Life is Beautiful... and It's Hard.
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- [Vlog 5.17.23] - Morning chat with Mary about the beautiful and hard parts of life.
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Ravenously hungry is the phrase I think you were looking for Mary. I've been on the struggle bus lately, so thank you for helping me not feel so alone in the hard weeks.
My mom was a foster parent for 20 years and it was beautiful and heartbreaking. Hang in there Mary!
This is what mom life looks like. Brain is drained… lol! Mary, you are doing amazing, all us moms got your back back. ❤ BTW, you house is 🤩
Elijah is soooooooo cute sitting in his high chair doing his sign language!
I love that Elijah is learning to sign. It’s precious
@@joannabrown2829 it really is...they are a precious family to watch grow and learn together ❤️
Hi sweet girl❤. Im not gonna try to even imagine all that your heart is experiencing in this season, but im so glad your close with the One who does. Praying you feel his grace, peace and presence as he leads you through it.
Mary you are doing a great job juggling vlogging and all the mommy duties of the day for the babies and pets❤ your juggling a lot with joy ! Thank you for sharing what you can with all of us , you bring joy to others on our hard days too ❤ like chatting with a friend ! Have a lovely day everyone! Don’t forget to laugh everyday 🤗
I can feel your joy Mary as well as the difficult feelings. You have taken on so many changes in the past year and a half and you are doing such a great job with everything. I amazed as well as thankful that you and Peter still find the time and willingness to vlog so that we can still be a part of your beautiful journey. You and Peter are going to bless other children with your love and kindness as you embark on this new chapter in your life. ❤
Sweet
Fostering can be so rewarding and a blessing but, also extremely hard…emotionally, mentally and sometimes physically. I have seen what it does in families, both good and bad.
Personally, I would find it so hard to be what the child needs …and then give them up, if the family situation improves or something else happens.
Bless you both for your loving, caring and gracious hearts!🙏🏻💞
I pray that this little sweetie will be a blessing to your family and things will get easier.
As an adoptive mother of two...if you need a break just take it. There is no rule on vlogs that says you MUST do it every day.
Collect stuff when something happens and do a video or two a week for a bit. Give yourselves space to understand your new life
The hard is the beautiful part of life. Thanks for sharing God bless.
That is a struggle because there is so little that you can share. But you are doing so good. The folks who have followed you for years should understand. Sending you and your family hugs.
Mary, your little sweetie will thrive with your love and we’re all here to hold you up with our love, support and prayers, whatever our faith journey xxxxxxxxxxxxx
You’re an amazing Mom. We love you!!❤❤❤
You are doing so well Mary! It's okay to feel a little lost. Taken tour time to figure it all out okay
I was a foster parent for 12 years and it was hard but rewarding. I loved all the kiddos I cared for and missed them when they left. I stay in touch with all the ones that are adults now. When my last child turned 18 she moved back to her mother and I stopped fostering because my health was going down hill fast. I am so happy to see my kiddos doing great in life and being happy. I never had babies because I was older when I started fostering. I had retired from teaching but missed the kiddos so I started fostering. 😊
You and Peter and Elijah are so amazing and wonderful’🥰🥰❤️❤️❤️
You guys are in my prayers and you got this!
Dear Mary, I’ve been with the both of since Scotland, you talk about being blessed by us, l have to tell you that you my friend have helped me through so many medical difficulties and Peter has blessed me with keeping my faith strong and pure. I’m in Australia and a great grandma, I’m disabled and l often sing to myself, there ain’t no needle in my chest! You are wonderful parents and your beautiful son is so gorgeous. You are really going to bless a foster child, you make God smile. Thank you both for taking some time for your loving friends.🇦🇺🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Film making dinner, chatting in the evening, Q&A, grocery haul, whatever. I'll always watch you ❤ Love you guys!
Mary, Peter and Elijah, thank you so much for letting us be a part of your lives over these last few years, it has been an honor and a joy.
May I say that I was not surprised when you guys announced that you would be fostering. I’ve felt this in my heart about you guys long before you even had Elijah. I watched your videos thinking what wonderful people you guys were and how much love you have to give. Now as for the vlogging and such, Never feel like you have to put out a video! We will totally understand! But as far as videoing Elijah and your new sweetie Do that!! Do that for you guys, do it for Elijah in the future, do it for the sweetie for the future! Don’t do it for Us! Keep filming and take tons of pictures for y’all! Whether the little sweetie is with you short term or long term photos and videos of fosters are SO Important! Most times they never have anything from when they are young or from the times they are in fostercare. So take a ton make them a photo album and videos on a flash drive. Send those with them whenever they may move on from your home. And if they stay for years or forever with you you’ll have those memories to share with them in the future. So please continue the videos and the pictures for y’all and for them. We can wait. They can’t they grow to fast! Our continued prayers for your family and your new journey’s. Blessings
I am very happy for you with being able to foster. That is a very hard journey. You have to be careful what you say and share with us. We understand when you are not sure what to say, the legalities are the hardest part of fostering. You are going to do great and we support you during this journey. Take care.
Mary you are committing to a lot right now with Peter just starting his new job, best of luck to you.
Mary, all the way from the UK, I send my love to you all ❤ you are both amazing and doing God's beautiful work xxx
Thank you for sharing your life and thoughts with us!
I just got an NG feeding tube and it helped me to watch your old NJ videos and realizing that it has helped you be more healthy and be able to have this amazing chapter in your life. I'm now 5 months pregnant and that was a blessing from God because I have never been able to get pregnant 🎉 Having the NG feeding tube is giving me more energy and making me feel more "normal" and I truly can't believe it. Thank you for making the videos that you do. God bless you and your family. I've been watching you for over 7 years and it helps me feel less alone.
Sometimes Mary is funny without even trying, and it's cute. "Thanks camera for telling me infant. There he is. It's going to be a nice day." (Two second stare at the camera). 😄One time I remember saying that I smiled with Mary when she smiled for about 30 seconds while telling the camera whatever it was that she said. That was a few months ago. If it was a cartoon moment, that smile would have been part of the cartoon's list of jokes. And then, there was the time, it was the end of a vlog, and Peter and Mary tried a food together, that they had just made on the stove. Peter liked it and asked if Mary did. She said "yes" while giving a disgusted look on her face as if she hated it. Funny and cute, Mary.
"There are so many of you who I have come to know on a personal level, and that's an honor." And that includes me, right Mary? I've been here since 2018 or so. It's been nice seeing the vlogs throughout those years. "This crazy thing called CZcams." I remember when there was no such thing as internet, let alone CZcams.
I’m loving your excitement! ❤
I wish all the best your doing a great job.
Mary, you are doing great!! I pray that God gives you peace as your transitioning into a new chapter in life. I pray that you're able to prioritize your daily schedule, and that it comes easy to you, and Peter. I know that little sweetie, is so thankful for you both, and Baby Elijah. God bless you, and your willingness to become foster parents. ✝️🙏🏻♥️
I did foster care for 13 years. It’s such a rewarding g and beautiful hard messy experience. I’d do it all over again in a heartbeat.
Hugs and prayers for all of you and your newest edition being welcomed.
I love you guys for being so inspirational. You put things into perspective. I need that daily. ❤️
Thank you. A beautiful family. ❤
The feelings in this video are SO relatable, even though I am in a completely different stage of life. Thanks for sharing this real life morning chat.
You've expressed the feelings of foster care so well. Brimming with love and sorrow. Both exist together throughout the process. Love as well as you can. Pray for patience and grace. You're doing God's work.
You guys have got this . Go slow. You are spiritual, resilient, brave , authentic and real. You got this xxx
I just love you Mary, not many people can hold the beautiful and the hard at the same time. You inspire me to see the good. I’m so glad you’re on the internet ❤
Love the communication btwn you and ‘infant’ 🫐
My heart is brimming with all sorts of life’s drama.
It's so amazing to see how far you all have come. Thank you for the encouragement through the year's. Our lives are completely turned upside down and we need prayers. For our marriage, to find job's so we don't loose our home and for happiness. I still have faith God has us in his hands. Elija is so stinking cute.
We are entering a very similar hard and beautiful situation, I needed these words right now ❤
Love that you are teaching him Sign Language. I am headed to college in the fall for ASL interpreting, and it always makes me happy to see parents signing with their kiddos. I also wanted to say you got this. I love your family and your strength and resilience. You'll be just fine🤎
I’m sure oh so many of us just love your family too! It’s totally F I N E the way you’re feeling. You are not alone. We all go through l i f e. You do not have to share the negative with us but without a doubt your CZcams family here would not care at all. We are here for YOU too. Your channel has helping SO MANY PEOPLE in so many ways! It’s the least we can do for you!
PS. We love seeing the signlanguage! My husband is deaf and it tickles him and me too, every time anyone signing👋
U2 are the best parents I have ever seen on CZcams… Bar none!👏🥰👏🥰🙏
You and Peter have your hands full. God bless you for your decision to Foster. Always praying for your strength. I can see your cup is running over a bit.😊
I feel your heart as becoming a foster mom. It’s beautiful. Could I caution you to be aware that Eli may be jealous when you have another sweetie? We had a family member become foster parents and their children didn’t understand that the foster child needed so much attention and love from their parents. They felt like they had been replaced by the new foster child. They had to give up fostering for now.
I became a foster/adopt mom to a 5 year old. I adopted her when she was 7. It was a roller coaster with Ashley. Thank you for fosteting your little darlin'. There are so many kids waiting for a family like yours. Blessings to your family.
Elijah is so big ❤
Feel you totally! The day you filmed this, we picked our little sweetie up - our newborn fosterling we are hoping to adopt…….your face say it all! Boy, it’s so hard when you ‘feel’……. The highs and the lows and everything in between…… God is with you and will equip & strengthen you…..xxx
You guys are a great parents n you guys will be good foster parents.
Oh my goodness, you have no idea how much I feel that Hatcher clip right now !!
And by the way, we’re foster parents to it is quite the roller coaster. Hang on tight. It is very beautiful and very hard and very beautiful.
I love you Ms. Mary and Peter. I was drawn to you guys because of the cystic fibrosis, which you cannot tell you have it. And that you love the Lord and realize the power of worship. 😊
I love that you are teaching Elijah sign language 🤟
Fostering is not for the faint of heart. Praying for you guys. Only other foster parents get it. You will cry out to the Lord like none other during this time :)
Very good 📹 have a good month ❤ 😮smile
Maybe it’s time to stop filming. It has seemed like you don’t want to be on camera anymore for quite awhile. I can’t imagine trying to vlog when you can’t show such a huge part of your life. I’ll just say, thanks for showing me what it’s like to live with CF and best wishes to you on your new journey. ✌️
I get it. My aunt and uncle fostered a little girl for a year or so and it was definitely a great brimming over kind of time. If I thought about it too much I would have cried. You know like it’s so sad to know even just small parts of this little girls story that led up to me knowing her. The amount of neglectful and traumatising things that can happen to a child before they are even a few years old is awfully unbelievable. I get it and I still think her sometimes, hoping that she is doing ok and that she has some stability in her life now. I do know however that you guys will be amazing, loving foster parents, your already those things as parents to Elijah and I so hope that this little sweetie and many more after them will be forever grateful and blessed to have you guys play a part in their lives in some of darkest, hardest times of their lives. Love you guys 🥰.
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Hope yous are all okay with ❤❤
Mary, You and Peter do what ever your heart needs. It's your private time between the three of you. I'm not sure your going to be able to film your little foster sweetie because of the foster system,CPS and courts. My heart is full for you and your family as well. God knows you and Peters soul,that's why he is going to help you navigate through this. Blessings.
duality ❤
Oh, sweet Mary. ♥️ I'm so glad Chris Fabry introduced you and Peter to his listening audience all those years ago. Remember, he joked by saying "...Peter and Mary, not Peter, Paul, and Mary." I thought at first that it would be sad to watch your vlogs, but quickly learned it was just the opposite, Since then, you two have blessed my life as you encourage us to choose joy in even the smallest things, regardless of circumstances. I'm praying especially for your tender heart as you enter this new phase of life. And so happy that Peter has the opportunity to pastor again.
Mary for meny years my years my mom was a foster parent. She loved doing it. I was in foster care when I was a baby my mom adopted me and my sister. . It's hard work but it pays off in the long run.
Kate Bowler…..”life is so beautiful, life is so hard”.
I love fruit
This is normal ~you have arrived. ~ and it’s because you care so deeply. Love is a sacrifice, and the reward is there for you…grab those moments of beauty and ask God to multiply them with the joy of the Lord as your strength. You guys talk a lot about gratitude and things like that, and it is so beneficial for you and all of us to be thankful for those moments of hard so that Jesus can swoop in and join with us to get through those moments and to think clearly~ to be a blessing~~~ He can turn it around. I have had chronic pain and illness raising my two children and I remember those times when I was in pain but I did for the children what I needed to do and I did my best to stay cheerful doing it. And then I needed to rest afterwards, but it wasn’t because I didn’t wanna do it but because it hurts so bad and I didn’t want to let the children know that my sacrificing for them was in any way I negative ~that it was all because I love them and that they deserved the best of care.
Hello Elijah, gymnastics is obviously 'working ' did you climb onto Mom's chair whilst she was sitting on it? 🎉
Mary we love visiting you, you don't need to say anything big or important. God bless you in this season of life xxx
Ravenous
Yes! The highchair buckle! 🤣 what about got me, though was the straps would get caught on baby girls legs, and I'd have her at that halfway point and would have a minor panic attack at the thought that i might not have the stamina to free her while holding her, too. But i learned from you, Mary, to prioritize what i CAN do, and plan to have reinforcements for the things that I can't. G-d will give you strength, Mary, just as He has brought you to this moment. Shalom, all 💚🙏🕊
Ravenous is to be very hungry. Ravishing is very different 😅
Back in the day, our kids had "imaginary
Friends" they would talk to...at your house it is reversed & Elijah sees you "talking" to your imaginary friends
Parenting is hard!
Oh Mary...alot. I hope we can at least know if it's a boy or girl. I'm a social worker. The Foster system is hard. Lots of trauma for these kids. I don't work in the system and I could never be a foster parent because it's just too emotional. I hope the sweetie will be okay. You are amazing people and wonderful. This child is so lucky and so is Elijah. Watching your vlogs helps me alot. Because my life is very hard in many ways.But I try to see The beauty too.Much love!
It's okay to not get dressed or clean anything! Or not even bathe till bed time. It's okay. It's okay to just be IN the moment at home. "Ridin dirty". I fostered for 7 years, and trust me it's okay. Just getting them fed 3 times or more is all that matters.
A single foster parent... 7 years
A lot of us are concerned that you might be taking on too much. Taking care of a toddler solo during the day is a life adjustment considering Peter started working outside the home, but then to include a foster placement seems too soon imo.
I’m sure Mary and Peter have thoroughly prayed about their decisions and seem to follow God’s leading. Having divine provision will certainly guarantee their family’s success, even through the most stressful circumstances. Much love and prayers to the Frey family! ❤
If anyone is used to handling hard things, it's Peter and Mary. They rely on the Lord to give them wisdom and strength and everything they need to face what comes their way. Taking care of a baby or a toddler for the first time is an adjustment for anyone. That's just part of life. Anyone who has more than one child likely had two young ones at the same time. Again, just life. Fostering will have special challenges, just as it does for any foster parent. However, Peter and Mary are as well-equipped as anyone to handle those challenges.
I understand your concern. I have friends who foster and it's so rewarding. However, it can be extremely difficult and sometimes put her own family at risk. She sadly had to remove a child from her home for very questionable and scary actions. He then went on to another home and pulled a knife on them. It can be very challenging. She also had issues with the agency not being truth just to place a child in her care. It can absolutely get hard and emotional. Not to mention, legally, they are supposed to not share their foster on CZcams. So I'm sure subscribers won't be happy about that.
I'm a single foster parent to 4 and my caseworker has addressed the judge for me to get a 5th because my area is full everywhere, group homes and placement homes. I deal with medical placements, so they are harder to place. I have 3 girls 1 boy and soon to be another girl. I had respite care her before. She is coming Friday. I will so be having a 5, 4, 3, almost 2 and 4 month old. All my kids have health issues but my 3 year old is most demanding and the soon to be 2 year old. My 3 year old is NPO tube fed, can't walk and has seizures and soon to be 2 is Cerebral palsy mostly tube fed and can't walk. My 3 year old does get around though by scooting on her butt and using her arms. She can be quite fast. I love them and they are all thriving in my care. My 5 year old has severe allergies and my 4-year-old has a severe heart condition and some allergies the baby has some health issues and gets tests done on a regular. It's not uncommon to have at least 7 appointments or more a week. Telahealth and home visits are almost every day
Oh Mary, I understand about the high chair clip! It happened to me a few minutes ago, too….although there are no high chairs here. But I know you know what I mean. I love you all! ❤
Perhaps you could have a helper from the church for a couple hours a day or a couple times a week to give you a break.
Sure is! I’m homeless, bouncing from one cheap AirBNB to another. Have been since February 10. Lived in a women’s shelter for a while to save some money, but I was assaulted by another resident. Fortunately I wasn’t hurt too badly…well, I’ve definitely got some PTSD and don’t trust the cops or the legal system anymore, as they released the young woman who assaulted me, a disabled woman, and a staff member, who is also disabled LATER THAT NIGHT. I’ve never been a druggie, and other than having an anxiety disorder (I’ve had it since I was a kid), I’m not mentally ill (I’ve been told that you aren’t mentally I’ll unless you have a major mental disorder like schizophrenia or bipolar disorder, but sometimes I feel like I have a major mental disorder. When I was in college I was afraid to leave my apartment to go to school for six months, and this was LONG before remote learning existed). Life seems to get harder and harder, but I try to make the best of it, abs treasure the little victories.
Did you bring your sweet home
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Mary sometimes you don’t have to analyze everything,it’s just life,flow with it! Love your yt channel but,sometimes it gets kind of boring listening to your rants of life, can’t wait to see the new baby though! 😊🥰🤗🙏🏼
That was not said very well. Kind of mean, actually. You don’t have to watch and you certainly don’t need to comment.
You also need to learn to say No. You gotta do what is best for you , elijah, and peter. Its okay if the foster doesnt fit. Just know its not a failure on your part. You have to keep you 3 on the forefront.
I agree Lori.
I think I can speak for the majority of us when you don’t know what to vlog just come on and say hi. maybe tell us Elijah’s favorite toy of the day. Or best discovery. We just really love checking in to a family we all have gotten to know and love ❤
It is hard, but I’m a Christian and feel the rapture is soon. We shall see. I’m ready to go home.
Ravenously hungry!
I don't understand why You want to faster now that Peter got a job and wont be home much one child is a big job You should just enjoy Your time raising Elijah and it be the 3 of You since it looks like You will be taking care of 2 kids by Yourself alot
Honestly you read my mind Paula. I am concerned as well. One is a lot to juggle solo, let alone 2, especially if one is an infant.
Oh come on, my great grandma had 12 kids , war in Italy and not enough food.
All by herself.
I think Mary can manage
I agree with what you said Paula.
It's not a question of manage, but I want Mary to thrive. I think Paula makes a very valid point. Did your grandmother also juggle a chronic illness as well? I know you don't talk about your CF like you used to Mary because you've been more stable. I just don't want you over doing it and having further health challenges. 🥺
Meeting you that day 4 years ago was one of the biggest honors. Having been here since Scotland, it has been a pleasure to walk through each chapter with you. Whatever you're able is a blessing but we understand and want you to take care of yourself whatever that looks like. Thank you ❤
Not to be morbid, but 30 years ago none of this would have possible. All the good and bad that you're getting right now, this present, is truly a gift. Now go ugly cry in the shower and get some sleep so you can do it again tomorrow 😁
Then a woman said, Speak to us of Joy and Sorrow.
And he answered:
Your joy is your sorrow unmasked.
And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears.
And how else can it be?
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.
Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter’s oven?
And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives?
When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.
Some of you say, “Joy is greater than sorrow,” and others say, “Nay, sorrow is the greater.”
But I say unto you, they are inseparable.
Together they come, and when one sits alone with you at your board, remember that the other is asleep upon your bed.
Verily you are suspended like scales between your sorrow and your joy.
Only when you are empty are you at standstill and balanced.
When the treasure-keeper lifts you to weigh his gold and his silver, needs must your joy or your sorrow rise or fall. Gibran
Please cut those grapes in half so they are less of a chocking possibility. Not my idea, check with the experts. ❤
I think they are Blueberries.
@@juliecourtney3523 But they are round and could easily cause a problem if swallowed wrong. Just concerned, hope unnecessarily.
@normadennis1655 blueberries are extremely soft, no need to cut them. Grapes have tougher skins and that's why we cut them. Unnecessary in this case!
@@jenniferwolford4646 Thank you for the clarification. Guess my imagination was working overtime.
@@normadennis1655 , I was thinking they were grapes also .. My cousin baby choked on a grape , The unimaginable happened so. With my son i went overboard
I feel like they’re gearing up to quit CZcams 😢
I love you Mary but you gotta cut whole round fruit in half. Frim one mom to another half is safer.
Why so much sign language? Shouldn't words start coming to him?
Elijah was chatty like one or two vlogs ago. 😅
oh i would cut those berries in 1/2 too young he can choke dude
It's ravenish.
Ravenous
This is one of the worst videos I've seen. Why did you even choose to make a video? And the fact that you share your child's life when he has no choice is very disturbing. Also, I'm pretty sure that you can't share a foster child on video, I certainly hope not.
Sorry her day is not what YOU needed. But maybe she needs to talk. 🙏
Why don’t you not watch! You are rude! They have already made it clear they wouldn’t be videoing the child. They’ve also had this Channel for many years! Long before they got there son.