Age-Gap Relationships: Fact vs. Fiction - Philippines
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Discover the truth behind the controversy of age-gap relationships in the West. In this thought-provoking video, we dive deep into the double standards surrounding older men dating younger women versus older women dating younger men. Why does society accept one and criticize the other? Explore moral, legal, and ethical arguments to understand the complexities of these relationships. Hear personal experiences and rebuttals to common criticisms. Are age-gap relationships really wrong, or is society's judgment misplaced? Join the conversation and challenge your preconceptions.
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Hugh Heffner always had the greatest response to this, "My age has changed but my tastes haven't."
My younger Filipina wife told me this the other day. "It's attractive when your partner can educate you on topics you lack knowledge on. It's a different kind of intimacy." You won't hear that from Western women because they are too busy telling you everything you're doing wrong.
In my experience it usually stems from jealousy.
I don't think it is jealousy, but most definitely "envy." Envy is a scourge because it motivates some of the envious to act in irrational and evil ways.
I disagree. I'm a minority opinion on this channel, but I'm really glad my mother wasn't replaced by someone younger than me and my siblings. My Filipina bride is my age. We have a son and grandsons. The children of these marriages will hardly know their father. This channel should be called "The young widows". I've watched it happen for 20 years. Try and call that jealousy.
This is the only reason everything else that comes out of their mouth is internal hamstering to justify the above
@terrencejones9762 I respect your viewpoint and can see it has nothing to do with jealousy, but would like to add that most Western men are not replacing the mothers of their children. Western women are the ones leaving those men and taking their children away from them in court. Many younger Filipinas are interested in older men. That's just the dynamic. I am pretty sure many Western men would be fine with older Filipinas because of the traditional values and good character of most Filipinos. But these same women already have families because of these good values.
@@terrencejones9762that’s true, but it depends on the respective ages. Many young women have a chance for a better life with an older western guy. Those guys are generally instinctively drawn to younger women. Not an older women or mother figure. In the west most guys are at a disadvantage and in the ‘beta’ role. Not so in Ph. It’s the guys responsibility to provide, but also to look after his health and himself
It is very simple - Guys who condemn old guy/younger girl relations are Jealous, while the women who say that hate the competition.
Bingo
jealous, no. envious, yes.
I am at the age where I don't give a Dung about what people think
And when you get to where you are, life gets a lot less stressful and a lot more peaceful.
Preach it Brother. Absolutely THE BEST argument I've heard regarding the age gap in relationships! Thank you for this. Can't fix the haters though. As Always, May God Bless you and yours! 😇
Glad it was helpful!
You need only to look at the US census of the 1800's to see age gap marriages were more common than they are today. It is very advantageous for a younger woman to marry an older gentleman which leads me to believe that women themselves were the driving force behind these marriages. Compound that with the loss of younger men in the civil war I think drove women young and widowed to seek out older men as well. You can find changes in that social excepted age gap starting in the 1920's, again looking at the records.
I think older women are reminded that they can’t compete against younger ones and don’t like being reminded of their decreased value to men. They’re also good at dissing the competition
Another top-notch CZcams video, ReeKay. As an American, I am almost embarrassed that the social current and fabric here in the U.S. is this screwed up. The contrast between the two cultures favors the Philippines by miles and miles. My Filipina wife of 20 years (she 47 and me 66 years of age) calls me "Daddy" just because she does and always has. I'm waiting to be arrested by the thought police over here. Federal charges I am sure. . . .
My wife and i had to endure a few comments when i first brought her to the U.S.. mostly because im creole. We just literally ignored them saying it wasnt gonna last. Now 10 years later we look at the ppl that used to comment and laugh now.
Very well said. You have dotted the i's and crossed the t's on the age gap discussion.
Personally I wouldn't even give anyone the time of day with a discussion about it.
Me too. Figuratively or literally walk away asap. Couldn't care less what anyone else thinks of age gaps nor why they do.
Same, but I think it's wrong and selfish.
Absolutely true and thanks Reekay 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Yes I assume some of them are jealous and they're thinking in their mind, only Leonardo DiCaprio could pull this off. Like you said, they think it's not even possible or they know they'll never go overseas so they're jealous that you have achieved it. That is my experience
I think you are one of the most logical and sensible individuals I've ever had the pleasure of listening to. In your arguments about age gap relationships you mentioned one being "well it's wrong because he's gonna die first." I am almost 70 and I married at 17 to a wonderful little lady, also 17, who had the misfortune of dying after 40 years of marriage with ovarian cancer. I met another woman a couple of years later who died of a heart attack 8 years after we met. That was several years ago. Now I just renewed my passport and plan to move to the Philippines very soon. Here's hoping my life has a better ending over there than it's beginning in Tennessee.
This gentleman is dropping knowledge. Thank you.
I appreciate that
You have to give some of the more savvy Filipina's credit. They may be younger, but not stupid. An older man can provide everything you mentioned, and most are more than happy to just do the feminine aspects of a traditional relationship. I find the female psyche both fascinating and horrifying at the same time. Some of the most ruthless people I know are women. Do your "Due Diligence" gentlemen, but dont shy away from the younger ones. There are many gems. Live your own life and be happy.
Good 😊 points! Those supposedly tolerant tend to apply a double standard
Congrats on the 100k. About time too!!!
What does it even mean when people say, "That older man is taking advantage of her youth"?
Does that mean that he's physically attracted to her, and they have sex? Um, that's what happens in every relationship, regardless of age or age-gap.
Are they saying that the woman, who is over 18, is incapable of exercising judgment? She's an adult. Admittedly, some people have poor judgment, but that applies to people of any age.
Preach brother....preach ......agree 100%
At the beginning my oldest daughter asked me how old Madelyn was. I told my daughter she was 28 years younger. Note my daughter is a throw back hippie from the sixties.
Lisa’s reply was Dad she is younger than me. Well my reply was , it just happened that way. She replied Ok.
Ppl enjoy your time just do what you pls if it's not hurting anyone
Very nice video, good clear simple arguments.
Thank you!
Very good content. There’s always something new and thought provoking
thanks! :)
2:53 anything that controlls / keeps men in check is applauded
I'm 64 my gf is 24 ..
Exactly my situation, only I'm now 75 and she is 35 ,, ten years and two children and still going strong
I’m going to Thailand in about5 months. I GUARANTEE I will make friends with multiple women in their 20s. 😂
There are practical problems of mental maturity differences in a young old relationship of any sexual poles. If couple is determined to manage that, then relationship can work and it is no business of 98% of nonloving people in the country to comment on their relationship. There is nothing morally wrong but there are practical problems. But they can be between people of same age as well.
Biblically speaking, it is a OK for man to marry a younger woman 18 and up biblically speaking it is OK she has to be of variable age and 18 and up is Marable age does not matter how old man is
😂😂 to add a story: I’ve just met a Filipina < she’s 56 I’m 71 , she was married to first man in her life at 19 he was 30yrs older, she’s now a widow with one daughter, she’s been in USA for 30+ yrs and still has retained her wonderful culture because of a conservative caring husband, I couldn’t be happier TBC😊
How common is it for age-gap relationships between older Filipino males and younger Filipinas?
Very
Not common. I also live in PH and have many Filipino friends in different social classes. When there finally comfortable with you and are able to speak to you truthfully. It was a reality check. Trust me, most Filipino guys are not Jealous. They joke with me that they feel some foreigners can do a lot better than the girls they currently have.
mistresses.. very common. wives, not as common.
@@Lifebeyondthesea true
Isaac was about 40 when he married Rachel who was a teenager age
I'm marrying a wonderful Filipina half my age. We are planning on having kids.
The way I'm dealing with those stateside who might want to give their worthless opinions on how I choose to live my life: I haven't told anyone my business, because it is none of theirs.
IOW, I don't have to worry what they think, because I haven't given them any information to think about.
We create our own pressure guys. What I mean by that, using this topic as an example: If you don't want people to criticize you or render an opinion on what s/he thinks about you "shacking up with an adolescent" (that's how they see it), then don't tell people what you are doing.
Always love to see a new video from this channel.
Once again Reekay your argument is very succinctly put forward in a most logical and common sensical way. The problem is the topic of age gap dating is looked upon emotionally rather than logically in the majority of cases. Many years ago I had an American History teacher use the phrase “ in all instances and events, when emotion takes place, logic gets thrown out the window.” I personally refuse to engage in a discussion using logic with some small minded idiot using emotion. All the best to you Reekay!
I am a Christian - I searched for verses about age gap relationships. I couldn't find any. There are two age gap relationships in the Bible - Abraham was 10 years older than Sarah. The other is Boaz and Ruth in the book of Ruth. In Ruth 3:10 "And he [Boaz] said 'May you be blessed by the Lord, my daughter. You have made this last kindness greater than the first in that you have not gone after young men, whether rich or poor'
Jewish tradition says there was a 40 year age gap between Boaz and Ruth.
The Bible does not give the minimum age for marriage but indicates that the woman be past puberty.
true... not a single verse speaking against age-gap marriages. not one.
and yes, boaz was a generation older than ruth. boaz was the father to ruth's first husband who had died, leaving her as a childless widow. boaz was already wealthy and established, not a young man.
it can be surmised that their age-gap was at the very minimum 15 years difference and more like 20+ years age-gap.
Let’s say we have two individuals, Person A and Person B. Person A is 25 years older than Person B. We’ll use the average life expectancy in the U.S. for our calculations, which is about 79 years2.
If Person A is currently 50 years old, Person B would be 25 years old. If both live to the average life expectancy, Person A would pass away at 79, while Person B would pass away at 54. This leaves Person B potentially alone for 25 years, given the same life expectancy.
The formula for the time Person B would spend alone if both partners live to the average life expectancy is:
T=L−(A−B)
Where:
( T ) is the time Person B spends alone.
( L ) is the average life expectancy.
( A ) is the age of Person A at death.
( B ) is the age of Person B at that time.
Plugging in the numbers:
T=79−(79−25)
T=79−54
T=25 years
Here’s a hypothetical scenario to illustrate the point mathematically:
Let’s assume Person A has a child, Child C, who is 30 years old. Person A starts dating Person B, who is 25 years old. In this case, Child C is older than their parent’s new partner, Person B.
The age difference between Child C and Person B would be:
Age Difference=Child C’s Age−Person B’s Age
Age Difference=30−25
Age Difference=5 years
This age difference might affect the traditional parent-child dynamic and could require adjustments from all parties involved to build a harmonious relationship. Everyone must communicate openly and establish boundaries and expectations that respect each other’s roles and feelings.
In addition to the mathematical aspect, it’s essential to consider the emotional and psychological factors. The success of such a family structure depends on the maturity, understanding, and empathy of the individuals involved. It’s not just about the numbers; it’s about the willingness to adapt, respect, and care for one another in a blended family setting.
Great video Reeykay. Wisely thought out and very well explained. All were facts.
What is the breakdown of people who object to age-gap relationships? Male to Female and even the age of the objectors within genders.
What about age-gap relationships within the LGBTQ community?
From what i've observed over the years, age is not really an issue when it comes to those who object to the idea.
it has more to do with the jealousy of men who know they can't exercise that option, and women who are jealous of the competition.
🇺🇸 Henry…tell them there was a substantial age gap between Esther and Boaz, Moses and Zipporah , Joseph and Mary just to name a few…many more in the pages of the Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth! 😉 🇵🇭
Thanks for another great video, Reekay, I really look forward to hearing your valuable insights, they mirror my own thoughts and actually confirm what I already know. Very similar to when you teach someone something, like what you're doing, it reinforces your knowledge. The age gap relationships aren't a one size fits all kind of situation, it all depends on the chemistry and maturity of the two individuals involved. The western culture has devolved into an unnecessary, complicated and biased culture in these regards, where Asians have retained better values, and that's a great reason for us westerners to look for a relationship with an Asian.
Hi Reekay,...I completely agree 💯% with you.
Great 👍 video content.
Thanks and keep up the great work.
Good video
Glad you enjoyed
I m 30 yr Sr to my Friend, and I seek a certain level of maturity so 35 is the line. I think she's afraid that her family will come out of the woodwork if we were together
wise man
Amen Brother 👍🏾
D, from Mindanao Bukidnon..
Live and let live.
Peace ☮️
Well said sir.
I like the lodgic my wife is 37 iam 59 got many negative remarks from my kids back in the UK to a extent they not communicate with me anymore 😢
Love your logic!👍
Thanks!
It's called Mind Your Business!
People who want to criticize you about this are not even worth talking to about it because they won’t stop until they get insulting
Cher is dating a guy half her age or less
those women you show while you're talking are stunning
all the images in the vids, i create with AI for illustrative purposes. i often try to pattern the AI model after the person discussed.
in the PH.. i'd say about 6% are a 7 thru a 10. with maybe 1% being a 10. but, they are very approachable.
using real women means getting model releases for each. not cost effective to be paying models for photo shots.
the thing is the Bible never says that God is against a man dating or marrying a much younger woman. that's why they can't find a single verse to back up their opinion. God is against fornication and adultery, not marriages with a big age gap.
true. and that applies to same-age or age-gap.
Dr. Reekay...The Philippines would be a paradise for me if I met a younger woman and I don't have to meet their family upon approval..Freaks me out meeting the dad and he would be younger or the same age as me..and one more thing.,,The world is flat..especially here in the U.S lol...But I get your point overall...
Not as bad or nerve racking as you’d think meeting the family. I privately met my Wife’s younger 45 year old father at his work site prearranged by my Wife at the time. He was so happy to have someone making his daughter laugh and be happy. I do give my wife 5k Pesos monthly to give to her Dad to have a little comfort and that was my suggestion when we met. My Wife and I have been together 2 years and have a son and another in the way. I’m now 56 and she is now 20. I guess I just don’t give a shit what others think especially when I live in the Philippines and the haters live in the US. Some in my family are pissed but again I won’t marry a hag of a woman to appease my family when both of us are happy. I hope you find your future Wife here and give this type of life a try. You deserve to be happy.
there's a defined victim class and you can not do anything that COULD harm the defined victim class .. in other words you can not date much younger women because both young and old women would be harmed .. the young ones will be taken advantage of and the old women would be incapable to compeet so men HAVE to be shamed for dating young women
Actually, the Bible has some positive accounts of older men having a younger wife. Read the book of Ruth in the Bible (It's short). It's a beautiful and practical account, with no prejudice that Ruth was much younger than Boaz. It so happens, that through this union, Ruth came to be in the family line leading to Jesus.
thanks for info
Welcome
Correct me if I'm wrong but I have been told if a woman is under 25 here she must have a parents consent to marry. I'm from a very religious background and so is my 19 year old girlfriend. We are not shacking up so to speak, but everyone asks me when we will get married. No one I know of has a problem with our age difference.
in the philippines, a filipina (or filipino) who is between the ages of 18 and 21 needs to obtain written parental consent in order to get married. this consent must be presented to the local civil registrar in order to proceed with the marriage application.
if they are between ages 22 to 25, parental ADVICE is required. while the marriage can still proceed WITHOUT parental advice, there is a mandatory three-month waiting period if it is not obtained.
as for others asking about "when" you will get married... ignore them. don't let gossip or social pressure push you into marriage until the two of you believe it is time for that.
i guarantee you, even after you get married.. these same people will be asking when will you be having your first baby. and then, when the 2nd... etc.
none of their business.
@@Lifebeyondthesea Thanks for the clarification. I am lucky it's not pressure or Martise they just want us to be together. And I want children the more the merrier. And thanks for all the hard work over the years, I listened to much of it.
Dear Reekay,
How much is a conference call with you? I am off for a week and would like to set up a time. Thank you.
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It was ok for Stella to get her groove back with a younger guy and the women who love that concept are the same ones who freak out when older men are with young women. Only White men and Black women were jealous and against Black men dating White women. It all matters on who whines the most and who is the most jealous about interracial or age-gap relationships.
In fact, in the United States today, White men and Black women have hatred against professional athletes who are Black and have beautiful Blonde White women. My truth may re-ruffle some old feathers but facts are facts.
I really enjoy your programming. The Bible is actually is okay with older men having a younger woman. Look at King David and Bathsheba. He was a lot older than she was when he gazed upon her the first time. He already had grown children at the time so that tells me is older. She had no children from Uriah so she was young and we know she was fertile as she was impregnated by David right away. And if God was not okay with David marrying Bathsheba (even after he murdered to get her) then why is she the ancestor of Jesus? That's all I need to beat those knuckleheads that don't like these relationships.
The Bible is FULL of examples of successful age gap relationships. A notable one was Boaz and Ruth, which produced the line of Jesus.
About 1:23: I find it interesting that older men and younger women is "OMG" while older women and younger men is perfectly fine. Smacks of "boss babe" hypocrisy. But then boss babe types want it all for themselves and nothing for anyone else...
Great content and congrats on hitting 100K subs.
How about the argument that Western men are affluent and better educated, both of which conduce to a power differential in the age-gap relationship that's rife for exploitation? That's the argument I keep running into, accusing me of, in effect, neocolonial exploitation or some such. In turn, I tell those people that they are the one with a neocolonial attitude problem. Nothing is solved or agreed to in the end. I think it just takes a good long while for family to get used to the change.
The moment i hear somebody refer to a relationship in terms of "power differential" i know i'm dealing with an idiot who thinks that it's all about equal power. rather than two people who actually love and take care of each other. which is a foreign concept to them.
Funny how it's always the 'Sheng nü' who want to attack men for not picking them.
The best way to deal with this is do not talk about it tell anyone what I do or who I see. We know it is not socially acceptable by America in general, so it serves no purpose to advertise it.
Outside of the philippines, is not that you even need to tell anybody.
but it is obvious when you walk hand in hand down the mall that you are in an age-gap relationship.
and that is when these karens and chads come out of the woodwork to complain about it.
I had a relation with a wonderful Philipina 30 years younger than me. We did NOT have an "agegap" ever. I did not feel it and She did not. Other people they had it... Funny part is - after we split (not an agething) her friend and she met up in a shop. Her friend ask me if I met a new girlfriend- and I answer yes. She wanted to se a picture of her - I show her. She replied - well I think its importent with no agegap.... hmmm my new gf is 15 years younger than me... and all of a sudden - its no agegap.. hehehe Well I guess in Sweden it still is an ageproblem.... for other people.... not for us. well my new gf complains all t he time that I need a younger girl - she think she is much to old for me.... hmmm 15 year younger than me....
I married a beautiful little redhead that was 15 years younger than me she was 22 I never really had anybody say anything to me about it my Filipina is 17 years younger than me and I've had way more people say something about that of course they were all westerners you know the usual she just wants your money and a green card😂 they never said that about the redhead though and she was the one that just wanted my money 🤷
If you’re only looking for casual sex (something temporary), then a 70yo expat can certainly hookup with a twenty-something Filipina. But, if you desire something more permanent, a large age gap presents a physiological problem. When that same expat is 80yo, will his 30-something Filipina be sexually fulfilled? (Let's be honest - probably not.) The Good News: a 15 or even 20-year age gap can work in the Philippines. (Of course, this will never be acceptable in the West!) So, when he’s 50, she’ll be 30. And when he’s 80, she’ll be 60. Their sexual desire and capability will be comparable. Now I know I may get some hateful responses for sharing this, but that’s my POV on this topic. I think it’s realistic. And it takes the Filipina into account. But - Hey, do your own thing. Here's wishing everyone well.
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In the cities with lots of foreigners.No it's just not a thing. But of Heard from multiple sources, including my young pinny ,thar when the young woman takes her old forrner to the province to meet her family. The yong wemon of the area say well she's got her sugar daddy. The philippines isn't all that different it's just that there no confrontational
I.E you will never hear it directly.