into you. Needless to say I was very confused.
@@hellohellohihi Same 😆
I imagine the first time you get one inserted is the worst since your uterus had never stretched before.
I too, found the IUD insertion extremely painful. They had to open my cervix 3 times in order to get IUD in! For pain management, I was only advised to take ibuprofen an hour before.
Because of that experience, I don't want to go through it again. So I have requested a tubal ligation, and am still waiting for the consultation appointment.
I don't want any form of hormonal birth control, hence why I went with the 5 year span copper IUD. It's only been 1.5 years and it has shifted down! So even the IUD isn't good for me :(
I also felt horrible pain that day it was inserted, and after the insertion I had my menstrual cycle and mine is the worst. I bled heavily after that.
1. I live in South Korea and I got my IUD here and they do use general anesthesia and it was a lovely experience.
2. I'm sad she's had these experiences with female doctors because all of my gynos have been female and they're all amazingly wonderful women and physicians.
I'm from the US and got the copper IUD in my early twenties never having had a baby before. I got no muscle relaxant, no laughing gas, no anesthesia (apart from local) and it was totally fine. It was uncomfortable, sure, but I find it so surprising that general anesthesia with a breathing tube and everything would be needed for such a small and quick procedure.
@@parissinclair6513 That's exactly what I thought but at the same time I wouldn't know because I had 3 kids and when they inserted the IUD I barely felt any pain. But every women's body is different and I heard stories of women passing out from the pain, so who knows🤷🏾♀️
@@parissinclair6513 I'm happy it was painless to you. But I bit of research and just watching the video(doctor Jones literally said "it's painful for almost everybody") will tell you that is not the norm. I want general anesthesia or nothing. I have painful enough period to risk it.
I'm actually considering getting inserted in SK lol
I wonder if they do it to tourists
@@sasy1533 I literally never claimed it was "painless", I said it was "uncomfortable". Uncomfortable does mean painful, just not to the extent where general anesthesia should be commonly used for it. It was probably a 5 minute procedure, and the side effects from GA can last much longer and commonly cause complications like nausea or even difficulty breathing, stroke, and other issues in more serious cases. So those 5 minutes sucked, sure and my fists were certainly clenched, but just not near to the point where I could imagine needing to be brought into an operating room, have a breathing tube, a supervising anesthesiologist, a 45 minute to hour long recovery in the hospital as you wake up, and requiring a friend or family member to be a chauffer home.
Paris Sinclair then you don't fear pain like I do. Lucky
Momma! Where have you been all my life!! Im an Oncology RN, and your good sense, humor, and tender heart are a balm to my little nurse soul. Im subscribed girl! Thank you!❤😂🎉
Makes me so grateful for my doctor. He covered multiple options and possible concerns with each. He’s honestly awesome
I think this really illustrates not only the need for better scientific literacy but also a better system to assure informed consent. So many people consent to medicine without really understanding what they're consenting to. I feel like this increases anxiety and bad outcomes.
Amen
Absolutely. Informed consent is seriously lacking here. I’ve had lots of issues arise from not getting informed consent with various medications and surgeries throughout my life.
I have a tender cervix, so my GYN and I decided to place my IUD in the OR instead of forcing me to endure the procedure in his office. I started to hyperventilate from the pain and this wonderful man immediately paused and asked me if I wanted to do it under anesthesia. I said yes and that was it. Everyone should have that option!!!! (if it's safe for them, of course)
I hyperventilated when mine was placed, as well, and even vomited. Worst pain I have ever experienced.
I started screaming during mine but the doctor didn’t stop she just kept going. It was over in 10-15 minutes and like I’m glad I got it but I really really wish I had the option to get more pain medication. I only got a local anesthetic and was told to take an Advil before the procedure. It was a copper iud too so it was more painful than the hormonal.
Selena N I feel you. I got mine too with no pain meds and I deadass thought I was gonna die lol. But I liked it. I had really bad period cramps. Had it for 2 years. Pregnant now and probably won’t go on birth control for a long while.
I feel you. When the lady was measuring my uterus with the rod thing It hurt so bad I started hyperventilating. They paused because I had clenched so hard they could no longer more the rod. They had to keep me calm and then they placed the iud and I was on the verge of puking from the pain the whole way home. It was the worst
You'll got local or even told to take a otc?? I was told to not even take anything beforehand.
Thank you for all that you do, Mama Dr Jones. It's amazing how much of a difference a good doctor makes. I had my mirena put in around 4 months ago and my doctor was extremely empathetic and patient and explained my condition and how mirena would address my concerns. Yet forums are bursting at the seams with horror stories of brusque nightmare doctors, and it seems to me that the mental preparation that my doctor took the time to help me through just made all the difference. ❤
I live in Canada as well, and I had a great experience with my healthcare providers for both my iud insertions. I am 24 years old and i have experienced no negative side effects with my kyleena iud and have been super happy with it for over 5 years. I was properly educated about the process by doctors as well as i spoke with a social worker prior to the procedure taking place that explained everything to me in regards to side effects and answered any questions that I had. I just wanted to mention this because I feel like positive iud stories are just not heard of because nobody has real need to share them when nothing at all went awry. That is in no way to decrease the efficacy of the experience Molly had. It is a travesty that Molly experienced such crockpot doctors and was not properly educated about the potential side effects to look out for. And I feel sad that many women have experiences like this with iud's and I wish all of their experiences could be like mine. My iud has done wonders for me and has kept me sane by not having to guess if I might be pregnant because of how effective they are. I don't experience a menstrual cycle and that fits my lifestyle perfectly as I am a swim instructor. I will continue getting an iud every five years for most of my life as I do not want to have children and this is ensuring that I will almost certainly not have to worry about pregnancy or abortion. I am so grateful to my doctors and my iud.
I have serious, serious period issues that are untreated because I've had doctors refuse to treat me seriously because it's "just a period" and I've had female doctors say that exact thing of "I have a period too / you're not special / it's not that bad / you can't be in that much pain / every girl deals with periods sweetie / suck it up". And I've also had male doctors be dismissive in a similar manner. But I found it hurt more coming from female practitioners because I guess I expected empathy from them. There are some really heartless doctors out there, but there's also many who are amazing and I wanted to thank you for being one of them. You are so kind and compassionate in all your videos, I imagine it would be a blessing to be one of your patients.
I completely understand this. I've had this from my doctor every time I've been to speak to her about my period being painful. She literally refused to talk to me about it after about 8 months of trying
Girl those doctors are some real pieces of crap. I'm sorry you've had those experiences. I know I personally have problems with my periods hurting incredibly bad to the point where it impaired my life while I was on it. I told my OB/GYN and she decided that I could just be on birth control and not take a week off for a period most of the time. Now I don't have to deal with all that crap most of the time. You should ask about the same thing if you're comfortable with it and be insistent to talk about it.
I actually prefer male doctors. Not all of them actually listen. But it’s really nice when you do find one that actually understands.
I'm sorry! I hope you managed to find a good doctor in the end! Yeah, I feel the same, doctors can be very dismissive, especially when it comes to periods and contraception. Although I honestly don't think I have ever had a good interaction with a doctor and have had to fight every time there was something wrong for a diagnosis. I know there must be some good doctors out there, but clearly not in my hometown!
idiotoninternet i have very bad period cramps. i’ve gone in to get it checked and he didn’t find anything abnormal so i was dismissed. my cramps were so bad that i was crying. btw i do mixed marshall arts and i get punched and kicked during sparing and they only time i quit the round we did was when i almost got knocked out and then had a concussion for a week which my mom didn’t take me for the doctor for. so i have a pretty good pain tolerance. lastly, my mom wanted me to go on birth control to help with cramps.
I'm an anesthetic nurse in Australia and a lot of IUD's are put in under light to moderate sedation. Its quick and doesn't involve the risks of a general but also saves women the pain and discomfort of the procedure.
I got mine in the UK, I was told to take some painkillers beforehand but I forgot, and it was fine.
This is kind of why I wonder if she was confusing being in the OR as always a general. I do think sedation would be great for us in the US to have for IUDs if it would work for the patient.
Yes I agree
I had nothing before putting my IUD in... I mean uncomfortable but I was fine
I know from watching UK shows that women in labor are offered pain relief for a vaginal exam! Something that the US does not understand. The US is behind the times in pain management for women!
Mama Doctor Jones I just wanna say that your eyebrows look great in this episode and it’s always so fun watching you talk because your facial movements are always super expressive! Thanks for another informative video ✌️
Thank you for this video. I am not a fan of "horror stories" being spread to the point where people believe that that is the norm, however, I had a very horrible insertion process and zero pre-/post-counselling, so as a result suffered some trauma, and anxiety over what to expect. You address all of the concerns that those of us who have had a bad experience worry about, and I'm happy that you are out there addressing it all. However, it needs to be said that there are practitioners out there who give the rest of you brilliant Ob/gyns a bad name. Keep up the good work because it gives us ladies confidence that there are professionals out there who are invested and care about the patient experience, not just the specialty.
I think the trait you're thinking of that medical schools should be on the lookout for for good doctors it's called compassion
I'm not too sure compassion is the right thing. Compassion has too much to do with emotionally understanding another person's feelings and acting upon that. What is really needed is what that male doctor had, respect for another persons feelings, regardless of whether or not you personally resonate with them. That has to do with empathy, but many people who are terrible at being compassionate, can still manage to talk people through a procedure in a respectful manner, based on their empathetic knowledge that we all can feel differently even in the exact same situation.
@@gadnihasj you mistake compassion with empathy.
Wait, what about just being a decent human being and a decent doctor.
@@gadnihasj switch compassion and empathy. Empathy is where you act based on your emotions, compassion is where you act for the other person regardless of how you feel. You can absolutely show compassion when you lack empathy.
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Taking about normalizing the conversation, I said uterus one day,in college, and a man told me that word grossed him out..... UTERUS.... I laughed at him and made a point to talk about reproduction around him.
So if you mention "menstruation" instead of "those days" he will faint?..
Oh, my! 😂 Uteri are soo scary to some men... It's ridiculous how uncomfortable some become by simply talking about anatomy! About time we normalize those taboo topics! I love your reaction, talking about stuff so he overhears it. Like, dude, it's just a bodypart most women and some men have (so... almost 50 % of humanity).
YES!! Ok, one time I had to have my ovary taken out. I collect childrens books, and my friend sent me a children's book where she had changed the last page to say, "So even if we lose things [like ovaries or other body parts], we can still keep skipping on." I was a cute idea and made me laugh.
Well like a year later, I had a guy friend over (who, granted, was extremely socially awkward) and he was reading some of my kids books out loud. He got to that last page and said, "Even if we lose things, like- AAAH!!!" And we made eye contact and he said, "I forgot something in my car!" and he ran out and did not come back. I was SO surprised! And I laughed and laughed when I realized what happened. I tried to tease him about it the next time I saw him, but he changed the topic and acted like it never happened. SO weird and funny. ;'D
By the way, we were both like 27. Not in middle school!
@@jennhoff03 what's the original book?
No matter what the subject, if you go looking for horror stories on the internet, you'll be sure to find them.
Great video and information! I'm so glad for the patients IUDs work well for, the success stories, and if I had been one, I would probably speak warmly of treatment! I was prescribed an IUD for terrible period pain and heavy bleeding, they warned me that insertion would be uncomfortable, but nobody told me that to some people, the insertion is hell. I cried my way through the procedure, had no more than an over-the-counter painkiller beforehand, and was sent off with smiles. I spent the rest of that day curled up in bed, crying from pain and cramps. A whole month of bleeding, cramps and severe mood swings followed, to the point where I booked a time to have it removed. Removal was almost equally painful, but faster, and I felt absolutely wrecked after. I wish, most of all, that I had been warned or sat down for a thorough conversation about the procedure and the possible risks/side effects before the insertion. Mine is a horror story, but good information beforehand is always, always the right thing to do for a patient. Thank you for the video, and to everyone else with similar experiences- I hope you are well today and that you've found an option that works for you!
"Medical's schools admissions need to prioritize whatever trait we can correlate to good bedside manner" i love that youve said that! Thank you:)
Empathy!
I have seen 4 female gynaes and after each visit has led me to complaining to the health board. The 5th gynae was male and the was the one to take my problems seriously.
I really wish more gynecologists were as compassionate and caring as you are.
(*disclaimer* IUDs are fantastic for some other people and should be discussed as an option for BC)
When I was 17, I got an IUD because I had horrible periods and just needed them to stop. My Gyno did not prepare me for it at all and it was to date the worst pain I've ever experienced. A year later, I had to have it surgically removed. Even after signing surgical consents based off of the emergency department OBGYN's recommendation, my Gyno tried to get me to let her attempt to go in and take it out with zero pain meds or anesthesia. I laughed in her face, walked out and never went back to her office again. Had the surgery, and found a Gyno that is much more careful and considerate of patients. But I still carry a huge amount of trauma and anxiety going to any Gyno appointment even now because of that horrendous experience. The funny thing is, about 3 years later I came out as non-binary. Now I'm on testosterone and have no periods anymore with none of those IUD side effects 😂so that's a win!
Was WIDE awake. "It won't hurt, just pinch." RN leaned down, and whispered,"Hold my hand. It is going to hurt." It did.
My uterus ate mine....it literally was fusing around my iud. I had to have it surgically removed.....terrifying.
IM sorry but I am cackling at “my uterus ate mine” HAHAHAH
Fuck I hope that doesn’t happen to me
How did you know?
It happened to my mum too.
I’ve had mine in for 12 years now. When I had my last one put in I was told “this will last five years,until you’re 50. Then we will *not* give you another as you’ll be too old to worry”
Well.... I wasn’t convinced I’d not be not be fertile so I’ve never been back to have my old Mirena coil removed, and now I’m worried that mine will have fused . I didn’t even know it actually could do that, I just had that horrible thought!
I had my first Mirena IUD placed at 19 (no prior pregnancies). My OB/GYN informed me about the entire process, told me about the side affects, the potential for a painful insertion, basically everything I needed to know that good doctor would do. He then sent me home with literature to make sure this was the route I wanted to go while the IUD was put on order (this was 10+ years ago in a pretty small town). I went into the insertion appointment knowing exactly what to expect, knowing the potential side effects, and being extremely firm in my decision to get it placed. The insertion hurt, more than almost anything I've experienced. I bled for about a week and a half, and then stopped having any periods (with the exception of some occasional spotting, sore breast, and moodiness). I'm on my 3rd IUD now and I wouldn't change it for the world. It's been the best choice I could have ever made (each time I've gotten it). I
think the moral of Molly's story is that you need to advocate for yourself in medical situations. If your doctor isn't listening to you, or treating you with respect, do everything you can to find another.
I don't think ob/gyns who are men are any better than women or vice versa. Some people are just bad at their jobs, it happens in every field. My orignal Ob/Gyn was a man, and I once had a doctor (woman) perform a pap smear, keep me in the stirrups, and bring in a gaggle of students so they could see my "perfect" cervix. All without my consent. But I also had a male doctor leave the room with the speculum inserted for 10 minutes, come back, quickly remove it, place it on the table and leave the room. I was in the hospital at the time and the speculum was left there for hours. But then my current doc, a woman, talked to me during my most recent pap smear, kept me distracted and laughing, but kept me informed and received consent at every step. Doctors are people. Some people are shitty. Some people are shitty at their jobs.
Pretty much all my ob/gyns have been men. It's not bc I've chosen so, it just happened because, for example, during my university years uni healthcare only had male ob/gyns and as a poor student I could not afford to go to the private one. I could have gone to the public healthcare and gotten a woman, true, but that takes a long time and back then didn't care whether the doctor is male or female.
Nowadays I have a slight preference towards male ob/gyns, but that's just bc it feels a bit more natural for me to have a man poking my private parts than a woman. But this is only a very slight preference so I always end up just taking whichever doctor is offered to me, man or woman. All ob/gyns that I've been to have done their jobs well and professionally so I've got absolutely zero complaints. Yay for our universal health care!
I also have an IUD although I have the copper one, not the one releasing hormones. Getting it did hurt but I dunno, it wasn't anything too bad. And the doctor was a good one, he explained everything about the thing, side effects, and procedures, I was sent home to ponder which one I would rather have, copper or hormonal one, and only after having decided AND the timing being right, did the actual insertion happen. And absolutely no laughing gas or anything, so obviously Finland isn't one of those countries.
My first periods with the things were pretty awful especially since I was used to almost no pain and only a little bit of bleeding. But it had been made clear to me that with a copper IUD the bleeding is much more abundant and period pain can be very notable. So I just gritted my teeth and carried on. Luckily, 2 years from insertion the pain has almost disappeared. I still bleed way more than I used to before the insertion but what'cha gonna do, that's what happens when you get the copper one.
I had to take any left over obgyn as i was new in town and pregnant. Only one had time for me. A Woman.
All check UPS hurt a Lot! I thought this is just normal as i am pregnant, so i just accepted it. But than my midwife asked if she can have a look. It didnt hurt at all. Few weeks Later doc checks and it is painful again same day check with midwife, all comfortabe. Thats when i realised my midwife used Lube. Asked my dr. To use some too, got told pregnant Girls are so wet anyway there is no Lube needed.
Thanks doc. Good you studied my Body for me as i clearly Cant know whether something hurts me w/o degree...
The Dog-Eared Edition I want so badly to like my OB but....I feel so violated.....
@@annaniskanen2557 I had mine inserted in the US. They were supposed to prescribe me a strong painkiller but forgot to. I decided to get it inserted anyways since I have a high pain tolerance. It hurt pretty bad but I didn't flinch or scream or anything, was just really dizzy afterwards. In the end, I got it removed because I was having AWFUL symptoms.
Personal (Mirena) IUD experience:
I had a painful insertion with an incredibly amazing gyno and team. I actually fainted from severe pain, but they were so caring and sympathetic and not saying I have low pain tolerance or anything condescending. I had one regular period and a lot of cramping in the first month, but now I haven’t had periods for over a year, which I LOVE. I was incredibly excited to get this side effect, but everybody should pick for themselves. I have hormone imbalance from PCOS, so I enjoy taking fewer medicines and having a constant low dose of progestin that is the proper amount for me determined by an endocrinologist. Mine worked out well for me likely because I was a great candidate for this form, and the team at the gynecologists office was incredible. They even showed me an IUD and let me see how soft and bendy it was to lower my anxiety. 😂 For everyone in general, make sure your doctor listens to your concerns, gives you facts, and respects your decision and autonomy 💖
I absolutely LOVE IUDs! I've had 5 of them in the last 18 years. I've taken a few out early, but just got another put in last week after my previous one was *due for a change".
I've been on ALL kinds of birth control. I battle major PCOS and the IUD has been a life saver for me!! 💕🙏
I'm a Counseling master's student and one of the things I would love to do is work with doctors to increase their empathy with patients and improving bedside manner. I think its soo important and can drastically change the way a patient responds to treatment and treatment options! Compassion matters, no matter what!
Yes!!! My neurosurgeon is brilliant, but has the worst bedside manner ever. When I asked about risks of surgery, he said that “the building would come down in an earthquake during surgery before you would experience a CSF leak”. I ended up having a CSF leak and was in the ICU for 8 days. The last thing you need after brain surgery is someone pushing you out the door and rushing you to get off of medications. My neurologist almost lost it on him! Care and compassion goes a long way and applaud you for trying to make a difference!
@@macdaddytheladyface6613 that's so awful, I'm so sorry you had that experience... hoping you made a full recovery and that you have better doctors in the future!
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! For saying that you cannot give out personal medical advice to someone unless you are their personal doctor. It drives me nuts when people will ask someone who doesn't know them or their medical history to tell them what's wrong with them. Happens to my sister all the time and it drives her nuts!
My biggest peeve is Mental Health Specialists. Especially when they actually give the advice- or worse, stick their nose in to diagnose without being asked.
It's so strange that someone would even ask. Even ignoring the legal/ethical issues, they are asking her to work for free! How rude.
@@ghostratsarah I'm in mental health and I absolutely agree with you. I might tell someone if they need to talk to let me know but jumping to a diagnosis , giving unwanted advice, isnt something we typically practice. Sorry that has been your experience. I've witnessed it once and the person had never even met the person they were "diagnosing.' Not professional.
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Most of them are people who went through those peer counseling courses, or a psych degree. Not medical students. So like, the NAMI peer counselors.
I've never seen it from someone who had the full authority to write a diagnosis in a professional setting, only treat.
But, I see it way too often. And they really play themselves up sound like they know everything. The most common diagnosis I see is "this random person I know nothing about and have never spoke to definitely has ADHD." It's never even accurate.
And of course Tumblr. It's rampant in certain spaces of Tumblr. People who truly care about people, they get caught up in these communities and the environment. Mental Health Specialists are especially susceptible to playing doctor for kids who are too scared or too poor to see a doctor.
Thanks for the informative video! I really wish we could talk more about our period without it being an awkward topic. Growing up i was so nonchalant about talking about it even around my younger brother. My mom wouldn't like it and say it was too blunt but he didn't care when he was younger and now that he's in his mid 20s he's told me several times how glad he is that I was so open about it because now he's not freaked out about it and doesn't make his partners feel uncomfortable mentioning it around him. Someday we'll help everyone be comfortable with periods!
The male/female gyno thing is so interesting to me because in my country, it is very rare to see a female gyno and I have to travel quite a distance for mine. I specifically looked for a female one because that's just what I'm more comfortable with (had a bad experience with a really inappropriate male doctor when I was around 15) but most women around me avoid female doctors and think it's weird for a woman to be a gyno (for some reason that I can't comprehend).
It’s kinda interesting seeing how many women want a period every month when they go on birth control considering I basically only went on birth control so I could have less of them lol. I’m glad some women find positive feelings in their bodily functions, I always found it to be an annoying nuisance but I can still appreciate the positivity.
As someone with PMDD, my period literally makes me crazy. I can't imagine every wanting to have one. I will avoid them at all costs.
Beeing quite sexually active i kinda wanna know that i'm not pregno
I was the same way(I have an arm implant personally) and I lost my period until a year later and I had a Suicide attempt. Since then I get my period sadly.
I only want mine because I have a hormonal disorder, and I went three months without one (for no reason) which led to diagnosis. Getting mine assured me that I’m safe and my hormones are at normal/acceptable levels. I mean, I hate it, but I’d be terrified without it.
I have PCOS so my period is insanely important to me. If I don't get my period it terrifies me because I don't want to become I fertile, or get cancer.
Molly, if you see this, report your doctor to the CPSO college of physicians and surgeons of Ontario
The Lovely Mel Chan if what Molly was saying was true, her doctor absolutely IS psycho. You’re telling me that her doctor saying side effects don’t exist and screaming at her in her office don’t warrant being reported? That is extremely harmful and unacceptable behavior
@The Lovely Mel Chan Sorry but being in the medical field, and having the experience of being sued all the time for no reason, this is a clear example of malpractice. If a patient comes to you with several bad symptoms and you refuse to acknowledge them and treat her, that is malpractice! So yes she should report the doctor.
The Lovely Mel Chan Based on the description we were given this doctor actually was very crazy. This is malpractice
Ha see. Good one. (I'm also mostly blind)
thanks for calling me on that one. wink
It was so nice to see both Doctor Jones and so many comments that said they had positive IUD experiences. I also had HORRIFIC experiences with the Mirena IUD. I had birthed 4 children, and had tubal ligation. To keep it (kind of ) short, I’ll just say I bled like a slaughterhouse scene for over two years every single day. My doctors kept saying it will go away. The pain I had with both insertion and day to day increased to debilitating! I got bacterial vaginosis month after month after month. Finally got IUD removed and then went to hysterectomy. Mostly happy.
This was such an insightful video. I too had a IUD inserted, like 10 years ago, and after 60 days of heavy bleeding and cramping I wanted to have it removed. The amount of resistance by my obgyn and lack of counseling was astounding. I was in the middle of my exam period and I had no idea that this could happen, in short...I was feeling weaker by the day and went to my GP to get it out. In my country you cannot go to a specialist without a GP approval and ER is not possible due to insurance gatekeeping, I am glad the GP felt sorry for me and said "If you don't feel good after so many days and you need to focus your energy elsewhere, it is okay, I can remove it". That said, I cannot take birth control pills because of severe migraine attacks as a side effect and in my family there is a high risk of blood cloths. But whenever I go to a obgyn, they insist giving me hormonal birth control. I am 40, still no unwanted pregnancies, why do you keep insisting on giving me hormonal birth control? I don't understand this lack of counseling.
She's so great for doing this. Not only is she taking the time to correct misconceptions, she's doing with so much respect!
around 28:25 i think you’re referring to confirmation bias + how people who are unhappy give more feedback than happy people, so it is easier to find negative information about lots of things
That said, a lot of people don't actually talk to their doctors when there are negative side effects or complications. They go into "good patient mode" and give benefit of the doubt for longer than they probably should before bringing up issues, if they bring them up at all. I think the (after market) stats for these things lie somewhere between what was reported in the clinical trials (and what's reported to care providers) and what it appears to be in forums.
But also, if so many people are having those problems, maybe there is just a problem. It's awesome that some people do really well on one thing but there will still be a number of people who don't or have bad experiences. Those people are important too and could possibly be canaries in a coalmine for certain things. That said I love your video and I think these discussions are important.
Omg just watched this video. I’m so glad she shared her story. My was different but similar in many ways. I had a make obgyn and told me I was imagining my symptoms. I made him remove it but there was no understanding or sympathy. Thank you. I could say much more But I guess it doesn’t matter. But thank you both
I’m so sorry to all the women who’ve had terrible experiences with their doctors AND the IUD insertion! I’m on the other side of the spectrum - had a 3 yr IUD, had it removed, and inserted a 10 year. My pain tolerance is high so I wasn’t expecting much else besides being uncomfortable and a little cramping. The pain was quick, slight cramping throughout the day and the day after. Beyond that, the only side effects I’ve experienced in slight cramping and MAYBE a bit of spotting when it’s “time”. Overall, I’ve been SO happy with my IUD and hope to leave it for 8-10 years (2-3 years in now). My friend had different side effects - complete mood swings, lack of energy, the whole 9 yards - she removed it and immediately felt like herself again! At the end of the day, it’s hard to know how it’ll affect you till you find out :/
I also had a doctor tell me side effects don't exist when I asked about them. Then she called me paranoid and accused me of being a smoker. She also wrote me a prescription for birth control pills that I NEVER asked for. I never went back to her.
You dodged a bullet with that one. That sounds like a terrible experience all around. Hope you have a better provider now, they are out there!
I had a male GP like that. I fired him after he dismissed my severe ovarian pain and gave me a script for BC I didn't want. A cyst ruptured about a week later and I was PISSED. My doctor is great now
That's interesting mine accused me of being a smoker as well. So bizarre.
WOW. That's absolutely ridiculous!
the female doctors in my village all push you to take birth control and get iuds- i made a decision with my partner to stop taking my birth control and my gosh, the appointment after not getting another perscription was uncomfortable
Would you consider making a video about PCOS and fertility struggles in general?
I would love a video on various fertility issues, because there's so many things that can affect fertility and so little information out there. I've hit infertility bingo: PCOS, fibroids, endometriosis, pelvic adhesions, and solid ovarian cysts/benign tumors.
yes, PCOS... I have it, my son's girlfriend has it, a couple good friends have it... it's almost sounding like a bit of an epidemic. My symptoms are better when my diet is better, so I'm curious if the SAD (Standard American Diet) contributes to this problem (which may mean more diagnoses in general). I wonder what statistics are in other countries! Hmm... I may just have to do some websearches now!
That’s such a great idea! I would love to watch that. I have PCOS and I’ve been TTC for over a year now.
Yes!! I was just diagnosed with it and would love to see a video
A video on PCOS would be nice. It's fairly common but a lot of women don't know it exists. I found out about it through a webcomic about PCOS and womens' health, did more research, realized that I shared a lot of the symptoms and asked my doctor to run the tests (because for some reason it's not part of a standard blood panel for women for some reason considering how common it is). All these symptoms that doctors would sluff off as being a product of my weight (which is another issue altogether). I ended up not testing positive for PCOS, but the blood panel DID lead to us finding out that I had a pituitary adenoma/tumor on my pituitary gland (another common thing that messes with your horomones and shares a lot of symptoms with PCOS). I've had so many doctors that have been dismissive of my concerns with no facts to back up their opinions and refusing to do tests when they're sure all my problems will go away if I you know, stop being lazy and lose weight because having problems maintaining a healthy weight isn't at all a problem linked to diabetes, PCOS, or prolactin adenomas
Thank you for sharing, Dr. Jones! I watched this video pre and post IUD. I got the Kyleena IUD and only had it for 29 days. I got horrible cramps that didn't go away with ibuprofen, awful mood swings and probably even depression, besides the 29 day bleeding.
I hope people who are having a hard time with IUDs know they don't have to suffer through it and try other options instead.
Plus, I already have 2 kids and the IUD insertion was more painful than taking it out. Still painful. Not worth it.
This video is old but just a month ago I got a mirena and this was sooo informative. My dr is an angel and I love her and she was always super clear about everything but this video answered questions I didn’t know I had. The insertion was in fact a pretty awful experience, but as someone who had super heavy bleeding every period, for now to be almost gone is a blessing. I’m super happy with it, hopefully I won’t get any other side effect. Thank you for this video!!
Molly had such a bad experience. From a patient’s POV - it’s so hard to advocate for yourself when you feel crappy, are scared, had bad experiences previously, don’t know what to expect, or are just trying to deal with things on your own. I’m so glad Molly found a doctor who listened to her.
My dad was a doctor, so I know a lot of medical stuff and have spent a lot of time in medical offices and hospitals, and I still have a hard time advocating for myself. People seriously underestimate how fear, pain, etc. can impact our ability to stand up for ourselves or otherwise be proactive and assertive - let alone the fear that in so doing, we will piss off the people we are relying on to help us!
I couldnt agree more this is why I take the pill and not something a doctor has to put up, I dont trust them near my private parts no more
I have had to many bad experiences
36 MINUTE VIDEO FROM MAMA DOCTOR JONES??? WE'VE BEEN BLESSED💖
LOL. ily. thank you.
The best Mirena placement I had was with a nurse practitioner. Her ability to provide professional, compassionate care with a straight talk approach was crucial. She didn't minimize the pain potential, but her delivery was respectful, genuine, & honest, so i wasn't a ball of irrational anxiety. She coached me properly. We practiced proper deep breathing for each step of the process, and then took my breathes as instructed. The process was extremely painful, I sweated through everything, the paper gown, paper sheets, pillow case, i didn't passout, and I could walk out of the office with very little residual pain. I wasn't traumatized. This was so important as the first time I had an IUD placed an MD was like it'll just be a pinch and leaned into the whole "you haven't had kids" bit when she had trouble placing the IUD and it was unnecessarily long and painful. I didn't scream, b.c I was raised to be pretty stoic about pain, but I couldn't walk without pain for days. . . The worst part is, the first time the doctor had approved access to ultrasound and topical anesthetics-- and chose not to use them. The second time I was on medicaid, and just having the procedure approved was a nightmare, they wouldn't covered anything but the cost of the Mirena and the person doing the placement. . .
I am so grateful for your channel !