🚸 What I wish someone told me when I was in high school & college
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- čas přidán 4. 09. 2024
- Graduation season means lots of feelings, questions, and uncertainty. Here's what I wish someone told me and reminded me when I was going through it all: you're not defined by your GPA/SAT scores, you're not defined by what school you went to, you're not defined by your job. You're so 👏 much 👏 more 👏 than mere numbers and a few sentences on your resume. As for uncertainty, you'll never be fully certain with your path but keep fighting & dreaming despite that because you're realizing your destiny and blazing your own path with every decision and move you make. Got super inspired after watching Sky Castle lol lots more to come! 😀
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"A part of confidence is accepting the unknown." Wise words. I shall keep it close to my heart.
I'm in my gap year after uni and it's terrifying, in a way, because my friends jumped into working life immediately and I am sitting here feeling like a failure. But I cleaned up my diet, work out, meditate, and figure out who I am and where I want to go and learn so much more little things like psychology, gardening, and even nutrition. I'm still scared and restless, but I'll believe more in my journey and the uncertainties.
Thank you so much for this, Rowena.
this!!! i feel the exact same way except that i am taking a semester off before college. it's terrifying to feel like you're falling behind but it's better to take some time off to figure out what you want for your life than to throw yourself into something you hate. there is no one path. everyone is on their own journey. best wishes.
Hi =) i hope you're feeling better now ! i just wanted to say that i'm in the exact situation as you and i feel terrified..reading your comment gave me some comfort ! i wish you a wonderful life full of success , joy and peace
"just walk it and your path will reveal itself." - Rowena Tsai, 2019.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom with the world Rowena ❤️🌍 love from the UK! 🇬🇧
Something like that said asian philosofer Zhuang Ze: '' a path is made by walking on it. ''
@@nejah.6487 That's so interesting! Thank you for enlightening me on it 😊✨✨ have a nice day
@@inretrospect7513 no problem:) look it up, especially daoism, i think it goes well with the topic in this video :)
@@nejah.6487 OK thanks for the suggestion 🙂❤️
As Dori said...”just keep swimming, just keep swimming.” Peace and love to each of you.
Peace and love to you too 🌟❤️
High school senior here! My last day of school is Monday. Just wanted to say: this spring I was rejected from four schools and waitlisted at Harvard, and it’s probably the best thing that has ever happened to me. I thought it was going to kill me, but getting the waitlist letter (which is pretty much rejection) was the hugest relief of my whole life. In the fall I’m going to a school that really values me and will help me grow. It’s made me think of the Steinbeck quote, “now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good.” Rowena, your videos really helped me through the chaos of the college admissions season. Thank you so much! I would also like to extend my love to anyone going through the process 💛💛
If you have the opportunity, consider community college as your first step! Save money, less pressure to get in, and gives you the time and space to explore and take a multitude of different classes. I got to take ballet and modern dance for the first time in my life at CC. A great choice to get credit, but also take classes for your own personal development. Good luck to you! :)
Eva Pabilona thanks for the suggestion! I’ve enrolled in another four year university, though. I want to go into academia as a profession, so I think it is the best move. Very excited for everything that is ahead!
@@juliakerrigan5133 That's great! I am looking to go into academia as well. I bounced around a lot before deciding, so community college was best for my case. Best of luck to you! :)
Accepting that we can't know what will happen is excellent advice. Three years ago, I moved with nothing but a few outfits to my name. My wallet was even stolen from me. I started from square zero, but I knew I could make life work. Now I have a nice house, a good paying job and bountiful opportunity.
I always love watching your videos, because I'm literally always trying to get my life together.
Thank you for this comment
I wish I could comment this three years from now too. I hope I'll get things to work out for me ;;
@@Seolhwaneul believe in yourself. You can accomplish great things as long as you don't give up. ❤
@@simplycaspar I needed this so much ;; I'll work hard and believe that it will 💕thank you!!
I love starting my Saturday mornings eating breakfast and watching Rowena 🤗💗
Nicolle saaame ❤️
Me too ❤️
My finals are starting next week. I'm feeling a lot of pressure. This video really helped me.
Study, pace yourself and do your best. GODs in control.
good luck! everything will be okay 💖
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Thank you for this. Currently living with my parents and I’m trying really hard to define my own identity and not take on the fears and beliefs my mom keeps projecting onto me. Sometimes I feel like she doesn’t want me to be my own person, like she wants me to be the better version of herself and that’s hard to deal with when I have my own goals and dreams. Gotta figure out who I am without my parents 💕🤷🏾♀️
SavageCommaJade I’m in a similar situation. I currently live with my mom and she’s still thinks I’m 15-16 years old (I’m almost 29 btw). I’m going on my first solo trip and she’s bugging out about it, saying I’m going to get kidnapped and all this blasé blah and my anxiety has been on a thousand because of it. I know she means well, but there’s a line between true fear and paranoia. I basically lived this way since I was 9 years old, but no more. I’m my own person. I’m not her.
needed that. Thank you so much for that video. I'm currently graduating from "High school" in Germany. Yesterday before the maths exam I had a mental breakdown. I was crying, screaming and I was so scared of that huge exam.
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@@segiitaff6421 Danke dir ❤
Ging mir genauso. Mathe war noch nie mein bestes Fach und ich hoffe einfach nur dass ich einen Punkt bekomme... Naja, ich wollte nur sagen dass du damit nicht allein bist. Wir schaffen das schon✨
the school system of countries like Korea and the US really astound me.. in Belgium, nobody cares what school anyone goes to. We don't have any entrance exams, no stress. We can choose any course in any school we like, and if we don't like it we can just change our course. And it doesn't cost much at all so it's not a big deal. I used to think it was like this all over the world. People shouldn't feel so much stress over school. Parents or the school system shouldn't pressure those who want to learn.
Just the reminder I needed... Your path doesn't have to be defined, just walk it👏
I swear I'm already in college/internship but still pretty much need this. Guess all I have to do is embrace what comes despite being completely lost where I'm going, not knowing what I truly want to do, not being good at anything to be "talented" enough. I'm a mess, but at least an organized mess lmao. Thank you so much for this!
This comment was two years ago but sameeee except I'm not a organized mess but an unorganized mess😅.
I love how you brought up BTS and Namjoon because it’s just so true. They are such an influential group and have taught me how to love, whether it’s them giving us love or showing me reasons I should love myself. Now my question is, how do I reciprocate that love back to the world? Can I ever hope to be as impactful as them, to help others as much as they have helped me? I dwell on this so much and try to figure out the “right” way to go about life, but this video helped me realize that questions like this are not always helpful. thank you 💜
Rowena i love the way you tell and explain things, (even the most complicated things) you’re so good at that and it makes me understand what your message is so easily. This wasn’t even scripted omg well done and thank you for this vid!
i'm 'graduating' this month but i will need more time to subjects i had had to leave behind over the years for several reasons, everybody says it's okay and normal but deep inside me i know it's not. i feel kind of a failure for not going at the same pace as the others even though i know that everyone is different and we all have different paths. also my parents put pressure on me because i don't fit their idea of "what i should be" by now i should have my degree already and have a job but here i am still studying my degree. i don't know why but i needed to explain this. i wish i had the strength to don't make anything of this affect me but it does. thank you for your video ro, i'm glad i found you i wish i had a friend like u. wish everyone who reads this a lovely day!! 💕
Mireia V - just wanted to let you know, i was searching for a comment like this. i’m in a very similar situation and it was comforting to see i’m not alone. it’s hard seeing yourself through society’s definition of “success” or “making it”, but we are both on our way!! so what if it takes a few more years? we got this, girl. like Ro said, there’s so much more to life! college is important, but your health and happiness is so much more significant ✨
i felt like I'm in the same situation with you too. I'm supposed to graduate but some things didn't work out for me so I have to wait for a couple of time to graduate. I felt like I have failed too. It's really hard for me to handle this but lets not give up and we'll gonna get it. Keep going and I hope we'll make it. 💜
this is so deep, it's a real issue. i'm going through this right now, it's important to take the time to think about what YOU really want to do!
rowena, every time i watch you i'm just in awe of how incredibly smart you are, your ability to introspect, and how you're able to make sense of what your inner feelings and thoughts mean. you have a true eye for this type of thing. all the love
this is such a heartwarming comment😢😭💝💜
thank you so much for this video. I got back one of my grades for for a class yesterday and I missed the mark for an “A” by 0.5%..I was (and am) so devastated. It was so sad because I was so close but not good enough. I just felt horrible because it seemed like all my hard work went to nothing. I really needed this video and the encouragement. I am not defined by my gpa or my grades. I am more than that and I need to remember that.
i love ur passion & effort i respect u sm and i appreciate ur vids so much!!!! thank u for wat u do :-)
SKY CASLE IS THE BEST SHOW! Made my mom watch it as well!:)
Thank you for this. Something I’ve been meditating on is ‘investing in yourself’
I read this post the other day that said if you obsess over whether you are making the right decision, you are basically assuming that the universe will reward you for one thing and punish you for another. There is no wrong, only a series of possibilities. Going against the external pressures can be scary but we are created without limitation so live your best life and take a chance on yourself✨
Thank you for your existence Rowena!! Since i subscribed, i learned a lot from you!! You are such an inspiratjon to me. ❤️😘 May God bless what your heart desires Rowena! ❤️
Hey Rowena, I really enjoyed this video. I’m a high senior right now and your videos literally kept me sane this past year. Whenever school and life got too stressful, I would watch one of your videos and your voice always helped soothe me. I went through a lot this year in terms of family and feeling as though I was letting people down for not upholding their expectations of me and not making time for people. Your videos helped me through my times of self reflection and I truly believe I’ve turned into a better human being in just these past few months. I’ve given more attention to friends and family all because I learned to love myself for all my flaws and insecurities. You’ve also helped me revitalize my love for writing and now I have an unhealthy obsession with my journal! Thank you so much for this video and the ones to come, you’re the best. Love you!
I really needed to hear this thank you so much Rowena! 💗With upcoming second year uni exams mere days away I have been seriously breaking down but I am going to approach with this healthier mindset & hope all will work out for what I want to achieve xx💗
Thank you soo much for this video!! I just recently graduated and I'm really afraid of what the future has in store for me and when you said you need to figure out what's in front of you before you walk it, I completely related you and then you saying, just walk it and the path will reveal itself, just clicked.
yeah I agree! a huge part of growing up was understanding that my parents are just scared
You and BTS are a great source of inspiration for me.
Thanks for making videos ♡ I love what you do. You help me putting words on what I feel. (Just like BTS lyrics help me).
From a French high school girl who's gonna graduated.
Love ♡♡♡
I always enjoy watching your videos. Your advices are very helpful and rn I'm struggling finding my purpose and some other issues in my life so your videos are my go-to when I feel sad or when I just need to hear a good advice. I feel like you are my older sister who is wise and very understanding. Please keep creating videos like this. You always help me in some way. Hugs and much love from the Philippines ❤
Rowena you should do podcasts I need it, your voice, your words and everything is amazing and so helpful, I love you ❤
What a coincidence, was just watching all your videos while journalling - thanks for the upload :)
i'm graduating this june & i have these huge, huge fears of not making it great in the real world. i don't know what i should do after university & that scares me so much. :( i'm a huge bts fan & i'm happy that you mentioned namjoon. huhu they console & calm me down in these times of uncertainties, the same way your videos help me realize things vividly when my head is too clouded with negative thoughts. i really, really love your words & insights. 💛
Rowena i can't thank you enough because you lighted up my day ❤️
i'm in my gap year & i'll be studying for the residency exam (i'm in med school) to be honest i was terrified and so insecure about the future and how things will go but after watching this video i got tears i finally felt understood and found comfort in your wise and valuable advice ❤️ just like you said i'm gonna accept the unknown and have more faith in my journey and be confident about myself ! thank you so much for being such a kind angel i love you so much ❤️
“Trust in the universe that there’s something for you” thank you
wow. I wish I had someone who told me these kind of beautiful words back in my high school/college days. I actually spent my school years in the area where ‘Sky Castle’ takes place, and during middle~high school, I got so much pressure from everyone around me to get into one of the top universities. SO MUCH PRESSURE. I didn’t even really had a chance to deeply think about what I really wanted to do after graduating high school, because I thought all that mattered was to get in one of the top universities.
After reading some books and watching some youtube videos that encouraged me to love myself and do things that I love, I started to focus on myself and believe in what I do. It feels a lot better than it did in the past!
Thanks Rowena, for sharing these amazing thoughts on this platform.
note to self: I am in such a different place than when I first watched this video, may 2019 when I first graduated school and to that, cheers to me b/c I am so proud of you!! I remember watching this and being so scared bc I had not thought about any of this at all! maybe if whoever is reading this also feels the same way, keep going!!
As someone whose parents don’t ever talk to them abt college and what’s next it’s SO easy to feel confused and stupid. Right now seeing everyone grow up you feel left behind and you don’t know what the next step is and if it’s something obvious that only you don’t see.
Such a timely message, thank you Rowena!!
I'm currently in the process of reconstructing my life and seeing my human experiences from a different perspective; meaning providing myself with more acceptance, self love, and nourishment. I am incredibly driven these days to obtain knowledge by bettering my writing and math skills, bettering my old hobbies, developing NEW ones, consuming philosophical pieces of literature ( i even decided to throw myself out my comfort zone and declare a philosophy minor), and immerse myself in the idea of being comfortable with being uncomfortable. I have been going to bed earlier, waking up earlier, meditating consecutively ( I have decided to join a 365 meditation challenge with those in my local community and all around the world), diminish phone usage, and listen to podcasts.
I wanted to cut this short and share a TedTalk podcast called 'Nudge.'' It's fairly old (from 2016) but I have decided to listen to all available episodes and this episode was the perfect one to listen to this morning. It kind of expands on the similar ideas within this youtube video and I found it incredibly insightful and encouraging. I would definitely recommend it to all who are in need of some clarity and new perspective. I am sending love to everyone always.
As soon as I saw this I was like YES PLEASE GIVE ME THE ADVICE 👏🏻👏🏻😂💕
THIS IS SO GOOD I'm so glad you're sharing all this with us!!!
i am realizing what I want in life and what I consider success. it's scary to not know if it will turn out your way, but at least is full filling to try
your timing is perfect! for the last couple of days i have been struggling with thoughts about my future, but now i know that i should just go with the flow and do the things i love ☺️ thank you rowena!!
This video was so comforting. Thanks, Rowena! ❤️✨
Sky castle is such an amazing drama. I was so excited once I heard you mention it
Wowwwww this was incredible. Thank you for this. I wish you could speak at high schools 😭
I’m just in my exam season and i’m struggling with the grades that i’m gettin, this video come up just in time! Thanks Rowena 🥰
i just finished sky castle yesterday, and it's really eye-opening and very timely for me as i am studying for my college entrance tests :) love this video!
Great video! This is SO important to not base our identity on our GPA, job, college, status, etc.
I wish Rowena would also have a podcast. I will listen to her everyday ❤️❤️❤️❤️
AHHHH just what I need since I'm gonna graduate on June + I'll be on a gap year before I take up med school 💜 Thank you Rowena!!
Thank you so much Rowena. I’m going back to school for my doctorate this coming Fall and I’m scared for this new chapter. Thank you for reminding me of the big picture.
i hadnt realized how much i needed to hear this 💕💕
I’m late for this video but imma be coming back to this often, especially with how low my mental state is in regards to life , questioning what to do now and who I am after coming from a mindset where grades defined me
The few things that help calm me down along with the many beautiful things you’ve said are:
1. God/Universe/whatever higher power you may believe in gave you a life, challenges, and hardships that you can handle
2. My soul asked to come down and take on a physical form so I wanna grant my soul’s wish in living it as fully as I can
Big and philosophical I know haha but if it helps anyone else besides myself then I’m happy.
Life is hard. I don’t wanna say to “get through it” since to me it kinda implies it as something to drag ourselves through and not enjoy everything.
So I’ll say that life is hard, but let’s experience it~
(kudos to you if you read this long post, I love you 💕)
The "on uncertainties" section spoke directly to my soul! I'm crying lmao
Thank you for thisss... I’m graduating and am so frustrated of thinking about the future...and career...
“Look inward for answers” thank you
thank u rowena ♡ i needed to hear those precious sentences, it was so meaningful.
You’re para ofrecer my relax weekend routine. Thanks a lot for aaaaaall your vídeos! ✨💫 blessings!
Never been this early! Also, im a fresh graduate but i still need this thanks Ro❤️
Your content is amazing. Its so soothing, yet educationally and philosophically informative simultaneously.
Before starting a university/collage programme research what job opportunities they truly give, what your ”title” would be if any and what weight it has. Or how know it would be.
I made the misstake twice with two educations.
The second time it had plenty of useful courses but the title was vauge for possible employeers.
The first time I threw myself from I guess would be high school in american terms into a university programme far from home and was more stubborn about not giving up than making sure it was actually worth my time.
It Ofc still gave me knowledge I’m thankful for as Well as friends and a love I’d never have met otherwise.
But, I also built up a debt as a student.
Thank you so much for this video Rowena. I really needed this ❤️
Thanks for tackling about the issue I was most confused about..... I think I can get a clear mind now.... I tooo watched sky castle... At first I watched it because RM suggested it but as I watched it more and more... It felt like it it was kind of my story... The overwhelming emotions I felt during the drama and the number of times I cried... It really made me realize certain things about the society about my self... Now that I know I just want to be a better myself and live a happy life and I know for that I'll have to work hard and of course u WILL.... Thanks for the inspiration... It meant alot
This came at the most perfect time for me as an undergrad student. Thank youuuu
1:23 labels/ Status/ numbers / stats should not define you ,you are so much more than all that
1:50 If you don't define what is important to you, and what success means to you, you allow other people and the outside world to define what success should mean to YOU
10:11 it's easy to look outward for answers, validation or what defines success. But if we're able to look inward and ask yourself the tough questions (what is success to me? Why am i doing this?) , you'd be able to know yourself better, and you'd find the encouragement and motivation to do the things you wanna do and you'd be able to do these things better.
3:31 gap year. Spending time to get to know yourself would be much more useful to you in the long run than getting good grades
4:53 dealing with parents
Remember, they are humans too, and they have their own flaws and weaknesses and it's easy for humans to project their own insecurities and unhappiness onto others, especially their children, who they feel like they can control as they are a part of them
You could try to communicate with them, but you need to remember that *your life is your responsibility* 5:39 your parents aren't responsible for your life, they're responsible for their lives. Because, if you spend you whole life doing what they want you to do, and you live your life for them, what are you gonna do when they're not around...?
6:35 uncertainties will always be there.
There is no "right path".
Even the most successful people have moments of uncertainty
The mountains you'd have to climb are endless. Once you overcome one, there would be another one waiting for ya.
9:01 the sooner you're able to process and internalize the fact that your whole life is unpredictable and uncertain and there will be multiple mountains coming up all the time and you just gotta roll with the punches, the better it will be and life will be better and easier. There's no rush to define what you're doing, what your path is. *Just walk your path, and the path will reveal itself*
10:58 *confidence comes from accepting the unknown, and yourself. Life's gonna happen, and the best you can do is just the best you can, with what you have, where you are. We just gotta accept ourselves for who we are, and embrace ourselves, and believe that things will work out*
12:00 you are awesome! You are not some numbers and stats. And *no matter what the outside world is telling you, no matter what anyone is telling you, before answering to the outside world, before you let the external pressure and judgement consume you, turn inward and ask yourself, WHY?*
Rowena, you have no idea how much I needed to hear this.
Thank you so much for this video! I’m in high school and I needed this video. Much love!
You should do a podcast! I would definitely listen to it!
Thank you for walking your path and sharing some of your wisdom =3
Thank you Rowena!!!! You are doing such a good job on this channel! Keep it up!
My results will be announced soon.I needed this very much
" Walk your path and then your path will reveal itself" YASSSS
ONLY THREE MINUTES IN AND YOURE ALREADY SO FREAKING INSPIRING ~T H I S ~ IS CONTENT
There is no right or wrong path. I think I needed to hear that. Have fun at the wedding :)
Thanks for this I'm in last year of my high school and this will help me so much.
I needed this message so bad! Thank you, Rowena!
Thank you for spreading such positive energy into the world 💗
this came to me at the right time, thank you so much rowena
You make me so happy!
Geeeeee wow how befitting.... You know I've been struggling with this myself. I tend to belittle myself based on societal accolades -deemed as norms- not yet accrued. I sometimes feel like I'm just not enough. Its a struggle really but I'm working on it. I'd like to get to a "I don't give a fnck" point.
'there really is no right path' oh wow I almost cried
Although annoying, the pressure to go to college is simply a part of the American life. It sucks, of course, but that’s just how it is. Not everyone can afford a gap year. Getting a minimum wage job and supporting yourself with that, especially if you’re a person that doesn’t get help from your parents, is not plausible for all. For some, yes, but for all, absolutely not. For some, the pressure of going to college and succeeding in life is not parental pressure, it’s pressure to escape a life of poverty/helplessness that has been experienced during an entire childhood. Gap years, pressure, all of that, for the poorer side of high school graduates, is absolutely necessary in being able to support yourself in the future. Some do not have a cushion of their own or their parent(s) money to help them “experience life and know how the world works.” Some people are absolutely forced to take the fast track, go into debt their entire lives just to get an education, and just deal with the pressure of getting into a good school. While I appreciate the positivity and encouragement, for a lot of people, these things would not be plausible
Thank you, this was exactly what I needed
Your videos are a huge inspiration.
Another great video as usual. Thanks for this Rowena 💗✨
Thank u so much!! 10 days until I hand in my final piece of work for university ever... pretty much terrifid.
If we dont know what we want in life. Any path serves. Get to know yourself and live the life you want, not what other want from you ***
You always make the videos i need at the time
Hi Rowena! love listening to you.❤ Looking so good and fresh 😍
Thank you for much needed words
I needed to hear this so much right now. Love your videos ❤️ ps where is your art from ?? i need the print of noface in the ramen bowl😂
A really interesting topic! Thanks for discussing it :)
One of the reasons why students don’t take gap years in the US is because they risk losing scholarships and financial aid. I think a gap year is smart though because it would students an opportunity to really explore their options properly and if they decide not to go to college, then they can decline the scholarship so another student can have the opportunity.
Love from Malaysia !
Thank you soooo much Rowena💗💕
i needed this thank you 😌❤️
You just said what I think and always try to explain to people.... Thanks for bringing this topic out. Love from Rashmi
Yasss! @2:20. I'm feeling that too.
Girl yess.
11:17 yes you are 😍