Why Getting Married Early Is Actually A Good Decision - Nouman Ali Khan - Animated
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No matter how good looking and practicing you are , mark my words " Every Father's first question is how much you earn?"
That's correct
@@muradfaridi That's harsh reality brother...
Yeah it shouldnt be first question but definitely very important, since fathers want their daughters to have security
@@Muslim-og3vc For what
@@mydad4216 like fathers do care about the money thst their son in law makes, since they want to make sure their daughter and gran kids have enough to eat etc
Parents should be watching this and here we kids are watching this😂😂😂
Wallahi so true!
Even if my parents did they wouldn't agree to this.
💯
in shaa Allah we are going to be the next parents May Allah help us
Sister, here's a bold move to do . Share this video link to your family group 😅.
Yes
Oh Allah, Please grant me a handsome, pious,loyal, loving, romantic and compatible man to be my husband
Amin
Ameen.
Aameen
Ameen ✨🖤
Ameen
To be honest, I love the idea of marrying early and growing with someone, the concept is amazing and I do think there's so much space to get to know the person along the way and it seems more secure then dating. But unfortunately in this society I feel as if people may not do that or be hesitant. I know some youth bring up the topic of early marriage to their parents and they decline because they haven't finished university or have no income which puts the young adult in an unfortunate place.
I support your statement... ✨🖤
Yeah there is no size fits all. There are many people who are ready for marriage at 13 or 16 but there are also people in their 30s who aren’t ready. So as long as you are capable mentally and physically along with financial capabilities then you’re good to go regardless of age.
@@bobtheagent9087 I feel like a person is never truly ready to get married. Same way you truly do not know someone until you live with them. Instead of thinking “I’m not ready” and putting marriage on hold for years, you should just make dua and it might just happen by itself sooner than you think
@@aafiqbukhari8572 dude you are right but there is a limit. No body is perfect but all I meant is ready enough. Some girls and boys aren’t ready both physically and mentally. But I do know the problems that could arise when people are ready and marriage isn’t made easy to them.
In short words people should marry only when they are ready. There are some people in their 30s and 40s who still aren't ready to marry and we should respect that. And we have to keep in mind people might still be doing their studies or focusing on their jobs. Marrying early might have advantages but it has disadvantages as well.
May every parent understand this thing, InSha'Allah...!
Allahumma Ameen
Ameen
i feel it’s impossible when you are not financially stable
This is only reason why i like Nouman Ali Khan is that he only speak Facts. I can't agree more .
i agree so much with this vid. actually i think we should get married when we are ready, and mature. you know that age doesnt define someone's maturity, so i think maturity is more important than age. As long as someone is ready, you can get married. but if you are not ready, dont. because it will give a bad impact to your life, especially when your partner is childish too..
exactly, maturity is so so important
And how do you determine that ? How about the mundane aspect of life ? Money, housing ?
@@kmirk7069 you don't need to have a house first, and it feels like a couple but it's actually a marriage. so that prevent you from zina.
Even if I have to admit that I did not meet that many 20 something with the level of maturity you are describing, sorry, taking the daughter of someone requires a minimum of ressources which are highly unavailable for most youngsters. Sadly Muslim theologists should have been proactive in creating models of sustainable economies in accordance with sharia law, instead we are paying the perpetual state of weakness and intellectual debacle accross several centuries of the Muslim world
@@kmirk7069 yes you are totally correct, but my point is that in fact if u don't know... people out there who did this earlier marriage still live a happy life. (It depends on who the person is)
i'm sure you have seen so much couple out there that like this. but the difference is they are not married. so.. if anything bad happens, the one who get bad impact is women, not men.
just don't think too much about perfect marriage, just be happy if you now are ready to get married.
May this video reach to every parent, Inshallah
Ameen
Early marriage: easier said than done.
Early marriages are never easy in today's world
Mashaa Allah,,, made me so sad about how bad our situation had became as muslims
Alhamdulillah i got married at 21
Alhamdulillah
Manshallah bro may Allah bless your family
Yuck!! 21 sooooo younggg a childd
@@bonshaibonshai4137 what’s soo yuck
Masha Allah may Allah Al Wahid keep you and your wife together in this duniya and in akhirah Ameen
Thank you for making these videos..
May Allah bless you
JazaakAllahu khairan!
No money. No marriage. Reality.
But Muslims have made marriages too difficult. First they want a bride that looks no less than a model, she must be fair and thin. she should also be financially independent and highly educated plus their family background should be no less from upper class. Like what in the world is all this nonsense? This happened with me not once or twice, but for 3 continuous year. Every family that came to see me for their son look for all these things first. They don't even care even if I'm a hijabi or namazi. I'm always too "conservative" for them. Nobody wants to marry a pious, decent person in today's time. Sabr is all I'm leaning on. I honestly don't want to get married anymore.
My sister, those people aren't even worthy of you then. As stated in the quran, pure woman are for pure man. Your destined husband is the best for you. Don't lose hope. Marriage is a truly beautiful thing♥
Same for girls , they want the tall handsome guy with a car, house and money
@@hafsamaryam8501 am totally agreed with you
Well there is always a good person
if he/she wants someone rich/intelligent/ handsome, its their choices not yours, they wont ask for someone out of their league, they know for a fact that they needed someone whos at their level, so let them be. it doesnt concerns you at all.
Well this is so true Haram is way easier to achieve than Halal.
I'm 21 today turning 22 tomorrow, and sometimes I tell myself: "Dude, how I'm going to stay lonely for another year :( and it's so nerve racking because Allah swt says in Quran : "If they are poor, Allah will enrich them out of His bounty. For Allah is All-Bountiful, All-Knowing." How are we ignoring the holy Quran this clearly :( " May Allah swt help us get married soon, and to someone with pure Eeman, Say Ameen in your heart cause Allah is All hearing.
I'm 19 and i just started to feel like damn I can't go on like this.
Sometimes i am depressed like hell because of loneliness.
I totally see that that's a precious need should be answered.
@@Iman-rx8ho this is still soooo young
@@min5899 well that's the thing that i don't understand. So ok I'm young and i do not deny. But why the people who marry younger feel happier and better in their marriage. Says the status.
Meanwhile what I'm going to do with my need of romance and simply a mate?
Also, I'm young but not immature
@@Iman-rx8ho I support marriage at a young age as well but 19 is too young! 21 is much better. Maybe you think right know that this is nearly no difference but let me tell you that people at that age mature and change quickly. Firstly find yourself, get to know who you are. There is still enough time left inshaallah. When you marry in your early 20‘s you still we be considered young. Even mid 20‘s. Don‘t rush into things but also don‘t hesitate to meet your potential spouse. Tawakul ✨
@@min5899 it’s not too young if she’s a girl. Women are not obligated to provide so they’re not forced to have an income. Men on the other hand, are obligated so they must focus on getting their financial stability first.
thanks for making this video.
A muslim from Iran.
wow majority iranian doesnt beleive in god and you are saying you are muslim
Ur a Shi'a?
@@harrywoodroof9575 I’m a Muslim not shia or sunni these are political bull shit and it’s childish division among Muslims
@@randomfootages9120 no , the way you call it "bulls**t" already makes me aware what kind of person you're" .being Muslim is only being Sunnah Wal Jamaah. Do what Allah's obligations, follow the way(Sunnah) of the Prophet Muhammad PBUH, follow the Sunnah of Sahabas as the messenger says "My Sahabas r like the stars in the sky, if you follow one of them, you'll not get lost" and invite and send the message of Islam among the community (Jamaah). Muslims aka Sunni love all the Sahabas and all of Ahlul Bait. We r not hating or being selective. From here, we already can see what is exactly Shi'ism. No politics whatsoever, just between a real Islam or a made-up one. Even Shi'a is established by a Munafeeq(hypocrite) who didn't really want to convert to Islam during Islamic Conquest in Persia but had no choice so other options to do revenge is to create a division and destroy the real faith of Islam among muslims by establishing Shi'ism which it has never being taught by the Prophet and it's teaching is too far from Islam. e.g. Mut'ah marriage? Prophet Muhammad PBUH never taught Muslims do contract marriage which allows someone to marry and divorce in a fixed time endlessly. It's like you're having zina but in a recognised way, astaghfirullah. N etc.
@@randomfootages9120 even Nouman Ali Khan is a sunni lol and you're calling it a childish division? It's mere plain Islam and a fake one. Shi'ism is just like another Sikhism, Baha'ism who originated and has some Islamic values and principles but it's too afar from the real teachings of the Prophet Muhammad PBUH and get invented by non-muslims and hypocrites.
Brother , Thank you for such a good video.
Alhamdulillah. Cezakallahu hayran.
So relaxing
Amazing video...I also like this ideology of getting married early allah will take care of everything ❤️
i have pakistani parents and whoever has pakistani parents you all know that they will say something like “oh you want to get married, but you can’t do this?” what they don’t understand is our generation is completely different then what there generation was growing up. i like this guy at my work. he’s pakistani, muslim and a nice guy overall. but i’m terrified to tell my parents because they think im still a little girl and i don’t know what im doing. i pray to Allah S.W.T that one day he can bring understanding to my parents and Insha’Allah fully listen to me and my feeling.
Inahllah you'll be with him in a Halal way
talk to an imam to help you with your parents , if they don't lesten to you they'll lesten to him
@@omarasif2068Assalamualaikum write Allah in capital Ma sha Allah SubhanAllah In sha Allah JazakAllah Barak Allah and Allah knows best
The hardest reality in this time is majority of the muslim, atleast in my area still giving importance to family origin over religiousness, family value, character even money. They still doesn't realize that they are being racist and that is totally against islamic believe system.
Wow really great speech ever about marriage💜
Ameen Sum Ameen Insha Allah❤
wallahi!
I'm in my third year at college thinking about marriage and scared of this responsibility.
but all the time i think of doing the haram and fighting against my desire which is driving me crazy.
may Allah grant you sabr and power to fight against shaitaan. Be patient brother everything will be good. You will be rewarded for your patience.
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real akhi your Patience is gonna pay ogf
الحمدللہ my parents were understanding got married with the girl i love in the age of 21
MashaAllah, wish you the best.
@@gameramante thanks brother جزاك الله خير
It's not a question of when, but a question of how.
No parents of the people around my age (that I know of) wants their daughters to get married.
Fact 💯
How old are u? U look 3 year old from your profile picture. I don't blame em
@@324582782 There are people that get betrothed before they were even born. Like both parents agreed to have their kids marry in the future if they're the opposite gender. 🤣
@@feelcollins4358 all you have to do is tell your parents that you accept their wish but you want to become a doctor first. They love it and will instantly agree
Prolong and wait until your parents are no more then marry whoever you want.
80 percent of the time, works every time.
Btw, i am joking
Cause nowadays they want their daughter to loose virginity with some kafir men and than sell her used meat for millions which already used by many perverts for free
I belong to the 1% of the audience who actually never wants to marry...I'm the type of guy who chooses to be single life long...I found comfort in the space I have created for myself...Cons of marrying outweighs pros of marrying.
Same here
I don't blame any of you.Its better to be at peace with yourself.I have been single for 13 years.Never been happier.😁
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real Majority of the urges are from lustful jinns.Seek refuge in Allah from them.
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real If I can do it so can you.Many religious people are celibate. We ain't the only ones.After all,the sexual urge is fleeting,it isn't worth defiling ourselves & making Allah angry with us over it.
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real Self restraint is a part of the muslim lifestyle. I understand it can be difficult.
Honestly part of the reason for problems in this regard is the lack of financial independence from our young men, and the lack of piety from our young women.
May Allah help us
I am 26 female and i have faced lots of problems getting married dur to being overweight because majority of guys wants a girls who looks like a model.
Dear reality is hard nomatter. What other say that looks doesn't matter or all but it will matter so you need to work on yourself hit the gym make the best version not just to be accepted by them but never you have to go through same rehection
Good to hear this but sad to say it's not realistic any more. Especially in the case of men where they first have to create their value to get married and contrary women are born with value.
Women are not born with value. More and more guys even pious ones want a model looking wife it's the truth many girls are getting rejected because they don't look glamorous
I WISH MY PARENTS SAW THIS VIDEO!!!!
Where are they?
I will show them😂
@@abdullathabithemed9377 assembling grenade in basement
Many are complaining here that first priority is earning but seriously you need to understand anybody wants their daughter to be with someone who can financially support their daughter. Ofcourse it's must not be the only criteria but it's important to be financially independent and not just guy but girls need to be independent financially too..you may never know when marrige life turn into abusive toxic relationship so they can come out of that . We must think practically too in today's world
key word is also important, But not the only thing that matters 😂. It honestly amazes me how womens families want the guy to have a bmw when they themselves could get a toyota at best.
if i already made it in life i don't see why i should bring a girl that has done nothing to help into it
Masha Allah.
Let's point out the main question or problem " how we'll get married at young ages in this society"?
How about changing society's attitudes towards young marriage, for all of human history except the last century young marriages were the norm and rightly so. Stop caring what people think and do what's best!!!
@@FL-bh4pn it's not the point "what people think" it's about how can I manage it. Read and acknowledge the problem again,please
@@ibrahimagalizade5236 families'help
Exactly
exactly. this fact is ignored by most scholars.
may this video reaches my and her parents
Secondly parents and family members keeps on interfering in thier life .
I think the main thing to take away is, you don't have to get married if you don't want to. Nowhere in the Quran does it say GET MARRIED ALHEIN (Eng: Right Now)...no where. And if you don't want to get married ala nefskoum (Eng: on yourself)!
True but then prepare to abstain yourself for the rest of your life.
@@al_nasr5851 hm not sure that it says that in the Quran you extremist
@@reemkarim7028 intercourse outside of marriage is zina and it’s prohibition/punishment is highly talked in the Quran. Do not call me extremist just because I do not changes my values for democracy.
SubhanAllah! That's quite the takeaway.
A lot of people saying marrying in teenage or in early twenties can lead to divorce because both them girl and boy was not mature enough my question is why parents of both girl and boy can't help and counsel their young married children to make the marriage work most people think once their children are married they're done with them and no more have any responsibilities towards their children but that's wrong but at least parents can play big role by supporting their married children till they reach at certain age around 25 to 26 yrs
i totally agree with u.
Let the child get married instead of pushing your child into haram with all your negative thoughts.
@@thehanifah254 thnk u
My muslim friend says that to avoid divorce a teenage girl 14 to 16 should marry a man over 25 or 30
@@RaviSingh-tk9utlmao
EXACTLY..........i cannot get married because I'm financially not stable.....and also i cleared myself that I can't control myself....still I'm ignored all the time...my hormones do drive me crazy...i told them....wallah god knows better what im going through
my mother wants me to do wazifa for marriage but not willing to call family of guy who wants to marry me
mothers r funny
Sister please have sabr and keeping making Dua that your parents will eventually accept that guy, my prayers are with you.
@@Believerscreeed InshaAllah JazakAllah
Allah bless you in duniya n akhira
In these scenarios, a mediator's entry makes marriage successful but one should be a person ur family will trust..
😂😂😂
My mother wants me to get married but she don't know how to find an righteous girl 😐...
Ajeeb
@@Muhammad_Uvais ask your potential souse these 3 questions:
1) what is most important thing in your life which you will never give up?
Answer : My Faith
2) Will you still be with me when Allah will put us through times of financial stress?
Answer : Yes!
3) Will you always put our relationship over your ego?
Answer : Yes!
If she gives these answers then she's the one! ❤️❤️❤️
We are in India Sub continent. No matter how good your character is,how devoted you are I don’t find any parents categorize these on top of their lists. So sad but it is true.... But still I've done with no haram relationship at 23.
Keep grinding bro ,💪
idk how other men do it but I respect your devoutness
Get on nofap!!!!!!!! Muslim youngsters untill getting married.it will make u a fearless warrior.
lol you make that sound like thats easy.
I cry cry only because of this what has we done and I can't go against my parents
from what i have seen on many comment sections including this and from real life circumstances, alot of Muslims in this time find it hard to get married ``on time`` whatever this right time is considered appropriate in todays Muslim society. I think this fact should be considered in Islamic speeches.
Please make a video in Hindi.. as our parents will not be able to understand it properly.... And Indian parents really need to understand this than any other...
the thing is that getting married early is not always the right thing, it has nothing to do with life timing , on the other hand you can make that decision when you see that it is the right time for you and for the other partner as well. you cannot just get inspired by other people and suddenly get out with that decision to get married just because you are young and other young people their marriage worked for them .
Our biology does not care for our culture or religion.
Fact remains that female fertility and baby health are reduced drastically after the female hits the 30's.
So if she wants 3 children... she need to have her first baby by the time she is 25 years old at the latest.
May Allah help us all.
I have a work history, a job, an Apartment, Car and pay all my bills. I tried to bring up the topic of marriage slowly and initially, I got pushback but my parents became more understanding. My tactic was trying to bring it up here and there. The most frequent and common pushback that I hear is the girls wanting to complete their education as in Masters and PhD. Anyone living in the west can attest to how much fitna there is here, Im 25 and a responsible person it shouldn't be this hard to get married. We have one mosque in our city and I enlisted the help of the Imam and we haven't gotten anywhere . The standard and expectations being set in my community are ridiculous. Brand new car, Big wedding & so on and so forth. I have made it my mission to get married by the end of this year InshaAllah. May Allah SWT make it easy for every single one trying to get married. Ameen.
Go for it bro
May Allah make it easy for you
If I had same things as you wallahi , I would have married long long time ago, and if I had more money even I had multiple wives I wouldn't care what my parents says or what society says but unfortunately Allahs hasn't given me as much as you , so I helpless against Allah and you are helpless against your parents
leave the west then and find a good wife else where
Ameen
Assalamalaikum due to hurry and laziness in internet revolution, we dont pay much attention to english rules.
but atleast we should be cautious about Islamic principles.
So please write,
Allah - not allah
Qur'an - not quran
Muhammed - not muhammed
peace be upon him/SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam - not pbuh/saws
Allah Subhanahuwa Ta'Ala- not swt
Its not about sin and haram but about respect towards our Rabb!
Link to complete lecture.
Plz plzz!!🙏🏻
رائع وبديع هل يوجد مترجما؟
Get married when you are ready and have found the person you don’t want to live life without. Not because you “must” marry young… people live till 80/90 maybe more nowadays… so make sure it’s right person the first time…
ALSO, get to know someone enough for at least a year plus. It takes a lifetime to know your partner… so spend the appropriate time in the beginning so when you are signing the Nikahanamey, you are sure! 😊 Good luck, God bless you!
So you’re inviting Muslims to live in zina??
Horrible advice, that’s begging for Fitnah
@@Fusi566 how? how do you define fitnah?
I do respect what you said but real world wants a rich person that a reality
CZcams please recommend this video to my parents!!!!!!!!
Many of young muslims in london and all over the world are getting married but in my country people don't accept marriage in young age..they date , have bf and gf and no one says anything but when it comes to marriage everyone start saying oh u are so young and all that stuff 🙄 , even when i said i can't marry a man who smocks , listen to music , don't pray. they all said you will not marry at all then.. you should low your standers ,in addition to that i'm a girl who wears niqab (face cover) at young age , everyone call me crazy ..it's so complicated here
Barak Allah
Can relate being a niqabi myself.
There are so less boys nowadays who are like praying the fardh prayers ,tahajjud ,lowering gaze, not listening to music etc. But ya Allah when and where would I find like that 😢
But In sha Allah we will find ❤ TAWAKKUL is key
Can someone send that video secretly to my parents 😂
Todays parents dont care about us they dont what fitnahs are goin out they May Allah bless us with hidayah أمين
{APPROACH WITH CAUTION}
All singles watching this video, send this video link to your parents.
HAHAH
It depends what early means. If you are a teenager i dont think It Is a good idea at all. And Allah SWT knows more ,sure.
Like 23
@@omario3981 23 Is a good Age ,yes.
@@z.a.1237 yhh just finding the right person and having the finances might be obstacle but yh
I think when you are young and have a good job and and a good salery and a good mindset and know that you are a good person then say bismi allah and get married
@@z.a.1237 What about 20? Not marriage,nikah?
I actually have a major crush on someone who is muslim an they've expressed this same exact truth to me and feels he cannot be open with his parents its like he has a lot of weight upon his shoulders if things work out between us i dont want to be the naive one who disrespects his culture an religion and use the fact that im not of his background or was raised with the same understandings as him to be reckless and put him in a tricky spot
I have been told that I should lose weight so that I get married. This made me gain weight even more because I don't want to get married 😂
I'm aromantic; I can't feel romantic attaction. If I were to get into a relationship, I would be acting the entire time. It would be exhausting. It's best for me to focus on other things in life.
Aromatic is somehow a myth. Maybe the right person hasn't arrived yet. Or u haven't really given it a try.
@@sheikemuranahabubakarfeika9294 I have been in relationships before and it all felt as if I were acting the attraction thing. I wouldn't want to go back to that. It's not fair for the other person. And aromanticism is not a myth.
@@RimaEln Well, u r right too: it's not fair to the other person...🙂
Why is it so hard I wish I had gotten married younger but now I’m internally mentally damaged but yet I’m still doing good in life.
How old are you? It’s never „too“ late brother. This is what Allah has written for you :)
@@bettina5755 thanks
Its great to marry young because then you can create an empire. By the time, you are 30 you have become a king and by the time you hit 40, you sir have now become an emperor and by 50, you are the Queen of England
male,male ,then female
@@missfaty8903 you learn to take on different roles in a relationship
Absurd yeah, just believe you got married without actually getting married. Believe that you got liabilities, you would get wealthy automatically.
is 8 years okay
Assalaamu Àlaikum warrah matullaahi wabarakatuhu it is where I am right now couldn't get married because I'm still 3rd year college and I already found a Muslimah that likes to get married with me her parents is okay they gave me the permission that I can marry their daughter but my mother doesn't want me to :( Alhamdulillaah ❣️
Keep making Dua, my prayers are with you.
You marry her you don't require the consent of your parents if the woman's wali has said ok then you can get married.
Men don't need to ask their parents about getting married best example Did Musa AS say toh the girls' father "Excuse me but I would like to talk to my mom first." No he didn't.
I am not saying that parents opinion doesn't matter but if they are being unreasonable you can do it without their consent.
May Allah SWT bless you.
@@zeyanshahidkhan8841 Bride's wali is also not required, like it's preferable but yeah if they're being toxic then you may proceed!
@@Believerscreeed there is difference of opinion brother on that matter
@@zeyanshahidkhan8841 in Hanafi Fiqh you can do that😎
me and this girl been speaking for years now and decided that we wanna get married in the future i suggested 19 or something and she said she can’t because her parents would say no at that age and only want her to get married later like at 23
May Allah bless you brother. Remember that it might not be the best idea to talk to her privately (even in messages), because it could potentially lead to a major sin in Islam.
The prophet Muhammad pbuh said when a man and woman is alone Satan is the third.
May Allah help you to get married soon and keep it halal.
i hate this kind of stories , usually it ends badlly for the guy because the girl will go back on her word at some point
Honestly, I have much respect for Br Norman... but the reality is, that getting married without getting yourself established, atleast to the degree of paying for your meals, is a silly idea. How do u expect to take care of someone when u can't even provide for yourself? Hell... parents who you as a man would go around asking for their daughter hand has the right to be concerned whether u'd be sufficient enough to be her as the "provider" and "sustainers" as we should. If it's anything less, what difference does it make from people dating and stuff...
I think, as individuals we need to start working on ourselves earlier and that we are confortable enough with our independence only finally deciding to have room for someone more in your life. Cuz when u go head first into a relationship... u don't got yourself figured out... YOU have the potential to not only screw up your life but also the life of your significant other. And ofc ppl who living in the world of tv show dramas will be like "we can figure this out together" or some BS... what if you can't and that very faith could be dangerous. U can't just tie your camel and hope shit would go according to plan... u gotta do the work.
Ofc I aint saying, u gotta be perfect going into a marriage no one is. But the fact that ppl would take this advice and think about getting married without even finishing school or having a job or have any idea about life in general is just silly.
yea NO!
get married and have each parent provide for his son or daughter until he is old enough to work
@@mohammadbayazid5064 But that depends... on whether the parents from daughter's side think you'd be capable of providing even when u are old enough to provide for yourself. Besides, that's also with the assumption that you parents are rich enough to provide for another person entirely... and if u are just doing this to keep your sexual urges in check while draining of your parents money. I don't think that's quite fair
@@tauhid9983 you didn't get my point I want the parents of the wife to provide for her and the parents of the husband to provide for him. I do agree that some might not have faith in the future of the husband, but if you have to chose someone mature and responsible
@@mohammadbayazid5064 well that's not how it works, the dude must provide for the wife. That's how it works...
Which means if the parents are providing for the man they are also providing for the wife. And it's kinda silly that man who is married is still being feed by their parents and that only points fingers onto his incompetence. That's why parents would be concerned and so will the wife... it's only natural
sorry to tell you this but at no verse we're supposed to be meal tickets for women brother , i'm forced to try sucess isn't in my hands , that's first , now seconde what's the point of a partner if their is no risque of faillur ? why the hell would i get married with a women just for the best ? might as well stay alone at that point
if she's not willing to take risks with me i don't see why i should marry her
What do you mean by early like 18 early or 25 early?
The part where he says that the parents think he's gonna give all the time and attention to the wife is, in my humble opinion, wrong. Certainly in my case at least, parents are more concerned about bringing someone else's daughter and then to actually have the financial means to support and cater for her too. Like yeah get married young but when you don't have the money to support her then wallahi it will get extremely difficult. It can even lead to divorce in some cases.
You are completly wrong our rizk is written at our forehead so we are not the one feeding our family or wifes its ALLAH who us feeding all
@@ajmalshah4715 brother, of course Allah feeds everyone. But if you’re sitting at home all day doing nothing and expect to support another individual. Like come on now let’s not be naive. Of course we implore for his help, but we need to make an effort to make an amount that’s good enough to support the individual.
@@wajahatahmed3344 we dont know whats the future and thats an different story that you are telling of staying at home he haven’t mentioned to sit home and get married
@@wajahatahmed3344 what i mean at all is that if quran has said that then it would be it no worries and i agree with you that to make efforts and bring halal rizks
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real no my bro, don’t do that. By comment wasnt meant to dishearten you or anyone else for that matter. It’s simply a reality to deal with but remember that Allah always helps and he’s the one that gives. Don’t give up hope my brother! Allah is with you!
You will receive
Assalamualikum
Can you any detail of cousin marriage proz and cons
Aamin
Either I was born at the wrong time or getting through the Halal way which is Nikkah for a Man has to wait to become financially stable and that can happen during their 30s or 40s and from 18 to 30, it's impossible unless you are extremely lucky.
i think they must be married in age of 16 to 22.
Why not 9 for the girl?
But... In this day and age when you tell someone you want to marry them they automatically think of the ring and the wedding and obviously this isn't how it was in Muhammad PBUH's time so how do we battle things like this.
Don’t be cheap, you want to follow a simple life like the prophet then follow. Don’t pick and choose just to avoid buying your fiancé a ring or gifts. We can’t never be like the prophet
Early is subjective! better a "later" marriage than an early divorce! you act as if marriage is easy! ITS NOT! its hard out here! You marry on Allah's time! ppl who rush end up divorced and miserable with children in the picture or not! either way its misery!
i'd rather have an early divorce then a later mariage
I can't hold this anymore , i wanna get married.. but i am 21 tho🤦🏻
Do it then. May Allah make it easy for you.
@@sahlahibrahimo.649 It's not that easy tho , I need to find a job first, and it will definitely take 1 or 2 year 🤦🏻. Don't you think i need to be settle down before getting married?,The World made marriage very complicated 💔 . Guys like me are the one who suffers.
Inshallah you get married soon. Keep mind men need to earn first in order to get married its not some “modern idea” too although stuff like getting married very late is
Inshaa Allah brother... may Allah make it easy for you !
@@Muslim-og3vc brother typing "inshallah" like this is wrong . Its whole meaning changes if you type like this... Type " in sha Allah" like this. Like 3 seperate words. I saw this in Mufti menk' s channel.
I’m 17 and my Parents say when will you get married 😂😂
I'm 21 and no one thinks of this
@@subhanshaik19 no for the future not now😂
@@AGEOFAHMAD I meant to say that at least they talk about your marriage but no one even think about this in my house 😅
@@subhanshaik19 well maybe they want to see your pov you know what I mean they don’t want to Force you 🫠
For the good of the Ummah and society Muslim men should be getting married at 20 years olds. Females 18-20. Waiting for school/jobs is a recipe for disaster. Doing it that way has been a total disaster. It doesn't work. Time for a change.
seriously sometime , i think I'm disconnected from Allah just because this stupid frustration and bad addictions... how much i try , i can't i don't know what should i do...
Just keep praying Salah, seek the protection of Allah from the influence and harm of shaitan and pray tahajjud cause all these can lead you away from Sins and bring you closer to Allah.
@@raidenshogun4806 Thanks man... remember in your prayers
May Allah grant you ease and make it all better
What addiction?
@@mydad4216 that doesn’t concern you,it’s not good to expose your sins that Allah has concealed for you.
I always wanted to marry early at 25 to be very specific, I'm 35 with nothing...
why what happened
Oh my guddness i never thought I'd be watching this
Guys ive a love interest i might get engaged
Pls remind me to update this comment in 2 yrs
And Younger boys like 17 or 18, are hardly suitable for many muslim women. Because of income, correct me if I'm wrong. It's really difficult for them.
I absolutely get your point. But me as a Muslim women, I think this:
When I’d marry soon, (I’m 18 now), I can’t expect my husband who is also maybe 18-22 to have the best high income job or whatever. He‘s probably busy with school and studies. But just because he has no income yet because of study, it does not mean he‘s not suitable for me. You can marry, and still live at your parents house. I don’t think there is anything wrong about it. We‘re all just humans. And after a few years, once he got financially stable, we can move together. I personally see no problem with that, so please don’t assume that every women wants their men to be rich at 19. :)
@@bettina5755 I understand but It is Hard to find Women Who would consider this. Or it is that There are not Many Considerate Women Around me I guess. Also a wali plays a major role in marriage of his daughter and he would want the best for his daughter. So he'd select the Potentials who are Atleast Financially Stable.
@@Salaf_513 true, not every women thinks like this, because everyone has their own view and that’s okay. And yes, I also think that the wali, eg father, would want her daughter to marry someone who is financially stable. But for example, if both want to marry and the men doesn’t have any income YET, they can choose to wait until he‘s financially stable, or until the women finds a job (not to provide for both but yk, just to have a financial basis)
The most important thing is that the financial state should not make marriage so hard, or even not allow you to marry someone you want to marry. Allah swt says he will provide for both. Allah will be with you, and he will provide for you.
My mother told me my dad was 60 when he got married to her, he is just around 57
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real 60 bro 😂
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This video reminds me of my own 22nd birthday. I still remember my mother asking me on that day how old are you? I replied I'm now 22. She replied that had i been a girl, she would have married me off by now. Later in the day also she told my father in my presence that she was telling me had i been a girl she would have been hunting for a son in law by now. And my great father replied "why, had he been a girl we cud have married him by 20 itself" 😫😫😫😫😫😫😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😣😣😣😣😣😣😣😣😒😒😒😒😒😒such cruel parents hey bhagwan!!!
Sounds like amazing parents to me. I'm 22 and when I told my parents I wanted to get married, they felt I was too young. They seem convinced now though
this is so sad because i think men need to get married early compared to women due to sexual urges and not drifting off to haram ways.
u should make arabic version.
Once he graduates,once he does his masters,once he has a PhD and then a job earning him over 1lac,he has a car and a house,then we will think of giving our daughter to him, otherwise she can always get a better match. Your Religion and and your character and your looks don't matter my boys
wise words brother. It really does not matter what your character is xD. Im 24 and am a software engineer though i just started my career and its taking off with good pace alhamdullillah.
I tried asking for marriage my parents though supportive are somewhat dismissive about it that what will we say to them. Since i dont even have a car yet due to this messed up economy.
Im tall good looking and id say i have good character. I even had a six pack but as always nothing matter since i dont have a bmw 😂. I went through severe depression and thank fully with Allahs help came out stronger then ever.
Now honestly to me a wife is nothing more then a show piece of success or property straight up and im honestly not willing to pay the high rates it would cost me to get one. I dont engage in anything haram and Allah has given me a very strong will.
But now honestly I dont seen any need for a wife other then the ocasional sexual frustration but ive learned to control it aswell.
Brothers women aint shit and you all need to become the best versions of your self. Dont let womens parents walk over you because you dont have a bmw yet. Stay strong
lol ur daughter never getting married then it will take them atleast the age of 40 to do that she’ll get older and lose her most important aspect no one will marry her
@@LetsFullStack see that's what i'm saying , you make boys wait till they make it out of life and successed , you tell them you ain't shit before that and you're basiclly worthless , now when they made it they don't want to get married anymore and consider women as just liabilities instead of partners because no girl was their in his hard times
then they'll keep growing and when the urge comesback they'll want more then one wife and people will be upset
I remember how a doctor's proposal came and i seriously didn't like the guy, i didn't feel an attraction and i said no when asked by my parents. But I also remember how my aunt's and others kept on saying he is a.doctor why I reject,he liked u, don't be so arrogant and what not 😅, but I told my dad, i don't like him, that's it,and my dad accepted it and end of story ✌️
Ask your aunts aapne kya ilaaj krvana hai?? 😂
@@Muhammad_Uvais 😂
@@avii8793 😅😂😬
Nowadays Its Hard, Better To Marry In the Late 20 Or 30s
When you are one of those introverted people with rather poor health and you see at all those people you know and don't know who are married, some of them even have more experiences even if it was haram relationships and you are there being 25+ not having any experience is a real pain. Like I try not to worry too much but when some people don't mind their words I can't help it but question my future as a single person
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If no one has told you yet:
"Who ever fears God he grants him a way out, and supports him from the unexpected. And whoever relies on God then he is sufficient" - surah al-talaq
Make the difference on your own, with Gods support.
1. Pray and read Quran
2. GET FIT
3. STAY SHARP
Start now and see life flourish in a year. Set up a program. Leave social media. Leave the norm. Leave the uneducated. Each day, day by day, on and on. 5 times prayer everyday. Workout. Eat healthy. No body tells you that God has chosen you for greatness. No body reminds you that God made no mistake in you, and that the most cloudy dreams are ALL POSSIBLE. You must overcome. You must achieve. You must transcend. Because that is your purpose for the sake of Allah. No body tells you that you are wasting your time looking at others. LOOK. At your self.
Now get up, and go get it!
Hope you the best
Kind regards
Anyone from Kashmir
m 23 nd i dont talk to women at times i look at my frnds almost all of them has a haram relationship sometimes i feel soo much lonely at times i wish i had a partner to have fun with
Good but not now insha'allah after becoming pa🏃♀️❤️
please make 1 video on arrange marriage in muslims community
As for me, I don't see anything wrong with getting married young it's actually a good thing, I myself I would love to get married in my early to mid twenties if the most high wanted me too.
You like 9-year old girls, don't you?
@@fitzburg63 Sorry, please come again I don't understand the psychology behind your question.
@@Div-8739 so you are playing dumb now.
@@fitzburg63 You gotta be stupid for being a pervert asking me that stupid , senseless question, just because I would love to get married in my early to mid twenties doesn't mean I have chosen the specific age of female I want to marry, look at you, what am I going to do with a 9 year old kid.
@@Div-8739 bravo, you have destroyed your prophet, he was a pervert and filthy old pedophile.
Marrage is definately not easy guys and its not for everyone
When you get marriage according to Islam then it will easy for you.
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my brother it doesnt matter then the money and people and all that but now in this world it will and its mostly that me i wont get married brother u see me and u will think im on drug even when im not and that is how i look normaly