How I Deal with Having a Stutter | Téa
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- čas přidán 22. 08. 2024
- I was very nervous to upload this video because of how open and honest I was. This subject is really difficult to talk about sometimes, so I hope you guys respect everything I have to say about it.
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'Take turns reading in class.' Stutterers worst nightmare
So true. I still hate it.
So true...😐😐
Omg yeeeeees from 4th to 8th grade I would always cry in front of class😅
They used to make us read whole pages out loud 😓
So true! I literally wouldn’t speak or I wouldn’t get called on because I would take forever to read something short
I remember times in elementary and high school, where a teacher would ask me a question to which I know the answer, but I would keep silent and pretend I didn't know the answer for fear of stuttering and embarrassing myself in front of classmates. Happened like hundreds of times.
I also stutter, but i think mine is genetic because my grandma and my brother also stutter. In public, i either get really enthousiastic or nervous but both result in my throat feeling tense and almost like I can't breathe. But It's nice knowing there are others like me. Love the video
Belle Saffron my father used to stutter and he stopped but he stutters mildly with certain words
I absolutely believe there's a genetic component to stuttering.
Do not give up though, do not just chalk it up to genetics and say there is nothing you can do about it. There is! First thing is acceptance, love yourself for who you are, realize that, no matter how far you get in improving yourself. Then seek help, practice meditation and relaxation techniques. Learning Tai-Chi will do both of these for you. A speech pathologist can help tremendously. One of this that you might want to look at is nutrition, make sure you are getting enough vitamins and I cannot stress enough how important vitamin D is. Be sure to talk to you doctor about this :)
Belle Saffron
I know this way late. But, same here. My grandpa and dad stuttered, too. I know exactly how you feel when you’re in public. Just had to share that. Have a wonderful day.
Practice makes man perfect
I stutter as well. Like you when I talk slowly and I'm relaxed I also don't stutter hardly at all. It's crazy how back and forth our stuttering goes depending on many things. I also had a very hard time making friends because I was so afraid what they would think of my stutter. I have also felt very lonely because of this, like no one understood what it was like. The anxiety, depression and loneliness are only a few things I dealt with. And still deal with at times. This is a great video thank you :)
Minka Frederika Thank you!! It's so awesome to find people I can relate to 😊 Good luck!
Téa You're welcome! And yes it is so nice finding other people who stutter! I hardly knew anyone that stuttered growing up!
Im 21 and ive always stuttered join my channel please it would mean everything to me
Minka Frederika i watched ir channel before hers
Minka Frederika I have a nervous stutter I only stutter when I'm nervous
I usually never comment on videos but on this one I had to.... I'm 17 almost 18 years old and I've had a stutter since I was born. Everything you described in this video is everything I've dealt with... I've honestly never met anyone that has the same problems as me and know few people that have stutters. So I just wanted to say thank you for putting this out there and making me feel like I'm not alone. :)
brooke price you're not alone in this ❤️
brooke price same Sis 😩
Don't feel alone, there are 70 millions people like you and i
Billions of people who stutters. Even famous people has done it too
Stuttering is very interesting some people make me stutter more then others.
SssandNBtwnMytoes yeah my family makes me stutter so much more than my friends. So horrible
I wonder why this happens.
that means you (consiously) like them less if you stutter more. or maybe if you really like the person very much u could start stuttering because of happiness, but i thinks that wouldnt be the case. i think when you like person more, you are relaxed more, if you are relaxed more you obviously will stutter less.
When I talk to my sister I don’t stutter at all ,, but to other people it gets really annoying sometimes I can’t say a specific word at all then I try again nope it won’t come out ._.
@@kgothatjomagolego2617 yesssss,same
I stutter and so do my husband and son. My husband's a state trooper, I'm an RN and my son is in 8th grade. I've come to realize, just as you stated, no one around you really cares. Granted, we're not severe stutterers but that's of no consolation when you're a kid. Thankfully, my kid has an awesome attitude and is very outgoing; he says, "This is how God made me and I'm cool with it." yay!
Thank you Shelly Mommer. I saw your comment. Makes me wanna move forward with my life even though i stutter
Why havent you taken speech therapy
@@pdas5084 Because speech therapy can't help with outgrowing stuttering. They help with controlling and managing which is making stuttering chronic. Adding control is the opposite of your goal
I stutter, too. I completely understand how you feel. I also just started my channel.
It's so weird that when I watch videos with people who's stuttering it isn't awkward at all, but when I stutter I feel like it's the most awkward thing. Btw this video really helped me mentally because I see another person struggling with the same shit as me and that makes me feel less lonely
Girl, we're the same person. You're so pretty, smart, and gave great advice.. I hope you're doing well!
I also feel like we stutter pretty similarly, I mostly struggle with blocks. Are you covert?
I also have blocks!! Just cant get some words out at all.. LoosIng confidence indeed.. i was a really good speaker!!
I can totally relate. Before speaking, the anxiety of stuttering takes over and ruins everything. It’s so embarrassing and you feel like you are different from others. I had a similar experience in school, where I had to read the News in front of the entire school, before the start of the day and I just lost it. Stuttering can really hamper your self esteem and can bring you to real lows in life. Thank You so much for this video. It really helps. Calming yourself is so important which you explained very well. Thank You and God Bless your beautiful soul always❤️
As a fellow stutterer, playing music helped a lot. All i do is imagining a click track in my head and try to start sentenses every four clicks, that forces me to have a better flow and breathe better!
I can't remember a time in my life when I didn't studder. I'm almost 29 now & it still effects my everyday life. I have very bad social anxiety & get so depressed over this. Everything u said I can totally relate besides I haven't had the courage like u to face the problem head on. When I know there will be any kind of social event I have to attend, rather it be with family or strangers, I turn to alcohol cause when I'm tipsy I don't studder. I don't want to live my life like that anymore! I'm going to take your advice & seek help from a speech therapist. I've allowed my studder to hold me back from so many great opportunities. I have a one year old son now & I hope he doesn't develop a studder but if he does at least I will have the right tools to help him overcome it.... Thanks a lot for your video... Very inspiring!❤
I guess there are a lot people like us .. and it's make me happy to talk to people who live in the same situation with me .. I feel like u can understand what I'm going through .. and u can remember heart beating before u are about to stutter in front of others .. and im sure that you have experienced the sadness and loneliness after an embarrassing situation .. anyway Tèa I almost figure out that you have a stutter .. u really know how to hide it you are in a good level of fluency .. i bet there are many others hope to be in ur level .. I hope u share me or us what's speach therapy benefit u .. and for all who stutter in the world .. hand in hand let's have a good life .. accept our selves and our stutter ...
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Hello, fellow stutterers, a brother from Russia here.
Here’s some latest insights of mine on our predicament:
1) Stuttering is not a physical defect, cause I’m able to speak fluently when I’m sure no one can hear me. From a meditation course I’ve learned a concept of "thinking without knowing that you’re thinking". That’s what happens to me when I stutter: it’s a thought that causes stuttering. It maybe so embedded in me that I no longer recognise it for what it is, but ultimately a thought can be detached from - which is literally the point of meditation. Check out the Waking Up app - mindfulness meditation does do something to stuttering. The positive effect is certainly there, but it’s slow and takes a lot of practice, which brings me to the next point
2) Check out the Joe Rogan experience #1035, 35:40. The guy tells a story of curing his stuttering via psilocybin trip, i.e. magic mushrooms. I’m getting some as soon as I’ve got the cash (f*ck that Germany vs. Macedonia World Cup-22 qualifiers game man) and will be back with an update asap
3) Curious enough, Sam Harris’ (the guy behind Waking Up) experience with psychedelics (type "Sam’s mushroom trip" here on YT) further corresponds with the theory that stuttering is but a symptom of a bigger problem, the one I may not even recognise cause it’s so embedded in my mind that I don’t see the wood for the trees. Whatever that psychological crap is, a good mushroom trip might well solve it
I feel you. I also have a stutter which I suddenly developed at the age of 8 or 9. I always used to be such a happy child who talked a lot and had many friends but ever since i got this stutter my life has been negative and depressing. just the ability to not being able to say what i want to say is fcking irritating and making me feel powerless. and also knowing that a cure is not out there in the world makes it even more depressing. many people think stuttering is just that you cant say a certain word and thats it.. but thats so wrong.. the side effects are present and horrible. btw, tea you are stunning.
Ryan Baron86 I understand exactly what you're going through! It's such a horrible thing to be dealing with... I was thinking of doing a video on techniques and advice for those who stutter. Hopefully it can help you out. And also, thank you!! 😊
TéaTalks o stutter mine self and let me tell you ....I'm a talker about stuttering , I got a lot of good opinions that you be surprise .....but let me tell you that a couple of things we need to work on is ....our level of confidence and lower our level of anxiety ......since you said once it was your turn to read your line in front of the class and in silence , and you couldn't even say a word ....that moment is when your level of anxiety is very high so your level of stuttering increases drastically.....we all different in a way , because stuttering is a mystery and everyone takes it differently some people even kills themselves due to stuttering ......
Same man...when i was 9 i felt down on the ice on the street and few days later ....
Depression, anxiety, loneliness... me in a nutshell too. I had traumatic time as a kid with my speech problems, it drove me to two suicide attempts. My speech impairment has completely dominated my life, affected my work, friendships, relationships. I'm aware it's about taking personal responsibility and pushing oneself, there's no instant fix unfortunately. I really admire your honesty and bravery in talking about your struggles, repsect!
I know how you feel. Stuttering is incredibly difficult to live with. I recently finished a co-op term at my college where I had to talk all day. It was horrible at the beginning but got easier as time went on. I still feel embarrassed when I stutter badly but not as much as before.
Darth Samael Yay!! Good for you for doing something you want to do despite your stutter. Good luck with your placement! 😊
Thanks! It was for an I.T position at my college. I'll be doing another term this summer which means more interviews. Hopefully I do well.
I was also born with a stuttering problem and I know how difficult it can be to speak, especially in front of people. Thanks for making this video and sharing your thoughts. Sometimes I think how different my life could be if I didn't stutter but oh well. Please keep making more of these videos!
I can so relate to you, I have suffered with depression and aniexty because of my stammer, people don't understand how it can affect a life
I have videos on stammering on my channel if you want to check them out
Jordan Halkier I will for sure check out your channel! Good for you for being so courageous and talking about this problem. It's so cool to find people I can relate to! Good luck with everything! 😊
Téa thank you for the lovely comment
Im 21 and ive always stuttered join my channel please it would mean everything to me
Sure I am going to check yours channel
Can you join my facebook group and help me build a place where our community can have open discussion with each other, lets learn and help each other. Thanks man! facebook.com/groups/2816746825009523/
im PWS and im in my mid 40s. what i observed as well as learned from stuttering is that it is all based from fear. The fear to stutter. And this triggers all the negative cycle that follows. This fear is bigger than the stuttering itself. so if theres one thing for us to manage..it is our FEAR..
Exactly!! I totally agree!
Now we need to know exactly how to do that lol but I know I can do it.
Absolutely correct dear
my biggest fear is when my teacher call my name in recitations
but im so scared, i have childhood trauma because when i was a child my friend used to mock me and make fun of me, i cant just freely talk so open about it, so it became a habit to hide my stuttering. and i ended up became a introverted event tho im not like that.
Nurul Hamidah I can relate sooo much to that! I'm very introverted and people think I'm shy although I'm not actually. Keep your head up and try not to worry about what other people think. There is so much more to you then just your stutter 😊
yeah i realize that there is so much to do than just thinking and depress about it, thank you i will keep that in mind. although sometimes i do feel sad about it.
I can relate to what you are saying. The trauma has been very painful for me. I have found benefit in drinking herbal teas specifically ashwaganda.
I have had a stutter for my whole life but it has recently gotten much much worse. Thank you for making this video, it made me realize I’m not alone. Stay strong
I truly hate the word "presentation", and this is my (as a stutterer) nightmare...!
very brave of you to talk about your stuttering, as you already know I
stutter as well. at age 21 I also had worked in a fast food restaurant in the drive through and can definitely relate the experience, Im 27 now and work as a foreman for an industrial construction framing company so you can imagine how many people I have to work with, meetings, inspectors, dealing with engineers and employees, what helps me is to put my emotions aside and learn to get things done rather than being scared. just going to through this out my last relationship also ended because she told me I was boring and quiet but had previously mentioned that I stutter, but the truth was that she was cheating on me few months before and told me I was not talkative and serious. yes it was hurtful but also got a sense what I needed to improve. my stuttering has gotten in the way of everything is not severe until they ask me for my name then I freeze just like you did and say another name that's easier to pronounce lol. but in the midst of everything I came to realize that I can't please everyone and if they look at me with an odd face I directly tell me that I stutter and not let it bother them. some techniques I used is raising my voice, my father used to stutter but somehow he overcame it in his adult life, he literally yells at me when I speak in the phone lol. another one is I started practicing bioenergetics from Elliot Hulse and that has helped me to reveal and put my voice out there. thank you once again remember your not alone my stuttering lads, stay positive and be loud out there.
I think your stutter is cool. It makes the words that can escape your mouth much more valuable.
i love the fact that you made this video. i have a stutter too. i get stuck on M words, L words, & words that begin with N. ill even sometimes get stuck on S words (ironically my name begins with an S so introductions are sometimes interesting.). i was told by one of my personal heros to 'never apologize for your speech' it is beautiful and if people dont get that, thats okay. i work at this everyday and i love the fact that your getting this message out there. stuttering isnt wierd, its just unique. much love! wishing you so much confidence and courage just to push through the stutter. you got this girl! 💚
I stutter too. I feel your pain. It's been hard just doing normal everyday things. I think it kept me from doing things and being who I could be. This is definitely a cross I have to bear daily. I've been through speech therapists and even hypnotism, it didn't seem to work for me. Thanks for sharing this.
I know exactly how you feel. It sucks all of my jobs have been in customer service so that means a looot of talking and I feel like my stutter has gotten worse. But like you when I'm by myself I don't stutter and I can talk super fast with out a single stutter but when I get in front of people its hard to get a fluent sentence out. My throat tenses up and it feels like my tongue gets fat when I start to stutter. I'm not sure if its a nervous stutter or what but sucks so bad I want to talk and have good conversations with people but my stutter gets in the way. Anyway I'm glad I found your channel its good to know there's another girl around the same age as me going through the same thing. we're not alone😊
I got the exact same problem.
Yeah I can relate to this as well and its kind of ruining my career
your stutter might be psychogenic, it's also likely that you speak too fast by what you said "I can talk super fast" try to slow down and build confidence, that's how I cured 100% my stutter.
Tea, I really appreciate your openness and honesty. At first, I was wondering where is the stutter? You explained it very well, how you control yourself. When you said "breathe" I knew that would be very important. My husband, who has stuttered his whole life, sent your video to me. I had just told him to breathe yesterday when he was stuttering profusely, so I feel vindicated by what you said. He gets very impatient when I speak, yet I am not a stutterer. It is very frustrating because I have been very patient as he tries to say things, but I am not treated with patience. Thank you for your great video. It is obvious, you have touched a lot of people with your insight and help from your speech therapist.
I’m 27 years old and I’ve lived with a stutter my entire life. The experiences you touched on, being unable to utter out a word in a moment of high anxiety, being afraid to read out load in class, feeling sad because you can’t talk like everyone else, and the depression that comes along with that. It really hit home for me. I can relate to all that. Sadly I let my stutter rob me of a social life in my early twenties. I didn’t really go out much and I was terrified of approaching a women. But most of all, I felt alone. I never knew anyone personally who also stutters. I had nobody who really understands what stuttering is like or what I go through. I don’t know why it took me until now to look up stuttering videos on CZcams but I did and I found your video. Along with that I found others like me in this comments section. Thank you for making this video Tea. I hope there’s a way we can connect. All I have is Facebook. By the way, you’re very beautiful.
I'm 19 and have been stuttering for 12 - 14 years and find it unbearable. It's so hard to live sometimes, is what I feel. This video helped me thank you so much.
You are awesome! My 13 year old daughter is struggling with the same tensing in her vocal cords and she is having a tuff time. I'm happy to say she has a huge amount of friends but says she won't do candles at her sweet 16 which breaks my heart because all dads want to hear their daughter say those great things we love to hear. Keep up the videos, I always tell my daughter that someday she will be able to help a little girl or boy who is struggling and that's what you are doing right now . Very brave, be proud and once again you are awesome! Thank you
Hey!!! I just want you to know that I was almost in tears watching this video. Me and you are so alike its crazy. I am a former Athlete and College graduate. I have been stuttering since a very young age. I would say it is moderate to severe, and it is very frustrating. I am very quiet and too myself because of it. Its very encouraging seeing other people that struggle with the same thing. Thank you for this video.. If you have any other social media let me know. I would really like to keep in touch we can help each other. God Bless
Deborah Martin awe thanks for the nice comment!! My twitter is @amblifestyler and instagram @ambitiouslifestyler (named after my blog 😊)
I can absolutely understand you, as I face the same problems, or have been in similiar situations. Keep going!
Thank you for sharing this. The obvious take away from your video is that you have more to offer than us “east talkers.” Keep in mind that some of the best orators in history had to overcome speech difficulties. (Best singers too) But the overall attractiveness you exude, with your amazing smile and hypnotic eyes only accentuate your inner strength to put yourself out there. Kudos young lady. The world is a richer place with you in it!
Those who matter don't care, those who care don't matter. You're genuinely beautiful, strong and COOL. I don't have stuttering problems but I tend to speak fast so people think I'm nervous when I'm actually not. Hope you get better each day! Even if you don't, remember that you're exactly where you need to be and you're PERFECT.
You are VERY brave, and you should feel extremely proud of yourself. I'm proud of you and I don't even know you!
As someone you has lived with stuttering for 66 years now, I can easily relate to everything you've said.
As a young boy my stutter was so bad I could barely speak at all and suffered all the awful negatives you yourself expressed. However, in my teenage years I resolved not to let this get the better of me and I grew in confidence and learned to surmount the main difficulties.
Now, for the past 40 or so years, I cam more or less talk normally (save for a few words, which people like us tend to become experts in skirting around) and even teach in front of classes of multiple students
Thank you for this wonderful video. I also plan to check out your other videos. A BIG well done to you!!
Take care x
Thank you so much for your video. I had a stutter since I was 4. It was so tough to go through the mixed feeling of embarrassed , shamed and self-blamed etc.I did the same things as you mentioned. I worked on my self-esteem, breath and rythme of speaking by sports,yoga and reading psychological books. It gets so much better. Ps, I am a language teacher.when I had a stutter I just told my students I have this trouble some time. Actually this helps me to relax and continue our conversation:)
Great Video! Takes courage to do this. Be Proud of yourself! U should definitely do more videos about stuttering. Take Care!
The way I am relating with you right now.I could relate to your story about reading in school and asking the person next to you to read for you,totally relate to that!!Getting stuck to a point where the words wouldn’t come out.This is the first stuttering CZcams video where I can feel like the person on the other side is just narrating my life story!This is really stressful to live with.
You are so awesome I watched your video with my daughter who is 13 years old and has a stutter and you really helped her alot you are very brave for what you're doing and keep up the good work thank you, Brian
I’m 12 and I have a stutter and I can relate to this video so much. I get very nervous and people used to bully me and make fun of me but I’ve learnt to deal with the bad people. I lack confidence and self esteem and I don’t like talking in front of people. I go to speech therapy as well but it hasn’t made much of a difference. Your videos make me happy and more confident. Luv you ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much. These past few years have been hell inside my brain because of my stutter. During this video I started crying because I know the feeling that you felt at the drive-thru. Sometimes when the phone rings, I just can't answer it because so many times when I go to say "hello" I can't get the word out at all and it feels like I can't breathe. I get terrified to do things that normal people would find really simple. I have struggled so much in school as well with trying to talk to others and introducing myself because saying my first name is the worst thing for me. When people make fun of me it hurts me so much that it keeps me up at night because I know have to live like this for the rest of my life. But I really don't. The stutter will be there, but the fear doesn't have to be. This video helped me a lot and I want you to know that you have really made an impact on my life, so thank you so much for that. I hope I can get better. The mental side effects are too much sometimes. But I know I'm not alone in this struggle and I don't have to feel like this anymore.
this has got to be one of the first stuttering video's I've seen with someone who has had a stutter since birth because I thought I was the only one tbh! I completely relate to EVERYTHING you stated In this video. Up until 11 years old my stutter began to get worse and worse each day until I was starting high school at around 12 years old. My mum decided to go back to the doctors to see if they'll be able to refer me back into speech therapy for a sort of support group. I can tell you right now as 14 years old that the stereotype of speech therapy working is VERY rare. It just really depends. You know what the worse thing is, when someone tries to 'help' you by saying "oh it's okay, I stutter too when I'm nervous". Like please, I know where your coming from in 'trying to help me' but ironically that's not helping me!! ugh
People have said that to me many times, come to find out they were lying. How can they comment on something they don't know anything about.
I can relate, I know someone who has a speech impediment and she is cute and she feels bad about it a lot but I always try to remind her to not be scared of it or anything, just try to do your best and that's as good as you can do. And after its all over just look back and think of how everything is going to be okay despite how embarrassed you might have felt
Hi from Quebec :) it's a very good video. I have stutter for many years and now it's somewhat under control. But some days it's really hard. I found out with time that it's really connected with my emotions and my sleep. If I do not sleep well, the problem gets worst. If I anticipate I will stutter, then I will. Like, for instance, if I am in a crowded and noisy environment (restaurant) then the probability of stuttering triple. One day, I decided to go to Toastmasters to fight my fears and I stopped stuttering as my level of self confidence increased a lot. Recently the problem came back again and I am searching solutions. Your video helped me a lot to feel less lonely. One thing I tell you, stay strong and positive, we all have a treasure inside us. I think people who stutter need to talk without being judged. Let me know if you (or anybody here) want to practice over the phone / hangout. Good luck! :)
I like people with stutters. It really says something when you have the guts to speak up even with a stutter. You have to be brave to do something like that. Plus, I think a stutters kind of cute
Ugh my stutter. What a hell. I wish everyday for it to go away but it’s serving my abandoned traumatized childhood self to get its needs met in an unhealthy way. Good for u for making videos on it.
Hey Tea. I agree with everything you said. I am here because I need some support, and as u said it is a very difficult subject to talk about, since people won't understand what exactly it means and how it can change one's life. This is only to tell you that you sure are a role model for all stutterers because you faced it in front of the world and this is the most important part to ease your life and be proud of your uniqueness :)
I feel your pain ...cant tell you how many times I've broken down but despite all that having my stutter has helped me pick myself up having self motivation to do things day to day to stay on a consistent path others don't understand but keep being you stutter and all
Brilliant video, extremely relatable as someone who also stutters. You capture it perfectly when describing the feeling of loneliness, something a person who does not stutter will not understand. It really is a lifelong journey (some may say battle) with ups and downs but glad to see your being positive. And well spoken throughout!
Hi Téa. We did reading out loud in a circle in English class. I would always count the sentences to see which was the sentence I had to read. I'd repeat it in my head over and over again for the entire time and usually managed to blurt it out when it was my turn... We did this all the time. The worst. Not as bad as having to read your essay though. When my teacher scanned the room for someone to call on to read their homework I'd usually hide under my desk... What helps me today is stuttering more openly....
I think it's extremely courageous of you to post a video like that. Thanks so much for that.
Hi Téa, great video and advice. I've stammered since i was around 8 or 9 and have been trying to help people learn to live with their stammer for a while. Personally I think another idea which is helpful is having a sense of humour about it. I've learned through performing as a magician as a job for around 6 years, that making a joke about it eases the person and kills my anxiety. Some people who stammer can't seem to understand how this will help because they understandably get very frustrated with themselves. However people who don't stammer seem to love this and appreciate what you're saying a lot more , making it easier to speak to them. What's do you think?
Keep up the good work
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Thank you for making this! I just wanted to say to young girls and women out there, that tomorrow will come, you will survive whatever happens. I had a rough youth, clouded with worries because of my severe stutter, but just take it one day at a time. Just breathe and don't ponder over embarrassing moments and situations, let them go the minute after they happen. Just keep moving forward, and don't look back. I still stutter at 42, and it does affect my life, but it is still a beautiful life.
Just to let you know: there are male stutterers too. And they suffer the same amount females do . Maybe, since men are still supposed to be the strong guys, even more ...
hey .. i just wanted to say that you give hope to others that have the same problem. I understand you fully .. i deal with that every single day since age of 3. But we still have to be strong and stay head high cause people like us are special and brilliant .
it’s really amazing when u see similar ppl to u and the actions they been talking about and u been through it before, what tèa is doing makes me smile, and i want to be friends with ppl who are feeling just like what i feel if i get anxiety and all that
You are making a very strong statement that is helping not only those that suffer from this but as well as others that have different handicaps so be proud
You are an inspiration! I'm 21 and I've been stuttering since my childhood and I relate to every single thing you said. I don't comment at youtube videos ever, but I just want to tell you that you are doing an amazing job and you have motivated me to start a youtube channel of my own! Great video Tea!
It baffled me how similar my experiences were to yours. And from the looks of the other comments, this seemed to happen to a lot of people. It reassures me how now I know I'm not alone with this issue. It always frustrates me how some people just don't understand how bad it is and how much it really affects my life. Thank you for this video
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and emotions with us, Téa. To talk is to open ourselves up to everyone and that is scary. I can hear your strength in your speech. I took speech therapy when I was young (7-8) and the therapist focused on eradicating the stutter. It didn't work.
I started sessions with a therapist this year in another country and 23 years later. The focus was not on getting rid of the stutter but becoming one with it and accepting it as a part of who I am. Now this won't help with acting - and I too hate my stutter - but it it teaching me not to be scared of it. My stutter consists mainly of silent blocks (which, I'm told, are not stutters) because I have become so afraid of stuttering that I actually increase disfluency. I imagine stuttering, an extension or a repetition, and the tense feeling in my throat and chest would disappear. Have you ever looked into this? (this is the first video I'm watching)
Lot of love from a french stutter :) you seem to be a really great person, I related to most of your stories. Thanks to have published this video
I have a bad stutter and I stumbled upon your channel and I am so glad I did, you make me feel not so alone. My stutter began after I had meningitis when I was 18 months old and my life has NEVER been the same. It is a struggle everyday, and even after 31 years later, I would give ANYTHING to talk like a normal person just for 1 day 😭
I too was a stutterer (I was a situational blocker) and I resonate with your comment so much. I would like to recommend checking out Lee Lovetts’ Stop Stuttering Short Course: How to Break the Stuttering Code and his amazing WSSA program. Those two things helped me tremendously and I hope the same for you if you end up checking it out. All the best.
you're not the only one, I'm now trying to get rid of it before I ruin my end of year project, Stuttering is really a complicated issue !
I can really relate to you. I also have a stuttering problem when I am in public and in school. It really sucks but hearing what you said about people not actually caring is true. I had a hard time in school today because it was my turn to talk and when it was my turn I couldn’t get my words out and I ended up doing the exact same thing you did. I turned to the person next to me and had them read it. It was really embarrassing and it made me feel so stupid. It takes a lot of courage to make one of these videos. I’m happy to know that I’m not alone with my stuttering problem.
Thanks for the video !!
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Great video. That takes a lot of courage, Much respect. I used to have one too but It’s almost completely gone, have my good and bad days. But growing up no one really knew that, turned into skipping class so I wouldn’t have to present, etc. for me having the courage and not thinking about it too much really helped and so did putting myself in awkward situations on purpose. Wih the best of luck to all of you and keep a positive mind!
You are so amazing. I’ve stuttered all my life and I always felt like I was lesser than a lot people because I can’t say what I want to all the time. But this video makes me feel like I’m not alone, and that I can get past it. Thank you so much! It really means the world to me
Hey hun. I totally hear you. It's that deep dark feeling that I hate. Also when mines is really bad I forget to breathe and my chest hurts.
I'm learning Italian and I stammer in both English and italian. I dont like the anticipation of waiting for my turn to read. Also on italki when I'm with my teacher who is very patient it can be so hard to speak and I end up wasting half the lesson I paid for because of my stammer.
But one thing I have noticed is that you are enough eventhough you have a stammer. My friends all know I stammer and even when I breathe sometimes it catches onto another episode. I love yoga and dance too and it helps your right. If people dont have patience and openness to know me and accept me then I dont want to try to give my light and energy to them.
Keep shining hun. Xx
Thank you for this inspiring video! I also have stuttered my whole life and it can be super frustrating at times. I try not to let it hold me back but it definitely has its downfalls. i’ve been searching for ways to make it better. I feel like it holds me back from making new friends and while i’m at work as well and it can be very discouraging. I’m relieved to see i’m not alone in this and there are people like you who understand what it’s like living with it. Hope all is well!
I know the feeling when the words just wont come out is the worst, so much anxiety build up, thanks for sharing, I'm currently trying to overcome my stuttering and get my comfortable with it. I've been in the military for 4 years and I'm moving into a leadership position soon so its stressful to think about it all. For anyone who can't get a therapist I recommend the book "self-therapy for the stutterer" its a very helpful book.
Thank you, I’m 66 years old and I’ve been a severe stutterer for as long as I can remember. Oh the stories I could tell you. :)
For one: In a restaurant or fast food place, I would order food that was easier to say and not the food that I really wanted. My only outlet was singing and playing the guitar professionally for many years. To be honest, with all the stress and anxiety I’ve endured during my life, I really didn’t think I would live this long. Now a days I’m pretty much a recluse. I would blame stuttering for that.
Wow... So, I'm a little over the 7 minute mark in your video and I had to pause to comment on just how much I relate to this. All of my life I've never met another person who stutters, so I've always felt very isolated. I suffered a lot from depression, anxiety, and constant self doubt for the vast majority of my life.... to the point that I've even felt like I was mentally lagging. I'm now 19 going on 20 and it is only within this past year that my self esteem has REALLY heightened, even despite my stutter.... which has gotten better to some degree. There was a situation I recall clearly where my grandmother had put me on the phone with customer service completely out of the blue when I had only recently woken up and I had no clue really what the problem was.... I was so nervous and tense when I answered the phone, I kept stuttering over every word... pausing, stopping and starting over...then the person on the other end would ask me the same question over and over and I'd just sit there with my mouth agape, trying to get just the 1st word out.
Another situation where I was trying to get a word out and the person on the other end supposed I took too long and blatantly hung up on me...twice.
I still open all of my conversations with "Sorry, I stutter"...but I have my best friend to thank for me being able to gather the confidence to even open a conversation at all.
Thanks for this video... I don't feel so alone anymore.
Thanks for sharing. Reminded me of my high school days working at White Castle, they knew I stutter but still put me on drive through. I lived through it :) However, now I am much much older and wiser. I still stutter and get nervous of public speaking. My daughter stutters and I am more worried about her than myself. Anyhow, keep sharing, it will help others.
with a face like that, your stutter automatically becomes cute. I love you.
I’ve stuttered all my life, and was very embarrassed by it as a child, and only annoyed when it pops up as an adult (45 atm). What I noticed early on was that I could recite memorized dialog clearly with practice, and got into the habit of preparing my responses before I spoke. This means that I speak with a slower, more deliberate cadence just like you do in the video. The only time as an adult that my stutter became an issue was after I left the armed forces, it took years to restore my calm to the point that I could get through a sentence clearly. These days no one notices even when I do stutter, because it doesn’t sideline my train of thought. You go, girl! Keep being you.
You said so much interesting stuff. Thank you for explaining to me your experiences and thoughts!
This video was in my suggestion it’s cool to know there are other people who stutter as a kid I always refused to get help with my stuttering but now I’m trying to fix it it’s cool to see that someone who stutters is talking clearly like you
When you were explaining yourself it was so much common with me. I pray god for you and me to let our stutter go. Thank you. And you have no reason to have low self-esteem , you're great the way you're.
I understand the depression, stress, loneliness and everything else you go through 100% because I go through the same thing. I use to be a very social person hanging out and meeting a lot of people daily until I lived at job corps and came back, it turned me in to a loner and made everything much worse.
I stuttered my whole life. It was worse when I was a kid. 5 yrs of speech therapy and it’s better. I mainly stutter now when I am nervous or excited. I have never meet anyone else that stuttered. Thank you for the video.
Cool video! I do not have a conventional stutter, but I have allot of sentence breaks, restarts, and sometimes uncontrollably replace words or phrases with something unintentional if I become extremely anxious when speaking. I've become much more aware of it when speaking to professionals in my field after graduating college. It gets better when you hit adulthood, but it is still a nervous disorder for me and is increased by anxiety. It's an ever going work in progress, and I hope everyone who deals with stuttering an speech impediments are able to find their confidence and relax. Good advice in general! :) I survived some meetings by just trying to breath and relax.
Thank you so much for making this video. I am a very social person and I stutter. Recently it has seemed to come up more when I get more stressed. At my job I talk to people all day. That is when I stutter the most and I always feel so embarrassed and like I’m going to get fired over it.
you're so brave to talk about this! i stutter myself and stuttering is one of my insecurities that i never want to talk about this topic
This video was very helpful and reassures me that I'm not alone in this. Although I didn't take speech therapy, the techniques you've shared I learned on my own through bad experiences but it made me who I am today and I always keep going. :).
I don't have a speech impediment, and you're way better at speaking to a camera than I am, lol :)
Very informative and brave video. I'm glad you've reached a point where you're not holding back, despite the difficulties. It would be such a shame for you to hide, since you seem like such a genuinely sweet person :)
I'm gonna let you inspire me, and start doing youtube tutorial videos that I've been holding off since forever, because talking to an audience scares me.
Cheers!
Wow, I stumbled across this video this morning and the experiences you described are exactly what I go through on a daily basis. I go to uni and my major requires a ton of public speaking. My stammer is unforgiving during normal friendly conversations let alone public speeches. Thanks for sharing your tips and experiences, I’m really glad you’ve been doing something to improve your overall well-being.
Great video. I stutter too. It's crazy how people who stutter can tell if someone else stutters. Within the first minute of the video I could tell you were trying not to stutter. You did a great job though. Everything you mentioned has happened to me multiple times throughout my life. I'm 25 now and stutter occasionally. What helped me was reading out loud at nights so I could loosen up my throat muscles. This way my mouth and throat wouldn't tighten up as much when I speak. Also, it seems like anxiety causes my stuttering due to it tensing up my speaking mechanisms. One way that I've overcome anxiety is to become overly confident in myself as a person (through secondary education, money, working out at the gym, and increasing my social status). That way normal interactions with people won't intimidate me and create such anxiety.
Overall, I admire your determination to overcome stuttering.
Everything you said is so relatable that I had to remember that you weren’t talking about me specifically lol. It used to bother me so much; I could feel my heart pounding and face getting hot. However over time I’ve learned to not care as much by building confidence in all areas of my life. It still always bothers me to some degree, but nothing like it used to. Although you posted this well over a year ago, I want to thank you for doing so because tonight this video was what I needed to see.
I have a stuttering/speech impediment as well as I know exactly how you feel. It’s hard to speak just because the words won’t come out at all. I don’t know how old this video is and if you still stutter, but everything you mentioned in the video is what I have been through my whole life. Thank you for posting this cause hopefully it puts in perspective how much we try to be like everyone else but it’s hard to do so because some people don’t understand.
Jeez i remember once when i was entering the bus and i had ask for a ticket, the bus was full and packed with people, nervous at the same time to speak, i could not say "can i have a whole day ticket" Took me like 30sec to say that phrase and i was completely shut down and loss all my confidence in terms of embarrassment and i could hear laughing at the back. I know deep inside of how suffering it is especially when you had it since you were born, i was born with it. Don't worry about it you can't stutter forever, like it can't rain forever. Don;t give in and don't settle for anything. God bless.
I stutter too. And I just took an instructor job in college. I usually walk inside the class to help me overcome stuttering. Bottom line is that I don’t let stuttering interfere with things I want to accomplish. And yes, I also have a lot of friends and I could say they’ve accepted what I am. Good video.
Just like many of "us" out there, I also felt the need to comment as I relate to nearly everything that happened to you. I've never been a shy kid but stuttering sort of forced me into that role. The more I stuttered the more I automatically steered clear from social interaction.
Just like most of you, I also don't stutter when I'm alone, when I talk in unison with a group and when I talk to the few very very close friends. This made me think too that the stutter arises when we're exposed to situations in which a lot of attention is given to our very voice and speech, especially in contexts we can't predict. Some of these contexts are precisely what you mentioned: talking on the phone (attention given entirely to the speech, worse if with strangers), doing bureaucratic paper work, voicing requests and complaints ecc. Just like you, one of my most humiliating experience was during a training in my former workplace. The team leader asked the group to read out loud a paragraph each of a text displayed. When my turn came my palms began to sweat and my heartbeat accelerated. I started out fine then blockages began until I couldn't utter a single word anymore without stuttering. I had to say to the group, my head muscles throbbing with tension, "sorry I can't".
I think the trouble with this, just like in your French class, is that the entire attention is given to your speech, not even to the linguistic content (everyone has the text before their eyes, so if they bother to listen to you it is only for HOW you read - your speech).
An interesting question would be: do you all stutter when speaking a foreign language? I noticed my stuttering is very minimal when I speak English, even if I speak it in the same tempo as my native language. Would be interesting to know whether it is a constant.
I feel like girls won't be judged as much as guys for stuttering. I am a guy that stutters and I feel like I am felt different about when I stutter. Having blocks like you have explained is just as frustrating as being judged. You are so strong to maintain a positive attitude throughout this video and I hope I can be like you someday.
As a stutter, I'd like to say that is quite sad to see a person like this girl worrying to badly because of this "issue". When I see another person stuttering, even to me, it seems very easy to relax and calm down, and keep going, but when you're under that skin, trust me, is not that easy. I'll try to breath and relax as much as possible in order to speak well. Thank you for giving me your point of view.
I was put into Special ED because of my stutter, doesn't sound like that was the case for you and I'm happy about that, glad to see that other schools are nice and not mean. Also my stutter is the same way.
This is me exactly, can relate 100%. My stuttering suddenly grew exponentially worse when I was Grade 11, and it became a vicious cycle that caused my self esteem to crash. From being a very social person, to someone who needs other people to order my food for me during meal times... I would brace myself, queue up with my heart rate rising to 100mph, realise I can't say anything and they leave the queue. When I call customer support for anything, I realise the words won't come out so I put down the phone and call an hour later....Speech Blocks have really destroyed my life, the moments when i know exactly what to say, but the words just won't come out and end up looking like a retarded goldfish with my mouth open. To make things worse, I developed a slurred speech since trying to find alternative ways to get the words out, making me even more inaudible. I feel that psychological stuttering is far worse than an actual physical speech disability is because you look perfectly fine, and you know exactly what to say, but sometimes the stutter comes and hits you like an iron brick and suddenly you have to try so hard to meet yours and others expectations in speech. You cannot blame it on a disability from an unfortunate accident, and you'll have more trouble trying to explain to them the actual reason especially if it's a complete stranger you only see briefly, I.e. A cashier.
Your story about having to quit performing at plays up until 10th grade reminds me of my experience with Drama class in junior high. I loved drama class up until I stuttered really bad while doing a skit during class. I never took drama class again even though I loved acting. Thank you for sharing your story. You are so brave!
I stutter too and I'm 14 and I've stuttered for as long as I can remember. I got made fun of a lot but luckily I don't anymore. But I can relate to you and I hope you don't get discouraged, persevere. I have low confidence and it seems no one understands :/ :( Omg when you explained the feeling when it doesn't come out is soo relatable for me :'( Thank you so so much for this :'(
I feel you and I see youre speaking so normal, all you problem is nothing but beleiving thay ypuve a problem, Im also stutter and it doesnt obstract me at all because I accepted it and really loved it now I dont stutter cuz I dont care about what people gonba think about me anymore, I only look after myself
Your video just made my day. I stutter as well especially when I do public speaking or when I have to introduce myself. The phone has always been my nightmare. I've got a little better when I met my wife..she accepts me as I am and that made me more confident of myself and now I stutter a little less.Thanks for sharing and tips.
Thanks so much I feel so much better. I know I’m not alone and people share my struggle. Stuttering does effect me in many negative ways but it makes me unique and different something many people can’t relate to.