Being the first in my family to go to university
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- čas přidán 6. 09. 2024
- I share my thoughts on coming from a non-academic family. I don't know how my interests would be different if I had been exposed to science at a young age. I say i'm a late starter in science but there are definitely people who started much later than me and were still successful.
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not trying to sound wierd or creepy but your voice is nice to listen to
her accent is
Ikr
"Do whatever you want, but whatever it is, make sure to be serious about it."
-- Dad, 25 years ago.
"I always think outside the box because I never knew what the box is"
Now, THAT is a nice quotable.
*_I am the first one from my village to do engineering_*
Her videos are physics A S M R
I got a minus forty on an optics midterm. That's forty points BELOW a zero grade. So, Tibees, I think I have achieved at least a local minimum here, in the horror-story department.
My parents didn’t go to college either, and now thanks mostly to their encouragement, I’m a PhD student in Physics. The thing I loved about the fact my parents weren’t ever into academia is that their advice was always so broad but extremely applicable. My mother always encouraged me to not focus on comparing myself to my peers, rather, to focus on what I know and need to know. I really think this mindset has helped me make significant progress in my pursuit of knowledge and has motivated me to keep going.
Love your videos. Looking forward to seeing more.
I'm the first woman of my family to go to university and I'm finishing this year my Masters in Mechanical Engineering. Hopefully to get a phD or other opportunity after xD I realize that without anyone going through it that I know, I have to set my own standards and that in itself can be a bit challenging. Either I'm too hard on myself or not pushing myself enough. In 5 years I have not found a balance yet >
I’ll be the first woman in my family to go to university!
All females in my family have gone to university, hopefully I'll be the first male.
Its almost like a breath of fresh air seeing this video, ive been pressured ever since I was 16 to find fulltime factory work considering my father's side has been factory workers as far back as I know whilst my mothers side is filled with artists, I certainly appreciate the arts without a doubt but it has been a dream of mine to pursue marine biology, going to do my absolute best to make sure I can make something work in that field, honestly thanks for facing me in the right direction again with your wonderful videos!
In China, 90% of people in my generation are the first generation go to college.
My mom did biology in university, she thinks I'm crazy to do physics but I guess she's got the attitude "If you like it then sure"
I am enjoying your videos a lot.
I like that someone did a video discussing this. When I got my MSc in Physics I had difficulty finding work. I told my mom, a factory worker, about how it was more difficult than I expected. She started sending me dozens of jobs like forklift driver, truck loader, line worker, ...etc. When I explained to her what Physics was, she kind of sighed and said, " but who is going to pay you to do that".
Hey, are you my twin? lol. Same here with everything you mentioned including: side projects, no idea how the system works, not being pressured into a particular path/career, etc. Really nice to see successful people who come from a similar experience (though I don't think I can ever tackle a physics PhD)!
My path led through my first loves, cars and cooking with jobs as a trainee mechanic and then going on to become a Commis Chef. I left school to contribute to my family by earning a living and did not do what I think you call your finals. But then several years later I went back and gained entrance to Uni and completed my degree three years later. the first in my family and one of a very very few people in my village. I would tell anyone who may think they could never do it. Go for it because even if you do not complete the Uni there is so much you will learn and experience.
In fact, the learning and experience is the reason you should go to uni in the first place, not for the piece of paper upon completing.
Tech It Out after switching majors and taking unrelated jobs, this is something I want to believe in
She has a voice for radio and a face for television !!!!
Honestly I know this feeling, I come from a less fortunate family in a 3rd world country and for along time I have felt like I there was nothing in the world that I felt passionate about then by sheer luck we got Wi-Fi last year, yeah I know to most that seems surprising, finally having access to the internet open up my mind to a bigger horizon and to my 1st love Engineering. Ever get that feeling that you finally found a purpose finally found what you were meant to do I fell further in love with robotics at first I thought it was just fiction but you can actually make a job out of it I'm currently in my final year of high school I don't know if I'll get into University or even if I can afford it but what's for sure is I finally feel like I was born for something and I won't let fate or misfortune take this fire from me.
Thank you!!! I so rarely see this addressed, especially in the STEM fields. There is a book of sociology case studies called Unequal Childhoods by Annette Lareau (?) which addresses what an impact your childhood has in terms of how/what you end up doing in life and one of the things it addresses is getting exposure to different career paths.
Anyway, you're brave for choosing your own route in life and obviously handling it very gracefully :) I also didn't know anything about how academia worked coming into college but I'm learning.
Every word is very clear. I have watched many English channels..
They speak bla bla bla..
But she is very clear speaking..😁😁😁
Got the t-shirts. My dad was a window cleaner, and I'm very proud of him
I'm the first in my family to go to University (finished it about half a year ago) and started my own company (about 5 years ago), making decisions nobody in my family would dare to make... I see pretty much all people around me continue the path their parents have taken, but I didn't... I think that's mostly to do with the fact that I got tired of all the complaining the adults did (back when I was younger, and still now that I'm an adult myself) about their jobs, bosses, the government, "the 5 days in a week 9 to 5 job every day the same for years" mentality... So that's why I became my own boss, not relaying on anybody but myself... So if I fail, I can only blame one person :)
I'm also the first in my family to have a degree, and soon, the first person to finish a graduate degree in my extended family. The only downside is having to explain the basics of physics to my family or describe what I do for a living.
why is that a downside? I love explaining what I learn!
ohh her voice is melody ...the way she speak
i'm serious she is beauty with brain
Mozart really need to listen her
I’m the first in my family going to university. I work in my dads business, but I’m deviating and going into physics.
Couldn’t agree more with you here. Run your own race. My parents were not educated and they didn’t have any expectations on me. I got a job in the bank after leaving during year 11 and they were happy with this. After I matured in the head, which took quite some time, I thought I could achieve more. My wife came from an educated family so she was great support too. I’m now an airline pilot and completing a PhD. I don’t believe the adage that you can do what ever you put your mind to but I do believe study is much easier and much more enjoyable when you’re studying something you’re passionate about.
This is great advice for others, Toby. Thank you. First in my family and the extended family, too
Yeah - I was first in my family to get to college (eventually two degrees) But then, I was, admittedly a 'difficult' kid at school - I got bored - school was too easy. I was chucked out at age 15 (this is a long time ago :0) and worked in engineering. BUT, at my own expense, I enrolled with the Open University in the UK - and that was _BRILLIANT._ I never looked back. On top of the degrees, I had to do Professional courses as well; and I also did computer courses of various sorts from building computers to networks and extra math. I _LOVED_ it!
You are an inspiration for my daughters
This really resonated with me.
Thank you for sharing your experiences. I was the first in my family to go to university too. I’m currently pursuing my PhD in Applied Physics and have the same struggles and everything you say resonates with me. I’m glad I stumbled upon your channel. I wish you the best in your journey.
Very good observations. It's difficult for people who have had the advantages to understand how much of an advantage they have over those who have not. They worked hard to get their level of understanding. But they don't see what they don't see - the stuff they take for granted, science discussions around the table, "smart" games, maybe tutors, etc. I recognize both my daughters are straight up brilliant - far smarter than mommy or daddy - and yet they had advantages that many, many kids didn't have. It doesn't diminish their accomplish, but hopefully - I think - it helps them put the accomplishments of other people in context.
I'm on the "other side of this"... I'm a fitter and turner like my father and his father before him. Gotta agree that "forming your own path" is important. That requires something I think of as most important, taking what you do seriously.
I discouraged my kids from following me into the trade because it largely doesn't pay like it used to. Both my children went to uni and now earn more than I ever have, but my son took up metal work as a hobby anyway. And like me he really enjoys it for its own sake.
I admire the clarity in your thought process, you are an inspiration.
I'm not even studying any sciences (i'm an undergrad classicist), i just really enjoy your videos
This is so interesting! I'm the only one attracted to math and logic in my family but it's so freaking curious to find people not attracted to the underlying question that emerges from wondering about the structure of nature and its structure's mathematical description. I'm always buffled everytime I catch up with some physics stuff (and it's the very reason why I have a big smile everytime I read the crazy results you guys come up with haha)
You are a wonderful person. Thanks for making these videos.
Exposition is perfect! Seems absolutely like a painting!
I think you hit the point squarely between the eyes (in a manner of speaking), in that doing what you love/enjoy has lead you down your path. "Your path" while it sounds prophetic is not that, what it is, is your life, your experience of your life. It is "you" being the next evolution of your parents combined genome having in your abilities to do/be. I think to myself, what a wonderful thing it is you have accomplished, to have the courage to launch in a direction your forebearers have never before conceived or achieved. Bravo darlin, bravo
It's one thing to go to university as many do, but what counts is being good at what you study. I have seen you take those tests from MIT and you make it look so simple.
I'm also first in my family to go to university. I help my dad in business. It is really hard to choose one, but i really have interest in computers and pursuing my masters.
Crossed paths with this CZcams channel at quite a serendipitous moment - two weeks ago at the start of my first semester back into my Electrical Engineering program after one semester of suspension. Looking to make my family proud (as i'll also be the first in the family with a degree), to finally apply myself to my studies, and to make connections with students and faculty through clubs and other organizations. Thanks for your message and positivity Tibees, I am now approaching the remainder of my education from a more studious perspective and am considering applying for graduate school.
Beeing the first have many advantages, maybe the main one is the satisfaction it produces to do almost everything by oneself, I say almost because a little bit of help is always needed from professors or other students
Same here. I was the first in my family as well. My parents were farmers. And no one in the extended family was in physics or academia either, I totally understand what you mean.
Tibee, you are awesome .
Brave ,beautiful and intelligent .
Same here, was an auto mechanic and started college at 25 because I always liked science, but was extremely naive about college and academics. My family had no idea, similar to what you're saying...
Love your "I always think outside the box because I never knew what the box is".
Oh man do I envy your lovely australian weather!
I think you've made many very good connections between academic carreer and family background.
For my part, my father studied physics a long time ago, and although he never forced to me to pursue a scientific carrer, I've been exposed to scientific culture for so long that I naturally got into a scientific domain.
I did notice however that this wasn't the norm among most of my collegues as most of them didn't come from a scientific or academic background.
Although I do agree that it's good to have people from different background, I do think the best way to get people really interested into scientific fields is to get them, started at a young age.
Maybe it goes both ways, some people might be really put off a certain subject if they are already 'sick of it' as a child
Your videos are very inspirational.
You are so humble !
"A working class hero is something to be"
-John Lennon
No idea why or how I found your videos but kudos and cheers from Kansas, USA...amazing 👌👍
I can relate my own experience as first person from the family in university. There are some disadvatages as I had to learn many things through mistake and there are always some unknown experiences had to face.
I viewed some of your videos. I like the smile you superimpose in the conveying your message. One thing I found is that you have an interest in exploring things and feel happy in sharing them. Philosophy itself means literally “love of knowledge” , after some time you will good amount of pressure to write papers which is important also. But it should always be- that love for knowledge.
dont know if you ever actually read your online comments. For its obvious you are a successful internet celebrity as it was because of your humble straight forward videos into the high intellect of figuring complex equations in the first place that attracted my interest to mathematics and physics. Your of a very calm nature and I suppose its because of your upbringing and family too that you have made a mark in history where the teaching of such high education has endured further towards the positive in your creative approach towards the beautiful art within the science and math realm. The length of your hair see, seems to be something your very proud of. Maybe you could calculate, for instance, just how many hairs you have on the top of your head . That would make for a great video. Cheers !
Thanks so much! Your videos about Math, Physics and great messages like this are very helpful for me :') I love your way of being... Don't change, please :'D
I'm from Peru and I want to send to you a greeting from the bottom of my heart... You are beautiful =')
I was in the same situation in the eighties (long ago) with the same emotions and the same attitude. As I cannot master maths, I did political science and environmental studies. My parents were very good to me, but very far from academia. So, good to see somebody else saying the story. Great minds think alike! In hindsight, I should have tried to do a promotion and stay at the university to do research and teach. Not that I had a bad career, but it would have made a better fit for me than doing interesting things in central government and diplomacy.
Life is beautiful!
This video is some kind I can relate ....I am belong to this same background though I am persuing electrical engineering and its the final year ....we'll never know sometimes you challenge your self in a greater way but the main concept is to stick with it till the end......that's it
You videos are helping me to return to the academia. I am planning to apply for a Master's Degree this year in order to follow the path of going for a Ph.D. I have a very similar background to yours, although I studied economics. That question related to the absence of familiar pressure is so true, as well as the extracurricular activities.
I can relate to your pathway into PhD training (regardless if you go back to it or not!), although I was the second behind my mom on her side of our family to go to university. However, going through medical school without a parent or any immediate family member with a medical background was definitely challenging not knowing what exactly you're getting yourself into! I didn't know what to expect, didn't know what I really wanted to do (ex. internal medicine, surgery, etc.) and actually I'm sure a lot of us who go through medicine feel extremely lost at some point! In the middle of it all, it was easy to become disheartened while struggling to identify with a profession that we had no experience with before but were in an extremely rapid fashion expected to be totally acquainted with and act as any practicing physician (despite being at the part of the learning curve before it starts to rise)! Similar to one of your comments, compared to many of my classmates who had physicians as parents, I think they weren't necessarily pushed into pursing medicine ("following in the footsteps") as most chose to pursuit medicine it because they also thought it was interesting (for many different reasons). I do believe however that having a reference point (ex. a parent who is/was a physician) was completely invaluable as those peers who did already had an expectation in their mind of what the end point of medical school/practice would be like, and they had a very easy source of guidance for navigating the system, especially during the particularly difficult times. Sometimes I would compare myself to them and felt I was somewhat at a disadvantage not having such a relationship available, thinking about it retrospectively I realize my idealistic perception of medicine compared to actual practice was quite skewed! Although I'm satisfied with my ultimate decision to pursuit/complete medical school, I think I've become one of those physicians who would find it difficult to wholeheartedly encourage kids (high school/early university) to pursuit medicine when they have no knowledge of what to truly expect. On your comment, honestly I may have chosen another field (probably something computer or music related) if I had the prior insight and better family financial capabilities to explore different things I found interesting. During my undergraduate years I never felt like I had the option to deter from my medicine track, largely due to monetary reasons and the compounding investments I had made each progressive year towards that goal. Honestly it was a random suggestion by one of my teachers in my last year of high school to pursuit medicine, I took her biology class to avoid playing violin!
Reflecting on another thought you brought up... Now that I'm a couple years outside of medical school and my teaching physicians are increasingly becoming colleagues rather than purely mentors, getting to know more about their personal lives and what's going on with their children, it's interesting (most have children my age or a little younger, somewhere in university) and you might be surprised to know that the majority of them do not follow their parent's career choices; quite a few go into the fine arts, some law, others nursing, school teachers, etc. All purposeful and following a dream or vision of what makes them happy. Their parents have no regrets at all about not pushing their children into medicine, although undoubtedly some parents/physicians mentally function in a totally different perspective and push push push! I personally would neither push nor deter my (imaginary) future child from pursuing the same career as me, but I think my overall (high) expectation from them would be that they would do something purposeful/meaningful.
I'd agree their isn't any good or bad idea to pinpoint in following into a parent's occupation. I think your pathway was admirable and a good lesson for your viewers; pursuing an idea that is meaningful (for both of us it was science regardless of how late it interested us), changing it to reflect something you find purposeful and that makes you happy, and we'll see where our chosen paths lead.
Good luck!
You are working really hard its good to get some shut eyes. It keeps your mind in good shape you would want your mind to perform at its peak especially if you are a researcher. Your channel happens to be one of the few productive channels left on youtube I have spent a lot of time on on. Giving out this advice just out of concern
woah you get so in depth to what happens in our daily life. I like it!!
I was a first generation college student too. The experience you relate closely parallels my own. Good on you!
I kept saying "exactly" during the whole video, I experienced the same thing with my father and I know the feeling, I also agree that doing somthing because you love it and not for the sake of people's approbation is what creates the individuality and what empowers the society because of having a diverse population, we should not be afraid of the unknown because life without risks and adventures is boring and useless.
Listening to you, I feel like I'm looking at a real human who knows what she wants from her inside, and being able to explore her ideas through layers and layers of effort. To me, you are the image of perfection, and I would love to talk about my passion if we could meet up through some instance. I'm looking forward to your updates in the future!
I loove watching to your videos because I learn physics and English and such inspiring things from you ❤ Thank you from Saudi Arabia 🙏🏽
That makes two of us! Came late to everything and then ended up being better than everyone around....
i really liked your story, it's something from a different perspective for me!
i like everything about the video... more than that i love the greenery and A rooster or turkey @02:23
I was the first in my family to complete the matriculation examination (Finland). It's quite weird, but it's been nice to get this far. I started CS in Aalto University in the fall.
You are Amazing! Ich bewundere dich so sehr!
U seem like the nicest person.
I'm the first in my family to go to university too, including my cousins. People have many expectations of me. I hope to do my best.
I don't understand anything she said yet I'm still here astonished by the visual and sounds of this video, which are quite relaxing
I'm the first in my family to go to University too. Even with no pressure at all from my parents, i get top grades. Because i am curious and I just want to try my best. I think everyone should study if they want to and in the subject that they are interested in. not just because they parents did it. And side projects are awesome for learning :D
really encouraging to hear your story
Hi ma'am!I have been watching your videos quite regularly!It has been a pleasure!You have become a source of my motivation!and we have got some similarities as well but kinda in the opposite way really!
My dad was the first to go to college in our family, he has his masters in physics. He told me it was tough because his parents never encouraged him to do particularly well in school. He just had a vested interest in science and mathematics, and had the work ethic and necessary finances to do so. Just thought I would share a little bit, maybe someone can relate!
Just like to echo the comment below. You have the most beautiful speaking voice. Do you sing?!
You are very attractive and sensible, enjoy your videos.
Hii...Tibees.
Hope you are doing well.sorry I am making a comment on it after very long time.I don't know whether you will feel it or not.I went through your video and you have really made your parents proud.You know one thing those parents who don't pressurised their kids to choose a certain path have great expectations from them although they never share it.Take care of them.Going through this video I can tell that you would be more satisfied if you were a professor.I hope after two years things might have changed.
Randomly finding an inspirational video while struggling with a math course
My brother got Thomas Sutherland schlorship in Scotland..he was also the 1st to get into university
My parents are doctors but three of us children never thought of pursuing the same path. We are all into Engineering although all of us are dealing with different kind of disciplines.
I never had any encouragements from others although my parents were rather supportive aka not that interested, but I encouraged myself believing that only seeming limitations are self-imposed. And it turned out to be true. Though it takes lots of efforts, if you persist in what you believe in longer than you think is enough, you will get better at it.
Im here watching as a Fine Art major with two oxford grad computer scientists, in nuclear family.
I find my childhood science beig taken around science museums, having books, science toys, and even learning bits of advanced math.
Feel theres still an engineering side and influence of science in my art though- sometimes is a bad thing! Took extra science in school up to 16 then absolutely ditched the whole thing for a few years for art and philosophy.
Ah, well im a drop out/sucky education so my question will be "going to uni for physics at 33 and not required school qualifications".
I've watched your videos from the start. First you were into hairology then you switched to physics. lol. You're a very positive person.
Beautiful articulation
You are so intellegent and so beautiful...
I'm really happy for you
This is an awesome video. I really found it interesting.
Slay girl!!! 👍🏻🤘🏻
Me too. My Mother went to uni but she dropped out when she got pregnant
I relate, I'm the first too in my family to go to university my father is a bus driver and my mom is a seamstress, they always wanted me to study, it's what they think will bring me a better future, I don't know how it works outside my country but here in Brazil the bests colleges are the federal ones and they're totally free, but they're really hard to get in, we need to do a national exame call ENEM and about 2 months latter we get in this website and choose 2 options of colleges and courses, so through five days the site refreshes and we get to see what are our spots in the "lines" to get in, the bests grades gat the top spots, so there are like 50 spots to some course, the 50 best grades get in, as it is a national exame so people all over the country are trying to get in and it makes the competition really hard, a lot of pressure to students, I get in physics in 2014, after I'm in I discovered that I don't really like it as much as I thought, after all the dificulties to get in, how do I get to say to my parents that I wanted to drop out? So I keep trying to finish my degree, but I was not happy, I was depressive, sad, I statted to miss classes, I loose 4 years of my life going to the college trying to get the courage to drop out, last year I did, now I'm studying Italian in the same college, for now I'm happy with my new chance.
my mother was the first in her family to go out for work as a professor in mathematics at a college.
It was very difficult stepping into the unknown world of academia for a farm boy with a family that were very against the idea. But I had my strength in mathematics and a high degree of open mindset to carry me through the science. I did finish a BA and found business law very useful to balance off the science.
The real surprise came in seeing professor's "borrowing " my creative ideas n insights to keep up their own mystic of original thinking. Many more were very helpful which made it easier... like going for a thesis you have to defend yourself from judgmental irrational critics from those who want to see you create something meaningful.
You certainly fit into the later group Miss Toby, thank god.
For me none of my household go/went to university and I will study maths at university. (I'm in last year of high school) But my uncle studied astrophysics and I think that's it for my whole family in experience with university. And lmao my uncle is my physics teacher btw
I am the 1st one to go to University within my family too
Too relatable.
There is also the fear of the unknown, especially for someone who isn't lucky enough to get that emotional support, only financial.
I was the one in my family to go to university because I was forced to. No help from my family whatsoever. Even though I am hard of hearing. Yeah they put some microphones behind my ears and expected good marks and schooling. Now after 4 years of finishing university (undergraduate) I still deal with depression. Wake up people and help your d@mn children!