Answering Your Assumptions about Us
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- čas přidán 5. 08. 2024
- I'm sure you've made some assumptions about the two of us (it's hard not to!). So for today, we created a fun video for you to clarify, affirm, and debunk the assumptions that many of you have asked us about.
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How does one unsubscribe from a Channel they aren’t subscribed to?
i think u press subsrcibe
I wish I knew
Just dont watch
Oh, you're ok with being friends with non-believers? How about Muslims? Would you like to tell everyone again what you think about Islam? You know, since you deleted those blog posts?
What did they say?
@@niveahmartinez2187 while only in passing, they have spoken derisively of Muslims and Islam in general in their blog posts from 2014-2015. Those were, unfortunately, deleted. And otherwise they tend to generally speak derisively of anyone who does not fit into their box, whether it be LGBT people or otherwise.
@@firasjemil213 I do know that. Why are you deferring this, though? I'd be happy to speak to a Muslim person about the validity of their beliefs, but these two are not Muslim.
Race shouldn’t matter. You shouldn’t enjoy someone’s company only because they are a different color than you.
What? They just said they appreciate diversity. Maybe the wording is confusing you but dont intentionally misinterpert them
Can you be friends with a non believer and not try to convert them?
I had a very religious friend, and he was awesome and kind and I loved our friendship. But every once in a while he'd ask I wanted to be baptized. I kept saying "thank you, but no. I love hearing about religion and it is very interesting, but not my personal belief, even if I'm spiritual." And after a while he kept getting more distant, and I think I nipped our friendship completely when I thought I could confide in him about my sexuality.
@Lon Spector you are not a christian.
As a friend they should respect and love you for you and keep nasty opinions to themselves. I hope you have friends that make you feel better about your sexuality and don't shun you.
@@OutbackRose7 thank you ☺️ yes I am very lucky to have a very supportive and understanding partner and close friends. His friendship just cuts a little deep, we were best friends for 4 years and did so much together. Even when he got engaged he didn't accept my congratulations.
I just think about him a lot, wishing him the best. I can only hope when he thinks about me, it's fondly.
although i don’t agree w a lot of the things u guys say, i’m glad to hear u r open to being friends w nonbelievers!
Yes i'm happy they are okay with nonbelievers.
@@maddiemae6518 they're not. When you see the video, they don't say "I'd rather personaly not date a non believer", but : teenage girls, WATCH OUT FOR NON-BELIEVERS. They're not saying religion encourages dating a Christian, but do as you like, but you will regret dating a non-believer.
Hope I'm clear sorry :0
@@lOlA-hl4pz so what?
I would not let these girls anywhere near children. Or anyone, they are insane.
@lexiidotexe what's so bad about telling someone to not date someone.. people have preferences get over it
They were in really serious relationships but never kissed them?
Marcie they waited until marriage to kiss wth
@@manurza that's too much
I'd wait until the I love you, not the first date, not the wedding night. Boom
Relationships are WAY more than physical contact. Don’t be so small-minded.
I don’t understand why you need to ‘support’ lyrics to like a song.
I think it's because if you don't like the lyrical content you would not want to support the song, even if you like the melody/rhythm. Lyrics can affect your viewpoints.
do you feel ok listening to music with lyrics that are rapey and objectify women, for example? personally, i cant enjoy the song even if it's catchy
This is one thing I agree with to an extent that they’ve said
is there something wrong with caring about lyrics?? its the same as caring about the beat or melody
Like I don't agree with Girl Defined's opinions but posting some ridiculous troll comments isn't going to get them to change their minds (if that's your goal?), if anything it just makes everyone who disagrees with them look bad because it creates the assumption that we can't articulate our opinions, open discussions, and arguments and are just simply reacting emotionally. It also just pushes their narrative that they are being persecuted. Ya'll need to learn how to approach things better lol
Totally agree.
Kiley “narrative that they are being persecuted” girl the statistics that prove that Christians are the 2nd most persecuted people in the world (the economist). you can’t call plain statistics and facts a “narrative”. the economist is a reputable news source. just because you may not agree with something does not mean you should paint it under the broad brush of a “narrative” when there is evidence to prove otherwise.
They did approach things better wym? They never insulted anyone 🗿
nah im just doing it so I dont take my anger out on anyone else. I know they won't see this.
Kami why are you angry?
I'm not a believer or even agree with 99% of what these girls preach, but it's kind of sad that they have to justify having a white extended family. Have you guys never seen Middle Eastern, African, Indian, Asian or Hispanic families before? They are HUUUUGE and there's hardly ever a white person in sight but I don't care one bit. It doesn't offend me. I'm all for ethnic diversity in friendship and relationships, I think it can reduce prejudice and be extremely enriching, but a lot of cultures do also opt to stick together and there's nothing wrong with that either. I feel like you can't even just be white anymore without someone accusing you of racism by default.
I'm going to say the N word
That is true. I’m not against diversity but people get annoying about it. Just love everyone regardless of their color and STOP talking about race all the time
Yes im black and I agree too
I love the gold side table!! Where did you get it?
‘We don’t only talk about Jesus. We talk about silly things in our life and what we did yesterday and stuff” ...what about like...politics, world issues, anything that’s not Jesus and domestic lol....
The women in the Christian religion so makes sense
They are not polititions.
🙌🏽
Eliza Parker Not everyone enjoys indulging in politics. Sometimes it just causes unnecessary fights. They’re worrying about their salvation (what they believe) and not on worldly problems because that’s what the Bible calls them to do
I am an atheist, I came here to listen to a viewpoint different from my own, to learn how and where that viewpoint comes from as well as what sort of people have said viewpoint
I can't fathom what makes someone want to come to a channel just to be nasty?
Sad.
Turquoise Cheetah the definition of harmful is different when it comes to beliefs . What you may view as harmful they view as harmless, and vice versa.
@Turquoise Cheetah never said harmful things. They voiced their opinions and people like you hate people who dont conform so you attack.
@@saraj6079 so does that mean hate comments are ok if the ppl who comment them dont see anything wrong with them? im not saying that they did say harmful things, just that what the poster thinks about what they said doesnt decide whether it harmful or not.
@@bellacortez They can voice their opinions and we can shred those opinions to pieces. Their rights, our rights.
@@saraj6079 That's a retarded thing to say, Muslims may think forcing other people to convert to Islam is a positive thing to do as those people or at least their dependents will go to heaven, doesn't mean it is. Just because you think your actions aren't harmful doesn't mean they aren't.
The more I watch them as a non-believer the more that I think they aren’t bad people at their core they just have been born in to this culture and genuinely think this is the right way to love others and that this is a sound basis for morality
why do u even watch something multiple times when u already know you're gonna disagree..? like ?
panic!atd it’s terribly important to listen to a variety of opinions to improve critical thinking, test your own beliefs, widen your perspective, etc.
Doesn’t make it right. They are bigoted and judgmental. Not very Christian.
Andrea Kae I agree with you that it doesn’t make it right, but unfortunately their opinions seem to be a common interpretation of the Christian bible
@@juliahouston9446 Not every opinion expressed by every Christian is agreed upon by every Christian. After all, that's why so many churches split and that's why Christianity as a whole has so many different denominations. There are plenty of biblical concepts that are debated upon within the Christian community itself. The same way there are many different political views, Christians also have a lot of differing views, and sometimes these differences of opinion are right within the same household. Even Christian married couples who have been together for 30 plus years have differences of opinion when it comes to certain beliefs. Not every Christian agrees with the "common interpretation of the Christian bible."
hello. I would like you to review and talk about problematic passages of the Bible, regarding slavery, women's rights to learn...thank you.
The only problem with such passages is that some the people of the past greatly misinterpreted and misused/abused them. Unfortunately a few people still do, yet most don’t Ma’am.
Well, people did't "go to school" to begin with. The main problem is people trying to force modern lifestyles into historical contexts
@@ChatteNoireBlanche oh...which is exactly what they do! With homosexuality, with modesty, with marriage...
@@jexmarro9 thanks!
@@shanaeb4814 yes, these girls also do that for homosexuality, for modesty, for marriage ..
I disagree with your guys view points on many topics but I do respect how committed you are to your beliefs. It makes sense with what you believe and why but I just have a different perspective. My sister is a believer and I referred you guys to her because I knew she would appreciate it.
Ahhh Bethany your hair is sooooo pretty!!!!
When they were talking about how “what they think is fun” might not be fun to others but it’s okay because they’re happy. That “fun is different for every person”.....I found that to be very interestingly hypocritical when applied to some of their other views, like love.
Cutest couple ever 😍😍
LOL
Hahahaha
Aren’t they sisters though? 😬
@@bee-do8dz sisters by chance, lovers by choice
no
I'm a Christian but not married yet, but a Christian marriage/relationship gives the security of having someone by your side, a friend of the other gender, romance, and the ability to be adventurous
You can have all that without being christian, also, being christian and being married does not giv you securit y of that, at the end of the day every marriage , christian or not, can fail.
Soooo... just like literally any other sort of marriage, then.
Soo what denomination (is that the proper word?) are they? Are they catholic? Mormon? Etc?
@@janeuren9622 i thought christian was just a broad term used, not like a specific religion?
Becchi idk haha oops
They are non-denomination. :)
Becchi Christianity is a broad term, but within Christianity, there’s denominations (specific religions that differ from each other in some sort of aspect) like Baptist, Adventist, Methodist, and Mormons etc.
Evangelicals which are fundamental Baptist. Disgusting ppl truly.
This is random but as a fellow tall girl, where do you buy yalls jeans? Thanks!☺️
i knit mine from bird festhers. i am 6'7'
Love this video! I love how it was not defensive or apologetic but enlightening and honest and fun! It's great to have this opportunity get to know you more
It's just so sad that there a lot of negative reactions about your Channel, but I am so blessed that you never react negatively, its like, your not going down to their level. Just know that I am so blessed with you both! I really want to be a Patron but I can't afford it. Still, my prayers are always with you sisters in Christ. ❤
You can't please everyone.
I appreciate the fact they're open. They admit that they argue with each other, don't have perfect marriages, & now Bethany I'd sharing about her sister, Ellissa's, journey.
Im sorry for the hate you girls get, its sad when those who dont agree and live by Gods standards, find the need to bash you and in saying you are intolerant, end up being that very thing towards Christians. I support what you ladies stand for and love your videos 💕❤️
@@cassandrasmith4820 how? by telling them to repent of thier sin and trust Jesus? i mean I don't know what else is the love of christ.
@Cassandra Smith Right, because it’s so Christ-like to bash others 🤷🏻♀️
@@cassandrasmith4820 exactly.
@@childinchrist7335 umm...w
Considering homosexuality, so LOVE, as a SIN? What is this, 2019 BC?
@Lon Spector exactly
Thank you for your eloquence
I think it’s wonderful that you guys are looking inward and thoughtfully considering how you could approach the criticisms and assumptions-even the ridiculous ones
i really liked this video and the new style of videos you guys have been doing recently.
Where did y'all get yours shirts I looovveeeeee them🤩
I’m a non-believer. Let’s chat lol
30 isn't old lol also, I'm curious as to why do you want to have more friends who are non believers? Like, of course I think it makes sense you'd have believer friends, and I would assume that for you it may be ok if someone isn't, but to say that you'd like to have non believer friends specifically is something that makes me curious
They want to convert them. They see any other religion or morals not aligning with them as misguided. They aren't slick.
@BTIsaac HOW? JUST HOW? I'M BLACK AND I'VE LISTENED TO LAURA CHEN. HOW IS SHE ALT RIGHT OR WHITE SUPREMACIST. SHE'S ASIAN. WHY? WHY DOES EVERYONE YOU GUYS DISAGREE WITH ALT RIGHT OR A WHITE SUPREMACIST? I DON'T GET IT.
Rut H To spread Christ to them as well. And if that’s taken the wrong way, even if they don’t believe after talking about it, ok, that doesn’t mean y’all can’t still be friends.
You girls are awesome!! Honestly I’d love to be your friend 😊
i have to say i’ve had a change of heart. although i disagree with you guys on most things; we essentially are the same. we want the world to be a happy place for everyone. you seem like such nice girls and i would love to be your friend :)))
also assumption: you voted for trump
Thanks! We would love to be your friend too!
this is how every one should be. love and respect for one another despite the differences .
Cassandra Smith true but whatever
@@cassandrasmith4820 would love it if they responded to this
Camilla Cannon they did
your hair looks great today Bethany, please change it to this look all the time
Tons of love for you beautiful ladies!
Love this video!
Love you, girls!!!
Regarding the question to Bethany about "trying to be young," I think that age is just the number that represents how many years you've been on this planet. Having a sense of style that is perceived as "young" shouldn't matter. The important thing is to embrace being yourself. If you like bows and frills, enjoy them! Who cares how old you are. What does it matter that your husband is younger than you. It's a blessing that you are married to a younger man who is has the maturity level of someone far beyond his years.
Agreed 🙌🙌
Well, 30 is still young.
Loved this video! You guys are so refreshing!
I wonder if the carpet matches the drapes?
Bo Burnhan called this
I know you two are real Christians because of the persecution you get
Or, and just hear me out, or maybe their opinions are wrong. 💁♂️
Cassandra Smith same, and i’m a christian
@@cassandrasmith4820 so true!!!
@@eugene1317 very true
Remember that criticism does not equal persecution.
Great video, Bethany and Kristen! Although I'm sure you girls get a ton of hate all the time, I'm glad that you keep responding in love and just laugh it off. You helped me a lot through your videos ❤❤
Yeah Idk how ppl can say you're hateful.
Bethany's hair is so so so pretty and healthy-looking here
It was great the way you approached and answered to these questions. I love your personalities and your channel is such a blessing 💛
A blessing? So... homophobia is a blessing?
@@lOlA-hl4pz more than your trolling
Amen ❤
@The world according to Lola
Triggered
I want Bethany's shirt. So cute.
Thanks for all you do! Keep ignoring the hateful things people say and continue sharing God’s truth. 👍🏻
Haha 30 and 25 is not a noticeable age gap at all, in my opinion. Bethany, I don’t think you have anything to be concerned about. Had you not said anything, I would not have noticed.:)
ok genuinely loved what you said about diversity
Loved this
Woah I love your new hair!
I love these types of videos where we get to learn more about y’all 💛💛
I’m a 38 year old married man and I watch this channel. Is this weird? Or should only girls like to watch this channel? What do y’all think?
Nope, way to go sir
Yes. She thinks it’s weird. We have been married for 17 years now and I don’t really care if she thinks I’m less of a man because I watch this channel. I have a crush on Bethany, I’m sure everyone does. She thinks that’s cute but she thinks this channel is for girls only. Wanted to know what y’all thought
It's a sin
Just for a little clarification: I don’t watch this channel because Bethany is really pretty. I watch this channel because of it great content. I’m a Christian and have been for 19 years now. I know how to appreciate a beautiful woman, and would in no way imply that I look at any woman in any other way than appreciation. I’m very faithful and my wife knows it
Thomas Chacon in all fairness I watch this channel cuz they’re pretty lol
I like you guys a lot more now than when i watched you like 2 years ago
yes true
Love love love you guys! And know that all the backlash is OK because Christ is being glorified
I would assume that in your friendships with non-believers, you would spend every moment trying to convert them.
What's wrong with that
@@zoezionnelson2005 It's disrespectful. You can educate someone on your religion and encourage them to look into it and see if they're interested. But most people already know about Christianity and so pushing it, to me at least, disrespects their free will and seems more like you're trying to dictate their lives.
@rorygiambalvo2955 I totally agree. I was raised & educated Catholic & practice to this day, but NEVER have I tried to push my religion on others. If they ask questions, I'm more than happy to answer, but never say they have to convert.
I have some friends who recently left the LDS church & they told me that they always appreciated me for the fact I never tried to convert them or condemn them for their beliefs when they were practicing Mormons.
i LOVEEEEEE the haircut !!!!
Bethany, your hair looks great 👌👌
no it doesnt heck u
whats their last name?
I know Bethany's is Biel
Defined
💕 you rock girl defined
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No
YESSSS
YESSSS
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No 😊✨
I think some people may have those assumptions about you guys because you’re so preppy and hyper (which is just you two vibe) 😄
On season ✌🏻, we need an updated theme song bc Bethany’s hair is different!!
this was too short 😊 love yall
💝💝
i don’t like these girls but i think they mean well.
well they're probably brainwashed ...
Love you girls!! Keep shining Jesus light!!!!
Yay! But not to homosexuals or people who show their thighs apparently...because....um...reasons!
You girls are awesome 😎
I love your hair, Bethany! So pretty!!! Short hair really suits you.
This is medium hair. That women afraid of not being attractive get when they hit their mid life crisis. They look like they just walked out of a discount Christian Jc penny. If this is what looks "not boring" looks like to you then I pray for your recovery.
do more!
I appreciate the messages you guys are sending to all the young girls that look up to you guys, BUT as a christian women myself, I would appreciate more authenticity. It seems like this bubbly persona is all you guys display. Be a little more real. The christian walk isnt bubbly and yay and fun, its a tough journey with trials and suffering. Its hard to reach out to a world of sinners who need Jesus if all you display is unrealistic christianity.
But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man. So you better listen to me cause my reproductive organs are on the outside.
@@curiousman1672 Its not about being sorrowful 24/7. its about showing a little raw-ness with the people. Raw emotions. No one is bubbly as they "seem" to be in every single video. So the outside world does not take the truths from the word that they speak seriously. "if the messenger is in violation of the message, it has no affect" - Ravi Zacharias
@@syyyddddd You mean theyre hypocrites?
I think they are just bubby, happy ladies. But Kristen's infertility video was definitely not bubbly.
@Lon Spector I doubt that :D
You girls do a fantastic job. Thank you for your content x
I really admire your channel and all you share! ♥️ you are brave to receive so many awful comments and continue sharing. May the Holy Spirit guide you and provide you with a stronger faith to continue with your ministry 🙌🏼
I'm proud of their strength!
Ana Belen Pita Yes for sure!
@@nathalie2137 it's being brainwashed dude.
@the world according to Lola What is your criteria for being brainwashed vs having an opinion you disagree with?
You guys don't have to be subscribed
I don't get why you guys hate them so much
Because they tell you that Jesus loves you and that there is someone who cares about you?
Or because they tell you that you should avoid to sin and avoid contact to sinful people?
cause they shame women for having rights
Izo-Ink how?
@Lon Spector I'll do it.
I think people just strongly disagree with their beliefs and don’t like that young girls are watching this
because they want to hang gays
Do more!!!!
Started + finished the Girl Defines audiobook in 1 sitting from my drive from NY to VA! Loved it!
Wow, that’s awesome!
I’ve watched the occasional video and I never knew that y’all were sisters! 😹
That’s funny!
U girls are awesome luv u
I love that you guys posted this video.. I am not technically a Christian, I am interested in all faiths. Christianity being my extended family's faith (Baptist on my mom's side and Catholic on my dad's, though my dad was anti organized faith and my mom is agnostic). I was raised to believe all religions are valid and to believe whatever feels right. I'm very spiritual, and have some unconventional beliefs, but am at an age and stage that I'd like to become more involved with faith and I'm looking for a l Christian church to attend..
ANYWAY, lol.. I wish that you girls would get more into your views on the LGBT+ community and in particular social issues, because many people are interested. I, personally, have always defended Girl Defined as being a fantastic resource for young women who are finding themselves, even just as a excellent self help/advice channel. And I feel like its important for the Girl Defined brand to shut down alot of these bandwagon critics that don't watch beyond a soundbite or that present quotes out of context. For awhile it seemed quite popular, if not (likely) profitable to criticize Girl Defined without a acknowledging any of the amazing positive works that they've put out.
Princess Sparkle Pixie they have multiple blogposts on LGBTQ and none of them are positive in any way
@@schmimboo exactly.
@@lOlA-hl4pz cool
i really enjoyed this! appreciate the open mindedness and would love to see some of the other facets of your lives!!
I will admit, this is one of their more open minded videos. That show how low the bar really is for them.
keep doing what you're doing. continue to band together, and encourage one another in Christ. That's what we have to do nowadays due to the hate Christianity receives. I may not agree with you completely on some things, but I do think you have the love of Christ, and are so desperately trying to share that with the world. So thank you, we see you, and we love you.
Amen!!
The Bible spews hateful messages
Yay 💛💛
I enjoyed this!
Love your top SO MUCH Bethany!
Do you know where she got it? I'm wanting the same one 😊
She got it from hot topic, I have the same on lol
why does everyone seem so against them in the comments? we all have our differing opinions and beliefs, i dont get why people have to shove them down their throats. to each their own.
because their opinion actively oppresses certain groups of people.
@@TheSolaceOfSilence oppresses??? I wonder where you get your beliefs of morality from.
I think they have deleted some cmments
They deleate some pride comments
@@doomguy7488 because people were spamming .. 🤔🤔
I loved this video!❤
Ok I don’t agree with on a lot of topics but I watch them because their personalities are so fun and caring.
Man, Kristen and Bethany, if you guys keep up with the comment section then I truly don't know how you guys do it. The comment section is atrocious! Anyway, grace and peace to you both. Love this channel and truly enjoyed this video. =)
It's really disgusting isn't it? They'll put gross things in a pure video but when someone writes something against the gross things they'll get angry what the heck
Absolutely agree!I drop down to see people who enjoyed the video or had actual questions. Nope just spammers.
@Lon Spector Hey man, please get therapy.
Sorry for being late. Loved this video. Please, continue your great work!
This video was fantastic!! As all your others are also 😊💕 Keep up the fantastic work, ladies!! You are doing great!!
You girls are so cool
You both are awesome!
I literally have no idea why people are leaving hate comments on this video?? I don't condone it but at least on other videos where you tackle controversial subjects I can understand it a little more... but this? Ladies, I'm sorry that you have to see this stuff non stop - it's crazy how many self-proclaimed feminists are getting mad at you for speaking your minds and having a platform when they always support that for others! Love you guys and thank you for doing what you do
tbh there are quite a few yeeeeeeikes things in this video too
Love you girls ❤️❤️
HAHA loved this video! You both are so cute
Great video to make! Keep up the channel
I don’t understand why everyone is being so mean? If you don’t like the video don’t watch! Love you girls, please do another one of these videos!!
Cause what they're promoting is toxic and harmful for many people
If it is harmful and hurtful for others, we watch and we should open up about it.
Terrence Davis just because you don’t like it doesn’t mean the rest of us shouldn’t.
The carnal mind thinks it’s harmful to have boundaries, so they see it as toxic. What’s going to be harmful is people’s souls burning eternally.
@@missy5448 For a religion that outwardly puts a lot of emphasis on love and acceptance you sure like to scare people into it by threatening them.
You would like punk rock
Nice ! More of Videos like this😊👍
Fix audio
Sending love from Australia!
It is so nice to see ladies keep going and making videos even though people aren’t very nice.
We're not nice cause they spread destructive behaviors. They're not nice so we aren't.