Hi sir.. I am a female student from uttrakhand 5 years back i started my journey i have given 5 attemptsand always rejected by 2 3 exams ..becoming ias officer was my childhood dream...i was very clear so after grad i started preparing now i have came a long way...sir i am really depressed now...i really need help what should i do..now i have no where to go sir....in self doubts i was always a outgoing and brilliant student but now i am.really depressed...plz help me sir i am the only child of my parents ..
@@selflove786 hey, I really suggest you to take a break or some time out for yourself. It's okay to feel this way, but I hope you know you're strong and can withstand whatever comes. Please take care of yourself, and even if it sucks right now, it will get better.
I'm writing it down just to tell myself "I'm proud of you" as I haven't heard from anyone....I was mentally exhausted with people's opinions and my parent's criticism. Despite all of this I still remember the sleepless nights,countless revision, scheduling,tears, trying to be motivated all the time.This was my third attempt & i want to remember myself that I worked hard till the 16th morning,i fought for very last minute but still due to silly mistakes I did wrong in some questions I'm bit disappointed for not clearing this time but I know next year I'm gonna see my name in the list I'm very very much confident But I was anxious about my parents reaction ...the whole world is trying to separate me from my dream in every way possible....my only concern is that I wasn't able to stay strong in all the situations , mentally exhausted, unable to concentrate,and felt like choking
Your situation is exactly same as mine, I thought this 3rd attempt was my last as I've done enough hardwork but I've done some silly mistakes due to lack of revision at last moment for some reasons
Gratitude Gratitude Gratitude! 🌻💜 Doc, I'm on the borderline, I don't know what the result is going to be, but yes I know I've worked extremely hard for the past year and I'm ready to face whatever comes my way. Thank you for being there.
I don't know if I am going to make it or not but one thing I know that this attempt has been about my improvement, my efforts and my hard work. I am proud of myself whether I make it or not. I am committed to giving it one more chance as I have immensely improved. Thank you Sir for your support and guidance.
I’m really scared for this prelims result. Uncertain part is my family forcing me for marriage. It’s like either clear a govt exam or marry a govt job guy. I’m terribly stuck. In marriage it’s been 6 guys who kept rejecting me for looks and all these are IAS/Ips officers asking for 20cr dowry. Yes it’s true. People from Up must be aware of it. Shivin sir you are so considerate. Please help me to find a path. I’m the object of everyone’s taunts and frustration. I’m trying my best to ignore but it’s hard. I pray often. My self worth is almost zero. My parents are extremely successful so I have a high pressure to perform. I want to appear again but life’s so hazy.
UPSC exam expects ton of hardwork from aspirants but at the end the results may or may not be positive but ultimately we should try to live our life happily with other opportunities that we don’t look at it now All best for good things to happen 😊
Being an academically bright child since school and college, I always felt like I could clear any exam, but my upsc journey had other plans. The biggest mistake I made was giving a non serious attempt in 2021, which took away my self esteem and all the enthusiasm which the first attempt brings. I scored 61. Then I put my head down and prepared for 2022. But, I missed Pre 22 by a whisker. It shattered me. 5-6 months I just procrastinated, I lost my vision. Under prepared, I missed Pre 23 cutoff by 15 marks. Now my self confidence was buried under the ground. I compared by current self with my younger self, the little boy who topped school exams and whose teachers and parents had high hopes from him. I was not even half of what I used to be. All I could see were my weaknesses, and my mental health was absolutely destroyed. Familiarity with upsc prep(comfort zone) and family support enabled me to give another attempt. I really really studied hard, honestly I felt horrible because my mental health was no longer a friend, everyday getting up was a struggle, the joy and enthusiasm had escaped my life. But somehow I kept going and I felt reasonably confident one day before Pre 24, and the reason was my competence. Now, according to answer keys my score is 80.67, in with a meagre chance, I am very anxious. Not because I won't be able to do anything else in life, but because I have lost belief in myself, the great gift I earlier had. The last 10 days, I have somehow focused most of my energy on improving my mental health, which is now my priority over any career prospect.
Bro just relax.. if you have scored 80 ,it means you have sufficient knowledge and you might miss cutoff because here guesswork helps you to get that edge( i scored 109.09 in 2023, 72 in 2022, 80 in 2021 and this time hovering around 95.) work on making right guess, take risk(fortune favours the brave) only if you want to do this otherwise there are ample of opportunities to look for. Every individual is unique ,you might perform well at something else. Sorry for giving unasked advice but i could not hold myself when i read something relatable
I randomly came across one of the videos of Shivin sir, talking about how he went through a bad break-up and loss of a loved one before 2022 prelims. I've downloaded that video in my phone and I have watched it like 1000 times by now only to realise that I'm not the only one with problems. I've dealt with depression in a very young age but i bounced back and now I'm dealing with stage 4 cancer of one of my parents. It is hard and we know the ultimate outcome of it but I feel the depression I had earlier prepared me for this. If I had not got diagnosed with clinical depression that time I wouldn't have been prepared for this in a million lifetimes. it's hard but it's worth it, I'm a gen z so I just take it as my character development! It's my first attempt and I have a chance of clearing this exam but even if I couldn't I'd bounce back because as Elle Woods said in Legally Blonde movie, "Like it's hard?" . Anyways thank you so much shivin sir for existing, I love you so much. I've followed you from your anonymous aspirant journey to now, every achievement and criticism of yours feels personal. The day I crack this exam it'd be because of you even my parents know that.
Thank you so much Sir. I used to prepare along with my brother back in 2018, He used to inspire me for this exam as he was also preparing and definitely going to make it but I always had a secure career like you so I did not pay much attention then unfortunately I lost him. I was shattered. Always depressed, anxious and on therapy as well. From the last few months I have started preparing again and gave my attempt. I don't know what is going to happen. Anxiety is prevailing. I am also not completely mains ready. I miss him so much But whenever I watch your videos, listen to your voice, I feel like he is with me, guiding me, constantly pushing me to work more hard every single minute. It's my brother's birthday in next few days and I don't know if I will be in the list this time or not but I will surely make him proud. Wherever he is, watching me pushing my limits, I will surely make this happen. Thank you for your valuable guidance Sir. You are a gem of a person. May god bring all the happiness, health and more success in the future for you.
Hello sir. This is my last attempt and chances of clearing are very bleak but thankfully I have a job of public sector Bank in my hand. I don't like my job, but until I get something I like, this seems to be a great earning option. I will write for state PCS for sure and will try to get a good rank there. I'm married for several years now, and I so proud that despite the responsibilities of home and my workplace, I persevered. Life has not been easy lately, but I believe, it is still beautiful. I would request you to please bring some women counselors on this channel as well so that women like me can relate and find solutions. PS: In this coaching industry of creating and selling fear, I see people like you very rarely to focus more on mental health and broader picture of life! Kudos! Thanks
You've somehow made me come to peace with the fact called "life" . I am at peace with the fact that there will be a desire to change a mistake , or be in control of the tide , but that's the fact to live and just be through it. And it feels like a vacation ! Thanks for the empathy buddy❤ ! Thanks for just being there !❤
Thank you Shivin !! You are such a great persona . Atleast someone who understands us the way we want to be understood! Your efforts are to be appreciated! I am on borderline. But I am proud how I worked this year with the commitment from last 4-5 months wasn't even taking break on sundays . You correctly said uncertainty always will be there . But this process makes us tougher and tougher. More power to you ❤
This is my last attempt.i missed prelims last year because of csat.this time i am clearing csat but gs is on borderline..i worked so hard this time made so many sacrifices. I didn't give time to my one year old baby...i did spend my days locking my self in room. Even he was crying outside i didn't not open the door. I don't know why i was so harsh because of one exam.. am totally shattered now..jb start kiya tha jor shor se pta ni tha ki upsc itna uncertain hai..apko sunne ke bad ansu rok payi hu...i promise that i will travel now i will stay strong and give time to my health and to my family .
Please make a video for parents because somehow we will deal with our failure and will rebuild ourselves but parents trust and support affect us more than we think...their reaction impact us the most even if we know they are wrong and unfortunately most of the parents dont know how to support and trust their children..we are already broken but when we see our parents not trusting us, it breaks our confidence to the core..please make a video for parents in detail.
Not opening telegram is the best advice! I was going paranoid about reading those comments under your post on the channel. I will start with not looking at my phone till evening otherwise I get tempted to open all the stress inducing apps. Hopefully, I slowly I can manage this paranoia until the results. A billion times thank you for the hand holding support you have given sir at every step of this exam and otherwise.
Roll no check ,Sir it was my 4th attempt couldn't clear prelims continusly 4th time , now deciding to take break from this exam , it's mentally exhaustively to give continuously and failing continusly , There is no backup , nothing while other PPL are getting good job 😢 Reason of anxiety What next ,now parents also say you are stuck in this preparation , PPL who are not soo gret studies in school doing great jobs and satisfied ,,, Also no backup , coming from humanities history' major , no scope to get good job Otherside my twin brother who got job at age 22 and earning well working in great work culture My close frd job amazing job in state pcs , I m judging myself
I'm on the borderline. But, I'm proud of myself for the efforts I've made to reach this stage. You're a gem. We all love you ! Thanks for the positive words. ♥️🙏
Thank you so much Shivin sir for being there for us ! So grateful to have found ur channel. Whether ur prelims revision and monthly magazine videos or mental health support videos like this one, every bit has been of great help in this journey🙏✨
Thank you so much sir for everything I know i can't make it this year & i know the reasons I'll surely improve myself this year & looking forward to prepare under your supervision. Hopefully I'll be done with this next year ❤
Thank you sir for your support...you are a real coach....your insights helps me to be in present and have a attitude of ho jayega.....whatever I am supposed to do I'll do that at the moment without any speculation of future .....I'll face my fear and failure with a smile and calm mind. I'll accept the result whatever it will be and get ready for next year with ten times more confidence .....I'll fight harder. I promise.
My birthday is within 2 days and this was my 1st attempt, i know I've given my best and i also got to know about my mistakes too! Whatever the results might be, I'm ready to overcome my mistakes in the further attempts. I'm accountable to only people who understands me for truly who i am and going to stay humble and grounded. Thank you shivin sir ❤
Thanks . Shivin . It helped. You know the same thing but you wait for someone else to tell that what you feel is okay. That's the better part in your video. So thoughtful of you making such videos.
Whenever any uncertain idea comes to mind it's your motivation that once again lights up the soul! I just wish that u soon get through the examination and fulfill your wish to enter into IFS!😊 All my best wishes to you 😊!
Thanks Shivin. this video helps me to calm nerves. after prelims my mind has gone numb. believe me i have put my heart and mind into this exam. while in prelims i used to be focused and stoic ( calm and composed even though last 2 times i couldn't make into prelims). just after prelims is over, how much i try to be in control, my mind was caught with too much anxiety and fear though i dont admit .but its true. Iam US based software professional , left US in covid times. in the spur of moment i decided to take break from my profession and do something that satisfying. tbh i don't hate that job and simply i don't give any soul satisfaction other than financial freedom and growth. having been failed prelims twice after it, i don't know how to face family friends if i didn't get this. i know my mental health has to be a priority , but i say it many times to myself. that emotional baggage of failure is hard to take, how do i face my family whom i made financially weak as opposed to be comfortable if i continued my job. i somehow know, its just matter of 4-6 months to get family finance on track. how do i justify it now? how do i face friends. for some, i dont get it. why is he trying to leave everything behind when he is comfortable. its the question i face every time and sometimes from my family. for some, i am taking risk that worthy. tbh i didn't think much of them. now iam thinking how do i face them as utter failure forget about them, how do i get over . i will try not to think of it. but this failure is hard to get out of my mind. what is after this, i am able to make anything worthy later on, if i want to do anything i will be pulled down by my fear of failure. how do i get this man. i dont want to go to US on one hand and take job. on other hand it will help family financially and also give me a break. Sorry was thinking and typing at same time, maybe incomprehensible to some extent. i am just trying to let go
Could'nt clear sir....😮😮😢😢fearing how to face parents and would i tell them ..i failed twice...i accept that i have not given my best yet...thts wgy i decided to give my best for comjng year abd 2025 will be my last and best attempt ❤
Just want to meet you. I met with many people, I used to watch many people but you have something special in you. Your words is so much pleasant to my ears. Thank you Thank you and Thank you so much.
I am on borderline and full of anxiety and again on a trip but couldn’t focus on relaxing because of immense anxiety. Let’s hope for the best for everyone. Thank you Dr Shivin .You’re a person aspirants can rely on during time of anxiety and pressure
I have tried my best come what May. I have given every possible effort this time to make sure that this is the bestest attempt of me clearing upsc prelims .But I am not sure of making it to the exam. But yes I have tried to make up my mind for following a backup plan . Let’s hope for the best . Thank you Shivjn Sir for my contact support . Looking forward to get trained from you for mains too . Signing off :)
Your video never fails to give goosebumps anytime and everytime sir...This is the exact feel which i got from the last video before my prelims... I was very anxious and curious about the results throughout the day...I would've opened telegram numerous times today...But thanks for patting my shoulder in a much needed moment sir♥️No matter what i had consistently worked hard for the past 6 months and gave my best as much as i can...I should appreciate myself for this irrespective of the results
Sir your one line was a lifetime stress reliever which i personally believe ," UPSC is the not the end, bahut sari cheejein hai jo hme khushi deti hain". But to be honest i m surrounded by some personalities who pressurize me that upsc is the only thing jo mujhe standardize kr skta hai. I know my result is goin to be negative but i hav improved myself be it ghanto baithkr pdhna ho ,apni vocabs, thoughts etc. ar mujhe na apne upar bht proud feel hota hai , 9-5 job krke attempt krna bht bdi bt hai result chahe jo bhi ho.
I'm getting anxious because my family members keep telling me I'll be writing the mains this year. Their overconfidence in me is putting a lot of pressure on me. What should I do?
This time I really worked hard on improving a lot of knowledge gaps. For the whole year I kept my pace with time. I sacrificed on a lot of things to catch up with every single passing time. I don't know what will happen , but my heart knows the everyday efforts I had put, and even in my depressing times I kept my positive mindset.
I just want to write that I could have worked hard in the last one month before prelims I should have revised the basics rather than overthinking and chasing vague things I should have revised my own csat notes it's a shame that c sat was so easy I prepared for everything beforehand but not revising all of it in the last moment was the biggest mistake I made but definitely I learner a lesson to not lose my sh*t for anything coming ahead and moving steadily even at a slow pace BUT KEEP MOVING IS THE ONLY MANTRAAAA LASTLY I want to thank you sir for everything for every effort for all the support thank you Also there is something strange with your voice today are you taking care of yourself?? Pls stay healthy we all have to go a long way together ❤❤❤❤
At this time family's support is very important but what i am getting is that upsc is not in your destiny explore other options. I used to live in hostel after pre i came back home for a break without any books so they are like if u are not studying here then we don't think u would be doing there and that's why u fail this break me more than the result or anything right now feeling very lonely having suicidal thoughts i just expect to be someone there atleast from my family only just to hear what am i feeling but no one wants to hear a loser and i realised i am alone
First of all, You should know one thing that you are not alone, there are many facing same, even worst....... In life we are accountable to ourselves first then family then anyone else....... If you have believe in yrself, and ready to work hard them have patience yr time will come..... Maximum they can do is that they will stop supporting you and it's okay...still Many have already done it .... And you also can... Just have believe in yrself, in yr hard work...when you will be successful same people will start talking good about you... Even if they don't, it shouldn't matter... Be proud of yrself.... And always remember.. You are not alone as our Sir always say🤞✨
Thank you shivin sir for making this video for us whenever I feel low and demotivated I listen your audio and you are like a bada bhai for us thank you so much
The tears in my eyes ,feeling like completely stuck . What happened next, don't know. But i am grateful for ur unconditional efforts. When I see u, feel like someone is behind me .Thanku u sir 🙏
An archer will do whatever he can in order to hit the target, but once the arrow leaves the bow, the actual outcome is not up to him. Hitting the target is to be chosen but not to be desired Accept the upcoming fate. If it isn't fortunate, adjust and adapt. I know your pain. None can make you into or out of the list which has been finalised.
Firstly , thanku shivin sir .. my second attempt ,l don't know ki es borderline pr hu hoga ya ni ... But maine work hard diya and apne efforts proud h daily targeting ke jariye use maine dekha bhi khud and aage results jo bhi , trust the process & yourself ..and . Hota h tabhi mains ki preparation karungi ni hota h tabhi mains prep rahegi .. jo bhi challenge ho face krne h and apne efforts and apne pr Trust rakhungi .... Thanks again shivin sir ,aapka sath es journey hamari strength ho .. ..
Hello shivin sir…. First of all thanks a lot for everything I know very I’m not going to clear this prelims. It is not easy thing for me bcz I did a lot of hard work, I read each every day above 13 hrs + , I never compromised even in my tough situations lot sacrifices, I’m heartfully telling I did very genuine hard for this prelims. I’m come from very poor educational background I completely from govt colleges bcz financially not well . My parents are not effort this preparation There is lot uncertainties. But bcz I learned lot things in preparation I Compare myself from last year to this time lot of drastic changes in my personality and preparation. Tqu sir
I can relate to the exact same thing like in my mind ya maan ki nai ho paega hmse, date agey baar jae, its my 1st pre 2024 and understood the essence of 1 Second in the exam. also I open telegram only if I want to check what you have uploaded or related to optional bs etna hie... mast admi hain aap...
i am writing this before prelims result . last year i have a feeling that i would fail due to my own non preparation of reasoning.and i failed in 2023 pre but this prelims i have done everything knowledge ,aptitude and most important confidence. this time i have a feeling that i am clearing prelims 2024 . lets see what god has decided for me hoping for the good
Sir please make a vidro for parents of aspirants talking about how they can support us. I sometimes struggle to explain this to my parents and your clarity of thought can be very helpful to both aspirants and parents.
Yes sir, dar to lag rha hai but ab jo bhi hoga dekh lenge maine apna best diya hai or aage bhi dungi chahe jis field mei jau,and thank you so much again air 🙏❤️, aap hamare sath hai to hum koi bhi situation deal ker sakte hai .and promise not to open telegram and Happy Doctor's Day sir
This is my 5th attempt,previously due to many reasons and hard luck 2 times failed by( .66,1. something, 2023 csat 65,gs 92)could not clear pre,latter got out in final post from ssc cgl exam,past month failed hcs mains exam may be by some margin,gave intelligence buero acio exam qualified and wrote mains this year most probably would make (if everything goes good),this year cse scoring 96-100 and csat 105 but as decided i am completely exhausted from mental fatigue and have no emotions left (like i had 5 years ago),got to know that everything in life is uncertain and atlast destiny plays the most vital role.Maybe this would be my end of upsc journey if not qualified for pre this time.
Bro settling in Foreign is a great Plan B. Buy a nice car over there and travel alot, which 99% of IAS can’t in their life. And guess what, Canadian/European/Australian passport is much more powerful than Indian Diplomatic passport
Thank you sir always concern about your students and I am last few and still now mentally disturbed and different of negative thought and uncertainty about life and family conditions everything disturbing me
There are just tears in my eyes,i dont make it public neither i share these thoughts .i dont know whether i will clear it or not but i am proud of that i worked hard for past 6 months. ..
I promise to not open telegram/reddit until the result is out. Reason for my anxiety : I’ll be honest - the first time I checked my marks, they were way below the super high cutoffs being predicted on 16th and I was very disappointed in myself. It was a sudden realisation that I would not make it this year. There were days of crying and coming to terms with the fact that I need to be mains ready by December. Tbh, those days of calmness knowing that I have a year to give my best shot now were better than the last few days. After a week, some of the answers that I got wrong started getting right by some answer-keys, the range of my marks started increasing and the predicted cutoffs started decreasing. That now puts me in the so called “border” if I get a few questions right. I still do not want to have high hopes, because even that score isn’t great, but predictions of lower cutoffs and discussions where people are assuring anyone in the 80s to start preparing are scary. This uncertainty is the cause of my anxiety right now. Still, I’m glad this would get over today and I’ll get to make a fresh start, whatever be the result.
Things do go wrong. I know this was an important video. My mic settings were wrong. My phone rang. But we have to get past this.
Hi sir..
I am a female student from uttrakhand 5 years back i started my journey i have given 5 attemptsand always rejected by 2 3 exams ..becoming ias officer was my childhood dream...i was very clear so after grad i started preparing now i have came a long way...sir i am really depressed now...i really need help what should i do..now i have no where to go sir....in self doubts i was always a outgoing and brilliant student but now i am.really depressed...plz help me sir i am the only child of my parents ..
Mam plan B pe work kr skte hn aap ... sorry for the situation @@selflove786
@@selflove786 stay strong
@@selflove786 hey, I really suggest you to take a break or some time out for yourself. It's okay to feel this way, but I hope you know you're strong and can withstand whatever comes. Please take care of yourself, and even if it sucks right now, it will get better.
@@selflove786you are warrior sister
I'm writing it down just to tell myself "I'm proud of you" as I haven't heard from anyone....I was mentally exhausted with people's opinions and my parent's criticism. Despite all of this I still remember the sleepless nights,countless revision, scheduling,tears, trying to be motivated all the time.This was my third attempt & i want to remember myself that I worked hard till the 16th morning,i fought for very last minute but still due to silly mistakes I did wrong in some questions I'm bit disappointed for not clearing this time but I know next year I'm gonna see my name in the list I'm very very much confident
But I was anxious about my parents reaction ...the whole world is trying to separate me from my dream in every way possible....my only concern is that I wasn't able to stay strong in all the situations , mentally exhausted, unable to concentrate,and felt like choking
I am with you ❤
We are with you
It happens mam but I wish you clear this prelims inspite of those silly mistakes you made
You would feel much more relaxed if you have a job right now. Trust me, clear some other exam in case you dont pass this year’s Prelims
Your situation is exactly same as mine, I thought this 3rd attempt was my last as I've done enough hardwork but I've done some silly mistakes due to lack of revision at last moment for some reasons
Gratitude Gratitude Gratitude! 🌻💜
Doc,
I'm on the borderline, I don't know what the result is going to be, but yes I know I've worked extremely hard for the past year and I'm ready to face whatever comes my way. Thank you for being there.
Same my situation also
Same my situation
@@Ank.-og2cwkya hota h borderline ab toh ye bi smjh nhi aa rha
Same here 😊
Kitnà score aa rha h
I don't know if I am going to make it or not but one thing I know that this attempt has been about my improvement, my efforts and my hard work. I am proud of myself whether I make it or not. I am committed to giving it one more chance as I have immensely improved. Thank you Sir for your support and guidance.
I’m really scared for this prelims result. Uncertain part is my family forcing me for marriage. It’s like either clear a govt exam or marry a govt job guy. I’m terribly stuck. In marriage it’s been 6 guys who kept rejecting me for looks and all these are IAS/Ips officers asking for 20cr dowry. Yes it’s true. People from Up must be aware of it. Shivin sir you are so considerate. Please help me to find a path. I’m the object of everyone’s taunts and frustration. I’m trying my best to ignore but it’s hard. I pray often. My self worth is almost zero. My parents are extremely successful so I have a high pressure to perform. I want to appear again but life’s so hazy.
You are very brave seriously it's not easy to accept such things and still fighting you are true warrior
20 cr😮
UPSC exam expects ton of hardwork from aspirants but at the end the results may or may not be positive but ultimately we should try to live our life happily with other opportunities that we don’t look at it now
All best for good things to happen 😊
@@anonymousss755 thank you 😁
@@vimaladhithan1745 true
Shivin, you are a gem! You dont know what this video means to us💎
To the fellow aspirants ❤Irrespective of the result....we should be MAINS READY by Sep/Oct !!
Being an academically bright child since school and college, I always felt like I could clear any exam, but my upsc journey had other plans.
The biggest mistake I made was giving a non serious attempt in 2021, which took away my self esteem and all the enthusiasm which the first attempt brings. I scored 61.
Then I put my head down and prepared for 2022. But, I missed Pre 22 by a whisker. It shattered me. 5-6 months I just procrastinated, I lost my vision.
Under prepared, I missed Pre 23 cutoff by 15 marks. Now my self confidence was buried under the ground. I compared by current self with my younger self, the little boy who topped school exams and whose teachers and parents had high hopes from him. I was not even half of what I used to be. All I could see were my weaknesses, and my mental health was absolutely destroyed.
Familiarity with upsc prep(comfort zone) and family support enabled me to give another attempt. I really really studied hard, honestly I felt horrible because my mental health was no longer a friend, everyday getting up was a struggle, the joy and enthusiasm had escaped my life. But somehow I kept going and I felt reasonably confident one day before Pre 24, and the reason was my competence.
Now, according to answer keys my score is 80.67, in with a meagre chance, I am very anxious. Not because I won't be able to do anything else in life, but because I have lost belief in myself, the great gift I earlier had.
The last 10 days, I have somehow focused most of my energy on improving my mental health, which is now my priority over any career prospect.
Bro just relax.. if you have scored 80 ,it means you have sufficient knowledge and you might miss cutoff because here guesswork helps you to get that edge( i scored 109.09 in 2023, 72 in 2022, 80 in 2021 and this time hovering around 95.) work on making right guess, take risk(fortune favours the brave) only if you want to do this otherwise there are ample of opportunities to look for. Every individual is unique ,you might perform well at something else.
Sorry for giving unasked advice but i could not hold myself when i read something relatable
I randomly came across one of the videos of Shivin sir, talking about how he went through a bad break-up and loss of a loved one before 2022 prelims. I've downloaded that video in my phone and I have watched it like 1000 times by now only to realise that I'm not the only one with problems. I've dealt with depression in a very young age but i bounced back and now I'm dealing with stage 4 cancer of one of my parents. It is hard and we know the ultimate outcome of it but I feel the depression I had earlier prepared me for this. If I had not got diagnosed with clinical depression that time I wouldn't have been prepared for this in a million lifetimes. it's hard but it's worth it, I'm a gen z so I just take it as my character development! It's my first attempt and I have a chance of clearing this exam but even if I couldn't I'd bounce back because as Elle Woods said in Legally Blonde movie, "Like it's hard?" .
Anyways thank you so much shivin sir for existing, I love you so much. I've followed you from your anonymous aspirant journey to now, every achievement and criticism of yours feels personal. The day I crack this exam it'd be because of you even my parents know that.
Take care buddy.
You are strong,We are with u I can understand your feeling,I also went through the same process
Stay strong bhai... Sending lots of love to you
You are an inspiration! Hold your head high.
Can you give the link of the above said video?
Thank you so much Sir. I used to prepare along with my brother back in 2018, He used to inspire me for this exam as he was also preparing and definitely going to make it but I always had a secure career like you so I did not pay much attention then unfortunately I lost him. I was shattered. Always depressed, anxious and on therapy as well.
From the last few months I have started preparing again and gave my attempt. I don't know what is going to happen. Anxiety is prevailing. I am also not completely mains ready.
I miss him so much But whenever I watch your videos, listen to your voice, I feel like he is with me, guiding me, constantly pushing me to work more hard every single minute.
It's my brother's birthday in next few days and I don't know if I will be in the list this time or not but I will surely make him proud. Wherever he is, watching me pushing my limits, I will surely make this happen.
Thank you for your valuable guidance Sir. You are a gem of a person. May god bring all the happiness, health and more success in the future for you.
What happened to your bro ? 😢..sorry for the loss
I am glad to see a person talk so empathetically about failures in competitive exams. Thank you, Shivin.
Hello sir. This is my last attempt and chances of clearing are very bleak but thankfully I have a job of public sector Bank in my hand. I don't like my job, but until I get something I like, this seems to be a great earning option.
I will write for state PCS for sure and will try to get a good rank there. I'm married for several years now, and I so proud that despite the responsibilities of home and my workplace, I persevered.
Life has not been easy lately, but I believe, it is still beautiful.
I would request you to please bring some women counselors on this channel as well so that women like me can relate and find solutions.
PS: In this coaching industry of creating and selling fear, I see people like you very rarely to focus more on mental health and broader picture of life! Kudos!
Thanks
You are really great!!
Social media is the most depressing place i know, after “being in the midst of relative and so called friends”
Cleared the Prelims in my first attempt.
Thank you Shivin Sir for your guidance.❤
Thank you for always making me calm in all these uneasy situations ❤
You are humanising this space in ways I cannot put in words. Thanks for being there sir. Only huge, heartfelt gratitude to you ❤️
Thank you so much❤. Whatever the result may be, at least there’s someone who is standing with us. Means a lot. Tysm
You've somehow made me come to peace with the fact called "life" .
I am at peace with the fact that there will be a desire to change a mistake , or be in control of the tide , but that's the fact to live and just be through it.
And it feels like a vacation !
Thanks for the empathy buddy❤ !
Thanks for just being there !❤
This moment is filled with so much anxiety, feels like my body is shaking.
Thank you Shivin !! You are such a great persona . Atleast someone who understands us the way we want to be understood! Your efforts are to be appreciated!
I am on borderline. But I am proud how I worked this year with the commitment from last 4-5 months wasn't even taking break on sundays .
You correctly said uncertainty always will be there . But this process makes us tougher and tougher.
More power to you ❤
This is my last attempt.i missed prelims last year because of csat.this time i am clearing csat but gs is on borderline..i worked so hard this time made so many sacrifices. I didn't give time to my one year old baby...i did spend my days locking my self in room. Even he was crying outside i didn't not open the door. I don't know why i was so harsh because of one exam.. am totally shattered now..jb start kiya tha jor shor se pta ni tha ki upsc itna uncertain hai..apko sunne ke bad ansu rok payi hu...i promise that i will travel now i will stay strong and give time to my health and to my family .
Please make a video for parents because somehow we will deal with our failure and will rebuild ourselves but parents trust and support affect us more than we think...their reaction impact us the most even if we know they are wrong and unfortunately most of the parents dont know how to support and trust their children..we are already broken but when we see our parents not trusting us, it breaks our confidence to the core..please make a video for parents in detail.
Thank you so much Sir for your selfless support ❤
Not opening telegram is the best advice! I was going paranoid about reading those comments under your post on the channel. I will start with not looking at my phone till evening otherwise I get tempted to open all the stress inducing apps. Hopefully, I slowly I can manage this paranoia until the results. A billion times thank you for the hand holding support you have given sir at every step of this exam and otherwise.
Thanking you sir,
For making calm and staying confident about our future.
The feeling of writing mains this year (in case i clear pre this time) is giving me as much scare as the feeling of not clearing prelims.😢😢😢
Thank you sir for always being with us. You are a true supporter❤.
Happy doctor's day , u are working so good for mental health of the aspirants
Roll no check ,Sir it was my 4th attempt couldn't clear prelims continusly 4th time , now deciding to take break from this exam , it's mentally exhaustively to give continuously and failing continusly ,
There is no backup , nothing while other PPL are getting good job 😢
Reason of anxiety
What next ,now parents also say you are stuck in this preparation , PPL who are not soo gret studies in school doing great jobs and satisfied ,,,
Also no backup , coming from humanities history' major , no scope to get good job
Otherside my twin brother who got job at age 22 and earning well working in great work culture
My close frd job amazing job in state pcs ,
I m judging myself
I'm on the borderline. But, I'm proud of myself for the efforts I've made to reach this stage.
You're a gem. We all love you ! Thanks for the positive words. ♥️🙏
Thank you so much Shivin sir for being there for us ! So grateful to have found ur channel. Whether ur prelims revision and monthly magazine videos or mental health support videos like this one, every bit has been of great help in this journey🙏✨
Thank you so much sir for everything
I know i can't make it this year & i know the reasons I'll surely improve myself this year & looking forward to prepare under your supervision.
Hopefully I'll be done with this next year ❤
Thanks Shivin for always being with US, God Bless You
Thank you sir for your support...you are a real coach....your insights helps me to be in present and have a attitude of ho jayega.....whatever I am supposed to do I'll do that at the moment without any speculation of future .....I'll face my fear and failure with a smile and calm mind. I'll accept the result whatever it will be and get ready for next year with ten times more confidence .....I'll fight harder. I promise.
Grateful that you are our mentor 🙏🏻
Dhak dhak ho rela h....
My birthday is within 2 days and this was my 1st attempt, i know I've given my best and i also got to know about my mistakes too! Whatever the results might be, I'm ready to overcome my mistakes in the further attempts. I'm accountable to only people who understands me for truly who i am and going to stay humble and grounded. Thank you shivin sir ❤
Thanku so much sir… for addressing the issues which are hardly talked about… helped a lot to deal with anxiety 😊
Thank you sooo much sir
These words means alott for us ❤
Thanks for being with us
Thank you for motivation sir
Thanks . Shivin . It helped. You know the same thing but you wait for someone else to tell that what you feel is okay. That's the better part in your video. So thoughtful of you making such videos.
Cleared! 1st attempt❤.thankyou so much sir.
how is ur mains prep
kaha seh prep Kiya sources kya hai aur age kitni hai I'm a fresher
@@Arpan00014 pdle bhai khud pata chl jaega
Thank you so much sir much needed video!
Whatever will be the result will see together!
Whenever any uncertain idea comes to mind it's your motivation that once again lights up the soul!
I just wish that u soon get through the examination and fulfill your wish to enter into IFS!😊
All my best wishes to you 😊!
Thanks Shivin. this video helps me to calm nerves. after prelims my mind has gone numb. believe me i have put my heart and mind into this exam. while in prelims i used to be focused and stoic ( calm and composed even though last 2 times i couldn't make into prelims). just after prelims is over, how much i try to be in control, my mind was caught with too much anxiety and fear though i dont admit .but its true.
Iam US based software professional , left US in covid times. in the spur of moment i decided to take break from my profession and do something that satisfying. tbh i don't hate that job and simply i don't give any soul satisfaction other than financial freedom and growth. having been failed prelims twice after it, i don't know how to face family friends if i didn't get this.
i know my mental health has to be a priority , but i say it many times to myself.
that emotional baggage of failure is hard to take, how do i face my family whom i made financially weak as opposed to be comfortable if i continued my job. i somehow know, its just matter of 4-6 months to get family finance on track. how do i justify it now?
how do i face friends. for some, i dont get it. why is he trying to leave everything behind when he is comfortable. its the question i face every time and sometimes from my family.
for some, i am taking risk that worthy. tbh i didn't think much of them. now iam thinking how do i face them as utter failure
forget about them, how do i get over . i will try not to think of it. but this failure is hard to get out of my mind. what is after this, i am able to make anything worthy later on, if i want to do anything i will be pulled down by my fear of failure.
how do i get this man. i dont want to go to US on one hand and take job. on other hand it will help family financially and also give me a break.
Sorry was thinking and typing at same time, maybe incomprehensible to some extent. i am just trying to let go
TYSM SIR FOR EVERYTHING♥🙏
Thanks Sir for you support and initiative it is really very helpful. Also thanks for understanding our feelings and trying to help us out.
Could'nt clear sir....😮😮😢😢fearing how to face parents and would i tell them ..i failed twice...i accept that i have not given my best yet...thts wgy i decided to give my best for comjng year abd 2025 will be my last and best attempt ❤
😊❤ thank you so much sir 🙏🙏🥺🥺
Just want to meet you. I met with many people, I used to watch many people but you have something special in you. Your words is so much pleasant to my ears. Thank you Thank you and Thank you so much.
I am on borderline and full of anxiety and again on a trip but couldn’t focus on relaxing because of immense anxiety. Let’s hope for the best for everyone. Thank you Dr Shivin .You’re a person aspirants can rely on during time of anxiety and pressure
Happy doctor's day to you sir😊 Thankyou so much for being our supporter always❤
I have tried my best come what May. I have given every possible effort this time to make sure that this is the bestest attempt of me clearing upsc prelims .But I am not sure of making it to the exam. But yes I have tried to make up my mind for following a backup plan . Let’s hope for the best . Thank you Shivjn Sir for my contact support . Looking forward to get trained from you for mains too . Signing off :)
Your video never fails to give goosebumps anytime and everytime sir...This is the exact feel which i got from the last video before my prelims... I was very anxious and curious about the results throughout the day...I would've opened telegram numerous times today...But thanks for patting my shoulder in a much needed moment sir♥️No matter what i had consistently worked hard for the past 6 months and gave my best as much as i can...I should appreciate myself for this irrespective of the results
Thanku so much sir🙏
Sir your one line was a lifetime stress reliever which i personally believe ," UPSC is the not the end, bahut sari cheejein hai jo hme khushi deti hain". But to be honest i m surrounded by some personalities who pressurize me that upsc is the only thing jo mujhe standardize kr skta hai. I know my result is goin to be negative but i hav improved myself be it ghanto baithkr pdhna ho ,apni vocabs, thoughts etc. ar mujhe na apne upar bht proud feel hota hai , 9-5 job krke attempt krna bht bdi bt hai result chahe jo bhi ho.
Thank you Sir 😌
Kijiye.... Result Result
Kheliye..... Result Result
Alhua Result 😂😂
You are an angel sent by god 😭❤️
I'm getting anxious because my family members keep telling me I'll be writing the mains this year. Their overconfidence in me is putting a lot of pressure on me. What should I do?
Thank You for this.
Happy doctor's day shivin sir!
This time I really worked hard on improving a lot of knowledge gaps. For the whole year I kept my pace with time. I sacrificed on a lot of things to catch up with every single passing time. I don't know what will happen , but my heart knows the everyday efforts I had put, and even in my depressing times I kept my positive mindset.
Thank you sir!
Smjh nhi aa rha itna Darr toh 16th June ko bhi nhi lga
Jaldi se mains ka daily Target tracking and current affairs initiative chalu karo sir.
Time Kam he. Only 80 days😅
I just want to write that I could have worked hard in the last one month before prelims I should have revised the basics rather than overthinking and chasing vague things I should have revised my own csat notes it's a shame that c sat was so easy I prepared for everything beforehand but not revising all of it in the last moment was the biggest mistake I made but definitely I learner a lesson to not lose my sh*t for anything coming ahead and moving steadily even at a slow pace BUT KEEP MOVING IS THE ONLY MANTRAAAA
LASTLY I want to thank you sir for everything for every effort for all the support thank you
Also there is something strange with your voice today are you taking care of yourself?? Pls stay healthy we all have to go a long way together ❤❤❤❤
Hopeful.grateful.freightened.anxious !!
Thank you sir..!
Thanks sir to understand us
Motivate us
Thanks a lot Sir!
Happy doctor's day sir 👨⚕️
Thank you sir💐
Thank you shivn sir begin with us in whole journey❤️❤️❤️,it's really helpful,
little bit nervous. But , I accept the reality, Whatever result...
I am definitely not going let anyone ruin my MENTAL PEACE😌
At this time family's support is very important but what i am getting is that upsc is not in your destiny explore other options. I used to live in hostel after pre i came back home for a break without any books so they are like if u are not studying here then we don't think u would be doing there and that's why u fail this break me more than the result or anything right now feeling very lonely having suicidal thoughts i just expect to be someone there atleast from my family only just to hear what am i feeling but no one wants to hear a loser and i realised i am alone
First of all, You should know one thing that you are not alone, there are many facing same, even worst....... In life we are accountable to ourselves first then family then anyone else....... If you have believe in yrself, and ready to work hard them have patience yr time will come..... Maximum they can do is that they will stop supporting you and it's okay...still Many have already done it .... And you also can... Just have believe in yrself, in yr hard work...when you will be successful same people will start talking good about you... Even if they don't, it shouldn't matter... Be proud of yrself....
And always remember.. You are not alone as our Sir always say🤞✨
Thank you shivin sir for making this video for us whenever I feel low and demotivated I listen your audio and you are like a bada bhai for us thank you so much
Happy Doctor's day Saviour❤
The tears in my eyes ,feeling like completely stuck . What happened next, don't know.
But i am grateful for ur unconditional efforts. When I see u, feel like someone is behind me .Thanku u sir 🙏
Thank you so much sir 🙏🙏
An archer will do whatever he can in order to hit the target, but once the arrow leaves the bow, the actual outcome is not up to him. Hitting the target is to be chosen but not to be desired
Accept the upcoming fate. If it isn't fortunate, adjust and adapt.
I know your pain.
None can make you into or out of the list which has been finalised.
Beautifully put together🙌
Paulo Coelho?
Thanku bhaiyaa❤❤❤❤❤
Thank You😌
Thank you so much Sir
Thank you sir ❤
Firstly , thanku shivin sir .. my second attempt ,l don't know ki es borderline pr hu hoga ya ni ... But maine work hard diya and apne efforts proud h daily targeting ke jariye use maine dekha bhi khud and aage results jo bhi , trust the process & yourself ..and . Hota h tabhi mains ki preparation karungi ni hota h tabhi mains prep rahegi .. jo bhi challenge ho face krne h and apne efforts and apne pr Trust rakhungi .... Thanks again shivin sir ,aapka sath es journey hamari strength ho .. ..
Hello shivin sir….
First of all thanks a lot for everything
I know very I’m not going to clear this prelims. It is not easy thing for me bcz I did a lot of hard work, I read each every day above 13 hrs + , I never compromised even in my tough situations lot sacrifices, I’m heartfully telling I did very genuine hard for this prelims.
I’m come from very poor educational background I completely from govt colleges bcz financially not well . My parents are not effort this preparation
There is lot uncertainties.
But bcz I learned lot things in preparation I Compare myself from last year to this time lot of drastic changes in my personality and preparation.
Tqu sir
Shivin sir you r my true mentor and you r real gemstone 😇😇😇
Please post the schedule or mains ready till December.
I can relate to the exact same thing like in my mind ya maan ki nai ho paega hmse, date agey baar jae, its my 1st pre 2024 and understood the essence of 1 Second in the exam. also I open telegram only if I want to check what you have uploaded or related to optional bs etna hie... mast admi hain aap...
i am writing this before prelims result . last year i have a feeling that i would fail due to my own non preparation of reasoning.and i failed in 2023 pre but this prelims i have done everything knowledge ,aptitude and most important confidence. this time i have a feeling that i am clearing prelims 2024 . lets see what god has decided for me
hoping for the good
Happy doctors day Sir
Sir please make a vidro for parents of aspirants talking about how they can support us. I sometimes struggle to explain this to my parents and your clarity of thought can be very helpful to both aspirants and parents.
Yes sir, dar to lag rha hai but ab jo bhi hoga dekh lenge maine apna best diya hai or aage bhi dungi chahe jis field mei jau,and thank you so much again air 🙏❤️, aap hamare sath hai to hum koi bhi situation deal ker sakte hai .and promise not to open telegram and Happy Doctor's Day sir
Thankyou thankyou thankyou so much god.....love you ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
This is my 5th attempt,previously due to many reasons and hard luck 2 times failed by( .66,1. something, 2023 csat 65,gs 92)could not clear pre,latter got out in final post from ssc cgl exam,past month failed hcs mains exam may be by some margin,gave intelligence buero acio exam qualified and wrote mains this year most probably would make (if everything goes good),this year cse scoring 96-100 and csat 105 but as decided i am completely exhausted from mental fatigue and have no emotions left (like i had 5 years ago),got to know that everything in life is uncertain and atlast destiny plays the most vital role.Maybe this would be my end of upsc journey if not qualified for pre this time.
Bro settling in Foreign is a great Plan B. Buy a nice car over there and travel alot, which 99% of IAS can’t in their life. And guess what, Canadian/European/Australian passport is much more powerful than Indian Diplomatic passport
Thanks for your precious guidance I am able to clear prelims ❤
Best you tube channel for upsc aspirants
Thank you sir always concern about your students and I am last few and still now mentally disturbed and different of negative thought and uncertainty about life and family conditions everything disturbing me
There are just tears in my eyes,i dont make it public neither i share these thoughts .i dont know whether i will clear it or not but i am proud of that i worked hard for past 6 months. ..
I promise to not open telegram/reddit until the result is out.
Reason for my anxiety : I’ll be honest - the first time I checked my marks, they were way below the super high cutoffs being predicted on 16th and I was very disappointed in myself. It was a sudden realisation that I would not make it this year. There were days of crying and coming to terms with the fact that I need to be mains ready by December. Tbh, those days of calmness knowing that I have a year to give my best shot now were better than the last few days.
After a week, some of the answers that I got wrong started getting right by some answer-keys, the range of my marks started increasing and the predicted cutoffs started decreasing.
That now puts me in the so called “border” if I get a few questions right. I still do not want to have high hopes, because even that score isn’t great, but predictions of lower cutoffs and discussions where people are assuring anyone in the 80s to start preparing are scary. This uncertainty is the cause of my anxiety right now.
Still, I’m glad this would get over today and I’ll get to make a fresh start, whatever be the result.