unfortunately woman who give their babies up for adoption are judged to. I gave my oldest son up when I was 21. I was treated like shit even though I chose to gave my son life. I was in an abusive relationship and I protected my son from an abusive father. no matter whether you give your child up or keep it or have an abortion people judge you for everything. nothing you do is good enough. but you have to please yourself not everyone else.
Brianna, thanks for sticking up for women with compassion. I hope you are no longer abused. People don't understand what goes on in the brains of abusers and those who are abused. You can rewire your brain with methods of neuroplasticity through NLP and other therapies. Sometimes, you can learn how to do so yourself. lilacsinoctober.wordpress.com/2015/09/29/neuroplasticity-changing-my-brain/ talks about her success with it. cryingoutforjustice.com/2013/08/02/neuroplasticity-learning-disabilities-and-domestic-abuse/ gets more specific. It can help explain what happened in your brain and get you started (if you still need to) on creating healthy relationships
Brianna C I can support you for giving your child a future, that's all we expect from people is giving children the right to blossom & showing their worth in life with smiles.
You do realise it's down to both parties involved to make the decision. If you get pregnant because you are too lazy to use contraception then you have no one to blame but yourself in my opinion.
@@nialldecourcey2470 Here's the thing: ➡ I don't give a damn *HOW* and/or *WHY* and/or by whom a girl/woman is knocked up/pregnant. ➡ If said pregnant girl/woman wants an abortion, *NO MATTER WHAT the reason(s),* she should have access to a reasonably priced or financed procedure (but preferably, at least partially covered by health insurance). Whether a woman had sex with her long-time boyfriend or her husband...whether a woman had sex with *1* man or *101* men...whether a woman was on birth control, used condoms or sometimes used either/or, or never used either, or if there was somehow a mixup...or if a woman was raped (by a stranger in a violent assault, or a "date rape," in which she clearly indicated she did NOT want to have intercourse & she relented, closing her eyes-holding back the tears-praying it would just *be over soon.* *NO MATTER WHAT THE REASONS - NO MATTER WHAT THE CIRCUMSTANCES - NO MATTER WHAT, HOW, WHY, WHATEVER: A WOMAN SHOULD ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYSSSSS HAVE ACCESS TO LEGAL ABORTIONS IN A SAFE, COMFORTABLE, COMPASSIONATE ENVIRONMENT!!!* No one "likes* abortion. But it is a medical necessity. I am so damn sick, tired & pissed all the way off at this misogynistic, anti-woman, woman-hating bullshit puritanical rhetoric meant to shame women & control women! Women are entitled to enjoy their bodies, embrace their sexuality & engage in *ANY KIND* of sex that brings them fulfillment, pleasure, joy & more! Men do it EVERY FUCKING DAY. Women deserve the same rights...Speaking of rights, if men could get pregnant, you can bet your sweet ass that this would not even be an issue! Men would have abortions & they'd fight for their rights. Oh, and another thing, if health insurance covers all of these stupid medications to help with lackluster or altogether GONE erections (aka: meds designed to stroke the already fragile male ego), then what in the hell are so many idiots up in arms about having a woman's birth control meds covered??! Or my bio-identical compounded hormone cream, which my insurance does NOT cover, costs me nearly $50 a month. It helps my overall health & it also improves my libido, making for greater desire, better sensation & more satisfying sex with my man. 👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻
"It's down to both parties involved to make the decision" Ring any bells? Nothing I said was misogynistic. If you accidentally get pregnant because of not bothering to use birth control then why should people be patting you on the back and calling you brave? It make zero sense. Same the man involved, knowing there's a chance that a woman can get pregnant but still going through with it is just naive from both the man and the woman. I believe woman who have medical conditions or rape victims should have a right to an abortion but not woman who can not be bothered to use birth control. Please change my mind by telling me why a woman and man who are having unprotected sex should have the right to abort their child because it was a "mistake". Also as just a side note why turn to abortion when you can put the child up for adoption? At least it can have a chance at life that way.
NO ONE knows what this is like until they have gone through it. NO ONE knows what anyone else is going through personally. This is a very personal ordeal.
You are so right everyone says i would never do it untill your in that situation yourself you can not judge as times in your life can be difficult feel for her know exactly what shes going through it sent me wacko for years it took me years to get over it x
hayley Wood yes but most people actually don’t do it when they do they won’t ever do it I get she felt like she had no other choice some are like that but people who truly don’t believe in that ACTUALLY will not do it
hayley Wood that’s true. i never in my life thought i would get one but i did. Because it was the best for option for me, and i was using protection and everything. Things happen y’all.
@@aaliyahallen-sellers3547 the reason you had an abortion was it because you thought people would judge you or the fact that you just didn't want to deal with a child birth? "Because you know adoption is an option"
Kylie Charboneau and what happens if a woman is raped? Quite frankly your opinion is fucking disgusting. I don’t like how they get rid of the baby in abortions but who are YOU to judge the woman??? You sick fuck
"If the anti-abortion movement took a tenth of the energy they put into noisy theatrics and devoted it to improving the lives of children who have been born into lives of poverty, violence, and neglect, they could make a world shine." -Michael Jay Tucker #prochoice #kidsbeforefetuses
***** A world with safe, accessible abortions is a better place than a world without them. Women (in countries with legal abortion) are no longer getting botched abortions, no longer being suspected of 'murder' when they have a miscarriage, no longer being forced to carry and give birth to a severely deformed child with zero chance of living more than a couple of days. Less children are sleeping on the streets or in group homes, less children are abused, less women are tied to their rapist for 18 years, and less women are being forced to risk pregnancy and birth related death. Bodily autonomy is a beautiful thing.
***** It doesn't seem silly when women have to rent out their entire body for 40 weeks. Would you support forced blood, plasma, bone marrow, or organ donation to save a child's life? No. Men are never faced with a situation where they are told their bodily rights have to be put on hold.
***** We are equal. There is never a point in your life where you have to face the mental and physical health effects of pregnancy. You will never have your entire body stressed for 40 weeks. You always have the right to make decisions for your body. Women having those same rights, which includes abortion, is not unfair or unequal. You're missing the point that there will never be a time where you're forced to do something with your body, so there should never be a time where a woman is either.
***** And that's motherfucking bull shit. But, at that same time, abortion was illegal, so both men and women lost control over their bodies. I support abortion, no draft/drafting both genders. Bodily autonomy for all or none!
I'm against abortion but all of the hate comments aren't helping anything. It's already done so it's not like your comments will have any affect. Do you see how upset she looks in the video. We all know that there are tons of arguments that people can give FOR abortion and tons of arguments that people can give AGAINST abortion. BUT IT'S DONE. In the video she looks like she could use support.
Wow! I made a comment about being supportive and trying to avoid endless pro abortion/choice debates and low and behold, a debate about abortion breaks out... ironic
"It's already done" isn't a valid argument. We need to chastise awful shit like this to make it socially unacceptable. When you say "oh well it's already happened no point in trying" you are only making things worse.
she may need "support" but does she rlly deserve it? I mean it seems to me that she had pretty much fun getting laid, so why couldn't she had fun confronting the situation she knew she could had gotten into? there's no excuse. if she was young n financially unstable she should had kept her pretty legs shut.
I'm sad for you that your boyfriend was so unsupportive and that you felt this was your only option. I hope you aren't still with him. He doesn't sound very nice.
Joe Noyes She didn’t do it to be evil. She aborted because she was terrified and felt as if it were her only option. Also, her boyfriend wasn’t supportive and, in a way, coerced her into getting an abortion. So please don’t judge or hate, only wish her the best because it’s obvious she’s sad.
123abc it wouldn’t have swayed my decision. I always wanted a life of travel and also a career. I was on birth control to prevent this whole situation. Thankfully I live in a place where I had options. I have now travelled quite a bit and have started a career in EMS. I do want kids one day but only when I am ready to do so.
1) I don't think it would have gone any different because society has give women God like power. They choose who dies or not. 2) Its not about men, and not even her ex boyfriend. She didn't love that kid and was just waiting for a push in that direction. She had a choice, she chose to kill. Don't blame men on everything thats wrong with women. She aborted because she wanted to go to Europe 3) I am happy for that other girl who is planning out her life, but she should know it doesn't always go her way.
@@alexusdumont951 , I'm very surprised to hear you say that, there were several things you said in the video that mildly or strongly suggest otherwise. You state at one point you have no regrets, but in 4 or5 others you talk about crying a lot, that it's been very hard, that you wished your boyfriend would have responded to the news differently, that looking at the ultrasound of the baby was really difficult, I think a few other things too. A lie that is perpetuated today is that a baby growing in the womb is just a clump of cells, no! If that is true then we are all clumps of cells also, but of course we are so much more. It is natural, the bond between mother and child, natural and instinctive to want to protect and care for that child, and this is what every woman that has an abortion struggles with to one degree or another, consciously or subconsciously. It's what I heard you squirming and trying to deal with just in the video alone, and I do appreciate your honesty in that. But I have no doubt that it's been far more difficult for you than what we saw here. With all my heart, I really hope that the same mistake is not made, that you will come to understand that a precious human life is priceless compared to travel or a job. We all make mistakes, the key is always to learn from them and avoid the same thing.I do wish you a great life.
I am reading through the comments of this video and I think it is interesting how all the hate is directed her. There is no mention of the boyfriend who was quick to mention abortion without making sure she was ok first. He shared equal part in the conception, but he is not held accountable. Nevertheless, I can't imagine what it would be like to be in that situation. I can tell the decision was hard for you and I think you made what you thought was the best decision, and that's all you can do. You are very brave for sharing your story, and I think you will help other women going through similar circumstances.
chez066 - something to think about, if she went through with the pregnancy he'd have to pay child support, so don't say that men aren't held accountable
we have school giving sex education and at home parents and we also have lots of contraception available to us Hence why she got into such situation and fuc*ing up her body
I hope you don't confuse presage and sharing advice as being hate speech! On the contrary, advising others to break away from destructive behavior that causes torment is an act of love.
I remember watching this when i was about 8 or 9 weeks pregnant after my i got kicked out after telling them i was pregnant and i didn't want an abortion ,i was thinking about them and how they felt and i almost let that get to my head .. knowing i really didn't want an abortion .. this video is the reason i didnt have an abortion. Because i knew how hurt i was gonna be.. my baby is 1 month and I'm so glad and thankful for my desicion .
Chula Baby - That is wonderful. I watched this video about a year ago and it had a profound affect on me as well. So many people are not told how traumatic going through an abortion is. Abortion is not a reset button. It is one of several very difficult options for someone in a difficult position. I appreciate the honesty in the video.
Mom .... very. True it was running through my mind like crazy, its a decision that has to be made quickly witch is also so unfair , but i just kept thinking to myself. I just cant this lil human is gonna be apart of me no matter what .
this has been the hardest thing I’ve ever had to go through in the almost 21 years of my life. They don’t tell you how some days will be harder than others. How you will feel completely overwhelmed on Mother’s Day. How you knew it was the right thing to do for you at that moment in your life but you will forever hold on to the what if’s. It’s been very emotionally rough.
I pray you repent. You and the creator of this video. It’s not too late to repent, killing a baby is never the right thing for you. I pray you find peace, Alejandra, peace in Jesus. Please don’t do it again. I will literally adopt your child, they are loved. I’m here if you need ANYTHING, please don’t think this is an option.
I’m going through this right now and it is the hardest... all of these feelings make me feel so alone and evil and sad... and grief... I felt so rushed into getting my abortion and it was the most painful experience I’ve ever felt
@@Mariah-lm7ok I am sorry. I pray you find peace in Jesus there is forgiveness. Turn to Him in your time of grief, He will forgive you, comfort you, and reassure you that your child is with Him and in repentance when the time is come you can join them both. It is not too late. God bless you and help you through this.
@@firstchoicebidding8160 Do you really care about "babies"? I don't believe it. There are many reasons for abortion and as the girl said in the video, that "child" was not wanted, so why bring him into the world if he is going to suffer all his life knowing that he was a mistake. As a Latin American I have heard my colleagues say it and it's really painful. Here nobody has a little empathy for those who abort, nobody says "We have to improve the adoption centers", "We have to improve sex education" or "We have to present all the options and their consequences" but they say things that invalidate that decision. Have empathy, don't just be logical or speak from your privilege, open your mind.
@@rumaleovi3244 *warning, long response- srry* I think the premise for your argument has a fundamental difference to a pro-lifers. That would be the value of the human soul. While you might think the onus is on our society to increase education, I think this is an issue of the heart. Most people know the consequences of sex. However, people will still refuse hormonal birth control because of the toll on the body, and many people refuse to use condoms simply because they damper the experience. People know they have abortion to succumb to in the event they get pregnant. I dont want to assume this is the line of logic, but we live in a society that argues so heavily on women choices and undermines the personhood of a small fetus calling it a “clump of cells”, “unconscious”, “unviable”. I think this minimizes the idea of abortion to much of our society. In essence, I believe this removes the weight of an abortion for many who go into that decision. A “pro-lifer” emphasizes that at the time of conception a human life is brought into the world. A human with a soul, with the same potential as every other “viable” human whose mothers let them live. A human soul is different from just a human. There isn’t a perception that we live in nothing more than a finite biological world thats guided only by evolution, cultural relativism, and moralism. Its believed that a human soul is hand crafted by a loving God who sees that living soul as a unique identity and made in his image, having its own set of DNA, own dreams, personality, etc. While sex might be the means to conception, the belief is that God gives life through sex, as he sees suite. Sex without a creator would just be sex and would not create life. So when you say the child is “unwanted”, perhaps by its mother, but not by God. Its an issue of the heart. A mother not willing to give up her whole life for her child. Radical, right? There are a proportional amount of unplanned pregnancies that mothers pursue in hardship who pick up multiple jobs, sacrifice their whole life. Many of those women reap a harvest of joy from their children. So if you want to talk about education… We can talk about what our society doesn’t teach. Our “progressive society” emphasizes self over others. Its actually hardens people’s hearts. The entire life of Christ is to give it up for others. To lay our lives down in love and service. Those sacrifices actually lead to inward thriving, harvesting love, and joy, and peace. Our society doesn’t teach that? I am someone speaking from experience. I got pregnant, unplanned, at 21 y/o. I can say that you give up your whole life for your baby. But there is not another experience in my life that has ever filled my heart the way having a child has. The innocent, precious way a baby looks into your eyes, and giggles, and coos. It lights up your heart. Having a baby.. its not a punishment. Its gods way of teaching us the beauty of life. I wish our society taught more on the sacredness of life and the transforming power of a baby and becoming a parent, and equipped mothers for motherhood in the event they get pregnant. Thats what I wish our society taught.
I remember being younger working for Starbucks I ran a night shift. One of the girls on my shift had an abortion, against her families wishes. What bothered me the most is that my boss wouldn't allow me to let her stay home. She came to work and could barely walk. I let her sit at a table and she just cried. She had to show some paperwork to my boss, and it mentioned she had shingles in the past. My boss fired her for not divulging that info at hire. But to be honest I doubt that girl would have known to mention it. I just remember thinking that was disgusting treatment of a human during the hardest time of her life. Nothing I said mattered though, I was not well liked by my boss either. I later list my first baby to miscarriage and thought of that girl. It's a horribly lonely experience to birth death.
@@brandiurban5519 The point is to be respectful, because when you shame the other person, they will obviously not be interested in a conversation... And if the people in the comments want to save lives, they have to talk respectfully.
the psychopath commit infanticide and then gets on CZcams to brag about it. She don't want to take any blame for her actions by crying that her boyfriend wasn't supportive but please note it would have affected her life it would have affected her vacation. Pathetic worthless woman she is a psychopath I hope that the spirit of the child and wish she had murdered visits her nightmares. Hopefully the doctor did a good service and removed her reproductive organs so she cannot have a child in the future.
I'm proud of you. You did the right thing. Don't let anyone tell you different. For those who got something to say under my comment, save it because I will delete.
@Sam Noel no. no she didn't. she wasn't ready to become a mother, meaning that if she did bring a child into this world they would not live the same fulfilling life as one born into a family where the parents are prepared. this clearly caused her a lot of pain because she feels immensely bad for the foetus and what she did. she didn't do it out of selfishness. keep your horrible comments to yourself.
@@malibu1285 I call that selfishness, I dont know your ethics and morals but it is. If you think killing a baby because you want to go to Europe isn't selfishness, I fear for the people around you. Don't get me wrong, I was sympathetic with her till she called a baby a cluster of cells as if she isn't one
@@malibu1285 So you're saying that unless a baby is born into a financially stable middle class familyz then it should be aborted. You're saying that the life of a baby born to young working class parents who wasn't planned is worth less than a baby born to richer parents? Whether she was ready or not, her offsprings life was intentionally terminated. I do wish her all the best in her future, but killing a human life (regardless of it's stage of development) is never the choice somebody should make. She made the wrong choice
my best friend took a pregnancy test in the school bathroom sophomore year. it came out positive. we kept the secret for a while until she had to tell her mom. fifteen at the time. she was in an abusive on and off relationship. he told her they would keep the baby and he would drop out of school and get a job and so would she. she didn’t want this. her mom took her to the clinic to get an abortion. it was very traumatic she named her child and got a tattoo for it. this ultimately the right decision for her. i was raped when i was thirteen, had never gotten my first period, and found out i was pregnant. my aunt took me to get an abortion. this was the right situation for me. the father would have been a fifty year old man. planned parenthood is very kind. they do a lot more than just abortions. both of these situations are viewed as more acceptable for abortion. but i believe all situations are acceptable. no matter how old or young you are, what your health is, if you were raped or not, you should be able to decide what you want to do with your own body.
halo light you can get pregnant without having your period in certain cases it’s a common mistake girls make where they think they can have sex without protection before they get their period and not get pregnant
Model Maker because not only does my age goes into it at the time, but also the fact that raising a child that’s half of the monster who raped you isn’t something i personally could do. i don’t feel regret or remorse for not letting clumps of cell grow into a baby who i wouldn’t want
skinny legend oh well I guess my supporters are evil because I have a rape baby and it was when I was 17 so idk maybe I’m superwoman and you guys Aren’t, no. Stop killing babies they did nothing wrong, you are denying science
people are so annoying... if you want to have an abortion, get one. if you don't want to get an abortion, then DONT. women have a choice to do this or not.
Every woman has the choice ! But think about it this way if you have unprotected sex not wanting to get pregnant USE PROTECTION! It isn't that hard ! You have to take the consequences of laying down. If you aren't financially stable to have a kid DONT OPEN YOUR LEGS SIMPLE AS THAT. ( not directing this towards you just in general)
+alexis rojas of course! if you don't want to get pregnant, use some form of birth control but birth control doesn't always reliable. so I think, women should have that option.
+LAADI KAY Just because you have freedom of choice DOES NOT mean what you choose to do will be moral or ethical. We ALL have choices in life. You have to make choices every single day. Some people make choices to be complete dirtbags does that make it right? No. Just because something is legal to do does not necessarily make it the right thing to do. Unless of course you are a dirtbag with no morals.
+LAADI KAY Oh I see, so rape or murder is not agreeable OR disagreeable because the offender made that choice for themselves. That's brilliant. Your comment is a morally bankrupt statement.
Abortion is not fun. I'm pro-choice and even I know that. Nobody has an abortion because it's fun or because it's easy. It's not. But I believe that it's important to allow every single person to make their own decision on whether or not to have a baby. Sometimes it's the only option people feel they have. We don't force people to donate blood or organs to save people's lives because it's not legal or ethical to force someone to do that. We can't remove organs from people who have died to save someone else's life unless they had an organ donor card. It's illegal. Just think about that before sending this poor girl hate. You can see she didn't have the time of her life with this experience, nor was it something she did lightly. Pro-choice people are not for 'killing babies'. We're about allowing people to make decisions about their own body, which is how it should be. There are many people who are pro-choice who would never get an abortion themselves but still believe that other people should have a choice to choose differently from them.
@@ashleyk683 But the human beings those blood and organs could potentially save are equivalent to what you refer to as a baby. THAT's the point I'm making
Ashley K Someone receiving an organ donation is using another persons body and organs fo sustain their self. A fetus is using the woman’s body and organs to sustain itself. It is the same.
To hear this story it makes me relate to her and I understand her 100%. She wasn't ready to be a parent and at that early age and of course at some point she was going to wonder how her life would be if she would've stayed with it. Hopefully she gets over it, she's still in pain because it's not easy to forget about something like this. What I admire is the support of her mom... I am going through something similar, but my parents don't approve of the abortion, I'm not in a relationship with this guy and unfortunately he's not exalty what you would call daddy material. It kind of comforts me to hear talk about her experience because in a few weeks I could be going through the exact same thing. I really hope that it's all negative, but that won't save me... I'm afraid, I'm terrified, I'm lonely, I'm depressed and so many other emotions that I feel. I prefer to get rid of it, because I'm not ready, and perhaps in the future I would regret it, but I need to sort out my life before I bring another life into this world.
+Kari Grimaldo If you are pregnant, you should go to a Pregnancy Resource Center. They can help. Your friends and family could help. Your unborn son or daughter is not an 'it'. He or she is a human being. Look up fetal development information and read up on it.
+myintx she wasn't ready to have a kid, it's the mothers choice. If a woman is getting an abortion they are probably already pretty upset about it, they don't need people like you telling them that they are wrong and that its the worst possible option
+Bekah Nuxoll It shouldn't be anyone's choice to kill an unborn child. The girl in this video didn't sound upset. Her mother was willing to help. She wanted to go to Europe. What we need is laws protecting unborn children from being killed.
People always bring up extreme cases like rape or incest, but most of the time it's this. Young couples fucking up and getting present, with abortion being the last chance form of birth control.
+cazzawee They still fucked up. Birth control is not always guaranteed but the reproductive system is, either be ready to take responsibility for your own actions or dont act at all. Way much better decision than to end up killing an innocent life. Then it is the "rights" advocates who go around pointing their fingers at rapists, murderers, and other horrible human beings who make the horrible moral CHOICE of forcing themselves, their violence, and selfish motives on innocent humans. Same shit. You Hypocrites.
Joyzyii abortion is taking responsibility. not bringing a child into this world when you're not ready and unable to take care of it properly is responsible as fuck. don't worry your little socks, the thing growing is not a life yet when abortion takes place, so no life is lost.
+cazzawee No, it is not taking responsibility at all. Quite the opposite. Abortion is the action a woman or in some cases a decision a couple makes after they fuck and find out that suprisingly!(because shit what are the odds) they got pregant. They end up wanting to run away from taking responsibility of their actions. Every action has a consequence and theres no way one can justify the stupidity of not knowing the simple fact that putting sperm and eggs together via the action called SEX will result in the creation of a human life (basic ass biology - reproductive system). Aborting that human being's life is called ending a human being's life and ending a human being's life is called killing a human being and those who kill human beings are called killers. So women who abort are killers, like it or not thats a fact and facts regardless of the argument or excuse are immutable. Bye.
+cazzawee FYI go take a bio 101 course at your local college. Life begins at conception in every living thing including Human beings. At the time a woman finds out that she is pregnant that "cluster of cells" is A life. Fun fact, We are ALL. a cluster of cells in all our stages of development. You are a bunch of cells does that mean you are not alive? Idiot. Living cells are alive. The offspring of a human being is a human being. You dont look like an infant today because you developed into whatever you are now, adult /teen? You lack bones that you had when you were an infant. Technically infants are not the same as adults or elders. Our bodies change. Blastocysts already have a mouth that connects to the anal. A BLASTOCYST. Lets not even talk about how fast a blastocyst turns into a fetus. Those are simply names to classify a stage of human development. So yes when she aborted her offspring was alive since the day she conceived.
in video it sounds like she is still dealing with the guilt of her abortion at one point says "clump of cells but through rest of video says my baby or my child" makes me wonder if she regrets and possibly felt this was her only option. feel sad for you and the forever years of wondering as you look at your friends children😟
Because you can only deny so much. See? People who say "clump of cells" have to train themselves to say that when literally, the first thing you think of once you get pregnant is "I'm having a baby," not "There is an organism growing inside me." It's dehumanization, plain and simple.
I hate how abortion is the boyfriends first thought. Your not alone to feel bothered. Abortion helps guys more then girls because we live with the guilt.
Maggie Dingman my boyfriend lives in guilt everyday of his life, I don’t wish this pain on anyone.. but it’s the right thing to do when for me personally I didn’t have anything to my name. I didn’t have a job at the time. But I’m against abortion, although I went through it. It’s sometimes what needs to be done.. an it sucks but we stand tall.
I think guys can live with guilt too. Not to the same degree, of course, but I don't think anyone involved in the process of abortion comes out unscathed.
Your so brave to share your story. Thank you! I too had an abortion. I didn’t realize how much it affected the following 10 years of my life. I met Jesus and he healed me of the experience. He showed me my sweet little baby boy that I had taken out of this world. He showed me a love and forgiveness that was completely unimaginable. He healed my heart and now I can truly love again! I pray you will invite Jesus- the living God- into your heart and experience the same beautifulness of radical grace that I did. It’s not religion! It’s just Jesus! No rules, no bullshit....just LOVE!!!! May God bless you sweet girl! ❤️
The bible says, though your sins be as red as crimson, God will make them whiter than snow. So y'all judging her, u know nothing of the bible. It also says there is no sin God cannot forgive. God's ways are not our ways. So don't come here trying to say what God can and cannot forgive
priestlie starr I never brought religion into this I brought logic no amount of praying will ever change the fact that she killed a baby and that will forever be with her
I am a Christian and I want to say, for those who had abortions or considering. I get that life it is hard. I feel your pain. I am not condemning you. I do not agree with abortion but I do wrong things all the time and Jesus still chooses to forgive me. Jesus looked at the woman who was caught in adultery (which was a death penalty by public stoning at the time) and said, "He without sin cast the first stone."Not one was free from sin and no one is perfect today. He looked at her and said"where are your accusers?, and she replied there is none. and He said , "nor do I accuse you. Go and sin no more." Jesus loves you and is so do I. There is hope, redemption, forgiveness and healing through Jesus. John 3:16-17. For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.
Absolutely true, but the other part of that is "Go and sin no more." We have to resolve as a society to do better. Women deserve better than abortion. Our society can find a way to love both mothers and babies and not pit them against each other. Not judging does not mean "just accepting" either; we have to do better. This girl is suffering and her baby was killed violently. This is heartbreaking.
I am personally pro life. However, that does not mean I cannot sympathize with you. I have never had to experience anything like this, but I cannot even begin to imagine what you have been through. I am so sorry you had to go through something this traumatic. You are such a strong and beautiful woman for sharing this video. I will pray for you to find peace, hopefully this video starts you on that journey. Stay strong, you are loved!
This is such a beautiful comment. I’m pro-choice, though I can see the pain it causes this girl in particular and I’m glad that some people in the comments, even if they disagree with her choice, are still sending her love and well-wishes because it can’t be undone now. She needs the support.
graham cockroach A lot of them are. It’s just the radical ones that ruin it for everyone. You should go to r/prolife and the majority of those people are very kind and will answer your questions.
I understand your choice and I get that you guys weren't ready to be parents but if you weren't ready why was ya'll having sex? Should've been prepared for everything
+babe well You are a moron, people have sex, it's fun and is an integral part of bonding and finding out if you can connect on a physical level as well. She was on birth control, but she had bad luck. Having children should be a choice, neither was she ready for that responsibility nor was she in a good position (not enough money, apparently boyfriend who isn't husband material).
+Holligan878 i think that maybe you shouldn't have sex in the first place when you know there can be consequences and if you're wanting to have sex then obviously use protection on both women and men? simple. you shouldn't punish the child for your mistakes, its not their fault its yours. its really not that hard not to have sex
its her body her life her choice now lets say she did decide to keep the baby would you send her money every week for diapers and milk ? i don't think so .. so until you are helping her pay bills you dont have a say so in what she does with her life
What breaks my heart the most is the boyfriend who immediately pushed for an abortion. He had no interest in supporting any other “choice”. It hurts because EVERY SINGLE woman I know who has gone through abortion lists an unsupportive or pushy partner as the #1 reason they chose to end the pregnancy.
Also I do think she regrets it but her saying she doesnt because she went. Europe to me that's not a valid reason to get one in pro choice but I also understanf she wasnt ready for a child but I do think she regrets it in my opinion
First I would like to say that anyone who says your going to go to hell for this is not a Christian! I’m pro life 100% but it’s not my place to judge you my place is to love you. I’m sorry for the things that you have gone through and I hope you do forgive yourself because God is a God of love and mercy and there is nothing we could ever do that would deem us unworthy of his love. I hope you truly have peace and when if ever you have children I hope that peace keeps you going. We all make mistakes and it’s not for anyone else to judge your mistakes if that’s what you somethings feel it was. Keep living no matter what because you matter and you are worth great things and we shouldn’t be judged or weighed by one choice for the rest of our lives. Don’t let this become who you are for the rest of your life.
Joe Noyes - Nobody, absolutely NOBODY but God the Father decides who is going to Heaven and who is going to Hell. By you saying that anyone is going to hell is 100% unBiblical. For someone who claims to be a believer, you sure are missing the mark, big time!
I think it's so messed up that you have abortion clinics in the USA/Canada. Why on earth don't you have abortion as part of the services given by a normal hospital? You would get rid of the protester problem if you acknowledged that this is a procedure that should be done by the gynecological department at the hospital.
I myself am prolife, but I do not judge the choice of another woman. It is your body and not everyone is in the right place in their lives to take care of a child. You are so so so brave for telling your story.
if you were truly prolife, you would know that it is not her body that was killed in the abortion. It's not judging to tell someone they cannot kill a child - born or unborn - it is PROTECTING a vulnerable human being. If you are pro-life you'll vote for Trump for President. He will appoint SC justices that will eventually overturn Roe V Wade.
so you are ok with someone tearing a babys little body to pieces and killing it. That my dear is not prolife! That is what your mother should have done to YOU!
I’m really so sorry for you. I was in your same situation two weeks ago, when I first find out I was pregnant. I thought for a second to go for an abortion, but on Monday this week, when I had my first ultrasound and I heard my baby’s heart beating I immediately regretted my decision. I’m 5 weeks pregnant at the moment, and I’m still scared: scared of what people will gonna say about me, scared of not having enough savings, scared because I’m still in college, scared because I’m 20 and I still got plans but of one thing I’m sure: I’m gonna be a parent and I know I’m not gonna regret it.
Martina Russo I wish you and your growing family all the happiness in the world! This video wasn’t to sway anyone into having an abortion. It was to give an honest account of what it’s like. Pro choice is NOT pro abortion. It means I am supportive of whatever decision my fellow woman decides. I am so happy you have made your choice. Health and happiness to you my love ♥️
Alexus Dumont I know, dear. My comment was in support of your video and to let you know we are just humans and we’re all different. Before getting pregnant I was strictly convinced that abortion was the solution to an unwanted pregnancy, but honestly I regretted my thought as soon as I found myself in the actual situation, that’s why I’m saying that we’re all humans and we’re all different. Thank you so much for your kindness and for sharing your story, I think you’ve been really brave. You will be a mother in future if you will chose to, and I’m pretty much sure you’ll be a great mother❤️
@@alexusdumont951 That's why pro-life and pro-choice are really misleading terms. The terms really should be that you are for the legalization of abortion are you are against the legalization of abortion. I'm against the legalization of abortion - I think it's a crime against human rights, specifically the most basic right to live. However, I'm not against any person's right to choose what they do with their lives or bodies, although I recognize that choices necessarily have consequences, sometimes legal ones. That said, I also don't think that people who are for the legalization of abortion are fundamentally against life. I think their focus is more on the right of a woman to choose what she will do with her body. The only problem I have with their argument is that a woman's choice involves not simply her ORGANS but another human ORGANISM. As an analogy, I would say that I have the right to do whatever I want with my hands. I can use them to cook food, perform surgery, fix a car or anything else. But at the moment that what I choose to do with my hands harms someone else (like, perhaps using my hand to slap someone), the right to choose becomes problematic. As a note, I am a woman, so I do understand what a hard thing this is.
i’m 3 years late but i just want to say i respect you for sharing your story. i know some people may be hating on you but the fact that you posted this is so brave to me. a lot of people in a similar situation may need something like this to help them make their decision and your perspective will be very helpful. i hope you are doing well, lots of love :)
You are very brave for sharing your experience. I respect you so much for having the courage to make a decision like that. Women should have the a right to their own bodies, it's the woman's decision, it's her body and her life. Sometimes women don't have a choice because of their situation or health. And anyone who criticises women for that should feel ashamed.
+Rose LIFE Real courage is taking responsibility for your actions. REAL courage would be accepting the fact that your actions have led to the creation of a new life and stepping up to the plate and raising that child, no matter how "inconvenient" it might be, to the absolute best of your ability. THAT is courage.
+don smith In medical ethics, we learnt: "Two people can't have the same rights inside one body, without one of them having their rights stripped away". And guess who's the one who SHOULD have those rights.... it's WOMEN. I know, crazy right? How could women ever dare to ask for the right to have autonomy over their own body, and NOT enslave themselves to the misogynistic belief that an incomplete organism has more rights than a full human being?? We're talking for literally a parasitic organism who wouldn't even be able to live without the woman's body. Also, you're treating pregnancy as a punishment for women who dare to have sex for their pleasure.
+Msl LogYt Then explain to me who gets rights and who does not in a case of Siamese twins? Secondly, believing that it's wrong to murder an unborn child is in no way a "misogynistic" belief. Simply because you think it's misogynistic does not make it so unfortunately. Thirdly, I am in no way treating pregnancy as punishment and never said that it was, those are your words and obviously your beliefs not mine. If a woman chooses to have sex merely for pleasure, more power to her but if that pleasure seeking turns into a pregnancy then the woman should show personal responsibility for her actions by not killing her unborn child. You obviously see abortion as a way to escape that personal responsibility.
+don smith Soooo what you're saying is if I get in a car and drive and someone crashes into me it's my fault because I chose to drive that day? That I should then not be allowed to fix my car? And then because of that have my body messed up for the rest of my life? That's reasonable. I'm not saying everyone should have an abortion, I'm just saying that no one period should get to choose what others do with their own body.
+don smith 1) your siamise twin comparison (or analogy??) is way, way out there, vague and sloppy (age/pathology/viability... what kinda med situation are we even talking about here??) I can guess at the kind of argument you might be trying to make, but... man, what a mess. 2) "Simply because you think it' misogynistic does not make it so unfortunately" - this also works on the inverse bub. 3) reproductive coercion and forced pregnancy is traumatic to the mother and this trauma has an incredible impact on the fetus - see the long-term effects of cortisol and other stress-hormones - i dont think its a terrible jump to consider enforced pregnancy/labor as punitive. Also, these unwanted pregnancies are not always the result of "pleasurable" sex. again, the whole over simplification thing (if only this world was so easy, eh?)
I can’t believe how close I came to doing this to my son.. my best friend the funniest person I know, I’m 28 now and he’s turning 9. I can vividly remember every moment of walking into the room and knowing I was making a huge mistake. His dad and everyone were pressuring me to get rid of him. I protected him, and it was the best thing I will ever do. ❤️
it's really interesting how alot of people here are calling her a terrible person but have no idea what she is going through. I get that all life is important but I also think it's amusing that many pro-livers only think about the fetus and not the life it may grow up in once it's born. I mean yea it wasn't aborted but is it worth it if the child grows up without parents in a shitty foster home never to get adopted, move on to drugs or gangs, and die young from being in the wrong crowd or even kill someone else for food or money... honestly I have a challenge for all those extremely Christians and pro-lifers. if you believe abortion is so wrong and must be banned then go to those foster homes and adopt all those children who would never have parents. if you believe they should have a chance to life then it's Ur responsibility to make sure they live a happy and healthy life... or does Ur opinion on the fetus disappear once it's just born? what really disgusts me about this chat is the pro-choice people who only care that a child is born not that it has a chance at happiness once it faces the real world
that's not the point. he/she is saying its not always a happy end. I've been in a foster home after being wrongfully taken away fro my mum cause my dad wanted to be back at her. the foster home I was in, the care giver was a drugy, I was ment to be on medication for ADHD she was taking them for herself. she had a boyfriend who was also a drugy, I was starved, abused and the boyfriend use to watch me when I was taking a shower or a bath.
God that's so stupid. First, the idea that people who are opposed to abortion don't care about the welfare of children after they're born is just a ridiculous attempt to slander people you disagree with. What is it based on? As far as I can tell it's just based on the fact that the political party opposed to abortion is also the party that's for less government spending. That's it. Never mind that the people opposed to abortion also give more money to charity. All that matter is the tenuous political connection. Then you've got this idea, well If you save someone from being killed then you personally must ensure they live a happy life. What is that, some damn ancient proverb? If you save someone's life that doesn't mean that you owe them anything. Last year there were firefighters called to the apartment building I lived because of a fire. If they saved someone's life that night, did that make them responsible for the person they saved? It's a ridiculous idea. And then there's the idea that someone is better off dead rather than in a foster home! Well, I guess he's for emptying all the foster homes by executing the children. I mean if there better of dead, then it'd be a mercy killing, right? Also, the children in foster homes are NOT children who were given up for adoption when they were born. Advocates of abortion never seem to understand this. Kids end up in the foster system precisely because they were NOT available for adoption when they were a baby. There's actually far more demand than there is supply when it comes to adopting babies. That's why so many people are travelling to Korea and India just to find a baby to adopt. Jeez, what a bunch of nonsense.
Theresa Webb She said it’s what she wanted several times. Just because the boyfriend wrongly assumed that she’d make this decision doesn’t mean he forced her at all. Please don’t be so quick to remove all responsibility from the woman and place it on the man. In this type of situation, no one “wants” any of the options they have to be honest.
Alexus Dumont I watched your video about a year after you posted it, afraid that I was going to have to make this choice. But at the same time I was so relieved and grateful that I found someone that had experienced it and I could kind of understand what I was going to possibly go threw. I ended up not being pregnant but I did feel more confident leading up to that point since watching this. And I know that's what you intended this video to be for. So thank you so much for being so brave!! Thank you for sharing your story 💜 I hope you're doing good and I hope good things have happened to you since this. I can tell you're a very genuine, caring, good person and you deserve it
I got pregnant at 19. I already knew i was pregnant before taking the pregnancy test. I was even less than 8 weeks along. I had that feeling where i just KNEW. My body, mind, heart felt it. When i seen it positive I was upset at first not gonna lie. I was upset, scared, hurt, mad. My family has no money for me, i didnt work, it just been a year since graduation, ive known her dad for only FOUR months. I was freaking the hell out. Then, Later i started getting really happy out of nowhere. It hit me hard. I became in love. Im like theres a LIFE inside of me i felt it from the beginning. This is part of ME. My heart, my love, my life. Its been the "clump of cells" who has a future with ME. She was born a month before my 20th bday. She is now almost 14M old. And let me tell you she already has a huge personality. Her laugh, her smile, her hugs, her cute dances, EVERYTHING about her makes me fall in love because shes MY babygirl. I would seriously be so regretful, and it would haunt me knowing i ripped her out of me, crushed her life, stopped her future, because "im not ready" its not her fault at all. I love her so much. Im glad shes healthy, happy, outgoing, talkative. I wouldnt have that right now if i decided to take her life away. Shes my baby and talking about this makes me want to go in her room and give her a big KISS. And tell her I LOVE HER. Im glad shes here with me. I would have never ever taken her life away. Thats my baby forever.
Thanks for sharing your story. I love your personality. Despite all problems you will manage your life and get so much back from your baby girl. We have 2 sons and can't imagine our life's without the cute little monsters.😎
I was just like you... even the same age.. and everything.. I'm now 2 days away from my due date I'm so glad I felt that love you felt as well because I'm so happy with my choice and I can't wait to meet my daughter in a few days 💕 thanks for sharing made me smile that there are other young girls in the same situation and they are happy with their choice like I am.
You were always wanted, either by your biological mother or your adoptive parents you always had a place in somebody’s heart. I’m glad you are doing good!
as a pro lifer, I’m so sorry you had to go early to avoid the so-called “pro lifers” screaming things like murder, you’re going to hell, you’re a sinner. pro lifers are supposed to be a community of love. prolife organizations offer services for pregnant women, we love both the mother and the child, we provide counseling to post-abortive mothers. the ones screaming things outside of abortion clinics are not truly pro life and i’m sorry if that happens to anyone.
I feel the statement about pro lifers screaming at you and yelling you're a sinner and going to hell is a thought you had because someone told thou that. Not because you actually saw it or experienced it? Usually pro lifers are not aggressive that like. I home you heal and see the truth one day of what really happened that day you went to get an abortion. It is sad how having a baby can be such a burden on people. I too hope you are not still with your then very unsupportive boyfriend.
@@gypsienova8256 i didn’t get an abortion lol.. i think u misunderstood my comment. i was saying: as a pro lifer, i don’t agree with the aggressive side of the pro life community. and no i haven’t experienced it but i have seen videos of aggressive pro lifers standing outside abortion facilities & yelling at the women going inside
@@MrSteveRain yes I agree. The problem is that we water down what murder actually is. There is 0 excuse for abortion. There is only hope in Jesus and without Jesus we think this is an option because our hearts are naturally wicked. I hope she finds God and she repents for killing an innocent baby. God can forgive if it’s repentance from the heart.
I'm an 80 year old man. My first wife had a baby "out of wedlock" as we used to say. We married and I adopted the child. A few years later she told me that she had wanted to abort the pregnancy but couldn't afford it. I really don't believe men should have a say in it one way or the other. It's a women's issue, but the laws prohibiting abortion are always passed by men. My child is now 58. This child is my best friend and closer to me than other children I have had. I have always been grateful the the child was not aborted, but I still believe that a woman has the right to safely do what is best for her. More women need to run for elective office so that they my have a voice that has to be heard in the legislative bodies. I also believe it is a mistake to allow each state to make up it's own rules. I wish the best to all and hope whatever decisions are made work out for the best.
Robert Dennis I do not believe this is just a woman issue. I have two sons. My oldest son I became pregnant with at 17 years old. I did not want an abortion and very much wanted my child. Six months after having my son his father left me high and dry for another woman. It was hard. But I remarried and gave birth to my second son. I always talked honestly with my boys about safe sex and that I didn't want a teen pregnancy to happen in their lives because I knew how hard it is. They also know that I am pro life. My oldest son's girlfriend becomes pregnant at 17. He was so afraid to tell me that he ended up telling me through text while she was in her second trimester. I just texted him back an "ok" and then cried for them all night. That Sunday my husband and I told our pastor at church. He responded with, "I think it's great! You guys are going to be Grandparents!" At that point I decided not to feel sad for them but to focus on the baby and be excited for them. He is now 4 years old and has a little brother that is two and yes it's still hard for them and they do struggle financially but I am so very glad that she didn't abort and I help them as much as I possibly can. I also enjoy spoiling those babies every chance I get. I can't imagine life without them.
sorry robert, as a woman I'm pro life and I think the choice ended when you decided to have sex unprotected (both parties not just women on birth control, bc isn't effective anyways). No one deserves to take a life away
@@leslieblanco3536 That's a weird take ... "You had sex, so therefore you MUST be a guardian to a human, whether you are a healthy person to do so, or not" . LOL LIKE WHAT?!
I found out I was pregnant at 17. I was scared to death and knew I wasn't ready. I worked at Burger King for craps sake! While my friends attended senior parties, I attended parenting classes. I was bound and determined to get ready before he was born. I thought about adoption, but I just knew no one could love him like I did! On 5/8/95, my angel was born. Shortly thereafter I was hired for a CPA firm. With hard work, determination, careful budgeting and a few night classes my career was on track. My friends partied. In my mid twenties I married a wonderful guy who loved my son as his own. We went onto have two more son's. My life was full and happy. I no longer stood out as the teenaged mom. I was the mom who attended every football game and made the best birthday cupcakes. I'm older now, My son is an electrician. I'm proud of him! My friends did not fair as well as I did. One became a heroin addict and died. Another died in a car accident when her boyfriend drove her home from the bar. My angel saved my life! If it weren't for him I wonder would I have become an addict or been in accident after leaving the bar? These things can happen to anyone, but for me, I kept my self out of risky situation for my sons sake. I never realized not only did I choose life for him, I also choose life for me! This is not a judgement, believe me I get the feeling of terror when that test turns positive and your not ready, to poor, too young. But trust me, you can get ready, make more money and inevitably you will get older :(. It can all work out if you try.
THIS, . . . YOUR STORY, is the one we should be hearing about on a You Tube video, instead of this vile, selfish video posted by a girl who insisted on the easy way out of a situation she created (with the help of a similarly irresponsible male). I loved hearing your story, and I congratulate you on your decision - the only one God would condone. The Lord knows what you did, and I am sure you will be blessed for it. Thank you for setting an example worthy of praise and respect. God Bless You!
@@christinevaldez4029 I knew from the feeling I got while reading your story that your decision was guided by our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. We are SO blessed to have God in our lives to help us through our journey through this brief life here on earth. Non-believers and those who do not know Him have such a terrible road of life to walk. PRAISE THE LORD he is ALWAYS there for us: "For lo, I am with you always, even until the end of the earth."
Christine valdez I'm so scared reading your story is giving me sanity.... I'm on birthcontrol but I don't have a job no support from the bf and family, I'm in my late 20s, lived most my years sick, I live with my father and I'm petrified..... lord knows I'm not ready.
Your video just saved the life of my friends baby! She really wanted the abortion, saw this video and decided not have the abortion! I was pregnant at 19 and abortion was not an option for me! He’s the best little boy.
Sariah Hash that’s wonderful although I’m pretty sure this video led to more abortions happening than it stopped from happening. May that baby have a long wonderful life and may god help your friend aswell
This comment is for all of the pro-life people who are shaming this girl If you don’t support abortion don’t click on a video titled “ my abortion experience” it’s really that simple
Kristina Pate I’ve found that people who yell about their rights to freedom of speech are the people who probably should shut up. Just because you can say whatever you want doesn’t mean you should. Saying shitty things still makes you an asshole.
This video makes me so sad. I got pregnant at 17 (had my daughter at 18) and almost had an abortion. I went to the clinic, paid the fee, and then they told me that I needed to have an ultrasound beforehand. After that I just couldn’t go through with it. I told my boyfriend and he was surprisingly super supportive. So thankful we ended up keeping her because I can’t imagine life without her. I’m 28 now, and everything turned out ok for us thankfully, but I know that’s not always the case. So sorry you had to go through this.
Harley Quinn just trying to understand why you, someone who is already a mother with a child.... why are you terminating your second pregnancy? Out of convenience? Did birth control fail? Did you have a one night stand or something? Ending ones life is something you can never undo... Why would that be a better choice than the alternative, letting the person live? You're already a mother. You know a fetus is a person. You're not ignorant. Why would you choose to kill an innocent person?
Harley Quinn You could put it up for adoption. If you live in the U.S. it won’t live on the foster care system, it will be adopted immediately because there are more people who want to adopt infants then infants in the system.
Nat C I mean... adding a second child to the mix isn't something you should do lightly. It's not a question of convenience; it's a question of whether or not you can afford (physically, mentally, financially) to support not just one, but two tiny people who are dependent on you for literally everything. Or, if it's not that, it's a question of whether or not you can afford (physically, mentally, financially) to carry a second pregnancy to term while also going through everything involved in giving it up. Sometimes abortion is what's necessary and responsible to all parties involved, and that's fine. Also, if you're genuinely "just trying to understand"... using loaded language like "why would you choose to kill an innocent person" is a phrase that inherently casts judgment on someone's choice; you're no longer trying to understand them, you're just going after them. I'd suggest being careful with that kind of language.
What she doesn't explain is that they do not really talk to you about this. I think they should talk more in depth about this decision. Not where someone says you are going to hell if you do this or those horrible things. A female that is looking at this option, she is scared, confused, and doesn't need all of that hellfire, damnation stuff. it is not an easy decision. It is scary. It is forever. You cannot ever take it back. I am not at all going to belittle her. She was young. I feel like she is hurting as she is talking about it. She needed more support. I noticed that she left a comment for someone on down and said that she is well. That is great. My heart hurts for the pain she went through mentally. As far as the people wishing bad things on her, I hope you do not call yourself pro life. A woman should ALWAYS have say over what happens with and to her body!
I want an update. She is hurting. I want to hug her. She could have done all those things while being pregnant as well.. God is so merciful. I will pray for you
That's true... And now her baby would be entering preschool, bringing home finger paintings, etc. She missed out on a lifetime of love and the child never got a chance... for a summer in Europe. This is so profoundly sad. Bad advice from mom and boyfriend.
sumtuus1229 are you completely unable to empathize at all? this young girl was so brave to share her story, one that so many women go through and never get to speak about out of fear that people like you will completely disregard their feelings and make them feel ashamed on top of the whirlwind of emotions they’re experiencing just living through the aftermath of abortion. also, if you think it was simply for “a summer in europe” you must be stupid.
I'm not sure how I ended up at your video (lost in the youtubes, I guess), but I am glad I watched. It makes me really sad how many horrible people are in your comments. You have to do what you have to do to keep moving forward. Best of luck on your further journeys.
+Penguin Pencil! What, are you going to take care of the child? How are you 100% certain that the child will go to a good home and not just stay in foster care???
+SimplyMercyds My mother could have aborted me, but I was adopted at birth by two amazing parents. I am so grateful to be alive because it could have saved my biological mother so much distress. Foster care and adoption are completely different. There are SO many families looking to adopt babies from birth, it is usually arranged WAY before birth.. during the mother's pregnancy.
It seems like a lot of pro-lifers have the notion that women who choose to have abortions are happy about it. That couldn't be further from the case. Speaking from experience, abortion isn't an easy, simple decision. There is so much thought and emotion that goes into making that decision. But ultimately, due to various factors, the best decision for some women really is to terminate the pregnancy.
rachel scott most abortions take place early in gestation, when the fetus is far from being developed. you must believe that life begins at conception, and that’s fine. i’m simply stating my own opinion on this matter.
Eve Martin most abortions take place early in gestation, before fetal development really begins to progress. i don’t find abortion to be the same thing as murder.
Erin at what point do you determine life? This “gestation period” that you so call would be considered the embryo (before 8 weeks), which, at that point the babies heart, lungs, and brain waves are developed. I’m sorry but something with a beating heart has life- that is murder
Never laugh at another person's misfortune. We're all in a bad place. We should be empathetic toward each other, but cautious of the wicked ones who just want to bait more people and cause them harm.
So much love to you. Your brave and beautiful. I went through this too and no one can ever understand the feeling unless you’ve been through it. Your description of the day hit me hard. In a weird sense it’s comforting to know you remember the ceiling tiles and the gown... it’s all that goes over in my mind and I always thought I was odd for it. Thank you for your courage. Your a strong woman ❤️
I got my wife pregnant as teenagers, it was a "tube baby" doctor said she had to abort, we were not ready for a baby. we had already broken up. I prayed in the hospital and said to God let it be his will. Doctors could not explain but couldn't abort, my son is soon to graduate from Chico State and I could have not asked for a better son and a better wife.
As someone who is Pro-Life... I am glad you were in a nice facility to be taken care of.... Imagine this girl as your daughter, and she is going to go through with terminating her pregnancy... No matter your beliefs, would you rather have a nice clean sterile facility with doctors and staff on hand to handle anything that might go wrong, and live another day.... or.... If there were no abortion clinics.... and your daughter is going through with an abortion, this puts her in a very risky situation of a room in a house or hotel, or even the back of a van, where it's done quickly, and if something were to go wrong, they would abandon her for fear of getting caught.... These scenario's right here are why I don not wish abortion clinics to be closed down, no matter how pro-life I am....
This is EXACTLY it, because no matter how effectively we work to reduce abortion, all we can ever do is reduce it. We can't eliminate it. People who don't want to be pregnant will seek out the means to end their pregnancies, and they deserve to be able to do so safely and legally. If we remove that resource, we put more women at risk of dying, and that's not something I'm ok with. (I'm pro choice to begin with, but this particular point is at the core of my own arguments.)
Imagine what it would be like if women actually chose to not murder their babies. Then we wouldn't need abortion clinics. But by all means, keep those "safe" death camps running.
You're not pro-life at all. I couldn't care less about the health and security of the executioner. So you have no problem with babies being torn apart and thrown into the garbage, so long as it is done properly and nicely. Where is your compassion towards the REAL victim of abortion? Oh yeah, you don't have any. Because you're cold-hearted but dress it up as "compassion." I see right through your bullshit.
Hi there. I want to thank you for sharing your story. It is so important to let it out, to share, and to relate. I am saddened by the comments coming from both sides on this video. I am Catholic and I want to thank you for speaking up about this because your video helps humanize women who have had abortions. I feel that women who have had abortions rarely speak out. It is very healthy to speak up about this. I am so sorry that you didn't have more support during your decision process. I want to just reach through the camera and give you a hug. You're so beautiful, smart and God loves you, no matter what. I can tell you have a very loving heart. Every breath is a second chance. Keep on breathing... xoxox
I think it's so extremely brave of you to post this. Thank you for sharing your story. Although, I wouldn't have an abortion, I completely respect your decision. I'm glad that it was the best option for you and you have recovered physically from it. It must have been so difficult and scary. I truly appreciate you sharing this. I hope you're doing well!
I remember that I always said that if I got pregnant I wouldn't have the baby surprise is when I got pregnant and I saw my baby (I was 11 weeks at the moment) I saw his feet and his hands moving on the monitor and I was crying I decide to have my baby it was really hard since I had to work until my last month of pregnancy sometimes I was so tired working more than 10 hours and with a huge belly but he used to give me strength, now he is almost 2 years old and I know I made the best decision I love my baby to death I would do anything for him and now I can't imagine my life without him❤️ (sorry English is not my first language)
+Arianna Lizeth So what? If you had 10 kids you wouldn't regret having them because nature makes you fall in love with a child when it's born but it's just an illusion. Your life you'd be better without a child that came at the wrong time.
+Ju Hill it's just an "illusion" ?? um no .its blood its a child that literally grew inside you, that's literally a little you , its another human sou and its fucking beautiful.and not anywhere near a fucking illusion it is so fucking real maybe the realest thing out there. there is no wrong time btw. and i bet arianna has an amazing ass life just like me and my son. fuck off . don't put your dumb ass opinion in if you've never even fucking experienced having a child.
+Ju Hill oh well I'm not planning on having more babies I learn of my mistakes in already 26 and when I had him I was 24 and no there's no ilusion I've never felt so in love with any guy the way I'm in love with my son it's like I was never in love Before him even though I thought I was so everyone has their own opinion I have mine you have yours and that's it I don't regret the decision I took
I was on the IUD when I got pregnant. I considered abortion because obviously, if I had wanted a child at this point in my life, I wouldn't have been on the IUD.... My husband and I ultimately decided to keep the baby because we have the support of our family and friends and we feel stable in our relationship. However, even in my case, there are days when I still question my decision to keep the baby... Like, how different would my life be without this baby? Did I choose to have a baby too early in my life? Will I be a good mother? Will my career suffer because of this decision. Two sides of the same coin. Like you said; it is not regret. You just will always wonder, what if. It is natural. It is an extremely personal decision and you are very brave for sharing your story. I wish you many days of blessings and peace.
17sunnyhour : My husband and I waited till AFTER we got married to start having sex, and my IUD was already in place on our wedding night... Am I supposed to have a sexless marriage, then? I accept the fact that having sex creates the chance of having a child, even if protection is used. But pregnancy and a child should not be punishment for having sex.
Stephanie's Musings congratulations! 😍. Being a mother has its ups and downs, but it is extremely empowering and rewarding. Make sure you form a support group around you. I don't have a lot of family so I had to look for that. Don't forget to still be you!
I wish medical professionals would stop saying congratulations. They KNOW that it's not always good news for everyone. They can give us that information without being patronizing.
You seem like a good person. I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. I believe with all my heart that you would have kept the baby if you had more support from your boyfriend. As much as I am against abortion, everyone has a different story and yours just breaks my heart. To be 19 and having to go through all that, I hope and pray that you're doing better and it doesn't haunt you for the rest of your life❤️
From someone who is pro-life personally, you seem like a very intelligent and conscientious young lady who knows what she wants out of life. Stay strong and thanks for being brave enough to post this video for young girls who may need guidance and comfort. God bless and always look forward!
So many more women have gone through this than I originally thought. Thank you for sharing your story, nothing scarier than having to own up to the decision you choose. From one human being to another, I’m proud of you.
I passed through it as well as you, just a year ago, I was just 16. I just gotta say that.. it’s definitely the most difficult decision I’ve ever done and I’m pretty sure the saddest in my life. Omg I can’t believe that I’ve did it, I can’t even realise at all at this point that actually happened. I was forced to did it even I don’t want it, the guy and I broke up just a month before I discover my pregnancy so he obviously don’t took the notice so good, I was so shocked, so angry and so sad, but the saddest thing was the way he treats me, was horrible; we dated by a year and he supposed to love me and in that bad times he acted like an asshole. When I went to the ultrasound I heard the heartbeats and I remember how my body get cold because I catch that my 6 weeks baby was alive! At that point I changed my mind, I wanna have my baby but I obviously haven’t the support I needed. Those days were terrible, I still remember it so fresh. Something incredible it’s that I don’t even find relief or peace after the abortion, I felt worst and worst...that was just the beginning of my forever pain. I cried so much, and i still do it, it was my baby, my kid, I would never know him/her or see it’s cutie face. At that moment my decision it’s going to define my life, sometimes I regret it but also my “relief” is that my angel is in a better place, it wasn’t my moment to became a mother, I was a 16 year old girl alone with none support so... My experience is been so sadly, Just a months ago i finally start learning how to handle it, comforting myself by the phrase “your baby isn’t suffering” I most say I’ve became a Stronger girl, I’ve forced myself to keep fighting, nobody is gonna take you out of pain so you only have yourself and you decide if you transform bad things that happened to a better change, or sank into the deep. I would keep in mind my baby forever, recently I tattooed the number of beats in the first ultrasound. Girl I just wanna say you’re such a good and stronger woman, only you know how much pain you felt and how difficult it was, but keep fighting and don’t give up, life has their painful moments but then you will find relief and happiness again.
i'm 18 and my boyfriend just left for college. i found out i was pregnant and i feel so alone as no one knows and i truly feel there's no one to tell that could understand. im scared and yours is the first video i saw coming on here for some kind of compass. thank you for sharing your story.
leoni rads you’re logic is hilarious. Let’s just kill them now so they don’t have the chance to go through hardships later. I’m sure they are very thankful.
That’s how they justify euthanizing homeless dogs and cats, too. “Just a dog.” No, that dog wanted to live, and idiot humans don’t spay and neuter, or buy from a breeder rather than adopt. “But it’s right for ME.” (abortion, buying from a breeder, not spaying/ neutering). Disgustingly selfish. It’s the most vulnerable - the babies and animals - who get hurt the most from people like this woman.
A cluster of cells, what does that even mean? The real question is, when do you consider for life to begin? At conception or at birth? A baby is a baby no matter if you want it or not. THAT IS THE REALITY.
I am honestly... Baffled. Im watching this video because I am late for my period and im kind of having a mental breakdown about the possibility of being pregnant. Your story has not only made me a little more comfortable and has made me stop freaking out so badly, but has also helped me get an idea of what was going on and what could happen if I go down that path. Thank you for sharing your story...
@Just Me For he who said, “Do not commit adultery,” also said, “Do not murder.” If you do not commit adultery but do murder, you have become a transgressor of the law.
I remember watching thus video after i found out i was pregnant with my 2nd child....i did NOT want another baby....but i had her. Shes is 9 months old today and im so grateful for her and for my 2 year old daughter as well. We all make different decisions...but im so so so happy i had my baby
Chelsea Hansell i am in the same situation right now. I have a son turning one on the 9th this month. and I am pregnant again. I have no idea what to do and I have to decide tomorrow.
I went through a very similar situation. I had an abortion, but a medical one. I wish I did not have to make that choice, but I could not have been able to provide for my baby. I regret it, I miss being pregnant, I will never know their gender, I'll never see their face and I'll never be able to hold them in my arms. It was the hardest decision of my whole life and I don't know how I will ever get over it. But I also know that I could not have been able to give them the life they deserved. And I was also not willing to grow my baby inside of me for 9 months and then give them up. Women have to make the hardest decision of their whole lives, make it quick and take full responsibility for their actions and get called killers by people who will never be able to walk in their shoes. Stay strong women. Only you know what's best for yourselves.
" And I was also not willing to grow my baby inside of me for 9 months and then give them up." Why not? How could killing the baby ever have been better than giving them up for adoption? If you had to change residences where you can have no pets, would you euthanize your pet or at the very least attempt to place it in a shelter? Most people would take the pet to a shelter and let it live , how much more should one do that with a human being. I am sorry to be so blunt but frankly you are still in denial and rationalizing what you did. "Only you know what's best for yourselves." No, I'm sorry God created humans and He understands what is best for us. That is why there is a prohibition against murder in the 10 commandments. I wish you no harm but you will never find peace until you realize what you have done and cry tears of repentance and call to God for forgiveness. I have a female relative that had an abortion in part because of the conniving of her husband and the gynecologist. She never acknowledged her part in what she did and has developed a fairly serious mental illness. I have another friend who had an abortion, after some years of having no peace she repented and spends her Saturdays in front of Planned Parenthood begging women not to go through with their scheduled abortions. She has peace and forgiveness and she wants to prevent women from going through the hell she went through. Now she has the satisfaction that dozens of beloved children are alive and loved by their parents either biological or adoptive because of her counsel. Unfortunately that one child died but God has prevented the lives of dozens from being lost through her.
4Veritas I don’t believe in God and I don’t let religion rule my life. I am sorry for what I did, but I’m also rational and know I had no other choice. I’m not judging you for believing in God and following his/her rules, but please stop thinking that that is the only way to live and be accepting of other people’s ways of living, just like God teaches.
4Veritas Abortion was practiced in the Bible if a woman was found to be guilty of cheating on her husband. Read your Bible instead of pulling nonsense out of your ass.
You saved your pregnancy test. That says more than any words. Please, someday when you understand the true magnitude of this moment in your life, remember that we can only make decisions based on where we are at that moment in time. I hope when you do start a family you will be able to use this memory as an impetus to better love your children. And that you have the courage to tell them. Much love to you.
Lmao the fuuuuuck??? This whole comment was wild. You dead ass sat there and thought typing this would be a good idea, and that hitting send was an even better one. Ew.
I'm against abortion but this story makes me more sympathetic to women who get them, I support sex edd, contraption and improving foster care and adoption system
Anyone with a brain or any commen sence can clearly see the pain in her eyes and can here her voice cracks. And the fact that she kept the pregnancy test with date she found out written on it and the pictures says way more than her trying to convince herself that she didn't regret it.
@@karenflores4987 im not arguing im just saying people have these opinions but arent educated enough to spell.......seems their points are probably not educated either.
@@mckinnonbrown8009 you had spelling mistakes there too. I still understood your reply. When you are typing from a cell phone at least for me it's annoying to go back and fix every single typo. I disabled autocorrect because sometimes it changes the words and it's not helpful. Anyway, what I am trying to say is that you can have a more productive conversation by focusing on your counter points rather than pointing out spelling errors or typos. That gets nowhere. This is platform for exchange of ideas, opinions, etc. Everyone here is trying to share their comment or point of view. That is the purpose. There is a lot of educated people here. Just because they don't have the same views as you means they are ignorant or uneducated.
@@karenflores4987 I didn't have any spelling mistakes- I just used 'chat speak'. I will spell out the word 'you' instead of using 'u' since it is apparently difficult for you to understand. I am a lot higher educated than most people commenting on this post and being educated has helped me understand the implications of women's rights opposed to 'i'm christian, so this is murder'. I don't have any qualms against religion- I find that a lot of people blindly follow it as a moral guideline despite the fact it was written thousands of years ago. Anyways, I will not ever have an abortion because I am a responsible adult and I'm tired of arguing with people on this page who don't even have the slightest idea of how women's bodies work. People are so ignorant on here. anyways. have a good day.
thank you for this. i am currently 16 & just found out i am pregnant from a rape incident that has happened about a month ago. my mom and i came to the conclusion that abortion is the best option for me. i wanted to understand the experience before, during, and afterwards of abortion, and your video has helped with a lot. thank you so much.
As do I. Her actions are not excused and we're still extremely despicable, she killed a human being. But the Industry takes advantage and lies to women. I hope she is better
@@thanoswife1254 nothing- there is nothing excusable about taking a human life for your own selfish reasons. That is a very low and despicable action and on many levels she asked for this. She wouldn’t feel this way if she didn’t know she killed a human child. I do hope for her healing. I do. But this video was basically her trying to justify what she very clearly knows was wrong at heart. You cannot ever excuse the killing of an innocent life.
@@LA-fr4gp everyone has their reasons, does this affect you at all? Is your life changed forever from this? are you going to adopt the kid? are you helping her at all?
Thank you for sharing, this is so traumatic for women, those men are dicks. I broke up with a guy because he made his ex-girlfriend do such a thing ( and they were in their 30s), don't be with a guy who's heartless to his own baby
Girls here’s one thing you need to remember, if your boyfriend/husband wants an abortion but you want the baby, keep the baby because it’s growing inside of you
And if the baby's daddy wants to keep the baby and you want to abort, keep the baby. Because the baby is just as much the dad's child as they are yours. A baby has their own DNA and is therefore their own being.
I’m sorry to hear about this. I myself was pregnant last year. I missed my period for three months. But got it then didn’t get it. I deeply pray that God helps you through this and talk to someone for extra help or your friends or whom ever. I love you. I’ll pray for you.
I went threw my abortion the same year at the same age as you and years later it still hurts. I was around the same amount of weeks as you and it was also surgical so I completely understand how you feel. I hope you are doing well. I had 2 miscarriages after and it was hard. People love to say “Don’t so something you will regret” but they never understand that you don’t know what you will regret till it’s too late. God bless you and forgive yourself 😘
You did the right thing for you. I am proud of you for sharing this to help other women when they are having to choose. I, too, had an abortion at 19. We need to keep this option available, and too many are trying to take this away.
+Marina Munuera-Esteller Stfu you stupid ass femifuck with shit for brains. This is not about knowing how it feels and I can give a fuck less how it feels because I dont need to know and I wont have to.
+Marina Munuera-Esteller No I dont have to know youre right because im not a woman. How about you stop calling others ignorant when you are the one shaming men because they dont know what its like to have babies.
"Don't like slavery? Don't own a slave! It's not your back that would be hurt working in the fields all day - it's mine! Slavery is legal. It's not your business" - slave owner from when slavery was legal.
You cannot compare the two... Enslaving millions of people. To women making a personal and private decision to terminate an unwanted pregnancy. Do you not understand making abortion illegal would help absolutely nobody? It would then become the responsibility of the government to monitor every pregnancy that happens in the whole country. And to force those women to carry the pregnancy to term... Forcing people to have children they dont want. Retraumatizing rape and incest victims by forcing them to give birth is wrong and unamerican. Dont know bout you but thats not how i want my government to spend my tax dollars. There is a laundry list of things that are much more important. ALSO it would only cause women to have back alley illegal abortions that are not safe. Making something illegal doesnt make it go away, it only creates an underground black market for it. And when it comes to healthcare that is not a good situation for anybody, In my beliefs there is only cons to making abortion illegal. And again its nobodys fucking business. People should be allowed to do what they want with their own lives and bodies as long as it doesnt affect other people... and no i dont consider the cluster of cells growing in her uterus a person yet.
- We already have post viability abortion laws in the US an no one is monitoring every pregnancy... - I don't care how "personal and private" a decision is. If it involves killing an innocent human being, it should be ILLEGAL. - Making abortion illegal would give the many human beings a chance at a full and productive life - you know the ones who had their lives "terminated" because they were unwanted..... - Infanticide, murder and anti-abortion laws are about PROTECTING vulnerable human beings... If you don't want a woman or a man to ever feel 'forced' to do something then you must be OK with getting rid of infanticide laws... if a man alone with a newborn wants to go party, you're 'forcing' him to take his precious time and effort to hand off his baby SAFELY to someone else before he goes to the party.. if he's late it's because the law Is forcing him to give a damn..... You see, it's about PROTECTING... - Ripping a human being to shreds because they are unwanted is what is un-American. - Again, by your own logic, there should be no murder or infanticide laws. Because some people do it anyway.... Well, most people DO obey the laws. And we cannot keep something that is wrong legal just because some might do it anyway. - "People should be allowed to do what they want with their own lives and bodies as long as it doesnt affect other people... " Slaves weren't considered full people in the eyes of the law at one point in our history. Guess we never should have made killing a slave illegal (yes, states could do that - even while slavery itself was legal).... I also guess you're against post viability abortion restrictions as legally an unborn child isn't a human being? Oh, and while we're at it - animal cruelty laws need to go... someone ripping the ears off their own pet doesn't affect other people.... Unborn children are HUMAN BEINGS. They are worth protected.
It would be so nice for you to have a CZcams channel. I think I would really enjoy it. It's all done now, all you have to do is accept it and don't be hard on yourself. You did the right thing for YOURSELF.
A baby is definitely not a cluster of cells. An unborn child at 6 weeks has a beating heartbeat and active brain waves. Pro life advocates are wrong to condemn you and I'm sorry for how they treat people. I'm pro life and I promise we are not all Condemning.
Lola Hart mind your own then 😂. You should never be proud that you’re pregnant at 14. You just ruined your life, and that parasites life as well. You’re going to struggle the rest of your miserable life trying to raise a parasite.
inuyashakarin how did she ruin her life if she seems pretty stable and happy but go off I guess 🤷🏽♀️ I’m 18 about to be 19 and pregnant did I ruin my life too ? Because I’m stable and happy as fuck lol weirdo
Thank you so much, I'm feeling everything you said you were feeling and this is the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with. I wish I just stopped existing and I wasn't stuck with this seemingly impossible decision. I see all the people I knew in school having children/getting pregnant and it makes me feel so pathetic thinking I can't carry on with it but everyone else can, makes me wonder if I'll ever be good enough. I really needed to hear someone who gets it and I'm so grateful you made this video, thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Thanks for sharing your story and I feel so sorry that you have to go through all of that. Some times when we are young we think that having a baby is the worst in the world and don't realize how amazing is being a mother. I did the same thing and for many years I didn't even though about it, but one day I started to think about my life..., all things I have to go through; think back about all things, good and bad, and then I remember that moment and it was like... what? I did that? omg, how I could block that from my mind for so many years? I started feeling like the worse person on the world, I still don't recognize myself. Every day I ask God and my baby to forgive me, but I don't think that I can forgive myself. It is very painful and I will always regret. I encourage all women to defend your kids' life no matter what.
I got pregnant and had my abortion around the same days only May 27 2015, I was also 19. Much different experience I wish where I went was as professional and nice to me as they were to you. Tho knowing it is just as hard for you to move forward as it is for me and your feeling towards it relieves everything that it wasn’t just the poor medical care I received and if I had the best treatment and most accommodating procedure I would feel still the same about it. It is always hard to know if you did the right something when you can’t see into the future as it would be
I don't know that I believe you're happy with your choice, because I see it still weighs heavy on your heart, but I DO believe you are trying to make the best of the choice you made. You understand that you can't go back and you have to make the most of what you have now. Guilt can keep us from our present and our future, and that can be paralyzing, and you are not choosing that for yourself right now. I am a Christian and pro-life - but I would never dare to cast a stone. I would not presume to believe I could know the struggles you have worked through. You seem sensitive and tender and I thank you for being so frank and for sharing your story. You are right, this life is a journey and were are the sum of our experiences - the good and sad. I wish you all the very best and wish I could have given you hugs in those times you felt so alone. Thank you for being brave enough to talk about this very difficult subject
unfortunately woman who give their babies up for adoption are judged to. I gave my oldest son up when I was 21. I was treated like shit even though I chose to gave my son life. I was in an abusive relationship and I protected my son from an abusive father. no matter whether you give your child up or keep it or have an abortion people judge you for everything. nothing you do is good enough. but you have to please yourself not everyone else.
Brianna C I'm so sorry you went through that ridicule during such a difficult situation.
Brianna, thanks for sticking up for women with compassion. I hope you are no longer abused. People don't understand what goes on in the brains of abusers and those who are abused. You can rewire your brain with methods of neuroplasticity through NLP and other therapies. Sometimes, you can learn how to do so yourself.
lilacsinoctober.wordpress.com/2015/09/29/neuroplasticity-changing-my-brain/ talks about her success with it. cryingoutforjustice.com/2013/08/02/neuroplasticity-learning-disabilities-and-domestic-abuse/ gets more specific. It can help explain what happened in your brain and get you started (if you still need to) on creating healthy relationships
Brianna C at least he's alive now
Brianna C I am not condemning you. Thank you for the joy you gave adoptive parent(s).
Brianna C I can support you for giving your child a future, that's all we expect from people is giving children the right to blossom & showing their worth in life with smiles.
That boy is not a keeper for sure
THEY JUST WANT TO F... BUT NOT TAKE ON A RESPONSIBILITY.
You do realise it's down to both parties involved to make the decision. If you get pregnant because you are too lazy to use contraception then you have no one to blame but yourself in my opinion.
@Bri Zack correct!!
@@nialldecourcey2470 Here's the thing: ➡ I don't give a damn *HOW* and/or *WHY* and/or by whom a girl/woman is knocked up/pregnant. ➡ If said pregnant girl/woman wants an abortion, *NO MATTER WHAT the reason(s),* she should have access to a reasonably priced or financed procedure (but preferably, at least partially covered by health insurance).
Whether a woman had sex with her long-time boyfriend or her husband...whether a woman had sex with *1* man or *101* men...whether a woman was on birth control, used condoms or sometimes used either/or, or never used either, or if there was somehow a mixup...or if a woman was raped (by a stranger in a violent assault, or a "date rape," in which she clearly indicated she did NOT want to have intercourse & she relented, closing her eyes-holding back the tears-praying it would just *be over soon.*
*NO MATTER WHAT THE REASONS - NO MATTER WHAT THE CIRCUMSTANCES - NO MATTER WHAT, HOW, WHY, WHATEVER: A WOMAN SHOULD ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYSSSSS HAVE ACCESS TO LEGAL ABORTIONS IN A SAFE, COMFORTABLE, COMPASSIONATE ENVIRONMENT!!!*
No one "likes* abortion. But it is a medical necessity. I am so damn sick, tired & pissed all the way off at this misogynistic, anti-woman, woman-hating bullshit puritanical rhetoric meant to shame women & control women! Women are entitled to enjoy their bodies, embrace their sexuality & engage in *ANY KIND* of sex that brings them fulfillment, pleasure, joy & more! Men do it EVERY FUCKING DAY. Women deserve the same rights...Speaking of rights, if men could get pregnant, you can bet your sweet ass that this would not even be an issue! Men would have abortions & they'd fight for their rights.
Oh, and another thing, if health insurance covers all of these stupid medications to help with lackluster or altogether GONE erections (aka: meds designed to stroke the already fragile male ego), then what in the hell are so many idiots up in arms about having a woman's birth control meds covered??! Or my bio-identical compounded hormone cream, which my insurance does NOT cover, costs me nearly $50 a month. It helps my overall health & it also improves my libido, making for greater desire, better sensation & more satisfying sex with my man. 👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻
"It's down to both parties involved to make the decision" Ring any bells? Nothing I said was misogynistic. If you accidentally get pregnant because of not bothering to use birth control then why should people be patting you on the back and calling you brave? It make zero sense. Same the man involved, knowing there's a chance that a woman can get pregnant but still going through with it is just naive from both the man and the woman. I believe woman who have medical conditions or rape victims should have a right to an abortion but not woman who can not be bothered to use birth control. Please change my mind by telling me why a woman and man who are having unprotected sex should have the right to abort their child because it was a "mistake". Also as just a side note why turn to abortion when you can put the child up for adoption? At least it can have a chance at life that way.
NO ONE knows what this is like until they have gone through it. NO ONE knows what anyone else is going through personally. This is a very personal ordeal.
You are so right everyone says i would never do it untill your in that situation yourself you can not judge as times in your life can be difficult feel for her know exactly what shes going through it sent me wacko for years it took me years to get over it x
hayley Wood yes but most people actually don’t do it when they do they won’t ever do it I get she felt like she had no other choice some are like that but people who truly don’t believe in that ACTUALLY will not do it
Exactly, they just need to shut the hell up.
hayley Wood that’s true. i never in my life thought i would get one but i did. Because it was the best for option for me, and i was using protection and everything. Things happen y’all.
@@aaliyahallen-sellers3547 the reason you had an abortion was it because you thought people would judge you or the fact that you just didn't want to deal with a child birth? "Because you know adoption is an option"
I wonder if she’s okay, it’s been so long.
Right....
Kenya Gonzalez same here
No, that knowledge that she killed her own baby, her own flesh and blood.... NEVER goes away.
Kylie Charboneau and what happens if a woman is raped? Quite frankly your opinion is fucking disgusting. I don’t like how they get rid of the baby in abortions but who are YOU to judge the woman??? You sick fuck
@@itswaytoomucheffort5424 if you support this, your absolutely a freak and a disgusting human being.
"If the anti-abortion movement took a tenth of the energy they put into noisy theatrics and devoted it to improving the lives of children who have been born into lives of poverty, violence, and neglect, they could make a world shine."
-Michael Jay Tucker
#prochoice #kidsbeforefetuses
***** A world with safe, accessible abortions is a better place than a world without them. Women (in countries with legal abortion) are no longer getting botched abortions, no longer being suspected of 'murder' when they have a miscarriage, no longer being forced to carry and give birth to a severely deformed child with zero chance of living more than a couple of days. Less children are sleeping on the streets or in group homes, less children are abused, less women are tied to their rapist for 18 years, and less women are being forced to risk pregnancy and birth related death. Bodily autonomy is a beautiful thing.
***** It doesn't seem silly when women have to rent out their entire body for 40 weeks. Would you support forced blood, plasma, bone marrow, or organ donation to save a child's life? No. Men are never faced with a situation where they are told their bodily rights have to be put on hold.
***** At least you're upfront about your sexism.
***** We are equal. There is never a point in your life where you have to face the mental and physical health effects of pregnancy. You will never have your entire body stressed for 40 weeks. You always have the right to make decisions for your body. Women having those same rights, which includes abortion, is not unfair or unequal. You're missing the point that there will never be a time where you're forced to do something with your body, so there should never be a time where a woman is either.
***** And that's motherfucking bull shit. But, at that same time, abortion was illegal, so both men and women lost control over their bodies. I support abortion, no draft/drafting both genders. Bodily autonomy for all or none!
I'm against abortion but all of the hate comments aren't helping anything. It's already done so it's not like your comments will have any affect. Do you see how upset she looks in the video. We all know that there are tons of arguments that people can give FOR abortion and tons of arguments that people can give AGAINST abortion. BUT IT'S DONE. In the video she looks like she could use support.
Wow! I made a comment about being supportive and trying to avoid endless pro abortion/choice debates and low and behold, a debate about abortion breaks out... ironic
Random Person best response I've seen.
"It's already done" isn't a valid argument. We need to chastise awful shit like this to make it socially unacceptable. When you say "oh well it's already happened no point in trying" you are only making things worse.
she may need "support" but does she rlly deserve it? I mean it seems to me that she had pretty much fun getting laid, so why couldn't she had fun confronting the situation she knew she could had gotten into? there's no excuse. if she was young n financially unstable she should had kept her pretty legs shut.
wolfy Lyall Howls you must be the same person that don't mind getting laid when legs are open huh? so don't tell someone else what they should do.
I'm sad for you that your boyfriend was so unsupportive and that you felt this was your only option. I hope you aren't still with him. He doesn't sound very nice.
S Sykes
That’s what I was thinking too. She deserves someone way better.
Joe Noyes
She didn’t do it to be evil. She aborted because she was terrified and felt as if it were her only option. Also, her boyfriend wasn’t supportive and, in a way, coerced her into getting an abortion. So please don’t judge or hate, only wish her the best because it’s obvious she’s sad.
Most high school boys go from girl to girl ever two or so weeks..... Oh fuck I'm starting to sound like an in cell or a god danm white kight
@@joenoyes9199 You have a lot of hate and judgment in you. I will pray for you.
Joe Noyes what you are pointing out is not facts but your opinion. You can disagree with someone without being disrespectful.
I'm curious if this would have gone differently if she was with a man who was excited and supportive when she found out she was pregnant
123abc it wouldn’t have swayed my decision. I always wanted a life of travel and also a career. I was on birth control to prevent this whole situation. Thankfully I live in a place where I had options. I have now travelled quite a bit and have started a career in EMS. I do want kids one day but only when I am ready to do so.
@@alexusdumont951 wow! Thanks for responding :)
@@alexusdumont951 Glad you know how to be responsible and think about your future
1) I don't think it would have gone any different because society has give women God like power. They choose who dies or not.
2) Its not about men, and not even her ex boyfriend. She didn't love that kid and was just waiting for a push in that direction. She had a choice, she chose to kill. Don't blame men on everything thats wrong with women. She aborted because she wanted to go to Europe
3) I am happy for that other girl who is planning out her life, but she should know it doesn't always go her way.
@@alexusdumont951 , I'm very surprised to hear you say that, there were several things you said in the video that mildly or strongly suggest otherwise. You state at one point you have no regrets, but in 4 or5 others you talk about crying a lot, that it's been very hard, that you wished your boyfriend would have responded to the news differently, that looking at the ultrasound of the baby was really difficult, I think a few other things too.
A lie that is perpetuated today is that a baby growing in the womb is just a clump of cells, no! If that is true then we are all clumps of cells also, but of course we are so much more. It is natural, the bond between mother and child, natural and instinctive to want to protect and care for that child, and this is what every woman that has an abortion struggles with to one degree or another, consciously or subconsciously. It's what I heard you squirming and trying to deal with just in the video alone, and I do appreciate your honesty in that. But I have no doubt that it's been far more difficult for you than what we saw here.
With all my heart, I really hope that the same mistake is not made, that you will come to understand that a precious human life is priceless compared to travel or a job. We all make mistakes, the key is always to learn from them and avoid the same thing.I do wish you a great life.
I am reading through the comments of this video and I think it is interesting how all the hate is directed her. There is no mention of the boyfriend who was quick to mention abortion without making sure she was ok first. He shared equal part in the conception, but he is not held accountable.
Nevertheless, I can't imagine what it would be like to be in that situation. I can tell the decision was hard for you and I think you made what you thought was the best decision, and that's all you can do. You are very brave for sharing your story, and I think you will help other women going through similar circumstances.
chez066 - something to think about, if she went through with the pregnancy he'd have to pay child support, so don't say that men aren't held accountable
Jack Rags Because men never skip out on their families?
we have school giving sex education and at home parents and we also have lots of contraception available to us
Hence why she got into such situation and fuc*ing up her body
I hope you don't confuse presage and sharing advice as being hate speech! On the contrary, advising others to break away from destructive behavior that causes torment is an act of love.
I blame her, society, her friend, her boyfriend, and the abortion clinic. Mainly the abortion clinic and society.
I remember watching this when i was about 8 or 9 weeks pregnant after my i got kicked out after telling them i was pregnant and i didn't want an abortion ,i was thinking about them and how they felt and i almost let that get to my head .. knowing i really didn't want an abortion .. this video is the reason i didnt have an abortion. Because i knew how hurt i was gonna be.. my baby is 1 month and I'm so glad and thankful for my desicion .
Chula Baby love that 🖤
great decision and best wishes for you and the baby.
Chula Baby - That is wonderful. I watched this video about a year ago and it had a profound affect on me as well. So many people are not told how traumatic going through an abortion is. Abortion is not a reset button. It is one of several very difficult options for someone in a difficult position. I appreciate the honesty in the video.
Jason Wade thank you
Mom .... very. True it was running through my mind like crazy, its a decision that has to be made quickly witch is also so unfair , but i just kept thinking to myself. I just cant this lil human is gonna be apart of me no matter what .
this has been the hardest thing I’ve ever had to go through in the almost 21 years of my life. They don’t tell you how some days will be harder than others. How you will feel completely overwhelmed on Mother’s Day. How you knew it was the right thing to do for you at that moment in your life but you will forever hold on to the what if’s. It’s been very emotionally rough.
I pray you repent. You and the creator of this video. It’s not too late to repent, killing a baby is never the right thing for you. I pray you find peace, Alejandra, peace in Jesus. Please don’t do it again. I will literally adopt your child, they are loved. I’m here if you need ANYTHING, please don’t think this is an option.
I’m going through this right now and it is the hardest... all of these feelings make me feel so alone and evil and sad... and grief... I felt so rushed into getting my abortion and it was the most painful experience I’ve ever felt
@@Mariah-lm7ok I am sorry. I pray you find peace in Jesus there is forgiveness. Turn to Him in your time of grief, He will forgive you, comfort you, and reassure you that your child is with Him and in repentance when the time is come you can join them both. It is not too late. God bless you and help you through this.
@@firstchoicebidding8160 Do you really care about "babies"? I don't believe it. There are many reasons for abortion and as the girl said in the video, that "child" was not wanted, so why bring him into the world if he is going to suffer all his life knowing that he was a mistake. As a Latin American I have heard my colleagues say it and it's really painful. Here nobody has a little empathy for those who abort, nobody says "We have to improve the adoption centers", "We have to improve sex education" or "We have to present all the options and their consequences" but they say things that invalidate that decision. Have empathy, don't just be logical or speak from your privilege, open your mind.
@@rumaleovi3244 *warning, long response- srry* I think the premise for your argument has a fundamental difference to a pro-lifers. That would be the value of the human soul. While you might think the onus is on our society to increase education, I think this is an issue of the heart. Most people know the consequences of sex. However, people will still refuse hormonal birth control because of the toll on the body, and many people refuse to use condoms simply because they damper the experience. People know they have abortion to succumb to in the event they get pregnant. I dont want to assume this is the line of logic, but we live in a society that argues so heavily on women choices and undermines the personhood of a small fetus calling it a “clump of cells”, “unconscious”, “unviable”. I think this minimizes the idea of abortion to much of our society. In essence, I believe this removes the weight of an abortion for many who go into that decision. A “pro-lifer” emphasizes that at the time of conception a human life is brought into the world. A human with a soul, with the same potential as every other “viable” human whose mothers let them live. A human soul is different from just a human. There isn’t a perception that we live in nothing more than a finite biological world thats guided only by evolution, cultural relativism, and moralism. Its believed that a human soul is hand crafted by a loving God who sees that living soul as a unique identity and made in his image, having its own set of DNA, own dreams, personality, etc. While sex might be the means to conception, the belief is that God gives life through sex, as he sees suite. Sex without a creator would just be sex and would not create life. So when you say the child is “unwanted”, perhaps by its mother, but not by God. Its an issue of the heart. A mother not willing to give up her whole life for her child. Radical, right? There are a proportional amount of unplanned pregnancies that mothers pursue in hardship who pick up multiple jobs, sacrifice their whole life. Many of those women reap a harvest of joy from their children. So if you want to talk about education… We can talk about what our society doesn’t teach. Our “progressive society” emphasizes self over others. Its actually hardens people’s hearts. The entire life of Christ is to give it up for others. To lay our lives down in love and service. Those sacrifices actually lead to inward thriving, harvesting love, and joy, and peace. Our society doesn’t teach that? I am someone speaking from experience. I got pregnant, unplanned, at 21 y/o. I can say that you give up your whole life for your baby. But there is not another experience in my life that has ever filled my heart the way having a child has. The innocent, precious way a baby looks into your eyes, and giggles, and coos. It lights up your heart. Having a baby.. its not a punishment. Its gods way of teaching us the beauty of life. I wish our society taught more on the sacredness of life and the transforming power of a baby and becoming a parent, and equipped mothers for motherhood in the event they get pregnant. Thats what I wish our society taught.
I remember being younger working for Starbucks I ran a night shift. One of the girls on my shift had an abortion, against her families wishes. What bothered me the most is that my boss wouldn't allow me to let her stay home. She came to work and could barely walk. I let her sit at a table and she just cried. She had to show some paperwork to my boss, and it mentioned she had shingles in the past. My boss fired her for not divulging that info at hire. But to be honest I doubt that girl would have known to mention it. I just remember thinking that was disgusting treatment of a human during the hardest time of her life. Nothing I said mattered though, I was not well liked by my boss either.
I later list my first baby to miscarriage and thought of that girl. It's a horribly lonely experience to birth death.
Guys...if youre gonna express your opinion, please do it respectfully without trying to tell her how she feels.
B U B U L Y N N A she put herself out there. She knew exactly what to expect. No safe room In the real world.
@@brandiurban5519 The point is to be respectful, because when you shame the other person, they will obviously not be interested in a conversation... And if the people in the comments want to save lives, they have to talk respectfully.
@@brandiurban5519 lol you are what is wrong with this world. Your toxic attitude is unwanted here. Take it elsewhere.
Why not both? State your opinion in a respectful way about how you think she feels.
the psychopath commit infanticide and then gets on CZcams to brag about it. She don't want to take any blame for her actions by crying that her boyfriend wasn't supportive but please note it would have affected her life it would have affected her vacation. Pathetic worthless woman she is a psychopath I hope that the spirit of the child and wish she had murdered visits her nightmares. Hopefully the doctor did a good service and removed her reproductive organs so she cannot have a child in the future.
I'm proud of you. You did the right thing. Don't let anyone tell you different.
For those who got something to say under my comment, save it because I will delete.
***** Have you ever heard "diseases can not exist in a Alkaline environment"? If so. That answers your statement about the "cure" to cancer.
***** nope. Never have
Three people post comments and two have been deleted. Anyone else want to try me?
***** It makes me a person who delete comments on my own post.
***** same to you
Why did CZcams recommend me this video 4 years later
also for me,! I was looking for how to have a baby in my later years. Then this. As I'm seeking, I see people so easily discarding them.
I'm sorry for all the people who seem to have watched this just so that they can criticize you in the comments.
I really appreciate you sharing.
@Gabriel I watched a silent scream abortion video it was horrible.
@Sam Noel no. no she didn't. she wasn't ready to become a mother, meaning that if she did bring a child into this world they would not live the same fulfilling life as one born into a family where the parents are prepared. this clearly caused her a lot of pain because she feels immensely bad for the foetus and what she did. she didn't do it out of selfishness. keep your horrible comments to yourself.
@@malibu1285 I call that selfishness, I dont know your ethics and morals but it is. If you think killing a baby because you want to go to Europe isn't selfishness, I fear for the people around you.
Don't get me wrong, I was sympathetic with her till she called a baby a cluster of cells as if she isn't one
@@malibu1285 So you're saying that unless a baby is born into a financially stable middle class familyz then it should be aborted. You're saying that the life of a baby born to young working class parents who wasn't planned is worth less than a baby born to richer parents? Whether she was ready or not, her offsprings life was intentionally terminated. I do wish her all the best in her future, but killing a human life (regardless of it's stage of development) is never the choice somebody should make. She made the wrong choice
@Sam Herbst she didn't choose to have a baby.
my best friend took a pregnancy test in the school bathroom sophomore year. it came out positive. we kept the secret for a while until she had to tell her mom. fifteen at the time. she was in an abusive on and off relationship. he told her they would keep the baby and he would drop out of school and get a job and so would she. she didn’t want this. her mom took her to the clinic to get an abortion. it was very traumatic she named her child and got a tattoo for it. this ultimately the right decision for her. i was raped when i was thirteen, had never gotten my first period, and found out i was pregnant. my aunt took me to get an abortion. this was the right situation for me. the father would have been a fifty year old man. planned parenthood is very kind. they do a lot more than just abortions. both of these situations are viewed as more acceptable for abortion. but i believe all situations are acceptable. no matter how old or young you are, what your health is, if you were raped or not, you should be able to decide what you want to do with your own body.
skinny legend how tf can you get pregnant if you never had your period
skinny legend girl listen, don’t agree if you don’t want to, but you killed the baby because the father is bad, why is that okay?
halo light you can get pregnant without having your period in certain cases it’s a common mistake girls make where they think they can have sex without protection before they get their period and not get pregnant
Model Maker because not only does my age goes into it at the time, but also the fact that raising a child that’s half of the monster who raped you isn’t something i personally could do. i don’t feel regret or remorse for not letting clumps of cell grow into a baby who i wouldn’t want
skinny legend oh well I guess my supporters are evil because I have a rape baby and it was when I was 17 so idk maybe I’m superwoman and you guys Aren’t, no. Stop killing babies they did nothing wrong, you are denying science
people are so annoying... if you want to have an abortion, get one. if you don't want to get an abortion, then DONT. women have a choice to do this or not.
Every woman has the choice ! But think about it this way if you have unprotected sex not wanting to get pregnant USE PROTECTION! It isn't that hard ! You have to take the consequences of laying down. If you aren't financially stable to have a kid DONT OPEN YOUR LEGS SIMPLE AS THAT. ( not directing this towards you just in general)
+alexis rojas of course! if you don't want to get pregnant, use some form of birth control but birth control doesn't always reliable. so I think, women should have that option.
+LAADI KAY Just because you have freedom of choice DOES NOT mean what you choose to do will be moral or ethical. We ALL have choices in life. You have to make choices every single day. Some people make choices to be complete dirtbags does that make it right? No. Just because something is legal to do does not necessarily make it the right thing to do. Unless of course you are a dirtbag with no morals.
+don smith you don't have to agree with anyone's choices because they made the choice for themselves, not for anyone else.
+LAADI KAY Oh I see, so rape or murder is not agreeable OR disagreeable because the offender made that choice for themselves. That's brilliant. Your comment is a morally bankrupt statement.
She is in need of healing. The fact that she kept the test is a flag for a future emotional avalanche.
Abortion is not fun. I'm pro-choice and even I know that. Nobody has an abortion because it's fun or because it's easy. It's not. But I believe that it's important to allow every single person to make their own decision on whether or not to have a baby. Sometimes it's the only option people feel they have.
We don't force people to donate blood or organs to save people's lives because it's not legal or ethical to force someone to do that. We can't remove organs from people who have died to save someone else's life unless they had an organ donor card. It's illegal. Just think about that before sending this poor girl hate. You can see she didn't have the time of her life with this experience, nor was it something she did lightly.
Pro-choice people are not for 'killing babies'. We're about allowing people to make decisions about their own body, which is how it should be. There are many people who are pro-choice who would never get an abortion themselves but still believe that other people should have a choice to choose differently from them.
E S E your comment is spot on. thank you for being a voice for the voiceless❤️
E S E blood and organs are not a human being. yes humans have organs and blood but it’s not the same as a baby.
@@ashleyk683 But the human beings those blood and organs could potentially save are equivalent to what you refer to as a baby. THAT's the point I'm making
Ashley K Someone receiving an organ donation is using another persons body and organs fo sustain their self. A fetus is using the woman’s body and organs to sustain itself. It is the same.
*to sustain
To hear this story it makes me relate to her and I understand her 100%. She wasn't ready to be a parent and at that early age and of course at some point she was going to wonder how her life would be if she would've stayed with it. Hopefully she gets over it, she's still in pain because it's not easy to forget about something like this. What I admire is the support of her mom... I am going through something similar, but my parents don't approve of the abortion, I'm not in a relationship with this guy and unfortunately he's not exalty what you would call daddy material. It kind of comforts me to hear talk about her experience because in a few weeks I could be going through the exact same thing. I really hope that it's all negative, but that won't save me... I'm afraid, I'm terrified, I'm lonely, I'm depressed and so many other emotions that I feel. I prefer to get rid of it, because I'm not ready, and perhaps in the future I would regret it, but I need to sort out my life before I bring another life into this world.
Stay strong girl, in the end all you have is yourself. I hope everything turns out okay, I'm going through a similar situation
+Kari Grimaldo If you are pregnant, you should go to a Pregnancy Resource Center. They can help. Your friends and family could help. Your unborn son or daughter is not an 'it'. He or she is a human being. Look up fetal development information and read up on it.
the why the bitch had sex
+myintx she wasn't ready to have a kid, it's the mothers choice. If a woman is getting an abortion they are probably already pretty upset about it, they don't need people like you telling them that they are wrong and that its the worst possible option
+Bekah Nuxoll It shouldn't be anyone's choice to kill an unborn child. The girl in this video didn't sound upset. Her mother was willing to help. She wanted to go to Europe.
What we need is laws protecting unborn children from being killed.
People always bring up extreme cases like rape or incest, but most of the time it's this. Young couples fucking up and getting present, with abortion being the last chance form of birth control.
the couple didn't fuck up, their birth control just failed. that's nobodies fault.
+cazzawee They still fucked up. Birth control is not always guaranteed but the reproductive system is, either be ready to take responsibility for your own actions or dont act at all. Way much better decision than to end up killing an innocent life. Then it is the "rights" advocates who go around pointing their fingers at rapists, murderers, and other horrible human beings who make the horrible moral CHOICE of forcing themselves, their violence, and selfish motives on innocent humans. Same shit. You Hypocrites.
Joyzyii abortion is taking responsibility. not bringing a child into this world when you're not ready and unable to take care of it properly is responsible as fuck. don't worry your little socks, the thing growing is not a life yet when abortion takes place, so no life is lost.
+cazzawee No, it is not taking responsibility at all. Quite the opposite. Abortion is the action a woman or in some cases a decision a couple makes after they fuck and find out that suprisingly!(because shit what are the odds) they got pregant. They end up wanting to run away from taking responsibility of their actions. Every action has a consequence and theres no way one can justify the stupidity of not knowing the simple fact that putting sperm and eggs together via the action called SEX will result in the creation of a human life (basic ass biology - reproductive system). Aborting that human being's life is called ending a human being's life and ending a human being's life is called killing a human being and those who kill human beings are called killers. So women who abort are killers, like it or not thats a fact and facts regardless of the argument or excuse are immutable.
Bye.
+cazzawee FYI go take a bio 101 course at your local college. Life begins at conception in every living thing including Human beings. At the time a woman finds out that she is pregnant that "cluster of cells" is A life.
Fun fact, We are ALL. a cluster of cells in all our stages of development. You are a bunch of cells does that mean you are not alive? Idiot. Living cells are alive. The offspring of a human being is a human being. You dont look like an infant today because you developed into whatever you are now, adult /teen? You lack bones that you had when you were an infant. Technically infants are not the same as adults or elders. Our bodies change. Blastocysts already have a mouth that connects to the anal. A BLASTOCYST. Lets not even talk about how fast a blastocyst turns into a fetus. Those are simply names to classify a stage of human development.
So yes when she aborted her offspring was alive since the day she conceived.
I am watching this video on 5/29/2019 💔
in video it sounds like she is still dealing with the guilt of her abortion at one point says "clump of cells but through rest of video says my baby or my child" makes me wonder if she regrets and possibly felt this was her only option. feel sad for you and the forever years of wondering as you look at your friends children😟
Because you can only deny so much. See? People who say "clump of cells" have to train themselves to say that when literally, the first thing you think of once you get pregnant is "I'm having a baby," not "There is an organism growing inside me." It's dehumanization, plain and simple.
@@laobok “I’m HAVING a baby” not “I HAVE a baby” simply it’s going to BE a baby but not yet
@@teehee5700 And yet here you are, about to prove my point. But whatever, I'm gonna let you win this one. Fine, whatever you say.
@@laobok proving your point of what? Lmao
I hate how abortion is the boyfriends first thought. Your not alone to feel bothered. Abortion helps guys more then girls because we live with the guilt.
I couldn't agree with you more. I would raise a child myself if it meant preventing an abortion.
No, men absolutely live with the guilt too.
Maggie Dingman my boyfriend lives in guilt everyday of his life, I don’t wish this pain on anyone.. but it’s the right thing to do when for me personally I didn’t have anything to my name. I didn’t have a job at the time. But I’m against abortion, although I went through it. It’s sometimes what needs to be done.. an it sucks but we stand tall.
I think guys can live with guilt too. Not to the same degree, of course, but I don't think anyone involved in the process of abortion comes out unscathed.
She said that they had previously talked about what they'd do if they got pregnant and that they BOTH agreed on termination.
Your so brave to share your story. Thank you! I too had an abortion. I didn’t realize how much it affected the following 10 years of my life. I met Jesus and he healed me of the experience. He showed me my sweet little baby boy that I had taken out of this world. He showed me a love and forgiveness that was completely unimaginable. He healed my heart and now I can truly love again! I pray you will invite Jesus- the living God- into your heart and experience the same beautifulness of radical grace that I did. It’s not religion! It’s just Jesus! No rules, no bullshit....just LOVE!!!! May God bless you sweet girl! ❤️
You stilled killed someone no healing will bring that baby back
Sorry to say this but GOD dont forgives this situations is on the bible he give you like he should be the one that tell you when to go back
The bible says, though your sins be as red as crimson, God will make them whiter than snow. So y'all judging her, u know nothing of the bible. It also says there is no sin God cannot forgive. God's ways are not our ways. So don't come here trying to say what God can and cannot forgive
priestlie starr I never brought religion into this I brought logic no amount of praying will ever change the fact that she killed a baby and that will forever be with her
I am a Christian and I want to say, for those who had abortions or considering. I get that life it is hard. I feel your pain. I am not condemning you. I do not agree with abortion but I do wrong things all the time and Jesus still chooses to forgive me. Jesus looked at the woman who was caught in adultery (which was a death penalty by public stoning at the time) and said, "He without sin cast the first stone."Not one was free from sin and no one is perfect today. He looked at her and said"where are your accusers?, and she replied there is none. and He said , "nor do I accuse you. Go and sin no more." Jesus loves you and is so do I. There is hope, redemption, forgiveness and healing through Jesus.
John 3:16-17. For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.
7 years later i’m hoping she doing amazing 💕🙏🏾.
A selfish and coward killer.
'He/She who is without sin cast the first stone.' For all have sinned and came short of the glory of GOD; we're all sinners folks.
Absolutely true, but the other part of that is "Go and sin no more." We have to resolve as a society to do better. Women deserve better than abortion. Our society can find a way to love both mothers and babies and not pit them against each other. Not judging does not mean "just accepting" either; we have to do better. This girl is suffering and her baby was killed violently. This is heartbreaking.
@@sumtuus1229 that is why fasting and turning to God is so important
Fred C. Wilson III And we are all clusters of cells also
Fred C. Wilson III some sinners are worse than others though...
The thing is we can't decide which is sin and which is not
I am personally pro life. However, that does not mean I cannot sympathize with you. I have never had to experience anything like this, but I cannot even begin to imagine what you have been through. I am so sorry you had to go through something this traumatic. You are such a strong and beautiful woman for sharing this video. I will pray for you to find peace, hopefully this video starts you on that journey. Stay strong, you are loved!
This is such a beautiful comment. I’m pro-choice, though I can see the pain it causes this girl in particular and I’m glad that some people in the comments, even if they disagree with her choice, are still sending her love and well-wishes because it can’t be undone now. She needs the support.
I wish all pro life people were like this.
graham cockroach
A lot of them are. It’s just the radical ones that ruin it for everyone. You should go to r/prolife and the majority of those people are very kind and will answer your questions.
You are not pro life
A pro life persom think about all babies... Not only their own. So if you think its her choice. You are not pro life.
I understand your choice and I get that you guys weren't ready to be parents but if you weren't ready why was ya'll having sex? Should've been prepared for everything
Agree
+babe well You are a moron, people have sex, it's fun and is an integral part of bonding and finding out if you can connect on a physical level as well. She was on birth control, but she had bad luck. Having children should be a choice, neither was she ready for that responsibility nor was she in a good position (not enough money, apparently boyfriend who isn't husband material).
+Holligan878 i think that maybe you shouldn't have sex in the first place when you know there can be consequences and if you're wanting to have sex then obviously use protection on both women and men? simple. you shouldn't punish the child for your mistakes, its not their fault its yours.
its really not that hard not to have sex
its her body her life her choice now lets say she did decide to keep the baby would you send her money every week for diapers and milk ? i don't think so .. so until you are helping her pay bills you dont have a say so in what she does with her life
+Kasey Renee Shaw Sex is meant to be a part of reproduction, not "fun".
What breaks my heart the most is the boyfriend who immediately pushed for an abortion. He had no interest in supporting any other “choice”. It hurts because EVERY SINGLE woman I know who has gone through abortion lists an unsupportive or pushy partner as the #1 reason they chose to end the pregnancy.
My husband is the same. I'm pregnant at 6 weeks and he immediately told me to get an abortion because we don't have the finical standards
Also I do think she regrets it but her saying she doesnt because she went. Europe to me that's not a valid reason to get one in pro choice but I also understanf she wasnt ready for a child but I do think she regrets it in my opinion
An honest boyfriend is loads better than an absent father.
The guy wouldn't have been a good father anyway. He at least admits it.
First I would like to say that anyone who says your going to go to hell for this is not a Christian! I’m pro life 100% but it’s not my place to judge you my place is to love you. I’m sorry for the things that you have gone through and I hope you do forgive yourself because God is a God of love and mercy and there is nothing we could ever do that would deem us unworthy of his love. I hope you truly have peace and when if ever you have children I hope that peace keeps you going. We all make mistakes and it’s not for anyone else to judge your mistakes if that’s what you somethings feel it was. Keep living no matter what because you matter and you are worth great things and we shouldn’t be judged or weighed by one choice for the rest of our lives. Don’t let this become who you are for the rest of your life.
Joe noyes I’m sorry but I have to question is your a stable individual because you sound a bit unwell maybe you should seek some help.
Joe Noyes - Nobody, absolutely NOBODY but God the Father decides who is going to Heaven and who is going to Hell. By you saying that anyone is going to hell is 100% unBiblical. For someone who claims to be a believer, you sure are missing the mark, big time!
Krissy MacInnis AMEN
@@jen137 What does the bible say about premarital sex? murder?
I feel like you messed up your spelling at the beginning?
I think it's so messed up that you have abortion clinics in the USA/Canada. Why on earth don't you have abortion as part of the services given by a normal hospital? You would get rid of the protester problem if you acknowledged that this is a procedure that should be done by the gynecological department at the hospital.
+TheVildee Calgary is in Canada.
Danielle Holbrook Oh sorry, didn't notice! I thought Canada was more liberal though...
+TheVildee They are... but America is worse :(
*this is coming from an American
xxxTH3summerS3Txxx :( I think it's scary how such a developed country as America is so far behind in these questions
+TheVildee They are in the hospital and they also exist as regular clinics too.
I myself am prolife, but I do not judge the choice of another woman. It is your body and not everyone is in the right place in their lives to take care of a child. You are so so so brave for telling your story.
if you were truly prolife, you would know that it is not her body that was killed in the abortion. It's not judging to tell someone they cannot kill a child - born or unborn - it is PROTECTING a vulnerable human being.
If you are pro-life you'll vote for Trump for President. He will appoint SC justices that will eventually overturn Roe V Wade.
what words did I "twist"?
Thank you.
+Stacy Gaskins, I am pro-life as well but that is the most retarded comment I've seen in a very long time, it's not her body, it's the babies!
so you are ok with someone tearing a babys little body to pieces and killing it. That my dear is not prolife! That is what your mother should have done to YOU!
I’m really so sorry for you. I was in your same situation two weeks ago, when I first find out I was pregnant. I thought for a second to go for an abortion, but on Monday this week, when I had my first ultrasound and I heard my baby’s heart beating I immediately regretted my decision. I’m 5 weeks pregnant at the moment, and I’m still scared: scared of what people will gonna say about me, scared of not having enough savings, scared because I’m still in college, scared because I’m 20 and I still got plans but of one thing I’m sure: I’m gonna be a parent and I know I’m not gonna regret it.
Martina Russo I wish you and your growing family all the happiness in the world! This video wasn’t to sway anyone into having an abortion. It was to give an honest account of what it’s like. Pro choice is NOT pro abortion. It means I am supportive of whatever decision my fellow woman decides. I am so happy you have made your choice. Health and happiness to you my love ♥️
Alexus Dumont I know, dear. My comment was in support of your video and to let you know we are just humans and we’re all different. Before getting pregnant I was strictly convinced that abortion was the solution to an unwanted pregnancy, but honestly I regretted my thought as soon as I found myself in the actual situation, that’s why I’m saying that we’re all humans and we’re all different. Thank you so much for your kindness and for sharing your story, I think you’ve been really brave. You will be a mother in future if you will chose to, and I’m pretty much sure you’ll be a great mother❤️
I'm so happy you're keeping your baby my dear! You'll be a great mom and you're so very brave!!!
That’s what I’m talking about ! You’re a great influence not to run but fight the fears. Best of wishes girl, I know that you’re a terrific mom.
@@alexusdumont951 That's why pro-life and pro-choice are really misleading terms. The terms really should be that you are for the legalization of abortion are you are against the legalization of abortion. I'm against the legalization of abortion - I think it's a crime against human rights, specifically the most basic right to live. However, I'm not against any person's right to choose what they do with their lives or bodies, although I recognize that choices necessarily have consequences, sometimes legal ones. That said, I also don't think that people who are for the legalization of abortion are fundamentally against life. I think their focus is more on the right of a woman to choose what she will do with her body. The only problem I have with their argument is that a woman's choice involves not simply her ORGANS but another human ORGANISM. As an analogy, I would say that I have the right to do whatever I want with my hands. I can use them to cook food, perform surgery, fix a car or anything else. But at the moment that what I choose to do with my hands harms someone else (like, perhaps using my hand to slap someone), the right to choose becomes problematic. As a note, I am a woman, so I do understand what a hard thing this is.
i’m 3 years late but i just want to say i respect you for sharing your story. i know some people may be hating on you but the fact that you posted this is so brave to me. a lot of people in a similar situation may need something like this to help them make their decision and your perspective will be very helpful. i hope you are doing well, lots of love :)
You are very brave for sharing your experience. I respect you so much for having the courage to make a decision like that.
Women should have the a right to their own bodies, it's the woman's decision, it's her body and her life. Sometimes women don't have a choice because of their situation or health. And anyone who criticises women for that should feel ashamed.
+Rose LIFE Real courage is taking responsibility for your actions. REAL courage would be accepting the fact that your actions have led to the creation of a new life and stepping up to the plate and raising that child, no matter how "inconvenient" it might be, to the absolute best of your ability. THAT is courage.
+don smith In medical ethics, we learnt: "Two people can't have the same rights inside one body, without one of them having their rights stripped away". And guess who's the one who SHOULD have those rights.... it's WOMEN. I know, crazy right? How could women ever dare to ask for the right to have autonomy over their own body, and NOT enslave themselves to the misogynistic belief that an incomplete organism has more rights than a full human being?? We're talking for literally a parasitic organism who wouldn't even be able to live without the woman's body. Also, you're treating pregnancy as a punishment for women who dare to have sex for their pleasure.
+Msl LogYt Then explain to me who gets rights and who does not in a case of Siamese twins? Secondly, believing that it's wrong to murder an unborn child is in no way a "misogynistic" belief. Simply because you think it's misogynistic does not make it so unfortunately. Thirdly, I am in no way treating pregnancy as punishment and never said that it was, those are your words and obviously your beliefs not mine. If a woman chooses to have sex merely for pleasure, more power to her but if that pleasure seeking turns into a pregnancy then the woman should show personal responsibility for her actions by not killing her unborn child. You obviously see abortion as a way to escape that personal responsibility.
+don smith Soooo what you're saying is if I get in a car and drive and someone crashes into me it's my fault because I chose to drive that day? That I should then not be allowed to fix my car? And then because of that have my body messed up for the rest of my life? That's reasonable. I'm not saying everyone should have an abortion, I'm just saying that no one period should get to choose what others do with their own body.
+don smith 1) your siamise twin comparison (or analogy??) is way, way out there, vague and sloppy (age/pathology/viability... what kinda med situation are we even talking about here??) I can guess at the kind of argument you might be trying to make, but... man, what a mess. 2) "Simply because you think it' misogynistic does not make it so unfortunately" - this also works on the inverse bub. 3) reproductive coercion and forced pregnancy is traumatic to the mother and this trauma has an incredible impact on the fetus - see the long-term effects of cortisol and other stress-hormones - i dont think its a terrible jump to consider enforced pregnancy/labor as punitive. Also, these unwanted pregnancies are not always the result of "pleasurable" sex. again, the whole over simplification thing (if only this world was so easy, eh?)
I can feel the sadness from her & it breaks my heart. 😥
I can see how sad she is. I’m praying she’s okay. She’s such a beautiful woman and doesn’t deserve this. God rest her baby’s soul.
If you're getting biblical you should know baby aren't baptized before 12 the baby is going to hell
I can’t believe how close I came to doing this to my son.. my best friend the funniest person I know, I’m 28 now and he’s turning 9. I can vividly remember every moment of walking into the room and knowing I was making a huge mistake. His dad and everyone were pressuring me to get rid of him. I protected him, and it was the best thing I will ever do. ❤️
It's great that things worked out for you in the end, but consider that it wouldn't necessarily be the same for everyone faced with your situation.
Same here girl ❤️ now I have a beautiful baby girl and I don’t know what I would do with out her in my life.
ramywiles when you become a momma you make it work. There are circumstances that abortion is necessary... but wanting to travel isn’t one of them.
Janie Heming so true!
Janie Heming That's for you to decide for yourself and yourself alone.
it's really interesting how alot of people here are calling her a terrible person but have no idea what she is going through. I get that all life is important but I also think it's amusing that many pro-livers only think about the fetus and not the life it may grow up in once it's born. I mean yea it wasn't aborted but is it worth it if the child grows up without parents in a shitty foster home never to get adopted, move on to drugs or gangs, and die young from being in the wrong crowd or even kill someone else for food or money... honestly I have a challenge for all those extremely Christians and pro-lifers. if you believe abortion is so wrong and must be banned then go to those foster homes and adopt all those children who would never have parents. if you believe they should have a chance to life then it's Ur responsibility to make sure they live a happy and healthy life... or does Ur opinion on the fetus disappear once it's just born? what really disgusts me about this chat is the pro-choice people who only care that a child is born not that it has a chance at happiness once it faces the real world
agreed
people are indeed adopting those children.
that's not the point. he/she is saying its not always a happy end.
I've been in a foster home after being wrongfully taken away fro my mum cause my dad wanted to be back at her.
the foster home I was in, the care giver was a drugy, I was ment to be on medication for ADHD she was taking them for herself. she had a boyfriend who was also a drugy, I was starved, abused and the boyfriend use to watch me when I was taking a shower or a bath.
God that's so stupid. First, the idea that people who are opposed to abortion don't care about the welfare of children after they're born is just a ridiculous attempt to slander people you disagree with. What is it based on? As far as I can tell it's just based on the fact that the political party opposed to abortion is also the party that's for less government spending. That's it. Never mind that the people opposed to abortion also give more money to charity. All that matter is the tenuous political connection. Then you've got this idea, well If you save someone from being killed then you personally must ensure they live a happy life. What is that, some damn ancient proverb? If you save someone's life that doesn't mean that you owe them anything. Last year there were firefighters called to the apartment building I lived because of a fire. If they saved someone's life that night, did that make them responsible for the person they saved? It's a ridiculous idea. And then there's the idea that someone is better off dead rather than in a foster home! Well, I guess he's for emptying all the foster homes by executing the children. I mean if there better of dead, then it'd be a mercy killing, right? Also, the children in foster homes are NOT children who were given up for adoption when they were born. Advocates of abortion never seem to understand this. Kids end up in the foster system precisely because they were NOT available for adoption when they were a baby. There's actually far more demand than there is supply when it comes to adopting babies. That's why so many people are travelling to Korea and India just to find a baby to adopt. Jeez, what a bunch of nonsense.
Life is more precious than no life. The number 1 is greater than zero. A shit life is still life. And life is worth living.
Im pro-choice but watching this broke my heart...it doesn't sound like this is what you really wanted...
Theresa Webb She said it’s what she wanted several times. Just because the boyfriend wrongly assumed that she’d make this decision doesn’t mean he forced her at all. Please don’t be so quick to remove all responsibility from the woman and place it on the man. In this type of situation, no one “wants” any of the options they have to be honest.
@@NinaZuccaro0824 ....I literally said nothing about the boyfriend. I said it doesn't seem like SHE really wanted to do it.
Just because someone wants it doesnt mean they feel good about it. It's a very difficult decision.
Theresa Webb I didn’t want to experience any of it to begin with. That is why I was so sad. I used birth control to prevent this situation.
Alexus Dumont I watched your video about a year after you posted it, afraid that I was going to have to make this choice. But at the same time I was so relieved and grateful that I found someone that had experienced it and I could kind of understand what I was going to possibly go threw. I ended up not being pregnant but I did feel more confident leading up to that point since watching this. And I know that's what you intended this video to be for. So thank you so much for being so brave!! Thank you for sharing your story 💜 I hope you're doing good and I hope good things have happened to you since this. I can tell you're a very genuine, caring, good person and you deserve it
Personally I believe nobody should be forced to have a child if they don’t want to i think abortion is totally ok
I got pregnant at 19. I already knew i was pregnant before taking the pregnancy test. I was even less than 8 weeks along. I had that feeling where i just KNEW. My body, mind, heart felt it. When i seen it positive I was upset at first not gonna lie. I was upset, scared, hurt, mad. My family has no money for me, i didnt work, it just been a year since graduation, ive known her dad for only FOUR months. I was freaking the hell out. Then, Later i started getting really happy out of nowhere. It hit me hard. I became in love. Im like theres a LIFE inside of me i felt it from the beginning. This is part of ME. My heart, my love, my life. Its been the "clump of cells" who has a future with ME. She was born a month before my 20th bday. She is now almost 14M old. And let me tell you she already has a huge personality. Her laugh, her smile, her hugs, her cute dances, EVERYTHING about her makes me fall in love because shes MY babygirl. I would seriously be so regretful, and it would haunt me knowing i ripped her out of me, crushed her life, stopped her future, because "im not ready" its not her fault at all. I love her so much. Im glad shes healthy, happy, outgoing, talkative. I wouldnt have that right now if i decided to take her life away. Shes my baby and talking about this makes me want to go in her room and give her a big KISS. And tell her I LOVE HER. Im glad shes here with me. I would have never ever taken her life away. Thats my baby forever.
Vegan 22 you are so good woman.
Thanks for sharing your story. I love your personality. Despite all problems you will manage your life and get so much back from your baby girl. We have 2 sons and can't imagine our life's without the cute little monsters.😎
I was just like you... even the same age.. and everything.. I'm now 2 days away from my due date I'm so glad I felt that love you felt as well because I'm so happy with my choice and I can't wait to meet my daughter in a few days 💕 thanks for sharing made me smile that there are other young girls in the same situation and they are happy with their choice like I am.
you go lady 👏🏼👏🏼
life begins at conception, it's not a clump of cells. It's a living being with a heart beat, brain, bones, ect. Good luck new momma
I was an unwanted pregnancy. So glad my bio mom was willing to let me live and allowed me to be raised by wonderful parents.
Midlife Credo i dont know you. But i am greatful you are alive rather than dead! Have a good day
KpopStanCaratReveluv That’s amazing! Nice to know some people still think about the child.
You are still unwanted
jax1492
And you are a cyber bully. They are wanted.
You were always wanted, either by your biological mother or your adoptive parents you always had a place in somebody’s heart. I’m glad you are doing good!
as a pro lifer, I’m so sorry you had to go early to avoid the so-called “pro lifers” screaming things like murder, you’re going to hell, you’re a sinner. pro lifers are supposed to be a community of love. prolife organizations offer services for pregnant women, we love both the mother and the child, we provide counseling to post-abortive mothers. the ones screaming things outside of abortion clinics are not truly pro life and i’m sorry if that happens to anyone.
I feel the statement about pro lifers screaming at you and yelling you're a sinner and going to hell is a thought you had because someone told thou that. Not because you actually saw it or experienced it? Usually pro lifers are not aggressive that like. I home you heal and see the truth one day of what really happened that day you went to get an abortion. It is sad how having a baby can be such a burden on people. I too hope you are not still with your then very unsupportive boyfriend.
@@gypsienova8256 i didn’t get an abortion lol.. i think u misunderstood my comment. i was saying: as a pro lifer, i don’t agree with the aggressive side of the pro life community. and no i haven’t experienced it but i have seen videos of aggressive pro lifers standing outside abortion facilities & yelling at the women going inside
In Gods Eyes She is a Murder! There is no way to say in a soft way. I hope she finds Jesus. Thats the only way to forgive her.
@@MrSteveRain god and Jesus don’t exist looney
@@MrSteveRain yes I agree. The problem is that we water down what murder actually is. There is 0 excuse for abortion. There is only hope in Jesus and without Jesus we think this is an option because our hearts are naturally wicked. I hope she finds God and she repents for killing an innocent baby. God can forgive if it’s repentance from the heart.
I'm an 80 year old man. My first wife had a baby "out of wedlock" as we used to say. We married and I adopted the child. A few years later she told me that she had wanted to abort the pregnancy but couldn't afford it. I really don't believe men should have a say in it one way or the other. It's a women's issue, but the laws prohibiting abortion are always passed by men. My child is now 58. This child is my best friend and closer to me than other children I have had. I have always been grateful the the child was not aborted, but I still believe that a woman has the right to safely do what is best for her. More women need to run for elective office so that they my have a voice that has to be heard in the legislative bodies. I also believe it is a mistake to allow each state to make up it's own rules. I wish the best to all and hope whatever decisions are made work out for the best.
Robert Dennis Jesus
Thank you for contributing
Robert Dennis I do not believe this is just a woman issue. I have two sons. My oldest son I became pregnant with at 17 years old. I did not want an abortion and very much wanted my child. Six months after having my son his father left me high and dry for another woman. It was hard. But I remarried and gave birth to my second son. I always talked honestly with my boys about safe sex and that I didn't want a teen pregnancy to happen in their lives because I knew how hard it is. They also know that I am pro life. My oldest son's girlfriend becomes pregnant at 17. He was so afraid to tell me that he ended up telling me through text while she was in her second trimester. I just texted him back an "ok" and then cried for them all night. That Sunday my husband and I told our pastor at church. He responded with, "I think it's great! You guys are going to be Grandparents!" At that point I decided not to feel sad for them but to focus on the baby and be excited for them. He is now 4 years old and has a little brother that is two and yes it's still hard for them and they do struggle financially but I am so very glad that she didn't abort and I help them as much as I possibly can. I also enjoy spoiling those babies every chance I get. I can't imagine life without them.
sorry robert, as a woman I'm pro life and I think the choice ended when you decided to have sex unprotected (both parties not just women on birth control, bc isn't effective anyways). No one deserves to take a life away
@@leslieblanco3536 That's a weird take ... "You had sex, so therefore you MUST be a guardian to a human, whether you are a healthy person to do so, or not" . LOL LIKE WHAT?!
I found out I was pregnant at 17. I was scared to death and knew I wasn't ready. I worked at Burger King for craps sake!
While my friends attended senior parties, I attended parenting classes. I was bound and determined to get ready before he was born. I thought about adoption, but I just knew no one could love him like I did!
On 5/8/95, my angel was born. Shortly thereafter I was hired for a CPA firm. With hard work, determination, careful budgeting and a few night classes my career was on track. My friends partied.
In my mid twenties I married a wonderful guy who loved my son as his own. We went onto have two more son's. My life was full and happy. I no longer stood out as the teenaged mom. I was the mom who attended every football game and made the best birthday cupcakes.
I'm older now, My son is an electrician. I'm proud of him! My friends did not fair as well as I did. One became a heroin addict and died. Another died in a car accident when her boyfriend drove her home from the bar.
My angel saved my life! If it weren't for him I wonder would I have become an addict or been in accident after leaving the bar? These things can happen to anyone, but for me, I kept my self out of risky situation for my sons sake. I never realized not only did I choose life for him, I also choose life for me!
This is not a judgement, believe me I get the feeling of terror when that test turns positive and your not ready, to poor, too young. But trust me, you can get ready, make more money and inevitably you will get older :(.
It can all work out if you try.
THIS, . . . YOUR STORY, is the one we should be hearing about on a You Tube video, instead of this vile, selfish video posted by a girl who insisted on the easy way out of a situation she created (with the help of a similarly irresponsible male). I loved hearing your story, and I congratulate you on your decision - the only one God would condone. The Lord knows what you did, and I am sure you will be blessed for it. Thank you for setting an example worthy of praise and respect. God Bless You!
@@Sealust50 Thank you, the courage came from the Lord and he has never let me down.
@@christinevaldez4029 I knew from the feeling I got while reading your story that your decision was guided by our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. We are SO blessed to have God in our lives to help us through our journey through this brief life here on earth. Non-believers and those who do not know Him have such a terrible road of life to walk. PRAISE THE LORD he is ALWAYS there for us: "For lo, I am with you always, even until the end of the earth."
Christine valdez I'm so scared reading your story is giving me sanity.... I'm on birthcontrol but I don't have a job no support from the bf and family, I'm in my late 20s, lived most my years sick, I live with my father and I'm petrified..... lord knows I'm not ready.
@@arideneros9015 I am sorry for the lack of support but thankful you have your dad.
Your video just saved the life of my friends baby! She really wanted the abortion, saw this video and decided not have the abortion! I was pregnant at 19 and abortion was not an option for me! He’s the best little boy.
Happy story
Bless you.
Sariah Hash that’s wonderful although I’m pretty sure this video led to more abortions happening than it stopped from happening. May that baby have a long wonderful life and may god help your friend aswell
@@jonathondanials7182 No no one in their right mind will wanna end up like this women.
Big Mac without cheese but there are plenty of people here who aren’t in their right mind
Sounds like a really tough experience. Thank you for sharing.
Anyone going through something similar- know that you are loved by God
This comment is for all of the pro-life people who are shaming this girl
If you don’t support abortion don’t click on a video titled “ my abortion experience” it’s really that simple
Hello there.
Madalyn Lambert I know my rights!!!!!😡 BACK OFF!!!!!! I can have an opinion and state it, it’s called freedom of speech!
Kristina Pate I’ve found that people who yell about their rights to freedom of speech are the people who probably should shut up. Just because you can say whatever you want doesn’t mean you should. Saying shitty things still makes you an asshole.
Kristina Pate
Rough day?
Madalyn Lambert period
This video makes me so sad. I got pregnant at 17 (had my daughter at 18) and almost had an abortion. I went to the clinic, paid the fee, and then they told me that I needed to have an ultrasound beforehand. After that I just couldn’t go through with it. I told my boyfriend and he was surprisingly super supportive. So thankful we ended up keeping her because I can’t imagine life without her. I’m 28 now, and everything turned out ok for us thankfully, but I know that’s not always the case. So sorry you had to go through this.
good for you Lara.
I have had the same situation. I'm the same age. Now However, I am planning to terminate my second pregnancy. It is a very hard decision...
Harley Quinn just trying to understand why you, someone who is already a mother with a child.... why are you terminating your second pregnancy? Out of convenience? Did birth control fail? Did you have a one night stand or something? Ending ones life is something you can never undo... Why would that be a better choice than the alternative, letting the person live? You're already a mother. You know a fetus is a person. You're not ignorant. Why would you choose to kill an innocent person?
Harley Quinn You could put it up for adoption. If you live in the U.S. it won’t live on the foster care system, it will be adopted immediately because there are more people who want to adopt infants then infants in the system.
Nat C I mean... adding a second child to the mix isn't something you should do lightly. It's not a question of convenience; it's a question of whether or not you can afford (physically, mentally, financially) to support not just one, but two tiny people who are dependent on you for literally everything. Or, if it's not that, it's a question of whether or not you can afford (physically, mentally, financially) to carry a second pregnancy to term while also going through everything involved in giving it up. Sometimes abortion is what's necessary and responsible to all parties involved, and that's fine.
Also, if you're genuinely "just trying to understand"... using loaded language like "why would you choose to kill an innocent person" is a phrase that inherently casts judgment on someone's choice; you're no longer trying to understand them, you're just going after them. I'd suggest being careful with that kind of language.
You have balls of steel to put this story out there. I am very sure that you will help someone in the same situation.
Life is more confusing than ever these days
What she doesn't explain is that they do not really talk to you about this. I think they should talk more in depth about this decision. Not where someone says you are going to hell if you do this or those horrible things. A female that is looking at this option, she is scared, confused, and doesn't need all of that hellfire, damnation stuff. it is not an easy decision. It is scary. It is forever. You cannot ever take it back.
I am not at all going to belittle her. She was young. I feel like she is hurting as she is talking about it. She needed more support.
I noticed that she left a comment for someone on down and said that she is well. That is great.
My heart hurts for the pain she went through mentally.
As far as the people wishing bad things on her, I hope you do not call yourself pro life.
A woman should ALWAYS have say over what happens with and to her body!
I want an update. She is hurting. I want to hug her. She could have done all those things while being pregnant as well.. God is so merciful. I will pray for you
That's true... And now her baby would be entering preschool, bringing home finger paintings, etc. She missed out on a lifetime of love and the child never got a chance... for a summer in Europe. This is so profoundly sad. Bad advice from mom and boyfriend.
@@sumtuus1229 People with children are statistically speaking less happy. So her life might be even better than what you're describing.
sumtuus1229 are you completely unable to empathize at all? this young girl was so brave to share her story, one that so many women go through and never get to speak about out of fear that people like you will completely disregard their feelings and make them feel ashamed on top of the whirlwind of emotions they’re experiencing just living through the aftermath of abortion. also, if you think it was simply for “a summer in europe” you must be stupid.
sumtuus1229 okay and? Who’s to say she won’t have kids in the future. Let women do what they want with their fetus #prochoice
She gave up her virginity. Then she killed her child. What does the Bible say about that?
I'm not sure how I ended up at your video (lost in the youtubes, I guess), but I am glad I watched. It makes me really sad how many horrible people are in your comments. You have to do what you have to do to keep moving forward. Best of luck on your further journeys.
Thankyou. I really do appreciate it
+Becki C but she didn't have to do it!
+Penguin Pencil! What, are you going to take care of the child? How are you 100% certain that the child will go to a good home and not just stay in foster care???
+Penguin Pencil! but she did. I fail to see your point.
+SimplyMercyds My mother could have aborted me, but I was adopted at birth by two amazing parents. I am so grateful to be alive because it could have saved my biological mother so much distress. Foster care and adoption are completely different. There are SO many families looking to adopt babies from birth, it is usually arranged WAY before birth.. during the mother's pregnancy.
Poor darlin! Just came across this this morning gurning my lamps out. I can't even imagine. You're a wee trooper 💚
I cried. I'm so sorry
You are sorry for having cried ?
It seems like a lot of pro-lifers have the notion that women who choose to have abortions are happy about it. That couldn't be further from the case. Speaking from experience, abortion isn't an easy, simple decision. There is so much thought and emotion that goes into making that decision. But ultimately, due to various factors, the best decision for some women really is to terminate the pregnancy.
Call it by what it is. It isn’t terminating a pregnancy, it’s ending the life of an unborn child.
rachel scott most abortions take place early in gestation, when the fetus is far from being developed. you must believe that life begins at conception, and that’s fine. i’m simply stating my own opinion on this matter.
Eve Martin most abortions take place early in gestation, before fetal development really begins to progress. i don’t find abortion to be the same thing as murder.
Just Me i didn’t make any excuses, and i don’t believe it’s wrong.
Erin at what point do you determine life? This “gestation period” that you so call would be considered the embryo (before 8 weeks), which, at that point the babies heart, lungs, and brain waves are developed. I’m sorry but something with a beating heart has life- that is murder
Okay I’m just laughing at the fact that her friend offered to go check the pregnancy test for her but she doesn’t even know how to read one. 😂
That's how young she is. Shouldn't be having sex.
Some people don't want to see it themselves
Never laugh at another person's misfortune. We're all in a bad place. We should be empathetic toward each other, but cautious of the wicked ones who just want to bait more people and cause them harm.
Sway B. But the thing is she didn’t give birth... she aborted the baby that baby is dead
None of us have a time machine. The point we need to make to her is that she needs to stop and never do this again.
So much love to you. Your brave and beautiful. I went through this too and no one can ever understand the feeling unless you’ve been through it. Your description of the day hit me hard. In a weird sense it’s comforting to know you remember the ceiling tiles and the gown... it’s all that goes over in my mind and I always thought I was odd for it. Thank you for your courage. Your a strong woman ❤️
I got my wife pregnant as teenagers, it was a "tube baby" doctor said she had to abort, we were not ready for a baby. we had already broken up. I prayed in the hospital and said to God let it be his will. Doctors could not explain but couldn't abort, my son is soon to graduate from Chico State and I could have not asked for a better son and a better wife.
As someone who is Pro-Life... I am glad you were in a nice facility to be taken care of....
Imagine this girl as your daughter, and she is going to go through with terminating her pregnancy... No matter your beliefs, would you rather have a nice clean sterile facility with doctors and staff on hand to handle anything that might go wrong, and live another day....
or....
If there were no abortion clinics.... and your daughter is going through with an abortion, this puts her in a very risky situation of a room in a house or hotel, or even the back of a van, where it's done quickly, and if something were to go wrong, they would abandon her for fear of getting caught....
These scenario's right here are why I don not wish abortion clinics to be closed down, no matter how pro-life I am....
This is EXACTLY it, because no matter how effectively we work to reduce abortion, all we can ever do is reduce it. We can't eliminate it. People who don't want to be pregnant will seek out the means to end their pregnancies, and they deserve to be able to do so safely and legally. If we remove that resource, we put more women at risk of dying, and that's not something I'm ok with. (I'm pro choice to begin with, but this particular point is at the core of my own arguments.)
Imagine what it would be like if women actually chose to not murder their babies. Then we wouldn't need abortion clinics. But by all means, keep those "safe" death camps running.
You're not pro-life at all. I couldn't care less about the health and security of the executioner. So you have no problem with babies being torn apart and thrown into the garbage, so long as it is done properly and nicely. Where is your compassion towards the REAL victim of abortion? Oh yeah, you don't have any. Because you're cold-hearted but dress it up as "compassion." I see right through your bullshit.
kwpp7, too bad life is complicated and not every woman makes the exact same decisions.
chris the term "women" isn't a dirty word. you dont have to be afraid to say it "woman" see? easy
Hi there. I want to thank you for sharing your story. It is so important to let it out, to share, and to relate. I am saddened by the comments coming from both sides on this video. I am Catholic and I want to thank you for speaking up about this because your video helps humanize women who have had abortions. I feel that women who have had abortions rarely speak out. It is very healthy to speak up about this. I am so sorry that you didn't have more support during your decision process. I want to just reach through the camera and give you a hug. You're so beautiful, smart and God loves you, no matter what. I can tell you have a very loving heart. Every breath is a second chance. Keep on breathing... xoxox
I think it's so extremely brave of you to post this. Thank you for sharing your story. Although, I wouldn't have an abortion, I completely respect your decision. I'm glad that it was the best option for you and you have recovered physically from it. It must have been so difficult and scary. I truly appreciate you sharing this. I hope you're doing well!
It has been so long..
You are so brave for coming out to share your experience
Thank u
I remember that I always said that if I got pregnant I wouldn't have the baby surprise is when I got pregnant and I saw my baby (I was 11 weeks at the moment) I saw his feet and his hands moving on the monitor and I was crying I decide to have my baby it was really hard since I had to work until my last month of pregnancy sometimes I was so tired working more than 10 hours and with a huge belly but he used to give me strength, now he is almost 2 years old and I know I made the best decision I love my baby to death I would do anything for him and now I can't imagine my life without him❤️ (sorry English is not my first language)
+Arianna Lizeth So what? If you had 10 kids you wouldn't regret having them because nature makes you fall in love with a child when it's born but it's just an illusion. Your life you'd be better without a child that came at the wrong time.
+Ju Hill i see how much of a negative person you are... society doesn't need people like you.
i had the same experience. i am glad i took the decision to my baby i am already 36 weeks :)
+Ju Hill it's just an "illusion" ?? um no .its blood its a child that literally grew inside you, that's literally a little you , its another human sou and its fucking beautiful.and not anywhere near a fucking illusion it is so fucking real maybe the realest thing out there. there is no wrong time btw. and i bet arianna has an amazing ass life just like me and my son. fuck off . don't put your dumb ass opinion in if you've never even fucking experienced having a child.
+Ju Hill oh well I'm not planning on having more babies I learn of my mistakes in already 26 and when I had him I was 24 and no there's no ilusion I've never felt so in love with any guy the way I'm in love with my son it's like I was never in love Before him even though I thought I was so everyone has their own opinion I have mine you have yours and that's it I don't regret the decision I took
I was on the IUD when I got pregnant. I considered abortion because obviously, if I had wanted a child at this point in my life, I wouldn't have been on the IUD.... My husband and I ultimately decided to keep the baby because we have the support of our family and friends and we feel stable in our relationship. However, even in my case, there are days when I still question my decision to keep the baby... Like, how different would my life be without this baby? Did I choose to have a baby too early in my life? Will I be a good mother? Will my career suffer because of this decision.
Two sides of the same coin.
Like you said; it is not regret. You just will always wonder, what if. It is natural.
It is an extremely personal decision and you are very brave for sharing your story. I wish you many days of blessings and peace.
Stephanie's Musings are you pregnant now or did you already have the baby?
So qutrille : I just had my baby ten days ago! :D
17sunnyhour : My husband and I waited till AFTER we got married to start having sex, and my IUD was already in place on our wedding night... Am I supposed to have a sexless marriage, then? I accept the fact that having sex creates the chance of having a child, even if protection is used. But pregnancy and a child should not be punishment for having sex.
Stephanie's Musings congratulations! 😍. Being a mother has its ups and downs, but it is extremely empowering and rewarding. Make sure you form a support group around you. I don't have a lot of family so I had to look for that. Don't forget to still be you!
Shut the fuck up 17Sunny.
I wish medical professionals would stop saying congratulations. They KNOW that it's not always good news for everyone. They can give us that information without being patronizing.
J Money because they are happy
You seem like a good person. I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. I believe with all my heart that you would have kept the baby if you had more support from your boyfriend. As much as I am against abortion, everyone has a different story and yours just breaks my heart. To be 19 and having to go through all that, I hope and pray that you're doing better and it doesn't haunt you for the rest of your life❤️
From someone who is pro-life personally, you seem like a very intelligent and conscientious young lady who knows what she wants out of life. Stay strong and thanks for being brave enough to post this video for young girls who may need guidance and comfort. God bless and always look forward!
So many more women have gone through this than I originally thought. Thank you for sharing your story, nothing scarier than having to own up to the decision you choose. From one human being to another, I’m proud of you.
I passed through it as well as you, just a year ago, I was just 16. I just gotta say that.. it’s definitely the most difficult decision I’ve ever done and I’m pretty sure the saddest in my life. Omg I can’t believe that I’ve did it, I can’t even realise at all at this point that actually happened. I was forced to did it even I don’t want it, the guy and I broke up just a month before I discover my pregnancy so he obviously don’t took the notice so good, I was so shocked, so angry and so sad, but the saddest thing was the way he treats me, was horrible; we dated by a year and he supposed to love me and in that bad times he acted like an asshole. When I went to the ultrasound I heard the heartbeats and I remember how my body get cold because I catch that my 6 weeks baby was alive! At that point I changed my mind, I wanna have my baby but I obviously haven’t the support I needed. Those days were terrible, I still remember it so fresh. Something incredible it’s that I don’t even find relief or peace after the abortion, I felt worst and worst...that was just the beginning of my forever pain. I cried so much, and i still do it, it was my baby, my kid, I would never know him/her or see it’s cutie face. At that moment my decision it’s going to define my life, sometimes I regret it but also my “relief” is that my angel is in a better place, it wasn’t my moment to became a mother, I was a 16 year old girl alone with none support so...
My experience is been so sadly, Just a months ago i finally start learning how to handle it, comforting myself by the phrase “your baby isn’t suffering”
I most say I’ve became a Stronger girl, I’ve forced myself to keep fighting, nobody is gonna take you out of pain so you only have yourself and you decide if you transform bad things that happened to a better change, or sank into the deep.
I would keep in mind my baby forever, recently I tattooed the number of beats in the first ultrasound.
Girl I just wanna say you’re such a good and stronger woman, only you know how much pain you felt and how difficult it was, but keep fighting and don’t give up, life has their painful moments but then you will find relief and happiness again.
i'm 18 and my boyfriend just left for college. i found out i was pregnant and i feel so alone as no one knows and i truly feel there's no one to tell that could understand. im scared and yours is the first video i saw coming on here for some kind of compass. thank you for sharing your story.
How dare anyone try to judge this girl, especially if you’ve never been in this situation - You people litrally have no idea.
@@tommy5332 Yeah all these feminist do is lie and strawmam.
well she sorta killed a human being
@@millihylands9529 Not sorta she straight up murdered.
But she had holiday plans
leoni rads you’re logic is hilarious. Let’s just kill them now so they don’t have the chance to go through hardships later. I’m sure they are very thankful.
Everyone is a cluster of cells....
this is honestly the best comment. 10/10
Kashi Sinha I don’t think you understand buddy, try reading it again but slower
That’s how they justify euthanizing homeless dogs and cats, too. “Just a dog.” No, that dog wanted to live, and idiot humans don’t spay and neuter, or buy from a breeder rather than adopt. “But it’s right for ME.” (abortion, buying from a breeder, not spaying/ neutering). Disgustingly selfish. It’s the most vulnerable - the babies and animals - who get hurt the most from people like this woman.
angiee, you are a cluster... cluster... awe, it's to easy.
A cluster of cells, what does that even mean? The real question is, when do you consider for life to begin? At conception or at birth?
A baby is a baby no matter if you want it or not. THAT IS THE REALITY.
I am honestly... Baffled. Im watching this video because I am late for my period and im kind of having a mental breakdown about the possibility of being pregnant. Your story has not only made me a little more comfortable and has made me stop freaking out so badly, but has also helped me get an idea of what was going on and what could happen if I go down that path. Thank you for sharing your story...
@Just Me For he who said, “Do not commit adultery,” also said, “Do not murder.” If you do not commit adultery but do murder, you have become a transgressor of the law.
Her video had the exact opposite effect on me.
I remember watching thus video after i found out i was pregnant with my 2nd child....i did NOT want another baby....but i had her. Shes is 9 months old today and im so grateful for her and for my 2 year old daughter as well. We all make different decisions...but im so so so happy i had my baby
Chelsea Hansell i am in the same situation right now. I have a son turning one on the 9th this month. and I am pregnant again. I have no idea what to do and I have to decide tomorrow.
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@@laurenelizabethfox1440 did you keep your baby
Catherine Rothe yes I did!!! He turns 7 months next month. And I’m so glad I did!
@@laurenelizabethfox1440 💙💙💙💜💜💜💜💜❤️❤️❤️
I went through a very similar situation. I had an abortion, but a medical one. I wish I did not have to make that choice, but I could not have been able to provide for my baby. I regret it, I miss being pregnant, I will never know their gender, I'll never see their face and I'll never be able to hold them in my arms. It was the hardest decision of my whole life and I don't know how I will ever get over it. But I also know that I could not have been able to give them the life they deserved. And I was also not willing to grow my baby inside of me for 9 months and then give them up.
Women have to make the hardest decision of their whole lives, make it quick and take full responsibility for their actions and get called killers by people who will never be able to walk in their shoes. Stay strong women. Only you know what's best for yourselves.
" And I was also not willing to grow my baby inside of me for 9 months and then give them up." Why not? How could killing the baby ever have been better than giving them up for adoption? If you had to change residences where you can have no pets, would you euthanize your pet or at the very least attempt to place it in a shelter? Most people would take the pet to a shelter and let it live , how much more should one do that with a human being. I am sorry to be so blunt but frankly you are still in denial and rationalizing what you did. "Only you know what's best for yourselves." No, I'm sorry God created humans and He understands what is best for us. That is why there is a prohibition against murder in the 10 commandments. I wish you no harm but you will never find peace until you realize what you have done and cry tears of repentance and call to God for forgiveness. I have a female relative that had an abortion in part because of the conniving of her husband and the gynecologist. She never acknowledged her part in what she did and has developed a fairly serious mental illness. I have another friend who had an abortion, after some years of having no peace she repented and spends her Saturdays in front of Planned Parenthood begging women not to go through with their scheduled abortions. She has peace and forgiveness and she wants to prevent women from going through the hell she went through. Now she has the satisfaction that dozens of beloved children are alive and loved by their parents either biological or adoptive because of her counsel. Unfortunately that one child died but God has prevented the lives of dozens from being lost through her.
4Veritas I don’t believe in God and I don’t let religion rule my life. I am sorry for what I did, but I’m also rational and know I had no other choice. I’m not judging you for believing in God and following his/her rules, but please stop thinking that that is the only way to live and be accepting of other people’s ways of living, just like God teaches.
4Veritas Abortion was practiced in the Bible if a woman was found to be guilty of cheating on her husband. Read your Bible instead of pulling nonsense out of your ass.
Francesca Villani Thank you for sharing your story. 💛
Hornnnnn!
You saved your pregnancy test. That says more than any words. Please, someday when you understand the true magnitude of this moment in your life, remember that we can only make decisions based on where we are at that moment in time. I hope when you do start a family you will be able to use this memory as an impetus to better love your children. And that you have the courage to tell them. Much love to you.
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Rachael Ackerman i agree... so much sadnes and epmtiness... poor girl.
Written beautifully
Lmao the fuuuuuck??? This whole comment was wild. You dead ass sat there and thought typing this would be a good idea, and that hitting send was an even better one. Ew.
@@november11thh you are stupid.
I'm against abortion but this story makes me more sympathetic to women who get them, I support sex edd, contraption and improving foster care and adoption system
Thank you sooooooo much for sharing.
I've always wondered what I would do.
I've never heard any info like this.
Can't thank you enough. 🐕
Anyone with a brain or any commen sence can clearly see the pain in her eyes and can here her voice cracks. And the fact that she kept the pregnancy test with date she found out written on it and the pictures says way more than her trying to convince herself that she didn't regret it.
u literally must not have a brain since you can’t spell ‘common’ or ‘sense’
@@mckinnonbrown8009 great counter points you made there..
@@karenflores4987 im not arguing im just saying people have these opinions but arent educated enough to spell.......seems their points are probably not educated either.
@@mckinnonbrown8009 you had spelling mistakes there too. I still understood your reply. When you are typing from a cell phone at least for me it's annoying to go back and fix every single typo. I disabled autocorrect because sometimes it changes the words and it's not helpful. Anyway, what I am trying to say is that you can have a more productive conversation by focusing on your counter points rather than pointing out spelling errors or typos. That gets nowhere. This is platform for exchange of ideas, opinions, etc. Everyone here is trying to share their comment or point of view. That is the purpose. There is a lot of educated people here. Just because they don't have the same views as you means they are ignorant or uneducated.
@@karenflores4987 I didn't have any spelling mistakes- I just used 'chat speak'. I will spell out the word 'you' instead of using 'u' since it is apparently difficult for you to understand. I am a lot higher educated than most people commenting on this post and being educated has helped me understand the implications of women's rights opposed to 'i'm christian, so this is murder'. I don't have any qualms against religion- I find that a lot of people blindly follow it as a moral guideline despite the fact it was written thousands of years ago. Anyways, I will not ever have an abortion because I am a responsible adult and I'm tired of arguing with people on this page who don't even have the slightest idea of how women's bodies work. People are so ignorant on here. anyways. have a good day.
thank you for this. i am currently 16 & just found out i am pregnant from a rape incident that has happened about a month ago. my mom and i came to the conclusion that abortion is the best option for me. i wanted to understand the experience before, during, and afterwards of abortion, and your video has helped with a lot. thank you so much.
Princess Yazz wow I'm 16 to getting my abortion tomorrow
Lots of love to you ❤ Hope it goes well and puts you on the path toward healing from what happened to you.
ThickMaNi how did it go , did everything go well? I’m planning on going tomorrow as well
Please tell me you haven’t done it yet my god
julissa villa everything went great !! Just lots of bleeding like a period how did URS go love
I'm Pro-Life, but I feel for you, and hope you've had time to heal.
As do I. Her actions are not excused and we're still extremely despicable, she killed a human being. But the Industry takes advantage and lies to women. I hope she is better
@@LA-fr4gp what is wrong with you?
@@thanoswife1254 nothing- there is nothing excusable about taking a human life for your own selfish reasons. That is a very low and despicable action and on many levels she asked for this. She wouldn’t feel this way if she didn’t know she killed a human child. I do hope for her healing. I do. But this video was basically her trying to justify what she very clearly knows was wrong at heart. You cannot ever excuse the killing of an innocent life.
@@LA-fr4gp everyone has their reasons, does this affect you at all? Is your life changed forever from this? are you going to adopt the kid? are you helping her at all?
@@LA-fr4gp so there IS something wrong with you
Thank you for sharing, this is so traumatic for women, those men are dicks. I broke up with a guy because he made his ex-girlfriend do such a thing ( and they were in their 30s), don't be with a guy who's heartless to his own baby
Girls here’s one thing you need to remember, if your boyfriend/husband wants an abortion but you want the baby, keep the baby because it’s growing inside of you
And if the baby's daddy wants to keep the baby and you want to abort, keep the baby. Because the baby is just as much the dad's child as they are yours. A baby has their own DNA and is therefore their own being.
@@beetlebugball also, it's not his fault he can't carry the baby he wants!
If the guy is pro-abortion, you are just a means of sexual gratification to him. Dump him and find a real man.
Man, sorry you have to deal with this comments section. Don't let people make you feel guilty for this.
I’m sorry to hear about this. I myself was pregnant last year. I missed my period for three months. But got it then didn’t get it. I deeply pray that God helps you through this and talk to someone for extra help or your friends or whom ever. I love you. I’ll pray for you.
I went threw my abortion the same year at the same age as you and years later it still hurts. I was around the same amount of weeks as you and it was also surgical so I completely understand how you feel. I hope you are doing well. I had 2 miscarriages after and it was hard. People love to say “Don’t so something you will regret” but they never understand that you don’t know what you will regret till it’s too late. God bless you and forgive yourself 😘
You did the right thing for you. I am proud of you for sharing this to help other women when they are having to choose.
I, too, had an abortion at 19. We need to keep this option available, and too many are trying to take this away.
+Marina Munuera-Esteller when you become pregnant is shouldn't become a choice.
+Marina Munuera-Esteller the choice should come before the pregnancy
+Marina Munuera-Esteller I'll stop spreading hate when women getting abortions stop spreading their legs.
+Marina Munuera-Esteller Stfu you stupid ass femifuck with shit for brains. This is not about knowing how it feels and I can give a fuck less how it feels because I dont need to know and I wont have to.
+Marina Munuera-Esteller No I dont have to know youre right because im not a woman. How about you stop calling others ignorant when you are the one shaming men because they dont know what its like to have babies.
Well spoken and brave girl to share her story.
a brave girl wouldn't have killed her unborn child so she could go to Europe
myintx Dont like abortion? Dont have one. Its not your body. Its not your life. Its not your business.
"Don't like slavery? Don't own a slave! It's not your back that would be hurt working in the fields all day - it's mine! Slavery is legal. It's not your business" - slave owner from when slavery was legal.
You cannot compare the two... Enslaving millions of people. To women making a personal and private decision to terminate an unwanted pregnancy. Do you not understand making abortion illegal would help absolutely nobody? It would then become the responsibility of the government to monitor every pregnancy that happens in the whole country. And to force those women to carry the pregnancy to term... Forcing people to have children they dont want. Retraumatizing rape and incest victims by forcing them to give birth is wrong and unamerican. Dont know bout you but thats not how i want my government to spend my tax dollars. There is a laundry list of things that are much more important. ALSO it would only cause women to have back alley illegal abortions that are not safe. Making something illegal doesnt make it go away, it only creates an underground black market for it. And when it comes to healthcare that is not a good situation for anybody, In my beliefs there is only cons to making abortion illegal.
And again its nobodys fucking business. People should be allowed to do what they want with their own lives and bodies as long as it doesnt affect other people... and no i dont consider the cluster of cells growing in her uterus a person yet.
- We already have post viability abortion laws in the US an no one is monitoring every pregnancy...
- I don't care how "personal and private" a decision is. If it involves killing an innocent human being, it should be ILLEGAL.
- Making abortion illegal would give the many human beings a chance at a full and productive life - you know the ones who had their lives "terminated" because they were unwanted.....
- Infanticide, murder and anti-abortion laws are about PROTECTING vulnerable human beings... If you don't want a woman or a man to ever feel 'forced' to do something then you must be OK with getting rid of infanticide laws... if a man alone with a newborn wants to go party, you're 'forcing' him to take his precious time and effort to hand off his baby SAFELY to someone else before he goes to the party.. if he's late it's because the law Is forcing him to give a damn..... You see, it's about PROTECTING...
- Ripping a human being to shreds because they are unwanted is what is un-American.
- Again, by your own logic, there should be no murder or infanticide laws. Because some people do it anyway.... Well, most people DO obey the laws. And we cannot keep something that is wrong legal just because some might do it anyway.
- "People should be allowed to do what they want with their own lives and bodies as long as it doesnt affect other people... " Slaves weren't considered full people in the eyes of the law at one point in our history. Guess we never should have made killing a slave illegal (yes, states could do that - even while slavery itself was legal).... I also guess you're against post viability abortion restrictions as legally an unborn child isn't a human being? Oh, and while we're at it - animal cruelty laws need to go... someone ripping the ears off their own pet doesn't affect other people.... Unborn children are HUMAN BEINGS. They are worth protected.
It would be so nice for you to have a CZcams channel. I think I would really enjoy it.
It's all done now, all you have to do is accept it and don't be hard on yourself. You did the right thing for YOURSELF.
It's not that simple. And that statement definitely does not push the feelings away
A baby is definitely not a cluster of cells. An unborn child at 6 weeks has a beating heartbeat and active brain waves. Pro life advocates are wrong to condemn you and I'm sorry for how they treat people.
I'm pro life and I promise we are not all Condemning.
I got pregnant at 14 now I’m 21 with 2 boys and they are my world so happy I had them 🥰
That’s not something to be proud of.
inuyashakarin mind your business. It’s HER life. Not yours.. the fuck
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Lola Hart mind your own then 😂. You should never be proud that you’re pregnant at 14. You just ruined your life, and that parasites life as well. You’re going to struggle the rest of your miserable life trying to raise a parasite.
inuyashakarin how did she ruin her life if she seems pretty stable and happy but go off I guess 🤷🏽♀️ I’m 18 about to be 19 and pregnant did I ruin my life too ? Because I’m stable and happy as fuck lol weirdo
Thank you so much, I'm feeling everything you said you were feeling and this is the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with. I wish I just stopped existing and I wasn't stuck with this seemingly impossible decision. I see all the people I knew in school having children/getting pregnant and it makes me feel so pathetic thinking I can't carry on with it but everyone else can, makes me wonder if I'll ever be good enough. I really needed to hear someone who gets it and I'm so grateful you made this video, thank you from the bottom of my heart.
You are always good enough just the way you are♡
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Thanks for sharing your story and I feel so sorry that you have to go through all of that. Some times when we are young we think that having a baby is the worst in the world and don't realize how amazing is being a mother. I did the same thing and for many years I didn't even though about it, but one day I started to think about my life..., all things I have to go through; think back about all things, good and bad, and then I remember that moment and it was like... what? I did that? omg, how I could block that from my mind for so many years? I started feeling like the worse person on the world, I still don't recognize myself. Every day I ask God and my baby to forgive me, but I don't think that I can forgive myself. It is very painful and I will always regret. I encourage all women to defend your kids' life no matter what.
I got pregnant and had my abortion around the same days only May 27 2015, I was also 19. Much different experience I wish where I went was as professional and nice to me as they were to you. Tho knowing it is just as hard for you to move forward as it is for me and your feeling towards it relieves everything that it wasn’t just the poor medical care I received and if I had the best treatment and most accommodating procedure I would feel still the same about it. It is always hard to know if you did the right something when you can’t see into the future as it would be
I don't know that I believe you're happy with your choice, because I see it still weighs heavy on your heart, but I DO believe you are trying to make the best of the choice you made. You understand that you can't go back and you have to make the most of what you have now. Guilt can keep us from our present and our future, and that can be paralyzing, and you are not choosing that for yourself right now. I am a Christian and pro-life - but I would never dare to cast a stone. I would not presume to believe I could know the struggles you have worked through. You seem sensitive and tender and I thank you for being so frank and for sharing your story. You are right, this life is a journey and were are the sum of our experiences - the good and sad. I wish you all the very best and wish I could have given you hugs in those times you felt so alone. Thank you for being brave enough to talk about this very difficult subject