Please help me convince my son to get a haircut. [Hello Counselor Sub:ENG,THA/2018.08.13]
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Hello Counselor EP.375
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his hair has nothing to do with them drifting apart it was her own decision because she felt ashamed of going out in public with him for being criticized by others. she has the nerve to go to the program and make him change. he has no reason, but does he have to have one to not cut his hair?. if he had a reason to cut it so badly he would have done it already because at the end of the day he is the one being called out for looking like a girl and being called gay.
OMG i agree with you 100%.
Minyaoi 4EVER I agree with u 100%. A mother should never feel ashamed of her children no matter what they do.
Right!!! And with the logic of the negatives out weighing the positives, then everyone with long hair, even the women, should cut their hair short!
He HAS a reason. His 60 year old mother is working her butt off to support this grown-ass 31 year old!!! He wants to live by his own rules? Fine. Throw his butt out the door and see how far he gets.
@@BlueMeaney49 i would have understood what you were trying to say if i were child,but im not. if she were to throw him out then that would just make matters worse. that would have made him think that he is not loved by his own mother because of his hair and that is just taking things to another level. if they lived together for 3 yrs without talking because of his hair imagine how it would be if they lived seperate? that would solve nothing.he would only grow to hate her for not being by his side and showing support in his decision. he has the right to make his own decision. so what if he has long hair. its not like he is doing drugs or harming others. At the end of the day he cut his hair short because of her because he cares for her and loves her but it would have been better if she had learned to accept him for who he was and not of what she wanted her son to be.
I feel bad for that guy. No one respected his choice.
Before finishing the episode I was expecting the people to side with the guy and not the mom... kind of disappointed.
the mcs aren't that open minded lol
I think the MCs are open minded than most korean people their age but they still need some work to do. I guess their goal is to appeal to the audience they are speaking to. I'm guessing their audience is mostly older korean people. If they had supported this man, then their viewer ratings would have dropped, as well as their brand image. ikr, this world reeks of money hungry people.
there are many korean male celebrities with long hair and it is even associated with masculinity like those rock stars (not that looking feminine is a problem - but mom seems to be bothered by that) they should have mentioned that..
it's so frustrating that I wanna be there and just get the mic from the son and speak for him
He's getting mocked for being himself but when actors put on wigs for a historical drama they're called handsome and dreamy....
Agree 👍🏼👍🏼
YASHHH U DEFINITELY RIGHT
Exactly
Agree
Exactly 💯
I feel like he started crying because he's hurt that his mother won't accept him. It's obvious that he loves his mom, and for her to easily say that she doesn't even want to look at him because of his long hair is so unloving of her. The hosts and guests will insist that he's the reason why their relationship is tearing apart, when it's actually the mother that's doing the damage.
I agree..i was so heartbroken to see how unloving his mum is...i hope he finds someone who loves him just the way he is.
Exactly !!! He felt that if he is NOT JUST AS HIS MOTHER wants him to be then she cann't love him...sad AF
If it was me, I will bawled my eyes out too. If I went bald and my mom said that she won't accept me or she hated me or she ashamed of me, I will think that 'for my mom, my value is just my hair, I'm not that important after all'. He doesn't have to be treated that way.
I agree with you.What kind of mom is she that she doesnt love her son just because he didnt cut his hair?
I also think that he is a gay guy. His action is just to tesf his mom whether she will accept it or not. Turns out her mom won't accept him
How can his mother say something like "I dont want him to be my son anymore" or "he isnt my son anymore" just because he has long hair???
(and his hair isnt even ugly.. it actually looks pretty and healthy)
Well, it;s Korea....
That is Korea for you. They're too concerned on how a person look. I dunno why. -_- SAD just SAD.
They like to judge person based on their looks..
it's also not just in Korea, it's asian parents in general. A lot of asian parents say that haha
TRUE! I've seen a documentary where the "good looking" employees get more salary than the "least attractive" ones.
I hate how this shown is reinforcing this toxic image of what a man should be. I feel so sorry for the man.
It's the biggest problem with this show but it just shows how conservative and uptight/fixed on gender roles Korean society is as a whole. I hope he didn't cut actually cut his hair cause it seems to be taken care of really well and at least he doesn't look like all the other guys in the audience with their bowl cuts😂
The Korean standard is very high class and for me often very incomprehensible. Each country has its own rules...
I like his long hair and I think he´s also very handsome the way he is!
YES.
Amongst the other things they reject is facial hair and tattoos. So yeah, if Steve Aoki ever turned up to Korea he would have a hard time.
Also, don't korean men's hair during their historical times also have long hair and are even tied up in a bun?
can't believe the moms in tears just because her son has long hair thats pathetic
Yes she is selfish just thinking about herself and her image
Exactly, it's just hair, it isn't a serious issue like abuse, marriage, or discrimination so i don't understand
that's call Asian
You look at her from your point of view, but if you think about there culture you will understand her, she doesn’t cry just because his hair she cry for his future that will be lost because of his hair (( the look is very important, specially in companies, how can you trust someone who look like homeless? )) and as mom she’s considered sooooooo you see
The mother is so rude
I cant believe it
How can she say that about her own son
my heart broke when he agreed to cut his hair, everyone around him looked happy that they pressured him into doing that, but when you look at him he was fighting tears. How cruel and sad, this pissed me off so much.
Me too. Why can't they just respect his decision? His hair is beautiful. It is taken care of.
@@ourdiary5780 well, whether he loved his hair or not, no one should be pressured into doing something they aren't very sure about. And the mom's quite selfish and not at all understanding. Wanting the best for your child so you pressure him is one thing, but lying about him being your son simply because he had long hair is baffling. My view on things, at least.
Edit: I wanted to give an example--me. I didn't choose to grow my hair this long (reaching my lower back), it only grew longer and longer because they wanted me to have different hairstyles. I don't necessarily like it but I have no intentions on cutting it. If one of parents was to make me cut it (or even grow it out more), I'd be pissed since I should be the one making the decision od whether I'll continue to grow my hair or not. Besides, it's not like his hair is a complete mess, it's even healthier than mine. t's not just him experiencing this, so many people are. I do see where you're coming from though.
@@ourdiary5780 Actually, I've always wanted to have short hair and I'm not necessarily fond with having long hair. I do agree that if she wished to have him cut his hair, she could've said in a less demanding way or stop communicating with him just because she doesn't like him having long hair. I was trying to point out how not necessarily liking your hairstyle or being vocal about it doesn't mean that your choice isn't valid anymore (in my original reply).
If the mother was more open and supportive then he would definitely understand what she's feeling. In fact, I do think he understands, it's just it's against his will to cut his hair but his mother keeps pointing it out and humiliating him for it. I believe understanding something won't always change your view on things. Even if he understood her to every fiber of her body, it was HIS body they were talking about. "If u feel right u will cut if u not feel right then don't," that's good, actually, it's just the mother wasn't like this and still persisted in order to make his son cut his hair. Not only in public, but she also didn't consider her as her son inside their own abode. I do think it's saddening how someone has to change their hairstyle just so they can get a job, but he has to do something to get a job and not keep on relying on his parents.
The points you are making are great and understandable, but I can't see these in the mother. She cheered because the son was going to cut his hair... the son was in the verge of tears. Of course, he could've been teary-eyed for other reasons but I don't think I would be cheering and clapping if someone so dear to was crying or at least nearly crying after agreeing to do something I've always wanted them to do--even if it's against their will. But that's not something to focus on since we all express our emotions differently.
I also want to add something to the whole, "...while they're still here." This goes both ways, both parties should try to understand each other because old age isn't the only deadly thing. You don't even have to pass away to be "not here anymore". Children should be understanding with their parents and make them happy but the parents shouldn't take advantage of that. If you truly love your child and want to show it, you wouldn't want your absence be their way to attain freedom (e.g. mother pressures kid to study all day and kid is not happy. Mother passes away and kid is lonely and sad but through mother's passing, kid could live the life they've always wanted). Yeah, I just ranted here... these are my personal thoughts and if you don't agree, it's completely fine.
Also, these aren't specifically towards you or your statement, it's just some stuff I wanted to get out of my system.
@@ourdiary5780 oh no! You're very polite and like you said, it's your opinion. There's nothing to be annoyed about, really. I, too, am not great with words and people might misunderstand. I'm also from an Asian country so my English is... questionable. I can't possibly be angered by a few mistakes or contrasts in our opinions, that just shows how *I* lack control of my self.
I hope you're doing good now though. Don't overthink too much. If you feel like a conversation isn't going anywhere or might harm your mental health, don't be afraid to stop and focus on something else sensible.
It's great you want to learn more and understand others' way of thinking, that's very nice and thoughtful of you. If you've hurt someone, it's always best to apologize and clear things up. Don't beat your self too much.
**these are my opinion so hopefully you don't use this as guide or system but more of a friend on the internet encouraging you. Do say if I said something offensive or ignorant, I'll do my best to fix it**
@@ourdiary5780 You're welcome! Wish you all the best with whatever you're dealing with right now. (ﾉ◕ヮ◕)ﾉ*:･ﾟ✧
The only "problem" I see here is his lack of employment for so long. Employers will look at that and start asking questions why he's been unemployed so long.
@TheMystery30 working at his parents restaurant is different. His mom must still have to look after him. He needs to get a proper job of his own and move out of their house and have a life.
His unemployment might be as long as his hair lol jokes aside I agree with what you said.
the western equivalent of this, is someone with a face tattoo complaining that they can't get employed.
Never thought of it that way. Good point.
Bunnies Forever but he didn‘t complain at all. What are you even talking about? He was not the one to send in a concern.
The ignorance. The people around him is the issue, not him.
Bullshit. He's a lazy ass leaching off his old mother.
BTS Wifeu you're talking about 99% of koreans saying it's ignorance... it's not the US or Europe, culture is different. That's why it's not an issue for us but living there for 1 year makes me think it's not acceptable in korea. It's not fair because he would be ok in western world but he loose a lot not cutting his hair in korea, something even more important than freedom.
@@TheBenj57 it's also OK here in Philippines.
well it's totally OK here in Tunisia (which is an african country) well actually a majority would find a men with long hair more attractive especially a man with a bun.
BTS Wifeu good for you. I never visited your country nor Tunisia so I would not have talk for you. Good for your countries but korea is different.
"cant i just grow my hair out" best come back love it
I understand him- nobody in the audience seems to, but what he's doing makes sense to me. He's not "rebelling" but he IS resisting. It's a real problem that so many people would discriminate someone for their hair. He keeps saying that he has no particular reason for growing it long, but that's WHY it makes so much sense: hair shouldn't be so important!! It's not important to him, and it shouldn't be important to other people, so why should he cut it? He's simply refusing to be pushed around over something so stupid.
well said. His own mom, most closest person to him(I guess) is not accepting him, his choices and treating him like a stranger just because she doesn't like his hair is even more saddening. I have also faced a similar problem when I have chopped off my hair one day(I am girl btw). But thankfully I had my sister supporting me.
When one of the hostes told him to give him reasons for keeping his hair long I got quite angry.
She herself has long hair amd what is her reason? Probably because it looks good, probably because she likes it.
Why doesnt she cut her hair then come back and tell him to cut his hair.
@@Cyhcg5uhgb well because it's acceptable for women to grow their hair there. This is mainly social problem, no surprise
How many people have a concrete reason behind their hairstyle? They pick what they think looks good. Because your boss or mother requires it is not a good reason.
this. THIS is what it is all about!
I really want to hug him and tell him he's a handsome man. This is a dumb concern, I'm mad at the mother. It's just a hair yet she's reacting like he killed someone smh. It's her son whether she likes it or not, she should just accept him.
Hi stranger like she’s gonna read it😒
Exactly, he looks really good with that long hair, he can do whatever he wants, it's his life
Wtf 144 people think this is a concern.
Like wtf is wrong.
Someone come in and talk about abusive parents etc. only getting 86 votes and a boy with long hair gets 144.
Pls get a life.
Agree, I'm so FRUSTRATED! Another thing is when they bring in literally alcoholics, people who comes home drunk every day of the week, bullying their children/partner etc.. And not once do they mention that they should seek help. I have Never heard them even mention the word "alcoholic". It's some very serious stuff they talk about here, and it's SO SAD people aren't taking it seriously because it's run by comedians.
This is culturally different. 😐😡 of course having long hair is not a problem but i can understand if his family gets annoyed everytime they look at him. Bcs its kindof unkempt
Korean logic dear honestly they are shallow that's what u notice on this show somehow they get soo sad for strong problems but not vote like the way they vote for stupid problems like this
Yuuki Giou oh they're stupid then. Dramatic n stupid.
@@kusogaki6286 way too much and for no reason
Uhm don't they know steve aoki?
Woah ! Point !!!
He's not from Korea, he's American.
@@danawilson9969 I know that but he's famous.
@@orangenzaft2217 So is Brad Pitt, what does that have to do with anything?
@@danawilson9969 lol watch the video
Traditionally men in Korea wore their hair long.
I was waiting for someone to say this. What's the big deal if his hair is long?
Yes!!
Yes same for Chinese as well. It was considered a big deal for a man to cut his hair since hair was considered as part of filial piety since your parents made you. Nowadays it's different, but you know what I say he should do what he wants. It is his choice. Some people are just nosy.
That is so true! Thank you for saying this
thats what i was thinking,i guess if he combs it like they use to do is mom would give him a break
I have a TON of respect for the son after seeing this. The fact that he was so compassionate towards his mother for their entire segment while essentially being very publicly shamed into cutting his hair for the sake of conformity (when the stress of forced conformity was what prompted him to quit his job in the first place) says a lot about him as a person, he clearly loves and cares about her a lot. No parent wants their child to be treated badly or stared at, but doing something like this makes her no better than anyone else who acts like that. I get that Korean society still has pretty rigid standards for masculinity and femininity, but I'm honestly really disappointed in the hosts for just siding with the mom instead of trying to show her how much she was hurting her relationship with her son by treating him that way.
Tessa yeah...i think so...and it just make the mom be not enough understanding, and feel like not a really good mom...the host should talk more about how hurt she is, how much she love him...because i saw some comments here just dont like her.
I agree with you.
I agree. 🙁
Exactly what am thinking you could tell even after he promised to cut the hair he was not happy this time the hosts didn't try
i agree, his mom seemed not enough understanding, and it does hurt to see your child being stared at but she was being just like those people by acting like that towards him imo.
I can’t believe the mom was going to cry, this is so dumb, rejecting your son just for growing out his hair. Ugh this shouldn’t be a concern
Exactly, the son who has a concern and should have sent the problem, for example "my mother does not look at me, does not talk to me, and does not consider me her son/reject me because I do not want to cut my hair.".
Agree
Bunnies Forever agree
Agree. It’s really sad that a man can’t have long hair if he wants. That does not make him less a man if that’s how he identifies as ): the mom concerns me and this culture thing that you have to do everything to make your parents happy. Not all parents are great. She is embarrassed by him and does not tell people he is her son... I would shut her out, but he clearly loves her. That’s really sad.
I agree but I think its because of Korean hair / beauty standards?
lowkey feel like he cried because he's hurt that his mom didn't accept him for who he is. He realized that his mom was good to him because he's considered "good" according to society's standard... like having an office job, good looking. Now that he has long hairs and no job, his mom's behaviour toward him changed...
I dont understand whats so wrong with men with long hair. Women can cut their hair short, but men cant have their hair long? Thats just absurd. Let him live his life, people!
korea really doesn’t accept girls with pixie cuts either. really just hair down to their chin at the least.
it's literally just hair what's the big deal
I think you have to consider the other factors at hand. The mom is concerned for him that his hair may be an issue for him not being able to find job in a society like korea. I mean it's been 5 years and he's a grown man who still has to rely on his mom for living expenses.
and since he is her son, when she introduces him as her son, his hair is literally what ppl will judge him on first.
But why would mom feel shy. When society talks about us if we look or do different thing tthan them then is not our family should be there with us. Mom being embarassed is understandable but she should just give a fuck people talking about her son's hair. But mom worrying for his job is acceptable.
Cara cara this is south korea, the culture is completely different so obviously everyone there is expecting men to have short hair, since its been like that for ages now.
Cara cara south south east and east asains reputation is a big thing among random strangers they dont know
I love how the host says can't you just cut your hair and the guest says can't I just grow my hair. like why does it matter? if it doesn't embarrass him and he likes it who cares.the mom needs to lighten up.
BECAUSE HE CAN'T GET A JOB LIKE THAT AND SHE'S WORKING HER ASS OFF TO SUPPORT THIS GROWN ADULT!!!!!!!!!!
@@BlueMeaney49 so then she should have send a concern that her son dont get a job at his 30. Not about the hair, really the thing is just about how she gives more thounght to other people opinion than what she really thinks or care, on the end they drifted apart.
Yogur Lapiz Well, that's Korean society as a whole anyway. Their social dynamic is based on Confucianism which puts all others happiness above your own, ESPECIALLY your parents (filial duty and whatnot).
Agreed.
kpoca91 you're not wrong but it's korean culture. Even if you're western world minded, just think as a korean and how korean society is and the concern will makes sense even if you are against it.
God he's just a cute sensitive guy, I wanna marry him and brush his long af hair everyday
Same 😭😭😭💓
Same! He is hair goals 😍😫
me too 💕💕
I want my baby to have long hair too
And braid it tho
Actually, I really love Hello Counselor's content but this episode disappointed me a lot. It is his own rights to grow his hair since it is his body. I want to encourage this man not to cut his hair. His long hair harms no one !!!! I really feel him because I used to have very short haircut which some people judge me too. This is absolutely disrespectful to other people.
Sirikorn Thareeratanavibool same
i think hello counselor is full of shit. they get comedians and influencers to come on the show, but not actual counselors, so really, if it is a serious concern, they do absolutely nothing about it.
there was this one episode where this girl felt suicidal n stuff but they kept making jokes about her brothers, etc. and not really paying attention to the actual concern.
I agree
He's crying and still trying to cut it... So pathetic... If I was there I will also encourage him not to cut it... I hate dirty long hair but he took care of it so well ...
- 莉娜nina I mean, these people come on the show to see how others think about the situation. If they REALLY need help they would know if they should go to a counselor or not.
ive watched so many hello counselor episodes where the sons are extremely problematic but this? this “problem” is basically nothing in comparison. hes a grown adult and he can do whatever he wants. its just hair. close your eyes or something if you dont like it, its not that hard lmfao
Yesss
And in the meantime, this 60 year old woman is still working to support a grown, healthy, capable man? I'd have thrown his butt out a long time ago.
Lol 😂😂
@@BlueMeaney49 on that i support you, he shouldnt depend on her but say things like she is embarased by her son or dont want him by her side because people keep talking is just a mere excuse the talk of the hair.
Koreans..are agh🌚🔥⚠
Shouldn't he be sitting in the seat of the mother?? Talking about how, because he's simply letting his hair grow his mother isn't proud of him anymore? She doesn't like to admit he's her son and doesn't want to spend time with him because of hair? Her son must be really hurt by that! Can her love for him really change because of a mere thing like appearance? He's trying to be himself, be proud and not give in to people's judgements if only his mother would be on his side........
I agree. The mom needs a clear wake up call on her ignorance and selfishness..
Also if they switched, everyone would suddenly be on his side, which is sad really..
I can't believe they weren't on his side at all.
I'm on his side, I can't believe they're doing this to him
The typical asian mindset, always set on traditional ways. I'm glad the west is at least very open on such things
Exactly! Your mom should be the one person by your side when no one else is. Sounds to me like she just wants to be able to brag to other mothers about how successful her kid is. If he really does end up cutting his hair I hope it's still a length he's comfortable with.
It's not a "mere thing like appearance". SHE'S STILL PAYING HIS WAY. He's 31 freaking years old and mommy is still supporting him! Get off your lazy ass, get a job, THEN fight judgements.
She was blessed with a kind, considerate, sensitive, handsome man for a son, and she's embarrassed of him and won't talk to him. He deserves so much better. I feel so horrible for him.
he's so pretty though
Let him live, my goodness
He doesn't even look that bad, he's in his 30s he should be allowed to make his own decisions
Agree with that. However,the system is such that if he does not cut his hair,he does not get a job. It's okay to rebel against the system,but not at the expense of his mom. Think about it,he is 30 years old,he is unemployed and living with his mom. She spent all her life looking after him, bringing him up,till when should she look after him? She is sick. By now she expected to have some time to herself,but then she still has to look after her son. He needs to first get a job and his own place. Then he can rebel all he wants against company rules, through HR and stuff, without depending on his mom. I feel that if he still had a job,then the mom would not have minded so much,but the reason for him not having his own life is because he refuses to cut his hair. On top of that he is depending on his mom for money and everything. I understand her a bit. He can be the revolution if he wants,and his mom would probably support him,if he could do that without breaking her spine.
@@ss-cat7 thanx so much for this explanation.
Ella Mae I swear💯
It's not his moms fault, it's the people that judge him for being him. His mom would probably let him have long hair but the people stare and look everywhere theu go.
Yea but let him do that on his own,he still live with his mum and has no job if you wanna be a grown man,do that in your own space
14:15 "she would be understanding if you had a reason, but you dont" he literally just said he wants to break the stereotypes in companies. That's a huge reason to keep HIS hair. WTF
RubyRim they asked if that’s why he grew it out after he left the company and he said no...
is he afraid to say he is making a statement? He needs to be more direct and just say it’s to question and go against societal expectations.
RubyRim u should also admit its weird to have hair like that
tan bey having long hair isn’t weird...
But why should this 60 year old woman have to continue to work to support his lazy ass while he is "breaking stereotypes???????????
@@tanbey3626 not really i had friends at HS that have a hair like that, i yhink is cool, if we girls can grow our hair to look pretty why they cant. The thing is he should take care of it, as it takes responsability.
Please give this man a modeling contract
Back to the era of Korea Dynasty, men used to be with a long hair but why it's a concern now these days?
Fragile masculinity, duhh.
Because of a professional career nowadays, maybe. Such job usually requires the employees to have a clean-cut image to give a good first impression to the customers.
Things not going well because the mother wants her son to exactly have a job like that. A job that she deems as decent with a good paycheck.
It was the japanese colonialists who told korean mean to wear their hair short, such irony.
back in the day people had long hair and darker skin for some reason korean people started to hate that look
@@rb2807 do you have any sources?
i dont think his hair is the problem , people need to open their mind more
Totally!
I agree!
totally agree!!!!
Lol...you don't know anything about Korea then. Most people in the comments have a western way of thinking; acceptance, tolerance, YOLO. In Korean society it's totally the opposite.
@@buttarain27
Then they should get their heads out of their asses.
I was really disappointed with this episode, I realise how close-minded Korea is but this is just absolutely ridiculous to pressure a Grown man to cut his hair. They made it seem like the Mother is the one having a tough time, it's his hair, his body, his decision! If you love your SON less because of his hair? How is that even love to begin with? Did you see his expression after saying Yes with all that pressure? He was unhappy yet he did it to make her happy. I really Hope in the long run he doesn't come to despise Her! Wish you the best Man and Do Whatever you want, parents are there to guide you in Life not make decisions for you, at the end of the day you live with the consequences.
ikr. Not to mention his already 31 years old, but her mom want to cut his hair. lol his not a kid anymore.
ikr. His mom wants to cut his hair, like duh his already 31 years old. He can do what he was to his body.
They literally said "I know you don't want to cut your hair because others want you to do it, but it's stressing out your mom so can you just be a good son and do it?" They literally contradicted themselves. Korea is just very conservative. In the US it might be frowned upon by baby boomers, but I think men having long hair has become much more widely accepted. I think that he would look pretty smart and hip with a cool man bun.
Can u stop being racist that’s rude it’s like saying America’s bad just because of Donald trump and the racist white people etc. it’s not true so stop or else it means America is awful
I agree to this. He is a grown man, I don't see why he must cut it, just because she said so. I know a few boys who have long hair and it's honestly very pretty and i don't think it's bad or wrong. He's in gis thirties. Let him do whatever he wants.
After watching numerous episodes of this show. I've come to a conclusion. They're basically saying, "Oh, sure you can follow your dreams and do whatever you want as long as you're happy, but, according to our standards."
Yup.
PLEASE don't cut your hair, especially not to please the others. I remember everybody taught us that mother's love should be unconditional, and when I heard "I dont want him to be my son" from his mom I was so freaking sad and angry. Do you really love him?? He doesn't harm anyone with his choice but still gets hatred..
I'm saying this because I buzzed all of my hair last year even though it is not well accepted in my country, because I wanted to see if that makes me less of a woman hahaha I was buzzing my hair for a whole year I LOVED IT...but I'm addicted to change so now it's a pixie cut. My mom supported me although the surrounding was judgemental, to say at least. I love her!
I respect this guy so much. He stayed calm and open-minded without offending anyone..I wish we were friends 😃 lots of love 👋
This is so heart wrenching for me. The guy really just want acceptance from his mother like he said "I could see that my own mother starting to look at me like other people did." This is so sad :---( Man! While they're celebrating because he agreed to cut his hair you can see his face with no sight of happiness.
but its still really touching that he is willing to give in to his mother's expectations of him and want to salvage their strained relationship :)
@@lucia-gu5uf Well can't say no to that.
I think it would be best for him to find a career that accepts him and move out so he can do what he wants. If his mother loved him, she would not judge him by his hair. This isn't really her being bothered by what other people think of him. It's because she has ideal views of how a man should look and that in itself is very sexist. You are supposed to love your child unconditionally and support what they want to do. He isn't hurting anyone. The only people doing the hurting are his mother and society. Prejudiced people like them should never be given into. It is best to stand up for what you believe in even if it is hard. It would have been more admirable for him to stick with what he believes in. He clearly felt his mother and everyone else pressuring him was unfair. I hope someday he can really stick up for himself and not be concerned with the person everyone else wants him to be.
....this is not real....she's deadass crying cause her son's hair is long......im-
badgal.lilly u cant understand every single person feelings specially old people thoughts also i think it gives u unclean weird image for men ,u r free to do whatever but it has limits also ☺
No she's "deadass" crying because she has to support this 31-year-old lazy ass.
BlueMeaney49 oh my god dude shut up. the whole reason she came to the show was because of her son’s hair. i think you going a lil wayyy in too deep for this one
badgal.lilly
That's true 💔
*AND* ⚠
for him to get a job 🌚
BlueMeaney49
she literally said the biggest problem was his hair. she's embarrassed of him. she can't go out with him or talk to him anymore. she can't even look at him. because of fucking hair.
His mom needs to watch Hwarang ASAP 😂, I’ll link her up with the app
Honestly I think he looks good and he should do whatever he wants. I like his hair
Dumbest concern since this show has been on air. Can't believe they greenlit this. It's literally just hair. He's obviously happy with it, disappointed in the mom. She's crying and having breakdown because her son has long hair. First world problems I guess, so many people would love to even hold their sons but can't but she's stressed about hair.
the fact that they drifted apart so much may be the reason that made her stressed too + she is embarrassed because people literally judge her way of teaching of her son and her son based on his long hair and looks
I think it’s in large part due to South Korea society’s demand for conformity. Everyone is taught and trained to live by the same rules, look and dress in the same way. If they do not conform to such ideals and go for a more unconventional look, they can easily get stares on the street or even worse, get treated as outcasts(could be why the mother is so upset about this whole situation). That’s why it’s more of an issue in South Korea than it is in other countries.
God, you people missed the entire point!!!!!! She's a 60 year old woman still working to support her lazy-ass out-of-work son. THAT's the real problem. If companies won't hire him because of his hair, what is he going to do if his mother drops dead tomorrow? Cut your hair, get the job, become an adult, THEN fight society.
Jerk Chicken Culture shock. Koreans need to fit the korean standards, even a 1 week trip would teach you that. It's not fair but it's like that.
He's not happy and I know all those tears aren't just because he 'understands' his mom's ridiculous concern its because he's hurt. Like he said, his own mother started looking at him the way others would shun him and by saying this he basically says he thought at least his mother wouldn't be like others and think differently of him over a minor hairstyle like its really not that deep for her ass to be over there crying making her son feel like he did something so terrible and disgusting.
This is so stupid!!! imagine if us girls only allowed to have long hair, and if we ever cut it short we will get judged and criticized!! like come onnn its a personal choice let him do whatever he want he is not hurting anyone by growing his hair this is so ridiculous!!
I'm so annoyed with Hwangbo. I thought she was going to say something useful when she stared talking about her dying her hair but just turned out to be bs. It's the closed-minded people that are giving him a negative experience. It's just a style that he wants so what's wrong with that??
Back in the older days, she used to get so much shit for acting "manly" and because of that, she was considered unattractive but she continued living her life how she wanted because she chose to. She had a hard time with the jokes and I'm sure there were boyfriends that told her to be more feminine because it's embarrassing for him. I bet she wouldn't be happy and she would want him to accept her the way she is. Ugh, people are so horrible.
Knowing her, I think she wanted him to lists the benefit to convince his mom. Show her that it makes him happy and why you the mom should accept it. I think the hosts misunderstood her.
Seriously, I think the one with the concern here is the son. His mom is ashamed of him only because of his long hair, despite the fact that he wants to help her and didn't change his behavior towards her. She's the one who should bend her opinion because it's his hair and he seems pretty confident about it. He is obviously disappointed on how his own mom is ashamed of him and his choices.
A bunch of hypocrites honestly. If that guy was sitting in her spot instead the panelists probably would have been all like ' he's still your son he's grown and should be able to make his own choices'
Well they was like that until he told them he had no real reson to , just upsetting his mother is the only clear one !! and that's not nice 🙂💔 also his hair looked like a mess at least take care of it if you welling to grow it this long ?????!!!!!!! no wonder his mom doesnt wanna look at it 💔
lilosweet24 bruh... he doesn't need to have a reason to grow his hair tho and it doesn't look even look bad nor unkept... you must be his mother lmao but I digress he should do whatever he wants not what society and the woman says his hair should be like. Its like you deciding to only wear pants for no particular reason other than u like pants but your mother is over there bawling her eyes out because she wants you to wear a skirt and because society would view you as trying to be a guy (just a simple e.g I'm not saying pants automatically means you're tryna be a guy)
i really hate when people have standard ..
what reason?
can i not live the way i live now without fucking reason??
at least take care?
so we life in this world must around your standard?
he wouldn't be sitting there because it wasn't a problem for him. He didn't realize how bad his relationship was with his mother until he came on the show.
True man💔💔that's what I thought too💔
It will hurt him a lot as a man
What about a girl cutting hair short like a boy..many models cut their hair short and no one is saying anything💔
I don't know what to say anymore.
I was hurt how his mother didn't understand him at all
When he cried after he said he’s going to cut his hair made me feel bad for him huhu :( He cried thinking of his memories with her mom but I think it’s also because he’s hurt that he’ll have to cut his hair and because his mom can’t accept him like other people :’( his long hair isn’t that bad tho, maybe if it was really silky they would think otherwise -.-
For once I'm siding with the person the letter was written about
His mom needs to sort her mind out... The one who keeps distance and getting angry over it is her .. not him
Her love is very conditional. I'm tired of parents only showing love for their children when their children are doing what *they* won't them to do.
I don't think that is true. maybe you didn't understand the whole thing but his mom is stressed that his life has completely changed after growing his hair and the negativity that comes out of that hair is what has affected them. their relationship as son and mother and son's life as whole took a down turn, which is why she hates his hair. As mentioned in the video, if that long hair did bring him a greater happiness and positivity to the son, the mom would not have hated the hair. It is the fact that because of the hair, the son's life has took a toll and she is genuinely sad about what has happened due the the hair. I believe this comes from love, because had she not loved her son, she would not be providing her son with a place to stay, food to eat, or even the effort to come on this show to give better life to the son.
her love isn't conditional, I saw that she just want her son to get a job which he can't obviously because of social aspects... that's the bitter reality
I'm crying, they made him cut his beautiful hair!
I really don't understand korean ways of thinking, they really need to care less about others judgment
It's sad his mother can't accept him with long hair especially when society is looking down on him. His mother is emotional hurting him. I wish they could just reach a middle ground & accept & love each other. Very sad.
yes as a good mother she should accept the way he is as her son, don't reject him in front of other people just because of your own ego. Just because her pride is hurt doesn't mean she can let people know that he's not her son. It's already out of limit. Actually he's ok in appearance though, nothing's wrong, he even also didn't do anything wrong like commiting thefts or something so why she shall be embarrassed by her son?
I wouldn't say she lost her pride but more so her dignity and reputation infront of the other mothers
I think he looks great with long hair too. It's sad his mother can't love him for how he wants to be. She is too controlling, like many parents. This is not their body and life to live with. They should have some respect for their child and let them be individuals.
I don't know what's wrong with his hair being like that. I think that her mom is so bothered by what other people think and got influenced by it, and it's like she wanted to please everyone. I think he's beautiful either way, afterall.
its just korean culture. Actually most conservative countries.
i think that son is the most perfect son you can have so understanding and thoughtful
TThis is upsetting!!! He seems very sweet and the fact that people make assumptions about him based on the length of his hair is ridiculous! The mom is pissing me off I get that it’s hard for her to listen to others talk about her son. But he obviously is shown to accept it. He just wants to live his life and have the support of his family. Its not his fault that the society he lives in is not accepting and is annoyingly judgemental. Instead of making him change why don’t these people look within themselves and change the way they act towards others, LIKE I DUNNO BE KINDER!?!?! Can’t they understand that he doesn’t want to cut his hair because he sees no point in doing that? The people who deny him job opportunities because of his hair, who criticize him without truly getting to know him, and his mom should be ashamed of themselves. I hope him the best!! You do you boo!
Dude is 31 years old, I can't actually believe he even agreed to go to the show in the first place, I would have just simply not shown up. Also tbh when you go to Korea you realize that all the guys look the same (not facial structure-wise or in a racist way) because of their identical bowl cuts and fashion. At least he stands out and if he's happy with it then so be it. They should try to get people to realize how wrong it is to judge someone based on their looks but that's the problem with this show, there's so many issues that they should handle better but it's 1) entertainment, 2) KBS and 3) sadly a reflection of the way society works there.
it's quite obvious that he really wants to keep his long hair and i think it stems from how he wants to make a point about the rigid expectations of society. because he did say that he was unhappy with the company he was in because of their strict rules (on appearance), and because of that he decided to quit.
i guess he wants to keep his long hair to see if there would be anyone who would react differently because everyone who has seen him with his long hair, reacted in a really negative manner,,, even his mother. i think he was quite upset with his mother because she was very much confined to social expectations and couldn't accept how he is, just because he's a little different from others, and we're only talking about hair here... i hope that dude stays true to himself and realise the reason behind his actions so he could explain it to his mother, because people may think that he's keeping his long hair for no good reason but i think there is a good reason behind it.
Exactly!!
In the meantime, this 60 year old woman is still working to support this 31 year old lazy ass.
@@BlueMeaney49 ... He is working part time at their family restuarant.. how can you say he is a lazy man???
I will never spend my life in Korea. It must be so stressful living there.
nobody is asking you to come.
Close-minded homogenous stereotypes. Defy the norms, Bro! You're an adult and you definitely have a choice and live your life. You're a good-looking person and you can in fact become an androgynous model if you chose to.
I would be so hurt if I were him. I can't even imagine how it would feel to have my own mother reject me because of the length of my hair.
“ can’t you be a good son and just cut your hair ? Your mom is stressed out by it” how about the mom just mind her business and let her son do what he wants since he’s a grown man
OMG yes. They keep using his mom to "convince" him to cut his hair, implying that he wouldn't be filial (my own words) if he don't do so. That's not convince, that's emotionally manipulating. And if you can't stand looking your son just because he has long hair, you're the one that has problem, not your son. D:
But she’s worried for his future. It’s unfortunate but people really care about looks in this society. She’s showing him tough love so he can have a chance at a better job if he cut his hair! You can clearly see how much she cares about him! Mind her business? That’s her son
When they asked him why he wanted long hair, he said he had no real reason to keep it long. His mother is probably worried about his employment opportunities because she cares for him. My opinion, but i'm siding with the mother on this one. Just cut the hair to keep your mother happy if it doesn't matter either way.
@@guledm349 exactly
Normally on this show I feel they're really good about getting all sides of the story, just not in this episode.
Every time he cried, they didn't ask him WHY he was crying, but kind ofspoke for him.
I wanna hug him so badly
and want to tell him how handsome he is and he doesn't need to change himself for others
He's really handsome, and smart because he challenged illogical norms. It's sad because he really has no reason to cut his hair, but he caved in because it was causing him so much pain.
Koryo used to have men with long hair in the medieval times, you see it in dramas as well, and yet now they've absorbed the idea of masculinity being about short hair. How sas
Ikr. I think if he cut his hair a little bit (to look clean) and dyed it in black again. It would look really good. And if his fashion style is also unique he would really become famous in the western world. I think it isn't ugly. It looks kinda fashion tbh. He could be a designer
When female can have short haircut like man why male can't have long hairstlye like girl ?? I just don't understand with this people who judge by looks 😐
karinaauliac people even judge a girl if she were to have short hair. The toxic views are endless
Yeah, like that woman who said she wouldn't want her daughter to have a shaved head. Shaved hair looks fly and fashionable af on some women.
Something like this has happened to me when I grew my hair long again after having it so short for a few years. Since my look is very androgynous, that leads people to think I'm male, and because of this they would make rude comments ( I have a flat chest, so you really can't notice anything that would lead to show my gender at the first glance. ) One day on the subway an older man even grabbed my hair and started calling me homophobic slurs, before someone took him off of me. He only realized my gender when I started talking, and then said that I had it coming since I looked like that. To be honest I don't care that people think I'm male, but I know many people get harassed because of similar things, and I really wish the world would open their eyes.
U call this society lmao
queenie pang I was half asleep at like 1 AM lol
“I don’t know now if he is my son or not , i wish he is not my son”
The knives that stabs is outta this world
How could a mother say that to her child
Bro his hair is just beautiful, my jaw dropped when I first saw his hair I was just amazed to see such a beautiful form of self expression espessially comming from Korea and most countries now a days with the strict stereotypes, I was so oddly proud of him, but come end of the episode I'm crying, it makes me so upset and sad to hear that he's cutting it of you could just see the sadnes in his eyes when he said that like it just Hart breaking that he had grown it out for 5 years he was looking after it and everything he even dyed it bro I've never been so dissipointed in this show I was on his side from the beginning, I hope he was lying when he said that I really do and if me and him Where friends right now he wholdnt have Evan thought about cutting his hair, man they should have just left him alone, so disrespectful especially comming from the mom talking about I don't even know if I have a son anyomore she better stop it with that mess, dang now my man's gotta lose his whole mane just couse his mom cares about what other people think more than she cares about her own sons feelings just like my mom. And just to end today on a good note I'ma say he didn't cut it after the show and that he's of somewhere right now with his long pretty hair blowing the wind. Thx for reading my comment and have a lovely day.=_=
Him cutting his hair won’t fix their relationship
That hair suits him like he has such pretty hair and it fits his facial structure. If that is the hair he wants then let him because at the end of the day it is his life. Also it's not like he has a neon green Mohawk or anything like his hair is fine.
I relate to him when he said opinions of other people do not matter, but family should be acceptable.
As someone who can't relate to his situation at all, I cried throughout the whole video. Just seeing his mom's happy face while clapping meanwhile, he was sad, on the verge of tears, basically mocked and force onto doing something he did not want to do in the first place. How can she wish for his son to be understanding while she isn't? Besides, he already is. How can a mother say, "I love you," to his son only because he was going to cut his hair due to his mom's selfish wish? And yet say, "Looking at him makes me angry," when he's doing perfectly fine with long hair. There really are times I want to be a celebrity in Korea just to smack some ✨brain cells✨ in these celebrities' brains.
i feel sorry for him. he's the only one who seems unhappy now.
I think her son should've switch seat with her
agreed
She was complain because he is not that productive with that long hair
No, she was upset that people are staring at her son and telling her stuffs like "I thought you raised your son well, why did you let him end up like this". Which is why the son should be the one who "wrote in" because they need to let the nation know not to discriminate people because of their looks. The son only wanted the mother to understand him. It'd be best if he can get the whole nation to understand him too.
He is so sweet and nice and his hair is beautiful. I want to protect him. 😭😭💕
While everyone was clapping when he said he'll cut it..no one bothered to notice that he was about to cry...
They do love each other a lot and I love how he’s willing to let go of his hair to make his mum happy but it’s so petty for the Mum to stop hanging out with him just because of hair...you should love your children unconditionally and shouldn’t be embarrassed by them 🙄
He has a delicate sort of beauty and also he looks so young for a 31 year old. He is peak flower boy with or without the long hair
The dude just literally grow out his hair. it's not like he's doing drugs or involved in the mafia or anything, right?
Omonim, what the hell exactly is your problem..?!!!??
"she should be more understanding no matter what other people say" this is what mother be
Honestly I did not find this clip heartwarming, if anything I just found it sad for the guy. I was super disappointed in this episode for pushing the guy to change so he can fit with societal standards instead of helping enforce the idea that society shouldn't care about his appearance, but, I'm glad the comment section also feels the same way. Hopefully in the future through others, society wont judge a man for how long he wants his hair or a girl for how short she wants to have her hair....
If I had his hair I wouldn't cut it either. It's beautiful
He is a kind and sensitive person, i would be proud if i raised a man like this regardless of his physical and it's not his fault that people are judgemental
Lmao did they forget their own culture wtf
Korean men used to have long hair. It's his own business.
Wtf
I wish he wouldn't cut his hair, I think it suits him hahaha
Fr... He looks so nice
Me too , he look so handsome 💕
Yeahh, he looks good with the hair
He's cute. I wouldn't mind if he was my son at all. It suits him. It's 2018 people need to get over stereotypes already 😒
they all really mean. this pissed me off so much. i shedded tears for the son. please dont be sad and be who you are wanna be :(
Dude. It is not a concern. it is STYLE. He only has different taste.
I had a similar situation when I was younger. I used to have really really long hair and when I was in middle school, I randomly decided to cut it short. I had no particular reason, I just felt like it one day. My family kind of freaked out and kept asking me why I cut my hair and that I looked so much better/prettier with my long hair. My mom even brought up a time when I was really little that I promised her I wouldn't ever cut my hair short so she even got upset over it... I kept my hair short for a few years and eventually my family realised that it's just hair so they stopped nagging me about it. I feel so sorry for this guy. I got so annoyed when the mom was starting to cry over it. Her son seems like a really nice person yet she is ashamed of him just because of his hair?!? lmfao ridiculous!
"Can't you just get a haircut?"
"Can't I just grow my hair out?"
"Okay..." *Getting bamboozled*
If i am his mom, i will just smile proudly and enjoy the moment with my son, life is too short to fight over a damn hair with your loved one 😘
I wished they had Kim Kyungho as a guest. He would have told the mother what he thinks of her concern 😂❤️
The tragedy is that he is sitting there in the audience and enduring everyone's bigotry with no one to defend him.
if i was there i would beat up everyone who made fun of his hair or told him to cut it... fucking assholes...
Didnt Korean men used to all have long hair?? Why is it a bad thing now?
Right? Like I don't think is a concern. I mean he is still the same person so what's the problem?
infact cutting ones hair was considered as punishment or sacrifice to buddah when making life changing decisions in east asian cultures
true haha!
That's historical--norms have conpletely changed. Sorta like men used to wear culottes/silk stockings in the West but now it's usually only worn by actors and reenactors.
Now long hair is more likely to be associated with rock and other lifestyles, and personal choice more than anything else.
(Also: you know it is not a throwback to history because in historical Korea men's long hair was kept tightly bunned--loose hair is a very dramatic bad sign, like a tragedy in the family, great distress, death of a king, etc.)
Having said that, I think the mother in this hair is being ridiculous, and the man should keep his hair because it is his choice, but the historical long hair is neither here nor there.
I WAS ABOUT TO SAY! if he brought up people having hairstyles like him or other facts onto why people have kept their hair long w/o reason would've helped the case in a certain way, and just because of the mothers greed and not considering about how he felt hurt him. He's been personally hurt countless times because of peoples words and yet they still have the courage to beat him up once more for his "actions". fucking people and they're damn negative thoughts smfh
His hair is so beautiful and luscious, oh my God😭 he's perfect and beautiful with his hair just as it is😭😓 it makes him 1000x more attractive
His hair is so beautiful WTF he is a grown up an let him grow his hair out. She even said that he is a nice kid and couldn't ask for more. Can't believe that they are havinga hard time understanding that he doesn't need a reason to grow his hair. I am a woman and I have been growing out my hair for years without a reason. So why does he need one? He doesn't need to cut his hair. People should change their mindset. He looks so beautiful and kind like a true gentleman.
Also that lady who said she won't let her daughter shave her head is just .... I am speechless.
He doesn't have to cut his hair if he doesn't want to, why is it so hard to understand?? OMG
I feel bad for him; they just indirectly bullied him on national television 😨
My heart sank when he started crying 😭 all because he didn't want to cut his hair 😑
Please just let him live 😤 You can see that he REALLY did not want to promise cutting his hair but only did so to make his mom happy, what a great mom she is~
"What a great mom she is" sarcasm at it's finest
It's nothing more than emotional harassment !
And prejudice !
How can they turn to him and say “why can’t you just be a good son and cut your hair” like no why can’t his mom be a good mom and accept her son, it’s not like it’s something ridiculous it’s just hair. Good on him that he’s put up with all that bs for so long and not caved in
He looks like a noble man in a Historical K-Drama or a Japanese rockstar.