❤️ Why Vietnamese Women Prefer Being With Western Men... Part 4
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- ❤️ Why Vietnamese Women Prefer Being With Western Men... Part 4
In this last video, I am about to share with you another 5 reasons why mature Vietnamese women in Vietnam prefer to be with Western men. By mature, I mean women who were born before and within a few years after the Vietnam War since that’s a crucial event in the country’s history.
These reasons are based on my own experiences and from many mature Vietnamese women that I have had a chance to talk to.
Before I go on, I would like to emphasize to you that the most important factors are your sincerity and for who you are. I just want to remind you that a gentleman is still a gentleman no matter where he comes from.
14. Independent - Not a Mama’s Boy.
Many Vietnamese men would stay with their parents and family, even after they got married. They are used to weighing their parents, especially their moms’ opinion heavily. Many times, their relationship or marriage can be affected quite much.
On the other hand, the majority of Western men move out of their parents’ house by the age of 18. Therefore, these Western men have learned to make their own decisions and not rely on their parents all the time. By saying that, I don’t mean to say every Vietnamese man or every Western man would all be like that. Once you are a Mama’s boy, you’ll always be a Mama’s boy regardless.
15. More Willing To Admit They’re Wrong.
As I mentioned, the Vietnamese culture is male oriented so even if a Vietnamese man knows he’s wrong or has made a mistake, it’s very rare that he will admit it. Vietnamese language does have a phrase for “I’m sorry” but a Vietnamese man rarely, if ever, uses it with his lady. Using this phrase can be perceived as being weak and can lead to ridicule by his male friends.
As you can imagine, this can cause problems in the relationship because this unwillingness to face these situations communicates that the woman is not an equal. This inequality, of course, can build up resentment over time and damages the relationship.
16. More Willing To Support Her Ambition.
In Vietnam, once a woman reaches her 30s or 40s and especially if she’s had children, it’s generally viewed that she should put her ambition and goals in the backseat to her man and her family. Thus, any discussion about her going back to school, focusing on her career or starting a new career is almost non-existent.
This situation is mainly because the society is still male dominated and in many cases, a Vietnamese man also does not like his woman to be more successful than him.
A Western man is far more likely to support his lady’s ambition and life goals. In fact, he often even encourages her to pursue her dreams because he knows that denying what you want often ends up leading to unhappiness.
17. Is OK With Her Being Sexy.
Most Vietnamese men admire well dressed women...as long as it’s not his lady. If a Vietnamese woman dresses up just because she wants to feel good about herself, she’ll often have to explain to her man that there’s no ulterior motive. After a while, she’s resigned to not dressing up because of the continual explaining she has to do.
I have seen many very attractive women in Vietnam in a relationship who go out in public dressed in very casual clothes, almost the equivalent of gym sweats. At first, I thought it was because they didn’t care about their appearances when in reality, it’s because she doesn’t want to deal with the hassles of having to explain why she’s dressing up.
A Western man is far less likely to be as dominating or controlling about how his lady dresses. In many cases, he would even buy flattering outfits for his lady since he knows that dressing up, for many women, is a way to raise their confidence and feel good about themselves.
18. Less Judgmental About Her Ancestry.
This may come as a surprise to you, but a Vietnamese man will pass on an amazing lady because he and/or his parents don’t think her ancestry is good enough. In other words, she can be educated and successful but if her parents are not as fortunate due to economic reasons, he will pass on marrying her or he will use that to belittle her.
In other words, she’s being judged for something that happened before she was born!
As you can imagine, this is completely unfair to the woman, and unfortunately, it happens a lot. I’ve personally experienced it, and I’ve seen it many times with people I know.
When you meet a mature Vietnamese woman, be aware of this, and please understand that she may not be as open initially for this and other reasons I’ve shared.
That's it for this series. Once again, I would like to remind you that if you are looking to settle down with a nice, decent mature woman in general, and Vietnamese woman in particular, you yourself must be that person first.
Thanks so much for your time. If you have any questions or comments, please feel free to share them in the comment section below. I, Vanessa Ho, would do my best to respond to them.
love that dress, and your great attitude. I found a Vietnamese woman through online dating. talked to her for a few months, then went to Vietnam to meet her. We've been married for 5 years now and I couldn't be happier.
Marc, congrats! We're looking at interviewing US men who have married Vietnamese women for our show. Would you be open to doing a short interview? Thanks!
@@marryavietnamesewoman6384 I would be honored to be interviewed by you. I would love to help other men find the happiness that I have found.
What website did you use?
@@jacksonambrose6269 Are you asking how Marc met his wife or how I met Alex? I met Alex through a mutual friend. That's a big reason why we offer a matchmaking service vs. building a dating site.
@@jacksonambrose6269 I used match.com they had the best filters. I tried about 5 of the websites, but match.com was the best at the time (2014 - 2015)
I am in the process of starting my own channel based on my career in food service. I've been a chef for over 20 years with 35 years total. I spent my life working and it was one of the contributing factors of my recent divorce. I am looking at traveling in Southeast Asia and Vietnam is one of the places I want to go. A relationship is not my current goal, but I'm open to it if it happens. You're videos are very insightful and informative and it is very much appreciated. I've always been fascinated by Asian culture my entire life. Thank you.
A man or gentleman appreciates a well dressed lady and especially if she is on his arm.
Agreed. :)
Vanessa, Thank you for your sincere and heart felt videos. All 4 parts were excellent. I am trying to learn more about Vietnamese culture as I consider dating again. Thank you for your insights. Yes, a gentleman is ALWAYS a gentleman.
Very insightful video. Now I know why my wife and stepdaughter were so amazed when they learned I could cook, clean, sew, and do yard work. I am the oldest and only boy of a family of 5 children. Both my mother and father taught all five children how to do all the domestic duties around the house. I have been living alone in the house I own for over 20 years so I am responsible for everything. When I am in Vietnam, my wife and daughter spoil me rotten. They will not let me lift a finger. The only thing required of me is to take off my shoes when coming into the house. The most important thing my father taught was how to treat women. He never sat me down and gave me a lecture but I learned from the example he set with my mother and 4 younger sisters. So being a gentleman with women comes easily for me.
Great job !!!
You did it great. Thank You.
Arh, thanks! Can you do us a favor and share with 3 of your friends?
Thank You Vanessa for share your cultural knowledge and personal experience to help others.
It's come from very deep from your heart ❤️
Bless.
Thank you very much for your informative videos. I have been researching for a book, and came across your video series, which has proved very useful, and a level of insight I hoped to find. Your points were explained clearly to help me understand. That is what I hoped, to understand more. I look forward to viewing your upcoming videos.
Jack, I'm glad you found the videos useful. What book are you writing?
@@marryavietnamesewoman6384 It is a science fiction novel, the setting in and Hội An. I wanted to get much of the setting and the culture correct, without distracting too much from the relationship between characters.
@@jackvacton I don't think I've heard of a sci-fi book that's based in Hoi An. Let me know how it turns out. :)
@@marryavietnamesewoman6384 Will do. ; j
Vanessa you are lovely, thank you very much for making your videos. It was very nice to hear you share a little bit about your current relationship, he sounds like a good man and I wish you both well.
Hi Vanessa, a very liberating piece...
Just watching your series 5 parts...already set us free...
No more doubting and struggling, just understanding and responding well to cultural heritage.
I can relate to you. I a Malaysian Chinese, from boyhood to adulthood, I lived, educated,worked and played in Germany and Switzerland for 20 years.
Now, I am back to Malaysia, I feel very much like you - the Sandwich 🥪 !!!
I do not want to live this way, I have now decided to leave the past old culture and live towards the today's new culture.
Contentment is great gain.
I am liberated .....
Thank you Vanssa, the information is very helpful to understand other cultural of Vietnam women. I’m interested in the world of women that some of us men don’t know or understand.
You are welcome. Thanks for your encouragement. Alex has been saying the same thing and encouraging me to share as a woman's point of view to help the men. And I am glad to hear it's true.
I appreciate the depth of information you shared here.
I am currently learning tiếng Việt. My desire is to reach out to Asian neighbors and become friends with them, to help them feel comfortable talking with and dealing with life in this country, USA. Anything you add to my knowledge will help. Mike
It’s so kind of you to learn Vietnamse to help your Asian neighbors . They would greatly appreciate your kindness .
Thanks em O'i
A successful woman is always as sunshine to my heart,
I have always admired a woman who reaches for the stars,
Xin vui, Can you tell us what city or province you are originally from in Viet Nam ? And how long you have been living in the US ? Cam on rat nhieu..
I was born and raised in Saigon. My parents are from the Mekong Delta areas. I have been living in the US for 29 years.
Great video!
Joe, thanks. What did you like about it?
@@marryavietnamesewoman6384 , I like how you break down in your videos all the key points, that could benefit us men.
@@joeonthego606 Glad to hear. We wanted to make the materials as clear as possible so we appreciate the feedback. :)
Hi Vanessa, awesome message from the heart. Cam on. I am a christian guy and have a lady friend who is Buddhist, this will cause difficulties culturally, How dedicated are Vietnamese people in regard to their beliefs ?
Great question Mark. It depends on the family, especially the parents. Some are ok with their daughter/son is converted. Some won’t. You should discuss it upfront, don’t wait because it may cause great friction and pressure as you are talking about marriage. Good luck!😊
Also, check out my videos about the Vietnamese women insights, I did mention this situation if you would like to learn more.
You are a brave woman, good
Hi Vanessa,
Thank you for the insights into Vietnamese culture and differences with the American culture. You're a well spoken lady.
Do you have suggestions for an older white man who is recently divorced and would like date a Vietnamese lady to find his soulmate. I'm willing to travel to Southeast Asia anytime.
Had you thought about starting an agency to sponsor Social Events in HCMC (Speed Dating) during the year for men who are retired and would like take a love tour?
David, we're starting an agency where we will first introduce men here to women over there virtually to see if they have any initial chemistry. Then if he wants to take it to the next step, we will help coordinate a trip over there [COVID permitting]. Email us at findavietnamesewife@gmail.com and we can share more.
I found mine through online dating. I was specifically looking for a Vietnamese woman that spoke English at least a bit, and wanted to come to America. (some don't. ) I didn't romance her, I interviewed her. Her Straight forward nature got rid of all of the games and I was able to speak with her frankly about ALL issues. How can you not fall in love with that kind of a woman. She was my 3rd marriage, I was 48, she was 33. Perfect match.. Go get yours now. !! :)
@@marcbrown1479 I'm glad to hear that you found a lady. How long have you two been married?
@@marryavietnamesewoman6384 We've been married 5 years now, and I couldn't be happier.
@@marryavietnamesewoman6384 I have been married for 5 years. I am very happy. it was the best thing to happen to me.
A powerful catharsis done by a strong and focused woman.
Thanks for your support.
Love the dress. You wear it well.
Thanks! It was my way of showing my gratitude for being in the US.
Vanessa all those wise words coming from you. You are both courageous and so beautiful. It must be quite something to know you.
Fred, thanks. A big reason why I do this is because I want to help good men meet quality women so they can both be happy.
Hi Vanessa,
Where and how can I meet a Vietnamese women?
In this video, Alex discusses that exact topic. czcams.com/video/vSm1WtMFRes/video.html
We also provide a service where we can make intros to Vietnamese women who are committed to a relationship and marriage. Email us at MarryAVietnameseWoman@gmail.com for more details. :)
Hello Vanessa. Thank you for the video series. I have learned a lot. I do have a question about one of your comments. You mentioned Vietnamese men do not apologize to their women because they feel they will appear weak and I assume will lose face. I have been in an online\long distance relationship with a woman I met last year in Ho Chi Minh city. We chat\text often but we still really don't know each other. It is all very new and to be honest I have no idea what is going to happen. I was planning on going back this last April but then Covid stopped that. My question is if I do apologize and own the mistakes I make (which I was raised to do), will I appear weak and lose her respect? Seem like a thin line to walk! The differences in our cultures makes for a steep learning curve and unfortunately I have some suspicions about her. Thanks and keep up the great work. Cảm ơn!
Steven, great question. A Vietnamese woman doesn't consider a man weak when he apologizes: she appreciates that. It's just that a Vietnamese man won't do that because he often doesn't see the need to, even when he is wrong. So you apologizing [when appropriate] will make you really stand out.
@@marryavietnamesewoman6384 Thanks for the followup Vanessa!
Please remember the west is not just America.They speak the mother tongue of their mother land.🏴🇬🇧.
The flags stripes represent the British colonies.
Not quite. The thirteen stripes represent the original thirteen states at the founding of the US.
I really appreciate how much Vietnamese women respect America. Even with our past history. A big contrast with Chinese women. I truly look forward to visiting Vietnam next year.
I'm just looking for a woman from the Vietnamese countryside that wants to be taken care of and stay in Vietnam. Her home and husband being her priority. Is that still possible in Vietnam?
Buddy, very much so. We're already in communication via email so let's continue there to avoid confusion. Thanks! :)
Do you have any questions you want answers about dating or marrying a Vietnamese woman? Please feel free to ask them in the comments below...❤️
I have just discovered your videos. I just want to say that I think they are very great and very informative to a Viet Kieu male like me. I was born in Vietnam, but raised in Canada most of my life. Keep up the great work!!!
@@garyma19 glad you found these valuable and hello from the US :). Can you do us a favor? Can you share this channel with 3 of your friends? Thanks. :)
Good your husband encourages you to learn and reach your full potential. I am the same way, so maybe in general western men are more encouraging and support your ambitions.
Are you directing your information to Vietnamese Men living in America, or White Men living in America?
Thanks for asking. Our information is for Western men in general, including the two categories that you mentioned above.
I guess that the preference for Western men is across the whole of South East Asia.
Some of those reasons surprised me.
The ao doa is dai is very attractive dress. The best dress invention ever. As a man I am happy if my woman dressed nice but my reason is slightly different. I would want my woman to look great when she and I are together in public, to show off an attractive woman is with me. Male ego. 😊. I want other men to be jealous of me.
I would want my vietnamese woman to do both, dress up and sometimes be content to be causal. It is silly to spend hours to dress up just to walk to the mailbox at the end of the driveway. Waiting four hours for her to "get ready" to go out would be frustrating.
Can you make a video on how young western guys can date young Vietnamese women ages 18 to 22? I noticed that unlike mature Viet women the young ones prefer Viet Kieus or Korean men and dont really like westerners.
Yoshirin thanks for being here. Unfortunately, that's a different generation with a totally different mindset so I won't be able to accurately tell you what to do. I have a niece at that age (she's 25) that I helped raise, and I still don't understand her many times. :)
you don't have kids? That's surprising . Such a pretty lady.
I was on a weekend date with a hot mature woman in mui ne Vietnam and she was dressed up and several of the Vietnamese men tried makeing low class passes on her.This is the priblem with these hot women dressing up in public.
Friends should be seen and not heard lol
What?? Why are Viet guys are like this? is it because youre from the south and they hate that? from the Vietnam War cause the South was on the side of the North. Or they are just like that?.
It's a cultural thing, and much of what I discussed here has been liked that for generations. It is changing but very, very slowly.
but you're not with a Western man! ?