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  • čas přidán 21. 08. 2024
  • please don't be that friend 🙏🥲

Komentáře • 93

  • @lorena8337
    @lorena8337 Před 9 měsíci +108

    What happens to me is that I am afraid to join my friends because sometimes I think I make them uncomfortable or I bother them 😭

  • @Noah_scotl
    @Noah_scotl Před rokem +178

    I can't split myself into two 😂😂😂... I totally agree, thanks for making it so clear and you spoke what most of us couldn't say or explain 😅😅😅

  • @mrmarshmallow2067
    @mrmarshmallow2067 Před rokem +123

    I love playing with my friends, but I always prefer candle running alone. The candle run is done much slower If I do it with friends cuz I get distracted easily.
    I wish the do not disturb spells actually locked the teleport button 😭

    • @rosegolden8959
      @rosegolden8959 Před 10 měsíci +35

      Better yet, add a feature that allows us to appear offline in other peoples' constellations while we're playing. Seriously, I get that sky is meant to be a game that heavily pushes social interaction and working together and whatnot, but some people genuinely just like their solidarity from time to time, especially in such a calming game. Nothing wrong with that😕

    • @yana4310
      @yana4310 Před 7 měsíci +4

      ​@@rosegolden8959I have seen other games give the option to turn off teleporting to friends. I don't understand why sky doesn't have that. Those would be good ideas to add

    • @madpsina
      @madpsina Před 3 měsíci +1

      right? sometimes I don't have time and just want to do my dailies quickly, but then some friend tp to me 😅 and sometimes it's me who intrudes... that feature would definitely solve some problems

    • @still_your_zelda
      @still_your_zelda Před 2 měsíci +1

      @@yana4310agreed. I saw on Reddit this week that someone warped to a friend and was put into a broken & hacked version of Eden and can’t get out. Hypothetically you aren’t supposed to be able to bring someone there, and yet it just happened. I wish I could disable warping too. I prefer candle running alone or with only 1-3 friends tops. It stresses me out to do it with more than that.

  • @GrimBeakington
    @GrimBeakington Před rokem +44

    I have this kind of friend. I've considered blocking them since it's gotten really out of hand at some points, but I feel bad thinking of it. They've joined me at random points when I was alone, most times I was fine with it, but some I told them "Hey, I would like to play alone at the moment, so could you please respect that?" and they would just stay. I'd purposely unlatch them from my hand and they'd reattach. I'd keep doing this and remind them again I want to play alone, and they'd beg me to let them stay. Once, I was playing with friends late at night and said friend randomly joined me, which I would have been fine with them joining along as long as the uber was fine with it, but they instead begged me to get away from my friends and have me uber them on a candle run, even though I expressed I wasn't yet comfortable leading since I was still pretty new at the time. I eventually caved in. They tried this again two months ago when I was having a jam sesh with my friends, but I put my foot down and declined. Idk if I'm being too harsh or if I should block them or what, but I'm glad it's at least gotten better recently

    • @Ttpluto
      @Ttpluto Před rokem +25

      You’re definitely not in the wrong. I suggest avoiding them if you dont block them, its never a good sign when another person tries to isolate you from other friends, plus them not respecting what you say is a big no no. I once had a ‘friend’ like that when i was still new to sky, they only got creepier so i suggest putting your foot down now

    • @kaleycooper9111
      @kaleycooper9111 Před rokem +10

      Just ignore them? LMAO it’s not that deep. I used to have a friend that would always cling to me and immediately tp to me when I went online. It was endearing at first but it got annoying really fast.
      If you can’t ignore them because you have chat, well… I hate to be that person, but they added the “block chat” button for a reason. Don’t want to talk to them? Then don’t

    • @Mangostef
      @Mangostef Před 10 měsíci +11

      I would have blocked them so fast

    • @Zombina638
      @Zombina638 Před 8 měsíci

      Bad on u

    • @still_your_zelda
      @still_your_zelda Před 2 měsíci +2

      I had this with 3 moths recently. With the PC release, people are abusing the wholesome & helpful nature of this game and exploiting it. TGC hasn’t been good at censoring, monitoring or reporting these behaviors either. 😢 It’s worth at least blocking. These players aren’t worth your time.

  • @wolfiebluewilliams488
    @wolfiebluewilliams488 Před rokem +62

    I have never had a friend like that, and I don't tend to like to play with others. More often then not, I'll try to find an excuse to leave a firend. Don't get me wrong. I like them and it's nice to chat, but I just don't like playing Sky with people, it was different when I first started because I had 3 people who I played with all the time, but we grew distant and they stopped playing. This happened 3 more times before I just stared to play alone, because I can't seem to get the same connections... I have been playing Sky since early 2020. Around end of Rythm, and I tend to just drift.

  • @helveciojeremias5243
    @helveciojeremias5243 Před rokem +81

    I have a friend like that, once I told her that I couldn't play with her, I was just going to do the missions and leave, but she kept insisting on joining me, until I rejected her several times and she said "that's crap " and started flying aimlessly, I already told her several times that I don't have time to play all the time, but she insists on playing with me when I'm trying to play with my other friends .

    • @user-rd2ri6ny2o
      @user-rd2ri6ny2o Před rokem +3

      Hmm, just sounds like you are not being very nice to me, maybe she needed to do missions with someone and was tired of doing them alone all the time. Would of it hurt you? If there's room for her to join you then be a friend and let them join or block them if you don't want to play with her, which is how it sounds. This video here explains the people who complain about others not joining them and expect you to always join and leave your friends etc.. all my friends are welcome to join me any time they like but usually Im with my group already so I won't just leave to join 1 person unless they are off. Just be nice and make people feel welcome ☺️

    • @helveciojeremias5243
      @helveciojeremias5243 Před rokem +21

      ​​@@user-rd2ri6ny2oes, but what annoys me is that sometimes I tell her that she can play with me and my friends, but she keeps letting go of our hands and offering me back, wanting to lead me, and totally ignores my friends (I'm not the one driving)
      but well, I noticed that she has improved a lot, she understands that I've been kind of busy, and she always asks if she can play with me, so I feel more comfortable having her around, and I feel good about that now, because she really felt a little lonely, but she also needed to learn to respect someone else's space.

    • @user-rd2ri6ny2o
      @user-rd2ri6ny2o Před rokem

      @@helveciojeremias5243 hmm I understand how that can be frustrating. Was she a new player? Good that she seems to be learning now as this person does seem pretty new to the game

    • @helveciojeremias5243
      @helveciojeremias5243 Před rokem +29

      oh but I blocked her this week, as kind as I am, she doesn't recognize it. a few days ago i was at the home talking to my friends, and she showed up offering the piggy back, i said i didn't want to go at that moment, because i wanted to stay there with my friends talking, but she said "you can talk to them while tip behind my back" I didn't accept it anyway, we stood there staring at each other for a while, while I patiently told her that I didn't want it, until she said "you're wasting my time" and left. She's the one wasting her time trying to force someone who won't make any difference in her life to do what she wants, that hurt me, so the next day I was with my friend and this player showed up again, me and my friend we were already planning to block her, so i had a conversation with her about it, that i wasn't happy with the things she was doing to me and my friends, she doesn't even care about my choices, after the conversation she said "you left my heart" but remembering that she was the one who hurt me first, and then she left, but she came back and started using emotes pointing at me and interacting with other players as if she was telling them to avoid me, so I said "that's enough, you never you know what I mean, go find someone better, it won't make any difference" and then I blocked her in front of her while she was watching, my friend also blocked her (sorry for the big text)
      she never acknowledged the things I did to her, she just treated me like someone who has an "obligation" to do what she wants whenever she wants, regardless of my choice

    • @dwollsize
      @dwollsize Před 3 měsíci

      @@helveciojeremias5243yeahhhh that sounds extreamly toxic and a way to manipulate you into doing the things she wants.. I’m glad you cut that toxicity out of your life.

  • @-randomuser-4897
    @-randomuser-4897 Před rokem +17

    Very true, and well said. Also extends to social interactions overall!
    Lately, i've had a friend suddenly text me multiple times a day, and wonder why i don't respond more than once a day. I've told them a few times how i struggle with social interactions for varied reasons, and need a lot of time, and to avoid setting up expectations. People have a life away from their phone, and can need alone time; it just varies on the person.
    Thank you.

  • @moiraifates7865
    @moiraifates7865 Před rokem +17

    That pink skykid is just like me 😢 ( my inner thoughts ) thank you so much, I feel better after seeing your video 😊

  • @robloxjordi
    @robloxjordi Před rokem +14

    0:33 or they just too shy to join cuz I have a close friend who does not join me but I'm always join her and I ask why and she said she just shy and doesn't know how to act when joining a player

  • @Honehail
    @Honehail Před 10 měsíci +5

    The most important thing is to be kind to everyone, everyone respects kindness and clear communication :)

  • @a7medx297
    @a7medx297 Před rokem +29

    A lot of players must know this like for real

  • @feix_qtv3703
    @feix_qtv3703 Před 8 měsíci +6

    I have this one friend who comes to me and kinda „begs“ to heart trade. Told them that I can’t cuz I’m saving for the ts and they said smth like „but I really want a cape and I don’t have enough hearts“ and then getting pissed when I say no. We’ve never played together, only when they’re asking for hearts

  • @coraline3767
    @coraline3767 Před 4 měsíci +2

    True. I meet some of the players like that..

  • @CyanMinty
    @CyanMinty Před 25 dny

    True. I like how u explained
    "If you can't change the situation, change your attitude" ( I wanna share this )

  • @yeahthatsmee
    @yeahthatsmee Před rokem +14

    OMG so true and well said ! I have to send this to couple of friends of mine 😂

  • @TheRayofsunshine01
    @TheRayofsunshine01 Před rokem +4

    This is cute, I play alone and always alone because I’m a momma with a little chick so sometimes I’ll log on and I’ll have to log off just as quickly as I logged on.
    So I solo by choice not that I don’t like any of dearest light buddies

  • @lyssadragon1598
    @lyssadragon1598 Před rokem +12

    This remind me, one of a person in Sky. The time that there was a echo glitch. This person was so angry at me that I was hanging out with my other friends that it was using the glitch towards me and my other friend. I got a huge headache because of them and left the game without finishing my candle run…. And I think my friend log out to after that. The next day I block the person because I found out because they were so angry. I made that they can I use a abusive words on me.

  • @KrillWhisperer
    @KrillWhisperer Před 8 měsíci +4

    basically don't friend kids if you don't wanna deal with this

  • @courtneyhall6162
    @courtneyhall6162 Před rokem +16

    I didn't choose alone , alone choosed me , frfr I want a partner :( but I'm always alone

    • @nana_3137
      @nana_3137 Před rokem +6

      You can socialise in prairie or wasteland area... although most of them prolly doesn't speak main language u use..my suggestion is try going somewhere that isn't a social area pull out a table n do the waiting game it might take a while but you will bump into another player that bored of being alone n just stop in the middle of their cr for you and don't forget joining them from time to time instead of waiting for them to join😗

    • @reiraccoon
      @reiraccoon Před rokem +6

      We can be friends if you'd like! Alone choosed me too sadly and as an introvert who still likes having friends around it's tough 😭

    • @courtneyhall6162
      @courtneyhall6162 Před rokem +3

      @@reiraccoon yeah that would be nice , do you keep discord?

    • @reiraccoon
      @reiraccoon Před rokem +4

      @@courtneyhall6162 I do!

    • @courtneyhall6162
      @courtneyhall6162 Před rokem

      @@reiraccoon could you add me :) Celestial Nymph#7762

  • @user-kh6wu7bd5s
    @user-kh6wu7bd5s Před 6 měsíci +2

    Actually im like im between sometimes i feel like that too but im just too shy and scared to say anything but i do understand tho sometimes they cant always play with u all the time

  • @LilyLeKitttttt4420
    @LilyLeKitttttt4420 Před rokem +6

    Oh god I meet this type of player and it's frustrating. They get jealous of my close friend(we in the same country, they are in another one). They want only me to spend times with them and get mad at my friend. The thing is I understand why they feel that way and we can work this out but they don't agree. We barely meet each other now.

  • @SilverICG
    @SilverICG Před 10 měsíci +4

    Some sky kids need to see this video 😅 hahahahha

  • @titusfortunus2916
    @titusfortunus2916 Před 2 měsíci +2

    "I won't join you and if you join me I'll be too busy with other friends, and even if I'm not with other friends I'd prefer to be alone, and even if I just logged in I've got other stuff going on... but I promise we're totally friends!"
    l m a o
    You know it's okay to not be friends with someone, right? It's okay to not like someone. The world doesn't end the moment you're not friends with someone. They deserve better than to doggedly wait for a scrap of attention, and you deserve better than to carry this burden of "I *MUST* BE NICE TO THEM OR ELSE I'M EVIL!" Just... just tell them that you don't want to be mean but you don't really find much to relate to them about and it feels awkward to hang out with them. You wish them the best and hope they can make other great friends, because they deserve great friends, but it just isn't going to be you. 7 billion people in this world and you really think you're so special that you're the only one.
    Someone tried this with me once. "YOU DON'T LIKE ME, YOU'RE NOT HANGING OUT WITH ME AT ALL AND EVERY TIME I JOIN YOU YOU'RE BUSY WITH OTHER PEOPLE BUT NEVER ME!" I stopped, and said "hold on, let me think about it." I thought, and realized they were right, then told them as much. "You know, I think you're right. I hang out with you because I feel like I'm a bad person if I don't, but I've been forcing it so much that I don't think we get along. Thanks for being so understanding and helping me realize." And then I blocked them.

  • @xhin_gaming
    @xhin_gaming Před rokem +5

    I hope some skids ive added would see this. I don't join or locate players except for my friend group that ive been really close with (even with them i seldom do it). I'm used to being a solo player but I'm not anti social. Im okay with friends joining me while i run and all that. But- sometimes its way too much that some players ive added would locate me even when in on DND and then not get along with my close friends who I'm usually with in game. Smh ive resorted to blocking some of them who had really crossed the line.

  • @EllenKeeton
    @EllenKeeton Před 3 měsíci +1

    THANK YOU!!!!

  • @honestlygood7967
    @honestlygood7967 Před 6 měsíci +3

    Y am I watching this I don’t have friends D:

  • @user-gd8ec8de3x
    @user-gd8ec8de3x Před rokem +11

    Is it wrong that I want them to visit me, because if I don't go to them, they won't come to me? 😓

  • @kathleenabbu8553
    @kathleenabbu8553 Před 7 měsíci +2

    and some thought that I ignore them. Seriously we have a life outside of the game, we have jobs, chores & bills to pay

  • @animationfoxvika9509
    @animationfoxvika9509 Před 10 měsíci +1

    My friends often get upset i study and i dont have time and my character is with granny collect atleast wax i hope they will understand that i dont have time like before

  • @cutlet_0
    @cutlet_0 Před 7 měsíci +1

    The game is very good, but as a sociopath I can't find friends.

  • @MicaelAlighieri
    @MicaelAlighieri Před 9 dny

    Unfortunately, in my case, it was actually true, but it was rather an exception, the rest is great and all the points are valid for them.

  • @bessieboo_
    @bessieboo_ Před 9 měsíci +2

    in somecases its acceptable, i mean, some people are just trash.

  • @mirriammem.1370
    @mirriammem.1370 Před rokem +1

    i have a friend like this 😭 yesterday i was suppose to go to the prarie peaks with my friend but my other is just
    ..

  • @Chiramino
    @Chiramino Před 10 měsíci +2

    I dont have to worry abt that cuz I play witht my alt 😎
    *Im so lonely pls help*

  • @--Local_Cat_Therian--
    @--Local_Cat_Therian-- Před 11 měsíci +1

    Im half one of those people and half not,
    I respect friends but for the massive amount i have, they rarely are online.
    I respect them but im raging inside, i hate farming💀

  • @halfdemon43
    @halfdemon43 Před rokem +2

    Omg I know this exact player 😂😂😂🎉😂😂

  • @shortones9092
    @shortones9092 Před rokem +5

    Am that frnd 🤣🤣

  • @thatgachast4r
    @thatgachast4r Před rokem +3

    For me my friend can’t join me

  • @Noah_scotl
    @Noah_scotl Před rokem +3

    1st like without even watching the video, i am sure it's awesome 💯

  • @Elizabith992
    @Elizabith992 Před 3 měsíci +1

    لقد بدات لعب اللعبة وحيدة …وكنت اغار جدا من الذين يرافقون اصدقائهم … وفجأة اصبح لدي الكثير من الاصدقاء كان الامر جميلا جدا في البداية … لكني اكتشفت اني افضل ان اجمع الشموع وحيدة لانه اسرع هكذا …لكن اصدقائي ياتون لي حال دخولي اللعبة وانا اخجل ان اقول لهم لا او احرجهم برفضي … اصبحت لا ادخل اللعبة الا نادرا 😭… اعني اشعر بالذنب بشان عدم رغبتي برفقة ولكن انا حقا افضل مساحتي الشخصية … ماهي الطريقة اللطيفة لقول لا 😫😭؟

    • @IumaSky
      @IumaSky Před 21 dnem

      يمكنك القول انني احتاج اللعب بمفردي بلطف 😂
      واخبرهم انك ستلعب معهم في المرة القادمة .

  • @KIKURAsky
    @KIKURAsky Před 10 měsíci

    thank u ❤

  • @NeriaRumawir
    @NeriaRumawir Před měsícem

    I'm that friend 😂💀

  • @IumaSky
    @IumaSky Před 21 dnem

    كان لدي صديق ، انه حقاً لايتركني بمفردي💀 ، وهوَ طوال الوقت في اللعبة يلعب ، ينتظر قدومي للعبة حتى نلعب معاً ، حقاً انزعجت ، وحذفته من اللعبة🫠

  • @parodykzlive3029
    @parodykzlive3029 Před rokem +6

    Hmm they can seem annoying but if you just add them to your friends group you can play all together or they can find someone else there to spend time with

    • @LilyLeKitttttt4420
      @LilyLeKitttttt4420 Před rokem +15

      I hope it's that easy. Some people just want only you and them play together😥😥

    • @parodykzlive3029
      @parodykzlive3029 Před rokem +3

      @@LilyLeKitttttt4420 maybe they have crush on you? Hh

  • @Kefir178
    @Kefir178 Před 10 měsíci +3

    I don't agree on some of these you should learn how to manage proper contact with all your friends to not make them feel left out

  • @Moon_lit88
    @Moon_lit88 Před 8 měsíci

    Friends? Whats that?

  • @jomeleemerencillo5798

    Like I play my best friend jassy

  • @Zombina638
    @Zombina638 Před 8 měsíci

    No! No and no!

  • @user-ew4il9dm2c
    @user-ew4il9dm2c Před 4 měsíci

    I get really bothered😂

  • @SiriusK227
    @SiriusK227 Před rokem +9

    They just want to play with you. Whats wrong with it?!
    I hate how sky community is dramatic about literally everything

    • @sibalsekya
      @sibalsekya Před rokem +9

      Not all time, they also have their own fav friends

    • @SiriusK227
      @SiriusK227 Před rokem +1

      @@sibalsekya but ignoring their friend who's joined them just bc they are with other friend doesn't make them a good friend either. Some of my friends have done this too, so i can say it doesn't feel good.

    • @sibalsekya
      @sibalsekya Před rokem +8

      @@SiriusK227 well, i think u may have some miss interpeseption, hope u find ur own piece of mind

    • @Zombina638
      @Zombina638 Před 8 měsíci

      So true

    • @yana4310
      @yana4310 Před 7 měsíci +4

      There is nothing wrong with a specific person wanting to play with someone. It's just how that person reacts or their attitude about it. Ever stop to think you're overbearing and making your friend uncomfortable? A person like the video is trying to convey is often pushy or guilt tripping their friend. No one is entitled to someone's time. A person can have multiple friends and then choose to hang out with them. Obviously you can all hang out but it just depends if everyone agrees to. If the person's reaction is to be upset and say things like "why can't it be only us?" Or "you never pick me to hang out." Then it's entitlement, unacceptable behavior. These are just examples. Please be more aware of your actions.

  • @HeadPhonz
    @HeadPhonz Před rokem +32

    completely agree…I’ve had to block some of these because they refuse to try to get along with others🥲 made me want to quit. So please go easy on your beloved friends! 😅

    • @_mirary_
      @_mirary_ Před rokem +21

      Bruh why is it so hard for them to respect the fact that you have other relationships and other friends that are dear to you 💀 Like just light the person and bow to them, or tell your friend that it's nice meeting their other friend.s, or just do nothing instead of doing random angry emotes like a 6yo kid and leaving/blaming anyone
      Like nothing stops them from playing with you while you're with someone, and if you want alone time w that person the other friend should respect that

    • @Artisan_Lunartic
      @Artisan_Lunartic Před rokem +7

      I had a friend EXACTLY like that! She would constantly join me and be downright rude to those I was playing with/talking to (sometimes rude to people I wasn't even talking to, but were nearby ), give me the silent treatment if I took too long to say 'Hello' . Once I was at a table with about 5 other sky kids trying to get to an OOBs area, and we wanted to discuss how we'd get there... My friend began cussing them out like crazy.... One of the sky kids at the table did NOT take that lightly and they both started throwing insults and arguing over nothing in particular... Sometimes she'd bring random people to me and introduce them as her BF/GF and her age would also change constantly 😂 . Found out she had some kind of crush on me and was trying to make me jealous... But I kid you not, one guy she bought over claiming to be his GF talked to me, and I said 'you realize she's like under 13 right?' and he said 'yeah, apparently I'm her BF 🤣'. After I told him that she was likely a child she got REALLY mad, and our last interactions we had, was mainly her literally attempting to tear my friendships apart. Didn't work cause my friends were already close to me hehe 👏

  • @xansynpai
    @xansynpai Před rokem +3

    I want some privacy too!!! I used the DND spell but they keeps joining 🥲🥲