Naughty, Unacceptable Behaviour
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- čas přidán 11. 09. 2024
- In this video, Harry talks about the concept of naughty unacceptable behaviour . Do you remember a well known TV 'expert'?
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Thank you for your imput on this. I am supporting my son through some of his most challenging times, and having to deal with the fact that nobody has any faith in my parenting, and feel it is their place to tell me what i am doing wrong, honestly that is more mentally draining than watching my son struggle through meltdowns, and challenges.
Well said. The world needs more of this thinking and it applies far beyond PDA.
It would have never occurred to me that I was a "problem" child if I had been an only child, because my parents treated me like a human being. I still, however, seethe with resentment remembering my older sister saying things like "she's being hysterical again" (imagine it said with accompanying eyeroll.) Particularly once I had realized that "hysterical" begs the companion idea of "female," which characterization is both rude and invalid.
Needless to say, it was not the result of having female parts, but rather the result of long-endured frustration....
Amen ! If it wasn’t for your PDA and mine, I would urge you to come and bring awareness in France with me (sigh)
No parenting‘interventions’ worked on my son - he had his own mind from day 1 - the difference between me and some other parents is that I respected that and did not think it was my place to try to mold him or force him to fit in to appease others (wouldn’t have worked anyway, he found such ideas ridiculously funny and once he started laughing he couldn’t stop! And that made everyone else start laughing, even teachers). It was not an easy path and I took a lot of abuse for it, but it was worth it because he has turned out to be a wonderful person. I have been told many times he ‘is a credit’ to me - to which I say, no, he did it by himself.
I really like and can also relate to your comment. When I started out as a parent (my son is 8 now) I assumed I was supposed to be kind of a benevolent dictator and my children would just learn to obey. Well, that didn't happen. My son actually sounds a lot like yours; he 100% does not see the distinction between his level of authority and mine. I've learned that things work a lot better if I treat him more as an equal (within reason). He has a strong need to negotiate so that we come to a solution that doesn't seem one-sided. A lot of times it's a real struggle but I can picture him being a stronger adult in the end because of it.
@@vagabond197979 Totally get that where he saw no distinction between his own authority and mine (or anyone else’s). There are some practical concerns with that though!
@@tracik1277 You're right. More than once we've been crossing a busy street and had to quickly tell my son to stop (he wasn't really doing anything wrong). That demand made him so upset that he instantly threw his drink on the ground. He told me it was my fault and I had to get him a new drink. That's one way PDA manifests with us lol.
@@vagabond197979 When my son was about 4, he was a proper tear away. It was really hard to keep him from running off etc, so I had to always be one jump ahead of him especially on the street. He used to say that if a car was coming he could just push it away so it wouldn’t run him over. I did have to stop taking him out with me shopping etc because it was just not possible to keep him safe.