UPDATED Found Out My Daughter Isn't Mine & I'm Marrying The Mother In 2 Weeks... Relationship Advice
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- čas přidán 1. 07. 2024
- About a month ago an old friend of my fiance came and told me my daughter might not be mine (1yr). She told me Sarah (fiance, fake name) confessed to her shortly after finding out she was pregnant that it might not be mine because at the time she had been sleeping with one other guy. Now that we are going to get married soon, she just couldn't keep this to herself and felt the need to tell me.
Story 1:
[Update] I (M24) found out my daughter isn't mine and I'm soon to wed my Fiance (25F)
Story 2:
Yesterday, my(33m) wife's (34f) best friend (female) contacted me and told me that her husband and my wife were having an affair and my 3yo daughter is actually his daughter.
Story 3:
I [30F] just found out my husband [32M] might be the father of my best friend’s [34F] child [4F]. What the hell do I do now?
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So the cheating fiance had the nerve to ask of her friend "How could an old friend betray me?" You're kidding, right?
She was an exnfriend for a reason. Friend knew the truth, OP fiance didnt like that she was being rightly judgedby, instead of "supported" by friend , and friend was ex communicated in case she ever told OP.
@James Stewart "welp, see I did. That's the problem. Now I've got these 2 paternity tests that say you didn't deserve that trust."
I know, right? I was like wtf???
Right? That friend cared more about OP than his own fiance who slept with 3 men. Other than the pregnancy, she also risked OP getting STD. Lady is disgusting.
Why do they always ask, what should I do, when the answer is very clear.
Your girlfriend cheated probably for years, got pregnant by another man, led you to believe the child is yours.
She is not the woman you think she is, what's there to think about??
Go ahead, marry her, you will make a great dad for other men's children because her cheating will not stop.
The wedding expenses are cheaper than alimony , losing your pension and property, and 18 years of child support .
Soooooooo true man. Count this as a blessing.
especialy if this guy is a christian its about who you love
@@duxinatux3687 if that man is a Christian he needs to double down on his faith as the Big Boss upstairs is truly looking out for him.
@@Canute87 heres the thing about christianity sometimes god puts you through rough spots christianity aint all sunshine and rainbows shit happens just cuz your christian dont mean nothing bad will ever happen to you and stuff like this makes you closer to God cuz thats the only person you can rely on in this situation
@@duxinatux3687 its true. I'm at, what I hope is the end of a very tough time in my life which I couldn't have gone through this alone. I feel much closer to God because of it.
Why aren't women who do this locked up for fraud!?
Asking women to be accountable for their actions is often considered misogyny in the US, Canada, and Britain.
@@kazikek2674 pretty much the whole west at this point.
Because vagina power
The patriarchy forced them into into a position where they had to be lying, duplicitous snakes. So, keeping in mind the patriarchy, holding them accountable would be an example of toxic masculinity.
@@wiseman5076 being held accountable for something you yourself do is not patriarchal. It’s called being an adult, and taking responsibility for your actions
Notice how the fiance made it about her when she was confronted? "how can my friend betray me?","Why didn't you trust me?", ect. Seems like cheaters are major narcissists doesnt it?
How I wished these bitches could explain that sentiment.
A woman said this that every baby when born should have a DNA test done by the hospital! Not just to check who the father is but most importantly to check for any genetic diseases so treatment can begins!!! GREAT ADVICE but have test done before signing birth certificate!!
In my state in the US if you are over 35 they advise you to get genetic testing while pregnant. If you are younger you have to request it. Unfortunately you have to pay for it. It’s not covered by health insurance. DNA testing should be done on every child. Unfortunately if you request it, you have to pay for it. Even the at home test here are 40-60 to buy them and another 180 for results. Which in the long run saves a life time of money and heart ache.
@James Stewart 😂
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100% agree!! People can't be trusted these days. Accountability of the woman and reassurance for the Man need to be there. As a fun part when the teenager goes all you arent my family phase you can bust out the certificate 🤣 Oh contrar kiddo.
It should never be a requirement--for lots of reasons, but it should absolutely be recommended by the doctor and considered "standard procedure".
Your former fiance would have gone to the grave with her little secret and more than likely cheated on you during the marriage. You dodged a HUGE bullet my friend. You saved yourself a lifetime of heartache and pain. I'd give her friend, who dropped the info in your lap, a great big sloppy kiss.
Indeed, what a great friend! I would like to have a friend like that as well who has my back.
@James Stewart sus
1st Story: Make sure you perform dynamic stretches before you run hell out of there. Buy a 12 pack for the friend who told you about this. The guy/gal is a friggin hero.
While I do agree that they have some level of honor for finally revealing the truth, they held on to this information for awhile too.
Ya, that's not great to wait until 2 weeks before the wedding to tell OP. Should've told him the day his gf confessed to her friend. The friend eventually did the right thing but the kid was a whole year old.
@@Serenade2461 Thank you! I feel like everyone is giving that friend way too much credit. Like, c'mon. Sitting on information is rarely a good thing in any situation. But especially here.
@@gaaraxnaru Yeah my first response was "great friend" too but in honesty I don't think he told us when the friend learned this information. My guess is it was right after she got knocked up but maybe for the friends sake it was much later. Either way its not as bad as those so called friends that know something and never tell the victim.
@@AW-zy1kw True, but still not worthy of the praise everyone seems to be giving them.
This is exactly why dna testing should be mandatory
Make them mandatory and have stringing along a person to be the father illegal. It’s silly that they aren’t.
@@purpledragon2442 more money in keeping it the way it is lol
yeah, that way the man can get the reuslts without needing to ask and risk looking as if they distrust each other.
Yeah but then there are those people who say “you don’t trust me, we’re in a relationship you should trust me I can’t believe it let me make a Reddit post” sobs sobs sobs
@@purpledragon2442 baby trapping should also be illegal, I saw this video where early on both need to sign something, saying they both want the kid. If the dad doesn’t sign it, he gets no rights and doesn’t have to pay and if the mom doesn’t want it they can abort or adopt it out, but a test is preformed before they sign and they have to sign another thing when the kid is born
Paternity tests should be MANDATORY when all children are born, for the dads. Women know the child is theirs, it comes out of them...
I must disagree, the baby comes from a stork, neither has any idea whose baby it is.
Damn stork human trafficking rings.
@@CreeperOnYourHouse 😂
@@CreeperOnYourHouse you know the truth....
You must be injected with a class F amnestic you know too much about the government.
The [Data Expunged] foundation cannot allow you to know that babies don't come from women being knocked up.
Expect a knock on your door.
@@CreeperOnYourHouse Please take Abraham Lincoln's advice. A "special rendition" squad will be pulling up at your place any day now...
@@CreeperOnYourHouse Look everyone knows babies are found under Gooseberry bushes. All that stuff about Storks is a load of old codswallop.
"She won't remember me" that is so depressing
I have a relative who found out his wife cheated and their daughter wasn't his biologically when the little girl was 4. He decided that he loved the little girl who had done nothing wrong. He kicked out his cheating wife and kept the daughter. Now it was his ex who was trying to claim she wasn't his to get custody. Judge told her that the child was conceived during their marriage. If that would have been enough to have him pay support then it's good enough for him to keep custody. That young lady is now in her mid 40s and never found out he wasn't her biological father until she was in her 30s even though even her grandparents on his side had learned the truth when it happened.
I like that judge.
He is a good man. Still love the child and kick out the cheater.
If it was in the US then finally a man gets the benefit of having his name on the birth certificate of a chile that wasn't his. The family courts here in the US is just a bullshit system when it comes to fathers
@Jayden Max Sometimes when even if someone ultimately finds out they're not biologically related to their family, there's still the bonds time helped build with them. If that dude was financially and emotionally stable to give that child a better future and actually wanted to take responsability (that wasn't even his) because he loved his daughter, then I congratulate the judge for giving him the kid and not handing her over to the whore just for the "kids are better with their moms" bs.
@Jayden Max Oh, I think he did have his self-respect in mind when he kicked out the cheater wife without thinking twice. The problem was his ex and he cut that toxic woman out of his life. He was pretty down-to-earth that the kid didn't have to pay for her mother's shit. If he and his child had a good relationship, and was willing to raise her by himself despite knowing the truth, that adds some self-respect points. Family is not always blood, my Internet pal.
It's so fucked up that only the name on the birth certificate counts on who has to pay child support.
I have seen a story where a guy has found out he's not not the father, his wife move in with the bio dad but he still has to pay child support.
His motion in court for him to stop paying child support were denied because he couldn't proof the other guy was the dad.
He himself knew he wasn't the dad, his wife told him gleefully the other guy was but to proof it in court the mother had to consent to a DNA test which of course she didn't.
It's not that every women will ruin your life, it's just that with our legal system every women can.
I could maybe see needing the moms consent to do a prenatal dna test, but not after the kid was born. Do we need the mom present for all medical procedures now? wtf.
I'm actually in awe of how many crooked divorce courts aren't just the targets of mass shootings.
@@Dustin81 I don't exactly remember where it was, but that it was somewhere in the US. They even interviewed the bio dad, he said it sucks for the other guy but he also doesn't want to pay.
I read recently one on Reddit where after 21 years of marriage, 3 Kids all girls 20,14,and 8, NONE of them are the father's child, because the oldest followed a trend and tested herself and her sisters for fun and her sisters, by further testing they even found out that each of the girls has its own Father, then they confronted their "parents" with the results.
@@N3bul4Pr0ducti0ns is that the story where the mother killed herself afterwards?
I feel bad for OP, being a dad wasn’t in his plans in the first place, but finding out your daughter isn’t yours must be terrible.
Paternity fraud should be a crime. And especially married women impregnated with other guys she should be jailed.😠
it's not his daughter
It’s a fake story
Props to that friend! Thats a good soul!
No a good soul would have told OP the literal minute she knew.
Maybe passing adequate, but good? Not a chance in hell.
@Matthew Allcock the friend didn't cheat, the fiance did.
And the friend is not a good person because she watched an innocent man have a child, that she knew had a possibility of not being his, take on a fatherly role for a YEAR.
She actively chose to lie by omission that entire time and protect her cheating friend instead of coming forward and telling OP the truth.
The fact she grew a conscience when marriage was on the table does not absolve her past actions, she may not be completely horrible like the cheating fiance; but that isn't exactly a high bar to compare to.
Should have come out ASAP like as soon as the friend knew. These are thing my wife and I have no issue saying something about
Better late than never. At least friend still had a conscience unlike the partner.
@@crimealleysoutlaw1103 yep and I'm sure that will be a huge comfort for OP when he's paying child support for the next 17 years.
Regardless if they find the real father the likelihood of him being able to cleanly walk away is almost certainly 0%
Now he's facing a drawn out court battle that could have been easily avoided, not to mention the damage this whole affair has caused his psyche, but great thing the friend is such a good soul!
Last story - I would still request a paternity test on the other wife's children. It seems too strange that other wife kept saying sorry for days before finally saying it was a misunderstanding.
Yeah. I picked up on that too. Her friend can’t be trusted and she seems to be in denial. Also the fact that her friend doesn’t want her to come to the house is telling.
I mean, if I received news like this, I’d lose my mind, call everyone and demand proof: DNA tests, confessions and so on.
I do think she shouldn’t go to the guy’s house, at least not alone but they could meet in a public place.
Her friend texts over the phone: I’m sorry. Don’t be mad. Forgive me ………. And then says it wasn’t her husband who impregnated her? Doesn’t add up.
Yeah, I don't think I'd trust what the "friend" was telling me either.
Right and what about the video with her calling the husband’s name. How is that a misunderstanding
1st story - It’s a crime women can perpetrate with no consequences if they get caught. Worse yet the man can get stuck with child support.
Lol...yeah. It sux.
If its japan, the cheating spouse and AP could get sued by the victim for lots of money.
I don’t understand the law in these situations, like how is a person liable for child support when a paternity test proves the child is not theirs?! This is so messed up & should be illegal.
Look at France's laws where they made it illegal to get the paternity test at all without a Judges order or the partner's permission "Protect the Peace of the Family". Some states in the US have the child support attached to an "Established" parent and if you can't prove someone else as the father then it falls on you anyway... Some state's laws are messed up.
I don't understand that "I've done something incredibly wrong, let me just victimize myself and cry because I'm a garbage person and maybe he'll forgive me if I just shed tears" mentality that cheaters have... it's boggles my mind. Every time
OP: She loves the baby's father---You are a stable support system for her and the child...a "Fall Guy". Don't do it.
Finds out his girl is cheating on him, has a chance to dodge a bullet, and doesn't know what to do. Incredible! Absolutely incredible! You found out the person she portrays herself to be isn't who she really is. Run! There is such a thing as being too dumb to help one's own self.
He did the smart thing in the end but it should take that much thought to do so.
Let's try to be more understanding. He probably already knew what to do, but was looking for an echo chamber to tell him what he already knew. It could be a deer in headlights moment. The brain knew what should be done, but the rest of him seized up with panic and confusion. Still, it's a good ending when a man does what needs to be done.
@@MikkosFree even if its like you say its a bad sign that a grown man has deer in the headlights responses to such straightforward challenges like these. He seemed to be fairly resistant to the good, honest advice and resentful and antagonistic towards all who gave it even though he eventually took their advice. Dudes like this have something broken in their brains, and they all seem to congregate on reddit lmao
It's easy to make fun of someone's actions when you are on the sidelines with no skin in the game.
@@mbyerly9680
He's not the first, nor the last. Nobody made fun of him. More despondent that this person resisted exercising logic and needed to told what was apparent.
@@MikkosFree
Sorry but what happens if this so called echo chamber told him to do the opposite? This isn't something I'll need to air out in a public forum for concurrence. Process, then do. Does it really come down to peer pressure that allowed him to make a rational decision? That's scary.
I was _SO_ afraid he would go through with the marriage due to the fact that he seemed to be harping on the fact that his wedding was only "2 weeks away" and how he kept mentioning that family and friends were driving out. I thought he was going to be one of "those guys" who insists his partner is a ''good, kind soul who would never hurt a fly" (despite her OBVIOUS lies and infidelity). Glad OP decided to halt the wedding and separate. She knows exactly who the father is, but wanted to pass the child off as his because he is likely the most financially stable and responsible of the guys she slept with. And shouts out to that friend who revealed the truth to him. That friend saved him a LOT of grief in the future and I hope he takes that friend out for a nice lunch/dinner or gets that friend a spa day or something.
And _shame_ on those commenters trying to shame and manipulate OP into raising this kid. I hate commenters who, instead of calling out the cheating, manipulative, lying partner, instead chose to ATTACK OP for deciding to part ways and not be a part of the child's life. While I agree that the child is innocent, so is OP. And OP owes NOTHING to that baby. It's not fair to accuse him of "being able to turn off his love like a light switch" when he discovered the baby wasn't his. Why not put that blame towards the cheating mom? Why 8s it the mothers are never held accountable in these situations? OP didn't let that baby down...the mother did.
Cancel the Wedding!!!!!
Leave her and get off the birth certificate, Edit I know you well have to go to court but he is still with in the time zone in witch he can contest it with dna its a lot cheaper then 18-21 years of child support
There can not be no name on the birth certificate after one was on there. So there has to be someone else to take that place. And if that guy makes a lot less your chances of getting out of paying go down astronomically.
@K G Jurisdiction?
You can’t just automatically get off the birth certificate over paternity. You have to go to court and hope the judge allows it.
Affair baby? Divorce!
Literally the future wife was covering her legal bases. She absolutely knew you weren’t the father. She told you before the wedding,so you wouldn’t have any legal options in a divorce. She was preparing for divorce before she got married. Dude was literally a child support check
The last story is a good lesson, never blindly trust someone when they tell you that your partner cheated on you. Half of Reddit was telling her to lawyer up and start prepping for divorce without even talking to either person, but with such flimsy evidence you can’t just jump straight to that. If someone tells you that your partner is cheating on you then you need to take them seriously, but don’t assume it’s completely true.
And most important of all, DON’T BLINDLY TAKE REDDITS ADVICE ON ANYTHING
@DannyGirl Facts I'm so mad that the story ended there because the odds of that actually being true are very unlikely
Pretty sure the best friend is lying ... She's just trying to defuse the situation. Why be so apologetic... I would have been spilling it all in text if my friend didn't answer... Would have been like no it's a misunderstanding I had an affair with someone else blah blah ... Nope she just kept saying don't be mad.... Smh
@DannyGirl Exactly this. Now they're trying to make out like the betrayed spouse is the bad guy. Typical cheater bullshit.
What I don't understand is that OP refused to talk to the friend or see friend's husband but jumped straight to reddit. All that time not confronting the husband. All this drama happening while husband working downstairs? Its like she already buried her head in the sand. Would you not want to know the truth? I would be confronting husband straight away.
@DannyGirl I agree. Especially if she was concerned about how her own husband was behaving. Something in the milk ain’t clean
Paternity fraud should BE a crime by now.. it's ridiculous how many men are/have been wronged like this.
They ALWAYS BREAK DOWN CRYING after they've been found out, but are always quite happy to continue cheating up till then. And the feeling of "Righteous Indignation" is Sooo Universal.
What Crap!!!!
idc, if my partner tries to perform paternity fraud on me. We're finished, immidiately
Had a friend who had his nuts snipped, his fiancé still got pregnant. The procedure didn’t reverse itself, so my friend dumped her. He “lawyered up” immediately so that she couldn’t put his name on the birth certificate or anything such as that.
Smart man
16:55
Paul asking OP to come to his house alone for “Evidence”, as opposed to going somewhere public like a coffee shop struck me as really suspicious.
Exactly. Sad I had to scrawl this far down. That seemed so sus,along with the dark video where oP couldn't recognise her husband. Seems too sketchy
@@divyak7032 it was however her friend texting her sorry I’m so sorry is suspicious as well. Either way paternity tests will need to be done. Unless her best friend can produce the other man who has the same name as OPs husband the best friend is lying.
Man I just heard a story about how a guy said he would get a paternity test if a girl said he got her pregnant, and everyone called him an AH for it, then I see stories like these and I realize that it's not a bad idea
Paternity test should be mandatory before signing the birth certificate
Story number 2. I had a friend of mine who's now X gave birth to twins while they were married. He was over the moon he had 2 kids he wanted blah. One of the kids got seriously hurt and needed a blood transfusion and when they tested the blood there was no genetic way he was the father. This led to a paternity test And him finding out the twins were not his. He filed for divorce she took him to court for alimony and child support he turned around quit his job sold everything gave it all away and now 5 1/2 years later still remains homeless because he refuses to pay for cheating spouse and 2 children that are not his. His exact words is put me in jail I will not support this woman with these children that are not mine . Women will never understand this will ruin a man Permanently. With their selfish antics
because most women are truly minions of lucifer
"How could you not trust me?"
Because you're not trustworthy
she's a sociopath who loves gaslighting her victims. she'll be using that excuse in the future
That last story, did anyone else get anxious when husband of friend wanted OP to come to his house alone? I’m so glad she didn’t go!
I got anxious when the Amy chick tried so hard to get her not to go. Looks like two marriages and a bunch of friendships got ruined here.
@@wiseman5076 Amy's husband seems psycho. Let's the lawyers solve this.
Question. How many men are raising other men’s children?
Too many. I watch Paternity Court and it blows my mind how many children aren't the man the mother claims. It's especially heartbreaking when the adult children show up and it ruins their lives.
There are plenty of cases where the mom's are right, but the ones where they are not are so sad.
the US gov't estimates that somewhere between 1/7, and 1/3 of children in the country are being raised by a man who believes himself to be their father, but isn't. There are also close to 2 million men who are being held financially responsible for children that they know aren't theirs. Polls say that over half of women would lie to a partner about them being the father of a child in order to keep their relationship with that partner.
1/30 i think was the uk statistic yrs ago
Many.... I think ita despicable
About 38% but that all that came forth.
Man, that last story was really something. All of them were powerful but the last one was a case of disaster averted by the skin of one's teeth.
DNA test for both parents should be mandatory, this would prevent babies from getting swapped and getting trafficked. You shouldn't be able to claim a kid as yours unless you have the correct paperwork to prove it (if adopted) or you have a DNA test to back it up. You have no idea how many babies get snatched and masked as someone else's.
Yikes for OP and her husband in the last story
Well at least it wasn't her husband.
@@Z.O.1991 I seriously doubt that. Seems more likely that "Amy" is a fucking liar.
@@Alex-sl5tp He's saying that all the apologetic messages at first asking her to not be mad, and asking for forgiveness, followed by the explanation that it's just another man with the same name as her husband is very suspicious. The way the story was told points toward the situation being that Amy knew she was losing her husband, and was desperate to not lose her best friend as well, so she lied and said it wasn't the OP's husband, when it actually was. It'll all come out anyway. Amy's husband will demand that the other husband take a paternity test. I'd love to be a fly a wall that day. Probably gonna get interesting.
So bff says it's not your husband but another man with the same name and you just go "oh ok" and drop it??
I'm so glad op didn't go met her friends husband I immediately got a bad feeling like why did he want her to go to the house alone and talk nope I think he was up to no good like your husband slept with my wife I'm going to sleep with you. And from what the friend has said op made the right decision to not go.
Seriously like in the last story OP's husband was getting seriously railroaded there for a bit. She needs to go get counseling now cause now she will view her innocent husband as a cheater.
Yh definitely got the vibe that he was going to do some messed up stuff to her as revenge because he is likely too much of a coward to confront a man. Why would he want to meet up alone at his house and not somewhere public if all he wanted was to talk and share evidence?
Surely, you should read OP's comment.
@@wolfengod8277 there are quite a few people who have gone to OBS’s home to talk about the affairs especially when they know each other. His request wasn’t odd. He just didn’t want her to bring her husband the man he views as stealing his wife and child.
Story 1: Dump her and send her friend a gift every year on what would have been your Anniversary with "Sarah". Man she did you a solid. He finds out that 1.5 years after they were together that there wasn't 1 fling but 3. You could almost kind of sort of maybe make the case for her banging an old flame i.e she had emotional ties/ was conflicted yada yada...but THREE. She's a cheater, its that simple.
dude, she was getting trains ran on her and cheating at the same time. We need to bring back stoning!
Protection for the beta, bareback for the alpha..
lol yerr beta huehuehue
@@TheRumpelstinskin incel response right there
@@rubysilvereye3611 Still true.
@@rubysilvereye3611 I think that's sarcasm. This whole alpha - beta thing is kinda stupid and OP started it.
Story 2: cheers "friend" she could have sent as message saying " i told partner, IM HAVING AN AFFAIR WITH A GUY WHO HAS SAME NAME AS YOUR HUSBAND. ITS NOT YOUR HUSBAND. BUT PARTNER MISTAKENLY BELIEVES IT IS, CALL ME, AS PARTNER IS ON RAMPAGE". Instead, she left OP and husband at mercy of being attacked by this guy. And her texts to OP made it look like were having an affair.
Yeah I was thinking this as well. This woman could have explained all this in one text and all she did was just IM SORRY and other standard stuff. She's being fooled by those two, I'm so sorry for her.
It looks like they were having an affair because they were.
So because the lying cheater says it was a different guy ...we should suddenly believe her?
@@12savage68 I mean, it is worth consideration
"how could you not trust me" Those excuses always make me laugh.
The friend really was the MVP. Glad she told him before he made the huge mistake to get stuck wirh that woman for years. Once a cheater, always a cheater
The last story with the friend Amy sounds like the wife is grasping at straws to believe her friend no matter what. The friend Amy has not shown any proof that she has not be sleeping with her husband but keeps texting her that "She's sorry and can explain!" That's your answer right their as if the baby is not your husband their is high probability they were messing around.
Also, doesn't it seem strange that the wife does not appear to be concerned that her friend had and affair plus baby and was going to let her husband think it was his? She is only concerned that her husband cheated with her friend. Sounds like they are used to doing some dirty stuff to their SO in the past. Just a hunch?
@@jamess6203 women aren't as concerned about things like this as men are, and the last thing she wants to be is alone and pregnant so even if she knows it to be true she's okay with believing otherwise, for now at least.
What proof other than her friends voice saying a name in a dark video. Most names are pretty common, and I would think that the OP would have recognized her husband's voice since she recognized her friends voice, so you are probably reaching in your own speculations. Plus OP never mentioned any strange behavior from her husband and I'm pretty sure her friend would have warned him if he was in fact the guy she was cheating with. In fact the only thing creepy about the post was the cheating friend and the cheated husband's request for a meeting alone at his house.
@@rustyreese4006 No reach here just facts: Video of the friend having sex calling husband's name (50/50 chance its the husband), flirty texts messages between the husband and friend (100%), husband decides out of the blue to work from home the day she gets the news, her friend Amy is continuously texting her saying she's sorry before even discussing what her STBXH told her and the friend does not show proof of any type but just gets her to believe her spoken word. So you tell me what going on? And lets not forget the classic female tactic that paints the guy as bad so please don't talk to him!
@@jamess6203 if you had the option of working from home after you noticed something was wrong with your pregnant wife, wouldn't you do the same? Plus like I said she never mentioned any other behavior, nor did she mention recognizing her husband's voice on the video. Text messages without a phone number attached are proof of nothing either. If she gets proof from the phone provider that would be different. I'm just trying to point out that she was not given any concrete evidence of her husband's infidelity. Yes she should check into it further, but she needs to do so without the cheated husband's help, because that dude sounds very unstable and possibly dangerous from what she posted.
Story 1: UPDATE 4:06
[Update] I (M24) found out my daughter isn't mine and I'm soon to wed my Fiance (25F)
Story 2: 8:43
Yesterday, my(33m) wife's (34f) best friend (female) contacted me and told me that her husband and my wife were having an affair and my 3yo daughter is actually his daughter.
Story 3: 12:30
I [30F] just found out my husband [32M] might be the father of my best friend’s [34F] child [4F]. What the hell do I do now?
So sorry to hear of the deception of your fiance. That is so hurtful. It must be so painful to learn your daughter is not yours.
Last story. Don't meet the husband alone at his house. Meet him in public or not at all. That is what Skype is good for.
I'd say don't meet him at all unless he has some proof that's 100% accurate and sends it to you first. He doesn't sound very stable from OPs post, and a crowd might just be an audience for his revenge if he's snapped. Proof first then decide to meet.
@@rustyreese4006 What OP's post actually sounds like is that Amy was fuckin her husband.
@@wiseman5076 could be but if you read OP's comments it seems like Amy's husband is upto no good.
It seems, as someone pointed out, he wants to get back at Amy and OP's husband by using OP......
@@muktagogoi8877 Cant blame the guy for wanting to get back at them. Sounds a lot like he wants to get their gears turning and make them sweat. I don't see how thats a bad thing at all.
@@wiseman5076 dude I meant he'll probably try to have sex with OP without OP agreeing. You think that's okay?
In that last story is that woman a fool? Of course it was her husband.
I see a lot of people saying "Paternity test should be mandatory." It should. But there is nothing stopping new 'Daddy' from getting a swab test on line for about $200. She never even has to know, and it's the only way that you can know for sure. Cheap at twice the price.
First guys is so lucky. & that's the kind of friends that are real.
This is what honesty looks like.
& ALWAYS GET A PATERNITY TEST.
Society will never punish women for paternity fraud, nor will you ever get any damages, even in your dreams.
On story three I would not trust your friend because she's most likely lying saying that it's not your husband and her husband is just assuming it's yours husband but there is only one way to find out and that's a DNA test.
I need another update for that last story, i really really hope that the OPs husband isn't the one. Most names are pretty common.
Mini update it's not the husband's baby. Paul thought it was him and started acting psycho so Amy took the kid and went to her mom house instead of correcting him. Paul told op to go to his and Amy's house and Amy told her not to
@@cyber-m4ry751 We still don't know why Amy was texting OP apologizing.
@@cyber-m4ry751 Amy is lying. If she wasn't she wouldn't have said all those things in text to the OP. Amy and Paul are trying to gaslight everyone into thinking Amy's husband is crazy.
@@rawkmode6315 You've got it pinned down there bud. The Amy chick is desperate not to lose her best friend along with her husband. It'll all come out anyway when Amy's husband demands that the other husband take a paternity test. That should be an interesting day.
@@randomduck8679 Yes we do.
Last story: I still don’t believe it. You should still get a DNA test done on her first kid. If she was cheating with someone else, there wouldn’t have been any reason to apologize to OP that profusely.
Although I suspect that even with evidence of infidelity, OP probably wouldn’t leave
Nevertheless I'm glad OP didn't visit Amy's husband at his house alone.
I am always mildly amazed, when folks (who were betrayed) go "But we have a wedding coming up! Everything was paid for!"
As if it can’t be absolutely undone 🥲
1st story:
I would ABSOLUTELY go through with the wedding up until the point where I am asked if " I Do" then say *"I Don't"* and have short letters taped under the seats of the bride and grooms immediate family and friends which they may now read.
Bonus points if you still hold the reception party without her and for only those whom support you.
Uncle Mario says: leave her and let the other dude marry her. It's their responsibility.
SHADDAP, MARIO
but yeah, i agree.
My thoughts precisely.
There was an update on the final story. Long story short the husband jumped the gun on who he thought was the affair partner and her friend assured her that it wasn't her husband. That is why she was blowing up her phone with apologies as the truth came out and he assumed it was her husband. Her husband was completely unaware any of this was going on which leads credibility to the story that he wasn't the affair partner.
ok so the pregnant OP & her husband didn't do anything wrong, got mixed up in the other couples drama. Thanks for clarifying. That means the husband stayed home from work because he thought OP was sick legit. I don't trust the motives of the other husband for wanting her to go to the other couples house alone, except she's 5 months pregnant...how confusing -> for me 😏for sure Thanks for the update
@@9Geeple Amy was fuckin the OP's husband. And I don't care if it's racist or not, 2+2=4.
So, she cheated with 3 different guys during the 5 years you were together and got pregnant?
I don't have words for that except I'm sorry.
It clearly seems that she was looking for your replacement until you found out about the baby.
You have proof, so it's time to part ways.
She'll likely be a single mom and I doubt if the guy (if found) will participate in his daughter's life.
That last story is doubtful. Hope she will force a paternity test on her friend for the daughter.
I will never understand how reddit demands a man take care of a child that came from cheating and is not his.
First story: it's not too late to GTFO. This information is a sign from the universe to get out.
There really needs to be consequences for women who falsely declare fatherhood.
The so-called “father” can take the mother to small-claims court to collect the child support she falsely sued for. The problem is all she has to do is flip her hair, bat her eyelashes, and file for bankruptcy, and she’s off the hook.
🤬
If you find out you made a mistake - trust was misplaced - you should correct immediately.
You know what would solve all these problems? Mandatory paternity testing at birth. It would benefit more than just husbands and boyfriends, but also guys who were never even told they had a kid.
Wouldn't that require making a database for that kind of thing, you know the kind that paranoid types would greatly oppose despite also saying mandatory testing is a good thing
@@cellus523 We already have DNA data bases and fingerprint data bases, the latter not even always having anything to do with crimes. They exist for 'just in case' and identification. The ancestry and 23 and Me services already keep a database and updates people with potential family tree branches as they're submitted , so it really wouldn't be much different.
@@GLoLChibs most DNA databases are typically voluntary and given how expensive having a kid is, even with insurance, how is the cost of the mandatory test going to work. If its his kid does he get charged for a test he didnt want or need, or if its not his do the mom and other guy just get a random hospital fee for it?
@@cellus523 Having sex and creating a child is already voluntary. Paternity testing has become relatively cheap, so two ways: if father is found or is already present and involved, he's already sharing the bill. Same with those who irresponsibly have sex with multiple men and wind up pregnant, it's a consequence of decisions one makes. It also would give men the chance to be apart of their children's lives and alleviate cost between two parents. Bigger picture, in the long term it would yield better results for both fathers and children vs a one time cost and may help curb some people making irresponsible decisions.
@@GLoLChibs setting aside how hospitals bloat the cost of things. What about the deadbeats who bolt because "women can choose, why can't I", what if there not in this database then what and we all know atleast 2 dudes who've bolted until reality either hit them or they managed to fuck off to Montana and hide out until that kid thing died down and she stops calling. I know my example is really specific but its not important. My point is this system would lose support quickly because its one of those causes that is great in principal but punishing in practice, like honesty or exclusive dating.
Story 2 immediately lawyer up contest paternity and make her AP pay for that child your cheating wife made
what about the men who form bonds with the child? Shouldnt women be punished and fined 100k dollars per year of compensation for such a fraud?
No because despite the fact that women make more money now than ever before in history they are still mistreated and not truly treated equally except in divorce court, and deciding if it's to inconvenient to carry a baby to term.
@@rustyreese4006 women are treated equally, thats why the west is falling
@@rustyreese4006 Are you even serious?
Forcing a man to take care of a child that is not his is worse than slavery
Just had a brilliant idea that ALL women are going to hate.We need a
national law passed that if your married or paying child support and the
kid ISN'T his, the woman can be sued for total amount to support the
kids since they were conceived, including hospital bills. End of
problem. Also if a woman files for divorce, paternity tests are
MANDATORY!!!!!!!!
Story 1: I would go on with the wedding, but instead of the marriage I would just tell everyone what she did. Or just call off the wedding and not waste people's time :p
Naw you do expose her at the rehearsal dinner so all of her family and friends knows what she did.
Sure as hell better then finding out 2 weeks after the wedding. You know now that the woman who you thought was perfect for you is capable of the worst deceit possible without even blinking an eye. Marrying her will only increase her chances to do the same later with far worse consequences for you and now with a child that is completely attached.
First story: Technically, you could go through with the ceremony, just don't sign the license afterwards. That'll f**k up her day. Definitely saves on the cost of a divorce when it happens again. Also, you can go to court to have your name removed from the birth certificate.
If you're in Australia that makes zero difference. Once the application is signed and the ceremony completed you are married. Signature at the ceremony means zero.
Same as if a fake celebrant is used. If 1 person believes it's true (fraud to have se* etc) then you are legally married.
@@robinkelly1770: That sucks.
So wrong when you have to pay for a child that is not yours. Will never understand this. You shoud be able to get all your money back. Lets fight for this law to be changed this is so wrong
Wow that’s so disrespectful letting a man raise someone else kid I hope he called it off
He should go to the wedding and when the person says “do you wish to love and hold Sarah for as long as you both shall live?” OP should whip out the paternity test and state out loud that he learned that Sarah cheated on him and that he is not the father of the child. The look on everyone’s faces, especially for her family’s side would be priceless. She could never try and get married again with the same enthusiasm
Starting to Sounds like Mama Mia towards the end. 3 dads no one knows who the real one is.
Edit: am on abt first story
If the baby isn't yours ,don't marry her . Once cheater ,will cheat again
Congratulations bro you lucky
You win 18 years of child support
I wonder why paternity fraud is still not considered as a crime/illegal
/bangs head on desk That last story...I want to say I have never in my life heard of a woman so gullible and willing to believe the flimsiest excuses given to her just to keep hoping that her husband hasn't cheated on her...but sadly, I have. DNA test. Easiest way to prove, and unable to be refuted.
Call off the wedding and tell her to marry the biological father.
Suprised by her parents reaction. Yeah they knew who their daughter was it just wasnt their place to intervene is all
Cannot believe her reaction. She accused her friend of betraying her for telling boyfriend .
Gee, only three ? Does she suffer from memory loss ? They always trickle-truth their encounters.
it was probably over 20
I would not have bothered with a 2nd test if the mother had any reason to believe the result was true. If she had not cheated, she would have challenged the results and an 2nd test is in order.
You do not need an adulterous wife if you don't want an open marriage.
"if you can find the father it will help your case" because for some reason it's his job?
The daughter Taylor is already f’d.
A divorce lawyer is no person to talk to about psychological advice. Who ever suggested that is crazy. Talk to a therapist for advice.
He needs legal advice to get his name off the birth certificate
@@TheyCallHimTheTops Very unlikely to happen unless he can find someone else willing to take his place.
@@wiseman5076 because that sociopathic dumpster was getting trains ran on her with no remorse. and it wasn't just 3 other guys, she's trickle truthing with bs
Call of the wedding!!! Walk away young man !!!
Run. Cut your loss, you spend more by keeping her and divorce later
That ending does NOT explain all the panic apologetic texts Amy sent her after Paul outed it. Something's fishy...
Sad, what comes around goes around! Perternity fraud should be a crime!
The first story just pisses me off. Just the fact that the kid isn’t his should take child support off the table. Not to mention the fact they weren’t even married. This is just bs.
If I found out my 3yr old wasn't mine, I can't imagine leaving her. I can't imagine leaving any of my kids. I know my 1yr old would forget about me but damn. These stories are fucked up.
men like you are what make women so comfortable doing this satanic bs. This isn't so prevalent in muslim communities; i wonder why?
Second story, walk away. None of this is your fault. You need to move on to bigger and better things !!!
I love the drama and can't stop watching these videos
Wow , men can hurt you physically, women scar you emotional. So shady
Tell her don't quit your job you need to support your kid.
1st story. Call off d wedding. Time to get out off there before its too late. Run far away.