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I am a 32 year old, who has never been with anyone. Wonder what kind of benefit do I have? I'm sorry, but I'm not the only one in this shoe, and what you said is probably only true to a smaller portion of men...
The problem is that too many messed up people have children and then the children suffer. I think to have a child to heal your traumas is a terrible idea...
The problems is likes attract. So typically unhealthy people couple up with unhealthy people leaving the child(ren) with no positive examples. If, however, one or both of those parents can mature then all is not lost. Still not ideal
It’s true, ducked up people duck up their kids. Having kids doesn’t force them to mature or improve like she thinks.
From a natural point of view this is not the problem. The problem is that these kind of offspring will be raised by somebody else through taxes. So we reward those who can't take care of them self and punish those who actually should be the ones reproducing.
I was just about to comment this!!! Lol she shouldn’t be encouraging lazy men to have babies to fix their problem! Absolutely NOT lol. Like you said messed up people are just going to raise messed up kids! Ahh hopefully her saying that isn’t going to encourage girls to get pregnant 😖
Totally agree. My so called Mum is one example. Instead of adjusting herself to be a better person, she's trying to sabotage her kids life as well, no wonder she's alone now.
Most men are not enjoying multiple women. Most men are alone. The revolution didn’t benefit men. It benefits a few men
+ women they get to sleep with men out of their league
My advice is one woman all I can handle for a long term healthy relationship was my solution ❤✊🏼
Hell no, having kids is not a solution for fixing broken people. Also just because a guy had kids doesnt mean hes responsible. More often than not, he was dragged into this decision to get married and get kids by his ex. I dated one recently who appreared all mature and responsible after his divorce and 2 kids. Yet he says kids are a burden. Sad. Also it already sounds wrong that you approach a relationship as one that will end at some point. Why not ensure that it lasts?
That's not what she is saying. Re-listen
Because every relationship ends. Either when one person leaves, or one person dies. The notion that relationships are permanent can lead to unrealistic expectations and poor mate choices.
@@kellygreenii maybe its time everyone take their own responsibility for who they are and what they want and work on their crap? Because otherwise we can keep going forever from person to person, blaming it all on relationships themselves. We create them and what they are are reflection of us
@@How.Dare.You. Long past time….
@@How.Dare.You. You keep talking about people who are not self aware that's why it's important to work on YOU, so YOU become self aware and realize that it makes NO sense being with someone who is NOT self aware
You nailed it Shadia! I am ahocked how my infancy made me choose the broken woman everytime.
Your background may have an influence on the choices that we make however that does not relieve us of the responsibility in those choices. You should always have the mindset to recognize errors and make better decisions. Any relationship has its risk and can turn sour over time. Nonetheless that does not mean that it was a bad choice but rather the relationship itself was lacking the skills of viability.
I would argue to bring back shaming and consequences
Especially for women who lost their place in the world.
Yeah and should be applied in all gender
Thank you so much for showing up during the time in history, speaking the truth if people like it or not, who don't support this truth, their lives and children are the outcome of the choices they have made and how is that working for them? What a thought, once again, thanks for being the best, stay blessed and let's go! 💪💪💪💪💪💪💪
I kind of wish there was a compulsory test of emotional maturity that a person had to do before being eligible to become a parent. If we treated the right to become responsible for another human being, just like we do when it comes to driving - needing a license; maybe the world would have been a healthier place.
It would be a good idea. Many traditions here in Africa discourage or encourage young adults to marry after having been assessed by an aunt (father's sister) if she's a girl or by an uncle (mum's brother) if it's a boy. The young adult would be encouraged to live with aunt or uncle for a period of time. It's all kind of going away now because of the city life we're all living and tertiary education and employment at a young age. Cities tend to be too liberal for our liking.
Also with all the wokeness going on in the world the people who would like set the "exams" or assessments are likely to be woke anyway and to pass them you might only have to show your gender pronouns😅
Don't worry if the current birth rates continue in the next 20 years the economy's will crash anyway
It’s been a decades long demoralization of the family unit, marriage etc. A carefully planned and executed psychological warfare to accomplish this especially here in the United States.
And who exactly are carrying this out?
Feminism messed up everything
@@jeromejamies3641 agreed. It gave a very skewed perception to many women and even some men in buying into the false narrative that women were oppressed, needed to bring home an income because men weren’t “capable enough” to provide for a family with security, and wealth etc. The Ida of even emasculating men only for women to now complain their men are too feminine. Today women are still making less salary than men per hour regardless these women now are head of households whether they are single parents or not. Women are now exhausted from the do it all/have it all idea, relationships/dating now being approached with negativity, lack of trust, people thinking they need coaches and programs etc to level up their adequacy. It’s turned the world on it’s head and exactly what they carefully crafted to essentially destroy the family/marriage/bearing children/traditional structure roles.
Also in Europe. Here across the pond it's even worse. They don't even hardly ever bother to get married in Germany. Just long term living together with kids. Unbelievable how people call their SO "my boyfriend" or "my girlfriend" even after 30 years and having kids together. No respect for the sanctity of marriage anymore.
Excellent discussion! Thank you Sadia 🥰
I love how it's always turned back on men being bad and women being taken advantage of no matter what. But yet men are the ones that are being toxically dumped on and told how s***** they are all the time
You are the leaders in society. Sorry.
Parental alienation I feel is a case by case basis. If your child’s father was abusive in any form, keeping the child out of an unhealthy abusive environment than to just drop them off to dad because they need their father is a green flag for both mother and child. Parents who block their children out of the sheer need for control and power over the other parent otherwise is a red flag. Robbing the child of a completely adequate parent and their relationship with them is most definitely egregious and psychologically damaging to the child and a huge red flag.
This!!! She is spot on about many things, but completely wrong here. It is better to have the child away from an abusive/toxic/dysfunctional father than to keep communication and connection simply because he's the dad. I am currently living this and I know I am making the better choice by keeping him out of her life. I did what she suggested for 10 years and the psychological and physical damage he instilled in her because I wanted her to "have her dad in her life" has been challenging and heartbreaking for me. I'm making up for it now. ❤
@@ericanoelani all the best to you and your daughter. Yes, keep listening to your heart and intuition. Its very hard when you have others telling you to do “what’s best” and can cloud your own intuition and wear you down. I’m glad you rose above that and took your own cue to do what’s right for your daughter 💕
Fun fact, psychology says this in incorrect. Children with low end fathers still turn out having lower addiction, suicide and crime rates by about 20x single mother households. This can be offset by strong male role models.
I love how yall mirror body language in your conversations. Chris x Sadia, finally healthy role models in the social commentary space.
I don’t think social media personalities of any kind should be role models to be honest.
Sadia for president! Or something! This is what ppl need to hear! Thank you Sadia!!
I wish more women could understand that when you put yourself in those kinds of situations, it really is the opposite of feminism. Men prey on the fact that you have low self-esteem to manipulate you and act in ways that's not beneficial to you as a woman. It's sad to see this so prevalent in our society.
It’s one of the most degrading things you can do to yourself. Wish I could go back and shake my younger self.
Men wanting to sleep with you means nothing. It’s incredibly cheap.
@@blondie9422 its cheap and low self esteem to stop ur sexual preferences just bcz other people what they think about u.imagine living only one short life and prevent urself from sleeping around.what a disgrace and sad situation
its low self esteem to stop and prevent ur sexual preferences just bcz other people what they think about u.imagine living only one short life and prevent urself from sleeping around.what a disgrace and sad situation.building a prison inside ur mind is a big lost and wrong thing.u have to express urself.its desire its sexual liberation.if u are not ok with it just don't push ur extreme conservatism culture it's completely wrong ideology
@@bakarspecialboy8816is that your goal in life as a human? Just be an animal?
A lot of the problem is probably excessive porn consumption. Gary Wilson from your brain on porn even mentioned something called morphing sexual tastes. This means that the more porn a person watched, the more likely he/she were to move onto extreme territories to get this dopamine high. It's a novelty factor there. Many guys into trans porn who quit ended up going back to women only in real life.
Your comments about bisexuality are spot on 🎯. If only these women and men would admit it and their low self esteem to impress the man or in the case of bisexual men who’ve experienced a childhood sexual abuse from the same sex use the experience to understand it was wrong and repeating the act to explore sexual satisfaction from it is also a mental and physical unhealthy cycle.
Yep the simpsons, George Lopez, these funny sitcoms always influence marriages families etc
@@CasperRc81 💯🔥spot on
If men benefited so much from the sexual revolution, how come the rate of sexless men has trippled since then? As usual, when most women say 'men this, men that', you need to replace 'men' with 'the men I want'...and that's typically not many men at all.
Right. She's talking about herself.
"I dont know who tricked women.. but its probably a man... " wow, you can not resist the temptation to blame men.. I have no words.
So sensitive imagine being this feminine as a man
You should expect from a man to give solutions and from a woman to play the victim...nothing groundbreaking to see here...just trust them to be themselves...
Yeah I really take issue with what this guy says about dating preferences with regards to trans identified people. Most straight people wouldn’t want to date one because attraction isn’t just physical it’s a biological process a lot of which is subconscious and hormonal, I mean most straight people are looking for a partner to have children with wether they are conscious of it or not. And what he said about Blair white looking more like a girl than most girls wtaf is that meant to mean? You mean Blair looks like a hyper-sexualised version of a woman that’s being pushed on everyone these days, real women will always look more like women or girls than Blair white, even in sweat pants and no makeup, even butch women, still project obvious femininity because it’s biological. what is he talking about.
Maam is epitome of grace
17:30 everything she said about single mom's is on point here. The ones you want are those who are responsible and still maintain a good coparent relationship. I still don't like that they maintain contact with ex's or the additional responsibilities associated with being with a woman who has children by other men, which turns into a weird catch 22, so I avoid dating women who have children with other men altogether (unless he died).
Wow, she actually said what I've been saying for years 😂
Your wisdom is priceless. Thank you.
I like it when Sadia throws in British colloquialisms.
"If a man single, never married, no kids and he's 40, he's chosen that peter pan lifestyle. Are you sure you want to be with him?"
Sadia's generalized statement there reminds me of Rich Cooper's (who I don't usually agree with) quote "Women don't care about your struggles, they hang out at the finish line and pick the winners."
Not all women. Not all men.
This interview was amazing!
I think a big hurdle to having kids is how expensive it is. Affordability for everything has become really difficult, at least in America...
In Africa it's a million times worse.
Sadia is so right about women who did not have a present father.
You TWO have some serious chemistry....nice salt n peppa team❤
This is 100% accurate, I had my daughter at 19 which I don't regret today, It was hard then cos my baby daddy denied being her father. I grew up with a single dad who made sure I worked my ass off to cater for my daughter. He did support financially and allowed me and my daughter live with him till she turned 18. I was very particular about the man I needed as a husband but I waited till my daughter turned 18. Now, I have an awesome husband who was previously married with 2 daughters. We make a perfect match. Thank God.
this was very good convo
So smart out of the gate!
never thought about it in that way
1) Gender is not a social construct. She was about to tell about the twins that strongly support my statement.
2) a man with 2 women can produce 2 pregnancies at the same time. A woman with 2 men can only be pregnant once at a time. There are a whole lot of biological reasons for women to share a man that do not work in the opposite direction.
3) physical attraction to the opposite gender is biologically based on that it's how the species reproduce itself. Never mind all the hysteria about social construct etc.
Thanks for all of your comments your amazing can you make a video where you explain why the most men wanna marry virgins and the most woman even when they are great don't care if the man is a virgin or not?
From a personal experience I had a partner who wanted only me and wanted to Marry me however wanted me to watch him with other men and was always going to look at men for sexual pleasure. He did not want me involved but wanted me to watch. I was not okay with this and he accepted that but wanted to look at that still. It became as you mentioned a you don’t want me I can’t do this for you situation. I left him to find himself was this correct?
Phones and computers are the biggest problem.
CLEFT- I SEE IT DARLING.
Great Video,
After the mother of my child I hated women in general and never wanted another relationship 7 or so years later I’m now married and expecting my son it’s all on you fellas nobody is going to save you or help you
the epitome of being a high value man would be follow saida's advice and then get to marry her imagine lmao
The problem is that you can’t say that that kind of shaming is wrong while at the same time calling men harassers and worse and canceling them for engaging in sexual behavior while at the same time saying that it’s okay for women to do whatever they want sexually. They need to be called harassers as well and canceled and said to be engaging in inappropriate behavior when they do it as well if this country is going to continue to do this to men.
The difference is harassers are men who don't understand boundaries and consent. You can't just call a woman who feels like consenting to sex a harasser
@@jasminb7644 This is nonsense. Harassers have nothing to do with boundaries and consent and the same thing can be said about women who engage in sexual behavior. Women aren’t asking for consent when they’re revealing themselves in public, approaching “hot guys”, initiating a sexual encounter with hot guys, etc. This harassing nonsense is hypocritical and misandrist and effectively criminalizes male sexuality only in order to maintain gynocentric myths and narratives. What you really meant to say is that harassers are men who aren’t mind readers and only men are punished for taking chances and not being mind readers. It’s absurd, illogical and ridiculous on its face.
31:04 That would be te right approach, te problem is that it makes sense 😂😂😂
As always very interesting discussion and shared opinions Sadia. Lots of useful information but with 1 i tend to disagree: about men being single and live less 4y or be less happy. Thats surely not the case in my life. When you are single you have more time to spend for your dreams you live healthier sport more dedicate more time to your interests and also career. Your career is more succesfull than being married as the married guy needs to share his time with wife and kids, he has no time to di sport so much or eat healthy as his life is more busier and he lives for family rather than for him. Being single is a choice not the destiny.
To add more my insight this guy who did research about men and conpared their life how long the lived. He compared basically generation of men that grew up in a completely diff environment not in current time when there are so many possibilities for single people. Thats a big fail. Wait another 20-30years and then make analysis who lived longer and you will be surprised a lot
Marriage and children don't give men the will to live, but it increases it. Though, as Schopenhauer put it, the will to live is evil, driving us against our own self interest, which is a lack of suffering.
What in the world is a relationship?
Either you are married or you are not.
And if you are not and it is not heading that way a relationship has no significance other then utilizing people, using them as objects for ones own gratification. This cannot be defined as a relationship.
I always wanted to know how to spot loose women. No more dry spells
I straight up predicted you wouldn't see it as a positive for women to have kids because I was trying to think about the most misogynistic position I could think of and you do not disappoint lol.
BTW there are a number of reasons why male bisexuality is not as acceptable but yeah womens homophobia is a part of that.
Seeing other queer adults existing and thriving is huge for us. I didn't know that femme lesbians were a thing til I was an adult or let alone trans lesbians.
I find most Bi women tend to default to heterosexuality cuz men are simply more available and flirting / connecting with other women is a skill with a learning curve to those only experienced in heteronormativity. I experience this myself as a homoflexible lesbian, I break men off a piece every once in a while cuz I like free drinks and I know I won't catch feelings. Sometimes I just wanna have some fun and be touched even if the chances of disappointment are sky high.
One of the more obvious ways to tell this lady is a grifter is the way she so confidently adds insight into the sort of things people get jealous about. Yes some people experience more jealousy towards people in their lane, some more jealousy towards people who could offer their partner something totally different. There may or may not be trends there but she just says that it's DEFINITELY only one thing.
That's just not the way Queer or Consensual Non Monogamy works. Plenty of women are plenty turned on at the thought of their husbands doing very gay things. It's quite beautiful the nurturing safe space those couples give each other to be themselves in a consensual and ethical manner.
The spartans didn't need adult content to make them gay, or the greeks, trans adult content wasn't responsible for two spirit people in Native American countries. Adult content is in no way responsible for the increase in people who feel safe enough to identify as queer.
If you do wanna talk about the trans unaliving rates your point just doesn't make sense. You're saying that since acceptance has gotten better theoretically that the unaliving rates should go down.
We've experienced being the scapegoat for American society since 2016. Acceptance of us is polarizing. As things have gotten better in some ways, they've also gotten a lot worse for us and more dangerous.
More than half the country is accepting us more than they ever have becomes the minority of the country has gotten hateful and dangerous towards us. That's what makes your bs little comparison make no sense because you can't prove causation.
Gorgeous woman, speaking confidently offering simple answers to complex problems, leading men down a dumb path while just spouting misogyny to line her wallet and boost her clout. I respect the hustle, I certainly hope she believes what she's saying cuz throwing my whole gender under the bus would make me feel some type of way about myself lol
I wonder how she found out about what bisexual women do and don't do. It's a bit sus.
Haha yeah
There is awareness of history, that is being missed in the first minute of this video. I live in America and I am aware that Sadia is not from America so I am not aware of her cultures history.
However in America and I am going to generalize, in "human history" women did not always have the opportunities to provide for themselves.
Now there is more of an opportunity for women to do so. With that if one is going to be successful (as quickly as possible) at providing for themselves.
They will need to focus on the activities that cultivate that success. (Schooling, studying, everything under the sun that comes with career).
Naturally in this case women are not putting as much focus on relationships and intimacy. There is a need for balance. However when you get to do something that wasn't an opportunity for so long, there really isn't balance.
I see a greater systematic force, meaning the system that we moved from creating this issue than a group of people convincing another group.
However I think Sadia is aware of this from her other videos.
Sadia, your view of transgender people and there identification is profound!
What if she used to go for older men (10-20 years older) when she was between the age of 18-22 but had an active father in her life? I'm asking because I'm currently dating such a girl and we differ 5 years and are both in our twenties. She had a few relationships on and of with people her age but also some where the age gap was a bit questionable and she only just recently started to realise how weird it actually was (one of the older men was even married and had children). Also when she was in her relationships she was loyal but in between she was quite the promiscious one. Just asking what the psychological base behind this behaviour could be out of interest. We're quite serious in our relationship and have stated our long term intentions (moving in together, kids, marriage, etc...) . I don't wanna be the guy that judges someone on their past and I'll always believe that people can change if they wanna make the effort but I would be lying to myself if i'd say that her dating past doesn't worry me. Anyone here with some experience or psychological expertise that could maybe clarify this a little bit. I'm just trying to be more understanding of her past, thanks in advance.
If you're ready for the baggages go for it. From my experience when you have a little break from your relationship for whatever reason don't expect her to not sleep with anyone else. Girls like her are very quick to move on when they feel like it because they're used on having options. As the old saying goes old habit dies hard.
She is the breath 😅 Holy
We have a 22 year old son that was born with Autism. He is still autistic and willl always be. I have never heard that autism was treatable or curable, as if it was a dicease.
He is the kindest, purest and most righteous person I know on earth, very polite and always ready to help, whenever he detects that help is needed.
Can you define or give more information about the statement given in this blog, that persons with autism have a cure or a treatment?
Maybe at least tell the viewers that it was a misinformation given.
Other than that, this blog is very educational and gives alot of psychological insights that only makes sense.
Many Older men prefer to marry(or remarry) women who have had kids if he himself wants to make sure that she would still be fertile enough to give him children.
Just because she had kids doesn't mean she will have kids again. For older and rich men they can always pay for surrogacy
Spot on on the parallel with anorexia
Omg. Why so much advertising?! It takes all the pleasure of watching it.
There are plenty of broken people who have kids and stay broken.
What about the women who what the man to be in the kids lifes, but the he will not step up with for his kids....Without sexual access to the woman??? What about that kind of man?? ❤
Would.
Yes, they need to bring back Slut-Shaming along with Fat-Shaming!
It’s like we live in Bizarro World nowadays, what’s wrong is right and what used to be right is now wrong. A man “feels” like he’s a woman so now he’s allowed to use a woman’s bathroom and compete in women’s sporting events? Huh, what?
That ugly man won that beauty pageant and the women that lost had to pretend like that were happy that that ugly dude dressed up as a woman rightfully deserved to win, SMH. All of those things that those women had to do, starve themselves so they could have a flat stomach to look good in bathing suits and dresses, pay for all sorts of classes to be prim, proper, walk correctly, have the right posture and prepare to answer those questions with lies that sound true.
That’s why Victoria Secrets is going back to their previous marketing campaign strategy and resuming its VS Angels Runway shows because obesity doesn’t sell lingerie.
"The patriarchy conned women into providing for men" that's fascinating
Hang on Sadia, if the kids father is a self-confessed alcoholic not willing to give up alcohol especially if he drinks & drives (X had 2 drink-driving convictions when my 3 kids were small) is definitely NOT a good idea allowing his children 2 B with him unsupervised⁉️
Hoping to find a mate
In relation to what he said, I think it is inaccurate depending on which culture or country he is talking about. For example, in Latin and European countries, women are not more inclined to bisexuality than men. This perception began in the late 90s in the US through low-class TV programs that depicted women kissing other women and attempted to normalize it. However, in other countries (I was born in Europe), this was considered disgusting. As Sadia mentioned, it originated from a man, and those programs featuring such content were created by men.
Dear Sadia, I'm curious about polygyny. Like in Islam, having more than one wife. I'm hoping for 4 of them. I get the impression, a wife tends to not like the others? I was thinking it would be the opposite, the gals I like, seems like they would really like each other. Will they kill me?
~ Nervous in USA
Look for women that like you enough to accept that first then worry about them liking each other
@@sadiapsychology They won't talk to me, all 4 of them. It's been years. I'm still trying. Thanks Sadia 🤠
Feminism is oppose to feminist??? She needs to make that make sense 😮
I can't believe this person calls herself a psychologist 😅😱
No actually push provockiture
Never have children ùntil you understand yourself and you found a sane woman. Stop the cycle of children born to trauma. I would never be happy passing on trauma
Question, what about the mother who refuses to let her kids see their dad because he continues to sleep around and have affairs, while he’s single, or he’s with other women living with another woman?
She’s abusing her own children by depriving them of their father. Kids need dads
Sadia, I disagree with your point here that if men engage with each other, there's nothing a woman can then do to compete. Whereas, if women engage with each other, it's not the same as when men engage because the men can still provide everything that women can.
I'm not sure why you would assume that not only do men have more familiarity with their own equipment than a woman possibly could, they somehow also have an equal degree of familiarity as women do with women's equipment. However, should you consult a lesbian on the matter, I wouldn't be surprised if they found such a suggestion comical.
if not having a kid is slow suicide, then when you get married, have child and then she leaves you for another man and take your kid....whats that? murder ....
What are she saying! Men who sleeps around are competing with their childish behavior it's in our DNA but most of us stay faithful although we have the ability to get women we stay faithful for various reasons not only because our wives may leave us although some men do it anyway despite their wives even warn them off the consequence
but one of the reasons why men hold back their urge to cheat they prioritize family.
are you guys a couple😍
I can only speak from myself. I grew up watching my parents in a co-dependent marriage of abuse. I must of been 5-6 years old when I decided not to get married and to not have kids. I got married and I re-created my childhood home and divorced two years later. The thing is that my generation of women I am 56 now, had to free ourselves from childish toxic men thinking they bought us not married us. 2000 years of oppression hidden in religion and patriarchy abuse and inequality and I am not saying to not be feminine or a slut that’s not liberation. You can keep your standards and enjoy a career. The women I know now with no career get abandoned with children and are poor because the guy took off or won’t pay child support. My mother 82 said if she could start over she would never get married or have kids ever again. Personally I think we can have morals with no religion because religion organized religions are money grabbing cults that create shame and war. Women have careers now which is there for safety and self actualization which makes toxic childish men angry he can’t abuse her like the good old days. As far as opening your legs open for anyone I agree that’s disgusting for both men and women. That’s not feminism that’s being a slut. I don’t believe in marriage it’s going to stop existing in 20 years or later because we will wake up to the commercial aspect and ownership of it. Not every woman can be a mom or a man a father. We all have to work through trauma first. Not because we are selfish but because we are responsible and we won’t use a child as a puppet for our healing. Everyone has their own individual path so don’t make everyone fit into your own ideologies. At this stage of my life doing therapy healing and awakening and finding a match is quit trying. Theirs more stupid people out there than intelligent ones. How many men are in therapy? Doing their inner work? Hardly no one. Not everyone who is single and childless is selfish or unhappy I can vouch for that!
16:23 men interpret single motherhood just right i think
Who is this gorgeous guy?
The new definition of a date according to men is showing up last minute at 10pm+ thinking that their going to get some with less than zero effort and investment. Idk who this makes dumber the woman who fall for this or the men who think women will fall for this to begin with.
Who persuaded women ? Andrea Dworkin
Sadia, why don't you explain this situation from a spiritual perspective?
1. Sadia generalizes alot. She said that a man who is 40 with no kids or marriage has chosen that lifestyle....and no 23 yr old is going to wake him up. First of all, that is very condescending and not a fair judgment. Some men actually choose a single life. Some men dont want kids but want a relationship. And some men want both but cant because dating in this era is not easy, it might be easy if you're a good looking person...am i correct Sadia? Or does everyone have the same dating opportunities? And the same can be said for women. You might be a psychologist/psychotherapist but you're not immune to exhibiting projection.
2. She's obviously a quick thinker but I think she should slow down, take her time, and question if the thought that she is about to say is logical and if it is backed by data, or is it just a feeling that she has. Is she intellectually fairminded? And is she intellectually humble?
3. I'm not here to bash Sadia. I must also give credit where credit is due... I agree with some things that she says because the statements seem logical to me....like when she said a 40 yr old man shouldn't or wouldn't really have anything in common with a 22 yr old...or when she said that age doesnt equate to maturity. And her argument on anorexia juxtaposed with the transgender issue makes sense as well. I agree with these statements.
4. I'm paying attention to her body language... and I think she is attracted to this guy and likes him.
5. From time to time she asks this guy personal questions and he avoids answering them. She's feeling him out, but he's dodging her. Maybe he's uncomfortable being vulnerable or maybe he doesn't think its appropriate to publicly discuss personal feelings and views. He seems to try to keep the conversation impersonal.
6. Very good conversation. Great food for thought. Certainly makes me think more about my self and about life. I love psychology. And I love deep meaningful conversations. All the best to both of them.
I agree with all said in the podcast, however, would like to give a Hint to Sadia, it actually happens a lot where a man/husband likes watching his woman/wife being taken by other guy. A tons of videos like that as well in pornography at 'Real homemade' sex videos apparently and then both of them would be having sex with that one woman and i've seen that more often then i would see like 2 girls with a man which im not into... Back in my younger version of self when i was consuming pornography, always liked to see One on One type of videos. In this comment not trying to pick a mans side or anything...Just saying how it was in my exp with which i was surprised. There is even a Website that exists only for so to say 'Homemade by real people' sex videos where i made an acc. and being followed by profiles who would ask to spend a night with him and his wife.
Relying on children for purpose and healing is a wrong reason to have children.
The deal for men is good????? No way in hell you're looking at the legal or emotional aspects of this
The question is :who is benefiting from spreading all this sickness in the society?
The ruling class who seek to demoralise and depopulate.
This guy likes you 😅
He’s just responding in accordance to directives from the universe… 🎇
What a non argument for risk reduction concerning marriage: "When you start trusting your decisions you are less likely to be fearful of these consequences. But when you make poor decisions, of course, everything is a risk." So being less fearful (subjectively) reduces the risk given with another subject? Female logic overtaking.
Who wants 4 more years at 80 plus?! 🤷♂️
She’s wrong about one thing. With the dating market in the state that its currently in many 40 year old men avoid the risk hence why they have taken the responsible decision not to have kids until they find a solid woman. There are many broken men who impregnated the wrong woman.
Why don’t you guys mention the economy?? Class?? How everything is expensive and it’s terribly difficult to afford a family.
S❤DI❤! YOU ARE A PEARL IN THE DESERT 🎉
There’s something you both don’t see. And it’s been tested on some and been proven to be true:
if women can be respectful of boundaries and can negotiate a proper s3x contract with their monogamous partner, men can stay faithful within the relationship.
Without this, all your arguments and though will not produce the proper outcome.
Never get married!!! As a man
Your making correlations where there is no solid evidence to do, they are very tenuous links. This is simply the view that the conservative Christian right take.
Too many commercials!!!!
When you say "trick women" you are immediately giving women victim status, again. Women have agency and they are responsible for their actions.
True just because men like to watch women . Men didn't make you to sit I front of the camera doing Sharon Stones act. Maybe in the movies😂
You two touched on the only true reality that is now here and not changing anytime soon due to MEN refusing/ being incapable of expanding beyond their primitive nature and previous societal conditioning to be more valuable to women than they’ve actually proven. The reverse is actually the truth when it comes to who needs who and who has proven to be more detrimental to whom:
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